WEBVTT - We Stand For DEI with Dr Shaun Harper 0:00:03.760 --> 0:00:04.480 That's how. 0:00:05.160 --> 0:00:07.960 What's the family. It's your girl to me, Kaze Mallory. 0:00:07.840 --> 0:00:08.920 It's your boy, my son. 0:00:09.000 --> 0:00:10.160 And gentlemen, we. 0:00:10.160 --> 0:00:12.879 Are your host of street politicians, the place where the 0:00:12.960 --> 0:00:15.720 streets and politics met. Are you doing my song? We 0:00:15.840 --> 0:00:18.320 got a lot to get done today. 0:00:18.920 --> 0:00:20.840 Listen, man, I'm doing Guard's work and I'm a child 0:00:20.840 --> 0:00:22.599 of God. Shout out to my boy Robbie Rod for 0:00:22.640 --> 0:00:24.760 the shirt. See that child of Gods. 0:00:25.640 --> 0:00:26.240 They glowing. 0:00:27.080 --> 0:00:31.319 We're outside, that's very very where we were. We nice. Well, 0:00:31.600 --> 0:00:35.360 I'm glad you started talking about children, because I think 0:00:35.360 --> 0:00:40.280 our first topic today is something that is It's really troubling. 0:00:40.320 --> 0:00:43.400 I wrote up my Facebook page the other day that 0:00:44.800 --> 0:00:49.480 I don't get Fenton All. I get all the drugs, 0:00:49.600 --> 0:00:53.240 you know, Some of them I did when I was younger, 0:00:53.400 --> 0:00:56.560 Some of them my friends did. We hung out people 0:00:56.560 --> 0:01:00.000 who did all types of stuff, and I get it right, 0:01:00.280 --> 0:01:03.480 even though, of course, now at this big age, I 0:01:03.560 --> 0:01:08.000 realized we probably could have died, and or people even 0:01:08.040 --> 0:01:11.800 today who are still taking like I don't know what's 0:01:11.800 --> 0:01:14.520 those drugs ecstasy, and I don't even know if they 0:01:14.600 --> 0:01:17.440 make that stuff anymore, but the Mali's and all of that. 0:01:17.680 --> 0:01:20.800 It's a pretty dangerous mixture of a bunch of different drugs. 0:01:21.000 --> 0:01:25.320 But most people made it home alive by the skin 0:01:25.400 --> 0:01:27.880 of their teeth. But they've made it home a lot 0:01:28.520 --> 0:01:32.600 pretty bad shit, right. I know many family members and 0:01:32.680 --> 0:01:37.759 friends who were on drugs as kids or younger teens 0:01:37.880 --> 0:01:41.119 or what have you, and they got themselves straightened out 0:01:41.400 --> 0:01:45.479 later on, maybe in their twenties or thirties, and now 0:01:45.600 --> 0:01:48.320 it's as if that thing, whatever it was, is not 0:01:48.400 --> 0:01:52.480 even there. And I will say it's just one thing. 0:01:53.880 --> 0:01:59.400 It is true, though, that your body does experience some 0:01:59.800 --> 0:02:04.240 shift somewhere as a result of the overuse of any 0:02:04.320 --> 0:02:08.000 kind of drug. Definitely, so people who smoke a lot 0:02:08.040 --> 0:02:13.800 of weed, that there is a mental slowdown that happens, 0:02:14.320 --> 0:02:17.799 and other issues that you learn about as time goes on. 0:02:18.360 --> 0:02:22.840 And I'm sure from my drug abuse of prescription pills, 0:02:23.080 --> 0:02:26.120 I'm sure there is something that when I'm eighty five, 0:02:26.800 --> 0:02:30.160 I will learn there was an impact. So I don't 0:02:30.160 --> 0:02:32.200 want to get into make it seem like if you 0:02:32.320 --> 0:02:34.400 used it when you was young, you good now. There 0:02:34.440 --> 0:02:38.560 are people who are dealing with issues, sometimes severe, sometimes 0:02:38.600 --> 0:02:41.400 not so severe, but they do know or they have 0:02:41.560 --> 0:02:44.640 been told at a doctor's appointment that as a result 0:02:44.680 --> 0:02:47.280 of the use of this drug, it has impacted you 0:02:47.360 --> 0:02:49.600 an X y Z way. So all of it is bad, 0:02:50.080 --> 0:02:52.880 and all of it. We need to be real careful 0:02:52.919 --> 0:02:55.560 about what you're putting in your body, especially shit that's 0:02:55.639 --> 0:02:58.239 man made from the pharmaceutical companies to the street to 0:02:58.800 --> 0:03:01.160 street corners, right. So I just want to make that 0:03:01.200 --> 0:03:05.040 as a disclaimer. But the fentanyl thing, I don't be 0:03:05.120 --> 0:03:10.600 getting because every time I turn around, the people are 0:03:10.639 --> 0:03:13.880 talking about their dying. So I post it on my page. 0:03:13.880 --> 0:03:15.880 I don't get fentanyl now. I know it is a 0:03:15.960 --> 0:03:18.400 drug that is supposed to be used for severe pain. 0:03:19.200 --> 0:03:22.400 I know that severe severe pain. And it's also something 0:03:22.400 --> 0:03:24.919 that is administered when someone is close to the end, 0:03:25.400 --> 0:03:28.400 so it's an end of life, and they say that 0:03:28.440 --> 0:03:30.720 when a doctor is giving it to you. For some 0:03:30.840 --> 0:03:34.600 people it is very necessary, right. But somehow or another, 0:03:34.720 --> 0:03:38.480 it made it into the hands of Tink Tink them, 0:03:39.280 --> 0:03:42.920 you know, oh Billy Bob, and they are putting it 0:03:43.080 --> 0:03:47.120 in all kinds of other drugs and using fentanyl, and 0:03:47.160 --> 0:03:53.200 it's killing people literally left and right, of all racial backgrounds. 0:03:54.000 --> 0:03:55.080 To me, I think it's like that. 0:03:56.280 --> 0:03:59.080 Heroin did kill people. I'm not saying it didn't, and 0:03:59.120 --> 0:04:01.800 I'm sure there are stats somewhere that talks about how 0:04:01.840 --> 0:04:05.320 it was probably one of the worst drugs. I get it. However, 0:04:06.360 --> 0:04:12.360 in twenty twenty two, fentanyl deaths out weighed heroin even 0:04:12.400 --> 0:04:17.040 with people using it at the same rate. One hundred 0:04:17.279 --> 0:04:21.480 thousand people. This is what's from the BBC. One hundred 0:04:21.680 --> 0:04:27.520 thousand people died from fentonyl use. And in the article, 0:04:28.160 --> 0:04:30.520 I was trying to understand it might just be my 0:04:30.600 --> 0:04:35.280 aded is it a small location or was it nationally? 0:04:35.720 --> 0:04:37.920 But it was they was. You know, sometimes you read 0:04:37.960 --> 0:04:40.360 these articles and they it's for super smart people because 0:04:40.360 --> 0:04:42.360 they'd be saying things and you kind of get mixed. 0:04:42.360 --> 0:04:44.240 So I couldn't figure it out, so I sent it 0:04:44.320 --> 0:04:51.440 to somebody to tell me what I'm reading, right if 0:04:51.480 --> 0:04:55.080 they but they were specifically talking about even heroin, they 0:04:55.080 --> 0:04:57.520 weren't saying heroin is good. They're saying heroin is dangerous 0:04:57.560 --> 0:05:03.280 as hell. But they're saying that it is even worse. Listen, 0:05:03.480 --> 0:05:08.240 I know that there is the stress and the desire 0:05:08.400 --> 0:05:13.000 to get higher or lower or whatever. I hear all that. 0:05:13.160 --> 0:05:18.600 I've watched documentaries, but I'm just really trying to understand 0:05:19.560 --> 0:05:23.680 if you are even a drug dealer, why would you 0:05:23.839 --> 0:05:26.719 want to sell something to kill the people that tell 0:05:26.760 --> 0:05:30.400 the dying. I think that I am. I am confused 0:05:31.560 --> 0:05:32.560 about the fentanyl. 0:05:33.040 --> 0:05:34.839 Now, I ain't gonna lie. You got they got me too, 0:05:34.920 --> 0:05:35.240 I don't. 0:05:35.760 --> 0:05:36.080 I don't. 0:05:36.200 --> 0:05:38.159 I'm just as confused with heroin all of the Like, 0:05:38.240 --> 0:05:41.400 I hear what you're saying, But to me, I never 0:05:41.440 --> 0:05:45.359 seen somebody that was on the heroin look good. It's true, 0:05:45.880 --> 0:05:48.920 you know, I never seen them look healthy. I don't 0:05:49.080 --> 0:05:51.280 know how you look at somebody that's taking heroin and 0:05:51.279 --> 0:05:52.960 be like, oh shit, yeah this is all I want you. 0:05:53.400 --> 0:05:56.039 And and fetanol. I don't even know what somebody that 0:05:56.080 --> 0:05:58.640 takes fentanyl looks like, because most of the time you 0:05:58.680 --> 0:06:01.680 hear about them, they dad. So it's like to me, 0:06:01.880 --> 0:06:05.400 it's we are. We are in a society where we 0:06:05.720 --> 0:06:10.440 it's oxymoronic. We celebrate the ship that's most dangerous to us, 0:06:10.440 --> 0:06:14.800 that's most detrimental to us, Like we've rationalized the shit 0:06:14.880 --> 0:06:17.040 that's gonna kill us. You know, I was like, Yo, 0:06:17.040 --> 0:06:19.800 why would you know I have posted son about Nicki 0:06:19.800 --> 0:06:23.479 Minaj and them, you know, and the situation, and I 0:06:23.560 --> 0:06:26.080 was talking about it and I said, why would two 0:06:26.800 --> 0:06:31.520 multi millionaire people be beefing with situations that can get 0:06:31.560 --> 0:06:34.920 you killed or go to jail. And the dude was like, yo, man, 0:06:35.600 --> 0:06:37.280 she said, he said, you don't know what he said 0:06:37.320 --> 0:06:39.640 to her, said, so you're trying to tell me that 0:06:39.680 --> 0:06:42.400 there was a word that somebody said that you said, 0:06:42.400 --> 0:06:44.080 you know what, I'm gonna throw away all of these 0:06:44.120 --> 0:06:47.440 millions of dollars and my freedom and possibly my life. 0:06:47.920 --> 0:06:50.960 And you rationalize that at a big age you're grown, 0:06:51.640 --> 0:06:55.640 not no, fifteen sixteen where you know, thirteen for where 0:06:55.760 --> 0:06:58.520 that makes sense to you, where you like that's the 0:06:58.680 --> 0:07:02.320 grown age, like grown or pushing this It's just like 0:07:02.600 --> 0:07:05.440 to myself, it's like I don't even understand. So it 0:07:05.480 --> 0:07:07.920 goes hand in hand with this situation like and in 0:07:08.000 --> 0:07:10.800 mind people's mind is like I want to do the worship. 0:07:11.120 --> 0:07:14.280 I want to put myself close to as possible. I 0:07:14.280 --> 0:07:17.440 want to I want to either die or almost feel 0:07:17.480 --> 0:07:21.560 like I'm dying right Like it's the weirdest shit that 0:07:21.600 --> 0:07:24.880 I've ever we had a time, like everybody always says, yo, 0:07:25.680 --> 0:07:27.520 I've never seen nothing like this, And my mother used 0:07:27.560 --> 0:07:30.280 to say it, but and now I get it. If 0:07:30.280 --> 0:07:33.520 we were anywhere like this generation and the shit that 0:07:33.520 --> 0:07:36.120 I see now. I realized why he was really confused, 0:07:36.400 --> 0:07:39.400 because I can't even make sense of the shit can't 0:07:39.440 --> 0:07:42.760 I can't make And I pride myself on being someone 0:07:42.800 --> 0:07:46.600 who's rational, who you know, deals with common sense. It's like, oh, 0:07:46.640 --> 0:07:48.880 I can understand why that happened, even though it might 0:07:48.960 --> 0:07:52.200 not be good to everybody. I kind of understand this 0:07:52.320 --> 0:07:55.320 shit I don't get for the life of me. 0:07:56.280 --> 0:07:58.840 Fence and all is really one of those things that 0:07:59.040 --> 0:08:03.000 has and I want to give. I want to give, 0:08:03.040 --> 0:08:06.040 and we should you know what we should interview him 0:08:06.360 --> 0:08:13.720 Stefante Clark Stefan Clark's brother. So you know, when families 0:08:13.960 --> 0:08:20.120 experience police violence or some other traumatic situation, a lot 0:08:20.120 --> 0:08:22.120 of times people think they're going to just stay on 0:08:22.240 --> 0:08:27.520 police issues. But Stefante is growing in his activism and 0:08:27.600 --> 0:08:30.880 I see him talking more. His brother was killed by police. 0:08:30.960 --> 0:08:34.240 Just for folks who don't know. His brother was going 0:08:34.320 --> 0:08:38.280 into his grandmother's house, his grandparents' house, and he jumped 0:08:38.280 --> 0:08:41.199 over a fence. This was in California. He jumped over 0:08:41.280 --> 0:08:43.600 the fence, which is probably you know, Grandma would be like, 0:08:43.640 --> 0:08:47.320 listen at night, I don't have my hearing aiden or whatever. 0:08:47.440 --> 0:08:50.320 I'm being funny about that part, but I can't hear 0:08:50.360 --> 0:08:51.959 what's going on in the front. So you want to 0:08:52.000 --> 0:08:53.720 get in, you got to jump over this gate and 0:08:53.760 --> 0:08:56.440 come to the back window. That's been going on since forever. 0:08:57.040 --> 0:09:00.839 The police saw him jumping across the gate, told him, 0:09:00.920 --> 0:09:03.320 I guess to put his hands up, which he did 0:09:03.440 --> 0:09:08.120 based upon the findings, didn't have a weapon. They shot 0:09:08.160 --> 0:09:12.240 him to death in his grandmother's yard. So Fonte, his brother, 0:09:13.120 --> 0:09:17.640 has been an activist since you know his brother's passing, 0:09:17.960 --> 0:09:20.960 of course, fighting for justice for his brother, also working 0:09:20.960 --> 0:09:24.120 with other families, showing up and being a support system 0:09:24.160 --> 0:09:27.320 for people around the country. But I noticed that as 0:09:27.360 --> 0:09:30.480 of late, he has been talking a lot about fentanyl 0:09:30.559 --> 0:09:34.200 abuse and engaging in the movement to try to reduce 0:09:34.520 --> 0:09:38.959 fentanyl usage in his community and around the country. And 0:09:39.360 --> 0:09:43.040 I thought to myself, Wow, for Stefonte to go from 0:09:43.360 --> 0:09:46.600 what we know him for to this right here, it 0:09:46.720 --> 0:09:50.840 means that he sees a serious and desperate need to 0:09:50.920 --> 0:09:53.360 get involved in this issue. And they just dropped in 0:09:53.400 --> 0:09:57.000 a station, just dropped into our chat here that fentanyl 0:09:57.160 --> 0:10:00.760 is up to fifty times stronger than hero and one 0:10:00.880 --> 0:10:04.360 hundred times stronger than morphine. So to go back to 0:10:04.400 --> 0:10:06.800 the point, I'm not saying that you don't die, because 0:10:06.800 --> 0:10:09.320 I know people was on crack. They died a lot 0:10:09.400 --> 0:10:12.199 of crackheads that or people who use crack, I don't know, 0:10:12.280 --> 0:10:14.800 we supposed to call them cracked heads. But people who 0:10:14.960 --> 0:10:20.680 use crack and they well whatever, they died. Cocaine addicted 0:10:20.720 --> 0:10:25.720 people who that hit messed them up, messed up their membranes, 0:10:25.800 --> 0:10:28.760 and they died. So we know that people who smoke 0:10:28.840 --> 0:10:31.960 weed every day something the weed doesn't go well, and 0:10:32.000 --> 0:10:35.360 they got sick and had internal issues and died. Not 0:10:35.520 --> 0:10:38.760 as many, of course, of any of those things. But 0:10:39.040 --> 0:10:45.079 still it's bad. The overusge of anything or dangerous, especially 0:10:45.160 --> 0:10:48.840 man made drugs. Anything can happen. But fenton All, they're 0:10:48.880 --> 0:10:55.199 saying it's up to fifty times stronger than heroin fifty times. 0:10:55.520 --> 0:10:56.640 I just ain't gonna give it. 0:10:57.320 --> 0:10:57.960 That's crazy. 0:10:58.559 --> 0:11:04.160 You going through severe mental health issues, even though you 0:11:04.280 --> 0:11:07.679 might not know it and you may not identify with it. 0:11:08.120 --> 0:11:11.680 But if you choose to take fenton All, which you 0:11:11.800 --> 0:11:13.520 see it on the news every day, they telling you 0:11:13.559 --> 0:11:18.800 that it could kill you quick. Some wrong you numbing 0:11:18.840 --> 0:11:22.800 something that is so deep, or you a child who 0:11:22.880 --> 0:11:28.600 is really misguided. I don't always understand or I don't 0:11:28.600 --> 0:11:30.960 always take into account. I do understand the power of 0:11:31.000 --> 0:11:35.559 my influence and my platform, but I don't always take 0:11:35.559 --> 0:11:38.400 it into accounts sometimes when I say things. So I 0:11:38.480 --> 0:11:41.120 wrote a post because it was in my heart. And 0:11:41.360 --> 0:11:44.680 the post that I wrote was about Krishan Brock, And 0:11:44.760 --> 0:11:48.880 the reason why I wrote it publicly was because when 0:11:48.880 --> 0:11:51.120 I'm in my rabbit hole at two and three o'clock 0:11:51.160 --> 0:11:53.200 in the morning, when I can't sleep, or one o'clock 0:11:53.240 --> 0:11:56.360 in the morning, I will go to certain posts, certain 0:11:56.400 --> 0:11:58.839 places and just kind of try to get a feel 0:11:58.920 --> 0:12:00.960 for what's going on in the cold because all day 0:12:01.000 --> 0:12:06.120 long there's like no way to monitor comments and thoughts 0:12:06.160 --> 0:12:09.560 and look at the feed of every blog. I don't 0:12:09.600 --> 0:12:11.600 have that type of time, So I usually do that 0:12:11.640 --> 0:12:16.040 when I'm narrowing the day down, and I kept seeing 0:12:16.360 --> 0:12:21.240 like I cannot get Blue Face and Krashan Rock off 0:12:21.280 --> 0:12:26.320 of my timeline. So no matter if I wanted to 0:12:26.480 --> 0:12:30.440 ignore it or not, it is ever present in your 0:12:30.480 --> 0:12:34.760 face all day long, even in this day that we 0:12:34.840 --> 0:12:39.160 sit here now, from the morning until now at one 0:12:39.360 --> 0:12:42.760 forty eight, there have been at least five to six 0:12:42.920 --> 0:12:46.920 posts about them, okay, different things. What he said was 0:12:47.040 --> 0:12:49.880 she said with this, that and the third the doctor's appointment, 0:12:49.920 --> 0:12:51.800 the blah blah blah blah blah, all the stuff that's 0:12:51.880 --> 0:12:56.120 going on. And I saw it and said to myself, 0:12:56.840 --> 0:13:02.120 this is like really serious because that that baby does something. 0:13:02.120 --> 0:13:05.320 It shifts people, you know what I'm saying. When it 0:13:05.400 --> 0:13:07.640 was just the two of them, I prayed for them, 0:13:07.640 --> 0:13:10.240 God bless you and moved on. I said, I know 0:13:10.320 --> 0:13:12.400 this is crazy, and we talked about it before. I'm like, 0:13:12.440 --> 0:13:15.360 what is zeus and who owns it? And what is 0:13:15.400 --> 0:13:18.720 going on? This is craziness, But I've moved on because 0:13:18.920 --> 0:13:21.800 there's an appetite for it and nothing. All that comes 0:13:21.800 --> 0:13:25.199 of me saying that you know it's bad or it's 0:13:25.240 --> 0:13:28.000 wrong or whatever is a bunch of people getting frustrated 0:13:28.040 --> 0:13:30.320 and telling me to mind my business. And you don't 0:13:30.440 --> 0:13:32.199 this and you would hate blah blah blah. So I 0:13:32.200 --> 0:13:34.400 don't have time to fight that fight. I gotta stop 0:13:34.440 --> 0:13:36.959 a man from becoming governor and to tell me we 0:13:37.040 --> 0:13:40.640 have to do that. So when I saw this situation 0:13:40.840 --> 0:13:44.640 with the baby, it made me feel something. And at 0:13:44.679 --> 0:13:49.120 first I felt the immediate like, what the fuck? You 0:13:49.160 --> 0:13:53.400 know that? Which is judgment is judgment? And then what 0:13:53.520 --> 0:13:56.640 I always try to do is sit with myself for 0:13:56.720 --> 0:14:00.280 a moment, especially when I'm thinking about younger people. And 0:14:00.320 --> 0:14:02.400 I got this somewhat from you when you said you 0:14:02.480 --> 0:14:04.520 always try to think of what does the young you 0:14:04.600 --> 0:14:06.480 want to hear or what would you have listened to? 0:14:07.000 --> 0:14:11.319 So I kind of slowed down and sat with damn, 0:14:12.080 --> 0:14:16.400 remember this, remember that remembering stories when I was young, 0:14:16.640 --> 0:14:19.400 young with my baby, I might not have been as 0:14:19.480 --> 0:14:22.720 far to the left as what you see with the 0:14:22.760 --> 0:14:27.000 two of them. But also everything looked magnified and worse. 0:14:27.040 --> 0:14:29.520 When it's on social media or in front of a screen, 0:14:29.600 --> 0:14:34.120 every day looks worse. So my same shit, the basements 0:14:34.120 --> 0:14:37.240 that I lived in, the craziness, the fighting with my 0:14:37.320 --> 0:14:40.560 baby father, all of the drama that I went through, 0:14:40.640 --> 0:14:44.120 if it was on TV or on social media, it 0:14:44.160 --> 0:14:48.280 would have looked very similar. The screaming, the yelling, the fighting, 0:14:48.360 --> 0:14:51.680 the carrying on with my son being there with us 0:14:51.760 --> 0:14:55.240 at times, it would have looked similar. And when I 0:14:55.320 --> 0:14:58.480 checked myself in that way, I begin to write. I 0:14:58.520 --> 0:15:01.040 spoke to Yande about it first. She was like, girls 0:15:01.040 --> 0:15:03.600 been on my mind too, blah blah blah, and then 0:15:03.720 --> 0:15:05.760 I begin to write and so I posted it and 0:15:05.800 --> 0:15:07.800 then it ended up on this blog and that blog, 0:15:07.880 --> 0:15:10.720 in this place and that place. And I appreciate all 0:15:10.760 --> 0:15:14.520 of that support because most of the blogs wrote that, 0:15:14.840 --> 0:15:18.560 you know, Tamika Mallory, you know, they said positive things 0:15:18.600 --> 0:15:22.160 about it, and then the comments section is overwhelmingly folks 0:15:22.200 --> 0:15:25.160 who are in there that have been very very you know, 0:15:25.840 --> 0:15:28.600 moved by the gesture to say that we will help 0:15:28.960 --> 0:15:31.560 in some way. And it's not financial help, but it's 0:15:31.640 --> 0:15:33.960 looking at how can we pair her with the right 0:15:34.000 --> 0:15:37.400 black duelas that can work with her, that can help 0:15:37.440 --> 0:15:42.680 her to manage the postpartum and motherhood and learn some 0:15:42.720 --> 0:15:44.960 of the things that she may not be able to 0:15:45.040 --> 0:15:49.520 get from, you know, her, from her upbringing or her 0:15:49.560 --> 0:15:52.600 family or her community or whatever it is. She may 0:15:52.920 --> 0:15:58.080 never ever, ever Krashwan say that she wants to talk 0:15:58.120 --> 0:16:01.880 to us, and that's okay. Sometimes just knowing that people 0:16:01.960 --> 0:16:04.920 are watching and they're telling you that they care, or 0:16:04.960 --> 0:16:07.440 that they are that they will help you, that they 0:16:07.480 --> 0:16:10.040 will try to provide you with some type of support, 0:16:10.240 --> 0:16:13.480 it's enough to make you be like, damn, how do. 0:16:13.600 --> 0:16:15.240 I Look, you. 0:16:15.200 --> 0:16:19.000 Know that these people feel the need. And we're not 0:16:19.120 --> 0:16:22.800 talking about just you. You know all these people in 0:16:22.840 --> 0:16:25.520 the comment section like, oh, she said, y'all's broken this 0:16:25.560 --> 0:16:29.280 and that. Yeah, that's because it's toxic people all having 0:16:29.320 --> 0:16:32.720 a conversation at one time. You telling us she ain't shit, 0:16:32.960 --> 0:16:35.360 and she's telling you you broken so and so and 0:16:35.400 --> 0:16:38.600 saying whatever dirty things that she can say to deflect 0:16:38.640 --> 0:16:41.760 from what she feels. It's a total different thing when 0:16:41.760 --> 0:16:43.680 you and you know what I know because the first 0:16:43.680 --> 0:16:48.040 place she took her baby was church days later. That 0:16:48.240 --> 0:16:53.880 means that somewhere inside is a young girl who is 0:16:53.960 --> 0:16:58.240 really crying out for help, who really knows that I'm 0:16:58.280 --> 0:17:02.080 so far to this side, but I really need somebody 0:17:02.080 --> 0:17:05.560 to help me with this baby and help me with me, 0:17:06.000 --> 0:17:06.760 help me with me. 0:17:07.200 --> 0:17:07.360 Now. 0:17:07.400 --> 0:17:10.439 I also understand, and I'm done with it. But I 0:17:10.480 --> 0:17:13.920 also understand that there are people who will say all 0:17:13.960 --> 0:17:16.520 she really wants is her man to act right. And 0:17:16.200 --> 0:17:20.880 I've been there, I've been through that. I've been through that. 0:17:21.280 --> 0:17:24.600 You just want the man that you want to be 0:17:24.760 --> 0:17:28.960 with or feel is you know your savior all or 0:17:29.080 --> 0:17:32.800 this or the healing to your soft and painful spots 0:17:32.840 --> 0:17:35.920 to come. It's like a drug. It's almost like fentonol. 0:17:36.119 --> 0:17:39.160 That's what you want is for you think that that's 0:17:39.240 --> 0:17:42.479 going to heal the problem. But it took strong women 0:17:42.840 --> 0:17:45.680 to be around me. And I mean strong women. I'm 0:17:45.680 --> 0:17:49.040 not talking about some chicks I know, or just because 0:17:49.080 --> 0:17:55.000 it's a family member, it makes that person qualified. Family 0:17:55.040 --> 0:17:59.040 member don't necessarily make you qualified to help somebody through 0:17:59.080 --> 0:18:01.879 their challenges when you suffer room with your own, but 0:18:01.960 --> 0:18:05.480 when you surround yourself with strong women and men who 0:18:05.520 --> 0:18:09.239 can help you see other perspectives without judging you in 0:18:09.600 --> 0:18:13.080 or going back to the world and blasting your most 0:18:13.160 --> 0:18:17.800 vulnerable spaces and places and exploiting you. Because, by the way, 0:18:18.280 --> 0:18:21.040 many of the people who she works with and talks 0:18:21.119 --> 0:18:26.520 to are exploiting her pain and her baby father's plane 0:18:26.640 --> 0:18:30.159 for their own purposes, regardless of whether she puts it 0:18:30.200 --> 0:18:34.520 on social media. So I'm very passionate about it. I 0:18:34.560 --> 0:18:37.520 don't expect I have no expectations, and I don't have 0:18:37.600 --> 0:18:41.160 to because I have the world is going on that this, 0:18:41.720 --> 0:18:44.440 you know, young woman will hopefully, and I believe that 0:18:44.440 --> 0:18:47.159 she will. I have to believe that, like we have 0:18:47.320 --> 0:18:51.520 to live in a society where we believe that there 0:18:51.640 --> 0:18:54.959 is healing, even for Kashan, even for a person who 0:18:55.080 --> 0:18:58.480 might not even know, understand or feel they need support. 0:18:58.920 --> 0:19:01.119 I have to live in that world, and there are 0:19:01.200 --> 0:19:06.080 people who many of them, and I don't even think 0:19:06.080 --> 0:19:11.199 they're wrong. Their quick immediate response is you want to 0:19:11.240 --> 0:19:16.480 help this chick instead of because she's a celebrity, instead 0:19:16.520 --> 0:19:20.440 of all these other people that need help. And let 0:19:20.440 --> 0:19:23.880 me tell you why that's important to me or why 0:19:24.280 --> 0:19:27.600 I understand the question. And I have a very specific answer. 0:19:27.640 --> 0:19:30.159 I already told people about all the work that I 0:19:30.200 --> 0:19:32.560 do with folks you ain't never seen or heard of, 0:19:33.040 --> 0:19:36.400 and the support of our village around young people who 0:19:36.440 --> 0:19:40.520 are having issues, challenges, young mothers, so on and so forth. 0:19:41.160 --> 0:19:43.680 If I wanted to, I could call the roles. Some 0:19:43.720 --> 0:19:47.400 of them don't want that. Others who may want, who 0:19:47.440 --> 0:19:49.800 do want because they say it all the time. But 0:19:49.880 --> 0:19:53.600 because Kashan is a celebrity, she the reason why I 0:19:53.640 --> 0:19:58.040 was posted. It wasn't about me. It's not like people 0:19:58.160 --> 0:20:01.280 are constantly posting on all of these blogs and in 0:20:01.359 --> 0:20:04.800 other places everything we do. They post some things for me, 0:20:05.160 --> 0:20:08.080 they don't necessarily they don't post the things that you 0:20:08.320 --> 0:20:11.400 talk about often enough, and we know that and we've 0:20:11.480 --> 0:20:14.680 challenged that. But they do post some of my work, 0:20:14.840 --> 0:20:18.119 they post my comments or things that I've said at times, 0:20:18.560 --> 0:20:22.320 but there are not many opportunities because number one, the 0:20:22.400 --> 0:20:26.880 comments section or even the response from the people, if 0:20:26.880 --> 0:20:30.680 you will, is not even the same. So most of 0:20:30.720 --> 0:20:33.800 the sites, the blog sites or whatever, they are posting 0:20:33.880 --> 0:20:37.040 things where they know there's going to be interaction, and 0:20:37.080 --> 0:20:40.479 if they're just putting up that Tamika Mallory is working 0:20:40.480 --> 0:20:43.560 with college students and helping them, more than likely, even 0:20:43.600 --> 0:20:46.600 the same people who are challenging why I don't help 0:20:46.680 --> 0:20:50.320 young women, which I do, or young mothers other mothers 0:20:50.320 --> 0:20:52.720 that are not celebrities, you ain't got nothing to say. 0:20:52.920 --> 0:20:56.240 You ain't in a comment section celebrating that sharing it, 0:20:56.359 --> 0:20:59.399 giving comments. That's not the case. We don't engage in 0:20:59.400 --> 0:21:02.320 that kind of stuff. So the reason why it's getting 0:21:02.359 --> 0:21:05.159 the attention that it's getting is because of who she 0:21:05.440 --> 0:21:08.359 is and the fact that you all are already tapped 0:21:08.359 --> 0:21:11.040 into her. But let me say this last thing and 0:21:11.119 --> 0:21:15.240 I'm done with it. One thing I know about life 0:21:15.480 --> 0:21:20.200 right and capacity, is that we don't always have the 0:21:20.240 --> 0:21:23.479 type of capacity that we want to do everything we 0:21:23.520 --> 0:21:27.560 want to do, and it's often frustrating. But Krashan's healing 0:21:27.920 --> 0:21:33.640 has the potential to heal millions. So if she can, 0:21:34.440 --> 0:21:39.200 she becomes an example. Sometimes we're not able to work 0:21:39.240 --> 0:21:44.160 on seventy eighty one hundred thousand people because we don't 0:21:44.160 --> 0:21:47.000 have the capacity to do so. But if you can 0:21:47.080 --> 0:21:51.200 work on one individual that appears to be at her 0:21:51.280 --> 0:21:53.840 bottom or at her lowest moment, which I don't even 0:21:53.880 --> 0:21:57.560 believe that that's true, because there's always under, there's always 0:21:57.720 --> 0:22:02.359 lower until you are under the gun, literally, And I 0:22:02.440 --> 0:22:05.399 believe that she can find healing, whether it's about me 0:22:05.560 --> 0:22:08.320 or not, just in her own ways, it has the 0:22:08.400 --> 0:22:12.200 potential to spread to millions of young women and men 0:22:12.359 --> 0:22:15.840 everywhere and show them that there is a path for redemption. 0:22:16.200 --> 0:22:19.640 Even though you might be in the worst situations, the 0:22:19.680 --> 0:22:24.120 worst toxic relationships, you might be most toxic to yourself, 0:22:24.440 --> 0:22:27.560 there is a path for grace and for there to 0:22:27.600 --> 0:22:30.400 be redemption for you. So that's all I have to say. 0:22:30.400 --> 0:22:32.800 I know it's a lot, but I think people need 0:22:32.840 --> 0:22:35.320 to know that, No, you know, I'm not going to 0:22:35.440 --> 0:22:37.760 let you make me feel like I shouldn't do or 0:22:38.160 --> 0:22:41.400 or somebody else is more worthy. I think all of us, 0:22:41.560 --> 0:22:44.880 even Krashan, is worthy of love and support. 0:22:46.080 --> 0:22:48.040 Ain't really much for me to say after you said that, 0:22:48.040 --> 0:22:50.159 That's pretty much what it is, man. I think we 0:22:50.200 --> 0:22:52.720 all deserve grace. I think a lot of us, you know, 0:22:52.800 --> 0:22:55.280 we look from a hierarchy, like you said, we look 0:22:55.320 --> 0:22:57.720 from where we are instead of where we've been. And 0:22:57.760 --> 0:23:00.680 when you when you start to judge somebody from your 0:23:00.680 --> 0:23:04.880 evolved self, then you're given you're given a poor judgment 0:23:05.000 --> 0:23:07.199 because you're not even thinking about the reality of what 0:23:07.320 --> 0:23:10.520 that individual is probably dealing with, especially if you actually 0:23:10.520 --> 0:23:12.280 had to deal with that. A lot of us come 0:23:12.280 --> 0:23:15.320