1 00:00:11,280 --> 00:00:14,800 Speaker 1: Everybody, granger Smith here, Welcome back to the Grangersmith podcast. 2 00:00:15,040 --> 00:00:18,439 Speaker 1: We put out new episodes every single Monday, and we've 3 00:00:18,440 --> 00:00:22,880 Speaker 1: been doing this for I guess since twenty seventeen. So 4 00:00:23,079 --> 00:00:26,119 Speaker 1: what the format is is, I answer your questions you 5 00:00:26,160 --> 00:00:29,960 Speaker 1: email me podcast at grangersmith dot com. We'll put it 6 00:00:30,000 --> 00:00:32,120 Speaker 1: in the queue. Ant Man, my producer, We'll get them 7 00:00:32,120 --> 00:00:35,319 Speaker 1: together and I pull these up and I read these 8 00:00:35,400 --> 00:00:40,880 Speaker 1: questions as if you're a friend asking me a question, 9 00:00:41,520 --> 00:00:46,080 Speaker 1: very low key, very relaxed and informal. I don't have 10 00:00:46,680 --> 00:00:48,520 Speaker 1: a whole bunch of notes in front of me. I'm 11 00:00:48,560 --> 00:00:51,520 Speaker 1: just going to read the question as if you're asking 12 00:00:51,560 --> 00:00:55,680 Speaker 1: me in front of a campfire, and the answers will 13 00:00:55,720 --> 00:00:58,160 Speaker 1: be very off the cuff, in fact, so much so 14 00:00:58,200 --> 00:01:01,520 Speaker 1: that sometimes I could think about it later and perhaps 15 00:01:01,560 --> 00:01:04,240 Speaker 1: want to change my answer a little bit, and I 16 00:01:04,280 --> 00:01:07,679 Speaker 1: don't get that opportunity. I think the podcast is better 17 00:01:09,080 --> 00:01:12,600 Speaker 1: if you get the first response, the first reaction in 18 00:01:12,640 --> 00:01:15,679 Speaker 1: my head today, I don't have a guess, it's just 19 00:01:15,720 --> 00:01:19,000 Speaker 1: me and the first question comes from Ryan. Once again. 20 00:01:19,040 --> 00:01:23,640 Speaker 1: The email is podcast at grangersmith dot com. One day. 21 00:01:23,720 --> 00:01:28,200 Speaker 1: The plan is still to do this live somewhere as 22 00:01:28,240 --> 00:01:32,760 Speaker 1: I create some kind of podcast tour, and we've been 23 00:01:32,800 --> 00:01:36,280 Speaker 1: in talks with different people to come to your city 24 00:01:36,360 --> 00:01:40,240 Speaker 1: and set up and maybe like a theater and have 25 00:01:40,360 --> 00:01:43,640 Speaker 1: you have a microphone out in the audience, and we 26 00:01:43,680 --> 00:01:47,720 Speaker 1: actually answer them live. That's the plan. The first question 27 00:01:47,760 --> 00:01:51,040 Speaker 1: today comes from Ryan, and it says this, Hey, Granger, 28 00:01:51,120 --> 00:01:54,880 Speaker 1: I'm stuck in a job where the environment is really toxic, 29 00:01:55,560 --> 00:01:57,760 Speaker 1: and it's starting to take a toll on me, both 30 00:01:57,800 --> 00:02:02,880 Speaker 1: mentally and emotionally. My boss is unpredictable and overly critical, 31 00:02:03,560 --> 00:02:06,280 Speaker 1: making it hard to feel like I'm doing anything right. 32 00:02:06,840 --> 00:02:10,080 Speaker 1: On top of that, the office politics are out of control, 33 00:02:10,120 --> 00:02:13,359 Speaker 1: and it feels like no one trusts each other. It's 34 00:02:13,360 --> 00:02:16,760 Speaker 1: a constant game of walking on eggshells just to get 35 00:02:16,800 --> 00:02:20,240 Speaker 1: through the day. I thought about quitting, but I'm scared 36 00:02:20,280 --> 00:02:22,440 Speaker 1: of what that might mean for my family. I'm the 37 00:02:22,480 --> 00:02:26,600 Speaker 1: primary bread rent winner, and while I have some savings, 38 00:02:26,600 --> 00:02:29,600 Speaker 1: it's not nearly enough to carry us for very long 39 00:02:29,639 --> 00:02:31,880 Speaker 1: if I don't find a new job quickly. At the 40 00:02:31,919 --> 00:02:35,320 Speaker 1: same time, the stress of staying in this environment is 41 00:02:35,360 --> 00:02:37,880 Speaker 1: affecting my sleep, my mood at home, and even my 42 00:02:37,919 --> 00:02:41,239 Speaker 1: physical health. I'm torn between sticking it out I'm trying 43 00:02:41,280 --> 00:02:44,080 Speaker 1: to find a better situation. The idea of jumping into 44 00:02:44,080 --> 00:02:47,200 Speaker 1: the unknown is terrifying, and so is the thought of 45 00:02:47,280 --> 00:02:51,119 Speaker 1: continuing like this. How do you know when it's time 46 00:02:51,160 --> 00:02:53,960 Speaker 1: to walk away from a bad situation, even if the 47 00:02:53,960 --> 00:02:57,240 Speaker 1: future feels uncertain. What would you do in my position? 48 00:02:57,520 --> 00:03:02,120 Speaker 1: Thanks for your advice, Ryan, Ryan, Thanks for the email, Brother, 49 00:03:02,960 --> 00:03:05,280 Speaker 1: And I'm sorry you're in You're you're in a tough situation. 50 00:03:09,680 --> 00:03:11,440 Speaker 1: It's it sounds like you've put a lot of thought 51 00:03:11,480 --> 00:03:15,640 Speaker 1: into this, and it sounds like you're you're thinking in 52 00:03:15,680 --> 00:03:18,840 Speaker 1: all the right ways because you're What I mean is 53 00:03:18,919 --> 00:03:21,960 Speaker 1: you're you're kind of weighing the cost of what it 54 00:03:22,000 --> 00:03:25,280 Speaker 1: looks like to be out of this job, to remain 55 00:03:25,320 --> 00:03:29,040 Speaker 1: in this job, to be better in this job. And 56 00:03:29,120 --> 00:03:31,840 Speaker 1: you know something you said in here where you said 57 00:03:31,919 --> 00:03:36,400 Speaker 1: it's it's affecting my sleep. I've thought about that a 58 00:03:36,400 --> 00:03:39,040 Speaker 1: lot lately, more than I have in the last four 59 00:03:39,120 --> 00:03:42,080 Speaker 1: or five years. And I've been talking to Amber about this, 60 00:03:42,640 --> 00:03:48,440 Speaker 1: because you know, I I have some friends that have 61 00:03:48,560 --> 00:03:52,000 Speaker 1: told me, hey, you know, the more and more we 62 00:03:52,080 --> 00:03:55,720 Speaker 1: read about sleep, the more and more we see how 63 00:03:55,760 --> 00:04:01,160 Speaker 1: important it actually is. And I think about sometimes my 64 00:04:01,840 --> 00:04:08,080 Speaker 1: uncle who was a Marine captain in Vietnam, and he 65 00:04:08,200 --> 00:04:10,280 Speaker 1: was just an early riser. He would get up every 66 00:04:10,280 --> 00:04:13,600 Speaker 1: single morning at four am and go for a run. 67 00:04:13,640 --> 00:04:16,240 Speaker 1: As he got older, it was a walk, walk the dogs. 68 00:04:16,960 --> 00:04:20,240 Speaker 1: And it didn't matter what time he went to bed. 69 00:04:20,279 --> 00:04:25,520 Speaker 1: He was up at four vacation weekends, it didn't matter. 70 00:04:26,400 --> 00:04:29,600 Speaker 1: And sometimes he would get, you know, four hours of 71 00:04:29,640 --> 00:04:34,200 Speaker 1: sleep several times in the week, and he was always like, 72 00:04:34,240 --> 00:04:36,360 Speaker 1: I'm fine, I just when I wake up. That's what 73 00:04:36,400 --> 00:04:40,240 Speaker 1: we do in the Marines, you know. And we ended 74 00:04:40,320 --> 00:04:47,200 Speaker 1: up losing him, and he suffered from pretty severe dementia. 75 00:04:48,440 --> 00:04:50,599 Speaker 1: And I look back on that and I wonder, you know, 76 00:04:50,640 --> 00:04:53,840 Speaker 1: the Lord is sovereign in all this, but I can't help, 77 00:04:53,880 --> 00:04:59,520 Speaker 1: but wonder if if we could be responsible, more responsible 78 00:04:59,720 --> 00:05:02,240 Speaker 1: in the area of sleep, me and my family and 79 00:05:02,279 --> 00:05:06,120 Speaker 1: you listening. That's something we probably don't do enough in 80 00:05:06,160 --> 00:05:10,479 Speaker 1: this world today. My friend Heath Evans told me that 81 00:05:10,520 --> 00:05:13,640 Speaker 1: I need seven hours and Amber needs eight. Men need 82 00:05:13,680 --> 00:05:16,760 Speaker 1: a little bit less, women need eight. Kids. I mean 83 00:05:17,320 --> 00:05:20,760 Speaker 1: the kids need ten. I would say. Sometimes Maverick sleeps 84 00:05:20,760 --> 00:05:24,080 Speaker 1: twelve hours. We put them down at eight pm and 85 00:05:24,360 --> 00:05:26,279 Speaker 1: or seven thirty pm, and he gets up at seven 86 00:05:26,320 --> 00:05:30,880 Speaker 1: thirty am or eight o'clock am. But I think it's 87 00:05:31,320 --> 00:05:37,800 Speaker 1: so important that we take these extra precautions toward getting 88 00:05:37,960 --> 00:05:39,640 Speaker 1: the appropriate amount of sleep. And so when you say 89 00:05:39,640 --> 00:05:41,640 Speaker 1: that right in the middle of your email, that's one 90 00:05:41,640 --> 00:05:44,719 Speaker 1: of the first things that pops out to me. It's like, Hey, 91 00:05:44,920 --> 00:05:48,920 Speaker 1: this is affecting your sleep. Then that would also affect 92 00:05:48,960 --> 00:05:50,919 Speaker 1: what you say next, my mood at home, and that 93 00:05:50,960 --> 00:05:53,920 Speaker 1: would also affect the next thing you say, my physical health. 94 00:05:54,839 --> 00:05:57,159 Speaker 1: So sleep is going to affect all these things. So 95 00:05:57,200 --> 00:06:01,719 Speaker 1: if the job is hurting your sleep long term, it 96 00:06:01,760 --> 00:06:04,000 Speaker 1: could actually be taking years off the end of your life. 97 00:06:04,080 --> 00:06:07,599 Speaker 1: That's my point. So add that, to add that to 98 00:06:07,640 --> 00:06:14,120 Speaker 1: the worry of what's going on in this email, you 99 00:06:14,200 --> 00:06:18,719 Speaker 1: say that the environment is really toxic and it's starting 100 00:06:18,760 --> 00:06:23,240 Speaker 1: to take a toll mentally and emotionally. Now, I caution 101 00:06:23,520 --> 00:06:26,120 Speaker 1: first of all saying that I believe we live in 102 00:06:26,160 --> 00:06:29,080 Speaker 1: a world now, that is, we live in a job 103 00:06:29,160 --> 00:06:32,680 Speaker 1: jumping world that our parents and our grandparents certainly and 104 00:06:32,720 --> 00:06:38,479 Speaker 1: everyone before that just didn't do. Today, you ask any 105 00:06:38,880 --> 00:06:42,799 Speaker 1: any joe off the street that's middle aged and younger, 106 00:06:43,400 --> 00:06:46,520 Speaker 1: and you ask what they do, and there's probably several answers. 107 00:06:46,560 --> 00:06:49,040 Speaker 1: I've done this, this, this, and I'm currently doing this, 108 00:06:49,440 --> 00:06:52,840 Speaker 1: and my dream is to do this. And everybody before us, 109 00:06:53,520 --> 00:06:55,919 Speaker 1: starting with my parents generation and everybody before that, they 110 00:06:56,040 --> 00:06:59,400 Speaker 1: just pretty much worked one job. Either they had one 111 00:06:59,480 --> 00:07:03,000 Speaker 1: skill and they just did that, or they landed one 112 00:07:04,279 --> 00:07:08,480 Speaker 1: one kind of job and just did it for forty 113 00:07:08,560 --> 00:07:12,120 Speaker 1: years and either did it until they died or did 114 00:07:12,160 --> 00:07:15,480 Speaker 1: it until they retired because they physically couldn't. And but 115 00:07:15,520 --> 00:07:19,000 Speaker 1: then then they did something similar after that. And so 116 00:07:20,400 --> 00:07:23,720 Speaker 1: I think that it's it's admirable to think in that 117 00:07:23,840 --> 00:07:29,960 Speaker 1: old way of just let's let's not be job jumpers. 118 00:07:30,160 --> 00:07:32,400 Speaker 1: And here here's what I think part of the problem is, 119 00:07:33,160 --> 00:07:35,960 Speaker 1: I think we have kind of built this illusion in 120 00:07:36,000 --> 00:07:40,000 Speaker 1: this country and worldwide to see it worldwide, this fairy 121 00:07:40,040 --> 00:07:45,560 Speaker 1: tale Cinderella illusion that there's always something better, there's always 122 00:07:45,600 --> 00:07:50,040 Speaker 1: like you were born for this same way I caution 123 00:07:50,160 --> 00:07:53,360 Speaker 1: against the idea of soulmate, which is a pagan idea. 124 00:07:53,520 --> 00:07:55,360 Speaker 1: I think we should caution the same way in front 125 00:07:55,360 --> 00:07:58,640 Speaker 1: of in terms of saying that there's like one job 126 00:07:59,320 --> 00:08:02,600 Speaker 1: that's mysterio out there, and when you find it, your 127 00:08:02,640 --> 00:08:06,440 Speaker 1: life kind of just aligns to it magically and the 128 00:08:06,480 --> 00:08:08,480 Speaker 1: stars just kind of line up and you go, ah, 129 00:08:08,680 --> 00:08:12,040 Speaker 1: this is this is what I was born to do, 130 00:08:12,160 --> 00:08:15,480 Speaker 1: this particular thing, and now everything else is happy. And 131 00:08:15,680 --> 00:08:19,360 Speaker 1: that's not the case. I do think that certain people 132 00:08:19,480 --> 00:08:23,240 Speaker 1: certainly are are better at other things depending on their 133 00:08:23,240 --> 00:08:26,160 Speaker 1: skill set. But I just think, I just think we 134 00:08:26,240 --> 00:08:30,120 Speaker 1: there's no perfect job out there, So although we should 135 00:08:30,200 --> 00:08:37,160 Speaker 1: climb ladders and work hard and grow businesses or grow 136 00:08:37,480 --> 00:08:42,800 Speaker 1: within companies, we don't have to always be thinking about 137 00:08:43,440 --> 00:08:45,960 Speaker 1: this is fine for now, but then I'm going to 138 00:08:45,960 --> 00:08:48,760 Speaker 1: find something better because I know something better is out there. 139 00:08:49,240 --> 00:08:53,439 Speaker 1: So there's prudence in here, right like we're we're we're 140 00:08:53,520 --> 00:08:57,040 Speaker 1: kind of cautioning in all these areas, saying, don't be 141 00:08:57,440 --> 00:08:59,679 Speaker 1: abused by your boss and just stick with it for 142 00:08:59,679 --> 00:09:07,720 Speaker 1: four years. Don't be someone that has completely lost the 143 00:09:07,720 --> 00:09:11,000 Speaker 1: American dream of you could do or be whatever you 144 00:09:11,040 --> 00:09:13,719 Speaker 1: want to be. Like, let's stay within the guardrails of 145 00:09:13,760 --> 00:09:16,720 Speaker 1: all this and go I'm going to think through these things, 146 00:09:16,840 --> 00:09:19,280 Speaker 1: and I'm not going to job jump just because my 147 00:09:19,360 --> 00:09:24,160 Speaker 1: feelings are hurt or because there's a mysterious magical job 148 00:09:24,200 --> 00:09:27,199 Speaker 1: out there that I don't know of yet. Because certainly 149 00:09:27,200 --> 00:09:31,280 Speaker 1: I see social media people that work it. Okay, that's 150 00:09:31,320 --> 00:09:34,959 Speaker 1: my foundation. I say all that to then say, after 151 00:09:35,040 --> 00:09:38,040 Speaker 1: all that, I say this, I think it's time for 152 00:09:38,080 --> 00:09:41,800 Speaker 1: you to get out of this job. From what I've 153 00:09:41,840 --> 00:09:46,319 Speaker 1: read here and what I believe you're saying, it sounds 154 00:09:46,320 --> 00:09:51,480 Speaker 1: like this job's crushing you mentally, emotionally, and you are 155 00:09:51,520 --> 00:09:53,920 Speaker 1: still in it because you're scared to take a step 156 00:09:53,960 --> 00:09:57,199 Speaker 1: out of it. That's what all this is coming from. 157 00:09:57,360 --> 00:09:59,720 Speaker 1: You're scared of the unknown, which is a normal fear. 158 00:10:02,760 --> 00:10:05,920 Speaker 1: If you could say, there, what's the what's the average 159 00:10:05,920 --> 00:10:08,880 Speaker 1: fear of the average person, you would throw in there, 160 00:10:09,000 --> 00:10:14,360 Speaker 1: the unknown. It's scary the dark. Why are dark hallways scary? 161 00:10:14,440 --> 00:10:16,600 Speaker 1: Because at the end where the darkness is, you don't 162 00:10:16,720 --> 00:10:19,080 Speaker 1: know if there's a door or not. You don't know 163 00:10:19,080 --> 00:10:21,200 Speaker 1: if there's a stairway, you don't know if someone is 164 00:10:21,200 --> 00:10:24,880 Speaker 1: standing in the darkness. But the reality is not not 165 00:10:25,080 --> 00:10:27,280 Speaker 1: the person or the stairway or the door. The reality 166 00:10:27,360 --> 00:10:33,640 Speaker 1: is the unknown of any of those things. So that's 167 00:10:33,679 --> 00:10:37,000 Speaker 1: what we got to deal with. You're scared of the unknown, 168 00:10:37,000 --> 00:10:39,960 Speaker 1: and it doesn't have to be scary, And this is 169 00:10:39,960 --> 00:10:42,640 Speaker 1: how you do it. You you work hard in the 170 00:10:42,720 --> 00:10:46,920 Speaker 1: job you're in right now you you be respectful to 171 00:10:46,960 --> 00:10:51,520 Speaker 1: your boss, you kind to your co workers, You do 172 00:10:51,600 --> 00:10:57,800 Speaker 1: your job with excellence. You you dress appropriately for the gig, 173 00:10:59,640 --> 00:11:02,920 Speaker 1: you show up on time, and you stay all the 174 00:11:02,960 --> 00:11:11,040 Speaker 1: way till it's time to leave. You are you're you're 175 00:11:11,080 --> 00:11:15,960 Speaker 1: consciously battling, battling against bitterness, right so that those are 176 00:11:15,960 --> 00:11:19,160 Speaker 1: all the things you do right now, and then when 177 00:11:19,200 --> 00:11:24,200 Speaker 1: you go home, you are networking. You're looking for You're 178 00:11:24,240 --> 00:11:29,400 Speaker 1: looking through job ads. You're emailing or calling potential bosses, 179 00:11:29,559 --> 00:11:34,920 Speaker 1: potential new job prospects. You're talking within your friend group. 180 00:11:34,960 --> 00:11:38,080 Speaker 1: That doesn't leak back to your co workers that you're 181 00:11:38,160 --> 00:11:42,360 Speaker 1: now on the market for a new job, talking to 182 00:11:42,360 --> 00:11:45,200 Speaker 1: different people. Hey, I'm I'm I think I might be 183 00:11:45,720 --> 00:11:49,959 Speaker 1: thinking about switching jobs. Here's my skill set. Hey, you're 184 00:11:49,960 --> 00:11:53,480 Speaker 1: putting together a resume, not too long, not too short, 185 00:11:53,960 --> 00:11:59,120 Speaker 1: right to the point. And as you put these feelers 186 00:11:59,120 --> 00:12:01,920 Speaker 1: out there, you're still work any other job with excellence, 187 00:12:01,920 --> 00:12:05,559 Speaker 1: and so there's no fear of losing out on the income. 188 00:12:06,400 --> 00:12:10,160 Speaker 1: And I think the idea of the new job, and 189 00:12:10,200 --> 00:12:14,480 Speaker 1: as you're working towards that, I think the excitement in 190 00:12:14,520 --> 00:12:18,599 Speaker 1: that will start to supplement to kind of mitigate the 191 00:12:19,600 --> 00:12:26,240 Speaker 1: fear and the emotional mental breakdown that you're getting from 192 00:12:26,280 --> 00:12:30,160 Speaker 1: the other job will kind of be swallowed up by 193 00:12:30,200 --> 00:12:33,959 Speaker 1: the excitement that you're getting because you're on the market 194 00:12:34,000 --> 00:12:37,680 Speaker 1: looking for something new. And this is what you can control. 195 00:12:37,720 --> 00:12:41,480 Speaker 1: You can't control your boss, you can't control who hires 196 00:12:41,559 --> 00:12:43,600 Speaker 1: you on the next job, but you could work with 197 00:12:43,679 --> 00:12:47,720 Speaker 1: excellence in the old job and be taking small steps 198 00:12:47,840 --> 00:12:52,280 Speaker 1: day by day towards the new job. You might have 199 00:12:52,400 --> 00:12:55,880 Speaker 1: to cut back on some bills. I think I said 200 00:12:55,880 --> 00:12:59,920 Speaker 1: this a few podcasts ago, that you might have to 201 00:13:01,760 --> 00:13:05,400 Speaker 1: give up some of the luxuries you have in your life. 202 00:13:06,600 --> 00:13:10,040 Speaker 1: Like maybe that car you have that that costs seven 203 00:13:10,120 --> 00:13:14,280 Speaker 1: hundred dollars a month, maybe you have to trade it 204 00:13:14,320 --> 00:13:18,640 Speaker 1: in at the dealership and get something that's two fifty, right, 205 00:13:18,679 --> 00:13:21,280 Speaker 1: and then you just you put four hundred and fifty bucks 206 00:13:21,280 --> 00:13:25,839 Speaker 1: in your pocket and you say, okay, this is this 207 00:13:25,880 --> 00:13:30,440 Speaker 1: is working for me. And you do that several times, 208 00:13:30,480 --> 00:13:32,720 Speaker 1: and you you take four hundred here, five hundred or 209 00:13:32,720 --> 00:13:36,960 Speaker 1: six hundred here, a thousand here, and and you kind 210 00:13:36,960 --> 00:13:40,559 Speaker 1: of equal out your your living expenses and all that. 211 00:13:41,000 --> 00:13:46,600 Speaker 1: Giving up the car, giving up the Netflix account, you know, 212 00:13:47,200 --> 00:13:50,520 Speaker 1: giving up all these things is worth your is worth 213 00:13:50,880 --> 00:13:54,679 Speaker 1: getting rid of this the mental monster that the current 214 00:13:54,760 --> 00:13:57,480 Speaker 1: job is and taking a job that pays a little 215 00:13:57,520 --> 00:14:00,959 Speaker 1: bit less, and you'll be You'll be happier in the end. 216 00:14:03,559 --> 00:14:07,000 Speaker 1: Next question comes from Josh says Greater. I'm recently divorced, 217 00:14:07,000 --> 00:14:09,200 Speaker 1: and one of the biggest challenges has been figuring out 218 00:14:09,200 --> 00:14:12,120 Speaker 1: how to co parent our two kids in a way 219 00:14:12,160 --> 00:14:16,320 Speaker 1: that's healthy and consistent. My ex and I both love 220 00:14:16,320 --> 00:14:20,480 Speaker 1: our kids deeply and want what's best for them, but 221 00:14:20,560 --> 00:14:25,920 Speaker 1: we approach parenting very differently. For example, I'm stricter when 222 00:14:25,920 --> 00:14:27,760 Speaker 1: it comes to discipline, but my ex tends to be 223 00:14:27,800 --> 00:14:32,040 Speaker 1: more lenient. This leans to leads to situations where the 224 00:14:32,120 --> 00:14:38,120 Speaker 1: kids get mixed messages. And that's okay sometimes, but it's 225 00:14:38,160 --> 00:14:43,040 Speaker 1: also not I'm worried this inconsistency might confuse them or 226 00:14:43,080 --> 00:14:46,800 Speaker 1: even make them feel like they can play against each other, 227 00:14:47,440 --> 00:14:51,800 Speaker 1: play us against each other. Josh says. It's also starting 228 00:14:51,840 --> 00:14:54,120 Speaker 1: to cause a lot of tension between me and my ex. 229 00:14:54,160 --> 00:14:58,280 Speaker 1: Even though we try to keep things civil, emotions from 230 00:14:58,360 --> 00:15:02,000 Speaker 1: the divorce start to create been in small disagreements about 231 00:15:02,040 --> 00:15:05,360 Speaker 1: parenting can turn into bigger arguments. I don't want my 232 00:15:05,480 --> 00:15:08,520 Speaker 1: kids to pick up on this conflict or feel like 233 00:15:08,560 --> 00:15:11,400 Speaker 1: they're stuck in the middle of it all. I know 234 00:15:11,600 --> 00:15:15,160 Speaker 1: that co parenting is not easy for anyone, but I 235 00:15:15,200 --> 00:15:18,320 Speaker 1: want to make sure that we are creating a stable, 236 00:15:18,400 --> 00:15:21,280 Speaker 1: loving environment for our kids. How do you navigate co 237 00:15:21,440 --> 00:15:24,840 Speaker 1: parenting effectively, especially when you and your ex don't see 238 00:15:24,840 --> 00:15:27,600 Speaker 1: eye to eye. Think of your help and your wisdom 239 00:15:27,680 --> 00:15:34,440 Speaker 1: that you share. Josh, Hey, Josh, thank you brother. I'm 240 00:15:34,440 --> 00:15:36,520 Speaker 1: sorry for the situation. I hope you know that I 241 00:15:36,560 --> 00:15:40,280 Speaker 1: personally have not been in this situation, so I would 242 00:15:40,280 --> 00:15:45,120 Speaker 1: only be speaking my best encouragement to you as a friend. 243 00:15:46,360 --> 00:15:54,560 Speaker 1: And you already know it's not easy. You're out there 244 00:15:54,560 --> 00:15:58,120 Speaker 1: taking arrows. I talked about this with a friend just today. 245 00:15:58,760 --> 00:16:05,480 Speaker 1: Sometimes you got to take the arrows. And sometimes in 246 00:16:05,600 --> 00:16:10,920 Speaker 1: order to improve, because I know you're firing arrows too, Josh, 247 00:16:11,320 --> 00:16:14,440 Speaker 1: in order to improve, you need to fire one less 248 00:16:14,600 --> 00:16:21,800 Speaker 1: arrow than she does. That would be improvement. It sounds 249 00:16:21,840 --> 00:16:28,880 Speaker 1: like you're a big hang up. Is is discipline and 250 00:16:30,200 --> 00:16:33,400 Speaker 1: given given what you're dealing with right now, like you 251 00:16:33,680 --> 00:16:37,080 Speaker 1: can't change what has happened. And ideally parents need our 252 00:16:37,160 --> 00:16:42,680 Speaker 1: kids need two parents, and that's that's God's design. Is 253 00:16:42,720 --> 00:16:48,280 Speaker 1: that kids have two parents, and that the the two personalities. 254 00:16:48,320 --> 00:16:51,640 Speaker 1: Typically what we would see is the the dad has 255 00:16:53,360 --> 00:16:59,600 Speaker 1: has authority and the more the more of the discipline 256 00:16:59,600 --> 00:17:02,640 Speaker 1: aarian than then that the mom, and the mom has 257 00:17:03,000 --> 00:17:09,879 Speaker 1: the nurturing, compassion and wisdom in protection, and then the 258 00:17:09,960 --> 00:17:12,959 Speaker 1: father carries out the protection and carries out the discipline. 259 00:17:13,400 --> 00:17:19,879 Speaker 1: So that that's the partnership. When men and women in 260 00:17:19,920 --> 00:17:24,240 Speaker 1: the Bible are created equal, they they are created equal, 261 00:17:24,560 --> 00:17:27,679 Speaker 1: but that that does not mean equal roles. That means 262 00:17:28,080 --> 00:17:35,120 Speaker 1: that means equal value, but but not equal roles. That's 263 00:17:35,480 --> 00:17:41,600 Speaker 1: really practical, easy to understand. And that's not the point, 264 00:17:41,640 --> 00:17:43,280 Speaker 1: and that's not that's not the point of your email. 265 00:17:43,760 --> 00:17:46,320 Speaker 1: But but I do think it's it's important to remember 266 00:17:46,359 --> 00:17:51,360 Speaker 1: that when parents break up and get a divorce, and 267 00:17:51,440 --> 00:17:57,240 Speaker 1: it's it's not as if two equal parts have now 268 00:17:57,440 --> 00:18:01,280 Speaker 1: split into two and there's one half here and one 269 00:18:01,320 --> 00:18:06,480 Speaker 1: half here. It's equal valued parts have broken up that 270 00:18:06,520 --> 00:18:09,399 Speaker 1: have that have different roles, and so that now the 271 00:18:09,520 --> 00:18:12,479 Speaker 1: roles are split. And that's where the difficulty that that 272 00:18:12,520 --> 00:18:16,640 Speaker 1: you're you're talking about comes in. So what do you do? 273 00:18:16,440 --> 00:18:21,800 Speaker 1: What do you do? I don't know how old your 274 00:18:21,880 --> 00:18:24,640 Speaker 1: kids are, You don't say that. Do you know if 275 00:18:24,640 --> 00:18:26,920 Speaker 1: you said if you said how old the kids are, 276 00:18:26,920 --> 00:18:32,000 Speaker 1: they could start to it could start to help because 277 00:18:32,080 --> 00:18:35,160 Speaker 1: as they get older, you could have conversations about this. 278 00:18:36,200 --> 00:18:38,480 Speaker 1: But what you want to do is always be respectful 279 00:18:38,520 --> 00:18:41,920 Speaker 1: towards your ex wife. You never want to throw shade 280 00:18:41,960 --> 00:18:45,800 Speaker 1: on her or talk behind her back, or give any 281 00:18:45,840 --> 00:18:49,600 Speaker 1: allusion to your kids that you're doing things right and 282 00:18:49,680 --> 00:18:53,479 Speaker 1: your mom's messing it up because well, for a lot 283 00:18:53,520 --> 00:18:56,320 Speaker 1: of reasons, because but one of the reasons is that's 284 00:18:56,400 --> 00:19:01,960 Speaker 1: their mama, so you don't you don't want to put 285 00:19:02,000 --> 00:19:05,399 Speaker 1: their mama in a bad light. And that concept is 286 00:19:05,600 --> 00:19:09,800 Speaker 1: kind of lost in split parenting right now. The idea 287 00:19:10,160 --> 00:19:13,680 Speaker 1: that if anyway, this is kind of a known thing, 288 00:19:14,160 --> 00:19:17,359 Speaker 1: you talk to anybody about their mama in a negative way, 289 00:19:17,760 --> 00:19:20,800 Speaker 1: and we get mad, we get defensive because that's our mama, 290 00:19:21,800 --> 00:19:26,119 Speaker 1: Dad's that includes you when you have divorced the mama 291 00:19:26,240 --> 00:19:28,960 Speaker 1: and that's your ex wife. Just because it's your ex 292 00:19:29,000 --> 00:19:34,000 Speaker 1: wife doesn't give you now a free pass to talk 293 00:19:34,840 --> 00:19:39,480 Speaker 1: negatively about their mama. Just as just as a guy 294 00:19:39,560 --> 00:19:41,640 Speaker 1: in a grocery store or a guy in a bar, 295 00:19:41,920 --> 00:19:43,560 Speaker 1: or a guy in the street or a guy in 296 00:19:43,600 --> 00:19:47,800 Speaker 1: the football team wouldn't say anything negative about someone else's 297 00:19:47,800 --> 00:19:52,760 Speaker 1: mama without them being triggered. That goes with the husbands 298 00:19:52,760 --> 00:19:56,240 Speaker 1: of the ex wives as well. Don't talk about your 299 00:19:56,280 --> 00:20:00,919 Speaker 1: kids mama in a bad way. Wives, I can't speak that. 300 00:20:01,480 --> 00:20:03,600 Speaker 1: I can't speak for you, but I could speak to 301 00:20:03,640 --> 00:20:08,399 Speaker 1: you and say you should take the same advice. And 302 00:20:08,480 --> 00:20:11,480 Speaker 1: so as they get older, you could start to just say, 303 00:20:12,119 --> 00:20:17,000 Speaker 1: you know, your mama loves you so much. She's a 304 00:20:17,000 --> 00:20:23,040 Speaker 1: great mama, and everything she does is out of love. Now, 305 00:20:23,280 --> 00:20:25,080 Speaker 1: we do see things a little bit differently when it 306 00:20:25,119 --> 00:20:28,400 Speaker 1: comes to discipline, and you could probably tell that when 307 00:20:28,440 --> 00:20:30,399 Speaker 1: you come to my house, I'm a little bit stricter 308 00:20:30,560 --> 00:20:33,080 Speaker 1: with this. And I told you that you can't eat 309 00:20:33,080 --> 00:20:36,960 Speaker 1: froot loops because it's sugar and it's bad for you, 310 00:20:37,080 --> 00:20:42,080 Speaker 1: and you know you can get cavities, and so I'm 311 00:20:42,119 --> 00:20:44,520 Speaker 1: sorry that when you come over here, my rule is 312 00:20:44,560 --> 00:20:47,320 Speaker 1: that you can't have froot loops. And when you go 313 00:20:47,400 --> 00:20:51,199 Speaker 1: to your mom's house, she lets you. And that's not 314 00:20:51,280 --> 00:20:53,879 Speaker 1: because I love you more, She loves you least. It 315 00:20:53,920 --> 00:20:56,800 Speaker 1: has nothing to do with that. She just she doesn't 316 00:20:57,040 --> 00:20:59,760 Speaker 1: see it. And she's your mama, and so you got 317 00:20:59,800 --> 00:21:02,240 Speaker 1: to re expect her rules when you go to her house. Okay, 318 00:21:02,280 --> 00:21:03,919 Speaker 1: and she has things that you can't do that I 319 00:21:04,040 --> 00:21:07,399 Speaker 1: let you do. But because we're in this situation and 320 00:21:07,440 --> 00:21:10,280 Speaker 1: I wish we weren't, you're gonna have to go buy 321 00:21:10,359 --> 00:21:12,880 Speaker 1: my rules when you're in my house, and then you're 322 00:21:12,880 --> 00:21:14,639 Speaker 1: gonna have to go buy her rules when when you 323 00:21:14,680 --> 00:21:18,480 Speaker 1: go to her house, and those rules sometimes they don't 324 00:21:18,480 --> 00:21:22,360 Speaker 1: go to each other's house. So these conversations you could 325 00:21:22,400 --> 00:21:26,080 Speaker 1: have with a six, seven eight year old that you 326 00:21:26,119 --> 00:21:28,639 Speaker 1: can't have with a four year old that don't quite 327 00:21:28,800 --> 00:21:33,960 Speaker 1: understand it yet. And these are the difficult conversations that 328 00:21:34,040 --> 00:21:39,280 Speaker 1: come with h you split parenting, And I don't think 329 00:21:40,359 --> 00:21:43,600 Speaker 1: I don't think there's inconsistency there. You're worried about inconsistency 330 00:21:44,000 --> 00:21:47,800 Speaker 1: and confusion. I don't think that that is there. If 331 00:21:47,840 --> 00:21:49,560 Speaker 1: you lay it out like I just did, or you're 332 00:21:49,600 --> 00:21:58,439 Speaker 1: just you, you tell them when I discipline, I do 333 00:21:58,480 --> 00:22:01,200 Speaker 1: it this way. When you're I'm a discipline, she does 334 00:22:01,240 --> 00:22:03,840 Speaker 1: it this way. I'm not saying that your mama is 335 00:22:03,880 --> 00:22:06,639 Speaker 1: doing it wrong. But this is my house and my rules, 336 00:22:06,840 --> 00:22:09,920 Speaker 1: and that's her house in Hurles. Just be very clear 337 00:22:09,960 --> 00:22:12,840 Speaker 1: on that, and I don't think that creates inconsistency. It 338 00:22:12,880 --> 00:22:16,360 Speaker 1: creates inconsistency if they don't know and that's not communicated 339 00:22:16,600 --> 00:22:19,160 Speaker 1: and they just go in there like I think, Dad, 340 00:22:19,160 --> 00:22:22,880 Speaker 1: I thought I could have fruit loops, and you go, 341 00:22:23,080 --> 00:22:26,040 Speaker 1: you're a mama, Let you have those fruit loops. I 342 00:22:26,040 --> 00:22:28,719 Speaker 1: don't know why she does it. That just tears your 343 00:22:28,760 --> 00:22:33,480 Speaker 1: teeth apart and messes up your belly and gives your pimples. 344 00:22:33,520 --> 00:22:37,399 Speaker 1: You shouldn't need that sugary stuff. You know. That's throwing 345 00:22:37,400 --> 00:22:42,679 Speaker 1: shade on mama. Do your best to stay away from that, Josh. 346 00:22:42,680 --> 00:22:45,120 Speaker 1: I'm sorry you're in the situation, man, And I hope 347 00:22:45,119 --> 00:22:46,080 Speaker 1: this helps just a little bit. 348 00:22:46,760 --> 00:22:48,720 Speaker 2: A lot of people thinking about twenty twenty five and 349 00:22:48,800 --> 00:22:52,520 Speaker 2: New Year's resolutions, and a lot of those are business related. 350 00:22:52,960 --> 00:22:54,919 Speaker 2: In fact, a lot of people listening right now are thinking, 351 00:22:55,119 --> 00:22:57,280 Speaker 2: this is the year I'm finally going to start that 352 00:22:57,400 --> 00:23:00,240 Speaker 2: small business something I've been wanting to do it forever, 353 00:23:00,640 --> 00:23:03,400 Speaker 2: and now is the time. 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Every podcast 396 00:25:07,200 --> 00:25:09,480 Speaker 2: that we do, we put it out on YouTube as 397 00:25:09,480 --> 00:25:11,800 Speaker 2: well on my YouTube channel Granger Smith. 398 00:25:12,480 --> 00:25:14,080 Speaker 1: Super easy to find. If you go to YouTube and 399 00:25:14,119 --> 00:25:17,760 Speaker 1: search for Granger Smith podcast, it should pop right up 400 00:25:17,760 --> 00:25:22,040 Speaker 1: for you and you might be listening to it on 401 00:25:22,160 --> 00:25:24,440 Speaker 1: there right now as we speak. But a lot of 402 00:25:24,440 --> 00:25:26,760 Speaker 1: people aren't a lot of people are on the other platforms. 403 00:25:27,520 --> 00:25:31,000 Speaker 1: YouTube's good for a few reasons. One, you can see me, Hey, 404 00:25:31,680 --> 00:25:34,119 Speaker 1: we can have these conversations. Sometimes I watch videos on 405 00:25:34,200 --> 00:25:36,840 Speaker 1: here and commentate them, and you could watch the videos 406 00:25:37,160 --> 00:25:40,240 Speaker 1: with me. And the other thing that's really cool is 407 00:25:40,240 --> 00:25:44,560 Speaker 1: you could comment and I do go through those comments, 408 00:25:44,560 --> 00:25:47,320 Speaker 1: and so that's encouraging. If you go to the YouTube 409 00:25:47,400 --> 00:25:51,600 Speaker 1: version you hear something, maybe one of the questions, and 410 00:25:51,000 --> 00:25:54,200 Speaker 1: you want to double down on something, or you want 411 00:25:54,240 --> 00:25:57,520 Speaker 1: to reviewed me on something or agree with me, whatever 412 00:25:57,560 --> 00:25:59,520 Speaker 1: it might be, you can comment right there and I 413 00:25:59,560 --> 00:26:03,320 Speaker 1: see that, and it's of course you could email me 414 00:26:03,320 --> 00:26:05,920 Speaker 1: podcast at grangersmith dot com like all of these emails 415 00:26:05,960 --> 00:26:09,399 Speaker 1: and say that. But sometimes that idea might get lost 416 00:26:10,080 --> 00:26:14,000 Speaker 1: because you'll say, hey, Grangeer, I at a certain episode, 417 00:26:14,000 --> 00:26:17,120 Speaker 1: you said this, and so many weeks might have gone 418 00:26:17,119 --> 00:26:19,399 Speaker 1: by and I already forgot. So if you go to 419 00:26:19,400 --> 00:26:23,959 Speaker 1: that YouTube, actual video, that version, then I'll see that, 420 00:26:25,040 --> 00:26:30,359 Speaker 1: and that's helpful. Another thing you could do to help 421 00:26:30,400 --> 00:26:35,960 Speaker 1: this podcast is on the other another platform, Apple. If 422 00:26:35,960 --> 00:26:38,880 Speaker 1: you're listening on Apple podcast, you could give me five 423 00:26:38,920 --> 00:26:42,800 Speaker 1: stars or four if you're not inclined to do five 424 00:26:42,920 --> 00:26:45,720 Speaker 1: and you could you could also rate it and comment 425 00:26:45,760 --> 00:26:49,359 Speaker 1: on that give me a rating of some sort that 426 00:26:49,440 --> 00:26:53,399 Speaker 1: helps the podcast. But that that and that's great and 427 00:26:53,400 --> 00:26:55,560 Speaker 1: I hope you do it, but that doesn't help it 428 00:26:55,640 --> 00:27:00,199 Speaker 1: as much as you actually sending it to somebody. So 429 00:27:00,720 --> 00:27:03,680 Speaker 1: if you you know, I always provide these for free 430 00:27:03,880 --> 00:27:08,639 Speaker 1: for the listeners, and the best way for me to 431 00:27:08,640 --> 00:27:11,280 Speaker 1: get a return for giving out the free podcast is 432 00:27:11,280 --> 00:27:14,280 Speaker 1: for you to share it, so that would be that'd 433 00:27:14,320 --> 00:27:16,240 Speaker 1: be great for me. And then lastly, if you want 434 00:27:16,240 --> 00:27:19,560 Speaker 1: to ask a question, email podcast at grangersmith dot com 435 00:27:19,880 --> 00:27:22,400 Speaker 1: like Steven did, who says, Hey, Granger, I'm a longtime 436 00:27:22,400 --> 00:27:26,320 Speaker 1: follower and fan, I'm curious to know your opinion on 437 00:27:27,160 --> 00:27:31,399 Speaker 1: population growth. Do you think we will run out of 438 00:27:31,440 --> 00:27:35,480 Speaker 1: farmland if we keep developing it to support new homes. 439 00:27:36,040 --> 00:27:38,320 Speaker 1: This is something I struggle with. I can't wrap my 440 00:27:38,359 --> 00:27:41,600 Speaker 1: head around the fact that we are called to reproduce 441 00:27:41,640 --> 00:27:44,520 Speaker 1: as Christians, but we only have a limited amount of 442 00:27:44,560 --> 00:27:49,920 Speaker 1: farmland to sustain us. It seems counterintuitive. How do we 443 00:27:49,960 --> 00:27:52,800 Speaker 1: approach this in a godly way? Wow, Steven, that is 444 00:27:52,840 --> 00:27:56,360 Speaker 1: an interesting question. I don't think of all the questions, 445 00:27:56,400 --> 00:28:01,440 Speaker 1: I've never gotten one quite like this. Like I usually 446 00:28:01,480 --> 00:28:02,960 Speaker 1: think that a lot of a lot of questions are 447 00:28:03,000 --> 00:28:06,560 Speaker 1: just the same, rewarded differently, this one was not. Steve. 448 00:28:06,680 --> 00:28:10,280 Speaker 1: That's a great thought. And you know, I have thought 449 00:28:10,280 --> 00:28:14,000 Speaker 1: about this before, and it does it bothers me. Absolutely. 450 00:28:15,560 --> 00:28:20,200 Speaker 1: I have every time I've moved somewhere in my life 451 00:28:21,440 --> 00:28:26,720 Speaker 1: part of them of the decision of moving there. It 452 00:28:26,800 --> 00:28:31,760 Speaker 1: kind of sits upon this idea of will the will 453 00:28:31,800 --> 00:28:35,639 Speaker 1: the neighbors develop this land and turn it into like 454 00:28:36,240 --> 00:28:42,080 Speaker 1: a trailer park or at a neighborhood or an industrial park, 455 00:28:42,280 --> 00:28:46,040 Speaker 1: you know, And it's it's always a little it's always 456 00:28:46,080 --> 00:28:50,560 Speaker 1: a scary two to move someplace and think, Man, right now, 457 00:28:50,760 --> 00:28:52,720 Speaker 1: I love this. I love sitting on my back porch 458 00:28:52,760 --> 00:28:55,480 Speaker 1: and looking at these trees and maybe one day a 459 00:28:55,520 --> 00:28:58,080 Speaker 1: bulldozer will come in and knock them all down and 460 00:28:58,120 --> 00:29:02,160 Speaker 1: they'll put they'll put a target in a hobby lobby 461 00:29:02,320 --> 00:29:07,360 Speaker 1: here right right behind me. And so it's definitely it's 462 00:29:07,400 --> 00:29:11,080 Speaker 1: definitely a fear. But but I don't think I don't 463 00:29:11,120 --> 00:29:14,520 Speaker 1: think it's a it's it's necessarily anything that you and 464 00:29:14,600 --> 00:29:21,840 Speaker 1: I have to think of in our lifetime. And there's 465 00:29:21,880 --> 00:29:23,480 Speaker 1: there's a lot of ways to approach this, and and 466 00:29:23,480 --> 00:29:26,480 Speaker 1: and another thing that kind of comforts me, for instance, 467 00:29:27,120 --> 00:29:32,640 Speaker 1: is you know, I've heard people then the next city 468 00:29:32,680 --> 00:29:35,719 Speaker 1: over from where I am now is Austin. Austin is 469 00:29:36,320 --> 00:29:41,280 Speaker 1: like very progressive, very liberal, and I've I've known people 470 00:29:41,440 --> 00:29:45,600 Speaker 1: there that have like one acre of land, and they 471 00:29:45,640 --> 00:29:48,400 Speaker 1: think that if you don't touch it, then that's the 472 00:29:48,440 --> 00:29:51,520 Speaker 1: way Mother nature, as they would put it, intended for 473 00:29:51,560 --> 00:29:57,280 Speaker 1: it not to be touched by man. We have seen 474 00:29:58,280 --> 00:30:00,760 Speaker 1: recently in the news with the with the fire in 475 00:30:01,080 --> 00:30:06,600 Speaker 1: California that when you do that and man doesn't intervene 476 00:30:06,720 --> 00:30:11,200 Speaker 1: and instead just lives and doesn't doesn't work the land 477 00:30:11,240 --> 00:30:15,360 Speaker 1: at all. Uh, it not only becomes very dangerous for 478 00:30:15,760 --> 00:30:20,560 Speaker 1: fires because of the the underbrush and and but but 479 00:30:20,640 --> 00:30:26,640 Speaker 1: it's it ends up the unkempt land ends up being 480 00:30:27,680 --> 00:30:31,640 Speaker 1: pretty ugly and pretty dead. I think about this in 481 00:30:31,680 --> 00:30:36,400 Speaker 1: my that I have some woods behind me, and since 482 00:30:36,400 --> 00:30:39,040 Speaker 1: I've been here, I've gone through a lot of those 483 00:30:39,040 --> 00:30:43,400 Speaker 1: woods and taking out some of the the vines that 484 00:30:43,440 --> 00:30:46,760 Speaker 1: get up into the oak trees, and taking out a 485 00:30:46,760 --> 00:30:50,400 Speaker 1: lot of the thorns that have grown in the in 486 00:30:50,440 --> 00:30:53,040 Speaker 1: the brush on the ground. And when I do that 487 00:30:53,120 --> 00:30:54,640 Speaker 1: and I pull away the brush, and I pull away 488 00:30:54,640 --> 00:30:57,960 Speaker 1: the thorns and the and the big vines. You see 489 00:30:57,960 --> 00:31:01,160 Speaker 1: the new growth coming in. You see the pretty flowers 490 00:31:01,160 --> 00:31:04,000 Speaker 1: in the grass, and then you see the trees start 491 00:31:04,000 --> 00:31:06,760 Speaker 1: to thrive when you cut off the dead branches and 492 00:31:06,800 --> 00:31:08,160 Speaker 1: you prune them as they go. 493 00:31:08,280 --> 00:31:08,680 Speaker 2: Up, and. 494 00:31:10,280 --> 00:31:14,560 Speaker 1: The land just gets more vibrant and prettier and healthier. 495 00:31:15,080 --> 00:31:21,080 Speaker 1: As man, as commanded in Genesis, cultivates the land and 496 00:31:21,200 --> 00:31:25,960 Speaker 1: works the land. So there is a sense Stephen, that 497 00:31:25,960 --> 00:31:30,880 Speaker 1: that man working the land, even if it's developing, it 498 00:31:30,920 --> 00:31:37,840 Speaker 1: is better for it. I've definitely seen neighborhoods go into 499 00:31:38,440 --> 00:31:44,680 Speaker 1: cotton fields that the cotton fields have lost all their 500 00:31:44,760 --> 00:31:48,239 Speaker 1: nutrients and they're they're kind of worthless, or there's some 501 00:31:48,320 --> 00:31:52,240 Speaker 1: kind of rocky land that was valueless, and the neighborhood 502 00:31:52,280 --> 00:31:54,520 Speaker 1: goes in there. And then what happens with the neighborhood 503 00:31:55,240 --> 00:31:57,960 Speaker 1: a good neighborhood is that they put a couple of 504 00:31:57,960 --> 00:31:59,720 Speaker 1: trees in every front yard and a couple of trees 505 00:31:59,720 --> 00:32:03,240 Speaker 1: in every backyard, and and over time the trees get 506 00:32:03,240 --> 00:32:07,760 Speaker 1: big and the neighborhood gets older, and it's it actually 507 00:32:08,720 --> 00:32:12,560 Speaker 1: creates a bit of a forest in a in a 508 00:32:12,640 --> 00:32:16,120 Speaker 1: land that used to be just rocky cotton field. So 509 00:32:16,800 --> 00:32:20,480 Speaker 1: there are positives, even though they're harder to find there, 510 00:32:20,560 --> 00:32:26,040 Speaker 1: there are positives in development. And I could probably go 511 00:32:26,080 --> 00:32:28,560 Speaker 1: on and on with some more ideas like that, but 512 00:32:28,560 --> 00:32:31,080 Speaker 1: but I think ultimately this is not something you and 513 00:32:31,080 --> 00:32:34,280 Speaker 1: I are gonna have to deal with because I live 514 00:32:34,320 --> 00:32:41,280 Speaker 1: in Texas and I see millions of acres of undeveloped land. 515 00:32:41,640 --> 00:32:44,720 Speaker 1: Maybe if you're you're sitting in in New York City 516 00:32:44,720 --> 00:32:46,440 Speaker 1: and you're going, man, is there anything else we could 517 00:32:46,440 --> 00:32:48,960 Speaker 1: possibly develop? I don't think. I don't think we can. 518 00:32:49,720 --> 00:32:54,520 Speaker 1: But in America, uh, we we have millions and millions 519 00:32:54,600 --> 00:32:58,160 Speaker 1: and millions of acres. And so I say, if we 520 00:32:58,240 --> 00:33:02,800 Speaker 1: do it responsibly, then man and should come in and 521 00:33:02,840 --> 00:33:08,000 Speaker 1: develop and do it with integrity, and do it with excellence, 522 00:33:08,000 --> 00:33:11,640 Speaker 1: and do it with class, and and and do it 523 00:33:11,720 --> 00:33:16,040 Speaker 1: with keeping the original owner in mind, keeping the farmer 524 00:33:16,120 --> 00:33:18,560 Speaker 1: in mind. And you have a lot of farmers that 525 00:33:19,120 --> 00:33:22,200 Speaker 1: lose their land to development, but then now they have 526 00:33:22,280 --> 00:33:26,000 Speaker 1: a few million bucks to go and and get an 527 00:33:26,040 --> 00:33:28,440 Speaker 1: even prettier piece of land farther out of town. I 528 00:33:28,480 --> 00:33:32,200 Speaker 1: see this happen to farmers all the time in central Texas. 529 00:33:32,200 --> 00:33:35,080 Speaker 1: There I don't think they're too sad when a developer 530 00:33:35,200 --> 00:33:37,440 Speaker 1: comes in and buys their old grandpa's farm because they 531 00:33:37,440 --> 00:33:39,040 Speaker 1: have so much money now in the bank that they 532 00:33:39,080 --> 00:33:41,840 Speaker 1: get to go and and and share that with others 533 00:33:41,880 --> 00:33:45,680 Speaker 1: and disperse it among their grandkids and get another farm 534 00:33:45,720 --> 00:33:49,240 Speaker 1: somewhere else side. I don't see too much sadness when 535 00:33:49,520 --> 00:33:52,680 Speaker 1: it comes to that stuff. So so, buddy, I love 536 00:33:52,680 --> 00:33:55,280 Speaker 1: your heart. I love that you that you see that 537 00:33:55,320 --> 00:33:58,400 Speaker 1: the bulldozers come in and you you get a little 538 00:33:58,480 --> 00:34:03,600 Speaker 1: upset because I know that feeling. But as we go 539 00:34:03,680 --> 00:34:09,960 Speaker 1: out and intend to tend to the land and multiply, 540 00:34:10,680 --> 00:34:14,480 Speaker 1: if we do it with integrity and love, I think 541 00:34:14,480 --> 00:34:18,920 Speaker 1: it is a good thing. This question comes from Michael says, Hey, Granger, 542 00:34:19,000 --> 00:34:21,719 Speaker 1: been trying to get in shape for a while now, 543 00:34:22,040 --> 00:34:25,080 Speaker 1: but it just can't seem to stay consistent. Life always 544 00:34:25,080 --> 00:34:27,759 Speaker 1: seems to get in the way between a demanding job, 545 00:34:28,080 --> 00:34:31,239 Speaker 1: family responsibilities, and just trying to keep up with the 546 00:34:31,320 --> 00:34:33,439 Speaker 1: day to day life. I find it hard to carve 547 00:34:33,440 --> 00:34:37,800 Speaker 1: out time for exercise. I've tried starting out workout routines 548 00:34:38,320 --> 00:34:41,200 Speaker 1: and meal plans, and for a couple of weeks I'm 549 00:34:41,200 --> 00:34:44,640 Speaker 1: all in, and then something happens, word, gigs gets hectic, 550 00:34:45,120 --> 00:34:47,480 Speaker 1: and kids need extra attention, and then I lose the 551 00:34:47,520 --> 00:34:49,719 Speaker 1: motivation to keep on going. Before I know it, I'm 552 00:34:49,760 --> 00:34:52,600 Speaker 1: right back where I started. It's so frustrating. It's not 553 00:34:52,680 --> 00:34:55,400 Speaker 1: just about losing weight or looking a certain way. I 554 00:34:55,480 --> 00:34:59,080 Speaker 1: really want to feel healthier and have more energy to 555 00:34:59,160 --> 00:35:02,000 Speaker 1: keep up with my family. I know it's important, but 556 00:35:02,120 --> 00:35:05,319 Speaker 1: sticking with it feels impossible when everything else seems to 557 00:35:05,360 --> 00:35:09,120 Speaker 1: be so urgent. How do you stay motivated to prioritize 558 00:35:09,120 --> 00:35:12,640 Speaker 1: fitness when life gets busy, and do you have any 559 00:35:12,640 --> 00:35:15,719 Speaker 1: advice for making it less overwhelming and more of a 560 00:35:15,760 --> 00:35:18,960 Speaker 1: long term habit. Thanks for taking your time to read this, Michael. 561 00:35:20,160 --> 00:35:22,960 Speaker 1: All right, Michael, Yeah, it's a good question, man. And 562 00:35:28,000 --> 00:35:33,040 Speaker 1: how do I answer this? Because you could always tell 563 00:35:33,760 --> 00:35:38,359 Speaker 1: with somebody how much they want something, how much they 564 00:35:38,400 --> 00:35:44,160 Speaker 1: desire something, by the result of it and the progress 565 00:35:44,239 --> 00:35:51,000 Speaker 1: of it in their life currently. So if you say 566 00:35:52,560 --> 00:35:59,360 Speaker 1: my kids' lives are a huge priority for me, being 567 00:35:59,400 --> 00:36:05,520 Speaker 1: there at their sporting events is a huge deal to me, Granger, 568 00:36:06,239 --> 00:36:09,760 Speaker 1: and then you're out every week playing golf and missing 569 00:36:09,840 --> 00:36:12,799 Speaker 1: the sporting events and you're with your buddies, I would 570 00:36:12,800 --> 00:36:17,040 Speaker 1: say it looks like golf is the main priority here, 571 00:36:17,320 --> 00:36:20,840 Speaker 1: not the kids. Right, that's easy to see. Super practical. 572 00:36:21,920 --> 00:36:24,479 Speaker 1: Same thing with working out, Same thing with staying in shape. 573 00:36:25,200 --> 00:36:31,600 Speaker 1: When you say you began your this whole email saying 574 00:36:32,000 --> 00:36:33,840 Speaker 1: I've been trying to get in shape for a while 575 00:36:33,920 --> 00:36:37,040 Speaker 1: now and just I can't seem to stay consistent, I 576 00:36:37,040 --> 00:36:40,040 Speaker 1: would say, if you can't stay consistent and you've tried 577 00:36:40,040 --> 00:36:42,840 Speaker 1: it for a while, then you just don't really want 578 00:36:42,880 --> 00:36:45,239 Speaker 1: it as much as you want other things in life. 579 00:36:46,040 --> 00:36:48,560 Speaker 1: And when we're talking about working out, that's not a 580 00:36:48,560 --> 00:36:51,040 Speaker 1: bad thing, you know. That's not like reading the Bible. 581 00:36:51,480 --> 00:36:55,719 Speaker 1: I would say. If we're talking about spiritual disciplines and 582 00:36:56,239 --> 00:37:01,240 Speaker 1: reading your Bible, I would say, there you must drop 583 00:37:01,400 --> 00:37:05,200 Speaker 1: other things to feast on the word of God, because 584 00:37:05,239 --> 00:37:08,359 Speaker 1: man cannot live on bread alone, but from every word 585 00:37:08,360 --> 00:37:10,759 Speaker 1: that comes from the mouth of God. So as you 586 00:37:10,800 --> 00:37:15,360 Speaker 1: would not skip a meal, you cannot skip your personal 587 00:37:15,560 --> 00:37:19,960 Speaker 1: devotional time with the Bible. But we're talking about working out. 588 00:37:20,040 --> 00:37:22,799 Speaker 1: I think that's very important, but not as important as 589 00:37:22,880 --> 00:37:26,880 Speaker 1: some other things. But I would say this, Michael, in 590 00:37:26,920 --> 00:37:28,800 Speaker 1: the same way I would be talking about spiritual disciplines, 591 00:37:28,840 --> 00:37:32,640 Speaker 1: I would say, I bet you, I bet you don't 592 00:37:32,840 --> 00:37:39,680 Speaker 1: ever skip lunch, and you might not ever skip breakfast. 593 00:37:41,040 --> 00:37:45,240 Speaker 1: And I would say your lunchtime is about an hour, 594 00:37:45,440 --> 00:37:50,640 Speaker 1: probably forty five minutes at the least, a slot in 595 00:37:50,719 --> 00:37:54,640 Speaker 1: your day for what you're asking, Because what you're asking 596 00:37:54,800 --> 00:37:57,239 Speaker 1: is you're asking for me to help you with your 597 00:37:57,239 --> 00:38:04,959 Speaker 1: schedule because you're busy and things come up. I don't 598 00:38:05,000 --> 00:38:07,320 Speaker 1: know where you work, I wish I did. I don't 599 00:38:07,360 --> 00:38:09,920 Speaker 1: know your work routine. I wish I did because I 600 00:38:09,920 --> 00:38:13,040 Speaker 1: could directly help you with that. But I would say, 601 00:38:14,040 --> 00:38:16,439 Speaker 1: if it's not waking up early, which is the number 602 00:38:16,480 --> 00:38:20,719 Speaker 1: one recommendation, would be set your alarm thirty minutes earlier. 603 00:38:21,880 --> 00:38:24,759 Speaker 1: You don't have to go to a gym. You could 604 00:38:24,800 --> 00:38:28,680 Speaker 1: do a workout online and you don't even need weights. 605 00:38:29,040 --> 00:38:33,200 Speaker 1: Or you can go to Academy Sports and buy some 606 00:38:33,239 --> 00:38:37,680 Speaker 1: of those adjustable dumbells that they go from ten pounds 607 00:38:37,719 --> 00:38:40,920 Speaker 1: to sixty pounds and they're just two units and you 608 00:38:40,960 --> 00:38:44,400 Speaker 1: could adjust it. You could buy those and a bench 609 00:38:45,400 --> 00:38:47,920 Speaker 1: and you could pay a couple hundred bucks and be 610 00:38:48,000 --> 00:38:50,600 Speaker 1: in and cancel the gym membership and do this in 611 00:38:50,600 --> 00:38:57,040 Speaker 1: the garage. Set your alarm thirty minutes earlier. And do that, or, 612 00:38:57,360 --> 00:39:00,400 Speaker 1: like I said earlier, if that's not possible, if getting 613 00:39:00,440 --> 00:39:02,799 Speaker 1: up earlier is not possible, because what we talked about 614 00:39:02,800 --> 00:39:08,319 Speaker 1: earlier with sleep, then I would say skip lunch. And 615 00:39:08,360 --> 00:39:10,080 Speaker 1: if that sounds shocking to you, then I would say 616 00:39:10,080 --> 00:39:13,360 Speaker 1: that you must not be that serious about it. Eat 617 00:39:13,880 --> 00:39:17,719 Speaker 1: if you like to eat, eat a bigger dinner. And 618 00:39:18,239 --> 00:39:20,680 Speaker 1: my brother Tyler, I'll tell you what. That guy's crazy. 619 00:39:21,480 --> 00:39:25,080 Speaker 1: He only eats dinner and he's been doing this for 620 00:39:25,400 --> 00:39:27,960 Speaker 1: years and that's just the way he is. Like I'll say, hey, 621 00:39:28,000 --> 00:39:29,600 Speaker 1: you want to go to lunch. He'll go, yeah, but 622 00:39:29,640 --> 00:39:32,719 Speaker 1: I'm not gonna eat. He has trained his body in 623 00:39:32,800 --> 00:39:37,560 Speaker 1: this way. Or he doesn't even get hungry. Now. He'll 624 00:39:37,600 --> 00:39:41,640 Speaker 1: eat twenty five hundred calories at night in one sitting 625 00:39:41,800 --> 00:39:46,440 Speaker 1: because he could do that. But he didn't need breakfast 626 00:39:46,520 --> 00:39:50,040 Speaker 1: or lunch, and it sureed us free up his day 627 00:39:50,080 --> 00:39:51,880 Speaker 1: a lot. So he'll go with me to lunch, but 628 00:39:51,960 --> 00:39:55,320 Speaker 1: he'll just sit there and drink water. So have you 629 00:39:55,360 --> 00:39:57,439 Speaker 1: ever thought about that? I mean, there's a thousand things 630 00:39:57,480 --> 00:39:59,360 Speaker 1: we could talk about, Michael, But I would say, but 631 00:39:59,400 --> 00:40:01,319 Speaker 1: you haven't thought about I bet you haven't thought that 632 00:40:01,400 --> 00:40:03,799 Speaker 1: lunch is an option, and if you go to work 633 00:40:03,840 --> 00:40:07,680 Speaker 1: every day you probably do, then there's there's probably a 634 00:40:07,719 --> 00:40:12,320 Speaker 1: gym that costs twenty bucks a month that's walking distance 635 00:40:12,920 --> 00:40:15,719 Speaker 1: or a quick drive from wherever you work, and you 636 00:40:15,760 --> 00:40:17,759 Speaker 1: can get off for lunch like you usually do. So 637 00:40:17,880 --> 00:40:20,440 Speaker 1: you get off it and you say you usually leave it 638 00:40:20,560 --> 00:40:23,600 Speaker 1: noon and come back like one fifteen to work. Leave 639 00:40:23,640 --> 00:40:27,600 Speaker 1: it noon, go to the gym that takes ten minutes 640 00:40:27,640 --> 00:40:30,360 Speaker 1: to drive there. Now it's it's twelve to ten. You 641 00:40:30,440 --> 00:40:34,720 Speaker 1: work out for thirty minutes, it's twelve forty. You get dressed, 642 00:40:34,760 --> 00:40:36,439 Speaker 1: you take a shower if you need to at the gym, 643 00:40:36,960 --> 00:40:39,799 Speaker 1: have it all in a bag, and you hit the 644 00:40:39,880 --> 00:40:42,759 Speaker 1: road at one and you're back at the office at 645 00:40:42,920 --> 00:40:46,360 Speaker 1: same time about one ten, one fifteen. So you've just 646 00:40:46,440 --> 00:40:49,120 Speaker 1: traded one thing for the next, and you will feel 647 00:40:49,120 --> 00:40:52,359 Speaker 1: better for this, and you'll feel healthier if you're If 648 00:40:52,360 --> 00:40:54,839 Speaker 1: you're like man, I can't skip food like that, then 649 00:40:54,880 --> 00:40:57,200 Speaker 1: take a couple of protein bars in the bag and 650 00:40:57,320 --> 00:41:00,560 Speaker 1: eat some high calorie protein bars or a high calorie 651 00:41:00,600 --> 00:41:05,040 Speaker 1: meal replacement supplement powdered form. Mix it with some water 652 00:41:05,360 --> 00:41:07,800 Speaker 1: or some almond milk or something like that. Shake it 653 00:41:07,880 --> 00:41:10,759 Speaker 1: up in a little one of the little shakers, you'd 654 00:41:10,760 --> 00:41:14,879 Speaker 1: be good to go. And once again it goes back 655 00:41:14,920 --> 00:41:17,560 Speaker 1: to how bad do you want this? Like, are you 656 00:41:17,600 --> 00:41:19,920 Speaker 1: really serious about this? Because we could, we can go 657 00:41:19,920 --> 00:41:24,640 Speaker 1: down a whole list of options. I would say maybe 658 00:41:24,680 --> 00:41:29,600 Speaker 1: one of the problems that you're having is you're you're 659 00:41:29,640 --> 00:41:33,520 Speaker 1: you're thinking about the workout as too much of a 660 00:41:33,560 --> 00:41:36,160 Speaker 1: time commitment, and you're not thinking that you could do 661 00:41:36,200 --> 00:41:42,400 Speaker 1: what you need to do in thirty minutes. I hesitate 662 00:41:42,400 --> 00:41:45,919 Speaker 1: to talk about me because we're all so different, and 663 00:41:46,080 --> 00:41:49,600 Speaker 1: we're all motivated by different things, and we all physically 664 00:41:50,360 --> 00:41:53,480 Speaker 1: benefit from different kinds of exercises. But I've done I've 665 00:41:53,480 --> 00:41:57,480 Speaker 1: done strength training. I'm not a big cardio guy. I'm 666 00:41:57,480 --> 00:42:00,839 Speaker 1: not a big definitely not a CrossFit guy, but I've 667 00:42:00,840 --> 00:42:05,400 Speaker 1: done I've done like chest on Monday, back on Tuesday, 668 00:42:05,560 --> 00:42:08,960 Speaker 1: legs on Wednesday, shoulders on Thursday, and arms on Friday. 669 00:42:09,520 --> 00:42:15,399 Speaker 1: I've done that for maybe twenty years. I remember doing 670 00:42:15,400 --> 00:42:19,360 Speaker 1: it in high school before that, so a long time. 671 00:42:20,920 --> 00:42:23,719 Speaker 1: When I was on the road touring, I did it 672 00:42:23,760 --> 00:42:26,719 Speaker 1: in the mornings. I always found a local gym I 673 00:42:26,719 --> 00:42:30,359 Speaker 1: had a membership at anytime. Fitness and Planet Fitness and 674 00:42:31,000 --> 00:42:33,239 Speaker 1: a monthly membership at each of those it was like 675 00:42:33,280 --> 00:42:37,200 Speaker 1: twenty bucks. And so wherever city I went through, there 676 00:42:37,239 --> 00:42:40,480 Speaker 1: was always either and Anytime Fitness or a Planet Fitness. 677 00:42:40,800 --> 00:42:43,560 Speaker 1: And if there wasn't, then the venue I was playing 678 00:42:44,160 --> 00:42:48,000 Speaker 1: suggested something else that was almost always free to go 679 00:42:48,200 --> 00:42:51,680 Speaker 1: work out, or sometimes a ten dollars day day fee 680 00:42:51,880 --> 00:42:56,640 Speaker 1: sometimes And so I worked. There wasn't an excuse not 681 00:42:56,719 --> 00:43:03,520 Speaker 1: to do it. And so I have several workouts for 682 00:43:03,560 --> 00:43:05,960 Speaker 1: each of those different muscle groups, I said on my 683 00:43:06,040 --> 00:43:10,320 Speaker 1: phone on my notes app, So I could go in 684 00:43:10,360 --> 00:43:12,759 Speaker 1: there and there's little videos I could press play, and 685 00:43:12,840 --> 00:43:15,480 Speaker 1: they're like thirty five minutes each. So when I want 686 00:43:15,480 --> 00:43:17,600 Speaker 1: to do a chess workout, I could find any gym 687 00:43:17,600 --> 00:43:22,040 Speaker 1: in the country or some adjustable dun bells and press 688 00:43:22,080 --> 00:43:25,080 Speaker 1: play if I have a bench and do a thirty minute. 689 00:43:25,120 --> 00:43:27,480 Speaker 1: At every hotel, by the way, that I've ever stayed 690 00:43:27,520 --> 00:43:31,160 Speaker 1: in has something to do, you know, some kind of 691 00:43:31,280 --> 00:43:35,319 Speaker 1: exercise room. Some are better than others. But when I 692 00:43:35,360 --> 00:43:38,080 Speaker 1: go to speaking and engagement now, I will always get 693 00:43:38,160 --> 00:43:40,799 Speaker 1: up that morning. I'll get my coffee, i will read 694 00:43:40,840 --> 00:43:44,880 Speaker 1: my Bible, I'll do my devotion, I'll fill out my journal, 695 00:43:45,040 --> 00:43:47,800 Speaker 1: I'll do my Bible memory, and then I will walk 696 00:43:47,840 --> 00:43:51,120 Speaker 1: downstairs at the hotel to the gym and I will 697 00:43:51,360 --> 00:43:53,560 Speaker 1: do my workout, and then I'll come back to my 698 00:43:53,600 --> 00:43:57,520 Speaker 1: hotel room and start my day and by the way, 699 00:43:57,640 --> 00:44:03,760 Speaker 1: skip breakfast typically, So that's how about do you want it? Michael? 700 00:44:04,960 --> 00:44:09,200 Speaker 1: How about do you want it? One more thing? Having 701 00:44:09,200 --> 00:44:13,080 Speaker 1: a plan before you get to that day is pretty critical. 702 00:44:13,680 --> 00:44:19,759 Speaker 1: So for instance, if I'm in a hotel per se, 703 00:44:20,040 --> 00:44:25,759 Speaker 1: i will check in, go put my bags up in 704 00:44:25,800 --> 00:44:29,040 Speaker 1: the room, and then I'll go back down and I'll say, 705 00:44:29,040 --> 00:44:32,640 Speaker 1: where's your fitness room, and they'll say, second floor, into 706 00:44:32,640 --> 00:44:34,360 Speaker 1: the hall. So I'll go get an elevator. I go 707 00:44:34,360 --> 00:44:35,360 Speaker 1: to the second floor. I go to the end of 708 00:44:35,360 --> 00:44:37,839 Speaker 1: the hall and I peek in there just to look 709 00:44:37,880 --> 00:44:39,840 Speaker 1: at it, and I'll go, Okay, they got a bench, 710 00:44:40,000 --> 00:44:43,319 Speaker 1: they have dumbbells that go up to fifty pounds. They 711 00:44:43,360 --> 00:44:49,080 Speaker 1: have two treadmills, and a like a medicine ball. And 712 00:44:49,120 --> 00:44:51,840 Speaker 1: then I'll go back to my room and then I'll 713 00:44:51,840 --> 00:44:56,560 Speaker 1: know in my mind, I know tomorrow is shoulder day, 714 00:44:56,600 --> 00:44:58,879 Speaker 1: and so I've got a I've got a little video 715 00:44:58,920 --> 00:45:02,200 Speaker 1: on my phone that work for the dumbbells. They go 716 00:45:02,280 --> 00:45:05,000 Speaker 1: up to fifty pounds, a treadmill and a medicine ball, 717 00:45:05,480 --> 00:45:08,080 Speaker 1: and that'll work for my shoulder day. So that's my plan. 718 00:45:08,320 --> 00:45:10,160 Speaker 1: And then I'll look at look at my schedule and 719 00:45:10,200 --> 00:45:13,879 Speaker 1: I go, Okay, the best time because my morning's gonna 720 00:45:13,880 --> 00:45:17,560 Speaker 1: start about eight thirty. That means I need to be 721 00:45:17,800 --> 00:45:22,279 Speaker 1: in that. See, I'll get up at six. So I'll 722 00:45:22,320 --> 00:45:24,959 Speaker 1: look at my watch. It's it's ten thirty right now. 723 00:45:25,120 --> 00:45:27,279 Speaker 1: So I'll try to get in bed. And then I 724 00:45:27,320 --> 00:45:30,080 Speaker 1: need seven hours. So if I can get to if 725 00:45:30,080 --> 00:45:31,560 Speaker 1: i'll read a little bit, if i can get to 726 00:45:31,600 --> 00:45:34,200 Speaker 1: sleep by eleven, then I'll wake up at six, that's 727 00:45:34,200 --> 00:45:37,480 Speaker 1: seven hours. I'll get my coffee and oh, and I 728 00:45:37,480 --> 00:45:39,680 Speaker 1: get up. I literally get up in the hotel room. 729 00:45:39,719 --> 00:45:41,920 Speaker 1: This is every time I'm in a hotel. And I 730 00:45:41,960 --> 00:45:44,880 Speaker 1: will get that coffee that's in the little plastic bag, 731 00:45:45,840 --> 00:45:49,520 Speaker 1: and I'll there's a cup for that little plastic coffee maker. 732 00:45:50,080 --> 00:45:52,960 Speaker 1: I'll take the cup out of the plastic bag and 733 00:45:53,040 --> 00:45:56,000 Speaker 1: I'll set it in the coffee maker, and I'll get 734 00:45:56,000 --> 00:45:58,640 Speaker 1: the coffee pod and I'll put it right next to it. 735 00:45:59,680 --> 00:46:01,920 Speaker 1: And then I'll get my water bottle and I'll put 736 00:46:01,920 --> 00:46:04,759 Speaker 1: it right next to that, and I get it all 737 00:46:04,840 --> 00:46:08,040 Speaker 1: set out, so then my alarm goes off at six. 738 00:46:08,440 --> 00:46:11,239 Speaker 1: I go over there. I'd put that. I take the 739 00:46:12,719 --> 00:46:15,640 Speaker 1: cup of the cup for the coffee, fill it with water, 740 00:46:15,960 --> 00:46:19,120 Speaker 1: put it in the machine, put the pod in, hit power, 741 00:46:19,800 --> 00:46:23,080 Speaker 1: I take my iPad, I hit start on my daily 742 00:46:23,120 --> 00:46:26,360 Speaker 1: reading plan in my Bible. I start reading, and I 743 00:46:26,480 --> 00:46:30,800 Speaker 1: go through the reading and I do my little journal. 744 00:46:30,840 --> 00:46:33,879 Speaker 1: I drink the coffee, and then by now it's six 745 00:46:34,040 --> 00:46:38,120 Speaker 1: forty five. I go downstairs and I go in At 746 00:46:38,160 --> 00:46:42,560 Speaker 1: seven o'clock, I'm working on my shoulder workout. And then 747 00:46:42,600 --> 00:46:47,839 Speaker 1: I go from there back upstairs, and now it's you know, 748 00:46:48,280 --> 00:46:53,480 Speaker 1: it's seven fifteen, seven twenty, and I could check some emails, 749 00:46:53,760 --> 00:46:56,120 Speaker 1: get dressed, and I'm out the door at eight to 750 00:46:56,200 --> 00:46:59,600 Speaker 1: whatever I need to do. But that comes from the 751 00:46:59,640 --> 00:47:02,960 Speaker 1: plan of the night before. It would be harder if 752 00:47:03,000 --> 00:47:06,240 Speaker 1: I woke up that morning at six and been like, okay, 753 00:47:07,280 --> 00:47:10,080 Speaker 1: let's see is there coffee in this place or they 754 00:47:10,120 --> 00:47:13,800 Speaker 1: have breakfast downstairs. I wonder if they have a gym, 755 00:47:14,280 --> 00:47:16,880 Speaker 1: And if they do have a gym, I wonder if 756 00:47:16,960 --> 00:47:20,760 Speaker 1: they have free weights, like yet, I would that I wouldn't. 757 00:47:20,760 --> 00:47:23,080 Speaker 1: I don't want to do that. It's so much better 758 00:47:23,120 --> 00:47:25,160 Speaker 1: to have a plan. So that's my hotel plan. I 759 00:47:25,200 --> 00:47:28,799 Speaker 1: have my home plan. But for you, Michael, gets your 760 00:47:28,800 --> 00:47:32,480 Speaker 1: shoes ready, get your your your shorts and your T 761 00:47:32,600 --> 00:47:35,799 Speaker 1: shirt that you're gonna wear. Get your little earbuds that 762 00:47:35,800 --> 00:47:38,120 Speaker 1: you're going to listen to the workout on. Lay them 763 00:47:38,120 --> 00:47:41,279 Speaker 1: all out the night before, look at your watch, know 764 00:47:41,400 --> 00:47:43,319 Speaker 1: your plan. If you're going to do the lunch thing. 765 00:47:43,719 --> 00:47:46,480 Speaker 1: If it, put it in your bag real neat Your 766 00:47:46,560 --> 00:47:48,400 Speaker 1: wife says, what are you doing. I'm getting my getting 767 00:47:48,400 --> 00:47:52,000 Speaker 1: my gym bag ready, put your shoes in there. Heyre's 768 00:47:52,160 --> 00:47:55,560 Speaker 1: here's another side note. If you don't have good gym shoes, 769 00:47:56,000 --> 00:47:59,280 Speaker 1: go buy some. I'm not an advocate for buying junk 770 00:47:59,440 --> 00:48:03,759 Speaker 1: or things just to buy new things. I'm not. But 771 00:48:03,840 --> 00:48:09,680 Speaker 1: for some reason, if you have shoes that you like, 772 00:48:09,680 --> 00:48:13,360 Speaker 1: like gym shoes that you like, it will help motivate 773 00:48:13,400 --> 00:48:17,759 Speaker 1: you for some strange reason. So what I mean is, 774 00:48:18,120 --> 00:48:20,879 Speaker 1: don't have like hybrid like these these will work. These 775 00:48:20,920 --> 00:48:22,759 Speaker 1: will be okay. You know, I wore them in the 776 00:48:22,800 --> 00:48:25,840 Speaker 1: mud yesterday in the in the field, but they're okay. No, 777 00:48:26,000 --> 00:48:28,719 Speaker 1: get you some gym shoes, you know, get you some 778 00:48:28,800 --> 00:48:30,960 Speaker 1: modest gym shoes. Put them in the bag. Put your 779 00:48:30,960 --> 00:48:33,960 Speaker 1: clothes in there, and put your put your little zip 780 00:48:33,960 --> 00:48:36,920 Speaker 1: block bag with protein powder in it. Throw you a 781 00:48:36,920 --> 00:48:41,520 Speaker 1: little a little protein bar in there, something high calorie. 782 00:48:42,360 --> 00:48:45,080 Speaker 1: Zip it up, put it right there by whatever you 783 00:48:45,080 --> 00:48:46,640 Speaker 1: got to take the work or put it in your truck. 784 00:48:49,520 --> 00:48:51,440 Speaker 1: The more you prepare the night before, then you get 785 00:48:51,480 --> 00:48:54,200 Speaker 1: up that next day and there it is ready to go. 786 00:48:54,320 --> 00:48:56,719 Speaker 1: The planning is out of it. It's just waiting for 787 00:48:56,760 --> 00:48:59,960 Speaker 1: you to execute the plan. How bad do you want it? 788 00:49:00,120 --> 00:49:03,600 Speaker 1: That's the question. Love you guys. Email me podcast at 789 00:49:03,640 --> 00:49:06,080 Speaker 1: grangersmith dot com. 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