1 00:00:00,520 --> 00:00:02,800 Speaker 1: Go for the twenties, have a little fun. Good for you. 2 00:00:03,160 --> 00:00:05,800 Speaker 1: I don't see any issue with any of this. Calm 3 00:00:05,840 --> 00:00:11,840 Speaker 1: Down with Erin and Carissa is a production of iHeartRadio 4 00:00:15,240 --> 00:00:20,160 Speaker 1: touching her eyebrows. By the way, there's just so thick whispits. Okay, 5 00:00:20,160 --> 00:00:21,959 Speaker 1: but you got to answer. Hi, everybody, Welcome to the 6 00:00:21,960 --> 00:00:25,040 Speaker 1: Calm Down podcast free game. I had asked Aaron before 7 00:00:25,079 --> 00:00:27,600 Speaker 1: I accidentally muted my mic if she did her hair 8 00:00:27,640 --> 00:00:29,880 Speaker 1: this morning, because it looks real, but this is left 9 00:00:29,880 --> 00:00:33,360 Speaker 1: over from yesterday. Well it looks great, Kyleie. You have 10 00:00:33,520 --> 00:00:38,200 Speaker 1: to answer the question on Kylie. We love Kylie. People 11 00:00:38,240 --> 00:00:40,760 Speaker 1: want to know what, don't I didn't even know there's 12 00:00:40,760 --> 00:00:45,520 Speaker 1: a term gatekeeping. What the serum is that you bogie 13 00:00:46,240 --> 00:00:49,600 Speaker 1: boi be a oh boi ay i and a fall 14 00:00:49,760 --> 00:00:52,200 Speaker 1: up to all that is. I went to my facialist 15 00:00:52,240 --> 00:00:54,880 Speaker 1: girl who recommended it to me and said, oh, yeah, 16 00:00:55,280 --> 00:00:57,800 Speaker 1: I've heard this stuff can make them grow in thicker, 17 00:00:57,880 --> 00:01:01,480 Speaker 1: which they did. They did. They're very much sticker and darker. 18 00:01:02,160 --> 00:01:04,880 Speaker 1: And then again, not to reiterate, I know Ryan Fitzpatrick 19 00:01:04,959 --> 00:01:07,039 Speaker 1: left the thing. We know you died your eyebrows. I 20 00:01:07,280 --> 00:01:10,760 Speaker 1: wish I had died that because then I'd be scraping 21 00:01:10,800 --> 00:01:13,479 Speaker 1: the die off. This is how dark they came in. 22 00:01:13,920 --> 00:01:16,119 Speaker 1: That's kind of by the way I'm I'm I might 23 00:01:16,160 --> 00:01:18,560 Speaker 1: get in on this Obaji situation. Not a mad wish 24 00:01:18,640 --> 00:01:21,280 Speaker 1: it was because I have to go dark in mine. 25 00:01:21,560 --> 00:01:24,319 Speaker 1: Lynn puts the like die on it every week and 26 00:01:24,360 --> 00:01:27,240 Speaker 1: it goes away in two seconds. I want mine thicker acre, 27 00:01:27,360 --> 00:01:29,160 Speaker 1: So maybe we get on the Obagi train. Why not? 28 00:01:29,400 --> 00:01:31,720 Speaker 1: So I'm going to get back on it once they 29 00:01:31,760 --> 00:01:34,160 Speaker 1: die down and fall out a little bit, and not 30 00:01:34,240 --> 00:01:37,679 Speaker 1: be so religious like I'm doing it every day. You're 31 00:01:37,800 --> 00:01:40,360 Speaker 1: very disciplined. I'm not just going about anything. So it's 32 00:01:40,400 --> 00:01:43,720 Speaker 1: gonna be fine for me every like two months. I 33 00:01:43,760 --> 00:01:45,280 Speaker 1: wish I was like that, but I'm not. Let's just 34 00:01:45,280 --> 00:01:49,600 Speaker 1: be honest. Welcome to the pregame, everyone. First question for 35 00:01:49,960 --> 00:01:54,160 Speaker 1: our gal from camber Schlag is Aaron, do you ice skate? 36 00:01:54,880 --> 00:01:58,240 Speaker 1: I can stand up on skates, I can push off 37 00:01:58,240 --> 00:02:00,920 Speaker 1: a little bit. I have a I have trouble stopping. 38 00:02:01,120 --> 00:02:03,520 Speaker 1: I guess this is coming from the pictures that I 39 00:02:03,640 --> 00:02:07,120 Speaker 1: posted from the Los Angeles King's family skate, which was 40 00:02:07,240 --> 00:02:09,120 Speaker 1: very sweet and a very fun thing that they do 41 00:02:09,320 --> 00:02:12,600 Speaker 1: every year. I was so stupid. I wasn't thinking I 42 00:02:12,639 --> 00:02:14,240 Speaker 1: hadn't been to one of those in a while because 43 00:02:14,240 --> 00:02:17,600 Speaker 1: I'm usually never home for them. And luckily they worked 44 00:02:17,600 --> 00:02:19,640 Speaker 1: it worked out that it was on a Thursday and 45 00:02:19,680 --> 00:02:22,160 Speaker 1: I was home. I was so stupid. I wore boots 46 00:02:22,200 --> 00:02:26,760 Speaker 1: and everybody's yeah, we were your skates did get so anyways, 47 00:02:27,080 --> 00:02:29,120 Speaker 1: I can kind of ice skate, but nothing to write 48 00:02:29,120 --> 00:02:32,040 Speaker 1: home about. We were walking Steve and I were walking 49 00:02:32,080 --> 00:02:34,720 Speaker 1: by somewhere and they were doing some a bunch of 50 00:02:34,760 --> 00:02:38,600 Speaker 1: guys like roller like playing what is it called street 51 00:02:38,760 --> 00:02:42,560 Speaker 1: hockey rollerblades and Steve's like, oh, I'm an excellent skater, 52 00:02:42,639 --> 00:02:45,320 Speaker 1: and I was like, excuse me what, I go, what 53 00:02:45,360 --> 00:02:47,519 Speaker 1: from all your days growing up in Wisconsin? What do 54 00:02:47,600 --> 00:02:49,639 Speaker 1: you mean you're an excellent skater? And he goes, oh, yeah, 55 00:02:49,720 --> 00:02:52,600 Speaker 1: he goes, Jared'd be very impressed. You should see, he goes. 56 00:02:52,600 --> 00:02:53,800 Speaker 1: I got to get out on the ice with him 57 00:02:53,800 --> 00:02:56,000 Speaker 1: and go, Okay, you're gonna stand next to the two 58 00:02:56,080 --> 00:03:00,000 Speaker 1: times Stanley Cup champion and your days in New Jersey. 59 00:03:00,040 --> 00:03:02,680 Speaker 1: You're really gonna can't wait to see that. So we 60 00:03:02,840 --> 00:03:06,080 Speaker 1: did to get that going. That would be amazing. Well, 61 00:03:06,200 --> 00:03:09,480 Speaker 1: I'll be in the boots in the stands. There's no 62 00:03:09,560 --> 00:03:11,320 Speaker 1: way my ass is out on that, I state. I 63 00:03:11,320 --> 00:03:14,400 Speaker 1: remember my neighbor growing up. Her name was Nikki DeLong. 64 00:03:14,440 --> 00:03:16,320 Speaker 1: I don't know where she is these days, but her 65 00:03:16,320 --> 00:03:19,240 Speaker 1: family was rich and we were not. And her mom 66 00:03:19,320 --> 00:03:21,480 Speaker 1: always put her in ice skating and she had on 67 00:03:21,560 --> 00:03:25,200 Speaker 1: the like to to the whole outfit and these beautiful 68 00:03:25,200 --> 00:03:27,480 Speaker 1: white skates. And they took me ice skating one time 69 00:03:27,480 --> 00:03:30,400 Speaker 1: with her, and I looked like Tanya Harding from the 70 00:03:30,440 --> 00:03:34,240 Speaker 1: trailer park next to Nancy Kerrigan. I was like, I 71 00:03:34,280 --> 00:03:37,040 Speaker 1: could not ice skate. I couldn't anything. I had like 72 00:03:37,120 --> 00:03:39,880 Speaker 1: little rags on. It was so humiliating. That was the 73 00:03:39,920 --> 00:03:42,960 Speaker 1: last time I ever went ice skating. Well, we will 74 00:03:43,000 --> 00:03:46,400 Speaker 1: take you blue mind living. How do you handle judgy, 75 00:03:46,560 --> 00:03:50,200 Speaker 1: noisy neighbors? I don't know. We don't really talk to 76 00:03:50,240 --> 00:03:52,120 Speaker 1: many people. I'm gonna be honest. It's not because we 77 00:03:52,160 --> 00:03:54,200 Speaker 1: don't want to, but we barely talk to each other 78 00:03:54,240 --> 00:03:57,880 Speaker 1: because I'm never home, so judging. I'm sure our neighbors 79 00:03:57,880 --> 00:04:02,240 Speaker 1: are judging us. Yes, our whatever. People seem to know 80 00:04:02,280 --> 00:04:05,080 Speaker 1: our business around here. Our problem is where we live. 81 00:04:05,400 --> 00:04:08,280 Speaker 1: All the houses are so close, so even if you're 82 00:04:08,360 --> 00:04:11,040 Speaker 1: kind of looking at you're mister and missus, like on 83 00:04:11,080 --> 00:04:13,760 Speaker 1: a walk with your dog. Jared's always like sh like 84 00:04:14,120 --> 00:04:17,920 Speaker 1: people can hear us in the street, Like okay, oh yeah, yeah, 85 00:04:18,000 --> 00:04:20,520 Speaker 1: I am. My neighbors are right on top of us. 86 00:04:20,520 --> 00:04:22,800 Speaker 1: And I told you the couple weeks ago and my 87 00:04:22,839 --> 00:04:24,800 Speaker 1: car got hit out in front of my house. First 88 00:04:24,839 --> 00:04:27,719 Speaker 1: time I met the neighbors to the right of me 89 00:04:27,880 --> 00:04:29,880 Speaker 1: right here was because they came running out and didn't 90 00:04:29,920 --> 00:04:32,159 Speaker 1: know what happened, and she was like, oh, your car 91 00:04:32,279 --> 00:04:35,280 Speaker 1: is totaled, and I was like, look, lady, I don't 92 00:04:35,279 --> 00:04:37,520 Speaker 1: need that right now. That was the introduction to my neighbors. 93 00:04:37,560 --> 00:04:39,880 Speaker 1: After living here for seven years, I am very close 94 00:04:39,920 --> 00:04:41,960 Speaker 1: with the one on the backside because like when I leave, 95 00:04:42,200 --> 00:04:44,719 Speaker 1: especially after the break and I'm like, hey, Jerry, keep 96 00:04:44,760 --> 00:04:48,160 Speaker 1: some eyes out, eyes and ears Jerry on the old 97 00:04:48,160 --> 00:04:51,240 Speaker 1: neighborhood patrol. But yeah, no, I don't have nosy neighbors. 98 00:04:51,640 --> 00:04:53,599 Speaker 1: I definitely have that thing where it's like if the 99 00:04:53,640 --> 00:04:57,640 Speaker 1: door's open or sometimes like my bedroom window faces out 100 00:04:57,680 --> 00:04:59,720 Speaker 1: to the neighbors too, and I'm like, can we close 101 00:04:59,760 --> 00:05:01,919 Speaker 1: the car. They don't need to see everything that's going on. 102 00:05:02,120 --> 00:05:04,680 Speaker 1: Not like that, but just like in life, like close 103 00:05:04,680 --> 00:05:07,320 Speaker 1: the curtains, lock it up a bit. So yeah, I 104 00:05:07,320 --> 00:05:09,160 Speaker 1: don't know what to tell you, Blue Mind Living. How 105 00:05:09,160 --> 00:05:13,279 Speaker 1: do we deal with nosy judging neighbors? Oh my god, actually, wait, 106 00:05:13,560 --> 00:05:17,240 Speaker 1: hold on, I totally forgot. I was the neighborhood patrolled 107 00:05:17,240 --> 00:05:20,440 Speaker 1: the other day. I heard my again, I have four 108 00:05:20,480 --> 00:05:23,640 Speaker 1: neighbors that I can see from right here. I heard 109 00:05:23,640 --> 00:05:25,960 Speaker 1: a dog. The dog in the neighbor was barking and 110 00:05:26,040 --> 00:05:27,719 Speaker 1: barking and it has and kind of has like a 111 00:05:27,720 --> 00:05:30,600 Speaker 1: whiny bark of like, oh yeah, is it hurt? So 112 00:05:30,680 --> 00:05:32,560 Speaker 1: I said to Steve, I go throw a treat over 113 00:05:32,600 --> 00:05:34,560 Speaker 1: the fence, and he goes, well, wonder if they're allergic? 114 00:05:34,600 --> 00:05:36,240 Speaker 1: I go, oh God, then the dog's gonna die and 115 00:05:36,279 --> 00:05:38,280 Speaker 1: we're gonna be responsible. And then we're getting cameras out. 116 00:05:38,440 --> 00:05:40,760 Speaker 1: Who threw the treat back? Share the dog die? So, 117 00:05:40,800 --> 00:05:42,760 Speaker 1: I said, you wrote, I said, I'm just going to 118 00:05:42,839 --> 00:05:44,440 Speaker 1: go over there and knock on that door and see 119 00:05:44,440 --> 00:05:46,360 Speaker 1: what's going on, because anything that has to do with 120 00:05:46,400 --> 00:05:48,640 Speaker 1: an animal like I can't handle. If this animal is 121 00:05:48,640 --> 00:05:51,240 Speaker 1: being harmed. And I've been like privy to this for 122 00:05:51,320 --> 00:05:53,159 Speaker 1: weeks and not done anything about it. So I marched 123 00:05:53,160 --> 00:05:55,360 Speaker 1: my ass right over there, and I'm the nosy neighbor 124 00:05:55,640 --> 00:05:58,240 Speaker 1: and I knock on that door. I heard talking in there. 125 00:05:58,440 --> 00:06:00,520 Speaker 1: They didn't answer the door, and I was like, I'll 126 00:06:00,520 --> 00:06:02,680 Speaker 1: come back next time. So, like a couple days later, 127 00:06:02,680 --> 00:06:04,919 Speaker 1: I went back over. Knock, knock, knock. She answers the 128 00:06:04,960 --> 00:06:07,480 Speaker 1: door couldn't have been nicer. I said, look, I'm your 129 00:06:07,480 --> 00:06:09,400 Speaker 1: neighbor over here, and I hear your dog crying. Is 130 00:06:09,400 --> 00:06:12,039 Speaker 1: everything okay? She was like, oh, yeah, he plays with 131 00:06:12,040 --> 00:06:13,479 Speaker 1: this ball and he likes this ball, and so then 132 00:06:13,520 --> 00:06:15,200 Speaker 1: he gets so excited. And I was like, okay. Turns 133 00:06:15,200 --> 00:06:17,560 Speaker 1: out she works at the animal shelter. So I'm the 134 00:06:17,600 --> 00:06:20,080 Speaker 1: nosy neighbor that's making sure the dog's like not her 135 00:06:20,480 --> 00:06:24,159 Speaker 1: and she's saving dogs. So all is right in the neighborhood. 136 00:06:24,400 --> 00:06:27,239 Speaker 1: But look, you gotta do your job. Are you writing 137 00:06:27,240 --> 00:06:33,000 Speaker 1: about me? You gotta get out on the streets. Anonymous, yep, No. 138 00:06:33,160 --> 00:06:36,120 Speaker 1: Divorced forty three. What do I do when men in 139 00:06:36,160 --> 00:06:39,719 Speaker 1: their sixties and twenties are wanting to date? What's my issue? 140 00:06:40,080 --> 00:06:42,360 Speaker 1: Go for the twenties, have a little fun. Good for you. 141 00:06:42,720 --> 00:06:45,719 Speaker 1: I don't see any issue with any of this. Actually, 142 00:06:45,920 --> 00:06:49,239 Speaker 1: at least somebody wants to hang out. You know. That's great. 143 00:06:49,440 --> 00:06:51,520 Speaker 1: By the way, you have cast that net girl, and 144 00:06:51,560 --> 00:06:53,640 Speaker 1: you are just taking in all the fish in the 145 00:06:53,680 --> 00:06:57,080 Speaker 1: sea twenties to sixties. No, I think you're looking at 146 00:06:57,120 --> 00:07:00,840 Speaker 1: this all wrong. I think there's real possibilities here, especially 147 00:07:00,960 --> 00:07:04,760 Speaker 1: since you're newly divorced. Go out there. To Aaron's point, 148 00:07:04,839 --> 00:07:07,200 Speaker 1: have some fun with the twenty year olds. I also 149 00:07:07,560 --> 00:07:09,600 Speaker 1: liked the idea. I ended up dating someone younger than me, 150 00:07:09,640 --> 00:07:12,120 Speaker 1: but I liked the idea of somebody older who had 151 00:07:12,320 --> 00:07:15,080 Speaker 1: already dealt with their shit, had already been maybe divorced. 152 00:07:15,080 --> 00:07:17,000 Speaker 1: Like when I was thinking about having to go back 153 00:07:17,080 --> 00:07:19,880 Speaker 1: out there again, I didn't. I was totally open to 154 00:07:19,920 --> 00:07:22,720 Speaker 1: the idea of somebody having like older kids that were 155 00:07:22,720 --> 00:07:24,960 Speaker 1: out of the house. They'd already been divorced, they'd already 156 00:07:24,960 --> 00:07:28,280 Speaker 1: gone through all that crap. So I don't think you know, 157 00:07:28,360 --> 00:07:31,000 Speaker 1: unless you have like real non negotiables in terms of age, 158 00:07:31,040 --> 00:07:33,960 Speaker 1: I don't think anything is off the table. I love 159 00:07:34,040 --> 00:07:45,600 Speaker 1: that go get it girl, get it girl. And speaking 160 00:07:45,640 --> 00:07:49,000 Speaker 1: of girl, Midwest gal, do you work for the networks 161 00:07:49,040 --> 00:07:54,000 Speaker 1: in the off season? No, I'll do the Belmont Steaks 162 00:07:54,000 --> 00:07:56,080 Speaker 1: because I love the Yes racing, I do that for Fox. 163 00:07:56,080 --> 00:07:57,720 Speaker 1: I've done that the last couple of years. I really 164 00:07:57,800 --> 00:08:02,760 Speaker 1: enjoyed doing that. But yeah, that's I'll do my NFL 165 00:08:02,880 --> 00:08:06,800 Speaker 1: Films long form features that I do for NFL Films Presents. 166 00:08:06,880 --> 00:08:10,120 Speaker 1: But no, as far as for Fox, No, we don't 167 00:08:10,120 --> 00:08:13,080 Speaker 1: do any other coverage. You used to do baseball and football, 168 00:08:14,280 --> 00:08:20,680 Speaker 1: but now it's all college basketball. That's right. Nope, nope, nope. 169 00:08:20,760 --> 00:08:25,200 Speaker 1: And if we trying to have a life central focused 170 00:08:25,240 --> 00:08:34,640 Speaker 1: on that, yup, go ahead. See Jasinski CJ. Sinski sixty five. 171 00:08:34,880 --> 00:08:37,320 Speaker 1: What is the most fun time slash event you have 172 00:08:37,360 --> 00:08:39,720 Speaker 1: had together? PS? Love you guys so much. Well, first 173 00:08:39,720 --> 00:08:42,600 Speaker 1: of all, thank you. I'm sorry if I butchered your handle. 174 00:08:43,720 --> 00:08:46,079 Speaker 1: I was just thinking about it today actually since the 175 00:08:46,280 --> 00:08:49,760 Speaker 1: Eras tour culminated last night in Vancouver. Very jealous of 176 00:08:49,760 --> 00:08:51,880 Speaker 1: my sister and my niece who went to it. My 177 00:08:51,960 --> 00:08:54,240 Speaker 1: niece and my brother went to the one the night before, 178 00:08:54,640 --> 00:08:57,880 Speaker 1: of course, being from Seattle, that was the close proximity 179 00:08:57,920 --> 00:09:01,040 Speaker 1: for them. I am so glad that we pulled the 180 00:09:01,040 --> 00:09:03,920 Speaker 1: trigger and we made that happen. Because you can always 181 00:09:03,920 --> 00:09:06,360 Speaker 1: have a million excuses of schedule and this and that. 182 00:09:06,559 --> 00:09:09,640 Speaker 1: But we made it happen in London back in June, 183 00:09:09,920 --> 00:09:12,560 Speaker 1: and it was so awesome. I mean we went for 184 00:09:12,559 --> 00:09:15,000 Speaker 1: forty eight hours whatever it was seventy two hours. But 185 00:09:15,080 --> 00:09:18,440 Speaker 1: I think that that's up there on my list of 186 00:09:18,480 --> 00:09:23,000 Speaker 1: fun adventures with you what about you? Yeah, that was 187 00:09:23,040 --> 00:09:26,120 Speaker 1: a good time. We've had a good time in Montana. 188 00:09:26,240 --> 00:09:29,360 Speaker 1: We've had good times in where the hell did we 189 00:09:29,400 --> 00:09:34,319 Speaker 1: go with the seaweed? Oh to Loom? Went to Loom 190 00:09:34,679 --> 00:09:38,840 Speaker 1: chilling Snafford for hosting all of us. No, that was 191 00:09:38,880 --> 00:09:41,520 Speaker 1: really fun. We also have we're trying to get a 192 00:09:41,600 --> 00:09:44,600 Speaker 1: vacation on the books for this off season, because if 193 00:09:44,600 --> 00:09:47,800 Speaker 1: you don't plan it, then it doesn't happen. But yeah, 194 00:09:48,120 --> 00:09:49,960 Speaker 1: I think we're doing a better job of that than 195 00:09:50,000 --> 00:09:52,800 Speaker 1: we have we asked. We usually have a pretty good 196 00:09:52,840 --> 00:09:56,160 Speaker 1: time everywhere we go. I mean, it could be some Shenanigans, 197 00:09:56,160 --> 00:09:59,920 Speaker 1: it's fun, okay. Blake Johnson to eight nine eight favor 198 00:10:00,120 --> 00:10:03,760 Speaker 1: Christmas tradition your family had when you were a kid 199 00:10:03,840 --> 00:10:08,600 Speaker 1: growing up, There was a neighborhood and I guess, like whatever, 200 00:10:08,720 --> 00:10:10,760 Speaker 1: families do it all the time, there was a neighborhood 201 00:10:10,840 --> 00:10:12,560 Speaker 1: right where we live that was kind of like the 202 00:10:12,640 --> 00:10:16,440 Speaker 1: ritzy neighborhood, and so we'd go and turn in and 203 00:10:16,520 --> 00:10:19,559 Speaker 1: go around and look at the life. Wait, yeah, look 204 00:10:19,600 --> 00:10:22,960 Speaker 1: at the lights. And that was always a big deal. 205 00:10:23,000 --> 00:10:25,640 Speaker 1: I forgot what it was called Bearingly Oaks. Oh we 206 00:10:25,720 --> 00:10:28,040 Speaker 1: had one of those two ours was English Hill and 207 00:10:28,120 --> 00:10:30,440 Speaker 1: all my friends lived in English Hill but I didn't, 208 00:10:30,480 --> 00:10:34,640 Speaker 1: but they always had like the cool lights. Another tradition 209 00:10:34,720 --> 00:10:37,480 Speaker 1: is my dad and I always watched It's a Wonderful 210 00:10:37,480 --> 00:10:41,080 Speaker 1: Life on Christmas Eve. I'd go to church with my 211 00:10:41,120 --> 00:10:43,360 Speaker 1: grandma and my mom and they come home and watch 212 00:10:43,400 --> 00:10:47,720 Speaker 1: that with my dad. Always made cookies, Christmas cookies with 213 00:10:47,760 --> 00:10:49,960 Speaker 1: my grandma and my mom. We'd have a big Christmas 214 00:10:49,960 --> 00:10:53,640 Speaker 1: bakeoff thing and then Christmas vacation. That movie was on 215 00:10:53,920 --> 00:10:57,520 Speaker 1: repeat and still is. Yeah. You know what I was 216 00:10:57,520 --> 00:11:00,600 Speaker 1: thinking about the other day too, is now was a mother. 217 00:11:01,160 --> 00:11:03,400 Speaker 1: You're like all of these traditions and all of these 218 00:11:03,440 --> 00:11:06,480 Speaker 1: things like that was all our moms and dads. Like, 219 00:11:06,520 --> 00:11:09,960 Speaker 1: think about it. Traditions don't happen if they don't initiate 220 00:11:09,960 --> 00:11:13,080 Speaker 1: it or start something, and so it's so fun like 221 00:11:13,120 --> 00:11:14,920 Speaker 1: when you think about, like my mom still to this 222 00:11:15,000 --> 00:11:16,600 Speaker 1: day does stock it. We talked about it when we 223 00:11:16,600 --> 00:11:17,760 Speaker 1: were on the phone and you were going to get 224 00:11:17,760 --> 00:11:21,200 Speaker 1: stocking stuff ers, like all of that stuff requires effort, 225 00:11:21,240 --> 00:11:23,120 Speaker 1: as I just got back from Christmas shopping, so did you. 226 00:11:23,720 --> 00:11:27,240 Speaker 1: It's exhausting. And it's like when you think about all 227 00:11:27,280 --> 00:11:29,320 Speaker 1: of the things that our parents did and you don't 228 00:11:29,320 --> 00:11:31,240 Speaker 1: even realize like what they're doing. You're just like, oh, 229 00:11:31,360 --> 00:11:35,080 Speaker 1: this happens, like wrapping all of that crap. And it's 230 00:11:35,120 --> 00:11:36,840 Speaker 1: if they don't do them, then you don't have traditions. 231 00:11:36,840 --> 00:11:40,000 Speaker 1: It's very sweet, it is. And I my mom had 232 00:11:40,040 --> 00:11:42,200 Speaker 1: a full time job, my dad at a full time job, 233 00:11:42,320 --> 00:11:45,480 Speaker 1: like I have help in all areas, and I'm still 234 00:11:45,679 --> 00:11:48,200 Speaker 1: my problem is right now, in the middle of the night, 235 00:11:48,360 --> 00:11:51,360 Speaker 1: I am waking up laying there going shit, who did 236 00:11:51,360 --> 00:11:53,559 Speaker 1: I not buy? For? Shit? When am I going to 237 00:11:53,640 --> 00:11:56,120 Speaker 1: finish this? It's like I cannot shut that down right 238 00:11:56,160 --> 00:11:58,640 Speaker 1: now in my brain. Crap, what are we serving for 239 00:11:58,720 --> 00:12:01,000 Speaker 1: Christmas dinner? I just really another thing I have to 240 00:12:01,000 --> 00:12:03,600 Speaker 1: write down the lobster guys that want to send stuff 241 00:12:03,880 --> 00:12:07,880 Speaker 1: like it just rich. Yeah, no, I actually we can 242 00:12:07,880 --> 00:12:09,120 Speaker 1: talk about this on the Big Show. I have a 243 00:12:09,120 --> 00:12:13,160 Speaker 1: whole as the holiday season, you know, is now upon us. 244 00:12:13,240 --> 00:12:16,040 Speaker 1: I thought I had, I was like, real coffee. The 245 00:12:16,080 --> 00:12:18,560 Speaker 1: tree's been up since October. I thought I did all 246 00:12:18,600 --> 00:12:20,920 Speaker 1: the shopping early, and now I'm doing what you're doing. 247 00:12:20,960 --> 00:12:23,760 Speaker 1: I'm like, and this is always that thing again. I'll 248 00:12:23,760 --> 00:12:25,520 Speaker 1: save it for the big show. But here's the tease. 249 00:12:26,280 --> 00:12:28,280 Speaker 1: Wonder if someone gets you a gift and you didn't 250 00:12:28,280 --> 00:12:31,200 Speaker 1: get them one those auxiliary gifts that you have to 251 00:12:31,240 --> 00:12:36,400 Speaker 1: have lying around, we'll talk about it. Oh yeah, next Anonymous, 252 00:12:36,440 --> 00:12:39,240 Speaker 1: how do I get over feeling guilty about an upcoming 253 00:12:39,280 --> 00:12:41,480 Speaker 1: plan my husband and I have? My dear husband has 254 00:12:41,520 --> 00:12:44,640 Speaker 1: been very supportive of my career once we became empty nesters. 255 00:12:44,679 --> 00:12:46,560 Speaker 1: My husband and I plan to move from our current 256 00:12:46,559 --> 00:12:49,840 Speaker 1: home in Alabama to Lexington, Kentucky, so I can pursue 257 00:12:49,880 --> 00:12:52,280 Speaker 1: a job. He insists he's fine with it and looks 258 00:12:52,280 --> 00:12:55,400 Speaker 1: forward to the eventual change. Yet I can't get past 259 00:12:55,480 --> 00:12:57,840 Speaker 1: feeling like it's a lot to ask of him. What 260 00:12:57,880 --> 00:12:59,480 Speaker 1: do you guys think? And can you give me some 261 00:12:59,520 --> 00:13:04,679 Speaker 1: prospective perspective on this conundrum? What a fantastic question. Okay, 262 00:13:04,679 --> 00:13:09,079 Speaker 1: So she's feeling guilty about moving for her job and 263 00:13:09,400 --> 00:13:11,240 Speaker 1: because she doesn't want her husband to have to move, 264 00:13:11,280 --> 00:13:15,640 Speaker 1: even though he says she's okay with it, you have 265 00:13:15,679 --> 00:13:21,000 Speaker 1: any thoughts, go ahead. I would say that if he 266 00:13:21,160 --> 00:13:23,400 Speaker 1: says he's okay with it, then you have to trust 267 00:13:23,400 --> 00:13:25,760 Speaker 1: that he's okay with him. And if he comes back 268 00:13:25,800 --> 00:13:28,600 Speaker 1: around after you guys have moved and he gets resentful, 269 00:13:29,000 --> 00:13:31,360 Speaker 1: you have to say, then you should have been honest 270 00:13:31,360 --> 00:13:34,840 Speaker 1: about this from the beginning. But don't you know, It's 271 00:13:34,840 --> 00:13:38,679 Speaker 1: like if, like anything in life, if the guy's like, oh, no, 272 00:13:38,920 --> 00:13:40,880 Speaker 1: I'm fine, you picked the movie, and then the whole 273 00:13:40,880 --> 00:13:42,080 Speaker 1: time you're on the way to the movie, you're like, well, 274 00:13:42,200 --> 00:13:43,400 Speaker 1: you did you really want to pick the movie? You 275 00:13:43,400 --> 00:13:45,000 Speaker 1: should have picked the movie. Then he's like, I said 276 00:13:45,040 --> 00:13:47,440 Speaker 1: I was fine. Men are so much more direct than 277 00:13:47,520 --> 00:13:50,120 Speaker 1: the women are that if he says he's okay with it, 278 00:13:50,160 --> 00:13:52,240 Speaker 1: I would say that you have to trust that and 279 00:13:52,320 --> 00:13:54,880 Speaker 1: don't overanalyze it and go in with a great attitude, 280 00:13:54,880 --> 00:13:58,760 Speaker 1: because then if you're like constantly questioning him, he's like Jesus, 281 00:13:58,840 --> 00:14:00,640 Speaker 1: I can't win. I said I was fine with it, 282 00:14:00,679 --> 00:14:02,600 Speaker 1: and now you're still questioning it. So lean into the 283 00:14:02,600 --> 00:14:07,240 Speaker 1: fact that he was all on board, and good luck 284 00:14:07,240 --> 00:14:09,560 Speaker 1: with your new job. I think you thank you, embrace it. 285 00:14:10,240 --> 00:14:13,160 Speaker 1: I think it's cool too, that you guys are empty nesters. 286 00:14:13,240 --> 00:14:17,000 Speaker 1: This is kind of a new chapter in your lives, 287 00:14:18,320 --> 00:14:20,520 Speaker 1: and I think it sounds like a great time to 288 00:14:20,640 --> 00:14:22,480 Speaker 1: do it. It's not like you have kids and you're 289 00:14:22,520 --> 00:14:24,360 Speaker 1: pulling them out of their school and putting them in 290 00:14:24,400 --> 00:14:26,720 Speaker 1: a new one and you have to deal with letting 291 00:14:26,720 --> 00:14:29,240 Speaker 1: all of them down. Like it's your husband and it's 292 00:14:29,320 --> 00:14:32,960 Speaker 1: you and it's a new start. And Alabama Kentucky not 293 00:14:33,040 --> 00:14:35,160 Speaker 1: that far from each other. If it doesn't work out, 294 00:14:35,280 --> 00:14:37,520 Speaker 1: or if he wants to go back and visit some people. 295 00:14:37,720 --> 00:14:40,560 Speaker 1: So I believe in what Churis says. I think men 296 00:14:40,680 --> 00:14:43,240 Speaker 1: are very direct. I don't think that they are wishy 297 00:14:43,400 --> 00:14:45,720 Speaker 1: washy or worry about Oh I shouldn't have said that. 298 00:14:46,320 --> 00:14:48,200 Speaker 1: Did I make the right decision? That's very much a 299 00:14:48,240 --> 00:14:50,760 Speaker 1: female thing. Own it, Go for it, it's a new chapter. 300 00:14:50,960 --> 00:14:53,240 Speaker 1: Enjoy it all and congrat And I would also say 301 00:14:53,320 --> 00:14:55,600 Speaker 1: to you just say to your husband, thank you, like 302 00:14:55,680 --> 00:14:57,960 Speaker 1: that's awesome that he's like so willing to support you 303 00:14:58,040 --> 00:14:59,440 Speaker 1: and something that you want to do. I think you 304 00:14:59,440 --> 00:15:02,320 Speaker 1: have a good one, and good luck with the new job. 305 00:15:03,480 --> 00:15:07,560 Speaker 1: I love that. Also, using the word conundrum is very lumage. 306 00:15:08,120 --> 00:15:10,280 Speaker 1: That's like a Taylor Swift song. She always uses all 307 00:15:10,280 --> 00:15:12,560 Speaker 1: these words, and I'm like, I know. We had to 308 00:15:12,600 --> 00:15:15,120 Speaker 1: look at you on the new album when it came out, 309 00:15:15,560 --> 00:15:18,240 Speaker 1: because you and I were looking upwards when it came out. 310 00:15:18,280 --> 00:15:20,600 Speaker 1: We were like, I don't know that one. All right, 311 00:15:20,600 --> 00:15:22,840 Speaker 1: you guys, We have a lot to discuss. Week fourteen 312 00:15:23,000 --> 00:15:26,000 Speaker 1: was great for both of us. Our games were incredible. 313 00:15:26,400 --> 00:15:29,760 Speaker 1: We both have a lot of exciting things happening. 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