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Speaker 1: Let's get to this episode. Expanding your circle, inviting new
Speaker 1: people and who think differently can be a really healthy
Speaker 1: way to not put all the pressure on your partner
Speaker 1: or put all the pressure on yourself. And I find
Speaker 1: that a way to be a good friend or a
Speaker 1: good partner is make sure that your partner or your
Speaker 1: friend has a great support system around them. And by
Speaker 1: the way, you know what happens when you help other
Speaker 1: people build support systems for themselves, you end up building
Speaker 1: support systems for yourself. Pay everyone, and welcome back to
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Speaker 1: Thanks to each and every one of you that come
Speaker 1: back every week to listen, learn and grow. I just
Speaker 1: want to say, I hope you had a great holiday.
Speaker 1: I hope you had a great New Year's I know
Speaker 1: that the first month of the year can always be
Speaker 1: slightly unnerving. Everyone has goals, everyone already seems far ahead.
Speaker 1: You already feel behind. Maybe you're judging yourself or criticizing
Speaker 1: yourself for not having it all together. Maybe you're feeling
Speaker 1: it a little bit stark and lost, and it can
Speaker 1: be a really unsettling time. You've just come out of
Speaker 1: the holidays, maybe you were with family, maybe there's a
Speaker 1: bit of missing them. There's so many emotions at this
Speaker 1: time of year, and at on purpose, you know that
Speaker 1: I want to make you feel like this is a
Speaker 1: safe space, this is a home for those feelings and emotion,
Speaker 1: and that when I'm recording these episodes, my intention is
Speaker 1: to really tune in and connect with you and help
Speaker 1: you through what you're going through. And my team and
Speaker 1: I were discussing different areas of challenge at the moment,
Speaker 1: and one of them was today's topic. It was how
Speaker 1: to be a great friend in twenty twenty three and
Speaker 1: how to have a great relationship in twenty twenty three. Now,
Speaker 1: this advice I'm about to share, it applies to friends,
Speaker 1: it applies to romantic relationships. It applies to family because
Speaker 1: the ways to create intimacy and connection have a lot
Speaker 1: of similarities. And what I found really really interesting is
Speaker 1: that the pressure on being a good friend and the
Speaker 1: pressure on having good friends has increased over time. If
Speaker 1: you think about how society has changed. We used to
Speaker 1: spend a lot of time living close to family, living
Speaker 1: in big families, living with most of our family. Right
Speaker 1: most people were raised by their aunts and uncles as
Speaker 1: much as their parents. And today we find us living
Speaker 1: in smaller places with smaller families which are just our
Speaker 1: immediate family. Sometimes we're living far far away. I mean,
Speaker 1: you know, Rady and I live a ten hour flight
Speaker 1: away from our family. And what I find happens in
Speaker 1: that circumstance is that we rely a lot more on
Speaker 1: our friends. And I'm sure a lot of you can
Speaker 1: relate to that. Maybe you moved city for work, maybe
Speaker 1: you move state for your partner, Maybe you moved country
Speaker 1: for an amazing new opportunity, and you're starting to realize
Speaker 1: that it's different when you don't have a ready made
Speaker 1: support system. Right, when I moved to LA and first
Speaker 1: when we moved to New York, it's like I didn't
Speaker 1: know who the best plumber was. I didn't know who
Speaker 1: is going to be around to be the electrician if
Speaker 1: something broke right. You just don't have access to the
Speaker 1: same things that you naturally had access to. When your
Speaker 1: family was around, you knew people to call upon, and
Speaker 1: now you're starting from scratch. And when that's happening on
Speaker 1: an emotional support level, when that's happening on a personal
Speaker 1: connection level, that can be hard. And I hear this
Speaker 1: from a lot of people that finding family or making
Speaker 1: friends as we get older is harder. So the research
Speaker 1: shows that for both men and women, at age twenty
Speaker 1: five is when most of us start losing our friends.
Speaker 1: And usually it's because your values change. Maybe you change
Speaker 1: country or state or city, maybe a situation changes, maybe
Speaker 1: you had a kid, maybe someone moved for a relationship. Right,
Speaker 1: a lot more changes and bigger changes start to happen
Speaker 1: in our lives at twenty five. And also, if you
Speaker 1: think about it, back in the day, you were a
Speaker 1: lot closer to your neighbor. You were closer to the
Speaker 1: people that you live next to, and that's changed over
Speaker 1: time as we've become more and more insular. This episode
Speaker 1: is all about making sure you have healthy friendships and
Speaker 1: family relationships and partnerships for twenty twenty three. Because I
Speaker 1: find that we keep doing the same thing. How many
Speaker 1: of you have a chat group, or maybe you're at
Speaker 1: dinner this week and be like, we have to have
Speaker 1: dinner every week together, or like we have to travel
Speaker 1: together this year. Like we said all these like really big,
Speaker 1: amazing intentions, and it feels really exciting. And by the way,
Speaker 1: I'm a culprit of this too, right, Like, I do
Speaker 1: this too where I get really excited and I'm like, guys,
Speaker 1: we have to do this this year. We have to
Speaker 1: do this. And then I'm busy and doing so many
Speaker 1: other things, and I start to realize that in the
Speaker 1: desire to do these really huge, big things, which are beautiful,
Speaker 1: by the way, if you can, we lose out on
Speaker 1: the small moments of connection and intimacy, which is what
Speaker 1: we're actually looking for. Right. I was at at dinner
Speaker 1: the other day and I was surrounded by so many people,
Speaker 1: and I didn't feel like I really had a connection.
Speaker 1: How many times if you felt that, well, you're just
Speaker 1: surrounded by so many people, but you didn't have a connection.
Speaker 1: And then the other day I was invited to a
Speaker 1: launch event that was even bigger, And at that event,
Speaker 1: even though there were so many more people, I felt
Speaker 1: such a connection because there were people in the room
Speaker 1: that were present and really wanted me there, and there
Speaker 1: was just a feeling of mutual exchange. So it's just
Speaker 1: really interesting to see the difference. Anyway, I'm going to
Speaker 1: dive right in, and he is one of the first
Speaker 1: ways to be a great friend or to have a
Speaker 1: great relationship in twenty twenty three. And it's called always
Speaker 1: carry a snack. And now you might be wondering what
Speaker 1: does that mean? Jay, So if anyone ever travels with
Speaker 1: Raddy my wife, or has the pleasure to travel with Radi,
Speaker 1: Raddy always carries snacks. She's a great person to be
Speaker 1: around because I'll be that person who before we get
Speaker 1: on the plane or train or wherever we are in
Speaker 1: the car, I'll be like, no, I don't snack. I'm
Speaker 1: not a snacker. Right, I'm one of those people a snacker. Now,
Speaker 1: I just eat my meals. And Radi is a self
Speaker 1: confessed snacker. Right. Radi has as snack cupboard at home
Speaker 1: and a snack drawer at home, and she's really proud
Speaker 1: of it. Right, It's beautifully arranged. You'll get a tour
Speaker 1: of it if you're ever at home, and it's a
Speaker 1: big part of something that she loves, and so she'll
Speaker 1: be prepared and I won't, and inevitably, to my greatest
Speaker 1: pain point, at some point in the journey, I'll be like,
Speaker 1: I'll be sneaking. I won't even ask. I'm one of
Speaker 1: those people I won't even ask. I will just sneak
Speaker 1: my ad there and grab a bit of this snack,
Speaker 1: and she she'll obviously notice and give me a sidewards glance,
Speaker 1: like one of those you know, cutting side eyes. Why
Speaker 1: am I talking about this being a good friend or
Speaker 1: a great friend? And what do I mean by always
Speaker 1: carry a snack when you're seeing your friends, When you're
Speaker 1: around people you love, always carry the thing that you
Speaker 1: know they might need. Right, It's like that's a sign
Speaker 1: of love. It's a really small thing. But you may
Speaker 1: have one of those friends that's always struggling with a
Speaker 1: headache and you're carrying your essential oil. Or you have
Speaker 1: a friend who always ends up wanting tea at a
Speaker 1: time when it's hard to get tea and you have
Speaker 1: a tea bag in your bag, right, and it sounds
Speaker 1: like a really small thing, But it's these moments that
Speaker 1: transform our connection. Why because you feel thought about most
Speaker 1: of us. If you think about why we feel lonely.
Speaker 1: We don't feel lonely because we don't have people in
Speaker 1: our life. We don't feel lonely because people don't show
Speaker 1: up to our birthday. We feel lonely because we think
Speaker 1: no one thinks of us. We think we're not thought of,
Speaker 1: and it's hard to be thought of all the time
Speaker 1: with just a text message thing, how are you doing,
Speaker 1: how are you doing? How are you today? Right? Like,
Speaker 1: people aren't going to do that all the time. But
Speaker 1: if you want to make your friends, your partner, your
Speaker 1: family feel thought about, if you're seeing them that day,
Speaker 1: if you are moving around with them, that we grab
Speaker 1: something that you know that they're always missing and just
Speaker 1: place it there. It could be as simplest one of
Speaker 1: these things, and it makes a huge difference. That person
Speaker 1: that you care about and you love is now going
Speaker 1: to feel like you think about them in such a deep, personal,
Speaker 1: intimate way, and it creates a connection like no other. Now,
Speaker 1: the second principle that I want to share with you
Speaker 1: today and I want to hear what yours are, make
Speaker 1: sure you tag me on Instagram and Twitter and let
Speaker 1: me know what was yours, because I love knowing what
Speaker 1: the different people in your life want. Okay, the second
Speaker 1: one is called invite more people to the table, right,
Speaker 1: invite more people to the table? What I mean by
Speaker 1: this and I've been wrong with this for a long
Speaker 1: time sometimes in my relationships where you kind of get
Speaker 1: ownership over a relationship, and what I mean by that
Speaker 1: is you obsess over the one to one connection you
Speaker 1: have with someone and you're scared of inviting other people
Speaker 1: into the friends because you don't want to lose your friendship. Now,
Speaker 1: the first thing I'll say is, if you're scared of
Speaker 1: losing your friendship with someone, it's time that you invest
Speaker 1: more in that friendship. Right If you think that inviting
Speaker 1: someone else into a group of friends is going to
Speaker 1: make you lose your connection with someone you think you
Speaker 1: have a close connection with, it's not as close as
Speaker 1: you think, so you want to start working on that
Speaker 1: if that's on your mind right now. Now. If you
Speaker 1: are confident that you have a good relationship with someone,
Speaker 1: but you realize that actually they're going to need different
Speaker 1: help at different times, you're not going to be able
Speaker 1: to solve all their problems, and therefore, expanding your circle,
Speaker 1: inviting new people and who think differently can be a
Speaker 1: really healthy way to not put all the pressure on
Speaker 1: your partner or put all the pressure on yourself. And
Speaker 1: I find that a way to be a good friend
Speaker 1: or a good partner is make sure that your partner
Speaker 1: or your friend has a great support system around them.
Speaker 1: And by the way, you know what happens when you
Speaker 1: help other people build support systems for themselves, you end
Speaker 1: up building support systems for yourself. I've seen this in
Speaker 1: my own life when I have clients who need specific therapists,
Speaker 1: or they need specific health coaches, or they need specific
Speaker 1: people in their life, and I'm doing the research, I'm
Speaker 1: trying to figure it out for them, and then I
Speaker 1: realize that those people become a part of my life.
Speaker 1: They become a part of my network. It's not wasted.
Speaker 1: If your friend was looking for some particular help at
Speaker 1: home and you helped out, you now have access to
Speaker 1: that network too, So it's not all selfless and it's
Speaker 1: not all lost. It's like you're actually building a beautiful
Speaker 1: community around you. When you're building community for others right,
Speaker 1: Remember that when you're building community for others, you're also
Speaker 1: building an incredible community around yourself, and you don't want
Speaker 1: to underestimate that because often we'll go out our way
Speaker 1: to research for other people more than we do for ourselves,
Speaker 1: and so when we take that role, we actually end
Speaker 1: up finding incredible people. So invite more people to the table.
Speaker 1: Recognize that you can't take care of every need of
Speaker 1: your friend, and often we put that pressure on ourselves.
Speaker 1: We're like, I'm going to be everything for them, I'm
Speaker 1: going to be there for them all the time. I'm
Speaker 1: going to do everything for them, and that exhausts us,
Speaker 1: it ties us out, and we often end up feeling
Speaker 1: like they don't do enough for us. We end up
Speaker 1: feeling like they don't care enough. And it's really just
Speaker 1: because we've been overgiving. How many of you are overgivers?
Speaker 1: And then overexpectors raise your hands, I'm raising mind right now, right,
Speaker 1: we're overgivers, but we're overexpectors, and I think that comes
Speaker 1: because we don't realize, actually, you know what real support means,
Speaker 1: helping someone build their support system. Okay, point number three,
Speaker 1: this is a huge one, and it's one that I
Speaker 1: really want you to take note of. So I read
Speaker 1: about this study led by researchers from MIT, and they
Speaker 1: analyzed friendship ties in people age between twenty three to
Speaker 1: thirty eight as part of a management class. Now, the
Speaker 1: subjects were asked to rank how close they were with
Speaker 1: each person in the class on a scale of zero
Speaker 1: to five. Now, zero men, I have no idea who
Speaker 1: this person is. Three means friend, and five means a
Speaker 1: really close friend. The research has found that ninety four
Speaker 1: percent of people expected their feelings like their rankings to
Speaker 1: be reciprocated, but only fifty three percent of them actually were.
Speaker 1: That's huge, right, So ninety four percent of people felt, yeah,
Speaker 1: people are going to say the same thing as me
Speaker 1: that I said about them, but only half were right now,
Speaker 1: this is something called the perception gap. So what I
Speaker 1: find fascinating it about this is that it seems like
Speaker 1: we sometimes feel closer to people than we actually are.
Speaker 1: And that could be for a number of reasons. Maybe
Speaker 1: they're upset about something we said or did. Maybe they
Speaker 1: have a different definition of friendship or closeness. Maybe they're
Speaker 1: feeling distant lately because we haven't seen them. But the
Speaker 1: biggest thing I find and that's why this is point
Speaker 1: number three is don't forget to keep investing when you're
Speaker 1: making deposits in your friendship. I think it's very easy
Speaker 1: to reach out and have requests, but it's very rare
Speaker 1: that people actually invest, right. It's very very rare that
Speaker 1: we reach out to someone to give without wanting to receive,
Speaker 1: or just to support when they need it, without calculating
Speaker 1: what it means for us. Or some people are so
Speaker 1: oblivious that they will just reach out and keep having
Speaker 1: requests without any investment, right. And that happens so often
Speaker 1: where we're so oblivious, we're so unaware that we just
Speaker 1: keep reaching out to people making deposits. And so I
Speaker 1: want you to ask yourself about your five closest friends
Speaker 1: right now, and I would recommend that you pluck in
Speaker 1: a couple of people from work as well and your
Speaker 1: family and your partner, and go, wait, when was the
Speaker 1: last time I made an investment? What was the last
Speaker 1: investment I made in that friendship? You may find that
Speaker 1: the last investment you made in that friendship was literally,
Speaker 1: like gosh, like five ten years ago, especially if it's
Speaker 1: a long term friend and you're thinking to yourself, wow,
Speaker 1: I've been making deposits for a long term. I asked
Speaker 1: them to help me move. I ask them to help
Speaker 1: me do that. Or maybe you're feeling that way about
Speaker 1: your friends have been doing that to you, and we
Speaker 1: all know we don't like feeling that way. And if
Speaker 1: you don't like feeling that way, it's so important a
Speaker 1: that you said an example in your own life. But
Speaker 1: reflecting on this helps you realize, Okay, I don't want
Speaker 1: to keep investing in that relationship if someone keeps making
Speaker 1: deposits from me either, and you may speak to them
Speaker 1: about it. And I think that's what this study really
Speaker 1: shows is that often people are just not sharing how
Speaker 1: they're feeling and we just keep going on. And what
Speaker 1: I find uncomfortable about that is that it's almost like
Speaker 1: mole developing in a house. I hate to compare it
Speaker 1: to that, but it is kind of like that, where
Speaker 1: something that is deteriorating and disintegrating is happening. It's happening
Speaker 1: in a way that you can't see it, but it
Speaker 1: has a long term impact on your emotional stability and
Speaker 1: their emotional stability or actually instability. I should say that
Speaker 1: it creates and it always ends up coming out, and
Speaker 1: when you discover it, it's so much worse than if
Speaker 1: you talked about it. And I just feel like putting
Speaker 1: things under the carpet or sweeping things under the rug
Speaker 1: and hoping that they'll just go away, or we like
Speaker 1: to complain about them. It gives us a bit of
Speaker 1: familiar pain to connect to that being removed changes everything.
Speaker 1: Step number four. My thing here is it doesn't matter
Speaker 1: if you can't paint. Actually it's better if you can't paint.
Speaker 1: What do I mean by this? We need to do
Speaker 1: more things with our partners, our friends, and our family
Speaker 1: when no one knows what they're doing. Try a new
Speaker 1: food that you've never tried before. Try a pain class,
Speaker 1: go and try a pottery class. Like literally, there are
Speaker 1: so many things to do. I'm about to read a
Speaker 1: list that I sent to a client the other day,
Speaker 1: and I said, an animal sanctuary, assault course in the trees,
Speaker 1: a local getaway. There may be a bike path you've
Speaker 1: never taken, a dance class, as a class, a food
Speaker 1: making class, right, whatever it may be. Like, go and
Speaker 1: do something with your friends. I think often we get
Speaker 1: together in ways that don't create intimacy. Right. Often we'll
Speaker 1: go to a restaurant or we'll go to a movie.
Speaker 1: And it doesn't build a sense of intimacy, it doesn't
Speaker 1: build a sense of learning, It doesn't build a sense
Speaker 1: of like, I'm doing something new with you and I'm
Speaker 1: learning something new about you, and we're just being fascinated
Speaker 1: by each other right now, right, Oh, we're doing the
Speaker 1: thing we always do and we're both on our phones.
Speaker 1: And the nights ended, and at least we planned to
Speaker 1: date night, or at least we planned a friends night.
Speaker 1: And so finding active things to do together actively builds
Speaker 1: your relationship. When you do things that are passive together,
Speaker 1: guess what, Your relationship becomes more passive. When you do
Speaker 1: active things together, your relationship becomes more alive and active.
Speaker 1: And I find that most of our times with our
Speaker 1: closest friends, closest partners, closest families are truly just passive.
Speaker 1: Right when you see people who are constant on their
Speaker 1: phones at dinner, or you see people on their phones
Speaker 1: even at the movies or at a game, or you know,
Speaker 1: you see people in the car and they're not talking
Speaker 1: to each other, and we're like, yeah, okay, sure, we
Speaker 1: can't talk all the time about everything, Like we don't
Speaker 1: have to have something to talk about. But when you
Speaker 1: find that that's a recurring pattern, it can be really
Speaker 1: really challenging. I've got two more for you. This one
Speaker 1: is called go visit your school together. And what I
Speaker 1: mean by this is go and take a trip down
Speaker 1: memory lane. Take a friend that you really value, your partner,
Speaker 1: and go on a trip down memory lane. I don't
Speaker 1: often encourage this. I often talk about making new memories,
Speaker 1: but sometimes to re strengthen, we have to go and
Speaker 1: relive an old memory. That was really special. I caught
Speaker 1: up with a couple of my former team the other
Speaker 1: day and it was one of the nicest things. It
Speaker 1: was so nice to go back, sit down and reflect
Speaker 1: and hear what they remember from working together, what I
Speaker 1: remember from working together. And it was just such a
Speaker 1: beautiful thing to do. We haven't worked together in like
Speaker 1: three years, and to sit together over some lunch and
Speaker 1: just talk about the fun we had, the different things
Speaker 1: we did like it was just amazing and I was
Speaker 1: thinking to myself, I want to do that more often.
Speaker 1: I was just back in Christmas for the holidays with
Speaker 1: my friends, and I was going to all the places
Speaker 1: we used to go to, and there was a nostalgia there,
Speaker 1: which again I'm not usually a promoter of nostalgia because
Speaker 1: it can kind of keep as stuck in the past.
Speaker 1: But I think it's a beautiful way to strengthen relationships
Speaker 1: this year that are important to you. And so if
Speaker 1: you've had a relationship that you haven't strengthened for a
Speaker 1: long time that you need to pull from a place
Speaker 1: of closeness, do that, right, Do that. That's the way
Speaker 1: to do it. Take a trip down memory lane, but
Speaker 1: actually go there. Don't just sit there and talk about it.
Speaker 1: Go to that physical place, Go to your school, go
Speaker 1: to that night coup that you have crazy memories around.
Speaker 1: I'm not saying go inside, go outside, whatever works like,
Speaker 1: go there and do that. Now. Point number six is
Speaker 1: don't make it about you when they're stressed. Now, I
Speaker 1: have this study to share with you that really made
Speaker 1: me highlight this point. So, according to the Stress Management Society,
Speaker 1: when we are experiencing extreme stress, our ability to communicate
Speaker 1: diminishes massively. We experience lack of clarity, confusion, brain fog,
Speaker 1: and rabbit in the headlights, all of which make it
Speaker 1: very difficult to communicate effectively during times of stress. On average,
Speaker 1: they write when we're under low levels of stress, we
Speaker 1: can process about seven different messages at a time. When
Speaker 1: our stress level increases, that can drop to just three
Speaker 1: messages at a time, meaning we're more likely to misinformation
Speaker 1: that someone's trying to share with us. Now, think about it.
Speaker 1: How often when your partner's stressed and they walk through
Speaker 1: the door do you share important information with them and
Speaker 1: expect them to be alert? How often in our friends groups,
Speaker 1: when they're going through pain, do we make it about
Speaker 1: us in our pain? Recognize that when your friends are
Speaker 1: going through stress, they're actually more likely to be less clear,
Speaker 1: harder to deal with, more difficult, more challenging. Now, of course,
Speaker 1: if you're friends that are always going through stress, you
Speaker 1: may be like Jay, well, I'm always dealing with my
Speaker 1: friends going through stress and they're never able to be present.
Speaker 1: I think that's a really important conversation to have with someone. Say, Hey, look,
Speaker 1: I'm really happy to be there for you when you're
Speaker 1: struggling and when you're experiencing stress, but I just don't
Speaker 1: feel comfortable that I don't ever feel heard. And it's
Speaker 1: really interesting when you say something like that. Before you
Speaker 1: say it, you're going to have to reflect on whether
Speaker 1: that's really true. I've found that I feel that way
Speaker 1: about people sometimes, But when I sit and think about it,
Speaker 1: I'm like, wait a minute, I wasn't there for them
Speaker 1: them for that. I didn't do that. Okay, you know
Speaker 1: it's pretty equal and so before. That's why starting a
Speaker 1: difficult conversation is so important, because so often you will
Speaker 1: answer the question before you start the difficult conversation. But
Speaker 1: if you don't choose to have the difficult conversation and
Speaker 1: you're always complaining about someone, it's really hard to figure
Speaker 1: out that actually you may not be as right as
Speaker 1: you think you are. So I hope that these principles
Speaker 1: help you be a great friend and build great relationships
Speaker 1: in twenty twenty three. Remember, relationships are at the core
Speaker 1: of everything we do. One of the biggest investments I
Speaker 1: made when I moved to La I mean, and rather
Speaker 1: talk about this all the time, is I made a
Speaker 1: very conscious effort to say that I'm not only here
Speaker 1: to build my work and my purpose. I'm going to
Speaker 1: simultaneously build relationships. And people often say that LA can
Speaker 1: be a lonely place, but I'm really proud of my
Speaker 1: friends here, my community here, the people that I'm surrounded
Speaker 1: by and it all comes because it was a separate initiative.
Speaker 1: It was a separate pursuit, and I see it that way.
Speaker 1: I see building relationships as its own pursuit in life.
Speaker 1: And I wish you all the best in twenty twenty
Speaker 1: three with your relationships. I'm here for you to help
Speaker 1: support you, and I am so grateful for the incredible
Speaker 1: on purpose community that we have right now. Thank you
Speaker 1: so much for listening, and thank you for all your reviews,
Speaker 1: and I'll see you on the next episode.