WEBVTT - Feeling Regret… and Explaining the Point of This Podcast 0:00:03.160 --> 0:00:06.720 All right, break it down. If you ever have feelings 0:00:06.720 --> 0:00:10.000 that you just false home Amy and Cat, gotcha, Cob 0:00:10.039 --> 0:00:13.960 and locking m Brother, ladies and folks, do you just 0:00:14.000 --> 0:00:17.439 follow Anna spirit where it's all the front and real stuff, 0:00:17.800 --> 0:00:21.880 tell the chill stuff and the him but Swayne, Sometimes 0:00:21.880 --> 0:00:25.000 the best thing you can do it just stop you 0:00:25.120 --> 0:00:28.640 feel things. This is feeling things. 0:00:28.400 --> 0:00:30.080 With Amy and Cat. Happy Tuesday. 0:00:30.120 --> 0:00:32.839 Welcome to feeling things. I'm Amy and I'm Cat and 0:00:32.880 --> 0:00:35.680 our feeling of the day is coming from you Cat, 0:00:35.680 --> 0:00:36.280 which you guy. 0:00:36.720 --> 0:00:39.400 I'm feeling a regretful. 0:00:39.880 --> 0:00:41.560 I didn't really want to say that word because I 0:00:41.560 --> 0:00:43.839 don't want to be feeling this, but it's that's part 0:00:43.840 --> 0:00:44.640 of feeling your feelings. 0:00:44.640 --> 0:00:47.879 It's like they are what they are. What did you do? 0:00:48.040 --> 0:00:50.880 So a couple of days ago I got real, well, 0:00:50.960 --> 0:00:53.000 probably a week ago I got you. 0:00:53.000 --> 0:00:55.400 Don't have to give you the long version of this story. 0:00:56.360 --> 0:00:59.840 Like what I'm like, Okay, this is we're setting this 0:00:59.920 --> 0:01:03.120 up for like you did something crazy because like I'm like, 0:01:03.560 --> 0:01:05.880 I regret too, and I know what you're regretting, and 0:01:05.880 --> 0:01:08.200 I'm like, okay, you're regretting this, and like I'm regretting 0:01:08.280 --> 0:01:09.200 yelling at my kid. 0:01:10.720 --> 0:01:12.360 Because he ate all the pineapple. 0:01:12.680 --> 0:01:16.720 So okay, I need to process that before I process myself. 0:01:16.840 --> 0:01:19.520 I already asked for forgiveness. Okay, I didn't like yell yell, 0:01:19.680 --> 0:01:21.920 but no, I didn't minds the feeling of the day. 0:01:21.920 --> 0:01:23.920 But once she said I didn't know exactly what your 0:01:23.920 --> 0:01:25.440 feeling was gonna be, but I knew it was going 0:01:25.520 --> 0:01:26.560 to be about your hair. 0:01:28.600 --> 0:01:31.360 I'm sat in the state. Oh sorry, I set this stup. Well, 0:01:31.360 --> 0:01:33.959 they don't know what Okay, so wait a second. 0:01:34.000 --> 0:01:36.800 I could say this because I'll forget one thing that 0:01:37.280 --> 0:01:41.160 does kind of get my tails all twisted. 0:01:41.560 --> 0:01:44.360 I was trying to think of afraid. What's another thing 0:01:44.440 --> 0:01:44.800 you say? 0:01:45.080 --> 0:01:48.880 Yuck my yeah, okay, that's a phrase people say. 0:01:48.680 --> 0:01:53.560 That Hey good, sure they do. I've never heard anybody 0:01:53.600 --> 0:01:54.160 but you say it. 0:01:54.240 --> 0:01:55.640 We also got an email I don't know if we 0:01:55.720 --> 0:01:57.560 read it where a mom said it and her daughter 0:01:57.640 --> 0:01:59.400 was like, Mom, don't ever say that again. 0:02:00.120 --> 0:02:04.280 I'm sorry. Yeah, because it's definitely not like what all 0:02:04.320 --> 0:02:06.960 the cool kids are saying. I'm not claiming to be cool, 0:02:07.160 --> 0:02:10.200 like you know how we say fire, sick or whatever. 0:02:10.680 --> 0:02:13.519 A big one right now is I'm about to crash out, 0:02:13.880 --> 0:02:16.160 which is I'm about to lose it, and I feel 0:02:16.160 --> 0:02:19.160 like your hair is causing me to crash out. 0:02:19.960 --> 0:02:20.880 I am crashing out. 0:02:21.480 --> 0:02:24.519 Okay, I have to read this because speaking of cool things, 0:02:24.880 --> 0:02:26.560 I got a text last night from a friend of 0:02:26.600 --> 0:02:29.400 mine and she said, we just had a waiter describe 0:02:29.480 --> 0:02:33.240 a dish to us as the missionary sex of chicken dishes. 0:02:39.040 --> 0:02:41.359 So it's just like, you know, playing plan. 0:02:42.000 --> 0:02:46.200 But then I said where, I won't say where, and 0:02:46.240 --> 0:02:51.040 she said, he actually said, usually the half chicken is busting', 0:02:51.440 --> 0:02:56.000 but this version is the missionary sex of chicken. And 0:02:56.080 --> 0:02:59.000 I said, did you end up getting it? And she said, 0:02:59.040 --> 0:03:00.960 we did not get it. We're not going to be 0:03:01.160 --> 0:03:03.120 the boring couple because they are a kind of like 0:03:03.160 --> 0:03:05.080 a cool couple out on a day, say, like kids 0:03:05.080 --> 0:03:08.440 and they're going out, but like how And I was like, ool, 0:03:08.480 --> 0:03:10.959 that's so funny. I wish that kid was my waiter. 0:03:11.320 --> 0:03:13.240 And she was like, he was like thirty five. 0:03:14.320 --> 0:03:15.000 I don't think. 0:03:15.360 --> 0:03:17.400 I don't think I would want a kid waiter talking 0:03:17.400 --> 0:03:19.799 to me about missionary and sex. 0:03:19.960 --> 0:03:22.680 Okay, well I think it's better than he was thirty five. 0:03:23.160 --> 0:03:25.520 I don't want a teenager being like this. One's like 0:03:25.560 --> 0:03:32.160 the missionary's yes, but also like funny not selling the dish, Well, no, 0:03:32.240 --> 0:03:32.840 not at all. 0:03:33.040 --> 0:03:35.560 Where were we Well, you're crashing out. I'm crashing out. 0:03:35.600 --> 0:03:37.640 But I have to say this too before I crash out. 0:03:38.480 --> 0:03:40.800 One of the things that twists my ties when I 0:03:40.840 --> 0:03:42.520 say it, gets my ties all twisted. 0:03:42.200 --> 0:03:44.680 And yuktu're young, yeah, is when you. 0:03:44.600 --> 0:03:47.920 Have something that you're looking forward to eating and it's 0:03:48.040 --> 0:03:50.720 in the fridge and you're like, oh, it's like leftovers. 0:03:50.760 --> 0:03:51.760 You're like, I'm. 0:03:51.640 --> 0:03:55.000 Gonna go have the leftover Chinese food or pizza or whatever, 0:03:55.960 --> 0:03:58.400 and you open the door and it's gone. 0:03:59.160 --> 0:04:01.720 So you understand I crashed out with the pineapple. 0:04:01.760 --> 0:04:03.400 When you were looking forward to food. 0:04:04.200 --> 0:04:07.160 It was a full thing of pineapple, like full in hand. 0:04:07.160 --> 0:04:09.240 If you're like, oh, that juicy pineapples and the fridge 0:04:09.280 --> 0:04:11.400 waiting for me, I can't wait to just go eat it. 0:04:11.440 --> 0:04:14.880 And then you're like, oh, I get it. 0:04:14.920 --> 0:04:17.320 So I came from school in cross country, so I 0:04:17.360 --> 0:04:20.000 get he was hot and tired and probably thirsty and 0:04:20.120 --> 0:04:25.599 pineapples juicy and hydrating and like yum, and he ate 0:04:25.680 --> 0:04:30.240 the entire cut up thing to where I'm like, now 0:04:30.480 --> 0:04:31.360 now there's no more. 0:04:31.839 --> 0:04:37.200 Now there's no I don't get doesn't get any pineapple. 0:04:37.320 --> 0:04:39.360 I don't get any pineapples to shear when I'd probably 0:04:39.440 --> 0:04:42.280 pack that in her lunch tour like I started, I 0:04:42.400 --> 0:04:43.400 started bringing in. 0:04:43.640 --> 0:04:48.440 To share it. It's true she did to your sister. 0:04:50.560 --> 0:04:53.560 She had been packing it in her lunch and now 0:04:53.760 --> 0:04:58.719 it's gone. And the thing is there's oranges, apples, bananas 0:04:58.320 --> 0:04:59.840 and stores pretty QUI. 0:05:00.279 --> 0:05:01.480 Yeah, but I said. 0:05:01.720 --> 0:05:06.599 I looked at him and I said, Hoever I was 0:05:06.680 --> 0:05:10.960 crashing out. I said, we need to learn to diversify. 0:05:12.400 --> 0:05:17.200 Because then it won't just you know, oh does it 0:05:17.320 --> 0:05:20.600 bear her in one sitting? You know, like you can't 0:05:20.720 --> 0:05:24.040 just like ever take a thingful of everything. 0:05:24.040 --> 0:05:25.080 You need it all when you. 0:05:25.000 --> 0:05:28.840 Share ols with people because you're never gonna have roommates 0:05:28.880 --> 0:05:31.560 when you go to college. Yes, because I'm like, you 0:05:31.680 --> 0:05:33.400 need like, look, you could have gotten a little bit 0:05:33.440 --> 0:05:35.200 of pineapple, and you could have gotten an apple and 0:05:35.240 --> 0:05:38.760 then eating a banana and then gotten all these different nudes. 0:05:38.880 --> 0:05:42.080 What was he like, Mom, are you okay? You just 0:05:42.120 --> 0:05:45.320 looked at me and he was like okay. Like it's 0:05:45.360 --> 0:05:48.280 like he's like, I thought you wanted us to eat. 0:05:48.080 --> 0:05:50.440 Fruit, and like I do want them to eat fruit, 0:05:50.480 --> 0:05:52.480 and yes, I can go get another pineapple. 0:05:52.960 --> 0:05:54.560 I'm not saying what I did. 0:05:54.960 --> 0:05:57.920 Was okay, But as the kids say, I just crashed 0:05:57.960 --> 0:05:59.479 out a little bit and I did have regret and 0:05:59.520 --> 0:06:01.800 I did tell sorry, and I said eat the fruit. 0:06:01.839 --> 0:06:03.440 I want you to eat the fruit. I said, However, 0:06:03.760 --> 0:06:07.160 there is something too diversifying the fruit, like I really 0:06:07.200 --> 0:06:09.920 meant that part, like, don't just like because they can 0:06:09.960 --> 0:06:13.520 get fixated on like they just go and they need 0:06:13.520 --> 0:06:15.839 a variety. And then also that keeps me from having 0:06:15.880 --> 0:06:18.640 to go back to the grocery store. I want to 0:06:18.680 --> 0:06:21.960 go once a week, do you know what? And teenage 0:06:21.960 --> 0:06:25.039 boys they eat a lot, and so diversify the fruit 0:06:26.200 --> 0:06:29.640 because then that keeps everybody happy. Now get to the 0:06:29.680 --> 0:06:30.640 regret on your hair. 0:06:30.800 --> 0:06:33.760 I'm just thinking of Stevenson in therapy, like at thirty 0:06:33.760 --> 0:06:38.080 five years old, being like, one time, diversify the fruit, 0:06:38.160 --> 0:06:40.360 and now I can't eat a whole apple anymore. 0:06:41.279 --> 0:06:42.520 No, you can eat a whole apple. 0:06:42.560 --> 0:06:44.039 It'd be like if he opened up the door and 0:06:44.200 --> 0:06:47.720 ate all the apples, okay, or all the oranges because 0:06:47.720 --> 0:06:48.880 he ate all the pineapple. 0:06:49.080 --> 0:06:52.320 Okay, that's funny. 0:06:52.560 --> 0:06:56.600 Yeah, great, sorry mom, Okay, what's happening with the hair? 0:06:56.720 --> 0:06:59.880 Okay, so back to about a week ago. I got 0:07:00.240 --> 0:07:02.360 so I told you this. I was like, I want 0:07:02.360 --> 0:07:05.080 to shave my head because my hair. I was just 0:07:05.080 --> 0:07:08.039 having those over stimulated moments where like my hair was 0:07:08.120 --> 0:07:10.920 so long. It was like it didn't really do anything 0:07:10.920 --> 0:07:12.720 because it was so long in all the same length 0:07:12.800 --> 0:07:15.120 and like you know when your hair gets so long, 0:07:15.160 --> 0:07:19.800 it's caught in your armpit and stuff, you know, itching, Yes. 0:07:19.680 --> 0:07:21.080 Because I had these flyaways. 0:07:21.400 --> 0:07:23.480 I don't know how, but I got like a chunk 0:07:23.480 --> 0:07:26.200 of hair cut in the front of my head. You 0:07:26.240 --> 0:07:28.680 can't see this anybody that's listening, but there was a 0:07:28.760 --> 0:07:32.480 small probably thirty strands of hair got like cut like that. 0:07:33.040 --> 0:07:37.200 I don't know how, so they would like tickle my forehead. 0:07:37.400 --> 0:07:38.760 Which I know you just said you can't see this. 0:07:38.800 --> 0:07:40.880 So I wanted to remind people we are on YouTube except 0:07:40.880 --> 0:07:44.880 for not this episode. We're not filming today, just circumstances 0:07:44.960 --> 0:07:47.840 because of all I'm talking about right now, Cat didn't 0:07:47.840 --> 0:07:51.239 want a film because of her hair. Just kidding, just kidding. 0:07:51.280 --> 0:07:54.160 We don't have our whole crew here, so it just 0:07:54.200 --> 0:07:56.680 got nice. So you know, I know that some of 0:07:56.720 --> 0:07:58.360 you that do watch us on YouTube. You might be like, 0:07:58.360 --> 0:07:59.560 wait a second, what happened? 0:07:59.680 --> 0:08:00.640 But if you haven't. 0:08:00.400 --> 0:08:03.080 Subscribed over on YouTube, you can because we are growing 0:08:03.080 --> 0:08:05.680 over there, which is so fun to see because most 0:08:05.680 --> 0:08:08.640 of our loyal people listen via podcast when they're out 0:08:08.680 --> 0:08:11.920 and about. But YouTube, shut up, plug okay, keep going. 0:08:12.000 --> 0:08:15.160 Hair Okay, So my hair was like tickling me. So 0:08:15.240 --> 0:08:16.680 that's what I was. I felt was like there's like 0:08:16.920 --> 0:08:18.720 bugs crawling on my head. That's what it felt like. 0:08:19.120 --> 0:08:21.000 But I think it was just like over stimulation. 0:08:21.640 --> 0:08:24.120 And if I think about it, I had a lot 0:08:24.160 --> 0:08:26.760 going on, so I probably was just overwhelmed and I 0:08:26.840 --> 0:08:27.920 was taking it out on my hair. 0:08:28.600 --> 0:08:29.040 Anyway. 0:08:29.520 --> 0:08:32.120 I got it cut and I probably got four inches 0:08:32.160 --> 0:08:33.600 cut off, which. 0:08:33.400 --> 0:08:34.120 Is a lot. 0:08:34.720 --> 0:08:39.319 Yeah, that's a lot, and I feel like I have 0:08:39.520 --> 0:08:41.160 a bowl cut. 0:08:40.760 --> 0:08:44.000 But it's still past your shoulders. A bowl cut is 0:08:44.160 --> 0:08:44.880 way like. 0:08:45.400 --> 0:08:47.480 I know that it's your hair, so you're feeling it, 0:08:47.520 --> 0:08:50.880 but I'm telling you as an onlooker, it looks good. 0:08:50.960 --> 0:08:53.440 But I know that you've been also just trying to 0:08:53.480 --> 0:08:55.320 like take matters into your own hands now, and I mean, 0:08:55.360 --> 0:08:56.160 you just need to let it go. 0:08:56.960 --> 0:08:59.800 I did cut a couple things myself keep cutting it 0:09:00.160 --> 0:09:03.440 or maybe this is deeper because it's like too much 0:09:03.520 --> 0:09:05.880 change and not enough change at the same time. I 0:09:05.880 --> 0:09:06.240 don't know. 0:09:06.320 --> 0:09:09.280 I haven't processed it, which means I probably shouldn't be 0:09:09.320 --> 0:09:12.280 talking about it right now. But all that to say, 0:09:12.840 --> 0:09:16.000 I wish I could take two inches back on my hair. 0:09:16.320 --> 0:09:18.480 So in a couple of months, two inches will grow 0:09:18.559 --> 0:09:20.319 and that that's when it will be. 0:09:20.520 --> 0:09:23.840 But what I am doing is I stopped getting it colored. 0:09:24.280 --> 0:09:26.200 And this all goes back to if you guys listen 0:09:26.240 --> 0:09:28.960 to the Hot Girl Hamster Wheel episode where I'm like, 0:09:29.040 --> 0:09:31.800 why am I coloring my hair? My hair is actually 0:09:32.720 --> 0:09:34.320 not to toot my own horn. But I have a 0:09:34.360 --> 0:09:35.800 pretty natural hair color. 0:09:36.200 --> 0:09:39.000 Yeah, I think it's really pretty, like a really pretty brunette, and. 0:09:39.040 --> 0:09:40.800 It looks good with my skin tone. So why have 0:09:40.880 --> 0:09:43.640 I been putting blonde highlights in it. It's just like 0:09:43.920 --> 0:09:46.080 I got into this routine of doing it, and so 0:09:46.120 --> 0:09:47.719 I didn't do that. So I do feel really good 0:09:47.720 --> 0:09:49.640 about that, and I actually do really like the color. 0:09:49.800 --> 0:09:52.000 Well, so you want to know about cutting the four 0:09:52.000 --> 0:09:55.160 inches off though, that helps like get go out of 0:09:55.160 --> 0:09:58.840 that color off. So this is you just having more 0:09:58.840 --> 0:09:59.680 of your fresh hair. 0:10:00.000 --> 0:10:03.120 Also, don't know how to do my hair. That's another thing. 0:10:03.160 --> 0:10:04.719 I just don't know how to do my hair at 0:10:04.720 --> 0:10:07.199 this length anymore because it was long for so long 0:10:07.720 --> 0:10:09.800 that how I curled it before it doesn't work. 0:10:09.840 --> 0:10:12.280 Now I'm like trying to figure out the metaphor for 0:10:12.360 --> 0:10:13.640 life here, Like how oh. 0:10:13.520 --> 0:10:16.360 You keep thinking? I'll keep talking you think about a metaphor? 0:10:16.559 --> 0:10:19.440 She asked me if I wanted her to do the 0:10:19.440 --> 0:10:21.280 wave like I usually do, or for her to do 0:10:21.360 --> 0:10:23.600 the blowout look? And I said, what's the blowout look? 0:10:23.600 --> 0:10:25.600 And she said, oh, everybody's doing the blowout look? Now, 0:10:26.000 --> 0:10:27.480 why don't we try it? And she did it and 0:10:27.559 --> 0:10:30.360 I actually really liked it. And then I did it 0:10:30.440 --> 0:10:34.040 myself today and I was like, you look like a 0:10:34.080 --> 0:10:35.760 second grader and you tried to curl your own hair. 0:10:36.320 --> 0:10:37.959 I think I just need to practice. 0:10:38.679 --> 0:10:41.600 Is that the metaphor that I need to When you've 0:10:41.960 --> 0:10:46.560 start something new, be patient, hit on it until you practice. 0:10:46.679 --> 0:10:47.760 You're a beginner. I'm a beginner. 0:10:47.760 --> 0:10:51.080 Allow you're reaching so far, but I'm going to help 0:10:51.120 --> 0:10:54.040 you out. You're allowed to be a beginner with things 0:10:54.040 --> 0:10:55.040 that you've never done before. 0:10:57.320 --> 0:11:00.400 Yeah, that's true. Like I talk about this aff styled 0:11:00.440 --> 0:11:01.760 hair this length. 0:11:01.880 --> 0:11:04.360 Well, I have it, just like in times with different 0:11:04.360 --> 0:11:06.319 hairstyles were cool because I used to always have a 0:11:06.360 --> 0:11:08.400 top knot. I would cut my hair short and just 0:11:08.400 --> 0:11:09.880 put it on top knot, and that was like my thing. 0:11:10.360 --> 0:11:11.400 So why don't you just do that? 0:11:12.000 --> 0:11:12.360 I don't know. 0:11:12.400 --> 0:11:14.520 I felt like I outgrew the topknot. Maybe next week 0:11:14.520 --> 0:11:16.840 I'll be wearing a topknot if I do, just don't say. 0:11:16.760 --> 0:11:22.120 Anything that top not like the missionary style hairstyles or 0:11:22.200 --> 0:11:22.760 is it bustin'. 0:11:23.679 --> 0:11:24.800 I guess we'll have to see. 0:11:26.360 --> 0:11:27.959 But I have to say this now because you reminded 0:11:27.960 --> 0:11:32.319 me of it. How a lot of adults have troubled 0:11:32.400 --> 0:11:36.240 starting new things and trying new things because when we're adults, 0:11:36.280 --> 0:11:38.400 we feel like we have to be automatically good at something. 0:11:38.559 --> 0:11:40.800 But as kids, if you look back on the things 0:11:40.800 --> 0:11:44.200 that I played soccer, I was on the year around 0:11:44.200 --> 0:11:47.360 swim team even though I couldn't dive. I did gymnastics, dance, 0:11:47.760 --> 0:11:51.360 acting classes. I tried everything and did not think twice 0:11:51.400 --> 0:11:53.439 about it because I was young and I felt like 0:11:53.480 --> 0:11:55.680 I was allowed to be a beginner and learn. But 0:11:55.760 --> 0:12:00.600 as adults, we for some reason get embarrass or feels 0:12:00.600 --> 0:12:03.720 shame when we're not automatically good at something. And so 0:12:04.280 --> 0:12:06.920 I asked my clients a lot who are in this space, 0:12:07.800 --> 0:12:10.080 what's something you would do if you only had to 0:12:10.080 --> 0:12:13.000 be like sixty percent good at it? And maybe for 0:12:13.080 --> 0:12:16.200 me that answer is I would curl my hair a 0:12:16.200 --> 0:12:16.520 new way. 0:12:17.280 --> 0:12:19.000 Or maybe it's like you don't have to be good 0:12:19.000 --> 0:12:20.480 at it's just like what would you do if you 0:12:20.559 --> 0:12:22.040 had if there wasn't this. 0:12:22.000 --> 0:12:23.600 Fear attached to it? 0:12:23.880 --> 0:12:26.000 Because that reminds me of this email I'm about to 0:12:26.000 --> 0:12:28.920 read and like us relaunching the podcast together, because I 0:12:28.960 --> 0:12:31.480 think for me, I had some fear around that. I 0:12:31.520 --> 0:12:34.439 had excitement because I knew relaunching it with you was 0:12:34.480 --> 0:12:36.959 going to be amazing, but also like I had had 0:12:37.000 --> 0:12:39.880 four things for so many years and had built that, 0:12:39.960 --> 0:12:43.040 and you had you Need Therapy podcast and we were 0:12:43.080 --> 0:12:44.679 going to be emerging something, and like what if it 0:12:44.720 --> 0:12:48.520 didn't work and then our friendship blew up crashed out 0:12:49.160 --> 0:12:51.960 because you made all want pineapple or something. 0:12:51.640 --> 0:12:55.200 I will never don't worry? Well, yeah, because that yacku're 0:12:55.240 --> 0:12:57.600 youm too? Yeah, you don't want people to eat all. 0:12:57.520 --> 0:13:00.280 The food you're looking forward to in the fridge so 0:13:00.960 --> 0:13:03.559 we got an email from a confused listener. In fact, 0:13:03.640 --> 0:13:18.400 that's the subject line. So we got an email from 0:13:18.400 --> 0:13:21.120 a confused listener. In fact, that's the subject line. In 0:13:21.160 --> 0:13:25.520 regards to our rebrand, our shift into Feeling Things, which 0:13:25.880 --> 0:13:28.760 we started discussing privately between the two of us back 0:13:28.800 --> 0:13:33.160 in August, should we rebrand the podcast and you come 0:13:33.200 --> 0:13:36.680 on full time? And then it took from August that 0:13:36.760 --> 0:13:40.520 initial conversation all the way to April. April first is 0:13:40.520 --> 0:13:44.120 when we went live with the rebrand, so that was 0:13:44.400 --> 0:13:48.080 eight months, and I would say the first few months 0:13:48.120 --> 0:13:50.920 after August were like, Okay, should we really do this? 0:13:51.040 --> 0:13:53.800 And I remember having fear around it, and then it's 0:13:53.840 --> 0:13:57.000 a lot of work. So it's almost like also, sometimes 0:13:57.040 --> 0:13:59.599 what would you do, like if you didn't have to 0:13:59.640 --> 0:14:01.120 think of it out the work you would have to 0:14:01.120 --> 0:14:03.600 put into it, because sometimes we put things off because 0:14:04.000 --> 0:14:06.600 the well, but we had to do it upfront and 0:14:06.600 --> 0:14:08.079 the now that we're on the other side of it 0:14:08.240 --> 0:14:11.720 totally worth it. Maybe because we do have this listener, 0:14:12.480 --> 0:14:15.800 this listener email, do youar Feeling Things podcast? I'm a 0:14:15.800 --> 0:14:18.000 longtime listener and fan of Four Things with Amy Brown 0:14:18.080 --> 0:14:20.560 and enjoyed the episodes with Kat. I only listen to 0:14:20.640 --> 0:14:23.640 podcasts during my evening walks with my dog, and four 0:14:23.720 --> 0:14:25.720 Things is in my go to pick. For years, I've 0:14:25.760 --> 0:14:27.840 been listening to the new Feeling Things podcast and I'm 0:14:27.880 --> 0:14:30.560 having a hard time understanding the structure and the overall 0:14:30.680 --> 0:14:34.400 goal each episode. I feel confused and I have no 0:14:34.520 --> 0:14:38.240 idea the point of each episode. I want to keep listening, However, 0:14:38.320 --> 0:14:41.120 I find myself waiting for the overall purpose. Can you 0:14:41.160 --> 0:14:44.160 all explain the structure? I do get that you all 0:14:44.200 --> 0:14:48.040 pick a feeling word at the beginning of an episode, 0:14:48.440 --> 0:14:51.240 but after that it seems to go many unknown directions. 0:14:51.600 --> 0:14:56.720 Thanks four Things listener. So okay, I get that. Yeah, 0:14:57.040 --> 0:15:02.320 because sometimes I feel confused too, and I think what 0:15:03.240 --> 0:15:06.840 for me has been beautiful about this process is stepping 0:15:06.880 --> 0:15:09.680 into the unknown and the scary at times and not 0:15:09.880 --> 0:15:13.560 really knowing. And one thing Kat and I wanted was 0:15:13.600 --> 0:15:16.520 to discuss feelings, which I think in every single episode 0:15:16.640 --> 0:15:20.440 we do that like a variety of different feelings. It 0:15:20.520 --> 0:15:24.960 may not look, you know, super quote unquote structured, like oh, 0:15:25.040 --> 0:15:27.560 we're moving on to this next feeling, but we share 0:15:27.680 --> 0:15:30.920 a lot from our lives or stories or things that 0:15:30.920 --> 0:15:34.120 we're watching feelings that we're having about everything from a 0:15:34.160 --> 0:15:37.040 TV show to a book to something that happened to 0:15:37.120 --> 0:15:39.680 us out in the wild. You know, Like recently I 0:15:39.720 --> 0:15:42.360 talked about a guy hitting on me when I was 0:15:42.360 --> 0:15:44.920 with my kids, and we've got an email coming up 0:15:44.920 --> 0:15:48.440 from another listener that's a story sort of similar that 0:15:48.440 --> 0:15:50.760 happened to her in the wild, which the story is 0:15:50.800 --> 0:15:52.760 blowing my mind now that I think about it, like 0:15:53.520 --> 0:15:55.440 they took guts for this guy. 0:15:55.280 --> 0:15:56.040 To do what he did. 0:15:56.360 --> 0:15:58.120 But we'll get to that email in a minute. But 0:15:58.440 --> 0:16:01.760 also speaking of these emails we're getting, another thing is 0:16:02.080 --> 0:16:05.520 the feeling of connection and the connection with y'all. So 0:16:05.920 --> 0:16:08.160 this email we're going to read coming up as from 0:16:08.160 --> 0:16:12.240 a listener that has interacted with us multiple times, and 0:16:12.880 --> 0:16:15.240 we don't know her, but we feel like we know her. 0:16:15.800 --> 0:16:18.800 And while not a lot of us have met in person, 0:16:18.880 --> 0:16:21.120 some of us maybe have in the past at for things, 0:16:21.160 --> 0:16:24.360 live events or something. But our hope is that you 0:16:24.800 --> 0:16:28.560 have a feeling of connection and you feel like you're 0:16:28.600 --> 0:16:31.920 listening to your friend's talk, and so that is our vibe, 0:16:31.960 --> 0:16:36.000 that is our energy, that is our structure. Now we 0:16:36.040 --> 0:16:39.240 will have the occasional deep dive which Kat delivered our 0:16:39.240 --> 0:16:41.840 first one ever about mel Robbins and the let Them 0:16:41.840 --> 0:16:43.680 theory beautifully done. 0:16:43.720 --> 0:16:44.040 Kat. 0:16:44.200 --> 0:16:48.640 People are raving about it or they're feeling having feelings 0:16:48.640 --> 0:16:51.200 about it. They're having feelings, like lots of feelings about it. 0:16:51.880 --> 0:16:54.000 And with that, I'll say we are going to continue 0:16:54.000 --> 0:16:55.840 to do more deep dives, but we also want to 0:16:55.880 --> 0:16:58.480 be clear that deep dives are not always going to 0:16:58.480 --> 0:17:02.120 be about people. They might be about topics or cults 0:17:02.240 --> 0:17:06.800 or ideas, idea other things. We're open to requests, so 0:17:06.880 --> 0:17:09.159 y'all can email us things you would like for us 0:17:09.200 --> 0:17:12.440 to deep dive on. Hey, they're at feeling things. Podcasts 0:17:12.480 --> 0:17:13.280 dot com. 0:17:13.080 --> 0:17:15.600 Could even be like a trend like, yes, deep dive 0:17:15.680 --> 0:17:17.960 on La booboos, Yeah my. 0:17:17.920 --> 0:17:19.520 Death those are yes, I know what they are, but 0:17:19.600 --> 0:17:20.800 I wouldn't be interested in that. 0:17:20.760 --> 0:17:23.520 Which I'm just saying like a trend that I want 0:17:23.520 --> 0:17:25.879 to be super interested in, although I I am a 0:17:25.880 --> 0:17:29.440 little confused by it that I'm intrigued, not intrigued like 0:17:29.480 --> 0:17:30.000 I want to buy one. 0:17:30.080 --> 0:17:31.919 Yeah, if y'all don't know what laboobos are, they're like 0:17:31.960 --> 0:17:34.680 these little stuffed animals that clip on bags and they're 0:17:34.720 --> 0:17:37.520 they look like monsters so expensive they look like monsters. 0:17:37.680 --> 0:17:40.200 Yeah, but my point in saying that is it could 0:17:40.240 --> 0:17:42.240 be like some kind of trend that's happening or has 0:17:42.280 --> 0:17:43.119 happened in the past. 0:17:43.280 --> 0:17:45.560 Oh that like we don't get Maybe I would be 0:17:45.560 --> 0:17:48.520 into that because it would help me understand, Yeah, help 0:17:48.560 --> 0:17:51.920 me understand why people are adults are putting these. 0:17:52.160 --> 0:17:54.520 If firebags just happened, we could do a deep dive 0:17:54.560 --> 0:17:55.880 on firefest, you know what I mean. 0:17:56.320 --> 0:17:58.720 Yeah, like things that happen in pop culture. 0:17:58.840 --> 0:18:01.560 There will be you know, but the point I think 0:18:01.560 --> 0:18:03.879 off shoots like that, and then there's also going to 0:18:03.920 --> 0:18:06.879 be series like We've got The Four Horsemen coming up, 0:18:06.960 --> 0:18:10.480 which I want you to touch on. Again, Cat's a 0:18:10.520 --> 0:18:14.480 therapist and this is a mental health minded podcast, I 0:18:14.480 --> 0:18:17.360 think is how we branded it so it can lean 0:18:17.520 --> 0:18:22.560 therapy at times. And also again we really our main 0:18:22.600 --> 0:18:25.680 goal is Cat and I chatting, and you all feel 0:18:25.720 --> 0:18:28.119 like you're sitting with your girlfriends and you're having a 0:18:28.160 --> 0:18:32.320 talk or hey, guys, you're here too, girlfriends, boyfriends. 0:18:32.760 --> 0:18:35.520 Well, also I'll say, like, just like you're talking with 0:18:35.560 --> 0:18:38.440 your friends, Like sometimes those conversations are lighthearted and fun 0:18:38.440 --> 0:18:41.359 and silly and random, and sometimes those conversations are more 0:18:41.440 --> 0:18:44.199 vulnerable and deep, and they're about your friend telling you 0:18:44.240 --> 0:18:46.919 something that they learned or telling you something that is 0:18:46.960 --> 0:18:49.479 interesting to them. And that's what the structure is. Is 0:18:49.480 --> 0:18:53.200 that the structure is that we have a certain idea 0:18:53.359 --> 0:18:55.560 of how we interact with each other, and we allow 0:18:55.600 --> 0:18:58.679 whatever is showing up within our friendship in our lives 0:18:58.720 --> 0:18:59.359