WEBVTT - Stop Fake Manifesting Feat. Six 0:00:00.240 --> 0:00:02.120 So I did whatever I had to do, and most 0:00:02.120 --> 0:00:04.640 of the time those things weren't great things. I wasn't 0:00:04.680 --> 0:00:07.640 a good person, you know. Most of the time. I'm 0:00:07.680 --> 0:00:09.880 embarrassed the way I used to be because a fish 0:00:09.920 --> 0:00:10.600 don't seawater. 0:00:10.960 --> 0:00:11.920 I didn't know no better. 0:00:12.680 --> 0:00:16.040 But I've forgiven myself and freed myself from that because 0:00:16.079 --> 0:00:18.040 I just did what I had to do. In the 0:00:18.120 --> 0:00:21.120 jungle early in the morning, there's a deer running from 0:00:21.120 --> 0:00:25.040 a lion. Deer is saying, please God, Donna let them 0:00:25.079 --> 0:00:27.720 eat me. The lion is saying, please God, let me 0:00:27.720 --> 0:00:33.199 feed my family. Different prayer, saying God. So when I 0:00:33.280 --> 0:00:36.800 was in that situation, I was a lion and I 0:00:36.840 --> 0:00:56.800 just wanted to feed my family. 0:01:00.120 --> 0:01:03.120 Welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices. I'm Erica and 0:01:03.160 --> 0:01:07.080 I'm Jamila. Oh okay, yeah she's an author now, bitch, 0:01:07.319 --> 0:01:11.480 she said, Jamila, it's my full name. Wow, Hi Jamila. Hi, 0:01:11.760 --> 0:01:15.399 I'm wonderful. I think you met me as Jamila. I did, 0:01:15.480 --> 0:01:17.200 and then you said Mela on the podcast in our 0:01:17.200 --> 0:01:19.440 first episode, and I was fucking confused. I feel like 0:01:19.480 --> 0:01:21.600 it's a good time to reinvent myself. And then also 0:01:21.680 --> 0:01:25.120 some of your friends called you Jamila, you know, living 0:01:25.120 --> 0:01:25.920 in a white space. 0:01:26.280 --> 0:01:29.920 I've been Jamilla for many, many years from teachers and peers. 0:01:30.000 --> 0:01:34.680 But my name is Jamila, hence Mila Jamila a soda map. 0:01:34.840 --> 0:01:37.120 Wow, I'm just going to give my government to the people. 0:01:37.200 --> 0:01:40.360 Great jam I was named after a black panther a 0:01:40.440 --> 0:01:44.640 soda so yeah, a powerful name. And Jamila means she 0:01:44.760 --> 0:01:45.520 who struggles. 0:01:45.880 --> 0:01:47.520 Oh damn yeah, I don't know why. 0:01:47.600 --> 0:01:51.200 Know, Jamila means beautiful in Arabic asada means she who struggles. 0:01:51.520 --> 0:01:54.040 But I was named after a black panther who who 0:01:54.600 --> 0:01:57.960 escaped prison, gave birth in prison, and then escaped and 0:01:58.000 --> 0:01:59.000 lived somewhere in Cuba. 0:01:59.080 --> 0:02:02.320 So it's pretty bad. The beautiful one who struggles, Yeah, 0:02:02.360 --> 0:02:05.160 and rises to the motherfucking occasion. That's sad that because 0:02:05.320 --> 0:02:09.880 she takes the map, she finds her way always, always, 0:02:09.919 --> 0:02:13.480 no matter what. Even I feel like I've graduated out 0:02:13.520 --> 0:02:16.000 of the struggle. That's why I dropped the jab. Apparently, 0:02:16.200 --> 0:02:20.280 Erica is a Scandinavian name and it means a leader Scandinavian. 0:02:20.360 --> 0:02:22.600 I know the people you love. I love them so much, 0:02:22.840 --> 0:02:26.000 you love and I speak to you in Russian. They're 0:02:26.040 --> 0:02:28.160 not Scandina. I feel like Russian Scandinavian. 0:02:28.440 --> 0:02:30.600 Jamila tries to like when I don't know. It always 0:02:30.639 --> 0:02:32.560 comes out at weird times when she's like this, the 0:02:32.639 --> 0:02:36.080 dude that, and I'm like, but shut the fuck up, 0:02:36.200 --> 0:02:37.880 Like I don't talk to me in Russian. 0:02:37.960 --> 0:02:41.639 Everybody else understands. Lena understands because she lives in her home. 0:02:42.200 --> 0:02:44.280 There's only certain words I say in other languages. I 0:02:44.320 --> 0:02:46.400 say see a lot, and I sayd to that. 0:02:46.840 --> 0:02:47.320 I don't know. 0:02:47.400 --> 0:02:49.040 I have a lot of weird I think I'm suggered 0:02:49.040 --> 0:02:50.600 because I went to Russian ones and I had a 0:02:50.720 --> 0:02:54.359 very racist experience multiple times. I'm not surprised when you, 0:02:54.440 --> 0:02:57.720 as a beautiful black woman, are speaking to me in Russian. 0:02:57.800 --> 0:02:58.880 I'm like why, God. 0:02:59.200 --> 0:03:01.359 I grew up with a lot of different friends, and 0:03:01.440 --> 0:03:04.799 one of which is very Russian. In her household, there's 0:03:05.280 --> 0:03:08.240 certain words that I heard often that are Russian. So 0:03:08.320 --> 0:03:10.880 I and I also say close to the light, I 0:03:10.919 --> 0:03:12.320 say like foreign things. 0:03:12.360 --> 0:03:14.080 Sometimes I don't know why it slowsed the light like 0:03:14.120 --> 0:03:14.560 turn it off? 0:03:14.600 --> 0:03:18.720 Yeah, oh interesting, I don't know, it's strange. Okay, Well, hi, Hi, 0:03:18.880 --> 0:03:22.320 how are you. I'm good, I'm happy, I'm tan, you are. 0:03:22.280 --> 0:03:23.240 Tan, I'm a little tan too. 0:03:23.400 --> 0:03:25.520 Some night seen this golden sun case, I would flash 0:03:25.560 --> 0:03:27.040 a titty, But it's gorgeous. 0:03:27.080 --> 0:03:29.880 You look beautiful. We are fresh off of trips, so 0:03:29.919 --> 0:03:31.959 I'm trying to maintain my tan. Last night I went 0:03:32.040 --> 0:03:35.280 in or yesterday morning, I woke up and went and 0:03:35.360 --> 0:03:38.040 laid out in my backyard to make sure that I 0:03:38.080 --> 0:03:40.840 am maintaining this tan because I refuse to go back. 0:03:41.480 --> 0:03:44.240 I realized that I'm much more beautiful tan. I also 0:03:44.280 --> 0:03:46.320 look skinnier tan. I looked at myself naked in the 0:03:46.320 --> 0:03:48.040 mirror this morning, I was like, bitch, what the fuck? 0:03:48.080 --> 0:03:50.400 You fine as hell? And I was like, nothing changed 0:03:50.440 --> 0:03:52.800 between last week and this week. You didn't lose or 0:03:52.800 --> 0:03:54.320 gay in any more weight. You just got tan. 0:03:54.640 --> 0:03:56.680 Well, don't worry, We're about to be tan all summer 0:03:56.680 --> 0:03:58.680 because we are going to be in the sun all 0:03:58.720 --> 0:04:00.480 summer treating. 0:04:00.600 --> 0:04:02.080 I have our retreat. 0:04:02.160 --> 0:04:04.720 I have a tancher retreat of being doing a lot 0:04:04.720 --> 0:04:05.200 in Mexico. 0:04:05.240 --> 0:04:06.560 I'll be you know what, when I come back. 0:04:06.440 --> 0:04:10.000 I'll say, I'll say uh, I'll say what am I 0:04:10.040 --> 0:04:10.560 trying to say? 0:04:10.720 --> 0:04:13.920 Oh no, thank god? I was like, hopefully nothing. We're 0:04:13.920 --> 0:04:17.800 fucking Russian. I'll be Spanish when we come back. Speaking 0:04:17.880 --> 0:04:19.960 of retreats, guys, our retreat is coming up inside you 0:04:20.000 --> 0:04:22.280 eat the Mexico. So if you haven't booked the trip, 0:04:22.279 --> 0:04:25.120 what the fuck are you waiting for. There's still a 0:04:25.120 --> 0:04:27.359 few spots available. You can have a solo room, you 0:04:27.360 --> 0:04:28.760 can share a room with a friend, or get to 0:04:28.760 --> 0:04:32.440 know somebody else. We're taking up for over an entire property, 0:04:32.480 --> 0:04:34.480 as we always do, the only way to do it, 0:04:34.640 --> 0:04:37.200 only way to do it, and it's a beautiful experience. 0:04:37.320 --> 0:04:39.080 If you're looking for the turn up, if you're looking 0:04:39.080 --> 0:04:41.960 for the healing experience, if you're looking for your sisterhood, 0:04:42.040 --> 0:04:46.560 if you're looking for just beautiful new experiences that you 0:04:46.600 --> 0:04:49.279 probably would never do here, this is the place. 0:04:49.000 --> 0:04:51.839 Looking for luxury and if you're looking away, looking for 0:04:51.880 --> 0:04:55.280 a way back to yourself, this is the way. 0:04:55.440 --> 0:04:57.560 Make sure you go follow the Good Vibe Retreat or 0:04:57.560 --> 0:05:00.440 click the link in this episode. If you're watching on YouTube, 0:05:00.560 --> 0:05:03.200 it's in that episode description. If you're listening, it's in 0:05:03.200 --> 0:05:06.600 that episode description. It's a Good Vibe Retreat. We're also 0:05:06.640 --> 0:05:08.880 offering you, guys, a five hundred dollars discount right now 0:05:08.960 --> 0:05:12.600 when you use code Meditate, So make sure you tap 0:05:12.680 --> 0:05:14.600 into that and. 0:05:14.920 --> 0:05:21.360 Rob one hundred dollars. Goddamn big discount it is. And 0:05:22.960 --> 0:05:26.680 that brings me to our guest talking about being skinny 0:05:26.680 --> 0:05:32.200 and looking beautiful. As you know, it is fine Zaddy June. 0:05:32.240 --> 0:05:34.359 Not to be confused with fine Daddy June. It's fine, 0:05:34.920 --> 0:05:35.640 Saddy June. 0:05:36.320 --> 0:05:39.000 Saddy. I don't know if that's a thing anymore, but 0:05:39.080 --> 0:05:40.960 clearly it is so just for us. I feel like, 0:05:41.000 --> 0:05:42.800 if you're a thirties you still say, Zaddy, I don't 0:05:42.839 --> 0:05:45.040 know what the I don't know what the new generation 0:05:45.279 --> 0:05:46.960 X is up there cold or saying I don't I 0:05:46.960 --> 0:05:47.680 got to ask Toy. 0:05:47.720 --> 0:05:50.160 I was hanging out with Toy, our my twenty five 0:05:50.200 --> 0:05:52.640 year old friend, our tribe member. She came to the 0:05:52.640 --> 0:05:54.040 office and hung out with me and Luna, and she 0:05:54.080 --> 0:05:56.120 was saying all types of cool words and I was like, God, 0:05:56.120 --> 0:05:58.640 I love having a young friend. Tell me more, what 0:05:58.680 --> 0:05:59.200 does that mean? 0:06:02.600 --> 0:06:05.640 Well, today we have a friend of mine. I've been 0:06:05.680 --> 0:06:07.599 wanting him come on the show since the since, like 0:06:07.720 --> 0:06:09.719 the since we met and he found out we had 0:06:09.760 --> 0:06:11.560 a podcast. He was like, I should be on your show. 0:06:11.560 --> 0:06:12.840 And I was like, the more I got to know him, 0:06:12.839 --> 0:06:14.520 I was like, you know what you do need to 0:06:14.560 --> 0:06:17.720 be on the show. You be dropping gems all day long. 0:06:18.760 --> 0:06:23.640 Six pack City, the actor, the celebrity trainer, the man 0:06:23.720 --> 0:06:30.200 of Edie wise phrases, epic wise phrases, a father himself actor, 0:06:30.240 --> 0:06:32.400 that's the actor. Yeah, he's just a man of He's 0:06:32.440 --> 0:06:35.680 like a man of mystery. And I'm just so happy 0:06:35.680 --> 0:06:37.120 to have you on the show so you can drop 0:06:37.120 --> 0:06:38.320 some gems to our people. 0:06:39.120 --> 0:06:40.479 So I don't even know what to say. 0:06:40.560 --> 0:06:45.480 That was a prodigious. 0:06:43.680 --> 0:06:46.240 See what the fuck is a prodigious? 0:06:48.880 --> 0:06:53.680 Very grandeur. Sure, that was very prodigious. I appreaci. I'm 0:06:53.680 --> 0:06:54.960 so happy to be here because. 0:06:56.279 --> 0:06:57.720 For a while now and I came to one of 0:06:57.839 --> 0:07:01.400 on live show, I've been hooked every since that. So 0:07:01.480 --> 0:07:03.719 being here is special for me. What you are and 0:07:03.760 --> 0:07:06.800 you are a client and y'all are crazy. For a 0:07:06.880 --> 0:07:10.080 part of me, a part of me, there's something inside 0:07:10.080 --> 0:07:13.520 of me telling me they got you now you're trapped 0:07:13.680 --> 0:07:16.320 because i've been like I don't know what it is, 0:07:16.360 --> 0:07:20.480 but there's a little beacon light flashing inside of me, like, bro, 0:07:20.880 --> 0:07:22.960 you don't even know what you're went for because I 0:07:23.000 --> 0:07:26.000 know y'all are crazy, But I'm happy to be here nonetheless, 0:07:26.000 --> 0:07:28.480 but just so you know, something is telling me, like, Yo, 0:07:28.560 --> 0:07:30.360 you don't even know what you got yourself into, So 0:07:30.360 --> 0:07:31.040 I'm on guard. 0:07:31.320 --> 0:07:33.920 Don't be on guard. This is a safe space. Safe space. 0:07:34.280 --> 0:07:36.600 Still y'all crazy in a good way. But y'all, we 0:07:36.680 --> 0:07:37.240 ain't crazy. 0:07:37.320 --> 0:07:38.640 That's because you came to the show and you saw 0:07:38.720 --> 0:07:40.080 us act crazy that day. 0:07:40.600 --> 0:07:42.880 We'd you act crazy at the shows. I can see 0:07:42.880 --> 0:07:43.560 where you can get that. 0:07:43.760 --> 0:07:45.840 The amount of crazy that went on that show, and 0:07:45.840 --> 0:07:47.800 it was great if you've never been to one of 0:07:47.840 --> 0:07:48.600 day live show. 0:07:48.680 --> 0:07:51.160 And I'm a guy and it's geared. 0:07:52.320 --> 0:07:54.360 Kind of towards women, but I'm a guy and I 0:07:54.520 --> 0:07:57.920 enjoyed ninety percent of ten percent. I didn't you have 0:07:58.000 --> 0:08:01.320 to go to understand why as a guy, and I 0:08:01.360 --> 0:08:03.400 was blown away because I didn't know what to expect. 0:08:03.840 --> 0:08:06.400 But I was like, oh, they crazy crazy. It was 0:08:06.560 --> 0:08:09.480 entertaining all the way through, though, and I have very 0:08:09.560 --> 0:08:14.000 a very short attention span, and because of the frequency 0:08:14.080 --> 0:08:17.840 I vibrate on intellectually, it's hard to captivate me. But 0:08:17.920 --> 0:08:22.080 I was like literally like oh oh oh, oh, so yeah, 0:08:22.120 --> 0:08:23.080 I know y'all crazy. 0:08:23.280 --> 0:08:25.480 Listen. We strive to give the women what they want 0:08:25.520 --> 0:08:29.040 in all spaces at our shows, on this show, at 0:08:29.040 --> 0:08:33.240 our retreats, whenever, all the time, because listen. We also 0:08:33.280 --> 0:08:36.000 have short attention spans. I don't even know how a 0:08:36.040 --> 0:08:39.240 podcast sometimes because when people start talking for too long 0:08:39.280 --> 0:08:42.520 about shit, I don't care about Ashtamila, Like I literally 0:08:42.559 --> 0:08:46.200 it's just like zone out. I'm like staring, but I'm 0:08:46.200 --> 0:08:48.800 not thinking. I'm not listening anymore. I'm just kind of 0:08:48.800 --> 0:08:50.440 like thinking about all the things that I could be 0:08:50.480 --> 0:08:52.080 doing instead of listening to this bullshit. 0:08:52.840 --> 0:08:54.000 Yeah, that's kind of how. 0:08:54.800 --> 0:08:57.719 Yeah, they accuse me like you will check out a 0:08:57.840 --> 0:08:59.880 conversation like kind of. 0:09:00.120 --> 0:09:02.200 I feel like I've adopted that from you. Oh god, 0:09:03.080 --> 0:09:05.760 I'm like, I'm like, what did they just say? 0:09:05.800 --> 0:09:07.800 But it's a part of protecting your energy when you 0:09:07.880 --> 0:09:10.640 decide you discerned, like this conversation is not serving me 0:09:10.679 --> 0:09:11.200 any purpose. 0:09:11.240 --> 0:09:12.800 You just kind of that's what it is for me 0:09:13.000 --> 0:09:14.720 because I'm my girl. I am about to take on 0:09:14.760 --> 0:09:18.880 this energy that you're or a boy. Yeah, So I'm like, dude, 0:09:20.040 --> 0:09:23.200 we are here, we are here. I'm very happy to 0:09:23.240 --> 0:09:25.000 have you here. I'm excited. 0:09:25.520 --> 0:09:27.120 When she first told me, like we should have my 0:09:27.160 --> 0:09:29.280 trainer on I was like, okay, but then I met 0:09:29.280 --> 0:09:30.160 you and I was like, you're right. 0:09:30.640 --> 0:09:32.280 He's so much more than a trainer. He's like a 0:09:32.320 --> 0:09:35.600 motivational speaker, I know, inspirational life coach. 0:09:36.240 --> 0:09:38.280 Well, yeah, that's why when we talked before we went 0:09:38.280 --> 0:09:39.640 on here, I'm like, I don't really know how to 0:09:39.720 --> 0:09:43.720 introduce me because I'm so multifaceted. But I believe everyone is. 0:09:43.840 --> 0:09:48.480 I don't believe that we only have one talent. That's 0:09:48.559 --> 0:09:52.040 not even logical. That's like a very immature acidine in 0:09:52.120 --> 0:09:54.520 way and name way of thinking, because if you think 0:09:54.559 --> 0:09:57.840 about it, sometimes you happy, sometimes you mad, sometimes you freaky, 0:09:58.040 --> 0:10:01.439 sometimes you focus, sometimes you lack of days. Each one 0:10:01.480 --> 0:10:04.480 of those traits is connected to some type of talent. 0:10:05.040 --> 0:10:07.640 So depending on which one is more potent, you'll be 0:10:07.679 --> 0:10:10.440 good at whatever that talent is connected to. So, but 0:10:10.559 --> 0:10:13.720 we live in a society where they try to marginalize you, like, wait, 0:10:13.760 --> 0:10:18.280 you sing, You're a singer, you can't also be a designer? 0:10:18.960 --> 0:10:21.120 Like no, this is you're already good at singing. You 0:10:21.160 --> 0:10:23.640 can't be good at something a thick one. They try to, yeah, 0:10:24.000 --> 0:10:27.640 try to marginalize you, and sometimes we marginalize ourselves. 0:10:27.640 --> 0:10:30.800 We have self imposed cages. 0:10:31.520 --> 0:10:34.839 But me, I tap into everything that I'm great at 0:10:34.880 --> 0:10:36.960 when I leave. When I leave this earth, I'm going 0:10:37.000 --> 0:10:39.360 to die on empty. I won't have anything left. I'll 0:10:39.360 --> 0:10:41.600 be like, God, I use everything you gave me. I'm 0:10:41.600 --> 0:10:44.679 going to die on empty. Everything he gives me I use. 0:10:44.760 --> 0:10:47.280 So I'm multi faceted, and the things that I'm not 0:10:47.400 --> 0:10:50.160 good at, I hire other people to do it for me. 0:10:50.240 --> 0:10:50.640 Amen. 0:10:50.800 --> 0:10:54.040 Amen, believe in that shit. My grandma told me sleep 0:10:54.080 --> 0:10:57.000 when you die. I was like, that's a good quote, 0:10:57.559 --> 0:10:58.760 because there is. 0:10:58.720 --> 0:10:59.680 And I agree with that. 0:10:59.720 --> 0:11:02.800 So because the world will tell you can only do 0:11:02.880 --> 0:11:05.800 one thing and then if you'll fuck yourself believing that 0:11:05.880 --> 0:11:08.640 bullshit and you know, and even like for a long time, 0:11:08.800 --> 0:11:11.840 I didn't like telling people like I'm a podcaster because 0:11:11.840 --> 0:11:14.320 there's so many podcasts, But like, now, bitch, I do 0:11:14.360 --> 0:11:17.120 a lot of shit and I'm good at a lot 0:11:17.160 --> 0:11:19.000 of shit, and you're not going to tell me otherwise 0:11:19.040 --> 0:11:23.120 because I've done it. So I appreciate you embarking on 0:11:23.200 --> 0:11:26.160 all of your talents and inspiring others to do the same, 0:11:26.240 --> 0:11:31.000 because I think people lack the motivation and the confidence 0:11:31.440 --> 0:11:34.559 to just you know you better. 0:11:34.600 --> 0:11:36.520 You know y'all. You want to know what the richest 0:11:36.520 --> 0:11:42.600 place on earth is? Do you know? You want to know? Dubai? Yeah, 0:11:43.480 --> 0:11:45.480 the richest place on earth is the cemetery. 0:11:47.000 --> 0:11:49.199 Hm, how so explain it? 0:11:49.240 --> 0:11:50.359 You know how many people. 0:11:50.120 --> 0:11:52.120 Died with great ideas that went right in that grid 0:11:53.559 --> 0:11:55.840 that didn't act on you know how people died with great. 0:11:55.600 --> 0:11:58.040 Ideas that was That's my biggest fear. That has always 0:11:58.040 --> 0:11:58.840 been my biggest. 0:11:58.840 --> 0:12:00.640 Not dying with great ideas. 0:12:00.400 --> 0:12:02.319 That's scarce more than doing you. 0:12:02.520 --> 0:12:04.280 So a lot of people don't know that cemetery is 0:12:04.320 --> 0:12:05.880 the richest place that all you want people die with 0:12:05.960 --> 0:12:08.719 great ideas. So for me, if God put it in me, 0:12:08.840 --> 0:12:12.280 like I said, we multi faceted, like we are four 0:12:12.400 --> 0:12:15.320 and five dimensional, not even three dimensional, because every part 0:12:15.400 --> 0:12:18.520 of your personality has a talent attached to it. 0:12:18.840 --> 0:12:19.640 You feel what I'm saying. 0:12:20.160 --> 0:12:22.719 So all you have to do is focus long enough 0:12:22.760 --> 0:12:25.319 to tap into that and then you'll be able to 0:12:25.320 --> 0:12:28.400 toggle back and forth and put on these these hats. 0:12:28.440 --> 0:12:32.200 So but I believe we all have that ability if 0:12:32.240 --> 0:12:34.600 we tap into it in an environment that allows us 0:12:34.640 --> 0:12:36.959 to cultivate it. So I don't think I'm special in 0:12:37.080 --> 0:12:39.600 that regard. In a different regard, but not in that regard, 0:12:39.600 --> 0:12:42.520 because I believe we are multifaceted. I'm just brave enough 0:12:42.600 --> 0:12:44.199 to not give a fuck with nobody think. 0:12:44.840 --> 0:12:46.959 And you also have friends that encourage you to do that, 0:12:47.040 --> 0:12:49.560 because if your friends are like, oh, like you can 0:12:49.600 --> 0:12:51.360 only do this one thing, You're like, are you doing 0:12:51.440 --> 0:12:51.760 that now? 0:12:51.960 --> 0:12:54.439 Okay? You always have to have friends who encourage you. 0:12:54.880 --> 0:12:57.959 Yeah, but that's that's dangerous because you're not gonna always 0:12:58.040 --> 0:12:59.920 have friends. You're not gonna always your mama not going 0:13:00.040 --> 0:13:02.040 courage you all the time. You have to learn how 0:13:02.080 --> 0:13:04.120 to be self sustained. You have to learn you have 0:13:04.280 --> 0:13:08.160 to be so omnipotent from the inside that you insulate 0:13:08.200 --> 0:13:10.360 yourself from the bullshit. You have to have a knowing 0:13:10.679 --> 0:13:13.200 because if you depict, if you live for the collaps, 0:13:13.240 --> 0:13:15.960 you're gonna die with the booze, you know what I'm saying. 0:13:16.040 --> 0:13:20.160 So and your friends think about it, it's unfair because 0:13:20.679 --> 0:13:22.439 a lot of people like your friends, my friends want 0:13:22.480 --> 0:13:24.800 to support me. My friend, I got a biz. My 0:13:24.840 --> 0:13:26.880 friends don't support my bizs. My friends don't come to 0:13:26.960 --> 0:13:29.280 my show. My friends And if you think about it, 0:13:29.400 --> 0:13:33.360 that's really unfair because everybody I don't care if you 0:13:33.440 --> 0:13:36.360 two or ninety two. Everybody got a great ideal, and 0:13:36.480 --> 0:13:38.880 most people don't even act on their own great ideal. 0:13:39.160 --> 0:13:41.520 So you want somebody who's not acting on their own 0:13:41.600 --> 0:13:44.280 great idea to come support your ideal, you being selfish 0:13:44.320 --> 0:13:47.160 and stupid. They're not supporting their own shit. You don't 0:13:47.160 --> 0:13:48.800 think they have an ideal? They just ain't shit. Yeah 0:13:48.840 --> 0:13:52.240 they do, they too scared. So don't expect someone that 0:13:52.320 --> 0:13:54.280 won't move on their own shit to move on yours 0:13:54.280 --> 0:13:57.280 and then use that to judge the metrics of your relationship. 0:13:57.440 --> 0:13:59.880 Be self sustained, because anything if I tap you in 0:14:00.320 --> 0:14:02.280 to come on a financial journey with me, like hey, 0:14:02.280 --> 0:14:04.720 we're gonna do this, and you don't do it, that's cool. 0:14:04.800 --> 0:14:06.600 Just no, I'm still gonna do that ideal. And when 0:14:06.600 --> 0:14:08.600 I make my money, I'm not gonna feel bad about 0:14:08.679 --> 0:14:09.360 not sharing them with. 0:14:09.400 --> 0:14:10.800 You because you have the opportunity. 0:14:10.840 --> 0:14:12.400 Yeah, I'm still gonna do everything I said I was 0:14:12.400 --> 0:14:12.679 gonna do. 0:14:12.800 --> 0:14:14.280 Rather you get in and I'm not eve gonna take 0:14:14.280 --> 0:14:16.160 it personal because I don't want you to take it personal. 0:14:16.240 --> 0:14:17.280 When I become successful. 0:14:17.800 --> 0:14:19.320 I think they say that in the Four Agreements. 0:14:19.400 --> 0:14:23.840 It's like, don't take don't take like compliments to personal 0:14:23.920 --> 0:14:30.960 and don't take like what's the opposite of a compliments 0:14:31.120 --> 0:14:31.440 take it. 0:14:31.440 --> 0:14:32.400 Too personally either. 0:14:32.520 --> 0:14:34.680 It's just like, like you said, be self sustained, and 0:14:34.760 --> 0:14:37.280 that's a fact because they will be both, and there 0:14:37.360 --> 0:14:39.240 may be come from people close or far from you. 0:14:39.480 --> 0:14:41.880 Well, I think that also waiting on friends to validate you, 0:14:42.000 --> 0:14:44.840 waiting on friends to make you move to do things, Well, 0:14:44.960 --> 0:14:47.640 you'll be waiting forever, low key like, once you start 0:14:47.720 --> 0:14:49.800 making those moves and once you start believing in yourself, 0:14:50.360 --> 0:14:52.920 those people will come, right, you know, those people will 0:14:52.960 --> 0:14:54.880 come and you'll attract those people. I mean, I think 0:14:54.920 --> 0:14:56.760 about even just like our retreats, how we get so 0:14:56.800 --> 0:14:59.120 many messages where people are like, I want to come, 0:14:59.200 --> 0:15:02.080 but my friend and you know I'm waiting on my friend. 0:15:02.280 --> 0:15:04.600 I'm like, your friend will have you waiting forever. You're 0:15:04.600 --> 0:15:06.920 gonna miss out on this experience. Your friend will have 0:15:07.000 --> 0:15:08.920 you waiting out on money, your friend will have you 0:15:08.920 --> 0:15:11.080 waiting on opportunities, all types of shit. You kind of 0:15:11.160 --> 0:15:13.440 just have to count on yourself and just move forward 0:15:14.160 --> 0:15:16.720 and all the other those friends that you really want 0:15:16.880 --> 0:15:18.360 will will come. 0:15:19.200 --> 0:15:21.560 They will come flock to you. If I would have waited. 0:15:22.000 --> 0:15:23.960 There's two things I don't do. I don't hate on nobody. 0:15:23.960 --> 0:15:26.640 I don't wait on nobody. I like that period. 0:15:26.640 --> 0:15:28.080 I don't hate on no my bout it. I don't 0:15:28.080 --> 0:15:30.160 wait nobody. So wait, wait, wait, because I feel like 0:15:30.440 --> 0:15:37.760 you're talking affirmations, and we always shared affirmation, usually at 0:15:37.800 --> 0:15:38.920 the top. We try to do at the top of 0:15:38.960 --> 0:15:40.640 the show, but this week we're going to do it 0:15:40.640 --> 0:15:41.880 at the top of the show because I feel like 0:15:41.960 --> 0:15:45.080 you are a walking affirmation. So if you have an 0:15:45.080 --> 0:15:47.200 affirmation that you can share with our tribe. 0:15:48.840 --> 0:15:51.200 I'll share affirmation and the incantation. 0:15:51.640 --> 0:15:52.520 What's the incantation? 0:15:52.760 --> 0:15:57.240 Incantation is something like the chance dud okay, I like 0:15:57.280 --> 0:15:57.720 a spell? 0:15:58.040 --> 0:16:02.680 Oh well, you know we love spell. Spell here wh two. 0:16:02.560 --> 0:16:07.720 Witches another way of saying spells. Incantation and something saying 0:16:08.000 --> 0:16:10.440 that you would say or you would put into the universe. 0:16:10.480 --> 0:16:13.240 So I'll give your affirmation and both. I happened to 0:16:13.480 --> 0:16:18.440 live by first. The affirmation that I live by completely 0:16:19.280 --> 0:16:21.960 is if you can see it in your mind, you 0:16:22.160 --> 0:16:23.080 hold it in your hands. 0:16:23.760 --> 0:16:25.600 If you can can see it in your mind, you 0:16:25.720 --> 0:16:27.240 can hold it in your hands. 0:16:27.840 --> 0:16:30.640 I believe that right now and I'm sitting inside of 0:16:30.720 --> 0:16:34.080 your thoughts. This was a thought before it came to life. 0:16:35.040 --> 0:16:36.600 If you can see but you saw it already. 0:16:36.800 --> 0:16:38.320 You see. You got to speak what you seek to 0:16:38.400 --> 0:16:40.960 you see what you said? Mm hmm, you know what 0:16:40.960 --> 0:16:41.280 I'm saying. 0:16:41.480 --> 0:16:44.200 Hm. So if you can see it, and she's like, wait, 0:16:44.480 --> 0:16:47.640 you gotta speak what you see. Oh listen, you gotta 0:16:47.720 --> 0:16:50.080 speak what you seek till you see. 0:16:50.040 --> 0:16:50.640 What you said. 0:16:51.360 --> 0:16:54.960 You gotta speak, and you gotta speak what you seek. 0:16:55.520 --> 0:16:56.880 You see what you said. 0:16:57.600 --> 0:16:59.680 Okay, you gotta speak what you seek to you see 0:16:59.720 --> 0:17:02.040 what you because if you can see it in your mind, 0:17:02.080 --> 0:17:03.920 you can hold it in your hands. You know, I 0:17:04.000 --> 0:17:10.160 come from from nothing. I had a very impoverished, tumultuous upbringing. 0:17:10.840 --> 0:17:11.760 But I was able to. 0:17:14.840 --> 0:17:17.600 Climb my way out of that through changing my mentality. 0:17:18.240 --> 0:17:20.760 Where are you from originally original I'm from West California. 0:17:21.720 --> 0:17:24.359 Was California the projects? 0:17:27.040 --> 0:17:29.920 So what was your mindset then and what was the 0:17:30.040 --> 0:17:32.040 journey I guess to changing your mindset? 0:17:32.280 --> 0:17:35.160 Well, my mindset then was you know, and I didn't. 0:17:35.400 --> 0:17:38.119 I didn't in that moment. I didn't know, but that 0:17:38.600 --> 0:17:41.000 you know, I was a tyrant. I was in minutes 0:17:41.080 --> 0:17:44.920 I was Bello Coast borish and belligerent. But I didn't 0:17:44.960 --> 0:17:46.680 know that, Like it was just I was just dropped 0:17:46.720 --> 0:17:50.040 off in that I woke up in that environments. Bello 0:17:50.119 --> 0:17:53.800 Coast is like somebody's eager to fight. When you Bellow Coast, 0:17:54.040 --> 0:17:56.399 it just mean somebody's eager to eager to fight. I 0:17:56.440 --> 0:17:58.040 want to argue all the time, want to be that's 0:17:58.040 --> 0:18:00.560 a Beller Coast person. But I was Bello Coast borish 0:18:00.600 --> 0:18:02.840 and belligerent. I didn't know that because it was just 0:18:02.880 --> 0:18:06.719 an environment that I grew up in and it was normalized. 0:18:06.760 --> 0:18:07.480 That's all I knew. 0:18:07.680 --> 0:18:10.000 I've never been beyond that, you geel what I'm saying, 0:18:10.080 --> 0:18:12.720 And especially running around in the projects and having a 0:18:12.760 --> 0:18:14.760