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Speaker 1: Hey, this is johnas is Sam your og Okay Storytime

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Speaker 2: We have some great stories coming.

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Speaker 1: Up, but before that, we have a quick two minute

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Speaker 1: break from the sponsors that keep the show alive.

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Speaker 2: John.

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Speaker 3: I was recently on a date and she said call

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Speaker 3: me mommy, and I was like, you're not my mom,

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Speaker 3: and I'm gonna do the DNA test.

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Speaker 2: To prove it.

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Speaker 1: That's right, ladies and gentlemen, it's day seven of mother May.

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Speaker 1: I have a DNA test week here on Okay Storytime,

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Speaker 1: and we are not accepting anything less than the truth. No,

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Speaker 1: we're doing a DNA test story every day to get

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Speaker 1: closer to the truth leading up to good old Mother's Day.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and you know, there might be people coming in

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Speaker 3: your life saying call me daddy, call me mommy, But

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Speaker 3: you know what, you're only gonna do that if you're

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Speaker 3: doing the DNA tests. And that's why we've done all

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Speaker 3: these stories to educate the populace on a thing going rampant.

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Speaker 3: That's right, many many dating communities, people flippically calling people

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Speaker 3: mommies and daddies, you know, and it stops here.

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Speaker 2: It's an epidemic.

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Speaker 1: may I Okay storytime wherever you get your podcasts. Am

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Speaker 1: I the a hole for wanting to divorce my husband

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Speaker 1: for demanding a DNA test after giving birth to our twin?

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Speaker 1: This guys from playing Top sixty five eighty two, who

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Speaker 1: says my husband thirty three Mail and I twenty three

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Speaker 1: Beemal have been together for almost seven years.

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Speaker 2: And he is slash was the love of my life.

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Speaker 1: We met when I was sixteen, brush out of high

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Speaker 1: school going to college. He met my family when I

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Speaker 1: was eighteen. I was a virgin and we couldn't be

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Speaker 1: intimate without getting married. We're Muslim by the way. He

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Speaker 1: proposed when I was twenty and we got married when

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Speaker 1: I was twenty two, right after graduating from Raz school.

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Speaker 2: OPI.

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Speaker 3: He's finishing everything super early. She's speed running a life.

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Speaker 3: I never wanted to be a stay at home mom

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Speaker 3: or wife. Before we even began to date. He was

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Speaker 3: aware of my expectations from twenty seventeen to the end

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Speaker 3: of twenty twenty four. My husband was loving, caring, supportive,

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Speaker 3: and handsome. He was my best friend. My mentor is

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Speaker 3: built a house from the ground up.

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Speaker 2: Together. We have a garden where we don't have to

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Speaker 1: On November twenty twenty three, I saw my face was

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Speaker 1: didn't really pay attention because I was blooded. Six days later,

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Speaker 1: I ended up in the hospital because I wasn't feeling normal.

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Speaker 1: The doctor told me that I was pregnant. My husband

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Speaker 1: was so happy. I didn't know how to feel it

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Speaker 1: because I was happy just because he was. He took

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Speaker 1: that I was carrying.

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Speaker 2: A pair of babies.

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Speaker 1: This relationship was not perfect, but we always find a

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Speaker 1: Until February of twenty twenty four, out of nowhere, my

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Speaker 1: husband started to give me an ultimatum to choose between

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Speaker 1: more than half the bed. Dude, she has two people

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Speaker 1: in her and after delivering the baby, my next stop

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Speaker 1: should be the gym instead of home because they looked funny.

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Speaker 2: Now.

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Speaker 1: Those comments hurt me still now, and he could see

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Speaker 1: the pain in my eyes. He didn't want to go

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Speaker 1: at the simplest things and causes, and he would yell

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Speaker 1: every day for the last two months straight. But I

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Speaker 1: Innocent looking girls are always the biggest oars and proceeded

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Speaker 1: those work husbands. I was so hurt, exhausted, and mad.

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Speaker 1: The only word that came out of my mouth was okay,

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Speaker 1: On the delivery, I took all the stuff that I

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Speaker 2: I was meeting up with my best friend.

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Speaker 1: Per husband is a lawyer specializing in divorce, who is

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Speaker 1: there with me during the delivery. And God, my husband

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Speaker 1: knew the delivery day but didn't have the address of

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Speaker 1: the hospital. I give my babies the name with my

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Speaker 1: grandfather's last name. I told the nurses that I am

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Speaker 1: the mom and dad. My husband showed up the next

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Speaker 1: day after I gave birth and still demanded the DNA

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Speaker 2: Again I ignored. I went home with my babies.

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Speaker 1: I was exhausted because he didn't help me with them

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Speaker 1: saying that I am cheating on him and the twins

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Speaker 1: I am not going to change their names. The baby

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Speaker 1: All of his family were calling and apologizing and wanted

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Speaker 1: come back. I said no, and that was my final decision.

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Speaker 1: All his family began texting me and threatening me for

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Speaker 1: any confusion, I haven't said anything about my family because

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Speaker 1: I am an orphan. My mom and dad passed away

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Speaker 2: In COVID. Oh, he is awesome? Is OpEd? No?

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Speaker 5: My boyfriend revealed that he has two kids and that

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Speaker 5: he's still supporting their mother. I mid twenties females started

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Speaker 5: we confessed our love for each other and he asked

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Speaker 5: me to move in with him. Luckily I haven't yet.

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Speaker 5: I was so ecstatic that I found someone like him.

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Speaker 5: I live in a pretty conservative household, and I told

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Speaker 5: I talked to my father. He told me that he

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Speaker 5: He admitted that he has two kids and provides for

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Speaker 5: And there it is there's the red flag.

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Speaker 5: He's like, I have children. They've been here all the

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Speaker 5: Don't you mention kids right away? I told him that

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Speaker 5: Right now, my feelings are fluctuating. I think of him

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Speaker 5: I'm going back two slides.

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Speaker 4: Most loving partner I've ever had, and I don't want

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Speaker 4: he may be the most loving partner you've ever had,

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Speaker 4: Arm More doesn't mean you can't do better than this guy, exactly.

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Speaker 5: It's also three months. It's been three months. Cut your losses,

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Speaker 5: but let's keep going right now, He says he's scared

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Speaker 5: After a week of feeling like this, I decided that

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Speaker 5: for my health, I have to put an end to this. Yes,

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Speaker 5: I feel like I can't take it anymore. Heartbreak is

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Speaker 5: He is also a workaholic. I guess now I know why.

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Speaker 7: Two years plus moving in together.

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Speaker 7: I was gonna say when Riley said, oh, three months

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Speaker 4: Another point found it, yes, is whenever he broke the

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Speaker 5: But broke it poorly.

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Speaker 5: Maybe he just freaking sucks. Yeah, comment to gently. I

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Speaker 5: Also before he bothered to tell you about something as

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Speaker 4: He's gonna get a participation award. Comment three, you've only

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Speaker 5: You don't know him. It sounds like he's lining you

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Speaker 5: You don't know. Listen to your gut and ignore his

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Speaker 5: Good luck. And Opie says, I sure don't know how

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Speaker 5: there is an update. But girl, you're not you know

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Speaker 4: The fact that he was able to like hide kids

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Speaker 4: That's hard too, because you got pictures of kids, you

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Speaker 5: That's actually a great point because like, if he doesn't

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Speaker 5: I think just the fact that it's not glaringly obvious

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Speaker 2: Dude.

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Speaker 4: I don't like this little peace out he did, the

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Speaker 5: I'm not getting back with my girlfriend, my ex, but

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Speaker 7: Babe, she's not the one for me.

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Speaker 5: I just don't love the You don't deserve to have

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Speaker 4: My boyfriend confessed he stole from me right before I

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Speaker 5: Stole your heart.

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Speaker 4: the family business and take time to go back to

441
00:18:50,359 --> 00:18:53,479
Speaker 4: school and do something I was passionate about. However, I

442
00:18:53,560 --> 00:18:56,720
Speaker 4: had no savings at the time and wanted to get

443
00:18:56,760 --> 00:19:00,000
Speaker 4: a decent amount saved before I quit. At this time,

444
00:19:00,160 --> 00:19:03,520
Speaker 4: opportunity opened up at work. The pay was way higher,

445
00:19:03,840 --> 00:19:07,200
Speaker 4: but required four to seven months of travel time a year.

446
00:19:07,440 --> 00:19:10,320
Speaker 4: I talked it over with my boyfriend and we decided

447
00:19:10,359 --> 00:19:12,840
Speaker 4: that we only needed two years to save up what

448
00:19:13,000 --> 00:19:15,560
Speaker 4: we needed. I took the job and prepared to leave

449
00:19:15,600 --> 00:19:19,240
Speaker 4: for two months for training at the main branch. Okay,

450
00:19:19,359 --> 00:19:21,600
Speaker 4: it is a little scary four to seven months with

451
00:19:21,720 --> 00:19:24,160
Speaker 4: your boyfriend having issues that he had.

452
00:19:24,240 --> 00:19:26,679
Speaker 5: Yeah, that is scary. But I mean I'm wondering what

453
00:19:26,840 --> 00:19:29,000
Speaker 5: his job is and if he can kind of travel

454
00:19:29,000 --> 00:19:29,840
Speaker 5: with Opie, you know.

455
00:19:30,240 --> 00:19:32,040
Speaker 4: Yeah, I don't you have to be doing what we

456
00:19:32,160 --> 00:19:33,639
Speaker 4: do to be able to travel.

457
00:19:33,720 --> 00:19:36,720
Speaker 5: Yeah, well, I mean he could have a remote job.

458
00:19:36,800 --> 00:19:38,280
Speaker 4: You could if you're a computer guy, but you got

459
00:19:38,320 --> 00:19:40,080
Speaker 4: to be a computer person to have a remote job.

460
00:19:40,359 --> 00:19:43,200
Speaker 4: About a month into my training, my boyfriend suddenly quit

461
00:19:43,280 --> 00:19:46,400
Speaker 4: his job with no explanation other than I had to

462
00:19:46,840 --> 00:19:49,760
Speaker 4: I can't work there anymore. I was concerned about our

463
00:19:49,760 --> 00:19:52,040
Speaker 4: financial goals because of this, but he swore up and

464
00:19:52,080 --> 00:19:54,280
Speaker 4: down that he would get a new one shortly and

465
00:19:54,320 --> 00:19:57,719
Speaker 4: that he wouldn't need any help with his personal bills. Well,

466
00:19:57,720 --> 00:20:00,440
Speaker 4: a year after that went by. Yeah, I had only

467
00:20:00,480 --> 00:20:03,040
Speaker 4: taken up gig work and some temporary jobs.

468
00:20:03,240 --> 00:20:03,480
Speaker 2: Ooh.

469
00:20:05,160 --> 00:20:07,760
Speaker 5: A year of that when you're trying to do all

470
00:20:07,840 --> 00:20:12,119
Speaker 5: that work to save up for a place and stuff. Yeah,

471
00:20:12,160 --> 00:20:12,560
Speaker 5: e ooh.

472
00:20:12,800 --> 00:20:15,560
Speaker 4: I wasn't happy as I was having to travel all

473
00:20:15,600 --> 00:20:19,239
Speaker 4: the time and was having to really be frugal in

474
00:20:19,359 --> 00:20:23,040
Speaker 4: order to get our joint bills paid, also putting money

475
00:20:23,080 --> 00:20:26,200
Speaker 4: into savings. Oh no, he was managing to pay his

476
00:20:26,240 --> 00:20:28,960
Speaker 4: own bills, so I let it slide since he tossed

477
00:20:28,960 --> 00:20:31,920
Speaker 4: in what he could to the pile joint as well.

478
00:20:32,119 --> 00:20:35,760
Speaker 4: Now I'm sitting here about to complete my two years

479
00:20:35,880 --> 00:20:38,320
Speaker 4: and my boyfriend has decided to come clean to me.

480
00:20:38,560 --> 00:20:42,840
Speaker 5: Uh okay, and so just to again, op had said

481
00:20:42,840 --> 00:20:44,480
Speaker 5: that there she was only going to work at this

482
00:20:44,520 --> 00:20:47,119
Speaker 5: place for two years, and that would have given them enough.

483
00:20:47,400 --> 00:20:50,080
Speaker 5: Had he also been working, I'm sure to stop, like

484
00:20:50,160 --> 00:20:52,239
Speaker 5: to move in together and do all of that. And

485
00:20:52,280 --> 00:20:56,040
Speaker 5: now I'm guess I'll have got a nice U. He's

486
00:20:56,160 --> 00:20:59,639
Speaker 5: spent all his money or something, or he's cheating or

487
00:20:59,680 --> 00:21:00,320
Speaker 5: both both.

488
00:21:00,359 --> 00:21:01,240
Speaker 2: I was gonna say, you can both.

489
00:21:01,280 --> 00:21:04,560
Speaker 4: He sold the jewels, poor Caleb. He stole the jewels,

490
00:21:04,960 --> 00:21:07,920
Speaker 4: any liquid assets, he sold them all. I think that's

491
00:21:07,920 --> 00:21:10,760
Speaker 4: how he was able to pay for everything. That's my

492
00:21:11,160 --> 00:21:13,959
Speaker 4: thought process. For the past two years. WILL have been

493
00:21:14,040 --> 00:21:16,879
Speaker 4: working at a job that has been soul crushing and

494
00:21:16,920 --> 00:21:19,200
Speaker 4: has had me away from home for weeks to months

495
00:21:19,280 --> 00:21:22,879
Speaker 4: at a time. I've missed birthdays, weddings, friends, baby showers,

496
00:21:22,920 --> 00:21:26,359
Speaker 4: et cetera. I sacrificed the last two years of my

497
00:21:26,440 --> 00:21:28,600
Speaker 4: life to make enough to be able to live my

498
00:21:28,720 --> 00:21:30,840
Speaker 4: life the way I want to. And he tells me

499
00:21:31,400 --> 00:21:34,760
Speaker 4: last week that he's been paying his personal bills by

500
00:21:35,160 --> 00:21:38,040
Speaker 4: selling the things my grandparents.

501
00:21:37,320 --> 00:21:39,240
Speaker 2: Had willed to be that I had left it a

502
00:21:39,359 --> 00:21:41,240
Speaker 2: safe that was hidden in the house.

503
00:21:41,640 --> 00:21:49,760
Speaker 5: Despicable, despicable, No, no, no, mm mmm mm mmm leave leave.

504
00:21:50,000 --> 00:21:50,960
Speaker 4: It's been seven years.

505
00:21:51,160 --> 00:21:53,480
Speaker 5: I think it's been twelve years seven right now, they've

506
00:21:53,520 --> 00:21:56,640
Speaker 5: been around seven. Yeah, so they keep going until twelve.

507
00:21:56,960 --> 00:21:59,199
Speaker 5: I would have made him give that money back, and

508
00:21:59,200 --> 00:21:59,760
Speaker 5: then I would.

509
00:21:59,760 --> 00:22:02,879
Speaker 4: Like, yeah, you could you It's either you get the

510
00:22:02,880 --> 00:22:05,200
Speaker 4: money back or you get everything he's old.

511
00:22:05,359 --> 00:22:06,360
Speaker 5: Yeah, something like that.

512
00:22:06,480 --> 00:22:09,000
Speaker 4: I say, if he had only had access to because

513
00:22:09,119 --> 00:22:13,840
Speaker 4: the the pew pew was in there, and I thought,

514
00:22:14,280 --> 00:22:16,840
Speaker 4: you know, he wouldn't do that to me. I'm honestly

515
00:22:16,840 --> 00:22:20,800
Speaker 4: in shock. It was a subcustantial amount and it makes

516
00:22:20,840 --> 00:22:23,760
Speaker 4: me nauseous to even try to quantify it right now.

517
00:22:23,760 --> 00:22:27,240
Speaker 4: How much do you think at least six figures it's got, Yeah.

518
00:22:27,200 --> 00:22:29,720
Speaker 5: Gotta be. If it was a bunch of jewels and stuff.

519
00:22:29,960 --> 00:22:31,639
Speaker 7: Yeah, everyone's saying call the cops.

520
00:22:31,760 --> 00:22:35,000
Speaker 5: I mean I think I think first only because of

521
00:22:35,040 --> 00:22:36,879
Speaker 5: the seven years, I would go. I would be like,

522
00:22:37,200 --> 00:22:39,840
Speaker 5: you need to give me that money now, or get

523
00:22:39,880 --> 00:22:43,280
Speaker 5: all my stuff back. And then if he was like no,

524
00:22:43,320 --> 00:22:44,600
Speaker 5: I'd be like, Okay, I'm going ops.

525
00:22:45,080 --> 00:22:48,280
Speaker 4: Yeah, I've already set in motion quitting my job and

526
00:22:48,359 --> 00:22:50,840
Speaker 4: I've given a notice and now I have so much

527
00:22:50,960 --> 00:22:53,080
Speaker 4: less than I thought I did. He only told me

528
00:22:53,119 --> 00:22:55,399
Speaker 4: because he had figured out a way to pay me back,

529
00:22:55,480 --> 00:22:57,560
Speaker 4: and I had gotten a stable job and was planning

530
00:22:57,640 --> 00:22:59,320
Speaker 4: when he was doing most of his paycheck to give

531
00:22:59,400 --> 00:23:02,600
Speaker 4: to me until I was made. Oh but this just

532
00:23:02,880 --> 00:23:06,560
Speaker 4: honestly disgusts me. I feel so violated. More than that,

533
00:23:06,920 --> 00:23:10,040
Speaker 4: I wonder if this is his go to pattern. Now

534
00:23:10,200 --> 00:23:13,159
Speaker 4: life is stressful, a lot of change is happening, and

535
00:23:13,200 --> 00:23:16,359
Speaker 4: he just self destructs after what he put me through

536
00:23:16,400 --> 00:23:18,720
Speaker 4: seven years ago, I don't know if I can look

537
00:23:18,760 --> 00:23:21,280
Speaker 4: past this. Yes, he came clean to me, but I

538
00:23:21,400 --> 00:23:24,280
Speaker 4: just can't seem to get past this feeling. I look

539
00:23:24,320 --> 00:23:27,080
Speaker 4: at him and just feel nothing right now. It's breaking

540
00:23:27,080 --> 00:23:29,320
Speaker 4: my heart because I really care for him, and yet

541
00:23:29,400 --> 00:23:32,600
Speaker 4: I just can't see anything changing. I feel so conflicted.

542
00:23:32,720 --> 00:23:35,040
Speaker 4: We've been together for so long and even have all

543
00:23:35,080 --> 00:23:37,120
Speaker 4: the same friends and share our life together. Well, we'll

544
00:23:37,160 --> 00:23:39,239
Speaker 4: be able to come back from this or is this

545
00:23:39,520 --> 00:23:42,320
Speaker 4: what falling out of love feels like? And we got

546
00:23:42,320 --> 00:23:42,920
Speaker 4: an update?

547
00:23:43,080 --> 00:23:46,520
Speaker 5: Don't go back to him. The only question here is

548
00:23:46,720 --> 00:23:50,239
Speaker 5: cops or or get your money back? Yeah, I get

549
00:23:50,280 --> 00:23:52,280
Speaker 5: your money back first. I want to That's the only question.

550
00:23:52,359 --> 00:23:55,000
Speaker 5: It's not It's not like do I do I stay

551
00:23:55,000 --> 00:23:56,520
Speaker 5: with him? Or do I break up? The answer is

552
00:23:56,520 --> 00:23:57,280
Speaker 5: obviously break up.

553
00:23:58,440 --> 00:24:00,119
Speaker 7: I was gonna say, how much of the money do

554
00:24:00,160 --> 00:24:03,919
Speaker 7: you think that he stole or what have you he

555
00:24:04,080 --> 00:24:06,480
Speaker 7: used it for? Op like oh I got her a

556
00:24:06,520 --> 00:24:10,439
Speaker 7: fancy jewelry or fancy like it's like, oh, yeah, this

557
00:24:10,480 --> 00:24:12,080
Speaker 7: is my gift to you, but like in reality, it's.

558
00:24:12,000 --> 00:24:14,359
Speaker 8: Like it's a gift to yourself.

559
00:24:14,560 --> 00:24:17,399
Speaker 4: I think she didn't say anything. She probably would have

560
00:24:17,440 --> 00:24:20,440
Speaker 4: mentioned that we might be getting that mentioned pretty soon.

561
00:24:21,240 --> 00:24:23,240
Speaker 5: But what all of that money was spent on, because

562
00:24:23,280 --> 00:24:25,120
Speaker 5: I think some of it was spent on the bills

563
00:24:25,160 --> 00:24:26,000
Speaker 5: that they had.

564
00:24:25,960 --> 00:24:28,760
Speaker 4: Mainly bills and probably him just getting by. Yeah, I

565
00:24:28,760 --> 00:24:30,720
Speaker 4: don't think it was anything. Yeah, you need a break

566
00:24:30,800 --> 00:24:32,919
Speaker 4: up with him, But that would have sucked though, like

567
00:24:33,000 --> 00:24:35,359
Speaker 4: oh this nice dress, I didn't know it costs my

568
00:24:35,400 --> 00:24:37,680
Speaker 4: grandma's third precious.

569
00:24:37,240 --> 00:24:38,760
Speaker 5: Jewel Its messed up. Man.

570
00:24:40,240 --> 00:24:42,360
Speaker 4: Update in my life, I was learned that the best

571
00:24:42,400 --> 00:24:45,240
Speaker 4: way to answer other sincerity is about being sincere myself.

572
00:24:45,280 --> 00:24:47,720
Speaker 4: So I'd like to try here. I have a very

573
00:24:47,720 --> 00:24:51,680
Speaker 4: small circle of people. I would say two most important

574
00:24:51,680 --> 00:24:53,920
Speaker 4: people to me in the past fifteen years I've been

575
00:24:53,920 --> 00:24:56,560
Speaker 4: my boyfriend and my little sister. The only two people

576
00:24:56,640 --> 00:24:59,439
Speaker 4: I talked to nearly every day and do most of

577
00:24:59,480 --> 00:25:02,359
Speaker 4: my every day life with a little over a year ago,

578
00:25:02,720 --> 00:25:05,520
Speaker 4: I almost lost my little sister when she was when

579
00:25:05,560 --> 00:25:09,760
Speaker 4: she oweded on prescription medicine and attempted to self exit.

580
00:25:10,040 --> 00:25:12,439
Speaker 4: I was the only one who found her after the

581
00:25:12,480 --> 00:25:14,800
Speaker 4: fact and spent the next three weeks by her side

582
00:25:14,840 --> 00:25:18,800
Speaker 4: in the ICU. The whole ordeal could be its own

583
00:25:18,880 --> 00:25:22,640
Speaker 4: personal post. Really, now, the only person that had been

584
00:25:22,720 --> 00:25:25,199
Speaker 4: my best friend from my whole life has me blocked

585
00:25:25,240 --> 00:25:27,880
Speaker 4: in every aspect of her life for reasons I still

586
00:25:27,920 --> 00:25:30,600
Speaker 4: do not know, and I still wonder if she blames

587
00:25:30,640 --> 00:25:33,000
Speaker 4: me for leaving that night as much as I blame

588
00:25:33,040 --> 00:25:35,680
Speaker 4: myself and my grief. I lashed out at my toxic

589
00:25:35,720 --> 00:25:38,119
Speaker 4: family for not listening to me when I said I

590
00:25:38,200 --> 00:25:41,840
Speaker 4: was concerned about her, for not doing more, for not

591
00:25:42,000 --> 00:25:44,600
Speaker 4: even being at the hospital when she needed them, for

592
00:25:44,680 --> 00:25:46,639
Speaker 4: expecting me to be the only one to tend to

593
00:25:46,680 --> 00:25:49,000
Speaker 4: her while she was in rehab, and because I lashed

594
00:25:49,000 --> 00:25:52,399
Speaker 4: out at them, I was ostracized. The only time my

595
00:25:52,560 --> 00:25:55,399
Speaker 4: family talks to me now is if it has to

596
00:25:55,480 --> 00:25:58,119
Speaker 4: do with work. My birthday came and went along without

597
00:25:58,119 --> 00:25:59,880
Speaker 4: a single one of them reaching out.

598
00:26:00,080 --> 00:26:04,080
Speaker 5: Ah, Oh, your family's your boyfriends.

599
00:26:05,280 --> 00:26:07,480
Speaker 4: It is why I was compelled to quit, as the

600
00:26:07,600 --> 00:26:11,679
Speaker 4: silence and isolation was slowly driving me into a depression.

601
00:26:11,800 --> 00:26:14,400
Speaker 4: During all of this, I have been clinging to my boyfriend.

602
00:26:14,600 --> 00:26:17,760
Speaker 4: It would have been too difficult to go through without him,

603
00:26:17,840 --> 00:26:19,920
Speaker 4: and I guess it is the main reason why I

604
00:26:19,960 --> 00:26:22,800
Speaker 4: didn't immediately put him out when he came clean to me.

605
00:26:23,040 --> 00:26:26,240
Speaker 4: I have lost my best friend and any support from family.

606
00:26:26,320 --> 00:26:28,879
Speaker 4: When I gave my notice, only one person asked me

607
00:26:28,920 --> 00:26:32,240
Speaker 4: to reconsider. The rest said good riddance. It's her family,

608
00:26:32,680 --> 00:26:35,879
Speaker 4: and even if my family is toxic and awful to

609
00:26:35,960 --> 00:26:40,800
Speaker 4: each other, it still hurts to be cast out so thoroughly.

610
00:26:41,400 --> 00:26:43,919
Speaker 4: So when my boyfriend came clean to me, I just

611
00:26:43,960 --> 00:26:44,920
Speaker 4: went numb.

612
00:26:45,880 --> 00:26:48,880
Speaker 5: Like everyone in her life has like betrayed her or

613
00:26:49,600 --> 00:26:50,800
Speaker 5: just not been there for her.

614
00:26:51,119 --> 00:26:54,520
Speaker 4: Bro moved to BALI. Yeah, just like got the car over,

615
00:26:55,040 --> 00:26:57,200
Speaker 4: find yourself and turn over it works.

616
00:26:58,080 --> 00:27:00,600
Speaker 5: Say it? Leave you? I mean you. You just said

617
00:27:00,640 --> 00:27:04,120
Speaker 5: you finished the two years at that company. Go somewhere else. Yeah,

618
00:27:04,119 --> 00:27:06,680
Speaker 5: you gotta go somewhere else. Got enough experience to probably

619
00:27:06,720 --> 00:27:09,280
Speaker 5: get another solid job. Yeah, go to like I don't know,

620
00:27:09,840 --> 00:27:11,840
Speaker 5: go live on a farm in Scotland.

621
00:27:12,320 --> 00:27:15,040
Speaker 4: I feel like I had lost what little fight I

622
00:27:15,040 --> 00:27:17,320
Speaker 4: had left in me. It feels like the fabric of

623
00:27:17,359 --> 00:27:20,600
Speaker 4: my life is coming unwoven and I'm falling apart. I'm

624
00:27:20,640 --> 00:27:22,879
Speaker 4: still deeply mourning the loss of my sister in my

625
00:27:22,920 --> 00:27:25,720
Speaker 4: life and grieving a family I have given up on.

626
00:27:26,000 --> 00:27:28,600
Speaker 4: I have lost a lot in the past year, and

627
00:27:28,680 --> 00:27:30,920
Speaker 4: this is just the last thing I thought I had

628
00:27:30,960 --> 00:27:33,600
Speaker 4: to worry about. As many of you stated, it sounded

629
00:27:33,640 --> 00:27:37,720
Speaker 4: like the substances. I didn't get him to divulge exactly

630
00:27:38,080 --> 00:27:40,359
Speaker 4: what he was doing with the money, but I pieced

631
00:27:40,359 --> 00:27:45,040
Speaker 4: it enough together. Regular users has once again taken him.

632
00:27:45,240 --> 00:27:48,520
Speaker 4: My boyfriend is a sweet, dotting and genuinely funny person,

633
00:27:48,840 --> 00:27:52,800
Speaker 4: but seven years ago he also became someone I didn't know.

634
00:27:52,920 --> 00:27:58,199
Speaker 4: His substance use was deep and unrelenting. It was a monumental,

635
00:27:58,320 --> 00:28:01,320
Speaker 4: uphill battle for him to get clean and stay sober.

636
00:28:01,400 --> 00:28:03,800
Speaker 4: But I told him I would only stick it out

637
00:28:03,840 --> 00:28:06,720
Speaker 4: with him once more, and if he ever started back

638
00:28:06,760 --> 00:28:08,840
Speaker 4: down that road, I would leave. So I guess he

639
00:28:08,880 --> 00:28:12,479
Speaker 4: got smart about hiding in and me being the gone

640
00:28:12,600 --> 00:28:15,280
Speaker 4: six ish months out of the year really helped him

641
00:28:15,320 --> 00:28:17,480
Speaker 4: with that. I know some of you were very upset

642
00:28:17,520 --> 00:28:20,960
Speaker 4: at me for losing sentimental items, But my grandma's jewelry

643
00:28:21,119 --> 00:28:21,800
Speaker 4: is all there.

644
00:28:21,960 --> 00:28:22,360
Speaker 2: Okay.

645
00:28:22,520 --> 00:28:26,200
Speaker 4: He sold my grandpa's collection of let's say, precious metals.

646
00:28:26,280 --> 00:28:30,280
Speaker 4: As my grandpa was a child of depression and never

647
00:28:30,440 --> 00:28:33,720
Speaker 4: had faith in banks, he stored most of his assets

648
00:28:33,920 --> 00:28:35,800
Speaker 4: as such. Okay, so we probably had a ton of

649
00:28:35,840 --> 00:28:36,520
Speaker 4: silver Indie.

650
00:28:36,680 --> 00:28:38,960
Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, it still sucks though.

651
00:28:39,040 --> 00:28:41,000
Speaker 4: Yeah, my grandpa gave me my grant. Grandpa get me

652
00:28:41,040 --> 00:28:42,360
Speaker 4: a ton of is over when I was little.

653
00:28:42,480 --> 00:28:43,240
Speaker 5: Do you still have it?

654
00:28:43,360 --> 00:28:43,600
Speaker 4: Yeah?

655
00:28:44,040 --> 00:28:44,520
Speaker 2: Where is it?

656
00:28:45,440 --> 00:28:46,080
Speaker 5: Where'd you put it?

657
00:28:46,080 --> 00:28:48,240
Speaker 4: It's in a safe somewhere in North Carolina?

658
00:28:48,240 --> 00:28:49,400
Speaker 7: All right, chat, we know where to go.

659
00:28:49,520 --> 00:28:52,760
Speaker 5: It's in a safe somewhere North Carolina. You're going to

660
00:28:52,800 --> 00:28:55,240
Speaker 5: receive a map in the mail and we're gonna hunt

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Speaker 5: it down.

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Speaker 4: All of his kids and grandkids were even given portions

663
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Speaker 4: of that. They weren't sentimental as much as a safety

664
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Speaker 4: net I had every intention on using if needed.

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Speaker 5: Okay, Well, I mean still obviously still sucks, but this

666
00:29:08,760 --> 00:29:12,400
Speaker 5: is good news because it means you know, she's tore

667
00:29:12,480 --> 00:29:14,600
Speaker 5: up about it. What doesn't seem like she's super tore up.

668
00:29:14,680 --> 00:29:16,440
Speaker 5: But it's also if it's just like let's say it's

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Speaker 5: silver gold, then this is stuff that he can pay

670
00:29:18,680 --> 00:29:22,360
Speaker 5: back like she lost it, but it's not sentimental value stuff.

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Speaker 4: Give me back in bitcoin. Yeah, there was a comment

672
00:29:26,000 --> 00:29:29,040
Speaker 4: that was a few paragraphs that kind of left me shaken.

673
00:29:29,120 --> 00:29:31,840
Speaker 4: Bund denial was pointed out, but also the fact that

674
00:29:31,880 --> 00:29:34,480
Speaker 4: I had already knew what I needed to do, but

675
00:29:34,560 --> 00:29:37,520
Speaker 4: I was looking for a way, any reason, any logic,

676
00:29:37,600 --> 00:29:40,480
Speaker 4: something not to have to lose everything or anyone else

677
00:29:40,560 --> 00:29:43,400
Speaker 4: right now. But I can't escape reality as much as

678
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Speaker 4: I try. Some of you asked how I could even

679
00:29:45,760 --> 00:29:50,320
Speaker 4: contemplate staying. The easy answer is I was slash am

680
00:29:50,400 --> 00:29:54,600
Speaker 4: still scared, scared to face this world alone, terrified. Really,

681
00:29:54,760 --> 00:29:57,600
Speaker 4: I have told him we have no more future together

682
00:29:57,800 --> 00:30:00,520
Speaker 4: and we are working on how to best separate. It

683
00:30:00,560 --> 00:30:04,520
Speaker 4: is amicable. I will not be reporting him or suing him.

684
00:30:04,880 --> 00:30:06,800
Speaker 4: I've talked to his mom and dad about it. They

685
00:30:06,840 --> 00:30:08,280
Speaker 4: told me that they would pay me back one way

686
00:30:08,360 --> 00:30:11,320
Speaker 4: or another, and he has promised as much. I know

687
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Speaker 4: a lot of you will be disappointed in that outcome,

688
00:30:14,600 --> 00:30:17,520
Speaker 4: but I just have nothing left in me. I'm exhausted

689
00:30:17,600 --> 00:30:19,760
Speaker 4: and I don't even have the energy to get angry

690
00:30:19,760 --> 00:30:22,440
Speaker 4: at anyone right now. Maybe once I have time to

691
00:30:22,480 --> 00:30:26,320
Speaker 4: process everything, that might change, but right now I need peace.

692
00:30:26,440 --> 00:30:28,920
Speaker 4: For now, I can only focus on the present and

693
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Speaker 4: try to take it one day as at a time. I

694
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Speaker 4: didn't ever think I would be this alone, and the

695
00:30:34,080 --> 00:30:36,800
Speaker 4: pain of losing the people I love the most in

696
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Speaker 4: this world is poignant heartache I will be grappling with

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Speaker 4: for a good time to come. Thank you, kind strangers

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Speaker 4: for letting me feel less alone in this. Thank you

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Speaker 4: for your anger on my behalf. Thank you for taking

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Speaker 4: time to read my post, give me violidation to my heartbreak.

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Speaker 4: And if you don't want to be heartbroken, you can

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Speaker 5: We'll be right there.

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Speaker 4: Wow, I have not read in a while. Sorry about that, guys.

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Speaker 5: That was just like we're getting back into it.

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Speaker 2: Oh wow.

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Speaker 8: Oh man.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I feel like what happened on this second update.

711
00:31:15,040 --> 00:31:18,560
Speaker 4: He came clean, she processed it, found a plan in

712
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Speaker 4: his leaving him.

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Speaker 7: Yeah.

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Speaker 5: I feel like that first one where she was like

715
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Speaker 5: I don't know if I should leave him and was

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Speaker 5: just kind of the shock. And again she's been with

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Speaker 5: him for like twelve years.

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Speaker 4: So at the seven year mark or seven years ago,

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Speaker 4: that's whenever he turned to the.

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Speaker 5: Yes and then a bottle twelve years yeah, but they're

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Speaker 5: at twelve years now.

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Speaker 4: They're a twelve years now yeah. Yah, So that's why

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Speaker 4: I was. I thought they were together for seven years

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Speaker 4: and you know what I mean.

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Speaker 8: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Hey, it's Sam' your og host here bring it back

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Speaker 5: My girlfriend is jealous of my brother's girlfriend. She lashed out.

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Speaker 5: So the key players in this story are me twenty

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Speaker 5: five mail, my girlfriend Anna twenty five female, my brother

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Speaker 5: Bill twenty eight male, and my brother's girlfriend Callie twenty

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Speaker 5: three female, who have been dating for three years and

733
00:32:06,560 --> 00:32:09,920
Speaker 5: live together. Also relevant are my other brothers, Dan twenty

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Speaker 5: four male and Eli nine mail. By the way, this

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Speaker 5: So I've been dating Anna for about six months. She's

738
00:32:20,880 --> 00:32:23,680
Speaker 5: really awesome and I see a future with her for sure.

739
00:32:23,920 --> 00:32:27,520
Speaker 5: We met on Tinder and have pretty much been inseparable since.

740
00:32:27,640 --> 00:32:29,840
Speaker 5: We fight some, but no more than most couples. I'd

741
00:32:29,880 --> 00:32:32,480
Speaker 5: say this is definitely our biggest issue, and I'm worried

742
00:32:32,560 --> 00:32:35,960
Speaker 5: it's going to spell the end of us. Anna is

743
00:32:36,160 --> 00:32:40,240
Speaker 5: really jealous of Callie, weirdly jealous about things that I

744
00:32:40,280 --> 00:32:43,680
Speaker 5: think are completely unreasonable. Anna, Bill, Cally, and I all

745
00:32:43,720 --> 00:32:45,600
Speaker 5: live in the same city, so we see Bill and

746
00:32:45,640 --> 00:32:48,520
Speaker 5: Cally a lot. Until about a year ago. Bill and

747
00:32:48,560 --> 00:32:50,520
Speaker 5: I live together, but now I live on my own

748
00:32:50,600 --> 00:32:53,680
Speaker 5: and he lives with his girlfriend. Bill and Cally are

749
00:32:53,720 --> 00:32:56,680
Speaker 5: both big nerds. He's a botanist, and she's pursuing her

750
00:32:56,680 --> 00:32:59,240
Speaker 5: PhD in some sort of physics thing that has to

751
00:32:59,240 --> 00:33:01,440
Speaker 5: do with space. She's crazy smart.

752
00:33:01,560 --> 00:33:02,560
Speaker 8: He's a botanist.

753
00:33:02,680 --> 00:33:04,760
Speaker 5: That's sick. Oh, dude, sick.

754
00:33:04,800 --> 00:33:06,280
Speaker 4: I was kind of a bitanis a little bit in

755
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Speaker 4: my life.

756
00:33:06,800 --> 00:33:07,880
Speaker 2: I would be a botanist.

757
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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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00:33:08,680 --> 00:33:11,040
Speaker 5: I really love Anna, but I don't think she's ever

759
00:33:11,080 --> 00:33:13,520
Speaker 5: been someone to get along with other women very well.

760
00:33:13,680 --> 00:33:16,080
Speaker 5: I knew from the start that she didn't like Callie,

761
00:33:16,120 --> 00:33:18,040
Speaker 5: and I don't really feel like she's making much of

762
00:33:18,160 --> 00:33:21,240
Speaker 5: an attempt to hide that fact. Whatever. I can't force

763
00:33:21,240 --> 00:33:23,800
Speaker 5: her to like my brother's girlfriend. She thinks Callie is

764
00:33:23,840 --> 00:33:28,520
Speaker 5: stuck up, shallow and titled. Arrogant, causes drama, whatever. I

765
00:33:28,560 --> 00:33:30,760
Speaker 5: don't agree with her, but I can chalk all of

766
00:33:30,760 --> 00:33:33,160
Speaker 5: that up to an opinion about her personality, which I

767
00:33:33,200 --> 00:33:35,760
Speaker 5: feel like will change if she gets to know Calli better.

768
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Speaker 5: It's the specific things that I don't know how to

769
00:33:38,240 --> 00:33:41,960
Speaker 5: react to. Really quick. I think, oh, yeah, I think

770
00:33:42,120 --> 00:33:46,320
Speaker 5: if Op's girlfriend has other female friends and she, you know,

771
00:33:46,520 --> 00:33:49,440
Speaker 5: she gets along with them, well, then maybe Opie's brother's

772
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Speaker 5: girlfriend is the problem.

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Speaker 4: It's Callie's a problem. Yeah.

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Speaker 5: Interesting, But but if if Opie's girlfriend has no other

775
00:33:55,880 --> 00:33:58,240
Speaker 5: female friends, she's a problem or.

776
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Speaker 4: These female friends could be toxic.

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Speaker 5: Four months ago, my grandmother passed away. The funeral was

778
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Speaker 5: on the other side of the country, so we all

779
00:34:05,320 --> 00:34:07,400
Speaker 5: packed up and flew there for the funeral and to

780
00:34:07,480 --> 00:34:11,879
Speaker 5: visit family. Calli was invited, Anna was not, and Anna

781
00:34:11,920 --> 00:34:14,879
Speaker 5: was pissed. I'm still hearing about it to this day.

782
00:34:14,960 --> 00:34:17,279
Speaker 5: And while it seems like she understands that Calli has

783
00:34:17,360 --> 00:34:20,319
Speaker 5: met my grandmother and known her for many years and

784
00:34:20,400 --> 00:34:22,839
Speaker 5: should have been invited, she doesn't get one. My dad

785
00:34:22,840 --> 00:34:25,200
Speaker 5: didn't just go ahead and spring for another plane ticket

786
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Speaker 5: for Anna to make it fair. I feel like we've

787
00:34:27,320 --> 00:34:29,960
Speaker 5: spent months talking circles about it, and at this point

788
00:34:30,000 --> 00:34:31,880
Speaker 5: I wish she would just forget about it. You know,

789
00:34:32,200 --> 00:34:33,920
Speaker 5: if I had known it was going to be a

790
00:34:33,920 --> 00:34:36,480
Speaker 5: big deal, I would have just bought her a ticket myself.

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00:34:36,680 --> 00:34:40,360
Speaker 5: Two weeks ago was my dad's birthday. My brothers, Anna, Calli,

792
00:34:40,440 --> 00:34:42,840
Speaker 5: and I all went to visit for his birthday. Calli

793
00:34:42,920 --> 00:34:44,799
Speaker 5: and Bill were allowed to sleep in the same room,

794
00:34:44,920 --> 00:34:47,600
Speaker 5: but my dad asked that Anna sleep in the guest room.

795
00:34:47,800 --> 00:34:49,919
Speaker 5: His reasoning is that he wants to keep things as

796
00:34:49,960 --> 00:34:53,239
Speaker 5: appropriate as possible for my youngest brother. I agree with

797
00:34:53,280 --> 00:34:55,160
Speaker 5: Anna that this is kind of unfair. But on the

798
00:34:55,160 --> 00:34:58,120
Speaker 5: other hand, Calli and Bill lived together and Elia stayed

799
00:34:58,120 --> 00:35:01,520
Speaker 5: with them for the weekend before. No, I don't like that. Yeah,

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00:35:01,719 --> 00:35:05,040
Speaker 5: that's that's weird. I mean, like, it's one thing if

801
00:35:05,080 --> 00:35:07,839
Speaker 5: you have parents who are like, oh, you can't if

802
00:35:07,840 --> 00:35:10,160
Speaker 5: you guys aren't married, you can't you know, sleep in

803
00:35:10,200 --> 00:35:12,640
Speaker 5: the same room, can't be lived together, blah blah blah.

804
00:35:12,680 --> 00:35:15,439
Speaker 5: But we already know that they're letting the other couple

805
00:35:15,480 --> 00:35:17,520
Speaker 5: who is unmarried, like sleep in the same room.

806
00:35:18,040 --> 00:35:19,880
Speaker 4: I think should be a married thing or not.

807
00:35:20,080 --> 00:35:22,520
Speaker 5: Yeah, you can't. You can't do like a middle ground

808
00:35:22,600 --> 00:35:23,680
Speaker 5: because that's just silly.

809
00:35:23,840 --> 00:35:25,200
Speaker 4: So is there a little bit of favoritism?

810
00:35:25,239 --> 00:35:27,680
Speaker 5: Because I have so I think they just don't like Anna.

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Speaker 4: I have seen in families before where they were going

812
00:35:30,560 --> 00:35:32,759
Speaker 4: to have a family vacation but they didn't because of

813
00:35:32,800 --> 00:35:36,359
Speaker 4: one of the partners certificate other Yeah, if that makes sense.

814
00:35:36,520 --> 00:35:38,319
Speaker 5: Yeah, like they yeah, they're like, oh, I don't want

815
00:35:38,360 --> 00:35:39,759
Speaker 5: to have to deal with her something.

816
00:35:39,800 --> 00:35:42,320
Speaker 4: Yeah, exactly, So that I just really don't.

817
00:35:42,120 --> 00:35:45,560
Speaker 5: Like Anna, which maybe maybe Anna is causing a lot

818
00:35:45,600 --> 00:35:48,880
Speaker 5: of this, or maybe they're all being haters. You know.

819
00:35:49,440 --> 00:35:51,640
Speaker 5: I tried to explain to Anna that in a year

820
00:35:51,680 --> 00:35:54,040
Speaker 5: or so, my dad wouldn't mind Callie slept in the

821
00:35:54,040 --> 00:35:56,080
Speaker 5: guest room the first several times she visited. But for

822
00:35:56,120 --> 00:35:57,719
Speaker 5: now he's just trying to look out for his kid,

823
00:35:57,760 --> 00:36:00,799
Speaker 5: and it's his house, his rules. So we fight about

824
00:36:00,800 --> 00:36:04,000
Speaker 5: these two things all the time. She accuses my family

825
00:36:04,040 --> 00:36:07,080
Speaker 5: of liking Calli Moore, which I fed up and told her, well, yeah,

826
00:36:07,160 --> 00:36:10,120
Speaker 5: they've known her longer, we love Callie idiot, and that

827
00:36:10,200 --> 00:36:12,759
Speaker 5: it accuses me of liking Calli Moore and of not

828
00:36:12,880 --> 00:36:15,000
Speaker 5: being serious about her, et cetera. I don't know how

829
00:36:15,000 --> 00:36:17,120
Speaker 5: to handle this because I've never really expected to have

830
00:36:17,160 --> 00:36:19,400
Speaker 5: a girl friend be jealous of someone who's basically my

831
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Speaker 5: sister in law, speaking of which I know Bill is

832
00:36:22,320 --> 00:36:25,400
Speaker 5: planning on proposing soon with my grandmother's ring, And I

833
00:36:25,480 --> 00:36:29,320
Speaker 5: really regret telling Anna because already it's well, that's selfish.

834
00:36:29,480 --> 00:36:31,879
Speaker 5: What if you or Dan wanted to propose with that ring.

835
00:36:32,080 --> 00:36:34,480
Speaker 5: She shouldn't just take it all for herself, as if

836
00:36:34,520 --> 00:36:37,440
Speaker 5: it were Callie's decision and not something Bill wanted to do.

837
00:36:37,640 --> 00:36:40,000
Speaker 5: And even if I try to explain that we talked

838
00:36:40,000 --> 00:36:42,800
Speaker 5: about it and decided that Callie actually knew our grandmother

839
00:36:43,000 --> 00:36:46,279
Speaker 5: so it was appropriate, Anna just doesn't want to hear it.

840
00:36:46,440 --> 00:36:49,080
Speaker 5: I feel like we're building to a big blow up here.

841
00:36:49,440 --> 00:36:51,520
Speaker 5: Every day she's hinting that she wants to move into

842
00:36:51,520 --> 00:36:54,440
Speaker 5: my apartment, hinting that she wants to get engaged or whatever,

843
00:36:54,600 --> 00:36:56,960
Speaker 5: but it all comes off as her wanting to one

844
00:36:57,040 --> 00:36:59,839
Speaker 5: up Callie. It's frustrating because I feel like this isn't

845
00:36:59,840 --> 00:37:03,000
Speaker 5: really who she is. Usually she's very laid back and

846
00:37:03,120 --> 00:37:05,640
Speaker 5: kind and open to talking through her problems. But the

847
00:37:05,680 --> 00:37:09,200
Speaker 5: minute Callie's involved, somehow it all turns into a total

848
00:37:09,280 --> 00:37:11,920
Speaker 5: crap show. What should I say to her? Where do

849
00:37:12,040 --> 00:37:12,799
Speaker 5: I even.

850
00:37:12,600 --> 00:37:15,480
Speaker 4: Start, Dude, I think we might be missing something. Yeah,

851
00:37:15,520 --> 00:37:17,319
Speaker 4: Anna does not have a lot going for her here,

852
00:37:18,000 --> 00:37:18,720
Speaker 4: chicken tinders.

853
00:37:18,800 --> 00:37:21,600
Speaker 5: She's not a botanist. She's not a botanist. Well builds

854
00:37:21,640 --> 00:37:22,800
Speaker 5: the botonan Okay, well she's not.

855
00:37:23,000 --> 00:37:23,560
Speaker 2: She's peak.

856
00:37:24,440 --> 00:37:27,200
Speaker 4: Yeah, she doesn't work in space, and she doesn't have

857
00:37:27,200 --> 00:37:30,200
Speaker 4: a lot of female friends. Yeah, Callie may have bullied

858
00:37:30,200 --> 00:37:34,360
Speaker 4: her in schooled theom and this is why Anna. Maybe

859
00:37:34,440 --> 00:37:36,080
Speaker 4: we don't know they're around the same age. We don't

860
00:37:36,080 --> 00:37:38,600
Speaker 4: they're around the same age. This probably is why cat

861
00:37:38,719 --> 00:37:41,160
Speaker 4: Anna and so gets CALLI because Anna's life is the

862
00:37:41,160 --> 00:37:43,080
Speaker 4: way it is because Cally made it that way.

863
00:37:43,200 --> 00:37:46,759
Speaker 5: It all it's all a huge conspiracy theory and Callie's

864
00:37:47,400 --> 00:37:47,759
Speaker 5: at the.

865
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Speaker 4: Root of it.

866
00:37:48,360 --> 00:37:50,120
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, it's all coming together now.

867
00:37:51,880 --> 00:37:55,080
Speaker 5: Yeah, I don't know. I think that it just seems

868
00:37:55,640 --> 00:37:57,960
Speaker 5: kind of like on one side, I do think that

869
00:37:58,040 --> 00:38:00,759
Speaker 5: the family is definitely showing the favoritism, but also it

870
00:38:00,800 --> 00:38:02,560
Speaker 5: seems like Anna sucks a little bit.

871
00:38:02,760 --> 00:38:04,120
Speaker 4: Yeah, but there is an edit.

872
00:38:04,360 --> 00:38:07,000
Speaker 5: Well it only took about an hour's worth of comments,

873
00:38:07,000 --> 00:38:10,680
Speaker 5: but you guys basically confirmed what I kind of knew already.

874
00:38:10,840 --> 00:38:13,239
Speaker 5: I love my family and Callie is a part of

875
00:38:13,239 --> 00:38:15,640
Speaker 5: my family. I'm going to tell Anna that she needs

876
00:38:15,680 --> 00:38:17,799
Speaker 5: to cut us out, that Callie is my family and

877
00:38:17,840 --> 00:38:19,880
Speaker 5: that she can't expect to have the same relationship with

878
00:38:19,880 --> 00:38:22,240
Speaker 5: my family as someone who has been around six times

879
00:38:22,239 --> 00:38:24,799
Speaker 5: as long. If she doesn't cut it out, well, I'm

880
00:38:24,800 --> 00:38:28,239
Speaker 5: guessing that that'll be Splitsville for us, which is but

881
00:38:28,360 --> 00:38:30,879
Speaker 5: better now than a year from now. Right, and there

882
00:38:31,000 --> 00:38:34,320
Speaker 5: is an update, so we're gonna freaking jump into it first.

883
00:38:34,520 --> 00:38:37,120
Speaker 5: Thanks everyone for your advice and support. It helps to

884
00:38:37,160 --> 00:38:39,000
Speaker 5: know that there are a lot of people out there

885
00:38:39,040 --> 00:38:41,319
Speaker 5: to confirm what I was kind of already feeling about

886
00:38:41,320 --> 00:38:44,000
Speaker 5: my relationship. I'm not sure if anyone actually cares about

887
00:38:44,000 --> 00:38:47,760
Speaker 5: an update we freaking dow, but figured i'd post one anyway.

888
00:38:47,840 --> 00:38:49,759
Speaker 5: I do want to say that my last post wasn't

889
00:38:49,840 --> 00:38:52,440
Speaker 5: very flattering towards Anna. That's because it was a post

890
00:38:52,440 --> 00:38:54,760
Speaker 5: about a problem between us. If it were a post

891
00:38:54,760 --> 00:38:57,360
Speaker 5: about all the things about her that I love, it

892
00:38:57,360 --> 00:38:59,799
Speaker 5: would have been much longer and much more flattering. I

893
00:38:59,840 --> 00:39:02,320
Speaker 5: just wanted to say that because Anna isn't a bad person,

894
00:39:02,400 --> 00:39:04,280
Speaker 5: and I think a lot of you got an unfair

895
00:39:04,280 --> 00:39:06,840
Speaker 5: impression of her based on my perspective. Of a problem

896
00:39:06,920 --> 00:39:10,879
Speaker 5: we have that said, long story short, we broke up.

897
00:39:11,000 --> 00:39:15,120
Speaker 5: So this buss isn't very flattering either. That's so funny.

898
00:39:15,120 --> 00:39:16,880
Speaker 5: Oh he's like, no, no, no, like I don't want you

899
00:39:16,920 --> 00:39:18,879
Speaker 5: guys to think that she's a bad person, or like

900
00:39:19,040 --> 00:39:20,800
Speaker 5: you know that I don't like her. But also we

901
00:39:20,840 --> 00:39:21,440
Speaker 5: broke up, and.

902
00:39:22,280 --> 00:39:24,920
Speaker 4: Even though we didn't get a lot about Anna, you

903
00:39:24,920 --> 00:39:28,480
Speaker 4: could probably wrote in a way, Yeah, this seemed favorable.

904
00:39:28,760 --> 00:39:31,000
Speaker 5: You know, I wanted to talk to her and see

905
00:39:31,000 --> 00:39:32,560
Speaker 5: if I could get to the root of her problem

906
00:39:32,560 --> 00:39:35,000
Speaker 5: with Calli and with my family, and it seemed to

907
00:39:35,040 --> 00:39:37,920
Speaker 5: boil down to this. Anna feels like because my parents

908
00:39:37,920 --> 00:39:41,239
Speaker 5: have four boys, they embraced Callie as a story good daughter,

909
00:39:41,440 --> 00:39:43,560
Speaker 5: but now that role has been filled and there isn't

910
00:39:43,640 --> 00:39:46,319
Speaker 5: room left for Anna. Girl. You just said that they

911
00:39:46,320 --> 00:39:48,240
Speaker 5: have four boys, they're allowed to have two daughters.

912
00:39:48,640 --> 00:39:52,440
Speaker 4: Whoa this story is hitting home, not really, but I

913
00:39:52,480 --> 00:39:54,759
Speaker 4: have like four I have like three siblings and they're

914
00:39:54,760 --> 00:39:55,320
Speaker 4: all boys.

915
00:39:55,560 --> 00:39:58,040
Speaker 5: Yeah, like this might happen to me one day, Andie's

916
00:39:58,040 --> 00:40:01,000
Speaker 5: the only one allowed or taste girl him. She got

917
00:40:01,040 --> 00:40:03,200
Speaker 5: to battle it out. They had more together for about

918
00:40:03,200 --> 00:40:06,560
Speaker 5: three years, and we've been together tameing uh oh. She

919
00:40:06,680 --> 00:40:09,400
Speaker 5: talked a lot about how Callie has the advantage and

920
00:40:09,440 --> 00:40:12,719
Speaker 5: that Anna hasn't really been given an opportunity to prove herself.

921
00:40:12,840 --> 00:40:14,919
Speaker 5: She explained that that's part of what upset her about

922
00:40:14,960 --> 00:40:17,720
Speaker 5: not being able to come to California for my grandmother's funeral.

923
00:40:17,840 --> 00:40:20,520
Speaker 5: Not the funeral, but afterwards, when we all cleaned out

924
00:40:20,560 --> 00:40:22,600
Speaker 5: Grandma's house and everything. She said she wanted to be

925
00:40:22,680 --> 00:40:26,080
Speaker 5: there to show that she was helpful, dedicated, caring, whatever.

926
00:40:26,360 --> 00:40:28,560
Speaker 5: I felt really weird about all of that because it

927
00:40:28,600 --> 00:40:31,160
Speaker 5: seemed like she was viewing everything as an opportunity to

928
00:40:31,239 --> 00:40:33,399
Speaker 5: make herself look good. I don't know if I can

929
00:40:33,440 --> 00:40:35,640
Speaker 5: explain it well, but she was explaining it in this

930
00:40:35,840 --> 00:40:38,800
Speaker 5: really calculating way, and it seemed like she didn't genuinely

931
00:40:38,840 --> 00:40:41,640
Speaker 5: care about us, just about making herself look good. I

932
00:40:41,680 --> 00:40:43,560
Speaker 5: tried to explain to her that I think the only

933
00:40:43,600 --> 00:40:46,319
Speaker 5: advantage Callie has is that she's been around longer. I

934
00:40:46,360 --> 00:40:49,400
Speaker 5: pointed out that Anna is the same religion as my family, Catholic.

935
00:40:49,480 --> 00:40:51,239
Speaker 5: Kind of a big deal to my mom that she's

936
00:40:51,280 --> 00:40:53,839
Speaker 5: from the same region Northeast, that she and my mom

937
00:40:53,880 --> 00:40:56,760
Speaker 5: share a profession teaching and a bunch of other little things.

938
00:40:56,840 --> 00:40:59,840
Speaker 5: She wasn't hearing it, so I suggested we take a

939
00:41:00,080 --> 00:41:02,759
Speaker 5: break to think things over, because Callie is about to

940
00:41:02,800 --> 00:41:05,200
Speaker 5: be my family in a very real way, and if

941
00:41:05,239 --> 00:41:08,399
Speaker 5: she can't stand that, then maybe the relationship isn't working out.

942
00:41:08,480 --> 00:41:11,360
Speaker 5: Anna told me that she doesn't do breaks, so I

943
00:41:11,440 --> 00:41:13,839
Speaker 5: told her, fine, it's a breakup, but if you change

944
00:41:13,840 --> 00:41:15,600
Speaker 5: your mind in the next few weeks, I'd love to

945
00:41:15,640 --> 00:41:18,319
Speaker 5: talk to you. That was Thursday, so that's where we

946
00:41:18,320 --> 00:41:21,160
Speaker 5: were until Sunday evening. I was at Bill and Cally's

947
00:41:21,160 --> 00:41:24,360
Speaker 5: watching football, getting a little wasted, feeling sorry for myself,

948
00:41:24,400 --> 00:41:27,680
Speaker 5: but also feeling pretty good because the Patriots won. Callie's

949
00:41:27,719 --> 00:41:29,919
Speaker 5: a Panther's fan, so she's been having a pretty good

950
00:41:29,920 --> 00:41:31,920
Speaker 5: season also, and all three of us were having a

951
00:41:31,920 --> 00:41:35,480
Speaker 5: good day overall. And then Callie started getting Facebook messages

952
00:41:35,520 --> 00:41:37,640
Speaker 5: from Anna, a lot of them. I don't know if

953
00:41:37,640 --> 00:41:39,600
Speaker 5: she was wasted or just pissed off, but it was

954
00:41:39,680 --> 00:41:42,440
Speaker 5: just message after message of I hope you feel good

955
00:41:42,480 --> 00:41:45,839
Speaker 5: about yourself. I think it's disgusting how you consider all

956
00:41:45,960 --> 00:41:49,920
Speaker 5: our last names your territory. Oh Pie's Mamaly tolerates your

957
00:41:49,960 --> 00:41:52,800
Speaker 5: pathetic redneck blah, blah blah, because she thinks she'll be

958
00:41:52,840 --> 00:41:54,960
Speaker 5: able to support her when she's old. People after their

959
00:41:55,040 --> 00:41:56,719
Speaker 5: cousins where you're from. I bet I can find a

960
00:41:56,760 --> 00:41:59,239
Speaker 5: story or two about you. I hope you enjoy that ring.

961
00:41:59,280 --> 00:42:02,000
Speaker 5: It's probably the nicest thing you've ever touched. Congrats on

962
00:42:02,120 --> 00:42:04,400
Speaker 5: marrying up in social class. All the kids at the

963
00:42:04,400 --> 00:42:08,160
Speaker 5: watering Hole and whatever podunk Bs village spawned, you sure

964
00:42:08,239 --> 00:42:10,840
Speaker 5: will be imppressed. How will you even get the news

965
00:42:10,880 --> 00:42:14,520
Speaker 5: out smoke signal? I didn't think they got electricity there yet.

966
00:42:14,640 --> 00:42:16,919
Speaker 5: I bet you're pregnant and making him propose to save

967
00:42:16,960 --> 00:42:22,000
Speaker 5: face for your beast, your baby. Damn girl, you are

968
00:42:22,040 --> 00:42:24,520
Speaker 5: a walking red flag. This is why you have no

969
00:42:24,680 --> 00:42:28,600
Speaker 5: friends cause you damn Ope.

970
00:42:28,840 --> 00:42:31,120
Speaker 7: I'm not gonna lie. Those insults were like going on

971
00:42:31,120 --> 00:42:33,319
Speaker 7: a tangent like that. I gotta give some props of that.

972
00:42:33,320 --> 00:42:34,480
Speaker 7: That's kind of crazy.

973
00:42:35,000 --> 00:42:38,799
Speaker 5: Um wow, this girl sucks. These aren't direct quotes, but

974
00:42:38,880 --> 00:42:41,080
Speaker 5: sort of the gist of it. Basically just a lot

975
00:42:41,080 --> 00:42:43,480
Speaker 5: of really mean stuff about how Callie is from the South,

976
00:42:43,640 --> 00:42:47,280
Speaker 5: grew up poor, her parents are Mennonites, et cetera, also

977
00:42:47,320 --> 00:42:50,239
Speaker 5: accusing her of feeling threatened by Anna and forcing me

978
00:42:50,320 --> 00:42:53,520
Speaker 5: to break up with her not nice stuff. Callie was

979
00:42:53,560 --> 00:42:57,760
Speaker 5: pretty upset and had to deactivate her Facebook. Yeah block

980
00:42:57,800 --> 00:42:58,240
Speaker 5: this girl.

981
00:42:58,239 --> 00:42:58,439
Speaker 6: Man.

982
00:42:58,560 --> 00:43:01,560
Speaker 5: Bill's pissed. I'm pissed, but there's nothing good that could

983
00:43:01,560 --> 00:43:03,879
Speaker 5: come for me confronting Anna. I feel like such an

984
00:43:03,880 --> 00:43:06,760
Speaker 5: a hole for even bringing Anna around in the first place,

985
00:43:06,880 --> 00:43:09,120
Speaker 5: because none of it was worth all of this bs.

986
00:43:09,360 --> 00:43:11,319
Speaker 5: Callie blames it on the fact that Anna grew up

987
00:43:11,320 --> 00:43:14,200
Speaker 5: in an only child in a wealthy family. I don't

988
00:43:14,200 --> 00:43:16,719
Speaker 5: know if that's true or if Anna is just mean spirited.

989
00:43:16,800 --> 00:43:20,920
Speaker 5: Maybe it, you know, could be kind of a both things. Yeah,

990
00:43:20,960 --> 00:43:23,120
Speaker 5: either way, I feel really guilty for being the source

991
00:43:23,120 --> 00:43:25,000
Speaker 5: of all of this for CALLI. By the way, you

992
00:43:25,040 --> 00:43:28,680
Speaker 5: should never feel guilty for listening to full episodes with

993
00:43:28,719 --> 00:43:31,400
Speaker 5: stories just like this. Just go to Apple Podcasts, Spotify,

994
00:43:31,560 --> 00:43:33,880
Speaker 5: or your favorite podcast staff and search up Okay storytime

995
00:43:34,040 --> 00:43:37,200
Speaker 5: and there is a little bit left of the story.

996
00:43:37,400 --> 00:43:38,960
Speaker 4: Good Riddensen is out of there.

997
00:43:39,160 --> 00:43:40,200
Speaker 5: Yeah, get Anna.

998
00:43:40,680 --> 00:43:45,719
Speaker 4: No one so confused why Anna doesn't like callie animosity.

999
00:43:45,719 --> 00:43:46,759
Speaker 7: There's so much animosity.

1000
00:43:46,800 --> 00:43:50,120
Speaker 5: I don't because cat though, because Callie seems like so

1001
00:43:50,280 --> 00:43:50,840
Speaker 5: much cooler.

1002
00:43:51,000 --> 00:43:53,279
Speaker 7: This is probably what she does. What she does, You

1003
00:43:53,440 --> 00:43:55,600
Speaker 7: just like, oh, let me all right, I have to

1004
00:43:55,640 --> 00:43:56,839
Speaker 7: pick out things I hate about you.

1005
00:43:56,960 --> 00:43:59,880
Speaker 5: Yeah. The thing is like I feel like or just

1006
00:44:00,160 --> 00:44:05,279
Speaker 5: a person who is just incredibly jealous and angry and

1007
00:44:05,360 --> 00:44:08,920
Speaker 5: can't get along with other people. They will see someone

1008
00:44:09,000 --> 00:44:12,200
Speaker 5: who is well liked and just is very you know,

1009
00:44:12,360 --> 00:44:14,560
Speaker 5: good at things, and maybe he's pretty and just like

1010
00:44:14,600 --> 00:44:17,360
Speaker 5: has all of these great qualities and just have to

1011
00:44:17,800 --> 00:44:20,319
Speaker 5: crap on them as much as pops on them. I see,

1012
00:44:20,800 --> 00:44:23,200
Speaker 5: because it makes them feel better about themselves.

1013
00:44:23,360 --> 00:44:23,759
Speaker 4: Got it.

1014
00:44:24,440 --> 00:44:26,840
Speaker 5: But there is a little bit more to the story. Also,

1015
00:44:26,960 --> 00:44:29,640
Speaker 5: the Facebook messages spoil that Bill was going to propose,

1016
00:44:30,680 --> 00:44:31,880
Speaker 5: so that's a bummer.

1017
00:44:32,440 --> 00:44:33,640
Speaker 8: That sucks.

1018
00:44:35,120 --> 00:44:39,120
Speaker 5: Ooh dude, Calli's dad is a jeweler and is resizing

1019
00:44:39,160 --> 00:44:41,399
Speaker 5: the rings so he can't even give it to her yet.

1020
00:44:41,520 --> 00:44:43,040
Speaker 5: He was going to do it at Christmas, but I

1021
00:44:43,080 --> 00:44:45,600
Speaker 5: think he's going to do it at Thanksgiving instead, So

1022
00:44:45,760 --> 00:44:47,520
Speaker 5: there is a bit of a happy ending there. This

1023
00:44:47,640 --> 00:44:51,520
Speaker 5: got really long. I apologize, and there is no more

1024
00:44:51,560 --> 00:44:52,520
Speaker 5: to the story. That's it.

1025
00:44:52,560 --> 00:44:57,560
Speaker 4: Could you check, man? I feel like if there's another update,

1026
00:44:57,640 --> 00:44:59,680
Speaker 4: you're gonna have to get a restraining order against Anne.

1027
00:44:59,800 --> 00:45:00,000
Speaker 5: Yeah.

1028
00:45:00,480 --> 00:45:02,080
Speaker 7: Yeah, I feel like with everything you don't think so.

1029
00:45:02,320 --> 00:45:03,759
Speaker 7: I feel like, just like blocking, do.

1030
00:45:03,840 --> 00:45:06,479
Speaker 4: You think Anna just wanted to get her rocks off

1031
00:45:06,600 --> 00:45:07,000
Speaker 4: doing that?

1032
00:45:07,080 --> 00:45:08,719
Speaker 8: And that's find a probably.

1033
00:45:08,840 --> 00:45:11,319
Speaker 5: Troll on Facebook and that's it and that.

1034
00:45:11,320 --> 00:45:11,759
Speaker 2: Was all that.

1035
00:45:11,800 --> 00:45:13,480
Speaker 7: You see that stuff and you're like, you know what

1036
00:45:13,480 --> 00:45:16,960
Speaker 7: I can do? Yeah block locker check.

1037
00:45:18,160 --> 00:45:20,560
Speaker 8: My fiance's boss's wife is Alayah.

1038
00:45:20,800 --> 00:45:23,920
Speaker 2: I refuse to have her at my wedding. Oh, cheating involved.

1039
00:45:24,080 --> 00:45:25,720
Speaker 8: There's boss's wife.

1040
00:45:25,880 --> 00:45:28,799
Speaker 1: Oh no, me female and my fiance twenty nine male

1041
00:45:28,840 --> 00:45:31,360
Speaker 1: got engaged in July of this year. We immediately started

1042
00:45:31,400 --> 00:45:34,360
Speaker 1: planning booked avenue and are slowly getting things into place.

1043
00:45:34,480 --> 00:45:36,920
Speaker 1: We're pretty mutual on the guest list, as we have

1044
00:45:36,960 --> 00:45:40,320
Speaker 1: both met each other's friends and family are the extended

1045
00:45:40,360 --> 00:45:44,000
Speaker 1: family of mine because it's basically the size.

1046
00:45:43,600 --> 00:45:45,040
Speaker 2: Of a medium army.

1047
00:45:45,680 --> 00:45:48,000
Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from winni friend on the

1048
00:45:48,120 --> 00:45:49,719
Speaker 1: r slash okay story time stat about it. So the

1049
00:45:49,800 --> 00:45:52,560
Speaker 1: conversation has brought up a few times of work colleagues

1050
00:45:52,600 --> 00:45:55,080
Speaker 1: coming to the wedding. He's met a fair few of

1051
00:45:55,120 --> 00:45:58,080
Speaker 1: mine through small events and after work drinks, and I've

1052
00:45:58,080 --> 00:46:00,719
Speaker 1: met a few of his and similar situations, including his

1053
00:46:00,960 --> 00:46:05,600
Speaker 1: managing director. I have never met his MD's wife, but

1054
00:46:05,680 --> 00:46:08,399
Speaker 1: I know she also works at his business. She's head

1055
00:46:08,400 --> 00:46:11,640
Speaker 1: of accounting, but seems to think she's a chief operating

1056
00:46:11,640 --> 00:46:14,000
Speaker 1: officer despite that, not me in her position.

1057
00:46:14,160 --> 00:46:17,840
Speaker 8: Yeah, go back to your numbers book, lady, No your place.

1058
00:46:18,239 --> 00:46:20,640
Speaker 1: That so what I'll be saying. I've heard things about her.

1059
00:46:20,680 --> 00:46:22,759
Speaker 1: From what I gather, she's not the nicest woman. And

1060
00:46:22,800 --> 00:46:25,239
Speaker 1: it's not because she's a tough boss. She's very much

1061
00:46:25,239 --> 00:46:28,319
Speaker 1: a person that is do as I say, not as

1062
00:46:28,320 --> 00:46:28,719
Speaker 1: I do.

1063
00:46:29,040 --> 00:46:30,200
Speaker 2: Gotta love those kind of people.

1064
00:46:30,440 --> 00:46:32,480
Speaker 1: On top of this, I have never once had a

1065
00:46:32,480 --> 00:46:35,080
Speaker 1: conversation with her, And even at one point I saw

1066
00:46:35,160 --> 00:46:38,120
Speaker 1: my fiance in town and said hi, and she was

1067
00:46:38,160 --> 00:46:41,319
Speaker 1: there and she didn't even acknowledge me. He says, it's

1068
00:46:41,320 --> 00:46:43,319
Speaker 1: because she didn't know who I was. But the fact

1069
00:46:43,360 --> 00:46:45,480
Speaker 1: that I walked out to him and kissed him should

1070
00:46:45,520 --> 00:46:46,839
Speaker 1: have been a big enough hint.

1071
00:46:47,080 --> 00:46:50,440
Speaker 6: Yeah, that's not even a hint. That's like a big

1072
00:46:50,560 --> 00:46:51,360
Speaker 6: flashing sign.

1073
00:46:51,440 --> 00:46:51,640
Speaker 5: Hey.

1074
00:46:51,719 --> 00:46:54,120
Speaker 2: Maybe she was like, oh, that's a mistress I'm gonna disrespect.

1075
00:46:54,800 --> 00:46:57,640
Speaker 1: Could be now for the story that has made me

1076
00:46:57,840 --> 00:47:02,080
Speaker 1: point blank not want her as the around the pandemic

1077
00:47:02,160 --> 00:47:05,640
Speaker 1: times after the second lockdown, my fiance was asked to

1078
00:47:05,680 --> 00:47:07,880
Speaker 1: go out and meet some clients. One of his clients

1079
00:47:07,920 --> 00:47:10,320
Speaker 1: were based in my hometown, so I asked if I

1080
00:47:10,360 --> 00:47:12,000
Speaker 1: could go with them so I could visit my mom.

1081
00:47:12,160 --> 00:47:14,960
Speaker 1: We were driving around to get some breakfast from unnamed

1082
00:47:15,040 --> 00:47:17,840
Speaker 1: fast food place and I got caught on around about

1083
00:47:17,920 --> 00:47:19,640
Speaker 1: when we went to pull off, we got stuck in

1084
00:47:19,680 --> 00:47:21,440
Speaker 1: fifth gear, so we had to call a mechanic to

1085
00:47:21,480 --> 00:47:23,600
Speaker 1: come grab the car as the gear select.

1086
00:47:23,280 --> 00:47:24,440
Speaker 2: Their cable had broken.

1087
00:47:24,560 --> 00:47:26,319
Speaker 1: He called his bosses to let them know that he

1088
00:47:26,480 --> 00:47:28,479
Speaker 1: wasn't going to be able to drive out that day.

1089
00:47:28,760 --> 00:47:30,759
Speaker 1: His CEO was fine with it because you know, if

1090
00:47:30,760 --> 00:47:32,759
Speaker 1: these things happened, and let him take the day off.

1091
00:47:32,880 --> 00:47:36,200
Speaker 1: Whilst we were waiting for the toe vehicle, his CEO

1092
00:47:36,760 --> 00:47:39,200
Speaker 1: must have told his wife what had happened. I think

1093
00:47:39,239 --> 00:47:42,640
Speaker 1: for some reason, she didn't believe my fiance, so not

1094
00:47:42,800 --> 00:47:44,719
Speaker 1: long after that he got a call from her and

1095
00:47:44,760 --> 00:47:50,160
Speaker 1: she was asking where exactly he was. My fiance, very confused,

1096
00:47:50,360 --> 00:47:54,320
Speaker 1: told her and asked her why, of which she had

1097
00:47:54,560 --> 00:47:56,879
Speaker 1: no reason to call, and then hung up. We were

1098
00:47:56,880 --> 00:47:59,680
Speaker 1: both so puzzled, but didn't think much of it. Fast forward,

1099
00:47:59,719 --> 00:48:02,439
Speaker 1: the jovan came and he dropped us and the car

1100
00:48:02,560 --> 00:48:05,239
Speaker 1: back to our house. Not even fifteen minutes after being

1101
00:48:05,280 --> 00:48:08,359
Speaker 1: in this house, the CEO called and asked him to

1102
00:48:08,480 --> 00:48:11,319
Speaker 1: go into the office because they needed.

1103
00:48:11,040 --> 00:48:11,880
Speaker 2: Him in work.

1104
00:48:11,920 --> 00:48:15,040
Speaker 1: Again, this is weird, but my fiance caught the tram

1105
00:48:15,040 --> 00:48:18,239
Speaker 1: into work and left me confused as to what was

1106
00:48:18,280 --> 00:48:20,680
Speaker 1: going on. Hour or so later, he called me up

1107
00:48:20,760 --> 00:48:23,080
Speaker 1: and I could tell he was raging. He told me

1108
00:48:23,120 --> 00:48:25,200
Speaker 1: that his boss and his wife called him into a

1109
00:48:25,200 --> 00:48:28,640
Speaker 1: meeting to interrogate him because they didn't believe his car

1110
00:48:28,880 --> 00:48:32,520
Speaker 1: wasn't drivable. He was so insulted, rightfully, rightfully so that

1111
00:48:32,560 --> 00:48:35,279
Speaker 1: he asked why they'd ever think that he'd lie about that.

1112
00:48:35,719 --> 00:48:37,000
Speaker 2: We were in a time where.

1113
00:48:36,800 --> 00:48:40,480
Speaker 1: People would use having the sickness of the pandemic as

1114
00:48:40,520 --> 00:48:42,400
Speaker 1: a gain out of jail card for work so often

1115
00:48:42,480 --> 00:48:44,759
Speaker 1: that if he really wanted to, he'd just have to

1116
00:48:44,800 --> 00:48:47,440
Speaker 1: call in and say that if he didn't want to work,

1117
00:48:47,520 --> 00:48:50,440
Speaker 1: he told me the managing director's wife told him that

1118
00:48:50,480 --> 00:48:53,600
Speaker 1: she walked from their house with their dogs to our

1119
00:48:53,800 --> 00:48:57,000
Speaker 1: exact spot where we'd broken down and didn't see us,

1120
00:48:57,320 --> 00:49:01,400
Speaker 1: so she knew he was lying. Wow, literally took her

1121
00:49:01,480 --> 00:49:04,680
Speaker 1: dogs to walk to the spot where his card broken

1122
00:49:04,719 --> 00:49:08,560
Speaker 1: down and was like, actually, I hated do there so

1123
00:49:08,600 --> 00:49:11,560
Speaker 1: like you're like a totally like a liarn I got you, Like.

1124
00:49:11,520 --> 00:49:14,200
Speaker 8: If your car's not working, why aren't you in it?

1125
00:49:14,239 --> 00:49:16,640
Speaker 6: I mean, am I wrong? Is that not what she's saying?

1126
00:49:16,719 --> 00:49:17,880
Speaker 6: Is your refrigerator running?

1127
00:49:17,960 --> 00:49:18,760
Speaker 4: Yeah?

1128
00:49:19,120 --> 00:49:21,240
Speaker 8: Good, that's what they always say.

1129
00:49:21,280 --> 00:49:21,920
Speaker 2: Good.

1130
00:49:22,840 --> 00:49:25,320
Speaker 1: It was at this point I heard his voice crack,

1131
00:49:25,680 --> 00:49:28,920
Speaker 1: and I knew he was a whole new level of angry.

1132
00:49:29,040 --> 00:49:32,000
Speaker 1: I then started to get angry because they'd pushed him

1133
00:49:32,040 --> 00:49:34,400
Speaker 1: to that, and he then went on to tell me

1134
00:49:34,560 --> 00:49:37,360
Speaker 1: they threatened to fire him if they found out he

1135
00:49:37,480 --> 00:49:39,759
Speaker 1: was lying, and then sent him off.

1136
00:49:39,480 --> 00:49:44,400
Speaker 2: His way to work for the rest of the day. Wow, now, ladies, I.

1137
00:49:44,280 --> 00:49:46,200
Speaker 1: Know you can relate when I tell you, there's no

1138
00:49:46,400 --> 00:49:50,080
Speaker 1: feeling that matches the maternal rage of wanting to protect

1139
00:49:50,080 --> 00:49:52,520
Speaker 1: a loved one that's been hurt. In that moment, I

1140
00:49:52,560 --> 00:49:55,320
Speaker 1: was ready to go into his office and throw hands

1141
00:49:55,360 --> 00:49:57,680
Speaker 1: with his bee, but I reframed. I spoke with him

1142
00:49:57,719 --> 00:50:01,320
Speaker 1: and calmed him down because they really weren't worth rising to.

1143
00:50:01,560 --> 00:50:04,200
Speaker 1: I made him put in riding that he won't be

1144
00:50:04,280 --> 00:50:07,000
Speaker 1: going out to visit clients free of charge anymore, and

1145
00:50:07,120 --> 00:50:09,640
Speaker 1: he is to be paid additional by the mile, and

1146
00:50:09,719 --> 00:50:12,160
Speaker 1: they would have to supplement for the business expense of

1147
00:50:12,239 --> 00:50:15,040
Speaker 1: the car insurance, of which I think they threw him

1148
00:50:15,080 --> 00:50:17,640
Speaker 1: a bit because he was their only sales runner, but

1149
00:50:17,719 --> 00:50:20,360
Speaker 1: they did agree. Fast forward again, my fiance and his

1150
00:50:20,520 --> 00:50:23,040
Speaker 1: MD talked things out after he realized that he was

1151
00:50:23,080 --> 00:50:25,880
Speaker 1: telling the truth, and his boss apologized. You think his

1152
00:50:25,960 --> 00:50:29,760
Speaker 1: wife would apologized, But did she, Dakota, Do we think.

1153
00:50:29,600 --> 00:50:32,399
Speaker 2: The wife, who after the CEO said it.

1154
00:50:32,360 --> 00:50:34,279
Speaker 1: Was fine, was like, no, no, no, no, no, we need

1155
00:50:34,320 --> 00:50:35,360
Speaker 1: to torture you.

1156
00:50:35,360 --> 00:50:36,000
Speaker 2: You're a liar.

1157
00:50:36,160 --> 00:50:37,920
Speaker 1: Do you think she's going to be like, you know what,

1158
00:50:38,320 --> 00:50:40,239
Speaker 1: my bad. You were totally in the right and that

1159
00:50:40,320 --> 00:50:41,080
Speaker 1: was totally my fault.

1160
00:50:41,320 --> 00:50:43,040
Speaker 8: No, because she's going to be like, oh, I walked

1161
00:50:43,080 --> 00:50:43,680
Speaker 8: past your car.

1162
00:50:43,719 --> 00:50:44,360
Speaker 2: It looked fine.

1163
00:50:44,480 --> 00:50:46,920
Speaker 8: I've seen your car. It looks drivable.

1164
00:50:46,960 --> 00:50:50,560
Speaker 1: You're not only lying in front of God, you're lying

1165
00:50:50,600 --> 00:50:52,760
Speaker 1: in front of my dogs.

1166
00:50:53,040 --> 00:50:53,520
Speaker 4: Not the dog.

1167
00:50:53,560 --> 00:50:57,040
Speaker 8: Those are my dogs. How the dogs dare you?

1168
00:50:57,080 --> 00:50:58,000
Speaker 2: No? Not at all.

1169
00:50:58,120 --> 00:51:00,719
Speaker 1: I got curious as to how she saw us, and

1170
00:51:00,800 --> 00:51:03,560
Speaker 1: after going to his EMB's house once I decided to

1171
00:51:03,840 --> 00:51:06,719
Speaker 1: bring up Google maps how long it would take to

1172
00:51:06,920 --> 00:51:09,960
Speaker 1: walk from their house to the spot we broke down.

1173
00:51:10,280 --> 00:51:14,080
Speaker 1: We're doing some some uh investigation over here, giving me

1174
00:51:14,120 --> 00:51:16,840
Speaker 1: some high school math problems where it's like if the

1175
00:51:16,880 --> 00:51:20,719
Speaker 1: distance between point A and point B is relative to

1176
00:51:20,960 --> 00:51:23,360
Speaker 1: blah blah blah. It's been a long time, I don't remember.

1177
00:51:23,600 --> 00:51:25,600
Speaker 7: It's like I'm like, oh, who would do that in

1178
00:51:25,600 --> 00:51:27,640
Speaker 7: a math equation? And like, oh, now I'm the person

1179
00:51:27,640 --> 00:51:28,640
Speaker 7: in the math equation.

1180
00:51:28,680 --> 00:51:28,879
Speaker 6: Yeah.

1181
00:51:28,920 --> 00:51:29,080
Speaker 7: Right.

1182
00:51:29,120 --> 00:51:30,719
Speaker 2: And guess how long it was to Goda. I don't know,

1183
00:51:30,920 --> 00:51:31,640
Speaker 2: two hours.

1184
00:51:31,840 --> 00:51:34,520
Speaker 1: It would take two hours. And you'll want to know

1185
00:51:34,760 --> 00:51:38,480
Speaker 1: how long we were waiting for recovery, folks, forty five minutes.

1186
00:51:38,560 --> 00:51:41,720
Speaker 1: There was no way she walked to us, not unless

1187
00:51:41,760 --> 00:51:45,520
Speaker 1: she's the bloody flash. After I found out she lied,

1188
00:51:45,719 --> 00:51:48,440
Speaker 1: I despised her for having the audacity to call my

1189
00:51:48,600 --> 00:51:51,400
Speaker 1: man a liar when she stood there made him feel

1190
00:51:51,400 --> 00:51:55,680
Speaker 1: like crap, all whilst lying herself. So now you know

1191
00:51:55,719 --> 00:51:58,319
Speaker 1: the backstory, you can understand why I don't want her

1192
00:51:58,480 --> 00:52:00,920
Speaker 1: near my wedding. I told my I didn't want her

1193
00:52:00,960 --> 00:52:03,960
Speaker 1: there based on that story, the fact that she's never apologized,

1194
00:52:03,960 --> 00:52:05,879
Speaker 1: and the fact that I've never spoken to her, and

1195
00:52:05,920 --> 00:52:07,960
Speaker 1: that she's a horrible you. And he told me that

1196
00:52:08,000 --> 00:52:10,240
Speaker 1: he just wants me to suck it. Up because basically

1197
00:52:10,320 --> 00:52:12,719
Speaker 1: he wants his boss there and she won't let him

1198
00:52:12,719 --> 00:52:14,640
Speaker 1: come if she isn't invited.

1199
00:52:14,760 --> 00:52:15,520
Speaker 2: But is the bosses?

1200
00:52:15,560 --> 00:52:18,120
Speaker 6: Why why do you want your boss there? Be let's

1201
00:52:18,120 --> 00:52:20,680
Speaker 6: be real, why do you want your boss at your wedding?

1202
00:52:21,440 --> 00:52:24,640
Speaker 6: I have no desire for any of my boss I mean,

1203
00:52:24,680 --> 00:52:27,120
Speaker 6: well except for with some exception.

1204
00:52:27,920 --> 00:52:30,720
Speaker 8: Yeah wait maybe, wait, maybe with some exception. Now, Actually,

1205
00:52:31,040 --> 00:52:32,560
Speaker 8: now I can think there's only there's three.

1206
00:52:32,680 --> 00:52:33,000
Speaker 2: Okay.

1207
00:52:33,320 --> 00:52:35,560
Speaker 6: I guess I'm not a good sample size all day,

1208
00:52:35,600 --> 00:52:40,200
Speaker 6: but not a good sample for this because now bosses, yes,

1209
00:52:40,520 --> 00:52:42,440
Speaker 6: technically yes.

1210
00:52:42,520 --> 00:52:44,799
Speaker 1: Well what's what's what's the percentage though? How many total

1211
00:52:44,840 --> 00:52:45,680
Speaker 1: bosses are we talking?

1212
00:52:45,719 --> 00:52:47,880
Speaker 6: Oh that's like not even that's like maybe ten percent

1213
00:52:47,880 --> 00:52:49,000
Speaker 6: of my boss Okay.

1214
00:52:48,840 --> 00:52:52,520
Speaker 2: So only passing right, Yeah, that's that's still, you know.

1215
00:52:52,719 --> 00:52:55,799
Speaker 1: Pretty low. Opie said, that's stupid. He's a grown man

1216
00:52:55,840 --> 00:52:58,600
Speaker 1: who can do what he wants. Oh and if either

1217
00:52:58,640 --> 00:53:00,719
Speaker 1: of them need an explanation, they are welcome to talk

1218
00:53:00,719 --> 00:53:02,759
Speaker 1: to me about that. My fiance then got mad and

1219
00:53:02,800 --> 00:53:05,759
Speaker 1: told me he wouldn't be able to invite anyone from

1220
00:53:05,760 --> 00:53:07,920
Speaker 1: his work if they didn't come. I asked why, and

1221
00:53:07,960 --> 00:53:10,719
Speaker 1: he said it would be awkward In work afterwards. I

1222
00:53:10,760 --> 00:53:13,640
Speaker 1: told him if it's awkward, then that's down to his

1223
00:53:13,680 --> 00:53:16,279
Speaker 1: boss's wife, not us, and that she shouldn't be such

1224
00:53:16,280 --> 00:53:18,360
Speaker 1: an ahole. And do you know what, ladies and gentlemen,

1225
00:53:18,400 --> 00:53:20,840
Speaker 1: you shouldn't be an a whole because you can listen

1226
00:53:20,840 --> 00:53:24,160
Speaker 1: to full episodes with stories like this. Just go to Spotify,

1227
00:53:24,200 --> 00:53:26,600
Speaker 1: Apple Podcasts, or your favorite podcast player and search.

1228
00:53:26,920 --> 00:53:29,040
Speaker 2: Okay, storytime. Don't be an ahole. Guys, it's all you

1229
00:53:29,040 --> 00:53:29,520
Speaker 2: gotta do.

1230
00:53:29,520 --> 00:53:31,040
Speaker 8: Don't do it, and then you get the no a

1231
00:53:31,160 --> 00:53:32,640
Speaker 8: hole seal of approval.

1232
00:53:33,400 --> 00:53:34,160
Speaker 2: Everyone wants that.

1233
00:53:34,719 --> 00:53:39,160
Speaker 1: John himself, let's talk about the story here, Dakota, I'm

1234
00:53:39,160 --> 00:53:40,120
Speaker 1: thinking everyone sucks here.

1235
00:53:40,160 --> 00:53:43,359
Speaker 2: Do you agree? Because fiance was like, I can invite

1236
00:53:43,400 --> 00:53:44,080
Speaker 2: whoever I want.

1237
00:53:44,160 --> 00:53:46,160
Speaker 1: I'm gonna bet my boss and everyone will be awkward

1238
00:53:46,160 --> 00:53:47,480
Speaker 1: if I don't invite everyone.

1239
00:53:47,719 --> 00:53:49,600
Speaker 6: I do kind of get that where it's like it

1240
00:53:49,640 --> 00:53:52,279
Speaker 6: could be awkward. It depends on the company, depends on

1241
00:53:52,280 --> 00:53:54,759
Speaker 6: what kind of job it is. We don't really know

1242
00:53:54,800 --> 00:53:55,239
Speaker 6: anyth about it.

1243
00:53:55,280 --> 00:53:57,680
Speaker 8: He's in sales, very clicky.

1244
00:53:58,280 --> 00:54:00,960
Speaker 1: Like I was just gonna say, uh, hey, this is

1245
00:54:00,960 --> 00:54:03,440
Speaker 1: your wedding, do we need to use it for it?

1246
00:54:03,480 --> 00:54:06,200
Speaker 1: Sounds like he's like politicking with it with the company,

1247
00:54:06,239 --> 00:54:08,239
Speaker 1: and it's like, you know what, just enjoy the day.

1248
00:54:08,320 --> 00:54:09,480
Speaker 4: Maybe yeah, it's.

1249
00:54:09,320 --> 00:54:11,200
Speaker 6: Like, but then if you do have friends that you

1250
00:54:11,239 --> 00:54:13,520
Speaker 6: want from your job, that you're like that you would

1251
00:54:13,560 --> 00:54:15,880
Speaker 6: want there, then it does make it hard because if

1252
00:54:16,120 --> 00:54:18,319
Speaker 6: you don't want the boss feeling like you don't like him,

1253
00:54:18,400 --> 00:54:20,440
Speaker 6: because then he's not gonna like You's just like, it's

1254
00:54:20,480 --> 00:54:22,520
Speaker 6: a fact you never want your boss to not like

1255
00:54:22,560 --> 00:54:25,279
Speaker 6: you because it's gonna make your job more miserable. Like

1256
00:54:25,360 --> 00:54:28,120
Speaker 6: that's just the way of the that's the natural order

1257
00:54:28,200 --> 00:54:31,600
Speaker 6: of things. But I don't think necessarily the problem here

1258
00:54:31,640 --> 00:54:32,239
Speaker 6: isn't even the boss.

1259
00:54:32,239 --> 00:54:32,960
Speaker 2: It's his wife.

1260
00:54:33,000 --> 00:54:35,600
Speaker 6: So if you can find I have a contingency that

1261
00:54:35,680 --> 00:54:39,319
Speaker 6: somehow keeps the wife from like becoming like the coo

1262
00:54:39,400 --> 00:54:42,440
Speaker 6: of the wedding, or should I say the fake coo

1263
00:54:42,480 --> 00:54:44,320
Speaker 6: of the wedding, She's like, I have some numbers to

1264
00:54:44,360 --> 00:54:46,960
Speaker 6: crunch here. Let's really crunch the numbers on your wedding.

1265
00:54:47,080 --> 00:54:49,960
Speaker 2: You know what, She's the CFO. She fake officer.

1266
00:54:50,160 --> 00:54:52,799
Speaker 8: Yeah, she fake CFO.

1267
00:54:53,040 --> 00:54:55,720
Speaker 2: She fake officer, chief, fake officer.

1268
00:54:56,239 --> 00:54:58,920
Speaker 1: So Opie says, he then switched on me and said

1269
00:54:59,040 --> 00:55:01,160
Speaker 1: it was my fault and that I was being too

1270
00:55:01,160 --> 00:55:03,640
Speaker 1: stubborn and I should just let her come to the wedding.

1271
00:55:03,680 --> 00:55:05,920
Speaker 1: I've held my ground and said no, but now I

1272
00:55:05,960 --> 00:55:08,600
Speaker 1: feel bad because, just like me, he's stubborn. He said

1273
00:55:08,680 --> 00:55:11,520
Speaker 1: he won't invite anyone from his work who who we

1274
00:55:11,760 --> 00:55:14,400
Speaker 1: actually would want there, because I don't want his boss's

1275
00:55:14,480 --> 00:55:16,359
Speaker 1: wife there and I don't want him to do that.

1276
00:55:16,440 --> 00:55:17,360
Speaker 2: I don't know what to do.

1277
00:55:17,320 --> 00:55:19,719
Speaker 1: Because he does have some lovely colleagues, but I can't

1278
00:55:19,760 --> 00:55:20,960
Speaker 1: stand his boss's wife.

1279
00:55:21,040 --> 00:55:24,880
Speaker 2: Am I the a hole? Actually everyone sucks about Ope,

1280
00:55:24,880 --> 00:55:25,920
Speaker 2: That's what I meant to say earlier.

1281
00:55:25,960 --> 00:55:28,400
Speaker 6: I don't know why is OP so concerned about it,

1282
00:55:29,680 --> 00:55:32,560
Speaker 6: like the boss. I mean, it's not even OP doesn't

1283
00:55:32,560 --> 00:55:35,320
Speaker 6: work there. Op didn't have to go into the office

1284
00:55:35,360 --> 00:55:38,319
Speaker 6: and be accused of being a liar. Ope's just caught

1285
00:55:38,400 --> 00:55:41,040
Speaker 6: up on the fact that the wife hasn't apologized, which

1286
00:55:41,960 --> 00:55:44,680
Speaker 6: who cares her apology would be meaningless because she probably

1287
00:55:44,680 --> 00:55:45,400
Speaker 6: wouldn't even mean it.

1288
00:55:45,520 --> 00:55:50,080
Speaker 1: True to play devil's advocate, I would say, it's like, hey,

1289
00:55:50,280 --> 00:55:52,880
Speaker 1: you don't want someone, you don't like her, you feel

1290
00:55:52,880 --> 00:55:56,080
Speaker 1: brings negative energy to you at your wedding. Well, let's

1291
00:55:56,080 --> 00:55:57,400
Speaker 1: see we've got we got a little bit on the

1292
00:55:57,400 --> 00:56:00,600
Speaker 1: story left or some relevant commentaris I might say, who might.

1293
00:56:00,520 --> 00:56:02,160
Speaker 2: Have their own take Comment number one.

1294
00:56:02,600 --> 00:56:05,120
Speaker 1: Inviting someone who is consistently cold and rude to your

1295
00:56:05,160 --> 00:56:08,840
Speaker 1: fiance to your wedding may have unintended consequences. Think about

1296
00:56:08,840 --> 00:56:11,880
Speaker 1: how their behavior could impact your fiance's work environment and

1297
00:56:11,920 --> 00:56:14,880
Speaker 1: relationships with colleagues, including the MD, in the long run.

1298
00:56:14,920 --> 00:56:15,440
Speaker 2: That's so funny.

1299
00:56:15,440 --> 00:56:18,479
Speaker 1: I thought they were saying the opposite, Like, think about

1300
00:56:18,480 --> 00:56:21,279
Speaker 1: how it might make you know, like ope feel to

1301
00:56:21,280 --> 00:56:23,160
Speaker 1: have someone at their wedding, But they're like, no, think

1302
00:56:23,160 --> 00:56:26,920
Speaker 1: about fiance's work life, like being ruined for the rest

1303
00:56:26,960 --> 00:56:27,880
Speaker 1: of his Yeah, you care that.

1304
00:56:27,960 --> 00:56:31,040
Speaker 6: The money you can't mess the money up, can't mess

1305
00:56:31,080 --> 00:56:35,080
Speaker 6: the money up over because then this person's winning. All

1306
00:56:35,160 --> 00:56:37,160
Speaker 6: this goes back to like there's this weird like circles

1307
00:56:37,160 --> 00:56:39,200
Speaker 6: all the way back around, and if you like make

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00:56:39,239 --> 00:56:41,680
Speaker 6: all these decisions over one person who you don't want

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00:56:41,719 --> 00:56:42,640
Speaker 6: to be around.

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00:56:42,400 --> 00:56:43,720
Speaker 2: They're actually they're still winning.

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00:56:43,840 --> 00:56:47,239
Speaker 6: They're still they're they're impacting your life so much that

1312
00:56:47,280 --> 00:56:50,160
Speaker 6: now you're making decisions just based upon their existence.

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00:56:50,520 --> 00:56:52,319
Speaker 2: This like this is impossible for me.

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00:56:52,400 --> 00:56:55,480
Speaker 1: Commenter says, it's possible that you may not even interact

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00:56:55,480 --> 00:56:57,439
Speaker 1: with the MD's wife during the wedding, and she may

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00:56:57,440 --> 00:57:00,000
Speaker 1: not even attend the ceremony. So ask yourself, is stay

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00:57:00,680 --> 00:57:04,879
Speaker 1: on inviting her really worth potentially jeopardizing your fiance's work

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00:57:04,920 --> 00:57:08,319
Speaker 1: life and causing him undue stress and anxiety. Consider what's

1319
00:57:08,320 --> 00:57:11,000
Speaker 1: more important to you being right or ensuring your fiance's

1320
00:57:11,000 --> 00:57:12,719
Speaker 1: happiness and well being. Do you want him to be

1321
00:57:12,800 --> 00:57:15,200
Speaker 1: calling you every week anxious and upset because of the

1322
00:57:15,320 --> 00:57:18,000
Speaker 1: uncomfortable work environment you've created. Take a step back and

1323
00:57:18,000 --> 00:57:20,320
Speaker 1: think about the potential long term effects of your decision.

1324
00:57:20,480 --> 00:57:23,120
Speaker 1: Is inviting someone who is route to your fiance really

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00:57:23,160 --> 00:57:25,720
Speaker 1: worth the risk? I understand your reason, and my petty

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00:57:25,760 --> 00:57:28,880
Speaker 1: self would would call her lieout, But him having a

1327
00:57:29,000 --> 00:57:32,560
Speaker 1: job is worth more than calling her out. I'm still undecided,

1328
00:57:32,560 --> 00:57:34,520
Speaker 1: but it's convincing argument. But we're gonna get into comment

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00:57:34,560 --> 00:57:37,920
Speaker 1: to number two. Hmmm, if your fiance won't stand up

1330
00:57:38,120 --> 00:57:41,480
Speaker 1: and have a firm professional boundary with these people, I don't.

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00:57:41,200 --> 00:57:43,720
Speaker 2: Think you should be fighting that battle. This is sticky.

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00:57:44,480 --> 00:57:47,760
Speaker 2: I do understand where you're coming from. Nice I did

1333
00:57:47,800 --> 00:57:48,840
Speaker 2: the effort to go to NICE.

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Speaker 1: I wouldn't want them to be there either. Why is

1335
00:57:52,600 --> 00:57:55,760
Speaker 1: your fiance hell bent on having them there image slash

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00:57:55,840 --> 00:57:58,520
Speaker 1: promo seems like too much, so we've got kind of

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00:57:58,520 --> 00:57:59,640
Speaker 1: like one take from each side.

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00:58:00,160 --> 00:58:03,000
Speaker 6: I can answer that, and it's it's because it's not

1339
00:58:03,120 --> 00:58:06,840
Speaker 6: in a vacuum. It's like he because if you invite

1340
00:58:06,920 --> 00:58:09,320
Speaker 6: everyone but your boss, your boss can find out your

1341
00:58:09,360 --> 00:58:12,000
Speaker 6: boss is gonna and then that impacts your work. I

1342
00:58:12,040 --> 00:58:14,280
Speaker 6: don't even think it's about like making it himself look

1343
00:58:14,320 --> 00:58:17,200
Speaker 6: good or getting a promotion. It's literally just if we

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00:58:17,240 --> 00:58:20,520
Speaker 6: don't invite him, we can't invite the rest of my

1345
00:58:20,840 --> 00:58:23,600
Speaker 6: friends from work, who I would assume you'd want to

1346
00:58:23,640 --> 00:58:24,280
Speaker 6: be at your wedding.

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00:58:24,320 --> 00:58:27,600
Speaker 1: Comment number three, invite them and put them at a table,

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00:58:27,640 --> 00:58:31,320
Speaker 1: buy the kitchen at reception. Comment number four, man for

1349
00:58:31,400 --> 00:58:34,440
Speaker 1: your fiance psych invite the troll. When she tries to

1350
00:58:34,440 --> 00:58:38,200
Speaker 1: congratulate you, look her up and down and walk off.

1351
00:58:38,480 --> 00:58:40,520
Speaker 1: But I'm just a petty biatch.

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00:58:40,760 --> 00:58:44,480
Speaker 8: Yeah, just give her the look at luger. Yeah, I'd

1353
00:58:44,520 --> 00:58:45,200
Speaker 8: be proud of me too.

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00:58:48,200 --> 00:58:50,600
Speaker 2: See you and that's it. Goodbye, see you.

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00:58:52,320 --> 00:58:54,040
Speaker 1: Hey, it's John here og host of the show. We're

1356
00:58:54,040 --> 00:58:55,640
Speaker 1: gonna get back to these juicy stories. But here's a

1357
00:58:55,720 --> 00:58:58,400
Speaker 1: quick three minutes of ads from our sponsors. My husband

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00:58:58,440 --> 00:59:01,439
Speaker 1: forgot to r SCP to a cousin's wedding. Now he's

1359
00:59:01,440 --> 00:59:05,480
Speaker 1: blaming me. Hey you, my secretary. No, no, you might cousin.

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Speaker 2: Look in the mirror.

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00:59:06,920 --> 00:59:10,040
Speaker 1: My thirty three female husband's thirty five male cousin is

1362
00:59:10,080 --> 00:59:13,160
Speaker 1: getting married and we received our invitations about three months ago.

1363
00:59:13,240 --> 00:59:15,560
Speaker 1: The invite was addressed to our entire family, and when

1364
00:59:15,600 --> 00:59:17,800
Speaker 1: you go online to RCVP, it lists each of our

1365
00:59:17,880 --> 00:59:18,760
Speaker 1: names individually.

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00:59:18,880 --> 00:59:21,880
Speaker 2: You can check off who you are rsvping for.

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00:59:22,240 --> 00:59:25,320
Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from rsv pissed off on

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00:59:25,400 --> 00:59:28,760
Speaker 1: the r slash Okay story Times sub reddit. As soon

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00:59:28,920 --> 00:59:31,440
Speaker 1: as I received the invite, I went online to RSVP.

1370
00:59:31,680 --> 00:59:34,280
Speaker 1: There was a section four advice to the couple and

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Speaker 1: another four song request smart idea. I checked all our

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00:59:37,720 --> 00:59:40,880
Speaker 1: names and filled everything out immediately. However, my husband said

1373
00:59:40,880 --> 00:59:44,040
Speaker 1: he needed time to think about the advice he wanted

1374
00:59:44,080 --> 00:59:47,520
Speaker 1: to give and the songs he wanted to request. We

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00:59:47,600 --> 00:59:50,160
Speaker 1: can't just RSVP now. We got to really think about

1376
00:59:50,200 --> 00:59:53,640
Speaker 1: these extra boxes, the optional boxes we got to fill in, right.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, don't.

1378
00:59:54,200 --> 00:59:55,200
Speaker 8: I don't want to answer wrong?

1379
00:59:55,280 --> 00:59:57,200
Speaker 1: All right, No big deal. I'll wait for him to

1380
00:59:57,200 --> 00:59:58,960
Speaker 1: figure it out. But later that night I wanted to

1381
00:59:59,000 --> 01:00:01,000
Speaker 1: ask if we could finish the RSVP together, but he

1382
01:00:01,040 --> 01:00:03,760
Speaker 1: got frustrated and snapped at me, like, God, no.

1383
01:00:03,840 --> 01:00:05,880
Speaker 2: I haven't had time to think about it. Please don't

1384
01:00:05,960 --> 01:00:06,400
Speaker 2: rush me.

1385
01:00:06,760 --> 01:00:07,720
Speaker 5: I need time.

1386
01:00:08,160 --> 01:00:10,000
Speaker 2: I need time. I have a lot of thoughts.

1387
01:00:10,920 --> 01:00:13,880
Speaker 8: I need time for these thoughts.

1388
01:00:14,080 --> 01:00:16,480
Speaker 1: I decided to leave it alone because since he can

1389
01:00:16,520 --> 01:00:17,960
Speaker 1: be dramatic sometimes.

1390
01:00:17,520 --> 01:00:18,800
Speaker 2: And to pick your battles and whatnot.

1391
01:00:18,840 --> 01:00:20,480
Speaker 1: Three weeks have passed by, and I started to feel

1392
01:00:20,480 --> 01:00:23,320
Speaker 1: stressed because the rs VP the response to.

1393
01:00:24,080 --> 01:00:27,959
Speaker 2: Deadline was approaching. Rub Yeah John.

1394
01:00:28,120 --> 01:00:30,640
Speaker 1: Every time I asked about him, he still wasn't ready,

1395
01:00:30,680 --> 01:00:32,360
Speaker 1: saying that he hadn't had time.

1396
01:00:32,160 --> 01:00:34,240
Speaker 2: To really sit down and finger about it yet.

1397
01:00:34,280 --> 01:00:36,320
Speaker 1: Eventually, I told him I was going to r VP

1398
01:00:36,480 --> 01:00:38,480
Speaker 1: for myself and the kids, and he could do his

1399
01:00:38,520 --> 01:00:40,840
Speaker 1: whenever he was ready. I hated the feeling of nagging

1400
01:00:40,880 --> 01:00:42,840
Speaker 1: him about it, and I didn't want to do it anymore.

1401
01:00:43,120 --> 01:00:45,080
Speaker 1: He agreed and said that he would.

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01:00:44,800 --> 01:00:45,480
Speaker 2: Take care of it.

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01:00:45,760 --> 01:00:49,320
Speaker 8: Well he meant it in like the New York Tony

1404
01:00:49,360 --> 01:00:50,160
Speaker 8: soprano way.

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01:00:50,320 --> 01:00:56,280
Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah, he's just doing a gap the penguin, Hey

1406
01:00:56,640 --> 01:00:58,840
Speaker 6: damn it. Yeah, actually, yeah, kind of a little bit

1407
01:00:58,960 --> 01:01:01,000
Speaker 6: two weeks went by and the deadline passed. I was

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01:01:01,000 --> 01:01:03,520
Speaker 6: at his cousin's bridal shower when she said I'm so

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01:01:03,600 --> 01:01:06,160
Speaker 6: sorry that your husband isn't coming to the wedding. I

1410
01:01:06,160 --> 01:01:08,760
Speaker 6: immediately realized he had forgotten RSVP.

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01:01:09,040 --> 01:01:13,600
Speaker 1: No to respond, SI play response. I sighed and told

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01:01:13,600 --> 01:01:16,520
Speaker 1: her he probably just forgot. She looked at me a

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01:01:16,560 --> 01:01:18,680
Speaker 1: bit strangely and confused as to why I did an

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01:01:18,800 --> 01:01:22,680
Speaker 1: RSVP for him along with the kids. I explained the situation,

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01:01:22,960 --> 01:01:25,200
Speaker 1: but it felt like she didn't really believe me.

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01:01:25,680 --> 01:01:25,919
Speaker 2: Yeah.

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01:01:26,000 --> 01:01:29,880
Speaker 6: Imagine trying to turn because that would be crazy. Yeah,

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01:01:30,240 --> 01:01:34,440
Speaker 6: and everyone thinks that she's Oh god, she's lying about it.

1419
01:01:34,560 --> 01:01:34,720
Speaker 2: Well.

1420
01:01:34,800 --> 01:01:37,040
Speaker 1: Later that night, my husband got a message from his

1421
01:01:37,120 --> 01:01:39,880
Speaker 1: cousin the bride, asking if what I told her at

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01:01:39,880 --> 01:01:41,480
Speaker 1: the bridal shower was true.

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01:01:41,520 --> 01:01:43,840
Speaker 2: He admitted that he had forgotten to RSVP.

1424
01:01:44,040 --> 01:01:46,560
Speaker 1: She said that she hadn't realized it was just an

1425
01:01:46,600 --> 01:01:49,360
Speaker 1: oversight and assumed that he genuinely couldn't come because of

1426
01:01:49,360 --> 01:01:51,920
Speaker 1: his job, which sometimes requires him to travel on weekends

1427
01:01:51,960 --> 01:01:54,360
Speaker 1: when her wedding is She then mentioned that since it

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01:01:54,440 --> 01:01:56,600
Speaker 1: had been over a week since the deadline, they had

1429
01:01:56,600 --> 01:02:00,280
Speaker 1: already submitted the numbers to the caterer and signed the compra.

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Speaker 8: Okay, but that's not a big deal. I that's honestly

1431
01:02:03,120 --> 01:02:05,360
Speaker 8: not a big deal. No, you bring a lunch.

1432
01:02:05,160 --> 01:02:07,360
Speaker 2: Well, what about your seat? Are you bringing you? Are

1433
01:02:07,360 --> 01:02:09,240
Speaker 2: you bringing your lawn chair? Bring a lunch?

1434
01:02:09,520 --> 01:02:12,280
Speaker 8: I guarantee you that they can bring one more chair.

1435
01:02:12,480 --> 01:02:15,240
Speaker 1: She also said she hadn't made the seating chart yet,

1436
01:02:15,240 --> 01:02:18,120
Speaker 1: but couldn't guarantee they could adjust the dinner arrangements. At

1437
01:02:18,120 --> 01:02:20,520
Speaker 1: this point, I told my husband not to make her

1438
01:02:20,600 --> 01:02:23,200
Speaker 1: go through all that trouble because he forgot to RSCP.

1439
01:02:23,440 --> 01:02:25,760
Speaker 1: He insisted that he wasn't gonna miss his cousin's wedding

1440
01:02:25,760 --> 01:02:28,440
Speaker 1: and asked why I just didn't RSVP for him if

1441
01:02:28,480 --> 01:02:30,440
Speaker 1: I knew he was going to miss the deadline.

1442
01:02:30,920 --> 01:02:33,720
Speaker 8: Du No, ways, you know I'm missing competent. Why did

1443
01:02:33,800 --> 01:02:35,640
Speaker 8: you let me do that? Why did you let me?

1444
01:02:36,040 --> 01:02:37,640
Speaker 8: You put me in charge of mail?

1445
01:02:37,880 --> 01:02:38,400
Speaker 2: Oh boy?

1446
01:02:38,680 --> 01:02:41,920
Speaker 1: I told him I didn't realize he had forgotten until

1447
01:02:41,960 --> 01:02:44,720
Speaker 1: his cousin mentioned it at the bridal shower, and by

1448
01:02:44,760 --> 01:02:47,280
Speaker 1: then it was too late. He still thinks I should

1449
01:02:47,320 --> 01:02:49,680
Speaker 1: have reminded him more, and then I'm purposely being an

1450
01:02:49,680 --> 01:02:52,440
Speaker 1: a hole to prove my point, bro, you said, like

1451
01:02:52,800 --> 01:02:55,080
Speaker 1: you kept getting like, oh.

1452
01:02:54,760 --> 01:02:57,160
Speaker 2: Please stop reminding me, please.

1453
01:02:57,600 --> 01:03:00,200
Speaker 1: But now he's worried he'll look stupid if I go

1454
01:03:00,240 --> 01:03:02,040
Speaker 1: to the wedding with our kids and without him. People

1455
01:03:02,120 --> 01:03:04,400
Speaker 1: start asking why he couldn't make it. So am I

1456
01:03:04,480 --> 01:03:06,480
Speaker 1: the a hole? We have an update? Can we really

1457
01:03:06,560 --> 01:03:08,880
Speaker 1: quickly answer? Is OP the a hole or not? If

1458
01:03:08,920 --> 01:03:09,680
Speaker 1: she goes to the wedding?

1459
01:03:09,720 --> 01:03:11,760
Speaker 6: Honestly, if you knew your husband was that dumb, yeah

1460
01:03:11,800 --> 01:03:13,880
Speaker 6: you are. No, of course you're not. No, of course

1461
01:03:13,880 --> 01:03:14,160
Speaker 6: you're not.

1462
01:03:14,400 --> 01:03:16,880
Speaker 2: He is the one that messed up. How does he

1463
01:03:16,960 --> 01:03:17,720
Speaker 2: not understand that?

1464
01:03:17,800 --> 01:03:21,480
Speaker 1: Cassie O'Brien says, he's an adult, right right exactly. But

1465
01:03:21,880 --> 01:03:24,720
Speaker 1: there is an update where the fallout will be revealed.

1466
01:03:25,160 --> 01:03:28,120
Speaker 1: Maybe so update. I didn't realize this would get so

1467
01:03:28,120 --> 01:03:30,280
Speaker 1: many comments, but I've been reading through them all and

1468
01:03:30,360 --> 01:03:32,720
Speaker 1: want to answer a few common questions for those saying

1469
01:03:32,760 --> 01:03:34,920
Speaker 1: I would have just RSVP'd and let him fill it

1470
01:03:34,920 --> 01:03:37,040
Speaker 1: out later. I didn't realize you could do that. When

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01:03:37,080 --> 01:03:39,040
Speaker 1: we got married ten years ago, we didn't have a

1472
01:03:39,040 --> 01:03:41,680
Speaker 1: wedding website or anything like that. We had people rvp

1473
01:03:41,760 --> 01:03:43,720
Speaker 1: by three cards by mail. I figured that once you

1474
01:03:43,720 --> 01:03:44,600
Speaker 1: submitted the RCP.

1475
01:03:44,800 --> 01:03:46,400
Speaker 2: That's it. You can't go back and add to it.

1476
01:03:46,440 --> 01:03:48,760
Speaker 1: I'm looking at the wedding website now, and whilst it

1477
01:03:48,800 --> 01:03:51,800
Speaker 1: doesn't allow us to RCP anymore, it does let us

1478
01:03:52,040 --> 01:03:55,560
Speaker 1: edit the information in it. But again, I genuinely had

1479
01:03:55,560 --> 01:03:58,600
Speaker 1: no idea this was possible. If I had remembered that

1480
01:03:58,720 --> 01:04:01,160
Speaker 1: he had an RSVP'd, I would have done it myself.

1481
01:04:01,240 --> 01:04:04,080
Speaker 1: But I actually forgot because of the next point, which

1482
01:04:04,160 --> 01:04:09,280
Speaker 1: is for those asking if he had ADHD, yes he does,

1483
01:04:09,720 --> 01:04:12,760
Speaker 1: but so do I and both of our kids. We

1484
01:04:12,840 --> 01:04:15,920
Speaker 1: met in an ADHD support group in college.

1485
01:04:16,200 --> 01:04:18,800
Speaker 6: So I think, uh, given that, I think I need

1486
01:04:18,840 --> 01:04:22,120
Speaker 6: to clarify because I feel like it could be really

1487
01:04:22,200 --> 01:04:26,040
Speaker 6: easy to interpret me saying rat brain as like a dismerchment.

1488
01:04:26,160 --> 01:04:28,680
Speaker 6: It's more just like, I consider rat I have rat brain.

1489
01:04:28,840 --> 01:04:34,720
Speaker 6: I'm a rat braindividual. Tuti ratitutti. Yeah no, but it's

1490
01:04:34,760 --> 01:04:37,240
Speaker 6: just like it's rat brain is like you're just doing something,

1491
01:04:37,280 --> 01:04:39,200
Speaker 6: then you're doing something else, and then it's like and

1492
01:04:39,200 --> 01:04:41,680
Speaker 6: then you'll go over and every memory you've ever had,

1493
01:04:41,720 --> 01:04:44,200
Speaker 6: and your whole life is gone. Where's the cheese because

1494
01:04:44,240 --> 01:04:47,760
Speaker 6: you're busy getting cheese cheese somewhere else.

1495
01:04:48,360 --> 01:04:50,760
Speaker 8: As soon as you lose sight of the cheese, it's

1496
01:04:50,800 --> 01:04:52,560
Speaker 8: onto the next piece of cheese.

1497
01:04:52,920 --> 01:04:55,240
Speaker 1: Well, the reason I was so anxious as a deadline

1498
01:04:55,240 --> 01:04:57,320
Speaker 1: approach is because I know how easy it is to

1499
01:04:57,360 --> 01:05:00,200
Speaker 1: forget things like RSVPs when you have ADHD and yeah

1500
01:05:00,200 --> 01:05:02,760
Speaker 1: the rhyme. I reminded him every time I remembered it

1501
01:05:02,800 --> 01:05:05,480
Speaker 1: was due, But after we agreed he'd be responsible for

1502
01:05:05,520 --> 01:05:08,200
Speaker 1: his I eventually stopped reminding him and then forgot about

1503
01:05:08,240 --> 01:05:10,880
Speaker 1: it completely. For those asking why his cousin just can't

1504
01:05:10,880 --> 01:05:14,320
Speaker 1: add one more person, she definitely can, but she made

1505
01:05:14,360 --> 01:05:17,240
Speaker 1: it clear to him that it involved several extra steps

1506
01:05:17,240 --> 01:05:20,440
Speaker 1: and possibly an additional fee since the deposit is based

1507
01:05:20,640 --> 01:05:24,360
Speaker 1: on a percentage of the total. It's more about her

1508
01:05:24,480 --> 01:05:27,960
Speaker 1: having to deal with older people and people overseas not rcping,

1509
01:05:28,120 --> 01:05:31,400
Speaker 1: than adding them last minute. She's trying to ensure her parents,

1510
01:05:31,480 --> 01:05:34,240
Speaker 1: the groom's parents, and immediately family members are all factored

1511
01:05:34,240 --> 01:05:37,160
Speaker 1: into the equation. When she checked the RSCP lists, my

1512
01:05:37,320 --> 01:05:41,400
Speaker 1: husband's RCP automatically showed up as no on her end

1513
01:05:41,520 --> 01:05:42,360
Speaker 1: because he.

1514
01:05:42,320 --> 01:05:43,120
Speaker 2: Missed the deadline.

1515
01:05:43,160 --> 01:05:44,640
Speaker 1: So it's like, hey, because he didn't fill it out,

1516
01:05:44,840 --> 01:05:46,920
Speaker 1: the website just has it as no.

1517
01:05:47,040 --> 01:05:49,520
Speaker 2: And didn't realize it was in oversight.

1518
01:05:49,800 --> 01:05:51,479
Speaker 1: For those saying that I should have told the cousin

1519
01:05:51,560 --> 01:05:53,760
Speaker 1: exactly what happened, I did exactly as it happened, she

1520
01:05:53,800 --> 01:05:56,400
Speaker 1: didn't believe me. And for those also suggesting that I

1521
01:05:56,520 --> 01:05:59,000
Speaker 1: remind him that I'm not his mom, I did and

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Speaker 1: he agreed.

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Speaker 2: He told me he would handle it himself.

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01:06:01,480 --> 01:06:03,600
Speaker 1: For those asking if he does this a lot or

1525
01:06:03,640 --> 01:06:06,320
Speaker 1: if he has other redeeming qualities and this is just

1526
01:06:06,360 --> 01:06:08,400
Speaker 1: a one off thing. He has ADHD and he is

1527
01:06:08,440 --> 01:06:10,920
Speaker 1: so forgetful, but so am I. There are things he

1528
01:06:11,000 --> 01:06:13,720
Speaker 1: excels at that I struggle with. For example, my ADHD

1529
01:06:13,800 --> 01:06:16,600
Speaker 1: sometimes causes me to forget that I left things on

1530
01:06:16,800 --> 01:06:19,400
Speaker 1: or open. It could be something simple like leaving the

1531
01:06:19,440 --> 01:06:22,080
Speaker 1: microwave or a fridge door open, or something more dangerous

1532
01:06:22,080 --> 01:06:24,280
Speaker 1: like leaving the stove on. This got worse for me

1533
01:06:24,320 --> 01:06:26,800
Speaker 1: after having kids. There are definitely a few times when

1534
01:06:26,840 --> 01:06:28,960
Speaker 1: he picks up my slack just as I pick up his.

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01:06:29,320 --> 01:06:31,760
Speaker 1: We both understand that sometimes we can't help it and

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01:06:31,840 --> 01:06:32,520
Speaker 1: try not to.

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01:06:32,520 --> 01:06:33,360
Speaker 2: Judge each other for it.

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01:06:33,640 --> 01:06:36,720
Speaker 1: He absolutely has redeeming qualities. So for instance, he works

1539
01:06:36,720 --> 01:06:39,320
Speaker 1: from home during the week, and this is on top

1540
01:06:39,480 --> 01:06:42,360
Speaker 1: of the kid's school stuff and doctor's appointments. He's the

1541
01:06:42,440 --> 01:06:46,000
Speaker 1: primary parent for those responsibilities. That takes such a load

1542
01:06:46,040 --> 01:06:48,440
Speaker 1: off because he's so good at it and our kids

1543
01:06:48,560 --> 01:06:49,840
Speaker 1: are his everything.

1544
01:06:49,920 --> 01:06:52,480
Speaker 6: Wow, it's gotta be hard to do that with ADHD

1545
01:06:52,560 --> 01:06:55,840
Speaker 6: when your your work life, your private life, or your

1546
01:06:55,840 --> 01:06:57,440
Speaker 6: work life, or your personal life, and your family life

1547
01:06:57,440 --> 01:06:59,560
Speaker 6: are all taking place in the exact same area.

1548
01:07:00,280 --> 01:07:04,200
Speaker 2: Yes, it's a lot, and I like the I like her.

1549
01:07:04,280 --> 01:07:06,280
Speaker 1: You know they're giving it up and and and it's

1550
01:07:06,360 --> 01:07:08,400
Speaker 1: it's it seems like they do have a true partnership.

1551
01:07:08,440 --> 01:07:11,480
Speaker 1: You know, they're helping each other, uh, with their strengths

1552
01:07:11,480 --> 01:07:11,960
Speaker 1: and weaknesses.

1553
01:07:12,120 --> 01:07:12,960
Speaker 2: I like it. I like it. Well.

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01:07:12,960 --> 01:07:15,280
Speaker 1: When we got pregnant, we made a pack to use

1555
01:07:15,400 --> 01:07:19,360
Speaker 1: all the attention we have, despite our attention deficit, every

1556
01:07:19,440 --> 01:07:23,160
Speaker 1: last downs to put our kids first and ourselves last.

1557
01:07:23,280 --> 01:07:26,600
Speaker 1: He's held up his end of that bargain. Unfortunately. I

1558
01:07:26,640 --> 01:07:28,800
Speaker 1: love him with all my heart and he is a

1559
01:07:28,800 --> 01:07:31,040
Speaker 1: good partner most of the time. Most of the time

1560
01:07:31,120 --> 01:07:35,040
Speaker 1: I'm not babying him, and he's perfectly rational, But sometimes

1561
01:07:35,120 --> 01:07:36,200
Speaker 1: he just has his moments.

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01:07:36,240 --> 01:07:37,320
Speaker 2: This is one of those moments.

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01:07:37,400 --> 01:07:39,480
Speaker 1: And you can have one of those moments there, I say,

1564
01:07:39,960 --> 01:07:42,400
Speaker 1: a good moment when you realize that you can listen

1565
01:07:42,400 --> 01:07:45,280
Speaker 1: to full, full episodes of stories just like this on

1566
01:07:45,360 --> 01:07:47,920
Speaker 1: our podcast. Just go to Spotify, Apple Podcast, or your

1567
01:07:47,960 --> 01:07:50,800
Speaker 1: favorite podcast platform and search Okay Storytime and it'll be

1568
01:07:50,840 --> 01:07:52,080
Speaker 1: right there, full episodes for you.

1569
01:07:52,080 --> 01:07:54,760
Speaker 8: You know, I really like the way that you're talking

1570
01:07:54,840 --> 01:07:55,240
Speaker 8: right now.

1571
01:07:55,280 --> 01:07:58,840
Speaker 1: I like the way that you're talking. But Dakota, before

1572
01:07:58,880 --> 01:08:01,040
Speaker 1: we get into we have we have more of the story.

1573
01:08:01,120 --> 01:08:03,040
Speaker 1: I feel like this is a case of it is

1574
01:08:03,080 --> 01:08:05,680
Speaker 1: what it is. Yeah, seems like they have a good partnership.

1575
01:08:05,720 --> 01:08:08,400
Speaker 1: It was an honest mistake, he has ADHD everyone.

1576
01:08:08,440 --> 01:08:09,360
Speaker 2: We all have our faults.

1577
01:08:09,920 --> 01:08:12,720
Speaker 1: We all slip up sometimes. It just happened to be

1578
01:08:12,760 --> 01:08:15,400
Speaker 1: a slip up with the wedding. What it sounds like

1579
01:08:15,440 --> 01:08:15,680
Speaker 1: he was.

1580
01:08:15,680 --> 01:08:17,519
Speaker 6: Just wound up in that moment where it's like that

1581
01:08:17,680 --> 01:08:20,800
Speaker 6: she even thinking about doing the RSVP right now is

1582
01:08:20,800 --> 01:08:22,520
Speaker 6: going to make my brain explode.

1583
01:08:22,680 --> 01:08:23,519
Speaker 8: I can't do it.

1584
01:08:23,840 --> 01:08:26,360
Speaker 6: It's like, just do it right now, Like I literally

1585
01:08:26,720 --> 01:08:29,920
Speaker 6: going to curl up into a ball and stop existing

1586
01:08:30,240 --> 01:08:33,000
Speaker 6: if I even try to sign that rsup right now.

1587
01:08:33,040 --> 01:08:35,519
Speaker 1: It's trying no reason, trying to make the perfect playlist,

1588
01:08:35,520 --> 01:08:37,960
Speaker 1: you know, it's trying to have the perfect advice for

1589
01:08:38,000 --> 01:08:38,280
Speaker 1: a wedding.

1590
01:08:38,320 --> 01:08:39,479
Speaker 2: I mean, hey, that's toll over.

1591
01:08:39,400 --> 01:08:41,880
Speaker 6: And then the rat brain probably just took over and

1592
01:08:42,000 --> 01:08:44,080
Speaker 6: he just forgot and probably thought about it at one

1593
01:08:44,120 --> 01:08:46,720
Speaker 6: point where it was entirely inconvenient, and he is not

1594
01:08:46,960 --> 01:08:49,200
Speaker 6: anywhere nearby the place where he could even do it.

1595
01:08:49,240 --> 01:08:50,760
Speaker 8: That's what when I forget stuff like that, That's how

1596
01:08:50,800 --> 01:08:51,280
Speaker 8: it happens to me.

1597
01:08:51,320 --> 01:08:52,960
Speaker 6: It's like I'll be somewhere else and I'll be like, oh, yeah,

1598
01:08:53,000 --> 01:08:54,960
Speaker 6: that thing I can do that's like on the other

1599
01:08:55,040 --> 01:08:56,880
Speaker 6: side of town right now, that I forgot to do

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01:08:57,000 --> 01:08:59,880
Speaker 6: two days ago. Like I can't do it right now

1601
01:09:00,080 --> 01:09:02,720
Speaker 6: because I'm not there, Like, but I should do it later.

1602
01:09:02,760 --> 01:09:03,920
Speaker 2: Okay, let's finish this real quick.

1603
01:09:03,960 --> 01:09:05,519
Speaker 1: So for those saying I should let him go in

1604
01:09:05,560 --> 01:09:08,560
Speaker 1: place with the kids and take the day for myself,

1605
01:09:08,680 --> 01:09:10,640
Speaker 1: that's exactly what I'm gonna do. For those suggesting I

1606
01:09:10,720 --> 01:09:12,519
Speaker 1: show him this post, I did. But even before I did,

1607
01:09:12,560 --> 01:09:14,519
Speaker 1: he had already apologized for snapping at me. He was

1608
01:09:14,560 --> 01:09:17,000
Speaker 1: frustrated and embarrassed and unfortunately took it out on me.

1609
01:09:17,080 --> 01:09:19,479
Speaker 1: I've done the same to him before we both mess up.

1610
01:09:19,520 --> 01:09:21,720
Speaker 1: But he came to the conclusion on his own that

1611
01:09:21,880 --> 01:09:24,320
Speaker 1: he should have taken care of it and not blamed me.

1612
01:09:24,720 --> 01:09:25,720
Speaker 2: He's sorry and.

1613
01:09:25,760 --> 01:09:28,639
Speaker 1: Is making it up by buying me something expensive this week.

1614
01:09:28,720 --> 01:09:30,880
Speaker 1: Can't wait, lil, And we have a few quick comments.

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01:09:31,000 --> 01:09:33,439
Speaker 1: Comment number one, not the a hole. Why do women

1616
01:09:33,520 --> 01:09:35,519
Speaker 1: have to bear the burden of remembering to remind their partners?

1617
01:09:35,520 --> 01:09:38,000
Speaker 1: Can we task true facts on top of everything else

1618
01:09:38,040 --> 01:09:41,160
Speaker 1: involved in managing a household? This typically is defined as

1619
01:09:41,320 --> 01:09:45,559
Speaker 1: nagging quote unquote infuriating. Comment number two, not the a hole.

1620
01:09:45,600 --> 01:09:48,920
Speaker 1: Your husband is an adult. He made a decision for himself,

1621
01:09:48,960 --> 01:09:52,320
Speaker 1: despite the many reminders and nagging. If he can't attend,

1622
01:09:52,360 --> 01:09:55,040
Speaker 1: it's his fault and should own up to his mistake

1623
01:09:55,080 --> 01:09:57,080
Speaker 1: and not hold you accountable for it, which he did

1624
01:09:57,120 --> 01:09:59,439
Speaker 1: at the end. Sorry, he's behaving like a man child.

1625
01:09:59,439 --> 01:10:01,800
Speaker 1: I hope is is an isolated issue, and not that

1626
01:10:01,880 --> 01:10:04,920
Speaker 1: he pushes the issue at his convenience and then blames

1627
01:10:04,960 --> 01:10:06,600
Speaker 1: you for his lack of self awareness.

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01:10:06,920 --> 01:10:07,599
Speaker 2: Coming number three.

1629
01:10:07,680 --> 01:10:09,800
Speaker 1: Let the man maybe deal with his consequences on his

1630
01:10:09,840 --> 01:10:12,760
Speaker 1: own way way way. You reminded him multiple times and

1631
01:10:12,800 --> 01:10:15,320
Speaker 1: he was sniffy about it. Yours wife, not a secretary,

1632
01:10:15,439 --> 01:10:17,559
Speaker 1: not his event planner. Coming number four.

1633
01:10:18,000 --> 01:10:18,479
Speaker 2: What are you.

1634
01:10:18,400 --> 01:10:20,760
Speaker 1: Supposed to have done? He told you not to do it.

1635
01:10:20,800 --> 01:10:23,479
Speaker 1: This seems to be a situation where you cannot win. Sorry,

1636
01:10:23,479 --> 01:10:25,720
Speaker 1: he's a booty about stuff like this. I'm sure he

1637
01:10:25,760 --> 01:10:28,920
Speaker 1: has some good redeeming qualities, but this must be quite

1638
01:10:29,040 --> 01:10:31,040
Speaker 1: the pain in the booty.

1639
01:10:30,920 --> 01:10:35,280
Speaker 2: Indeed, But look at that brilliant resolution. Though. Honestly, it's like.

1640
01:10:36,080 --> 01:10:36,760
Speaker 5: Yeah, I don't know.

1641
01:10:36,840 --> 01:10:41,160
Speaker 8: He definitely was annoying, but I'm annoying too, and he

1642
01:10:41,160 --> 01:10:41,920
Speaker 8: can just take it.

1643
01:10:42,000 --> 01:10:43,920
Speaker 6: I'll have the day to myself and he can go

1644
01:10:43,960 --> 01:10:45,360
Speaker 6: to the wedding that he wants to go do way

1645
01:10:45,360 --> 01:10:47,200
Speaker 6: more than me, and he'll take the kids.

1646
01:10:46,960 --> 01:10:49,519
Speaker 1: As long as And it seems like op wasn't like

1647
01:10:49,520 --> 01:10:52,360
Speaker 1: like if op felt more strongly or feelings were more hurt,

1648
01:10:52,400 --> 01:10:55,000
Speaker 1: which you know, hey, we all got feelings too, that's okay.

1649
01:10:55,040 --> 01:10:57,839
Speaker 1: But I really liked the place that we ended at.

1650
01:10:58,240 --> 01:11:01,879
Speaker 1: Op acknowledged his stuff. He apologized and acknowledged his stuff,

1651
01:11:02,560 --> 01:11:06,040
Speaker 1: and Opie said, hey, take my place in the wedding

1652
01:11:06,120 --> 01:11:07,200
Speaker 1: so you can see your cousin and.

1653
01:11:09,160 --> 01:11:10,120
Speaker 2: Happily ever after.

1654
01:11:10,280 --> 01:11:12,320
Speaker 8: Yeah, I feel like it's a great little microcosm of

1655
01:11:12,400 --> 01:11:12,519
Speaker 8: like