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Speaker 1: All right, break it down. If you ever have feelings

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Speaker 1: that you just false home Amy and Cat, gotcha, Cob

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Speaker 1: and locking m Brother, ladies and folks, do you just

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Speaker 1: follow Anna spirit where it's all the front and real stuff,

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Speaker 1: tell the chill stuff and the him but Swayne, Sometimes

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Speaker 1: the best thing you can do it just stop you

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Speaker 1: feel things. This is feeling things.

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Speaker 2: With Amy and Cat. Happy Tuesday.

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Speaker 3: Welcome to feeling things. I'm Amy and I'm Cat and

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Speaker 3: our feeling of the day is coming from you Cat,

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Speaker 3: which you guy.

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Speaker 2: I'm feeling a regretful.

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Speaker 4: I didn't really want to say that word because I

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Speaker 4: don't want to be feeling this, but it's that's part

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Speaker 4: of feeling your feelings.

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Speaker 2: It's like they are what they are. What did you do?

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Speaker 4: So a couple of days ago I got real, well,

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Speaker 4: probably a week ago I got you.

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Speaker 2: Don't have to give you the long version of this story.

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Speaker 3: Like what I'm like, Okay, this is we're setting this

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Speaker 3: up for like you did something crazy because like I'm like,

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Speaker 3: I regret too, and I know what you're regretting, and

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Speaker 3: I'm like, okay, you're regretting this, and like I'm regretting

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Speaker 3: yelling at my kid.

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Speaker 2: Because he ate all the pineapple.

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Speaker 4: So okay, I need to process that before I process myself.

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Speaker 3: I already asked for forgiveness. Okay, I didn't like yell yell,

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Speaker 3: but no, I didn't minds the feeling of the day.

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Speaker 3: But once she said I didn't know exactly what your

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Speaker 3: to be about your hair.

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Speaker 2: I'm sat in the state. Oh sorry, I set this stup. Well,

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Speaker 2: they don't know what Okay, so wait a second.

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Speaker 4: I could say this because I'll forget one thing that

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Speaker 2: I was trying to think of afraid. What's another thing

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Speaker 2: you say?

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Speaker 4: Yuck my yeah, okay, that's a phrase people say.

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Speaker 2: That Hey good, sure they do. I've never heard anybody

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Speaker 4: We also got an email I don't know if we

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Speaker 4: read it where a mom said it and her daughter

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Speaker 2: I'm sorry. Yeah, because it's definitely not like what all

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Speaker 2: the cool kids are saying. I'm not claiming to be cool,

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Speaker 2: like you know how we say fire, sick or whatever.

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Speaker 3: A big one right now is I'm about to crash out,

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Speaker 3: which is I'm about to lose it, and I feel

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Speaker 2: I am crashing out.

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Speaker 4: Okay, I have to read this because speaking of cool things,

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Speaker 4: I got a text last night from a friend of

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Speaker 4: a dish to us as the missionary sex of chicken dishes.

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Speaker 2: So it's just like, you know, playing plan.

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Speaker 4: But then I said where, I won't say where, and

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Speaker 4: she said, he actually said, usually the half chicken is busting',

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Speaker 4: I said, did you end up getting it? And she said,

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Speaker 4: And she was like, he was like thirty five.

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Speaker 3: I don't think I would want a kid waiter talking

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Speaker 2: Where were we Well, you're crashing out. I'm crashing out.

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Speaker 2: But I have to say this too before I crash out.

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Speaker 4: One of the things that twists my ties when I

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Speaker 2: And yuktu're young, yeah, is when you.

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Speaker 3: So you understand I crashed out with the pineapple.

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Speaker 2: When you were looking forward to food.

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Speaker 3: It was a full thing of pineapple, like full in hand.

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Speaker 4: If you're like, oh, that juicy pineapples and the fridge

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Speaker 2: And then you're like, oh, I get it.

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Speaker 2: Now there's no I don't get doesn't get any pineapple.

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Speaker 3: I don't get any pineapples to shear when I'd probably

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Speaker 2: To share it. It's true she did to your sister.

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Speaker 3: She had been packing it in her lunch and now

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but I said.

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Speaker 3: I looked at him and I said, Hoever I was

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Speaker 3: crashing out. I said, we need to learn to diversify.

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Speaker 5: Because then it won't just you know, oh does it

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Speaker 2: You need it all when you.

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Speaker 3: Share ols with people because you're never gonna have roommates

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Speaker 2: What was he like, Mom, are you okay? You just

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Speaker 2: like he's like, I thought you wanted us to eat.

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Speaker 3: Fruit, and like I do want them to eat fruit,

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Speaker 3: and yes, I can go get another pineapple.

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Speaker 2: I'm not saying what I did.

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Speaker 3: Was okay, But as the kids say, I just crashed

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Speaker 3: I did tell sorry, and I said eat the fruit.

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Speaker 3: I want you to eat the fruit. I said, However,

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Speaker 3: there is something too diversifying the fruit, like I really

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Speaker 4: I'm just thinking of Stevenson in therapy, like at thirty

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Speaker 4: and now I can't eat a whole apple anymore.

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Speaker 2: No, you can eat a whole apple.

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Speaker 3: It'd be like if he opened up the door and

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Speaker 2: Okay, that's funny.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, great, sorry mom, Okay, what's happening with the hair?

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Speaker 4: Okay, so back to about a week ago. I got

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Speaker 4: it's caught in your armpit and stuff, you know, itching, Yes.

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Speaker 4: I don't know how, but I got like a chunk

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Speaker 3: Which I know you just said you can't see this.

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Speaker 3: We don't have our whole crew here, so it just

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Speaker 2: But if you haven't.

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Speaker 3: Subscribed over on YouTube, you can because we are growing

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Speaker 3: over there, which is so fun to see because most

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Speaker 2: Hair Okay, So my hair was like tickling me. So

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Speaker 2: But I think it was just like over stimulation.

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Speaker 4: I got it cut and I probably got four inches

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Speaker 2: But it's still past your shoulders. A bowl cut is

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Speaker 3: I know that it's your hair, so you're feeling it,

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Speaker 2: I did cut a couple things myself keep cutting it

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Speaker 4: I haven't processed it, which means I probably shouldn't be

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Speaker 4: I wish I could take two inches back on my hair.

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Speaker 3: So in a couple of months, two inches will grow

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Speaker 4: But what I am doing is I stopped getting it colored.

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Speaker 4: And this all goes back to if you guys listen

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Speaker 4: to the Hot Girl Hamster Wheel episode where I'm like,

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Speaker 4: why am I coloring my hair? My hair is actually

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Speaker 4: not to toot my own horn. But I have a

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think it's really pretty, like a really pretty brunette, and.

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Speaker 4: It looks good with my skin tone. So why have

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Speaker 4: I been putting blonde highlights in it. It's just like

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Speaker 4: I didn't do that. So I do feel really good

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Speaker 4: about that, and I actually do really like the color.

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Speaker 3: Well, so you want to know about cutting the four

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Speaker 3: inches off though, that helps like get go out of

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Speaker 2: Also, don't know how to do my hair. That's another thing.

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Speaker 4: have something you're like I want to learn about this

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Speaker 4: or my friends have been talking about this, let us know, Hey.

440
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Speaker 2: Does that?

441
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Speaker 3: Yeah, and make sure you're following on Instagram at Feeling

442
00:21:07,160 --> 00:21:10,280
Speaker 3: Things podcast and TikTok, because.

443
00:21:10,000 --> 00:21:12,800
Speaker 2: We're gonna do something like if you live.

444
00:21:12,640 --> 00:21:14,639
Speaker 3: Close to Nashville and the Nashville area coming up at

445
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Speaker 3: the end of September, we've got an event. We're picking

446
00:21:18,040 --> 00:21:20,240
Speaker 3: people to come to Top Golf with us for a

447
00:21:20,359 --> 00:21:22,600
Speaker 3: charity for Foster Care, and like we're gonna have a

448
00:21:22,600 --> 00:21:25,880
Speaker 3: Feeling Things team and y'all are going to be our

449
00:21:25,920 --> 00:21:28,600
Speaker 3: guest so it's fun, but those that's how we can

450
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Speaker 3: interact and give those slots away, So make sure you're

451
00:21:31,640 --> 00:21:35,320
Speaker 3: following over there and we'll be doing that sort of soon,

452
00:21:35,359 --> 00:21:37,520
Speaker 3: so that way in case people need to plan obviously

453
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Speaker 3: their calendars and even come, Like I know some people

454
00:21:40,680 --> 00:21:42,920
Speaker 3: were saying, oh, I would I live only a couple

455
00:21:43,000 --> 00:21:44,480
Speaker 3: hours away, so I would drive, So I know some

456
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Speaker 3: people need to plan. But community and connection, I think

457
00:21:48,520 --> 00:21:51,080
Speaker 3: those two words are big for both of us. So

458
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Speaker 3: we're looking forward to that event so that we can

459
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Speaker 3: connect with y'all in person, but without the in person stuff,

460
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Speaker 3: which hopefully we'll plan more of that in the future,

461
00:22:00,119 --> 00:22:02,360
Speaker 3: saying that for the last few years, we haven't done

462
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Speaker 3: it live in a while. But also life has gotten

463
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Speaker 3: crazy at times. I think that happens to everybody where

464
00:22:08,720 --> 00:22:11,520
Speaker 3: you have something on your agenda for the year and

465
00:22:11,560 --> 00:22:13,359
Speaker 3: then you take a look at it later and you're like,

466
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Speaker 3: this doesn't really make sense for me to put all

467
00:22:15,240 --> 00:22:17,080
Speaker 3: this work into this right now when I have this

468
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Speaker 3: happening in life. So I know, with Kat and I

469
00:22:19,240 --> 00:22:22,080
Speaker 3: even making this switch, that we have a little bit

470
00:22:22,080 --> 00:22:24,879
Speaker 3: more flexibility than we had before because now we have it.

471
00:22:25,240 --> 00:22:27,560
Speaker 3: We're a team and we have a bigger team helping us.

472
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Speaker 3: But also one of our goals is to do more

473
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Speaker 3: in person things, So that's part of our plan and

474
00:22:34,640 --> 00:22:36,480
Speaker 3: we want y'all to know that because so many of

475
00:22:36,480 --> 00:22:38,480
Speaker 3: you have reached out, when is the next live or

476
00:22:38,520 --> 00:22:41,359
Speaker 3: I would love to plan for it because I am

477
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Speaker 3: I'd fly there, which is so cool to think about,

478
00:22:44,680 --> 00:22:47,160
Speaker 3: and we want that for y'all. So just know we're

479
00:22:47,160 --> 00:22:49,480
Speaker 3: going to be working on something because we love that

480
00:22:49,600 --> 00:22:54,160
Speaker 3: stuff too. So thank you for the email. And being

481
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Speaker 3: confused is good because then you get to ask a question,

482
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Speaker 3: and then you get information, and then you get to

483
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Speaker 3: decide for yourself if this is something that you want

484
00:23:01,040 --> 00:23:03,439
Speaker 3: to keep listening to, and we certainly hope that you do.

485
00:23:04,119 --> 00:23:05,920
Speaker 3: We love having each and every one of you here,

486
00:23:06,440 --> 00:23:12,359
Speaker 3: especially our girl Karen, who has emailed and if you know,

487
00:23:12,480 --> 00:23:15,840
Speaker 3: you know. But here's what Karen sent us after hearing

488
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Speaker 3: a recent episode where I shared that a guy like

489
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Speaker 3: gave me his business card while I was with my kids.

490
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Speaker 2: Which someone said.

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Speaker 3: I don't know if it was after they emailed or

492
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Speaker 3: texted or I mean DMed or said it to one

493
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Speaker 3: of us later, but like, the more shocking part was

494
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Speaker 3: that he had a business card.

495
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Speaker 2: Why is that shocking a lot of people.

496
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Speaker 3: Don't carry business cards anymore, do they?

497
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Speaker 4: You know what? It is shocking because I have business

498
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Speaker 4: cards and I never have one when I need it.

499
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Speaker 2: Well, maybe you should start carrying around. I shouldn't start

500
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Speaker 2: carrying them around.

501
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Speaker 6: Or here's what Karen wrote, right, here's what Karen wrote.

502
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Speaker 3: Hey, Amy and Kat, thank you for making me laugh

503
00:24:00,359 --> 00:24:02,960
Speaker 3: out loud today. While I was listening to Tuesday's episode,

504
00:24:03,000 --> 00:24:06,040
Speaker 3: I was gardening, so the neighbors probably thought I was crazy.

505
00:24:06,520 --> 00:24:09,159
Speaker 3: When I lived in Montana a gazillion years ago, I

506
00:24:09,200 --> 00:24:11,040
Speaker 3: was in line at the grocery store and heard the

507
00:24:11,040 --> 00:24:13,480
Speaker 3: little girl behind me say to her dad, this thing

508
00:24:13,520 --> 00:24:14,679
Speaker 3: smells like armpits.

509
00:24:15,600 --> 00:24:17,639
Speaker 2: I turned around to see what she was talking about.

510
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Speaker 2: It was a.

511
00:24:18,040 --> 00:24:21,800
Speaker 3: Plexiglass divider thing, and I laughed. I turned back around

512
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Speaker 3: and proceeded to start writing out my check to pay

513
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Speaker 3: for my groceries. Two nights later, I got a call

514
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Speaker 3: from a guy. It was the dad, and he wanted

515
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Speaker 3: to take me on a date. I must have sounded

516
00:24:32,680 --> 00:24:36,840
Speaker 3: very confused because he said, I watched you write your

517
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Speaker 3: phone number on your check. I was twenty five ish

518
00:24:40,240 --> 00:24:42,840
Speaker 3: and dumb, so I said yes. But I told my

519
00:24:42,920 --> 00:24:45,119
Speaker 3: best friend and she insisted on coming with me on

520
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Speaker 3: the date, mainly because he was a taxidermist and she

521
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Speaker 3: had concerns.

522
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Speaker 2: Lol. Thankfully he was cool.

523
00:24:51,440 --> 00:24:54,280
Speaker 3: With that nice guy, but I was in my bar

524
00:24:54,400 --> 00:24:57,000
Speaker 3: girl era, so dating a single dad was not in

525
00:24:57,080 --> 00:24:59,760
Speaker 3: alignment with my goals. Every time I remember it, though,

526
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Speaker 3: I do you have to give him props for shooting

527
00:25:01,760 --> 00:25:07,720
Speaker 3: his shot, your friend, Karen. I mean, I am blown

528
00:25:07,760 --> 00:25:10,640
Speaker 3: away that he creeped on her writing her phone number

529
00:25:10,680 --> 00:25:14,040
Speaker 3: down and either memorized it or wrote it down himself,

530
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Speaker 3: because I mean, he didn't have a cell phone back then.

531
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Speaker 3: Like he couldn't like dial it right away, so he

532
00:25:19,280 --> 00:25:21,840
Speaker 3: had to like get that number, and he held it

533
00:25:21,880 --> 00:25:23,360
Speaker 3: for two days and then he called her.

534
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Speaker 2: I am trying to think of the right feeling.

535
00:25:28,240 --> 00:25:31,560
Speaker 4: I want to say shocked, but I'm more like in

536
00:25:31,680 --> 00:25:33,920
Speaker 4: awe in alle feels too positive.

537
00:25:34,200 --> 00:25:37,359
Speaker 2: I'm shocked that she went or that he did that

538
00:25:37,800 --> 00:25:39,280
Speaker 2: in multiple.

539
00:25:38,840 --> 00:25:42,359
Speaker 4: Ways, that he was first of all, close enough and

540
00:25:42,440 --> 00:25:45,399
Speaker 4: had good enough eyesight, Because I have to be pretty

541
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Speaker 4: close to somebody to be able to see them writing

542
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Speaker 4: something like that down.

543
00:25:49,520 --> 00:25:58,440
Speaker 2: Well, yeah, your eyesight is terrible. Stop attacking me. Oh sorry, sorry,

544
00:25:58,840 --> 00:25:59,480
Speaker 2: I'm just kidding.

545
00:26:00,280 --> 00:26:02,320
Speaker 4: Regardless, you have to be pretty close to see somebody

546
00:26:02,359 --> 00:26:04,399
Speaker 4: writing their phone number on a check. Also, you have

547
00:26:04,440 --> 00:26:08,840
Speaker 4: to be staring like he is staring. That is bold,

548
00:26:09,040 --> 00:26:11,879
Speaker 4: and I am impressed by him. It sounds like he

549
00:26:12,080 --> 00:26:14,200
Speaker 4: just really wanted to take this person on a date

550
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Speaker 4: and maybe didn't want to ask in front of his child.

551
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Speaker 2: I don't know.

552
00:26:16,760 --> 00:26:20,560
Speaker 4: But what also, as I'm saying this, is that how

553
00:26:20,600 --> 00:26:23,880
Speaker 4: it happened back then, Because that's wild that you would

554
00:26:23,880 --> 00:26:26,720
Speaker 4: just see somebody at the grocery store and be like, oh,

555
00:26:26,720 --> 00:26:28,920
Speaker 4: she's about to write a check. Oh they write first

556
00:26:28,960 --> 00:26:30,960
Speaker 4: of all, she's writing a check at the grocery store.

557
00:26:31,000 --> 00:26:33,600
Speaker 4: I don't think they even take checks anymore. That he's like, oh,

558
00:26:33,640 --> 00:26:35,280
Speaker 4: she's about to write a check. I bet she's gonna

559
00:26:35,280 --> 00:26:37,679
Speaker 4: write a phone down and they have to stare at it.

560
00:26:38,400 --> 00:26:39,520
Speaker 4: That's how you did it.

561
00:26:40,000 --> 00:26:43,840
Speaker 2: Yeah. I Meanwhile, I met my husband on a dating map. Yeah,

562
00:26:43,920 --> 00:26:44,479
Speaker 2: he wiped.

563
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Speaker 3: Yeah, things have changed, but I mean someone could still

564
00:26:47,560 --> 00:26:49,600
Speaker 3: do that now if they overhear you say your phone

565
00:26:49,680 --> 00:26:52,560
Speaker 3: number or something. But I would be like, oh my gosh,

566
00:26:52,560 --> 00:26:53,359
Speaker 3: that's kind of creepy.

567
00:26:53,480 --> 00:26:56,000
Speaker 2: But would you think it's creepy if it was back then?

568
00:26:56,680 --> 00:26:58,600
Speaker 3: I don't think the time matters. I think when someone

569
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Speaker 3: does something bold like that, if you're attracted them, or

570
00:27:01,200 --> 00:27:04,879
Speaker 3: think if there's an attraction, then it's acceptable. If you're not,

571
00:27:05,080 --> 00:27:06,560
Speaker 3: then you're like they're a soccer weirdo.

572
00:27:07,040 --> 00:27:07,280
Speaker 2: Yeah.

573
00:27:07,440 --> 00:27:10,320
Speaker 4: I agree, But I do think the extra element of

574
00:27:10,359 --> 00:27:12,280
Speaker 4: it being back then that was probably more normalized than

575
00:27:12,320 --> 00:27:14,199
Speaker 4: it is now. People don't even go up to you

576
00:27:14,240 --> 00:27:16,040
Speaker 4: in person half the time to ask you out. They'll

577
00:27:16,080 --> 00:27:17,040
Speaker 4: just like go on a dating app.

578
00:27:17,160 --> 00:27:19,040
Speaker 3: So yeah, I feel like some of that is kind

579
00:27:19,040 --> 00:27:21,560
Speaker 3: of coming back, though people are missing the.

580
00:27:21,320 --> 00:27:27,040
Speaker 2: Same shit had it happened twice to you. Twice.

581
00:27:27,480 --> 00:27:31,240
Speaker 3: No, I like, oh, well he found me through someone else.

582
00:27:32,000 --> 00:27:32,720
Speaker 3: That's the same thing.

583
00:27:32,880 --> 00:27:34,720
Speaker 2: I mean, that's pretty. He also came up and said

584
00:27:34,760 --> 00:27:37,280
Speaker 2: hi to you. Oh yeah, that's right. Yeah you did.

585
00:27:37,400 --> 00:27:40,280
Speaker 2: Men coming up to you're left and right must be nice.

586
00:27:40,680 --> 00:27:43,000
Speaker 2: You're like, oh, I mean, it's coming back. It's happened

587
00:27:43,040 --> 00:27:46,200
Speaker 2: to me six times in the past week now whatever.

588
00:27:46,680 --> 00:27:49,919
Speaker 3: My current boyfriend did it to me at the grocery store,

589
00:27:49,960 --> 00:27:53,560
Speaker 3: which okay, fine, and then I did Yeah, I had

590
00:27:53,560 --> 00:27:56,120
Speaker 3: the business card guy the other day. That's not six times,

591
00:27:56,520 --> 00:27:59,160
Speaker 3: I know, but like, oh, this is making me think

592
00:27:59,240 --> 00:28:03,439
Speaker 3: of that show though, well, just going on dates with

593
00:28:03,520 --> 00:28:06,159
Speaker 3: people and then that guy being a taxidermist, you know,

594
00:28:06,240 --> 00:28:10,360
Speaker 3: because being scared he might murder you. That show it's

595
00:28:10,359 --> 00:28:13,440
Speaker 3: been on Netflix. It's a movie for at least maybe

596
00:28:13,440 --> 00:28:16,240
Speaker 3: a year or two with Anna Kendrick, Woman of the Hour,

597
00:28:16,880 --> 00:28:19,000
Speaker 3: where it's based on a true story from back in

598
00:28:19,000 --> 00:28:21,040
Speaker 3: the day where this woman went on a game show

599
00:28:21,119 --> 00:28:24,240
Speaker 3: and she was matched with a serial killer because a

600
00:28:24,280 --> 00:28:26,479
Speaker 3: serial killer went on as one of the contestants. Like

601
00:28:26,800 --> 00:28:29,920
Speaker 3: the girl was getting matched with guys and I tried

602
00:28:29,960 --> 00:28:31,879
Speaker 3: to start watching it the other night and I had

603
00:28:31,920 --> 00:28:35,600
Speaker 3: to turn it off because it was so disturbing and

604
00:28:35,680 --> 00:28:37,720
Speaker 3: I can't believe that this is real life and it

605
00:28:37,800 --> 00:28:38,640
Speaker 3: actually happened.

606
00:28:39,280 --> 00:28:41,520
Speaker 2: But I've never heard of that. You got to be

607
00:28:41,520 --> 00:28:42,960
Speaker 2: careful out there are people. Yeah.

608
00:28:43,000 --> 00:28:45,200
Speaker 3: In one of his tactics, of course, he had the

609
00:28:45,240 --> 00:28:47,560
Speaker 3: game show thing, which I never even made it to

610
00:28:47,600 --> 00:28:50,440
Speaker 3: the part where I saw him on the show, but

611
00:28:50,760 --> 00:28:53,600
Speaker 3: leading up to it, they show how he starts.

612
00:28:53,280 --> 00:28:55,320
Speaker 2: Since this very beginning. So I'm not getting anything away

613
00:28:55,360 --> 00:28:56,120
Speaker 2: in case you've been.

614
00:28:56,000 --> 00:28:58,000
Speaker 3: Looking forward to watching this on Netflix, but it has

615
00:28:58,040 --> 00:29:00,920
Speaker 3: been up there a while and this is a real story,

616
00:29:00,920 --> 00:29:03,080
Speaker 3: so maybe you even know what happened. But he's like

617
00:29:03,080 --> 00:29:06,360
Speaker 3: the nicest guy, and he would take pictures as a

618
00:29:06,400 --> 00:29:10,000
Speaker 3: photographer of women and it make them feel special. Like

619
00:29:10,160 --> 00:29:12,360
Speaker 3: one girl, I guess he was like, Hey, let's go

620
00:29:12,400 --> 00:29:16,520
Speaker 3: to this beautiful forest, like a desert, like it was

621
00:29:16,560 --> 00:29:18,440
Speaker 3: in the desert in the middle of nowhere, right, but

622
00:29:18,720 --> 00:29:21,000
Speaker 3: beautiful scenery. And now you're out in the middle of

623
00:29:21,080 --> 00:29:23,120
Speaker 3: nowhere with this man has a camera, but you think

624
00:29:23,160 --> 00:29:25,480
Speaker 3: he's a photographer and he's taking your photos and he

625
00:29:25,520 --> 00:29:28,320
Speaker 3: seems gentle and kind and nice and encouraging and like,

626
00:29:28,640 --> 00:29:30,880
Speaker 3: you know, like making you feel good in front of

627
00:29:30,920 --> 00:29:33,680
Speaker 3: the camera and then next thing, you know, So that

628
00:29:33,760 --> 00:29:35,520
Speaker 3: was his thing, and so kind of like he looked

629
00:29:35,560 --> 00:29:38,800
Speaker 3: like this nice photographer guy. They'd be like, hey, oh,

630
00:29:38,840 --> 00:29:40,800
Speaker 3: hold that smile. Oh you look like you're so cute

631
00:29:40,840 --> 00:29:42,240
Speaker 3: right there. Hold it, hold it, hold it.

632
00:29:42,200 --> 00:29:43,960
Speaker 2: And then you you kind of let your guard down.

633
00:29:44,080 --> 00:29:47,280
Speaker 3: You're like, oh, and then he kills you. Yeah, yes,

634
00:29:47,480 --> 00:29:50,160
Speaker 3: that was his thing. I don't know how many women,

635
00:29:50,240 --> 00:29:52,280
Speaker 3: but it's called Woman of the Hour. So go watch

636
00:29:52,320 --> 00:29:53,480
Speaker 3: that if you want to. And if he wants something

637
00:29:53,560 --> 00:29:57,320
Speaker 3: lighter but also vulgar, then you can check out Righteous

638
00:29:57,400 --> 00:29:59,280
Speaker 3: Jumpstones on HBO Max.

639
00:30:00,000 --> 00:30:01,240
Speaker 2: I've been talking about that, which.

640
00:30:01,080 --> 00:30:05,760
Speaker 3: Kadenary Christians definitely don't watch it with like your grandparent

641
00:30:05,800 --> 00:30:08,560
Speaker 3: type Christians. I don't know that my parents would have.

642
00:30:08,680 --> 00:30:09,600
Speaker 2: My parents watched it.

643
00:30:09,760 --> 00:30:11,160
Speaker 3: Oh, they okay, and they love it.

644
00:30:11,200 --> 00:30:12,800
Speaker 2: They think it's funny. But I did. I don't know

645
00:30:12,840 --> 00:30:14,000
Speaker 2: if they've seen the last season.

646
00:30:14,080 --> 00:30:15,880
Speaker 4: And I did tell I warned them because they thought

647
00:30:15,880 --> 00:30:18,400
Speaker 4: it was hilarious and said, if you watch the fourth season,

648
00:30:18,600 --> 00:30:18,960
Speaker 4: just know.

649
00:30:19,520 --> 00:30:22,400
Speaker 2: They take it a little too far. It just gets weird. Yeah,

650
00:30:22,560 --> 00:30:23,760
Speaker 2: it's a little too weird, real.

651
00:30:23,680 --> 00:30:25,400
Speaker 3: Weird, like there's some stuff Where'm like, Okay, could have

652
00:30:25,440 --> 00:30:27,360
Speaker 3: done without seeing that, Like I don't need to see that.

653
00:30:27,920 --> 00:30:29,680
Speaker 2: You don't have to say it that way. It's like that,

654
00:30:29,960 --> 00:30:31,360
Speaker 2: keep making it more ridiculous.

655
00:30:31,440 --> 00:30:36,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, they're making fun of meg megachurches and megachurch pastors

656
00:30:36,560 --> 00:30:38,840
Speaker 3: and families and so somebody.

657
00:30:38,840 --> 00:30:39,680
Speaker 2: It's kind of spot on.

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Speaker 3: It's like four seasons and I started watching it years

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Speaker 3: ago on and off, and then I was under the

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Speaker 3: weather recently, I guess, like a week or two ago,

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Speaker 3: and I had a lot of free time, and I

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00:30:50,840 --> 00:30:53,680
Speaker 3: watched all of it, like season three, season four, and

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Speaker 3: I'm all the way.

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Speaker 2: Colt are the one that got me to watch it

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Speaker 2: in the first place, oh, way back in the day.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, I'm such a huthan.

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Speaker 2: So anyway, check that out.

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Speaker 3: On a lighter note, because Woman of the Hour is

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Speaker 3: definitely heavy.

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Speaker 2: I have a question.

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Speaker 3: Not to change the subject, no, fine, I'd rather stop

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Speaker 3: talking about Well.

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Speaker 2: I'm bringing it back to the email which from Karen. Yes,

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Speaker 2: we laughed out loud when we read this email. It

675
00:31:18,680 --> 00:31:22,520
Speaker 2: really entertained me. Would you or have you ever gone

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Speaker 2: on a date with.

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Speaker 4: A friend like they're going on a date and you

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Speaker 4: just are like, I'm gonna come with you because I

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Speaker 4: don't for whatever reason.

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Speaker 2: Have you ever been the third wheel on like a

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Speaker 2: first date, on a first date? No, I have had people.

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Speaker 3: At my house for my first date when I'm getting

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Speaker 3: picked up, like okay, my friends.

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Speaker 2: Like be here, but not go on the date, but

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Speaker 2: like be here for the pick up. Also, I wonder

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Speaker 2: if it's different. Now, that's a good idea.

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Speaker 4: It's also wait a second, Well, I guess you're dating

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00:31:51,880 --> 00:31:54,480
Speaker 4: people that you know through somebody, because if you're just

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Speaker 4: letting a stranger pick you up on a first date,

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Speaker 4: that's wild.

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Speaker 3: Well I did let my current boyfriend pick me up

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Speaker 3: at my house for the first date because we have

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Speaker 3: mutual friends. Yeah, that's the only reason.

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Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, so your first interaction with him is

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Speaker 4: like a thirty minute car ride.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, well, I mean he picked me up, came to

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Speaker 3: my door, came in and met me, met cry okat

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Speaker 3: was here?

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Speaker 2: Were you so nervous? I don't remember this, but then

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Speaker 2: I do it.

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Speaker 3: I think I was a little nervous. But remember I

702
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Speaker 3: was just coming off of the whole lunch with Leslie debacle,

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Speaker 3: oh with the other guy. So I was like, yeah,

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00:32:24,880 --> 00:32:26,960
Speaker 3: I was in. My therapist was like, you need to

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Speaker 3: adult date. So I'm like, he look here, I am.

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Speaker 3: I'm out here adult dating. Look at me in a

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Speaker 3: thirty minute car ride to a restaurant. Plus, I was

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Speaker 3: really excited about the restaurant we were going to because

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Speaker 3: I hadn't been there yet and I'd wanted to go,

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Speaker 3: so was worth a thirty minute drive. And he wasn't

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Speaker 3: that awkward And I thought it was his car. I

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Speaker 3: didn't know the car we were in. Come to find

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Speaker 3: out later though, is his dead wife's car.

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Speaker 2: He didn't even bring his car.

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Speaker 3: I'm like, oh, so this is your wife's car that

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00:32:52,440 --> 00:32:54,360
Speaker 3: passed away. I shouldn't have stood it that.

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Speaker 2: Way, dead wife's car, but like that's in my brain.

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Speaker 3: I'm like, wait, this is your This isn't even your car,

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Speaker 3: Like you're driving the car that she drove.

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Speaker 2: I wonder if I've wanted her with him to support

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Speaker 2: I think this is far away gets a better gas mileage.

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Speaker 2: Oh it's not that deep.

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Speaker 4: Well, I was gonna say, I wonder if now, because

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Speaker 4: because we can share locations with people on our phone,

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Speaker 4: people don't feel the need to like go on the

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Speaker 4: date like back then. I don't know how many years

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Speaker 4: ago this was, but back then, like oh well when there.

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Speaker 3: Was an hour, no Karen's oh Karen, this was twenty

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Speaker 3: five years ago, so.

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Speaker 4: Okay, So like you couldn't know where your friend was

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Speaker 4: if they were going on a date with a stranger.

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Speaker 2: So you're like, I'll go with you.

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Speaker 4: But now it's just would you share your location with

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Speaker 4: me so I can just know if you're a kid? Exactly, Yes,

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Speaker 4: So it's not that right now that would be a

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Speaker 4: little bit more weird because we don't have to do that,

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Speaker 4: But back then it was probably actually like pretty smart.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you're gonna go out with some random guy that's

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Speaker 3: calling you from the grocery store that stalked your number. Yes,

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Speaker 3: that's a good friend. I hope you're still friends with

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Speaker 3: that person. But if you're not, we we sect that

742
00:33:53,360 --> 00:33:59,240
Speaker 3: because things things happen, and Kat and I hope to

743
00:33:59,280 --> 00:34:02,320
Speaker 3: be friends for a long time now. Yeah, but working

744
00:34:02,360 --> 00:34:05,520
Speaker 3: together has its challenges. However, we do love our sib

745
00:34:06,600 --> 00:34:09,120
Speaker 3: don't take that personally. It's just when you work closely

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Speaker 3: with somebody. Yeah, right, when I said that, you but

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Speaker 3: I don't mean that, I just mean I think we

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Speaker 3: have good systems in play.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I was kind of joking. I don't want you

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Speaker 2: to secure. Good.

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00:34:20,680 --> 00:34:25,600
Speaker 3: Well, we love that you're here, even if you're confused

752
00:34:26,440 --> 00:34:30,439
Speaker 3: or you're totally clear on what's happening, confused or clear.

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00:34:30,840 --> 00:34:33,600
Speaker 3: We're here for the connection and community.

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Speaker 2: C C c CC clear, confused, connection and community. That's us.

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Speaker 2: Come as you are.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, listen, okay, follow us on Instagram, TikTok, Feeling Things podcast.

757
00:34:46,280 --> 00:34:48,640
Speaker 3: Like I said, YouTube, mean where every guys work.

758
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Speaker 2: We're everywhere. You can't escape us.

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Speaker 3: Yeah all right, Well, we hope you're having the day

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Speaker 3: the day you need to have.

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Speaker 2: How hard on that b