WEBVTT - Make it plain

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning,

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<v Speaker 1>This is Laura.

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<v Speaker 2>Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Today's tip is to let people know why you are

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<v Speaker 1>doing what you are doing, especially when giving gifts or

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<v Speaker 1>asking people for certain things. That way, they will feel

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<v Speaker 1>honored by your thoughtfulness and perhaps a bit more inclined

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<v Speaker 1>to see things through your eyes. I think we have

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<v Speaker 1>all received gifts that seemed random at best, playful cat

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<v Speaker 1>mittens when you have a dog, a Tom Clancy book,

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<v Speaker 1>when you.

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<v Speaker 2>Prefer literary fiction.

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<v Speaker 1>Then there are the reposts and shares we see on

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<v Speaker 1>social media. What exactly did the person find interesting about

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<v Speaker 1>this content? Why do they think others would find it interesting?

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<v Speaker 1>Then there are the invitations that don't quite land. You're

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<v Speaker 1>not sure why someone would think you would want to

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<v Speaker 1>do whatever it is they invited you to do. We

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<v Speaker 1>have been in these situations, and we would probably like

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<v Speaker 1>to avoid other people thinking that our requests are totally random.

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<v Speaker 1>So when you are trying to connect with someone, make

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<v Speaker 1>it plain exactly why you are doing or asking what

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<v Speaker 1>you are doing or asking. When you give a gift

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<v Speaker 1>in the card, explain why you choose it for the person.

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<v Speaker 1>I got you this scarf because polka dots always make

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<v Speaker 1>me think of you. I know you love Karen Russell's books,

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<v Speaker 1>so I thought you would like this book by Kevin Wilson.

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<v Speaker 1>You often mentioned being cold at work, so I thought

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<v Speaker 1>you could use this throw blanket at your desk. On

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<v Speaker 1>social media, don't you a share, repost, or like something.

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<v Speaker 1>Make a comment or repost it with an explanation of

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<v Speaker 1>why it resonates with you or what you find insightful.

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<v Speaker 1>Make it plain to people who are connected with you

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<v Speaker 1>why you think it is worth their time.

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<v Speaker 2>When you interact with people.

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<v Speaker 1>In a way that you hope reflects what they like,

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<v Speaker 1>say so directly want to meet up for breakfast at sunrise.

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<v Speaker 1>I know you love a good egg sandwich. I brought

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<v Speaker 1>you this bottle of wine because you mentioned you liked

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<v Speaker 1>it when we served it at our house last month.

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<v Speaker 1>I put on this nineties dance party Pandora station because

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<v Speaker 1>it reminds me of our Saturday nights together in college.

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<v Speaker 1>Being explicit about your thought process is also helpful. When

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<v Speaker 1>you ask someone to do something, connect your ask to

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<v Speaker 1>their strengths and interests. Would you be open to decorating

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<v Speaker 1>for the year end party. I remember what a hit

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<v Speaker 1>your party was last year. Could you give the wrap

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<v Speaker 1>up and launch at the end of the training.

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<v Speaker 2>I admire the way you inspire.

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<v Speaker 1>A sense of purpose and our volunteers, and I feel

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<v Speaker 1>like you could send them out motivated for the work ahead.

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<v Speaker 1>When you connect what you are offering or asking to

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<v Speaker 1>your audience, you make sure they understand why you think

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<v Speaker 1>it is a fit for them. They will feel more

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<v Speaker 1>seen and that is seldom a bad thing.

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<v Speaker 2>In the meantime, this is Laura.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks for listening, and here's to making the mist of

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<v Speaker 1>our time. Thanks for listening to Before Breakfast. If you've

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<v Speaker 1>got questions, ideas, or feedback, you can reach me at

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<v Speaker 1>Laura at Laura vandercam dot com. Before Breakfast is a

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