WEBVTT - Ep. 87 — Fibroids and Finances 0:00:16.400 --> 0:00:20.840 Hey, hey, hey, you know what we never talked about. 0:00:21.360 --> 0:00:22.840 Have you listened to four forty four? 0:00:23.760 --> 0:00:25.720 Oh oh jay Z's album? 0:00:26.600 --> 0:00:28.000 Yeah, I haven't. 0:00:28.080 --> 0:00:29.520 You know, it's weird. I have listened to it, but 0:00:29.560 --> 0:00:32.680 I read. I read the lyrics like I was reading 0:00:32.920 --> 0:00:36.839 someone's like poetry or something, because everyone because why does 0:00:36.920 --> 0:00:38.239 one of the dirt? You know, I went to go 0:00:38.240 --> 0:00:40.239 see what he had to say, just see what he 0:00:40.320 --> 0:00:42.800 had to say about salone, and like if he was 0:00:42.840 --> 0:00:45.440 gonna mention Lebonade or anything like that. So I read 0:00:45.440 --> 0:00:46.920 for the dirt, not gonna lie. 0:00:47.880 --> 0:00:50.640 So what what was your take on the Dirt? Well? 0:00:50.680 --> 0:00:53.199 I actually liked I you know, I'm not going to 0:00:53.280 --> 0:00:56.320 pretend like I know every one of jay Z's albums 0:00:56.320 --> 0:00:58.800 and songs, but I've been a fan. I like his music. 0:00:59.200 --> 0:01:02.120 But what I what I liked is how I didn't 0:01:02.120 --> 0:01:03.480 forget what the name of the song. I think it 0:01:03.520 --> 0:01:06.639 was four four four, where he's basically saying like rip 0:01:07.280 --> 0:01:09.840 jay Z, and I feel like he's saying goodbye to 0:01:09.880 --> 0:01:12.920 the jay Z of old and accepting the new different, 0:01:13.000 --> 0:01:17.720 older father husband jay Z. And I think that that's it's. 0:01:17.800 --> 0:01:20.480 I mean, hip hop is so young, like as a 0:01:20.560 --> 0:01:22.440 genre and you know these are He's one of the 0:01:22.480 --> 0:01:24.920 first rappers that really has gotten old and we've gotten 0:01:24.920 --> 0:01:28.440 to see him, see him become this version of himself. 0:01:28.520 --> 0:01:30.360 And you know, everyone else is like twenty two and 0:01:30.400 --> 0:01:32.200 like thirty, and people who were big in the eighties 0:01:32.200 --> 0:01:35.600 aren't really making that much music anymore. But I feel 0:01:35.640 --> 0:01:38.800 like he's showing you how to how to grow up gracefully. 0:01:38.800 --> 0:01:40.280 I guess in hip hop a little. 0:01:40.360 --> 0:01:42.440 Yeah, he talk a little about credit. 0:01:42.520 --> 0:01:46.560 I was like, oh snah, I did. I got a no. 0:01:47.040 --> 0:01:49.360 I said, look at you talking about what do you say? 0:01:49.600 --> 0:01:52.680 You know what's more? You know what's better than spending 0:01:52.760 --> 0:01:55.800 money at strip clubs? Credit? I said, look at jay Z. 0:01:55.880 --> 0:01:58.480 He said, I'm trying to give you something to the 0:01:58.560 --> 0:02:00.440 fact that I'm trying to give you a million dollar 0:02:00.720 --> 0:02:03.000 knowledge for nine ninety nine, I'm like, look at jay Z, 0:02:03.040 --> 0:02:06.240 don't try to come with the finn Con crowd. No. 0:02:06.400 --> 0:02:09.240 Literally, I must have gotten five pitches from our writers. 0:02:09.280 --> 0:02:11.880 I'm telling you there aren't that many personal finance writers 0:02:11.919 --> 0:02:13.880 or colors, but the ones that were out there were 0:02:13.919 --> 0:02:17.400 pitching jay Z stories like the past few weeks financial 0:02:17.480 --> 0:02:22.880 lessons you could learn from jay Z's for four to four. Yeah, 0:02:22.919 --> 0:02:25.639 so jay Z's like I mean, I mean, I don't 0:02:25.639 --> 0:02:27.480 know if he's written a book on entrepreneurship, but he 0:02:27.520 --> 0:02:30.040 should because I mean, I think most of his wealth 0:02:30.080 --> 0:02:32.919 came from his business skills and not his music, right 0:02:33.760 --> 0:02:36.720 from his music label to his to all the business 0:02:36.720 --> 0:02:39.560 deals he has to title. Like, I mean, that's one 0:02:39.639 --> 0:02:41.760 lesson you can take from him, is how to diversify 0:02:42.400 --> 0:02:44.800 your own business so that you're bringing in mad income 0:02:44.840 --> 0:02:47.320 streams and you're not like you're not tied to any 0:02:47.520 --> 0:02:49.200 label for your for your wealth. 0:02:50.160 --> 0:02:54.280 Yeah. Yeah, honestly, I'm really I like the album. I 0:02:54.280 --> 0:02:55.880 mean I listened to it and I was just like, 0:02:56.480 --> 0:02:58.760 you know what I like too is that he also 0:02:58.800 --> 0:03:01.560 had like these things called notes, and I haven't watched 0:03:01.600 --> 0:03:05.000 them yet, but basically like kind of like commentary videos 0:03:05.040 --> 0:03:08.120 that that mirror that go along with some of the songs, 0:03:08.120 --> 0:03:10.600 So really like talking about some of the songs and 0:03:10.639 --> 0:03:14.240 what they meant and not just him but other like 0:03:14.320 --> 0:03:17.200 one of them, the song four forty four, I guess 0:03:17.280 --> 0:03:19.960 it's like his apology to Beyonce, and he does this 0:03:20.080 --> 0:03:23.320 video with like Chris Rock, Jesse Williams, all these black 0:03:23.360 --> 0:03:26.840 men of note and kind of talking about love and relationships, 0:03:26.840 --> 0:03:28.640 and I said, I'm gonna watch it today, but I 0:03:28.680 --> 0:03:31.120 heard it was like really good because you know, I 0:03:31.160 --> 0:03:33.400 feel like, you know, I'm realizing I feel like we 0:03:33.440 --> 0:03:37.240 don't really hear from black men when it comes to 0:03:37.280 --> 0:03:41.440 this whole relationship. You know, there's always these think pieces 0:03:41.480 --> 0:03:43.840 on black men and women black men, but I feel 0:03:43.840 --> 0:03:46.320 like I don't really hear too much from black men themselves. 0:03:46.400 --> 0:03:48.120 So I'm excited to listen to it. 0:03:48.720 --> 0:03:50.760 Okay, I might watch that. I didn't know that he 0:03:50.800 --> 0:03:52.000 did that too. Do you have to have be a 0:03:52.280 --> 0:03:54.440 One reason I didn't listen is because I don't have title. 0:03:55.360 --> 0:03:57.680 Yeah, me either, But you know there's ways around that. 0:03:57.720 --> 0:04:02.160 I mean, don't judge me. But somebody's I use someone's 0:04:02.240 --> 0:04:06.200 tie though, We'll just say that. Yeah. No. I somebody 0:04:06.200 --> 0:04:08.600 had it on Facebook the forty four, like I don't 0:04:08.600 --> 0:04:10.840 know what, you know, if it was a lot or 0:04:10.840 --> 0:04:12.200 what it, but it was just posted on Facebook, and 0:04:12.200 --> 0:04:13.360 I was like, oh, let me save this, and I 0:04:14.200 --> 0:04:16.200 Facebook message it to myself so I can watch it 0:04:16.200 --> 0:04:19.239 tonight because it just looked interesting. I was just curious 0:04:19.279 --> 0:04:23.000 to hear what these men had to say without women 0:04:23.040 --> 0:04:25.480 in the room. About relationships and how they felt about them. 0:04:25.560 --> 0:04:29.320 You know, yeah, I know, speaking of pop culture. I'm home, 0:04:29.480 --> 0:04:31.919 maybe not speaking of pop culture. But so this weekend 0:04:32.480 --> 0:04:36.600 we went down to DC. We had a wedding in 0:04:36.760 --> 0:04:40.360 South Jery's, you know, and then we also my brother 0:04:40.400 --> 0:04:44.039 in law's girlfriend got us tickets or got tickets to 0:04:44.160 --> 0:04:47.360 the African American History and Culture Museum that's in DC, 0:04:47.600 --> 0:04:50.839 which is really really hard. I mean, tickets are free 0:04:50.880 --> 0:04:53.000 because it's part of the Smithsonian, but they're really hard 0:04:53.000 --> 0:04:55.680 to get. They sell out really fast. So I've had 0:04:55.680 --> 0:04:58.000 this on my calendar for months and we finally went 0:04:58.040 --> 0:05:02.400 down there, and first all, we didn't even finish half 0:05:02.440 --> 0:05:06.960 the museum. It is so big, It is so packed 0:05:07.160 --> 0:05:09.960 with things to read, to see, and you really want 0:05:10.000 --> 0:05:13.080 to take your time. I spent. It's basically the way 0:05:13.120 --> 0:05:15.160 the museum. I mean, it was incredible, but it was 0:05:15.839 --> 0:05:18.640 it split up into like an upper level and then 0:05:18.680 --> 0:05:21.560 a lower level. So you start down, you go down 0:05:21.600 --> 0:05:25.520 to like three levels below underground, and this is where 0:05:25.560 --> 0:05:28.400 it starts at the beginning of slavery, and it goes 0:05:28.800 --> 0:05:31.440 through the fourteen hundreds all the way to two thousand 0:05:31.440 --> 0:05:34.720 and eight. That's a lot of history. I spent three 0:05:34.800 --> 0:05:38.400 and a half hours just going through those bottom three levels. 0:05:39.000 --> 0:05:44.040 And the emotional like people were crying, they were I mean, 0:05:44.080 --> 0:05:45.839 it wasn't like, I don't want to make it seem dramatic. 0:05:45.880 --> 0:05:48.640 People weren't like boohooing like church crying, but I mean 0:05:48.680 --> 0:05:52.080 it was. It was very somber because you're I was 0:05:52.160 --> 0:05:54.479 learning a lot that I didn't know about slavery in 0:05:54.520 --> 0:05:57.080 the first place. And then and then you're having your 0:05:57.120 --> 0:06:00.080 own experience and you can't help but see the like 0:06:00.120 --> 0:06:02.640 the six year old little girl who's with her mom 0:06:02.680 --> 0:06:06.599 and she's like, Mommy, I feel like crying, and the 0:06:06.640 --> 0:06:09.760 mom's like, I feel like crying too. And the little 0:06:09.800 --> 0:06:14.320 girl said, mommy, was Grandma was Grandma's slave. Was Grandma here? 0:06:14.360 --> 0:06:17.080 And she's like pointing to this was in the section 0:06:17.279 --> 0:06:21.479 of like the eighteen hundreds, was Grandma here? And you know, 0:06:21.520 --> 0:06:24.440 I found myself listening. It was fascinating to like listen 0:06:25.000 --> 0:06:28.359 to how parents were reacting to their kids and like 0:06:28.400 --> 0:06:30.279 how kids were reacting to it. You know, some kids 0:06:30.360 --> 0:06:33.480 didn't care, some kids are like running around, but it 0:06:33.560 --> 0:06:36.600 was just really it was just really intense. It was 0:06:36.680 --> 0:06:39.560 just it's like you're walking around with your heart being 0:06:39.560 --> 0:06:43.600 squeezed at the same time, and you're seeing the shackles 0:06:43.839 --> 0:06:47.640 for small children and the shackles that were used for adults, 0:06:47.640 --> 0:06:52.240 and there was like, I've never seen a real whip 0:06:52.520 --> 0:06:57.359 that was used on plantations. And then they have I 0:06:57.400 --> 0:07:01.640 mean it, yeah, it was a is a experience and 0:07:01.720 --> 0:07:03.920 it was heavy at the end of it. Actually, once 0:07:04.000 --> 0:07:07.000 you go through and you're out of the third level, 0:07:07.040 --> 0:07:10.680 they have this contemplative fountain, which is really beautiful. It's 0:07:10.680 --> 0:07:12.160 a fountain and you can sit there and it's just 0:07:12.240 --> 0:07:13.920 meant to be a place where you can sort of 0:07:13.960 --> 0:07:17.600 like put Actually, the docent or the woman who they 0:07:17.640 --> 0:07:20.000 take you down an elevator at the beginning. You go 0:07:20.080 --> 0:07:22.280 down three levels and they have a docent in the 0:07:22.280 --> 0:07:24.240 elevator kind of preparing you for what you're about to 0:07:24.280 --> 0:07:26.520 go through, and they tell you at that point at 0:07:26.520 --> 0:07:28.440 the beginning, you know, at the end, go to the fountain. 0:07:28.600 --> 0:07:31.280 Put some peace back in your heart before you continue, 0:07:31.280 --> 0:07:32.120 because you read. 0:07:32.040 --> 0:07:35.000 That you need oh wow, I love that. 0:07:35.160 --> 0:07:38.720 You need a hug, you need something. And I felt like, 0:07:38.760 --> 0:07:40.200 I mean I spent three and a half hours. I've 0:07:40.200 --> 0:07:42.560 never spent I haven't spent that much time in a museum. 0:07:42.560 --> 0:07:44.800 I can't even tell you how long. And that was 0:07:44.880 --> 0:07:47.480 just half of it. And then you finish, you get 0:07:47.520 --> 0:07:49.760 through like the history part, and then the top four 0:07:49.840 --> 0:07:51.400 levels of the museum. When you get back to the 0:07:51.400 --> 0:07:55.040 ground level. They have a modern art level. They have 0:07:55.280 --> 0:07:58.480 an amazing pop culture level where you go through the 0:07:58.520 --> 0:08:03.120 history of music and music and African American culture's influence 0:08:03.160 --> 0:08:06.800 and all the different genres of music and media and entertainment. 0:08:06.960 --> 0:08:09.480 And I don't even know the other two levels are 0:08:09.480 --> 0:08:12.320 because at that point I was just so I was 0:08:12.360 --> 0:08:15.880 so rotten. I was so like emotionally drained and physically 0:08:15.920 --> 0:08:18.560 tired from doing the bottom levels that I said, We're 0:08:18.560 --> 0:08:20.720 just going to have to come back later. I couldn't 0:08:20.720 --> 0:08:22.840 do the rest, and we didn't. We Unfortunately, you could 0:08:22.840 --> 0:08:24.880 probably do it in a whole day if you take 0:08:24.920 --> 0:08:27.080 a break, like go to They have a nice cafe there, 0:08:27.760 --> 0:08:29.560 and I was like, if you if we would have 0:08:29.560 --> 0:08:31.320 had time to go to the cafe for like an 0:08:31.320 --> 0:08:34.840 hour and re re energize, I could have done the 0:08:34.840 --> 0:08:38.120 rest of it, but we just didn't have enough time. 0:08:38.440 --> 0:08:44.720 But that is one amazing place I have to go. Yeah, 0:08:44.800 --> 0:08:46.520 you learn, and I just I just you know, I 0:08:46.800 --> 0:08:49.200 posted on I know some of our listeners had seen 0:08:49.240 --> 0:08:51.480 my post on Instagram where I've been reading this book 0:08:52.440 --> 0:08:54.880 as part of my Mandy book club of one called 0:08:54.960 --> 0:08:59.960 UH call Homegoing by Uh. Her last name is Gia. 0:09:00.360 --> 0:09:05.800 She's Gunny and writer Yagiyasi g Ya Si and this 0:09:05.840 --> 0:09:08.760 book Homegoing, it it was a perfect book to read 0:09:08.800 --> 0:09:11.640 before you go to that museum because it's historical fiction 0:09:11.840 --> 0:09:14.600 and she sets it on the coast, on the Gold Coast, 0:09:15.320 --> 0:09:19.080 Western Africa and Ghana, and she takes you through the 0:09:19.120 --> 0:09:23.360 history of slavery, but through fictional characters experiences. So you 0:09:23.440 --> 0:09:27.240 start with two women born at this born in Ghana, 0:09:27.760 --> 0:09:31.880 one is sold into slavery, one marries a British officer, 0:09:32.760 --> 0:09:35.559 and then you learned you every chapter is one of 0:09:35.559 --> 0:09:38.439 their descendants, going all the way up until modern day. 0:09:39.080 --> 0:09:42.480 And it is like, this book is so good. It's 0:09:42.520 --> 0:09:46.240 so good, and I learned a lot about slavery that 0:09:46.280 --> 0:09:49.400 I didn't know. And in like the history, I mean, 0:09:49.440 --> 0:09:54.120 it just shows you the ripple effects and how long 0:09:54.120 --> 0:09:56.559 they've lasted. I mean it's been centuries and how we're 0:09:56.640 --> 0:10:00.800 still being people today are still impacted by what happened 0:10:01.200 --> 0:10:05.160 four hundred or six hundred years ago, the beginning of 0:10:05.679 --> 0:10:13.319 slavery in Europe. And how and how not just America, 0:10:13.440 --> 0:10:16.880 but all of Europe, all the great nations of Europe 0:10:16.920 --> 0:10:22.000 have the bat have slaves to thank for their growth 0:10:22.080 --> 0:10:24.920 during this time, for all, for their economic growth, for 0:10:24.960 --> 0:10:28.800 their wealth. Here's you know, I learned that. I didn't 0:10:28.880 --> 0:10:32.400 know that Christopher Columbus lands it in what is now 0:10:32.440 --> 0:10:35.960 Dominican republican Haiti and basically brought so much disease that 0:10:36.000 --> 0:10:39.120 all the indigenous people died, and he replaced them with slaves. 0:10:39.240 --> 0:10:42.440 And that's why there's so much African heritage. I didn't 0:10:42.480 --> 0:10:44.360 know that. Like I learned all that from the museum. 0:10:45.360 --> 0:10:48.760 I didn't know Portugal was like really the country that 0:10:48.840 --> 0:10:51.760 started the slave trade and was responsible for bringing more 0:10:51.760 --> 0:10:55.520 slaves than even the US from Africa. Like it's just 0:10:55.559 --> 0:10:58.920 so's it's just not what it's not. It's everything you 0:10:58.960 --> 0:11:01.120 didn't learn in high school, you know, and everything you 0:11:01.120 --> 0:11:03.400 weren't mature enough to understand in high school. It's everything. 0:11:04.120 --> 0:11:06.199 And don't worry. They have an Oprah exhibit and they 0:11:06.200 --> 0:11:09.640 have a the last I'll tell you what. Like when 0:11:09.640 --> 0:11:12.560 you said you need like you need you need like 0:11:12.720 --> 0:11:14.760 a little bit of release. After that, toward the end 0:11:14.800 --> 0:11:17.840 of it, when you finally got to Obama and Oprah, 0:11:17.880 --> 0:11:20.600 people were swarming those exhibits. It was like everyone just 0:11:20.679 --> 0:11:24.880 needed like okay and we kind of like have a 0:11:24.880 --> 0:11:27.640 bit of you know, yeah, I don't know why Oprah 0:11:27.720 --> 0:11:30.199 got such a huge when you if you go, you'll 0:11:30.200 --> 0:11:32.760 see it's like Martin Luther King Junior's exhibit was really 0:11:32.800 --> 0:11:36.240 really tiny, which was kind of surprising. But then Oprah, 0:11:36.240 --> 0:11:39.760 it's like the entire set. They recreated the set, and 0:11:39.880 --> 0:11:42.000 to be fair, she did like finance half the museum 0:11:42.120 --> 0:11:42.800 or something like that. 0:11:43.320 --> 0:11:45.720 She's like, yeah, you will, you will get me my. 0:11:45.800 --> 0:11:48.920 F she she they had the dress from her last show. 0:11:49.280 --> 0:11:51.480 It was it was funny, and they had Michelle Obama's 0:11:51.559 --> 0:11:55.200 dress from a the night that Obama was was first elected. 0:11:55.440 --> 0:11:57.360 It's a anyway, I can go on and on, but 0:11:57.600 --> 0:11:59.880 definitely definitely add it to your to do list if 0:11:59.880 --> 0:12:01.840 you you ever, you know, go to DC. 0:12:04.720 --> 0:12:07.040 Speaking of adding things to your to do list, this 0:12:07.080 --> 0:12:10.319 is a random but I went to the doctor today. 0:12:10.679 --> 0:12:13.199 Everybody should go. I mean, you guys probably go. I'm 0:12:13.200 --> 0:12:15.160 the worst. I'm not even gonna lie I am the 0:12:15.240 --> 0:12:17.520 absolute worst with going to the doctor. And I don't 0:12:17.559 --> 0:12:20.680 know why. I just even when I was there, I 0:12:20.720 --> 0:12:23.120 was trying to figure out how I could leave. So 0:12:23.160 --> 0:12:25.080 I went to for real, I was like, oh wait, 0:12:25.400 --> 0:12:28.640 because my my appointment was at eleven thirty and I 0:12:28.640 --> 0:12:33.040 didn't get there till eleven forty five. I said, oh, 0:12:33.080 --> 0:12:36.079 I'm kind of late. Anyway, maybe I should just's Tiffany 0:12:36.200 --> 0:12:39.280 Kitchin And then it was like maybe like five people 0:12:39.320 --> 0:12:40.520 in the waiting room. I said, Oh, it's going to 0:12:40.559 --> 0:12:41.920 be a while. I'm like, cause you have something to 0:12:41.960 --> 0:12:44.840 do after this, you doun't And I was like, oh 0:12:45.080 --> 0:12:47.480 God to the guy now, And so is. 0:12:47.400 --> 0:12:49.720 This just a check up or was it like a physical? 0:12:50.679 --> 0:12:52.400 Well, I want to when men want to have a 0:12:52.400 --> 0:12:54.040 super well, we want to have a super baby. So 0:12:54.080 --> 0:12:55.520 I was like, oh, I have to make sure that, 0:12:55.559 --> 0:12:57.520 Like I mean, I've had like I'm going to the 0:12:57.559 --> 0:12:59.640 regular doctor. That's like, oh, that's pretty easy. You know, 0:12:59.640 --> 0:13:02.239 I've done that. You know, I get my yearly physicals. 0:13:02.240 --> 0:13:03.960 But the guy in know, for some reason, I don't 0:13:03.960 --> 0:13:07.720 know if it's just the weirdness of hey, there's my vagina. 0:13:07.800 --> 0:13:11.360 You're looking in there, you know, if that's why, you know. 0:13:11.679 --> 0:13:14.480 But so I went and I found out that I 0:13:14.679 --> 0:13:18.640 have five boyds. I did not know, like even though 0:13:18.679 --> 0:13:20.439 it's probably the only thing, and I don't want to 0:13:20.440 --> 0:13:21.960 say it runs in my family, but I'm not the 0:13:21.960 --> 0:13:25.080 only one in my family. So but we're like, we 0:13:25.120 --> 0:13:27.880 don't there's no there's no history of like asthma or 0:13:28.200 --> 0:13:30.319 diabetes or whatever, you know, like when you check off 0:13:30.320 --> 0:13:32.680 the list, like there's none of that. Yeah, but five 0:13:33.120 --> 0:13:36.680 ten seem to be like a semi reoccurring theme. I 0:13:36.720 --> 0:13:40.520 didn't know, and I always wondered why, Like you know, 0:13:40.679 --> 0:13:42.120 he said, didn't you wonder why he had this little 0:13:42.160 --> 0:13:44.400 like I always had a little pooch, nothing major, like 0:13:44.400 --> 0:13:46.240 if you see me, you might not even notice unless 0:13:46.280 --> 0:13:49.080 I was wearing like a like a really tight like shirt. 0:13:49.080 --> 0:13:52.880 And I always wondered, And I'm like, I just always thought, oh, 0:13:53.360 --> 0:13:55.480 I don't know, I got a little belly, you know. 0:13:56.160 --> 0:13:58.520 And know he was like that there are actually I 0:13:58.600 --> 0:14:00.560 have three of them, and they're kind of large. For 0:14:00.559 --> 0:14:01.960 those of you. Let me let me pull out the 0:14:01.960 --> 0:14:06.600 definition because honest say, I wasn't fully clear on what 0:14:07.679 --> 0:14:08.480 fiboids were. 0:14:08.920 --> 0:14:11.880 Yeah, no fibroid with an F for people like you 0:14:12.000 --> 0:14:13.880 thought you were saying thyroid when you first heard it. 0:14:14.559 --> 0:14:16.920 Oh yeah, because that's my lists my bad guys. 0:14:17.120 --> 0:14:19.400 No, no, no, it's just you know the interwebs. 0:14:20.640 --> 0:14:23.760 So, fibroids are non cancerous tumors. I know you hear 0:14:23.800 --> 0:14:28.280 tumor eh that grow from the muscle layers of the womb. 0:14:29.240 --> 0:14:31.320 So that sounds scary. I'm like, yikes, is that what 0:14:31.320 --> 0:14:34.760 that is? So they can be the size of a bean, 0:14:34.880 --> 0:14:38.600 to be as large as a melons. And it said 0:14:38.640 --> 0:14:41.160 fiveboids affected about thirty percent of women. Wow, I didn't 0:14:41.160 --> 0:14:43.520 know that by the age of thirty five years old, 0:14:43.800 --> 0:14:47.360 and twenty to eighty percent by the age of fifty. 0:14:47.480 --> 0:14:51.479 Oh okay. So basically, as you get older, the likelihood, 0:14:53.280 --> 0:14:56.320 you know, the likelihood of you getting fiboids grows, so 0:14:56.720 --> 0:15:01.400 typically you kind of know that you have because you 0:15:01.440 --> 0:15:03.640 get like really, this is how my other family member 0:15:03.720 --> 0:15:06.880 knew because she was getting really bad cramps. She had heavy, 0:15:07.360 --> 0:15:10.360 like heavy periods, and I sorry, Jerome, and you're like 0:15:10.440 --> 0:15:15.680 really yes, like sad period and so but I wasn't 0:15:15.680 --> 0:15:17.600 getting any of that, Like I have normal periods. I don't. 0:15:17.720 --> 0:15:20.400 I get cramps, but nothing crazy, you know, I you know, 0:15:20.480 --> 0:15:23.200 I can usually opt in or out of taking like 0:15:23.200 --> 0:15:26.400 like an advil or whatever. So I didn't know because 0:15:26.480 --> 0:15:28.880 I wasn't exhibiting other than like this little belly that 0:15:28.920 --> 0:15:31.000 I just assumed, well, you know, that's my ice cream habit. 0:15:31.440 --> 0:15:34.480 I didn't know that that there was any especially for 0:15:34.520 --> 0:15:36.160 them to be that large. They're like, you don't get 0:15:36.200 --> 0:15:39.480 any discomfort. I'm like, my parents are normal. They're five days. 0:15:39.840 --> 0:15:41.800 I don't, like I said, I don't get I might 0:15:41.880 --> 0:15:43.680 I cramp maybe the first day a little bit, and 0:15:43.680 --> 0:15:45.960 even then if it's not that bad, I don't take anything, 0:15:45.960 --> 0:15:49.720 and you know, I have a normal flow basically, So 0:15:50.000 --> 0:15:52.120 I'm like, uh so, now the decision is. The thing 0:15:52.240 --> 0:15:56.000 is with five boids is that you you can decide 0:15:56.000 --> 0:15:57.960 to get rid of them, but there's a risk, like 0:15:58.040 --> 0:16:00.840 if you want to have kids, you know, there's a 0:16:00.960 --> 0:16:02.840 risk of taking them out. And so this is what 0:16:02.880 --> 0:16:05.640 I have to decide, do I try to have kids anyway? 0:16:05.880 --> 0:16:09.440 And but then if they're really large, because they grow 0:16:09.720 --> 0:16:12.520 like on the like uterus or whatever, they can actually 0:16:13.080 --> 0:16:16.200 they'll take up space where the baby would grow. So 0:16:16.240 --> 0:16:17.880 you run, you know, you run the risk of there 0:16:17.920 --> 0:16:21.640 literally not being enough space and then miscarriages and all 0:16:21.640 --> 0:16:24.000 the other kind of stuff. But then also too, you 0:16:24.040 --> 0:16:26.200 can have them remove, but then you also run the 0:16:26.280 --> 0:16:28.760 risk of something happening, and then you're not being able 0:16:28.800 --> 0:16:31.800 to have kids. So I'm just trying to, like I 0:16:31.800 --> 0:16:33.440 have to, I want to meet with a number of 0:16:34.600 --> 0:16:36.200 The doctor that I met with today was like, oh, no, 0:16:36.200 --> 0:16:37.160 you gotta get rid of them, and. 0:16:37.120 --> 0:16:39.840 I'm like, hold up, second opinion that. 0:16:40.120 --> 0:16:45.320 Because I'm like, honestly, women have kids with fibroids, you know, 0:16:45.480 --> 0:16:48.560 like or yeah, so it's it's not And so I've 0:16:48.560 --> 0:16:50.720 had doctors say that too, So I want to I 0:16:50.760 --> 0:16:54.560 want to honestly speak with a woman doctor who this 0:16:54.640 --> 0:16:57.880 is her specialty, because I don't want to rush in 0:16:58.000 --> 0:17:01.000 and get something done and then I, you know, I 0:17:01.520 --> 0:17:03.400 take away the chance of me being able to have children, 0:17:03.440 --> 0:17:07.080 you know, yeah, definitely. Yeah. So it's just something. So 0:17:07.119 --> 0:17:09.040 if you have five, honest say, I'm really interested because 0:17:09.040 --> 0:17:12.680 i know, especially in our community, the brown ambition community, 0:17:13.320 --> 0:17:15.840 fiveboys run a little bit higher for women of color, 0:17:16.400 --> 0:17:20.000 and I'm sure a large number of you are dealing 0:17:20.000 --> 0:17:21.840 with five boys. I've heard, I've read a lot about 0:17:22.000 --> 0:17:24.000 changing your diet and they can actually shrink them by 0:17:24.080 --> 0:17:27.040 changing your diet. A friend of mine, you know, she 0:17:27.080 --> 0:17:30.280 cut out all her sugar and she saw her shrinking. 0:17:30.480 --> 0:17:33.040 How did they find them Is that during the physical exam, 0:17:33.240 --> 0:17:34.960 like with their hands they can feel it or did 0:17:34.960 --> 0:17:37.199 you have to get like a scan or something ultrasound? 0:17:38.160 --> 0:17:40.440 Yeah, so he actually ordered a ultrasound for me so 0:17:40.480 --> 0:17:42.720 he could see better. But yeah, just like through the 0:17:42.840 --> 0:17:45.680 like digging all all in there. He was like, whoa. 0:17:45.760 --> 0:17:47.760 First of all, you have a male guy. No kudos 0:17:47.800 --> 0:17:50.320 to you. I've never been able to deal with the male. 0:17:51.480 --> 0:17:54.359 I was like, because, well it was recommended and I 0:17:54.359 --> 0:17:56.040 didn't even ask, Like I asked a friend of mine, 0:17:56.040 --> 0:17:57.320 who is that guy? Know? I need to give my 0:17:57.400 --> 0:18:00.040 life together? And she was like, oh, doctor whatever. I 0:18:00.080 --> 0:18:02.119 didn't even I didn't know it was a man. I'm 0:18:02.160 --> 0:18:03.479 not gonna lie. I was like, wait, who are you? 0:18:04.080 --> 0:18:11.080 Damn I met it before what And then and then 0:18:11.240 --> 0:18:13.439 he did like the breast exam. I'm like, what is happening? 0:18:13.800 --> 0:18:15.560 It was so weird. I was just looking up at 0:18:15.560 --> 0:18:17.560 the ceiling, like, ah, being molested. 0:18:18.359 --> 0:18:21.359 But it was good, you know, but. 0:18:20.600 --> 0:18:23.119 But yes, but it was good to just you know, 0:18:23.240 --> 0:18:25.520 get all of that done. And aside from that, you know, 0:18:25.560 --> 0:18:28.000 he's like you're perfectly healthy, blah blah blah. But it 0:18:28.080 --> 0:18:31.880 definitely was like yike, So now I really that's why 0:18:31.880 --> 0:18:35.520 I said, I want an opinion from a woman, especially 0:18:35.560 --> 0:18:38.080 a woman doctor who deals with this on a regular basis, 0:18:38.080 --> 0:18:40.320 because I you know, he was just very quick to 0:18:40.359 --> 0:18:41.919 be like we gotta take care and got getting rid 0:18:41.920 --> 0:18:44.600 of him, and I'm like, hold up, like, I'm sure 0:18:44.640 --> 0:18:48.080 there are other there's other options, because I don't I'm 0:18:48.080 --> 0:18:50.960 gonna eventually. The thing is, I know eventually I want 0:18:51.000 --> 0:18:55.320 to get rid of them, but before or after childbirth, 0:18:55.359 --> 0:18:58.000 that's the question, And so I really wanted to exploit it. 0:18:58.000 --> 0:19:00.480 So for those of you who are listening, like I said, 0:19:00.520 --> 0:19:03.760 I definitely have read a lot about changing diets and 0:19:03.800 --> 0:19:06.440 being able to reduce your five ways as a result 0:19:06.480 --> 0:19:08.320 of that. If you're someone who knows anything about that, 0:19:08.400 --> 0:19:12.240 please tweet me at the Budgetista and just you know, 0:19:12.240 --> 0:19:14.040 if you have a link or anything, because I'm definitely 0:19:14.040 --> 0:19:16.399 like gathering as much information as possible so when I 0:19:16.440 --> 0:19:18.960 make my next appointment with a doctor that I could 0:19:18.960 --> 0:19:22.040 talk about what are my options? Superman. It's like we 0:19:22.040 --> 0:19:25.159 can always adopt I'm like, we could. I don't know. 0:19:25.440 --> 0:19:27.040 I don't think you're I mean, you still have some 0:19:27.480 --> 0:19:29.879 you still haven't you don't know that this is going 0:19:29.920 --> 0:19:33.680 to like prevent you from you know, having kids, having kids. 0:19:33.720 --> 0:19:37.719 But so I'm just like, yeah, it's just like as 0:19:37.720 --> 0:19:39.920 you get older, you start to realize wow, And it's 0:19:39.920 --> 0:19:42.720 so crazy because like my one of the reasons why 0:19:42.760 --> 0:19:44.360 I honestly I wasn't going to a doctor as much 0:19:44.440 --> 0:19:48.040 is because my insurance, like it lapsed. I didn't even 0:19:48.040 --> 0:19:50.600 realize because they were taking the money automatically out of 0:19:50.680 --> 0:19:53.920 my account and I wasn't keeping up. And then months 0:19:54.000 --> 0:19:56.000 later I was it was like, oh, you know, you 0:19:56.040 --> 0:19:58.280 haven't made a payment. Your insurance is canceled. I'm like, 0:19:58.320 --> 0:19:59.840