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Speaker 1: All right, Steve. This is from Marva on Reddit. Marva says,

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Speaker 1: at the very beginning of our relationship, before things were serious,

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Speaker 1: I cheated on my boyfriend with my ex. We've been

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Speaker 1: together for five years and now we're talking about getting married,

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Speaker 1: but I still carry the guilt like it happened yesterday.

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Speaker 1: He has no idea, and part of me wants to

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Speaker 1: come clean before we take that next step, but I'm

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Speaker 1: terrified it'll destroy everything. Is honesty still the right thing?

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Speaker 1: This far down the line? Is it selfish of me

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Speaker 1: to want to clear my conscience at the cost of

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Speaker 1: our relationship?

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Speaker 2: Who are you? Asked? She asking me, Yeah, go ahead,

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Speaker 2: she does give me the quote she said.

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Speaker 1: It is honesty still the right thing this far the line.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, little girl, tell me the line she said again

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Speaker 2: about clearing my conscience because I want.

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Speaker 1: To help he Is it selfish of me to want

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Speaker 1: to clear my conscience at the cost of our relationship? No, listen,

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Speaker 1: he wants to get it off her.

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Speaker 2: Listen to me. Clear your conscience with God.

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Speaker 1: Thank you.

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Speaker 2: Go to God. God has grace. All of us make mistakes.

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Speaker 2: If you make a mistake, and God don't bust you

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Speaker 2: on that mistake. That's because He's given you an opportunity

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Speaker 2: to learn something. Ask God forgiveness and move on. Don't

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Speaker 2: take this in here to this man. He not gonna

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Speaker 2: marry you. Do not take this in here to this man.

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Speaker 2: He not gonna marry you. And stop all this guilt stuff,

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Speaker 2: y'all trip it. Take this to God. Tell God listen

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Speaker 2: to me. All of us have done something and gotten

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Speaker 2: away with it. To the person, we did it too,

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Speaker 2: but you paid in another way. See it is. It

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Speaker 2: don't always work tit for tat. That ain't how it work.

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Speaker 2: But you gonna pay. There's a price for doing wrong.

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Speaker 2: But it's not always tit for tat. It's just like blessings.

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Speaker 2: Blessings come in a different form. You may help somebody.

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Speaker 2: You may stop on the side of the road help

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Speaker 2: or help a lady with her call. But the blessing

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Speaker 2: you get may not be somebody stopping on the side

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Speaker 2: the road helping you with your car. Maybe your car

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Speaker 2: don't break down. Maybe the blessing comes in form off

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Speaker 2: you get a break with your health, something like that.

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Speaker 2: That's how it works. Ask God for forgiveness, Tell God

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Speaker 2: to work it out, and work it out with him

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Speaker 2: and then don't do it again. You made the mistake,

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Speaker 2: and tell your conscience to shut up. If you're real

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Speaker 2: your conscious talking, don't even let my Hey, they got

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Speaker 2: nothing to do with you. Yeah for real?

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Speaker 1: Yeah you know you're real that that guilt thing. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you're right, we'll not married.

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Speaker 2: He not gonna marry you, lady. Keep your mouth closed.

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Speaker 2: Take that to your grave. You learned a lesson. It's

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Speaker 2: called grace. God didn't let you get busted. That's called grace.

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Speaker 2: Take that, take advantage of.

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Speaker 1: Them, and give yourself some grace.

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Speaker 2: Everybody make mistakes. I bet your boyfriend had done something

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Speaker 2: you don't know nothing about.

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Speaker 1: Oh you go right there, that's hard. That's it, right,

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Speaker 1: We have time for another one, Steve. This is from

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Speaker 1: Tierra on Steve Harvey FM. She says, most of my

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Speaker 1: friends are guys, and while I'm genuinely, while I genuinely

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Speaker 1: enjoyed your company, it's become painfully obvious that nearly all

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Speaker 1: of them are hoping for more. I've tried setting boundaries,

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Speaker 1: but the flirting never really stops. And honestly, some times

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Speaker 1: I like the attention, even though I don't want anything

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Speaker 1: to happen. Would I still what they still stick around

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Speaker 1: if I told them the door is closed for good?

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Speaker 1: Or have I been lying to myself about what these

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Speaker 1: friendships really are? What?

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Speaker 2: What did you think about us that make us really

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Speaker 2: want to be your friend? Why you gotta be kidding me. Stop,

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Speaker 2: I'm not answering this question.

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Speaker 1: No mode, no Steve. Everybody has heard the way you feel.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, help her, she knowed, I answer.

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Speaker 1: Okay, you're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show