1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:02,960 Speaker 1: This is Mandy be Welcome to Selective Ignorance, a production 2 00:00:03,160 --> 00:00:07,960 Speaker 1: of the Blackpec Podcast Network and iHeartRadio. Hey, class mays, 3 00:00:08,039 --> 00:00:13,520 Speaker 1: it's for Friday, and we got another bonus episode because 4 00:00:13,640 --> 00:00:18,760 Speaker 1: I'm coming to y'all twice a week. Oh my goodness, 5 00:00:18,800 --> 00:00:24,200 Speaker 1: we are really in November. Elections just happened. Boil Boy 6 00:00:24,360 --> 00:00:26,880 Speaker 1: really excited about this episode. This week we are getting 7 00:00:26,920 --> 00:00:32,400 Speaker 1: into more am I ignorant? Questions from you guys, And again, 8 00:00:32,520 --> 00:00:36,320 Speaker 1: if you want to submit your question to you know, 9 00:00:36,560 --> 00:00:40,160 Speaker 1: have myself and the classmates decide if you're ignorant selectively 10 00:00:40,280 --> 00:00:46,000 Speaker 1: or real ignorant for just uninformed, Please over your questions 11 00:00:47,479 --> 00:00:54,520 Speaker 1: to Selective Ignorance pod at gmail dot com. I ain't 12 00:00:54,560 --> 00:00:58,920 Speaker 1: even gonna hold y'all. I am honess after like one 13 00:00:58,960 --> 00:01:02,880 Speaker 1: of those days I was supposed to record this morning, 14 00:01:03,720 --> 00:01:08,039 Speaker 1: woke up to loud ass construction. Now, before I start 15 00:01:08,080 --> 00:01:11,120 Speaker 1: my little ramp about my long day and before I 16 00:01:11,160 --> 00:01:16,840 Speaker 1: get into these and my ignorant posts, I am very 17 00:01:16,920 --> 00:01:19,880 Speaker 1: aware that this is gonna sound like first world problems. Okay, 18 00:01:20,520 --> 00:01:25,560 Speaker 1: bear with me though, because I really was proud of 19 00:01:25,600 --> 00:01:33,080 Speaker 1: myself with the patience that code today. All Right, So 20 00:01:33,120 --> 00:01:36,959 Speaker 1: I wake up I'm planning to record this episode early 21 00:01:37,360 --> 00:01:42,400 Speaker 1: before I have video station to record my Saturday show 22 00:01:45,000 --> 00:01:47,800 Speaker 1: on the radio. Y'all know I'm a hot one of 23 00:01:47,880 --> 00:01:50,400 Speaker 1: seven nine here in Atlanta from six to eight on Saturdays. 24 00:01:50,760 --> 00:01:54,880 Speaker 1: Make sure you check that if you local. So i 25 00:01:54,960 --> 00:02:00,840 Speaker 1: wake up and I'm planning for a day. I say, okay, 26 00:02:02,720 --> 00:02:06,480 Speaker 1: I'm gonna record this episode. I'm gonna go do my 27 00:02:06,600 --> 00:02:10,840 Speaker 1: radio show. Then I'm gonna go pick up my tooths 28 00:02:10,880 --> 00:02:15,760 Speaker 1: because I finally updated it. This makes me sound real, realbusted. Okay, 29 00:02:16,760 --> 00:02:19,640 Speaker 1: I have had the fourteen, so just know I was 30 00:02:19,720 --> 00:02:25,239 Speaker 1: three phones behind. Okay, and I think I know last 31 00:02:25,240 --> 00:02:27,080 Speaker 1: week I used the word ghetto. I'm just gonna use 32 00:02:27,080 --> 00:02:29,320 Speaker 1: it because bitch I broke a nail on a crab leg. 33 00:02:30,000 --> 00:02:31,640 Speaker 1: And the reason I broke a nail on a crab 34 00:02:31,720 --> 00:02:35,400 Speaker 1: leg this week is because bitch I can't put crab 35 00:02:35,480 --> 00:02:37,720 Speaker 1: legs in my mouth because I got veneers and I'll 36 00:02:37,720 --> 00:02:39,720 Speaker 1: be damned if I break a tooth on a crab leg. 37 00:02:41,800 --> 00:02:44,239 Speaker 1: First of all problems, I told y'all. So anyways, I 38 00:02:44,280 --> 00:02:51,000 Speaker 1: wake up this morning, fuck can't record because the construction 39 00:02:51,240 --> 00:02:56,160 Speaker 1: is constructioning. So I'm like, okay, I'm gonna record when 40 00:02:56,200 --> 00:02:59,120 Speaker 1: I get back home after I pick up my phone, 41 00:02:59,240 --> 00:03:01,880 Speaker 1: eat lunch, fix my nail. All of it is in 42 00:03:01,960 --> 00:03:09,160 Speaker 1: the same location. So I record my show. Mind you 43 00:03:10,080 --> 00:03:11,959 Speaker 1: a little late today, y'all know how I am about late. 44 00:03:13,520 --> 00:03:15,760 Speaker 1: Luckily we got the show done in time. It was 45 00:03:15,800 --> 00:03:20,840 Speaker 1: all good. But woo go to AT and T to 46 00:03:20,880 --> 00:03:25,160 Speaker 1: pick up my phones that was delivered there, and he says, 47 00:03:25,200 --> 00:03:29,239 Speaker 1: it's gonna be a switch, you know, switcher up. Maybe 48 00:03:29,240 --> 00:03:34,600 Speaker 1: it was not, Maybe it was not, So I had 49 00:03:34,639 --> 00:03:37,720 Speaker 1: to wait for one phone to transfer to the next. 50 00:03:38,080 --> 00:03:40,760 Speaker 1: Then apparently I had a stolen protection on it that 51 00:03:40,880 --> 00:03:42,440 Speaker 1: had to be turned off, which made me have to 52 00:03:42,480 --> 00:03:46,800 Speaker 1: wait an extra So he was like, listen, we can't really, 53 00:03:47,560 --> 00:03:51,200 Speaker 1: you know, exchange these phones until this is turned off. 54 00:03:51,760 --> 00:03:55,800 Speaker 1: Fuck me. So I'm like, bet, I'll go next door 55 00:03:55,800 --> 00:03:59,280 Speaker 1: and eat, grab a quick little bite, then I'm gonna 56 00:03:59,280 --> 00:04:01,960 Speaker 1: go to the NL. So so I go next door 57 00:04:02,320 --> 00:04:06,480 Speaker 1: and I order the lunch pat CEU and a snow 58 00:04:06,800 --> 00:04:10,040 Speaker 1: crab hand roll. Now this is where y'all are gonna 59 00:04:10,080 --> 00:04:11,880 Speaker 1: left me. But I don't give a fuck because why 60 00:04:12,000 --> 00:04:19,720 Speaker 1: y'all lie in to me snow crab hand roll? It said, 61 00:04:19,760 --> 00:04:23,800 Speaker 1: snow crab with a cee, y'all get my hand roll 62 00:04:24,520 --> 00:04:27,760 Speaker 1: and it just crab with a K in mayonnaise. I said, 63 00:04:27,760 --> 00:04:30,560 Speaker 1: you are giving me an imitation crab salad in a 64 00:04:30,560 --> 00:04:34,559 Speaker 1: hand roll, and it it really pissed me off because 65 00:04:34,560 --> 00:04:37,200 Speaker 1: that's what you said. That's not what I just spent 66 00:04:37,400 --> 00:04:42,320 Speaker 1: nine dollars on. I don't want imitation crab in mayonnaise 67 00:04:42,360 --> 00:04:46,000 Speaker 1: in my hand roll. So that pissed me off. But 68 00:04:46,040 --> 00:04:48,320 Speaker 1: I was like, you know what, this isn't the day 69 00:04:48,360 --> 00:04:52,040 Speaker 1: to complain. Like there's already multiple things at this point. 70 00:04:52,040 --> 00:04:54,840 Speaker 1: It's just things are just ticket ticket ticket away. So 71 00:04:54,880 --> 00:04:57,360 Speaker 1: I go to the nail salon and I'm like, hey, 72 00:04:57,600 --> 00:05:00,400 Speaker 1: I just need my big toe fix and and my 73 00:05:00,440 --> 00:05:02,920 Speaker 1: pointer finger fix. My y'all, is my pointer finger with 74 00:05:03,120 --> 00:05:10,719 Speaker 1: no nails need polish on that whole. I'm trying not 75 00:05:10,839 --> 00:05:16,720 Speaker 1: to use a slur because that would be very ignorant 76 00:05:16,760 --> 00:05:20,560 Speaker 1: in me. However, I go in and I say, hey, 77 00:05:20,600 --> 00:05:24,480 Speaker 1: I need these two fixs. I ain't even gonna put 78 00:05:24,480 --> 00:05:28,240 Speaker 1: an accent on because that's see I'm really trying here. AnyWho. 79 00:05:28,839 --> 00:05:35,440 Speaker 1: He go, well, did we do your nail? I said no, 80 00:05:35,760 --> 00:05:38,640 Speaker 1: but it's an easy fix. Oh well, we only do 81 00:05:38,680 --> 00:05:42,120 Speaker 1: full service because people say that we don't have the 82 00:05:42,160 --> 00:05:45,799 Speaker 1: colors they need. I said, well, it's white and red. 83 00:05:46,680 --> 00:05:49,880 Speaker 1: I know you have both colors. If you're watching this 84 00:05:50,000 --> 00:05:53,680 Speaker 1: on video. He looked at me and did this after confirming, 85 00:05:54,200 --> 00:05:57,000 Speaker 1: like the colors are fine. I know you have big 86 00:05:57,040 --> 00:06:00,520 Speaker 1: apple red and I know you have white. Literally get 87 00:06:00,560 --> 00:06:02,400 Speaker 1: those two things because I travel so much and it 88 00:06:02,440 --> 00:06:06,240 Speaker 1: makes it for me to get things fixed. He looks 89 00:06:06,240 --> 00:06:12,599 Speaker 1: at me, y'all and does this, well, we can't help you. 90 00:06:16,000 --> 00:06:19,400 Speaker 1: And I look at him and y'all with all my 91 00:06:19,480 --> 00:06:28,680 Speaker 1: might today, y'all, with all my might, I did the 92 00:06:28,720 --> 00:06:34,800 Speaker 1: little scrunch, not smile, not saying it is, and just 93 00:06:34,839 --> 00:06:38,400 Speaker 1: turned around and exited. So now I'm mad because, y'all, 94 00:06:39,360 --> 00:06:45,600 Speaker 1: it is now three zero two p m. If you 95 00:06:45,760 --> 00:06:50,800 Speaker 1: live in Atlanta, Georgia, you should not leave your home 96 00:06:50,880 --> 00:06:54,800 Speaker 1: between three and seven otherwise expect to sit in traffic. 97 00:06:55,160 --> 00:06:58,240 Speaker 1: So I'm like, buck, I gotta go all the way 98 00:06:58,720 --> 00:07:00,760 Speaker 1: to my nail salon to get this because I wasn't 99 00:07:00,760 --> 00:07:03,200 Speaker 1: gonna let it happen again that I got that same response, 100 00:07:03,440 --> 00:07:05,599 Speaker 1: so I didn't get to exchange my phones. I go 101 00:07:05,680 --> 00:07:09,080 Speaker 1: back to get my phones, go to the nel saalon, y'all, 102 00:07:09,360 --> 00:07:13,400 Speaker 1: today was just a day. So I am recording this 103 00:07:14,560 --> 00:07:17,720 Speaker 1: at night. And I don't know if y'all know this 104 00:07:18,040 --> 00:07:24,040 Speaker 1: or not, but my brain shuts down after six. It 105 00:07:24,200 --> 00:07:27,960 Speaker 1: just does. I still have a nine to five brain, okay, 106 00:07:28,680 --> 00:07:32,760 Speaker 1: So I like to get shit done before three o'clock. 107 00:07:34,840 --> 00:07:38,680 Speaker 1: If you see me on my other podcast and shit 108 00:07:38,800 --> 00:07:41,720 Speaker 1: is questionable, nine times out of ten, it's because we 109 00:07:41,800 --> 00:07:47,960 Speaker 1: recorded after five. I fucking hate it. Anyway, that was 110 00:07:48,000 --> 00:07:50,240 Speaker 1: my day. I'm recording this. I have a flight in 111 00:07:50,280 --> 00:07:53,960 Speaker 1: the morning. If you're listening to this and you are 112 00:07:54,000 --> 00:07:57,880 Speaker 1: in New York City, I will be at Tonight's Conversations 113 00:07:58,320 --> 00:08:00,400 Speaker 1: in New York at the four o'clock in the eight 114 00:08:00,440 --> 00:08:04,239 Speaker 1: o'clock show, So come fuck with your girl. Feel free 115 00:08:04,280 --> 00:08:06,720 Speaker 1: to bring your book No Holds bard A doing Manifestor 116 00:08:06,800 --> 00:08:11,600 Speaker 1: of Sexual Exploration and Power. I am signing books there, 117 00:08:13,000 --> 00:08:15,720 Speaker 1: and bring your book if you have it. I won't 118 00:08:15,760 --> 00:08:19,280 Speaker 1: be selling them because I'm not a retailer. But come 119 00:08:19,320 --> 00:08:22,880 Speaker 1: on over fuck with your girl again. Before I get 120 00:08:22,880 --> 00:08:27,320 Speaker 1: into these am I ignorant posts, you can send yours 121 00:08:27,640 --> 00:08:34,000 Speaker 1: to Selective Ignorance pod at gmail dot com. Now love 122 00:08:34,559 --> 00:08:40,760 Speaker 1: this first one real bad because again we just had 123 00:08:41,280 --> 00:08:45,560 Speaker 1: the elections take place this week. Make sure you tune 124 00:08:45,559 --> 00:08:49,600 Speaker 1: into next week's episode. I'll be joined by my good friend, 125 00:08:50,240 --> 00:08:54,880 Speaker 1: comedian Jay Jorden, and we're gonna get into a little 126 00:08:54,920 --> 00:08:58,360 Speaker 1: bit more of the political ship. But this episode ain't 127 00:08:58,360 --> 00:09:00,880 Speaker 1: gonna be all that. But I am to start with 128 00:09:02,040 --> 00:09:05,040 Speaker 1: this question that I saw and I said, ooh, this 129 00:09:05,080 --> 00:09:08,640 Speaker 1: is so perfect because bitch I might be answered as 130 00:09:08,640 --> 00:09:15,920 Speaker 1: hope any subject line is am I ignorant for thinking 131 00:09:16,000 --> 00:09:20,240 Speaker 1: people should just quote unquote ignore politics if it stresses 132 00:09:20,280 --> 00:09:25,800 Speaker 1: them out? So I twenty eight year old female told 133 00:09:25,840 --> 00:09:29,760 Speaker 1: my coworkers during lunch that I've muted all political news 134 00:09:30,040 --> 00:09:35,520 Speaker 1: because I'm tired of hearing about elections, protests, and government drama. 135 00:09:36,360 --> 00:09:39,280 Speaker 1: One of them, a little older than me, said, that's 136 00:09:39,360 --> 00:09:43,960 Speaker 1: a quote unquote privilege. Choosing to ignore politics is part 137 00:09:44,080 --> 00:09:48,000 Speaker 1: of the problem. I told him, I work ten hours 138 00:09:48,040 --> 00:09:51,800 Speaker 1: a day, I pay my taxes, and a bitch is exhausted. 139 00:09:52,440 --> 00:09:56,520 Speaker 1: I don't see how me not watching debates anyone. He 140 00:09:56,600 --> 00:10:02,480 Speaker 1: got visibly annoyed, said my attitude was ignorant an app Now, 141 00:10:03,600 --> 00:10:07,120 Speaker 1: am I actually being ignorant by wanting peace and quiet? 142 00:10:07,720 --> 00:10:15,199 Speaker 1: Or are people too obsessed with being politically aware these days. Now, 143 00:10:16,640 --> 00:10:20,600 Speaker 1: this is a prime example of I would say selective 144 00:10:20,679 --> 00:10:26,480 Speaker 1: ignorance with these being here, with the orange Cheeto being 145 00:10:26,520 --> 00:10:30,120 Speaker 1: a motherfucking office. We all are fully aware of how 146 00:10:30,160 --> 00:10:33,560 Speaker 1: important it is to go vote, because we hear it 147 00:10:34,000 --> 00:10:41,920 Speaker 1: every time elections come around. Right. However, however it gets 148 00:10:43,520 --> 00:10:48,040 Speaker 1: and why it gets tricky is where our votes are 149 00:10:48,080 --> 00:10:52,720 Speaker 1: supposed to matter. Sometimes we feel like our one vote 150 00:10:52,760 --> 00:10:59,000 Speaker 1: doesn't make that big of a difference, and so for 151 00:10:59,120 --> 00:11:02,000 Speaker 1: me it's it's it's one of those you damned if 152 00:11:02,040 --> 00:11:05,840 Speaker 1: you do, damned if you don't. What else I'm realizing too, 153 00:11:06,080 --> 00:11:09,480 Speaker 1: is in terms of local elections, there are a lot 154 00:11:09,520 --> 00:11:12,560 Speaker 1: of people like myself. I'm gonna go ahead and here 155 00:11:12,600 --> 00:11:17,280 Speaker 1: we be honest with y'all. I'm still registered to I'm 156 00:11:17,280 --> 00:11:21,680 Speaker 1: still registered in the state of Florida, my licenses in Florida, 157 00:11:21,679 --> 00:11:24,600 Speaker 1: my businesses are in Florida, and so it gets tricky 158 00:11:25,160 --> 00:11:28,480 Speaker 1: being in other cities talking about things that are happening 159 00:11:28,520 --> 00:11:31,200 Speaker 1: locally and also not being able to vote on those 160 00:11:31,280 --> 00:11:36,400 Speaker 1: things because I'm not registered here. I also want to 161 00:11:36,480 --> 00:11:41,040 Speaker 1: lean into the fact that life be life in and 162 00:11:41,920 --> 00:11:47,120 Speaker 1: one of the things that are very like oh, what's 163 00:11:47,120 --> 00:11:52,120 Speaker 1: the word. What's the word. I don't want to say 164 00:11:52,120 --> 00:11:56,480 Speaker 1: it's ignorant, but kind of like my conversation I had 165 00:11:56,480 --> 00:12:04,880 Speaker 1: with Antonette in terms of capitalism, right, we can't take 166 00:12:04,920 --> 00:12:10,439 Speaker 1: it all on. And when I say we can't, one person, 167 00:12:11,160 --> 00:12:14,760 Speaker 1: I'm not gonna say it's completely ignorant or apathetic and 168 00:12:14,800 --> 00:12:17,480 Speaker 1: don't give a fuck about shit. And it's privileged to 169 00:12:17,559 --> 00:12:25,120 Speaker 1: not care because in terms of everything going on, what's happening. 170 00:12:26,000 --> 00:12:31,000 Speaker 1: So there's children that you're raising, there's depression, that you're battling, 171 00:12:31,360 --> 00:12:35,480 Speaker 1: the nigga that you love and ain't getting his shit together. 172 00:12:36,440 --> 00:12:39,480 Speaker 1: Mind you, if you notice, I just different things that 173 00:12:39,640 --> 00:12:42,960 Speaker 1: aren't really politically tied. Now, if I went into talking 174 00:12:43,000 --> 00:12:48,720 Speaker 1: about the cost of groceries, the cost of gas, rent, 175 00:12:49,920 --> 00:12:55,080 Speaker 1: mortgage rates, interest rates, things like that, absolutely, if those 176 00:12:55,080 --> 00:12:58,800 Speaker 1: are the things that you absolutely feel are drowning you 177 00:13:00,120 --> 00:13:07,280 Speaker 1: don't think you can ignore, but hear me out. If 178 00:13:07,280 --> 00:13:14,800 Speaker 1: those other things children, your mental health and depression or anxiety, 179 00:13:14,960 --> 00:13:20,400 Speaker 1: or work, or the man or woman you're dating, if 180 00:13:20,400 --> 00:13:23,760 Speaker 1: those are the things that are consuming you, I understand 181 00:13:23,800 --> 00:13:27,240 Speaker 1: sometimes just not wanting to take on the weight of 182 00:13:27,280 --> 00:13:34,440 Speaker 1: the world. I also think, yep, I'm gonna go ahead 183 00:13:34,480 --> 00:13:37,960 Speaker 1: and say it it is ignorant to talk, or I'm 184 00:13:38,000 --> 00:13:40,560 Speaker 1: just gonna go ahead and say it. I think it's tricky. 185 00:13:41,320 --> 00:13:47,120 Speaker 1: I think someone told me my thoughts on whether you 186 00:13:47,200 --> 00:13:51,239 Speaker 1: deserve somebody or not on this week's episode of Decision Decisions. 187 00:13:51,640 --> 00:13:55,800 Speaker 1: Really was me trying to say in a fucked up way, 188 00:13:57,400 --> 00:14:02,400 Speaker 1: if you knew better, you do better. To me, talking 189 00:14:02,440 --> 00:14:07,040 Speaker 1: politics at work is but you know better, so don't 190 00:14:07,040 --> 00:14:10,680 Speaker 1: do it. You know it gets tricky. You know you're 191 00:14:10,679 --> 00:14:15,920 Speaker 1: talking to sometimes people that are on different different ways 192 00:14:15,960 --> 00:14:19,520 Speaker 1: of thinking, the same way they used to say in 193 00:14:19,680 --> 00:14:25,000 Speaker 1: school to separate church and state, like don't get over here. 194 00:14:25,720 --> 00:14:28,920 Speaker 1: I think it's the same at work. I just have 195 00:14:29,080 --> 00:14:32,640 Speaker 1: never seen it end up well or do any good 196 00:14:33,280 --> 00:14:36,119 Speaker 1: to be at work where you gotta go every motherfucking 197 00:14:36,200 --> 00:14:39,520 Speaker 1: day and see the same motherfuckers sometimes more than you 198 00:14:39,560 --> 00:14:44,000 Speaker 1: see your family, bringing up things that arise so much 199 00:14:44,080 --> 00:14:50,760 Speaker 1: emotions out of people. So to answer your questions, are 200 00:14:50,800 --> 00:14:54,960 Speaker 1: you ignorant by wanting peace and quiet, I'm gonna say selectively, 201 00:14:56,000 --> 00:15:02,000 Speaker 1: selectively because you do know the importance of I assume, 202 00:15:02,320 --> 00:15:05,680 Speaker 1: but I do understand that what is happening baby is 203 00:15:05,720 --> 00:15:10,960 Speaker 1: a lot every time you go, bruh. Between finding new 204 00:15:11,040 --> 00:15:15,120 Speaker 1: recipes and looking at bitches in these que outfits, it's 205 00:15:15,120 --> 00:15:18,600 Speaker 1: messages all war and the orange cheeto in the office 206 00:15:18,920 --> 00:15:20,640 Speaker 1: saying that he don't give a fuck about us. You 207 00:15:20,680 --> 00:15:24,280 Speaker 1: know what I mean, Like, it's a lot. It's a 208 00:15:24,320 --> 00:15:28,080 Speaker 1: lot where the Red and Blue is fighting and it 209 00:15:28,120 --> 00:15:33,480 Speaker 1: ain't Cripson bloods baby. We got the Republicans blaming the 210 00:15:33,520 --> 00:15:36,280 Speaker 1: Democrats as to why the government is shut down. Is 211 00:15:36,320 --> 00:15:39,200 Speaker 1: still happening. So the Republicans is getting on that goddamn 212 00:15:39,200 --> 00:15:45,400 Speaker 1: platform in the White House talking about y'all. See these lines, 213 00:15:45,920 --> 00:15:50,480 Speaker 1: y'all at the airport, y'all, see these snap benefits y'all want, bitch, 214 00:15:50,520 --> 00:15:53,760 Speaker 1: y'all better blame the Democrats as if the Republicans are 215 00:15:53,760 --> 00:15:58,920 Speaker 1: not the House, the Senate, and the Presidency. Bitch hello, Hello. 216 00:16:00,120 --> 00:16:04,200 Speaker 1: So I don't think that you are ignorant by quiet. 217 00:16:05,560 --> 00:16:10,000 Speaker 1: I do, however, don't think that people are obsessed with 218 00:16:10,120 --> 00:16:14,640 Speaker 1: being politically aware. I think it's important to be politically aware. Also, 219 00:16:14,720 --> 00:16:18,200 Speaker 1: don't think that you need to talk politics with everybody. 220 00:16:19,160 --> 00:16:21,480 Speaker 1: I think that you need to form your own opinions. 221 00:16:21,800 --> 00:16:25,120 Speaker 1: And the way I do it really it's to do 222 00:16:25,200 --> 00:16:28,560 Speaker 1: deep dives, but I'm not against taking a break. I 223 00:16:28,600 --> 00:16:31,080 Speaker 1: actually believe we need a break from a lot of 224 00:16:31,080 --> 00:16:36,720 Speaker 1: things in life. Your nigga, your kids, sometimes your job. 225 00:16:36,800 --> 00:16:40,040 Speaker 1: That's why I take that PTO. Holidays are coming up, like, 226 00:16:40,160 --> 00:16:43,000 Speaker 1: I think a lot of us need a break from 227 00:16:43,040 --> 00:16:46,520 Speaker 1: a lot of things, and I think that it's perfectly 228 00:16:46,560 --> 00:16:50,280 Speaker 1: fine to willfully choose to take a step back from 229 00:16:50,280 --> 00:16:54,680 Speaker 1: being consumed with politics. Really good question at the perfect time. 230 00:16:55,120 --> 00:17:02,800 Speaker 1: Thank you. All right, this next one, let's see, let's see, 231 00:17:02,880 --> 00:17:08,000 Speaker 1: let's see. I got a few here, and I love this, okay, 232 00:17:08,040 --> 00:17:12,440 Speaker 1: only because I was. I was trying not to be 233 00:17:13,640 --> 00:17:15,080 Speaker 1: ignorant with it, So I feel like I know the 234 00:17:15,160 --> 00:17:19,720 Speaker 1: answer to this one. I also had this issue early 235 00:17:19,880 --> 00:17:23,240 Speaker 1: this year. The subject right for this one is, am 236 00:17:23,240 --> 00:17:26,639 Speaker 1: I ignorant for not understanding a friend gets mad when 237 00:17:26,680 --> 00:17:36,520 Speaker 1: I joke about his accent? Ah? Okay, basically just with 238 00:17:36,600 --> 00:17:40,800 Speaker 1: the subject line, if you could see where something could 239 00:17:40,800 --> 00:17:44,119 Speaker 1: be a problem. Nine times out of ten, ignorant for 240 00:17:44,240 --> 00:17:46,040 Speaker 1: acting like you don't understand. And I ain't even gonna 241 00:17:46,080 --> 00:17:50,640 Speaker 1: hold you. But here we go. It's six and I've 242 00:17:50,640 --> 00:17:53,879 Speaker 1: been dating my boyfriend who's twenty seven from Nigeria for 243 00:17:53,960 --> 00:17:57,320 Speaker 1: almost a year. Sometimes, when he says something with a 244 00:17:57,359 --> 00:18:01,919 Speaker 1: strong accent, I playfully imitated back, not to mock him, 245 00:18:02,000 --> 00:18:07,080 Speaker 1: but because I think it's cute. Last night, he snapped instead, 246 00:18:07,119 --> 00:18:11,639 Speaker 1: I'm being quote unquote disrespectful and making him feel less 247 00:18:11,760 --> 00:18:16,119 Speaker 1: than I was honestly shocked. I told him everyone jokes 248 00:18:16,160 --> 00:18:20,080 Speaker 1: about accents, even in movies. He ain't laughed, though, and 249 00:18:20,119 --> 00:18:23,639 Speaker 1: now I feel terrible, but I still don't totally get it. 250 00:18:24,640 --> 00:18:32,919 Speaker 1: Am I being ignorant? Or is he being too sensitive? Okay, now, 251 00:18:33,080 --> 00:18:38,560 Speaker 1: the same way earlier in the show, I didn't want 252 00:18:38,600 --> 00:18:48,240 Speaker 1: to attach the accent to my story because I knew 253 00:18:48,960 --> 00:18:55,640 Speaker 1: I knew what it was gonna give right now. I 254 00:18:55,680 --> 00:19:03,359 Speaker 1: had the same issue earlier this year, I was dating 255 00:19:03,400 --> 00:19:09,879 Speaker 1: a breat and he also felt a way when I 256 00:19:10,000 --> 00:19:14,800 Speaker 1: would respond back in his accent. Now, mind you, I 257 00:19:14,880 --> 00:19:20,199 Speaker 1: also can't do accents for shit. I also, when I 258 00:19:20,280 --> 00:19:23,560 Speaker 1: drink too much, get an accent. I don't know what accent, 259 00:19:24,000 --> 00:19:27,240 Speaker 1: but bitch, I roll mars. I had a little oh 260 00:19:29,080 --> 00:19:31,679 Speaker 1: tell you look, I don't even know what accent I 261 00:19:31,680 --> 00:19:35,680 Speaker 1: do and he had an issue with it, and I 262 00:19:36,760 --> 00:19:39,240 Speaker 1: guess I had to explain to him that I was 263 00:19:39,280 --> 00:19:42,960 Speaker 1: doing this accent before I met him. Now, the fact 264 00:19:43,000 --> 00:19:48,960 Speaker 1: that you said you are playfully imitating him, give me 265 00:19:48,960 --> 00:19:54,000 Speaker 1: two things. A. You know, accents are ways in which 266 00:19:54,040 --> 00:19:58,800 Speaker 1: we do normally mock or make fun of people. And 267 00:19:58,880 --> 00:20:04,720 Speaker 1: so where yes, yes, he maybe, I assume you live 268 00:20:04,760 --> 00:20:10,160 Speaker 1: in amer and for me and what's happening right now, 269 00:20:11,600 --> 00:20:16,800 Speaker 1: I could also see him being not only sensitive, but insecure, 270 00:20:17,280 --> 00:20:26,000 Speaker 1: possibly about his accent. Also, you said sometimes he says 271 00:20:26,040 --> 00:20:29,080 Speaker 1: things with a strong accent, so he may be also 272 00:20:29,200 --> 00:20:35,000 Speaker 1: working on his English, and you imitating him could be 273 00:20:35,080 --> 00:20:39,760 Speaker 1: poking at him, and he clearly views you as being disrespectful. 274 00:20:40,160 --> 00:20:45,879 Speaker 1: Here's my thing. If you love him, you care about 275 00:20:46,040 --> 00:20:51,199 Speaker 1: how you make him feel. Didn't do it anymore? I 276 00:20:51,240 --> 00:20:53,760 Speaker 1: know I had to pull back from the accents. I did, 277 00:20:54,080 --> 00:20:57,919 Speaker 1: and we got a conversations about how he felt about 278 00:20:57,960 --> 00:21:05,800 Speaker 1: me doing the accent. Now I'm gonna say you here 279 00:21:06,080 --> 00:21:09,720 Speaker 1: are also being selectively ignorant because you saying you don't 280 00:21:09,760 --> 00:21:15,639 Speaker 1: totally get it, while also saying that everyone jokes about accents, 281 00:21:15,800 --> 00:21:20,560 Speaker 1: even in movies. Bit you know it's a joke. Bit 282 00:21:20,680 --> 00:21:23,640 Speaker 1: you know, the butt of the joke is whoever the accent, 283 00:21:24,000 --> 00:21:26,760 Speaker 1: whoever is making fun of the accent, whatever culture is 284 00:21:26,800 --> 00:21:37,560 Speaker 1: being mimicked or mocked or imitated. So girl, you you 285 00:21:37,680 --> 00:21:40,080 Speaker 1: being selectively ignorant for being shocked as to why he 286 00:21:40,119 --> 00:21:43,719 Speaker 1: got mad, period because you know people get mad at 287 00:21:43,720 --> 00:21:50,600 Speaker 1: that shit. You know it's insensitive, period. And so yeah, 288 00:21:50,640 --> 00:21:57,560 Speaker 1: you're incactively ignorant here. He may be uh sensitive and 289 00:21:59,200 --> 00:22:03,840 Speaker 1: you know, maybe not as confident right now in his 290 00:22:04,880 --> 00:22:13,159 Speaker 1: abilities to speak English correctly. I think that this is 291 00:22:13,200 --> 00:22:17,840 Speaker 1: not this is you need to die on this. It 292 00:22:17,880 --> 00:22:21,160 Speaker 1: ain't worth it. It just ain't worth it. It ain't 293 00:22:21,160 --> 00:22:24,199 Speaker 1: worth it. But also good for you, because girl, I 294 00:22:24,200 --> 00:22:28,840 Speaker 1: cannot get that African accent right to say right at all? 295 00:22:29,359 --> 00:22:38,040 Speaker 1: At all? Okay, this next one, ooh babe? All right, y'all? 296 00:22:40,400 --> 00:22:44,280 Speaker 1: Am I ignorant for telling my cousin to just quote 297 00:22:44,359 --> 00:22:54,720 Speaker 1: unquote budget better instead of complaining about being broke. This one, 298 00:22:55,160 --> 00:22:59,320 Speaker 1: this one might hit a little nerve. I ain't even 299 00:22:59,320 --> 00:23:03,399 Speaker 1: gonna hold you. All right. So my cousin is twenty 300 00:23:03,480 --> 00:23:06,880 Speaker 1: nine and is always talking about how hard it is 301 00:23:07,280 --> 00:23:11,840 Speaker 1: to make ends meet. He's got a decent job, but 302 00:23:11,960 --> 00:23:18,879 Speaker 1: said groceries and student loans keep him behind. Boy, is 303 00:23:18,920 --> 00:23:24,240 Speaker 1: that not the story of so many people last week 304 00:23:24,560 --> 00:23:28,199 Speaker 1: when he brought it up again, said you don't need 305 00:23:28,200 --> 00:23:30,639 Speaker 1: to learn how to budget better. I do it and 306 00:23:30,680 --> 00:23:34,639 Speaker 1: I'm fine. He got defensive and said I was ignorant 307 00:23:35,160 --> 00:23:38,480 Speaker 1: because I don't have student debt and my parents helped 308 00:23:38,560 --> 00:23:42,240 Speaker 1: me with my down payment for my house. I mean, 309 00:23:42,440 --> 00:23:46,040 Speaker 1: I wasn't trying to flex. I just think people make 310 00:23:46,119 --> 00:23:50,800 Speaker 1: excuses sometimes. But now I'm wondering was that an ignorant 311 00:23:50,840 --> 00:23:56,679 Speaker 1: take all? Right, here we go, and I feel like 312 00:23:56,720 --> 00:23:58,800 Speaker 1: I might need to look up some stats on this one, 313 00:23:59,320 --> 00:24:08,000 Speaker 1: because girl. I only say girl that because even though 314 00:24:08,000 --> 00:24:13,119 Speaker 1: he has a decent job growth student loans, mind you, 315 00:24:14,720 --> 00:24:18,040 Speaker 1: let's even remove student loans with kids only in my 316 00:24:18,280 --> 00:24:22,399 Speaker 1: own story in terms of growing up, and I'll get 317 00:24:22,440 --> 00:24:26,320 Speaker 1: into my student loan den as well, but sadly make 318 00:24:26,400 --> 00:24:30,440 Speaker 1: us look one day from the back. Anyways, growing up, 319 00:24:30,920 --> 00:24:34,720 Speaker 1: my mom I remember, had to work multiple jobs. She 320 00:24:35,080 --> 00:24:42,439 Speaker 1: worked at the hospital, she waitress at night, and it 321 00:24:42,520 --> 00:24:50,719 Speaker 1: was really it was really hard growing up. We also 322 00:24:50,880 --> 00:24:55,280 Speaker 1: were on Section eight food stamps, I think four SEA 323 00:24:55,359 --> 00:24:59,440 Speaker 1: helped her with our daycare when we were in daycare, 324 00:25:00,119 --> 00:25:06,879 Speaker 1: and it was difficult. Mind you, this is twenty twenty 325 00:25:06,880 --> 00:25:12,720 Speaker 1: five years ago. Inflation is real. What we were able 326 00:25:12,760 --> 00:25:15,960 Speaker 1: to pay for rent, and what groceries cost even ten 327 00:25:16,040 --> 00:25:18,879 Speaker 1: years ago is night and day to what it is today. 328 00:25:20,200 --> 00:25:27,600 Speaker 1: And so absolutely think you were insensitive for one to 329 00:25:28,320 --> 00:25:30,159 Speaker 1: this person because you also did say it's not like 330 00:25:30,200 --> 00:25:33,720 Speaker 1: he has roommates, he doesn't have help from his parents 331 00:25:33,760 --> 00:25:39,840 Speaker 1: based on this email as well, and so ma'am you 332 00:25:39,960 --> 00:25:44,239 Speaker 1: got you had some help. I also think it's terrible to, like, 333 00:25:44,840 --> 00:25:48,280 Speaker 1: if someone's venting to you about what's happening right there 334 00:25:48,280 --> 00:25:50,879 Speaker 1: in their life, for you to just be like, you 335 00:25:50,960 --> 00:25:54,760 Speaker 1: just need a budget to do it. Maybe he is. 336 00:25:56,200 --> 00:26:05,119 Speaker 1: What are the statistics of average income to people with 337 00:26:05,600 --> 00:26:14,640 Speaker 1: student loans? Also consider average rent for he's twenty nine 338 00:26:15,119 --> 00:26:18,360 Speaker 1: for a late twenty year old. Now, I don't know, 339 00:26:18,880 --> 00:26:24,879 Speaker 1: I do not know the area you are, so of 340 00:26:24,920 --> 00:26:28,359 Speaker 1: course that matters. Like a city like New York, rent 341 00:26:28,680 --> 00:26:31,159 Speaker 1: for a studio apartment can be twenty five hundred dollars. 342 00:26:31,440 --> 00:26:34,000 Speaker 1: I mean, even if you're in Atlanta, it's getting expensive. 343 00:26:35,000 --> 00:26:38,560 Speaker 1: The other question is, I mean I already told you 344 00:26:38,560 --> 00:26:45,399 Speaker 1: you're insensitive. Are you ignorant? Yes? I almost want to 345 00:26:45,480 --> 00:26:49,160 Speaker 1: like Mike drop the Yes. The reason why you're ignorant 346 00:26:49,200 --> 00:26:52,600 Speaker 1: is because a lot of people are just trying to 347 00:26:52,600 --> 00:26:56,760 Speaker 1: make ends meet. It's not just about putting your budget 348 00:26:56,760 --> 00:26:59,920 Speaker 1: in an Excel sheet anymore. We are literally living in 349 00:27:00,119 --> 00:27:03,480 Speaker 1: a time where wages are not rising and rents are 350 00:27:03,480 --> 00:27:09,600 Speaker 1: not dropping. Share this. About thirty four percent of the 351 00:27:09,640 --> 00:27:13,040 Speaker 1: population between eighteen to twenty nine years old have student 352 00:27:13,080 --> 00:27:19,879 Speaker 1: loan debt. The median pay for twenty five to thirty 353 00:27:19,880 --> 00:27:23,640 Speaker 1: four year olds is around fifty six to fifty nine 354 00:27:23,680 --> 00:27:30,280 Speaker 1: thousand dollars per year. Mind you, the average student debt 355 00:27:30,520 --> 00:27:35,639 Speaker 1: average is about fourteen K, which wow, even that my 356 00:27:35,680 --> 00:27:39,280 Speaker 1: student loans are right now forty four k. But if 357 00:27:39,320 --> 00:27:43,880 Speaker 1: you consider this, approximately twenty five percent of their annual 358 00:27:43,880 --> 00:27:49,119 Speaker 1: income is loan debt. This isn't bringing up as well 359 00:27:50,240 --> 00:27:54,720 Speaker 1: credit card debt. Here, he's got a decent job. That 360 00:27:54,760 --> 00:27:58,080 Speaker 1: says rent, groceries and student loans keep him behind. What 361 00:27:58,160 --> 00:28:05,280 Speaker 1: about card note, insurance, phone bill, light, Wi Fi, water, trash, 362 00:28:05,960 --> 00:28:12,919 Speaker 1: entertained living. It's very hard for people right now to 363 00:28:13,040 --> 00:28:16,359 Speaker 1: catch up. The majority of my family I can't say 364 00:28:16,720 --> 00:28:21,640 Speaker 1: has a savings account. I have friends well into their 365 00:28:21,720 --> 00:28:26,720 Speaker 1: late This has been the toughest year outside of the 366 00:28:26,800 --> 00:28:29,040 Speaker 1: years in our twenties that I've seen Some of my 367 00:28:29,160 --> 00:28:31,720 Speaker 1: friends face. I've had to help three friends this year 368 00:28:31,760 --> 00:28:40,280 Speaker 1: with rent. Like, we are beyond a place where you 369 00:28:40,280 --> 00:28:44,160 Speaker 1: could just look at someone and say, just budget Better. 370 00:28:44,680 --> 00:28:48,800 Speaker 1: Are people living above their means? Some of them, some 371 00:28:48,880 --> 00:28:53,160 Speaker 1: of them, But it's really difficult when the market doesn't 372 00:28:53,200 --> 00:28:57,800 Speaker 1: have anything. But the market is literally at a place 373 00:28:58,120 --> 00:29:01,520 Speaker 1: that is outpricing people. And let's not even talk about 374 00:29:01,560 --> 00:29:04,560 Speaker 1: the job market. I think I said it last week, Bro, 375 00:29:04,720 --> 00:29:07,480 Speaker 1: Amazon letting go of thirty thousand people. Paramount is letting 376 00:29:07,480 --> 00:29:12,040 Speaker 1: go of ten percent of their workforce. We have companies 377 00:29:12,080 --> 00:29:16,400 Speaker 1: and industries across the board laying off people because of 378 00:29:16,440 --> 00:29:20,680 Speaker 1: the advancements and technology. Because we're now out of the 379 00:29:22,400 --> 00:29:26,160 Speaker 1: wherever we work for pandemic that had people hiring at 380 00:29:26,160 --> 00:29:29,880 Speaker 1: an influx. The remote jobs lose are are leaving us. 381 00:29:30,200 --> 00:29:33,560 Speaker 1: So people who are able to work remotely that can't 382 00:29:33,560 --> 00:29:36,160 Speaker 1: make it into the office have no other choice but 383 00:29:37,160 --> 00:29:40,040 Speaker 1: to not continue their jobs. Like, Bro, the holidays are 384 00:29:40,080 --> 00:29:49,760 Speaker 1: coming up. I ain't even gonna that hasn't even crossed 385 00:29:49,760 --> 00:29:55,240 Speaker 1: my mind to tell any of my friends, like budget Better, 386 00:29:56,240 --> 00:29:59,600 Speaker 1: Like I get where we're at. And again, I can't 387 00:29:59,640 --> 00:30:02,600 Speaker 1: even am imagine for the people that are this shit 388 00:30:02,640 --> 00:30:06,080 Speaker 1: with kids bitch, where are y'all? How are y'all doing it? 389 00:30:06,800 --> 00:30:13,920 Speaker 1: Hew boy, y'all like needs together, putting, putting foods and 390 00:30:14,000 --> 00:30:16,440 Speaker 1: plate on the table to feed yourself in kids, and 391 00:30:16,440 --> 00:30:20,080 Speaker 1: then y'all got the nerd ad pets. There's them little 392 00:30:20,080 --> 00:30:22,600 Speaker 1: gold fish would be hungry, the little poodles would be. 393 00:30:22,880 --> 00:30:27,960 Speaker 1: Maybe you eating every other day like it's expensive as hell. 394 00:30:28,560 --> 00:30:36,320 Speaker 1: So yes, in every facet of everything, you are dead 395 00:30:36,360 --> 00:30:39,840 Speaker 1: ass ignorant. This is ain't even selectivic you as dead 396 00:30:39,880 --> 00:30:44,360 Speaker 1: ass in hell and sensitive as hell, and your cousin 397 00:30:44,440 --> 00:30:49,680 Speaker 1: has every right to be upset you saying you weren't 398 00:30:49,720 --> 00:30:55,160 Speaker 1: trying to flex when I tell you it is a 399 00:30:55,240 --> 00:30:58,680 Speaker 1: flex to be getting help from your parents, to be 400 00:30:58,720 --> 00:31:02,240 Speaker 1: getting help from anybody. If you got a nigga helping you, bro, 401 00:31:02,920 --> 00:31:08,320 Speaker 1: it's reflects to someone who's doing it all on their own. Yes, 402 00:31:08,400 --> 00:31:17,440 Speaker 1: there are people that make excuses sometimes, and some people 403 00:31:17,680 --> 00:31:23,920 Speaker 1: make excuses sometimes. You ignorant as hell in this motherfucker. 404 00:31:24,160 --> 00:31:29,240 Speaker 1: I mean they're telling someone to just budget better. Now, 405 00:31:29,800 --> 00:31:32,200 Speaker 1: I will tell y'all my ignorant thing I said, because 406 00:31:35,000 --> 00:31:40,680 Speaker 1: it wasn't even that ignorant, because I'm sex positive. I 407 00:31:40,720 --> 00:31:44,480 Speaker 1: did two out of three of my friends because one 408 00:31:44,520 --> 00:31:48,960 Speaker 1: already and she just needed to borrow something from lawyers 409 00:31:49,080 --> 00:31:52,880 Speaker 1: that was different my other two friends. I let them know, 410 00:31:52,880 --> 00:31:59,400 Speaker 1: know you better not be hunching. And I get no 411 00:31:59,400 --> 00:32:02,480 Speaker 1: goddamney for these niggas. I ain't even it. I said it, 412 00:32:02,720 --> 00:32:05,760 Speaker 1: so maybe I'm a part of why. No, I'm not 413 00:32:05,760 --> 00:32:07,200 Speaker 1: a part of why these bitches are in these text 414 00:32:07,240 --> 00:32:10,040 Speaker 1: messages asking for forty five dollars, cause I think that's 415 00:32:10,120 --> 00:32:13,160 Speaker 1: kind of crazy. If y'all saw the threads that went 416 00:32:13,240 --> 00:32:16,440 Speaker 1: public this week and went viral where men were sharing 417 00:32:16,480 --> 00:32:20,000 Speaker 1: text messages of women just asking them for money, my 418 00:32:20,120 --> 00:32:22,640 Speaker 1: problem was the amounts. Sis, don't ask no man for 419 00:32:22,680 --> 00:32:26,960 Speaker 1: nothing under five hundred dollars. We grown like maybe like 420 00:32:26,960 --> 00:32:29,200 Speaker 1: three fifty if it's like a phone bill, electric bill, 421 00:32:29,320 --> 00:32:32,480 Speaker 1: something small, But bro, don't be niggas for now money 422 00:32:32,480 --> 00:32:35,240 Speaker 1: and forty five dollars for gas? Like what are we doing? 423 00:32:37,640 --> 00:32:40,440 Speaker 1: But I did say, like, and this will be my 424 00:32:40,480 --> 00:32:45,520 Speaker 1: ignorant take. I don't care Trasberry soup all the niggas 425 00:32:45,560 --> 00:32:49,120 Speaker 1: and listen, I want y'all I'm wrong, but I don't 426 00:32:49,120 --> 00:32:52,120 Speaker 1: think I am, and I don't think it's ignorant. But 427 00:32:54,760 --> 00:32:59,480 Speaker 1: if you are in your late twenties, early thirties and 428 00:32:59,560 --> 00:33:05,600 Speaker 1: up and struggling financially as a woman. There ain't no 429 00:33:05,760 --> 00:33:09,520 Speaker 1: reason why you should be laying on your back or 430 00:33:09,560 --> 00:33:18,240 Speaker 1: stuffing your throat and need anything paid or behind or 431 00:33:18,360 --> 00:33:21,280 Speaker 1: can't do this or can't you don't need to be 432 00:33:21,360 --> 00:33:30,400 Speaker 1: fucking or second, any man ain't willing to help. I'm 433 00:33:30,400 --> 00:33:33,520 Speaker 1: gonna say that again. And this, this part ain't process. 434 00:33:34,280 --> 00:33:37,640 Speaker 1: This part is how you laying up letting a nigga 435 00:33:37,680 --> 00:33:41,040 Speaker 1: dig deep into your soul while you suck his soul. 436 00:33:44,400 --> 00:33:47,080 Speaker 1: And you got you got things that you can't pay for, 437 00:33:47,200 --> 00:33:50,120 Speaker 1: that need to get paid, that's due at the first 438 00:33:51,000 --> 00:33:53,560 Speaker 1: or or do by the fifth. Some of y'all get 439 00:33:53,600 --> 00:34:02,720 Speaker 1: lucky to do by a tenth. How how I'm sorry. 440 00:34:03,000 --> 00:34:07,720 Speaker 1: That's my take, And maybe that goes into maybe broke 441 00:34:07,800 --> 00:34:09,759 Speaker 1: people not shouldn't date. I don't know, I don't know. 442 00:34:09,800 --> 00:34:11,000 Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know. I don't know, I 443 00:34:11,040 --> 00:34:13,520 Speaker 1: don't know, I don't know. Let me see what time 444 00:34:13,560 --> 00:34:16,120 Speaker 1: it is, cause y'all still gotta pack. I got a 445 00:34:16,160 --> 00:34:18,200 Speaker 1: six am flight. And you see what they say about 446 00:34:18,239 --> 00:34:22,160 Speaker 1: these tsa laves? Ohkay, i'm'na do one more I'm gonna 447 00:34:22,160 --> 00:34:23,359 Speaker 1: do one more. I'm gonna do one more. I'm gonna 448 00:34:23,360 --> 00:34:26,800 Speaker 1: do one more. Okay, I think I got one about 449 00:34:26,800 --> 00:34:37,440 Speaker 1: some friends. Let me see. Okay, ooh, ooh, let's see. 450 00:34:39,080 --> 00:34:42,640 Speaker 1: Am I ignorant for telling my friend she's not being 451 00:34:42,760 --> 00:34:54,680 Speaker 1: racially profiled? Just asked for ID? Oh? Lord? Okay, h bruh, 452 00:34:54,680 --> 00:34:58,359 Speaker 1: this is crazy alright. My best friend and I went 453 00:34:58,400 --> 00:35:03,680 Speaker 1: to a bar last weekend. She's black, I'm Latina. The 454 00:35:03,719 --> 00:35:07,200 Speaker 1: bouncer asked for her ID but didn't ask for mine. 455 00:35:08,320 --> 00:35:10,560 Speaker 1: She got upset. It said it was because of her 456 00:35:10,560 --> 00:35:15,000 Speaker 1: skin color. I maybe he was just following the rules. 457 00:35:15,480 --> 00:35:19,600 Speaker 1: Not everything is about race. She got quiet and later 458 00:35:19,680 --> 00:35:25,279 Speaker 1: text me saying I completely invalidated her experience. I mean 459 00:35:25,480 --> 00:35:28,680 Speaker 1: I didn't mean to. I honestly just thought she might 460 00:35:28,719 --> 00:35:31,040 Speaker 1: be reading too much into it. But now I feel 461 00:35:31,120 --> 00:35:34,080 Speaker 1: like I made things worse. Am I ignorant for saying that? 462 00:35:34,239 --> 00:35:41,759 Speaker 1: Or was I being realistic? Huh? Okay? This is why 463 00:35:41,920 --> 00:35:45,399 Speaker 1: all kimpf okay, skim folk or backward y'all know, I don't. 464 00:35:45,440 --> 00:35:48,239 Speaker 1: I don't be no one. He's got damn sayings. But 465 00:35:48,360 --> 00:35:52,080 Speaker 1: it's why i'd be like, hey, brown is not the 466 00:35:52,080 --> 00:35:58,759 Speaker 1: same as black calm down things. I do believe that 467 00:35:58,840 --> 00:36:06,440 Speaker 1: you should not have invalidate experience. I think no one 468 00:36:07,600 --> 00:36:14,080 Speaker 1: that's not black, someone black, that's something that everything is 469 00:36:14,200 --> 00:36:18,120 Speaker 1: not about race. I don't think that that should leave 470 00:36:19,719 --> 00:36:28,480 Speaker 1: the lips of anyone who is not black. You did 471 00:36:29,000 --> 00:36:32,440 Speaker 1: to a black person. I ply don't even think that 472 00:36:33,200 --> 00:36:35,120 Speaker 1: a white person can say it to a Latina. I 473 00:36:35,200 --> 00:36:37,600 Speaker 1: don't think a white person can say it to any 474 00:36:37,640 --> 00:36:43,040 Speaker 1: person of color. Right, instead of saying he was just 475 00:36:43,160 --> 00:36:46,680 Speaker 1: following the rules, especially knowing that he didn't ask for 476 00:36:46,760 --> 00:36:49,759 Speaker 1: your idea? What rules, bitch? If he's not asking for 477 00:36:49,840 --> 00:36:52,799 Speaker 1: your id what you should have just said is, bitch, 478 00:36:52,880 --> 00:36:56,120 Speaker 1: you look young tonight. There's so many other ways you 479 00:36:56,200 --> 00:37:01,520 Speaker 1: could have answered it. So your question is am I 480 00:37:01,600 --> 00:37:04,640 Speaker 1: ignorant for saying it? One hundred percent? This isn't even 481 00:37:04,680 --> 00:37:08,520 Speaker 1: selective ignorance. This is one hundred percent ignorance, because bitch, 482 00:37:09,880 --> 00:37:14,520 Speaker 1: not everything is about race, even as a Latina. Do 483 00:37:14,600 --> 00:37:18,960 Speaker 1: you see what's happening with ice across this country? They 484 00:37:19,080 --> 00:37:26,359 Speaker 1: not picking up Irish people, they ain't picking up Italians. Bro, 485 00:37:27,640 --> 00:37:32,239 Speaker 1: everything is about race. We've been talking about the WNBA. 486 00:37:32,400 --> 00:37:36,279 Speaker 1: It's Caitlyn Clark and and Angel Reese. If we talk 487 00:37:36,320 --> 00:37:40,040 Speaker 1: about quarterbacks and things, we've always compared to Tom Brady's 488 00:37:40,080 --> 00:37:42,960 Speaker 1: but then to the black quarterback. Everything in sports is 489 00:37:43,000 --> 00:37:45,920 Speaker 1: about race. Everything in the workplace is about race. We've 490 00:37:46,000 --> 00:37:50,080 Speaker 1: talked about the disparities between pay in terms of white men, 491 00:37:50,760 --> 00:37:56,080 Speaker 1: black men, black women, like everything under the sun is 492 00:37:56,239 --> 00:38:04,560 Speaker 1: actually systemically boils down to race. So one hundred percent 493 00:38:04,760 --> 00:38:07,839 Speaker 1: you ignorant as hell for saying not everything is about 494 00:38:07,920 --> 00:38:11,320 Speaker 1: race in regards to this id situation. You could have 495 00:38:11,480 --> 00:38:16,279 Speaker 1: absolutely handled it a lot better. And I think you 496 00:38:16,400 --> 00:38:22,160 Speaker 1: absolutely completely invalidated her experience because I'm curious to know 497 00:38:22,760 --> 00:38:25,439 Speaker 1: how many of these conversations maybe she felt comfortable even 498 00:38:25,440 --> 00:38:27,759 Speaker 1: having with you. Do you know what her experience has 499 00:38:27,800 --> 00:38:30,239 Speaker 1: been as a black woman. Do you know if she's 500 00:38:30,320 --> 00:38:32,480 Speaker 1: had the experience of being followed around at a store 501 00:38:33,360 --> 00:38:37,239 Speaker 1: or being refused entry at other clubs her skin color. 502 00:38:38,360 --> 00:38:40,200 Speaker 1: I've had that experience as a big girl, and I 503 00:38:40,239 --> 00:38:41,680 Speaker 1: feel like it's a black girl they see me as 504 00:38:41,680 --> 00:38:45,000 Speaker 1: black in La Bitch. I'm not gonna let y'all invalidate 505 00:38:45,040 --> 00:38:47,400 Speaker 1: my experience. I know y'all like to talk about my biracial, 506 00:38:47,480 --> 00:38:51,600 Speaker 1: light skin ass, but I'm telling you I have been 507 00:38:51,680 --> 00:38:54,480 Speaker 1: discriminated against in La clothes. This might be why I 508 00:38:54,600 --> 00:38:58,360 Speaker 1: have a deep hate for La, like but she not 509 00:38:58,440 --> 00:39:01,239 Speaker 1: me getting into the clubs in Dubai, but La wanted 510 00:39:01,280 --> 00:39:04,520 Speaker 1: to at the dope AnyWho. This was years ago, but 511 00:39:04,600 --> 00:39:08,480 Speaker 1: still so yeah, I want to say that this is 512 00:39:09,080 --> 00:39:14,920 Speaker 1: an ignorance. I think at this point we know everything 513 00:39:15,040 --> 00:39:19,320 Speaker 1: is about race, and I think it's completely ignorant to 514 00:39:19,480 --> 00:39:24,560 Speaker 1: say that it's not and to validate anybody who feels 515 00:39:24,600 --> 00:39:27,800 Speaker 1: it they are personally being attacked for the color of 516 00:39:27,840 --> 00:39:34,440 Speaker 1: their skin. And so I do hope that you have 517 00:39:34,560 --> 00:39:38,160 Speaker 1: a conversation with her. I do that you're open to 518 00:39:38,360 --> 00:39:41,479 Speaker 1: hearing her, and I hope that you're open to taking 519 00:39:41,560 --> 00:39:47,720 Speaker 1: the account and admitting to being one hundred percent ignorant, 520 00:39:48,239 --> 00:39:52,400 Speaker 1: which is crazy because most of these were selectively ignorant, 521 00:39:52,480 --> 00:39:55,640 Speaker 1: like bitch, you knew you was wrong. This is one 522 00:39:55,719 --> 00:40:02,399 Speaker 1: hundred percent ignorance. Ain't no way around it. So yeah, 523 00:40:03,200 --> 00:40:08,719 Speaker 1: I want to hear more of these, So make sure 524 00:40:09,120 --> 00:40:14,160 Speaker 1: you email me Baby Selective Ignorance pod at gmail dot com. 525 00:40:14,840 --> 00:40:17,680 Speaker 1: Please please please. I also want to share a little announcement. 526 00:40:17,719 --> 00:40:21,560 Speaker 1: I'm really, really, really really happy this will be the 527 00:40:21,719 --> 00:40:25,200 Speaker 1: last month, maybe a month and a half, that you 528 00:40:25,280 --> 00:40:27,399 Speaker 1: will see me at the iHeart Studios because I got 529 00:40:27,520 --> 00:40:32,560 Speaker 1: my own studio here in Atlanta and I am designing 530 00:40:33,120 --> 00:40:36,319 Speaker 1: my own Selective Ignorance set. So I'm bringing you hose 531 00:40:36,360 --> 00:40:40,680 Speaker 1: into the classroom. Literally, I'm really excited about it, really 532 00:40:40,719 --> 00:40:43,319 Speaker 1: excited to design it, and even more excited to bring 533 00:40:43,400 --> 00:40:49,600 Speaker 1: you guys behind the scenes over on Patreon. Give you 534 00:40:49,719 --> 00:40:52,880 Speaker 1: guys another show working on that that'll be coming at 535 00:40:52,920 --> 00:40:55,040 Speaker 1: the top of the year. So again, if you want 536 00:40:55,080 --> 00:40:58,680 Speaker 1: to support this show, because baby, this is my fullan. 537 00:40:59,160 --> 00:41:02,320 Speaker 1: This show is not making money at the moment, and 538 00:41:02,480 --> 00:41:05,080 Speaker 1: so anything that you could give as little as five 539 00:41:05,120 --> 00:41:08,400 Speaker 1: dollars a month would help. Four five dollars a month. Again, 540 00:41:08,760 --> 00:41:13,239 Speaker 1: you get this episode ad, free audio, and the video 541 00:41:13,719 --> 00:41:17,279 Speaker 1: version of this episode, So make sure you go on 542 00:41:17,360 --> 00:41:23,640 Speaker 1: over to Patreon. That's patreon dot com backslash Selective Ignorance Pod. 543 00:41:24,000 --> 00:41:31,400 Speaker 1: Now before we get out of here, free but I 544 00:41:31,560 --> 00:41:34,000 Speaker 1: want to urge those of you that listen to this 545 00:41:34,080 --> 00:41:37,600 Speaker 1: show and support me to go on over to either 546 00:41:37,920 --> 00:41:42,600 Speaker 1: the Spotify app or your Apple podcast app and leave 547 00:41:42,960 --> 00:41:49,560 Speaker 1: me a leave me a review. Now there is one 548 00:41:49,600 --> 00:41:57,120 Speaker 1: I'm gonna read because this shit is collassimon because it 549 00:41:57,200 --> 00:42:05,040 Speaker 1: got five stars because someone loves me and I did 550 00:42:05,160 --> 00:42:07,760 Speaker 1: have a phone call with her, So this is gonna 551 00:42:07,760 --> 00:42:09,600 Speaker 1: be funny for me to read. If you go to 552 00:42:09,680 --> 00:42:12,600 Speaker 1: the Apple podcast app, there's like five or six comments 553 00:42:12,920 --> 00:42:15,680 Speaker 1: talking about Carla says Carla was the worst guest I've 554 00:42:15,719 --> 00:42:18,839 Speaker 1: ever heard on the podcast. She was far too unintelligent 555 00:42:18,960 --> 00:42:22,360 Speaker 1: to be that loud, spent the whole discussion contradicting herself 556 00:42:22,680 --> 00:42:25,759 Speaker 1: and using her morals as facts. I wanted to read 557 00:42:25,800 --> 00:42:34,360 Speaker 1: this episodeically, because baby, A part of why I started 558 00:42:34,400 --> 00:42:39,200 Speaker 1: this show was not that I'm a contrarian, really, because 559 00:42:39,200 --> 00:42:42,640 Speaker 1: I'm not. For as long as I've been potting, I 560 00:42:42,800 --> 00:42:47,200 Speaker 1: understand that my thoughts, views, and opinions differ sometimes drastically 561 00:42:47,719 --> 00:42:51,200 Speaker 1: than other people, and a part of me loves to 562 00:42:52,000 --> 00:42:56,279 Speaker 1: share space and whole conversations with people who have the 563 00:42:56,480 --> 00:43:02,560 Speaker 1: same type of strong, opinionated or outlook on life, because again, 564 00:43:03,160 --> 00:43:05,600 Speaker 1: we're not all gonna agree, and so a part of 565 00:43:05,680 --> 00:43:09,880 Speaker 1: me likes to immerse you guys, into the experience of 566 00:43:10,600 --> 00:43:18,280 Speaker 1: people holding conversations, being able to just share their thoughts, 567 00:43:19,440 --> 00:43:24,719 Speaker 1: share their experiences, and show y'all how fucked up people 568 00:43:24,920 --> 00:43:29,960 Speaker 1: is out of hell, baby, and two of us are 569 00:43:30,200 --> 00:43:33,600 Speaker 1: a little fucked up, all of us are a little ignorant. 570 00:43:34,080 --> 00:43:37,520 Speaker 1: All of us could learn a little bit more or 571 00:43:37,560 --> 00:43:42,439 Speaker 1: a lot of bit more. And so I hope that people. 572 00:43:43,600 --> 00:43:45,799 Speaker 1: I don't want people to think that when they listen 573 00:43:45,840 --> 00:43:49,719 Speaker 1: to this podcast that they are going to just you know, 574 00:43:49,920 --> 00:43:52,759 Speaker 1: listen and agree with everything that's said. I don't think 575 00:43:52,800 --> 00:43:54,520 Speaker 1: that that's realistic. And I like to think that this 576 00:43:54,719 --> 00:44:00,960 Speaker 1: is a podcast based on realism, logic, and sometimes a 577 00:44:01,040 --> 00:44:03,600 Speaker 1: lack of depending on the lens that you're looking through. Right, 578 00:44:04,280 --> 00:44:06,680 Speaker 1: it's crazy because there's another one star review, and it's 579 00:44:06,719 --> 00:44:09,560 Speaker 1: because of what Because I like Chris Brown. I can't 580 00:44:09,560 --> 00:44:13,000 Speaker 1: take y'all serious around here. I really can't. But if 581 00:44:13,040 --> 00:44:15,759 Speaker 1: you support me, if you support this show, if you 582 00:44:15,800 --> 00:44:19,000 Speaker 1: could do those two things, I would greatly appreciate it. 583 00:44:19,080 --> 00:44:21,799 Speaker 1: And those two things are going to wherever you listen 584 00:44:21,840 --> 00:44:25,360 Speaker 1: to this app and leaving star review because it definitely 585 00:44:25,440 --> 00:44:29,440 Speaker 1: helps me within the algorithm, and showing up on suggested shows, 586 00:44:29,880 --> 00:44:33,640 Speaker 1: as well as going on over to Patreon that's patreon 587 00:44:33,840 --> 00:44:38,000 Speaker 1: dot com backslash Selective Ignorance Pod and you can literally 588 00:44:38,560 --> 00:44:42,359 Speaker 1: for five dollars a month get this entire podcast ad free, 589 00:44:42,719 --> 00:44:46,400 Speaker 1: both video and audio. And just know I have some 590 00:44:46,520 --> 00:44:48,799 Speaker 1: more shows that I'm adding to the platform. So I'm 591 00:44:48,840 --> 00:44:53,000 Speaker 1: really really really excited about closing out this and I 592 00:44:53,160 --> 00:44:58,560 Speaker 1: thank y'all for you know, meeting me inside play a 593 00:44:58,640 --> 00:45:03,800 Speaker 1: play anyways, Thank you guys so very much. You know 594 00:45:03,960 --> 00:45:06,880 Speaker 1: this is where conversations. Sorry, this episode wasn't really a conversation, 595 00:45:07,480 --> 00:45:12,040 Speaker 1: it was me responding, but again, send those emails in. 596 00:45:12,400 --> 00:45:16,400 Speaker 1: Thank you so much, y'all. Tune in next week on Tuesday. 597 00:45:16,960 --> 00:45:20,000 Speaker 1: This is another episode of Selective Ignorance with your girl 598 00:45:20,120 --> 00:45:25,680 Speaker 1: Mandy B. See y'all next week. 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