1 00:00:01,000 --> 00:00:04,880 Speaker 1: All right, so here we go. This is the Strawberry Letter. 2 00:00:04,960 --> 00:00:09,040 Speaker 1: It is live today. We haven't done a live Strawberry 3 00:00:09,080 --> 00:00:15,040 Speaker 1: Letter in quite sometimes years. It's been a long time. Right, Well, 4 00:00:15,120 --> 00:00:19,000 Speaker 1: today we have a special guest. I'm sure you guys 5 00:00:19,040 --> 00:00:22,480 Speaker 1: have seen the own series Love and Marriage Huntsville. Love 6 00:00:22,520 --> 00:00:26,200 Speaker 1: and Marriage Huntsville from that show is one of the stars, 7 00:00:26,360 --> 00:00:30,720 Speaker 1: mister Martell Holt will be joining us today. Now, Steve, 8 00:00:30,800 --> 00:00:34,320 Speaker 1: let's clear something up. Okay, Martell reached out to us. 9 00:00:34,920 --> 00:00:38,200 Speaker 1: We did not go to find Martelle. Martell reached out 10 00:00:38,200 --> 00:00:42,839 Speaker 1: to us. He said he's sincerely seeking advice. Now. He 11 00:00:43,680 --> 00:00:47,640 Speaker 1: is attempting to move forward with his life, and he 12 00:00:47,680 --> 00:00:51,040 Speaker 1: knows that we encourage him to tell his truth. Let 13 00:00:51,040 --> 00:00:53,920 Speaker 1: me give you a little background about Love and Marriage Huntsville. 14 00:00:54,080 --> 00:00:59,280 Speaker 1: It is a reality show. Like I said, I've never 15 00:00:59,320 --> 00:01:03,960 Speaker 1: seen this show. I know, I love. Yeah, it's you know, 16 00:01:03,960 --> 00:01:08,200 Speaker 1: it's the number one show one. I'm gonna say that, 17 00:01:08,280 --> 00:01:12,560 Speaker 1: Martel is the number one show on Own. Everybody watching. Wait, wait, wait, 18 00:01:12,640 --> 00:01:18,319 Speaker 1: hold on, it's the number Yeah, it's the number one show. Brother, 19 00:01:18,319 --> 00:01:22,160 Speaker 1: It's okay, it's okay, Oh yeah, I think I think 20 00:01:22,200 --> 00:01:24,440 Speaker 1: Ready to love It is the number one so much, 21 00:01:24,520 --> 00:01:27,160 Speaker 1: Thank you is there's two different things go ahead, Sharlan. 22 00:01:31,160 --> 00:01:34,720 Speaker 1: Love and Marriage Huntsville is uh this show that seemed 23 00:01:34,760 --> 00:01:38,560 Speaker 1: to come out of nowhere, out of Huntsville, Alabama. It's 24 00:01:38,560 --> 00:01:45,199 Speaker 1: about these three very prosperous uh black couples entrepreneurial estate. Yeah, 25 00:01:45,240 --> 00:01:50,080 Speaker 1: their real estate, their development. Um. Anyway, they're in Huntsville, 26 00:01:50,120 --> 00:01:52,960 Speaker 1: Alabama and they have a group company name called the 27 00:01:53,040 --> 00:01:55,360 Speaker 1: Comeback Group. That's how it started, and that's what you 28 00:01:55,440 --> 00:01:57,720 Speaker 1: thought you were going to see, you know, how they 29 00:01:57,800 --> 00:02:02,080 Speaker 1: navigate through their businesses in their marriages. But what what 30 00:02:02,240 --> 00:02:06,600 Speaker 1: came out of that was the marriage between Martel and 31 00:02:06,800 --> 00:02:10,200 Speaker 1: Melody Holt and the dynamic of their marriage and what 32 00:02:10,360 --> 00:02:13,200 Speaker 1: they were going through. Comes to find come to find out, 33 00:02:13,520 --> 00:02:15,839 Speaker 1: there was a lot going on that we didn't even 34 00:02:15,880 --> 00:02:19,080 Speaker 1: know about. First. You see this beautiful couple, I mean beautiful. 35 00:02:20,040 --> 00:02:24,880 Speaker 1: Melody Holt is stunning, a stunningly gorgeous woman. They were married, 36 00:02:25,000 --> 00:02:29,079 Speaker 1: four children, three children. At first step, they had some problems, 37 00:02:29,160 --> 00:02:33,919 Speaker 1: she heard he was cheating. They worked through it, and 38 00:02:33,960 --> 00:02:36,520 Speaker 1: then she got pregnant. They got pregnant again with a 39 00:02:36,560 --> 00:02:39,600 Speaker 1: fourth child. So that's kind of how it was. Then 40 00:02:39,680 --> 00:02:43,240 Speaker 1: after that there were more rumors of cheating, more rumors 41 00:02:43,240 --> 00:02:48,000 Speaker 1: of cheating, and uh, well it didn't end so well 42 00:02:48,080 --> 00:02:52,959 Speaker 1: so far, mart They ended up in divorce court. It's 43 00:02:53,000 --> 00:02:56,160 Speaker 1: just a mess. Okay. It is just really, really really 44 00:02:56,200 --> 00:02:59,560 Speaker 1: at this point a mess. And you know people like mess. 45 00:03:00,160 --> 00:03:04,120 Speaker 1: So that's why we watched the show. That's why everybody 46 00:03:04,240 --> 00:03:07,680 Speaker 1: is so into love and marriage Huntsville on the own network. 47 00:03:07,960 --> 00:03:11,840 Speaker 1: So again, Martell reached out to us because you know, 48 00:03:11,919 --> 00:03:15,520 Speaker 1: he is getting bashed and uh, you know some people 49 00:03:15,520 --> 00:03:18,639 Speaker 1: say deservedly so because he cheated. He had a beautiful 50 00:03:18,680 --> 00:03:22,880 Speaker 1: family and he cheated and lost his family. So now 51 00:03:23,000 --> 00:03:26,840 Speaker 1: he wants advice. I'm assuming Martell, you're you're you want 52 00:03:26,880 --> 00:03:30,520 Speaker 1: to move forward and try to you know, uh go 53 00:03:30,639 --> 00:03:35,600 Speaker 1: on with your life basically. Is that why you're here? Um? 54 00:03:35,640 --> 00:03:40,160 Speaker 1: Definitely so, Um, I would definitely say that being a husband. 55 00:03:40,200 --> 00:03:43,680 Speaker 1: I'm sorry being a husband. And you know I'm not 56 00:03:43,680 --> 00:03:46,600 Speaker 1: gonna say not having a father figure or I'm not 57 00:03:46,640 --> 00:03:49,440 Speaker 1: having a black role model, Um, not having that as 58 00:03:49,440 --> 00:03:52,200 Speaker 1: an excuse. But you know, I was really like learning 59 00:03:52,200 --> 00:03:54,680 Speaker 1: like trial and error as I was going. You know, 60 00:03:54,960 --> 00:03:58,440 Speaker 1: uncle who's married for like twelve thirteen years, and you know, 61 00:03:58,680 --> 00:04:00,640 Speaker 1: we had a lot of up to down great times 62 00:04:00,680 --> 00:04:05,720 Speaker 1: and not so great times. And but you know I failed, um, 63 00:04:05,760 --> 00:04:08,640 Speaker 1: and you know that's why I'm here because for my 64 00:04:08,720 --> 00:04:11,960 Speaker 1: future I want to be better here at point blame, 65 00:04:12,160 --> 00:04:13,840 Speaker 1: you know. I don't want to continue to do the 66 00:04:13,880 --> 00:04:15,839 Speaker 1: things that I've done the pass. Okay. Can I ask 67 00:04:15,880 --> 00:04:18,520 Speaker 1: a question because I don't know the answer to So 68 00:04:18,760 --> 00:04:21,799 Speaker 1: is are you divorced? Are you married? Is it over? 69 00:04:22,160 --> 00:04:27,360 Speaker 1: Are you trying to reconcile? Yeah? Um, well no, um 70 00:04:27,560 --> 00:04:29,640 Speaker 1: we um. The divorce is final. I mean it was 71 00:04:29,680 --> 00:04:33,239 Speaker 1: final as about a month ago. Okay. But it's life 72 00:04:33,279 --> 00:04:37,320 Speaker 1: after marriage or life after a divorce, you know. Yeah, 73 00:04:37,360 --> 00:04:41,920 Speaker 1: well yeah, I do know. So why I know as well? 74 00:04:45,839 --> 00:04:49,000 Speaker 1: You call the right to figure out how to do 75 00:04:49,040 --> 00:04:52,840 Speaker 1: it again? Almost. I think marriage is a beautiful thing. 76 00:04:53,000 --> 00:04:56,200 Speaker 1: It really is. I enjoyed being married, um, and just 77 00:04:56,320 --> 00:04:58,000 Speaker 1: some things that happen up and I guess I just 78 00:04:58,080 --> 00:05:01,160 Speaker 1: really I dropped the ball. I okay, okay, okay, So 79 00:05:01,279 --> 00:05:02,920 Speaker 1: let me ask you. So, when you say you dropped 80 00:05:02,920 --> 00:05:05,000 Speaker 1: the ball, tell me where you where you think you 81 00:05:05,040 --> 00:05:10,599 Speaker 1: went wrong? Thinking that I deserve more? Well, I'm not 82 00:05:10,600 --> 00:05:13,360 Speaker 1: gonna say that careful. I think I was being greedy 83 00:05:13,440 --> 00:05:15,719 Speaker 1: I think I was being greedy, you know, and at times, 84 00:05:15,720 --> 00:05:18,520 Speaker 1: you know, I would definitely say that I was saying 85 00:05:18,560 --> 00:05:22,120 Speaker 1: that my wife wasn't doing certain things within the relationship. Um, 86 00:05:22,200 --> 00:05:25,000 Speaker 1: but I guess I should have communicated that in a 87 00:05:25,000 --> 00:05:29,800 Speaker 1: different way. I'm opposed to stepping out, you know. Okay, yeah, okay, Well, 88 00:05:29,800 --> 00:05:32,839 Speaker 1: we're not gonna do is. We're just gonna tell your truth. 89 00:05:32,839 --> 00:05:35,320 Speaker 1: We're gonna leave your ex wife. We're not gonna we're 90 00:05:35,360 --> 00:05:39,120 Speaker 1: not gonna bash or blame. Oh no, no, no no, no, no, melody, 91 00:05:39,560 --> 00:05:42,360 Speaker 1: that's not at all, not at all. I was just 92 00:05:42,480 --> 00:05:44,599 Speaker 1: saying how I messed up, how I should have handled 93 00:05:44,600 --> 00:05:47,720 Speaker 1: it in a different way. Yeah. So no, no, no, 94 00:05:47,720 --> 00:05:50,120 Speaker 1: no bashing, no negative to anything of that nature. I 95 00:05:50,200 --> 00:05:53,080 Speaker 1: look kind I kind of felt that for me. But 96 00:05:53,120 --> 00:05:55,120 Speaker 1: there was a lot of that though, Steve, which is 97 00:05:55,160 --> 00:05:57,560 Speaker 1: why I said it on the show. A lot. Yeah, 98 00:05:57,600 --> 00:06:00,400 Speaker 1: there was a lot of that. What he he didn't 99 00:06:00,440 --> 00:06:03,560 Speaker 1: do it just now, I ain't seen the show, So 100 00:06:03,720 --> 00:06:06,280 Speaker 1: let me, let me, let me keep saying, that's how 101 00:06:06,320 --> 00:06:08,159 Speaker 1: the women, that's how the women come at me, just 102 00:06:08,360 --> 00:06:11,040 Speaker 1: like he just did. That's how that's how they come 103 00:06:11,040 --> 00:06:18,039 Speaker 1: at me. That's father dog. Yeah, Hey, that's forever you living. 104 00:06:18,080 --> 00:06:21,800 Speaker 1: This one down gonna be. But Martell, you're here. You 105 00:06:22,120 --> 00:06:24,279 Speaker 1: wanted to come, We allowed you to come. We welcome 106 00:06:24,360 --> 00:06:26,400 Speaker 1: you to the show, and we do want you to 107 00:06:26,400 --> 00:06:29,240 Speaker 1: tell your side of it. We welcome Melody to do 108 00:06:29,279 --> 00:06:31,520 Speaker 1: the same thing if she would like to. Well, when 109 00:06:31,520 --> 00:06:34,400 Speaker 1: we come back, Yeah, I have a couple of questions 110 00:06:34,480 --> 00:06:36,840 Speaker 1: that you can answer for me, and then we'll go 111 00:06:36,920 --> 00:06:41,080 Speaker 1: from there. Our special guest today is Martell Hope from 112 00:06:41,320 --> 00:06:45,279 Speaker 1: h Love and Marriage Huntsville on the own channel, straight 113 00:06:45,320 --> 00:06:51,560 Speaker 1: up on L sixty five. We'll be back right after that. 114 00:06:53,360 --> 00:06:58,119 Speaker 1: You're listening, Steven show. All right, Steve, we are back 115 00:06:58,160 --> 00:07:01,120 Speaker 1: with our live Strawberry Letter, Like we said earlier, the 116 00:07:01,120 --> 00:07:03,400 Speaker 1: first one we've done in many, many years. Our special 117 00:07:03,400 --> 00:07:07,160 Speaker 1: guest today is Martell Holt from the own networks Love 118 00:07:07,279 --> 00:07:11,040 Speaker 1: and Marriage Huntsville. We can recap. So do you have 119 00:07:11,080 --> 00:07:13,360 Speaker 1: an idea of kind of what's going on now? Steve? 120 00:07:13,400 --> 00:07:15,600 Speaker 1: I know you said you haven't watched Yeah, I haven't 121 00:07:15,600 --> 00:07:17,920 Speaker 1: watched the show, but just brothers on here. He had 122 00:07:17,920 --> 00:07:24,080 Speaker 1: a family, he lost his family because he cheating. Well, 123 00:07:24,160 --> 00:07:26,200 Speaker 1: yeah he didn't. He didn't know how to how to, 124 00:07:26,440 --> 00:07:29,200 Speaker 1: how to how to how to do it, and he said, 125 00:07:29,240 --> 00:07:32,960 Speaker 1: in his own words, he was just greedy, and uh 126 00:07:33,120 --> 00:07:35,600 Speaker 1: so it caused it. Themis of his family, who I 127 00:07:35,640 --> 00:07:38,560 Speaker 1: just pulled a pitch and looked up beautiful family. And 128 00:07:38,640 --> 00:07:41,480 Speaker 1: so the divorce is final. Now, so let me ask 129 00:07:41,520 --> 00:07:47,920 Speaker 1: you this, Martell, if you could do anything differently, what 130 00:07:47,960 --> 00:07:54,080 Speaker 1: would you have done? The fuck could have done anything differently? 131 00:07:54,120 --> 00:08:00,760 Speaker 1: What would have been? Um? I think the communication with 132 00:08:00,800 --> 00:08:05,120 Speaker 1: my wife, I think just but like like what she 133 00:08:05,200 --> 00:08:06,880 Speaker 1: mentioned to me, what I should have done it. I 134 00:08:06,880 --> 00:08:10,760 Speaker 1: should have literally grabbed her and set her down and 135 00:08:10,840 --> 00:08:14,560 Speaker 1: had that adult conversation. Opposed to the things that I 136 00:08:14,640 --> 00:08:17,400 Speaker 1: was complaining about, I would just complain candidly, you know, 137 00:08:17,480 --> 00:08:20,320 Speaker 1: opposed to really saying, hey, listen, we have an issue. 138 00:08:20,920 --> 00:08:24,840 Speaker 1: Let's sit down, let's talk about it. Because it's making 139 00:08:24,840 --> 00:08:28,360 Speaker 1: me feel a certain way that's not wasn't be pleasant 140 00:08:28,360 --> 00:08:33,640 Speaker 1: for our marriage. So like what she mentioned, I better communication. Okay, 141 00:08:33,640 --> 00:08:38,320 Speaker 1: Now let me ask you something were you while you 142 00:08:38,360 --> 00:08:44,280 Speaker 1: would ask having these verbal complaints? Was there anything you 143 00:08:44,440 --> 00:08:48,560 Speaker 1: was doing that deserved a complaint? Well? She she wasn't 144 00:08:48,559 --> 00:08:52,000 Speaker 1: complaining about about too much. You know, we we had children, 145 00:08:52,320 --> 00:08:55,600 Speaker 1: m where we have children and you know a lot 146 00:08:55,600 --> 00:08:57,679 Speaker 1: of the times I was like a more dumb at parent. 147 00:08:58,120 --> 00:09:02,120 Speaker 1: You know it well, But no, it wasn't anything that 148 00:09:02,160 --> 00:09:05,320 Speaker 1: she was complaining about. It wasn't well, let me dog 149 00:09:05,679 --> 00:09:08,960 Speaker 1: was was no? No, no was it? She wasn't complaining 150 00:09:08,960 --> 00:09:13,280 Speaker 1: because she didn't know everything? Right, Um, I'm not sure. 151 00:09:13,600 --> 00:09:15,000 Speaker 1: I mean, we don't have to have her on the 152 00:09:15,080 --> 00:09:20,320 Speaker 1: phone for that, because me did you did it? Was 153 00:09:20,400 --> 00:09:23,400 Speaker 1: you hiding the cheating part pretty good? And for how 154 00:09:23,440 --> 00:09:31,719 Speaker 1: long before about it? Yeah? I was when I was complaining, 155 00:09:32,040 --> 00:09:34,480 Speaker 1: when I started to complain. That's around the same time 156 00:09:34,600 --> 00:09:37,840 Speaker 1: that I stepped out. Yeah, when I started to complain 157 00:09:38,280 --> 00:09:42,199 Speaker 1: certain things that wasn't a justice so ain't I wanted it? 158 00:09:42,240 --> 00:09:45,760 Speaker 1: Which was selfish? Um, this when I stepped out, and 159 00:09:45,880 --> 00:09:47,640 Speaker 1: you know, it went on for about a year before 160 00:09:47,679 --> 00:09:50,360 Speaker 1: she found out, went on for a year. Now, let 161 00:09:50,400 --> 00:09:54,080 Speaker 1: me ask yourself, do you think in your mind that 162 00:09:54,160 --> 00:09:58,040 Speaker 1: the stepping out also bought about the demise of the relationship. 163 00:09:58,840 --> 00:10:02,600 Speaker 1: I would definitely say so, because that probably um took 164 00:10:02,800 --> 00:10:05,280 Speaker 1: something out of me that could have been going towards 165 00:10:05,320 --> 00:10:08,959 Speaker 1: my wife and I was situating over here to someone else. 166 00:10:09,160 --> 00:10:11,600 Speaker 1: So I totally agree with that. And there was a 167 00:10:11,640 --> 00:10:15,960 Speaker 1: baby involved Steve. What you mean he has a baby 168 00:10:17,360 --> 00:10:22,160 Speaker 1: with this other woman? Huh yes, yeah, yeah, he has 169 00:10:22,160 --> 00:10:28,080 Speaker 1: a baby about you know, five years on down the line. Yeah, women, dog, 170 00:10:28,160 --> 00:10:33,400 Speaker 1: what what I mean? You don't watch the show why 171 00:10:33,520 --> 00:10:40,840 Speaker 1: with this other woman? Yeah? You the other woman got pregnant. 172 00:10:41,480 --> 00:10:45,440 Speaker 1: She did. I mean this is when we um said 173 00:10:45,480 --> 00:10:46,880 Speaker 1: that we was going to get divorced and all that 174 00:10:46,920 --> 00:10:50,600 Speaker 1: type stuff. So, um, it's not like it happened early on, 175 00:10:50,679 --> 00:10:54,480 Speaker 1: but it happened. Um. Well, hold on, now, hold on, now, 176 00:10:55,120 --> 00:10:59,840 Speaker 1: hold on, because after she found out she was cheating, 177 00:11:01,280 --> 00:11:05,840 Speaker 1: how long were you all married after she found out? Um? 178 00:11:05,880 --> 00:11:10,880 Speaker 1: Five years. It took her five years to find out. No, 179 00:11:10,880 --> 00:11:16,319 Speaker 1: no, no no, no, she found out five years ago. Oh okay, 180 00:11:16,320 --> 00:11:18,280 Speaker 1: so she stayed with you after she found out she 181 00:11:18,400 --> 00:11:23,760 Speaker 1: was cheating. Yeah, okay, but okay, how old? How old 182 00:11:23,840 --> 00:11:29,400 Speaker 1: is the baby? The new baby? Um? Newborn? It was 183 00:11:29,520 --> 00:11:35,640 Speaker 1: born around Christmas? Right this Christmas? No, it's a newborn. 184 00:11:36,880 --> 00:11:40,480 Speaker 1: We we can't undo none of it is. So I'm 185 00:11:40,480 --> 00:11:42,640 Speaker 1: just trying to get the facts. Okay, Okay, So I 186 00:11:42,720 --> 00:11:45,000 Speaker 1: just leave it long. You got a new born, but 187 00:11:45,160 --> 00:11:48,200 Speaker 1: you have how many children with your wife? The warner 188 00:11:48,280 --> 00:11:51,280 Speaker 1: you were married? You got four kids. How close in 189 00:11:51,400 --> 00:11:57,679 Speaker 1: age is the last two? See um well, Malia Melanne 190 00:11:58,160 --> 00:12:02,560 Speaker 1: she is once they wanted the hand, and my third 191 00:12:02,760 --> 00:12:11,360 Speaker 1: ones five, So it's like a four year difference. She 192 00:12:11,480 --> 00:12:18,640 Speaker 1: found out five years ago. He has a Well before 193 00:12:18,640 --> 00:12:21,880 Speaker 1: we I want us to say this to Steve before 194 00:12:21,920 --> 00:12:24,439 Speaker 1: we do run out of time. Martell did come on 195 00:12:24,559 --> 00:12:26,920 Speaker 1: here to get some advice from No, that's what we're 196 00:12:26,920 --> 00:12:29,040 Speaker 1: gonna do. That's why we we go. This is longer 197 00:12:29,040 --> 00:12:33,000 Speaker 1: than two Strawberry Letters. It is we find to carry 198 00:12:33,040 --> 00:12:35,440 Speaker 1: this over to break number three because I do what 199 00:12:35,559 --> 00:12:37,000 Speaker 1: I do. I don't want to. I do want to 200 00:12:37,000 --> 00:12:40,000 Speaker 1: hear the soldier out, Yeah, because look I've been there, 201 00:12:40,080 --> 00:12:43,080 Speaker 1: and then you know, men can quit tripping. Every man, 202 00:12:43,360 --> 00:12:49,800 Speaker 1: every man, not this story. Stop acting, stop acting brand 203 00:12:49,840 --> 00:12:54,040 Speaker 1: new every man, not this story. All right, hold up, 204 00:12:54,200 --> 00:12:56,480 Speaker 1: hold up, Steve Well, we'll have part three of the 205 00:12:56,480 --> 00:12:59,800 Speaker 1: Strawberry Letter with our special guest, this Live Strawberry Letter 206 00:12:59,840 --> 00:13:04,520 Speaker 1: with Martell Hope of Martell Holt from A Loving Marriage, Huntsville. 207 00:13:04,760 --> 00:13:06,920 Speaker 1: We'll be back at forty six minutes after the hour 208 00:13:07,040 --> 00:13:12,480 Speaker 1: right after this. You're listening all right Here we are 209 00:13:12,520 --> 00:13:17,440 Speaker 1: Steve Live with Martell Holt from Owen's Love and Marriage Huntsville. 210 00:13:17,920 --> 00:13:20,320 Speaker 1: Now Martell has come on for advice. He's come on 211 00:13:20,320 --> 00:13:22,640 Speaker 1: the show for advice. Now, I had to get some background. 212 00:13:22,679 --> 00:13:25,360 Speaker 1: Took me two breaks to get the background. Martell was 213 00:13:25,400 --> 00:13:29,200 Speaker 1: married to a woman. They have a family together. He 214 00:13:29,280 --> 00:13:33,000 Speaker 1: admittedly stepped out and now found out there's another child 215 00:13:33,120 --> 00:13:36,920 Speaker 1: involved and the divorces final, and so now here he 216 00:13:37,040 --> 00:13:40,320 Speaker 1: is and he's admitted that he did some things wrong. 217 00:13:40,440 --> 00:13:44,319 Speaker 1: What I learned myself was you can't fix in your house. 218 00:13:44,480 --> 00:13:47,720 Speaker 1: You can't fix what's wrong in your house outside your house. 219 00:13:48,280 --> 00:13:52,000 Speaker 1: And a lot of men go that route to be 220 00:13:52,120 --> 00:13:54,560 Speaker 1: honest with you. You know, there's something wrong and they 221 00:13:54,679 --> 00:13:56,760 Speaker 1: and they started telling it to somebody and somebody to 222 00:13:56,760 --> 00:13:59,440 Speaker 1: give a listening. In next thing, you know, they're listening 223 00:13:59,679 --> 00:14:02,440 Speaker 1: real good and they seem to be understanding the next thing. 224 00:14:02,480 --> 00:14:06,360 Speaker 1: You know, you know, some some things jump off. So Martel, 225 00:14:07,040 --> 00:14:09,360 Speaker 1: where we're at right now? Man? What would you like 226 00:14:09,440 --> 00:14:12,440 Speaker 1: to accomplish with this phone call? You know? Um? So 227 00:14:12,640 --> 00:14:14,520 Speaker 1: right now, I guess I'm going through a tough time 228 00:14:14,559 --> 00:14:18,320 Speaker 1: because we do have our four children. Um, I divorced 229 00:14:18,320 --> 00:14:21,680 Speaker 1: this Um it's been over what about a month ago now? 230 00:14:22,360 --> 00:14:27,680 Speaker 1: And I guess I do want to move forward, um, 231 00:14:27,760 --> 00:14:29,760 Speaker 1: but I guess I need to know how do I 232 00:14:29,840 --> 00:14:33,360 Speaker 1: move on? Um? In terms of like do I start 233 00:14:33,400 --> 00:14:37,200 Speaker 1: to you know, I'm not gonna say start dating someone now, 234 00:14:37,320 --> 00:14:40,360 Speaker 1: but like, like, what does the feature look like? You've 235 00:14:40,400 --> 00:14:43,880 Speaker 1: been doing that? Don't say I don't worry about that, 236 00:14:44,080 --> 00:14:47,800 Speaker 1: but let me but let me say this, because I 237 00:14:47,840 --> 00:14:50,320 Speaker 1: don't care how a marriage go. At the end of 238 00:14:50,320 --> 00:14:53,280 Speaker 1: the day, the children had nothing to do with it. 239 00:14:53,800 --> 00:14:57,000 Speaker 1: And every man that has been found guilty of this, 240 00:14:58,080 --> 00:15:02,720 Speaker 1: every last one of us who have been guilty of this, 241 00:15:03,040 --> 00:15:05,760 Speaker 1: have had to grapple with the facts that we blew 242 00:15:05,760 --> 00:15:10,720 Speaker 1: a family. Yeah, we we messed up a family. Yeah, 243 00:15:10,760 --> 00:15:14,040 Speaker 1: I'm baland with right now soon yeah, man, because it's 244 00:15:14,120 --> 00:15:17,840 Speaker 1: and it's and it's hard man, because you know, in 245 00:15:18,120 --> 00:15:22,040 Speaker 1: the words of Tyrese in that song, shame, what am 246 00:15:22,040 --> 00:15:27,320 Speaker 1: I supposed to tell these kids? See, that's that's the gripper. 247 00:15:28,160 --> 00:15:31,160 Speaker 1: And that's why a lot of us, as men, we 248 00:15:31,240 --> 00:15:34,800 Speaker 1: don't have groups to help us through these moments like this. Okay, 249 00:15:34,840 --> 00:15:40,200 Speaker 1: he is seeing a therapist, Steve, by the way, a therapist. Yeah, 250 00:15:40,200 --> 00:15:44,120 Speaker 1: he's seeing a therapist. I have it's the therapist is 251 00:15:44,160 --> 00:15:48,440 Speaker 1: he divorced. No, No, we've been about thirty something years 252 00:15:48,480 --> 00:15:50,480 Speaker 1: and my thing is the reason I wanted to speak 253 00:15:50,480 --> 00:15:53,440 Speaker 1: with you, honestly, is because I feel that you've been 254 00:15:53,560 --> 00:15:57,200 Speaker 1: through some things. That's what I'm saying. And you are 255 00:15:57,280 --> 00:15:59,720 Speaker 1: like the best person to seek advice from someone that 256 00:15:59,760 --> 00:16:02,520 Speaker 1: has act and I'm gonna talk to you. You You don't 257 00:16:02,520 --> 00:16:06,160 Speaker 1: go learn how to squeal on somebody case squills. All right, 258 00:16:06,240 --> 00:16:08,840 Speaker 1: all right, we're gonna come back more break number eight. 259 00:16:10,480 --> 00:16:15,680 Speaker 1: All right, more with Martell Hopte from Love and Marriage, Huntsville. 260 00:16:16,520 --> 00:16:19,240 Speaker 1: Right after this. This is the Steve Harvey Morning Show. 261 00:16:19,680 --> 00:16:24,840 Speaker 1: You're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show. All right, 262 00:16:24,880 --> 00:16:28,600 Speaker 1: our special guest. This is a special live edition of 263 00:16:28,840 --> 00:16:32,800 Speaker 1: the Strawberry Letter for today. Our guest is Martell Hopte. 264 00:16:32,920 --> 00:16:37,680 Speaker 1: That's right, I said, Martell Hopte from Love and Marriage, Huntsville. 265 00:16:37,800 --> 00:16:41,720 Speaker 1: On own, Martell reached out to us. He is seeking 266 00:16:41,760 --> 00:16:45,520 Speaker 1: advice from Steve. He wanted, Uh, he wants to move 267 00:16:45,520 --> 00:16:48,160 Speaker 1: on now. He wants to move on. And it's nothing 268 00:16:48,200 --> 00:16:50,360 Speaker 1: wrong with that because that is life. You have to 269 00:16:50,400 --> 00:16:53,480 Speaker 1: move on, you know, that's how we learn, We make mistakes, 270 00:16:53,520 --> 00:16:57,560 Speaker 1: We move on. Steve. Now, Martell as informed me of 271 00:16:57,600 --> 00:17:00,800 Speaker 1: what happened. He had a marriage, had some things going 272 00:17:00,840 --> 00:17:03,040 Speaker 1: wrong in it, he didn't know how to handle it. 273 00:17:03,240 --> 00:17:07,199 Speaker 1: He admittedly handled it the wrong way. He lost his family, 274 00:17:07,320 --> 00:17:12,080 Speaker 1: divorces final, he has children and another child outside the marriage. 275 00:17:12,359 --> 00:17:15,480 Speaker 1: And today he's sitting here with face with what I know, 276 00:17:15,560 --> 00:17:17,960 Speaker 1: a lot of me and a face with you know, 277 00:17:18,000 --> 00:17:21,480 Speaker 1: I've had to look at it myself. And so what 278 00:17:21,520 --> 00:17:24,080 Speaker 1: I'm saying to you now, Martel, is if I were 279 00:17:24,080 --> 00:17:28,280 Speaker 1: you to move forward, because you are now your your 280 00:17:28,320 --> 00:17:33,480 Speaker 1: divorces is public. It's crazy. So now you know you're 281 00:17:33,480 --> 00:17:36,720 Speaker 1: getting ate up alive by by women. They're not trying 282 00:17:36,720 --> 00:17:41,040 Speaker 1: to hear you. But the one thing you could do, see, 283 00:17:41,080 --> 00:17:43,919 Speaker 1: the one thing men don't do is we don't do 284 00:17:44,160 --> 00:17:50,520 Speaker 1: closure right and sometimes man, closure is a very significant 285 00:17:50,600 --> 00:17:55,520 Speaker 1: thing for women, especially public because since your wife was 286 00:17:55,640 --> 00:18:01,400 Speaker 1: embarrassed publicly see see it's it's like it's like when 287 00:18:01,400 --> 00:18:05,359 Speaker 1: the newspaper make a mistake and the rebuttal and be 288 00:18:05,480 --> 00:18:07,879 Speaker 1: front page mistake, but then the rebuttal be in the 289 00:18:08,000 --> 00:18:12,879 Speaker 1: classified section in small print. We made a mistake. They 290 00:18:12,920 --> 00:18:16,480 Speaker 1: don't do that. So probably the beginning of helping your 291 00:18:16,520 --> 00:18:22,720 Speaker 1: girl and yourself and your kids, is to publicly apologize 292 00:18:22,800 --> 00:18:26,240 Speaker 1: to her and admit you're wrong in it so that 293 00:18:26,400 --> 00:18:30,160 Speaker 1: she can get some type of relief from what she's 294 00:18:30,200 --> 00:18:33,840 Speaker 1: been filling with publicly. You feel what I'm saying, I 295 00:18:33,880 --> 00:18:39,600 Speaker 1: don't understand. She's not gonna forgive him. That's not happen. 296 00:18:40,920 --> 00:18:43,440 Speaker 1: They don't worry about that. That ain't what you after. 297 00:18:44,000 --> 00:18:48,560 Speaker 1: He has to make her whole, not himself hole. And 298 00:18:48,680 --> 00:18:51,080 Speaker 1: so what he tried to do is find a way 299 00:18:51,160 --> 00:18:54,119 Speaker 1: so he can kind of put something together for this woman. 300 00:18:54,440 --> 00:18:56,320 Speaker 1: I think that would be an interesting way to go 301 00:18:56,400 --> 00:19:01,160 Speaker 1: about it, to publicly address this situation and put her 302 00:19:01,200 --> 00:19:03,960 Speaker 1: at these so she's not at fault for some of 303 00:19:03,960 --> 00:19:07,960 Speaker 1: the things you may have said publicly about her. It 304 00:19:08,040 --> 00:19:11,080 Speaker 1: was just probably you lashing out trying to cover and 305 00:19:11,160 --> 00:19:13,240 Speaker 1: all this here because I know man, Look man, whenever, 306 00:19:13,280 --> 00:19:15,359 Speaker 1: when you know man, when we as men do wrong, 307 00:19:15,760 --> 00:19:19,280 Speaker 1: we we justify wrong with telling the woman what she 308 00:19:19,359 --> 00:19:23,240 Speaker 1: did wrong and caused us to do wrong. And that's 309 00:19:23,280 --> 00:19:25,520 Speaker 1: what I've been doing for quite sometime. We'll listen to 310 00:19:26,040 --> 00:19:29,600 Speaker 1: um see I see Um Schirley. She's manking in certain 311 00:19:29,600 --> 00:19:31,879 Speaker 1: things in terms of like I publicly said this and that, 312 00:19:32,280 --> 00:19:34,439 Speaker 1: so we started feeling the show. I didn't want to 313 00:19:34,480 --> 00:19:38,280 Speaker 1: put our business on TV. I didn't I didn't want 314 00:19:38,280 --> 00:19:42,320 Speaker 1: to publicly talk about but the show did. But they 315 00:19:42,400 --> 00:19:44,879 Speaker 1: did it. No, no one would have known anything. And 316 00:19:44,960 --> 00:19:47,359 Speaker 1: it was a surprise to me when she hit me 317 00:19:47,400 --> 00:19:49,720 Speaker 1: with it. It was on TV. So that was the 318 00:19:49,760 --> 00:19:52,600 Speaker 1: first letter right there. I tell people all the time, 319 00:19:52,680 --> 00:19:56,119 Speaker 1: if you want your marriage to not survive, put it 320 00:19:56,160 --> 00:19:59,800 Speaker 1: on TV. I think the beginning, no, montell, is the 321 00:20:00,119 --> 00:20:05,000 Speaker 1: public statement to make her whole again and not yourself. 322 00:20:04,720 --> 00:20:08,640 Speaker 1: That's the beginning because it provides an element of closure, 323 00:20:09,400 --> 00:20:15,720 Speaker 1: and then after that there is a little bit of 324 00:20:15,720 --> 00:20:20,280 Speaker 1: of suffering that you have to endure. I did it, man, 325 00:20:20,440 --> 00:20:24,879 Speaker 1: I know, and and mine wasn't entirely my fault either, 326 00:20:25,680 --> 00:20:29,280 Speaker 1: I can tell you flat out. But in the court 327 00:20:29,320 --> 00:20:35,639 Speaker 1: of public opinion, it don't matter, doggy, In the court 328 00:20:35,720 --> 00:20:41,920 Speaker 1: of public opinion, it doesn't matter. Martell. No, no, no, 329 00:20:42,160 --> 00:20:44,440 Speaker 1: I'm just saying it just doesn't matter. I'm not saying 330 00:20:44,480 --> 00:20:47,760 Speaker 1: to be a victim. It just don't matter. A dude, 331 00:20:48,200 --> 00:20:50,919 Speaker 1: I don't give it, damn what you say. You know, 332 00:20:51,160 --> 00:20:53,879 Speaker 1: So it's gonna be a level of suffering that you 333 00:20:53,960 --> 00:20:57,320 Speaker 1: have to endure because of the pain that was inflicted. 334 00:20:57,760 --> 00:21:00,320 Speaker 1: Hang on, Martell, Okay, we gotta take a quick right here. 335 00:21:00,359 --> 00:21:04,040 Speaker 1: We'll be back with more of this Live Strawberry Letter 336 00:21:04,080 --> 00:21:09,720 Speaker 1: reality show right after this. You're listening to Dave Harvey 337 00:21:09,800 --> 00:21:14,520 Speaker 1: Morning Show. All right, we're back with part five. It 338 00:21:14,680 --> 00:21:20,120 Speaker 1: is part five of our Live straw of our Live 339 00:21:20,200 --> 00:21:23,879 Speaker 1: Strawberry Letter reality show today with our special guest Martell Holt, 340 00:21:24,080 --> 00:21:27,440 Speaker 1: who reached out to us. He wanted some advice during 341 00:21:27,480 --> 00:21:29,679 Speaker 1: the Strawberry Letter segment, and that is what we do. 342 00:21:29,720 --> 00:21:34,080 Speaker 1: We give advice, and Martell is here seeking that and 343 00:21:34,440 --> 00:21:37,200 Speaker 1: we're trying to do that. And Carla during the break, 344 00:21:37,200 --> 00:21:39,919 Speaker 1: he said, well, hold on one second, but Jess, he 345 00:21:40,040 --> 00:21:42,240 Speaker 1: came on the show. He told me a situation. His 346 00:21:42,400 --> 00:21:47,879 Speaker 1: wife is divorced, yet outside relationships as another baby involved. 347 00:21:48,200 --> 00:21:51,679 Speaker 1: The divorce is finalized. He loves his wife, he's not 348 00:21:51,880 --> 00:21:55,480 Speaker 1: in love with her, and his whole thing was what 349 00:21:55,560 --> 00:21:59,680 Speaker 1: can I do to move forward? My first suggestion is 350 00:21:59,680 --> 00:22:02,520 Speaker 1: to vibe this woman with some type of closure. What 351 00:22:02,720 --> 00:22:05,720 Speaker 1: you publicly did to her and said to her. The 352 00:22:05,800 --> 00:22:09,160 Speaker 1: apology has to be at that same level. See it 353 00:22:09,280 --> 00:22:11,840 Speaker 1: kills me when people talk about me on the internet. 354 00:22:11,880 --> 00:22:14,200 Speaker 1: Then when I catch him somewhere, they want to say 355 00:22:14,240 --> 00:22:17,440 Speaker 1: I'm sorry in the dressing room. No, Joe, I ask 356 00:22:17,480 --> 00:22:19,960 Speaker 1: it on that same internet you was on when you 357 00:22:20,040 --> 00:22:21,760 Speaker 1: was talking to all that yak. Then when I got 358 00:22:21,800 --> 00:22:23,840 Speaker 1: up in your face, man to man, now you now 359 00:22:23,840 --> 00:22:26,840 Speaker 1: you're down to something else. I'll break this too, Damn sure, 360 00:22:27,640 --> 00:22:30,840 Speaker 1: I think Martel. What's missing is you just did not 361 00:22:31,480 --> 00:22:35,880 Speaker 1: show any remorse. It didn't. You broke her heart. But 362 00:22:35,920 --> 00:22:38,639 Speaker 1: the one thing that I never got from you was 363 00:22:38,720 --> 00:22:42,920 Speaker 1: that you were sorry. Oldown We're gonna give you a chance, Martell, 364 00:22:43,400 --> 00:22:46,639 Speaker 1: to respond and to make it right and try to 365 00:22:46,680 --> 00:22:48,679 Speaker 1: make it right and apologize and all that. But we 366 00:22:48,720 --> 00:22:51,280 Speaker 1: got to take another break and we'll be back with 367 00:22:51,280 --> 00:22:54,920 Speaker 1: more of this Live Strawberry Letter reality show right after this. 368 00:22:55,560 --> 00:23:01,040 Speaker 1: You're listening, Hey, listen, y'all we back. I'm taking this 369 00:23:01,160 --> 00:23:04,200 Speaker 1: kind of fast. Martel Holt is on the on the 370 00:23:05,240 --> 00:23:09,439 Speaker 1: phone with us today on the radio. His family's broken up, 371 00:23:09,520 --> 00:23:13,119 Speaker 1: his wife is divorced to uh, he was unhappy, he 372 00:23:13,200 --> 00:23:17,040 Speaker 1: stepped out. There's another child involved. Carlin brought up an 373 00:23:17,040 --> 00:23:19,560 Speaker 1: interesting point while we've been talking about all of this, 374 00:23:20,240 --> 00:23:23,400 Speaker 1: is that the reason so many women our team Melody 375 00:23:23,560 --> 00:23:27,720 Speaker 1: is because they kind of watched you break up on 376 00:23:27,960 --> 00:23:31,280 Speaker 1: television with some of the things you said, and Carlin said, 377 00:23:31,320 --> 00:23:36,480 Speaker 1: you've never seen quite remorseful about it, innocencere way, how 378 00:23:36,480 --> 00:23:39,640 Speaker 1: do you respond to that? Martel Um, I am very 379 00:23:40,000 --> 00:23:43,359 Speaker 1: I'm very sorry, and you know, I didn't want to 380 00:23:43,400 --> 00:23:46,320 Speaker 1: bring this against my family. You know, as many times 381 00:23:46,320 --> 00:23:50,000 Speaker 1: that I prayed, I'm on my knees and asked the 382 00:23:50,080 --> 00:23:53,879 Speaker 1: Lord to really for real, like remove this s in 383 00:23:54,040 --> 00:23:57,000 Speaker 1: from me. You know. But it's like I kind of 384 00:23:57,000 --> 00:24:00,680 Speaker 1: fell for this person and it just and got out 385 00:24:00,680 --> 00:24:03,840 Speaker 1: of hand. And now that we on a reality show, 386 00:24:04,680 --> 00:24:06,879 Speaker 1: it's like my backers against the wall. And then I 387 00:24:06,880 --> 00:24:10,400 Speaker 1: guess if you guys know about reality shows, they get 388 00:24:10,400 --> 00:24:12,800 Speaker 1: to run the narrative the way they want to run it. 389 00:24:13,119 --> 00:24:14,720 Speaker 1: You know, it's a lot of things that y'all women 390 00:24:14,760 --> 00:24:17,600 Speaker 1: are saying on this TV show that I really would 391 00:24:17,600 --> 00:24:21,439 Speaker 1: not do in real life. You know, that editing is 392 00:24:21,600 --> 00:24:24,880 Speaker 1: very serious. I tell you that that editing is very serious. 393 00:24:25,480 --> 00:24:28,280 Speaker 1: And um, you know, I've been very apologetic to my wife. 394 00:24:28,840 --> 00:24:34,880 Speaker 1: But but but you can't control you can't control who 395 00:24:34,920 --> 00:24:39,440 Speaker 1: you are on that show because they're there. There's there's 396 00:24:39,520 --> 00:24:41,320 Speaker 1: there has to be a way that you can control 397 00:24:41,400 --> 00:24:45,080 Speaker 1: who you are. They can't make the Martell be be 398 00:24:45,200 --> 00:24:47,360 Speaker 1: the Martell they want it to be just because they 399 00:24:47,400 --> 00:24:49,560 Speaker 1: want ratings. You will have to be able to control 400 00:24:49,600 --> 00:24:53,800 Speaker 1: the Martell that you want, the Martell that's portrayed out there. Well, 401 00:24:55,600 --> 00:24:57,840 Speaker 1: that sounds really good, that sounds really good. But when 402 00:24:57,880 --> 00:25:00,720 Speaker 1: they put you in when you want meet different people 403 00:25:00,880 --> 00:25:04,120 Speaker 1: that you really would not meet in real life, that 404 00:25:04,280 --> 00:25:06,280 Speaker 1: makes you feel some type of way. I'm up here 405 00:25:06,400 --> 00:25:09,160 Speaker 1: meeting people telling them about my relationship that I warmly 406 00:25:09,200 --> 00:25:12,639 Speaker 1: wouldn't do. The producers that I'm not gonna meet today. 407 00:25:13,000 --> 00:25:16,159 Speaker 1: Oh that's my job in Tail. But but but I 408 00:25:16,200 --> 00:25:20,600 Speaker 1: think what Tommy is saying is this motel. I think 409 00:25:20,640 --> 00:25:24,840 Speaker 1: you saying some things that they didn't have to really embellish, 410 00:25:24,920 --> 00:25:28,200 Speaker 1: just play it. Yeah. And you know, sometimes, man, when 411 00:25:28,200 --> 00:25:31,160 Speaker 1: we in front of people, we flex a little bit, right, 412 00:25:31,359 --> 00:25:34,280 Speaker 1: And I think to my understanding is it was a 413 00:25:34,280 --> 00:25:37,000 Speaker 1: lot of flexing on the show, because you know, when 414 00:25:37,000 --> 00:25:39,040 Speaker 1: the camera's on, you know, everybody want to appear in 415 00:25:39,080 --> 00:25:42,400 Speaker 1: their best light, and you appeared in your best light. 416 00:25:42,680 --> 00:25:46,880 Speaker 1: Put her in her worst light. Yeah, And that's and 417 00:25:46,880 --> 00:25:50,840 Speaker 1: and and that has cost you a family when we 418 00:25:50,960 --> 00:25:54,960 Speaker 1: come back, man, we're gonna talk about that, the importance 419 00:25:55,000 --> 00:25:58,800 Speaker 1: of the family, and after you apologize to her publicly 420 00:25:59,040 --> 00:26:03,720 Speaker 1: not privately, what I think, as Steve Harvey, you should 421 00:26:03,760 --> 00:26:06,560 Speaker 1: do to move forward, and I think we'll be able 422 00:26:06,600 --> 00:26:09,639 Speaker 1: to put some type of closing into the situation. We 423 00:26:10,040 --> 00:26:12,679 Speaker 1: don't like that. All right, it's good, Steve. We'll be 424 00:26:12,720 --> 00:26:15,080 Speaker 1: back with our last break of the day with Martell 425 00:26:15,200 --> 00:26:18,920 Speaker 1: Holt from Love and Marriage Huntsville right after this. You're 426 00:26:18,960 --> 00:26:22,880 Speaker 1: listening to Steve Harvey Morning Show. All right, Steve, here 427 00:26:22,880 --> 00:26:25,560 Speaker 1: we are our last break of the day. Our very 428 00:26:25,560 --> 00:26:29,199 Speaker 1: special guest today from owns Love and Marriage, Huntsville has 429 00:26:29,280 --> 00:26:31,879 Speaker 1: been Martell Holt, who reached out to us. He wanted 430 00:26:31,880 --> 00:26:35,879 Speaker 1: some advice during the Strawberry Letter. And um, that's what 431 00:26:36,000 --> 00:26:38,840 Speaker 1: we were, you know, here trying to do because I 432 00:26:38,920 --> 00:26:41,440 Speaker 1: you know, believe in redemption. I mean, we would tell 433 00:26:41,440 --> 00:26:44,440 Speaker 1: the same person who wrote in with these same issues, 434 00:26:44,560 --> 00:26:48,640 Speaker 1: you know, about redemption and forgiveness and things like that 435 00:26:48,760 --> 00:26:52,560 Speaker 1: and public apologies like you said. So that's what we're 436 00:26:52,600 --> 00:26:56,320 Speaker 1: here for. Um, you know, ahead listen, you know, just 437 00:26:56,440 --> 00:26:59,480 Speaker 1: to recap it this brother call did he made some 438 00:26:59,520 --> 00:27:02,719 Speaker 1: mistakes in this marriage. He knows that he stepped outside, 439 00:27:03,119 --> 00:27:05,760 Speaker 1: he's lost his family. He wants to move forward as 440 00:27:05,840 --> 00:27:08,920 Speaker 1: another child involved. And we've been talking and one of 441 00:27:08,960 --> 00:27:11,440 Speaker 1: the things that I know that men are not good 442 00:27:11,480 --> 00:27:14,760 Speaker 1: at is we're not good at closure. Now, A thing 443 00:27:14,800 --> 00:27:17,640 Speaker 1: about this brother is it's a lot of men out 444 00:27:17,680 --> 00:27:21,120 Speaker 1: here that are him. A lot of men out here 445 00:27:21,200 --> 00:27:24,280 Speaker 1: can know exactly where he coming from. Let's stop all 446 00:27:24,320 --> 00:27:26,960 Speaker 1: this we righteous. Damn oh man, I can't believe you 447 00:27:27,000 --> 00:27:31,040 Speaker 1: did that. Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, Okay. And 448 00:27:31,080 --> 00:27:33,520 Speaker 1: this is a story that's played out in a lot 449 00:27:33,560 --> 00:27:36,480 Speaker 1: of places. This has played out all over the country, 450 00:27:36,760 --> 00:27:39,959 Speaker 1: all over the world, all of the time. And it 451 00:27:39,960 --> 00:27:43,200 Speaker 1: ain't just this. The days have changed it women doing 452 00:27:43,200 --> 00:27:46,080 Speaker 1: the exact same thing. Now, you know, it's just I 453 00:27:46,119 --> 00:27:49,720 Speaker 1: will be truthful with you. Women are way better at 454 00:27:50,160 --> 00:27:54,080 Speaker 1: just better. So eventually, So now, Martell, as I talk 455 00:27:54,160 --> 00:27:57,359 Speaker 1: to you about apologizing, you thought that would be a 456 00:27:57,400 --> 00:28:00,399 Speaker 1: good move to do publicly, for her, to give her 457 00:28:00,480 --> 00:28:04,400 Speaker 1: some closure, because you know, what was done publicly can 458 00:28:04,480 --> 00:28:07,320 Speaker 1: only be undone publicly. You know you're not gonna get 459 00:28:07,359 --> 00:28:09,520 Speaker 1: your family back, and not in love anymore, but you 460 00:28:09,560 --> 00:28:11,720 Speaker 1: do love her. I saw a picture of family and 461 00:28:11,840 --> 00:28:16,760 Speaker 1: beautiful family. So now moving forward, Man, here's what we 462 00:28:16,840 --> 00:28:20,399 Speaker 1: have to do as men. Even though we make a 463 00:28:20,440 --> 00:28:25,640 Speaker 1: mistake and we cost ourselves the family struction, we cannot 464 00:28:25,760 --> 00:28:30,440 Speaker 1: crumble the fiber of the family because them kids ain't 465 00:28:30,440 --> 00:28:33,800 Speaker 1: got nothing to do with this, and and and and 466 00:28:33,800 --> 00:28:40,440 Speaker 1: and kids are affected by divorce. They are affected. And 467 00:28:40,480 --> 00:28:42,960 Speaker 1: so what they have to know at the end of this, Martel, 468 00:28:43,080 --> 00:28:45,760 Speaker 1: from my standpoint is they have to know that they 469 00:28:45,840 --> 00:28:50,400 Speaker 1: daddy loved them more than he loves anything else. Your 470 00:28:50,480 --> 00:28:54,800 Speaker 1: children have to know that you love them more soul 471 00:28:55,080 --> 00:28:58,800 Speaker 1: than you love anything else you've ever done. And soul 472 00:28:59,320 --> 00:29:04,160 Speaker 1: it becomes a part of if you and the wife 473 00:29:04,320 --> 00:29:07,720 Speaker 1: can be cool enough to sit in front of the 474 00:29:07,840 --> 00:29:10,680 Speaker 1: children and show a unified front. I don't know where 475 00:29:10,760 --> 00:29:13,600 Speaker 1: y'all at with that. I don't know if that's doable. 476 00:29:13,840 --> 00:29:15,880 Speaker 1: I don't know if the hurt is too much right now, 477 00:29:15,960 --> 00:29:18,959 Speaker 1: because sometimes it take time. And like Bishop Jakes told me, 478 00:29:19,000 --> 00:29:21,080 Speaker 1: he said, man, you can't just say I'm sorry and 479 00:29:21,160 --> 00:29:22,960 Speaker 1: expect to walk back in at a mall and it's 480 00:29:23,000 --> 00:29:26,960 Speaker 1: all good. He said, that's not how this works. That 481 00:29:28,040 --> 00:29:32,800 Speaker 1: used to be right, yeah, right, because somebody got injured. Yeah, 482 00:29:33,080 --> 00:29:35,840 Speaker 1: you know, and even though they put a bandage on it, deeply, 483 00:29:36,040 --> 00:29:40,840 Speaker 1: the pain is still there. So I'm assuming mar tell 484 00:29:40,920 --> 00:29:43,640 Speaker 1: you call because you I mean, look, man, obviously you 485 00:29:43,680 --> 00:29:48,520 Speaker 1: love your family, your kids most definitely, and so we 486 00:29:48,600 --> 00:29:52,040 Speaker 1: gotta we gotta get in that man and produce. Do 487 00:29:52,120 --> 00:29:56,360 Speaker 1: you what you're saying Step one, Steve is to publicly 488 00:29:56,440 --> 00:30:01,160 Speaker 1: apologize on his road to redemption and and and getting 489 00:30:01,520 --> 00:30:04,440 Speaker 1: you know, moving forward with his life. You're saying step 490 00:30:04,520 --> 00:30:09,640 Speaker 1: one is to publicly apologize. See, the large press is 491 00:30:09,720 --> 00:30:12,280 Speaker 1: forgive us our trust passes as we forgive those who 492 00:30:12,280 --> 00:30:16,640 Speaker 1: trust pass against us. You can't expect God to show 493 00:30:16,680 --> 00:30:20,000 Speaker 1: you Grayson mercy if you don't exhibit Grayson mercy. Yeah, 494 00:30:20,040 --> 00:30:21,760 Speaker 1: because you know what I mean. That was one of 495 00:30:21,840 --> 00:30:24,320 Speaker 1: the things that upset the women so much, is that 496 00:30:24,400 --> 00:30:26,920 Speaker 1: the arrogance that you had. It seemed like you were 497 00:30:26,960 --> 00:30:31,080 Speaker 1: just so arrogant about it and you know just what, Yeah, 498 00:30:31,120 --> 00:30:33,600 Speaker 1: I did. It is what it is. You kept lying 499 00:30:33,680 --> 00:30:36,080 Speaker 1: about it and and all of that, and that's what 500 00:30:36,280 --> 00:30:40,320 Speaker 1: infuriated us. You were so arrogant. So now, because I 501 00:30:40,320 --> 00:30:42,200 Speaker 1: didn't want everybody, I didn't want the whole country in 502 00:30:42,240 --> 00:30:46,400 Speaker 1: my business first off, you know, because it wasn't. No, no, no, 503 00:30:46,880 --> 00:30:49,360 Speaker 1: I mean, it wasn't a plane of Martel to put 504 00:30:49,520 --> 00:30:52,000 Speaker 1: my because I knew what was going to happen if 505 00:30:52,360 --> 00:30:54,280 Speaker 1: he got out, so I didn't want it to be out. 506 00:30:54,400 --> 00:30:57,320 Speaker 1: So yeah, I'm gonna lie at first, like, no, I wasn't. 507 00:30:57,360 --> 00:30:58,800 Speaker 1: She and I don't want everybody to do it. She 508 00:30:58,920 --> 00:31:01,400 Speaker 1: knew and I knew, and to me, that should have 509 00:31:01,400 --> 00:31:04,520 Speaker 1: been it. It should have been brought to you guys. 510 00:31:04,920 --> 00:31:07,239 Speaker 1: It should have been brought to the world, you know, 511 00:31:07,480 --> 00:31:10,760 Speaker 1: because I knew it was gonna happen, So I was. Yeah, 512 00:31:10,800 --> 00:31:14,080 Speaker 1: I was lying about it before. Well, at least you're 513 00:31:14,120 --> 00:31:25,200 Speaker 1: honest about that. Listen to every man on this show. Yeah, 514 00:31:25,320 --> 00:31:27,840 Speaker 1: have a couple of minutes left, so let's let's let's 515 00:31:27,920 --> 00:31:30,920 Speaker 1: let Martell have the floor so he can publicly apologize. 516 00:31:31,320 --> 00:31:36,000 Speaker 1: Go ahead, Martell, Okay, Um, so to Melody. Um, the 517 00:31:36,040 --> 00:31:40,320 Speaker 1: person I've been with over fourteen years. UM, I grew 518 00:31:40,400 --> 00:31:43,480 Speaker 1: up with you. Um, we've accomplished a lot in life. 519 00:31:44,080 --> 00:31:47,240 Speaker 1: We had four beautiful children, and UM, you know, I 520 00:31:47,240 --> 00:31:48,920 Speaker 1: wouldn't be the person that I am. And I'm not 521 00:31:48,960 --> 00:31:50,800 Speaker 1: talking about the negative things, but I wouldn't be the 522 00:31:50,800 --> 00:31:54,520 Speaker 1: person I am without you. UM, I do love you. 523 00:31:54,760 --> 00:31:59,440 Speaker 1: I love what we stood for and it's my my 524 00:31:59,480 --> 00:32:02,800 Speaker 1: deepest hole that we can you know, UM co parent 525 00:32:02,880 --> 00:32:05,840 Speaker 1: together accomplished that to make sure that we raise our 526 00:32:05,960 --> 00:32:08,640 Speaker 1: children in the same way that we wanted to raise 527 00:32:08,680 --> 00:32:11,360 Speaker 1: them when we're together. So I just want to know 528 00:32:11,440 --> 00:32:14,720 Speaker 1: that I am sorry to have put you through this, 529 00:32:15,240 --> 00:32:18,600 Speaker 1: my children through this, our families through this. I mean 530 00:32:19,000 --> 00:32:20,760 Speaker 1: it hurts me, but I know it hurts you just 531 00:32:20,800 --> 00:32:24,600 Speaker 1: as much as it hurts me. And I'm sorry, Melody 532 00:32:24,760 --> 00:32:27,840 Speaker 1: for everything that I've done, everything, but I thank you 533 00:32:27,880 --> 00:32:30,600 Speaker 1: for the opportunities that you gave me. He gave me 534 00:32:30,680 --> 00:32:33,160 Speaker 1: plenty of chances to get it right. God gave me 535 00:32:33,200 --> 00:32:35,560 Speaker 1: plenty of chances to get it right. I remember us 536 00:32:35,600 --> 00:32:40,360 Speaker 1: talking about things in terms of man, God blessing us 537 00:32:40,360 --> 00:32:43,560 Speaker 1: and showing us favor, and then every time I step out, 538 00:32:43,920 --> 00:32:47,800 Speaker 1: we lose that favor. And to you, I wish you 539 00:32:47,880 --> 00:32:53,800 Speaker 1: the best in life, your career, and talking about in 540 00:32:53,840 --> 00:32:57,400 Speaker 1: my heart, I am sorry. I am well brother. I 541 00:32:57,400 --> 00:33:01,040 Speaker 1: think I think you're sincere, you know, and one day, man, 542 00:33:01,280 --> 00:33:03,400 Speaker 1: one day man just just all get better. So we 543 00:33:03,520 --> 00:33:06,000 Speaker 1: thank you for joining us. Martell Holt, thank you, thank you. 544 00:33:06,320 --> 00:33:08,920 Speaker 1: I prechan you guys so much, Thank you guys, Thank 545 00:33:08,920 --> 00:33:22,960 Speaker 1: you brother. 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