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Speaker 1: This is How Men Think with brooks Like and Gavin

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Speaker 1: to grow and I heard radio podcast Welcome to How

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Speaker 1: Men Think, a podcast where we dive inside the unique

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Speaker 1: minds of good stars like you, Mr Gavin Degras and

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Speaker 1: you Brooks. I appreciate it. My name is brooks Like

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Speaker 1: and with us today flying in from Nashville. Let's let's

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Speaker 1: I want to tip my cap to you, my friend. Hey,

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Speaker 1: come on, I want to tip my cap to you.

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Speaker 1: For me to be here, your commitment to the podcast.

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Speaker 1: Gavin guy know he lives in Nashville and travels here

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Speaker 1: to l A to record this. So Amy said we're

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Speaker 1: going to do it without you, and I pushed back

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Speaker 1: and I said, no chance in how we're doing a podcast.

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Speaker 1: Thank you for your loyalty. Amy didn't mean to throw

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Speaker 1: Amy under the bus, Like I know you have a

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Speaker 1: lot of travel in your life, my man, and that

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Speaker 1: you have tour this summer, and so I just want

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Speaker 1: to say on behalf of the guys. We appreciate you. Try.

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Speaker 1: Thank you, man. I'm so happy to be here. You

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Speaker 1: kidding me? I was like me, man, I'm just looking

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Speaker 1: forward to this very much. It was good to see

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Speaker 1: some of my favorite male faces. Yes, he didn't say

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Speaker 1: he didn't say personalities, but he said it faces for radio. Also,

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Speaker 1: I want to acknowledge Rick, my cat Rick. So Rick

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Speaker 1: also travels down to l A from Oakland each week

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Speaker 1: a full time job. So the commitment of these two

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Speaker 1: good sirs to bring you this podcast is exceptional. I mean,

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Speaker 1: so I'm still tipping it more in Gavin's favor, but

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Speaker 1: sure it's nice that you can, but you still need

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Speaker 1: to get on the public bus of airline and Ryan

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Speaker 1: Ryan's Ryan drove like four miles to get here. Guys,

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Speaker 1: that's very possible. Cat more to me and Dmitri runs

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Speaker 1: this place. So I don't know what that means, but

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Speaker 1: thank you. Yeah here, I'll tell you that once a day.

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Speaker 1: See if we can get you a raise from Amy.

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Speaker 1: Uh No. But we have an interesting show here, gentlemen,

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Speaker 1: really super interesting topic. Today. We are answering questions from

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Speaker 1: all right, it says first question from Rick. That can't

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Speaker 1: be right. So just to everybody listening, we have an

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Speaker 1: email address that many of you have reached out. We've

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Speaker 1: received a ton of emails already. Men at I Heart

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Speaker 1: radio dot com is where you can send your emails

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Speaker 1: and we'll always dive into questions from listeners on this show. Uh,

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Speaker 1: we have questions from that email. We also have questions

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Speaker 1: that you guys have sent us on our Instagram page

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Speaker 1: at how Men Think podcast on Instagram. And we're gonna

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Speaker 1: get into our first question. This is called That's what

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Speaker 1: he said. These are our answers to questions from listeners,

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Speaker 1: male and female. The first question is from Katie. She says,

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Speaker 1: do men feel the same press pressure as women to

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Speaker 1: Dick Picks discussed confess have you sent them? Why? Gavin,

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Speaker 1: do you send them? Women are really baffled. Please clear

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Speaker 1: this up. Dick picks. Raise your hand if you have

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Speaker 1: that they're communicating back and forth. So like they're sending

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Speaker 1: Which the second part of what I want to say

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Speaker 1: sending dick picks a because it's practically illegal, like if

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Speaker 1: a dick pick, Dmitri. I just asked you this yesterday.

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Speaker 1: the person interviewing me, um, by the way, you were

427
00:23:05,119 --> 00:23:08,400
Speaker 1: supposed to be there books uh with me do that interview,

428
00:23:08,480 --> 00:23:10,800
Speaker 1: and you left me alone? Is that why you gride?

429
00:23:11,359 --> 00:23:15,440
Speaker 1: How got separation anxiety? I got so scared? It's true.

430
00:23:15,440 --> 00:23:19,880
Speaker 1: I waited, I waited by the door for you. Here

431
00:23:19,920 --> 00:23:23,880
Speaker 1: are my wooby. So so I had an interview by

432
00:23:23,880 --> 00:23:27,440
Speaker 1: myself because you decided not to come with me. And

433
00:23:27,680 --> 00:23:30,440
Speaker 1: I was in the interview with all of these strangers

434
00:23:31,000 --> 00:23:34,240
Speaker 1: on the air, and one of them, uh told me

435
00:23:34,960 --> 00:23:38,080
Speaker 1: that her mother had passed away a few months ago,

436
00:23:38,359 --> 00:23:40,960
Speaker 1: and she knew that, she knew my mother had passed

437
00:23:41,080 --> 00:23:43,200
Speaker 1: a year and a half ago. I gave her a

438
00:23:43,240 --> 00:23:46,439
Speaker 1: hug and uh, it got kind of emotionally, you know.

439
00:23:46,600 --> 00:23:49,119
Speaker 1: She she got kind of emotional, and that, of course

440
00:23:49,520 --> 00:23:52,400
Speaker 1: made me emotional, so I did. I began to tear

441
00:23:52,440 --> 00:23:55,240
Speaker 1: a little bit and uh. And then I got ahold

442
00:23:55,240 --> 00:23:57,439
Speaker 1: of myself and I lightened the mood with some you know,

443
00:23:57,520 --> 00:24:01,040
Speaker 1: absurdities because I had to get can troll of myself again.

444
00:24:01,119 --> 00:24:02,760
Speaker 1: It's hard, hard thing to talk about, you know, when

445
00:24:02,760 --> 00:24:06,560
Speaker 1: you lose a loved one, particularly you know, a parent,

446
00:24:07,119 --> 00:24:10,760
Speaker 1: you know, it's a tough thing to to a tough

447
00:24:10,800 --> 00:24:13,600
Speaker 1: thing to get through. And I had a conversation with

448
00:24:14,040 --> 00:24:17,160
Speaker 1: a close friend of mine um and he had told

449
00:24:17,200 --> 00:24:19,640
Speaker 1: me that he had lost his mother. And he said

450
00:24:19,680 --> 00:24:21,919
Speaker 1: to me, he said, there's he said, years ago, a

451
00:24:21,960 --> 00:24:25,639
Speaker 1: friend of his told him that there's. You have two lives.

452
00:24:25,680 --> 00:24:27,280
Speaker 1: You have your life with your mother, and then you

453
00:24:27,320 --> 00:24:31,920
Speaker 1: have your life after your mother passes. And uh, it's

454
00:24:32,359 --> 00:24:36,280
Speaker 1: He's totally right. Uh, your life is completely different. Everything

455
00:24:36,359 --> 00:24:38,960
Speaker 1: is different. I mean it looks the same, but it

456
00:24:39,000 --> 00:24:42,199
Speaker 1: doesn't feel the same, you know. So it's just a

457
00:24:42,200 --> 00:24:45,080
Speaker 1: different day. You know, every day is just just it's

458
00:24:45,119 --> 00:24:48,800
Speaker 1: just the son didn't quite as bright, you know. Can

459
00:24:48,880 --> 00:24:53,000
Speaker 1: you tell us what your favorite thing about your mom was? No,

460
00:24:53,840 --> 00:24:58,320
Speaker 1: non good qualities? One thing you loved about your mom? Smile, laugh,

461
00:24:59,240 --> 00:25:04,240
Speaker 1: She supported just something. My mother had class, you know,

462
00:25:04,320 --> 00:25:05,840
Speaker 1: she had class. I feel like she had class for

463
00:25:05,880 --> 00:25:10,960
Speaker 1: all of us. And so she could remind you with

464
00:25:11,240 --> 00:25:17,800
Speaker 1: just her demeanor to get control of yourself, you know

465
00:25:17,800 --> 00:25:21,040
Speaker 1: what I mean, not even correcting you, Just her demeanor

466
00:25:22,160 --> 00:25:27,440
Speaker 1: was enough. What was your mom's name? Lynn? Yeah? Beautiful man, beautiful.

467
00:25:27,440 --> 00:25:30,399
Speaker 1: Thank you Ryan for you buddy. The last time you cried,

468
00:25:30,400 --> 00:25:34,080
Speaker 1: a legit cry, and why the I can't. I don't

469
00:25:34,080 --> 00:25:37,200
Speaker 1: cry that often. The last I can remember the last

470
00:25:37,280 --> 00:25:41,840
Speaker 1: two times I cried, and that's a large um year disparity.

471
00:25:41,920 --> 00:25:44,600
Speaker 1: But the last time I cried, it was one of

472
00:25:44,600 --> 00:25:48,520
Speaker 1: the Eagles won the Super Bowl. Legitimate. I never in

473
00:25:48,600 --> 00:25:52,760
Speaker 1: my life, I never see a Philadelphia champion an Eagles

474
00:25:52,800 --> 00:25:57,000
Speaker 1: championship ever. And to that end, that's why my grandfather

475
00:25:57,080 --> 00:26:00,000
Speaker 1: is ninety three years old back in Philly. I am

476
00:26:00,000 --> 00:26:02,680
Speaker 1: immediately after Eagles won the Super Bowl, picked up phone,

477
00:26:02,760 --> 00:26:06,080
Speaker 1: called him and cried because I thought he was going

478
00:26:06,160 --> 00:26:09,920
Speaker 1: to die before he ever got So we would talk

479
00:26:10,080 --> 00:26:12,520
Speaker 1: every week on Monday morning after the Eagles game. I'd

480
00:26:12,560 --> 00:26:15,399
Speaker 1: call him on the way into work. So that moment

481
00:26:15,520 --> 00:26:18,720
Speaker 1: of of it all happening and being able to call

482
00:26:18,840 --> 00:26:20,960
Speaker 1: him and say we did it as if I were

483
00:26:21,000 --> 00:26:22,800
Speaker 1: on the team and he were on the team, like

484
00:26:23,080 --> 00:26:25,000
Speaker 1: it was a moment I never thought I'd get to experience.

485
00:26:25,000 --> 00:26:27,640
Speaker 1: And he was in tears himself, and he's ninety three

486
00:26:27,640 --> 00:26:29,600
Speaker 1: and Philly and I'm in in l A. And it

487
00:26:29,640 --> 00:26:31,440
Speaker 1: was an amazing moment. Good for you, man, Can I

488
00:26:31,520 --> 00:26:33,480
Speaker 1: let you know something? You are on the team, So

489
00:26:33,520 --> 00:26:36,439
Speaker 1: You're in true because as an athlete, the city embraces

490
00:26:36,480 --> 00:26:38,920
Speaker 1: you as an athlete, and as an athlete, you're so

491
00:26:39,080 --> 00:26:41,760
Speaker 1: grateful for the city and the people of the city.

492
00:26:42,160 --> 00:26:45,200
Speaker 1: You are on the team, your grandfather is on the team.

493
00:26:45,240 --> 00:26:51,199
Speaker 1: You were part of the wind. We pay your salaries. Yeah, tru,

494
00:26:51,600 --> 00:26:55,159
Speaker 1: Um Dmitri for you. You want me to go to Rick.

495
00:26:55,240 --> 00:27:03,080
Speaker 1: Let's go uh Rick? Last time you cried uh? Why? Well,

496
00:27:03,240 --> 00:27:07,560
Speaker 1: so it looks looking at Patrick's question or or trying to,

497
00:27:07,720 --> 00:27:11,560
Speaker 1: you know, answer it properly here. Um, thanks for the question, Patrick.

498
00:27:12,280 --> 00:27:15,000
Speaker 1: In terms of crying, you know, I don't know, similar

499
00:27:15,040 --> 00:27:17,320
Speaker 1: to Ryan, Like, I don't know if I've had a

500
00:27:17,400 --> 00:27:21,560
Speaker 1: like a legit, full out cry, you know, like I've

501
00:27:21,600 --> 00:27:25,480
Speaker 1: gone I recently, and you know, I go through life

502
00:27:25,480 --> 00:27:28,119
Speaker 1: in their little times where I get really emotional, Like

503
00:27:28,160 --> 00:27:30,520
Speaker 1: I gave a speech at my brother's fiftieth birthday party,

504
00:27:30,520 --> 00:27:32,080
Speaker 1: and like I was trying to talk and all of

505
00:27:32,119 --> 00:27:33,639
Speaker 1: a sudden, I just kind of broke out. And I

506
00:27:33,640 --> 00:27:35,920
Speaker 1: don't know if it's like a nervousness cry or what

507
00:27:35,960 --> 00:27:38,720
Speaker 1: the heck it is. Um. Recently, I was just in

508
00:27:38,800 --> 00:27:41,080
Speaker 1: Cooper's town for one of my son's baseball games. And

509
00:27:41,119 --> 00:27:44,080
Speaker 1: the national anthem was playing, and I just started tearing

510
00:27:44,160 --> 00:27:46,280
Speaker 1: up a little bit. You know. It's like it's more

511
00:27:46,320 --> 00:27:49,760
Speaker 1: out of pride, I feel like now than it is

512
00:27:49,760 --> 00:27:52,439
Speaker 1: about like a sadness per se. I mean, I know

513
00:27:52,560 --> 00:27:54,200
Speaker 1: that will come at a certain point in my life,

514
00:27:54,200 --> 00:27:55,679
Speaker 1: but a lot of it's more out of pride. Like

515
00:27:55,720 --> 00:27:58,399
Speaker 1: my son worked extremely hard to get to this point,

516
00:27:58,440 --> 00:28:00,920
Speaker 1: to get to that tournament, and to you know, see

517
00:28:01,040 --> 00:28:04,040
Speaker 1: him there with the national anthem going, and you know,

518
00:28:04,080 --> 00:28:06,240
Speaker 1: it was just super proud moments. Or all be in

519
00:28:06,240 --> 00:28:10,160
Speaker 1: a car and I'll listen to a song and it's

520
00:28:10,160 --> 00:28:14,760
Speaker 1: not Gavin Degrass song, but so you cry and like

521
00:28:15,400 --> 00:28:18,680
Speaker 1: just be so into it and emotional and like it

522
00:28:18,920 --> 00:28:21,640
Speaker 1: Like I'm not crying per se, but all like get

523
00:28:21,680 --> 00:28:25,359
Speaker 1: this weird inside feeling of just you know, proudness. I

524
00:28:25,359 --> 00:28:28,280
Speaker 1: get Proudness isn't really a word, but um, and it

525
00:28:28,480 --> 00:28:30,840
Speaker 1: just it's I get really emotional about things, you know,

526
00:28:30,960 --> 00:28:33,960
Speaker 1: like coming here and enjoying this new experience, you know,

527
00:28:34,000 --> 00:28:35,680
Speaker 1: and like it's I take a lot of pride in

528
00:28:35,760 --> 00:28:38,560
Speaker 1: what I do and what we do. Um. And so

529
00:28:38,760 --> 00:28:41,520
Speaker 1: even then it's like that I'm so it's less of

530
00:28:41,640 --> 00:28:45,040
Speaker 1: like a sadness cry. It's more along lines I get,

531
00:28:45,080 --> 00:28:48,560
Speaker 1: I get, you know, um, tear eyed about certain you

532
00:28:48,600 --> 00:28:51,280
Speaker 1: know things. It's a very blessed life man to be

533
00:28:51,320 --> 00:28:55,280
Speaker 1: able to cry out of happiness. You're very lucky. Yeah. Okay,

534
00:28:55,320 --> 00:28:57,920
Speaker 1: So last time, honestly, when Ryan just opened up about

535
00:28:57,960 --> 00:29:00,400
Speaker 1: his father brought tears in my eyes. I thought that

536
00:29:00,440 --> 00:29:06,160
Speaker 1: was super powerful. Um. And then prior to that, I

537
00:29:06,160 --> 00:29:09,320
Speaker 1: had a conversation with my wife probably about two to

538
00:29:09,440 --> 00:29:16,040
Speaker 1: three months ago about hockey and unresolved issues, still trying

539
00:29:16,080 --> 00:29:20,760
Speaker 1: to move through in process being done playing hockey. Um

540
00:29:20,960 --> 00:29:24,080
Speaker 1: had some tears there for sure. Uh. And still I

541
00:29:24,120 --> 00:29:26,080
Speaker 1: think there's still more in there that I need to

542
00:29:26,800 --> 00:29:29,719
Speaker 1: to get out. Uh. And then prior to that one,

543
00:29:29,840 --> 00:29:31,880
Speaker 1: the last really big time I cried was the day

544
00:29:31,880 --> 00:29:35,600
Speaker 1: I was released. It was a big like I just

545
00:29:35,600 --> 00:29:38,120
Speaker 1: shut the blinds and so, how did you find out

546
00:29:38,160 --> 00:29:41,160
Speaker 1: that you were released? And like tell talks to the moment? Okay,

547
00:29:41,160 --> 00:29:43,200
Speaker 1: So this is it's kind of ironic in a lot

548
00:29:43,240 --> 00:29:47,600
Speaker 1: of ways. It was Thanksgiving Day, November seven, November of seventeen,

549
00:29:48,200 --> 00:29:50,120
Speaker 1: and we had practiced in the morning playing for l

550
00:29:50,160 --> 00:29:51,640
Speaker 1: A Kings. We had practiced in the morning. I was

551
00:29:51,720 --> 00:29:55,240
Speaker 1: driving to the airport to catch our team flight to Phoenix,

552
00:29:55,800 --> 00:29:59,120
Speaker 1: where I was going to meet my parents for Thanksgive

553
00:29:59,200 --> 00:30:01,280
Speaker 1: Us Thanksgiving, You West Thanksgiving. I was gonna meet my

554
00:30:01,280 --> 00:30:04,040
Speaker 1: parents for Thanksgiving supper at their house in Phoenix. And

555
00:30:04,120 --> 00:30:07,160
Speaker 1: my parents are Canadian but they winter in Phoenix, so

556
00:30:07,240 --> 00:30:09,400
Speaker 1: I was gonna have Thanksgiving supper with them. Play the

557
00:30:09,480 --> 00:30:12,160
Speaker 1: next night in Phoenix. Was going to be fantastic. Little

558
00:30:12,200 --> 00:30:14,000
Speaker 1: two days and I got a phone call said, hey,

559
00:30:14,000 --> 00:30:16,280
Speaker 1: Brooks can come back to the rink. And I knew

560
00:30:16,360 --> 00:30:18,760
Speaker 1: right away because as a general manager, knew right away.

561
00:30:19,320 --> 00:30:22,200
Speaker 1: Um walked into the office and he's like, we're going younger,

562
00:30:22,520 --> 00:30:25,520
Speaker 1: we need to let you go, and I I was.

563
00:30:25,680 --> 00:30:28,040
Speaker 1: He was a man I could. I can't thank Mr

564
00:30:28,080 --> 00:30:31,320
Speaker 1: Blake enough about how he dealt with me in that moment.

565
00:30:31,600 --> 00:30:35,320
Speaker 1: He gave me some of the worst news potentially of

566
00:30:35,360 --> 00:30:37,800
Speaker 1: my life, but he delivered it straightforward and honest and

567
00:30:37,880 --> 00:30:40,360
Speaker 1: sincerely and as a man, you can take that when

568
00:30:40,360 --> 00:30:42,640
Speaker 1: it's genuine. And shook his hands and thank you for

569
00:30:42,680 --> 00:30:45,840
Speaker 1: the opportunity, and then went home and just like cried

570
00:30:46,160 --> 00:30:51,000
Speaker 1: like just it was damn yourenna make me. You're gonna

571
00:30:51,040 --> 00:30:52,880
Speaker 1: make me crying here again. Let me let me ask

572
00:30:52,920 --> 00:30:57,600
Speaker 1: you something, Um, did you speak with him since? Have

573
00:30:57,680 --> 00:30:59,840
Speaker 1: you called him since to thank him for being to

574
00:31:00,200 --> 00:31:01,760
Speaker 1: with you, because it sounds like you appreciate the way

575
00:31:01,800 --> 00:31:03,680
Speaker 1: that he went about it. I did, and I told

576
00:31:03,760 --> 00:31:05,160
Speaker 1: him that we had a great discussion. We had a

577
00:31:05,160 --> 00:31:08,160
Speaker 1: discussion before I played with the King's about if this

578
00:31:08,280 --> 00:31:10,600
Speaker 1: was to not work out, what would happen with me,

579
00:31:11,160 --> 00:31:13,680
Speaker 1: so that the cards were all on the table. And

580
00:31:13,800 --> 00:31:16,400
Speaker 1: so that's one thing I appreciated anybody in a management

581
00:31:16,440 --> 00:31:19,280
Speaker 1: position out there listening to this. People can take good

582
00:31:19,320 --> 00:31:21,240
Speaker 1: or bad news as long as you are transparent and

583
00:31:21,280 --> 00:31:23,600
Speaker 1: open with them. So we talked about this from the start.

584
00:31:23,640 --> 00:31:25,360
Speaker 1: He's like, we want you here, Let's try it. If

585
00:31:25,360 --> 00:31:27,280
Speaker 1: it doesn't work out, we're going to have to part ways.

586
00:31:27,320 --> 00:31:29,280
Speaker 1: Great man, let me come in, play my ass off.

587
00:31:29,840 --> 00:31:31,719
Speaker 1: And at the end of the day then I know

588
00:31:31,800 --> 00:31:34,240
Speaker 1: we at least both tried and he treated me with

589
00:31:34,280 --> 00:31:38,360
Speaker 1: the utmost respect. Thankful for the King's organization and the opportunity.

590
00:31:38,400 --> 00:31:42,280
Speaker 1: So yeah, but those are ryan today, the last conversation

591
00:31:42,280 --> 00:31:44,280
Speaker 1: with my wife about hockey and really the day I

592
00:31:44,360 --> 00:31:49,240
Speaker 1: was let go, I really had a big emotional uh cry.

593
00:31:51,760 --> 00:31:55,080
Speaker 1: I almost cried honestly leaving the parting gradually today because

594
00:31:55,080 --> 00:32:00,920
Speaker 1: I forgot to get validated and ain't got paid yet.

595
00:32:02,440 --> 00:32:04,280
Speaker 1: All right, we'll go back from break in a second,

596
00:32:05,360 --> 00:32:07,520
Speaker 1: back from break. I just dried all my tears again

597
00:32:07,600 --> 00:32:10,200
Speaker 1: from crying lost the pool for who cries first in

598
00:32:10,240 --> 00:32:14,000
Speaker 1: the studio. But Dmitri, you have an answer you'd like

599
00:32:14,040 --> 00:32:16,200
Speaker 1: to ask you the last time you legit cried and why?

600
00:32:16,440 --> 00:32:20,680
Speaker 1: So it was this past year, And UM, I'm gonna

601
00:32:20,680 --> 00:32:23,200
Speaker 1: say this for all audiences, so I'm gonna try and

602
00:32:23,280 --> 00:32:26,760
Speaker 1: keep it, uh without tipping anything. But um, it was

603
00:32:26,800 --> 00:32:29,800
Speaker 1: a busy time in life, and the tooth fairy forgot

604
00:32:29,840 --> 00:32:34,720
Speaker 1: to come from my oldest daughter, and um, and so

605
00:32:35,080 --> 00:32:38,000
Speaker 1: I she was she was, she woke up and the

606
00:32:38,040 --> 00:32:40,480
Speaker 1: minute the moment I saw her, it dawned on me

607
00:32:41,080 --> 00:32:44,960
Speaker 1: that that um, that she was upset and I knew why,

608
00:32:45,080 --> 00:32:47,160
Speaker 1: and so I sat her down and I tried to

609
00:32:47,200 --> 00:32:49,720
Speaker 1: explain to her was grasping at straws, and I tried

610
00:32:49,720 --> 00:32:51,240
Speaker 1: to explain her that it might have been my fault

611
00:32:51,760 --> 00:32:55,120
Speaker 1: because um, I think that I had set the house

612
00:32:55,160 --> 00:32:57,680
Speaker 1: alarm that night and maybe that scared off the tooth

613
00:32:57,720 --> 00:33:00,680
Speaker 1: fairy in the set and as I was trying to

614
00:33:00,720 --> 00:33:03,600
Speaker 1: explain this to her, she reached over and she gave

615
00:33:03,640 --> 00:33:05,840
Speaker 1: me a hug, and I just started bawling, like she

616
00:33:06,000 --> 00:33:09,240
Speaker 1: now she was comforting me, and and at that point

617
00:33:09,800 --> 00:33:12,800
Speaker 1: I knew that she had figured it out. Um, whatever

618
00:33:12,840 --> 00:33:17,280
Speaker 1: she needed, whatever the explanation was, um, and isn't as

619
00:33:17,320 --> 00:33:20,880
Speaker 1: comforting as that was, And that it was a relief, Um,

620
00:33:20,880 --> 00:33:22,600
Speaker 1: that she didn't think she was just left out and

621
00:33:22,600 --> 00:33:26,440
Speaker 1: this and that. Um, it was obviously a big step

622
00:33:26,680 --> 00:33:30,360
Speaker 1: in in a kid's life to to move on from

623
00:33:30,400 --> 00:33:32,720
Speaker 1: that and how that happen. And so it was funny

624
00:33:32,760 --> 00:33:34,760
Speaker 1: because I tried to make her feel better and I

625
00:33:34,760 --> 00:33:37,200
Speaker 1: broke down. Then she comforted me, and then I think

626
00:33:37,240 --> 00:33:40,040
Speaker 1: it was just a little bit of relief. So okay,

627
00:33:40,200 --> 00:33:43,640
Speaker 1: So does the tooth fairy come the next night and

628
00:33:43,720 --> 00:33:49,480
Speaker 1: come with a bigger better Uh? Well, don't forget this

629
00:33:49,520 --> 00:33:52,800
Speaker 1: is the she's the oldest of four kids. So um,

630
00:33:52,800 --> 00:33:56,520
Speaker 1: it was kept under wraps. The tooth fairy did come, um,

631
00:33:56,600 --> 00:34:00,200
Speaker 1: and the tooth Fairy will continue to come whether um

632
00:34:00,200 --> 00:34:03,440
Speaker 1: you know, with with whether she expects it or not.

633
00:34:03,680 --> 00:34:07,240
Speaker 1: Is this the part where you tell us that she's thirty? Yeah,

634
00:34:07,440 --> 00:34:13,399
Speaker 1: obviously my oldest. Okay, we're going to I just want

635
00:34:13,400 --> 00:34:16,000
Speaker 1: to say thank you, gentlemen, because that was like you

636
00:34:16,120 --> 00:34:18,960
Speaker 1: all opened up and exposed some things that are very

637
00:34:19,120 --> 00:34:24,400
Speaker 1: real and authentic and near and dear to your hearts. UM,

638
00:34:24,440 --> 00:34:28,359
Speaker 1: thank you so thank you for that question. Patrick, Uh,

639
00:34:28,560 --> 00:34:32,759
Speaker 1: really appreciate that. Here's another question from Ellie. She says,

640
00:34:32,880 --> 00:34:36,759
Speaker 1: I am professionally successful, nearly thirty year old female who

641
00:34:36,800 --> 00:34:39,520
Speaker 1: was still a virgin years ago. I made the decision

642
00:34:39,560 --> 00:34:41,439
Speaker 1: as part of my faith to wait to have sex

643
00:34:41,520 --> 00:34:45,120
Speaker 1: until marriage. That being said, here are my two questions. First,

644
00:34:45,520 --> 00:34:47,640
Speaker 1: does it matter to you who are you dating what

645
00:34:47,760 --> 00:34:52,160
Speaker 1: your partner's sexual history is? And second, at what point

646
00:34:52,160 --> 00:34:55,160
Speaker 1: in dating do you bring up your deal breakers. I'm

647
00:34:55,200 --> 00:34:57,440
Speaker 1: someone that prefers to rip the band aid off and

648
00:34:57,440 --> 00:34:59,440
Speaker 1: just bring it up so I don't waste anyone's time.

649
00:34:59,680 --> 00:35:01,920
Speaker 1: But I I have friends who think you need to

650
00:35:01,960 --> 00:35:05,360
Speaker 1: win them over first and then drop the deal breaker bombs.

651
00:35:06,760 --> 00:35:10,040
Speaker 1: So back to the first question, doesn't matter who you

652
00:35:10,080 --> 00:35:17,000
Speaker 1: are dating, UM with what their sexual history is. I'll

653
00:35:17,000 --> 00:35:20,920
Speaker 1: go I I've I've always wanted to know that, UM,

654
00:35:21,000 --> 00:35:23,520
Speaker 1: somebody whoever I was going to end up with hadn't

655
00:35:23,600 --> 00:35:26,960
Speaker 1: just gone and and done it with anybody, So it

656
00:35:26,960 --> 00:35:28,560
Speaker 1: didn't matter. It wasn't like I was like, well that

657
00:35:28,640 --> 00:35:30,000
Speaker 1: it has it has to be on one, you know,

658
00:35:30,600 --> 00:35:34,200
Speaker 1: five or less or you know. But in my in

659
00:35:34,280 --> 00:35:37,520
Speaker 1: my reality, when I thought about settling down and marrying

660
00:35:37,600 --> 00:35:40,400
Speaker 1: someone and having them be the mother to my kids,

661
00:35:40,440 --> 00:35:42,840
Speaker 1: I didn't want it to be such a flippant thought

662
00:35:43,200 --> 00:35:45,080
Speaker 1: for them to be with to have just been with

663
00:35:45,120 --> 00:35:47,719
Speaker 1: a ton of people. So I never had a specific

664
00:35:47,800 --> 00:35:51,160
Speaker 1: number in my head. Um, but it was something that

665
00:35:51,200 --> 00:35:52,759
Speaker 1: I was always aware of. And if someone had come

666
00:35:52,800 --> 00:35:54,560
Speaker 1: to me and said, hey, you know, I've been with

667
00:35:54,640 --> 00:35:58,120
Speaker 1: you know, a hundred people, I probably, honestly, I would

668
00:35:58,160 --> 00:36:00,719
Speaker 1: probably have a problem with that. But the flip side,

669
00:36:00,719 --> 00:36:03,920
Speaker 1: I think, and what what Ellie is getting at is

670
00:36:04,400 --> 00:36:09,000
Speaker 1: if you are a virgin, that's then could you ever

671
00:36:09,040 --> 00:36:11,440
Speaker 1: be with someone? And you spoke about it when we

672
00:36:11,560 --> 00:36:16,280
Speaker 1: talked about intimacy and when Julianne was on intimacy for

673
00:36:16,480 --> 00:36:19,600
Speaker 1: many people is such a large part of a marriage

674
00:36:19,600 --> 00:36:23,320
Speaker 1: and a relationship And can you enter into a marriage

675
00:36:23,920 --> 00:36:27,759
Speaker 1: without knowing if you have that sexual chemistry? Could you

676
00:36:28,120 --> 00:36:32,879
Speaker 1: are you asking me personally? I full transparency. I think

677
00:36:32,880 --> 00:36:38,200
Speaker 1: for myself personally, would be very difficult. I think a

678
00:36:38,200 --> 00:36:42,200
Speaker 1: a sexual relationship to me prior to marriage would be

679
00:36:42,280 --> 00:36:47,760
Speaker 1: very important and was to me uh with my wife. Uh.

680
00:36:47,920 --> 00:36:50,600
Speaker 1: And so for me that would be very difficult. And

681
00:36:50,600 --> 00:36:52,799
Speaker 1: I'm only speaking for me, I'm not speaking for all

682
00:36:52,840 --> 00:36:56,319
Speaker 1: men on that. What about yourself? It's a it's a

683
00:36:56,320 --> 00:37:00,560
Speaker 1: really tough one. It's you know, because I respect someone

684
00:37:01,160 --> 00:37:03,800
Speaker 1: someone's faith and that this is a faith based decision

685
00:37:03,880 --> 00:37:07,200
Speaker 1: and you have to you have to honor that respect

686
00:37:07,239 --> 00:37:12,359
Speaker 1: that completely. YEA, But I would echo what you said.

687
00:37:12,400 --> 00:37:15,479
Speaker 1: I don't think. I don't think I could enter into

688
00:37:15,520 --> 00:37:19,000
Speaker 1: a marriage and not know and then find out, you know,

689
00:37:19,440 --> 00:37:21,480
Speaker 1: early on in the marriage that we have no sexual

690
00:37:21,600 --> 00:37:25,480
Speaker 1: chemistry and that this isn't going to work. I don't

691
00:37:25,480 --> 00:37:28,680
Speaker 1: think I could ever do that. Can you develop like say, say,

692
00:37:28,760 --> 00:37:30,759
Speaker 1: you you get married and you don't have that and

693
00:37:30,800 --> 00:37:32,520
Speaker 1: I don't know the answer this I'm asking, And you

694
00:37:32,560 --> 00:37:34,960
Speaker 1: get married and you don't feel that sexual chemistry because

695
00:37:35,000 --> 00:37:37,799
Speaker 1: you haven't had that closeness yet. Do you think that's

696
00:37:37,800 --> 00:37:40,840
Speaker 1: something that can develop from then and you can develop

697
00:37:40,920 --> 00:37:44,120
Speaker 1: that sexual chemistry together or is it right off the bat?

698
00:37:44,200 --> 00:37:48,120
Speaker 1: Yes or no? Probably? I think more often than not

699
00:37:48,280 --> 00:37:54,120
Speaker 1: in this case, it's a virgin would end up with

700
00:37:54,200 --> 00:37:58,600
Speaker 1: another virgin who has kept his or her virginity for

701
00:37:58,640 --> 00:38:02,879
Speaker 1: the exact same reasons and are going through this journey

702
00:38:03,520 --> 00:38:08,319
Speaker 1: of sexual exploration together, and so there's less likelihood that

703
00:38:08,320 --> 00:38:11,840
Speaker 1: that you're you're you really want to laugh at that.

704
00:38:11,960 --> 00:38:13,839
Speaker 1: I'm not laughing at I'm just in my head. If

705
00:38:13,880 --> 00:38:16,440
Speaker 1: I'm being honest, I think, yeah, that's it's probably not

706
00:38:16,480 --> 00:38:19,120
Speaker 1: going to be great for a while if they're both versions.

707
00:38:19,520 --> 00:38:21,800
Speaker 1: But I also think that I also think that if

708
00:38:21,840 --> 00:38:23,960
Speaker 1: if the man or the woman is a virgin and

709
00:38:24,000 --> 00:38:26,759
Speaker 1: the other one is not, that you can still have

710
00:38:26,840 --> 00:38:29,960
Speaker 1: sexual chemistry without having sex. That you could be like

711
00:38:30,120 --> 00:38:32,920
Speaker 1: just lusting and desiring the person and you could know

712
00:38:33,040 --> 00:38:35,840
Speaker 1: this is going to be incredible when we do. And

713
00:38:35,880 --> 00:38:38,799
Speaker 1: it's a faith based decision, as Ellie says, So I

714
00:38:38,840 --> 00:38:42,040
Speaker 1: think that, yes, do I think it can happen. Absolutely.

715
00:38:42,239 --> 00:38:45,279
Speaker 1: I think there can be chemistry without actual sex going on,

716
00:38:46,000 --> 00:38:48,279
Speaker 1: no doubt about it. What about the opposite way? What

717
00:38:48,320 --> 00:38:51,520
Speaker 1: about like is it? Um doesn't matter how many partners

718
00:38:51,960 --> 00:39:00,080
Speaker 1: your potential life partner has had prior to you asking me, Um,

719
00:39:00,120 --> 00:39:05,759
Speaker 1: you know it could Listen, Let's be realistic Okay. I mean,

720
00:39:06,480 --> 00:39:10,160
Speaker 1: I'm no angel. And as much as men think that

721
00:39:10,200 --> 00:39:13,560
Speaker 1: they're looking for one, it's a it's most of the

722
00:39:13,640 --> 00:39:17,120
Speaker 1: time it's it's more like a fantasy land. You know.

723
00:39:17,160 --> 00:39:22,400
Speaker 1: You're looking for someone to have traits that are mostly unrealistic. Um.

724
00:39:22,440 --> 00:39:26,880
Speaker 1: And part of that maintaining that infatuation with someone is

725
00:39:26,880 --> 00:39:29,920
Speaker 1: they're not necessarily exposing all of the worst parts of

726
00:39:29,960 --> 00:39:32,359
Speaker 1: their life or phases of their life that they went

727
00:39:32,440 --> 00:39:35,400
Speaker 1: through in order for you to maintain that fantasy about

728
00:39:35,440 --> 00:39:38,560
Speaker 1: them and that innocence, that purity in your mind that

729
00:39:38,640 --> 00:39:42,800
Speaker 1: they may have. Um, you don't necessarily want to know everything.

730
00:39:43,080 --> 00:39:46,040
Speaker 1: I don't, and I want to permit them to have.

731
00:39:46,440 --> 00:39:49,560
Speaker 1: I wanted to permit them to having gone through those

732
00:39:49,600 --> 00:39:53,600
Speaker 1: developmental phases of their life. UM. You know, I'm certainly

733
00:39:53,600 --> 00:39:59,160
Speaker 1: not looking to be somebody's educator and relationship. UM. So

734
00:39:59,320 --> 00:40:03,240
Speaker 1: you know, because would be an incredible imbalance for me. UM.

735
00:40:03,280 --> 00:40:08,600
Speaker 1: I want somebody who has been part of the world. Uh,

736
00:40:08,640 --> 00:40:14,920
Speaker 1: and not necessarily is someone who's freaking out we're in

737
00:40:14,960 --> 00:40:18,680
Speaker 1: a room together. UM. You know, I mean I want

738
00:40:18,680 --> 00:40:21,719
Speaker 1: there to be some level of understanding there, and uh,

739
00:40:22,520 --> 00:40:25,399
Speaker 1: it cannot it's not necessarily all sexual, but I want

740
00:40:25,440 --> 00:40:29,920
Speaker 1: them to have had relationships and a real life and

741
00:40:30,000 --> 00:40:33,480
Speaker 1: a job. And you know, it's okay to have friends

742
00:40:33,560 --> 00:40:36,520
Speaker 1: and enemies. That's real life. It's okay for them to

743
00:40:36,600 --> 00:40:40,040
Speaker 1: have a wild phase of their life. I certainly did.

744
00:40:40,640 --> 00:40:45,560
Speaker 1: Um And so yeah, you go ahead to echo and

745
00:40:45,640 --> 00:40:50,239
Speaker 1: take further what you're saying. I believe that whatever if

746
00:40:50,280 --> 00:40:52,960
Speaker 1: this person, if you are looking at somebody as your

747
00:40:53,040 --> 00:40:57,399
Speaker 1: life partner, your significant other for life, you have such

748
00:40:57,400 --> 00:41:00,640
Speaker 1: a deep love and admiration and respect for that person

749
00:41:00,680 --> 00:41:03,920
Speaker 1: that whatever they went through that got them to be

750
00:41:04,120 --> 00:41:09,440
Speaker 1: that person, I think is necessary. You know, like the

751
00:41:09,480 --> 00:41:14,200
Speaker 1: man I am to my wife today is because of

752
00:41:14,280 --> 00:41:16,439
Speaker 1: a lot of stuff that I've gone through, good or bad,

753
00:41:17,280 --> 00:41:19,680
Speaker 1: to meeting her and for her, the woman she is

754
00:41:20,080 --> 00:41:22,480
Speaker 1: is stuff that she's gone through that maybe was painful

755
00:41:22,600 --> 00:41:25,000
Speaker 1: or maybe enjoyable or whatever at certain times of her life,

756
00:41:25,000 --> 00:41:27,520
Speaker 1: but has brought her to this moment to be prepared

757
00:41:27,560 --> 00:41:30,200
Speaker 1: and be this type of a human to be in

758
00:41:30,239 --> 00:41:32,600
Speaker 1: a relationship with me. So I think there is value.

759
00:41:32,640 --> 00:41:36,840
Speaker 1: I think, you know, I was I was thinking, you know,

760
00:41:37,120 --> 00:41:38,840
Speaker 1: I think that there's a little bit of a builder

761
00:41:39,160 --> 00:41:41,640
Speaker 1: in every one of us, a little bit of a fixer.

762
00:41:42,560 --> 00:41:46,520
Speaker 1: And I think that I think part of appealing to

763
00:41:46,640 --> 00:41:49,040
Speaker 1: that element of our psyche is looking for things that

764
00:41:49,080 --> 00:41:51,799
Speaker 1: are a little bit broken, and and I think you're

765
00:41:51,840 --> 00:41:56,120
Speaker 1: looking for something that you can help too, And and

766
00:41:56,160 --> 00:41:59,000
Speaker 1: I think you ultimately find each other in that way.

767
00:41:59,040 --> 00:42:01,399
Speaker 1: You know, you're looking for someone to fill and fix

768
00:42:01,480 --> 00:42:03,919
Speaker 1: certain parts of you, and you're looking to help fix

769
00:42:03,960 --> 00:42:06,480
Speaker 1: certain parts of other people, only the ones that you

770
00:42:06,520 --> 00:42:09,400
Speaker 1: think that you can be helpful with, you know what

771
00:42:09,480 --> 00:42:12,000
Speaker 1: I mean. Yeah, that's a great point. And and what

772
00:42:12,040 --> 00:42:14,319
Speaker 1: I was gonna say based on what you both said,

773
00:42:14,360 --> 00:42:16,760
Speaker 1: but Brooks, what you just mentioned. It's funny. The second

774
00:42:16,760 --> 00:42:19,960
Speaker 1: half of Ellie's question was about deal breakers and what

775
00:42:20,000 --> 00:42:23,040
Speaker 1: I was gonna say, but you actually pointed out pointed

776
00:42:23,040 --> 00:42:25,480
Speaker 1: out the reason why for me, I don't think that

777
00:42:25,680 --> 00:42:28,120
Speaker 1: anybody can really have a deal breaker. For instance, I

778
00:42:28,160 --> 00:42:31,000
Speaker 1: mentioned what I mentioned in my ideal thought, but I

779
00:42:31,040 --> 00:42:35,279
Speaker 1: don't believe in in deal breakers because so what you said,

780
00:42:35,280 --> 00:42:38,360
Speaker 1: I think when you meet somebody whatever brought them to this,

781
00:42:38,920 --> 00:42:40,880
Speaker 1: that's the person that you're that you're gonna that you

782
00:42:41,040 --> 00:42:43,080
Speaker 1: want to be within your learning, so you can go

783
00:42:43,120 --> 00:42:45,759
Speaker 1: into a situation and say, listen, this is my deal breaker,

784
00:42:45,800 --> 00:42:47,560
Speaker 1: I won't do. But when you meet a person, if

785
00:42:47,600 --> 00:42:52,040
Speaker 1: they connect with you and there's that there's that bond

786
00:42:52,120 --> 00:42:54,720
Speaker 1: between you two, I think when you find that right person,

787
00:42:54,719 --> 00:42:57,440
Speaker 1: because technically, I mean not technically, but people say, hey,

788
00:42:57,440 --> 00:42:59,480
Speaker 1: there's one person for you, right, And if you believe that,

789
00:42:59,840 --> 00:43:02,160
Speaker 1: then there's no way you can set a criteria and

790
00:43:02,200 --> 00:43:03,799
Speaker 1: say these are my deal breakers and this person can

791
00:43:03,800 --> 00:43:07,000
Speaker 1: have fallen that because you'll meet somebody and maybe there's

792
00:43:07,040 --> 00:43:09,359
Speaker 1: something that you thought was a deal breaker, but you're like, wow,

793
00:43:09,400 --> 00:43:11,560
Speaker 1: this made this person who they are and I love

794
00:43:11,640 --> 00:43:15,600
Speaker 1: that person. So what about what about current deal deal breakers?

795
00:43:15,640 --> 00:43:19,279
Speaker 1: Like you're looking at somebody's past, is like, there's no

796
00:43:19,360 --> 00:43:21,680
Speaker 1: deal breaker and somebody's past, but what about a current

797
00:43:21,800 --> 00:43:26,080
Speaker 1: deal breaker? You know, like if this person, like for me, honestly,

798
00:43:26,120 --> 00:43:27,839
Speaker 1: like I don't think I could be with somebody who

799
00:43:27,840 --> 00:43:30,440
Speaker 1: smoked cigarettes. I think for me that would be a

800
00:43:30,440 --> 00:43:33,759
Speaker 1: deal breaker, Like that would be very difficult for me.

801
00:43:33,920 --> 00:43:36,480
Speaker 1: I couldn't be with someone that's rude to other people. Yeah,

802
00:43:37,520 --> 00:43:42,680
Speaker 1: So how how so to Ellie's second question, Uh, she

803
00:43:42,719 --> 00:43:45,160
Speaker 1: wants to know if if you should lay out the

804
00:43:45,160 --> 00:43:47,919
Speaker 1: deal breakers from the onset when you've just met someone

805
00:43:47,920 --> 00:43:50,680
Speaker 1: and are interested as opposed to waiting un till you've

806
00:43:50,680 --> 00:43:52,480
Speaker 1: won them over and now saying oh, by the way,

807
00:43:52,800 --> 00:43:55,680
Speaker 1: we're good. I want you to change all these things

808
00:43:55,760 --> 00:43:59,560
Speaker 1: from a man's perspective, which one from my perspective, I

809
00:43:59,600 --> 00:44:01,880
Speaker 1: feel you can't do either one, Like what are you

810
00:44:01,920 --> 00:44:04,000
Speaker 1: gonna sit down on the first date and be like, okay, here,

811
00:44:04,239 --> 00:44:06,880
Speaker 1: I can't You can't smoke, you can't drink, you can't drive.

812
00:44:07,040 --> 00:44:09,440
Speaker 1: You know, people do, and I think it's crazy, And

813
00:44:09,480 --> 00:44:11,279
Speaker 1: I think those are the ones that are still sort

814
00:44:11,320 --> 00:44:19,000
Speaker 1: of alone perhaps. But I feel also that if you're

815
00:44:19,120 --> 00:44:22,560
Speaker 1: going through these kind of together, like you know, you're

816
00:44:23,280 --> 00:44:25,959
Speaker 1: you get to learn that person in their experience in life,

817
00:44:26,000 --> 00:44:28,080
Speaker 1: then when should she do it. She should do it

818
00:44:28,160 --> 00:44:31,279
Speaker 1: as she's going through and understanding who that person is,

819
00:44:31,719 --> 00:44:33,759
Speaker 1: and then in her own mind she's either making up

820
00:44:33,800 --> 00:44:35,960
Speaker 1: those or bringing those to the table and having the

821
00:44:35,960 --> 00:44:38,120
Speaker 1: discussion with that person saying, hey, you know what, I

822
00:44:38,200 --> 00:44:41,560
Speaker 1: I really love you. You're awesome. You know all the

823
00:44:41,600 --> 00:44:44,160
Speaker 1: time we spend, but you know, I wish is there

824
00:44:44,160 --> 00:44:46,720
Speaker 1: any way you can kind of stop smoking or whatever

825
00:44:46,719 --> 00:44:50,600
Speaker 1: that may be. I think you're right, so so a

826
00:44:50,719 --> 00:44:55,920
Speaker 1: very close friend of mine has cancer. It's in essentially remission.

827
00:44:56,000 --> 00:44:58,000
Speaker 1: That would be like how you could say it, but

828
00:44:58,440 --> 00:45:03,120
Speaker 1: it's still there. So she debates when she's dating someone new,

829
00:45:03,719 --> 00:45:06,879
Speaker 1: at what point do I tell them? And I don't

830
00:45:06,880 --> 00:45:09,680
Speaker 1: feel like she needs to tell them the first date.

831
00:45:09,719 --> 00:45:11,120
Speaker 1: It's like you don't have to say, hi, nice to

832
00:45:11,120 --> 00:45:12,719
Speaker 1: meet you. By the way, I have cancer and it

833
00:45:12,760 --> 00:45:16,319
Speaker 1: could come back. But as it gets more serious, then

834
00:45:16,400 --> 00:45:19,680
Speaker 1: I do think she does need to tell them. Putting

835
00:45:19,680 --> 00:45:21,759
Speaker 1: myself in that in those shoes, if I was a

836
00:45:21,800 --> 00:45:25,200
Speaker 1: gentleman on that date with her, I think you're right, Amy,

837
00:45:25,239 --> 00:45:26,799
Speaker 1: because I think if it was told to me on

838
00:45:26,840 --> 00:45:29,680
Speaker 1: the first date, I might be a little startled and

839
00:45:29,760 --> 00:45:32,680
Speaker 1: jarred by it. But as I got to know this person,

840
00:45:32,719 --> 00:45:35,320
Speaker 1: maybe on a second date or a third date, that

841
00:45:35,320 --> 00:45:38,480
Speaker 1: that might soften a little because I know her personality

842
00:45:38,520 --> 00:45:42,480
Speaker 1: and have developed somewhat of a compassion as a human

843
00:45:42,520 --> 00:45:44,560
Speaker 1: for her, not not with her situation, but just as

844
00:45:44,600 --> 00:45:47,160
Speaker 1: a human, and then it would be like, okay, can

845
00:45:47,200 --> 00:45:49,680
Speaker 1: you tell me more? That it wouldn't be so I

846
00:45:49,719 --> 00:45:53,160
Speaker 1: I think, I yeah, no, that's a great point. I mean,

847
00:45:53,280 --> 00:45:56,440
Speaker 1: I think you need to learn getting the information up

848
00:45:56,480 --> 00:45:59,319
Speaker 1: front could be a bit startling. Or or you know

849
00:46:00,040 --> 00:46:03,560
Speaker 1: whatever you want to starling, but like and then you're

850
00:46:03,600 --> 00:46:06,080
Speaker 1: not looking at the cancer. You're looking at that person,

851
00:46:06,400 --> 00:46:08,000
Speaker 1: you know, and do you want to know who that

852
00:46:08,040 --> 00:46:10,400
Speaker 1: person is? Is she or he great to go on

853
00:46:10,440 --> 00:46:12,680
Speaker 1: walks with? Or do they like to go out to

854
00:46:12,719 --> 00:46:14,920
Speaker 1: dinners or whatever? You know, Like, you're not trying to

855
00:46:15,040 --> 00:46:17,160
Speaker 1: date the person that has cancer. I feel like you're

856
00:46:17,200 --> 00:46:19,000
Speaker 1: trying to figure out who that person is and then

857
00:46:19,120 --> 00:46:22,040
Speaker 1: and then understand what where to go with it after that?

858
00:46:22,280 --> 00:46:26,960
Speaker 1: Well said, Okay, another one from Mary Beth. I'm excited

859
00:46:27,000 --> 00:46:28,480
Speaker 1: for this one. I'm going to direct this one to

860
00:46:28,600 --> 00:46:36,960
Speaker 1: Mr Gavin DeGraw. What constitutes high maintenance with regards to

861
00:46:37,120 --> 00:46:45,600
Speaker 1: women putting on your makeup on your way to the gym? Oh? Wow? Okay?

862
00:46:45,640 --> 00:46:48,239
Speaker 1: Anything else? What else? I feel like there's more there?

863
00:46:48,239 --> 00:46:51,120
Speaker 1: What else he got? What constitutes high maintenance? There's a

864
00:46:51,120 --> 00:46:53,719
Speaker 1: lot of versions of high maintenance, so give them to us.

865
00:46:55,040 --> 00:46:58,280
Speaker 1: Oh okay, here's a difficult one. You ever go shopping

866
00:46:58,320 --> 00:47:02,319
Speaker 1: with your girl, not just your shopping, but like not

867
00:47:02,400 --> 00:47:06,680
Speaker 1: just take your shopping, but like you know, shopping shopping, shopping,

868
00:47:07,000 --> 00:47:10,440
Speaker 1: you know, like where they're trying on clothes and and

869
00:47:10,560 --> 00:47:14,080
Speaker 1: you're you're sitting in the women's department just looking like

870
00:47:14,120 --> 00:47:19,640
Speaker 1: a weirdo, like walking around picking out They're asking you,

871
00:47:19,800 --> 00:47:21,960
Speaker 1: how does this look? You're like, man, come on, can't

872
00:47:21,960 --> 00:47:24,040
Speaker 1: you just like, can't you just do that at the house?

873
00:47:24,920 --> 00:47:27,240
Speaker 1: I gotta sit around here. I'm the guy sitting outside

874
00:47:27,239 --> 00:47:30,080
Speaker 1: the dressing room of the girls, you know what I mean?

875
00:47:30,600 --> 00:47:33,240
Speaker 1: And then you'll make yourself busy. You go walking around

876
00:47:33,320 --> 00:47:37,040
Speaker 1: the women's clothes and now they're like, oh, man, gave

877
00:47:37,080 --> 00:47:42,160
Speaker 1: them de grass trying on some women's clothes now, so

878
00:47:42,239 --> 00:47:46,960
Speaker 1: where you go. I'm just saying how it affects me,

879
00:47:47,800 --> 00:47:50,160
Speaker 1: you know, because they're they're asking you to be there,

880
00:47:50,200 --> 00:47:53,440
Speaker 1: be there, present, be not to be there present, to

881
00:47:53,520 --> 00:47:58,920
Speaker 1: be present during certain things that you don't necessarily you

882
00:47:58,920 --> 00:48:02,880
Speaker 1: shouldn't be privy to that process in my opinion, and

883
00:48:02,920 --> 00:48:05,640
Speaker 1: that's a high maintenance thing in my opinion. To expect

884
00:48:05,680 --> 00:48:11,440
Speaker 1: the guy to sit outside the dressing room super uncomfortable.

885
00:48:11,440 --> 00:48:14,479
Speaker 1: I don't even get it, because why would a girl

886
00:48:14,640 --> 00:48:16,399
Speaker 1: want to try on clothes in front of their guy?

887
00:48:16,480 --> 00:48:18,359
Speaker 1: Like the whole point is we want to try it on,

888
00:48:18,600 --> 00:48:20,480
Speaker 1: get it, and then surprise you with it later. Like

889
00:48:20,520 --> 00:48:27,680
Speaker 1: this doesn't even make sense at all, Go ahead and

890
00:48:27,680 --> 00:48:29,920
Speaker 1: get in, let's have it. Sure, I'm high maintenance if

891
00:48:29,960 --> 00:48:34,120
Speaker 1: that's what you're defining, but no, I want my husband look,

892
00:48:34,400 --> 00:48:36,440
Speaker 1: you know, seeing me try on clothes, so I know

893
00:48:36,560 --> 00:48:39,120
Speaker 1: it's what he likes. There you go, I totally agree

894
00:48:39,120 --> 00:48:42,200
Speaker 1: with you. I think it's I mean, I think to

895
00:48:42,360 --> 00:48:46,840
Speaker 1: some degree in that processes tough. Well, Gavin. In most stories,

896
00:48:46,880 --> 00:48:49,960
Speaker 1: they have a little seating lounge area that you can

897
00:48:50,000 --> 00:48:51,800
Speaker 1: go and kind of hang out and sit on your phone.

898
00:48:51,960 --> 00:48:54,480
Speaker 1: It seems to be somewhat close to the changing room

899
00:48:54,560 --> 00:48:57,640
Speaker 1: or the try on room. But I do like it.

900
00:48:57,800 --> 00:49:01,520
Speaker 1: Like I'm not gonna go I going shopping with my wife.

901
00:49:01,560 --> 00:49:03,400
Speaker 1: I'm not going to go and pick out clothes that

902
00:49:03,440 --> 00:49:05,040
Speaker 1: I want her to try on or wear. Like I

903
00:49:05,080 --> 00:49:09,120
Speaker 1: think that's creepy and high maintenance. Yes, but I do

904
00:49:09,280 --> 00:49:11,560
Speaker 1: think there is some level that Danielle is talking about,

905
00:49:11,560 --> 00:49:13,160
Speaker 1: like when you come out of the dressing room and

906
00:49:13,400 --> 00:49:15,319
Speaker 1: less so on Amy, Like it's not a surprise where

907
00:49:15,360 --> 00:49:17,080
Speaker 1: you're gonna go put it on later, like I got

908
00:49:17,080 --> 00:49:19,479
Speaker 1: these black jeans. You know, it's more of like, hey,

909
00:49:19,800 --> 00:49:24,040
Speaker 1: do you like you're having that? It's almost like, uh,

910
00:49:24,080 --> 00:49:25,759
Speaker 1: you're at a restaurant you're having dinner, like do you

911
00:49:25,800 --> 00:49:27,400
Speaker 1: like the scallops? You know, it's like, hey, do you

912
00:49:27,440 --> 00:49:29,440
Speaker 1: like the black jeans? Do you like these jeans on me?

913
00:49:29,480 --> 00:49:31,560
Speaker 1: And you're like you're sitting there and you're like, hey, yeah,

914
00:49:31,680 --> 00:49:34,040
Speaker 1: they look great. Look how fancy you guys? You guys

915
00:49:34,080 --> 00:49:37,000
Speaker 1: still have time to go to the mall. We have clothes,

916
00:49:37,840 --> 00:49:40,440
Speaker 1: like whatever it is delivered. She tries it on there,

917
00:49:40,560 --> 00:49:42,040
Speaker 1: I tried on, what are you think about? And if nan,

918
00:49:42,080 --> 00:49:46,160
Speaker 1: it goes back in the box that I agree with

919
00:49:46,200 --> 00:49:51,319
Speaker 1: you back to kind of like got the person. Then

920
00:49:51,600 --> 00:49:53,720
Speaker 1: we're trying to stay on topic of what's high maintenance

921
00:49:53,719 --> 00:49:56,120
Speaker 1: for a woman? Okay, what high maintenance for me is

922
00:49:56,160 --> 00:49:59,040
Speaker 1: someone that has a some sort of like a deal

923
00:49:59,040 --> 00:50:01,080
Speaker 1: breaker as to what they will or will not do. Hey,

924
00:50:01,120 --> 00:50:02,880
Speaker 1: we're going to this party. Oh I'm not going there

925
00:50:02,920 --> 00:50:04,920
Speaker 1: because it's so far away. Hey we're going to this party?

926
00:50:05,040 --> 00:50:07,360
Speaker 1: Is so and so gonna be there? Someone that there's like,

927
00:50:07,400 --> 00:50:09,440
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna do something because of one thing. It's

928
00:50:09,480 --> 00:50:12,440
Speaker 1: like to me, that's super high maintenance. I'm not going

929
00:50:12,480 --> 00:50:14,359
Speaker 1: to go there because it's you know, it's too far

930
00:50:14,360 --> 00:50:16,680
Speaker 1: away whatever it is. And it's like for me. You

931
00:50:16,719 --> 00:50:18,239
Speaker 1: gotta be I think you gotta be flexible, and you

932
00:50:18,239 --> 00:50:19,759
Speaker 1: gotta be like, listen, let's go check it out. If

933
00:50:19,760 --> 00:50:21,480
Speaker 1: it's not good, we leave. But when you're like, I

934
00:50:21,520 --> 00:50:25,560
Speaker 1: won't do something because of this, I think that's high maintenance.

935
00:50:25,840 --> 00:50:28,719
Speaker 1: I think it's like when the list of things that

936
00:50:28,800 --> 00:50:31,920
Speaker 1: they need to do something to Demetri's point or to

937
00:50:31,960 --> 00:50:36,560
Speaker 1: make them happy becomes so cumbersome and becomes a chore

938
00:50:36,760 --> 00:50:40,319
Speaker 1: for me to have to run through this checklist of

939
00:50:40,360 --> 00:50:44,879
Speaker 1: things to make them happy. It's high maintenance. Like that's

940
00:50:44,920 --> 00:50:46,520
Speaker 1: the most concise way I could put it, which is

941
00:50:46,520 --> 00:50:48,319
Speaker 1: funny because I feel I can correct me if I'm wrong.

942
00:50:48,360 --> 00:50:50,520
Speaker 1: I feel like you're probably more high maintenance than your wife.

943
00:50:50,680 --> 00:50:53,719
Speaker 1: I have been dubbed the metro sexual high maintenance gut

944
00:50:53,760 --> 00:50:57,600
Speaker 1: in this podcast. Like it's very not my accident. Ex

945
00:50:58,080 --> 00:51:00,520
Speaker 1: thank you. I mean, I guess I'm I'm maintenance because

946
00:51:00,520 --> 00:51:02,640
Speaker 1: I wear You're the only one that was comfortable during

947
00:51:02,680 --> 00:51:04,520
Speaker 1: the photo shoot when we had to do individual photos.

948
00:51:04,560 --> 00:51:06,160
Speaker 1: Everyone else was uncomfortable. I don't want to do this.

949
00:51:06,360 --> 00:51:10,200
Speaker 1: You got up there like it was blown those clowns. Man.

950
00:51:10,480 --> 00:51:12,840
Speaker 1: I know that I know that he's not high maintenance

951
00:51:13,080 --> 00:51:17,880
Speaker 1: because we met up in London and we were walking

952
00:51:17,920 --> 00:51:20,840
Speaker 1: around London. We met up, we had lunch, and he

953
00:51:20,840 --> 00:51:22,799
Speaker 1: didn't say, I'm going to hop a car back to

954
00:51:23,000 --> 00:51:26,040
Speaker 1: the hotel. I'm not gonna get a ride. I'm not

955
00:51:26,040 --> 00:51:29,160
Speaker 1: gonna get it uber. He walked how many miles did

956
00:51:29,200 --> 00:51:32,000
Speaker 1: you walk back? It was six miles, good, six miles

957
00:51:32,200 --> 00:51:36,360
Speaker 1: with me through the park. He texted me beforehand, but

958
00:51:36,400 --> 00:51:38,879
Speaker 1: he Evan's deal Breakers and I said he likes people

959
00:51:38,880 --> 00:51:42,959
Speaker 1: who walk, and so he was like, I said, that's it, okay,

960
00:51:42,960 --> 00:51:46,160
Speaker 1: I'm gonna give you mine. High maintenance for me is

961
00:51:46,200 --> 00:51:49,279
Speaker 1: somebody that points out something that they don't like, but

962
00:51:49,400 --> 00:51:53,080
Speaker 1: we'll not do something about it. Oh I don't Oh

963
00:51:53,120 --> 00:51:55,319
Speaker 1: that is so dirty or something clean the damn thing,

964
00:51:55,800 --> 00:51:58,040
Speaker 1: or like this is that is so bad, We'll do

965
00:51:58,120 --> 00:52:00,360
Speaker 1: something about it. And then if they don't. Sobody that

966
00:52:00,440 --> 00:52:04,279
Speaker 1: is pointing out noticeably bringing attention to something that they

967
00:52:04,360 --> 00:52:06,920
Speaker 1: do not like, bringing it to your attention is not

968
00:52:07,080 --> 00:52:10,960
Speaker 1: willing to do something about that. To me, that is

969
00:52:11,000 --> 00:52:14,960
Speaker 1: a very maintenance. And did you categorize that sorry? Like

970
00:52:15,120 --> 00:52:17,960
Speaker 1: as as asking questions of like, hey, so how are

971
00:52:17,960 --> 00:52:19,920
Speaker 1: we going to get there? And what table were we

972
00:52:19,960 --> 00:52:21,719
Speaker 1: going to sit at and what do you want to

973
00:52:21,719 --> 00:52:29,200
Speaker 1: do afterwards? And uh for high maintenance, Yeah, go with you.

974
00:52:29,960 --> 00:52:31,200
Speaker 1: Here's the reason I bring it up is I have

975
00:52:31,280 --> 00:52:33,640
Speaker 1: I have friends, like guy friends that are we go

976
00:52:33,719 --> 00:52:35,680
Speaker 1: fishing where they're like, hey, well what fight are we on?

977
00:52:35,880 --> 00:52:37,200
Speaker 1: And then what time is the car going to come

978
00:52:37,200 --> 00:52:38,600
Speaker 1: pick us up? And then what time are we going

979
00:52:38,680 --> 00:52:40,440
Speaker 1: to get on that other fight? And then what time

980
00:52:40,440 --> 00:52:43,400
Speaker 1: are we gonna fish? And what's for breakfast? And you're like, dudes,

981
00:52:43,520 --> 00:52:46,440
Speaker 1: to take a seat, bro, Like, yeah, I get you,

982
00:52:46,680 --> 00:52:49,160
Speaker 1: I love it, So we're not coming next time. So

983
00:52:49,239 --> 00:52:51,319
Speaker 1: getting back to what you said, Brooks, you said when

984
00:52:51,320 --> 00:52:53,799
Speaker 1: people point out something that they don't like but won't

985
00:52:53,800 --> 00:52:56,560
Speaker 1: do anything about it. Sir, what if it was like

986
00:52:56,640 --> 00:53:00,480
Speaker 1: I don't like the color of that house, Are they

987
00:53:00,480 --> 00:53:06,240
Speaker 1: going to go paint that house? Paint some random details,

988
00:53:06,239 --> 00:53:09,400
Speaker 1: just painting somebody else's out? The hell are you doing?

989
00:53:09,840 --> 00:53:13,680
Speaker 1: Don't like the color of that house? Did something about it? Okay? Okay,

990
00:53:13,719 --> 00:53:18,440
Speaker 1: here we go from k what are your real thoughts

991
00:53:18,800 --> 00:53:21,640
Speaker 1: on strip clubs? My fiance is going on his bachelor

992
00:53:21,680 --> 00:53:23,239
Speaker 1: party in a few weeks and I told him I

993
00:53:23,280 --> 00:53:27,040
Speaker 1: really don't feel comfortable. Am I being crazy. How would

994
00:53:27,040 --> 00:53:29,880
Speaker 1: you feel if your fiance asked you not to go

995
00:53:30,000 --> 00:53:32,840
Speaker 1: to the strip club? Rick, I have a question for K.

996
00:53:33,200 --> 00:53:36,279
Speaker 1: Are we talking about female strip clubs or male strip

997
00:53:37,080 --> 00:53:40,720
Speaker 1: good question. Let's assume she's talking about you're her fiance,

998
00:53:40,880 --> 00:53:43,200
Speaker 1: You're go your bachelor parties, and and you're going to

999
00:53:43,280 --> 00:53:46,799
Speaker 1: go to a female strip club. Okay, Um, that's a

1000
00:53:46,840 --> 00:53:52,080
Speaker 1: great question. To be honest, I don't know if I

1001
00:53:52,080 --> 00:53:54,319
Speaker 1: would even bring it up with him, because at that

1002
00:53:54,360 --> 00:53:57,040
Speaker 1: point I look at that as that's something that Ka

1003
00:53:57,239 --> 00:54:00,480
Speaker 1: needs to deal with. He's gonna go regardless or not.

1004
00:54:01,040 --> 00:54:03,080
Speaker 1: If she says it a thousand times or one time,

1005
00:54:03,080 --> 00:54:05,399
Speaker 1: Hey honey, don't go to the strip club. He's gonna

1006
00:54:05,400 --> 00:54:07,279
Speaker 1: go if he's with his buddies, or he's gonna say, hey,

1007
00:54:07,400 --> 00:54:09,560
Speaker 1: you know what, guys, we're gonna go do another activity

1008
00:54:09,600 --> 00:54:12,200
Speaker 1: instead of that, or that's what he's doing. I feel

1009
00:54:12,200 --> 00:54:15,600
Speaker 1: like it's more of K's issue. She needs to say it,

1010
00:54:16,080 --> 00:54:19,279
Speaker 1: and then she needs to kind of not get over it,

1011
00:54:19,320 --> 00:54:22,759
Speaker 1: but just understand that he can do the same thing

1012
00:54:22,800 --> 00:54:25,080
Speaker 1: if he flies down to Los Angeles or goes to

1013
00:54:25,160 --> 00:54:27,160
Speaker 1: a not a strip club. He can go to a

1014
00:54:27,200 --> 00:54:29,360
Speaker 1: hotel bar and and get in more trouble at a

1015
00:54:29,400 --> 00:54:31,439
Speaker 1: hotel bar than you can at a trip club, let's

1016
00:54:31,440 --> 00:54:35,440
Speaker 1: be honest. So I feel like k needs to understand

1017
00:54:35,480 --> 00:54:40,040
Speaker 1: that what she says may not necessarily it's affect him,

1018
00:54:40,080 --> 00:54:42,760
Speaker 1: it's about how she feels about it. Well to that point,

1019
00:54:42,800 --> 00:54:45,640
Speaker 1: there's there's different types of people to go to strip clubs,

1020
00:54:46,000 --> 00:54:48,279
Speaker 1: and you think, if she's engaged to him, then she

1021
00:54:48,320 --> 00:54:51,399
Speaker 1: should know what type of person he has listened. I've

1022
00:54:51,440 --> 00:54:54,800
Speaker 1: been to strip clubs because and I don't go, I

1023
00:54:54,840 --> 00:54:57,200
Speaker 1: don't go by myself, but I've gone like bachelor parties

1024
00:54:57,200 --> 00:54:59,480
Speaker 1: like this, and it's like I find it more comical

1025
00:54:59,560 --> 00:55:02,239
Speaker 1: to go and watch it and have a good time

1026
00:55:02,280 --> 00:55:05,680
Speaker 1: with the guys or whatever, and it's less about the show.

1027
00:55:06,000 --> 00:55:09,200
Speaker 1: And for while I'm on these bachelor parties, there are

1028
00:55:09,239 --> 00:55:12,319
Speaker 1: guys that disappear for thirty minutes to a private room

1029
00:55:12,560 --> 00:55:14,759
Speaker 1: and get a private lap dance or whatever. And to me,

1030
00:55:15,280 --> 00:55:17,799
Speaker 1: that's where you're that's where the difference is here. If

1031
00:55:17,880 --> 00:55:21,000
Speaker 1: Kay's fiance is going there because he's one of the

1032
00:55:21,000 --> 00:55:22,520
Speaker 1: guys and this is what the guys are doing for

1033
00:55:22,560 --> 00:55:26,080
Speaker 1: the thing, then let him you know if she's if

1034
00:55:26,080 --> 00:55:28,120
Speaker 1: she's engaged to him. She's gotta have some level of

1035
00:55:28,120 --> 00:55:30,160
Speaker 1: trust with him, and she should say listen, I don't

1036
00:55:30,160 --> 00:55:32,880
Speaker 1: mind you going, but you know, i'd really like it

1037
00:55:32,920 --> 00:55:35,120
Speaker 1: if you didn't partake on that thing, because whatever it's

1038
00:55:35,160 --> 00:55:37,759
Speaker 1: demeaning to women, I think it's gross. Whatever her reasoning is,

1039
00:55:38,160 --> 00:55:40,239
Speaker 1: I think she can share that, but I think to

1040
00:55:40,360 --> 00:55:43,960
Speaker 1: stop him from from, you know, going, because it sounds

1041
00:55:44,040 --> 00:55:46,719
Speaker 1: if that's the point, then it's more of a trust issue. Yeah,

1042
00:55:46,760 --> 00:55:48,759
Speaker 1: I think that's exactly right. It comes down to do

1043
00:55:48,840 --> 00:55:52,080
Speaker 1: you just k K do you trust your fiance? And

1044
00:55:52,080 --> 00:55:56,360
Speaker 1: if you have a trust, then it becomes off putting

1045
00:55:56,360 --> 00:55:58,920
Speaker 1: if you if your fiance feels like you're trying to

1046
00:55:58,920 --> 00:56:01,759
Speaker 1: control him, and so long as you trust him and

1047
00:56:01,800 --> 00:56:04,799
Speaker 1: you believe he's gonna make the right decisions, it's And

1048
00:56:04,840 --> 00:56:06,719
Speaker 1: I've been in the situation before where I have my

1049
00:56:06,760 --> 00:56:08,360
Speaker 1: buddies and will go to Vegas and we'll go to

1050
00:56:08,400 --> 00:56:11,279
Speaker 1: a strip club and all the guys get together and

1051
00:56:11,600 --> 00:56:14,320
Speaker 1: there's three guys who are like, look, our wives all talk.

1052
00:56:14,520 --> 00:56:17,200
Speaker 1: So we went to the pool today, then we went

1053
00:56:17,239 --> 00:56:19,200
Speaker 1: to top Golf, and then we went to circ to

1054
00:56:19,280 --> 00:56:22,200
Speaker 1: sol Okay, are we all clear? If anybody talks that

1055
00:56:22,320 --> 00:56:25,680
Speaker 1: was what we did. I that stresses me out because

1056
00:56:25,719 --> 00:56:27,640
Speaker 1: I do not want to lie to my wife. I'd

1057
00:56:27,719 --> 00:56:30,600
Speaker 1: rather just be completely honest because when when I begin

1058
00:56:30,719 --> 00:56:34,560
Speaker 1: lying about that, it is as if I did something wrong.

1059
00:56:34,640 --> 00:56:36,080
Speaker 1: And if I can just be open and honest and

1060
00:56:36,120 --> 00:56:38,120
Speaker 1: say like, yeah, we went to the strip club and

1061
00:56:38,160 --> 00:56:39,600
Speaker 1: we were there for an hour and a half and

1062
00:56:40,360 --> 00:56:43,320
Speaker 1: it was what it was, nothing happened, nobody did anything stupid.

1063
00:56:44,480 --> 00:56:46,240
Speaker 1: Why do I have to hide that? And my friends

1064
00:56:46,400 --> 00:56:49,560
Speaker 1: lose their mind at that. Gavin is looking at me

1065
00:56:49,680 --> 00:56:54,080
Speaker 1: like go ahead, I'm just saying I only go for

1066
00:56:54,120 --> 00:57:02,120
Speaker 1: the delicious buffet's Uh. I mean, I mean I've been.

1067
00:57:02,160 --> 00:57:05,680
Speaker 1: I've been to those places, man, and I typically don't

1068
00:57:05,719 --> 00:57:09,480
Speaker 1: really enjoy myself. Strip clubs are I get it for.

1069
00:57:09,640 --> 00:57:10,719
Speaker 1: It's a bit of a hoot, you know if you

1070
00:57:10,800 --> 00:57:15,040
Speaker 1: go with your boys and whatever and typically a few

1071
00:57:15,040 --> 00:57:17,240
Speaker 1: minutes and you're like, cool, we just did that, let's

1072
00:57:18,400 --> 00:57:22,160
Speaker 1: let's roll. But there's always like there's always the the

1073
00:57:22,240 --> 00:57:25,040
Speaker 1: other stuff going on where you gotta pull your boy out,

1074
00:57:25,480 --> 00:57:28,840
Speaker 1: like it's go can we go out? You know, and

1075
00:57:28,880 --> 00:57:31,880
Speaker 1: there's always like, you know, some shipper named Lexus or

1076
00:57:31,920 --> 00:57:35,880
Speaker 1: whatever who's just like getting too close, you know. So

1077
00:57:36,160 --> 00:57:38,520
Speaker 1: uh yeah, I just I don't. I don't really love

1078
00:57:38,840 --> 00:57:44,520
Speaker 1: ship clubs. Um, they're not my favorite. Um And although

1079
00:57:44,520 --> 00:57:46,720
Speaker 1: I did go one time. Uh, and we had my

1080
00:57:46,800 --> 00:57:49,880
Speaker 1: brother's dog with us, and he's a little French bulldog

1081
00:57:50,000 --> 00:57:55,720
Speaker 1: and of course, you know, our buddy put put tip

1082
00:57:55,800 --> 00:57:58,320
Speaker 1: money in his collar and he'd walk up, you know,

1083
00:57:58,560 --> 00:58:01,200
Speaker 1: the colonel would jog up on stage and you know,

1084
00:58:01,320 --> 00:58:03,880
Speaker 1: the girls like, oh, he's so cute, you know, And

1085
00:58:03,960 --> 00:58:06,600
Speaker 1: that was pretty funny bringing the dog. Now that that

1086
00:58:06,680 --> 00:58:09,480
Speaker 1: was that was the highlight of that whole element though.

1087
00:58:09,560 --> 00:58:12,040
Speaker 1: That was the top for me. Um. But I'm not

1088
00:58:12,080 --> 00:58:15,160
Speaker 1: a real fan of the environment typically speaking, because it

1089
00:58:15,200 --> 00:58:20,720
Speaker 1: seems in general they're they're so in general, there's such

1090
00:58:20,760 --> 00:58:24,760
Speaker 1: a desperate sensation when you walk into the place, you know,

1091
00:58:25,160 --> 00:58:29,240
Speaker 1: and it's a bit overwhelming, and uh it's just like

1092
00:58:30,680 --> 00:58:34,960
Speaker 1: it's just gross. So it's just too too heavy, the

1093
00:58:35,000 --> 00:58:37,160
Speaker 1: desperation in the air and a lot of that in

1094
00:58:37,200 --> 00:58:39,040
Speaker 1: a lot of those places. I do get it for

1095
00:58:40,000 --> 00:58:45,200
Speaker 1: fifteen minutes with your boys, because it's more like it's nutty,

1096
00:58:45,280 --> 00:58:47,280
Speaker 1: it's crazy in here, look at this scene. But then

1097
00:58:47,320 --> 00:58:49,200
Speaker 1: it's sort of like, all right, cool, I'm can we

1098
00:58:49,200 --> 00:58:51,520
Speaker 1: get out of here, now, you know what I mean?

1099
00:58:51,760 --> 00:58:54,240
Speaker 1: And my the best time I ever had in a

1100
00:58:54,280 --> 00:58:56,560
Speaker 1: strip club was that type of situation. I went in

1101
00:58:56,640 --> 00:58:58,800
Speaker 1: and I just you know, I laughed whatever it was

1102
00:58:58,880 --> 00:59:01,600
Speaker 1: for the guy that was married whatnot. But at the

1103
00:59:01,600 --> 00:59:04,280
Speaker 1: table next to me, whatever next to us was. It

1104
00:59:04,320 --> 00:59:07,840
Speaker 1: was like a cocktail setting and the guy had ordered

1105
00:59:07,880 --> 00:59:10,840
Speaker 1: he was by himself. He ordered this expensive bottle of

1106
00:59:10,840 --> 00:59:14,320
Speaker 1: scotch and then he proceeded to pass out at the table.

1107
00:59:15,320 --> 00:59:18,560
Speaker 1: So we just kept filling our glasses with his expensive

1108
00:59:18,560 --> 00:59:24,520
Speaker 1: bottle of scotch. And well, we asked the We did

1109
00:59:24,600 --> 00:59:26,400
Speaker 1: ask the waitress, and she was like, he comes in

1110
00:59:26,440 --> 00:59:28,200
Speaker 1: here all the time, he has so much money whatever.

1111
00:59:28,640 --> 00:59:30,800
Speaker 1: So she basically gave the green light. So we had

1112
00:59:30,840 --> 00:59:32,600
Speaker 1: a couple of the nice glass of scotch and got

1113
00:59:32,600 --> 00:59:34,520
Speaker 1: out of there. Okay, so let's go back to Kay's

1114
00:59:34,560 --> 00:59:36,440
Speaker 1: final part of her question. How would you feel if

1115
00:59:36,440 --> 00:59:40,400
Speaker 1: your fiance or wife gentleman asked you not to go?

1116
00:59:40,760 --> 00:59:42,800
Speaker 1: Real quick, how would you feel, Rick, if your wife

1117
00:59:42,800 --> 00:59:45,760
Speaker 1: asked you not to go on your buddies or your

1118
00:59:45,800 --> 00:59:49,520
Speaker 1: bachelor I would take her her point and and then

1119
00:59:49,680 --> 00:59:51,439
Speaker 1: you know, obviously have that in the back of my mind.

1120
00:59:51,480 --> 00:59:54,480
Speaker 1: But again, I I feel like it's more about k

1121
00:59:54,680 --> 00:59:59,000
Speaker 1: and less about the guy Dmitri. Yeah, I would. I

1122
00:59:59,280 --> 01:00:01,120
Speaker 1: would be disappoin in it because I would feel like

1123
01:00:01,480 --> 01:00:05,920
Speaker 1: she thought something could go wrong. Yeah, Bryan, I would say.

1124
01:00:06,000 --> 01:00:09,320
Speaker 1: I would say, I I hear you, I understand you

1125
01:00:09,320 --> 01:00:11,280
Speaker 1: don't want me to go. But I would still feel

1126
01:00:11,280 --> 01:00:13,440
Speaker 1: like I make my own decision whether I choose to

1127
01:00:13,600 --> 01:00:16,000
Speaker 1: or not. But um, I would listen to her and

1128
01:00:16,000 --> 01:00:17,920
Speaker 1: then make my own decision. Let me ask you, So

1129
01:00:18,680 --> 01:00:22,040
Speaker 1: you on the road for hockey? Was that a common

1130
01:00:22,080 --> 01:00:24,439
Speaker 1: thing and how often was that happen? Actually, probably more

1131
01:00:24,600 --> 01:00:30,040
Speaker 1: uncommon than people actually realize. In my entire life, I've

1132
01:00:30,120 --> 01:00:34,960
Speaker 1: maybe been in six strip clubs, like very little. I

1133
01:00:35,000 --> 01:00:38,400
Speaker 1: really don't enjoy the experience that much. Eighteen dollar drinks.

1134
01:00:38,440 --> 01:00:40,080
Speaker 1: First time I was every in one was in New York.

1135
01:00:40,120 --> 01:00:42,560
Speaker 1: I was twenty years old and I was making Prior

1136
01:00:42,600 --> 01:00:45,360
Speaker 1: to this, I just got my first professional paycheck. Prior

1137
01:00:45,400 --> 01:00:48,160
Speaker 1: to that, I was making eighty nine bucks every two weeks.

1138
01:00:48,680 --> 01:00:50,960
Speaker 1: And my buddy and I went into this strip club

1139
01:00:51,200 --> 01:00:55,160
Speaker 1: and we sat down and ordered two drinks from this waitress,

1140
01:00:55,640 --> 01:00:58,880
Speaker 1: and it was like fifty two dollars and I was like,

1141
01:00:59,080 --> 01:01:02,360
Speaker 1: what am I doing here? Like? What am I doing? So?

1142
01:01:03,440 --> 01:01:05,200
Speaker 1: But that being said, I want to make my own

1143
01:01:05,200 --> 01:01:07,680
Speaker 1: decisions whether I go or not. Um, but I would

1144
01:01:07,760 --> 01:01:09,600
Speaker 1: listen to what my wife had to say. But I

1145
01:01:09,600 --> 01:01:12,040
Speaker 1: wouldn't if she told me not to go. That would

1146
01:01:12,080 --> 01:01:13,919
Speaker 1: probably cause an issue. I'll say what we should tell

1147
01:01:14,040 --> 01:01:16,800
Speaker 1: her if she ever says not to go, say but

1148
01:01:16,960 --> 01:01:24,600
Speaker 1: Gavin's dancing tonight. And then she said, last question of

1149
01:01:24,640 --> 01:01:28,960
Speaker 1: the day is from Veronica? What makes a girl one

1150
01:01:29,000 --> 01:01:30,440
Speaker 1: of the guys? Can I lead with us? Can I

1151
01:01:30,480 --> 01:01:32,880
Speaker 1: answer this one? Don't try and be one of the guys.

1152
01:01:33,520 --> 01:01:36,120
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't. I do not want my wife

1153
01:01:36,160 --> 01:01:38,840
Speaker 1: to be one of the guys. I spent my life

1154
01:01:38,880 --> 01:01:42,280
Speaker 1: in a locker room full of twenty three dudes. I

1155
01:01:42,320 --> 01:01:45,920
Speaker 1: was not looking for another dude in my life. So

1156
01:01:46,240 --> 01:01:49,120
Speaker 1: I love that my wife knows nothing about sports and

1157
01:01:49,160 --> 01:01:50,680
Speaker 1: that when I went home from the rank that it

1158
01:01:50,720 --> 01:01:53,480
Speaker 1: was completely different. My advice do not try and be

1159
01:01:53,520 --> 01:01:56,560
Speaker 1: one of the guys. Can I interject real quick if

1160
01:01:56,720 --> 01:02:00,240
Speaker 1: you're fiance, wife, girlfriend, whatever. At the time, I was like, Hey,

1161
01:02:00,280 --> 01:02:02,000
Speaker 1: I know you're going to about your party. It's totally

1162
01:02:02,040 --> 01:02:03,480
Speaker 1: cool to go to a strip club, I don't care.

1163
01:02:04,560 --> 01:02:07,840
Speaker 1: Like to me, I would say that's awesome, Like then

1164
01:02:07,880 --> 01:02:11,040
Speaker 1: I don't have to have that stress of hers saying

1165
01:02:11,640 --> 01:02:13,360
Speaker 1: don't go to the strip club. To kind of go

1166
01:02:13,480 --> 01:02:16,120
Speaker 1: back to another question that we were answering, like to me,

1167
01:02:16,240 --> 01:02:19,160
Speaker 1: that's kind of being one of the dudes of like, hey, yeah,

1168
01:02:19,280 --> 01:02:21,320
Speaker 1: I trust you. I know it's more of a trust thing,

1169
01:02:21,360 --> 01:02:25,320
Speaker 1: but like go ahead, like I'd be like cool, Okay, gentlemen,

1170
01:02:26,560 --> 01:02:28,280
Speaker 1: do you think a girl man? Do you think a

1171
01:02:28,280 --> 01:02:32,320
Speaker 1: girl should be one of the guys? Uh? Not if

1172
01:02:32,360 --> 01:02:34,640
Speaker 1: she wants not if she wants to date me. I mean,

1173
01:02:34,640 --> 01:02:37,600
Speaker 1: that's not what I'm into, you know. So, um, I

1174
01:02:37,640 --> 01:02:41,840
Speaker 1: do understand tomboy element, you know, tomboy type girls. You know,

1175
01:02:42,200 --> 01:02:45,320
Speaker 1: I have hung out with tomboy type girls in the past.

1176
01:02:45,800 --> 01:02:50,760
Speaker 1: Depending Um, but I wouldn't say one of the guys,

1177
01:02:51,400 --> 01:02:53,080
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. But there are some girls

1178
01:02:53,160 --> 01:02:56,280
Speaker 1: who I know who are cool, like some bartender people

1179
01:02:56,440 --> 01:02:59,000
Speaker 1: and and that world, you know what I mean, who

1180
01:02:59,040 --> 01:03:02,720
Speaker 1: are just kind of like they've they've just been around

1181
01:03:02,800 --> 01:03:05,600
Speaker 1: the dating scenes so much that interacting with a man

1182
01:03:05,840 --> 01:03:08,600
Speaker 1: is no different than interacting with a woman because they

1183
01:03:08,680 --> 01:03:12,200
Speaker 1: just do so much socializing from behind the bar, you know,

1184
01:03:12,200 --> 01:03:14,160
Speaker 1: when you go into it, into some kind of joint

1185
01:03:14,440 --> 01:03:16,560
Speaker 1: and there's just this girl behind the bars, like, Hey,

1186
01:03:16,600 --> 01:03:18,240
Speaker 1: what's up man? What can I get you? Blah blah

1187
01:03:18,240 --> 01:03:20,560
Speaker 1: blah blah, and they're just shooting it like that. Do

1188
01:03:20,600 --> 01:03:22,880
Speaker 1: you know what I mean? And so I do understand

1189
01:03:23,040 --> 01:03:25,080
Speaker 1: kind of that approach to when a girl is one

1190
01:03:25,120 --> 01:03:27,240
Speaker 1: of the guys and when you meet women like that,

1191
01:03:27,880 --> 01:03:30,440
Speaker 1: I kind of see a girl being kind of like

1192
01:03:30,520 --> 01:03:33,880
Speaker 1: one of the guys because they're not seeing any gender there.

1193
01:03:33,880 --> 01:03:37,320
Speaker 1: There's no boy girl interaction. It's just that's exactly right,

1194
01:03:37,480 --> 01:03:39,280
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. Can you be one of

1195
01:03:39,320 --> 01:03:43,800
Speaker 1: the guys but have a sexual Are you traction or

1196
01:03:43,880 --> 01:03:45,920
Speaker 1: I'm automatically as being one of the guys in the

1197
01:03:45,960 --> 01:03:49,080
Speaker 1: friend zone? Friends, you can be one of the guys

1198
01:03:49,320 --> 01:03:52,120
Speaker 1: in the friend zone. Like for me personally, as a guy,

1199
01:03:52,520 --> 01:03:55,320
Speaker 1: I'm not you know, I'm not looking for I'm not

1200
01:03:55,360 --> 01:03:59,800
Speaker 1: looking for the big league chewing. Uh you know, you

1201
01:03:59,840 --> 01:04:02,960
Speaker 1: know you know what I'm saying. I'm not looking for

1202
01:04:03,160 --> 01:04:06,640
Speaker 1: like a woman who dips and spits and um, that's

1203
01:04:06,680 --> 01:04:09,600
Speaker 1: just for me personally. You know, you said it a

1204
01:04:09,600 --> 01:04:11,840
Speaker 1: few weeks ago when we were talking about do you

1205
01:04:11,880 --> 01:04:17,200
Speaker 1: find um face hair on women attractive or unattractive? And

1206
01:04:17,240 --> 01:04:19,840
Speaker 1: you said, I want the opposite of my ideal woman

1207
01:04:19,920 --> 01:04:23,800
Speaker 1: is the opposite complete? So what about what paul acids

1208
01:04:23,840 --> 01:04:25,360
Speaker 1: sort of a follow up to this? Can you give

1209
01:04:25,400 --> 01:04:27,880
Speaker 1: your opinion on women who have male best friends and

1210
01:04:27,920 --> 01:04:30,160
Speaker 1: the predicament that this puts them in when they start

1211
01:04:30,200 --> 01:04:33,400
Speaker 1: a new relationship and vice versa. I think Rick kind

1212
01:04:33,400 --> 01:04:35,760
Speaker 1: of started to touch on it, maybe, but so I

1213
01:04:35,760 --> 01:04:38,400
Speaker 1: don't think that's an issue. I don't either, but some

1214
01:04:38,440 --> 01:04:42,680
Speaker 1: people do. These guys might or or their significant other

1215
01:04:43,200 --> 01:04:47,160
Speaker 1: can feel threatened when a man has a very close

1216
01:04:47,160 --> 01:04:50,840
Speaker 1: relationship with a woman man, you know. But sorry, I'm

1217
01:04:50,920 --> 01:04:53,520
Speaker 1: chiming but I know I'm chiming in. But you know,

1218
01:04:53,600 --> 01:04:56,720
Speaker 1: I've got really really close girlfriends. They're they're just cool.

1219
01:04:56,880 --> 01:05:00,720
Speaker 1: You just they're buddies ears, you know. And I used

1220
01:05:00,720 --> 01:05:03,440
Speaker 1: to think that there couldn't ever be possibly any element

1221
01:05:03,600 --> 01:05:07,240
Speaker 1: of a man being just friends with a woman. I

1222
01:05:07,320 --> 01:05:09,480
Speaker 1: used to think that. I don't think that any longer.

1223
01:05:09,880 --> 01:05:12,960
Speaker 1: I really think that there is a there is a

1224
01:05:13,000 --> 01:05:18,360
Speaker 1: place that exists, whatever that spaces in the universe where

1225
01:05:18,400 --> 01:05:20,440
Speaker 1: a guy and a girl could be great friends and

1226
01:05:20,720 --> 01:05:26,160
Speaker 1: literally literally have zero sexual energy, absolutely none, because I

1227
01:05:26,240 --> 01:05:28,560
Speaker 1: have that with with girl friends of mine. There's just

1228
01:05:29,000 --> 01:05:31,560
Speaker 1: they're just really good friends of mine, you know what

1229
01:05:31,600 --> 01:05:34,040
Speaker 1: I mean. That's something I've loved about moving to l

1230
01:05:34,120 --> 01:05:35,919
Speaker 1: A is that's now president in my life. That's something

1231
01:05:35,920 --> 01:05:38,400
Speaker 1: I loved about being married is that my friendships with

1232
01:05:38,480 --> 01:05:43,120
Speaker 1: girls have blossomed and I love I have friends, female

1233
01:05:43,160 --> 01:05:47,480
Speaker 1: friends that I absolutely love as friends and cannot wait

1234
01:05:47,520 --> 01:05:50,440
Speaker 1: to hang out with. So this, uh, who is the

1235
01:05:50,480 --> 01:05:52,960
Speaker 1: person asked us? Paul asked this question? Does she have

1236
01:05:53,040 --> 01:05:55,840
Speaker 1: a guy friend? They might just be fantastic friends. So

1237
01:05:56,040 --> 01:05:59,240
Speaker 1: you can bet you can be friends and be respectful

1238
01:05:59,280 --> 01:06:02,080
Speaker 1: still to your significant other. Now here's a question I

1239
01:06:02,120 --> 01:06:03,880
Speaker 1: agree with that you can you can be friends with

1240
01:06:03,920 --> 01:06:07,000
Speaker 1: someone that have no sexual chemistry or no interest whatever.

1241
01:06:07,520 --> 01:06:11,640
Speaker 1: Now does it become a problem. Let's say, would Brooks

1242
01:06:11,640 --> 01:06:13,640
Speaker 1: would your wife? Would Juliane have a problem if you

1243
01:06:13,720 --> 01:06:17,680
Speaker 1: were really close friends with a girl and you kind

1244
01:06:17,680 --> 01:06:20,240
Speaker 1: of got advice from her or you got you know, well,

1245
01:06:20,680 --> 01:06:22,560
Speaker 1: if it came down to, well, she's my best friend

1246
01:06:22,920 --> 01:06:24,840
Speaker 1: and you know she she thinks this looks good, and

1247
01:06:24,920 --> 01:06:28,160
Speaker 1: Julian's like, I donol like, is there a problem? Sex aside?

1248
01:06:28,240 --> 01:06:30,320
Speaker 1: Is it more like, could it be an issue if

1249
01:06:30,360 --> 01:06:32,840
Speaker 1: you're getting advice from something or you turned to a

1250
01:06:32,920 --> 01:06:35,640
Speaker 1: best friend who's a girl to get advice or for

1251
01:06:35,760 --> 01:06:37,960
Speaker 1: whatever whatever it may be. Would that would that get

1252
01:06:38,040 --> 01:06:40,840
Speaker 1: julianson in relation to my wife, like about something going

1253
01:06:40,840 --> 01:06:43,360
Speaker 1: on between my wife and I? No, no, no, I

1254
01:06:43,360 --> 01:06:45,160
Speaker 1: mean I guess there's that too. If you have a

1255
01:06:45,200 --> 01:06:46,880
Speaker 1: best friend that's who you talked to about stuff. And

1256
01:06:46,880 --> 01:06:49,520
Speaker 1: I know it's tough because your wife, I assume is

1257
01:06:49,560 --> 01:06:52,160
Speaker 1: your best friend. But if you have a really close

1258
01:06:53,000 --> 01:06:56,560
Speaker 1: friend that's that's the opposite sex. Does it become an

1259
01:06:56,600 --> 01:06:59,040
Speaker 1: issue if you start like would the other person get jealous?

1260
01:06:59,040 --> 01:07:01,200
Speaker 1: If if you started going to them or relying on them,

1261
01:07:01,320 --> 01:07:03,120
Speaker 1: or they were the ones that you just kind of

1262
01:07:03,120 --> 01:07:05,680
Speaker 1: called and went to grab a drink with. To be honest,

1263
01:07:05,680 --> 01:07:08,440
Speaker 1: I can't even I don't know. I don't I honestly

1264
01:07:08,440 --> 01:07:10,919
Speaker 1: can't answer it. Dmitri. I don't know. It's I'm trying

1265
01:07:10,920 --> 01:07:14,040
Speaker 1: to put myself in that headspace, but I'm not. It

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Speaker 1: hasn't happened in my life. Um So I really can't

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Speaker 1: answer your questions. Anybody somebody else No. So so with

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Speaker 1: Gavin the story that you were just setting up. Do

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Speaker 1: you think that there are times when the females that

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Speaker 1: you describe having a perfectly platonic relationship with that you

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Speaker 1: believe it's a mutual thing, But were you to express

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Speaker 1: that you wanted it to be more than they that

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Speaker 1: they've been holding it back because they're fearful that you

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Speaker 1: know that you just view them as a platonic friend

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Speaker 1: and that I mean, are you asking if that's a possibility, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: because I think sometimes both sides, the other side wishes

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Speaker 1: that it was more, but they're terrified at ever voicing

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Speaker 1: that because it would ruin such an amazing friendship. I mean,

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Speaker 1: that's valid, that's a that's a possibility somewhere in there.

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Speaker 1: But it's, um, I mean, it's certainly nothing that I

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Speaker 1: would It's nothing that I would say is dominating the relationship,

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Speaker 1: you know. I mean, I'm perfectly capable of having a friend,

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Speaker 1: and I think the people that I'm friends with the

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Speaker 1: opposite sex are perfectly capable of just having a friend

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Speaker 1: and would rather maintain that stable platonic relationship than risk

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Speaker 1: any discomfort and and uh, cross over that line because

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Speaker 1: the friendships are so strong and um, you know, For

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Speaker 1: me personally, I'd rather have those friendships friendships because they

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Speaker 1: take years to develop those friendships and they're worth that.

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Speaker 1: It's such an investment of your time and emotionally that

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Speaker 1: you wouldn't ever want to even I personally wouldn't ever

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Speaker 1: want to even put that at risk. You know very well,

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Speaker 1: said my friend man on that. We'll leave it at that.

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