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Speaker 1: First Date follow up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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Speaker 1: Online advocateslad dot com.

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Speaker 2: Hannah is on the phone today for a first day

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Speaker 2: follow up. She's getting ghosted by a dude named Luke.

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Speaker 2: So in a few minutes we're gonna call him and

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Speaker 2: see if they tell us why is ghosting here? But first, Hannah,

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Speaker 2: how long has it misses? You heard from Luke?

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Speaker 3: It's been about a week.

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Speaker 4: I texted him a couple times, but nothing, just radio silence.

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Speaker 1: Really, so, did you feel like you were going to

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Speaker 1: hear from him? Was the date good? No?

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Speaker 4: No, it's so weird because he was texting me right

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Speaker 4: after the date like that was fun. We should do

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Speaker 4: it again and now poof absolutely nothing.

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Speaker 1: Why don't you tell us about the date?

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Speaker 2: Oh?

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Speaker 4: Okay, So here's the deal. But we went out for Sushie,

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Speaker 4: which I love. I thought it was a super solid start.

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Speaker 4: You even let me pick out the restaurant.

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Speaker 5: Which was cool.

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Speaker 4: I didn't think that a guy who doesn't like grawfish

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Speaker 4: would suggest Sushie, but cool. We ended up ordering way

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Speaker 4: too much food, but it was It was kind of

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Speaker 4: a mess that we were both just like cracking jokes

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Speaker 4: about it, especially when he nearly flung a piece of

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Speaker 4: sashimi across the table driving to use the plastics.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, it was cute. So afterwards we went through a walk.

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Speaker 3: Which was really sweet.

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Speaker 5: It was kill low key, and it just felt like we.

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Speaker 3: Were on the same wavelengths, you.

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Speaker 1: Know, yeah, slinging sushi and you know, sweet conversation. So

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Speaker 1: why do you think, oh man?

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Speaker 5: Honestly, I I don't know, because.

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Speaker 3: I thought it went really really great. There was just

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Speaker 3: like something about him.

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Speaker 1: He was so funny.

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Speaker 4: But maybe I messed up when I paid for dinner

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Speaker 4: behind us back. The bill was just way more than

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Speaker 4: we expected, and I had ordered a really fancy sake

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Speaker 4: and wag you advertiser.

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Speaker 3: We thought he was thinking about it and I felt bad.

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Speaker 3: So when he got up to use the bathroom, I

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Speaker 3: just went ahead and paid for the whole thing.

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Speaker 5: So when he came back, I told him it wasn't.

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Speaker 3: A big deal.

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Speaker 2: I'd marry you. It doesn't sound like a reason to

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Speaker 2: go through it, all right, I mean.

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Speaker 4: I can afflord it, and but he seemed like trying

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Speaker 4: to irritated. He kept saying, you know, I could have

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Speaker 4: paid for that, and I tried to explain that it

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Speaker 4: didn't mean anything. I just felt guilty for ordering the

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Speaker 4: expensive stuff, like unconsciously. But maybe he thought that I

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Speaker 4: was implying that he couldn't afford it or.

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Speaker 5: Something I didn't really need it like that.

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Speaker 4: I was just trying to do something nice. But now

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Speaker 4: I'm wondering if it like came off totally wrong.

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Speaker 1: Well did he say thank you? Did like aside from

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Speaker 1: the fact that he's like I could pay for it too,

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Speaker 1: Was he appreciative of it? No?

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Speaker 4: He did it just like it just like shift a divide,

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Speaker 4: like a little.

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Speaker 5: Bit, but like not enough to like we still were.

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Speaker 3: Planning on hanging out again. We both had talked about

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Speaker 3: how it was fun, So I don't know.

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Speaker 2: Maybe it's some one of those weird old school type

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Speaker 2: of things, you know, where he feels like a guy's.

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Speaker 1: Got to pay or something, or maybe he didn't even

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Speaker 1: have the option because you did it behind his back

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Speaker 1: too for whatever reason. Again, like ju Will said, I

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Speaker 1: would marry you, right.

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Speaker 3: I mean, a girl who's gonna take care of herself.

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Speaker 4: What's there not to like?

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Speaker 2: Right? You need to date a new school dude who

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Speaker 2: use you for everything You're word. Hannah is on the

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Speaker 2: phone and she's getting ghosted by Luke. So we're about

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Speaker 2: to call him and see if he'll tell us why

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Speaker 2: he's ghostinger and maybe get her another date. But first, Hannah,

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Speaker 2: why don't you refresh our memory on your date?

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Speaker 3: Okay?

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Speaker 4: We went out for this super fun sushi date, but

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Speaker 4: I ended up paying at the end because I thought

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Speaker 4: i'd order two extensive things.

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Speaker 3: So I'm I'm worried if that's why he disappeared.

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Speaker 2: Okay, I don't know. I could see some guy being like,

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Speaker 2: I don't want to go out with you again because

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Speaker 2: you wouldn't let me pay. I could actually see that happening.

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Speaker 1: Because he's probably like if he's thinking like okay, well

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Speaker 1: what do I have to bring to the table, or

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Speaker 1: like somehow feeling bad about it.

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Speaker 2: I don't know. We'll see. You're ready first to call him?

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Speaker 3: Oh, here we go, Okay.

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Speaker 2: Here we go. Hell, Hi, man, I speak to Luke. Please,

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Speaker 2: m hey, Luke, how are you? This is the Jubil Show.

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Speaker 2: It's a radio show.

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Speaker 1: Hi. I'm Nina.

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Speaker 2: Hi, I'm Victoria and my name's Jubil.

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Speaker 1: What's up?

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Speaker 6: How are you? Uh? I'm sorry. It's like it's like

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Speaker 6: a brank or something.

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Speaker 2: No, it's not. Actually, we're calling you for a different reason.

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Speaker 2: Have you ever listened to the show before?

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Speaker 6: Yeah? Yeah, I just I didn't expect you to call me.

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Speaker 2: Okay, well we're calling you today because you're ghosting somebody.

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Speaker 2: And we do a segment on the show called the

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Speaker 2: First Day follow Up, you know where if you go

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Speaker 2: on a date with someone and then you end up

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Speaker 2: ghosting them, that person can email us to ask you

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Speaker 2: why you're ghosting them. So do you know who would

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Speaker 2: have emailed us about you?

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Speaker 6: I am guessing this is about Hannah?

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Speaker 2: Right, Yes, you got to correct. Congratulations, You've won nothing

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Speaker 2: so far.

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Speaker 1: Are you ghosting her?

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Speaker 7: I'm not like ghosting her intentionally? Uh, I don't know.

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Speaker 6: The date was super fun, She's super cool, but it

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Speaker 6: was it.

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Speaker 7: Was honestly, it was just something that happened after.

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Speaker 2: Okay, so you are ghosting her intentionally?

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Speaker 1: She said she texted you NEI didn't call her back.

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Speaker 2: So yeah, so yeah, okay, okay, but why why? Yeah?

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Speaker 7: So the deal is, so you know, after our day

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Speaker 7: it was it was really good and uh my buddy Andrew,

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Speaker 7: so I was telling him about it and you know,

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Speaker 7: staying so she paid for the meal and I, you know,

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Speaker 7: behind my back, and.

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Speaker 6: I don't know. I just thought it was kind of weird.

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Speaker 7: So I'm telling him about it, and uh, he actually

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Speaker 7: see a picture of her, and I showed him a

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Speaker 7: picture and he just started cracking up. And uh, it

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Speaker 7: turns out that he went out with Hannah too. Oh okay,

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Speaker 7: that no, no, no, no, no, no, it's not It's not

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Speaker 7: only that. It was that she did like the same

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Speaker 7: exact thing with him. They went to like a steakhouse

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Speaker 6: And like behind his back, she paid without telling him.

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Speaker 7: And and then he was saying that like happened a

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Speaker 7: bunch of times, and he did, and he said his

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Speaker 7: words that by the end he felt like she was

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Speaker 7: treating him like some sort of boy toy that she

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Speaker 7: could like, you know, control with her money.

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Speaker 2: Oh okay, and you don't want to be a boy toy?

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Speaker 1: Is what she's doing?

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Speaker 6: So?

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Speaker 1: Or is that just I mean, I don't know, it's

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Speaker 1: like nice that she wants to treat you, maybe not

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Speaker 1: every single time, but do you think that she was

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Speaker 1: making you feel like a boy toy at all, Luke

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Speaker 1: when you were out with her?

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Speaker 7: I mean, I'm not going to like jump to that conclusion.

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Speaker 7: But it just like it felt weird, you know, it

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Speaker 4: Ah wow, So because I'm too generous, I'm getting ghosted.

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Speaker 2: Hannah's on the phone listening and wants to talk to you.

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Speaker 6: Oh Hannah, Hey, how how are you doing?

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Speaker 5: Oh? Hi, Luke. I'm sorry.

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Speaker 4: I didn't realize I was making you feel like my

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Speaker 4: personal sugar baby. Seriously, Luke, I obviously had no idea

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Speaker 4: that Andrew was your friend. Also, Andrew seems like super

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Speaker 4: okay with the fact that I was paying for a

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Speaker 4: lot of things. I have a nice job. He seems grateful.

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Speaker 3: This is this is his to me.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, I mean that's Andrew. Of course you're buying something.

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Speaker 7: But it just like sounded like a pattern. And I

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Speaker 7: don't know, I didn't want to get wrapped up in

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Speaker 7: this whole like you're paying for everything and I'm just

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Speaker 5: I mean, that's not it at all.

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Speaker 4: I'm just, you know, trying to not seem like a

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Speaker 5: I have a nice job, so I.

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Speaker 4: Wanted to get what I wanted to get without feeling guilty.

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Speaker 3: So what isn't that a nice thing? That I could

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Speaker 3: take care of myself.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, but I mean, like, you know, I can take

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Speaker 7: care of myself too, And it just it feels weird

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Speaker 7: just just feels really weird and I don't I don't

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Speaker 7: know it just like you do it behind my back?

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Speaker 4: Cool, gay, Well that's fine, I'll find somebody who's hot.

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Speaker 3: And proud be with the woman who can also take

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Speaker 1: Well wait, Hannah, what is it about paying for your

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Speaker 1: men every time you go out with them? That's like

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Speaker 1: so important to you? Like, what is it about paying

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Speaker 3: It every time?

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Speaker 4: I just don't want to feel like I'm beholden to

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Speaker 4: a man because I want really nice things and I'm

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Speaker 3: To pay for that when they don't really know me yet,

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Speaker 3: you know.

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Speaker 6: But you know beholden, I don't.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, honestly, you're just missing out.

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Speaker 3: You did. You didn't even get to the part where

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Speaker 3: I buy you clothes yet.

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Speaker 5: You know, I want like a man.

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Speaker 4: I want a man who adores me and it's secure

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Speaker 4: enough to you know, be okay with that.

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Speaker 6: I mean, I could buy my own clothes. I buy

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Speaker 6: my own clothes.

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Speaker 4: You sound like I can't do this, Well, I mean

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Speaker 4: you can really really use this stuff E List and

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Speaker 4: some new clothes, because man, that outfit was not really

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Speaker 4: impressed me. But I'm done trying to impress someone who

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Speaker 4: gets scared off by a little generosity.

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Speaker 2: Well, Luke, would you like another date with Hannah? Will

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Speaker 2: pay for it? That's true, we shouldn't pay for it.

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Speaker 7: I don't think I did, you know, I guess survive

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Speaker 7: the whole wardrobe overhaul, you know, for.

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Speaker 6: The pretty woman mate, So I don't think so.

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Speaker 4: All right, Well, no hard feelings, so good luck finding

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Speaker 4: someone who won't spoil you too much. Okay, baby boy

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Speaker 4: Jubile's first date ball