WEBVTT - Arbitrarily Ruthless with Ed Helms

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<v Speaker 1>Hi, Catherine, how I see.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm great. I'm great.

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<v Speaker 3>I just got back from a few days in Mexico

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<v Speaker 3>with some of my girlfriends and I love getting away

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<v Speaker 3>with my girlfriends.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh nice, where'd you go in Mexico?

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<v Speaker 2>We went to kan Kun.

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<v Speaker 3>We've got like a few hotels that we go to

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<v Speaker 3>and they just opened up a brand new ones.

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<v Speaker 2>We went to their brand new one. It was fantastic.

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<v Speaker 1>Nice. Nice. I am in Europe, you, guys. I am

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<v Speaker 1>in Parie, Grand Parie or great Peri And I'm never

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<v Speaker 1>really sure how you say it, gayperi, gaperi.

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<v Speaker 4>Guys.

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<v Speaker 2>Of course my husband would get that one.

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<v Speaker 1>And we're having a hell of a time.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm with Molly, my cousin, Yaminika, Eric my tour manager

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<v Speaker 5>who we call Erica, and I have shows coming up

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<v Speaker 5>in Brussels as I'm in Brussels on May seventeenth, I'm

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<v Speaker 5>in Amsterdam on May eighteenth, and then Oslo on May nineteenth.

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<v Speaker 5>And I have managed to keep my shit together in

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<v Speaker 5>Europe so far, so good, right, Yes, and we've.

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<v Speaker 1>Adjusted to the time.

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<v Speaker 5>We had three days in Rekuvic and we and yeah,

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<v Speaker 5>we're ready to rumble. So we're getting it all in.

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<v Speaker 5>We're getting it all in. I've been reading lots of

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<v Speaker 5>books on my flights. Yes, I'm just a happy camper,

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<v Speaker 5>very happy.

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<v Speaker 3>We'll do a little miniso soon with a round up

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<v Speaker 3>of all the books you've been reading and can recommend.

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<v Speaker 5>Okay, wonderful, wonderful, And our guest today, you know from

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<v Speaker 5>the Office and The Hangover movies, he has a new

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<v Speaker 5>book called Snap Foo, The Definitive Guide to History's Greatest

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<v Speaker 5>screw Ups. It is out now and it's very enjoyable.

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<v Speaker 5>Please welcome actor, comedian and writer Ed helms Hi. Ed

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<v Speaker 5>helms I ran into Ed recently. We were in Where

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<v Speaker 5>were we? Oh, we were in Austin, right south by Southwest.

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<v Speaker 5>I had I had podcast towards.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, that's right.

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<v Speaker 5>We weread I had Pasta Pasta Awards, the Pasta Awards.

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<v Speaker 5>We were talking about all of your credits, but you

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<v Speaker 5>missed that conversation. We were talking about where all people

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<v Speaker 5>would know you from places like The Hangover, the Office,

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<v Speaker 5>the Vacation Reboot movie, the Daily Show.

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<v Speaker 1>Were you a correspondent on the day.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I was a correspondent from two thousand and two

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<v Speaker 4>to two thousand and six.

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<v Speaker 1>I forgot about that one. I forgot that you did that.

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<v Speaker 4>I mean it was I made a huge impact. It was.

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<v Speaker 6>No.

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<v Speaker 4>Actually, it was a pretty incredible time because it was

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<v Speaker 4>the w years and there was a chunk of time

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<v Speaker 4>there where it was just Colbert, Me, Corderie and Sam

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<v Speaker 4>b were the four correspondents and it was a hell

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<v Speaker 4>of a lot of fun and an unbelievable amount of work,

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<v Speaker 4>Like it almost broke me.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, yeah, Do you ever think that you wish you

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<v Speaker 5>were doing that during this kind of administration?

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<v Speaker 4>No?

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<v Speaker 1>Never, I don't either. It's too much garbage to talk

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<v Speaker 1>about all.

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<v Speaker 4>It's too overwhelming. John goes on once a week now

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<v Speaker 4>and absolutely crushes it, and I love it, and the

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<v Speaker 4>other the other correspondents now also host the show for

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<v Speaker 4>the rest of the week, which I think is a

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<v Speaker 4>great format because it, like yeah, gets the it really

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<v Speaker 4>builds the I don't know the communal vibe of the show.

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<v Speaker 4>They're killing it. It's so good. I'm going to leave

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<v Speaker 4>it to them.

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<v Speaker 5>And I don't want to sound sexist right now, but

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<v Speaker 5>I just want to say, since women are allowed to

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<v Speaker 5>talk about men in this way now, because you guys

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<v Speaker 5>had your way with us.

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<v Speaker 1>I just want to say that you've had some sort

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<v Speaker 1>of glow up.

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<v Speaker 5>And I don't want to sound condescending or patronizing it

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<v Speaker 5>in a way, but I just want to say, you've

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<v Speaker 5>burst into manhood.

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<v Speaker 1>In such a way.

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<v Speaker 5>And I think I told you this that the iHeart

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<v Speaker 5>Podcast Awards. But you really look very handsome, your hair,

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<v Speaker 5>You've taken off the glasses.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm very debonair almost. I want to say, all right.

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<v Speaker 4>All right, yeah, well I finally went through puberty.

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<v Speaker 1>I think that's what I was. Yeah, that's what I

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<v Speaker 1>was getting to.

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<v Speaker 5>I was like, have you gone through it feels like

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<v Speaker 5>you must have hit it late and that you hit

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<v Speaker 5>it hard.

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<v Speaker 4>Can I tell you something. I just turned fifty, First

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<v Speaker 4>of all, I really appreciate you saying that. And I

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<v Speaker 4>just turned fifty. Well I'm a little over a year ago, so.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm fifty one day fifty one.

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<v Speaker 4>But uh, I'm still in my head. I just turned fifty,

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<v Speaker 4>and I I just kind of I'm like healthier than

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<v Speaker 4>I've ever been. I don't know, I'm eating so much better,

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<v Speaker 4>I'm more active. I also have two little kids that

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<v Speaker 4>keep me like very much on my toes.

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<v Speaker 1>Have you dot maternity test for the children?

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<v Speaker 4>No, why should I just to make sure.

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<v Speaker 5>You're their father. I mean, yeah, why wouldn't you should?

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<v Speaker 4>Why wouldn't I? Yeah, because I'm pretty sure I'm their dad.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but that's not one hundred guarantee.

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<v Speaker 3>You know.

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<v Speaker 4>Wait, what are you doing? You're just lobbing doubt into

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<v Speaker 4>my my long term marriage out there.

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<v Speaker 1>I just want you to be you know, have all

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<v Speaker 1>the information. I don't know that you.

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<v Speaker 4>Do arbitrarily ruthless thing to just like throw into a conversation,

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<v Speaker 4>have you had a paternity? Is good?

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<v Speaker 1>I like that, right, I like that combo platter.

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<v Speaker 5>You would also know ed Helms from his podcast because

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<v Speaker 5>it's called Snaphu, just like his new book that's out.

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<v Speaker 1>It's called Snaphoo, which.

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<v Speaker 5>Is a great book to have around the house, and

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<v Speaker 5>I would eat Catherine even suggested to have in your bathroom.

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<v Speaker 2>It's a perfect bathroom.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a perfect hardrom book.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm not judging. Read it anywhere you want, and it's

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<v Speaker 4>and you're right, Actually it is a good bathroom book

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<v Speaker 4>because it's so episodic. Right, it's Snapfoo, the Definitive Guide

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<v Speaker 4>to History's Greatest screw ups, and each chapter is a

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<v Speaker 4>different historical screw up. So yeah, it's perfect. If you

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<v Speaker 4>got five minutes here, just pick up, read a few pages, enjoy.

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<v Speaker 4>Might even help get things moving. I don't know.

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<v Speaker 5>Absolutely, I mean it is it's a very relaxing book

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<v Speaker 5>because I mean, and it's very interesting. I mean, you're

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<v Speaker 5>a big history buff and you kind of take all

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<v Speaker 5>of history's blunders and talk about them.

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<v Speaker 1>Not all of them, but I mean, who could count

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<v Speaker 1>all of them?

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<v Speaker 5>I mean, can you imagine what's going to happen after

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<v Speaker 5>this administration in one hundred years when people, I mean,

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<v Speaker 5>if they're still the planet and people can reflect. This

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<v Speaker 5>is a great piece of This book is comprised of

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<v Speaker 5>lots of stuff that nobody I mean, what I've read

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<v Speaker 5>so far, none of these stories I've ever heard, so

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<v Speaker 5>it's very interesting.

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<v Speaker 1>I of course was drawn to the LSD story immediately.

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<v Speaker 7>You go.

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<v Speaker 5>Let me just read the title of that chapter or

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<v Speaker 5>the caption for that chapter. In the nineteen fifties, a

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<v Speaker 5>CIA scientists secretly bought the entire world supply of LSD,

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<v Speaker 5>embarking on a horrific attempt to discover the secrets to

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<v Speaker 5>mind control.

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<v Speaker 4>Mm hmmm, yeah, that's the story of mk Ultra, which

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<v Speaker 4>a lot of people know it's a relatively out there incident.

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<v Speaker 4>But yeah, Sidney Gottlieb was this CIA scientist who just

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<v Speaker 4>started drugging people, and George white Wash one of his underlings,

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<v Speaker 4>who actually, this is so insane. This was all under

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<v Speaker 4>like official government activity. They built a apartment in San

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<v Speaker 4>Francisco that had a double wall with a glass mirror

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<v Speaker 4>where he could sit there and watch, and he had

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<v Speaker 4>sex workers bring customers back and then they would drug

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<v Speaker 4>these customers and presumably also have their sexy time, and

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<v Speaker 4>he was just sort of taking notes and god knows

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<v Speaker 4>what else behind this double mirror. And this was all

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<v Speaker 4>in the name.

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<v Speaker 2>Of science, your tax dollars at work.

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<v Speaker 4>Your tax dollars. And at the end of it, when

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<v Speaker 4>it was all exposed, they came clean, like we actually

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<v Speaker 4>gathered zero scientific data from this. It's like, this guy,

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<v Speaker 4>we learned nothing behind a wall.

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<v Speaker 5>It does, and so I don't know why, And so

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<v Speaker 5>I don't like the way it besmirches LSD's reputation, you

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<v Speaker 5>know what I mean, Why did LSD have to be

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<v Speaker 5>involved in this?

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<v Speaker 1>This guy was just trying to get his rocks off.

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<v Speaker 5>When I read this, I was like, where does LSD

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<v Speaker 5>even come into play that you're able to control someone

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<v Speaker 5>sexually via LSD.

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<v Speaker 4>Well, there was a big LSD was so new, and

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<v Speaker 4>there was there was this sort of like international competition

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<v Speaker 4>with the Soviets, like the Cold War was flaring up,

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<v Speaker 4>like is mind control a weapon that we can use?

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<v Speaker 4>Or is LSD maybe this crazy truth serum like how

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<v Speaker 4>does it affect people? And can we weaponize it or

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<v Speaker 4>use it in advantageous ways? And yes, it just devolved

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<v Speaker 4>into like a guy jerking off behind a glass mirror,

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<v Speaker 4>like watching people. And it's so much darker than that too,

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<v Speaker 4>Like they wound up drugging prisoners. They wound up drugging

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<v Speaker 4>people that they would go into bars and drug people

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<v Speaker 4>and then observe them for hours afterwards and just basically

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<v Speaker 4>watch them melt down on these crazy acid trips that

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<v Speaker 4>they had no idea that they were going on. People

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<v Speaker 4>thought they were going insane. And this is a very

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<v Speaker 4>weird factoid. Whitey Bulger, who is the famous Boston mob

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<v Speaker 4>boss who recently died, when he was in federal prison

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<v Speaker 4>in Atlanta, I think in the sixties, he agreed to

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<v Speaker 4>be experimented on in this way and for months he

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<v Speaker 4>was given these intense psychedelics, and he says that it

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<v Speaker 4>gave him these like violent visions or the rest of

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<v Speaker 4>his life, like he would have horrible nightmares and violent visions.

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<v Speaker 4>So I don't know, maybe the CIA helped create the

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<v Speaker 4>monster that Whitey Bulger became.

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<v Speaker 5>I would just also like to say, this is not

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<v Speaker 5>how LSD is anymore. You don't have to take LSD

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<v Speaker 5>like this. LSD can be microdose. I'm a big proponent

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<v Speaker 5>of microdosing LSD. This is not a microdis this is

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<v Speaker 5>like megato.

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<v Speaker 4>These are mega doses. They're also involuntary, and they're in

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<v Speaker 4>terrible contexts torturous.

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<v Speaker 1>Imagine being put on that, yeah.

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<v Speaker 4>Literally torturous. So wait, I am so curious about this.

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<v Speaker 4>I've never done like a serious I've never had like

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<v Speaker 4>a serious psychedelic experience, and I want you to tell

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<v Speaker 4>me what I should do, Like how do I dip

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<v Speaker 4>my toe into this? Because I'm fascinated by it and

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<v Speaker 4>I don't want to.

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<v Speaker 5>I mean, microdosing is kind of like a whole New

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<v Speaker 5>World head like it just you could easily take one

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<v Speaker 5>on a workday, take a microdose of LSD.

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<v Speaker 1>You could even rip it in half.

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<v Speaker 5>Their little paper tablets like they've always but I get

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<v Speaker 5>mine from Canada. I get all the best drugs from Canada,

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<v Speaker 5>the purest drugs, I should say, from Canada. But microdos

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<v Speaker 5>really changes the game because then you don't ever have

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<v Speaker 5>to feel like you're being overwhelmed or you have to

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<v Speaker 5>go sit down in a corner while you get you know,

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<v Speaker 5>like you don't feel that way, just like watch the

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<v Speaker 5>clock and you're like, I'm gonna be okay.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, And it's not like that.

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<v Speaker 5>I don't want anybody sitting in a corner. I don't

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<v Speaker 5>want anyone freaking out. But I do think of it

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<v Speaker 5>as like an enhancement, like a life enhancement, a performance enhancement,

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<v Speaker 5>especially if I'm outdoor exercising, if I'm on a big

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<v Speaker 5>bike ride, or if I'm on a big ski day.

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<v Speaker 1>I love to take a little LSD.

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<v Speaker 5>It just is like it's like an upper of energy, enthusiasm, calm,

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<v Speaker 5>Like it makes you less nervous if I'm going helly skiing,

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<v Speaker 5>Like it just really intensifies your focus in a way

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<v Speaker 5>that is beneficial.

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<v Speaker 1>To your experience.

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<v Speaker 4>Who are you?

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<v Speaker 1>I actually write that down because hell, what did I

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<v Speaker 1>just say? It feels like I'm on LC right now and.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm not now would you have a start with LSD

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<v Speaker 3>or like try a mushroom situation for I think they're.

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<v Speaker 5>All different, Like mushrooms are good too, I'm not, you know,

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<v Speaker 5>I'm more into the LSD right now, just because it's

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<v Speaker 5>had such a positive impact on so many people in

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<v Speaker 5>my life. The MDMA is different MDMA. Some people can

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<v Speaker 5>have a great reaction to that that's also a microdose.

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<v Speaker 5>But MDMA to me is the love drugs. So that's

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<v Speaker 5>a heart opener. And what I love ed about all

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<v Speaker 5>these drugs is that they kill the ego, So there's

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<v Speaker 5>no ego, like you're just like open instead of any

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<v Speaker 5>sort of negative thoughts, you're just kind of eradicated, like

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<v Speaker 5>even people you dislike you like when you're on these drugs.

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<v Speaker 1>And I think that really just says it all.

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<v Speaker 5>So a lot of couples counseling, like a lot of

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<v Speaker 5>couples will have MDMA guided couples counseling, because when you

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<v Speaker 5>take the MDMA, there's no defensiveness. You're both just open

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<v Speaker 5>to hearing the other person's argument. So there's been a

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<v Speaker 5>lot of success and the reason why I was drawn

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<v Speaker 5>to it in the first place and I don't really

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<v Speaker 5>I don't know if I have massive PTSD to anything,

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<v Speaker 5>but is that it's helped so many people with PTSD,

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<v Speaker 5>so many veterans, so many people who have been through

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<v Speaker 5>bad experiences.

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<v Speaker 1>And that's scientific.

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<v Speaker 5>I mean, like the data is there, so so yeah,

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<v Speaker 5>you can't argue with that. And you know, I think

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<v Speaker 5>we're in a place where, you know, drugs come on

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<v Speaker 5>the scene in the way that you describe in your

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<v Speaker 5>book in this chapter, and then over this period of time,

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<v Speaker 5>look where we've come. You know, we've realized, Okay, that's

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<v Speaker 5>too much, this is the right amount. So it's like

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<v Speaker 5>any other substance, you have to figure out what the

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<v Speaker 5>right balance is.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Wow, But I'm an advocate.

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<v Speaker 4>That's so fascinating and I'm so curious. And I have

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<v Speaker 4>had friends, you know, do the MDMA couples counseling and

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<v Speaker 4>had had wonderful experiences. And I had a lot of

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<v Speaker 4>friends in college just kind of having fun with various psychedelics.

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<v Speaker 4>And I've always been a little bit I don't know,

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<v Speaker 4>intimidated or something, but micro dosing feels like a nice,

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<v Speaker 4>a good baby step because I do want to I

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<v Speaker 4>just want to kind of like I don't know, mix

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<v Speaker 4>it up a little bit. I like what you're saying.

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<v Speaker 4>If it allows me to go Hella skiing, then yeah,

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<v Speaker 4>I'm a Hella on board.

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<v Speaker 1>So where did you go to college?

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<v Speaker 4>At Oberlin College in Ohio that used.

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<v Speaker 1>To do it?

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<v Speaker 7>Well?

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<v Speaker 5>I know Oberlin. Yeah, that's a very well respected school.

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<v Speaker 5>I thought that was a women's college. Did it used

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<v Speaker 5>to be a women's college?

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<v Speaker 4>No?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh no.

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<v Speaker 4>In fact, it's the first college in the United States

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<v Speaker 4>to admit women. So yeah, that's one of its claims

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<v Speaker 4>to fame. It's always been a very progressive, kind of

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<v Speaker 4>intellectually exciting place. And it has a Conservatory of music

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<v Speaker 4>as well, the Oberlin Conservatory that is a world renowned,

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<v Speaker 4>you know, music study place.

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<v Speaker 5>And what did you study there? Did you study? Did

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<v Speaker 5>you study acting?

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<v Speaker 4>No? I mean I did. I took I was in

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<v Speaker 4>some plays and took some acting classes. But I studied

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<v Speaker 4>I kind of out of a funny academic journey.

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<v Speaker 1>I started out hynecology.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah. I was like, guys, I want to be a

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<v Speaker 4>gynecology major. They're like, we don't have that, you can't

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<v Speaker 4>do that, And I was like, well, here's my natology.

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<v Speaker 4>When's kidding? So I said, I wanted to be a

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<v Speaker 4>geology major because I loved being outdoors. I was kind

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<v Speaker 4>of like, I loved camping and hiking and all these things.

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<v Speaker 4>I was like, geology, that's the that's what geologists do

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<v Speaker 4>for a living. And then I got into the hard

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<v Speaker 4>science courses and I was like, none, this is terrible.

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<v Speaker 4>I am not cut out for this. And I kind

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<v Speaker 4>of did a gut check and I really wanted to

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<v Speaker 4>make movies and be in movies and work on movies,

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<v Speaker 4>and so I became a film major. But Oberlin didn't

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<v Speaker 4>really have that at the time. They do now, but

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<v Speaker 4>at the time they had a film minor, and so

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<v Speaker 4>I was able to do this weird thing where you

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<v Speaker 4>design your own major. And I cobbled together like different

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<v Speaker 4>acting classes and directing, you know, theater directing with the

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<v Speaker 4>film courses, and then I spent a semester at the

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<v Speaker 4>in You Film School one spring. I spent the whole

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<v Speaker 4>semester there and that was so so cool and eye opening,

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<v Speaker 4>and so I graduated with a kind of made up

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<v Speaker 4>major that was a basically a film major.

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<v Speaker 1>Well that's nice that they were able. You're able to

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<v Speaker 1>do that. There's not a lot of schools that allow

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<v Speaker 1>you to make up your own major.

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<v Speaker 4>You really have to make it sound legit. But I

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<v Speaker 4>was always a good kind of salesman. I could. I could, like,

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<v Speaker 4>you know, charm the committee and then and it worked.

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<v Speaker 4>I got Yeah, I graduated.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, yeah, well you did. I mean, you've been entertaining

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<v Speaker 5>us for a long time. I like that you're able

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<v Speaker 5>to marry your careers together and do this kind of

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<v Speaker 5>stuff that you're really interested in, also this historical stuff,

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<v Speaker 5>while being very entertaining. I also I worked closely with

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<v Speaker 5>Zach alifan Acus for a while on the road, well

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<v Speaker 5>not as long as you did on the hangover, but

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<v Speaker 5>on the road. And I have a great Zach Alfanakas

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<v Speaker 5>story that I shared recently about him. Well, I have

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<v Speaker 5>a couple of Zach elephant stories. But I want to

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<v Speaker 5>know about your experience working with Zach Alifanakis because I

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<v Speaker 5>think Zach is probably the funniest person I know.

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<v Speaker 1>He's the thing.

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<v Speaker 4>I think you're right. I think he's the funniest person.

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<v Speaker 5>He reminds me of a human snufhalophagus, and that's not

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<v Speaker 5>because his scalp also isn't quite set to the top

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<v Speaker 5>of his head. He doesn't have a hard scalp. He

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<v Speaker 5>has a baby scalp. Okay, I've tugged on it. I

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<v Speaker 5>haven't seen him in years, but when I was spending

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<v Speaker 5>time with him, I couldn't. He'd always be like, touched

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<v Speaker 5>my scalp and it was always soft. You know how

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<v Speaker 5>baby scalps are soft while they're forming and like a skull. Yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 5>and they've got that little spot where until he doesn't

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<v Speaker 5>really get hard. His is never hardened. So I'm not

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<v Speaker 5>sure what kind of creature he is.

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<v Speaker 4>Well, he's a snuffs like you said, he's yeah, he's

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<v Speaker 4>a humanus. I love a Sesame Street reference. Thank you

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<v Speaker 4>for bringing that in.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, no problem, absolutely, it's history.

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<v Speaker 4>I you know someone I read somewhere that someone described

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<v Speaker 4>Oscar Wilde as like the sharpest wit they had ever known,

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<v Speaker 4>and that he was like the fastest with a with

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<v Speaker 4>azinger or a comeback or just a kind of quip

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<v Speaker 4>or a joke or a comment on a moment. And

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<v Speaker 4>that's Zach. I've never seen the speed that he like

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<v Speaker 4>delivers a quip off of a situation, like or you

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<v Speaker 4>say something dumb, and he like instantly has the the

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<v Speaker 4>kind of zinger or or come back, and it's not

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<v Speaker 4>always it's not always a zinger like a kind of

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<v Speaker 4>mean spirited thing. Sometimes it's just a silly, ridiculous thing.

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<v Speaker 4>But it's it's sharp, and it's it's smart, and it's

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<v Speaker 4>so fast. Like his brain is just in a different

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<v Speaker 4>gear than everyone else's. It's sort of like when Keanu

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<v Speaker 4>reeves in the Matrix, like realizes he's the one, and

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<v Speaker 4>all of a sudden, he's like everyone else's is in

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<v Speaker 4>slow motion because they're in reality, and he's just like, oh,

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<v Speaker 4>this is easy. That's how I think Zach's comedy brain works.

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<v Speaker 4>He's just ahead of everybody else. And Todd used to

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<v Speaker 4>Todd Phillips the director on the Hangover. Sometimes he direct

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<v Speaker 4>from afar, like a lot of directors. He s would

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<v Speaker 4>sort of sit at the monitors or somewhere sort of

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<v Speaker 4>off to the side with his own little monitor, and

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<v Speaker 4>he'd call out things to us, and then Zach would

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<v Speaker 4>always kind of zing back at him, and Todd was

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<v Speaker 4>just like always like, unbelievable, unbelievable.

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<v Speaker 5>He just has the quickest, highest and the driest because

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<v Speaker 5>he's never laughing at himself.

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<v Speaker 1>No, he's and he's not loud. He's quiet. Yes, it's

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<v Speaker 1>like quiet and under the radar and sweet.

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<v Speaker 4>There's a sweetness to all of it. You know. I

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<v Speaker 4>feel like there's certain comedians that can get away with

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<v Speaker 4>pretty aggressive insults or yes, just kind of like dark, darker,

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<v Speaker 4>or things that would on paper be extremely mean spirited,

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<v Speaker 4>but because you know that they have such a big

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<v Speaker 4>heart and they're such kind of sweet people, you're just like,

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<v Speaker 4>it's the funniest thing. You give them so much leeway

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<v Speaker 4>with that. And he's definitely one of those people.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, he used to. He probably still does this where

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<v Speaker 1>he plays a piano on set.

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<v Speaker 5>He goes on, he'll go up to the improv and

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<v Speaker 5>just play the piano in between jokes, so there's just

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<v Speaker 5>like this dramatic effect for absolutely no reason. And he

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<v Speaker 5>had this joke where he's like, I thought about killing

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<v Speaker 5>myself today and then plays like three bars and he's like,

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<v Speaker 5>so I jumped off the roof of a pizza hut,

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<v Speaker 5>but I.

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<v Speaker 1>Only broke my leg.

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<v Speaker 5>And you're like, that wouldn't be funny from anyone else

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<v Speaker 5>at all except for you in that fucking piano. And

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<v Speaker 5>he's just so ridiculous. So he used to we I

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<v Speaker 5>had to sleep. I was really broke and I was

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<v Speaker 5>doing San Francisco Punchline. He was the middle David Tel

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<v Speaker 5>was the headliner, and I was opening and I had

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<v Speaker 5>no money. So to Zach's like, you can sleep in

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<v Speaker 5>my hotel room at the Commodore, and I was like, okay,

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<v Speaker 5>thank you. And then and he said, you know, I

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<v Speaker 5>promise you're safe with me, and I was like, I

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<v Speaker 5>believe you. I think I could take you physically, so

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<v Speaker 5>I'm not concerned. And we would get to bed and

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<v Speaker 5>I and I had a terrible week. I was like

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<v Speaker 5>my first week on the professional road with like two big,

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<v Speaker 5>like heavy hitters, and I, you know, I didn't know

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<v Speaker 5>what I was doing. And every night I'd be so upset, like, fuck,

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<v Speaker 5>what am I gonna do?

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<v Speaker 1>What am I gonna do? He's like, this is part

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<v Speaker 1>of it. You know, you got a bomb. You got

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<v Speaker 1>a bomb.

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<v Speaker 5>And then he'd put we'd go to bed and we'd

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<v Speaker 5>sleep in the same bed with our clothes on, and

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<v Speaker 5>he would rub my hair before I went to sleep,

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<v Speaker 5>and he would whisper in my ear, I will never

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<v Speaker 5>rape you.

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<v Speaker 1>God, Oh my god, such a sweet memory.

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<v Speaker 4>Is it a sweet memory?

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<v Speaker 7>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 5>I think it is it is a sweet, sweet memory.

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<v Speaker 5>I've never had anyone say that to me.

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<v Speaker 4>You're right that in the in just yeah, that's just

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<v Speaker 4>what I was saying before, Like he's such a big hearted,

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<v Speaker 4>sweet person that he can make that joke and actually

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<v Speaker 4>make you laugh, because anyone else who said that to somebody,

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<v Speaker 4>it almost sounds like I'm definitely going to do that.

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<v Speaker 1>On that note, we're going to take a break with

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<v Speaker 1>ed Helm, so we'll be right back.

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<v Speaker 3>If you'd like advice from Chelsea, right into us at

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<v Speaker 3>Dear Chelsea podcast at gmail dot com. We'd love to

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<v Speaker 3>hear your questions for any juicy story you'd like advice on,

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<v Speaker 3>but this week we're specifically looking for questions about family issues.

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<v Speaker 2>If you have an issue with a family member, or

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<v Speaker 2>you need.

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<v Speaker 3>Advice about a specific relationship issue, please write in at

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<v Speaker 1>And we're back with ed Helm. So you have to

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<v Speaker 1>pick up this book.

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<v Speaker 5>It's called Snaffoo, The Definitive Guide to History's Greatest screw Ups,

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<v Speaker 5>and it's all the greatest grew ups historically in this

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<v Speaker 5>country and others. Actually lots of it takes place on

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<v Speaker 5>other lands. But it's a great book to have around,

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<v Speaker 5>especially to pick up and put down when you want

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<v Speaker 5>to get a little piece of information. And it's great.

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<v Speaker 5>They're great talking points for conversation starters. I know a

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<v Speaker 5>lot of people conversation starters.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, and it'll make you like a killer at dinner parties.

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<v Speaker 4>You've just got you've got a whole arsenal of great stories.

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<v Speaker 5>And it's a great gift, by the way, it's a

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<v Speaker 5>great gift to give to somebody.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, especially a great guy gift I feel like.

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<v Speaker 3>And I also like that you say in the beginning,

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<v Speaker 3>You're like, you know what we've been through, like shit

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<v Speaker 3>before and like problems and like stupid mistakes before, Like

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<v Speaker 3>hopefully we'll survive everything that's going on now as well.

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<v Speaker 5>Yes, it's a great reminder of that everybody thought that

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<v Speaker 5>it was the end of the world many many times

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<v Speaker 5>in our history, especially in the fifties, where some people

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<v Speaker 5>look back at as one of the best times in America.

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<v Speaker 5>People were scared to death of dying from a nuclear

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<v Speaker 5>bomb during that time.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, Ed depicts in his book.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, it's always like the history of human folly is

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<v Speaker 4>so overwhelming when you look back on it and Weirdly,

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<v Speaker 4>I find that calming because we just keep moving. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 4>this is a scary time that we're in right now.

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<v Speaker 4>It just it doesn't matter what your political disposition is.

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<v Speaker 4>Like it feels volatile, it feels like the division is crazy,

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<v Speaker 4>like unusual, but it isn't that unusual. We have been

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<v Speaker 4>in very similar situations in the past. I'm not saying

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<v Speaker 4>don't be afraid or don't be like, don't work to

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<v Speaker 4>make the changes you want to see in the world.

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<v Speaker 4>But I am saying I'm just there's reassurance in this,

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<v Speaker 4>in looking back and seeing like, oh, people did sort

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<v Speaker 4>of fight through something or get through something and we

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<v Speaker 4>got to a better place.

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<v Speaker 1>Absolutely.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, are we ready for some advice?

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, it's going to give advice and you're gonna be

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<v Speaker 1>great at this.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you actually you're gonna be We.

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<v Speaker 5>Have live callers, we've written callers, people calling in they

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<v Speaker 5>need help, and here you are at helms.

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<v Speaker 1>Here you are to help.

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<v Speaker 4>All right, I'm here for it.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, our first question has to do with having a

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<v Speaker 3>long history with someone, since we're talking a lot about

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<v Speaker 3>history today. The subject is office friendship gone awry, and

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<v Speaker 3>this one's just an email. She's not calling in Okay,

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<v Speaker 3>Dear Chelsea. I work with a friend who have known

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<v Speaker 3>for twelve years. She referred me to the job we

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<v Speaker 3>work at. She trained me and everything. However, she's a

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<v Speaker 3>gatekeeper and always wants to be the hero at work.

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<v Speaker 3>She's also loud and obnoxious when she talks about how

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<v Speaker 3>we used to be ratchet and all, which was so

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<v Speaker 3>long ago.

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<v Speaker 2>She's kind of annoying in that sense.

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<v Speaker 3>I find myself at times asking her to keep it

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<v Speaker 3>down because we're at work. Also, nobody wants to hear that,

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<v Speaker 3>and frankly, it's embarrassing. I'm now avoiding her outside of

0:24:20.760 --> 0:24:22.919
<v Speaker 3>work too. I don't know how to handle her. She

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<v Speaker 3>overshares and I don't want to be a part of it.

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<v Speaker 3>She also seems jealous when I hang with other managers

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<v Speaker 3>and coworkers. I'm not kissing ass, but I'm a social person.

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<v Speaker 3>How do I manage the situation? Since I have to

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<v Speaker 3>see her every day, I'm becoming resentful?

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<v Speaker 2>Ugh, love you and take care, Sammy.

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<v Speaker 5>Did she say at the beginning that this person was

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<v Speaker 5>her superior at work?

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<v Speaker 2>No, but she got her the job?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh she the woman got hurt the job?

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<v Speaker 2>Or she yeah, the other the woman got her the job.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, I see, I see. So that's also but.

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<v Speaker 4>We don't know if they're we don't know if what

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<v Speaker 4>their status is.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, we don't.

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<v Speaker 2>We're not sure about that.

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<v Speaker 1>But all right, I think that's it easy.

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<v Speaker 5>I think that you just that's a conversation and in

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<v Speaker 5>person conversation on one where you go to lunch, you

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<v Speaker 5>go to coffee, and you say, listen, I know we

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<v Speaker 5>had a lot of like wild times and a fun past,

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<v Speaker 5>but like I feel like I've grown up a lot,

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<v Speaker 5>and I feel like we've both grown up a lot.

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<v Speaker 5>You know, don't make it just about you being like

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<v Speaker 5>superior to her in that way, like you're mature and

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<v Speaker 5>she isn't be Like, we've both grown up a lot,

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<v Speaker 5>and like sometimes it's like I feel like it's a

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<v Speaker 5>little embarrassing when I hear you talk about our past

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<v Speaker 5>in front of our co workers. And I totally get it,

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<v Speaker 5>Like it's fun and those were the best times. But like,

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<v Speaker 5>I think we have to have some sort of evolution,

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<v Speaker 5>especially professionally in a setting where I want to be

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<v Speaker 5>taken seriously and I don't want to take the fun

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<v Speaker 5>out of it. But I also don't want to start

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<v Speaker 5>avoiding you, you know, don't.

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<v Speaker 1>Act like it's already happened.

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<v Speaker 5>Just say like I'm starting to feel like I do

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<v Speaker 5>want to kind of avoid you and take my own space,

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<v Speaker 5>and I don't want to feel that way about you

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<v Speaker 5>at all. I want to maintain this relationship but also

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<v Speaker 5>take it to the next level of like maturity and evolution.

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<v Speaker 5>Like we're all going to have to grow up at

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<v Speaker 5>some point, and you don't have to grow up and

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<v Speaker 5>make it sound boring, but grow up and make it

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<v Speaker 5>sound like, Okay, now we're going to do different stuff.

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<v Speaker 5>And we don't have to like live in the past,

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<v Speaker 5>because that's also a thing that people get stuck in.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like living.

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<v Speaker 5>They want to constantly live in like the best time

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<v Speaker 5>that they had, which is like that varsity high school attitude,

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<v Speaker 5>like when you peak in high school, you want to

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<v Speaker 5>live in high school for the.

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<v Speaker 4>Rest of your life. God damn, that's good, Chelsea. You're

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<v Speaker 4>good at this, And that's the real deal. That's the

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<v Speaker 4>that's like the that's the advice. That is good advice. Whoever,

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<v Speaker 4>the listener should definitely follow that advice. Now, I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 4>give you some bad advice. Great, I think that you

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<v Speaker 4>should fight the woman start slipping like massive doses of

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<v Speaker 4>LSD into their coffee. Perfect, And it's also just mk

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<v Speaker 4>ultra them and then also just subtly sabotage them at

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<v Speaker 4>work in all kinds of different ways, you know, just

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<v Speaker 4>like mess up their files. Like if they hand something in,

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<v Speaker 4>see if you can grab it and take it so

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<v Speaker 4>it's late, So it's late and they get in trouble.

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<v Speaker 4>Is that helpful?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, perfect, I think that's going to be

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<v Speaker 1>very helpful.

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<v Speaker 4>No, I but truly, Chelsea, it's so fun hearing you

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<v Speaker 4>just like jump on that with the most constructive angle,

0:27:12.480 --> 0:27:14.960
<v Speaker 4>just like hey, jump in and talk to this person

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<v Speaker 4>and just everything that you wrote in that email, that's

0:27:18.080 --> 0:27:20.680
<v Speaker 4>pretty much what that's your script. Like you can say

0:27:20.720 --> 0:27:24.560
<v Speaker 4>that to this person and find the positive top spin

0:27:24.640 --> 0:27:28.800
<v Speaker 4>on it, find the language that gives it connectivity instead

0:27:28.840 --> 0:27:33.520
<v Speaker 4>of just like accusation and frustration. But get into it.

0:27:33.920 --> 0:27:35.440
<v Speaker 4>That's what I heard. That was like the main thing

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<v Speaker 4>was like just jump right into.

0:27:36.840 --> 0:27:38.960
<v Speaker 5>It, get into it, because I think avoidance is just

0:27:39.000 --> 0:27:41.960
<v Speaker 5>always the you know that is like nobody gets anywhere by.

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<v Speaker 1>Being an avoidant.

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<v Speaker 4>Where did you grow up, Chelsea?

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<v Speaker 1>In New Jersey?

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<v Speaker 4>There you go. See, I grew up in Atlanta, Georgia,

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<v Speaker 4>and my mom's from Tennessee, my dad's from Alabama, and

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<v Speaker 4>it's a lot of like we don't talk about that.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it's a.

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<v Speaker 4>Lot of like discomfort with like avoidance is a is

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<v Speaker 4>like on like a policy in the South. Sometimes.

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<v Speaker 1>Did you grow up Southern Baptist?

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<v Speaker 5>No?

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<v Speaker 4>No, my parents were pretty progressive politically and religiously, but

0:28:09.400 --> 0:28:13.280
<v Speaker 4>we went to a Presbyterian church, which I liked, actually

0:28:13.680 --> 0:28:16.040
<v Speaker 4>liked a lot, and I know my parents valued a lot.

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<v Speaker 4>But they also after church, they would always be like,

0:28:21.520 --> 0:28:24.840
<v Speaker 4>this stuff is kind of made up, but we just

0:28:25.680 --> 0:28:28.639
<v Speaker 4>this is a good community institution and we like a

0:28:28.880 --> 0:28:31.240
<v Speaker 4>lot of the people. But you don't have to believe

0:28:31.600 --> 0:28:35.040
<v Speaker 4>the actual you know, they would sort of undermine the

0:28:35.960 --> 0:28:37.879
<v Speaker 4>religiosity of it, which.

0:28:37.640 --> 0:28:38.480
<v Speaker 1>Is a great attitude.

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<v Speaker 5>I read a quote one saying, like, you know, you're

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<v Speaker 5>not praying people who sit down and pray. It's not

0:28:43.040 --> 0:28:46.200
<v Speaker 5>about who you're praying to, it's the act of praying.

0:28:46.680 --> 0:28:50.480
<v Speaker 5>It creates a better surrounding for the whole world. Yes, right,

0:28:50.600 --> 0:28:52.959
<v Speaker 5>like the fact that people are praying, you know, as

0:28:53.040 --> 0:28:55.400
<v Speaker 5>long as you're praying for like peace, and the world

0:28:55.480 --> 0:28:58.160
<v Speaker 5>and love and goodness. It doesn't matter what you're saying,

0:28:58.160 --> 0:29:00.560
<v Speaker 5>it's the act of It is an act in itself.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, it's the articulation of thoughts and ideas that have

0:29:07.480 --> 0:29:10.520
<v Speaker 4>power in you. And I kind of think of therapy

0:29:10.560 --> 0:29:13.560
<v Speaker 4>as the same way. It's like, weirdly, therapy can be

0:29:13.600 --> 0:29:17.640
<v Speaker 4>a sort of prayer because you're giving voice and externalizing

0:29:17.720 --> 0:29:19.760
<v Speaker 4>these things that have sort of may have chewed you

0:29:19.880 --> 0:29:24.040
<v Speaker 4>up inside for a long time or felt insurmountable, but

0:29:24.080 --> 0:29:26.440
<v Speaker 4>as soon as they're outside of your body, literally just

0:29:26.640 --> 0:29:29.760
<v Speaker 4>the words take form and leave your mouth and then

0:29:29.800 --> 0:29:33.320
<v Speaker 4>it's outside of you in a way that feels manageable

0:29:33.400 --> 0:29:38.960
<v Speaker 4>or feels like you're approaching manageable of these like difficult things.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, therapy is like helping you be a better person

0:29:42.120 --> 0:29:44.800
<v Speaker 5>in the world. Right, So that's that's a gift to

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<v Speaker 5>everybody who has to come into contact with you by

0:29:47.960 --> 0:29:51.040
<v Speaker 5>not internalizing all of those thoughts or things that you're

0:29:51.040 --> 0:29:53.960
<v Speaker 5>going through. Also, meditation is a form of prayer, you know,

0:29:54.000 --> 0:29:56.000
<v Speaker 5>if you look at it that way, it's a form

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<v Speaker 5>of like, Okay, I'm trying you know, you're setting an intention,

0:29:58.640 --> 0:30:01.440
<v Speaker 5>you're trying to calm your thoughts and actually be a

0:30:01.480 --> 0:30:04.440
<v Speaker 5>more well balanced person. So that's a form of prior too,

0:30:04.600 --> 0:30:07.240
<v Speaker 5>So all of that stuff is good as a tool

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<v Speaker 5>to be a better person.

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<v Speaker 1>In the world.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, our next question comes from Amanda, and before we

0:30:13.120 --> 0:30:15.720
<v Speaker 3>let Amanda in, I thought this would be a perfect

0:30:16.040 --> 0:30:19.000
<v Speaker 3>question for you, Ed, since you played a character who

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<v Speaker 3>was broken up with while on a yacht, so Amanda

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<v Speaker 3>is really going through it. Subject line is heartbreak on

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<v Speaker 3>a yacht Dear Chelsea. A month ago, me and my

0:30:29.400 --> 0:30:32.400
<v Speaker 3>partner of four years split up. Three weeks prior he

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<v Speaker 3>had ended it and I was devastated.

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<v Speaker 2>He resigned. We work on a yacht together and I

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<v Speaker 2>packed my bags.

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<v Speaker 3>I didn't want to give him an opportunity to panic

0:30:39.680 --> 0:30:41.880
<v Speaker 3>and change his mind, but sure enough he asked me

0:30:41.920 --> 0:30:44.320
<v Speaker 3>to stay and I did. Three weeks later, he hooks

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<v Speaker 3>up with our friend and coworker. The relationship ended and

0:30:47.600 --> 0:30:50.280
<v Speaker 3>he told me he would resign. Typically on boats, as

0:30:50.280 --> 0:30:52.680
<v Speaker 3>we all live and work together, when a couple splits up,

0:30:52.680 --> 0:30:54.680
<v Speaker 3>there's an honor code that the one who ends it

0:30:54.760 --> 0:30:57.520
<v Speaker 3>is the one to leave. I took six weeks unpaid

0:30:57.560 --> 0:30:59.200
<v Speaker 3>leave so I could fly home and be with my

0:30:59.200 --> 0:31:01.520
<v Speaker 3>support system and give him time to finish out his

0:31:01.560 --> 0:31:04.840
<v Speaker 3>contract and not risk losing any pay. When I was leaving,

0:31:04.880 --> 0:31:06.320
<v Speaker 3>he told me he was going to do everything he

0:31:06.360 --> 0:31:08.600
<v Speaker 3>could to find a way forward for us. A month

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<v Speaker 3>after the breakup, he calls to say this separation is

0:31:11.040 --> 0:31:14.280
<v Speaker 3>the right thing and he won't be resigning. Neither he

0:31:14.600 --> 0:31:17.120
<v Speaker 3>nor the person he hooked up with resigned. The last

0:31:17.120 --> 0:31:18.720
<v Speaker 3>thing I want to do is give up my job.

0:31:19.040 --> 0:31:21.280
<v Speaker 3>I love what I do. I just got a new contract,

0:31:21.360 --> 0:31:23.360
<v Speaker 3>but the thought of being trapped on a boat together

0:31:23.400 --> 0:31:26.160
<v Speaker 3>and having to see him every day feels daunting. And

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<v Speaker 3>there is an update that happened just yesterday. She got

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<v Speaker 3>a call that her contract was canceled and theirs was not.

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<v Speaker 2>So Amanda's really going through it.

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<v Speaker 5>Oh, I'm sorry, Hi Amanda, Hi, Hi Hidy miss ed

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<v Speaker 5>Helm's our special guest today.

0:31:41.240 --> 0:31:43.200
<v Speaker 7>Oh my gosh, hello, lovely to meet you.

0:31:43.360 --> 0:31:48.120
<v Speaker 4>Likewise, I'm so sorry for all this. Yah, just this

0:31:48.320 --> 0:31:52.680
<v Speaker 4>hard ship. Get it. I'm gonna throw a pun in there,

0:31:52.760 --> 0:31:53.440
<v Speaker 4>right right out of.

0:31:54.480 --> 0:31:55.960
<v Speaker 1>Zach Alfanakus territory.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, mad, this does sound tough. So are you with

0:32:01.120 --> 0:32:02.600
<v Speaker 4>your support system now?

0:32:03.400 --> 0:32:03.640
<v Speaker 6>Yeah?

0:32:03.680 --> 0:32:05.920
<v Speaker 7>I've been with my family and my friends, so I'm

0:32:06.160 --> 0:32:09.920
<v Speaker 7>very fortunate to have them. But yes, as Catherine said,

0:32:09.960 --> 0:32:13.680
<v Speaker 7>as of yesterday, I've been let go as a result.

0:32:13.800 --> 0:32:16.680
<v Speaker 7>So I guess now it's a whole different ballgame of

0:32:16.720 --> 0:32:17.360
<v Speaker 7>how to proceed.

0:32:17.440 --> 0:32:20.600
<v Speaker 4>So, did you lose this lose this contract because of

0:32:20.720 --> 0:32:23.000
<v Speaker 4>the sort of messiness of the situation?

0:32:23.960 --> 0:32:28.320
<v Speaker 7>Yes, I was told it was due to the extenuating circumstances.

0:32:28.680 --> 0:32:31.920
<v Speaker 1>So is he it has a senior position, a more

0:32:31.960 --> 0:32:33.000
<v Speaker 1>senior position than you do.

0:32:34.080 --> 0:32:38.440
<v Speaker 7>Yes, he is a high ranking person, so yeah, he,

0:32:38.680 --> 0:32:40.000
<v Speaker 7>I guess, got priority.

0:32:40.640 --> 0:32:43.400
<v Speaker 5>Okay, and does a woman work on the yacht too?

0:32:43.560 --> 0:32:45.640
<v Speaker 5>I was confused by who resigned and who resigned?

0:32:45.680 --> 0:32:49.880
<v Speaker 7>Okay, no one's resigned, but yes, the person he hooked

0:32:49.960 --> 0:32:51.720
<v Speaker 7>up with, they both are still Okay.

0:32:51.760 --> 0:32:52.200
<v Speaker 1>Well that's in.

0:32:52.440 --> 0:32:55.400
<v Speaker 5>You can't go back to that situation, so it's time

0:32:55.480 --> 0:32:58.280
<v Speaker 5>to find another position, right on a different yacht.

0:32:59.040 --> 0:33:01.080
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, how hard is that?

0:33:02.080 --> 0:33:04.000
<v Speaker 7>I have no doubt that I'll be able to find

0:33:04.000 --> 0:33:08.520
<v Speaker 7>another job. I'm not concerned about that. I'm very capable. Yeah,

0:33:08.600 --> 0:33:11.200
<v Speaker 7>so I guess with Catherine. Initially, I was just I guess,

0:33:11.200 --> 0:33:14.040
<v Speaker 7>hoping to find a way to navigate through this. But

0:33:14.880 --> 0:33:17.240
<v Speaker 7>even now people are telling me to try to peel

0:33:17.320 --> 0:33:20.920
<v Speaker 7>the termination. So yeah, I'm just a bit of a

0:33:20.920 --> 0:33:21.680
<v Speaker 7>loss right now.

0:33:21.880 --> 0:33:24.520
<v Speaker 5>I honestly really wouldn't pursue that. What a waste of

0:33:24.520 --> 0:33:25.680
<v Speaker 5>your time and energy?

0:33:25.880 --> 0:33:27.280
<v Speaker 1>Why why you're ya?

0:33:27.560 --> 0:33:30.160
<v Speaker 4>It seems like winning that appeal puts you in a

0:33:30.240 --> 0:33:33.640
<v Speaker 4>worse position right where you're not where you're on the

0:33:33.680 --> 0:33:36.320
<v Speaker 4>boat with this sort of toxic.

0:33:38.840 --> 0:33:39.240
<v Speaker 6>Yeah.

0:33:39.360 --> 0:33:42.320
<v Speaker 4>I agree, And there's something there is something about like

0:33:43.000 --> 0:33:47.880
<v Speaker 4>having distance from having physical distance from the pain the

0:33:47.920 --> 0:33:53.080
<v Speaker 4>source of the of this pain can be incredibly healing.

0:33:53.360 --> 0:33:56.960
<v Speaker 4>Just have just not like you said, like you intuitively

0:33:57.280 --> 0:34:00.640
<v Speaker 4>understood kind of being in that presence seeing him every

0:34:00.720 --> 0:34:03.360
<v Speaker 4>day so forth, that would just kind of keep you

0:34:03.400 --> 0:34:09.080
<v Speaker 4>in this laundry cycle of frustration, anger, hurt, all of it.

0:34:09.160 --> 0:34:11.160
<v Speaker 4>So embrace the distance.

0:34:12.200 --> 0:34:13.359
<v Speaker 1>Are you okay with doing that?

0:34:13.480 --> 0:34:13.600
<v Speaker 7>Like?

0:34:13.680 --> 0:34:15.600
<v Speaker 1>Are you are you ready to do that?

0:34:15.760 --> 0:34:17.879
<v Speaker 5>Like, I mean, I think you need to heal and

0:34:17.920 --> 0:34:20.520
<v Speaker 5>move on and go and find yourself in a completely

0:34:20.520 --> 0:34:22.520
<v Speaker 5>new environment. I'm so happy to hear that you know

0:34:22.560 --> 0:34:24.680
<v Speaker 5>that you're capable enough to get another job.

0:34:24.719 --> 0:34:26.000
<v Speaker 1>I mean, I know this is kind of it's a.

0:34:26.000 --> 0:34:28.239
<v Speaker 5>Small community of people who work on boats and meaning

0:34:28.400 --> 0:34:30.279
<v Speaker 5>it can seem like a large one, but really it

0:34:30.360 --> 0:34:33.880
<v Speaker 5>isn't it's a smaller community. So like, if you're good

0:34:33.920 --> 0:34:35.560
<v Speaker 5>at your job, you're going to get another job on

0:34:35.600 --> 0:34:36.000
<v Speaker 5>a yacht.

0:34:36.560 --> 0:34:39.360
<v Speaker 7>Yeah, No, I have no doubts about that. I guess

0:34:39.840 --> 0:34:43.440
<v Speaker 7>it's just been the whole process has been so devastating,

0:34:43.520 --> 0:34:46.239
<v Speaker 7>just at every turn. And then yeah, yesterday was like

0:34:46.280 --> 0:34:50.000
<v Speaker 7>I didn't even I didn't believe that it could get

0:34:50.120 --> 0:34:53.800
<v Speaker 7>to this point where I would be fired. And I understand,

0:34:53.800 --> 0:34:56.359
<v Speaker 7>I'm like big picture eyes, like you guys are saying

0:34:56.400 --> 0:34:58.640
<v Speaker 7>this is the best thing to get away from it

0:34:58.680 --> 0:35:02.280
<v Speaker 7>and all that. I guess I'm just still reeling from totally,

0:35:02.640 --> 0:35:04.120
<v Speaker 7>which is totally understandable.

0:35:04.160 --> 0:35:07.279
<v Speaker 5>And give yourself grace, give yourself time, Like you're not

0:35:07.280 --> 0:35:09.800
<v Speaker 5>supposed to get over these things in a week or

0:35:09.840 --> 0:35:11.760
<v Speaker 5>two weeks or even a month or two months.

0:35:12.040 --> 0:35:13.799
<v Speaker 1>This is a big situation. You were with him for

0:35:13.840 --> 0:35:14.440
<v Speaker 1>four years.

0:35:14.480 --> 0:35:17.280
<v Speaker 5>You have every right to be upset, to feel your grief,

0:35:17.520 --> 0:35:19.759
<v Speaker 5>to go through all of the emotions and all the

0:35:19.800 --> 0:35:22.400
<v Speaker 5>stages of emotions that don't come in the order that

0:35:22.440 --> 0:35:24.560
<v Speaker 5>people tell you that they're going to come in and

0:35:24.680 --> 0:35:26.200
<v Speaker 5>just when you think you're out of the woods, it

0:35:26.280 --> 0:35:29.279
<v Speaker 5>hits you again. But be honest about your feelings, which

0:35:29.280 --> 0:35:31.680
<v Speaker 5>you are doing. You're called in here, You're having an

0:35:31.719 --> 0:35:34.600
<v Speaker 5>honest conversation with people you don't know about how you're

0:35:34.600 --> 0:35:37.680
<v Speaker 5>feeling and how hurtful this is and how shocking it is.

0:35:38.080 --> 0:35:40.520
<v Speaker 5>Have you heard about the new Mail Robbins book Let

0:35:40.520 --> 0:35:41.880
<v Speaker 5>Them the Let Them theory?

0:35:42.400 --> 0:35:42.600
<v Speaker 1>Yes?

0:35:42.640 --> 0:35:44.799
<v Speaker 7>I have. I actually listened to the episode with you

0:35:44.840 --> 0:35:46.520
<v Speaker 7>and Herry yesterday on a run. I was like, I

0:35:46.560 --> 0:35:47.120
<v Speaker 7>need something.

0:35:47.680 --> 0:35:50.160
<v Speaker 5>Yeah, read that book, because you have to let him,

0:35:50.280 --> 0:35:53.600
<v Speaker 5>let her, let them, let them do their thing, and

0:35:53.719 --> 0:35:56.040
<v Speaker 5>be grateful that you're not in the mix to have

0:35:56.080 --> 0:35:57.000
<v Speaker 5>to witness any of that.

0:35:57.360 --> 0:36:00.840
<v Speaker 4>Are you concerned at all about yours sort of standing

0:36:00.920 --> 0:36:01.879
<v Speaker 4>in this community?

0:36:04.120 --> 0:36:06.440
<v Speaker 7>Well, that's the other thing, is I feel like because

0:36:06.480 --> 0:36:09.880
<v Speaker 7>it's such a small industry and everyone knows somebody on

0:36:09.920 --> 0:36:12.080
<v Speaker 7>a boat, you know, when you're applying for something, everyone

0:36:12.120 --> 0:36:15.919
<v Speaker 7>knows whoever's applying. It's a very small community. So that's

0:36:15.920 --> 0:36:18.279
<v Speaker 7>the the reason why I've been trying to be as

0:36:18.400 --> 0:36:21.360
<v Speaker 7>peaceful as possible through this whole process, because I'm like,

0:36:21.400 --> 0:36:24.640
<v Speaker 7>I don't want it to reflect poorly on me. Sure,

0:36:25.120 --> 0:36:27.719
<v Speaker 7>So that's another thing with appealing this. I'm just like,

0:36:27.880 --> 0:36:31.320
<v Speaker 7>I feel like it's I hope my integrity would speak

0:36:31.320 --> 0:36:33.000
<v Speaker 7>for itself moving forward.

0:36:33.200 --> 0:36:35.839
<v Speaker 3>And people talk like they'll get I think the real

0:36:35.960 --> 0:36:37.879
<v Speaker 3>story of like that you are the one who got

0:36:37.880 --> 0:36:39.560
<v Speaker 3>the short end of the stick on this.

0:36:40.320 --> 0:36:41.840
<v Speaker 2>I had a spiritual.

0:36:41.400 --> 0:36:44.640
<v Speaker 3>Teacher once tell me you know God or the universe

0:36:44.719 --> 0:36:48.120
<v Speaker 3>or your your you know better angels. When something's not

0:36:48.200 --> 0:36:50.240
<v Speaker 3>right for you, they'll like tap you on the shoulder

0:36:50.280 --> 0:36:52.320
<v Speaker 3>and try to tell you, and if you don't listen,

0:36:52.360 --> 0:36:54.759
<v Speaker 3>they'll like tap you harder, and then if you still

0:36:54.800 --> 0:36:56.480
<v Speaker 3>don't listen, you get like the two by.

0:36:56.400 --> 0:36:59.680
<v Speaker 2>Four across the head and like this ending of.

0:36:59.640 --> 0:37:01.839
<v Speaker 3>The kind feels like this is the two by four

0:37:01.960 --> 0:37:03.480
<v Speaker 3>of just like this is not for you.

0:37:03.920 --> 0:37:05.719
<v Speaker 2>There's something way better for you.

0:37:06.840 --> 0:37:07.320
<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

0:37:07.400 --> 0:37:08.359
<v Speaker 7>I believe that too.

0:37:08.800 --> 0:37:11.799
<v Speaker 5>Yeah, and it's really too picture and listen and just

0:37:11.920 --> 0:37:14.399
<v Speaker 5>and appreciate where you are in this moment and all

0:37:14.440 --> 0:37:14.680
<v Speaker 5>of that.

0:37:14.800 --> 0:37:17.600
<v Speaker 1>Don't try to fast forward. You're healing, go through it.

0:37:17.760 --> 0:37:19.640
<v Speaker 5>The only way to get through to something is to

0:37:19.760 --> 0:37:23.800
<v Speaker 5>really really feel it and be honest about your emotions.

0:37:23.360 --> 0:37:23.920
<v Speaker 1>You know what I mean.

0:37:24.000 --> 0:37:26.000
<v Speaker 5>Lean on the people that love and care about you.

0:37:26.560 --> 0:37:29.600
<v Speaker 5>Unfortunately this relationship is over, but you're going to move

0:37:29.640 --> 0:37:32.280
<v Speaker 5>forward in a better and a stronger sense of self

0:37:32.320 --> 0:37:35.320
<v Speaker 5>that's always what happens when we get our hearts broken,

0:37:35.360 --> 0:37:38.239
<v Speaker 5>we always come out stronger. And that's you know, that's

0:37:38.239 --> 0:37:40.880
<v Speaker 5>not debatable. So like, that's what's going to happen with you.

0:37:40.880 --> 0:37:43.839
<v Speaker 5>You're capable, you're confident, you're strong. I'm so happy you

0:37:43.840 --> 0:37:45.600
<v Speaker 5>have a support system that you were able to fly

0:37:45.680 --> 0:37:46.000
<v Speaker 5>home to.

0:37:46.440 --> 0:37:47.240
<v Speaker 1>And I'm so glad.

0:37:47.400 --> 0:37:49.479
<v Speaker 5>You do need a letter of recommendation from these people,

0:37:49.600 --> 0:37:51.160
<v Speaker 5>so you do need to contact him back.

0:37:51.320 --> 0:37:53.120
<v Speaker 1>I'm sure that's a given, but you do.

0:37:53.200 --> 0:37:55.520
<v Speaker 5>At the very minimum, they have to guarantee you for

0:37:55.640 --> 0:37:57.359
<v Speaker 5>I mean, they don't give you any reason to fire you,

0:37:57.400 --> 0:37:59.120
<v Speaker 5>so they have to give you a letter of recommendation

0:37:59.360 --> 0:38:00.919
<v Speaker 5>when you go out and look for a new job.

0:38:00.960 --> 0:38:03.480
<v Speaker 5>And I do know a few people who do own yachts,

0:38:03.480 --> 0:38:06.320
<v Speaker 5>and I'd be happy to pass on your resume to them.

0:38:06.760 --> 0:38:07.920
<v Speaker 7>That's incredibly I.

0:38:08.000 --> 0:38:10.240
<v Speaker 1>Know that comes as a huge surprise to all of ours.

0:38:14.280 --> 0:38:17.239
<v Speaker 4>She's Chelsea's so right here. It's so easy to kind

0:38:17.239 --> 0:38:22.960
<v Speaker 4>of like intellectually understand why getting fired in this situation

0:38:23.040 --> 0:38:25.840
<v Speaker 4>might be a positive thing, and why like the math

0:38:26.400 --> 0:38:28.799
<v Speaker 4>might be might look good on paper. Oh we're gonna

0:38:28.840 --> 0:38:32.839
<v Speaker 4>have distance now. But Chelsea's so right, the the emotions,

0:38:32.880 --> 0:38:36.840
<v Speaker 4>all the feelings, all of the pain and the trajectory

0:38:36.880 --> 0:38:41.800
<v Speaker 4>of your grief is something to just submit to. Even

0:38:41.800 --> 0:38:44.600
<v Speaker 4>when it's on paper, it feels like, oh, I'm these

0:38:44.680 --> 0:38:47.080
<v Speaker 4>I'm making the right steps. It just doesn't always feel

0:38:47.080 --> 0:38:51.040
<v Speaker 4>that way. And I and and so embrace that and yeah,

0:38:51.239 --> 0:38:53.040
<v Speaker 4>move through it feeling.

0:38:52.760 --> 0:38:53.640
<v Speaker 7>Thank you so much.

0:38:53.840 --> 0:38:56.520
<v Speaker 5>Yeah, I agree, you're going to be just fine. You're

0:38:56.520 --> 0:38:57.439
<v Speaker 5>going to be better than fine.

0:38:57.480 --> 0:38:59.040
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you are going to be better than fine. Not

0:38:59.120 --> 0:39:01.080
<v Speaker 2>right now, but very very soon.

0:39:01.400 --> 0:39:03.839
<v Speaker 7>Yeah, Chelsea, I obviously read your book as soon as

0:39:03.840 --> 0:39:06.040
<v Speaker 7>I came out Life Will Be the Death Knees what

0:39:06.080 --> 0:39:08.799
<v Speaker 7>got me to therapy in twenty nineteen, and so I

0:39:08.840 --> 0:39:12.320
<v Speaker 7>do think my ability to handle this has been because

0:39:12.360 --> 0:39:14.359
<v Speaker 7>of all that work in the last few years. And

0:39:14.800 --> 0:39:17.800
<v Speaker 7>I've even been rereading little bits of your book talking

0:39:17.800 --> 0:39:22.400
<v Speaker 7>about moving through heartache, and it's been very helpful. Amongst

0:39:22.440 --> 0:39:24.880
<v Speaker 7>everything else, it's been very helpful. And I can't express

0:39:24.960 --> 0:39:25.600
<v Speaker 7>enough how much.

0:39:26.360 --> 0:39:29.440
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I'm so glad. I'm so glad. I'm glad. We'll

0:39:29.480 --> 0:39:31.120
<v Speaker 1>take care of yourself.

0:39:30.800 --> 0:39:33.120
<v Speaker 3>And send me your resume, will Yeah, it passed along

0:39:33.160 --> 0:39:34.000
<v Speaker 3>the change for sure.

0:39:34.840 --> 0:39:35.799
<v Speaker 2>That's incredibly kind.

0:39:35.880 --> 0:39:36.200
<v Speaker 1>Thank you.

0:39:36.400 --> 0:39:39.399
<v Speaker 2>All so much. This is very just so lovely. Thank

0:39:39.440 --> 0:39:42.200
<v Speaker 2>you so much, Thanks Amanda, and thanks for joining us.

0:39:42.520 --> 0:39:43.840
<v Speaker 7>Thank you, thank you so much.

0:39:44.080 --> 0:39:46.359
<v Speaker 2>Bye, and you're really good at this too.

0:39:46.880 --> 0:39:48.640
<v Speaker 1>I know that was very compassionate. Yeah.

0:39:48.680 --> 0:39:50.960
<v Speaker 5>I love how stable she is and so normal, you know,

0:39:51.040 --> 0:39:53.120
<v Speaker 5>like I love how our listeners are normal and they're

0:39:53.160 --> 0:39:55.480
<v Speaker 5>like they can handle these situations. Like she's going to

0:39:55.560 --> 0:39:57.839
<v Speaker 5>be just fine. She should be counseling other people going

0:39:57.880 --> 0:39:58.600
<v Speaker 5>through breakups.

0:39:58.920 --> 0:39:59.080
<v Speaker 4>Well.

0:39:59.080 --> 0:40:02.480
<v Speaker 3>Our next color is Jonathan. Dear Chelsea, I need your

0:40:02.480 --> 0:40:05.040
<v Speaker 3>help getting unstuck. I'm in a job I have a

0:40:05.080 --> 0:40:07.600
<v Speaker 3>deep bond with working as a nanny to a child

0:40:07.680 --> 0:40:10.680
<v Speaker 3>with special needs, one that has given me financial stability

0:40:10.719 --> 0:40:13.200
<v Speaker 3>and a strong sense of purpose. But as much as

0:40:13.280 --> 0:40:15.239
<v Speaker 3>I love it, I know it's time to move on

0:40:15.560 --> 0:40:17.360
<v Speaker 3>to fully commit to my acting career.

0:40:18.000 --> 0:40:19.360
<v Speaker 2>The problem I feel.

0:40:19.160 --> 0:40:21.840
<v Speaker 3>Paralyzed by guilt over leaving something that has meant the

0:40:21.880 --> 0:40:24.239
<v Speaker 3>world to me. I worry about losing a part of

0:40:24.280 --> 0:40:27.359
<v Speaker 3>my identity and the people who've become my family. On

0:40:27.400 --> 0:40:29.800
<v Speaker 3>top of that, there's a financial risk. I have bills

0:40:29.800 --> 0:40:31.399
<v Speaker 3>to pay, and while I want to take the leap,

0:40:31.440 --> 0:40:33.360
<v Speaker 3>I also don't want to put myself in a situation

0:40:33.400 --> 0:40:34.879
<v Speaker 3>where I'm struggling just to get by.

0:40:35.440 --> 0:40:36.919
<v Speaker 2>That said, I've been putting in the work.

0:40:37.000 --> 0:40:39.040
<v Speaker 3>I've taken real steps to get my mental and physical

0:40:39.080 --> 0:40:41.960
<v Speaker 3>health together, and I've been submitting for everything I can

0:40:42.040 --> 0:40:42.960
<v Speaker 3>to open new doors.

0:40:43.320 --> 0:40:45.040
<v Speaker 2>I've worked hard to build a creative life.

0:40:45.080 --> 0:40:47.440
<v Speaker 3>I perform on stage, I dance, I even made a

0:40:47.480 --> 0:40:48.400
<v Speaker 3>name for myself.

0:40:48.080 --> 0:40:48.800
<v Speaker 2>In the drag world.

0:40:49.160 --> 0:40:51.000
<v Speaker 3>But I know I need to take bigger risks if

0:40:51.000 --> 0:40:53.319
<v Speaker 3>I want acting to be my main focus. I moved

0:40:53.320 --> 0:40:55.560
<v Speaker 3>to la from Iowa with two hundred and fifty bucks

0:40:55.600 --> 0:40:57.680
<v Speaker 3>to my name, and for the last seven years, I've

0:40:57.680 --> 0:40:59.960
<v Speaker 3>made it work as a gay man from a small town,

0:41:00.040 --> 0:41:03.480
<v Speaker 3>and I take pride that everything I've built has been entirely.

0:41:03.120 --> 0:41:03.759
<v Speaker 2>On my own.

0:41:04.120 --> 0:41:06.680
<v Speaker 3>I keep telling myself to be patient and trust the process,

0:41:06.760 --> 0:41:09.200
<v Speaker 3>but after turning thirty this past year, I feel like

0:41:09.200 --> 0:41:11.279
<v Speaker 3>I'm starting to lose my spark. I don't want to

0:41:11.280 --> 0:41:12.839
<v Speaker 3>give up, but I also don't want to wake up

0:41:12.840 --> 0:41:14.200
<v Speaker 3>one day and realize.

0:41:13.800 --> 0:41:15.000
<v Speaker 2>I played it too safe.

0:41:15.239 --> 0:41:17.560
<v Speaker 3>How do I take this leap without losing myself or

0:41:17.560 --> 0:41:19.040
<v Speaker 3>my rent money in the process?

0:41:19.280 --> 0:41:24.920
<v Speaker 5>Best Jonathan, Hi, Jonathan, Hello, how are we doing good?

0:41:25.040 --> 0:41:27.440
<v Speaker 5>We have another actor here on the show today. Ed

0:41:27.480 --> 0:41:28.760
<v Speaker 5>Helms is our special guest.

0:41:29.360 --> 0:41:34.120
<v Speaker 4>Oh wow, Hi Jonathan. Hello, Gosh. I know you're in

0:41:34.600 --> 0:41:38.000
<v Speaker 4>a difficult spot what feels like a crossroads, but you

0:41:38.080 --> 0:41:42.200
<v Speaker 4>have already made so many tough decisions and taken so

0:41:42.280 --> 0:41:45.760
<v Speaker 4>many risks. You have so much to be proud of already.

0:41:46.400 --> 0:41:49.080
<v Speaker 6>Thank you. I appreciate that. And you know, I think

0:41:49.120 --> 0:41:51.400
<v Speaker 6>that just these last couple of years, I feel like

0:41:51.520 --> 0:41:55.000
<v Speaker 6>I've the momentum, like something has kind of happened where

0:41:55.040 --> 0:41:56.440
<v Speaker 6>I just feel like I'm a little bit of a

0:41:56.800 --> 0:42:00.360
<v Speaker 6>functional freeze right now. And yeah, I'm just kind of

0:42:00.400 --> 0:42:03.239
<v Speaker 6>thinking about you know. I guess I was wanting to

0:42:03.320 --> 0:42:06.120
<v Speaker 6>kind of ask when you guys were starting out, what

0:42:06.200 --> 0:42:08.359
<v Speaker 6>kind of helped you get through to like take those

0:42:08.440 --> 0:42:13.000
<v Speaker 6>kind of risky steps towards making your passion like your

0:42:13.760 --> 0:42:16.880
<v Speaker 6>main source, you know. And I know that it's a process,

0:42:17.120 --> 0:42:18.719
<v Speaker 6>but I also, like I said, I have a deep

0:42:18.760 --> 0:42:22.560
<v Speaker 6>bond with this family and I don't necessarily want to

0:42:22.600 --> 0:42:23.480
<v Speaker 6>give that up either.

0:42:23.719 --> 0:42:27.120
<v Speaker 3>You know, so outside of acting, you're not feeling like

0:42:27.440 --> 0:42:28.879
<v Speaker 3>there's a need to leave the job.

0:42:28.920 --> 0:42:30.719
<v Speaker 2>It's more like the conflict between the two.

0:42:31.719 --> 0:42:35.200
<v Speaker 5>Yeah, yeah, is it an every day, five day week job.

0:42:35.840 --> 0:42:40.480
<v Speaker 4>It is Yes, I does this family that they're they're

0:42:40.520 --> 0:42:42.719
<v Speaker 4>aware of your acting ambitions or no?

0:42:43.600 --> 0:42:46.239
<v Speaker 6>No, Yes, they definitely are, Yeah, for sure.

0:42:46.080 --> 0:42:49.560
<v Speaker 4>And they and this this is a very positive and

0:42:49.640 --> 0:42:53.399
<v Speaker 4>nurturing relationship with this family. I assume they adore you

0:42:53.719 --> 0:42:54.400
<v Speaker 4>and appreciate it.

0:42:54.520 --> 0:42:57.400
<v Speaker 6>Yes, Yes, they feel like family for sure.

0:42:57.239 --> 0:43:01.000
<v Speaker 4>Which is amazing and an attribute to you. You and

0:43:01.680 --> 0:43:06.319
<v Speaker 4>I would also encourage you to explore the possibility dare

0:43:06.320 --> 0:43:10.160
<v Speaker 4>I say likelihood that this family wants you to thrive

0:43:10.640 --> 0:43:13.000
<v Speaker 4>and this family wants what's best for you as well.

0:43:13.080 --> 0:43:16.800
<v Speaker 4>Of course they depend on you in some very critical ways,

0:43:17.440 --> 0:43:22.320
<v Speaker 4>but it sounds like they also would not only be understanding,

0:43:22.560 --> 0:43:25.919
<v Speaker 4>but supportive. Is that a leap?

0:43:26.719 --> 0:43:29.200
<v Speaker 6>You know? I think that I think sometimes I have

0:43:29.280 --> 0:43:31.719
<v Speaker 6>to kind of get real with myself and realize that, like,

0:43:31.800 --> 0:43:34.680
<v Speaker 6>you know, I'm also here for a reason. And I

0:43:34.719 --> 0:43:36.759
<v Speaker 6>think that's kind of been the issue that I've been

0:43:36.840 --> 0:43:39.239
<v Speaker 6>working with. As you know, I've I've got a couple

0:43:39.280 --> 0:43:41.799
<v Speaker 6>gigs here and there, and those have been fine, But

0:43:42.239 --> 0:43:44.960
<v Speaker 6>I guess I really kind of it's kind of stopped

0:43:44.960 --> 0:43:48.239
<v Speaker 6>me from like pursuing something that would be like a

0:43:48.440 --> 0:43:50.919
<v Speaker 6>large block of time away from them, because I don't

0:43:50.960 --> 0:43:53.560
<v Speaker 6>know if you know that would be the case, if

0:43:54.000 --> 0:43:56.360
<v Speaker 6>you know, they'd be able to kind of keep me around,

0:43:56.480 --> 0:43:59.600
<v Speaker 6>And I think more so, I'm just like okay, like

0:43:59.840 --> 0:44:01.440
<v Speaker 6>I I know I need to take the next step,

0:44:01.640 --> 0:44:04.360
<v Speaker 6>and I've been really lucky with the opportunities that I've had,

0:44:04.520 --> 0:44:07.440
<v Speaker 6>but I just feel like I've been kind of in

0:44:07.520 --> 0:44:10.920
<v Speaker 6>this in between now for these last couple of years,

0:44:11.320 --> 0:44:13.720
<v Speaker 6>and I just it's.

0:44:13.640 --> 0:44:16.799
<v Speaker 5>Because you are in between, yeah, you know what I mean,

0:44:17.040 --> 0:44:19.600
<v Speaker 5>Like I understand, and it would be great if you

0:44:19.600 --> 0:44:22.200
<v Speaker 5>could work around your schedule and they could be accommodating

0:44:22.239 --> 0:44:25.000
<v Speaker 5>to you, but then you're still in between. Like when

0:44:25.000 --> 0:44:27.800
<v Speaker 5>you want to go for something, especially in this business,

0:44:27.920 --> 0:44:31.080
<v Speaker 5>you have to go like one hundred and fifty five

0:44:31.120 --> 0:44:35.360
<v Speaker 5>percent in that direction. You can't have like other side

0:44:35.400 --> 0:44:37.520
<v Speaker 5>gigs going on. You know, if you really want to

0:44:37.560 --> 0:44:40.080
<v Speaker 5>achieve this and this is your dream, you kind of

0:44:40.080 --> 0:44:42.400
<v Speaker 5>have to go full throttle. It's like a fucking bowling

0:44:42.440 --> 0:44:44.920
<v Speaker 5>ball down a hallway, like nothing is going to get

0:44:44.960 --> 0:44:47.719
<v Speaker 5>in your way until you get to your goal, and

0:44:47.760 --> 0:44:49.560
<v Speaker 5>then that goal leads to the next thing, and that

0:44:49.680 --> 0:44:51.839
<v Speaker 5>job leads to the next job. So you do kind

0:44:51.880 --> 0:44:54.560
<v Speaker 5>of have to throw everything you have at what you

0:44:54.680 --> 0:44:58.440
<v Speaker 5>want in order to obtain that and attain it. And

0:44:58.480 --> 0:45:00.239
<v Speaker 5>so I get that part, and I think, I think

0:45:00.239 --> 0:45:02.560
<v Speaker 5>this stuff. It would be great if they could be

0:45:03.080 --> 0:45:06.000
<v Speaker 5>malleable and work around you. I don't know how realistic

0:45:06.080 --> 0:45:08.960
<v Speaker 5>that is. Is it realistic for them to like work

0:45:09.080 --> 0:45:11.759
<v Speaker 5>with your schedule and give you the opportunities you need

0:45:11.800 --> 0:45:14.640
<v Speaker 5>to go and seek auditions? Like how does that work

0:45:14.680 --> 0:45:16.880
<v Speaker 5>with a child with special needs? You can't just bring

0:45:17.000 --> 0:45:17.400
<v Speaker 5>a lot.

0:45:17.440 --> 0:45:20.080
<v Speaker 6>So that's kind of the difficult thing. They are amazing

0:45:20.120 --> 0:45:24.280
<v Speaker 6>co parents, but they both have very high level jobs

0:45:24.280 --> 0:45:26.680
<v Speaker 6>that require a lot of time away, you know, and

0:45:26.719 --> 0:45:29.640
<v Speaker 6>I think they rely on me a lot more than

0:45:29.960 --> 0:45:33.640
<v Speaker 6>you know. Maybe is it healthy. But I'm kind of

0:45:33.680 --> 0:45:37.080
<v Speaker 6>okay with that. And I think that i i because

0:45:37.120 --> 0:45:39.920
<v Speaker 6>of like the connection that I've built. I just feel

0:45:39.920 --> 0:45:44.160
<v Speaker 6>like I'm torn between what's right for me, like taking

0:45:44.200 --> 0:45:48.560
<v Speaker 6>those steps to advocate for myself, you know, because I

0:45:48.600 --> 0:45:51.680
<v Speaker 6>feel like I'm just kind of a third parent at

0:45:51.680 --> 0:45:52.120
<v Speaker 6>this point.

0:45:52.760 --> 0:45:55.640
<v Speaker 3>Well, I think what happens a lot with caregivers, whether

0:45:55.680 --> 0:45:58.799
<v Speaker 3>that's hired caregiver, family caregiver, is like it feels like

0:45:58.840 --> 0:46:01.840
<v Speaker 3>it's all on one person. It's on the main caregiver.

0:46:01.920 --> 0:46:05.560
<v Speaker 3>Which right now is you so because the parents can't

0:46:05.600 --> 0:46:07.839
<v Speaker 3>be someone to like take a day off and take

0:46:07.880 --> 0:46:11.080
<v Speaker 3>care of the child when when you're unavailable so you

0:46:11.080 --> 0:46:12.960
<v Speaker 3>have to go to an audition or you know, if

0:46:12.960 --> 0:46:15.160
<v Speaker 3>you do get a longer term gig, like in a

0:46:15.160 --> 0:46:17.160
<v Speaker 3>play or something like that, that you can't be there

0:46:17.200 --> 0:46:20.080
<v Speaker 3>every day, it maybe worth sitting down with them and

0:46:20.200 --> 0:46:22.960
<v Speaker 3>proposing another solution, which is like, I want to be

0:46:23.000 --> 0:46:25.840
<v Speaker 3>the main person, but like, let's bring in a specific

0:46:25.880 --> 0:46:28.560
<v Speaker 3>other person who can be kind of on call, who

0:46:28.560 --> 0:46:30.520
<v Speaker 3>we can call on on those days when like I

0:46:30.560 --> 0:46:32.319
<v Speaker 3>know I need to go drive across town to an

0:46:32.320 --> 0:46:34.960
<v Speaker 3>audition or I need to do something else. And it

0:46:35.320 --> 0:46:37.040
<v Speaker 3>just feels like if we if we feel that sort

0:46:37.040 --> 0:46:39.640
<v Speaker 3>of missing system, then you have a little bit more

0:46:39.680 --> 0:46:41.239
<v Speaker 3>freedom to do what.

0:46:41.200 --> 0:46:43.880
<v Speaker 6>You need to do right And you know, it's funny,

0:46:43.880 --> 0:46:46.919
<v Speaker 6>I actually just kind of brought that up to them.

0:46:47.320 --> 0:46:49.640
<v Speaker 6>So I feel like I'm taking steps in the right direction,

0:46:49.880 --> 0:46:53.399
<v Speaker 6>you know, but I just want to feel unstuck. Yeah,

0:46:53.560 --> 0:46:55.719
<v Speaker 6>I think that That's kind of where I'm at right now,

0:46:55.840 --> 0:46:58.960
<v Speaker 6>is just feeling like, ah, like you know, I'm I'm

0:46:58.960 --> 0:47:00.759
<v Speaker 6>really proud of how far I've come, and I feel

0:47:00.800 --> 0:47:03.480
<v Speaker 6>like I can recognize that, but I also want to

0:47:03.520 --> 0:47:06.759
<v Speaker 6>push myself in the other direction, you know, and I

0:47:06.760 --> 0:47:08.719
<v Speaker 6>want to keep the momentum going, and I just feel

0:47:08.719 --> 0:47:11.239
<v Speaker 6>like I've lost that, and so I think I just

0:47:12.400 --> 0:47:15.359
<v Speaker 6>I don't know, I just feel stuck right now.

0:47:15.560 --> 0:47:17.839
<v Speaker 5>And I think a great solution would also be for

0:47:17.880 --> 0:47:19.960
<v Speaker 5>you to be the person in charge of training the

0:47:20.040 --> 0:47:22.879
<v Speaker 5>new person and bringing them in so that will free

0:47:22.960 --> 0:47:25.279
<v Speaker 5>up so, you know, like once you get them situated

0:47:25.560 --> 0:47:28.560
<v Speaker 5>and understanding of like all of the dynamics and all

0:47:28.600 --> 0:47:30.840
<v Speaker 5>of the things that need to happen each day and

0:47:30.880 --> 0:47:33.759
<v Speaker 5>the relationship, Like, once you get that situated, then you'll

0:47:33.760 --> 0:47:35.920
<v Speaker 5>have time to like kind of float in and float

0:47:36.000 --> 0:47:39.319
<v Speaker 5>out of the job when needed. And how were they

0:47:39.360 --> 0:47:41.359
<v Speaker 5>responsive to you when you brought this up to them?

0:47:42.000 --> 0:47:45.160
<v Speaker 6>Yeah, they were, they were responsive, but I think they

0:47:45.239 --> 0:47:48.600
<v Speaker 6>really struggled. I don't think they've ever had anyone as

0:47:48.640 --> 0:47:50.960
<v Speaker 6>long as they've had me and the bond that I

0:47:51.040 --> 0:47:55.839
<v Speaker 6>have with their child, and I'm nervous that it's going

0:47:55.920 --> 0:47:58.520
<v Speaker 6>to be kind of hard to find somebody that can

0:47:58.560 --> 0:47:58.920
<v Speaker 6>match that.

0:48:00.280 --> 0:48:01.239
<v Speaker 1>It will be.

0:48:01.719 --> 0:48:05.480
<v Speaker 4>But also you can be the as Chelsea said, like

0:48:05.600 --> 0:48:10.399
<v Speaker 4>be the constructive part of this transition. You know, lay

0:48:10.440 --> 0:48:16.000
<v Speaker 4>the groundwork for the transition. Be the person who's really

0:48:16.040 --> 0:48:20.040
<v Speaker 4>like leading the search for this new person, have a

0:48:20.160 --> 0:48:24.240
<v Speaker 4>heavy overlap with them in a training sort of almost

0:48:24.280 --> 0:48:28.120
<v Speaker 4>like an apprentice process perhaps. And then and then the

0:48:28.160 --> 0:48:31.600
<v Speaker 4>other thing to keep in mind is that this relationship

0:48:31.600 --> 0:48:35.600
<v Speaker 4>with this family and this child that clearly means so

0:48:35.880 --> 0:48:39.319
<v Speaker 4>much to you and to them and the child, it

0:48:39.360 --> 0:48:44.560
<v Speaker 4>doesn't go away with you thriving in another area. If

0:48:44.600 --> 0:48:48.840
<v Speaker 4>you start to really you know, get more work in

0:48:48.840 --> 0:48:53.959
<v Speaker 4>the acting space and your career starts to blossom, they're

0:48:54.080 --> 0:48:58.279
<v Speaker 4>still there and they still care about you. And it's

0:48:58.400 --> 0:49:03.160
<v Speaker 4>not like a breakup. It's a it's just branches of

0:49:03.200 --> 0:49:06.120
<v Speaker 4>a tree kind of maybe growing apart, but they're still

0:49:06.160 --> 0:49:09.920
<v Speaker 4>attached to the trunk. And you've built so much with

0:49:10.080 --> 0:49:12.600
<v Speaker 4>this family. It sounds like this, this is a very

0:49:12.680 --> 0:49:18.600
<v Speaker 4>poignant moment, and I can sense your your struggle, But

0:49:19.000 --> 0:49:21.880
<v Speaker 4>just remember that the struggle you're feeling is rooted in

0:49:21.960 --> 0:49:26.279
<v Speaker 4>how much love there is in this family unit that

0:49:26.320 --> 0:49:30.319
<v Speaker 4>you're a part of now. And I think you're you

0:49:30.440 --> 0:49:33.520
<v Speaker 4>keep checking, you keep saying things that make it clear

0:49:34.040 --> 0:49:38.480
<v Speaker 4>that this transition feels necessary, it feels important. And then

0:49:38.960 --> 0:49:41.800
<v Speaker 4>the question starts to become. So what are the steps

0:49:41.920 --> 0:49:43.759
<v Speaker 4>and what are the how do I manage it? And

0:49:43.800 --> 0:49:45.680
<v Speaker 4>how do I do it in a way that's responsible

0:49:46.040 --> 0:49:48.800
<v Speaker 4>and loving to these people I care so much about,

0:49:49.320 --> 0:49:51.279
<v Speaker 4>and that might that's going to take some work, and

0:49:51.320 --> 0:49:54.080
<v Speaker 4>it will be hard, and it'll be painful at times.

0:49:54.160 --> 0:49:58.960
<v Speaker 4>They'll be the emotional pain of the separation eventually, whenever hot,

0:49:59.000 --> 0:50:03.840
<v Speaker 4>whatever form it takes will be hard. But also the

0:50:03.880 --> 0:50:08.240
<v Speaker 4>you thriving and and pursuing this thing that you literally

0:50:08.360 --> 0:50:11.680
<v Speaker 4>came here to do, or at least taking that risk

0:50:12.000 --> 0:50:15.680
<v Speaker 4>and taking that jump. I'm hearing that that feels very critical.

0:50:16.320 --> 0:50:19.080
<v Speaker 6>It does. It does, and I think that I feel

0:50:19.080 --> 0:50:21.400
<v Speaker 6>like through the pandemic, I just kind of lost my

0:50:21.440 --> 0:50:23.239
<v Speaker 6>spark a little bit. I mean, like I said, I

0:50:23.560 --> 0:50:25.520
<v Speaker 6>moved here with nothing and I just kind of made

0:50:25.520 --> 0:50:29.000
<v Speaker 6>it work. And you know, I think I'm trying to

0:50:29.160 --> 0:50:33.680
<v Speaker 6>rediscover that that part of me right and understand that,

0:50:33.880 --> 0:50:36.719
<v Speaker 6>Like I've been really lucky to not really kind of

0:50:36.719 --> 0:50:40.200
<v Speaker 6>fall on my face, but I'm nervous, I think right

0:50:40.239 --> 0:50:44.200
<v Speaker 6>now about especially like with just the economy and everything

0:50:44.840 --> 0:50:47.600
<v Speaker 6>the world is right now to kind of take that leap.

0:50:48.200 --> 0:50:51.440
<v Speaker 6>But I feel and you know, my heart and my

0:50:51.520 --> 0:50:55.520
<v Speaker 6>body that it's it's ready to I'm ready to do that,

0:50:55.640 --> 0:50:59.800
<v Speaker 6>you know. Good right, good, awesome, Well, thank you guys

0:50:59.800 --> 0:51:00.440
<v Speaker 6>so much.

0:51:00.719 --> 0:51:03.600
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, thanks for calling in, Jonathan. Good job, well done.

0:51:03.640 --> 0:51:05.880
<v Speaker 5>I mean, you can always maintain that relationship, you know

0:51:05.920 --> 0:51:08.560
<v Speaker 5>what I mean, always regardless of whether you're their point

0:51:08.560 --> 0:51:11.520
<v Speaker 5>person or his main caregiver or not, you can always

0:51:11.600 --> 0:51:14.920
<v Speaker 5>you know, create a long standing relationship with and maintain

0:51:14.960 --> 0:51:16.960
<v Speaker 5>a long standing relationship with that family.

0:51:17.960 --> 0:51:20.160
<v Speaker 6>Right, Yeah, Well, thank you so much, Chelsea. I really

0:51:20.160 --> 0:51:23.600
<v Speaker 6>appreciate it. Okay, Yeah, I just I really, I mean,

0:51:23.760 --> 0:51:27.000
<v Speaker 6>this podcast has done so much for me. Your episode

0:51:27.040 --> 0:51:30.480
<v Speaker 6>with Cody Rigsby about all the body issues really kind

0:51:30.480 --> 0:51:32.719
<v Speaker 6>of healed something in me. And I just appreciate the

0:51:32.760 --> 0:51:33.480
<v Speaker 6>work you guys are doing.

0:51:33.480 --> 0:51:35.160
<v Speaker 1>You're that love that, Jonathan.

0:51:35.640 --> 0:51:36.520
<v Speaker 6>Okay, thank you guys.

0:51:36.640 --> 0:51:40.760
<v Speaker 5>Have a great day and good luck with everything. Thank you, okay,

0:51:40.760 --> 0:51:42.920
<v Speaker 5>and we'll be right back to wrap up with Ed Helms.

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<v Speaker 5>Please tag me for the special because I get so

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<v Speaker 5>many tags about my books, but I'm not getting as

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<v Speaker 5>many about my special, and my special is the newest

0:51:49.760 --> 0:51:51.440
<v Speaker 5>thing out, so I want to make sure all my

0:51:51.600 --> 0:51:54.319
<v Speaker 5>Ardent fans are watching it. And tagging me and I'll

0:51:54.320 --> 0:52:01.880
<v Speaker 5>repost you. And yes, it's called the Feeling. And we're

0:52:01.960 --> 0:52:06.200
<v Speaker 5>back with Ed Helms, whose newest project is called.

0:52:06.200 --> 0:52:08.479
<v Speaker 1>Is a book. He has a podcast by the same name.

0:52:08.920 --> 0:52:12.879
<v Speaker 5>It's called Snapfoo The Definitive Guide to History's Greatest screw Ups.

0:52:12.920 --> 0:52:15.839
<v Speaker 5>It's a great gift for all of you readers out there.

0:52:15.960 --> 0:52:18.200
<v Speaker 5>It's a great book to put by your pool, put

0:52:18.239 --> 0:52:21.200
<v Speaker 5>by your toilet, put on your coffee.

0:52:20.760 --> 0:52:22.840
<v Speaker 4>Table, anything liquid related.

0:52:23.200 --> 0:52:25.799
<v Speaker 5>Any yes, anytime you're around liquid, we want you to

0:52:25.800 --> 0:52:28.160
<v Speaker 5>pick up the book and read a couple of chapters.

0:52:28.440 --> 0:52:32.200
<v Speaker 5>It's fascinating and entertaining, just like Ed Helms himself. Ed,

0:52:32.320 --> 0:52:35.040
<v Speaker 5>you have been an incredible guest today. You are very

0:52:35.040 --> 0:52:37.480
<v Speaker 5>helpful to all of our callers and I am so grateful.

0:52:37.960 --> 0:52:41.080
<v Speaker 4>Well, this has been a blast. This is Yes, it's

0:52:41.120 --> 0:52:44.080
<v Speaker 4>it's really amazing to hear these people call in and

0:52:44.320 --> 0:52:48.000
<v Speaker 4>just talk about how much you have affected them. Chelsea, Oh,

0:52:48.040 --> 0:52:52.280
<v Speaker 4>I know it's you. You have some superpowers for sure.

0:52:52.680 --> 0:52:53.279
<v Speaker 1>Thank you, Ed.

0:52:53.400 --> 0:52:55.400
<v Speaker 5>Thank you with such a pleasure to see you twice

0:52:55.400 --> 0:52:56.760
<v Speaker 5>in like three weeks.

0:52:56.800 --> 0:52:57.279
<v Speaker 1>I love this.

0:52:57.440 --> 0:52:59.480
<v Speaker 4>I know me too. Let's do it you.

0:52:59.520 --> 0:53:01.680
<v Speaker 1>I'll see you by the next toilet or swimming pool.

0:53:01.719 --> 0:53:03.000
<v Speaker 1>That'll be you bump into each other.

0:53:03.000 --> 0:53:05.719
<v Speaker 4>Bye, all right, thanks so much.

0:53:05.640 --> 0:53:07.319
<v Speaker 1>Okay, take care bye bye bye.

0:53:07.800 --> 0:53:12.600
<v Speaker 5>Do do do do do drum roll, Catherine, please and

0:53:12.680 --> 0:53:17.080
<v Speaker 5>abroad broad is my European tour. So I'm coming to

0:53:18.239 --> 0:53:19.240
<v Speaker 5>obviously find.

0:53:19.000 --> 0:53:19.840
<v Speaker 1>A husband abroad.

0:53:20.239 --> 0:53:23.360
<v Speaker 5>I need to get the health out of this fucking country.

0:53:23.960 --> 0:53:26.759
<v Speaker 5>And it's not as easy as you think. So I'm

0:53:26.760 --> 0:53:30.440
<v Speaker 5>coming to Rekuvik. I'm coming to Dublin. I'm coming to

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<v Speaker 5>the UK. I'm coming to Brussels, Paris, Belfast.

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<v Speaker 1>In May and June.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm coming to Oslo, Stockholm, to Copenhagen, Manchester, London, Glasgow,

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<v Speaker 5>New Zurich, Vienna. I've never ever been to Vienna, Berlin, Barcelona,

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<v Speaker 5>and Lisbon. I'm coming abroad is abroad that.

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<v Speaker 2>Sounds like fun.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to go see you abroad. I know I

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<v Speaker 1>want to go.

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<v Speaker 5>See me abroad and there all be there, all be excellent.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay.

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<v Speaker 5>My remaining dates for Vegas, there are remaining dates for

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<v Speaker 5>this year. Summertime is coming and I will be in

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<v Speaker 5>Vegas at the Cosmo doing my residency on July fifth.

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<v Speaker 5>We will be the next date that I'm there, July fifth,

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<v Speaker 5>August thirtieth.

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<v Speaker 1>And then November one and twenty ninth.

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<v Speaker 5>November one and November twenty ninth, I will be in

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<v Speaker 5>Las Vegas at the Cosmo performing Inside Myself at the Chelsea.

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<v Speaker 1>It's called Chelsea at the Chelsea for a reason. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>thank you.

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