1 00:00:00,360 --> 00:00:03,880 Speaker 1: All right, now, Steve, time for us to clo chief 2 00:00:03,960 --> 00:00:06,960 Speaker 1: love officer in the building. This one is from Harold 3 00:00:07,000 --> 00:00:09,760 Speaker 1: and Newark, New Jersey. Harold writes, I'm a thirty nine 4 00:00:09,800 --> 00:00:12,360 Speaker 1: year old divorced man dating a thirty three year old 5 00:00:12,400 --> 00:00:16,400 Speaker 1: single mother. We started being intimate recently and it's the 6 00:00:16,440 --> 00:00:19,880 Speaker 1: best I've had in a long time. The only problem 7 00:00:20,000 --> 00:00:23,400 Speaker 1: is the only problem I have is her six year 8 00:00:23,440 --> 00:00:26,400 Speaker 1: old son that she brings on all of our dates. 9 00:00:26,440 --> 00:00:26,720 Speaker 2: Now. 10 00:00:26,960 --> 00:00:29,000 Speaker 1: I like her son, and I don't mind him tagging 11 00:00:29,000 --> 00:00:31,880 Speaker 1: along at times, but not always. I have offered to 12 00:00:31,920 --> 00:00:34,920 Speaker 1: pay for a sitter, but she doesn't trust anyone because 13 00:00:34,920 --> 00:00:38,000 Speaker 1: of COVID. We have offered to we have to sneak 14 00:00:38,040 --> 00:00:41,000 Speaker 1: around the house to have sex because her child has 15 00:00:41,040 --> 00:00:44,720 Speaker 1: no boundaries. It's been a year, so can I set 16 00:00:44,760 --> 00:00:45,520 Speaker 1: the boundaries? 17 00:00:46,960 --> 00:00:49,040 Speaker 3: Well, you're going to have to talk to her about it. 18 00:00:49,520 --> 00:00:51,320 Speaker 3: I think you're going to have to bring up the 19 00:00:51,400 --> 00:00:55,000 Speaker 3: subject about it that you know, because now one thing 20 00:00:55,040 --> 00:00:59,920 Speaker 3: about it? Did children come with the women? So they ain't? No. 21 00:01:00,040 --> 00:01:03,600 Speaker 3: I appreciate you offering for a babysitter, but because of COVID, 22 00:01:03,640 --> 00:01:09,040 Speaker 3: she don't want to do it. So understandable, understandable but 23 00:01:09,080 --> 00:01:10,959 Speaker 3: you're gonna have to bring up the subject and y'all 24 00:01:10,959 --> 00:01:13,560 Speaker 3: gonna have to find something to work through this. I 25 00:01:13,560 --> 00:01:16,000 Speaker 3: don't know if she has a relatives she trust or 26 00:01:16,440 --> 00:01:18,800 Speaker 3: something like this. All what you can do is you 27 00:01:18,840 --> 00:01:23,160 Speaker 3: can order rapid COVID tests now, and you can test 28 00:01:23,200 --> 00:01:26,600 Speaker 3: your babysitter or your loved one and leave them with 29 00:01:26,680 --> 00:01:29,160 Speaker 3: the child. You got to do something because you can't. 30 00:01:29,720 --> 00:01:36,680 Speaker 3: The relationship won't flourish without private time. Hard to build it. 31 00:01:37,240 --> 00:01:39,880 Speaker 2: Well, women you were dating with kids brought their kids. 32 00:01:39,720 --> 00:01:45,280 Speaker 3: Brought everything has happened to me. So how do I 33 00:01:45,319 --> 00:01:48,000 Speaker 3: want to talk about it? Is because we'll be faced 34 00:01:48,080 --> 00:01:52,720 Speaker 3: with I had so muchs ago in my ragged ass. 35 00:01:54,360 --> 00:01:56,559 Speaker 3: That's why I don't think I'll ever tell the real 36 00:01:56,760 --> 00:02:01,240 Speaker 3: Steve Harvey story. I'm just gonna just leave mine. Everybody 37 00:02:01,280 --> 00:02:05,680 Speaker 3: don't need a bowel pic and I just think I'm 38 00:02:05,720 --> 00:02:07,880 Speaker 3: just one of them. People need to just let it go. 39 00:02:09,520 --> 00:02:10,960 Speaker 2: Wherever he came out with one. 40 00:02:11,560 --> 00:02:14,000 Speaker 3: I'm gonna have to cause it's gonna be corny because 41 00:02:14,040 --> 00:02:15,760 Speaker 3: I'm gonna have to lead Alli. I'm gonna have to 42 00:02:15,800 --> 00:02:20,280 Speaker 3: lead too much stuff out, man, and then I'm old, Yeah, 43 00:02:20,280 --> 00:02:22,920 Speaker 3: and then I'm old so you know you can't like, 44 00:02:23,120 --> 00:02:26,040 Speaker 3: you know, my medical records at for a city got 45 00:02:26,080 --> 00:02:28,520 Speaker 3: burned down when the hotel got burned down with no 46 00:02:28,639 --> 00:02:33,760 Speaker 3: damn computers. Oh man, so anything fifteen? I ain't even 47 00:02:33,800 --> 00:02:39,880 Speaker 3: here what happened? Also, all right, all my medical records 48 00:02:39,960 --> 00:02:42,360 Speaker 3: is go. They can't find dental charge nothing. 49 00:02:44,639 --> 00:02:45,360 Speaker 2: We're moving on. 50 00:02:45,560 --> 00:02:49,160 Speaker 1: Coleman in Peoria, Illinois says I'm a happily married man 51 00:02:49,200 --> 00:02:52,040 Speaker 1: and I continue to work Monday through Thursday. One of 52 00:02:52,040 --> 00:02:56,280 Speaker 1: my wife's closest friends is my coworker, and she's working 53 00:02:56,320 --> 00:02:58,520 Speaker 1: the same hours and days as I do. 54 00:02:58,680 --> 00:02:58,840 Speaker 3: Now. 55 00:02:59,200 --> 00:03:01,960 Speaker 1: We talked about are pulling in alternating weeks when we 56 00:03:01,960 --> 00:03:03,240 Speaker 1: would drive and talk to my. 57 00:03:03,200 --> 00:03:05,320 Speaker 2: Wife about it, and she forbid me to do it. 58 00:03:06,680 --> 00:03:09,040 Speaker 1: She said her friend should have come to her and 59 00:03:09,200 --> 00:03:12,720 Speaker 1: asked for permission. It has created friction in their friendship, 60 00:03:12,800 --> 00:03:15,240 Speaker 1: and I don't understand what my wife's problem is. 61 00:03:15,440 --> 00:03:17,440 Speaker 2: What's wrong with sharing our ride to work? 62 00:03:18,440 --> 00:03:18,680 Speaker 3: Boy? 63 00:03:18,840 --> 00:03:19,799 Speaker 2: Are you stupid? 64 00:03:21,360 --> 00:03:29,840 Speaker 3: Sir? Sir, you've formed a friendship with your wife's closest friend. 65 00:03:30,360 --> 00:03:35,120 Speaker 3: Y'all is set up and contrived. Y'all gonna start riding 66 00:03:35,120 --> 00:03:38,360 Speaker 3: to work together. We know what you're doing, though, but 67 00:03:38,480 --> 00:03:43,840 Speaker 3: ain't nobody come to the wife and your girlfriend should 68 00:03:43,880 --> 00:03:47,280 Speaker 3: have came. Her girlfriend should have came and said something 69 00:03:47,320 --> 00:03:50,240 Speaker 3: to it. Now, it's creating friction between you and why 70 00:03:50,280 --> 00:03:51,520 Speaker 3: you think that is though. 71 00:03:53,200 --> 00:03:55,920 Speaker 2: He has no idea what his wife's problem is. 72 00:03:56,040 --> 00:03:58,720 Speaker 3: That's so dog, So dog, let me ask you a question. 73 00:03:59,200 --> 00:04:01,680 Speaker 3: You and your your wife and your best free and 74 00:04:01,760 --> 00:04:06,400 Speaker 3: work together. Then your wife come home and go. Hey, 75 00:04:07,680 --> 00:04:12,480 Speaker 3: me and Harold go start riding and work together. Huh Okay, 76 00:04:13,280 --> 00:04:21,839 Speaker 3: you know what, Harold? Yeah, see how you like that? Yeah, 77 00:04:22,040 --> 00:04:24,160 Speaker 3: that's all you got to do. Bro, all right, sure, 78 00:04:24,680 --> 00:04:25,000 Speaker 3: all right. 79 00:04:25,120 --> 00:04:29,080 Speaker 1: Candy and Memphis says, my son's father got married in January, 80 00:04:29,160 --> 00:04:31,839 Speaker 1: but we still mess around whenever he's had too much 81 00:04:31,839 --> 00:04:34,560 Speaker 1: to drink. I like to think he still has feelings 82 00:04:34,560 --> 00:04:38,880 Speaker 1: for me, but I know it's the vodka. What bothers 83 00:04:38,920 --> 00:04:40,960 Speaker 1: me is that my son has seen him in my 84 00:04:41,040 --> 00:04:44,200 Speaker 1: bed overnight, and it could be confusing for him. He 85 00:04:44,240 --> 00:04:46,760 Speaker 1: has not met his daddy's wife yet, so he's only 86 00:04:46,800 --> 00:04:49,520 Speaker 1: seen me with his daddy. He's four years old, and 87 00:04:49,560 --> 00:04:52,440 Speaker 1: he's going to be confused by all of this. Is 88 00:04:52,480 --> 00:04:55,000 Speaker 1: it his daddy's job to explain to our son why 89 00:04:55,040 --> 00:04:57,440 Speaker 1: he's still sleeping over at our house or mine. 90 00:04:58,760 --> 00:05:01,080 Speaker 3: I don't see how to this is a problem that 91 00:05:01,160 --> 00:05:03,320 Speaker 3: you would write me and surely about. 92 00:05:03,080 --> 00:05:04,279 Speaker 2: I really love that. 93 00:05:04,960 --> 00:05:09,880 Speaker 3: I don't really give a damn I really done. You know. See, seriously, sisters, 94 00:05:10,200 --> 00:05:13,479 Speaker 3: you want to think that he still has feelings for you, 95 00:05:13,960 --> 00:05:18,440 Speaker 3: but you know it's only when he been drinking. Let's 96 00:05:18,480 --> 00:05:24,239 Speaker 3: not blame the alcohol for every damn thing. Maybe he's 97 00:05:24,279 --> 00:05:27,320 Speaker 3: still seeing you because you want him to see you 98 00:05:27,640 --> 00:05:31,240 Speaker 3: and you let him sleep with you. What difference do 99 00:05:31,320 --> 00:05:35,000 Speaker 3: it make? Who explain it to the four yeo when 100 00:05:35,080 --> 00:05:40,320 Speaker 3: both y'all dead wrong? So what is the conversation gonna 101 00:05:40,360 --> 00:05:42,760 Speaker 3: be about? Because the four year old ain't met his 102 00:05:42,920 --> 00:05:46,120 Speaker 3: new wife yet? And you know that live that little 103 00:05:46,160 --> 00:05:48,279 Speaker 3: that little boy gonna say something one time when he 104 00:05:48,360 --> 00:05:50,800 Speaker 3: do it, you ain't my mama. 105 00:05:50,120 --> 00:05:52,280 Speaker 2: And it is confusing for the four year old. 106 00:05:52,400 --> 00:05:55,160 Speaker 3: Yeah, you're damn right, and it's gonna be so confusion 107 00:05:55,440 --> 00:06:00,280 Speaker 3: that he gonna see clarity from everybody involved. You, her 108 00:06:00,400 --> 00:06:04,800 Speaker 3: husband and a new wife. And you know this. So 109 00:06:04,920 --> 00:06:09,239 Speaker 3: stop playing this game because you know what you're doing, right, 110 00:06:09,440 --> 00:06:12,239 Speaker 3: that's right. You want him to be confused, hell, because 111 00:06:12,279 --> 00:06:13,159 Speaker 3: you confused. 112 00:06:13,240 --> 00:06:23,039 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's confusing to us well, and we couldn't grown. Yeah, 113 00:06:23,200 --> 00:06:23,560 Speaker 2: all right. 114 00:06:24,040 --> 00:06:28,000 Speaker 1: Sean in Los Angeles says, I'm forty years old and 115 00:06:28,040 --> 00:06:30,080 Speaker 1: my wife and I have been married for three years. 116 00:06:30,240 --> 00:06:31,080 Speaker 2: She's forty two. 117 00:06:31,200 --> 00:06:33,680 Speaker 1: She has two children from her second marriage, and I 118 00:06:33,720 --> 00:06:36,520 Speaker 1: have one son from my first marriage. I recently met 119 00:06:36,520 --> 00:06:39,320 Speaker 1: her first husband. He wished me luck because he said 120 00:06:39,320 --> 00:06:41,800 Speaker 1: I married a cheater. He said they were married four 121 00:06:41,839 --> 00:06:44,680 Speaker 1: months she cheated, so he divorced her. I have no 122 00:06:44,720 --> 00:06:46,520 Speaker 1: way of knowing if he's a liar or if this 123 00:06:46,680 --> 00:06:48,839 Speaker 1: is true. Should I ask her about it or let 124 00:06:48,880 --> 00:06:49,200 Speaker 1: it go? 125 00:06:50,400 --> 00:06:53,839 Speaker 3: What kind of conversation you have is with her ex 126 00:06:54,000 --> 00:06:59,159 Speaker 3: about your current No, he's shady and you shady. I 127 00:06:59,160 --> 00:07:01,240 Speaker 3: wish you would come on me and say something like that, 128 00:07:02,800 --> 00:07:07,120 Speaker 3: knock your ass out, knock your mucket ass. 129 00:07:06,839 --> 00:07:09,640 Speaker 2: Right, all I, Seelo, we gotta go. Thank you for that. 130 00:07:10,880 --> 00:07:13,560 Speaker 2: You're listening to The Hardy Morning Show.