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Speaker 2: Man. Welcome back to Coast to Coast George Nori with
Speaker 2: you Elaine Starling with US international speaker ted ex presenter podcaster.
Speaker 2: She combines proven business strategies with personal development and spiritual
Speaker 2: insights in order to help others realize their dreams. Elaine,
Speaker 2: Welcome to the program.
Speaker 3: Hey George, I am so happy to join you.
Speaker 2: I'm looking forward to this and great book, by the way,
Speaker 2: Five Steps to Activate Your Abundance.
Speaker 3: Thank you. I had such a blast writing that book.
Speaker 3: It really just poured out of me, and I hope
Speaker 3: that you heard my voice in every page. I do.
Speaker 2: Now, and when we talk about abundance, there are different
Speaker 2: kinds of abundance. One is personal for wealth and well being.
Speaker 2: There's another spiritual type of abundance. What do you talk
Speaker 2: about primarily?
Speaker 3: You know, I talk about all of it because I
Speaker 3: really want people to be able to unlock their own
Speaker 3: personal power so they experience abundance in every single area
Speaker 3: of their life. That's everything from wealth, opportunities, relationships, and
Speaker 3: personal fulfillment. I cover the entire thing.
Speaker 2: We're going to go through these five steps as well.
Speaker 2: But you call yourself the abundance ambassador. How come you know?
Speaker 3: I love the idea that an ambassador introduces you to
Speaker 3: new cultures and customs, and I'm really helping people embrace
Speaker 3: the mindset and habits that lead to an extraordinary and
Speaker 3: abundant life so they fall in love with their own life.
Speaker 2: Did you always feel this way, Elaine?
Speaker 1: No?
Speaker 3: I didn't, you know? It was really interesting. I was
Speaker 3: blessed on Year's Day two thousand and five to have
Speaker 3: a stroke, and I always be blessed because during my stroke,
Speaker 3: I had an incredible conversation with God and I just
Speaker 3: was blown away because I got this incredible download about
Speaker 3: how everything works, why we're alive, how we can live
Speaker 3: our best life, and what happens next after this life.
Speaker 3: And honestly, George, don't worry about it. It's a graduation,
Speaker 3: it's not an ending. But at the end of this conversation,
Speaker 3: I was told to share what I'd learned, and that's
Speaker 3: what I've been doing ever since. But it's been quite
Speaker 3: a journey for me because every time I would ask
Speaker 3: a question, the answer would immediately come into my body.
Speaker 3: Past present, future colors we can't see sounds we can't hear.
Speaker 3: It was kind of like swallowing Google holes. All the
Speaker 3: lights that shares, the videos, the keywords, do everything, and
Speaker 3: I had to synthesize and summarize and make it actionable
Speaker 3: for everybody. And that's really what I did with my book.
Speaker 2: Let's go back to the stroke, if it's not too
Speaker 2: painful for you, Elaine. Though New Year's Eve, you said.
Speaker 3: New Year's Day and I was on vacation in New Zealand.
Speaker 3: It was interesting because I was wandering around. I'd had
Speaker 3: breakfast and some of the shops were open, were poking
Speaker 3: in and out of the shop, and all of a sudden,
Speaker 3: I got tunnel vision with little sparkles around the outside.
Speaker 3: And then my right arm went numb and the right
Speaker 3: side of my face went numb. So my husband immediately
Speaker 3: walked me to a little medical center and they gave
Speaker 3: me an ask for and they asked me to describe
Speaker 3: the poster on the wall. And I knew exactly what
Speaker 3: they said. I knew exactly what was in the poster,
Speaker 3: but the words that came out of my mouth made
Speaker 3: no sense.
Speaker 2: Now.
Speaker 3: I felt great, I felt awesome. It was like a
Speaker 3: lazy Saturday morning where I just wanted to roll over
Speaker 3: and hit the sleep alarm, and so finally I asked
Speaker 3: if it was okay for me to just relax, and
Speaker 3: they said, sure, go ahead. So as soon as I did,
Speaker 3: I found myself inside this massive cloud and I was
Speaker 3: part of it and it was part of me. And
Speaker 3: I felt this cloud expressing so much approval and appreciation
Speaker 3: for me. And of course I've been raised to be
Speaker 3: proper young lady. So I immediately was like, oh, are
Speaker 3: you kid me? I got all that, I don't speak
Speaker 3: multiple languages, I am a fault ruld hunger. Come on,
Speaker 3: what are you talking about? And I immediately received the message, Oh,
Speaker 3: you don't understand how this works. See, you're designed with
Speaker 3: your skills, your abilities, your talents, your interests, your preferences,
Speaker 3: as well as your hot buttons, your issues, your faults,
Speaker 3: your foibles, your living beliefs. We put all of those
Speaker 3: things together to create exactly what is needed right now.
Speaker 3: You are perfect because of your imperfections. And I had
Speaker 3: a serious to we are not in Kansas anymore moment.
Speaker 3: It was like, whoa, something interesting is happening here, And
Speaker 3: so I started asking questions and at the very end
Speaker 3: of this conversation, I got the message, are you sure
Speaker 3: you're done? I was like, Oh, no, we're happing through
Speaker 3: our vacation. We're loving New Zealand. It's really awesome. I said, no, no, no,
Speaker 3: you said that you were done thrashing in your business.
Speaker 3: You felt like you were just going to kind of
Speaker 3: give up and accept the status quo. Now, if you're
Speaker 3: sure you're done, we can use that ectoplasm for something else.
Speaker 3: Are you sure you're done? And I knew that I
Speaker 3: was really close to something important, and if I chose
Speaker 3: to say, I'd have to start all over again from
Speaker 3: the very beginning, and it would be more difficult to
Speaker 3: get back to where I already was. So I said, no,
Speaker 3: I'm not done, and I heard, great, get back and
Speaker 3: get busy. And I came out of the stroke with
Speaker 3: absolutely no damage.
Speaker 2: That is remarkable. That's a miracle all by itself. Now,
Speaker 2: was this the moment of your spiritual awakening?
Speaker 3: It sure was. It sure was, you know, because before that,
Speaker 3: every once in a while I would receive a bit
Speaker 3: of inspiration. But I didn't realize just how completely interwoven
Speaker 3: our spiritual nature is into everything we do. And that
Speaker 3: really flipped the switch for me.
Speaker 2: Then nineteen years later you wrote five steps to Activate
Speaker 2: your abundance. What took you so long?
Speaker 3: Well man, try to figure out how to explain it
Speaker 3: to people in a simple way and make it really fun.
Speaker 3: That is so important. I can't stress this enough, you know, George.
Speaker 3: I decided a few years ago, I'm not going to
Speaker 3: quote work anymore, because every time I think of the
Speaker 3: word work, it feels heavy, it feels confining, it feels
Speaker 3: like I have to. It feels like I have to,
Speaker 3: like I have to do it all by myself, all
Speaker 3: on my own. And so I decided, instead of using
Speaker 3: the word work, I'm going to use the word play.
Speaker 3: So now I play with everything I do, and I
Speaker 3: play hard, but I so much fun and I could
Speaker 3: play with other people and I get too. It's not
Speaker 3: I have to. I love too. It was really interesting.
Speaker 3: I came across some research that was done in the
Speaker 3: nineteen eighties with children, and they took two different groups
Speaker 3: of kids. They were going to teach them the exact
Speaker 3: same thing. And one group used the traditional classroom environment,
Speaker 3: you know, all business. The other room was taught using
Speaker 3: a play structure with some kind of interactive game. Well,
Speaker 3: it took the kids in his classroom thirty times longer
Speaker 3: to learn the same stuff. So when we're willing to
Speaker 3: let go and have fun and be playful, that's when
Speaker 3: we're much more receptive and more information comes through. I
Speaker 3: experienced the divine as a pro restive joy, just over
Speaker 3: the top happy, excited, delighted, silly, playful, and they're constantly
Speaker 3: reminded me might not have fun. This life is designed
Speaker 3: to be unfolding joy.
Speaker 2: When I was a kiddy lane, I had a motto
Speaker 2: work hard, play hard, and by that as a teenager,
Speaker 2: I sold shoes in school, I played football, baseball, theatrics,
Speaker 2: I was a thespian acting. I did it all. I
Speaker 2: just never stopped, And to this day I have that
Speaker 2: same motto, work hard, play hard. That's pretty similar to
Speaker 2: what you did.
Speaker 3: Yeah. Absolutely, you can have a lot of fun doing
Speaker 3: what most people think of as work. But when you're
Speaker 3: loving what you do and you recognize the difference you
Speaker 3: make for yourself and for others by sharing your skills
Speaker 3: and talents, continually being willing to grow and learn, Oh
Speaker 3: my gosh, you're just on fire, unstoppable, and that energy
Speaker 3: is so compelling to other people. They want what you've got,
Speaker 3: and so they're attracted to work with you. Yeah, by
Speaker 3: all means, play your heart out. It makes a massive difference.
Speaker 2: How did you come up with five steps to activate
Speaker 2: your abundance? Why not four? Why not six?
Speaker 3: It's because I was divinely guided through the whole process.
Speaker 3: It's really interesting when I collaborate with the divine. I
Speaker 3: ask questions and then I sit in silence and let
Speaker 3: the message flow through, and I keep asking questions until
Speaker 3: nothing else comes through. And so I was really asking,
Speaker 3: how can we go from where we are now to
Speaker 3: creating the life of our dreams? What does that look like?
Speaker 3: And how do we get there from here? And that's
Speaker 3: when those steps came through.
Speaker 2: What does abundance mean to you?
Speaker 3: It really starts as a an inside feeling. It's feeling
Speaker 3: good about who you are and what you contribute in
Speaker 3: the world. It's noticing the little things around you that
Speaker 3: are just amazing. It's not just external success, it's that
Speaker 3: internal state of well being, a deep sense of contentment.
Speaker 3: You feel good about yourself, good about your life, good
Speaker 3: about the present moment, and you recognize just how capable
Speaker 3: and resourceful you are, so you're more open more approachable,
Speaker 3: more engaging. I honestly feel that abundance is gratitude in action.
Speaker 3: You are fully embracing right now. You're not distracted by
Speaker 3: the past or freaked out about the future. You're living
Speaker 3: right now and appreciating the richness of this moment.
Speaker 2: Would you call friends part of your abundance?
Speaker 3: Absolutely?
Speaker 2: Absolutely tell me more about that part.
Speaker 3: Every single relationship you have is designed to reflect and
Speaker 3: amplify who you are. And sometimes it's hard for us
Speaker 3: to see ourselves, and so we tend to look outside
Speaker 3: at our friends to see who we really are. Friends
Speaker 3: are there to push us, to inspire us, to empower us,
Speaker 3: so they play a really vital role in our personal growth.
Speaker 2: Good for you. Did it take you long to come
Speaker 2: up with these concepts?
Speaker 3: Well, it only took me, what nineteen years? Eighteen years
Speaker 3: I was living it and trying to find how do
Speaker 3: I articulate this because, honestly, in George, one of the
Speaker 3: things that I realized is the power of the words
Speaker 3: that we use. So I want to share a little
Speaker 3: story with you because I think it is really important.
Speaker 3: A few months ago, I was in my kitchen doing
Speaker 3: dishes and I was just kind of amusing over. You know,
Speaker 3: sometimes you working on a project and it comes together
Speaker 3: really easily, it's just no big deal. It's a snap,
Speaker 3: it's a breeze. And then other times you're working on
Speaker 3: a project and it's a freaking slog. It doesn't matter
Speaker 3: what you do, you hit problem, roadblock, challenge, issue. It's
Speaker 3: so frustrating. And I was just wondering why does that happen?
Speaker 3: And I immediately felt and heard a very loud, forceful
Speaker 3: voice in my body that said, when you deny your power,
Speaker 3: your power is denied to you. When you acknowledge your power,
Speaker 3: your power is shown to you. You are more powerful
Speaker 3: than you can imagine. I was like, whoa, dride off
Speaker 3: my hands and go write it down. I'm like, denying
Speaker 3: my power? What am I? How am I denying my
Speaker 3: I don't want to do that anymore? What am I doing?
Speaker 3: And I realized that often it's the words I use,
Speaker 3: So I am choosing my words with more care. Now
Speaker 3: I'm replacing the words want and try and need with
Speaker 3: choose and decide and desire, And that really makes a difference.
Speaker 3: Every word has energy attached to it. It has an
Speaker 3: emotional energy in a sensation. So when you feel the
Speaker 3: word want, you can feel how it's limiting. Right. It's
Speaker 3: like if you feel lack in it, but when you
Speaker 3: say choose you feel power in it. It feels expansive.
Speaker 3: So yeah, words make a massive difference.
Speaker 2: What makes people Elaine in your opinion.
Speaker 3: Happy, Everyone has as the opportunity to feel blessed. One
Speaker 3: of the messages that I received is you are a blessing,
Speaker 3: and you are blessed. And because you are a blessing,
Speaker 3: it's important to notice all the blessings around you. The
Speaker 3: di mind is continually showering you with all kinds of
Speaker 3: things that you could enjoy and be grateful for. And honestly,
Speaker 3: gratitude is the gateway to abundance. Gratitude is the aport
Speaker 3: of your abundance tree. In fact, energy, I'm sorry, money
Speaker 3: is just the energy of gratitude. You write that check
Speaker 3: for electricity because you really like it when the electricity
Speaker 3: stays on.
Speaker 2: You might not like the check, but you like it
Speaker 2: when it's on.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you sure like it when it's on. And so
Speaker 3: when you think of writing that check as a way
Speaker 3: of expressing gratitude, you know you create opportunities by using
Speaker 3: your skills, your gifts your abilities to make it difference
Speaker 3: for others and giving them the opportunity to show their
Speaker 3: gratitude back to you. And one of the ways they
Speaker 3: show gratitude is with money, so not the only way,
Speaker 3: but it's one way.
Speaker 2: Abundance. There's a definition there too, though, isn't there.
Speaker 3: Absolutely If you look up abundance in the dictionary, you
Speaker 3: will see that the technical term is more than enough.
Speaker 3: And I'm going to tell you, George, just about every
Speaker 3: single person that I talk to, unfortunately these days, they
Speaker 3: really don't feel like enough, let alone more than enough.
Speaker 3: And so I think it's really important for us to
Speaker 3: understand where that comes from and what our personal power is.
Speaker 3: How we can open ourselves up to feel valuable and
Speaker 3: appreciate who we are now. One of the things that
Speaker 3: I love to do, and I did it today right
Speaker 3: before our show. I hire attitude adjustment angels. It's awesome
Speaker 3: and it really works. I love doing this with people
Speaker 3: really skeptical, especially because it breaks them out when it
Speaker 3: works so well. So there are gazillions of angels out there.
Speaker 3: If they are bored to tears because they've got nothing
Speaker 3: to do, and they can help us, they will help
Speaker 3: us but we have to talk to them and ask
Speaker 3: for their assistance. So what I like to do is
Speaker 3: hire attitude adjustment angels, and I hire them for me first,
Speaker 3: and then I hire them for everybody else that I'm
Speaker 3: going to engage with, or interact with, or impact in
Speaker 3: any way. And so here's how I like to hire them, angels.
Speaker 3: I love and appreciate you. Thank you so much for
Speaker 3: all the blessings you send my way all the time.
Speaker 3: I'm hiring attitude adjustment angels to help me focus on
Speaker 3: all these blessings so that I'm aware of all the
Speaker 3: abundance that is around me in every single moment. I
Speaker 3: love how the things that normally bother me or drive
Speaker 3: me nuts, the things that trigger me are suddenly either
Speaker 3: hysterically funny so you know it doesn't really bother me,
Speaker 3: or there's a minor I don't even notice it. All
Speaker 3: I see are the blessings that surround me. Thank you
Speaker 3: so much for guiding me to all these blessings. I
Speaker 3: love you, I appreciate you. Thanks for everything you do.
Speaker 2: Are they always there? Are they always there for you?
Speaker 3: Always? Always? And in freaky ways too, like all the
Speaker 3: lights line up and they're green and still getting stuck
Speaker 3: in a lot of traffic lights. You know, it's the
Speaker 3: awesome parking spot. It's the here. I'm working on something
Speaker 3: and somebody casually mentions a book that has the exact
Speaker 3: thing that I'm looking for. It shows up in all
Speaker 3: kinds of ways. It's a way for you to open
Speaker 3: yourself up to receive that divine guidance you're so anxious
Speaker 3: to receive.
Speaker 2: What is the one thing that you should never do
Speaker 2: seeking abundance?
Speaker 3: You know? I think one of the things people struggle
Speaker 3: with the most is intensity. And what I mean by
Speaker 3: that is we have an emotional intensity around the things
Speaker 3: that we want. Look at it this way. You're madly
Speaker 3: in love with your spouse and you happen to see
Speaker 3: some strangers kissing, well, you might think, oh, that's so cute,
Speaker 3: that's just churning. But if you happen to see the
Speaker 3: spouse that you love at a door kissing somebody else,
Speaker 3: all of a sudden, there's a lot of emotional intensity
Speaker 3: around that. You're not happy about it at all. And
Speaker 3: what happens. This is the part where people struggle the
Speaker 3: most in trying to manifest what they want in their lives.
Speaker 3: Whenever you want something like you really really want it,
Speaker 3: yesterday would be perfect, you're actually creating a wave that
Speaker 3: pushes it just beyond your ability to have what you desire.
Speaker 3: So here's the way to tune down that intensity. Start
Speaker 3: imagining that you already have whatever it is you want.
Speaker 3: It could be a thing, it could be a relationship,
Speaker 3: it could be an experience. Start imagining that you have
Speaker 3: it right now, and develop a level of familiarity with
Speaker 3: it so it feels normal that this is a part
Speaker 3: of your everyday life. You can role play, you can
Speaker 3: dress up, you can have dinners where you're eating exotic foods.
Speaker 3: If you like to travel, you can watch documentary. Surround
Speaker 3: yourself in the experience so much that it's normal for you,
Speaker 3: and when it starts to feel really normal, then you
Speaker 3: don't have that emotional intensity anymore. Of course, you still
Speaker 3: want it, but you can let that desire relax.
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