Speaker 1: This is How Men Think with brooks Like and Gavin
Speaker 1: to grow and I heard radio podcast Welcome to How
Speaker 1: Men Think, a podcast where we dive inside the unique
Speaker 1: minds of good stars like you, Mr Gavin Degras and
Speaker 1: you Brooks. I appreciate it. My name is brooks Like
Speaker 1: and with us today flying in from Nashville. Let's let's
Speaker 1: I want to tip my cap to you, my friend. Hey,
Speaker 1: come on, I want to tip my cap to you.
Speaker 1: For me to be here, your commitment to the podcast.
Speaker 1: Gavin guy know he lives in Nashville and travels here
Speaker 1: to l A to record this. So Amy said we're
Speaker 1: going to do it without you, and I pushed back
Speaker 1: and I said, no chance in how we're doing a podcast.
Speaker 1: Thank you for your loyalty. Amy didn't mean to throw
Speaker 1: Amy under the bus, Like I know you have a
Speaker 1: lot of travel in your life, my man, and that
Speaker 1: you have tour this summer, and so I just want
Speaker 1: to say on behalf of the guys. We appreciate you. Try.
Speaker 1: Thank you, man. I'm so happy to be here. You
Speaker 1: kidding me? I was like me, man, I'm just looking
Speaker 1: forward to this very much. It was good to see
Speaker 1: some of my favorite male faces. Yes, he didn't say
Speaker 1: he didn't say personalities, but he said it faces for radio. Also,
Speaker 1: I want to acknowledge Rick, my cat Rick. So Rick
Speaker 1: also travels down to l A from Oakland each week
Speaker 1: for the show. Uh and he's married to kids, got
Speaker 1: a full time job. So the commitment of these two
Speaker 1: good sirs to bring you this podcast is exceptional. I mean,
Speaker 1: so I'm still tipping it more in Gavin's favor, but
Speaker 1: sure it's nice that you can, but you still need
Speaker 1: to get on the public bus of airline and Ryan
Speaker 1: Ryan's Ryan drove like four miles to get here. Guys,
Speaker 1: that's very possible. Cat more to me and Dmitri runs
Speaker 1: this place. So I don't know what that means, but
Speaker 1: thank you. Yeah here, I'll tell you that once a day.
Speaker 1: See if we can get you a raise from Amy.
Speaker 1: Uh No. But we have an interesting show here, gentlemen,
Speaker 1: really super interesting topic. Today. We are answering questions from
Speaker 1: our audience. We like that, we like that, we like
Speaker 1: the audience. First, yeah, we have an audience. We did
Speaker 1: all right, it says first question from Rick. That can't
Speaker 1: be right. So just to everybody listening, we have an
Speaker 1: email address that many of you have reached out. We've
Speaker 1: received a ton of emails already. Men at I Heart
Speaker 1: radio dot com is where you can send your emails
Speaker 1: and we'll always dive into questions from listeners on this show. Uh,
Speaker 1: we have questions from that email. We also have questions
Speaker 1: that you guys have sent us on our Instagram page
Speaker 1: at how Men Think podcast on Instagram. And we're gonna
Speaker 1: get into our first question. This is called That's what
Speaker 1: he said. These are our answers to questions from listeners,
Speaker 1: male and female. The first question is from Katie. She says,
Speaker 1: do men feel the same press pressure as women to
Speaker 1: marry and have children? Especially as we get older? Who's
Speaker 1: aged in here looking at you, buddy? Do men feel
Speaker 1: the same pressure women? Think? Uh? Do men feel the
Speaker 1: same pressure? I think that men feel feel pressure, but
Speaker 1: they don't feel the same level of of it being
Speaker 1: the timeline that women feel. And it's simply due to
Speaker 1: the way we're built physically, you know, we're just Uh.
Speaker 1: I think men's timeline just in general is longer than
Speaker 1: women for giving, you know, for making a family, starting
Speaker 1: a family. So what age would you say that you
Speaker 1: just science? I get you pregnant, right, now I've been snipped.
Speaker 1: So here's a question, in your mind, what what age
Speaker 1: do you think a woman starts to feel pressure to
Speaker 1: marry and have a family in what age do you
Speaker 1: think a man generally does Just generally speaking, generally speaking,
Speaker 1: I think I think when I think, oh, from all
Speaker 1: my conversations with buddies of mind they being, etcetera, it
Speaker 1: sounds like late twenties is when women start really feeling it, um,
Speaker 1: talking about it, really getting serious about it. And I
Speaker 1: think that just that can go much, much, much longer
Speaker 1: for men in general. There's some guys who say, oh,
Speaker 1: I want to be a young dad, right, but what's
Speaker 1: considered a young dad now has gotten sort of old,
Speaker 1: you know, compared to what the old standards were. Um,
Speaker 1: so what's considered a young dad now? In your mind? Five?
Speaker 1: Probably that's still considered a young dad, you know, which
Speaker 1: classically speaking, is about fifteen years older than it was
Speaker 1: a generation and a half ago. And that's that's the
Speaker 1: age I was when I had my first Great what
Speaker 1: were you? I was thirty two two and Ryan thirty
Speaker 1: five when you had your first So I just turned
Speaker 1: thirty six, uh, and I I could still go easily
Speaker 1: another three or four years, probably without kids. I still
Speaker 1: feel like I'm fifteen, right, so, but I think I
Speaker 1: would agree with you. I think for so for Katie's question,
Speaker 1: do men feel the same pressure, I think we do
Speaker 1: feel pressure. As I got to know dat about it,
Speaker 1: I got to be thirty, I was looking for more
Speaker 1: fulfillment and purpose and happiness in my life. Uh so
Speaker 1: I was looking for the life partner. I wasn't looking
Speaker 1: to have kids so much. And still I want to
Speaker 1: have kids. I want to have a family. I look
Speaker 1: up to you gentlemen for her families. But I don't
Speaker 1: feel the pressure right now to do it. So I
Speaker 1: would agree with you that I think men can get
Speaker 1: to almost forty before they really feel The comment that
Speaker 1: Gavin made about being an old dad, I think it
Speaker 1: is an important one. So for you, do you you
Speaker 1: know you played hockey your whole life. You probably want
Speaker 1: to be able to play hockey with your kid. Does
Speaker 1: that ever factor into your mind where you say, if
Speaker 1: I wait ten years, am I going to be able
Speaker 1: to actually get out on the ice and skate with
Speaker 1: him in his formative playing years in high school? Or
Speaker 1: or not thinking that far? That doesn't honestly that doesn't
Speaker 1: weigh on me at all because I believe I'm going
Speaker 1: to be so active in my life that even when
Speaker 1: I'm eighty, I'll still be active. So I don't worry
Speaker 1: about having kids now because my level of activity or
Speaker 1: physicality is going to diminish. I don't worry about that
Speaker 1: at all. I'm more just want to do it when
Speaker 1: I feel comfortable with my life. And my wife and
Speaker 1: I are starting to start talking about kids, like we're
Speaker 1: not talking about do we want to have kids right now,
Speaker 1: but we're like, Okay, when when would we want to
Speaker 1: have kids? Like we should maybe open that conversation. But
Speaker 1: being able to be I still think I'm going to
Speaker 1: be extremely active later, very late in my life. It's
Speaker 1: just how I'm wired. And would you mind playing would
Speaker 1: you mind playing hockey with my kids? Because I don't
Speaker 1: feel like I can't really do it, so I think
Speaker 1: you can man a couple lessons. I know a guy
Speaker 1: can get you a lessons. I'll tell you this though.
Speaker 1: When I was younger, for some reason, I always had
Speaker 1: in my head I always knew that I wanted to
Speaker 1: have kids, and I always knew that I want to
Speaker 1: get married, and I didn't necessarily think I didn't want
Speaker 1: to do it like in my early twenties or anything
Speaker 1: like that. But I guess in the back of my mind,
Speaker 1: I was always looking. I was always thinking, like, I know,
Speaker 1: there's going to be someone and when that time comes,
Speaker 1: that's where it will be. And then I kind of
Speaker 1: forgot about it for a little while and I was
Speaker 1: It's not like I was obsessed with it, but in
Speaker 1: my mind I knew that that's what I wanted. So
Speaker 1: when I actually when I met my wife, um, I
Speaker 1: kind of I kind of knew right away. We didn't
Speaker 1: it was a weird time at the you know, when
Speaker 1: we met, so we didn't start dating right away, but
Speaker 1: I kind of knew that that was that was it,
Speaker 1: and from then on and the rest just felt natural.
Speaker 1: And then we were married for a few years. We
Speaker 1: dated for a few years, were married for a few years. Then,
Speaker 1: like you were saying, Brookes, it just seemed like the
Speaker 1: right time too to then have kids. Oh here's a question, though,
Speaker 1: you asked me, pressure desire, right, Yes, so I don't
Speaker 1: want to I don't want to get those two conflicted.
Speaker 1: And the desires always always existed for you, yeah, of course,
Speaker 1: but but pressure is a different thing. Okay, So I
Speaker 1: could I ask you, like to be open and genuine
Speaker 1: author like, do you right now you're forty correct forty two? Uh?
Speaker 1: Do you feel pressure to start having a family now?
Speaker 1: Starting to feel that? Yeah? But just because you know
Speaker 1: you you start thinking, oh, well, what would a full
Speaker 1: life be like? Etcetera, et etcetera. And I and my
Speaker 1: father always talks about, oh, when I had kids, it
Speaker 1: was the greatest time in my life. And this and
Speaker 1: that a lot of people talk about talk about that.
Speaker 1: A lot of a lot of men talk about that
Speaker 1: it was the greatest time in my life. You know. Um,
Speaker 1: so I feel I feel some of that. I feel
Speaker 1: a little bit of that pressure just because i'm you know,
Speaker 1: I'm deep into my adulthood now, you know, I'm not one,
Speaker 1: you know, Katie, that was awesome. Appreciate that question. Onto
Speaker 1: Katie has one more so, Katie, that's we're gonna skip one.
Speaker 1: We're gonna go to this one. Katie really wants to know,
Speaker 1: and she typed it in here. The most important question
Speaker 1: Dick Picks discussed confess have you sent them? Why? Gavin,
Speaker 1: do you send them? Women are really baffled. Please clear
Speaker 1: this up. Dick picks. Raise your hand if you have
Speaker 1: sent one. I have never sent one, never sent one.
Speaker 1: I have never sent one, not recently. I only send
Speaker 1: them to myself. I only send them to myself, just
Speaker 1: selfies and selfie modes to me, like, yeah, totally. It
Speaker 1: just makes my hands look bigger man. So okay, So
Speaker 1: the consensus is, uh, this group. I mean, I have
Speaker 1: to interject here. I have to two parts of this.
Speaker 1: I feel like dick picks are sort of the new
Speaker 1: up and coming thing for you know, having a relationship
Speaker 1: in the new age of being online and being on
Speaker 1: Snapchat or Facebook or whatever. That's just kind of the
Speaker 1: new way of what kids who are either you know,
Speaker 1: about to have sex. That's kind of their way of communicating.
Speaker 1: I hate to say it, but that's how I feel
Speaker 1: that they're communicating back and forth. So like they're sending
Speaker 1: a dick pick and she's sending something back or vice versa. Right,
Speaker 1: Which the second part of what I want to say
Speaker 1: was I don't think that really right, you know, like
Speaker 1: me being a responsible father and having a thirteen year old, like,
Speaker 1: the last thing I want is for him to be
Speaker 1: sending dick picks a because it's practically illegal, like if
Speaker 1: you get a dick pick from or a pick from
Speaker 1: of one of your friends friends and he forwards that on, like,
Speaker 1: you can't not do that criminal charges, right, So, um,
Speaker 1: I think Katie, it's an excellent question, and I think
Speaker 1: where you're going with it is just kind of the
Speaker 1: generalized thing of like who sends dick picks, and that's
Speaker 1: kind of the fun side of it. But I think
Speaker 1: the serious side of it also is, you know, what
Speaker 1: at what point is this accepted in society and what
Speaker 1: point can what age is appropriate? I guess really, you know.
Speaker 1: I also want to thank Katie for keeping it classy
Speaker 1: dressing up the show. Let me ask you, guys to
Speaker 1: have any of your significant others, and it can be
Speaker 1: a wife or a girlfriend asked you to send one
Speaker 1: that you've just chosen not to, or you've never been
Speaker 1: approached asking. Sadly, no one has ever asked me for
Speaker 1: a dick pick, Dmitri. I just asked you this yesterday.
Speaker 1: I did not. I read that the wrong one wrong.
Speaker 1: I have never been asked by my wife and I've
Speaker 1: never asked my wife to send me those either. Um.
Speaker 1: I think both of us sort of have a fear
Speaker 1: that somehow our phones could get hacked or so would
Speaker 1: be that would be an issue, that would really be
Speaker 1: an issue. Well, that's where I feel like it's this
Speaker 1: is a newer generational way of communicating and and having,
Speaker 1: you know, exposing yourself, right, you know so, and it's
Speaker 1: not good in my mind, you know, I feel like
Speaker 1: past go ahead, Yeah, I have I have a buddy,
Speaker 1: one of my best friends in the world. I got
Speaker 1: out of practice one day and it was like ten
Speaker 1: thirty am and I got out of practice. Check my
Speaker 1: phone and one of my best friends in the world
Speaker 1: sent me a text and this is all it said.
Speaker 1: I sent five dick picks before nine am today. That
Speaker 1: was all it said. So, like, it half opens a lot.
Speaker 1: Why don't we let Tori she's twenty four. So this
Speaker 1: is our producer, Tori. She's twenty four, and she's gonna
Speaker 1: give you guys like the twenty four year old input. Well,
Speaker 1: I think dick picks became a thing once. Um, snapchat
Speaker 1: became a thing because then it was like, oh, it
Speaker 1: goes away in like two seconds. So I would randomly
Speaker 1: like sometimes get things. This happened more in college. Um,
Speaker 1: you like open up a Snapchat and you're like, what
Speaker 1: am I looking at? And then you're like, okay, yeah,
Speaker 1: this is for sure zone's penis and then and then
Speaker 1: it goes away and you're kind of like that was weird,
Speaker 1: and then they would kind of like side message you.
Speaker 1: And I think that kind of became a thing. And
Speaker 1: I know that in high school they were like scandals pictures,
Speaker 1: but I think that social media has now been given
Speaker 1: this more of an opportunity for people, because now you
Speaker 1: can literally send like naked photos to somebody over Instagram
Speaker 1: and like DM them. So I kind of feel like
Speaker 1: it's it's not I think it's I wouldn't enjoy this.
Speaker 1: I didn't enjoy it when I've gotten it, But um,
Speaker 1: I think that it's way more of a thing now,
Speaker 1: like you face time and you do like naked. Are
Speaker 1: we also missing the point that it's not an attractive photo.
Speaker 1: We're not talking about like you think of a picture
Speaker 1: of what you like. Yeah, I mean, like I'm just
Speaker 1: going to be bold, and I hope my mom's not listening,
Speaker 1: but I hope the right circumstances, everybody listen. Don't tune
Speaker 1: now because Amy said don't listen to I think in
Speaker 1: the right circumstances, it can be like a turn on.
Speaker 1: And I'm just gonna say that question, when was the
Speaker 1: last dick pick you got? How are you looking at
Speaker 1: your phone? I have to think on that like recently,
Speaker 1: this month, this month? What what circumcisions would those be? Exactly?
Speaker 1: I have? Okay, so sorry, I gotta get some guts here.
Speaker 1: My hands are clamming there. What about like sexting? Uh,
Speaker 1: That's why I was pointing out that I think that
Speaker 1: dick pick is. I don't think that like there was
Speaker 1: sexting like a couple of days ago. Okay, Okay, this
Speaker 1: is so can I go? Yeah, you can go. So
Speaker 1: I've received in my d M s a dick pick
Speaker 1: before on Instagram. I've received it from me. It was
Speaker 1: like Brooks, I love you on the show, bro, how
Speaker 1: long did it take you to zoom in this picture
Speaker 1: like a microphone? But it is like I don't know
Speaker 1: how girls handled because it was a startling. I saw
Speaker 1: it and I'm like, whoa, it's startling, Tori saking her head. No,
Speaker 1: it's just a straight up Okay. So I guess what
Speaker 1: I'm kind of going through in my mind is, oh god,
Speaker 1: I really hope my mom's not listening. But I think
Speaker 1: I would send a photo that's sort of classy when
Speaker 1: the other when we're texting back and forth, I'm not
Speaker 1: sure I had a weird like, Oh, I hope he
Speaker 1: doesn't send it back because that would be aggressive a little.
Speaker 1: I don't. I'm having a hard time. I think a
Speaker 1: girl sending up sort of a photo is easier on
Speaker 1: everybody's eyes than the guy sending the photo. I think
Speaker 1: it's jarring when a guy sends that. And that was
Speaker 1: my point. I don't think that the dick pick is
Speaker 1: an attractive thing. I mean, and if I would ever
Speaker 1: do it, which I wouldn't. There was an episode of
Speaker 1: the King of Queens where he took a picture there
Speaker 1: at a wedding and he put a little top hat
Speaker 1: on it and he pretended it was Abraham Lincoln. Like,
Speaker 1: I'd have to have fun with it because it's not
Speaker 1: an attractive shot. Brooks, if you want to, like take
Speaker 1: off your shirt and send someone that photo, I think
Speaker 1: you got the right to do that. But I don't
Speaker 1: think anybody no offense Rick because you said you did it.
Speaker 1: You sent a rick pick good. I don't think it's
Speaker 1: going to be an attraction. I still disagree, and I
Speaker 1: would love to hear from people on this because I
Speaker 1: think in the right circumstances it could be quite So
Speaker 1: I can give you one a good circumstance on that.
Speaker 1: So I like playing hockey. I had teammates that they
Speaker 1: said that, like, we traveled a lot. So I had
Speaker 1: a teammate and I'm not going to mention his name,
Speaker 1: but him and his wife would send each other a
Speaker 1: lot of photos or videos um to keep himself and
Speaker 1: then herself entertained while he was on the road. They're
Speaker 1: married kids. I find nothing wrong with that that's in
Speaker 1: their relationship. I find that that's still connecting. Yeah, Like
Speaker 1: I find that's actually amazing. I would never do it
Speaker 1: with like a random but but when a guy just
Speaker 1: sends out a like boom right in your face, here's
Speaker 1: a dick picky And whether a d M or a text,
Speaker 1: I think I think the guy is searching for is
Speaker 1: this going to escalate now? If not, I'm onto the next.
Speaker 1: And it's also very abrasive. I think to the woman
Speaker 1: to receive that, I'm forty five and in my life
Speaker 1: I've received three from three different people. That's it good
Speaker 1: for you when you've send they call that a trifecta.
Speaker 1: When you send your photos, do you include your face
Speaker 1: and the photos are only a body shot? Never face.
Speaker 1: My buddy that I told you about face all of them.
Speaker 1: I asked him that. He goes, oh yeah, Brooks, I
Speaker 1: just put it on. Was he getting his face in
Speaker 1: his own dip bend friends time or on the iPhone?
Speaker 1: I don't And that was the thing I was gonna
Speaker 1: I wanted to say. It was like, there's obviously that
Speaker 1: shock effect to receiving that, but on the other side
Speaker 1: of it, And don't get me wrong, I don't think
Speaker 1: these this is right, but I just want to clarify that.
Speaker 1: But the shock factor must also create a little bit
Speaker 1: of intrigue behind it. No, they're shaking their heads. No,
Speaker 1: Tories kind of like Tories just opened the window and
Speaker 1: jumped out. So what about this? Do you ever have
Speaker 1: you ever been texted or sexted a dick PI that's
Speaker 1: circumcised or uncircumcised, and has that drawn any pretty? Very pretty?
Speaker 1: Are you? Are you? Are you trying to reveal something
Speaker 1: to us here? It's a very topic of conversation. Maybe
Speaker 1: it's another question. Maybe that Okay, as you're sort of
Speaker 1: like moving a relationship along or whatever. Maybe that's like
Speaker 1: a way to sort of talk about some things. I
Speaker 1: don't know, I'm getting a little hety on it, but
Speaker 1: maybe you're kind of like opening the door. Next question.
Speaker 1: All right, we're moving on from the well. I'm sure
Speaker 1: at some point in this show that topic is going
Speaker 1: to come back around. It's an important come back up. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I sent him to him all the time, Like I said,
Speaker 1: I only send them to him and all the time.
Speaker 1: I would just be so cold that if Gavin, and
Speaker 1: let's just say Gavin has a girlfriend and he's on
Speaker 1: the road, Like I think that would be kind of cool.
Speaker 1: I would go to um Sears and get professional pictures
Speaker 1: done of it. Uh, you know, maybe with some items
Speaker 1: from their catalog, with a little craftsman tools. See I'm
Speaker 1: old school. I say, go to Santa Monica Pere and
Speaker 1: have that person sketch it for you. And I think
Speaker 1: that shows it's a great idea. They could do a
Speaker 1: caricature version, make it more interesting. Alright, Okay, we're moving
Speaker 1: on here. Guys. Uh, here's a question from Damien. We're
Speaker 1: gonna switch topics here. If you could have any man
Speaker 1: on the podcast dead or alive? Who would it be?
Speaker 1: And why? I actually really like this question. Things is
Speaker 1: one of us? Did I would like a dead Brooks?
Speaker 1: Why you were within arms reach on me? You know
Speaker 1: he fights a lot. So if you could have any
Speaker 1: man on the podcast dead or alive, who would it be?
Speaker 1: And why? Rick? Anybody come to mind? Uh? Yeah, have
Speaker 1: any man? Something pops into my head. Yeah, thanks for
Speaker 1: the question, Damian, I mean to be honest with you,
Speaker 1: probably my grandfather on my dad's side, my dad dad,
Speaker 1: you know, he Um was in Latvia as grew up
Speaker 1: in Latvia, one of the Baltic states, and escaped from
Speaker 1: Latvia from the Russians during World War two and just
Speaker 1: had a crazy kind of long history of getting out
Speaker 1: of his his home country, moving to Germany during World
Speaker 1: War two, getting captured by the Allies, coming to America,
Speaker 1: and did the whole immigration process while raising four kids. Um,
Speaker 1: And so I would love an opportunity to sit down
Speaker 1: with him and discuss with him how that was like,
Speaker 1: what he went through, what was his mindset you know
Speaker 1: of how do you raise four kids? I'm having a
Speaker 1: hard time with two in a regular neighborhood you know,
Speaker 1: and to go from you know, a country that you've
Speaker 1: completely up rooted yourself, go to another country with no money,
Speaker 1: no nothing on your back beside your family, Like I
Speaker 1: would love to sit and chat with him about that. Wow,
Speaker 1: great answer, Dmitri. I would like to say my father
Speaker 1: who's passed, but he was such a great storyteller. He
Speaker 1: taught me everything, um that I know and hopefully that
Speaker 1: he knew, and and he was very funny. So I
Speaker 1: feel like if we were to bring him on, there
Speaker 1: would be no need for me. So I'm gonna I'm
Speaker 1: gonna just pass pass on that for now. Um, you know,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna go I love you know what, ricks up,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna go a little more lighthearted, and I'm gonna
Speaker 1: go with Chevy Chase because um, growing up, love him
Speaker 1: growing up, he was my comedic idol and i'd, you know,
Speaker 1: watch all his movies. Fletch is one of my favorite
Speaker 1: movies of all time. And I still look at Clark
Speaker 1: Griswold as the ultimate family man. Clark, Yeah, Ryan, my
Speaker 1: father who was killed when I was six years old.
Speaker 1: I would choose him, and we've we've touched upon it
Speaker 1: in previous episodes. But um, yeah, there's a million questions
Speaker 1: I would want to ask him, and I'd want him
Speaker 1: to see the man I've become in the family that
Speaker 1: I've created, and hopefully approve of everything I've done up
Speaker 1: until now and validate everything I've done and just see, Yeah,
Speaker 1: like I would ask a million questions, Do you have
Speaker 1: one question you'd like to share with us that you'd
Speaker 1: really like your your dad to answer? Is he proud
Speaker 1: of me? I bet? I bet that's good for you man,
Speaker 1: You're You're a hero for sharing that. I bet there's
Speaker 1: a lot of people in our audience that that resonates
Speaker 1: with the are listening to that, and I think all
Speaker 1: of us you can feel it in here. I'm certain
Speaker 1: emotional right now. And um this leads to the next
Speaker 1: question as well. Last time you cried and legit? Why?
Speaker 1: I'll let you guys think on it for the break
Speaker 1: coming back from break, the guys have been thinking over
Speaker 1: this hard. Gavin cried a little bit, thinking about it.
Speaker 1: Very sensitive. Let's lead with you, buddy. This is from Patrick.
Speaker 1: The last time you cried a legit cry? And why? Oh, Actually,
Speaker 1: my eyes watered up today. I had an interview today
Speaker 1: and uh, I Uh. I had an interview today and
Speaker 1: the person interviewing me, um, by the way, you were
Speaker 1: supposed to be there books uh with me do that interview,
Speaker 1: and you left me alone? Is that why you gride?
Speaker 1: How got separation anxiety? I got so scared? It's true.
Speaker 1: I waited, I waited by the door for you. Here
Speaker 1: are my wooby. So so I had an interview by
Speaker 1: myself because you decided not to come with me. And
Speaker 1: I was in the interview with all of these strangers
Speaker 1: on the air, and one of them, uh told me
Speaker 1: that her mother had passed away a few months ago,
Speaker 1: and she knew that, she knew my mother had passed
Speaker 1: a year and a half ago. I gave her a
Speaker 1: hug and uh, it got kind of emotionally, you know.
Speaker 1: She she got kind of emotional, and that, of course
Speaker 1: made me emotional, so I did. I began to tear
Speaker 1: a little bit and uh. And then I got ahold
Speaker 1: of myself and I lightened the mood with some you know,
Speaker 1: absurdities because I had to get can troll of myself again.
Speaker 1: It's hard, hard thing to talk about, you know, when
Speaker 1: you lose a loved one, particularly you know, a parent,
Speaker 1: you know, it's a tough thing to to a tough
Speaker 1: thing to get through. And I had a conversation with
Speaker 1: a close friend of mine um and he had told
Speaker 1: me that he had lost his mother. And he said
Speaker 1: to me, he said, there's he said, years ago, a
Speaker 1: friend of his told him that there's. You have two lives.
Speaker 1: You have your life with your mother, and then you
Speaker 1: have your life after your mother passes. And uh, it's
Speaker 1: He's totally right. Uh, your life is completely different. Everything
Speaker 1: is different. I mean it looks the same, but it
Speaker 1: doesn't feel the same, you know. So it's just a
Speaker 1: different day. You know, every day is just just it's
Speaker 1: just the son didn't quite as bright, you know. Can
Speaker 1: you tell us what your favorite thing about your mom was? No,
Speaker 1: non good qualities? One thing you loved about your mom? Smile, laugh,
Speaker 1: She supported just something. My mother had class, you know,
Speaker 1: she had class. I feel like she had class for
Speaker 1: all of us. And so she could remind you with
Speaker 1: just her demeanor to get control of yourself, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean, not even correcting you, Just her demeanor
Speaker 1: was enough. What was your mom's name? Lynn? Yeah? Beautiful man, beautiful.
Speaker 1: Thank you Ryan for you buddy. The last time you cried,
Speaker 1: a legit cry, and why the I can't. I don't
Speaker 1: cry that often. The last I can remember the last
Speaker 1: two times I cried, and that's a large um year disparity.
Speaker 1: But the last time I cried, it was one of
Speaker 1: the Eagles won the Super Bowl. Legitimate. I never in
Speaker 1: my life, I never see a Philadelphia champion an Eagles
Speaker 1: championship ever. And to that end, that's why my grandfather
Speaker 1: is ninety three years old back in Philly. I am
Speaker 1: immediately after Eagles won the Super Bowl, picked up phone,
Speaker 1: called him and cried because I thought he was going
Speaker 1: to die before he ever got So we would talk
Speaker 1: every week on Monday morning after the Eagles game. I'd
Speaker 1: call him on the way into work. So that moment
Speaker 1: of of it all happening and being able to call
Speaker 1: him and say we did it as if I were
Speaker 1: on the team and he were on the team, like
Speaker 1: it was a moment I never thought I'd get to experience.
Speaker 1: And he was in tears himself, and he's ninety three
Speaker 1: and Philly and I'm in in l A. And it
Speaker 1: was an amazing moment. Good for you, man, Can I
Speaker 1: let you know something? You are on the team, So
Speaker 1: You're in true because as an athlete, the city embraces
Speaker 1: you as an athlete, and as an athlete, you're so
Speaker 1: grateful for the city and the people of the city.
Speaker 1: You are on the team, your grandfather is on the team.
Speaker 1: You were part of the wind. We pay your salaries. Yeah, tru,
Speaker 1: Um Dmitri for you. You want me to go to Rick.
Speaker 1: Let's go uh Rick? Last time you cried uh? Why? Well,
Speaker 1: so it looks looking at Patrick's question or or trying to,
Speaker 1: you know, answer it properly here. Um, thanks for the question, Patrick.
Speaker 1: In terms of crying, you know, I don't know, similar
Speaker 1: to Ryan, Like, I don't know if I've had a
Speaker 1: like a legit, full out cry, you know, like I've
Speaker 1: gone I recently, and you know, I go through life
Speaker 1: in their little times where I get really emotional, Like
Speaker 1: I gave a speech at my brother's fiftieth birthday party,
Speaker 1: and like I was trying to talk and all of
Speaker 1: a sudden, I just kind of broke out. And I
Speaker 1: don't know if it's like a nervousness cry or what
Speaker 1: the heck it is. Um. Recently, I was just in
Speaker 1: Cooper's town for one of my son's baseball games. And
Speaker 1: the national anthem was playing, and I just started tearing
Speaker 1: up a little bit. You know. It's like it's more
Speaker 1: out of pride, I feel like now than it is
Speaker 1: about like a sadness per se. I mean, I know
Speaker 1: that will come at a certain point in my life,
Speaker 1: but a lot of it's more out of pride. Like
Speaker 1: my son worked extremely hard to get to this point,
Speaker 1: to get to that tournament, and to you know, see
Speaker 1: him there with the national anthem going, and you know,
Speaker 1: it was just super proud moments. Or all be in
Speaker 1: a car and I'll listen to a song and it's
Speaker 1: not Gavin Degrass song, but so you cry and like
Speaker 1: just be so into it and emotional and like it
Speaker 1: Like I'm not crying per se, but all like get
Speaker 1: this weird inside feeling of just you know, proudness. I
Speaker 1: get Proudness isn't really a word, but um, and it
Speaker 1: just it's I get really emotional about things, you know,
Speaker 1: like coming here and enjoying this new experience, you know,
Speaker 1: and like it's I take a lot of pride in
Speaker 1: what I do and what we do. Um. And so
Speaker 1: even then it's like that I'm so it's less of
Speaker 1: like a sadness cry. It's more along lines I get,
Speaker 1: I get, you know, um, tear eyed about certain you
Speaker 1: know things. It's a very blessed life man to be
Speaker 1: able to cry out of happiness. You're very lucky. Yeah. Okay,
Speaker 1: So last time, honestly, when Ryan just opened up about
Speaker 1: his father brought tears in my eyes. I thought that
Speaker 1: was super powerful. Um. And then prior to that, I
Speaker 1: had a conversation with my wife probably about two to
Speaker 1: three months ago about hockey and unresolved issues, still trying
Speaker 1: to move through in process being done playing hockey. Um
Speaker 1: had some tears there for sure. Uh. And still I
Speaker 1: think there's still more in there that I need to
Speaker 1: to get out. Uh. And then prior to that one,
Speaker 1: the last really big time I cried was the day
Speaker 1: I was released. It was a big like I just
Speaker 1: shut the blinds and so, how did you find out
Speaker 1: that you were released? And like tell talks to the moment? Okay,
Speaker 1: So this is it's kind of ironic in a lot
Speaker 1: of ways. It was Thanksgiving Day, November seven, November of seventeen,
Speaker 1: and we had practiced in the morning playing for l
Speaker 1: A Kings. We had practiced in the morning. I was
Speaker 1: driving to the airport to catch our team flight to Phoenix,
Speaker 1: where I was going to meet my parents for Thanksgive
Speaker 1: Us Thanksgiving, You West Thanksgiving. I was gonna meet my
Speaker 1: parents for Thanksgiving supper at their house in Phoenix. And
Speaker 1: my parents are Canadian but they winter in Phoenix, so
Speaker 1: I was gonna have Thanksgiving supper with them. Play the
Speaker 1: next night in Phoenix. Was going to be fantastic. Little
Speaker 1: two days and I got a phone call said, hey,
Speaker 1: Brooks can come back to the rink. And I knew
Speaker 1: right away because as a general manager, knew right away.
Speaker 1: Um walked into the office and he's like, we're going younger,
Speaker 1: we need to let you go, and I I was.
Speaker 1: He was a man I could. I can't thank Mr
Speaker 1: Blake enough about how he dealt with me in that moment.
Speaker 1: He gave me some of the worst news potentially of
Speaker 1: my life, but he delivered it straightforward and honest and
Speaker 1: sincerely and as a man, you can take that when
Speaker 1: it's genuine. And shook his hands and thank you for
Speaker 1: the opportunity, and then went home and just like cried
Speaker 1: like just it was damn yourenna make me. You're gonna
Speaker 1: make me crying here again. Let me let me ask
Speaker 1: you something, Um, did you speak with him since? Have
Speaker 1: you called him since to thank him for being to
Speaker 1: with you, because it sounds like you appreciate the way
Speaker 1: that he went about it. I did, and I told
Speaker 1: him that we had a great discussion. We had a
Speaker 1: discussion before I played with the King's about if this
Speaker 1: was to not work out, what would happen with me,
Speaker 1: so that the cards were all on the table. And
Speaker 1: so that's one thing I appreciated anybody in a management
Speaker 1: position out there listening to this. People can take good
Speaker 1: or bad news as long as you are transparent and
Speaker 1: open with them. So we talked about this from the start.
Speaker 1: He's like, we want you here, Let's try it. If
Speaker 1: it doesn't work out, we're going to have to part ways.
Speaker 1: Great man, let me come in, play my ass off.
Speaker 1: And at the end of the day then I know
Speaker 1: we at least both tried and he treated me with
Speaker 1: the utmost respect. Thankful for the King's organization and the opportunity.
Speaker 1: So yeah, but those are ryan today, the last conversation
Speaker 1: with my wife about hockey and really the day I
Speaker 1: was let go, I really had a big emotional uh cry.
Speaker 1: I almost cried honestly leaving the parting gradually today because
Speaker 1: I forgot to get validated and ain't got paid yet.
Speaker 1: All right, we'll go back from break in a second,
Speaker 1: back from break. I just dried all my tears again
Speaker 1: from crying lost the pool for who cries first in
Speaker 1: the studio. But Dmitri, you have an answer you'd like
Speaker 1: to ask you the last time you legit cried and why?
Speaker 1: So it was this past year, And UM, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: say this for all audiences, so I'm gonna try and
Speaker 1: keep it, uh without tipping anything. But um, it was
Speaker 1: a busy time in life, and the tooth fairy forgot
Speaker 1: to come from my oldest daughter, and um, and so
Speaker 1: I she was she was, she woke up and the
Speaker 1: minute the moment I saw her, it dawned on me
Speaker 1: that that um, that she was upset and I knew why,
Speaker 1: and so I sat her down and I tried to
Speaker 1: explain to her was grasping at straws, and I tried
Speaker 1: to explain her that it might have been my fault
Speaker 1: because um, I think that I had set the house
Speaker 1: alarm that night and maybe that scared off the tooth
Speaker 1: fairy in the set and as I was trying to
Speaker 1: explain this to her, she reached over and she gave
Speaker 1: me a hug, and I just started bawling, like she
Speaker 1: now she was comforting me, and and at that point
Speaker 1: I knew that she had figured it out. Um, whatever
Speaker 1: she needed, whatever the explanation was, um, and isn't as
Speaker 1: comforting as that was, And that it was a relief, Um,
Speaker 1: that she didn't think she was just left out and
Speaker 1: this and that. Um, it was obviously a big step
Speaker 1: in in a kid's life to to move on from
Speaker 1: that and how that happen. And so it was funny
Speaker 1: because I tried to make her feel better and I
Speaker 1: broke down. Then she comforted me, and then I think
Speaker 1: it was just a little bit of relief. So okay,
Speaker 1: So does the tooth fairy come the next night and
Speaker 1: come with a bigger better Uh? Well, don't forget this
Speaker 1: is the she's the oldest of four kids. So um,
Speaker 1: it was kept under wraps. The tooth fairy did come, um,
Speaker 1: and the tooth Fairy will continue to come whether um
Speaker 1: you know, with with whether she expects it or not.
Speaker 1: Is this the part where you tell us that she's thirty? Yeah,
Speaker 1: obviously my oldest. Okay, we're going to I just want
Speaker 1: to say thank you, gentlemen, because that was like you
Speaker 1: all opened up and exposed some things that are very
Speaker 1: real and authentic and near and dear to your hearts. UM,
Speaker 1: thank you so thank you for that question. Patrick, Uh,
Speaker 1: really appreciate that. Here's another question from Ellie. She says,
Speaker 1: I am professionally successful, nearly thirty year old female who
Speaker 1: was still a virgin years ago. I made the decision
Speaker 1: as part of my faith to wait to have sex
Speaker 1: until marriage. That being said, here are my two questions. First,
Speaker 1: does it matter to you who are you dating what
Speaker 1: your partner's sexual history is? And second, at what point
Speaker 1: in dating do you bring up your deal breakers. I'm
Speaker 1: someone that prefers to rip the band aid off and
Speaker 1: just bring it up so I don't waste anyone's time.
Speaker 1: But I I have friends who think you need to
Speaker 1: win them over first and then drop the deal breaker bombs.
Speaker 1: So back to the first question, doesn't matter who you
Speaker 1: are dating, UM with what their sexual history is. I'll
Speaker 1: go I I've I've always wanted to know that, UM,
Speaker 1: somebody whoever I was going to end up with hadn't
Speaker 1: just gone and and done it with anybody, So it
Speaker 1: didn't matter. It wasn't like I was like, well that
Speaker 1: it has it has to be on one, you know,
Speaker 1: five or less or you know. But in my in
Speaker 1: my reality, when I thought about settling down and marrying
Speaker 1: someone and having them be the mother to my kids,
Speaker 1: I didn't want it to be such a flippant thought
Speaker 1: for them to be with to have just been with
Speaker 1: a ton of people. So I never had a specific
Speaker 1: number in my head. Um, but it was something that
Speaker 1: I was always aware of. And if someone had come
Speaker 1: to me and said, hey, you know, I've been with
Speaker 1: you know, a hundred people, I probably, honestly, I would
Speaker 1: probably have a problem with that. But the flip side,
Speaker 1: I think, and what what Ellie is getting at is
Speaker 1: if you are a virgin, that's then could you ever
Speaker 1: be with someone? And you spoke about it when we
Speaker 1: talked about intimacy and when Julianne was on intimacy for
Speaker 1: many people is such a large part of a marriage
Speaker 1: and a relationship And can you enter into a marriage
Speaker 1: without knowing if you have that sexual chemistry? Could you
Speaker 1: are you asking me personally? I full transparency. I think
Speaker 1: for myself personally, would be very difficult. I think a
Speaker 1: a sexual relationship to me prior to marriage would be
Speaker 1: very important and was to me uh with my wife. Uh.
Speaker 1: And so for me that would be very difficult. And
Speaker 1: I'm only speaking for me, I'm not speaking for all
Speaker 1: men on that. What about yourself? It's a it's a
Speaker 1: really tough one. It's you know, because I respect someone
Speaker 1: someone's faith and that this is a faith based decision
Speaker 1: and you have to you have to honor that respect
Speaker 1: that completely. YEA, But I would echo what you said.
Speaker 1: I don't think. I don't think I could enter into
Speaker 1: a marriage and not know and then find out, you know,
Speaker 1: early on in the marriage that we have no sexual
Speaker 1: chemistry and that this isn't going to work. I don't
Speaker 1: think I could ever do that. Can you develop like say, say,
Speaker 1: you you get married and you don't have that and
Speaker 1: I don't know the answer this I'm asking, And you
Speaker 1: get married and you don't feel that sexual chemistry because
Speaker 1: you haven't had that closeness yet. Do you think that's
Speaker 1: something that can develop from then and you can develop
Speaker 1: that sexual chemistry together or is it right off the bat?
Speaker 1: Yes or no? Probably? I think more often than not
Speaker 1: in this case, it's a virgin would end up with
Speaker 1: another virgin who has kept his or her virginity for
Speaker 1: the exact same reasons and are going through this journey
Speaker 1: of sexual exploration together, and so there's less likelihood that
Speaker 1: that you're you're you really want to laugh at that.
Speaker 1: I'm not laughing at I'm just in my head. If
Speaker 1: I'm being honest, I think, yeah, that's it's probably not
Speaker 1: going to be great for a while if they're both versions.
Speaker 1: But I also think that I also think that if
Speaker 1: if the man or the woman is a virgin and
Speaker 1: the other one is not, that you can still have
Speaker 1: sexual chemistry without having sex. That you could be like
Speaker 1: just lusting and desiring the person and you could know
Speaker 1: this is going to be incredible when we do. And
Speaker 1: it's a faith based decision, as Ellie says, So I
Speaker 1: think that, yes, do I think it can happen. Absolutely.
Speaker 1: I think there can be chemistry without actual sex going on,
Speaker 1: no doubt about it. What about the opposite way? What
Speaker 1: about like is it? Um doesn't matter how many partners
Speaker 1: your potential life partner has had prior to you asking me, Um,
Speaker 1: you know it could Listen, Let's be realistic Okay. I mean,
Speaker 1: I'm no angel. And as much as men think that
Speaker 1: they're looking for one, it's a it's most of the
Speaker 1: time it's it's more like a fantasy land. You know.
Speaker 1: You're looking for someone to have traits that are mostly unrealistic. Um.
Speaker 1: And part of that maintaining that infatuation with someone is
Speaker 1: they're not necessarily exposing all of the worst parts of
Speaker 1: their life or phases of their life that they went
Speaker 1: through in order for you to maintain that fantasy about
Speaker 1: them and that innocence, that purity in your mind that
Speaker 1: they may have. Um, you don't necessarily want to know everything.
Speaker 1: I don't, and I want to permit them to have.
Speaker 1: I wanted to permit them to having gone through those
Speaker 1: developmental phases of their life. UM. You know, I'm certainly
Speaker 1: not looking to be somebody's educator and relationship. UM. So
Speaker 1: you know, because would be an incredible imbalance for me. UM.
Speaker 1: I want somebody who has been part of the world. Uh,
Speaker 1: and not necessarily is someone who's freaking out we're in
Speaker 1: a room together. UM. You know, I mean I want
Speaker 1: there to be some level of understanding there, and uh,
Speaker 1: it cannot it's not necessarily all sexual, but I want
Speaker 1: them to have had relationships and a real life and
Speaker 1: a job. And you know, it's okay to have friends
Speaker 1: and enemies. That's real life. It's okay for them to
Speaker 1: have a wild phase of their life. I certainly did.
Speaker 1: Um And so yeah, you go ahead to echo and
Speaker 1: take further what you're saying. I believe that whatever if
Speaker 1: this person, if you are looking at somebody as your
Speaker 1: life partner, your significant other for life, you have such
Speaker 1: a deep love and admiration and respect for that person
Speaker 1: that whatever they went through that got them to be
Speaker 1: that person, I think is necessary. You know, like the
Speaker 1: man I am to my wife today is because of
Speaker 1: a lot of stuff that I've gone through, good or bad,
Speaker 1: to meeting her and for her, the woman she is
Speaker 1: is stuff that she's gone through that maybe was painful
Speaker 1: or maybe enjoyable or whatever at certain times of her life,
Speaker 1: but has brought her to this moment to be prepared
Speaker 1: and be this type of a human to be in
Speaker 1: a relationship with me. So I think there is value.
Speaker 1: I think, you know, I was I was thinking, you know,
Speaker 1: I think that there's a little bit of a builder
Speaker 1: in every one of us, a little bit of a fixer.
Speaker 1: And I think that I think part of appealing to
Speaker 1: that element of our psyche is looking for things that
Speaker 1: are a little bit broken, and and I think you're
Speaker 1: looking for something that you can help too, And and
Speaker 1: I think you ultimately find each other in that way.
Speaker 1: You know, you're looking for someone to fill and fix
Speaker 1: certain parts of you, and you're looking to help fix
Speaker 1: certain parts of other people, only the ones that you
Speaker 1: think that you can be helpful with, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean. Yeah, that's a great point. And and what
Speaker 1: I was gonna say based on what you both said,
Speaker 1: but Brooks, what you just mentioned. It's funny. The second
Speaker 1: half of Ellie's question was about deal breakers and what
Speaker 1: I was gonna say, but you actually pointed out pointed
Speaker 1: out the reason why for me, I don't think that
Speaker 1: anybody can really have a deal breaker. For instance, I
Speaker 1: mentioned what I mentioned in my ideal thought, but I
Speaker 1: don't believe in in deal breakers because so what you said,
Speaker 1: I think when you meet somebody whatever brought them to this,
Speaker 1: that's the person that you're that you're gonna that you
Speaker 1: want to be within your learning, so you can go
Speaker 1: into a situation and say, listen, this is my deal breaker,
Speaker 1: I won't do. But when you meet a person, if
Speaker 1: they connect with you and there's that there's that bond
Speaker 1: between you two, I think when you find that right person,
Speaker 1: because technically, I mean not technically, but people say, hey,
Speaker 1: there's one person for you, right, And if you believe that,
Speaker 1: then there's no way you can set a criteria and
Speaker 1: say these are my deal breakers and this person can
Speaker 1: have fallen that because you'll meet somebody and maybe there's
Speaker 1: something that you thought was a deal breaker, but you're like, wow,
Speaker 1: this made this person who they are and I love
Speaker 1: that person. So what about what about current deal deal breakers?
Speaker 1: Like you're looking at somebody's past, is like, there's no
Speaker 1: deal breaker and somebody's past, but what about a current
Speaker 1: deal breaker? You know, like if this person, like for me, honestly,
Speaker 1: like I don't think I could be with somebody who
Speaker 1: smoked cigarettes. I think for me that would be a
Speaker 1: deal breaker, Like that would be very difficult for me.
Speaker 1: I couldn't be with someone that's rude to other people. Yeah,
Speaker 1: So how how so to Ellie's second question, Uh, she
Speaker 1: wants to know if if you should lay out the
Speaker 1: deal breakers from the onset when you've just met someone
Speaker 1: and are interested as opposed to waiting un till you've
Speaker 1: won them over and now saying oh, by the way,
Speaker 1: we're good. I want you to change all these things
Speaker 1: from a man's perspective, which one from my perspective, I
Speaker 1: feel you can't do either one, Like what are you
Speaker 1: gonna sit down on the first date and be like, okay, here,
Speaker 1: I can't You can't smoke, you can't drink, you can't drive.
Speaker 1: You know, people do, and I think it's crazy, And
Speaker 1: I think those are the ones that are still sort
Speaker 1: of alone perhaps. But I feel also that if you're
Speaker 1: going through these kind of together, like you know, you're
Speaker 1: you get to learn that person in their experience in life,
Speaker 1: then when should she do it. She should do it
Speaker 1: as she's going through and understanding who that person is,
Speaker 1: and then in her own mind she's either making up
Speaker 1: those or bringing those to the table and having the
Speaker 1: discussion with that person saying, hey, you know what, I
Speaker 1: I really love you. You're awesome. You know all the
Speaker 1: time we spend, but you know, I wish is there
Speaker 1: any way you can kind of stop smoking or whatever
Speaker 1: that may be. I think you're right, so so a
Speaker 1: very close friend of mine has cancer. It's in essentially remission.
Speaker 1: That would be like how you could say it, but
Speaker 1: it's still there. So she debates when she's dating someone new,
Speaker 1: at what point do I tell them? And I don't
Speaker 1: feel like she needs to tell them the first date.
Speaker 1: It's like you don't have to say, hi, nice to
Speaker 1: meet you. By the way, I have cancer and it
Speaker 1: could come back. But as it gets more serious, then
Speaker 1: I do think she does need to tell them. Putting
Speaker 1: myself in that in those shoes, if I was a
Speaker 1: gentleman on that date with her, I think you're right, Amy,
Speaker 1: because I think if it was told to me on
Speaker 1: the first date, I might be a little startled and
Speaker 1: jarred by it. But as I got to know this person,
Speaker 1: maybe on a second date or a third date, that
Speaker 1: that might soften a little because I know her personality
Speaker 1: and have developed somewhat of a compassion as a human
Speaker 1: for her, not not with her situation, but just as
Speaker 1: a human, and then it would be like, okay, can
Speaker 1: you tell me more? That it wouldn't be so I
Speaker 1: I think, I yeah, no, that's a great point. I mean,
Speaker 1: I think you need to learn getting the information up
Speaker 1: front could be a bit startling. Or or you know
Speaker 1: whatever you want to starling, but like and then you're
Speaker 1: not looking at the cancer. You're looking at that person,
Speaker 1: you know, and do you want to know who that
Speaker 1: person is? Is she or he great to go on
Speaker 1: walks with? Or do they like to go out to
Speaker 1: dinners or whatever? You know, Like, you're not trying to
Speaker 1: date the person that has cancer. I feel like you're
Speaker 1: trying to figure out who that person is and then
Speaker 1: and then understand what where to go with it after that?
Speaker 1: Well said, Okay, another one from Mary Beth. I'm excited
Speaker 1: for this one. I'm going to direct this one to
Speaker 1: Mr Gavin DeGraw. What constitutes high maintenance with regards to
Speaker 1: women putting on your makeup on your way to the gym? Oh? Wow? Okay?
Speaker 1: Anything else? What else? I feel like there's more there?
Speaker 1: What else he got? What constitutes high maintenance? There's a
Speaker 1: lot of versions of high maintenance, so give them to us.
Speaker 1: Oh okay, here's a difficult one. You ever go shopping
Speaker 1: with your girl, not just your shopping, but like not
Speaker 1: just take your shopping, but like you know, shopping shopping, shopping,
Speaker 1: you know, like where they're trying on clothes and and
Speaker 1: you're you're sitting in the women's department just looking like
Speaker 1: a weirdo, like walking around picking out They're asking you,
Speaker 1: how does this look? You're like, man, come on, can't
Speaker 1: you just like, can't you just do that at the house?
Speaker 1: I gotta sit around here. I'm the guy sitting outside
Speaker 1: the dressing room of the girls, you know what I mean?
Speaker 1: And then you'll make yourself busy. You go walking around
Speaker 1: the women's clothes and now they're like, oh, man, gave
Speaker 1: them de grass trying on some women's clothes now, so
Speaker 1: where you go. I'm just saying how it affects me,
Speaker 1: you know, because they're they're asking you to be there,
Speaker 1: be there, present, be not to be there present, to
Speaker 1: be present during certain things that you don't necessarily you
Speaker 1: shouldn't be privy to that process in my opinion, and
Speaker 1: that's a high maintenance thing in my opinion. To expect
Speaker 1: the guy to sit outside the dressing room super uncomfortable.
Speaker 1: I don't even get it, because why would a girl
Speaker 1: want to try on clothes in front of their guy?
Speaker 1: Like the whole point is we want to try it on,
Speaker 1: get it, and then surprise you with it later. Like
Speaker 1: this doesn't even make sense at all, Go ahead and
Speaker 1: get in, let's have it. Sure, I'm high maintenance if
Speaker 1: that's what you're defining, but no, I want my husband look,
Speaker 1: you know, seeing me try on clothes, so I know
Speaker 1: it's what he likes. There you go, I totally agree
Speaker 1: with you. I think it's I mean, I think to
Speaker 1: some degree in that processes tough. Well, Gavin. In most stories,
Speaker 1: they have a little seating lounge area that you can
Speaker 1: go and kind of hang out and sit on your phone.
Speaker 1: It seems to be somewhat close to the changing room
Speaker 1: or the try on room. But I do like it.
Speaker 1: Like I'm not gonna go I going shopping with my wife.
Speaker 1: I'm not going to go and pick out clothes that
Speaker 1: I want her to try on or wear. Like I
Speaker 1: think that's creepy and high maintenance. Yes, but I do
Speaker 1: think there is some level that Danielle is talking about,
Speaker 1: like when you come out of the dressing room and
Speaker 1: less so on Amy, Like it's not a surprise where
Speaker 1: you're gonna go put it on later, like I got
Speaker 1: these black jeans. You know, it's more of like, hey,
Speaker 1: do you like you're having that? It's almost like, uh,
Speaker 1: you're at a restaurant you're having dinner, like do you
Speaker 1: like the scallops? You know, it's like, hey, do you
Speaker 1: like the black jeans? Do you like these jeans on me?
Speaker 1: And you're like you're sitting there and you're like, hey, yeah,
Speaker 1: they look great. Look how fancy you guys? You guys
Speaker 1: still have time to go to the mall. We have clothes,
Speaker 1: like whatever it is delivered. She tries it on there,
Speaker 1: I tried on, what are you think about? And if nan,
Speaker 1: it goes back in the box that I agree with
Speaker 1: you back to kind of like got the person. Then
Speaker 1: we're trying to stay on topic of what's high maintenance
Speaker 1: for a woman? Okay, what high maintenance for me is
Speaker 1: someone that has a some sort of like a deal
Speaker 1: breaker as to what they will or will not do. Hey,
Speaker 1: we're going to this party. Oh I'm not going there
Speaker 1: because it's so far away. Hey we're going to this party?
Speaker 1: Is so and so gonna be there? Someone that there's like,
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna do something because of one thing. It's
Speaker 1: like to me, that's super high maintenance. I'm not going
Speaker 1: to go there because it's you know, it's too far
Speaker 1: away whatever it is. And it's like for me. You
Speaker 1: gotta be I think you gotta be flexible, and you
Speaker 1: gotta be like, listen, let's go check it out. If
Speaker 1: it's not good, we leave. But when you're like, I
Speaker 1: won't do something because of this, I think that's high maintenance.
Speaker 1: I think it's like when the list of things that
Speaker 1: they need to do something to Demetri's point or to
Speaker 1: make them happy becomes so cumbersome and becomes a chore
Speaker 1: for me to have to run through this checklist of
Speaker 1: things to make them happy. It's high maintenance. Like that's
Speaker 1: the most concise way I could put it, which is
Speaker 1: funny because I feel I can correct me if I'm wrong.
Speaker 1: I feel like you're probably more high maintenance than your wife.
Speaker 1: I have been dubbed the metro sexual high maintenance gut
Speaker 1: in this podcast. Like it's very not my accident. Ex
Speaker 1: thank you. I mean, I guess I'm I'm maintenance because
Speaker 1: I wear You're the only one that was comfortable during
Speaker 1: the photo shoot when we had to do individual photos.
Speaker 1: Everyone else was uncomfortable. I don't want to do this.
Speaker 1: You got up there like it was blown those clowns. Man.
Speaker 1: I know that I know that he's not high maintenance
Speaker 1: because we met up in London and we were walking
Speaker 1: around London. We met up, we had lunch, and he
Speaker 1: didn't say, I'm going to hop a car back to
Speaker 1: the hotel. I'm not gonna get a ride. I'm not
Speaker 1: gonna get it uber. He walked how many miles did
Speaker 1: you walk back? It was six miles, good, six miles
Speaker 1: with me through the park. He texted me beforehand, but
Speaker 1: he Evan's deal Breakers and I said he likes people
Speaker 1: who walk, and so he was like, I said, that's it, okay,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna give you mine. High maintenance for me is
Speaker 1: somebody that points out something that they don't like, but
Speaker 1: we'll not do something about it. Oh I don't Oh
Speaker 1: that is so dirty or something clean the damn thing,
Speaker 1: or like this is that is so bad, We'll do
Speaker 1: something about it. And then if they don't. Sobody that
Speaker 1: is pointing out noticeably bringing attention to something that they
Speaker 1: do not like, bringing it to your attention is not
Speaker 1: willing to do something about that. To me, that is
Speaker 1: a very maintenance. And did you categorize that sorry? Like
Speaker 1: as as asking questions of like, hey, so how are
Speaker 1: we going to get there? And what table were we
Speaker 1: going to sit at and what do you want to
Speaker 1: do afterwards? And uh for high maintenance, Yeah, go with you.
Speaker 1: Here's the reason I bring it up is I have
Speaker 1: I have friends, like guy friends that are we go
Speaker 1: fishing where they're like, hey, well what fight are we on?
Speaker 1: And then what time is the car going to come
Speaker 1: pick us up? And then what time are we going
Speaker 1: to get on that other fight? And then what time
Speaker 1: are we gonna fish? And what's for breakfast? And you're like, dudes,
Speaker 1: to take a seat, bro, Like, yeah, I get you,
Speaker 1: I love it, So we're not coming next time. So
Speaker 1: getting back to what you said, Brooks, you said when
Speaker 1: people point out something that they don't like but won't
Speaker 1: do anything about it. Sir, what if it was like
Speaker 1: I don't like the color of that house, Are they
Speaker 1: going to go paint that house? Paint some random details,
Speaker 1: just painting somebody else's out? The hell are you doing?
Speaker 1: Don't like the color of that house? Did something about it? Okay? Okay,
Speaker 1: here we go from k what are your real thoughts
Speaker 1: on strip clubs? My fiance is going on his bachelor
Speaker 1: party in a few weeks and I told him I
Speaker 1: really don't feel comfortable. Am I being crazy. How would
Speaker 1: you feel if your fiance asked you not to go
Speaker 1: to the strip club? Rick, I have a question for K.
Speaker 1: Are we talking about female strip clubs or male strip
Speaker 1: good question. Let's assume she's talking about you're her fiance,
Speaker 1: You're go your bachelor parties, and and you're going to
Speaker 1: go to a female strip club. Okay, Um, that's a
Speaker 1: great question. To be honest, I don't know if I
Speaker 1: would even bring it up with him, because at that
Speaker 1: point I look at that as that's something that Ka
Speaker 1: needs to deal with. He's gonna go regardless or not.
Speaker 1: If she says it a thousand times or one time,
Speaker 1: Hey honey, don't go to the strip club. He's gonna
Speaker 1: go if he's with his buddies, or he's gonna say, hey,
Speaker 1: you know what, guys, we're gonna go do another activity
Speaker 1: instead of that, or that's what he's doing. I feel
Speaker 1: like it's more of K's issue. She needs to say it,
Speaker 1: and then she needs to kind of not get over it,
Speaker 1: but just understand that he can do the same thing
Speaker 1: if he flies down to Los Angeles or goes to
Speaker 1: a not a strip club. He can go to a
Speaker 1: hotel bar and and get in more trouble at a
Speaker 1: hotel bar than you can at a trip club, let's
Speaker 1: be honest. So I feel like k needs to understand
Speaker 1: that what she says may not necessarily it's affect him,
Speaker 1: it's about how she feels about it. Well to that point,
Speaker 1: there's there's different types of people to go to strip clubs,
Speaker 1: and you think, if she's engaged to him, then she
Speaker 1: should know what type of person he has listened. I've
Speaker 1: been to strip clubs because and I don't go, I
Speaker 1: don't go by myself, but I've gone like bachelor parties
Speaker 1: like this, and it's like I find it more comical
Speaker 1: to go and watch it and have a good time
Speaker 1: with the guys or whatever, and it's less about the show.
Speaker 1: And for while I'm on these bachelor parties, there are
Speaker 1: guys that disappear for thirty minutes to a private room
Speaker 1: and get a private lap dance or whatever. And to me,
Speaker 1: that's where you're that's where the difference is here. If
Speaker 1: Kay's fiance is going there because he's one of the
Speaker 1: guys and this is what the guys are doing for
Speaker 1: the thing, then let him you know if she's if
Speaker 1: she's engaged to him. She's gotta have some level of
Speaker 1: trust with him, and she should say listen, I don't
Speaker 1: mind you going, but you know, i'd really like it
Speaker 1: if you didn't partake on that thing, because whatever it's
Speaker 1: demeaning to women, I think it's gross. Whatever her reasoning is,
Speaker 1: I think she can share that, but I think to
Speaker 1: stop him from from, you know, going, because it sounds
Speaker 1: if that's the point, then it's more of a trust issue. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I think that's exactly right. It comes down to do
Speaker 1: you just k K do you trust your fiance? And
Speaker 1: if you have a trust, then it becomes off putting
Speaker 1: if you if your fiance feels like you're trying to
Speaker 1: control him, and so long as you trust him and
Speaker 1: you believe he's gonna make the right decisions, it's And
Speaker 1: I've been in the situation before where I have my
Speaker 1: buddies and will go to Vegas and we'll go to
Speaker 1: a strip club and all the guys get together and
Speaker 1: there's three guys who are like, look, our wives all talk.
Speaker 1: So we went to the pool today, then we went
Speaker 1: to top Golf, and then we went to circ to
Speaker 1: sol Okay, are we all clear? If anybody talks that
Speaker 1: was what we did. I that stresses me out because
Speaker 1: I do not want to lie to my wife. I'd
Speaker 1: rather just be completely honest because when when I begin
Speaker 1: lying about that, it is as if I did something wrong.
Speaker 1: And if I can just be open and honest and
Speaker 1: say like, yeah, we went to the strip club and
Speaker 1: we were there for an hour and a half and
Speaker 1: it was what it was, nothing happened, nobody did anything stupid.
Speaker 1: Why do I have to hide that? And my friends
Speaker 1: lose their mind at that. Gavin is looking at me
Speaker 1: like go ahead, I'm just saying I only go for
Speaker 1: the delicious buffet's Uh. I mean, I mean I've been.
Speaker 1: I've been to those places, man, and I typically don't
Speaker 1: really enjoy myself. Strip clubs are I get it for.
Speaker 1: It's a bit of a hoot, you know if you
Speaker 1: go with your boys and whatever and typically a few
Speaker 1: minutes and you're like, cool, we just did that, let's
Speaker 1: let's roll. But there's always like there's always the the
Speaker 1: other stuff going on where you gotta pull your boy out,
Speaker 1: like it's go can we go out? You know, and
Speaker 1: there's always like, you know, some shipper named Lexus or
Speaker 1: whatever who's just like getting too close, you know. So
Speaker 1: uh yeah, I just I don't. I don't really love
Speaker 1: ship clubs. Um, they're not my favorite. Um And although
Speaker 1: I did go one time. Uh, and we had my
Speaker 1: brother's dog with us, and he's a little French bulldog
Speaker 1: and of course, you know, our buddy put put tip
Speaker 1: money in his collar and he'd walk up, you know,
Speaker 1: the colonel would jog up on stage and you know,
Speaker 1: the girls like, oh, he's so cute, you know, And
Speaker 1: that was pretty funny bringing the dog. Now that that
Speaker 1: was that was the highlight of that whole element though.
Speaker 1: That was the top for me. Um. But I'm not
Speaker 1: a real fan of the environment typically speaking, because it
Speaker 1: seems in general they're they're so in general, there's such
Speaker 1: a desperate sensation when you walk into the place, you know,
Speaker 1: and it's a bit overwhelming, and uh it's just like
Speaker 1: it's just gross. So it's just too too heavy, the
Speaker 1: desperation in the air and a lot of that in
Speaker 1: a lot of those places. I do get it for
Speaker 1: fifteen minutes with your boys, because it's more like it's nutty,
Speaker 1: it's crazy in here, look at this scene. But then
Speaker 1: it's sort of like, all right, cool, I'm can we
Speaker 1: get out of here, now, you know what I mean?
Speaker 1: And my the best time I ever had in a
Speaker 1: strip club was that type of situation. I went in
Speaker 1: and I just you know, I laughed whatever it was
Speaker 1: for the guy that was married whatnot. But at the
Speaker 1: table next to me, whatever next to us was. It
Speaker 1: was like a cocktail setting and the guy had ordered
Speaker 1: he was by himself. He ordered this expensive bottle of
Speaker 1: scotch and then he proceeded to pass out at the table.
Speaker 1: So we just kept filling our glasses with his expensive
Speaker 1: bottle of scotch. And well, we asked the We did
Speaker 1: ask the waitress, and she was like, he comes in
Speaker 1: here all the time, he has so much money whatever.
Speaker 1: So she basically gave the green light. So we had
Speaker 1: a couple of the nice glass of scotch and got
Speaker 1: out of there. Okay, so let's go back to Kay's
Speaker 1: final part of her question. How would you feel if
Speaker 1: your fiance or wife gentleman asked you not to go?
Speaker 1: Real quick, how would you feel, Rick, if your wife
Speaker 1: asked you not to go on your buddies or your
Speaker 1: bachelor I would take her her point and and then
Speaker 1: you know, obviously have that in the back of my mind.
Speaker 1: But again, I I feel like it's more about k
Speaker 1: and less about the guy Dmitri. Yeah, I would. I
Speaker 1: would be disappoin in it because I would feel like
Speaker 1: she thought something could go wrong. Yeah, Bryan, I would say.
Speaker 1: I would say, I I hear you, I understand you
Speaker 1: don't want me to go. But I would still feel
Speaker 1: like I make my own decision whether I choose to
Speaker 1: or not. But um, I would listen to her and
Speaker 1: then make my own decision. Let me ask you, So
Speaker 1: you on the road for hockey? Was that a common
Speaker 1: thing and how often was that happen? Actually, probably more
Speaker 1: uncommon than people actually realize. In my entire life, I've
Speaker 1: maybe been in six strip clubs, like very little. I
Speaker 1: really don't enjoy the experience that much. Eighteen dollar drinks.
Speaker 1: First time I was every in one was in New York.
Speaker 1: I was twenty years old and I was making Prior
Speaker 1: to this, I just got my first professional paycheck. Prior
Speaker 1: to that, I was making eighty nine bucks every two weeks.
Speaker 1: And my buddy and I went into this strip club
Speaker 1: and we sat down and ordered two drinks from this waitress,
Speaker 1: and it was like fifty two dollars and I was like,
Speaker 1: what am I doing here? Like? What am I doing? So?
Speaker 1: But that being said, I want to make my own
Speaker 1: decisions whether I go or not. Um, but I would
Speaker 1: listen to what my wife had to say. But I
Speaker 1: wouldn't if she told me not to go. That would
Speaker 1: probably cause an issue. I'll say what we should tell
Speaker 1: her if she ever says not to go, say but
Speaker 1: Gavin's dancing tonight. And then she said, last question of
Speaker 1: the day is from Veronica? What makes a girl one
Speaker 1: of the guys? Can I lead with us? Can I
Speaker 1: answer this one? Don't try and be one of the guys.
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't. I do not want my wife
Speaker 1: to be one of the guys. I spent my life
Speaker 1: in a locker room full of twenty three dudes. I
Speaker 1: was not looking for another dude in my life. So
Speaker 1: I love that my wife knows nothing about sports and
Speaker 1: that when I went home from the rank that it
Speaker 1: was completely different. My advice do not try and be
Speaker 1: one of the guys. Can I interject real quick if
Speaker 1: you're fiance, wife, girlfriend, whatever. At the time, I was like, Hey,
Speaker 1: I know you're going to about your party. It's totally
Speaker 1: cool to go to a strip club, I don't care.
Speaker 1: Like to me, I would say that's awesome, Like then
Speaker 1: I don't have to have that stress of hers saying
Speaker 1: don't go to the strip club. To kind of go
Speaker 1: back to another question that we were answering, like to me,
Speaker 1: that's kind of being one of the dudes of like, hey, yeah,
Speaker 1: I trust you. I know it's more of a trust thing,
Speaker 1: but like go ahead, like I'd be like cool, Okay, gentlemen,
Speaker 1: do you think a girl man? Do you think a
Speaker 1: girl should be one of the guys? Uh? Not if
Speaker 1: she wants not if she wants to date me. I mean,
Speaker 1: that's not what I'm into, you know. So, um, I
Speaker 1: do understand tomboy element, you know, tomboy type girls. You know,
Speaker 1: I have hung out with tomboy type girls in the past.
Speaker 1: Depending Um, but I wouldn't say one of the guys,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. But there are some girls
Speaker 1: who I know who are cool, like some bartender people
Speaker 1: and and that world, you know what I mean, who
Speaker 1: are just kind of like they've they've just been around
Speaker 1: the dating scenes so much that interacting with a man
Speaker 1: is no different than interacting with a woman because they
Speaker 1: just do so much socializing from behind the bar, you know,
Speaker 1: when you go into it, into some kind of joint
Speaker 1: and there's just this girl behind the bars, like, Hey,
Speaker 1: what's up man? What can I get you? Blah blah
Speaker 1: blah blah, and they're just shooting it like that. Do
Speaker 1: you know what I mean? And so I do understand
Speaker 1: kind of that approach to when a girl is one
Speaker 1: of the guys and when you meet women like that,
Speaker 1: I kind of see a girl being kind of like
Speaker 1: one of the guys because they're not seeing any gender there.
Speaker 1: There's no boy girl interaction. It's just that's exactly right,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. Can you be one of
Speaker 1: the guys but have a sexual Are you traction or
Speaker 1: I'm automatically as being one of the guys in the
Speaker 1: friend zone? Friends, you can be one of the guys
Speaker 1: in the friend zone. Like for me personally, as a guy,
Speaker 1: I'm not you know, I'm not looking for I'm not
Speaker 1: looking for the big league chewing. Uh you know, you
Speaker 1: know you know what I'm saying. I'm not looking for
Speaker 1: like a woman who dips and spits and um, that's
Speaker 1: just for me personally. You know, you said it a
Speaker 1: few weeks ago when we were talking about do you
Speaker 1: find um face hair on women attractive or unattractive? And
Speaker 1: you said, I want the opposite of my ideal woman
Speaker 1: is the opposite complete? So what about what paul acids
Speaker 1: sort of a follow up to this? Can you give
Speaker 1: your opinion on women who have male best friends and
Speaker 1: the predicament that this puts them in when they start
Speaker 1: a new relationship and vice versa. I think Rick kind
Speaker 1: of started to touch on it, maybe, but so I
Speaker 1: don't think that's an issue. I don't either, but some
Speaker 1: people do. These guys might or or their significant other
Speaker 1: can feel threatened when a man has a very close
Speaker 1: relationship with a woman man, you know. But sorry, I'm
Speaker 1: chiming but I know I'm chiming in. But you know,
Speaker 1: I've got really really close girlfriends. They're they're just cool.
Speaker 1: You just they're buddies ears, you know. And I used
Speaker 1: to think that there couldn't ever be possibly any element
Speaker 1: of a man being just friends with a woman. I
Speaker 1: used to think that. I don't think that any longer.
Speaker 1: I really think that there is a there is a
Speaker 1: place that exists, whatever that spaces in the universe where
Speaker 1: a guy and a girl could be great friends and
Speaker 1: literally literally have zero sexual energy, absolutely none, because I
Speaker 1: have that with with girl friends of mine. There's just
Speaker 1: they're just really good friends of mine, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean. That's something I've loved about moving to l
Speaker 1: A is that's now president in my life. That's something
Speaker 1: I loved about being married is that my friendships with
Speaker 1: girls have blossomed and I love I have friends, female
Speaker 1: friends that I absolutely love as friends and cannot wait
Speaker 1: to hang out with. So this, uh, who is the
Speaker 1: person asked us? Paul asked this question? Does she have
Speaker 1: a guy friend? They might just be fantastic friends. So
Speaker 1: you can bet you can be friends and be respectful
Speaker 1: still to your significant other. Now here's a question I
Speaker 1: agree with that you can you can be friends with
Speaker 1: someone that have no sexual chemistry or no interest whatever.
Speaker 1: Now does it become a problem. Let's say, would Brooks
Speaker 1: would your wife? Would Juliane have a problem if you
Speaker 1: were really close friends with a girl and you kind
Speaker 1: of got advice from her or you got you know, well,
Speaker 1: if it came down to, well, she's my best friend
Speaker 1: and you know she she thinks this looks good, and
Speaker 1: Julian's like, I donol like, is there a problem? Sex aside?
Speaker 1: Is it more like, could it be an issue if
Speaker 1: you're getting advice from something or you turned to a
Speaker 1: best friend who's a girl to get advice or for
Speaker 1: whatever whatever it may be. Would that would that get
Speaker 1: julianson in relation to my wife, like about something going
Speaker 1: on between my wife and I? No, no, no, I
Speaker 1: mean I guess there's that too. If you have a
Speaker 1: best friend that's who you talked to about stuff. And
Speaker 1: I know it's tough because your wife, I assume is
Speaker 1: your best friend. But if you have a really close
Speaker 1: friend that's that's the opposite sex. Does it become an
Speaker 1: issue if you start like would the other person get jealous?
Speaker 1: If if you started going to them or relying on them,
Speaker 1: or they were the ones that you just kind of
Speaker 1: called and went to grab a drink with. To be honest,
Speaker 1: I can't even I don't know. I don't I honestly
Speaker 1: can't answer it. Dmitri. I don't know. It's I'm trying
Speaker 1: to put myself in that headspace, but I'm not. It
Speaker 1: hasn't happened in my life. Um So I really can't
Speaker 1: answer your questions. Anybody somebody else No. So so with
Speaker 1: Gavin the story that you were just setting up. Do
Speaker 1: you think that there are times when the females that
Speaker 1: you describe having a perfectly platonic relationship with that you
Speaker 1: believe it's a mutual thing, But were you to express
Speaker 1: that you wanted it to be more than they that
Speaker 1: they've been holding it back because they're fearful that you
Speaker 1: know that you just view them as a platonic friend
Speaker 1: and that I mean, are you asking if that's a possibility, Yeah,
Speaker 1: because I think sometimes both sides, the other side wishes
Speaker 1: that it was more, but they're terrified at ever voicing
Speaker 1: that because it would ruin such an amazing friendship. I mean,
Speaker 1: that's valid, that's a that's a possibility somewhere in there.
Speaker 1: But it's, um, I mean, it's certainly nothing that I
Speaker 1: would It's nothing that I would say is dominating the relationship,
Speaker 1: you know. I mean, I'm perfectly capable of having a friend,
Speaker 1: and I think the people that I'm friends with the
Speaker 1: opposite sex are perfectly capable of just having a friend
Speaker 1: and would rather maintain that stable platonic relationship than risk
Speaker 1: any discomfort and and uh, cross over that line because
Speaker 1: the friendships are so strong and um, you know, For
Speaker 1: me personally, I'd rather have those friendships friendships because they
Speaker 1: take years to develop those friendships and they're worth that.
Speaker 1: It's such an investment of your time and emotionally that
Speaker 1: you wouldn't ever want to even I personally wouldn't ever
Speaker 1: want to even put that at risk. You know very well,
Speaker 1: said my friend man on that. We'll leave it at that.
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