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Speaker 1: Signed for a second date update. We're talking about when

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Speaker 1: you think you're dating someone but they don't because you

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Speaker 1: haven't had the conversation yet. Painful. You don't want to

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Speaker 1: live in that gray area long. If you sense it,

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Speaker 1: try and get out of it. You're in control of that. No,

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Speaker 1: but you can be that gray area for months. Why

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Speaker 1: you can just address it? Why can't like if you're

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Speaker 1: of course, we don't do anything that we say, just

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Speaker 1: talk about it. Laura, good morning, Thank you for coming

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Speaker 1: on with us. So you met this guy, you went

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Speaker 1: out several times. It looks like and you thought you

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Speaker 1: were dating. You thought he was your boyfriend, and now

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Speaker 1: he's disappeared, like not responding. Yeah, like not at all.

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Speaker 1: I mean we hung out five times, like slept at

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Speaker 1: each other's houses, and we were talking. You know when

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Speaker 1: you're you first start to date, you're talking consistently, and

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Speaker 1: he has not returned to tech. So I need a

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Speaker 1: little math. Five times and how many days between each

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Speaker 1: time on average? So the first two weeks it was

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Speaker 1: like two dates, like a day to week. Then it

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Speaker 1: was the next week we I think the next two

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Speaker 1: weeks we had like three dates. So we kept seeing

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Speaker 1: each other more and the dates lasted longer, and like

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Speaker 1: I thought we were really, like really in a relationship

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Speaker 1: and dating. So I'm just kind of confused. Like the

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Speaker 1: last date that we had, we went to this beautiful

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Speaker 1: dinner on a rooftop, and like I, I assumed we'd

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Speaker 1: go back to one like his play through mine because

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Speaker 1: that's what we had done. But he said he wasn't

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Speaker 1: feeling great and ended it early, and that that made

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Speaker 1: me feel like it was a bad sign, to be honest,

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Speaker 1: So how come you haven't said to him, Hey, where

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Speaker 1: are we in your mind? What's our status? I never

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Speaker 1: really thought I had to because we had it had

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Speaker 1: been so consistent, but I mean now moving forward, yeah,

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Speaker 1: because otherwise you're in this situation like to have clarity

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Speaker 1: and to avoid uncertainty, I think you have to forget

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Speaker 1: about what we think. We're gonna call him and find

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Speaker 1: out what he thinks, all right, So Hank tight. So

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Speaker 1: Laura goes out with Chase five times and she thinks

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Speaker 1: they're in a relationship. She didn't ask or she didn't

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Speaker 1: discuss it with him, so they're in a gray area.

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Speaker 1: But five times she's like, we're in a relationship, and

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Speaker 1: then he disappeared. Well the last day, it was a

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Speaker 1: little funky, she said to It ended early and she

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Speaker 1: felt weird after that. So, Laura, we're gonna we have

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Speaker 1: actually him on the line. Let me see if I

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Speaker 1: can find out some stuff. Be very quiet, why I

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Speaker 1: talked to Chase? Okay, okay, hey Chase, how are you man?

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Speaker 1: Thanks for coming on? Kiss up? Fam? How you doing?

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Speaker 1: Hey guys, good morning, good morning. We're doing well. We're

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Speaker 1: just gonna jump into it. Um, we know that you've

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Speaker 1: been hanging out with the girl name Laura. Yeah. So wait,

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Speaker 1: you guys are calling me on the radio and asking

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Speaker 1: me about our date. Yeah, this usually goes better if

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Speaker 1: I asked questions because it won't make a lot of

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Speaker 1: sense to you. But just go with me on this, Chase.

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Speaker 1: So you met Laura, right, and you guys went out

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Speaker 1: and you did it? Or are you dating? Yeah? So

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Speaker 1: we went out about five times. Um, we spent some

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Speaker 1: a few nights together, actually went out of a whole bunch. Um.

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Speaker 1: We kind of entered the same music that we kind

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Speaker 1: of we met on this um this app called taste

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Speaker 1: Buds and basically, you know, we kind of signed each

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Speaker 1: other's interest in music and so that's kind of how

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Speaker 1: we kind of connect it at first. Um, she hung

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Speaker 1: spent the night. It was good. I felt pretty good

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Speaker 1: about it. Um. And then you know, just kind of

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Speaker 1: and and after that, which was fine, but I just

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Speaker 1: I don't know, I just for me, it just wasn't

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Speaker 1: working anymore. You know, it really wasn't into me. She

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Speaker 1: wasn't into you. What do you mean you know? So yeah, Okay,

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Speaker 1: so she I got I get this impression because she

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Speaker 1: a long term relationship, which is fine, and she mentioned

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Speaker 1: that early on. But look, the deal is, I'm a

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Speaker 1: official on the second date. That's just kind of quick.

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Speaker 1: But and then I realized, Okay, hang on, he's actually

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Speaker 1: think he's using you to show him that she's in

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Speaker 1: Really alright? So that turn so that was what made

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Speaker 1: you think this is not happening? Right? Yeah? Got you?

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Speaker 1: All right, Chase? If you didn't think that was going on,

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Speaker 1: would you want to date Laura? Could you see her

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Speaker 1: as your girlfriend? Uh? You know what? Yeah? I probably would.

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Speaker 1: I would want to go out a couple more times,

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Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. But like if we can

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Speaker 1: get past that, like like the show off, the type fives,

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Speaker 1: with the with the social media, I think that it

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Speaker 1: into my look get it. Okay? Well all right, Chase,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna hold you. There are going to bring in Laura.

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Speaker 1: She's actually listening to this conversation. So, Laura, so many questions. Um,

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Speaker 1: is that true? Are you using Chase to get back

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Speaker 1: at your ex? No, I'm that is not true. I

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Speaker 1: really liked you, Like I admit that, Like I did

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Speaker 1: imagine him, like seeing the pictures and yeah that made

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Speaker 1: me happy because like I'm with someone so much better

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Speaker 1: and he was. It's but it's not because I don't

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Speaker 1: like you. It's because I actually do really like you. So, um, Laura,

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Speaker 1: are you as attracted to Chase as Chase is to himself.

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Speaker 1: Chase is very good looking guy, so I heard definitely

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Speaker 1: attracted to him. I wouldn't have continue to go out

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Speaker 1: Uh So, now, Chase and Laura, do you want to

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Speaker 1: this and having had this conversation and sort of see

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Speaker 1: where it goes? Because look, Chase, Laura thought you guys

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Speaker 1: Do you want to start fresh and see where this goes? You? Guys?

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Speaker 1: I mean, I'm not definitely interested. But Laura, quick question,

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Speaker 1: So you admit to posting those pictures debate your recks

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Speaker 1: like you just came clean? Is that true? I mean no,

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Speaker 1: but not like totally yes in the sense that like

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Speaker 1: if you saw them and was jealous, hey, that's great,

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Speaker 1: but like I felt the same way about like all

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Speaker 1: my friends seeing you, you know, like, isn't that the

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Speaker 1: what you said, but that sounds like a reaction. Um,

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Speaker 1: all right, do you too want to go out again? Chase? Laura,

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Speaker 1: let's make a decision honestly, No, you know what I mean.

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Speaker 1: Just seems super superficial and that's coming from me, so

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Speaker 1: that means something. Um, I'm not interested in doing this again. No. Wow,

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Speaker 1: All right, well Laura, I'm glad we now know, and

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Speaker 1: good luck to both of you. Thank you for reaching out.

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Speaker 1: I'm look, first of all, we're gonna get to him

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Speaker 1: in a second. She does have a point. After breaking up,

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Speaker 1: you are thrilled to show your self back out there.

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Speaker 1: A little rushed, yeah, but like, come on, I mean

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Speaker 1: we all know, Tanya, you posted things up there to

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Speaker 1: get people, give them a rub, you know what I mean,

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Speaker 1: like make them feel certain way after certain things. We've

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Speaker 1: all done it. You've done it? Are you alive? No?

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Speaker 1: I've never heard the term give him a rug. I mean, like, um,

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Speaker 1: it's a week angry. No, you're the one that was

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Speaker 1: using the right. No, it's totally correct. Yeah, yeah, you

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Speaker 1: can rub at so many different definitions, right, the wrong. Okay, yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 1: I used to pretend like I was dating somebody, but

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Speaker 1: friends the right. Yeah yeah, all right, now let's get

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Speaker 1: to him. He made me so happy too, because at

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Speaker 1: first of all, oh, he okay, I'm picturing him as

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Speaker 1: a good looking guy. But he made me so happy

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Speaker 1: to hear him say he's a good looking guy, because

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Speaker 1: he became such an un good looking guy by saying

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Speaker 1: he's a good looking guy that I felt no threat.

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Speaker 1: You know, I was instantly unattractive. I was like instantly

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Speaker 1: he told me that, so he's not attracted. I can't say.

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Speaker 1: I think I wrote it down. I'm a really good

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Speaker 1: I'm a really good looking model. But anybody who's really

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Speaker 1: worked out. She'll find someone better. The second updates wind

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