Speaker 1: Hey, there are folks. Somebody by the name of C
Speaker 1: and R wrote to us wanting all of our relationship advice.
Speaker 1: So what's the relationship issue? He says, I'm fifty nine,
Speaker 1: she's nineteen. Now what well? Robox initial thoughts yikes, my
Speaker 1: initial take, yikes. And welcome to this relationship edition of
Speaker 1: Amy and TJ. We take on a question from our
Speaker 1: weekly Yahoo advice colin, which you can find in the
Speaker 1: Life section of Yahoo dot com and Robes. This first
Speaker 1: one before we get into the details. When somebody hears
Speaker 1: fifty nine year old man nineteen year old girl, what
Speaker 1: are they? And I said girl. I didn't even say woman, right,
Speaker 1: that was just an accidental slip. But that's what you think.
Speaker 1: I hear teenager? But what do you think Most people
Speaker 1: think fifty nine nineteen? They mentally go to what you think?
Speaker 2: That he's in it for the sex and she's in
Speaker 2: it for the money.
Speaker 1: That was more succinct than I thought you were going
Speaker 1: to be.
Speaker 3: That is where most people go and they think who's
Speaker 3: getting what out of this relationship because it doesn't seem
Speaker 3: like one that would be natural. A lot of people say,
Speaker 3: what do you have in common? So what would be
Speaker 3: the motivation, and that's typically where people's minds go to.
Speaker 1: All right, and this again, this person goes by c
Speaker 1: and R wrote into us on our Yahoo column, and
Speaker 1: ropes take them through the actual full scenario that he gave.
Speaker 3: Yes. So this is what CNR asked us, Amy and TJ.
Speaker 3: I'm fifty nine, she is nineteen. I'll wait while you
Speaker 3: shake off the obvious initial reaction, the one that says
Speaker 3: I'm a predator or at best simply with this young woman.
Speaker 2: Because of the sex.
Speaker 3: She and I have found intimacy at a level we
Speaker 3: never thought existed while navigating the complexity of falling in love.
Speaker 3: You guys, could not be more correct. Love is indeed messy.
Speaker 3: Finding the courage to step off the cliff of settling
Speaker 3: for less in hopes of experiencing the kind of love
Speaker 3: that even the best poets, artists, and musicians can't fully describe,
Speaker 3: is paralyzing. She and I are currently standing on that cliff.
Speaker 3: Can you offer some non judgmental feedback about how or
Speaker 3: whether to pursue this relationship. Hope to hear from you,
Speaker 3: and congratulations on stepping off that cliff yourselves.
Speaker 1: I okay, non judgment We should start there, right, non judgmental.
Speaker 1: If you're not hurting yourself or hurting somebody else, do
Speaker 1: your thing. So people are into or they're into. And
Speaker 1: also the other thing we should say here love comes
Speaker 1: in all kinds of forms, and we're not here to
Speaker 1: judge it. So we have to start.
Speaker 2: There absolutely completely agree.
Speaker 1: Okay, And all we have to go on is are
Speaker 1: the details that he gave us. So we're going to
Speaker 1: get into some comments that and this was our biggest
Speaker 1: response we've gotten. Right.
Speaker 3: We had three and a half thousand comments in counting.
Speaker 2: So yes, a lot of folks wait in.
Speaker 3: Oh at the time of this recording, thousands of you
Speaker 3: wait in.
Speaker 1: But our advice initially when my reaction was I couldn't,
Speaker 1: in good conscious conscience say to him, go for it, buddy,
Speaker 1: You just can't. As parents, you think about kids. We
Speaker 1: have a nineteen year old in the house all the time,
Speaker 1: all the time. She's a freshman in college. But analyst
Speaker 1: just went off to college. She is nineteen right now,
Speaker 1: to think about what she is doing in her life,
Speaker 1: going to work as a barista, can't wait to get
Speaker 1: off work so she can go to happy hour with
Speaker 1: her friends. Can't wait till then go out with her friend. Oh,
Speaker 1: I'm going over to Brooklyn and she's doing kid things,
Speaker 1: and at the same time, she has to call you
Speaker 1: at least twice a week with an emergency because she
Speaker 1: can't find her keys.
Speaker 2: Twice a week. I was like, twice a day, okay.
Speaker 1: But the points she's a kid, an absolute kid, and
Speaker 1: to think about a fifty nine year old man, My
Speaker 1: initial thought was just there seems to be so much
Speaker 1: of her life she's missing out on by being with
Speaker 1: a fifty nine year old man. What do you want
Speaker 1: to take that from her? I'm trying to embrace the
Speaker 1: love and the idea of it, but this is just difficult.
Speaker 1: And that was kind of my summary of what my
Speaker 1: thought was.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and again I am also fully supportive of grown
Speaker 3: adults doing what they want to do and not basing
Speaker 3: their decisions on what other people think of them. However,
Speaker 3: I understand where he's coming from in the sense that,
Speaker 3: of course people are going to roll their eyes, and
Speaker 3: of course people are going to assume the worst, and
Speaker 3: I don't want to do that. But yes, I do
Speaker 3: have a nineteen year old so I do have some
Speaker 3: perspective as to what nineteen year olds. I remember being nineteen,
Speaker 3: but when you're nineteen, you think you're so much older
Speaker 3: than you are. And the thing I've always told my daughters,
Speaker 3: and it drives them crazy, is you don't know what
Speaker 3: you don't know. And I'm sure he, as a fifty
Speaker 3: nine year.
Speaker 2: Old, fully understands that as well. And so I really don't.
Speaker 3: Think it's as much about an age gap as it
Speaker 3: is her age. If this were happening ten years from now,
Speaker 3: when he was sixty nine and she was twenty nine,
Speaker 3: I might feel a little bit differently about it, because
Speaker 3: she would have had her twenties to kind of figure
Speaker 3: out who she is, and we're always figuring out who
Speaker 3: we are. I get that, but I think this is
Speaker 3: more of a power imbalance too, And maybe he would
Speaker 3: say that's not a part of it, but how could
Speaker 3: it not be. And so that makes me a little
Speaker 3: bit nervous for her and maybe even for him too,
Speaker 3: because you don't want to be with someone who you
Speaker 3: are controlling or who you have control over, even if
Speaker 3: you're not trying to exert that control.
Speaker 2: It kind of has to exist.
Speaker 3: Maybe yes, from a financial standpoint, but also just from
Speaker 3: an experience standpoint. There is a huge experience gap, and
Speaker 3: that would be the biggest concern for me.
Speaker 1: The line here, I mean the way he puts it.
Speaker 1: He said, we have found intimacy at a level we
Speaker 1: never thought existed while navigating the complexity of falling in love.
Speaker 1: She doesn't have any idea what falling in love is.
Speaker 1: That young lady has no idea about a level of
Speaker 1: intimacy that she's never had before because she's never had it.
Speaker 1: She's nineteen. I don't care what experience in relationships she's
Speaker 1: had the past several years of her life, when she's
Speaker 1: been dating her little junior high school boyfriend or whatever.
Speaker 1: It just doesn't compare. So he sounds passionate and enthusia.
Speaker 1: He might believe what he's saying. How could she have
Speaker 1: the same experience?
Speaker 3: Yes, And I will say, as a fifty two year old,
Speaker 3: I have never had the level of intimacy that I've
Speaker 3: had with you. But I have, you know, at least
Speaker 3: thirty five plus years of experience in relationships to compare
Speaker 3: it to. So she clearly does not. And we're always
Speaker 3: learning and we're always growing. But I think when you
Speaker 3: start talking about poets and movies and songs, I know
Speaker 3: what that feeling is, and that's infatuation, is it not?
Speaker 3: Because love to me is when all of that maybe
Speaker 3: even quiets down, and it's that beautiful connection and commitment
Speaker 3: and friendship and partnership that ensusan Yes, you can have
Speaker 3: the sexual attraction, but that initial youphoric burst that is
Speaker 3: more a feeling of being in love versus a feeling
Speaker 3: of actually loving someone.
Speaker 1: We don't have a time here, so we don't know
Speaker 1: how long.
Speaker 3: They are actually, well, I would get it, hope it
Speaker 3: would only be a year.
Speaker 1: A year because she years plus.
Speaker 2: Maybe we just hope she would. Yes, we would hope
Speaker 2: that she was eighteen.
Speaker 1: So let's just fifty eight eighteen sounds worse it.
Speaker 3: Actually does, but let's just assume, because I'm going to
Speaker 3: assume that he did not decide to date her until
Speaker 3: she was at least eighteen, So they've got a year,
Speaker 3: year and a half tops.
Speaker 1: Okay, one more thing before we get into the comments
Speaker 1: and the thoughts that people wrote in into us about
Speaker 1: can we go and try have you tried to take
Speaker 1: him at everything at his word at its face, that
Speaker 1: this is real and this is true and these two
Speaker 1: people are genuinely in love and now what do we
Speaker 1: do with it?
Speaker 2: Yeah, and you know what, Only they know that. Only
Speaker 2: they know that.
Speaker 3: And I would never say that isn't possible, because I
Speaker 3: have certainly met nineteen year olds who are old souls.
Speaker 3: And we've all met younger folks who act and really
Speaker 3: kind of react in a much more mature way than
Speaker 3: a lot of older folks do.
Speaker 2: So that is true.
Speaker 3: And then there older folks who stay young. I mean,
Speaker 3: I think I'm one.
Speaker 2: Of those people. I feel like I act and.
Speaker 3: I'm hopefully not throwing myself under the bus here, but yeah,
Speaker 3: I act younger than my age. I enjoy things that
Speaker 3: a lot of folks my age don't enjoy. So my
Speaker 3: friends tend to be younger because that's just how I roll.
Speaker 2: So I'm if I a younger boyfriend, I do have
Speaker 2: a younger boyfriend.
Speaker 1: No, it sounds like you need a younger A younger boyfriend.
Speaker 2: Oh no, I think four and a half years is perfect.
Speaker 1: No, you need much younger, as youthful as you say
Speaker 1: you are.
Speaker 2: No, no, no, no for it.
Speaker 1: It's not like I'm going to be able to keep
Speaker 1: up with you.
Speaker 3: Uh No, I think we're matched in energy, and I
Speaker 3: do think that that is part of it. So maybe
Speaker 3: he is, you know, looking for excitement, and he has
Speaker 3: that energy and that spark about him. And maybe she
Speaker 3: likes to stay home and watch Netflix and chill and
Speaker 3: she's not about going to the clubs and partying. But
Speaker 3: you know, so much changes. You can be one thing
Speaker 3: at nineteen, another thing at twenty three, and a whole
Speaker 3: other thing at twenty five. You know, It's just that's
Speaker 3: what I would be concerned about if I were him.
Speaker 3: How much is she going to change? He's kind of
Speaker 3: where he is and where he's going to be.
Speaker 1: She's nineteen.
Speaker 2: She's nineteen.
Speaker 1: She doesn't even know all the things she wants from Sophora.
Speaker 1: Yet she doesn't. She doesn't know what sports she's really into.
Speaker 2: She can't order a beer, yeah, and she.
Speaker 1: Doesn't know I can't. How can you date someone when
Speaker 1: they ask what are you guys drinking? And they actually
Speaker 1: don't know what their options are?
Speaker 3: Right?
Speaker 2: She can't rent a car.
Speaker 1: She can no twenty five.
Speaker 3: Yes, she can't rent a house. She can't get a
Speaker 3: verbo or an airbnb. I when you start putting that
Speaker 3: into perspective, there's a reason why all of these stop
Speaker 3: gaps are put in place. She's not considered capable of
Speaker 3: making serious decisions like getting a drink or getting behind
Speaker 3: the wheel of a hurts vehicle. There are reasons why
Speaker 3: those safety precautions are put in place and having age restrictions,
Speaker 3: and I just would maybe keep that in mind. When
Speaker 3: you're fifty nine, you do understand this, but I understand
Speaker 3: you can get swept up in the feelings and maybe
Speaker 3: it is real.
Speaker 2: I don't want to say it.
Speaker 1: Is authentic, and those can be authentic. The next thing
Speaker 1: is just what do you do about it. It's just
Speaker 1: a tough one. We certainly wish them the best, but
Speaker 1: a lot of people. Again, like we said, thousands of
Speaker 1: folks wrote in and people were dying to chime in
Speaker 1: on this. When we come back quick break here. When
Speaker 1: we come back, we're going to tell you. We're going
Speaker 1: to read for you some of the comments, and they
Speaker 1: went a few different directions. One was yes, this must
Speaker 1: be about money. Another theme was hey, adult, do you
Speaker 1: And then somebody that goes by the name of B
Speaker 1: Diddy wrote in to us and actually brought it all home.
Speaker 1: Stay here and.
Speaker 3: Welcome back everyone to this edition of Ask Amy and TJ.
Speaker 3: We are talking about our latest Yahoo Life column, our
Speaker 3: relationship advice column, where C and R wrote into us
Speaker 3: asking about his relationship. Yeah, he's fifty nine, she's nineteen,
Speaker 3: and you all had a lot to say about it.
Speaker 3: We're going to start with RJ, who wrote into the
Speaker 3: Yahoo page and said this, don't know why he's even asking.
Speaker 3: Just enjoy it while you can. Age is just a number.
Speaker 3: I'm fifty eight and he put this in quotes. I'm
Speaker 3: not really I'm not really sure what this means. And
Speaker 3: date many under thirty year old.
Speaker 1: You know what he means.
Speaker 3: I know what he means. He likes to have some
Speaker 3: situationships with many under thirty year old's youngest being nineteen,
Speaker 3: So while he really does know what CNR is going
Speaker 3: through now twenty and I've dated five to ten years older.
Speaker 3: You can have lots in common with people of all ages.
Speaker 3: You can fall in love with anyone and it's just fine, Yolo,
Speaker 3: live your life for you and don't worry about other people.
Speaker 1: I am initially fascinated that he's dated someone who is nineteen,
Speaker 1: but al somebody ten years younger. He's dated women in
Speaker 1: the range between nineteen and sixty nine years.
Speaker 2: Old, just about that's wild.
Speaker 1: Wow, he's got to pick a lane. We need him
Speaker 1: to pick alane.
Speaker 2: Actually, I think he just really likes women.
Speaker 1: How about this Robes. Isn't there something to that? He's
Speaker 1: just speaking strictly, not thinking about the woman at all,
Speaker 1: not thinking about the young lady at all. And just
Speaker 1: from the guy's perspective, you know what, man, if you
Speaker 1: got a nineteen year old is willing to date you,
Speaker 1: congratulations right, But.
Speaker 3: And he put again the date in parentheses or sorry,
Speaker 3: in quotations. So my thought is, yes, I totally applaud
Speaker 3: his yolo. I certainly subscribe to living your life and
Speaker 3: not worrying what other people think. But I don't know
Speaker 3: how best. I don't know the best advice he's giving,
Speaker 3: because he wasn't. He doesn't seem like he's looking for
Speaker 3: love or a relationship or a partner. I think he's
Speaker 3: looking for fun, and that's fine too. So it did
Speaker 3: seem that C and R is looking for love, is
Speaker 3: looking for a partner, is looking for a.
Speaker 2: Long term love.
Speaker 1: So r J's advice really isn't helpful.
Speaker 2: And to this RJ is just like man play the field.
Speaker 2: It's fun. Taken from me, I'm having a blast.
Speaker 1: Okay, now we got the locker room talk, by of
Speaker 1: the way. The next was Nicholas, and didn't you point
Speaker 1: out that it's a bunch of dudes?
Speaker 3: Yes, okay, every time we look at the common every
Speaker 3: time this is our third column. But I have been
Speaker 3: fascinated that more it seems.
Speaker 2: I mean, I guess.
Speaker 3: Women could say their name is a man's name, but
Speaker 3: because it's all anonymous technically, but it seems like more men, significantly,
Speaker 3: more men write in comments than women.
Speaker 2: I would have thought it was the opposite.
Speaker 1: Well, Nicholas chimed in this one ropes I would say this,
Speaker 1: I think is probably the opinion most people have. This
Speaker 1: one makes most sense to me, and Nicholas writes quote
Speaker 1: anytime both parties are consenting adults, the answer is yes.
Speaker 1: Now will it ever actually work? Highly unlikely.
Speaker 2: Yes, that's kind of it. I kind of feel like
Speaker 2: he nailed it.
Speaker 3: Nicholas nailed it because really, I mean, look, normally, I
Speaker 3: would say, hey, it's no one's business. And we have
Speaker 3: said this before, because we've got the Bill Belichick situation
Speaker 3: going on. That's a forty nine year age difference correct
Speaker 3: between him and his girlfriend, and we have both said publicly, Hey,
Speaker 3: let them do what they want to do.
Speaker 2: Who are we to judge?
Speaker 3: S and R is actually asking what we think, and
Speaker 3: so I actually think that is probably the best answer.
Speaker 3: You are consenting adults. Yes, if you want to go
Speaker 3: for it, and you both want to go for it,
Speaker 3: then go.
Speaker 2: No one's stopping you. You're not breaking any laws.
Speaker 1: But you got a lot up against you. There's the point.
Speaker 1: There's a lot up against We haven't talked about friends
Speaker 1: and family and what that difficulty is. I mean, he's
Speaker 1: going to go to our high school graduation, to a
Speaker 1: graduation party, to a college graduation party, and all those
Speaker 1: kinds of things where older than the parents.
Speaker 3: I was going to say, everyone is going to assume
Speaker 3: that's her father, and I come from a family where
Speaker 3: this is kind of crazy. But my grandparents were forty
Speaker 3: when I was born, so they were My grandma was
Speaker 3: in twenty one when she had my dad, and my
Speaker 3: dad was nineteen when he had me. So that's really
Speaker 3: bizarre to think that I could have been dating my grandpa.
Speaker 3: So I have a skewed, skewed perspective just from that situation.
Speaker 3: It's a little e for me, but that's just my
Speaker 3: personal opinion. I never really liked older man. Case in point,
Speaker 3: I'm dating a younger man.
Speaker 1: This thing was sideways fast. I can't Oh, but I do.
Speaker 2: Want to say one more thing, because you made something,
Speaker 2: you made a really good point. We have we've walked
Speaker 2: this walk.
Speaker 3: Relationships are hard, even if you have a lot in common,
Speaker 3: even if you come from the same background, from the
Speaker 3: same hometown, and you're about the same age, and you've
Speaker 3: had similar life experiences.
Speaker 2: It's still so hard.
Speaker 3: And then you add if you've got a religious difference,
Speaker 3: that makes it harder. You've got a racial difference. We've
Speaker 3: experienced that it makes it harder. Would you not agree?
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, it does? Hell yeah, Look every little what
Speaker 1: There are some things you sign up for that are
Speaker 1: going to be challenges, but there are some things you
Speaker 1: should sometimes you know better than to sign up for.
Speaker 1: And is what love? Have you proven? A love so much?
Speaker 1: Has it been tested? That's the line. Faith that has
Speaker 1: not been tested cannot be trusted. Well, love that has
Speaker 1: not been tested is difficult to trust as well. What
Speaker 1: have they gone through as a couple, right, Somebody losing
Speaker 1: the job, somebody having to move, somebody having an illness,
Speaker 1: So all these things that they just haven't experienced yet.
Speaker 1: It's possible, but it's just unlikely, is what someone say.
Speaker 1: Can we finally hear from a woman?
Speaker 3: Then yes, Lara, we got a woman who chimed in Lara.
Speaker 3: I actually had to search for a woman's name, Lara.
Speaker 3: I'm assuming this is a woman, so she's gonna represent
Speaker 3: and she commented, I think where a lot of you
Speaker 3: all might be the only question that needs to be
Speaker 3: asked is how much money you have and are giving her.
Speaker 3: If money weren't involved, which one hundred percent guarantee it is,
Speaker 3: and you were poor, you wouldn't have a nineteen year
Speaker 3: old girlfriend.
Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know.
Speaker 2: Maybe he's super hot, maybe.
Speaker 1: Super hot and poor.
Speaker 3: Or he's super or he's super charismatic. Maybe he's super funny.
Speaker 3: A lot of women like funny men. But maybe Look,
Speaker 3: there's a lot of maybes. She could have a missing
Speaker 3: part of her heart. She may want a father figure,
Speaker 3: she may have missed out on that in her life,
Speaker 3: and she wants to feel protected, she wants to feel safe,
Speaker 3: and he makes her feel all of those things. There
Speaker 3: are more things.
Speaker 1: Maybe, well, maybe he just a normal guy. Yeah, with
Speaker 1: a normal job and looks normal and she's just a
Speaker 1: normal girl. I just want to make sure we insert
Speaker 1: that possibility that there is nothing extreme or extraordinary. Yes,
Speaker 1: maybe she's the rich one. I don't know what's happening.
Speaker 1: I just don't know.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it depends on her background and what she's experienced,
Speaker 3: and the types of relationships she's seen and the type
Speaker 3: of boys. I should say, because they were boys, I'm
Speaker 3: assuming who she dated before, But I really do. This
Speaker 3: kind of takes me to a place where I do
Speaker 3: think the older I get in life. Yes, of course,
Speaker 3: some women are looking for money, and that's the security
Speaker 3: they're looking for. But I think most women, and I
Speaker 3: think most people are looking for emotional safety. And if
Speaker 3: she feels emotionally safe with him, she feels like she
Speaker 3: hit the jackpot, no matter how.
Speaker 1: Old he is and no matter how much money has.
Speaker 2: I think that's absolutely possible.
Speaker 3: It's not about money, So Lara, I get it, And
Speaker 3: that is a very easy thing to go to and
Speaker 3: it could possibly be true, but I think it could
Speaker 3: be more than that.
Speaker 1: The last one we'll give you here from someone who
Speaker 1: robes kind of has apparently walked the walk and came
Speaker 1: here to talk the talk, and I appreciate it actually
Speaker 1: as open as B Ditty is what the name is.
Speaker 1: But B Diddy wrote in with this.
Speaker 3: Yes, he said, when I was forty four, three years
Speaker 3: after my divorce, I found myself getting involved with a
Speaker 3: gorgeous nineteen year old.
Speaker 2: He says, she pursued me.
Speaker 3: She was not just willing, but seeking a physical relationship
Speaker 3: as well as romantic. Now I'm thinking I hit the lottery.
Speaker 3: This is the dream, right. This wasn't daddy issues or anything.
Speaker 3: She was smart, going to school, had a job, and
Speaker 3: by no means am I rich. So there was no
Speaker 3: gold digging going on. But when it came down to it,
Speaker 3: I couldn't do that to her. She's still two or
Speaker 3: three years from being able to go to the club,
Speaker 3: and I'm well past my bar hopping days. I don't
Speaker 3: want to deny her any opportunities. I know some people
Speaker 3: say just let her go on her own. Couples don't
Speaker 3: have to do everything together, but eventually she'll want to
Speaker 3: do stuff with her boyfriend, and I don't want her
Speaker 3: to choose me over all the experiences she should be
Speaker 3: having in her twenties. It's not an age gap, it's
Speaker 3: a life experience one. And I'm not saying it can't work,
Speaker 3: but it's so rare that it can work. I wish
Speaker 3: them luck. That is so well said. And somebody who's
Speaker 3: walked the walk, yes.
Speaker 1: Has been through it. And that's why I had to
Speaker 1: sit up and have to pay attention and have to
Speaker 1: respect what b didd he said. That was my comment
Speaker 1: at the end of our column said, if you love
Speaker 1: that girl, you might have to let that girl go. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and that's tough, but that's if this was a friend
Speaker 1: of mine fifty eight or fifty nine day to nineteen
Speaker 1: year old, that's the conversation I would have my man.
Speaker 1: Conversation about her is not about him? Hey, is she
Speaker 1: going to be there for you? Is she going to
Speaker 1: take care of you?
Speaker 3: No?
Speaker 1: No, no, be about what are you doing to her?
Speaker 1: What is her life going to look like? So I
Speaker 1: appreciated that person writing in and if all that's true,
Speaker 1: then being as open as they were about it.
Speaker 3: Yeah. And you know, we had a friend a couple
Speaker 3: that had a very large age gap, but she was
Speaker 3: in her thirties and he was in his sixties. He
Speaker 3: was older than her father, and they made it work
Speaker 3: for about five years. But eventually, exactly what b Didty
Speaker 3: is talking about happened. She decided she did want to
Speaker 3: have kids. She decided she did want to do things
Speaker 3: that he just wasn't going to be able to provide
Speaker 3: her at his age, or he wasn't willing to provide her,
Speaker 3: including kids. So those are all discussions at nineteen. Did
Speaker 3: you even know if he wanted to have kids or not?
Speaker 3: I mean I kind of said I didn't when I
Speaker 3: was nineteen, but then I changed my mind.
Speaker 1: And you got those two little angels.
Speaker 2: Now They're so perfect, aren't they.
Speaker 3: But we want to we want to thank CNR for
Speaker 3: writing in and for everyone who continues to ask us questions.
Speaker 3: That is certainly, well, that's our coffee machine going.
Speaker 1: Off, that's my coffee.
Speaker 3: Sure, and yes, and it's late in the afternoon, so
Speaker 3: I needed a little pick me up during the afternoon,
Speaker 3: So sorry about that. But no, we we do encourage
Speaker 3: people to write in because it gets us thinking. But
Speaker 3: it gets everyone thinking about what matters and what helps
Speaker 3: make relationships better, So we appreciate it. And yeah, keep
Speaker 3: on commenting too, because we're loving the comments. They certainly
Speaker 3: keep the conversation going, So thanks for listening. To this
Speaker 3: edition of Amy and TJ. We will see you soon.