Speaker 1: So I did whatever I had to do, and most
Speaker 1: of the time those things weren't great things. I wasn't
Speaker 1: a good person, you know. Most of the time. I'm
Speaker 1: embarrassed the way I used to be because a fish
Speaker 1: don't seawater.
Speaker 2: I didn't know no better.
Speaker 1: But I've forgiven myself and freed myself from that because
Speaker 1: I just did what I had to do. In the
Speaker 1: jungle early in the morning, there's a deer running from
Speaker 1: a lion. Deer is saying, please God, Donna let them
Speaker 1: eat me. The lion is saying, please God, let me
Speaker 1: feed my family. Different prayer, saying God. So when I
Speaker 1: was in that situation, I was a lion and I
Speaker 1: just wanted to feed my family.
Speaker 3: Welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices. I'm Erica and
Speaker 3: I'm Jamila. Oh okay, yeah she's an author now, bitch,
Speaker 3: she said, Jamila, it's my full name. Wow, Hi Jamila. Hi,
Speaker 3: I'm wonderful. I think you met me as Jamila. I did,
Speaker 3: and then you said Mela on the podcast in our
Speaker 3: first episode, and I was fucking confused. I feel like
Speaker 3: it's a good time to reinvent myself. And then also
Speaker 3: some of your friends called you Jamila, you know, living
Speaker 3: in a white space.
Speaker 4: I've been Jamilla for many, many years from teachers and peers.
Speaker 3: But my name is Jamila, hence Mila Jamila a soda map.
Speaker 4: Wow, I'm just going to give my government to the people.
Speaker 4: Great jam I was named after a black panther a
Speaker 4: soda so yeah, a powerful name. And Jamila means she
Speaker 4: who struggles.
Speaker 3: Oh damn yeah, I don't know why.
Speaker 4: Know, Jamila means beautiful in Arabic asada means she who struggles.
Speaker 4: But I was named after a black panther who who
Speaker 4: escaped prison, gave birth in prison, and then escaped and
Speaker 4: lived somewhere in Cuba.
Speaker 3: So it's pretty bad. The beautiful one who struggles, Yeah,
Speaker 3: and rises to the motherfucking occasion. That's sad that because
Speaker 3: she takes the map, she finds her way always, always,
Speaker 3: no matter what. Even I feel like I've graduated out
Speaker 3: of the struggle. That's why I dropped the jab. Apparently,
Speaker 3: Erica is a Scandinavian name and it means a leader Scandinavian.
Speaker 4: I know the people you love. I love them so much,
Speaker 4: you love and I speak to you in Russian. They're
Speaker 4: not Scandina. I feel like Russian Scandinavian.
Speaker 3: Jamila tries to like when I don't know. It always
Speaker 3: comes out at weird times when she's like this, the
Speaker 3: dude that, and I'm like, but shut the fuck up,
Speaker 3: Like I don't talk to me in Russian.
Speaker 4: Everybody else understands. Lena understands because she lives in her home.
Speaker 4: There's only certain words I say in other languages. I
Speaker 4: say see a lot, and I sayd to that.
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 4: I have a lot of weird I think I'm suggered
Speaker 4: because I went to Russian ones and I had a
Speaker 4: very racist experience multiple times. I'm not surprised when you,
Speaker 4: as a beautiful black woman, are speaking to me in Russian.
Speaker 3: I'm like why, God.
Speaker 4: I grew up with a lot of different friends, and
Speaker 4: one of which is very Russian. In her household, there's
Speaker 4: certain words that I heard often that are Russian. So
Speaker 4: I and I also say close to the light, I
Speaker 4: say like foreign things.
Speaker 3: Sometimes I don't know why it slowsed the light like
Speaker 3: turn it off?
Speaker 4: Yeah, oh interesting, I don't know, it's strange. Okay, Well, hi, Hi,
Speaker 4: how are you. I'm good, I'm happy, I'm tan, you are.
Speaker 3: Tan, I'm a little tan too.
Speaker 4: Some night seen this golden sun case, I would flash
Speaker 4: a titty, But it's gorgeous.
Speaker 3: You look beautiful. We are fresh off of trips, so
Speaker 3: I'm trying to maintain my tan. Last night I went
Speaker 3: in or yesterday morning, I woke up and went and
Speaker 3: laid out in my backyard to make sure that I
Speaker 3: am maintaining this tan because I refuse to go back.
Speaker 3: I realized that I'm much more beautiful tan. I also
Speaker 3: look skinnier tan. I looked at myself naked in the
Speaker 3: mirror this morning, I was like, bitch, what the fuck?
Speaker 3: You fine as hell? And I was like, nothing changed
Speaker 3: between last week and this week. You didn't lose or
Speaker 3: gay in any more weight. You just got tan.
Speaker 4: Well, don't worry, We're about to be tan all summer
Speaker 4: because we are going to be in the sun all
Speaker 4: summer treating.
Speaker 3: I have our retreat.
Speaker 4: I have a tancher retreat of being doing a lot
Speaker 4: in Mexico.
Speaker 3: I'll be you know what, when I come back.
Speaker 4: I'll say, I'll say uh, I'll say what am I
Speaker 4: trying to say?
Speaker 3: Oh no, thank god? I was like, hopefully nothing. We're
Speaker 3: fucking Russian. I'll be Spanish when we come back. Speaking
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Speaker 4: that brings me to our guest talking about being skinny
Speaker 4: and looking beautiful. As you know, it is fine Zaddy June.
Speaker 4: Not to be confused with fine Daddy June. It's fine,
Speaker 4: Saddy June.
Speaker 3: Saddy. I don't know if that's a thing anymore, but
Speaker 3: clearly it is so just for us. I feel like,
Speaker 3: if you're a thirties you still say, Zaddy, I don't
Speaker 3: know what the I don't know what the new generation
Speaker 3: X is up there cold or saying I don't I
Speaker 3: got to ask Toy.
Speaker 4: I was hanging out with Toy, our my twenty five
Speaker 4: year old friend, our tribe member. She came to the
Speaker 4: office and hung out with me and Luna, and she
Speaker 4: was saying all types of cool words and I was like, God,
Speaker 4: I love having a young friend. Tell me more, what
Speaker 4: does that mean?
Speaker 3: Well, today we have a friend of mine. I've been
Speaker 3: wanting him come on the show since the since, like
Speaker 3: the since we met and he found out we had
Speaker 3: a podcast. He was like, I should be on your show.
Speaker 3: And I was like, the more I got to know him,
Speaker 3: I was like, you know what you do need to
Speaker 3: be on the show. You be dropping gems all day long.
Speaker 3: Six pack City, the actor, the celebrity trainer, the man
Speaker 3: of Edie wise phrases, epic wise phrases, a father himself actor,
Speaker 3: that's the actor. Yeah, he's just a man of He's
Speaker 3: like a man of mystery. And I'm just so happy
Speaker 3: to have you on the show so you can drop
Speaker 3: some gems to our people.
Speaker 2: So I don't even know what to say.
Speaker 1: That was a prodigious.
Speaker 3: See what the fuck is a prodigious?
Speaker 2: Very grandeur. Sure, that was very prodigious. I appreaci. I'm
Speaker 2: so happy to be here because.
Speaker 1: For a while now and I came to one of
Speaker 1: on live show, I've been hooked every since that. So
Speaker 1: being here is special for me. What you are and
Speaker 1: you are a client and y'all are crazy. For a
Speaker 1: part of me, a part of me, there's something inside
Speaker 1: of me telling me they got you now you're trapped
Speaker 1: because i've been like I don't know what it is,
Speaker 1: but there's a little beacon light flashing inside of me, like, bro,
Speaker 1: you don't even know what you're went for because I
Speaker 1: know y'all are crazy, But I'm happy to be here nonetheless,
Speaker 1: but just so you know, something is telling me, like, Yo,
Speaker 1: you don't even know what you got yourself into, So
Speaker 1: I'm on guard.
Speaker 3: Don't be on guard. This is a safe space. Safe space.
Speaker 2: Still y'all crazy in a good way. But y'all, we
Speaker 2: ain't crazy.
Speaker 4: That's because you came to the show and you saw
Speaker 4: us act crazy that day.
Speaker 3: We'd you act crazy at the shows. I can see
Speaker 3: where you can get that.
Speaker 1: The amount of crazy that went on that show, and
Speaker 1: it was great if you've never been to one of
Speaker 1: day live show.
Speaker 2: And I'm a guy and it's geared.
Speaker 1: Kind of towards women, but I'm a guy and I
Speaker 1: enjoyed ninety percent of ten percent. I didn't you have
Speaker 1: to go to understand why as a guy, and I
Speaker 1: was blown away because I didn't know what to expect.
Speaker 1: But I was like, oh, they crazy crazy. It was
Speaker 1: entertaining all the way through, though, and I have very
Speaker 1: a very short attention span, and because of the frequency
Speaker 1: I vibrate on intellectually, it's hard to captivate me. But
Speaker 1: I was like literally like oh oh oh, oh, so yeah,
Speaker 1: I know y'all crazy.
Speaker 3: Listen. We strive to give the women what they want
Speaker 3: in all spaces at our shows, on this show, at
Speaker 3: our retreats, whenever, all the time, because listen. We also
Speaker 3: have short attention spans. I don't even know how a
Speaker 3: podcast sometimes because when people start talking for too long
Speaker 3: about shit, I don't care about Ashtamila, Like I literally
Speaker 3: it's just like zone out. I'm like staring, but I'm
Speaker 3: not thinking. I'm not listening anymore. I'm just kind of
Speaker 3: like thinking about all the things that I could be
Speaker 3: doing instead of listening to this bullshit.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's kind of how.
Speaker 1: Yeah, they accuse me like you will check out a
Speaker 1: conversation like kind of.
Speaker 4: I feel like I've adopted that from you. Oh god,
Speaker 4: I'm like, I'm like, what did they just say?
Speaker 1: But it's a part of protecting your energy when you
Speaker 1: decide you discerned, like this conversation is not serving me
Speaker 1: any purpose.
Speaker 3: You just kind of that's what it is for me
Speaker 3: because I'm my girl. I am about to take on
Speaker 3: this energy that you're or a boy. Yeah, So I'm like, dude,
Speaker 3: we are here, we are here. I'm very happy to
Speaker 3: have you here. I'm excited.
Speaker 4: When she first told me, like we should have my
Speaker 4: trainer on I was like, okay, but then I met
Speaker 4: you and I was like, you're right.
Speaker 3: He's so much more than a trainer. He's like a
Speaker 3: motivational speaker, I know, inspirational life coach.
Speaker 1: Well, yeah, that's why when we talked before we went
Speaker 1: on here, I'm like, I don't really know how to
Speaker 1: introduce me because I'm so multifaceted. But I believe everyone is.
Speaker 1: I don't believe that we only have one talent. That's
Speaker 1: not even logical. That's like a very immature acidine in
Speaker 1: way and name way of thinking, because if you think
Speaker 1: about it, sometimes you happy, sometimes you mad, sometimes you freaky,
Speaker 1: sometimes you focus, sometimes you lack of days. Each one
Speaker 1: of those traits is connected to some type of talent.
Speaker 1: So depending on which one is more potent, you'll be
Speaker 1: good at whatever that talent is connected to. So, but
Speaker 1: we live in a society where they try to marginalize you, like, wait,
Speaker 1: you sing, You're a singer, you can't also be a designer?
Speaker 1: Like no, this is you're already good at singing. You
Speaker 1: can't be good at something a thick one. They try to, yeah,
Speaker 1: try to marginalize you, and sometimes we marginalize ourselves.
Speaker 2: We have self imposed cages.
Speaker 1: But me, I tap into everything that I'm great at
Speaker 1: when I leave. When I leave this earth, I'm going
Speaker 1: to die on empty. I won't have anything left. I'll
Speaker 1: be like, God, I use everything you gave me. I'm
Speaker 1: going to die on empty. Everything he gives me I use.
Speaker 1: So I'm multi faceted, and the things that I'm not
Speaker 1: good at, I hire other people to do it for me.
Speaker 2: Amen.
Speaker 4: Amen, believe in that shit. My grandma told me sleep
Speaker 4: when you die. I was like, that's a good quote,
Speaker 4: because there is.
Speaker 3: And I agree with that.
Speaker 4: So because the world will tell you can only do
Speaker 4: one thing and then if you'll fuck yourself believing that
Speaker 4: bullshit and you know, and even like for a long time,
Speaker 4: I didn't like telling people like I'm a podcaster because
Speaker 4: there's so many podcasts, But like, now, bitch, I do
Speaker 4: a lot of shit and I'm good at a lot
Speaker 4: of shit, and you're not going to tell me otherwise
Speaker 4: because I've done it. So I appreciate you embarking on
Speaker 4: all of your talents and inspiring others to do the same,
Speaker 4: because I think people lack the motivation and the confidence
Speaker 4: to just you know you better.
Speaker 2: You know y'all. You want to know what the richest
Speaker 2: place on earth is? Do you know? You want to know? Dubai? Yeah,
Speaker 2: the richest place on earth is the cemetery.
Speaker 3: Hm, how so explain it?
Speaker 2: You know how many people.
Speaker 1: Died with great ideas that went right in that grid
Speaker 1: that didn't act on you know how people died with great.
Speaker 3: Ideas that was That's my biggest fear. That has always
Speaker 3: been my biggest.
Speaker 2: Not dying with great ideas.
Speaker 3: That's scarce more than doing you.
Speaker 1: So a lot of people don't know that cemetery is
Speaker 1: the richest place that all you want people die with
Speaker 1: great ideas. So for me, if God put it in me,
Speaker 1: like I said, we multi faceted, like we are four
Speaker 1: and five dimensional, not even three dimensional, because every part
Speaker 1: of your personality has a talent attached to it.
Speaker 2: You feel what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: So all you have to do is focus long enough
Speaker 1: to tap into that and then you'll be able to
Speaker 1: toggle back and forth and put on these these hats.
Speaker 1: So but I believe we all have that ability if
Speaker 1: we tap into it in an environment that allows us
Speaker 1: to cultivate it. So I don't think I'm special in
Speaker 1: that regard. In a different regard, but not in that regard,
Speaker 1: because I believe we are multifaceted. I'm just brave enough
Speaker 1: to not give a fuck with nobody think.
Speaker 4: And you also have friends that encourage you to do that,
Speaker 4: because if your friends are like, oh, like you can
Speaker 4: only do this one thing, You're like, are you doing
Speaker 4: that now?
Speaker 3: Okay? You always have to have friends who encourage you.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but that's that's dangerous because you're not gonna always
Speaker 1: have friends. You're not gonna always your mama not going
Speaker 1: courage you all the time. You have to learn how
Speaker 1: to be self sustained. You have to learn you have
Speaker 1: to be so omnipotent from the inside that you insulate
Speaker 1: yourself from the bullshit. You have to have a knowing
Speaker 1: because if you depict, if you live for the collaps,
Speaker 1: you're gonna die with the booze, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: So and your friends think about it, it's unfair because
Speaker 1: a lot of people like your friends, my friends want
Speaker 1: to support me. My friend, I got a biz. My
Speaker 1: friends don't support my bizs. My friends don't come to
Speaker 1: my show. My friends And if you think about it,
Speaker 1: that's really unfair because everybody I don't care if you
Speaker 1: two or ninety two. Everybody got a great ideal, and
Speaker 1: most people don't even act on their own great ideal.
Speaker 1: So you want somebody who's not acting on their own
Speaker 1: great idea to come support your ideal, you being selfish
Speaker 1: and stupid. They're not supporting their own shit. You don't
Speaker 1: think they have an ideal? They just ain't shit. Yeah
Speaker 1: they do, they too scared. So don't expect someone that
Speaker 1: won't move on their own shit to move on yours
Speaker 1: and then use that to judge the metrics of your relationship.
Speaker 1: Be self sustained, because anything if I tap you in
Speaker 1: to come on a financial journey with me, like hey,
Speaker 1: we're gonna do this, and you don't do it, that's cool.
Speaker 1: Just no, I'm still gonna do that ideal. And when
Speaker 1: I make my money, I'm not gonna feel bad about
Speaker 1: not sharing them with.
Speaker 3: You because you have the opportunity.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm still gonna do everything I said I was
Speaker 2: gonna do.
Speaker 1: Rather you get in and I'm not eve gonna take
Speaker 1: it personal because I don't want you to take it personal.
Speaker 2: When I become successful.
Speaker 3: I think they say that in the Four Agreements.
Speaker 4: It's like, don't take don't take like compliments to personal
Speaker 4: and don't take like what's the opposite of a compliments
Speaker 4: take it.
Speaker 3: Too personally either.
Speaker 4: It's just like, like you said, be self sustained, and
Speaker 4: that's a fact because they will be both, and there
Speaker 4: may be come from people close or far from you.
Speaker 3: Well, I think that also waiting on friends to validate you,
Speaker 3: waiting on friends to make you move to do things, Well,
Speaker 3: you'll be waiting forever, low key like, once you start
Speaker 3: making those moves and once you start believing in yourself,
Speaker 3: those people will come, right, you know, those people will
Speaker 3: come and you'll attract those people. I mean, I think
Speaker 3: about even just like our retreats, how we get so
Speaker 3: many messages where people are like, I want to come,
Speaker 3: but my friend and you know I'm waiting on my friend.
Speaker 3: I'm like, your friend will have you waiting forever. You're
Speaker 3: gonna miss out on this experience. Your friend will have
Speaker 3: you waiting out on money, your friend will have you
Speaker 3: waiting on opportunities, all types of shit. You kind of
Speaker 3: just have to count on yourself and just move forward
Speaker 3: and all the other those friends that you really want
Speaker 3: will will come.
Speaker 2: They will come flock to you. If I would have waited.
Speaker 2: There's two things I don't do. I don't hate on nobody.
Speaker 2: I don't wait on nobody. I like that period.
Speaker 3: I don't hate on no my bout it. I don't
Speaker 3: wait nobody. So wait, wait, wait, because I feel like
Speaker 3: you're talking affirmations, and we always shared affirmation, usually at
Speaker 3: the top. We try to do at the top of
Speaker 3: the show, but this week we're going to do it
Speaker 3: at the top of the show because I feel like
Speaker 3: you are a walking affirmation. So if you have an
Speaker 3: affirmation that you can share with our tribe.
Speaker 2: I'll share affirmation and the incantation.
Speaker 3: What's the incantation?
Speaker 2: Incantation is something like the chance dud okay, I like
Speaker 2: a spell?
Speaker 3: Oh well, you know we love spell. Spell here wh two.
Speaker 1: Witches another way of saying spells. Incantation and something saying
Speaker 1: that you would say or you would put into the universe.
Speaker 1: So I'll give your affirmation and both. I happened to
Speaker 1: live by first. The affirmation that I live by completely
Speaker 1: is if you can see it in your mind, you
Speaker 1: hold it in your hands.
Speaker 3: If you can can see it in your mind, you
Speaker 3: can hold it in your hands.
Speaker 1: I believe that right now and I'm sitting inside of
Speaker 1: your thoughts. This was a thought before it came to life.
Speaker 1: If you can see but you saw it already.
Speaker 2: You see. You got to speak what you seek to
Speaker 2: you see what you said? Mm hmm, you know what
Speaker 2: I'm saying.
Speaker 1: Hm. So if you can see it, and she's like, wait,
Speaker 1: you gotta speak what you see. Oh listen, you gotta
Speaker 1: speak what you seek till you see.
Speaker 2: What you said.
Speaker 3: You gotta speak, and you gotta speak what you seek.
Speaker 2: You see what you said.
Speaker 1: Okay, you gotta speak what you seek to you see
Speaker 1: what you because if you can see it in your mind,
Speaker 1: you can hold it in your hands. You know, I
Speaker 1: come from from nothing. I had a very impoverished, tumultuous upbringing.
Speaker 2: But I was able to.
Speaker 1: Climb my way out of that through changing my mentality.
Speaker 1: Where are you from originally original I'm from West California.
Speaker 1: Was California the projects?
Speaker 3: So what was your mindset then and what was the
Speaker 3: journey I guess to changing your mindset?
Speaker 1: Well, my mindset then was you know, and I didn't.
Speaker 1: I didn't in that moment. I didn't know, but that
Speaker 1: you know, I was a tyrant. I was in minutes
Speaker 1: I was Bello Coast borish and belligerent. But I didn't
Speaker 1: know that, Like it was just I was just dropped
Speaker 1: off in that I woke up in that environments. Bello
Speaker 1: Coast is like somebody's eager to fight. When you Bellow Coast,
Speaker 1: it just mean somebody's eager to eager to fight. I
Speaker 1: want to argue all the time, want to be that's
Speaker 1: a Beller Coast person. But I was Bello Coast borish
Speaker 1: and belligerent. I didn't know that because it was just
Speaker 1: an environment that I grew up in and it was normalized.
Speaker 2: That's all I knew.
Speaker 1: I've never been beyond that, you geel what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: And especially running around in the projects and having a
Speaker 1: bunch of friends and the projects been in there, you
Speaker 1: inherit that spirit and I didn't want to be broken.
Speaker 1: I didn't want to be poor, and I didn't want
Speaker 1: to be picked on. So I did whatever I had
Speaker 1: to do. And most of the time those things weren't
Speaker 1: great things. I wasn't a good person, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean. So when I look back on that, you know,
Speaker 1: most of the time I'm embarrassed the way I used
Speaker 1: to be because a fish don't seawater. I didn't know
Speaker 1: no better. But I've forgiven myself and freed myself from
Speaker 1: that because I just did what I had to do.
Speaker 1: In the jungle early in the morning, there's a deer
Speaker 1: running from a lion followed this story. There's a deer
Speaker 1: running from a lion. The deer is saying, Please God,
Speaker 1: don't let them eat me. The lion is saying, please God,
Speaker 1: let me feed my family. Different prayer, saying God. So
Speaker 1: when I was in that situation, I was a lying
Speaker 1: and I just wanted to feed my family, but it
Speaker 1: was somebody else like, hey, dear God, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean. But changing my mentality and tapping into my
Speaker 1: spirituality is what got me to understand there's a better
Speaker 1: way to do things, and there's a higher being than
Speaker 1: what I am and what you are, and we have
Speaker 1: to answer to that higher being. Whether you believe it
Speaker 1: or not, that's cool, whatever you want to believe in.
Speaker 1: But I changed my mentality because I wanted to change
Speaker 1: my circumstances. So to change your circumstances, you got to
Speaker 1: change your circle.
Speaker 2: Period. The only difference between poverty and prosperity is what
Speaker 2: you know. So you look at your closest friends. What
Speaker 2: do you know?
Speaker 1: You know what club is popping, you know when Macy's
Speaker 1: is having to sell. You know how to find your ex,
Speaker 1: nigga new bitch house.
Speaker 2: You know. That's what you know.
Speaker 1: Which you don't know nothing about IRA trust funds. You
Speaker 1: don't know how to file or a proper escort.
Speaker 2: You don't So that we get hurt by the things
Speaker 2: we don't know.
Speaker 4: We don't know's it's interesting. I think a lot of
Speaker 4: not a lot of people can say I used to
Speaker 4: be a bad person. You know, a lot of people
Speaker 4: are unwilling to categorize themselves in that way.
Speaker 3: But you're so self aware. I'm wondering, like, what was
Speaker 3: it that shifted your mindset?
Speaker 4: Was there like a grandiose event that happened that you
Speaker 4: were like, let me sit the fuck down. Was there
Speaker 4: a conversation? Was there someone you met, Like it's a
Speaker 4: collection of things for all of us.
Speaker 1: I don't just I don't think I'm unique in that way.
Speaker 1: But I walked this, I was any streets for real
Speaker 1: like this I was. So I can't not say I
Speaker 1: was a bad person because it's documented who I was
Speaker 1: and what I did, And I always pair that with
Speaker 1: who I am now, because it ain't how you start,
Speaker 1: it's how you finish, you know what I'm saying. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I ran around the projects, but now I live up
Speaker 1: in the mountains in a big ass house that I
Speaker 1: built from scratch.
Speaker 2: No, I didn't have a mother that was there. My
Speaker 2: mother was on drug so I was about twenty five
Speaker 2: years old.
Speaker 1: And No, I didn't have a father, But still I
Speaker 1: am a father and I still take my responsibility serious.
Speaker 2: No, I didn't go to college, but everybody who works
Speaker 2: for me did.
Speaker 1: You don't need a college degree to start your own business,
Speaker 1: but you need one to go work with somebody else.
Speaker 1: So my life is just a representation. Like it ain't
Speaker 1: how you start, it's how you finish. And at any moment,
Speaker 1: you can extricate yourself from poverty, pain, plight, and trauma.
Speaker 1: You could just say I'm not doing that no more.
Speaker 1: As soon as you say I'm not doing that no more,
Speaker 1: I'm not that person no more, you're free and no
Speaker 1: one can hold you prisoner to a past persona of yourself.
Speaker 2: Soon as you stop, you're free at that moment.
Speaker 1: So it don't matter because soon as people see you
Speaker 1: doing good, they start bringing up shit from twenty twelve.
Speaker 2: Doing good. I remember when you was a Oldham.
Speaker 1: I just know how to kide it now from y'all
Speaker 1: because privacy is currency. I'm happy still, so you I
Speaker 1: walk in my truth because I don't care. I live
Speaker 1: in my calling and you don't have to understand it
Speaker 1: was when God, it wasn't a conference call, it wasn't
Speaker 1: one on one.
Speaker 2: Yeah, my calling wasn't a kind ain't for you. You
Speaker 2: get what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: So just being able to live long enough, man, know what,
Speaker 1: I can't talk about most of the things that I've
Speaker 1: done still to this day, you know. But there's a
Speaker 1: few people, few friends still living, and we catch up
Speaker 1: every now and again and just be like, man, we're here,
Speaker 1: like we lived long enough to grow great hair, because
Speaker 1: a lot of my friends did not live. Yesterday was
Speaker 1: my brother's birthday. He got killed in nineteen ninety seven,
Speaker 1: in twenty six years and still like it was yesterday.
Speaker 1: You get what I'm saying. And my big brother, you know,
Speaker 1: he was in these streets. He's a reputable but I'm
Speaker 1: not gonna even tell you. You know where he was
Speaker 1: from and all that, but he was irreptable but to me,
Speaker 1: he was just my brother, so losing him was like
Speaker 1: losing my father because I was the only father I knew.
Speaker 2: So it grew me up quick. I was about fourteen,
Speaker 2: so it grew me up quick, you know what I mean.
Speaker 2: I had.
Speaker 1: I went from having two blood brothers to just being
Speaker 1: in these streets by because in the same year my
Speaker 1: big brother was murdered, my little brother went and did
Speaker 1: like eight years, so he got it. My little brother
Speaker 1: was like thirteen and he went and did a So
Speaker 1: I went from having three of us figuring out to
Speaker 1: just me. So I got out here and I hit
Speaker 1: the ground running, and anything I do, I did it
Speaker 1: for real. So when I when I was in these streets,
Speaker 1: I was in it for real. I ain't never bully nobody,
Speaker 1: I ain't never pick on nobody, but if something came
Speaker 1: my way, I was the lion. And that's how I survived.
Speaker 1: Because where I'm from, you can't. You can't have no
Speaker 1: chance in your armor and survive. That's why a lot
Speaker 1: of my friends didn't. But also, you can't be a bully.
Speaker 1: I knew some dudes that was a bad motherfucker. I
Speaker 1: knew some bad motherfuckers like I had. I had some
Speaker 1: beasts at times where I was scared, literally scared to
Speaker 1: leave my house for real, like real beef. This ain't
Speaker 1: like now where you got these keyboard thugs and this
Speaker 1: was a different era, and you know, and I was,
Speaker 1: but I held my shit, you know what I mean?
Speaker 1: But I seen him and people ain't here no more.
Speaker 1: So bullies get killed and people who do too much
Speaker 1: get killed.
Speaker 2: You know how smart you gotta be to do just enough.
Speaker 1: To survive and not too much to go to jail
Speaker 1: and a paralyze and did you gotta almost be a genius.
Speaker 1: That's why I'm over here and I can excel, I
Speaker 1: can sewar. I can fly because.
Speaker 2: I can.
Speaker 1: The people over here can never survive what I went through.
Speaker 1: But I can survive this. Oh irs, send me a letter.
Speaker 1: I made too much money?
Speaker 2: Cool? I had killers at my door.
Speaker 3: Well that's the thing, too, is like anytime asks like
Speaker 3: how you doing, like he's like he's always looking at me,
Speaker 3: like what you mean? Like what the fuck do you mean? Howiday?
Speaker 2: Because life? Your life is good? Oh b O two
Speaker 2: five p three four. I'll never forget it. I was
Speaker 2: my case number.
Speaker 1: I was on GR two hundred and twenty dollars of
Speaker 1: food stamps one hundred and eighty dollars a month, and
Speaker 1: I had to make stretch. I grew up on gr
Speaker 1: and even as an adult, was homeless, and because it
Speaker 1: was just part of the culture I was with. And
Speaker 1: I remember when I decided I was gonna do no more,
Speaker 1: and I just made it. I heard a voice, but
Speaker 1: we all hear that voice, or your voice tell you
Speaker 1: what to do, and you ignore it. You you're disrespecting
Speaker 1: your own divinity. But I heard a voice like you
Speaker 1: gotta stop, and I was like, stop doing. But I
Speaker 1: had already heard voices before that. You know, I didn't
Speaker 1: been in some violent situations where I almost lost my life.
Speaker 1: And you bargain with God, You sitting there bleeding from
Speaker 1: the neck, dying, literally dying. You make it all kind
Speaker 1: of bargain.
Speaker 3: The last time.
Speaker 2: Yes, I swear to God, to God, God right.
Speaker 1: But so I made all kind of bargains and all
Speaker 1: kinds of things to get myself out of jams.
Speaker 2: You and them handcuffs.
Speaker 1: You're like, God, please help me in you know, But
Speaker 1: I had already had a voice tell me, you know,
Speaker 1: to stop selling dope. So then you know I was like,
Speaker 1: all right, God, I guess whoever telling me to do this,
Speaker 1: let's see what happened. So I'm on gr Then I
Speaker 1: heard a voice like, you gotta get off of this shit,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, well, I ain't selling dope, so I
Speaker 1: gotta just be broke, Like well, what I gotta do?
Speaker 1: And then the voice just said and I just adhere
Speaker 1: to that voice. But then, and I hate to just
Speaker 1: jump around, but I'm trying to impart a lot of
Speaker 1: knowledge in a short amount of time for your listeners.
Speaker 1: We all have choices and little windows of opportunity that
Speaker 1: come floating by over and over again. I'm in my
Speaker 1: forties and I can say that with probably because I
Speaker 1: don't look like it. And I got shipped to show
Speaker 1: for people who's scared to say their age because they
Speaker 1: look batter and they know I got ship to show
Speaker 1: I'm good. But when I see somebody this old that's
Speaker 1: still struggling, I feel bad for them, not because they
Speaker 1: miss the opportunity, but because they never They never developed
Speaker 1: themselves because opportunity don't come once.
Speaker 2: That's why I'd be like, yo, you you suck at life.
Speaker 1: It wasn't like they missed one opportunity and for the
Speaker 1: rest of their life. Lamb, you miss your one opportunity
Speaker 1: come over and over. So I'm like, yo, if you
Speaker 1: miss your opportunity in your twenties because she was young,
Speaker 1: and then your mid twenties because she was wild, and
Speaker 1: then your thirties because she was preoccupied with trying to
Speaker 1: clean up shit for your too. But that mean every
Speaker 1: time this window floated by, you missed it because your opportunity.
Speaker 1: So for the people listening, opportunity always feels uncomfortable, random
Speaker 1: and just sometimes grandiose, but all the time divine, and
Speaker 1: you jumped through the window. So I just I'm gonna
Speaker 1: just stop doing everything. And then I remember my wife.
Speaker 1: She was my wife at the time, and I got
Speaker 1: to tell this short story. She came one night I
Speaker 1: was at the trap House. Because a lot of people
Speaker 1: that just now met me through online, just now met
Speaker 1: me in this chapter. They don't know how bad all
Speaker 1: the other chapters were, so when they see me spoiling
Speaker 1: my wife, that's all you see.
Speaker 2: But let me tell you something.
Speaker 1: I remember I was at the Trap House and I
Speaker 1: was sitting there. It was probably like eleven thirty, almost
Speaker 1: midnight at night. And then one of my homeboys was like, hey,
Speaker 1: I think your girl outside and I was on my sidekick,
Speaker 1: but my girl ain't outside because back then ain't.
Speaker 2: Nobody can pop up on me, especially in no trop house.
Speaker 2: She ain't tell me she was on her way. And
Speaker 2: he was like, yeah, I think that's her. I'm like,
Speaker 2: nah that in her. He was like, nah, that's your girl.
Speaker 1: She she got a silver came right, and I'm like yeah,
Speaker 1: so right when I said, I'm like, what she doing
Speaker 1: here popping up on me?
Speaker 2: And she like come outside? So in this in this era,
Speaker 2: I'm like, oh, ship, what did she find? Out?
Speaker 5: Right?
Speaker 3: You pop up?
Speaker 2: I'm like, what the fuck did you find? Like? What what?
Speaker 2: And I came around to her window and she was
Speaker 2: like get in. I was like all right, I'm like,
Speaker 2: oh Ship, I'm in trouble. So I get in the
Speaker 2: car and she started driving.
Speaker 1: I'm like, what the like, I'm very uncomfortable and she
Speaker 1: was like yeah, so long story short, she was like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I was just.
Speaker 2: Thinking I don't I don't. I don't want you over
Speaker 2: here anymore.
Speaker 3: So I've just been thinking.
Speaker 2: I've been thinking what And she was like, yeah, I
Speaker 2: don't want you, you know in there no more.
Speaker 1: You know, I leaving every one of your dreams, and
Speaker 1: you know I don't I know you doing this, so
Speaker 1: you know we could pay rent and we could do
Speaker 1: this now, but I don't want you here anymore. I
Speaker 1: got a third job, and I don't want you to
Speaker 1: come back work three jobs. And no one had ever
Speaker 1: done anything remotely close to that sidebar.
Speaker 2: At that point in my life.
Speaker 1: I was didn't trust no woman because I had mother
Speaker 1: issues that didn't know because I felt like the woman
Speaker 1: who should have loved me first didn't, So there was
Speaker 1: no way in hell any other these bishops was ever
Speaker 1: gonna love me. So I'm gonna get my lick first.
Speaker 1: But anyway, so that blew my mind. I was like,
Speaker 1: are you serious?
Speaker 2: And she was like yeah. So I I left my sack.
Speaker 1: I called the home and was like, yo, you can
Speaker 1: you give them I'm like yeah, And I never went
Speaker 1: back the next day.
Speaker 3: That's all she had to say.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: She said I'm gonna hold you down, and she paid
Speaker 1: the rent. I was driving her car and so on
Speaker 1: and so forth, and she was like, just do what
Speaker 1: you gotta do, but do your dreams. And she and
Speaker 1: she held us down. So now you fast forward. People
Speaker 1: who know me and they're like, yo, you built your wife.
Speaker 1: I'm always twenty twenty three and my wife ain't bought
Speaker 1: her own car since two thousand and five.
Speaker 2: Her last car was a Toyota.
Speaker 1: Camera and ever since then, you know, she's been riding Maseratis, Porsches,
Speaker 1: range Rovers, Lexuses, Bens. You know that I bought her,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. I put six figures in
Speaker 1: her account. I built her a house, and Scratch took
Speaker 1: her to the lamp where you want this house? And
Speaker 1: she what where you want the house? At point point
Speaker 1: to a spot. But people don't understand, like how she
Speaker 1: was there for me and in those times. And I
Speaker 1: never forgot that. And I promised her she'll tell you.
Speaker 1: I looked her in her eyes because I was fucking
Speaker 1: up too during that time.
Speaker 2: It's fast forward.
Speaker 1: Weve been me and my wife been together seventeen years
Speaker 1: and lived together sixteen. I remember one point I was
Speaker 1: fucking up and I felt bad because I knew I
Speaker 1: wasn't living up to my pot I could tell in
Speaker 1: her eyes I wasn't living up to my potential, like
Speaker 1: and it was eating me that I felt like, damn,
Speaker 1: I think she's starting to stop look at me as
Speaker 1: a man. And I remember I had a couple of
Speaker 1: dollars left, and we went to this place called picnic
Speaker 1: in the Marina.
Speaker 2: We lived in the hood. We lived in Hawthorn, and
Speaker 2: I remember I sat her down right there. She was
Speaker 2: going back, and I was like, look, one day, we're
Speaker 2: going to live in the neighborhood like this.
Speaker 1: And I know I took a because she was sitting
Speaker 1: there just looking at me, and I said, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: take a picture because you was gonna remember this.
Speaker 2: I had a picture to this day because I told
Speaker 2: her why I'm gonn buy a house. I'm gonna make
Speaker 2: you a million.
Speaker 1: I laid it out there and she just sat there
Speaker 1: and was quietly just listened to this fantasy.
Speaker 2: And I've done everything that I told her I was
Speaker 2: going to do well.
Speaker 1: First, I had to change my mindset, and then I
Speaker 1: had to get out of that environment that I was
Speaker 1: in that made me that way. I had to get
Speaker 1: out of that environment. I had to really get out
Speaker 1: of the environment. Some of y'all got to get out
Speaker 1: of that environment because your circumstances hinges upon your circle.
Speaker 1: But I change on a wholesale basis and just some
Speaker 1: of y'all on that bitch ass change. I change a
Speaker 1: little shit you need to change on a wholesale basis.
Speaker 1: I stopped hanging with the people I was hanging with.
Speaker 1: I stopped picking the phone calls, I stopped going to
Speaker 1: certain cals. I just stopped doing everything, Like, all right,
Speaker 1: I'm done with this. I can't go back over there.
Speaker 1: And it's important that you isolate. When you're trying to elevate,
Speaker 1: you have to isolate. And a lot of people don't
Speaker 1: want to be alone because when you alone and you
Speaker 1: at night, that's when you start really finding out who
Speaker 1: you are. And a lot of people, if you really
Speaker 1: want to know who you are, and you really honestly
Speaker 1: out of yourself, you probably not gonna like who you are.
Speaker 1: And that makes people uncomfortable. So instead of sitting with
Speaker 1: their own thoughts, sitting in their own mess realizing who
Speaker 1: they are and what they've done, they'd rather go hit
Speaker 1: up an X. They're rather to go do anything rather
Speaker 1: than be alone.
Speaker 3: Because when you start to think and you're like, fuck,
Speaker 3: I don't really even like who I am. Yeah, that shit.
Speaker 4: When you're like when you make decisions, you're like, I
Speaker 4: don't even really like that person. That's not even something
Speaker 4: I the person I say I am, Really, that's not
Speaker 4: who I want to be.
Speaker 3: That shit is different hard.
Speaker 1: And it hits hard, and people can't stand it, so
Speaker 1: they abort the change and go back little by little.
Speaker 2: Now they're still picking up that car, still dibbling, dabbling
Speaker 2: in that. But I.
Speaker 1: Suffered through it because I was alone, because I don't
Speaker 1: want to be over there no more, and I don't
Speaker 1: fit in over here yet, so I had to And
Speaker 1: that's why I dubbed myself to unlearned relearned specialist, because
Speaker 1: I had to unlearn everything over here to wipe my
Speaker 1: hard drive clean.
Speaker 2: Then I mean, I don't know shit? What grown up?
Speaker 1: I want to admit they don't know shit. It's hard
Speaker 1: pill to admit. But when you admit that, you're ready
Speaker 1: to learn. Because your ability to be your your ability
Speaker 1: to be successful hinges on your ability to learn, not
Speaker 1: your ability to teach. You have to be more of
Speaker 1: a sponge and a brick. So I wipe my hard
Speaker 1: drive clean. I don't fit in over here no more.
Speaker 1: You know when y'all know, y'all want to know when
Speaker 1: you outgrown your friends and situa, When you like we
Speaker 1: talk about when you're saying to yourself, we're talking about
Speaker 1: this again.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I heard this shit already. I heard this same
Speaker 3: people are.
Speaker 1: When they call and you like, I don't have energy,
Speaker 1: and they invite you somewhere and you starting to think,
Speaker 1: do I want to go?
Speaker 2: And there I left.
Speaker 1: That's a sign go with it and then commit isolation, rumination, elevation, extrication, germination,
Speaker 1: look all those up, and that is the order that
Speaker 1: they're going.
Speaker 2: I'm dubbing you with attack.
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna explain with none of that means upgrades,
Speaker 1: upgrade your hard drive, she said, upgrade your hard drive.
Speaker 3: Well, you know, I think a lot of people too,
Speaker 3: like when they're doing the change, the isolation, you said that, like,
Speaker 3: you know, I didn't really fit over there yet. It's
Speaker 3: the yet that I feel like disillusions people they're like,
Speaker 3: oh God, like people that want change but feel like
Speaker 3: I can't, I don't want to, I don't deserve to
Speaker 3: be in that room, or like they're corny.
Speaker 4: Or it seems so far, it seems so far, it
Speaker 4: seems so out of reach that you're like, it's almost
Speaker 4: easier to backtrack to where you've been than the people
Speaker 4: you've been with versus trying to change your circle and
Speaker 4: change your environment to get to where you're going, where
Speaker 4: you don't even want to. You've judged those people even
Speaker 4: though they are where you want to be. You've judged
Speaker 4: them as you know, corny square, whatever the fuck it
Speaker 4: might be, you know, white, whatever it is, and thinking
Speaker 4: that you can't see yourself in that space, nor do
Speaker 4: you really want to be in that space, but you
Speaker 4: want what they have. So it's like, Okay, you want
Speaker 4: what they have, but you don't want to do the work,
Speaker 4: do the work to understand you don't have to be
Speaker 4: exactly like that person. You're gonna step into the space
Speaker 4: and be your own person.
Speaker 1: Well, I believe most people know that, so it didn't
Speaker 1: even matter of like I don't want they just can
Speaker 1: they think it's too far away when we're gonna you
Speaker 1: gotta have If you don't have honest conversations with yourself,
Speaker 1: you have to learn how to have honest conversations with yourself,
Speaker 1: because if you can't have an honest conversation with yourself,
Speaker 1: you're gonna repeal from honesty coming from others. So honestly,
Speaker 1: you're not like I don't want to be that you
Speaker 1: don't think you can, so instead of feeling bad about
Speaker 1: not being able to do it, quote unquote, you condemn
Speaker 1: it like I don't even want it.
Speaker 2: That's unnecessary. You don't need money, you would tell me, man, money,
Speaker 2: money is there? What's more important? Money? Or love?
Speaker 5: Like that?
Speaker 2: To me?
Speaker 1: What's more important money? What the fuck are you talking about?
Speaker 1: Money is important in the areas that is important. It's
Speaker 1: not important in areas that it is not important. What
Speaker 1: are you talking about? What's more important? Your leg of
Speaker 1: your arm? Motherfucker? They both important in different ways. That's
Speaker 1: the stupidest shit ever. But that's your mentality. You've condemned
Speaker 1: having money and you are never having money.
Speaker 2: Is beautiful. Money's good, Which leads me to my affirmation.
Speaker 2: I mean my incantation right.
Speaker 3: Quick, before you do that, because I already know it's
Speaker 3: about to be a word. Let me let me let
Speaker 3: this backward real quick? Yes, please like the backwood that
Speaker 3: honey delicious ass backward.
Speaker 4: And it's the vanilla flavor, m and I feel a
Speaker 4: lot of love into this backwood.
Speaker 1: So what was it?
Speaker 2: I want you to repeat this, and I want you
Speaker 2: to repeat it with passion.
Speaker 1: I want you to say, money comes easily, money comes abundantly,
Speaker 1: and money comes frequently.
Speaker 4: Money comes easily, money comes freak, and money comes abundantly boom.
Speaker 2: Just like that.
Speaker 4: You know, money comes eat frequent, easily, money comes frequently,
Speaker 4: money comes abundantly.
Speaker 1: Boom, and you believe it. All you gotta do is
Speaker 1: speak it. And I know people think they need these
Speaker 1: long incantations.
Speaker 2: You don't.
Speaker 1: You could be very sustinct and in direct and the
Speaker 1: universe have to yield those things to you. So as
Speaker 1: long as you vibrate on that same frequency, the universe
Speaker 1: is always going to pair you with everything on that
Speaker 1: same frequency without your consent for sure.
Speaker 3: I mean, if you're doing broke shit, then you're gonna
Speaker 3: get broke results, absolutely. You know, if your frequency is broke,
Speaker 3: if your mindset is broke, if all these things, you know,
Speaker 3: like people talk about a lot about manifesting, and you know,
Speaker 3: people are always like, oh, well you know I did this,
Speaker 3: I did that, it's still not coming. And it's like,
Speaker 3: well you got to check and see what what is
Speaker 3: it that you're doing that is still vibrating on this
Speaker 3: other frequency that you don't want. I want to go
Speaker 3: back to when you were talking about your wife and
Speaker 3: you know, her pulling up and picking you up in
Speaker 3: that way, and me too, I have some questions. Well,
Speaker 3: I couldn't help but think of like the mother wound
Speaker 3: that you had, which was you know, you thinking that
Speaker 3: a woman couldn't show up for you in that way
Speaker 3: and then her kind of I guess healing that in
Speaker 3: ways or beginning the healing process of you saying, Okay,
Speaker 3: a woman can show up for me, A woman can
Speaker 3: take care of me. I can trust that this woman
Speaker 3: is going to show up and be that and be
Speaker 3: what you know what I can be to her, and
Speaker 3: she can be that to me as well. And this
Speaker 3: idea that I know, I mean, you have two daughters,
Speaker 3: and how three? How old is your how old are you?
Speaker 3: How old is your first.
Speaker 2: Twenty two, seventeen and a year and a half.
Speaker 3: I can't help but think about why God gave you
Speaker 3: women with that notion that you had, you know, and
Speaker 3: just really having to understand that women can nurture you,
Speaker 3: they can love you, even if it's in the form
Speaker 3: of a child, even if it's in the form of
Speaker 3: you know, your wife, You can trust them. They can
Speaker 3: be safe. How old, where in your life were you
Speaker 3: when you had your first two child children?
Speaker 2: I was still in these streets.
Speaker 3: Do you think that having having your children was a
Speaker 3: catalyst or was it not?
Speaker 2: Yeah, but everything is a catalyst. There's something like everything.
Speaker 3: Because some people use children like my child changed my life,
Speaker 3: and that's not always the case.
Speaker 2: So the child is like money. It only amplifies what
Speaker 2: was already in you.
Speaker 1: If you was a deadbeat child, having a child on
Speaker 1: amplify that she was a deadbeat, lack a days ago
Speaker 1: and unambitious.
Speaker 2: If you was an asshole and you get money, you're
Speaker 2: gonna be a bigger asshole.
Speaker 1: If you was benevolent, when you get money, you're gonna
Speaker 1: be even more benevolent.
Speaker 2: So I does it play a role.
Speaker 1: Yeah, But what I'm trying to exclaim and really hammer
Speaker 1: home so the people out there ain't looking for one
Speaker 1: thing like I need that one thing.
Speaker 2: And it all works in concert for you.
Speaker 1: All that shit is working together, and only because a
Speaker 1: lot of things, even that I say and do now
Speaker 1: and I realized, like man, I had a ogtailing that
Speaker 1: shit before when I was fifteen.
Speaker 2: I've been hearing it. Just life gotta water. Some of
Speaker 2: that shit, it gotta water. It so it could germinate.
Speaker 2: Life got a water.
Speaker 1: But you hear these things so you could use anything
Speaker 1: for motivation. So don't be waiting like I need a catalyst.
Speaker 1: Not just wanting it is enough. But all you have
Speaker 1: to do is commit to that change. And I committed
Speaker 1: to it, and it was hard. I want to make no,
Speaker 1: but life is hard.
Speaker 2: Period.
Speaker 1: Not having shit and always wont shit that you ain't
Speaker 1: gonna never have is hard. Working for the shit you
Speaker 1: want is hard. Both things are hard, so you might
Speaker 1: as well get in there work for the things. You
Speaker 1: won't commit to your change because I don't chase side
Speaker 1: track and I'm careful with my words. My vocabulary is
Speaker 1: vast because words have power. We all know that, but
Speaker 1: we don't all put that into practice, because if we did,
Speaker 1: we will all upgrade our vocabulary. Most people don't know
Speaker 1: they only learned their first three hundred words. No, people
Speaker 1: ain't never learned. They only know they verse three hundred
Speaker 1: words because after they left high school or college, they
Speaker 1: stopped educating theyself. They ain't learn nothing past what curriculum
Speaker 1: they had, So they're like, what word are you?
Speaker 2: You don't read? Motherfucker?
Speaker 1: Seriously, when you first started school, they talked to your
Speaker 1: spelling words. Right then they teach you how to spell.
Speaker 1: Think about what you're saying. Spell Words cast spells. So
Speaker 1: the better the words, the better the spells you can cast.
Speaker 1: So that's why my vocabulary because I'm always speaking of incantation.
Speaker 1: I come from a place of poverty. Now I living
Speaker 1: abundance because these are incantation. I know words cast spells.
Speaker 1: So don't be like, yo, I'm chasing my dream.
Speaker 3: No, I'm heading.
Speaker 1: Yeah, even though that that that's to most people, that's
Speaker 1: an innocuous statement.
Speaker 2: I'm chasing my dream.
Speaker 1: Well, the only way you can chase something is it
Speaker 1: moving away from from So you are casting the spell
Speaker 1: that the very thing you.
Speaker 2: Want is constantly moving away from you. Living my dream
Speaker 2: that from you.
Speaker 1: Right, Yeah, say, I'm living mind, but I'm so aware
Speaker 1: of what I'm saying because words have power. Even if
Speaker 1: you go back to the Bible and you believe in
Speaker 1: that it said God said, let there be like he
Speaker 1: spoke boom, and it was he spoke it, He created,
Speaker 1: he spoke it. And that same Bible say, hey, you
Speaker 1: created in my image, so anything I could do, you
Speaker 1: could do. So God could speak something and there it is,
Speaker 1: and you created the same image, so can you You
Speaker 1: just speaking the wrong things. You're speaking the wrong things,
Speaker 1: and you should be very careful and very very weary
Speaker 1: of what you're listening to and what you're getting your
Speaker 1: giving your attention to when you're trying to elevate you
Speaker 1: have because it's poisoning you. You might don't feel feel
Speaker 1: like it's you eat all that candy as a kid.
Speaker 1: The kid don't understand and get in the cavity. They
Speaker 1: just go like my teeth hurt.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you all right? So it's the same thing.
Speaker 1: Some of youall souls are rand sid and have cavity
Speaker 1: because you set up in gossip all day? Are you complaining?
Speaker 1: You complain about everything. I never complain even if something
Speaker 1: is wrong, because I'm like, is it really wrong or
Speaker 1: is it just information? Do God want me just to
Speaker 1: sit at home? Is that why I got three cars
Speaker 1: and all my tires are on flat?
Speaker 2: All tires.
Speaker 1: God must be saying I got bad lurk, Like God
Speaker 1: was saying sit home tonight. He'll sif you go out,
Speaker 1: something that's gonna bad gona happen. But I've always had
Speaker 1: that visceral instinct. That's how I survived my circumstances. I
Speaker 1: knew when to take my ass home. I knew when
Speaker 1: to be like, nah, I ain't going you know what
Speaker 1: I mean. So it's the same thing. Nothing bad, nothing
Speaker 1: happens to us. It all happens for us when you
Speaker 1: tapped in. I'm proof of that. That's why I tell
Speaker 1: I'm omnipotent. I'm impregnable. You can't hurt me.
Speaker 2: You can't. You can't even shit on me. I use
Speaker 2: it as fertilizer.
Speaker 3: Girl.
Speaker 1: Yeah, there's nothing you can do with me. You can't
Speaker 1: break me because you didn't make me. So if ain't
Speaker 1: nobody helping you, don't feel bad. I don't got no help.
Speaker 1: I don't got nobody. Use that as power because if
Speaker 1: they didn't make you, baby, they can't break you, and
Speaker 1: they can't take it.
Speaker 4: When you get there, you ain't help me do shit either, right, Yeah,
Speaker 4: because of me? When when you when your wife pulled
Speaker 4: up on you that day and she told you what
Speaker 4: she told you, and she said, we're leaving and you
Speaker 4: never went back, and she said, I believe in your
Speaker 4: dreams at that time, what were your dreams?
Speaker 3: What like did you have?
Speaker 4: You had a vision of where you wanted to be
Speaker 4: and that we're going to live in a place like this.
Speaker 4: But did you know exactly what was going to be
Speaker 4: the catalyst to get you there? Like were you into
Speaker 4: health and fitness at that point or what what was
Speaker 4: your what was your what were your goals at that time?
Speaker 2: My goals was pretty much no flex.
Speaker 1: Everything I'm doing now and I think it's I would
Speaker 1: be remiss if I didn't tell you that the way
Speaker 1: you think you're gonna get there probably ain't the way
Speaker 1: you're gonna get there. Is it never happens how you
Speaker 1: think it's going to happen, But it happens, and everything
Speaker 1: that happens has to happen because it's giving you a
Speaker 1: set of intangibles you're going to need. So pretend like
Speaker 1: you went inside of a room, and inside of this
Speaker 1: room with all these furniture and things, you were searching
Speaker 1: for a key, because you need to go in another
Speaker 1: room and open up a door to get to it.
Speaker 1: So don't skip rooms because if you skip rooms, you
Speaker 1: want to find the key, and when you get to
Speaker 1: the final room, you won't be able to sustain it
Speaker 1: because you never got all these keys. You need it,
Speaker 1: You know you need to pick up intangibles. You need
Speaker 1: to learn things about yourself, some things. Some chapters are
Speaker 1: All chapters are necessary, but some chapters are very necessary
Speaker 1: because it's.
Speaker 2: Preparing you for the thing you ask for.
Speaker 1: If you want to be something, you have to go
Speaker 1: through something, and that's a lot of people don't want
Speaker 1: to go through anything.
Speaker 3: I want to skip. They want to skip the stack.
Speaker 1: Yeah, they want to. They want a microwave success. But
Speaker 1: you can't if you want to be Literally, it's universal law.
Speaker 1: In order for fucking water to become ice, it has
Speaker 1: to go through the freezer. In order for fruits, this
Speaker 1: fertilizer got to go through. Then you have to go
Speaker 1: through something to be something, and we want to skip
Speaker 1: that process. But the bigger the thing, the more grandiose
Speaker 1: the thing you want to be, the bigger that receipt
Speaker 1: for the pain.
Speaker 3: Mm hmm.
Speaker 2: You're gonna have a big bill.
Speaker 5: You know.
Speaker 2: People say they pay dues, that's what they mean. They gonna.
Speaker 2: You're gonna take some losses. You're gonna suffer some isolation.
Speaker 1: You're gonna lose some friends, You're gonna lose some sleep,
Speaker 1: You're gonna lose some money. You're gonna pay for that dream,
Speaker 1: and a lot of people don't want to pay for
Speaker 1: the dream. And we live in a time right now
Speaker 1: with all this fake ass manifestation talk, everybody talking about
Speaker 1: the thy manifesting. You ain't doing shit but waste some
Speaker 1: piece of pieces of papers and pins. For real, you're
Speaker 1: not doing ship that ship You're not know you not,
Speaker 1: bro It sounds no, you're fucking not. Imagine if you
Speaker 1: wanted to cook a Thanksgiving dinner, the first thing you're
Speaker 1: gonna do is name all the things you want for.
Speaker 2: This dinner, and you're gonna write it down. This all
Speaker 2: what I want for Thanksgiving.
Speaker 1: The second thing you're gonna do is go to your
Speaker 1: cabinet in the kitchen and see what all you missing?
Speaker 2: Boo boo boo, missing this, missing that.
Speaker 1: The third thing you're gonna do is go to the
Speaker 1: grocery store, go from out out putting everything in your basket.
Speaker 2: That's how you manifest.
Speaker 1: Some of y'all just stop at the list when I
Speaker 1: want turkey, and I want greens, and I want I
Speaker 1: want the house, and I want this, I want that,
Speaker 1: all right, But just like making down that list for Thanksgiving,
Speaker 1: you supposed to go to your cabinet and see what
Speaker 1: you're missing. You haven't even searched the inside of you
Speaker 1: and seeing what intangibles is missing because this person is
Speaker 1: different from the person you are whatever on this paper,
Speaker 1: because if you was that person.
Speaker 2: You would have it. So you missing the necessary intangibles
Speaker 2: to have this, just like making a grocery list.
Speaker 1: And then you still, like I said, you stop at
Speaker 1: writing shit down because even after you search your cabinets
Speaker 1: and see what you're missing, you got to navigate your
Speaker 1: way to the goddamn grocery store. You got to get
Speaker 1: off your ass and go get it. You ain't got
Speaker 1: off your ass and did nothing. You scrolling on Instagram
Speaker 1: looking at my page.
Speaker 3: And shit, And then you got to come and then
Speaker 3: you gotta come home and make the show.
Speaker 2: Wait pause, The biggest step we forgot. We forgotten.
Speaker 1: This is the step that this why I say, you
Speaker 1: just wasted pairs of papers and I'm had y'all say
Speaker 1: what the biggest step, the final step is so we
Speaker 1: found out what we wanted, the big old meal.
Speaker 2: We wrote it down, everything I want. Then we went
Speaker 2: to our cabinets to see what we was missing. Then
Speaker 2: we went to the grocery store.
Speaker 1: See from hour to hour, from chapter to chapter, putting
Speaker 1: everything on in that basket. What's the final step? You
Speaker 1: gotta pay for it. Don't want to pay for your
Speaker 1: dream because sometimes paying for your dreaming you won't have
Speaker 1: a girlfriend for seven years, our boyfriend or getting married rider.
Speaker 1: You don't want to pay for your fucking dream. That's
Speaker 1: why you don't have to know. You're not manifesting. It
Speaker 1: just shit sounds fly and that ship. It kind of
Speaker 1: irritates me because it's too much cap in your caption,
Speaker 1: because if you was really living like that, how come
Speaker 1: we can't see it? And everybody's philosophical. Everybody's fucking confusion. Confucius,
Speaker 1: I'm not Confucius, but here's the thing. Before you go
Speaker 1: put that fly ass caption on your picture, because it's
Speaker 1: too much cap in the caption.
Speaker 3: There's a lot of capping in the captions.
Speaker 1: So my thing is this, and there's a lot of
Speaker 1: opinions your life, and it's to mortality is proof of concept.
Speaker 1: It's your life is proof of So if you that
Speaker 1: motherfucking enlightened and you your life should be proof of
Speaker 1: concept because either you don't live what you're saying, or
Speaker 1: you don't actually do it because your life is proof
Speaker 1: proof of concept. That's why I never arg you with
Speaker 1: people who are who who aren't my equal, who haven't
Speaker 1: accomplished a chemists for I'm not what I look like.
Speaker 1: Are you in my reality to your hypothetical?
Speaker 3: Ooh, that's a bar, that's that's a fact, that's real.
Speaker 1: Tar from the side, what I look like? Are you
Speaker 1: in my reality from your hypothetical? You have no social
Speaker 1: proof of what you're saying. It just sounds good, that
Speaker 1: shiit just sounds good. You get what I'm saying. So again,
Speaker 1: you can have all this enlightening shit, but your life
Speaker 1: is proof of concept. Your life is proof of concept.
Speaker 1: So can we see the thing that you're preaching prevalent
Speaker 1: in your life? Because if it's absent, then you my friend,
Speaker 1: or what we call the old school terminology, a hypocrite
Speaker 1: in the new school termin that well, I ain't even
Speaker 1: new school because we was using this word when I
Speaker 1: was like, oh, this word is back in high school.
Speaker 3: Cap Oh, that's that's from back in the backcard, that word.
Speaker 1: In nineteen ninety four, ninety three. I was like, oh,
Speaker 1: it's back. Nothing is new. And my mammy, you used
Speaker 1: my Mamma used to say that I didn't really understand.
Speaker 3: But nothing is we was, no, no, none of this
Speaker 3: shit is recycled years all.
Speaker 1: But yeah, but cap y'all capping, and you get so
Speaker 1: good at cappin that fake it till you make it.
Speaker 1: You get so good at faking and you forget to
Speaker 1: make it. But to take just as much energy it
Speaker 1: is to make it as it do to fake.
Speaker 4: It right, and you just wasting the energy on shit
Speaker 4: that don't matter, just talking instead of doing. I think,
Speaker 4: even for me, like even when I get caught up
Speaker 4: in my own get in my own way, I have
Speaker 4: to remind myself that.
Speaker 3: You are proof of the concept that you're doing it.
Speaker 2: Oh absolutely, you know.
Speaker 4: Even when I get caught in my own way and
Speaker 4: I'm struggling or I feel like I'm backstepping or my
Speaker 4: mindset is not actually, I have to remind myself like, bitch.
Speaker 2: You are that.
Speaker 4: Bitch, this is what you're doing like you are, you
Speaker 4: are this, you have this, you are doing this like bitch,
Speaker 4: you own property in a foreign country, you own a
Speaker 4: you own a you own a successful business, you wte
Speaker 4: a book, bitch you know And I'm like, oh yeah,
Speaker 4: what's up right? And it's crazy because like sometimes I'll
Speaker 4: have conversations with people and I'm like, like we talked
Speaker 4: about earlier, like tapping out because you're not talking about shit, and.
Speaker 3: I feel bad. But sometimes it's just like there's a
Speaker 3: difference between.
Speaker 4: Like it's a difference between like looking down at people,
Speaker 4: because that's never the like, never the fact. But also
Speaker 4: if you're not on the level that I'm at, I
Speaker 4: don't have the energy for this conversation. Everybody is not
Speaker 4: on the same level as you in places, and because
Speaker 4: a lot of people are just talking and you could
Speaker 4: talk a lot, but like I'm a big like let
Speaker 4: me see the proof of the concept, bitch, Like I
Speaker 4: don't want to do a lot of talking. I want
Speaker 4: to see And I'm here for dreams and I'm here
Speaker 4: for and I tell Erica this all the time.
Speaker 3: We do this a lot.
Speaker 4: We are very powerful, Our spells are very powerful, our
Speaker 4: words are very powerful. And like you said, you're sitting
Speaker 4: in our You're sitting in our in our manifestation. And
Speaker 4: so often I tell Erica, I'm like, I have an idea,
Speaker 4: but I'm just going to chill on telling you right now,
Speaker 4: because we don't have a time, you know, like because
Speaker 4: I know as soon as we speak some shitt as
Speaker 4: soon as we speak it, it's on its way. And
Speaker 4: so if we're not, if we don't have it in
Speaker 4: the schedule today, I'm not going to speak it, you
Speaker 4: know what I mean. But I really well, it's also
Speaker 4: on the way because we're willing to pay the price,
Speaker 4: and even at every at every corner, at every time,
Speaker 4: like okay, you have an idea, bitch, Okay, how are
Speaker 4: we going to make it happen? And sometimes I think
Speaker 4: people you may be listening, you might think, like the
Speaker 4: price is actually monetary, you know, like a monetary price,
Speaker 4: and sometimes it is. Obviously, everything takes costs to be
Speaker 4: invested in, and you have to make money to put
Speaker 4: back into your business. However, like we've been doing this
Speaker 4: shit for five years. For a strong three of those
Speaker 4: years we didn't make any money, but we put in
Speaker 4: so much time and energy and effort into.
Speaker 3: What we knew was on its way.
Speaker 4: And when I say like time and energy and effort,
Speaker 4: like it's beautiful now we could look back and like
Speaker 4: talk about it, but like I'm saying, like hours and
Speaker 4: hours of being in the dining room while our kids
Speaker 4: are in the other room staying up late, like just
Speaker 4: pushing to make some shit happen, even when financially it
Speaker 4: wasn't existing. But we had an idea and nothing and
Speaker 4: nobody could tell us shit or not. Our mom was like,
Speaker 4: that's maybe not a good idea. We have friends who
Speaker 4: are like, that's kind of too much. There were so
Speaker 4: many There was so much criticism and so much doubt,
Speaker 4: But our clarity and what we were doing and what
Speaker 4: we've been doing has been so clear that nothing stopped us.
Speaker 4: Even the lack of financial gain in a three year
Speaker 4: period never stopped us from putting in the work. And
Speaker 4: even if we couldn't immediately see the results, we fucking
Speaker 4: knew it was on the way.
Speaker 3: And I'm so grateful that we believed in our vision
Speaker 3: that much.
Speaker 4: And I found a friend that was as delusional as
Speaker 4: I was, but it was like delusionally real, and like
Speaker 4: when I think back on those days, the amount of
Speaker 4: fucking veggie tacos, the amount of dinners we cooked together,
Speaker 4: the amount of like just long ass nights we sat
Speaker 4: up in the dining room to make this shit happen.
Speaker 4: Every fucking week on iPhones in the dining room, dming
Speaker 4: people just alone, just like being honest with each other.
Speaker 4: And a lot of the process was obviously putting in
Speaker 4: the energy, but also just I think the beautiful thing
Speaker 4: about this brand, in this business is a lot of
Speaker 4: it has been looking in the cabinets and seeing what
Speaker 4: wasn't there and saying like, damn, Erica, like this is
Speaker 4: not who I want to be, and these are the
Speaker 4: decisions that I've made, and not just Erica. Hey, thousands
Speaker 4: of people I never met in my fucking life. Let
Speaker 4: me tell you where I'm empty, you know what I mean?
Speaker 4: But taking inventory out loud and taking accountability out loud,
Speaker 4: and then shifting making change and saying this is what
Speaker 4: I'm this is how I'm going to shift what I've
Speaker 4: been doing, and even if it takes a really long time,
Speaker 4: and I'm going to continue to do that. And I
Speaker 4: think people really underestimate that part, you know, the time,
Speaker 4: the effort, and like what the cost of making your
Speaker 4: dream really come true and just betting on yourself and
Speaker 4: really quieting the noise outside and the criticism and the critiques.
Speaker 3: And for people who.
Speaker 4: I have a lot of successful friends, your mom's very successful.
Speaker 4: A lot of people couldn't see the vision is because
Speaker 4: you could be successful, but you're not successful doing what
Speaker 4: the fuck we're doing, so you could never see the vision.
Speaker 3: Of course you don't understand, right, but they ain't not
Speaker 3: supposed to, right.
Speaker 2: Do you wear eyeglasses?
Speaker 1: You do? If I picked up y'all, if I picked
Speaker 1: up your eyeglasses and put them on, they wild hurt
Speaker 1: my eyes.
Speaker 2: I wouldn't be able to see because they make my eyeglasses.
Speaker 1: Your vision is yours, Like I said, your calling is yours,
Speaker 1: and it wasn't a conference call. It was for you,
Speaker 1: So you don't That's why try to tell people it's
Speaker 1: unwise to be dependent on your family friends.
Speaker 2: So we talked about that at the top of the show.
Speaker 1: Your mother or anybody, because not all the time, and
Speaker 1: they're not going to get it, and sometimes they're going
Speaker 1: to push their own fears and trepidations off on you
Speaker 1: because you might be the exception and not the root.
Speaker 1: I walk in every situation and be like, yo, I'm
Speaker 1: the anomaly. I'm the anomaly. So you gotta let your
Speaker 1: faith be bigger than your fears. And and and just
Speaker 1: how the fucking just how the temerity to believe you
Speaker 1: can do anything you want to be. I have the temerity.
Speaker 1: I didn't care that I had no guidance. I didn't care.
Speaker 1: You know, I was a convict. I didn't care.
Speaker 2: I grew up poor.
Speaker 1: I didn't I was like, you know what, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: still do this fucking miraculous ass ship. You gotta have
Speaker 1: the temerity, and temerity is even heavier than audacity. Don't
Speaker 1: have the audacity, how the temerity to feel like you
Speaker 1: can succeed no matter what your circumstances is. And if
Speaker 1: you do that and align yourself with your purpose, kids,
Speaker 1: you not everything you want gonna come tap you on
Speaker 1: the shoulders. You't even got to check you out a
Speaker 1: big lie, suck fuck or steal for it.
Speaker 2: It's gonna come.
Speaker 4: Just that's a fucking fact. That ship will come to
Speaker 4: you and for And it did all this, like all
Speaker 4: this ship came to us. Everything we asked for came
Speaker 4: to us. Like we would speak it and wait a
Speaker 4: little bit, and they were like, hey, I'm here, what's up.
Speaker 4: Oh you want to write a book? Hey bitch, it's
Speaker 4: right here, like so like that is a fact. And
Speaker 4: I think once we started to realize that we we
Speaker 4: were the power, like you said, like God said, I'm
Speaker 4: making in my image he spoken, that should happened. Like
Speaker 4: people missed that part of the Christianity. They're so busy
Speaker 4: judging each other and Bible something that they forget. Like
Speaker 4: you are the replica of that power. Use that shit.
Speaker 4: And you know sometimes you're so busy praying, wishing upon
Speaker 4: a star, hoping, going to church, whatever you do, because
Speaker 4: that's cool too.
Speaker 3: But like you are, you are the peace the people.
Speaker 2: Oh black people, crazy.
Speaker 1: People, but a lot of people, a lot of black
Speaker 1: people think they can replace hard work with prayer.
Speaker 2: For real. They think they can.
Speaker 1: If yes, pray, But if prayer, if prayer could nobody pay,
Speaker 1: pray better than your grandma.
Speaker 2: If prayer could do your grandma wouldn't have died broke, motherfucker.
Speaker 1: And I ain't disrespect nobody, but thinking that, like nobody
Speaker 1: pray better than her, if it was only prayer, what
Speaker 1: do you You can't replace even in the Bible and
Speaker 1: say faith with our works is dead. You can't replace
Speaker 1: hard work with prayer. Y'all want to throw a fucking
Speaker 1: seat in the dirt and just hope it grow. It's
Speaker 1: gonna Some people are background actors in the movie about
Speaker 1: their own life. You're supposed to be the star. Even
Speaker 1: in my fitness business, I got people coming in there
Speaker 1: and don't want to make a contribution to their own transformation.
Speaker 3: You're like, I'm not about to do it. I'm on
Speaker 3: the surgeon, bitch.
Speaker 2: I can't do it. I can't jump in your body
Speaker 2: and have you it's for you.
Speaker 1: But people like that, I'll be like, hm, they probably
Speaker 1: won't get very far in life, seriously, because how you
Speaker 1: do one thing is how you do everything. So if
Speaker 1: you can't come to this gym and folks long enough
Speaker 1: to get your body together or something you're doing for you,
Speaker 1: I know you're not probably gonna stick with a business
Speaker 1: long enough until it turned the corner and make money.
Speaker 1: Because it takes the same fucking muscle. It takes the
Speaker 1: same muscle to thug it out. How you do one
Speaker 1: thing is how you do everything. You might not notice it.
Speaker 1: You ain't just late here, you laid everywhere.
Speaker 2: You just ain't know.
Speaker 1: How you do one thing how you do everything, it's
Speaker 1: the same. It takes the same muscle, the same set
Speaker 1: of set of intangibles. You get what I'm saying. But
Speaker 1: a lot of people want to skip the work you
Speaker 1: gotta put in, work, you gotta suffer. I learned that
Speaker 1: the part that I wish would have been the people
Speaker 1: would have talked about most is how you fail your
Speaker 1: way to success. I always say that now that I'm
Speaker 1: coming into my own version of success, I have realized,
Speaker 1: like I failed a lot to get here, and failure
Speaker 1: is a part of process. And I remember at one
Speaker 1: chapter in my life, I was scared to do a
Speaker 1: lot of things because I was scared to fail. But
Speaker 1: I didn't hear a lot of messages telling me like, oh,
Speaker 1: it's a part of failing. So I'm telling y'all, you
Speaker 1: fail your way to success. Man, you can't learn how
Speaker 1: to drive a park car, got to turn the car
Speaker 1: on and start hitting some croners.
Speaker 2: You fail your way there.
Speaker 1: So if you understand that a lot of people don't
Speaker 1: start things because they don't want to be seen starting
Speaker 1: from the bottom, I started all kind of shit.
Speaker 2: I started my own podcast, shout out.
Speaker 3: To as I saw your merch already, Well see.
Speaker 2: It in your mind you can.
Speaker 1: It's called the Unqualified as Fuck Podcast because we are
Speaker 1: unqualified as fuck. Because God would take the unqualified and
Speaker 1: put them in places that the qualified can't even get to.
Speaker 2: So now what you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3: I was just having this conversation with my daughter yesterday
Speaker 3: because she's very highly competitive, and you know I was
Speaker 3: a highly competitive child as well. But she'd be cheating.
Speaker 3: She'd be like trying to cut corners.
Speaker 2: And and sounds like she's smart cheating. She's like, because
Speaker 2: cheating is in school, that is bad.
Speaker 1: But if you look at somebody's paper and do that,
Speaker 1: But in the real world, if I hire somebody else
Speaker 1: to do my work, I'm smart.
Speaker 3: That's true.
Speaker 2: Like she's using her innate, she innately and I watched
Speaker 2: bricks and do this, but tell your story.
Speaker 3: But it's more so like it's okay, yes that but
Speaker 3: also like even when she loses, she'll somehow flip it
Speaker 3: to make to like that she won. That's smart.
Speaker 2: She always want to feel like a winner. Nobody's going
Speaker 2: to make me feel like a loser. Keep going.
Speaker 3: But I was also telling her that there's it's okay
Speaker 3: to fail because that's how you become better, Like you
Speaker 3: have to fail in order for the successes to feel better,
Speaker 3: in order to be the best, you have to fail
Speaker 3: because you can't there's no, you have to have the opposite, yes,
Speaker 3: And so I was like, you know many times I failed, Iri,
Speaker 3: I was like, I'm just as competitive as you. I
Speaker 3: don't like to lose ever I am. That's one thing.
Speaker 3: You never call me a motherfucker loser, okay, And that's
Speaker 3: why I used to cry. I told her, like I
Speaker 3: used to cry every time I would lose. Like everyone knew, like,
Speaker 3: oh shit, here she goes, she's about to cry again,
Speaker 3: you know. And but the loss is what made me
Speaker 3: such a winner. I had to lose in order to like,
Speaker 3: you can't be saddened by the loss. In fact, you
Speaker 3: have to be motivated by the loss, because you don't
Speaker 3: ever want to feel that way again, right. I mean
Speaker 3: she's eight, so she probably was like, I don't want
Speaker 3: I still want, you know, I have.
Speaker 1: Not conventional ways of doing things though, because the world
Speaker 1: is this a new world. I remember my oldest daughter,
Speaker 1: who's twenty two now.
Speaker 2: She was in the ninth grade or eighth grade at
Speaker 2: the time, and she had a D on her report card.
Speaker 2: She was like, dad, are you mad? But my daughters
Speaker 2: were always honor students, dude, But she was like, dad,
Speaker 2: are you mad? Yeah?
Speaker 1: She was in the ninth grade, and I was like, hell, yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm mad. I was like, uh no, she had an
Speaker 1: F and now you man, I said, Hell yea, I'm mad,
Speaker 1: I said an F. I said, don't ever ever bring
Speaker 1: home another F. First of all, she was in the
Speaker 1: tenth ninth or tenth grade, so she's close to the
Speaker 1: real rule. So this is this is finna get.
Speaker 2: Real for you.
Speaker 1: I got to prepare you for real. So I told her,
Speaker 1: Hell yea, I'm mad, don't ever bring home another F.
Speaker 1: Don't ever fucking do that shit again. I don't give
Speaker 1: a fuck. If you got a cheat, you would have
Speaker 1: took somebody's paper erace, state your name on the top.
Speaker 1: You could have paired up with somebody to act like
Speaker 1: you was a friend and had him help you act.
Speaker 1: I don't give a fuck because in the real just
Speaker 1: what I told her, in a real role, F mean
Speaker 1: you couldn't figure it out.
Speaker 2: In a real role, when you can't figure it out,
Speaker 2: you got a three day eviction. No, this motherfucker.
Speaker 1: In a real role, when you can't figure it out,
Speaker 1: you lose your job because you was late to so
Speaker 1: many times getting the work.
Speaker 2: You have to start using your brain.
Speaker 1: I don't care if you cheat, just don't get caught,
Speaker 1: because if you get caught, then you're in trouble. She
Speaker 1: looked perplexed. I said, because it's the right way to
Speaker 1: do wrong. Baby, there's a right way to do wrong.
Speaker 1: And if y'all don't know what you lost, because the
Speaker 1: rest of the world, the people that's already up and
Speaker 1: that higher eche line, they're using a different playbook.
Speaker 2: And I'm gonna stop there so i can keep living.
Speaker 1: But they won't give me. But they're using a different playbook.
Speaker 1: But it's a right way to do wrong. And I
Speaker 1: wanted my daughter to be prepared. Don't try to walk
Speaker 1: that straight line.
Speaker 2: I want you to bend the.
Speaker 1: Rules to where they work for you, because I've been
Speaker 1: the rules to work for me. I wasn't put here
Speaker 1: to let somebody else make a bunch of rules for me.
Speaker 1: And I'm born, and here are all.
Speaker 2: The rules for you. Fuck you. I'll do what works
Speaker 2: for me.
Speaker 1: I'll take the consequences or evade them, but I'm gonna
Speaker 1: do it work for me.
Speaker 2: But I'm not gonna let no other man be the
Speaker 2: ruler over my life.
Speaker 1: I don't like this rule. It didn't work for me.
Speaker 1: I don't want to do it this way. College might
Speaker 1: don't work. It's don't work for me. I'm not gonna
Speaker 1: do it this way because two plus two is four,
Speaker 1: but so is three plus one. It's more than one
Speaker 1: way to get to four. So it's more than one
Speaker 1: way to get to your happiness. And you might can't
Speaker 1: do it that way, So you have to find what
Speaker 1: works for you. You get what I'm saying without infringing
Speaker 1: on someone else's happiness R and P and someone else's progress.
Speaker 2: I have to say that, but they dragged me internet well.
Speaker 3: I like that you added that you can you could
Speaker 3: get to the goal many ways.
Speaker 2: You don't have to be malevolent or acrimonious in order
Speaker 2: to do it.
Speaker 4: I have a question, as you've evolved as a man,
Speaker 4: and and you know and your like your work, when
Speaker 4: you change your mindset, did that also play a part
Speaker 4: in changing your like your mindset, and like how you
Speaker 4: showed up as a husband, a boyfriend or a father,
Speaker 4: Like I know we talked about this a little bit earlier,
Speaker 4: but like you were talking about, like how you do
Speaker 4: grandiose things for your wife because you promised her things
Speaker 4: and now you're showing up in the way that in
Speaker 4: what you promise, you're giving her the things that you
Speaker 4: know he does.
Speaker 3: If you go follow six pack on the internet, I
Speaker 3: mean you look on his instagrams, you will see the
Speaker 3: beautiful experiences that he curates for his wife.
Speaker 1: I wanted you to finish your question, but I'm gonna
Speaker 1: say this because that was a question. Yeah, but it's
Speaker 1: because it's important for men and women alike to hear this.
Speaker 1: The best thing I ever gave my wife was peace
Speaker 1: of mind and consistency. If you need money to get her,
Speaker 1: she ain't the one homy little bro. If you need
Speaker 1: money to get her, she ain't the one little bro.
Speaker 1: And that's not demonizing and weaponizing women that it's all
Speaker 1: about money. But if you need money, if that is
Speaker 1: an absolute driving force to her affection and infatuation for you,
Speaker 1: she ain't the one. You get what I'm saying, so
Speaker 1: out of all the grandy, because she can have all
Speaker 1: these grandiose things and be miserable and then it ain't
Speaker 1: worth it. Yeah, so that's fine, but I want to
Speaker 1: amplify and highlight that the most important thing I gave
Speaker 1: her was peace of mind and consistency. Like she's very
Speaker 1: peace women just want a place they could be safe
Speaker 1: and tap into that feminine energy. You can't have her
Speaker 1: out here hustling for the both of y'all, figuring it
Speaker 1: out for the both of y'all, and masculine energy, and
Speaker 1: they want a button and switch and want her to
Speaker 1: turn around and be feminine. You put you're in that
Speaker 1: masculine energy, and now you're mad, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: So for me, the best thing I ever gave it
Speaker 1: was peace of mind. She could take her hand off.
Speaker 1: Her hand ain't been on the steering wind alumnatter fact,
Speaker 1: not only is her hand not on the steering wheels,
Speaker 1: her seat reclined.
Speaker 2: She ain't even look.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so she just get to recline in her femininity,
Speaker 1: which allows me to recline in my masculinity.
Speaker 3: Do you hear this, man, do you hear this? This
Speaker 3: is the life hack. You don't listen. I know we
Speaker 3: live in a time where women have also perpetuated this
Speaker 3: idea that the nigga got to have the bag right,
Speaker 3: you can't do this, this and that. But I think
Speaker 3: even those women, those women have have stepped into this
Speaker 3: bad bitch I need this type of man era because
Speaker 3: they have lacked that. They have lacked consistency, They have
Speaker 3: lacked what was.
Speaker 2: The other thing, peace peace.
Speaker 3: They say, well, fuck the piece. You can't give me peace,
Speaker 3: You can't give me consistency, nigga, you better give me
Speaker 3: some money. Give me the money then, because that's what
Speaker 3: that's what you said. You're that's what you said you're
Speaker 3: good for. Right. The man is the provider, right, will
Speaker 3: provide for me then, because you can't give me in
Speaker 3: any of these other things right now, give me a headache,
Speaker 3: you manage it. And I'm not And I'm not saying
Speaker 3: that that is, that is not that is not the solution,
Speaker 3: but that is that's I think that's that is why
Speaker 3: it is graduated to this because that feels good. That
Speaker 3: bag feels good for right now.
Speaker 1: Well, yeah, money can make you happy, but it can't
Speaker 1: keep you happy. And one thing I learned on my
Speaker 1: way up, and I'm still I'm still a sinding and
Speaker 1: I'm finna be I'm gonna be so real with y'all
Speaker 1: that a lot of people are gonna be mad, and
Speaker 1: some of y'all aint gonna understand what I'm about to say,
Speaker 1: but I'm being honest, and no, I don't have fifty
Speaker 1: trillion dollars. Yet I desire to have fifty trillion dollars
Speaker 1: because that means I can help a lot of people.
Speaker 1: But from where I'm at, what I've learned, from where
Speaker 1: I was to where I'm at, here's one thing I learned.
Speaker 1: I want you to hold on. I hopefully resonate. There's
Speaker 1: really not that many things to spend money on. You
Speaker 1: think you need all this money, but after you hear
Speaker 1: a certain amount of million, it all becomes the same,
Speaker 1: and it starts to become banal, and it would drain
Speaker 1: the fun out of life. Elon must tweeted something and everybody,
Speaker 1: you know, I think only very few people understood like
Speaker 1: what he said, like what it really meant.
Speaker 2: He said.
Speaker 1: The worst thing that can happen is being able to
Speaker 1: buy anything you want and living forever. He said, living
Speaker 1: forever and being able to buy anything you want is
Speaker 1: a curse. And a lot of people didn't really understand it.
Speaker 1: But I get it because I have a different relationship
Speaker 1: with the universe. And being able to buy anything you
Speaker 1: want taste the spice out of life, and life is
Speaker 1: supposed to be a roller coaster up and down. You
Speaker 1: go to a hospital, when you hook up to the machine,
Speaker 1: it's going like this strike life does this in the hospital.
Speaker 2: When you do this, you life.
Speaker 1: Life is supposed to have peaks and values, but if
Speaker 1: you could buy anything, you want nothing, it's a It
Speaker 1: takes the peaks and valley. So what I'm trying to
Speaker 1: tell y'all all that money don't mean nothing. It's people
Speaker 1: that can keep you happy. Money make you happy, but
Speaker 1: it can't keep you happy because when you're everybody at
Speaker 1: one point, hopefully Listen has had a new car, and
Speaker 1: when you got that new car, you're like, oh, I'm
Speaker 1: gona keep it, clean them and washing them and wash
Speaker 1: them and wash it. After a year, you ain't wash
Speaker 1: that car because it don't keep you happy, Like what's
Speaker 1: my next car? Because things can't keep you happy. Only
Speaker 1: the love of people in healthy relationships can sustain that happiness.
Speaker 1: So women, yeah, if he like yo, he ain't give
Speaker 1: me this, He ain't given me that. I want to
Speaker 1: supplement it for money. That's cool, But just understand money
Speaker 1: is a cherry on top. If you bring me a
Speaker 1: birth sole, you can have a cake and icing without
Speaker 1: the cherry, but the cherry and whipped cream ain't no
Speaker 1: good without the cake. That's just a cherry on top,
Speaker 1: And the cake represents the commitment, the peace, the honesty,
Speaker 1: the safety. These women don't feel safe. The cherry on
Speaker 1: top is the tangible things, like all right, we got
Speaker 1: a nice hut, but with having this without that, because
Speaker 1: no matter how big your house is, you can only
Speaker 1: sleep in one room at a time. And if you
Speaker 1: and that motherfucker crying and can't do nothing on it,
Speaker 1: it's like a luxury prison. That's a luxury jail. No
Speaker 1: one envies you, or the white people that's tapped into
Speaker 1: the universe don't envy that. They don't envy that. So
Speaker 1: the best thing I gave her was peace of mind.
Speaker 2: You know what I mean.
Speaker 1: Just do what you say you're gonna do, fellas in
Speaker 1: a timely fashion. Because women, they might not say nothing,
Speaker 1: but they remember what everything you said you was gonna do.
Speaker 1: And if she's in her divinity, she ain't gonna even
Speaker 1: beat you over the head with it. But she took
Speaker 1: a note like, all right, that's twenty things he said.
Speaker 2: He was gonna do it.
Speaker 3: Take cancer. She had cancer. Sh ain't forgetting shit.
Speaker 1: Yeah, So when she is a little reluctant about your
Speaker 1: dream is because she remember you started many things and
Speaker 1: finished nothing. Some of y' I don't have a problem
Speaker 1: with starting things starting at Your problem is finishing, but
Speaker 1: your lady remembers all that. So she's just taking notes
Speaker 1: and holding you accountable for what you showed her. What
Speaker 1: I've learned because I've been on both sides. I was
Speaker 1: a fuck boy, I've been on both sides of this thing,
Speaker 1: and what I learned first women First, A woman will
Speaker 1: treat you how she wants to be treated, and then
Speaker 1: she'll start treating.
Speaker 2: You like you treat her.
Speaker 3: When you're not taking notes.
Speaker 2: Okay, this is what we're doing.
Speaker 1: Okay, Okay, let me So we're going all day with
Speaker 1: our text and now it's my turn.
Speaker 3: No problem.
Speaker 4: Your homeboys me too, Okay, Yeah, I'm with my homeboys too.
Speaker 2: Yeah. They start off like that.
Speaker 1: So you you you you You be a true leader, Fellas,
Speaker 1: and a leader ain't somebody with a bravado that can
Speaker 1: raise their voice and threaten to break TVs and become
Speaker 1: physically and verbally abusive. No, a leader is someone that
Speaker 1: can erect the necessary intangibles out of everyone that's under
Speaker 1: their tutelage to uh extract those intangibles to commit.
Speaker 2: Said goal and execute whatever the goal is. That's a leader.
Speaker 1: You do it first, she'll take notice you do it consistently.
Speaker 1: She will take notes. You do it consistently, and you
Speaker 1: do it first over a long period of time, then
Speaker 1: she'll take action with you. But you do it first,
Speaker 1: show her, don't tell her. Because women hate when you
Speaker 1: try to micromanage them. It's annoying when you ain't doing
Speaker 1: your ship. I want to get on them about what
Speaker 1: they ain't doing, and they know you're not. It irks stay.
Speaker 2: So it's like, you know, how could you dare even
Speaker 2: bring that up? You know what I mean?
Speaker 1: So you're not being sick, You're not being sly. I
Speaker 1: haven't met a woman at my smartest that I'm smarter
Speaker 1: than y'all. Just have y'all just inherent y'all are extra terrestrial.
Speaker 3: It's a fact.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, exactly. You bring life, You bring life, you
Speaker 1: bring a soul from somewhere else here. You're extra terrestrial.
Speaker 1: And the woman just you have a divice like y'all
Speaker 1: could just be in a shower and just be like
Speaker 1: this nigga cheating. It's a fact that you know what
Speaker 1: drawer right, up fronder the naki socks to the like.
Speaker 2: Literally a woman just be like, take you right to it.
Speaker 2: So instead of.
Speaker 1: Having her using her divinity against you to fight you
Speaker 1: all day long, work together, and now she's aiming her
Speaker 1: divinity at the world to move mountains for you. Because
Speaker 1: when me and my wife was at and she want
Speaker 1: my wife at the time at odds, we accomplished nothing
Speaker 1: because all her supernatural power she.
Speaker 2: Using it this and that. But when I put her
Speaker 2: at peace, put her at peace. Now she can use
Speaker 2: her powers for me. See to do that.
Speaker 1: She's using them in the right place because it's supposed
Speaker 1: to be you and your boo against the world, and
Speaker 1: it ain't nothing y'all can do. When I see a
Speaker 1: man that has been with the same woman for five
Speaker 1: years or better and he's living in lack of limited,
Speaker 1: lack and limitation, I know he's a problem because you
Speaker 1: got a secret weaponsitting right there. She can't be the
Speaker 1: problem because if you was doing her right, you could
Speaker 1: tell a woman like you could give a one if
Speaker 1: I want to here's my dream, I just I want
Speaker 1: to blah blah blah blah.
Speaker 3: Oh one moment, let me get you, let me get
Speaker 3: your mediacount.
Speaker 2: Yeah not, let me get you. Two days later, she'll
Speaker 2: be like, here go three thousand dollars. Where you get
Speaker 2: that from?
Speaker 3: Don't worry about it.
Speaker 2: Don't worry. She is ready to get back.
Speaker 1: So if I see a man that's been with a
Speaker 1: woman for a long period of time and he's living
Speaker 1: in lack and limitation, I'm like, you have to be
Speaker 1: the problem because she's magical.
Speaker 4: You're using each other wrong. You're using it divinity on
Speaker 4: the wrong shit. Yeah, but and you are using her
Speaker 4: so she's not using her divinity on the right shit.
Speaker 3: Use all of the both parties are.
Speaker 1: But is the man's job to set the tone. I'm
Speaker 1: a little old school in that wain and I know
Speaker 1: a lot of people like, nah no, but that's cool.
Speaker 1: Whatever worked for you, try to work it. But nah, bro,
Speaker 1: look let me tell you a lot of shit was
Speaker 1: the ship that was here before you got here.
Speaker 2: You can't try to change that shit. That's universal law.
Speaker 1: Everything on earth has an equal opposite up, down, left, right, short.
Speaker 2: Tall, hot, cold.
Speaker 1: You can't now come in here and rearrange Well, you
Speaker 1: could try to rearrange it, but if don't be surprised
Speaker 1: if it don't go right.
Speaker 3: I agree.
Speaker 4: I agree men set the tone, and I think that
Speaker 4: sometimes women are trying to like you're trying to make
Speaker 4: a man do a thing. And like even before I like,
Speaker 4: even when I was single on not in a relationship.
Speaker 4: One thing about me is like I have never really
Speaker 4: been pressed to be in a relationship, Like maybe I
Speaker 4: would want one, or I would like, you know, want
Speaker 4: companionship or just be tired of the streets because niggas
Speaker 4: are slow. But one thing is not like one thing
Speaker 4: I've always said is like I'm not about to like,
Speaker 4: I'm not about to be the bitch like, hey, what
Speaker 4: are we doing here?
Speaker 3: Because that's the man's job.
Speaker 4: If you don't see that I am the prize and
Speaker 4: that there's value in us being an item or being
Speaker 4: in a relationship, I am not going to be the
Speaker 4: one to be like, hey, I think that we should
Speaker 4: be together because you don't get it, so I don't
Speaker 4: need like I've always said that, like I think it's
Speaker 4: the man's job to see what's important and then set
Speaker 4: the tone and say, hey, this I want you and
Speaker 4: we should do this together. And if you say that
Speaker 4: and you're committed to it, then that's what I expect
Speaker 4: if I agree, But I'm never I've never been the
Speaker 4: type of bitch to be like.
Speaker 3: God, I'm going to drop some hints. I'll be like,
Speaker 3: catch you next week, nigga.
Speaker 4: I got some other niggas whose turn is coming up,
Speaker 4: because I don't think I've never thought it was my
Speaker 4: job as the woman to be like, hey, we should
Speaker 4: make we should do this together.
Speaker 3: I if you, if you suggest this, even my.
Speaker 4: Relationship now, he suggested a lot of times, and I
Speaker 4: was like kind of like being scared in ways because
Speaker 4: I haven't really been a committed person. But once he
Speaker 4: made it clear that that's what needed to happen, and
Speaker 4: then I committed. That's what it's been period, Like we've
Speaker 4: always together. Once I came around and made this agreement,
Speaker 4: we agreed to walk in this direction together, and I
Speaker 4: value that and my man because he made it clear
Speaker 4: he wanted me, and that made it easy for me
Speaker 4: to then say, okay, like I'd never understood about women
Speaker 4: are like like I just I don't get it. I
Speaker 4: think that like we are the magical ones, the magical beings,
Speaker 4: and men are too, but for the most part, they
Speaker 4: set the tone and then we follow suit, you know,
Speaker 4: there's a leader and there's you know, it goes both
Speaker 4: ways in many ways.
Speaker 1: But we magical and so I think especially this era,
Speaker 1: women are trying so hard to prove they can do
Speaker 1: everything a man can do that they missing The beauty
Speaker 1: of a woman is that she could do everything a
Speaker 1: man can't do. You're divorcing yourself from your own visceral essence,
Speaker 1: trying to prove you could do with these men could do.
Speaker 3: And I know I could do it, Like I'm a woman.
Speaker 3: I could. I could take care of the one, I
Speaker 3: could take care at home. But do I want to?
Speaker 1: There are some things you could do that a man,
Speaker 1: But there are some things you cannot be because we
Speaker 1: are not all created equal, And that's bullshit. People want
Speaker 1: to say that and they promote that. That's cool, and
Speaker 1: I'm gonna say it because I'm not scared of the internet.
Speaker 4: But you can coun you can live. But are you
Speaker 4: living in your truest essence by doing it all?
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 1: Yeah, but you what men wasn't supposed to do at all.
Speaker 1: We're not supposed we are prepared for a reason.
Speaker 3: We're supposed to use each other, yes, as.
Speaker 1: A partner, yeah, but using is a good thing. Misusing
Speaker 1: is a bad thing. People conflate those two. It's okay,
Speaker 1: matter of fact.
Speaker 2: If I can't use you, that means you're useless. And
Speaker 2: what I'm gonna do with somebody that's useless.
Speaker 3: What are we gonna do together but at each other,
Speaker 3: like we.
Speaker 1: Need missus okay, But misusing is not okay. But using
Speaker 1: people as cooks, it's okay. You're supposed to so where
Speaker 1: my weaknesses are, that's where you supposed to be strong in.
Speaker 2: Come cover me.
Speaker 1: Matter of fact, I think when you choosing a mate,
Speaker 1: when you the more you know yourself, the better mate
Speaker 1: you gonna choose, because you gonna choose what you need
Speaker 1: long term and not what you want right in this moment.
Speaker 1: You get what I'm saying, because the best teams is
Speaker 1: the teams that cover each other's weaknesses.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and where there's lack. I know that you got
Speaker 3: me right, But this is what you're good at. This
Speaker 3: is not good at.
Speaker 1: You asked me earlier off camera, you was like, who
Speaker 1: gets the final say in the house you I was like, ish,
Speaker 1: I was like, it depends on the category. The things
Speaker 1: that she well versed at, she gets the final say.
Speaker 1: She's well versed in it. I told you that off
Speaker 1: camera and the things I'm well versed that I get
Speaker 1: the final say of the things I'm well versed at.
Speaker 1: We're equal, she's not insubordinate to me, and then I
Speaker 1: don't have to even you don't have to go over there.
Speaker 2: That's already covered. We never have to talk about that.
Speaker 2: She knows I'm the head.
Speaker 1: I am the head, no question, but she's the neck,
Speaker 1: and the neck holds the head up and can turn
Speaker 1: the head in any direction. She does not want to
Speaker 1: be the head. She wants to be what she is
Speaker 1: and be the best at what she is. I don't
Speaker 1: want to play her position. I want to play mine
Speaker 1: because her position come with duties and responsibilities that only
Speaker 1: she can do, and there's a lot of my duty
Speaker 1: responsibilities that only I can do.
Speaker 3: And compliment each other harmony, When.
Speaker 2: You guys are in harmony, you don't have to be
Speaker 2: the exact same.
Speaker 1: When you go do a concert or a band, the
Speaker 1: guitars playing one melody, the saxophone might be on a
Speaker 1: different melody, but they in harmony, so it sounds good.
Speaker 2: So you and your partner don't got to be the same.
Speaker 1: Y'all just have to be in harmony, to compliment one
Speaker 1: another and understand positioning and our relationship work. Y'all could
Speaker 1: do what y'all want out there. Because I don't want
Speaker 1: her position and she don't want mine. I'll cultivate and
Speaker 1: help her in her position and what she wanted to do,
Speaker 1: and she'll do the same for me for the greater
Speaker 1: good of the team. We're not in competition and we're
Speaker 1: not trying to be each other role. I don't want that.
Speaker 1: Like I can't do a lot of the teams that
Speaker 1: she could do. I don't even want to do them.
Speaker 1: My wife don't want to change a tire. Why aren't
Speaker 1: you just raining like crazy? She her tire was on flat.
Speaker 1: She had to go to work the next day because
Speaker 1: she worked from home too, And I'm like, it would
Speaker 1: be storming and you will catch your flat tire and
Speaker 1: have to go to work tomorrow morning. And it's five o'clock,
Speaker 1: so I'm literally out in the storm. That's when it
Speaker 1: was storming. Heard changing her tire and she was in
Speaker 1: her office looking at me house window.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm so glad. I'm so glad. I'm the next
Speaker 3: so glad.
Speaker 2: It's spraining and it's slipping around you.
Speaker 1: Right, And I can't put my knee on the ground
Speaker 1: because it's wet, so I can't even kneel down. I
Speaker 1: kind of got a hobbard and my hands slipping, and
Speaker 1: I'm like damn. And I looked up in the window
Speaker 1: and she's just like eating and looking at it, which
Speaker 1: was like, all like, must be nice. But she'll say
Speaker 1: that when I'm chilling, just got my feet up and
Speaker 1: all the clothes separating and piles, and I'm just bepepep
Speaker 1: shipping and finished. Washington ain't gonna get up and stop it.
Speaker 1: She's gonna get up and stop it. So she looking like,
Speaker 1: must be nice. We all have our responsibilities and duties
Speaker 1: as ordain in our relationships. So find out what worked
Speaker 1: for you and your relationship and work that. If tradition
Speaker 1: don't work for you, don't do it. I don't believe
Speaker 1: in doing stuff that are Trying to follow a tradition
Speaker 1: that don't work for you is like being bullied by dead.
Speaker 3: People who are these niggas anyway?
Speaker 2: Yeah, well how are you all dead people? Cohurt you?
Speaker 2: I don't work for you. Do what works. So me
Speaker 2: and my wife that is old work for do what work.
Speaker 3: It's a fact you being bullied by some niggas.
Speaker 2: Work for you.
Speaker 3: Father said, I don't know that.
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 1: The four fathers only had one father. Other three niggas
Speaker 1: got one father them other three niggas don't count. But yeah,
Speaker 1: so in all seriousness, I was being a little facetious there.
Speaker 1: In all seriousness, just find will work for you and
Speaker 1: your partner and work that ship. Respect each other's roles,
Speaker 1: don't disrespect each other's. Like what you're doing a hard
Speaker 1: and what you're doing, yes, it's hard. It's parts of
Speaker 1: that you don't know about because you're not a man,
Speaker 1: or you're not a one.
Speaker 2: You can't. They can't.
Speaker 1: The opposite sex, like your man can't even begin to
Speaker 1: describe what it's like to go out in this world
Speaker 1: as a man, get beat up all day and come
Speaker 1: home and have to explain why certain things ain't hidden.
Speaker 2: That's hard. And a woman can't explain.
Speaker 1: What it feels like to feel like she might don't
Speaker 1: have a voice and want to do things but feel
Speaker 1: them like we both it's hard for both of us.
Speaker 1: So just love on your mate, understand your mate, respect
Speaker 1: your mate's role, and work together and then you could
Speaker 1: be in harmony. So I'm speaking to y'all, like I say,
Speaker 1: my life is proof of concept. I've been with the
Speaker 1: same woman seventeen years and that we have a happy, healthy,
Speaker 1: fruitful relationship. It's important that I emphasize that because just
Speaker 1: because you be in somewhere for a long time don't
Speaker 1: mean you happy. Niggas go to jail for ten years
Speaker 1: don't mean they happy. So you could be somewhere for
Speaker 1: a long time, but don't mean you're happy. We happy, healthy,
Speaker 1: and fruitful. You could be with some for a long time,
Speaker 1: and y'all still ain't got no businesses. Y'all still like
Speaker 1: what kind of y'all? How y'all want a basic born
Speaker 1: and but now.
Speaker 2: Relationship that's not projective.
Speaker 3: If you're not, yeah, get.
Speaker 1: Together five, six, seven, eight, nine years later, y'all should
Speaker 1: own some properties.
Speaker 2: Y'all should get it popping.
Speaker 1: Because how you supposed to be smart in this magical
Speaker 1: person and then he's supposed to be smart in this matter.
Speaker 1: So how do two smart and magical people get together
Speaker 1: and do nothing?
Speaker 3: Or nothing?
Speaker 2: That's somebody lying.
Speaker 3: Something's wrong. Somebody is not being what they supposed to be.
Speaker 3: If you're listening right now you feel triggered.
Speaker 2: Good.
Speaker 4: Well, this brings us to the part of the show
Speaker 4: where we read the tarot card that mister six pulls.
Speaker 4: It's the Magician, which seems appropriate, which all of our
Speaker 4: tarot cards always always go with through episode.
Speaker 3: And I'm gonna tell you what it means, my friends.
Speaker 4: It means manifestation, resourcefulness, power, inspired action.
Speaker 3: If this ain't you, I don't.
Speaker 2: Know who is.
Speaker 3: You are the magician. You got tattoos. You might need
Speaker 3: this tattoo.
Speaker 2: Let me see.
Speaker 3: As a master manifestor.
Speaker 4: The Magician brings you the tools, resources, and energy you
Speaker 4: need to make your dreams come true. Seriously, everything you
Speaker 4: need right now is at your fingertips. You have the
Speaker 4: spiritual fire, physical earth, mental air, and emotional water resources
Speaker 4: to manifest your desires. The elements were in parentheses, and
Speaker 4: when you combine them with the energy of the spiritual
Speaker 4: and earthly realms, you'll become a manifestation powerhouse. The key
Speaker 4: is to bring these tools together synergistically so that the
Speaker 4: impact of what you create is greater than the separate parts.
Speaker 3: This is alchemy at its best. Now is the perfect
Speaker 3: time to move.
Speaker 4: Forward in an idea that you've recently conceived shout out
Speaker 4: to Unqualified as Fuck podcast in the building. The skills,
Speaker 4: knowledge and capabilities you have gathered along your life path
Speaker 4: have led you to where you are now and wherever
Speaker 4: or and whether or not you know it, you are
Speaker 4: ready to turn your ideas into reality. In your quest
Speaker 4: to manifest your goals, you must establish a clear vision
Speaker 4: of what you will create and why before you act.
Speaker 4: It is not enough to be motivated by ego, money, status,
Speaker 4: or fame. You need to have a sole connection to
Speaker 4: your goals and intentions. You are a powerful creative being
Speaker 4: and that is your opportunity to bring your higher self
Speaker 4: and alignment with your day to day actions to create
Speaker 4: the future you want. And let me tell you, when
Speaker 4: he picked this card, he was like on the phone,
Speaker 4: he was like and just picked it. So that's how
Speaker 4: you know that when the stars are aligned, the stars
Speaker 4: are aligned, and when you're in the good, good media
Speaker 4: house with the good moms, the stars are always aligned.
Speaker 2: I receive.
Speaker 3: This morn that way.
Speaker 2: I received.
Speaker 1: I received that we talked earlier on in a segment
Speaker 1: about how words that have power, So I just want
Speaker 1: to acknowledge to the universe. I received every bit of
Speaker 1: what you just said I received. I'm welcome expeditiously, thank you,
Speaker 1: thank you.
Speaker 3: We are so grateful that you came to hang out
Speaker 3: with us today. What was coming.
Speaker 4: We've been talking about this since October that you came
Speaker 4: on the show. So I'm grateful to make this happen
Speaker 4: and find Zaddy June. Tell the people where they can
Speaker 4: find you.
Speaker 3: Will you have a hory?
Speaker 1: Do you think it?
Speaker 2: Really? Yeah? I had once upon a time.
Speaker 3: Is this for Patreon?
Speaker 2: I had a friend before I can even sell on
Speaker 2: a bit. She can't. She was like, so you're not coming, no, bitch, I'm.
Speaker 3: Not well, well, y'all you know, let me just tell
Speaker 3: you you don't want to miss this horry from six.
Speaker 3: So if you want to hear this Mommy daughter horror
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Speaker 3: This might be like a level ten. This is a
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Speaker 3: A bad woman, not a good person. So make sure
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