Speaker 1: All right, break it down. If you ever have feelings
Speaker 1: that you just false home Amy and Cat, gotcha, Cob
Speaker 1: and locking m Brother, ladies and folks, do you just
Speaker 1: follow Anna spirit where it's all the front and real stuff,
Speaker 1: tell the chill stuff and the him but Swayne, Sometimes
Speaker 1: the best thing you can do it just stop you
Speaker 1: feel things. This is feeling things.
Speaker 2: With Amy and Cat. Happy Tuesday.
Speaker 3: Welcome to feeling things. I'm Amy and I'm Cat and
Speaker 3: our feeling of the day is coming from you Cat,
Speaker 3: which you guy.
Speaker 2: I'm feeling a regretful.
Speaker 4: I didn't really want to say that word because I
Speaker 4: don't want to be feeling this, but it's that's part
Speaker 4: of feeling your feelings.
Speaker 2: It's like they are what they are. What did you do?
Speaker 4: So a couple of days ago I got real, well,
Speaker 4: probably a week ago I got you.
Speaker 2: Don't have to give you the long version of this story.
Speaker 3: Like what I'm like, Okay, this is we're setting this
Speaker 3: up for like you did something crazy because like I'm like,
Speaker 3: I regret too, and I know what you're regretting, and
Speaker 3: I'm like, okay, you're regretting this, and like I'm regretting
Speaker 3: yelling at my kid.
Speaker 2: Because he ate all the pineapple.
Speaker 4: So okay, I need to process that before I process myself.
Speaker 3: I already asked for forgiveness. Okay, I didn't like yell yell,
Speaker 3: but no, I didn't minds the feeling of the day.
Speaker 3: But once she said I didn't know exactly what your
Speaker 3: feeling was gonna be, but I knew it was going
Speaker 3: to be about your hair.
Speaker 2: I'm sat in the state. Oh sorry, I set this stup. Well,
Speaker 2: they don't know what Okay, so wait a second.
Speaker 4: I could say this because I'll forget one thing that
Speaker 4: does kind of get my tails all twisted.
Speaker 2: I was trying to think of afraid. What's another thing
Speaker 2: you say?
Speaker 4: Yuck my yeah, okay, that's a phrase people say.
Speaker 2: That Hey good, sure they do. I've never heard anybody
Speaker 2: but you say it.
Speaker 4: We also got an email I don't know if we
Speaker 4: read it where a mom said it and her daughter
Speaker 4: was like, Mom, don't ever say that again.
Speaker 2: I'm sorry. Yeah, because it's definitely not like what all
Speaker 2: the cool kids are saying. I'm not claiming to be cool,
Speaker 2: like you know how we say fire, sick or whatever.
Speaker 3: A big one right now is I'm about to crash out,
Speaker 3: which is I'm about to lose it, and I feel
Speaker 3: like your hair is causing me to crash out.
Speaker 2: I am crashing out.
Speaker 4: Okay, I have to read this because speaking of cool things,
Speaker 4: I got a text last night from a friend of
Speaker 4: mine and she said, we just had a waiter describe
Speaker 4: a dish to us as the missionary sex of chicken dishes.
Speaker 2: So it's just like, you know, playing plan.
Speaker 4: But then I said where, I won't say where, and
Speaker 4: she said, he actually said, usually the half chicken is busting',
Speaker 4: but this version is the missionary sex of chicken. And
Speaker 4: I said, did you end up getting it? And she said,
Speaker 4: we did not get it. We're not going to be
Speaker 4: the boring couple because they are a kind of like
Speaker 4: a cool couple out on a day, say, like kids
Speaker 4: and they're going out, but like how And I was like, ool,
Speaker 4: that's so funny. I wish that kid was my waiter.
Speaker 4: And she was like, he was like thirty five.
Speaker 1: I don't think.
Speaker 3: I don't think I would want a kid waiter talking
Speaker 3: to me about missionary and sex.
Speaker 2: Okay, well I think it's better than he was thirty five.
Speaker 3: I don't want a teenager being like this. One's like
Speaker 3: the missionary's yes, but also like funny not selling the dish, Well, no,
Speaker 3: not at all.
Speaker 2: Where were we Well, you're crashing out. I'm crashing out.
Speaker 2: But I have to say this too before I crash out.
Speaker 4: One of the things that twists my ties when I
Speaker 4: say it, gets my ties all twisted.
Speaker 2: And yuktu're young, yeah, is when you.
Speaker 4: Have something that you're looking forward to eating and it's
Speaker 4: in the fridge and you're like, oh, it's like leftovers.
Speaker 2: You're like, I'm.
Speaker 4: Gonna go have the leftover Chinese food or pizza or whatever,
Speaker 4: and you open the door and it's gone.
Speaker 3: So you understand I crashed out with the pineapple.
Speaker 2: When you were looking forward to food.
Speaker 3: It was a full thing of pineapple, like full in hand.
Speaker 4: If you're like, oh, that juicy pineapples and the fridge
Speaker 4: waiting for me, I can't wait to just go eat it.
Speaker 2: And then you're like, oh, I get it.
Speaker 3: So I came from school in cross country, so I
Speaker 3: get he was hot and tired and probably thirsty and
Speaker 3: pineapples juicy and hydrating and like yum, and he ate
Speaker 3: the entire cut up thing to where I'm like, now
Speaker 3: now there's no more.
Speaker 2: Now there's no I don't get doesn't get any pineapple.
Speaker 3: I don't get any pineapples to shear when I'd probably
Speaker 3: pack that in her lunch tour like I started, I
Speaker 3: started bringing in.
Speaker 2: To share it. It's true she did to your sister.
Speaker 3: She had been packing it in her lunch and now
Speaker 3: it's gone. And the thing is there's oranges, apples, bananas
Speaker 3: and stores pretty QUI.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but I said.
Speaker 3: I looked at him and I said, Hoever I was
Speaker 3: crashing out. I said, we need to learn to diversify.
Speaker 5: Because then it won't just you know, oh does it
Speaker 5: bear her in one sitting? You know, like you can't
Speaker 5: just like ever take a thingful of everything.
Speaker 2: You need it all when you.
Speaker 3: Share ols with people because you're never gonna have roommates
Speaker 3: when you go to college. Yes, because I'm like, you
Speaker 3: need like, look, you could have gotten a little bit
Speaker 3: of pineapple, and you could have gotten an apple and
Speaker 3: then eating a banana and then gotten all these different nudes.
Speaker 2: What was he like, Mom, are you okay? You just
Speaker 2: looked at me and he was like okay. Like it's
Speaker 2: like he's like, I thought you wanted us to eat.
Speaker 3: Fruit, and like I do want them to eat fruit,
Speaker 3: and yes, I can go get another pineapple.
Speaker 2: I'm not saying what I did.
Speaker 3: Was okay, But as the kids say, I just crashed
Speaker 3: out a little bit and I did have regret and
Speaker 3: I did tell sorry, and I said eat the fruit.
Speaker 3: I want you to eat the fruit. I said, However,
Speaker 3: there is something too diversifying the fruit, like I really
Speaker 3: meant that part, like, don't just like because they can
Speaker 3: get fixated on like they just go and they need
Speaker 3: a variety. And then also that keeps me from having
Speaker 3: to go back to the grocery store. I want to
Speaker 3: go once a week, do you know what? And teenage
Speaker 3: boys they eat a lot, and so diversify the fruit
Speaker 3: because then that keeps everybody happy. Now get to the
Speaker 3: regret on your hair.
Speaker 4: I'm just thinking of Stevenson in therapy, like at thirty
Speaker 4: five years old, being like, one time, diversify the fruit,
Speaker 4: and now I can't eat a whole apple anymore.
Speaker 2: No, you can eat a whole apple.
Speaker 3: It'd be like if he opened up the door and
Speaker 3: ate all the apples, okay, or all the oranges because
Speaker 3: he ate all the pineapple.
Speaker 2: Okay, that's funny.
Speaker 3: Yeah, great, sorry mom, Okay, what's happening with the hair?
Speaker 4: Okay, so back to about a week ago. I got
Speaker 4: so I told you this. I was like, I want
Speaker 4: to shave my head because my hair. I was just
Speaker 4: having those over stimulated moments where like my hair was
Speaker 4: so long. It was like it didn't really do anything
Speaker 4: because it was so long in all the same length
Speaker 4: and like you know when your hair gets so long,
Speaker 4: it's caught in your armpit and stuff, you know, itching, Yes.
Speaker 2: Because I had these flyaways.
Speaker 4: I don't know how, but I got like a chunk
Speaker 4: of hair cut in the front of my head. You
Speaker 4: can't see this anybody that's listening, but there was a
Speaker 4: small probably thirty strands of hair got like cut like that.
Speaker 4: I don't know how, so they would like tickle my forehead.
Speaker 3: Which I know you just said you can't see this.
Speaker 3: So I wanted to remind people we are on YouTube except
Speaker 3: for not this episode. We're not filming today, just circumstances
Speaker 3: because of all I'm talking about right now, Cat didn't
Speaker 3: want a film because of her hair. Just kidding, just kidding.
Speaker 3: We don't have our whole crew here, so it just
Speaker 3: got nice. So you know, I know that some of
Speaker 3: you that do watch us on YouTube. You might be like,
Speaker 3: wait a second, what happened?
Speaker 2: But if you haven't.
Speaker 3: Subscribed over on YouTube, you can because we are growing
Speaker 3: over there, which is so fun to see because most
Speaker 3: of our loyal people listen via podcast when they're out
Speaker 3: and about. But YouTube, shut up, plug okay, keep going.
Speaker 2: Hair Okay, So my hair was like tickling me. So
Speaker 2: that's what I was. I felt was like there's like
Speaker 2: bugs crawling on my head. That's what it felt like.
Speaker 2: But I think it was just like over stimulation.
Speaker 4: And if I think about it, I had a lot
Speaker 4: going on, so I probably was just overwhelmed and I
Speaker 4: was taking it out on my hair.
Speaker 2: Anyway.
Speaker 4: I got it cut and I probably got four inches
Speaker 4: cut off, which.
Speaker 2: Is a lot.
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's a lot, and I feel like I have
Speaker 4: a bowl cut.
Speaker 2: But it's still past your shoulders. A bowl cut is
Speaker 2: way like.
Speaker 3: I know that it's your hair, so you're feeling it,
Speaker 3: but I'm telling you as an onlooker, it looks good.
Speaker 3: But I know that you've been also just trying to
Speaker 3: like take matters into your own hands now, and I mean,
Speaker 3: you just need to let it go.
Speaker 2: I did cut a couple things myself keep cutting it
Speaker 2: or maybe this is deeper because it's like too much
Speaker 2: change and not enough change at the same time. I
Speaker 2: don't know.
Speaker 4: I haven't processed it, which means I probably shouldn't be
Speaker 4: talking about it right now. But all that to say,
Speaker 4: I wish I could take two inches back on my hair.
Speaker 3: So in a couple of months, two inches will grow
Speaker 3: and that that's when it will be.
Speaker 4: But what I am doing is I stopped getting it colored.
Speaker 4: And this all goes back to if you guys listen
Speaker 4: to the Hot Girl Hamster Wheel episode where I'm like,
Speaker 4: why am I coloring my hair? My hair is actually
Speaker 4: not to toot my own horn. But I have a
Speaker 4: pretty natural hair color.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think it's really pretty, like a really pretty brunette, and.
Speaker 4: It looks good with my skin tone. So why have
Speaker 4: I been putting blonde highlights in it. It's just like
Speaker 4: I got into this routine of doing it, and so
Speaker 4: I didn't do that. So I do feel really good
Speaker 4: about that, and I actually do really like the color.
Speaker 3: Well, so you want to know about cutting the four
Speaker 3: inches off though, that helps like get go out of
Speaker 3: that color off. So this is you just having more
Speaker 3: of your fresh hair.
Speaker 2: Also, don't know how to do my hair. That's another thing.
Speaker 4: I just don't know how to do my hair at
Speaker 4: this length anymore because it was long for so long
Speaker 4: that how I curled it before it doesn't work.
Speaker 3: Now I'm like trying to figure out the metaphor for
Speaker 3: life here, Like how oh.
Speaker 2: You keep thinking? I'll keep talking you think about a metaphor?
Speaker 4: She asked me if I wanted her to do the
Speaker 4: wave like I usually do, or for her to do
Speaker 4: the blowout look? And I said, what's the blowout look?
Speaker 4: And she said, oh, everybody's doing the blowout look? Now,
Speaker 4: why don't we try it? And she did it and
Speaker 4: I actually really liked it. And then I did it
Speaker 4: myself today and I was like, you look like a
Speaker 4: second grader and you tried to curl your own hair.
Speaker 4: I think I just need to practice.
Speaker 3: Is that the metaphor that I need to When you've
Speaker 3: start something new, be patient, hit on it until you practice.
Speaker 2: You're a beginner. I'm a beginner.
Speaker 4: Allow you're reaching so far, but I'm going to help
Speaker 4: you out. You're allowed to be a beginner with things
Speaker 4: that you've never done before.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's true. Like I talk about this aff styled
Speaker 3: hair this length.
Speaker 4: Well, I have it, just like in times with different
Speaker 4: hairstyles were cool because I used to always have a
Speaker 4: top knot. I would cut my hair short and just
Speaker 4: put it on top knot, and that was like my thing.
Speaker 3: So why don't you just do that?
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 4: I felt like I outgrew the topknot. Maybe next week
Speaker 4: I'll be wearing a topknot if I do, just don't say.
Speaker 3: Anything that top not like the missionary style hairstyles or
Speaker 3: is it bustin'.
Speaker 2: I guess we'll have to see.
Speaker 4: But I have to say this now because you reminded
Speaker 4: me of it. How a lot of adults have troubled
Speaker 4: starting new things and trying new things because when we're adults,
Speaker 4: we feel like we have to be automatically good at something.
Speaker 4: But as kids, if you look back on the things
Speaker 4: that I played soccer, I was on the year around
Speaker 4: swim team even though I couldn't dive. I did gymnastics, dance,
Speaker 4: acting classes. I tried everything and did not think twice
Speaker 4: about it because I was young and I felt like
Speaker 4: I was allowed to be a beginner and learn. But
Speaker 4: as adults, we for some reason get embarrass or feels
Speaker 4: shame when we're not automatically good at something. And so
Speaker 4: I asked my clients a lot who are in this space,
Speaker 4: what's something you would do if you only had to
Speaker 4: be like sixty percent good at it? And maybe for
Speaker 4: me that answer is I would curl my hair a
Speaker 4: new way.
Speaker 3: Or maybe it's like you don't have to be good
Speaker 3: at it's just like what would you do if you
Speaker 3: had if there wasn't this.
Speaker 2: Fear attached to it?
Speaker 3: Because that reminds me of this email I'm about to
Speaker 3: read and like us relaunching the podcast together, because I
Speaker 3: think for me, I had some fear around that. I
Speaker 3: had excitement because I knew relaunching it with you was
Speaker 3: going to be amazing, but also like I had had
Speaker 3: four things for so many years and had built that,
Speaker 3: and you had you Need Therapy podcast and we were
Speaker 3: going to be emerging something, and like what if it
Speaker 3: didn't work and then our friendship blew up crashed out
Speaker 3: because you made all want pineapple or something.
Speaker 2: I will never don't worry? Well, yeah, because that yacku're
Speaker 2: youm too? Yeah, you don't want people to eat all.
Speaker 3: The food you're looking forward to in the fridge so
Speaker 3: we got an email from a confused listener. In fact,
Speaker 3: that's the subject line. So we got an email from
Speaker 3: a confused listener. In fact, that's the subject line. In
Speaker 3: regards to our rebrand, our shift into Feeling Things, which
Speaker 3: we started discussing privately between the two of us back
Speaker 3: in August, should we rebrand the podcast and you come
Speaker 3: on full time? And then it took from August that
Speaker 3: initial conversation all the way to April. April first is
Speaker 3: when we went live with the rebrand, so that was
Speaker 3: eight months, and I would say the first few months
Speaker 3: after August were like, Okay, should we really do this?
Speaker 3: And I remember having fear around it, and then it's
Speaker 3: a lot of work. So it's almost like also, sometimes
Speaker 3: what would you do, like if you didn't have to
Speaker 3: think of it out the work you would have to
Speaker 3: put into it, because sometimes we put things off because
Speaker 3: the well, but we had to do it upfront and
Speaker 3: the now that we're on the other side of it
Speaker 3: totally worth it. Maybe because we do have this listener,
Speaker 3: this listener email, do youar Feeling Things podcast? I'm a
Speaker 3: longtime listener and fan of Four Things with Amy Brown
Speaker 3: and enjoyed the episodes with Kat. I only listen to
Speaker 3: podcasts during my evening walks with my dog, and four
Speaker 3: Things is in my go to pick. For years, I've
Speaker 3: been listening to the new Feeling Things podcast and I'm
Speaker 3: having a hard time understanding the structure and the overall
Speaker 3: goal each episode. I feel confused and I have no
Speaker 3: idea the point of each episode. I want to keep listening, However,
Speaker 3: I find myself waiting for the overall purpose. Can you
Speaker 3: all explain the structure? I do get that you all
Speaker 3: pick a feeling word at the beginning of an episode,
Speaker 3: but after that it seems to go many unknown directions.
Speaker 3: Thanks four Things listener. So okay, I get that. Yeah,
Speaker 3: because sometimes I feel confused too, and I think what
Speaker 3: for me has been beautiful about this process is stepping
Speaker 3: into the unknown and the scary at times and not
Speaker 3: really knowing. And one thing Kat and I wanted was
Speaker 3: to discuss feelings, which I think in every single episode
Speaker 3: we do that like a variety of different feelings. It
Speaker 3: may not look, you know, super quote unquote structured, like oh,
Speaker 3: we're moving on to this next feeling, but we share
Speaker 3: a lot from our lives or stories or things that
Speaker 3: we're watching feelings that we're having about everything from a
Speaker 3: TV show to a book to something that happened to
Speaker 3: us out in the wild. You know, Like recently I
Speaker 3: talked about a guy hitting on me when I was
Speaker 3: with my kids, and we've got an email coming up
Speaker 3: from another listener that's a story sort of similar that
Speaker 3: happened to her in the wild, which the story is
Speaker 3: blowing my mind now that I think about it, like
Speaker 3: they took guts for this guy.
Speaker 2: To do what he did.
Speaker 3: But we'll get to that email in a minute. But
Speaker 3: also speaking of these emails we're getting, another thing is
Speaker 3: the feeling of connection and the connection with y'all. So
Speaker 3: this email we're going to read coming up as from
Speaker 3: a listener that has interacted with us multiple times, and
Speaker 3: we don't know her, but we feel like we know her.
Speaker 3: And while not a lot of us have met in person,
Speaker 3: some of us maybe have in the past at for things,
Speaker 3: live events or something. But our hope is that you
Speaker 3: have a feeling of connection and you feel like you're
Speaker 3: listening to your friend's talk, and so that is our vibe,
Speaker 3: that is our energy, that is our structure. Now we
Speaker 3: will have the occasional deep dive which Kat delivered our
Speaker 3: first one ever about mel Robbins and the let Them
Speaker 3: theory beautifully done.
Speaker 2: Kat.
Speaker 3: People are raving about it or they're feeling having feelings
Speaker 3: about it. They're having feelings, like lots of feelings about it.
Speaker 3: And with that, I'll say we are going to continue
Speaker 3: to do more deep dives, but we also want to
Speaker 3: be clear that deep dives are not always going to
Speaker 3: be about people. They might be about topics or cults
Speaker 3: or ideas, idea other things. We're open to requests, so
Speaker 3: y'all can email us things you would like for us
Speaker 3: to deep dive on. Hey, they're at feeling things. Podcasts
Speaker 3: dot com.
Speaker 4: Could even be like a trend like, yes, deep dive
Speaker 4: on La booboos, Yeah my.
Speaker 2: Death those are yes, I know what they are, but
Speaker 2: I wouldn't be interested in that.
Speaker 4: Which I'm just saying like a trend that I want
Speaker 4: to be super interested in, although I I am a
Speaker 4: little confused by it that I'm intrigued, not intrigued like
Speaker 4: I want to buy one.
Speaker 3: Yeah, if y'all don't know what laboobos are, they're like
Speaker 3: these little stuffed animals that clip on bags and they're
Speaker 3: they look like monsters so expensive they look like monsters.
Speaker 4: Yeah, but my point in saying that is it could
Speaker 4: be like some kind of trend that's happening or has
Speaker 4: happened in the past.
Speaker 3: Oh that like we don't get Maybe I would be
Speaker 3: into that because it would help me understand, Yeah, help
Speaker 3: me understand why people are adults are putting these.
Speaker 4: If firebags just happened, we could do a deep dive
Speaker 4: on firefest, you know what I mean.
Speaker 2: Yeah, like things that happen in pop culture.
Speaker 3: There will be you know, but the point I think
Speaker 3: off shoots like that, and then there's also going to
Speaker 3: be series like We've got The Four Horsemen coming up,
Speaker 3: which I want you to touch on. Again, Cat's a
Speaker 3: therapist and this is a mental health minded podcast, I
Speaker 3: think is how we branded it so it can lean
Speaker 3: therapy at times. And also again we really our main
Speaker 3: goal is Cat and I chatting, and you all feel
Speaker 3: like you're sitting with your girlfriends and you're having a
Speaker 3: talk or hey, guys, you're here too, girlfriends, boyfriends.
Speaker 4: Well, also I'll say, like, just like you're talking with
Speaker 4: your friends, Like sometimes those conversations are lighthearted and fun
Speaker 4: and silly and random, and sometimes those conversations are more
Speaker 4: vulnerable and deep, and they're about your friend telling you
Speaker 4: something that they learned or telling you something that is
Speaker 4: interesting to them. And that's what the structure is. Is
Speaker 4: that the structure is that we have a certain idea
Speaker 4: of how we interact with each other, and we allow
Speaker 4: whatever is showing up within our friendship in our lives
Speaker 4: to come here.
Speaker 2: So when we are sharing something with you, like the.
Speaker 4: Mel Robins saying, or the Four Horsemen, it's because those
Speaker 4: things have been of value to us or are interesting
Speaker 4: to us, or we've been talking about them or learning
Speaker 4: about them. So it is I think the connection piece
Speaker 4: is huge too in that well. But yeah, and the
Speaker 4: four Horsemen. If you're like, what is that? It is
Speaker 4: John Gotman, who is a very famous relationship marriage therapists.
Speaker 4: I don't know if he's a psychologist and researcher. Yeah,
Speaker 4: he's done more research on couples. I mean, he's if
Speaker 4: you want to go to if you want to be
Speaker 4: a couple's therapists, you often are doing the Gotman training.
Speaker 4: I have not done that. I am not a couple's therapists. However,
Speaker 4: his research found these four things that he uses to
Speaker 4: determine with ninety percent accuracy, which is insane, sane if
Speaker 4: a relationship will survive or end, and we're going to
Speaker 4: split because there's so much we can say about them,
Speaker 4: going to split those up into four episodes, either.
Speaker 2: Two or four. I think four. Okay, we'll see.
Speaker 4: How wait we always are like, we'll do both of
Speaker 4: those in the same episode, and then the episode's five
Speaker 4: hours long, right, No.
Speaker 3: I think that we make it one horseman per episode
Speaker 3: because we may go on tantangents. You never know, we
Speaker 3: may end up talking about dryer balls.
Speaker 4: Which is that's the structure and that's fun, where like
Speaker 4: we're not so regimented. And I'll say, for myself, I
Speaker 4: have to have a couple different podcasts that are in
Speaker 4: my rotation personally, because I like the podcast that is
Speaker 4: just random and fun and like so just out there,
Speaker 4: and then I like the podcasts that you learn from,
Speaker 4: and then I like the podcasts that are more structured.
Speaker 4: But I have to have a variety because I can't
Speaker 4: just do one of those. So we're bringing you all
Speaker 4: those things into one damn kind of So be looking
Speaker 4: forward to the four Horsemen. And again, if you do
Speaker 4: have something you're like I want to learn about this
Speaker 4: or my friends have been talking about this, let us know, Hey.
Speaker 2: Does that?
Speaker 3: Yeah, and make sure you're following on Instagram at Feeling
Speaker 3: Things podcast and TikTok, because.
Speaker 2: We're gonna do something like if you live.
Speaker 3: Close to Nashville and the Nashville area coming up at
Speaker 3: the end of September, we've got an event. We're picking
Speaker 3: people to come to Top Golf with us for a
Speaker 3: charity for Foster Care, and like we're gonna have a
Speaker 3: Feeling Things team and y'all are going to be our
Speaker 3: guest so it's fun, but those that's how we can
Speaker 3: interact and give those slots away, So make sure you're
Speaker 3: following over there and we'll be doing that sort of soon,
Speaker 3: so that way in case people need to plan obviously
Speaker 3: their calendars and even come, Like I know some people
Speaker 3: were saying, oh, I would I live only a couple
Speaker 3: hours away, so I would drive, So I know some
Speaker 3: people need to plan. But community and connection, I think
Speaker 3: those two words are big for both of us. So
Speaker 3: we're looking forward to that event so that we can
Speaker 3: connect with y'all in person, but without the in person stuff,
Speaker 3: which hopefully we'll plan more of that in the future,
Speaker 3: saying that for the last few years, we haven't done
Speaker 3: it live in a while. But also life has gotten
Speaker 3: crazy at times. I think that happens to everybody where
Speaker 3: you have something on your agenda for the year and
Speaker 3: then you take a look at it later and you're like,
Speaker 3: this doesn't really make sense for me to put all
Speaker 3: this work into this right now when I have this
Speaker 3: happening in life. So I know, with Kat and I
Speaker 3: even making this switch, that we have a little bit
Speaker 3: more flexibility than we had before because now we have it.
Speaker 3: We're a team and we have a bigger team helping us.
Speaker 3: But also one of our goals is to do more
Speaker 3: in person things, So that's part of our plan and
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Speaker 3: We love having each and every one of you here,
Speaker 3: especially our girl Karen, who has emailed and if you know,
Speaker 3: you know. But here's what Karen sent us after hearing
Speaker 3: a recent episode where I shared that a guy like
Speaker 3: gave me his business card while I was with my kids.
Speaker 2: Which someone said.
Speaker 3: I don't know if it was after they emailed or
Speaker 3: texted or I mean DMed or said it to one
Speaker 3: of us later, but like, the more shocking part was
Speaker 3: that he had a business card.
Speaker 2: Why is that shocking a lot of people.
Speaker 3: Don't carry business cards anymore, do they?
Speaker 4: You know what? It is shocking because I have business
Speaker 4: cards and I never have one when I need it.
Speaker 2: Well, maybe you should start carrying around. I shouldn't start
Speaker 2: carrying them around.
Speaker 6: Or here's what Karen wrote, right, here's what Karen wrote.
Speaker 3: Hey, Amy and Kat, thank you for making me laugh
Speaker 3: out loud today. While I was listening to Tuesday's episode,
Speaker 3: I was gardening, so the neighbors probably thought I was crazy.
Speaker 3: When I lived in Montana a gazillion years ago, I
Speaker 3: was in line at the grocery store and heard the
Speaker 3: little girl behind me say to her dad, this thing
Speaker 3: smells like armpits.
Speaker 2: I turned around to see what she was talking about.
Speaker 2: It was a.
Speaker 3: Plexiglass divider thing, and I laughed. I turned back around
Speaker 3: and proceeded to start writing out my check to pay
Speaker 3: for my groceries. Two nights later, I got a call
Speaker 3: from a guy. It was the dad, and he wanted
Speaker 3: to take me on a date. I must have sounded
Speaker 3: very confused because he said, I watched you write your
Speaker 3: phone number on your check. I was twenty five ish
Speaker 3: and dumb, so I said yes. But I told my
Speaker 3: best friend and she insisted on coming with me on
Speaker 3: the date, mainly because he was a taxidermist and she
Speaker 3: had concerns.
Speaker 2: Lol. Thankfully he was cool.
Speaker 3: With that nice guy, but I was in my bar
Speaker 3: girl era, so dating a single dad was not in
Speaker 3: alignment with my goals. Every time I remember it, though,
Speaker 3: I do you have to give him props for shooting
Speaker 3: his shot, your friend, Karen. I mean, I am blown
Speaker 3: away that he creeped on her writing her phone number
Speaker 3: down and either memorized it or wrote it down himself,
Speaker 3: because I mean, he didn't have a cell phone back then.
Speaker 3: Like he couldn't like dial it right away, so he
Speaker 3: had to like get that number, and he held it
Speaker 3: for two days and then he called her.
Speaker 2: I am trying to think of the right feeling.
Speaker 4: I want to say shocked, but I'm more like in
Speaker 4: awe in alle feels too positive.
Speaker 2: I'm shocked that she went or that he did that
Speaker 2: in multiple.
Speaker 4: Ways, that he was first of all, close enough and
Speaker 4: had good enough eyesight, Because I have to be pretty
Speaker 4: close to somebody to be able to see them writing
Speaker 4: something like that down.
Speaker 2: Well, yeah, your eyesight is terrible. Stop attacking me. Oh sorry, sorry,
Speaker 2: I'm just kidding.
Speaker 4: Regardless, you have to be pretty close to see somebody
Speaker 4: writing their phone number on a check. Also, you have
Speaker 4: to be staring like he is staring. That is bold,
Speaker 4: and I am impressed by him. It sounds like he
Speaker 4: just really wanted to take this person on a date
Speaker 4: and maybe didn't want to ask in front of his child.
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 4: But what also, as I'm saying this, is that how
Speaker 4: it happened back then, Because that's wild that you would
Speaker 4: just see somebody at the grocery store and be like, oh,
Speaker 4: she's about to write a check. Oh they write first
Speaker 4: of all, she's writing a check at the grocery store.
Speaker 4: I don't think they even take checks anymore. That he's like, oh,
Speaker 4: she's about to write a check. I bet she's gonna
Speaker 4: write a phone down and they have to stare at it.
Speaker 4: That's how you did it.
Speaker 2: Yeah. I Meanwhile, I met my husband on a dating map. Yeah,
Speaker 2: he wiped.
Speaker 3: Yeah, things have changed, but I mean someone could still
Speaker 3: do that now if they overhear you say your phone
Speaker 3: number or something. But I would be like, oh my gosh,
Speaker 3: that's kind of creepy.
Speaker 2: But would you think it's creepy if it was back then?
Speaker 3: I don't think the time matters. I think when someone
Speaker 3: does something bold like that, if you're attracted them, or
Speaker 3: think if there's an attraction, then it's acceptable. If you're not,
Speaker 3: then you're like they're a soccer weirdo.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 4: I agree, But I do think the extra element of
Speaker 4: it being back then that was probably more normalized than
Speaker 4: it is now. People don't even go up to you
Speaker 4: in person half the time to ask you out. They'll
Speaker 4: just like go on a dating app.
Speaker 3: So yeah, I feel like some of that is kind
Speaker 3: of coming back, though people are missing the.
Speaker 2: Same shit had it happened twice to you. Twice.
Speaker 3: No, I like, oh, well he found me through someone else.
Speaker 3: That's the same thing.
Speaker 2: I mean, that's pretty. He also came up and said
Speaker 2: hi to you. Oh yeah, that's right. Yeah you did.
Speaker 2: Men coming up to you're left and right must be nice.
Speaker 2: You're like, oh, I mean, it's coming back. It's happened
Speaker 2: to me six times in the past week now whatever.
Speaker 3: My current boyfriend did it to me at the grocery store,
Speaker 3: which okay, fine, and then I did Yeah, I had
Speaker 3: the business card guy the other day. That's not six times,
Speaker 3: I know, but like, oh, this is making me think
Speaker 3: of that show though, well, just going on dates with
Speaker 3: people and then that guy being a taxidermist, you know,
Speaker 3: because being scared he might murder you. That show it's
Speaker 3: been on Netflix. It's a movie for at least maybe
Speaker 3: a year or two with Anna Kendrick, Woman of the Hour,
Speaker 3: where it's based on a true story from back in
Speaker 3: the day where this woman went on a game show
Speaker 3: and she was matched with a serial killer because a
Speaker 3: serial killer went on as one of the contestants. Like
Speaker 3: the girl was getting matched with guys and I tried
Speaker 3: to start watching it the other night and I had
Speaker 3: to turn it off because it was so disturbing and
Speaker 3: I can't believe that this is real life and it
Speaker 3: actually happened.
Speaker 2: But I've never heard of that. You got to be
Speaker 2: careful out there are people. Yeah.
Speaker 3: In one of his tactics, of course, he had the
Speaker 3: game show thing, which I never even made it to
Speaker 3: the part where I saw him on the show, but
Speaker 3: leading up to it, they show how he starts.
Speaker 2: Since this very beginning. So I'm not getting anything away
Speaker 2: in case you've been.
Speaker 3: Looking forward to watching this on Netflix, but it has
Speaker 3: been up there a while and this is a real story,
Speaker 3: so maybe you even know what happened. But he's like
Speaker 3: the nicest guy, and he would take pictures as a
Speaker 3: photographer of women and it make them feel special. Like
Speaker 3: one girl, I guess he was like, Hey, let's go
Speaker 3: to this beautiful forest, like a desert, like it was
Speaker 3: in the desert in the middle of nowhere, right, but
Speaker 3: beautiful scenery. And now you're out in the middle of
Speaker 3: nowhere with this man has a camera, but you think
Speaker 3: he's a photographer and he's taking your photos and he
Speaker 3: seems gentle and kind and nice and encouraging and like,
Speaker 3: you know, like making you feel good in front of
Speaker 3: the camera and then next thing, you know, So that
Speaker 3: was his thing, and so kind of like he looked
Speaker 3: like this nice photographer guy. They'd be like, hey, oh,
Speaker 3: hold that smile. Oh you look like you're so cute
Speaker 3: right there. Hold it, hold it, hold it.
Speaker 2: And then you you kind of let your guard down.
Speaker 3: You're like, oh, and then he kills you. Yeah, yes,
Speaker 3: that was his thing. I don't know how many women,
Speaker 3: but it's called Woman of the Hour. So go watch
Speaker 3: that if you want to. And if he wants something
Speaker 3: lighter but also vulgar, then you can check out Righteous
Speaker 3: Jumpstones on HBO Max.
Speaker 2: I've been talking about that, which.
Speaker 3: Kadenary Christians definitely don't watch it with like your grandparent
Speaker 3: type Christians. I don't know that my parents would have.
Speaker 2: My parents watched it.
Speaker 3: Oh, they okay, and they love it.
Speaker 2: They think it's funny. But I did. I don't know
Speaker 2: if they've seen the last season.
Speaker 4: And I did tell I warned them because they thought
Speaker 4: it was hilarious and said, if you watch the fourth season,
Speaker 4: just know.
Speaker 2: They take it a little too far. It just gets weird. Yeah,
Speaker 2: it's a little too weird, real.
Speaker 3: Weird, like there's some stuff Where'm like, Okay, could have
Speaker 3: done without seeing that, Like I don't need to see that.
Speaker 2: You don't have to say it that way. It's like that,
Speaker 2: keep making it more ridiculous.
Speaker 3: Yeah, they're making fun of meg megachurches and megachurch pastors
Speaker 3: and families and so somebody.
Speaker 2: It's kind of spot on.
Speaker 3: It's like four seasons and I started watching it years
Speaker 3: ago on and off, and then I was under the
Speaker 3: weather recently, I guess, like a week or two ago,
Speaker 3: and I had a lot of free time, and I
Speaker 3: watched all of it, like season three, season four, and
Speaker 3: I'm all the way.
Speaker 2: Colt are the one that got me to watch it
Speaker 2: in the first place, oh, way back in the day.
Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, I'm such a huthan.
Speaker 2: So anyway, check that out.
Speaker 3: On a lighter note, because Woman of the Hour is
Speaker 3: definitely heavy.
Speaker 2: I have a question.
Speaker 3: Not to change the subject, no, fine, I'd rather stop
Speaker 3: talking about Well.
Speaker 2: I'm bringing it back to the email which from Karen. Yes,
Speaker 2: we laughed out loud when we read this email. It
Speaker 2: really entertained me. Would you or have you ever gone
Speaker 2: on a date with.
Speaker 4: A friend like they're going on a date and you
Speaker 4: just are like, I'm gonna come with you because I
Speaker 4: don't for whatever reason.
Speaker 2: Have you ever been the third wheel on like a
Speaker 2: first date, on a first date? No, I have had people.
Speaker 3: At my house for my first date when I'm getting
Speaker 3: picked up, like okay, my friends.
Speaker 2: Like be here, but not go on the date, but
Speaker 2: like be here for the pick up. Also, I wonder
Speaker 2: if it's different. Now, that's a good idea.
Speaker 4: It's also wait a second, Well, I guess you're dating
Speaker 4: people that you know through somebody, because if you're just
Speaker 4: letting a stranger pick you up on a first date,
Speaker 4: that's wild.
Speaker 3: Well I did let my current boyfriend pick me up
Speaker 3: at my house for the first date because we have
Speaker 3: mutual friends. Yeah, that's the only reason.
Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, so your first interaction with him is
Speaker 4: like a thirty minute car ride.
Speaker 3: Yeah, well, I mean he picked me up, came to
Speaker 3: my door, came in and met me, met cry okat
Speaker 3: was here?
Speaker 2: Were you so nervous? I don't remember this, but then
Speaker 2: I do it.
Speaker 3: I think I was a little nervous. But remember I
Speaker 3: was just coming off of the whole lunch with Leslie debacle,
Speaker 3: oh with the other guy. So I was like, yeah,
Speaker 3: I was in. My therapist was like, you need to
Speaker 3: adult date. So I'm like, he look here, I am.
Speaker 3: I'm out here adult dating. Look at me in a
Speaker 3: thirty minute car ride to a restaurant. Plus, I was
Speaker 3: really excited about the restaurant we were going to because
Speaker 3: I hadn't been there yet and I'd wanted to go,
Speaker 3: so was worth a thirty minute drive. And he wasn't
Speaker 3: that awkward And I thought it was his car. I
Speaker 3: didn't know the car we were in. Come to find
Speaker 3: out later though, is his dead wife's car.
Speaker 2: He didn't even bring his car.
Speaker 3: I'm like, oh, so this is your wife's car that
Speaker 3: passed away. I shouldn't have stood it that.
Speaker 2: Way, dead wife's car, but like that's in my brain.
Speaker 3: I'm like, wait, this is your This isn't even your car,
Speaker 3: Like you're driving the car that she drove.
Speaker 2: I wonder if I've wanted her with him to support
Speaker 2: I think this is far away gets a better gas mileage.
Speaker 2: Oh it's not that deep.
Speaker 4: Well, I was gonna say, I wonder if now, because
Speaker 4: because we can share locations with people on our phone,
Speaker 4: people don't feel the need to like go on the
Speaker 4: date like back then. I don't know how many years
Speaker 4: ago this was, but back then, like oh well when there.
Speaker 3: Was an hour, no Karen's oh Karen, this was twenty
Speaker 3: five years ago, so.
Speaker 4: Okay, So like you couldn't know where your friend was
Speaker 4: if they were going on a date with a stranger.
Speaker 2: So you're like, I'll go with you.
Speaker 4: But now it's just would you share your location with
Speaker 4: me so I can just know if you're a kid? Exactly, Yes,
Speaker 4: So it's not that right now that would be a
Speaker 4: little bit more weird because we don't have to do that,
Speaker 4: But back then it was probably actually like pretty smart.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you're gonna go out with some random guy that's
Speaker 3: calling you from the grocery store that stalked your number. Yes,
Speaker 3: that's a good friend. I hope you're still friends with
Speaker 3: that person. But if you're not, we we sect that
Speaker 3: because things things happen, and Kat and I hope to
Speaker 3: be friends for a long time now. Yeah, but working
Speaker 3: together has its challenges. However, we do love our sib
Speaker 3: don't take that personally. It's just when you work closely
Speaker 3: with somebody. Yeah, right, when I said that, you but
Speaker 3: I don't mean that, I just mean I think we
Speaker 3: have good systems in play.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I was kind of joking. I don't want you
Speaker 2: to secure. Good.
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