Speaker 1: Lips. What's upe of slip service. I'm Angela yee, I'm
Speaker 1: Gi McGuire. I'm stopping in Santiagodina Ellis, Cadina Devo, Ellis
Speaker 1: out here with us. Ellis's By the way, Married Couples
Speaker 1: I love when We Had Married Couples one. It's always
Speaker 1: my favorite episode. It's really thank you because we get
Speaker 1: we get both at the same time. Like usually we
Speaker 1: get the man's perspective his relationship is like when we
Speaker 1: get the women's perspective. But when we have both of
Speaker 1: you at the same time, then we really get like
Speaker 1: the real real. So we had Kevin and Drinka Gates on,
Speaker 1: we had and Ronnie de Vote. Okay. I saw Kevin
Speaker 1: and Drinka at Ruling Loud in Miami a couple of
Speaker 1: weeks ago actually, and um what, I had saw Kevin
Speaker 1: a few weeks before that, but I saw them both
Speaker 1: together and they're like, oh, we got to do it again.
Speaker 1: So hopefully we'll get them back single, really really good
Speaker 1: time everything instead of being married couples and doing all
Speaker 1: of this together. I mean, I would hope. So after
Speaker 1: seventeen years together, yeah, but we don't do sit down
Speaker 1: interviews together and sometimes people you know learn a lot
Speaker 1: because I would assume they're doing the YouTube series and
Speaker 1: all of that is probably like therapy too. Definitely said
Speaker 1: that time and time. It's funny because you feel like
Speaker 1: after seventeen years you should know somebody. You know what
Speaker 1: I mean, But I feel like I'm learning him every day.
Speaker 1: So being able to talk about certain things we do
Speaker 1: each other, I mean we did, but we like who
Speaker 1: were at three five that we are when we were younger.
Speaker 1: I'm saying seventeen years though, even though seventeen years we're
Speaker 1: all disagreeing on to that I was a different person. Okay, well,
Speaker 1: what we're gonna do And I'm so glad y'all said
Speaker 1: that because we are going to see what you guys
Speaker 1: know about each other? So did we need to leave
Speaker 1: the room for a minute. This is gonna be fun
Speaker 1: from from like a show? But where can he go
Speaker 1: that he can't hear because he can't go in that room.
Speaker 1: Take somewhere, days somewhere and I'll text you when you
Speaker 1: can bring them back. So we're gonna ask you some questions.
Speaker 1: He comes back, he's gonna answer, and then we're gonna
Speaker 1: reverse it. And I say, somebody anywhere. It's been married women. Okay, man,
Speaker 1: lord alright, conem what is something that Devout likes to
Speaker 1: eat that you can't stand? Oh? Um that I can't
Speaker 1: stand cheez And the funny thing is he's the pickiest eater.
Speaker 1: I'll be willing to try stuff and whatever. I'm gonna
Speaker 1: say pork because I'm not really a pork eater from ribs.
Speaker 1: He likes all that. I'm like, not so much. Okay,
Speaker 1: So who fell in love first? I did about two weeks.
Speaker 1: I was like, I love you and he looked at
Speaker 1: me like it was like, I know, I know. I
Speaker 1: was like, damn, just do Okay. Who said they're not
Speaker 1: in the mood more often? Oh, it's me. It's absolutely,
Speaker 1: especially after three whole boys, I'm still trying to figure
Speaker 1: out who the hell i am. So yeah, I'm definitely
Speaker 1: the one that's like I need a little more coaxing,
Speaker 1: you know. Okay, So who's better in the bedroom? I
Speaker 1: am down? I put it down May in the mood
Speaker 1: all the time, But when I am in the mood,
Speaker 1: show out because he's absolutely tricks and ship. Okay, what's
Speaker 1: your favorite move that Devo does in the bedroom? Oh?
Speaker 1: He has a really good back shot. So that's my
Speaker 1: favorite dog. Dorky, what's your least favorite move that he
Speaker 1: does that You're like, you gotta do this. I be
Speaker 1: trying to put my legs behind my head and I'm
Speaker 1: always just like, dude, like I can. It is uncomfortable,
Speaker 1: and I got the U D N. And I'm like,
Speaker 1: I don't know if it's that euden. He's like, I
Speaker 1: feel that joint. I'm like, yeah, I just don't put
Speaker 1: my legs behind my head please. And you know I
Speaker 1: am flexible as I used to be, so alright, who
Speaker 1: spends more money? I do? Absolutely. He calls me the
Speaker 1: a max killer, just so y'all know. Okay, so I'm
Speaker 1: the a max killer. I'm always finding a way to
Speaker 1: spend money. But I told him it's for his comfort.
Speaker 1: So I'm either find buying something for the house or
Speaker 1: something to make myself happy. That's your hoarder, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean? A hoarder what I mean? That's what
Speaker 1: he said. Yeah, if you didn't already know, you know
Speaker 1: your guys out there, that's true. So guilty too. We
Speaker 1: didn't say what the day is. I don't have a
Speaker 1: lot of things, though, I like all the things out
Speaker 1: of that way, all of the things, all right? So
Speaker 1: who is the giver and who is the taker in
Speaker 1: your relationship? Oh? We argue about this a lot. He
Speaker 1: feels like he's the giver and I'm the taker. Um
Speaker 1: do you agree? Be honest? Yes, okay, Yes, I need
Speaker 1: to do a better job of showing how much I
Speaker 1: appreciate him on a more consistent biasis So yes, listening, Well,
Speaker 1: at least you know that's that one. You go therapy, okay.
Speaker 1: And the last one is what's the most embarrassing thing
Speaker 1: that happened while you guys were dating early on? Early on?
Speaker 1: You mean embarrassing together or like his embarrassing moment or
Speaker 1: my embarrassing moment. It would be like with something that
Speaker 1: stands out as just haven't been embarrassing for both of you? Wow?
Speaker 1: Um damn, I don't know what stands out is embarrassing
Speaker 1: for both of it. This is a time after I
Speaker 1: had my first son. I paid on myself in the elevator,
Speaker 1: because after you have kids, stable the ladder. It's not
Speaker 1: said up the way it was, And I miss judged
Speaker 1: the time that it would have taken me to park
Speaker 1: the car and then get upstairs. And the elevator saw
Speaker 1: like totally, just like, let it rips in the hedicator
Speaker 1: and I'm sure that's happened to me. It's only gonna
Speaker 1: get worse. It gets worse when you're at the door.
Speaker 1: But yeah, I should have just took the stairs that day.
Speaker 1: But I was like, damn, motherfucker's out of breath because
Speaker 1: I just had a baby. I'm not in shape. I
Speaker 1: went to the elevator and I paid myself and did
Speaker 1: you just remember you're in the elevator headed up to
Speaker 1: your home. I was okay, right, at least I was,
Speaker 1: but it has to go back to the elevator out
Speaker 1: and stuff. It was just like it was a hot mess.
Speaker 1: I know they saw me in the cameras. I'm definitely
Speaker 1: sure they saw me in the camera. Janitor was probably
Speaker 1: looking at me, looking at me sideways like this bit.
Speaker 1: I'm like, at least I cleaned it. You did clean it,
Speaker 1: that's nice, right, Yeah, the bladder is not girl. And
Speaker 1: that's when someone gets in the elevator before you get off,
Speaker 1: and you're like, I don't know. Somebody mustn't exact take
Speaker 1: a ship and one store going to and be like, well,
Speaker 1: I don't know, who did that in that store? I
Speaker 1: just can't find of this store. Like you know, that's
Speaker 1: a trick in case you ever got to go really bad.
Speaker 1: All right, well, let's get devil back in here and
Speaker 1: see if he knows your answers. All right, I'm scared. Okay,
Speaker 1: you got it. After you hear your answers, the okay,
Speaker 1: got it, got it? Somebody, I'm back. I'm gonna try
Speaker 1: some angelis shooes. Yeah, okay, here he comes, welcome back.
Speaker 1: Let's see if you guys agree. You know, you guys
Speaker 1: have been together for such a long time bam here
Speaker 1: two decades, so you know each other very well. All right,
Speaker 1: So we asked Dean, what is something that you like
Speaker 1: to eat that she can't stand? That I like to
Speaker 1: eat and she can't stand it. She can't stand God, think,
Speaker 1: what do I like to eat that you can't stand anything?
Speaker 1: I said, right, because supposedly like she's the you're the eaters.
Speaker 1: So I'm always trying to get them trying new things.
Speaker 1: And he's like, I like to eat that she can't stand.
Speaker 1: So if y'all go out to eat, she's not gonna
Speaker 1: pick off your plate when you get this. I know
Speaker 1: if if my hamburger is medium, well, she don't want that.
Speaker 1: That's only I can think of mediums and hand not really.
Speaker 1: You love baking though, see it's not the same though
Speaker 1: bork is baking. You want to say pork and you
Speaker 1: love bacon. It's a difference. You're the only person that
Speaker 1: put like bacon on your You got to get that
Speaker 1: a pass, all right, you gotta pass for that, Thank you.
Speaker 1: That's one wrong. Come okay. Who says they are not
Speaker 1: in the mood more often? I ain't even breathe ain't
Speaker 1: even breathe? What about definitely? And jess Ya Buddha who
Speaker 1: says that more often? For you guys, he's more he's
Speaker 1: not in the mood more than I'm not in the mood.
Speaker 1: Because he likes to go to the gym, like in
Speaker 1: the morning. I'm like, what's up? You want me to
Speaker 1: suck your yes, And he's like, no, I want to
Speaker 1: go to the gym. Wait, I'll be grabbing him because
Speaker 1: it's the morning, so he's like a rocket like crazy.
Speaker 1: I'll be like sucking on him and be like, no,
Speaker 1: i gotta go to the gym. After I come from
Speaker 1: the gym, I'm gonna sun to shut out of here,
Speaker 1: and I'm t ate already, I'll smoke the bloom taking
Speaker 1: I'm taking ahead of That's when I'm staying. Go to
Speaker 1: the gym after you're busting nuts. But doesn't that make
Speaker 1: your knees weak? Like to say, don't you need that
Speaker 1: testosterone before you go? That's what he says. I mean,
Speaker 1: I don't know. He's like, I don't care. He's like,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna taking it that at this point. Yeah, I'm
Speaker 1: taking that. My son is my son is going to
Speaker 1: be thirteen and a couple. But my son doesn't live
Speaker 1: with me, and he lives with his father. This isn't
Speaker 1: my son's father. Let's trade. Let me send you my kids.
Speaker 1: See how much she was trying to get it. If
Speaker 1: you just say to me, you want to talk about
Speaker 1: that's happened. But it's definitely me attacking him, like I'm like,
Speaker 1: he are mad horny for him? He makes me mad horny?
Speaker 1: What about he leaves and then it goes away. I'm
Speaker 1: sorry forgett with her. Man. My birthday turday goes I
Speaker 1: turned forty, amazing. I don't think he's ever not been
Speaker 1: in the mood, and I'm not in the mood, I
Speaker 1: still do it, So I don't know you would say me.
Speaker 1: But even if I thought, I'm still going to do it,
Speaker 1: that I've never turned him down on unless you're in
Speaker 1: a fight. Yeah, but even then I'm just like, but
Speaker 1: what's the quality of quality? Like if you don't feel
Speaker 1: like doing it? That's the thing, because he can tell
Speaker 1: when I don't want it. Starts off like nonchalant, but
Speaker 1: then I start to enjoy in it and I kick
Speaker 1: it into like my regular self. All right, unless she's
Speaker 1: just tying her badge up words. Yeah, when I have
Speaker 1: a twenty two year old daughter, oh wow, I had
Speaker 1: her when I was seventeen, and um, I didn't do
Speaker 1: it because I felt like I was all whites outside.
Speaker 1: Um I did it because I have like this I
Speaker 1: can't hold my pe problem. And I was told that
Speaker 1: it helps, like if i'm if I'm called, if I'm called,
Speaker 1: if I called for a sneeze, I might like drip
Speaker 1: a little, and um I was told that that would
Speaker 1: stop it, and it did. It didn't. I haven't fear
Speaker 1: to myself set, Yeah, I haven't. Myself always got to
Speaker 1: get up in the middle of right, So if I
Speaker 1: just give up a walk away, don't be starting. Yeah
Speaker 1: I'm not. I'm just gonna go. But yeah, it made
Speaker 1: um so that I haven't pee when Kaufman or sneezing
Speaker 1: almost a month, it's like three weeks, and um, it's
Speaker 1: definitely tighter and sex he feels better. And because sex
Speaker 1: feels better, my body shows through lubrication life screen. She
Speaker 1: got that wet. I might have to get that doctor here,
Speaker 1: trapped me. Girl probably coming. I bet if you're dating
Speaker 1: a guy with a little dick and you did that,
Speaker 1: it probably helps, too well. Too bad, that got it.
Speaker 1: We're not him, too bad? Too bad that when I
Speaker 1: had a guy with a little dick was yeah, because
Speaker 1: I'm sure she'd be like, put some more laser on first.
Speaker 1: She did, she said she And what was your response,
Speaker 1: bolus romans? Did you love her? Though? Um? At the time,
Speaker 1: to be honest, at the time, I didn't know. I
Speaker 1: didn't know, I didn't know myself. I didn't know what
Speaker 1: I wanted. I wanted to smash. I knew that, so
Speaker 1: I was trying to get an up drawers. I was
Speaker 1: willing to do whatever I could, but I wasn't gonna
Speaker 1: do that because then if it didn't work, out, and
Speaker 1: then I was like, I need to go a separate ways.
Speaker 1: I already told you I love you, and I'm gonna
Speaker 1: be a scumbaga. My pop's my uncle told me better
Speaker 1: than that. Alright, who's better in the bedroom? You are?
Speaker 1: Who's better in the bedroom? Ships? Oh? I would have
Speaker 1: to say. I would have to say her, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: trying to be honest, what I need to work on.
Speaker 1: She'd be like, no, you good, No, this is definitely her.
Speaker 1: That's why we want to funk all the time. As great.
Speaker 1: She put that thing on me too, and she got
Speaker 1: to do the double hand the guard when super Head
Speaker 1: did the point with Mr Marks, Mr Market and he
Speaker 1: was learning from Yes, that's what listen. I studied that study,
Speaker 1: studied do you perfect at the pepper grind? About her
Speaker 1: grinding the pepper? I walked the fool and in the
Speaker 1: kitchen and I was just like, yo, what you're doing
Speaker 1: something grinding the pepper? So I was like, let me
Speaker 1: see she was grinding it off. She was just like,
Speaker 1: get out of here, mad nasty. He goes up on
Speaker 1: me when I was cooking. I was like, are you
Speaker 1: always thinking about that? Nice? He was like, more pepper
Speaker 1: all right now what is your favorite What is Conde's
Speaker 1: favorite move that you do in the bedroom at the
Speaker 1: edge of the bed, she throw that left leg up.
Speaker 1: It's doggy style. I know the minute, the minute she
Speaker 1: wants done, it's over. It's bad for you not do
Speaker 1: like like path. Then I back up like I gotta
Speaker 1: stretch my leg. I think breathe said a little bit,
Speaker 1: you know, then I go back, come back in. But
Speaker 1: I said, well, answer this, then, what is your What
Speaker 1: is her least favorite move that you do? Like that
Speaker 1: you do to her when I put her legs all
Speaker 1: the way back, I wasn't. I just know her because
Speaker 1: every time I do that, she splits. But why do
Speaker 1: you do it? Because in college she used she used
Speaker 1: to she's knowledge and that's what college she was, and
Speaker 1: it was all good. She used to she used to
Speaker 1: come like the minute I do that, and she used
Speaker 1: to come like crazy. Now I when I go to
Speaker 1: pub legs and she's like, I stretched like yoga, I
Speaker 1: would see yoga. I know I could get it back memory.
Speaker 1: I'm stretching out a little bit to bring it right back. See.
Speaker 1: Well that we've seen you falling all over the place
Speaker 1: over the weekend. Girl, But I hit my head stand up.
Speaker 1: So I had this vision, I'm gonna show you all
Speaker 1: the picture. I'm gonna show you the inspiration. I had
Speaker 1: this vision of UM doing a recreation of this picture.
Speaker 1: And then I had the bright, bright, drunk ass idea
Speaker 1: because we were in a house on Terms and Kicks
Speaker 1: that had a private beach. Um I had on a
Speaker 1: three m bikini, so it was like glowing in the
Speaker 1: reflective light. And I'm like, I'm gonna do recreate this picture, um,
Speaker 1: and on the beach with this glow in the dark
Speaker 1: bikini on. But then I drank a full bottle of
Speaker 1: Hennessey Privilege out of the bottle. That's this picture, not
Speaker 1: even the same thing that I did that, and I died, right,
Speaker 1: But I still tried to do this testing. So I
Speaker 1: made my sisters and whoever everybody else that was with
Speaker 1: me come down we weren't live, and I made them
Speaker 1: come down to the beach with me, and I attempted
Speaker 1: to get into this headstand and it was just like
Speaker 1: the funniest thing in her I fell in the sand
Speaker 1: three times trying to get me to stop, like no,
Speaker 1: just another day, Like it's not heaven. Here's the picture
Speaker 1: that I was trying to recreate it right. Well, no,
Speaker 1: this is a dress. That's a dress hurt. So I
Speaker 1: don't know if you'll if you coun show it to
Speaker 1: the camera. Okay, So I didn't quite hit the picture,
Speaker 1: but I definitely hit the head stand. Okay, it was
Speaker 1: a little sloppy head stand, but I did it. And
Speaker 1: then so I hit the head stand right. But the
Speaker 1: reason why there's not a picture of the headstand and
Speaker 1: there's video, and it's because when I hit the know
Speaker 1: his video when I hit the head stand. Um, my
Speaker 1: cousin's like, wait, wait, let me get in a let
Speaker 1: me get it in the picture. And then right before
Speaker 1: she took the picture, I fell. And then after I fell,
Speaker 1: because you were upside down to that, I had the
Speaker 1: head stand cross my and everything and then I fell.
Speaker 1: So after I fell, I threw up and they tried
Speaker 1: to take me into the house and I'm like, no,
Speaker 1: just leave me here, I'll be okay, And they put
Speaker 1: me on one of the beach chairs and one of
Speaker 1: my friends stayed with me. I woke up at four
Speaker 1: o'clock in the morning completely completely covered in sand, completely
Speaker 1: covered in sand. I'm talking about my nose. I had
Speaker 1: stand in my ears and my body. But I still
Speaker 1: have stand in my hair because I still have this ponytail,
Speaker 1: because then all up through my braids and my soul
Speaker 1: in child. But when I tell you the beach, listen
Speaker 1: when I tell you that I had the time of
Speaker 1: my life this night. It was so much fun memorable
Speaker 1: and I'm just was Monday night and I'm just now recovered.
Speaker 1: Don't be fun time? So you got vomit and the
Speaker 1: marathon continues. She didn't talk about it alright, Devout. The
Speaker 1: next one is um who spends my money? American Express
Speaker 1: build every time my nickname for me. But the said
Speaker 1: I'm a hoarder because she says she was watching the
Speaker 1: video you talking about me hoarding and spend money. I
Speaker 1: don't get it. Yeah, she's collecting things. These things could
Speaker 1: be working more later. It's an investment. Here you go,
Speaker 1: here you go. All right, who's the giver and who's
Speaker 1: the taker in your relationship. I'm definitely a giver. She's
Speaker 1: a taker. You gotta work on that that I give give.
Speaker 1: We had this conversation, like we did, just have this conversation.
Speaker 1: I was feeling underappreciated. I'm gonna tell you one thing
Speaker 1: I do, I tell exactly I'm feeling. I was talking
Speaker 1: to your man's outside and I told her, like part
Speaker 1: of the reason why it works is because I'm not
Speaker 1: a dude. I feel like I got to be too
Speaker 1: fucking macho. It's like, no, like I wanted to see
Speaker 1: you yesterday and you spent mad time with the kids.
Speaker 1: I ain't gonna put see him at long, like what's up?
Speaker 1: Because the last thing I want is to feel like undappreciated,
Speaker 1: and then we'll not see each other. Then I'll be
Speaker 1: out in temptation catch me at the wrong time, some
Speaker 1: human like everybody else. So I'm like, you know what,
Speaker 1: let me just tell my wife exactly how I'm feeling.
Speaker 1: She could you know. Yeah, he's like me. He's super
Speaker 1: transparent about the way you feel. Sometimes it's like painful
Speaker 1: just to hear I'm just like them. I'm just think
Speaker 1: about temptation. And just because you haven't had sex in
Speaker 1: a while, ship, oh my god, like two days you
Speaker 1: let's say Thursday we have sex is Tuesday, But in
Speaker 1: my mind, like to the Thursday, like I blinked in
Speaker 1: the Thursday, so like ship hasn't been two days already,
Speaker 1: Like I don't even realize them the two days. She
Speaker 1: sure doesn't even be counting down, like take care of him.
Speaker 1: You don't tell them to just take care of him.
Speaker 1: So he's not the same jack my deck like the house.
Speaker 1: My wife's in the back, seping legit. Sometimes, especially when
Speaker 1: I was pregnant, I would be like, bro, you just
Speaker 1: got to take yourself and he's going to live room
Speaker 1: and do it and come back and be like the
Speaker 1: ship didn't work. And I'm like, what didn't work? You
Speaker 1: didn't come and he was like, no, I did. But
Speaker 1: I'm still horny, and I'm like, you not his hands.
Speaker 1: You never watched I watched him once or twice, but
Speaker 1: I feel like you get a little you don't because
Speaker 1: back then I'm jacking my dick and you here. I
Speaker 1: don't want you watching me now? Can you imagine jacket?
Speaker 1: You like Jackie j w Right. And then it's like,
Speaker 1: especially when you're pregnant, what's the end of pregnancy to
Speaker 1: its like you know, you get locked yall after a while,
Speaker 1: your throat be all so just because it's like man, like, dude,
Speaker 1: give me a break everything. Try to like nikes like
Speaker 1: they're digging mad long and You're like, dude, like stop,
Speaker 1: I think he does that sh is punishment sometimes, like
Speaker 1: you baby, do not do it just punishment, like you're
Speaker 1: about to catch your nose bleed, bro, Like I'm never
Speaker 1: killing to you. He's like, And you'd be like, why
Speaker 1: do not even start this ship right? Because now I
Speaker 1: know when she's like that, like she's lazy, like I'm
Speaker 1: just having to catch my breast side. I had to like,
Speaker 1: you know, reade again, it's argument. We have arguments watched secnday.
Speaker 1: You'll like bite me right, but we'll be like stop.
Speaker 1: I'd be like, are you gonna are you gonna get
Speaker 1: it to your throat at any point during this whole session,
Speaker 1: or you're just gonna keep your lips on on the
Speaker 1: head like the hand down here. And at that point
Speaker 1: he proceeds to grab the back of my neck and
Speaker 1: it's a rat right, Like I want to hear that.
Speaker 1: Go speak to he blew on it ruined. That was
Speaker 1: the most embarrassing thing that happened while you guys were
Speaker 1: dating early on earlier on the most embarrassing thing to her, Well,
Speaker 1: I'll tell you she said to her something that has easy.
Speaker 1: She was at a pageant. She went to go walk.
Speaker 1: That was early on. I gave him something that was
Speaker 1: a little after but that you can give him that
Speaker 1: funny story stage and she she you know, we was
Speaker 1: having fun in college. She had gained about twenty thirty pounds.
Speaker 1: You know, we were doing our thing. Went to Friday's
Speaker 1: every Friday because she had to get the baby, get
Speaker 1: get Friday three for three sot smashing a line, eating
Speaker 1: and she had gained some weight. I did. So. She
Speaker 1: had on a slip and dress with the overlay. No, no, penny,
Speaker 1: it was a slip dress with the overlay. So she
Speaker 1: goes up to the pageant to give the girl a
Speaker 1: crown because she had to wait before. Again it's like
Speaker 1: given award. And when she was up, the slip had
Speaker 1: rolled up and it was just to dress overlay. And
Speaker 1: all you see is red phone and on stage in
Speaker 1: front of like four And there's not a lot of
Speaker 1: black girls in your pageants. Man, She's the only Jamakan one.
Speaker 1: So she got a fat and a what you see
Speaker 1: is red thone and in the spotlight, Oh my god,
Speaker 1: she's standing up there and exactly and I went and
Speaker 1: I did a whole turn, do my thing, waving and whatnot.
Speaker 1: And I was like, and literally my brother. I saw
Speaker 1: my brother go like this, and I don't want to
Speaker 1: see that. And that's seen a couple of men like
Speaker 1: to a class. They look at and they nut me
Speaker 1: check and I got up the stage and I was like,
Speaker 1: my mother, damn you Instagram. Oh so three good in
Speaker 1: viral though? Can you tell that's a different story. I
Speaker 1: told him the story about when I paid on myself
Speaker 1: in the elevator after Jackson work. Yeah, but that was
Speaker 1: but that was really all she could That's all I
Speaker 1: could think of. Embarrassing if that's something devoted, it was
Speaker 1: embarrassing that happened to me in our ladyship recently. I
Speaker 1: can tell you all the time. Funny for having to
Speaker 1: me all the time. I was thinking of you Detroit
Speaker 1: Lions story in bath room. Oh that's it, It's crazy,
Speaker 1: all right. So I'm in college, right, and I'm not
Speaker 1: like an elite pro athlete, right, I'm just a regular
Speaker 1: guy that's playing football. But I end up be coming
Speaker 1: all American, right. So, but he was pounds like, I
Speaker 1: don't look like the typical athlete, right. So the draft
Speaker 1: come and go sold as free agency, and the only
Speaker 1: team that was willing to bring me out for a workout.
Speaker 1: Was the lions to the as flies me out for
Speaker 1: a workout, and now it was hitting me. Then I'm
Speaker 1: about to work out for a protein so my stomach
Speaker 1: is like someone's killing me. Right. So I'm on the
Speaker 1: plane like ship you. Now we get off the plane
Speaker 1: and they take us to the facility and I'm like,
Speaker 1: all right, so they're gonna take no first, you gotta
Speaker 1: fill out paperwork. You gotta I'm like, oh my god,
Speaker 1: my stomach, I'm about to lose it. So then they're like,
Speaker 1: all right, you go to the bathroom. I go to
Speaker 1: the bathroom right and you know how when you get
Speaker 1: close to using the bathroom when it starts coming right,
Speaker 1: So it's like turtle heading right now, and I'm like,
Speaker 1: gett into the bathroom. I go to put the toilet
Speaker 1: paper down, and then when I turned around to sit,
Speaker 1: the toilet paper falls in the toilet. So now back around.
Speaker 1: When I turned back around the bend over to pick
Speaker 1: up the paper, the ship said against the door like
Speaker 1: it was just shot, like god like. So now I'm like, oh,
Speaker 1: so I'm like then what I'm gonna do? So then
Speaker 1: I go to start to try to clean it up.
Speaker 1: And then I had somebody come into the bathroom and
Speaker 1: they're kicking in the door, kicking in the door. When
Speaker 1: they went in one store, I went into the next,
Speaker 1: like I ran with that. I heard them open the
Speaker 1: door and they're like, Yo, what the fu. So then
Speaker 1: I come out the bath to him to come out
Speaker 1: the store, and I'm like, yo, what happened? And then
Speaker 1: he was just like you look at this. And I
Speaker 1: was like, Yo, take this ship, man. He's like this
Speaker 1: fucking rookies only that ship. Nasty man. I'm gonna go
Speaker 1: who you want to go get? Somebody was like yeah.
Speaker 1: So I left and washed my hands. I went to
Speaker 1: the meeting room. I was like, your ass and everything.
Speaker 1: Now it was ship everywhere. Bro, I don't even check
Speaker 1: this story. After that is like, bro, my ship. Your
Speaker 1: body had bad stories? Oh okay, So you had to
Speaker 1: c the squat on Tim's right, not the butters. So
Speaker 1: this was this was years ago, like early two thousand.
Speaker 1: Wait a minute, when I'm still living in Philly. In
Speaker 1: the early two thousands, I used to be like a
Speaker 1: promo model. So we to go like do cigarette stuff
Speaker 1: and and alcohol stuff and you know, like a Corona
Speaker 1: girl or whatever like that type of stuff. So I'm
Speaker 1: at this smoke shop like out in the suburb somewhere
Speaker 1: and something start the bubbling and I gotta go. But
Speaker 1: I'm like, I used to be a professional dancer um stripper,
Speaker 1: but before that, I was like a ballerina, so I'm
Speaker 1: good to like squat and hold it up without having
Speaker 1: this okay, So I do that move and I look
Speaker 1: at my balance just as this dropping and amazing ships doing.
Speaker 1: So I'm like, am I going to clean this up?
Speaker 1: So I clean myself up and then I started looking
Speaker 1: around the bathroom. I'm luckily they have some four or nine,
Speaker 1: so you always I'm singer. I was. I was in
Speaker 1: the bathroom for like the hour or longer, cleaning up
Speaker 1: the bathroom, cleaning up myself, the merch to yeah about.
Speaker 1: And my girl I'm working with, she like, are you okay?
Speaker 1: And you know, she's like when you're sick of something?
Speaker 1: And I just told her, like, girl, I just ship
Speaker 1: did and hit it before you know, I said my story.
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't see I'm a girl girls on ship.
Speaker 1: I like the same I remember he said that, yes, shot, yes,
Speaker 1: I can't remember my same ship or making it really
Speaker 1: talk man like when I first make it, like the
Speaker 1: first couple of months, she's going to bathroom, it was
Speaker 1: like air, like I damn ship, nothing like nothing. It
Speaker 1: was like after a couple of months. We was in college,
Speaker 1: and this is when when did I break my finger? Yes,
Speaker 1: I broke my finger, right, so I'm staying in her room.
Speaker 1: She went into the bathroom, came back out, and I
Speaker 1: went in right after her. I was like, I was like,
Speaker 1: in this room, don't be talking about my insides like
Speaker 1: that my inside kid? He was right, that was you
Speaker 1: were doing four wolves? Now don't we talking about closer?
Speaker 1: No time? Like did she ship? And did you feel
Speaker 1: good to know? Like that was like another like step
Speaker 1: in our relationship? She s vicinity. So wait, so now
Speaker 1: that you guys are married for all of these years
Speaker 1: together with children, what is like the ship status now?
Speaker 1: Like when now now she come, He'll be open all
Speaker 1: the time, like, what have you coming in my kids?
Speaker 1: Being there? Once I he was taking He's like, you're
Speaker 1: coming in my lap? Oh my god, that is the
Speaker 1: funny part. This is the guy's on the truth. When
Speaker 1: I was younger and I used to fart, she used
Speaker 1: to be like, it's cute. Now if I far, She's
Speaker 1: like to wait from me. Cute in the beginning of it,
Speaker 1: just like now she gets so disgusted. Oh my god,
Speaker 1: that's amazing that I can't wait till next len ship.
Speaker 1: And your man knows about it. He knows I'm not
Speaker 1: go in the bathroom. I don't ship. He'd be like,
Speaker 1: what are you doing in the bathroom if you're not shipping,
Speaker 1: And I'll be like, I'm talking to Jesus, I'm paying
Speaker 1: interrupt me. I know him, I know for seventeen years,
Speaker 1: but we haven't been together for that a long Yeah,
Speaker 1: what'd you take matches in there? I mean we were
Speaker 1: we've been on and off over the years, but you
Speaker 1: know I had a relationship in between, and so they
Speaker 1: and now we're back together. Now, Okay, you're drop like
Speaker 1: dropping flush that's what she used to I don't do working.
Speaker 1: I don't do that, but if I did, I would
Speaker 1: be dropping and flushing. But you have to try to
Speaker 1: look the two have to keep your legs closed and
Speaker 1: doesn't come out. I had not respected that ship yet.
Speaker 1: She's upstairs right and she was literally like three weeks
Speaker 1: ago a room go up before him, and she goes
Speaker 1: up before me, and then I come up and the
Speaker 1: bell man it's coming out of the room. Come man's
Speaker 1: come out of the moment. I'm looking at him like
Speaker 1: I'm like, smell like ship. He was like, let me
Speaker 1: tell you right, So I checked in the race upstairs.
Speaker 1: I'm like, baby, parked the car, whatever, valet whatever, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna go upstairs, ran upstairs, took a ship. So first
Speaker 1: of all, I med ship and out here and knock
Speaker 1: at the door. So I was like, and I'm thinking
Speaker 1: it's him. Totally forget about the bell man. So I
Speaker 1: literally didn't even wipe or anything. I just got up
Speaker 1: off the seat because the door was right there. I
Speaker 1: went to open it and I saw it was the
Speaker 1: bell matter and I'm just like, oh my god, give
Speaker 1: me a second. So I let that in. I white,
Speaker 1: you know everything, Yo at home walked right in and
Speaker 1: I saw him like it's like like right there. It
Speaker 1: was like noaking it. Grab yeah, I'm gonna meet you
Speaker 1: down the whole broad I'm treatment like five minutes later
Speaker 1: and he was like, yo, I switched room. This room
Speaker 1: was no funny me, not the b man, no, my
Speaker 1: wife as smell shro time you go downstairs, the biodman
Speaker 1: looking at me. But yeah, I don't know, Yeah, I
Speaker 1: don't know, especially on this little diet here, forget it.
Speaker 1: All that bacon and meat and stuff. Yeah, that's all
Speaker 1: that women's mad mad protein tuna fish right. Oh god,
Speaker 1: I hate this something to you, especially does whatever kids
Speaker 1: tell you too? When you think like you're in the bathroom,
Speaker 1: they'll walk by the door, do you Everybody shut the
Speaker 1: hell up now. I wanted to talk to you guys
Speaker 1: about something that just happened recently in the press. Right,
Speaker 1: Willis Smith on Red Table Talk was talking about porn,
Speaker 1: and she was saying she liked artistic looking porn, and
Speaker 1: so now an adult film star breemals once Willis means
Speaker 1: to direct the porn and so how did she She's
Speaker 1: of age and she was talking about watching porn and
Speaker 1: everything her mom and her grandmother. If you asked this
Speaker 1: episode a catch up, if you had the opportunity to
Speaker 1: direct the porn, what would it be? What would the
Speaker 1: plot be? What would your treatment be? I already know
Speaker 1: what I want to see? What cheerleader? Football player? That's
Speaker 1: very very like She's like sybody you sign aries aries
Speaker 1: sex and I'm dead as thinking my front of the
Speaker 1: aries football players. This dude had me, we had it
Speaker 1: my skirt. But you know, I'm like and she's like
Speaker 1: a cheer and she's like, guys, I'm tell anybody I
Speaker 1: was here sting mazick. I love getting my dick. That's
Speaker 1: great train. What do I like for you to wear?
Speaker 1: Like a school girl outfit? Che He literally had me
Speaker 1: put on my uniform from high school days about it,
Speaker 1: and we basically did a video about it. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: mean that ship was up here because my waisted a
Speaker 1: little bigger, try to take over I take it off.
Speaker 1: Was that it was a whole. I don't really just
Speaker 1: like a I like the school scenario, like like you know,
Speaker 1: schoolgirl of age, school girl. Yeah, like a little height.
Speaker 1: You know, it could be college and the professor situation,
Speaker 1: you know, not like a typical bed situation. Like I
Speaker 1: like furniture, but not the bed. Okay, up against the bookcase.
Speaker 1: You guys down the child board right now? Have you
Speaker 1: guys can pay together like your own pleasure? Yes, we
Speaker 1: have not recently. Maybe we should reintroduce that. You know,
Speaker 1: we've been thinking of ways to make sure you know
Speaker 1: what the safes are and they're safe. I don't know
Speaker 1: here we go, but yeah, we should do that because
Speaker 1: we've been looking for ways to kind of like you know,
Speaker 1: reinvent spice things up, like a seventy years with the
Speaker 1: same person. It's like players just keep putting on the uniform.
Speaker 1: That's a little role play to me. All the time,
Speaker 1: you were like you dress up, you little kids. I
Speaker 1: asked her what you want me to put on? I
Speaker 1: asked her, let me let him in actual suit. Ask
Speaker 1: all of these damn questions. I don't get no answers.
Speaker 1: I'm glad to be here. I actual thing about sex
Speaker 1: therapy for us too, So that's actually probably my work.
Speaker 1: I think this is Yeah, it's just sex therapy. We
Speaker 1: don't have to do a touch base. You don't have
Speaker 1: to have this back in a couple of years. I'll
Speaker 1: put my s a full of most of the time.
Speaker 1: Three P. Three, I'll do all that. I'll do all that.
Speaker 1: There you go from scenario point said I dressed will
Speaker 1: be scandal as these girls nowadays dressing. These are like
Speaker 1: sixteen thirty year olds. I'm like, I'm grown. See, let
Speaker 1: me get one of them. Keep me talking about the
Speaker 1: type ofthetical both that we don't have that. We're not
Speaker 1: having after this prow of the bar, somebody, I'm pregnant.
Speaker 1: It's a girl, right, we'll come here to make the
Speaker 1: announcement if it happens. All right, So, jess, what would
Speaker 1: you if you had to direct the porn? What would
Speaker 1: your plot? By? Girl orgy? Okay, you know we need
Speaker 1: multiple participants' is it a bisexual orgy? Like guys doing guys?
Speaker 1: I could direct that. I couldn't be in it, though, No, no, no,
Speaker 1: direct I could direct that. Why couldn't you be in it?
Speaker 1: Because I don't want to be in the mix with
Speaker 1: a guy and another guy and they want stuff. I
Speaker 1: watch it, but like the guys doing stuff to you though?
Speaker 1: To the guys doing stuff to the guys though, and yeah,
Speaker 1: but you and me go from the vaginal I'm not
Speaker 1: sexual infection. I could direct a bisexual porny for sure?
Speaker 1: What do you mean? Called? Um all for one? And Willow?
Speaker 1: Here's your creative team, Willow creative team? She hits will Thanks?
Speaker 1: What about your steps? You would you would do the cheerleader? Yeah, definitely,
Speaker 1: cheerleader with like a bunch of big football players. Yeah, like, yeah,
Speaker 1: don't wear any people with something. We're not gonna tell.
Speaker 1: We're not going to tell anybody you were here. We
Speaker 1: don't want to get kicked out of school. Girl. You know,
Speaker 1: my favorite boar is like I'm lost with trying, Like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, she just walked like I'm lost. It's
Speaker 1: like we can help you. Help's at that book she's getting.
Speaker 1: Boy thinks you never your that? What are some songs
Speaker 1: that when you were growing up, right, you didn't realize
Speaker 1: they were about sex? And now that you look back,
Speaker 1: you were singing these songs and you're like, Dan, that
Speaker 1: was about sex all that time. I mean, you knew
Speaker 1: it was about sex, but mine was like flix times
Speaker 1: to right, but it was almost like damn, I can't
Speaker 1: wait till Yes, it's playing in the back. Eletric slide
Speaker 1: was about a vibrator. The electric Yes, I don't know
Speaker 1: about electric side was it's you just came out recently,
Speaker 1: it's electric. Yeah. The electric slide is about a vibrator
Speaker 1: and all the all the way receptions, all of the
Speaker 1: sprides and ship you into the vibrator. That's the rumor.
Speaker 1: It says. It's rumored to be about Okay, let's do
Speaker 1: a little fact check here. They said it's a false
Speaker 1: internet rumor. Well, I mean, you can't believe everything. I
Speaker 1: can change the meeting for it, and we can do
Speaker 1: an electric slide porto, which is a big orgy. There
Speaker 1: you go, that's some fad, he told me. And let
Speaker 1: me see if this Macarena was about a girl with
Speaker 1: two like that, but a guy's friend with his friends
Speaker 1: with let's see, I don't know. See, I got to
Speaker 1: make sure that's too. I think I was way too
Speaker 1: young to be listening to the Acali and put it in.
Speaker 1: All was like sevens and me to did you already
Speaker 1: eat me Alabia break through today? Until the dawn? I
Speaker 1: was a little girl like about that. Oh, it isn't
Speaker 1: about a girl that's cheating. A girl named Macarena who
Speaker 1: teats on her boyfriend with two friends while he's being
Speaker 1: drafted into the army. Damn, that's there. So she was
Speaker 1: each hand, one for each guy. And you know that
Speaker 1: your head on my pillow by Tony, Tony, Tony, that's
Speaker 1: about a guy before Oh and just read you say
Speaker 1: that in the background. Just come sit right here, pretty bad.
Speaker 1: Do you guys play music during sex? Sometimes? Sometimes? Is
Speaker 1: it better? You think? With music? I like you do.
Speaker 1: I wish I was like yeah, and then sometimes I'm
Speaker 1: going through like we got to stop. I don't like
Speaker 1: this song so right, like this song is a scraping
Speaker 1: my style, Like hold up, I'm like, I don't want
Speaker 1: to laugh to have like a whole story board for
Speaker 1: the routine in my playlist. So you're definitely I think
Speaker 1: it makes the better who talks crazier in the bedroom?
Speaker 1: Me clearly right, crazy questions and don't let me not
Speaker 1: answer because then he's like, you know what, I'm just
Speaker 1: like damning, all right, yes, yes, yes, actually felt now
Speaker 1: you got to feel like I'm being in the moment
Speaker 1: though I can't get it out. So it's definitely you.
Speaker 1: That's crazy. I'm thinking that I'm looking at all these
Speaker 1: I'm looking at all these songs that I had no
Speaker 1: idea what they were about. All right, Now, couples have
Speaker 1: access to each other's passwords, Yeah, I mean I don't.
Speaker 1: We don't we have excess to each other's passwords at
Speaker 1: this point? How did it? How long did it take
Speaker 1: to get to that point? And was there issues for
Speaker 1: it to get to that point? I mean I went
Speaker 1: through his phone a couple of times over the years
Speaker 1: we were looking for anything in particular. Not really, I
Speaker 1: think I'm just nosy by nature. So I am what's
Speaker 1: your I'm exagi serious all like, are you watching today?
Speaker 1: Your surname? You're amazing understanding. She had her moments in
Speaker 1: time when she woke up great talking to the I don't.
Speaker 1: I don't to be honest, I don't think it should
Speaker 1: be a prerequisite to have people's passwords. I think it
Speaker 1: should be a choice of whether you're going to share passwords.
Speaker 1: So when did that choice happen, like for you to
Speaker 1: say okay, now, For me, I never I never hit
Speaker 1: my password one she always could have access to. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we both have never hit pass It's like a mutual
Speaker 1: trust thing that I've broken like a couple of times.
Speaker 1: And for me, I never really wanted to be a
Speaker 1: liar or a cheater, even though I've had my moments
Speaker 1: who I've cheated, But I've always just wanted to tell her, like, yo,
Speaker 1: I really feel like I need to be do my
Speaker 1: thing a little bit because I just hate feeling like
Speaker 1: I'm a prisoner in my own home. Like I hate
Speaker 1: feeling like, oh ship, let me you know. She may
Speaker 1: be coming out the shower so it's like, you know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. When we were in college, sometimes like
Speaker 1: y'all need to go on a break. Why because we're
Speaker 1: not vibing sexually? Um, nineteen years old? I think I
Speaker 1: need to do some other things. So since we had
Speaker 1: that transparency and we talked about going on breaktuff like that,
Speaker 1: I never really felt like I had necessarily had my
Speaker 1: password and stuff like that. But I do feel like
Speaker 1: if you go into somebody's phone, you break into the phone,
Speaker 1: that's invasion of privacy, Like you should not do that, right,
Speaker 1: I agree with that. You shouldn't. Have you ever looked
Speaker 1: at her phone? Never? Not once, like just no, I haven't.
Speaker 1: I've never. I mean, he's not gonna find it. And
Speaker 1: because you know, but you didn't look, you said, I
Speaker 1: remember when you had the phone was open? Oh yeah,
Speaker 1: the phone was open. Yeah. We had an issue where
Speaker 1: I was like texting somebody inappropriately and he found it
Speaker 1: and he found it and I was on thet had
Speaker 1: to confront, you know, upfront about it. And it wasn't
Speaker 1: even I looked at the phone she had. She was.
Speaker 1: I was looking for actually a song to play, and
Speaker 1: I Google, I put in the search take you down
Speaker 1: from Chris Brown and then text messages popped up and
Speaker 1: said take you down something else. It was something crazy.
Speaker 1: It was it's like messages that were like deleted from
Speaker 1: my phone and then you know, iPhone somewhere somebody class yeah,
Speaker 1: And I was like, I was like, yo, what the funk, Like,
Speaker 1: like what the fund is this? And she was just like, oh, well,
Speaker 1: he was going through whatever. And that's another thing. We've
Speaker 1: been very transparent. When I was going through my ship
Speaker 1: and she was going through our ship, it was like
Speaker 1: you know what, and then you got to be honest
Speaker 1: as a man to like, yeah, I was. I was
Speaker 1: kind of distant. I'm not really surprised that you were
Speaker 1: having inappropriate conversations because I was being an asshole. So
Speaker 1: I still understand that people always want to know how
Speaker 1: do you recover in a relationship from cheating, because for
Speaker 1: some people it is hard, Like we keep on asking
Speaker 1: the questions over and over again. We want to know details.
Speaker 1: You think it's necessary to know details if someone cheating,
Speaker 1: Like I wanted to know what details. Yeah, it's an
Speaker 1: vice versa. I feel like I needed to paint that
Speaker 1: picture in my mind, and so it never left my mind.
Speaker 1: After a while it did. But you know, I feel
Speaker 1: like I just needed to know for my own sanity
Speaker 1: because if not, I was going to keep wondering about
Speaker 1: what had happened or what possibly happened, you know, So
Speaker 1: I needed to know details and he did too. For me,
Speaker 1: I wanted to know how far it gotten because I
Speaker 1: need to know where, you know, where did I mess up?
Speaker 1: For me, it's about self reflection. So it's like, if
Speaker 1: my girl went this far, my girl did this, why
Speaker 1: did she do that? And if this is the woman
Speaker 1: I want to spend the rest of my life with,
Speaker 1: how can I prevent that from happening again. If I'm
Speaker 1: going something like I don't want to know it, then
Speaker 1: I'm really not trying to grow because realistically, when you
Speaker 1: with somebody and you know someone's trying to be with you,
Speaker 1: then you have to know that if they did something
Speaker 1: outside of the norm, it had to be something that
Speaker 1: you did, you know what I'm saying. Or if it's
Speaker 1: not something you did, she going through something that we
Speaker 1: need to discuss that and make a decision. If we're
Speaker 1: not gonna be together, we're gonna be together. So for me,
Speaker 1: it was like I need to get all this information
Speaker 1: so I can find out what I want to do.
Speaker 1: And we made choices to stay together. And yeah, I
Speaker 1: think it's always a choice involved because people ask about
Speaker 1: how you get as you know, infidelities or how do
Speaker 1: you get past those moments where you're not necessarily honest
Speaker 1: with each other, But I think giving each other the
Speaker 1: choice to decide that you want to be there and
Speaker 1: not making anything where you're putting up this facade or
Speaker 1: you're lying, and then people are trying to stay till
Speaker 1: we get together under these you know, false notions of
Speaker 1: what's really happening. Um, that's where we really try to
Speaker 1: be as transparent as possible, Like this is about to
Speaker 1: break his heart, but I have to tell him what
Speaker 1: exactly happened, and vice versa. And right now I was
Speaker 1: like never like, I'm like, let me divote just right
Speaker 1: now in the room. I will be honest. Though you
Speaker 1: don't ever just get over it and never ever remember
Speaker 1: you have days where ship come up and you just
Speaker 1: be like, fun, can't believe she did. Might just be
Speaker 1: mad like like that's just something that's bad or something
Speaker 1: will happen, and like like, for example, she hates calling
Speaker 1: me when she gets places like she's just not responsible
Speaker 1: like that. She'll be on the uber going to an
Speaker 1: event and I'll be like, yo, I told you to
Speaker 1: text me to make sure you're safe, and then you
Speaker 1: don't text me. You like what you're fucking texting people?
Speaker 1: Huh yeah? But homeboy, you you know what, it's seven
Speaker 1: years there on your part too. When you decide to
Speaker 1: forgive somebody to stay with them, to like check yourself
Speaker 1: sometimes when you want to ask a million questions and
Speaker 1: when you're feeling a stair way. Sometimes it's more like
Speaker 1: you instead of flipping out on somebody and asking, you
Speaker 1: have to sometimes say, Okay, I said I was gonna stay.
Speaker 1: I need to at least make that effort and not
Speaker 1: give someone else your Time's so true, it's not every
Speaker 1: day is a work in progress. I think with use
Speaker 1: two and even at the seventeen years, I think it's
Speaker 1: that much. It's easier and it's harder at the same
Speaker 1: time because we don't we get each other more now, um,
Speaker 1: and we have so much more invested at this point too.
Speaker 1: You know, we have three children. It's not the easiest
Speaker 1: thing to walk away from. But definitely trying to be um.
Speaker 1: It's honest, some people feel like che didn't can make
Speaker 1: their relationship stronger. People that because sometimes you like take
Speaker 1: somebody for granted, and then when you realize that you
Speaker 1: could have lost everything because you cheated, or you go
Speaker 1: and and you and find that things are not better
Speaker 1: because sometimes we think that a different situation than when
Speaker 1: we're in could be better, and it makes you realize
Speaker 1: that you really want what you have. I can see
Speaker 1: that that had happened with one of your friends. I
Speaker 1: won't say his name, but that happened where he had
Speaker 1: cheated and his wife found out and they got past
Speaker 1: it because she was like, wow, I really was just
Speaker 1: like completely ignoring. They both had like reflection, like he cheated,
Speaker 1: and then she looked at herself in him It's like, damn,
Speaker 1: like I can't even blame we didn't have sex in
Speaker 1: this long. I didn't do this. I'm never this, And
Speaker 1: she was like damn, like how could I be mad?
Speaker 1: Like you're a good dude, and then him leaving and
Speaker 1: then being out there realizing that there was nobody out there. Yeah,
Speaker 1: he was just like, yo, let's make it work. So
Speaker 1: both of them have reflection on for that. Now, that
Speaker 1: don't mean you just encouraging, but that it can either
Speaker 1: break your relationship or you can have it make it stronger. Right,
Speaker 1: And so it does go out the way. You don't
Speaker 1: really know until you get through it or exactly, or
Speaker 1: you don't even know how you're gonna deal with it.
Speaker 1: Everybody deals with it differently. Some people like, Okay, it's
Speaker 1: not a deal breaker. Some people are like, never get
Speaker 1: in life, And you're not wrong either way. What do
Speaker 1: you ladies think about cheating? You think I had that
Speaker 1: letting on myself. I think that cheating is very bad
Speaker 1: and I think that it just shouldn't be done. Um,
Speaker 1: period period. But um, you know, ship happens, And like
Speaker 1: Angela said, each relationship in each person, in each situation
Speaker 1: is different, and if you choose to stay or work
Speaker 1: it out or whatever, then you know, so be it. Um.
Speaker 1: Me personally, I've been with the same person now for
Speaker 1: ten years. Um, we've broken up and gotten back together,
Speaker 1: and um there has been infidelity, so clearly we've been
Speaker 1: able to work it out. Um. But does it feel
Speaker 1: stronger now than it ever did before at this moment? Yes. Now.
Speaker 1: I've heard people ask about like breaks, Do people take
Speaker 1: these breaks because they want to go out and experience
Speaker 1: somebody else. We just when we were on break, we
Speaker 1: were just like, wasn't I need a break? It was
Speaker 1: it was just like it was over. We had a
Speaker 1: couple of moments like that, words like you, and then
Speaker 1: it's like whatever happens at that time, it happened. Um.
Speaker 1: The two most uh you know the time the long
Speaker 1: length of breakups that we had happened twice when I
Speaker 1: actually moved out of our house. Um. The first time,
Speaker 1: I was out of the house for eight months, but
Speaker 1: within like three months we were back together. So that
Speaker 1: was like a little weird. It was like the fakest
Speaker 1: breakup I remember. And then the second time was real.
Speaker 1: The second time, I was going for a year and
Speaker 1: a half and we were still in between that year
Speaker 1: and a half, Like I moved out, um, and before
Speaker 1: my mattress was on the bedframe, we was working on
Speaker 1: the floor on the mattress, So that's true. When I
Speaker 1: got the first time, we we didn't we were like, um,
Speaker 1: we were sleeping in separate rooms and for like four
Speaker 1: months and then so of course we weren't having any sex.
Speaker 1: And before I pulled off in my U haul. The
Speaker 1: very first time I moved out before I pulled off
Speaker 1: in my we suck in the bathroom. So it's just
Speaker 1: but what about you, Stephani, your thoughts son cheating? Well,
Speaker 1: I have um I feel like this. I feel like
Speaker 1: if a girl cheats, she's damaged goods, it's it's no
Speaker 1: good no more. But a guy is a little stood
Speaker 1: put her than a woman, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: So sometimes you have to forgive saying a guy can't
Speaker 1: take a girl back after cheating. No, I mean, I
Speaker 1: don't mind saying, because everybody's situation is different, you know,
Speaker 1: But I just feel like, you know, for a woman
Speaker 1: to cheat, there's a lot more emotions involved, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean, Like we we're cheating. We're not cheating
Speaker 1: because we want to get funk, that we're horny like
Speaker 1: a man. Woman man is because he's not. It could
Speaker 1: be also that though it could be, but most of
Speaker 1: the time a man is cheating because this dick is
Speaker 1: hard exactly the one here I'm not. I'm only here
Speaker 1: think Okay, women want monogamy, right, womanogamy? Do you know
Speaker 1: how hard it is for a man to try to
Speaker 1: be monogamous to a woman and then when he's ready
Speaker 1: to have sex, the women act like he's being like
Speaker 1: he like she's bothering him. Think about how that feels
Speaker 1: for a men. You want, you want monogamy for me,
Speaker 1: so I'm trying to be monogamous, but then when I
Speaker 1: ask you for sex, you act I can't bothering you.
Speaker 1: Then when I don't like that's what That's what men
Speaker 1: go through, especially when you're in relationship for a long time.
Speaker 1: There's a lot of women who are just like, oh
Speaker 1: my god, you want to have sex again. It's like, yo,
Speaker 1: I'm trying to be everything to you and only give
Speaker 1: you this. This is what I need, and then you
Speaker 1: act like it's a bother and then when you have sex,
Speaker 1: it's like, fine, here take it. So now we have
Speaker 1: wack sex when we have sex, or you don't want
Speaker 1: to have sex and you expect me to live like that.
Speaker 1: So then so the dudes like, you know what, I
Speaker 1: can't keep saying it because I don't want to bother her,
Speaker 1: So let me just go try to get it so
Speaker 1: I don't have to bother Then he get caught. Now
Speaker 1: he's the bad guy. What the funk are he got there? Though?
Speaker 1: But That's what I'm saying with guys, do you guys,
Speaker 1: and then men, you have you have to release the seamen.
Speaker 1: Men have to like, we don't have to calm. Girls
Speaker 1: don't have to come. If we don't come, they have
Speaker 1: to get the keep doing that if they don't release,
Speaker 1: if you like yeah, like yeah yeah. Even if a
Speaker 1: man like guys on Ramadan, they have some fast, they
Speaker 1: can't jerk off, they can't have sex, they can't release.
Speaker 1: It's a mighty day. It's for a month. So imagine
Speaker 1: as a man not being able to release the nut
Speaker 1: for a month, you're gonna get sick. You're you're gonna
Speaker 1: get sick. I'm saying, don't don't end up having a
Speaker 1: wet dream, you know, don't wait with the comment, yeah,
Speaker 1: will happen, But it's not a good feeling for a man,
Speaker 1: like we're talking about a sacrifice to God, like just God, no, no,
Speaker 1: I'm just just you bad And I'm just saying no,
Speaker 1: Like men don't talk about this because it sounds real weak,
Speaker 1: but it's the truth. Yo. When you're trying to be
Speaker 1: everything for a woman and then you're trying to have
Speaker 1: sex with her and she's saying she's not in the mood,
Speaker 1: and then when she is in the mood she give
Speaker 1: you some half ass booty just to shut you off.
Speaker 1: That should be whack to us, like like I'm trying
Speaker 1: to be monogamous with you, and you're making it seem
Speaker 1: like it's a big, big chore, like nobody want to
Speaker 1: deal with you know what's back to us though, When
Speaker 1: guys want to have sex but they don't want to
Speaker 1: like eat the pussy, put in some effort, that gets
Speaker 1: me in the mood a little because times they think
Speaker 1: they could just hey and come behind you, like when
Speaker 1: I'm washing the dishes, see this is walking up and
Speaker 1: to be hard, like how did you get here? All right?
Speaker 1: How running around? How did you even mentally be able
Speaker 1: to get there? Did you know what it's like to
Speaker 1: walk by and see your woman washing dishes? You know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying? Real quick? You feel like, but I'm
Speaker 1: not gonna lie, like like I said in the morning
Speaker 1: when we're at home, like I'm the one like, come on,
Speaker 1: come on, let's let's go, let's do it, let's do it.
Speaker 1: But then weren't where I side. He's like, babe, like
Speaker 1: I'll you're doing something. He's like, babe, that mouth reminded
Speaker 1: me and I don't be like you're perverted. It's like
Speaker 1: we're side you want it. It's so perverted. It's so girls.
Speaker 1: We're fickle, women are fickle. Man takes a little something
Speaker 1: about nature. We have to get wet, and that takes
Speaker 1: a little effect. That takes to that. We had that
Speaker 1: conversation in college what he did. I was like, Bro,
Speaker 1: you can't be bang bang bang like only test doctim
Speaker 1: raging because he just can't there and workouts and I'm like, bro,
Speaker 1: can you like laid me down? Yeah? Can I put
Speaker 1: my head on right right right? And let's be like
Speaker 1: you know that conversation I had to you know, I was,
Speaker 1: I was nineteen, but you know what I've done sometimes
Speaker 1: Like sometimes I don't even know if he knows this,
Speaker 1: but you don't know now what I do sometimes because
Speaker 1: sometimes I come here and be like, yo, you mad wet,
Speaker 1: like you're so good. I just like watch porn or
Speaker 1: something or play with myself and go through separately to
Speaker 1: get myself already started, so that way I could just
Speaker 1: I know he wants to just go for it. So
Speaker 1: I'm like I'm ready, I'm ready. Well let me tell
Speaker 1: you something I know that you do that so that's
Speaker 1: why I waiting for you. It's going come in step
Speaker 1: back in my see. That was always something that I
Speaker 1: would do when I knew that I was going to
Speaker 1: have sex with the guy for the first I would
Speaker 1: mass the bay first first, just go with the pussy
Speaker 1: arm maybe, like why I was just thinking about you
Speaker 1: baby on the way here, And that's why you don't
Speaker 1: do that too, though. What you think is get the
Speaker 1: first one out. So we don't get the first one
Speaker 1: out just the first time you would have checked. Then
Speaker 1: you get about five six pumps and that she is terrible.
Speaker 1: But if she has her vagina titan, then if it's
Speaker 1: in the second round. Though, if it's on the second round,
Speaker 1: like I'm going on, I'm going from they don't even
Speaker 1: because it's none at that point. Then it's like he
Speaker 1: was so funny too. Sometimes we'll be going at it
Speaker 1: and you'd be like, you're after that bus, that's not
Speaker 1: we're gonna do it again. You're gonna get it hard again.
Speaker 1: And after that night is bus, She's like sleep, they're
Speaker 1: going to sleep. I'll be like, rank God, I can
Speaker 1: roll over a little bit now. Because nobody wanted around
Speaker 1: to nobody wanted around to I'll be thinking about the
Speaker 1: next time we have sex while we have sex. Damn,
Speaker 1: you've been playing a pitcher in your head, like yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna do this crazy yeah, because I'd be like,
Speaker 1: I'll be like, damn, I'm about to not but i
Speaker 1: really wanted to flip her over, and I'll be saying
Speaker 1: something right before I'm about you about to make me come.
Speaker 1: You're gonna you're gonna get it back up again, right,
Speaker 1: She was like, yeah, yeah, I'm gonna do that as
Speaker 1: soon as that should come out least, she'd be like,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna get the wash rag, you know, wipe him
Speaker 1: up all that good stuff, the best any our kids ever.
Speaker 1: The kids come and get the wash rag or the
Speaker 1: rock counter. Yea. I love me so sorry. Sometimes I
Speaker 1: just take the wash right over the headboards and I'd
Speaker 1: be like, I'll get it. He's gonna be like, oh,
Speaker 1: so that's what that's my mom like when your parents, right,
Speaker 1: that was my sister. My sister found my mom's right
Speaker 1: with like her vibrated buildo situations. Sorry, can look guys
Speaker 1: about right. Okay, So I was reading this article about Mobi. Right.
Speaker 1: He has a memoir out and in his memoir, he
Speaker 1: talks about having had a relationship with Natalie Portman. His
Speaker 1: book is called Then It Fell Apart. So he's saying
Speaker 1: that when she was twenty years old and he was
Speaker 1: thirty three, he dated her briefly. She's saying it never
Speaker 1: happened in and that really she was eighteen, he was
Speaker 1: just a purv Okay, So uh, he did say Natalie's
Speaker 1: possible regret and dating me doesn't alter the actual effects
Speaker 1: of our brief romantic history. Is there something wrong with
Speaker 1: somebody telling who they dated when they do a memoir
Speaker 1: and not giving that person their heads up or maybe
Speaker 1: it's something that would happen so long ago you don't
Speaker 1: want it brought back up. Um. I do think there's
Speaker 1: something wrong with that, because you always have to ask
Speaker 1: for someone's permission to use their likeness in any other business. Right,
Speaker 1: So if you're gonna use my likeness as in my
Speaker 1: name to sell to sell, first of all, I should
Speaker 1: receive a portion of that. Let's let's business number one.
Speaker 1: Number two is you should ask my permission just because
Speaker 1: that's our story, that's not just your story. Like, there's
Speaker 1: no other part of business where you can use someone's
Speaker 1: name or likeness without them getting a percentage or getting
Speaker 1: permission document that in a document. Can't you do a
Speaker 1: documentary about someone even if they don't, you have to
Speaker 1: get waivers. They have to sign waivers and sign releases
Speaker 1: in order to do all of that stuff. Now we
Speaker 1: learned that in TV, Like when I do stuff at
Speaker 1: the gym. Now, if I do an advertisement the gym,
Speaker 1: any kid or adult that's in the background, I got
Speaker 1: to give him a way from Yeah, and that's the case.
Speaker 1: He should blow her name out, But I mean, can't
Speaker 1: you give her an alias? Like in this I was
Speaker 1: trying to. He had a lot of backlash from that
Speaker 1: because it's illegal. She can sue him for that unless
Speaker 1: it's true. You can't really if it's true. Story is true.
Speaker 1: If the story is true, she can't. Head did a
Speaker 1: whole book True True where she named all kinds of
Speaker 1: people and no one sued her, like she was fine,
Speaker 1: but she was also named in men. Yeah, and dudes
Speaker 1: really don't care about something. They're not going to call
Speaker 1: the cop. Yeah. Have you ever denied everybody that you've
Speaker 1: been with and been like, No, I didn't. No, I
Speaker 1: don't think I've been pretty upfront, although I wonder how
Speaker 1: I've heard of people who said they were with me
Speaker 1: and I was like, who are you again? Like who
Speaker 1: are you? Or no, we were in you know what
Speaker 1: I mean, Like you've had that situation too. But I'm like,
Speaker 1: I don't care. You said we need together, all right?
Speaker 1: What we do? Like things, I don't really it happens,
Speaker 1: then they're gonna have to prove it. They're gonna have
Speaker 1: to prove it certain things. Just don't. I don't let
Speaker 1: it bother me. That would That would if someone was
Speaker 1: about to go on a book tour about with lies
Speaker 1: about ship that they said I I was. I was
Speaker 1: with Defound while he was with Codine. I used to
Speaker 1: sit on his face. He made me sit on Damn
Speaker 1: you drink. Okay, you know we didn't um thinka not
Speaker 1: throw the excellent this question? I know, but you know
Speaker 1: where I ended up having a whole conversation and I
Speaker 1: feel like they kind of discussed both sides. Okay, that's true,
Speaker 1: Just let it slide. I just didn't want to get
Speaker 1: cursed out in the comments. You know how our listeners
Speaker 1: they listen to every little details. You didn't do that
Speaker 1: right the next time, But that's cool. You guys keep
Speaker 1: doing Congrats on the new podcast that much. Thank you.
Speaker 1: We totally look look to you for inspiration sometimes and
Speaker 1: you know you've just been doing it for so long,
Speaker 1: so we've been breaking for me. In a voice from Brooklyn,
Speaker 1: you know I ain't gonna listen to your podcast before
Speaker 1: when I made my boys listen to it. Ye, we
Speaker 1: don't really get too nasty. You'll get to listen to
Speaker 1: I think I feel like y'all was kind of trying
Speaker 1: to be respectful. Ye, you're married, but I have listened
Speaker 1: to your podcast before you learned listen. The only way
Speaker 1: you can learn about women is from women that we've
Speaker 1: listened to me Like, that's what they like, you know,
Speaker 1: trying to ship and the ship doesn't work. And it's
Speaker 1: interesting because so much of your lives out there already, right,
Speaker 1: so we don't want to be like repetitive. And sometimes
Speaker 1: there's new audiences, so we want to make sure people
Speaker 1: have the backstory, you know. But I do feel like
Speaker 1: this platform is different because we don't speak to this
Speaker 1: level about our relationship. Because you know, certain things are
Speaker 1: only appropriate in certain arena. The people who are listening
Speaker 1: to this are listening for that, and we appreciate you
Speaker 1: trying to be respectful of our marriage. But at the
Speaker 1: same time too, I feel like there's this stigma around
Speaker 1: marriage people in sex, like it don't exist, like it
Speaker 1: don't happen, like that exists, and I don't cute little
Speaker 1: video on Instagram or whatever. It's funny because I put
Speaker 1: up a video of the other day on my stories,
Speaker 1: and you know, I hadn't like a two piece little
Speaker 1: like panty and bra set for savage ex fanti or whatever.
Speaker 1: So I'm doing a little thing, put my music up
Speaker 1: on it, you know, like we're doing Instagram. And somebody
Speaker 1: damned him the video and was like, you see your wife,
Speaker 1: you see what she's doing. What's And I was like
Speaker 1: he picked the song, Like what you mean? He was
Speaker 1: right exactly. I'm like, we're married, we're not dead, Like
Speaker 1: we're still human beings. We still should be sexy. We
Speaker 1: should be sexy for each other's sexiest individuals and all that.
Speaker 1: So we're always gonna be advocate for that. So amen,
Speaker 1: all right now I think we love it. Thank you,
Speaker 1: thank you, We appreciate y'all. Yeah. Oh, last question, are
Speaker 1: you a swallower or a spitter? It depends on how
Speaker 1: much comments coming out, guys, he being on overload and
Speaker 1: I'm just like God again, it might be a little
Speaker 1: better at that time, depending and then he kind of
Speaker 1: liked the whole like drooled out my breast situation. So
Speaker 1: that should be so um. Not to interrupt you, guys,
Speaker 1: but here's another thing. I don't want to forget that
Speaker 1: we are having it on show. Oh yes, your nineteen
Speaker 1: got by. I was gonna say, and you guys are
Speaker 1: coming up from right, give a little something to the crowd.
Speaker 1: Sure you would love y'all. That would be so dope nineteen.
Speaker 1: Absolutely we're gonna follow up. Please do the most sex
Speaker 1: and then we get a little bit more chee the show. Okay,
Speaker 1: we have to write feel it, put it in the cloud.
Speaker 1: I'm putting. I'm gonna get my cheerlead a skirt. You
Speaker 1: pull your sup and it goes the whole poorn meet
Speaker 1: problem meets cheerleader. There we go. All right, I love it,
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