1 00:00:19,520 --> 00:00:23,599 Speaker 1: Hey, everybody, Emily Abadi here, you are listening to a 2 00:00:23,720 --> 00:00:25,480 Speaker 1: five minute Friday from Hurdle. 3 00:00:26,320 --> 00:00:28,400 Speaker 2: I am sitting here. 4 00:00:28,840 --> 00:00:33,599 Speaker 1: I'm recording this midweek, shortly after I did a keynote 5 00:00:33,600 --> 00:00:38,159 Speaker 1: presentation for a Boston based company and the presentation was 6 00:00:38,280 --> 00:00:42,479 Speaker 1: all about how to incorporate healthy habits into your regular routine. 7 00:00:42,640 --> 00:00:49,440 Speaker 1: So basically strategies, tips, tools so that these employees could 8 00:00:50,040 --> 00:00:56,000 Speaker 1: be more regular with the things that make them feel good. Now, 9 00:00:56,240 --> 00:01:00,080 Speaker 1: one of my forever tips when it comes to adopting 10 00:01:00,560 --> 00:01:04,800 Speaker 1: a healthy movement practice is that you've got to choose 11 00:01:04,800 --> 00:01:09,080 Speaker 1: something that you enjoy. You have got to lean into 12 00:01:09,200 --> 00:01:14,200 Speaker 1: whatever type of movement makes you happy. So if you 13 00:01:14,360 --> 00:01:17,600 Speaker 1: see someone who is like a huge fan of CrossFit 14 00:01:17,640 --> 00:01:19,560 Speaker 1: and you think it looks cool, but when you go 15 00:01:19,640 --> 00:01:23,720 Speaker 1: to CrossFit you actually one hundred percent dread everything from 16 00:01:23,880 --> 00:01:26,160 Speaker 1: burpies to box jumps to power. 17 00:01:25,920 --> 00:01:28,720 Speaker 2: Cleans, then you don't have to do CrossFit. 18 00:01:29,360 --> 00:01:33,840 Speaker 1: Just like if you see someone, perhaps while scrolling on 19 00:01:33,880 --> 00:01:38,280 Speaker 1: the socials that is running their gazillionth marathon, but every 20 00:01:38,360 --> 00:01:40,520 Speaker 1: time you lace up your sneakers and go outside it 21 00:01:40,760 --> 00:01:44,759 Speaker 1: actually makes you want to contemplate a slow death. Then 22 00:01:44,920 --> 00:01:48,680 Speaker 1: maybe running isn't for you, So that piece of advice Again, 23 00:01:49,160 --> 00:01:52,240 Speaker 1: if you want to incorporate movement into your regular routine, 24 00:01:52,720 --> 00:01:55,320 Speaker 1: then that movement has got to be something that you like. 25 00:01:55,600 --> 00:01:57,720 Speaker 2: And to piggyback on that. 26 00:01:58,000 --> 00:02:01,120 Speaker 1: While I'm offering up this tip, it also helps if 27 00:02:01,120 --> 00:02:06,560 Speaker 1: you diversify your activities, so maybe you aren't doing the 28 00:02:06,600 --> 00:02:09,280 Speaker 1: same thing every day. Not only does that help to 29 00:02:09,360 --> 00:02:12,000 Speaker 1: keep things interesting, but it also helps. 30 00:02:11,800 --> 00:02:13,240 Speaker 2: Stave off boredom. 31 00:02:13,639 --> 00:02:17,919 Speaker 1: Now why am I starting off this five minute Friday 32 00:02:17,960 --> 00:02:22,639 Speaker 1: with this story? Well, lately, I have really been focusing 33 00:02:23,240 --> 00:02:27,959 Speaker 1: on feel in every aspect of my life. I am 34 00:02:28,040 --> 00:02:34,600 Speaker 1: paying more attention to the activities, the people, the situations 35 00:02:34,919 --> 00:02:40,760 Speaker 1: that make me feel good and consciously making an effort 36 00:02:41,360 --> 00:02:46,760 Speaker 1: to do more of those things. It sounds so simple, right, Like, 37 00:02:47,200 --> 00:02:49,520 Speaker 1: if you do the things that feel good, if you 38 00:02:49,600 --> 00:02:53,839 Speaker 1: live a life where you feel fulfilled, then it will 39 00:02:53,840 --> 00:02:58,120 Speaker 1: be great. But how many times do we get stuck 40 00:02:58,200 --> 00:03:02,919 Speaker 1: in patterns or routine or in certain relationships that make 41 00:03:03,080 --> 00:03:07,520 Speaker 1: us feel as though we have to endure this not 42 00:03:07,840 --> 00:03:13,160 Speaker 1: so stellar state of being. I've definitely been there. I 43 00:03:13,280 --> 00:03:17,799 Speaker 1: was telling someone last night a story about a romantic 44 00:03:17,840 --> 00:03:20,600 Speaker 1: relationship that I was in Gosh, maybe like seven or 45 00:03:20,680 --> 00:03:25,000 Speaker 1: eight years ago now, that definitely was a little bit 46 00:03:25,600 --> 00:03:31,400 Speaker 1: emotionally abusive, and I stayed in that relationship for longer 47 00:03:31,440 --> 00:03:34,280 Speaker 1: than I should have because I wanted to fix it. 48 00:03:34,440 --> 00:03:37,640 Speaker 1: I wanted to understand what was going on, why things 49 00:03:37,640 --> 00:03:41,440 Speaker 1: weren't adding up, And despite it not always feeling good, 50 00:03:41,600 --> 00:03:44,240 Speaker 1: I was convinced that it was something that was good 51 00:03:44,360 --> 00:03:48,080 Speaker 1: for me. In retrospect, now, looking back on that situation, 52 00:03:48,280 --> 00:03:50,600 Speaker 1: it definitely wasn't good for me. And I've learned so 53 00:03:50,800 --> 00:03:54,400 Speaker 1: much when it comes to not just romantic relationships but 54 00:03:54,560 --> 00:03:59,400 Speaker 1: relationships in general since then. The truth is is that 55 00:03:59,520 --> 00:04:03,320 Speaker 1: we have the opportunity to choose the things that feel good. 56 00:04:04,080 --> 00:04:07,080 Speaker 2: We have the opportunity to go back. 57 00:04:06,880 --> 00:04:12,360 Speaker 1: To the moment's situations, people that fill up our cup, 58 00:04:13,000 --> 00:04:16,600 Speaker 1: and when we focus on the things that do the adverse, 59 00:04:16,640 --> 00:04:21,640 Speaker 1: that have an adverse effect, it prompts an internal investigation. 60 00:04:22,320 --> 00:04:25,279 Speaker 1: What is it about this thing that doesn't truly serve me? 61 00:04:25,839 --> 00:04:28,920 Speaker 1: That I keep coming back to? Why can't I free 62 00:04:28,960 --> 00:04:32,960 Speaker 1: myself from it? And when you ask yourself these important questions, 63 00:04:33,400 --> 00:04:36,720 Speaker 1: it's not always easy, but it will help you get 64 00:04:36,800 --> 00:04:40,679 Speaker 1: the answers that you need, so hopefully you can shift 65 00:04:40,839 --> 00:04:47,360 Speaker 1: toward a direction of service, of happiness, of feeling good. 66 00:04:48,120 --> 00:04:51,200 Speaker 1: In this process, I encourage you to stop wondering quote 67 00:04:51,279 --> 00:04:54,800 Speaker 1: unquote what you should be doing, and again go back 68 00:04:55,160 --> 00:04:59,480 Speaker 1: to that true feeling that kind of close your eyes, 69 00:04:59,600 --> 00:05:02,839 Speaker 1: get re honest, listen to what's going on in your gut. 70 00:05:02,800 --> 00:05:03,960 Speaker 2: And follow that. 71 00:05:04,480 --> 00:05:06,279 Speaker 1: It's easy to get wrapped up in the should, but 72 00:05:06,320 --> 00:05:09,760 Speaker 1: when you should on yourself, it doesn't do you any 73 00:05:10,040 --> 00:05:13,839 Speaker 1: good period. So this week's prompt, I'm going to ask 74 00:05:13,880 --> 00:05:18,200 Speaker 1: you what feels good, what feels good right now? Who 75 00:05:18,240 --> 00:05:21,839 Speaker 1: feels good, what activity feels good? What area of your 76 00:05:21,880 --> 00:05:24,960 Speaker 1: life is bringing you joy? And how can you give 77 00:05:25,400 --> 00:05:30,799 Speaker 1: that more energy? And now a listener question. 78 00:05:31,440 --> 00:05:36,160 Speaker 3: Hi Emily, this is Olivia from Toronto, Ontario. I have 79 00:05:36,200 --> 00:05:39,800 Speaker 3: a question for you. I follow you on Instagram amazing 80 00:05:39,880 --> 00:05:44,760 Speaker 3: content and I see you have such incredible personal fashion style. 81 00:05:45,200 --> 00:05:48,919 Speaker 3: Do you have any tips for women looking to elevate 82 00:05:49,080 --> 00:05:52,360 Speaker 3: or develop their own personal fashion style? And how did 83 00:05:52,400 --> 00:05:53,840 Speaker 3: you come to develop yours? 84 00:05:54,200 --> 00:05:57,520 Speaker 1: Thank you so much, Hey, Olivia, You're so sweet. I 85 00:05:57,600 --> 00:06:01,039 Speaker 1: really appreciate that. I wish I had a clear and 86 00:06:01,120 --> 00:06:04,440 Speaker 1: concise answer, or like someone that I could direct you to. 87 00:06:04,760 --> 00:06:08,320 Speaker 1: Which is the source of all of my quote unquote 88 00:06:08,320 --> 00:06:13,120 Speaker 1: fashion inspiration, I don't consider myself the most stylish. But 89 00:06:13,200 --> 00:06:15,640 Speaker 1: what I will say is that as I've gotten older, 90 00:06:16,000 --> 00:06:20,400 Speaker 1: I really focus on investing in good quality pieces, and 91 00:06:20,440 --> 00:06:23,240 Speaker 1: if I need something one off for a certain event 92 00:06:23,400 --> 00:06:28,200 Speaker 1: or a certain night out or whatever, oftentimes I'm leaning 93 00:06:28,200 --> 00:06:30,280 Speaker 1: in to Rent the Runway. I've been doing Rent the 94 00:06:30,320 --> 00:06:33,720 Speaker 1: Runway on and off for a few years now, and 95 00:06:34,080 --> 00:06:36,560 Speaker 1: I do have a discount code. If this is something 96 00:06:36,600 --> 00:06:38,400 Speaker 1: that your interest data in, I'll put it in the 97 00:06:38,400 --> 00:06:42,520 Speaker 1: show notes. But it's rtr emily A and that gets 98 00:06:42,560 --> 00:06:45,320 Speaker 1: you forty percent off for the month. So I mean, 99 00:06:45,360 --> 00:06:48,600 Speaker 1: I've been doing that because honestly, it's nice to wear 100 00:06:48,720 --> 00:06:53,839 Speaker 1: nicer quality clothes instead of just slowly accumulating things within 101 00:06:53,880 --> 00:06:56,359 Speaker 1: my closet that I'm not going to wear more than once. 102 00:06:57,040 --> 00:07:02,120 Speaker 1: I am constantly trying to per the closet. I probably 103 00:07:02,240 --> 00:07:05,120 Speaker 1: do a deep dive into it like once every two 104 00:07:05,200 --> 00:07:09,359 Speaker 1: to three months, and so in that I'm focused on 105 00:07:09,760 --> 00:07:13,360 Speaker 1: finding the pieces that make me happy again, going with 106 00:07:13,360 --> 00:07:17,360 Speaker 1: that idea of what feels good. I also feel like 107 00:07:17,480 --> 00:07:21,640 Speaker 1: something that I've been really focused on lately is really 108 00:07:21,720 --> 00:07:26,120 Speaker 1: shopping for where I am now for so long in 109 00:07:26,120 --> 00:07:28,640 Speaker 1: my closet, I would hold on to items that maybe 110 00:07:28,760 --> 00:07:32,840 Speaker 1: were a smaller size or like brought back a certain memory. 111 00:07:33,320 --> 00:07:37,680 Speaker 1: But those clothes may not fit me now, don't serve 112 00:07:37,760 --> 00:07:40,880 Speaker 1: me now. And so I've been really working to let 113 00:07:40,920 --> 00:07:45,960 Speaker 1: go of that stuff and fill it instead with stuff 114 00:07:45,960 --> 00:07:49,400 Speaker 1: that's practical, pieces that are practical for what I have 115 00:07:49,520 --> 00:07:53,320 Speaker 1: going on in the mix at this point. On the 116 00:07:53,360 --> 00:07:55,760 Speaker 1: inspiration note, one last thing I'll say. I mean, I'm 117 00:07:55,840 --> 00:07:58,800 Speaker 1: constantly scrolling like all of you are, on the socials 118 00:07:58,840 --> 00:08:02,640 Speaker 1: on TikTok on Instagram. So if I see something, I 119 00:08:02,680 --> 00:08:06,880 Speaker 1: am like an avid screenshotter, and I'll go back to 120 00:08:06,920 --> 00:08:09,160 Speaker 1: that screenshot and think about, like when I'll want to 121 00:08:09,200 --> 00:08:12,440 Speaker 1: wear that at some point. I rarely shop just as shop. 122 00:08:12,480 --> 00:08:17,360 Speaker 1: I usually shop with a specific thing in mind, and 123 00:08:17,560 --> 00:08:21,880 Speaker 1: I find that building my closet that way is how 124 00:08:21,960 --> 00:08:26,760 Speaker 1: I continuously buy investment pieces instead of doing something like 125 00:08:26,840 --> 00:08:29,400 Speaker 1: fast fashion e or what have you. 126 00:08:29,760 --> 00:08:32,719 Speaker 2: I'm not sure if this was really helpful, but. 127 00:08:32,720 --> 00:08:37,720 Speaker 1: A peek inside into my crazy, crazy mind anyway. Follow 128 00:08:37,760 --> 00:08:42,520 Speaker 1: along at Emily body Over at Hurdle Podcast. Happy weekend, y'all, 129 00:08:43,080 --> 00:08:46,360 Speaker 1: another hurdle conquered. Catch you guys, next time.