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Speaker 3: Welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices. I'm Erica and

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Speaker 3: I'm Jamila. Oh okay, yeah she's an author now, bitch,

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Speaker 3: she said, Jamila, it's my full name. Wow, Hi Jamila. Hi,

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Speaker 3: I'm wonderful. I think you met me as Jamila. I did,

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Speaker 3: But my name is Jamila, hence Mila Jamila a soda map.

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Speaker 4: I was hanging out with Toy, our my twenty five

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Speaker 2: They will come flock to you. If I would have waited.

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Speaker 2: I'll share affirmation and the incantation.

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Speaker 3: What's the incantation?

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Speaker 3: If you can can see it in your mind, you

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Speaker 2: Period. The only difference between poverty and prosperity is what

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Speaker 1: You know what club is popping, you know when Macy's

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Speaker 1: Which you don't know nothing about IRA trust funds. You

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Speaker 1: don't know how to file or a proper escort.

438
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Speaker 2: You don't So that we get hurt by the things

439
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Speaker 2: we don't know.

440
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Speaker 4: We don't know's it's interesting. I think a lot of

441
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Speaker 4: not a lot of people can say I used to

442
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Speaker 4: be a bad person. You know, a lot of people

443
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Speaker 4: are unwilling to categorize themselves in that way.

444
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Speaker 3: But you're so self aware. I'm wondering, like, what was

445
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Speaker 3: it that shifted your mindset?

446
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Speaker 4: Was there like a grandiose event that happened that you

447
00:20:28,359 --> 00:20:29,720
Speaker 4: were like, let me sit the fuck down. Was there

448
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Speaker 4: a conversation? Was there someone you met, Like it's a

449
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Speaker 4: collection of things for all of us.

450
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Speaker 1: I don't just I don't think I'm unique in that way.

451
00:20:35,880 --> 00:20:38,280
Speaker 1: But I walked this, I was any streets for real

452
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Speaker 1: like this I was. So I can't not say I

453
00:20:41,359 --> 00:20:44,440
Speaker 1: was a bad person because it's documented who I was

454
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Speaker 1: and what I did, And I always pair that with

455
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Speaker 1: who I am now, because it ain't how you start,

456
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Speaker 1: it's how you finish, you know what I'm saying. Yeah,

457
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Speaker 1: I ran around the projects, but now I live up

458
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Speaker 1: in the mountains in a big ass house that I

459
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Speaker 1: built from scratch.

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Speaker 2: No, I didn't have a mother that was there. My

461
00:21:00,160 --> 00:21:01,880
Speaker 2: mother was on drug so I was about twenty five

462
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Speaker 2: years old.

463
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Speaker 1: And No, I didn't have a father, But still I

464
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Speaker 1: am a father and I still take my responsibility serious.

465
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Speaker 2: No, I didn't go to college, but everybody who works

466
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Speaker 2: for me did.

467
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Speaker 1: You don't need a college degree to start your own business,

468
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Speaker 1: but you need one to go work with somebody else.

469
00:21:18,320 --> 00:21:20,880
Speaker 1: So my life is just a representation. Like it ain't

470
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Speaker 1: how you start, it's how you finish. And at any moment,

471
00:21:24,000 --> 00:21:28,879
Speaker 1: you can extricate yourself from poverty, pain, plight, and trauma.

472
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Speaker 1: You could just say I'm not doing that no more.

473
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Speaker 1: As soon as you say I'm not doing that no more,

474
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Speaker 1: I'm not that person no more, you're free and no

475
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Speaker 1: one can hold you prisoner to a past persona of yourself.

476
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Speaker 2: Soon as you stop, you're free at that moment.

477
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Speaker 1: So it don't matter because soon as people see you

478
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Speaker 1: doing good, they start bringing up shit from twenty twelve.

479
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Speaker 2: Doing good. I remember when you was a Oldham.

480
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Speaker 1: I just know how to kide it now from y'all

481
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Speaker 1: because privacy is currency. I'm happy still, so you I

482
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Speaker 1: walk in my truth because I don't care. I live

483
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Speaker 1: in my calling and you don't have to understand it

484
00:22:02,880 --> 00:22:05,840
Speaker 1: was when God, it wasn't a conference call, it wasn't

485
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Speaker 1: one on one.

486
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Speaker 2: Yeah, my calling wasn't a kind ain't for you. You

487
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Speaker 2: get what I'm saying.

488
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Speaker 1: So just being able to live long enough, man, know what,

489
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Speaker 1: I can't talk about most of the things that I've

490
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Speaker 1: done still to this day, you know. But there's a

491
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Speaker 1: few people, few friends still living, and we catch up

492
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Speaker 1: every now and again and just be like, man, we're here,

493
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Speaker 1: like we lived long enough to grow great hair, because

494
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Speaker 1: a lot of my friends did not live. Yesterday was

495
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Speaker 1: my brother's birthday. He got killed in nineteen ninety seven,

496
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Speaker 1: in twenty six years and still like it was yesterday.

497
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Speaker 1: You get what I'm saying. And my big brother, you know,

498
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Speaker 1: he was in these streets. He's a reputable but I'm

499
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Speaker 1: not gonna even tell you. You know where he was

500
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Speaker 1: from and all that, but he was irreptable but to me,

501
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Speaker 1: he was just my brother, so losing him was like

502
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Speaker 1: losing my father because I was the only father I knew.

503
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Speaker 2: So it grew me up quick. I was about fourteen,

504
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Speaker 2: so it grew me up quick, you know what I mean.

505
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Speaker 2: I had.

506
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Speaker 1: I went from having two blood brothers to just being

507
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Speaker 1: in these streets by because in the same year my

508
00:23:02,440 --> 00:23:05,280
Speaker 1: big brother was murdered, my little brother went and did

509
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Speaker 1: like eight years, so he got it. My little brother

510
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Speaker 1: was like thirteen and he went and did a So

511
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Speaker 1: I went from having three of us figuring out to

512
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Speaker 1: just me. So I got out here and I hit

513
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Speaker 1: the ground running, and anything I do, I did it

514
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Speaker 1: for real. So when I when I was in these streets,

515
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Speaker 1: I was in it for real. I ain't never bully nobody,

516
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Speaker 1: I ain't never pick on nobody, but if something came

517
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Speaker 1: my way, I was the lion. And that's how I survived.

518
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Speaker 1: Because where I'm from, you can't. You can't have no

519
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Speaker 1: chance in your armor and survive. That's why a lot

520
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Speaker 1: of my friends didn't. But also, you can't be a bully.

521
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Speaker 1: I knew some dudes that was a bad motherfucker. I

522
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Speaker 1: knew some bad motherfuckers like I had. I had some

523
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Speaker 1: beasts at times where I was scared, literally scared to

524
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Speaker 1: leave my house for real, like real beef. This ain't

525
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Speaker 1: like now where you got these keyboard thugs and this

526
00:23:51,119 --> 00:23:53,480
Speaker 1: was a different era, and you know, and I was,

527
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Speaker 1: but I held my shit, you know what I mean?

528
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Speaker 1: But I seen him and people ain't here no more.

529
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Speaker 1: So bullies get killed and people who do too much

530
00:24:00,560 --> 00:24:01,000
Speaker 1: get killed.

531
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Speaker 2: You know how smart you gotta be to do just enough.

532
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Speaker 1: To survive and not too much to go to jail

533
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Speaker 1: and a paralyze and did you gotta almost be a genius.

534
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Speaker 1: That's why I'm over here and I can excel, I

535
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Speaker 1: can sewar. I can fly because.

536
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Speaker 2: I can.

537
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Speaker 1: The people over here can never survive what I went through.

538
00:24:25,280 --> 00:24:28,800
Speaker 1: But I can survive this. Oh irs, send me a letter.

539
00:24:28,840 --> 00:24:29,760
Speaker 1: I made too much money?

540
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Speaker 2: Cool? I had killers at my door.

541
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Speaker 3: Well that's the thing, too, is like anytime asks like

542
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Speaker 3: how you doing, like he's like he's always looking at me,

543
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Speaker 3: like what you mean? Like what the fuck do you mean? Howiday?

544
00:24:39,560 --> 00:24:43,760
Speaker 2: Because life? Your life is good? Oh b O two

545
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Speaker 2: five p three four. I'll never forget it. I was

546
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Speaker 2: my case number.

547
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Speaker 1: I was on GR two hundred and twenty dollars of

548
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Speaker 1: food stamps one hundred and eighty dollars a month, and

549
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Speaker 1: I had to make stretch. I grew up on gr

550
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Speaker 1: and even as an adult, was homeless, and because it

551
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Speaker 1: was just part of the culture I was with. And

552
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Speaker 1: I remember when I decided I was gonna do no more,

553
00:25:00,800 --> 00:25:02,359
Speaker 1: and I just made it. I heard a voice, but

554
00:25:02,600 --> 00:25:04,440
Speaker 1: we all hear that voice, or your voice tell you

555
00:25:04,520 --> 00:25:06,919
Speaker 1: what to do, and you ignore it. You you're disrespecting

556
00:25:06,960 --> 00:25:08,960
Speaker 1: your own divinity. But I heard a voice like you

557
00:25:09,040 --> 00:25:11,200
Speaker 1: gotta stop, and I was like, stop doing. But I

558
00:25:11,359 --> 00:25:14,639
Speaker 1: had already heard voices before that. You know, I didn't

559
00:25:14,640 --> 00:25:18,200
Speaker 1: been in some violent situations where I almost lost my life.

560
00:25:18,280 --> 00:25:21,080
Speaker 1: And you bargain with God, You sitting there bleeding from

561
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Speaker 1: the neck, dying, literally dying. You make it all kind

562
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Speaker 1: of bargain.

563
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Speaker 3: The last time.

564
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Speaker 2: Yes, I swear to God, to God, God right.

565
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Speaker 1: But so I made all kind of bargains and all

566
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Speaker 1: kinds of things to get myself out of jams.

567
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Speaker 2: You and them handcuffs.

568
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Speaker 1: You're like, God, please help me in you know, But

569
00:25:39,200 --> 00:25:41,600
Speaker 1: I had already had a voice tell me, you know,

570
00:25:41,720 --> 00:25:45,720
Speaker 1: to stop selling dope. So then you know I was like,

571
00:25:45,920 --> 00:25:48,879
Speaker 1: all right, God, I guess whoever telling me to do this,

572
00:25:49,040 --> 00:25:51,440
Speaker 1: let's see what happened. So I'm on gr Then I

573
00:25:51,480 --> 00:25:53,080
Speaker 1: heard a voice like, you gotta get off of this shit,

574
00:25:53,119 --> 00:25:55,320
Speaker 1: and I'm like, well, I ain't selling dope, so I

575
00:25:55,480 --> 00:25:58,119
Speaker 1: gotta just be broke, Like well, what I gotta do?

576
00:25:58,800 --> 00:26:00,920
Speaker 1: And then the voice just said and I just adhere

577
00:26:00,960 --> 00:26:03,440
Speaker 1: to that voice. But then, and I hate to just

578
00:26:03,520 --> 00:26:08,200
Speaker 1: jump around, but I'm trying to impart a lot of

579
00:26:08,240 --> 00:26:10,840
Speaker 1: knowledge in a short amount of time for your listeners.

580
00:26:13,240 --> 00:26:17,399
Speaker 1: We all have choices and little windows of opportunity that

581
00:26:17,560 --> 00:26:22,000
Speaker 1: come floating by over and over again. I'm in my

582
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Speaker 1: forties and I can say that with probably because I

583
00:26:23,800 --> 00:26:25,320
Speaker 1: don't look like it. And I got shipped to show

584
00:26:25,359 --> 00:26:27,919
Speaker 1: for people who's scared to say their age because they

585
00:26:28,000 --> 00:26:29,680
Speaker 1: look batter and they know I got ship to show

586
00:26:29,760 --> 00:26:35,640
Speaker 1: I'm good. But when I see somebody this old that's

587
00:26:35,680 --> 00:26:41,199
Speaker 1: still struggling, I feel bad for them, not because they

588
00:26:41,280 --> 00:26:46,840
Speaker 1: miss the opportunity, but because they never They never developed

589
00:26:46,880 --> 00:26:49,200
Speaker 1: themselves because opportunity don't come once.

590
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Speaker 2: That's why I'd be like, yo, you you suck at life.

591
00:26:53,000 --> 00:26:55,320
Speaker 1: It wasn't like they missed one opportunity and for the

592
00:26:55,359 --> 00:26:57,919
Speaker 1: rest of their life. Lamb, you miss your one opportunity

593
00:26:58,000 --> 00:26:59,879
Speaker 1: come over and over. So I'm like, yo, if you

594
00:27:00,040 --> 00:27:02,240
Speaker 1: miss your opportunity in your twenties because she was young,

595
00:27:02,520 --> 00:27:04,440
Speaker 1: and then your mid twenties because she was wild, and

596
00:27:04,480 --> 00:27:06,520
Speaker 1: then your thirties because she was preoccupied with trying to

597
00:27:06,520 --> 00:27:08,840
Speaker 1: clean up shit for your too. But that mean every

598
00:27:08,920 --> 00:27:13,000
Speaker 1: time this window floated by, you missed it because your opportunity.

599
00:27:13,040 --> 00:27:17,880
Speaker 1: So for the people listening, opportunity always feels uncomfortable, random

600
00:27:18,560 --> 00:27:23,159
Speaker 1: and just sometimes grandiose, but all the time divine, and

601
00:27:23,240 --> 00:27:25,400
Speaker 1: you jumped through the window. So I just I'm gonna

602
00:27:25,400 --> 00:27:27,920
Speaker 1: just stop doing everything. And then I remember my wife.

603
00:27:28,000 --> 00:27:29,479
Speaker 1: She was my wife at the time, and I got

604
00:27:29,600 --> 00:27:31,720
Speaker 1: to tell this short story. She came one night I

605
00:27:31,840 --> 00:27:35,040
Speaker 1: was at the trap House. Because a lot of people

606
00:27:35,520 --> 00:27:39,360
Speaker 1: that just now met me through online, just now met

607
00:27:39,400 --> 00:27:41,840
Speaker 1: me in this chapter. They don't know how bad all

608
00:27:41,880 --> 00:27:44,080
Speaker 1: the other chapters were, so when they see me spoiling

609
00:27:44,160 --> 00:27:46,200
Speaker 1: my wife, that's all you see.

610
00:27:46,280 --> 00:27:47,359
Speaker 2: But let me tell you something.

611
00:27:47,960 --> 00:27:49,879
Speaker 1: I remember I was at the Trap House and I

612
00:27:49,960 --> 00:27:52,399
Speaker 1: was sitting there. It was probably like eleven thirty, almost

613
00:27:52,440 --> 00:27:56,280
Speaker 1: midnight at night. And then one of my homeboys was like, hey,

614
00:27:56,320 --> 00:27:59,880
Speaker 1: I think your girl outside and I was on my sidekick,

615
00:28:02,000 --> 00:28:04,400
Speaker 1: but my girl ain't outside because back then ain't.

616
00:28:04,200 --> 00:28:06,280
Speaker 2: Nobody can pop up on me, especially in no trop house.

617
00:28:06,640 --> 00:28:08,800
Speaker 2: She ain't tell me she was on her way. And

618
00:28:08,880 --> 00:28:10,320
Speaker 2: he was like, yeah, I think that's her. I'm like,

619
00:28:10,359 --> 00:28:12,120
Speaker 2: nah that in her. He was like, nah, that's your girl.

620
00:28:12,480 --> 00:28:15,080
Speaker 1: She she got a silver came right, and I'm like yeah,

621
00:28:16,119 --> 00:28:18,280
Speaker 1: so right when I said, I'm like, what she doing

622
00:28:18,320 --> 00:28:19,920
Speaker 1: here popping up on me?

623
00:28:20,000 --> 00:28:23,400
Speaker 2: And she like come outside? So in this in this era,

624
00:28:23,800 --> 00:28:26,200
Speaker 2: I'm like, oh, ship, what did she find? Out?

625
00:28:26,960 --> 00:28:27,080
Speaker 5: Right?

626
00:28:27,240 --> 00:28:28,080
Speaker 3: You pop up?

627
00:28:28,760 --> 00:28:31,320
Speaker 2: I'm like, what the fuck did you find? Like? What what?

628
00:28:32,600 --> 00:28:34,720
Speaker 2: And I came around to her window and she was

629
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Speaker 2: like get in. I was like all right, I'm like,

630
00:28:37,880 --> 00:28:42,240
Speaker 2: oh Ship, I'm in trouble. So I get in the

631
00:28:42,320 --> 00:28:44,080
Speaker 2: car and she started driving.

632
00:28:44,160 --> 00:28:47,360
Speaker 1: I'm like, what the like, I'm very uncomfortable and she

633
00:28:47,560 --> 00:28:49,760
Speaker 1: was like yeah, so long story short, she was like, yeah,

634
00:28:49,800 --> 00:28:50,120
Speaker 1: I was just.

635
00:28:50,160 --> 00:28:51,760
Speaker 2: Thinking I don't I don't. I don't want you over

636
00:28:51,840 --> 00:28:52,320
Speaker 2: here anymore.

637
00:28:53,560 --> 00:28:54,320
Speaker 3: So I've just been thinking.

638
00:28:54,360 --> 00:28:56,880
Speaker 2: I've been thinking what And she was like, yeah, I

639
00:28:56,880 --> 00:28:59,480
Speaker 2: don't want you, you know in there no more.

640
00:28:59,480 --> 00:29:01,640
Speaker 1: You know, I leaving every one of your dreams, and

641
00:29:02,200 --> 00:29:03,760
Speaker 1: you know I don't I know you doing this, so

642
00:29:04,000 --> 00:29:05,440
Speaker 1: you know we could pay rent and we could do

643
00:29:05,520 --> 00:29:07,080
Speaker 1: this now, but I don't want you here anymore. I

644
00:29:07,120 --> 00:29:10,120
Speaker 1: got a third job, and I don't want you to

645
00:29:10,160 --> 00:29:15,840
Speaker 1: come back work three jobs. And no one had ever

646
00:29:16,200 --> 00:29:21,640
Speaker 1: done anything remotely close to that sidebar.

647
00:29:23,520 --> 00:29:24,760
Speaker 2: At that point in my life.

648
00:29:24,800 --> 00:29:28,120
Speaker 1: I was didn't trust no woman because I had mother

649
00:29:28,200 --> 00:29:30,080
Speaker 1: issues that didn't know because I felt like the woman

650
00:29:30,080 --> 00:29:32,200
Speaker 1: who should have loved me first didn't, So there was

651
00:29:32,240 --> 00:29:34,120
Speaker 1: no way in hell any other these bishops was ever

652
00:29:34,160 --> 00:29:35,800
Speaker 1: gonna love me. So I'm gonna get my lick first.

653
00:29:36,600 --> 00:29:38,960
Speaker 1: But anyway, so that blew my mind. I was like,

654
00:29:39,040 --> 00:29:39,840
Speaker 1: are you serious?

655
00:29:40,920 --> 00:29:44,840
Speaker 2: And she was like yeah. So I I left my sack.

656
00:29:45,000 --> 00:29:46,520
Speaker 1: I called the home and was like, yo, you can

657
00:29:46,920 --> 00:29:48,320
Speaker 1: you give them I'm like yeah, And I never went

658
00:29:48,360 --> 00:29:49,000
Speaker 1: back the next day.

659
00:29:49,040 --> 00:29:50,360
Speaker 3: That's all she had to say.

660
00:29:50,760 --> 00:29:50,920
Speaker 2: Yeah.

661
00:29:50,960 --> 00:29:52,720
Speaker 1: She said I'm gonna hold you down, and she paid

662
00:29:52,760 --> 00:29:56,000
Speaker 1: the rent. I was driving her car and so on

663
00:29:56,160 --> 00:29:58,000
Speaker 1: and so forth, and she was like, just do what

664
00:29:58,080 --> 00:30:00,640
Speaker 1: you gotta do, but do your dreams. And she and

665
00:30:00,760 --> 00:30:03,920
Speaker 1: she held us down. So now you fast forward. People

666
00:30:03,960 --> 00:30:05,960
Speaker 1: who know me and they're like, yo, you built your wife.

667
00:30:06,120 --> 00:30:09,200
Speaker 1: I'm always twenty twenty three and my wife ain't bought

668
00:30:09,240 --> 00:30:10,840
Speaker 1: her own car since two thousand and five.

669
00:30:13,040 --> 00:30:14,560
Speaker 2: Her last car was a Toyota.

670
00:30:14,280 --> 00:30:18,040
Speaker 1: Camera and ever since then, you know, she's been riding Maseratis, Porsches,

671
00:30:19,080 --> 00:30:24,840
Speaker 1: range Rovers, Lexuses, Bens. You know that I bought her,

672
00:30:25,400 --> 00:30:26,800
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. I put six figures in

673
00:30:26,840 --> 00:30:28,760
Speaker 1: her account. I built her a house, and Scratch took

674
00:30:28,800 --> 00:30:30,480
Speaker 1: her to the lamp where you want this house? And

675
00:30:30,560 --> 00:30:33,800
Speaker 1: she what where you want the house? At point point

676
00:30:33,840 --> 00:30:36,720
Speaker 1: to a spot. But people don't understand, like how she

677
00:30:36,960 --> 00:30:39,320
Speaker 1: was there for me and in those times. And I

678
00:30:40,120 --> 00:30:42,800
Speaker 1: never forgot that. And I promised her she'll tell you.

679
00:30:42,920 --> 00:30:44,560
Speaker 1: I looked her in her eyes because I was fucking

680
00:30:44,640 --> 00:30:45,520
Speaker 1: up too during that time.

681
00:30:46,000 --> 00:30:46,720
Speaker 2: It's fast forward.

682
00:30:46,720 --> 00:30:48,560
Speaker 1: Weve been me and my wife been together seventeen years

683
00:30:48,600 --> 00:30:50,880
Speaker 1: and lived together sixteen. I remember one point I was

684
00:30:50,920 --> 00:30:53,360
Speaker 1: fucking up and I felt bad because I knew I

685
00:30:53,480 --> 00:30:55,800
Speaker 1: wasn't living up to my pot I could tell in

686
00:30:55,880 --> 00:30:58,480
Speaker 1: her eyes I wasn't living up to my potential, like

687
00:30:59,040 --> 00:31:01,800
Speaker 1: and it was eating me that I felt like, damn,

688
00:31:01,880 --> 00:31:04,239
Speaker 1: I think she's starting to stop look at me as

689
00:31:04,280 --> 00:31:06,800
Speaker 1: a man. And I remember I had a couple of

690
00:31:07,160 --> 00:31:09,400
Speaker 1: dollars left, and we went to this place called picnic

691
00:31:09,480 --> 00:31:09,960
Speaker 1: in the Marina.

692
00:31:10,080 --> 00:31:11,840
Speaker 2: We lived in the hood. We lived in Hawthorn, and

693
00:31:11,880 --> 00:31:14,120
Speaker 2: I remember I sat her down right there. She was

694
00:31:14,200 --> 00:31:15,600
Speaker 2: going back, and I was like, look, one day, we're

695
00:31:15,600 --> 00:31:16,880
Speaker 2: going to live in the neighborhood like this.

696
00:31:17,160 --> 00:31:20,640
Speaker 1: And I know I took a because she was sitting

697
00:31:20,680 --> 00:31:22,800
Speaker 1: there just looking at me, and I said, I'm gonna

698
00:31:22,800 --> 00:31:24,200
Speaker 1: take a picture because you was gonna remember this.

699
00:31:24,320 --> 00:31:26,360
Speaker 2: I had a picture to this day because I told

700
00:31:26,360 --> 00:31:28,520
Speaker 2: her why I'm gonn buy a house. I'm gonna make

701
00:31:28,520 --> 00:31:29,000
Speaker 2: you a million.

702
00:31:29,480 --> 00:31:33,160
Speaker 1: I laid it out there and she just sat there

703
00:31:33,280 --> 00:31:36,520
Speaker 1: and was quietly just listened to this fantasy.

704
00:31:38,520 --> 00:31:40,480
Speaker 2: And I've done everything that I told her I was

705
00:31:40,520 --> 00:31:42,640
Speaker 2: going to do well.

706
00:31:42,680 --> 00:31:45,480
Speaker 1: First, I had to change my mindset, and then I

707
00:31:45,600 --> 00:31:47,600
Speaker 1: had to get out of that environment that I was

708
00:31:47,680 --> 00:31:49,520
Speaker 1: in that made me that way. I had to get

709
00:31:49,560 --> 00:31:51,880
Speaker 1: out of that environment. I had to really get out

710
00:31:51,880 --> 00:31:53,479
Speaker 1: of the environment. Some of y'all got to get out

711
00:31:53,480 --> 00:31:58,160
Speaker 1: of that environment because your circumstances hinges upon your circle.

712
00:31:59,280 --> 00:32:03,440
Speaker 1: But I change on a wholesale basis and just some

713
00:32:03,600 --> 00:32:05,800
Speaker 1: of y'all on that bitch ass change. I change a

714
00:32:05,840 --> 00:32:08,680
Speaker 1: little shit you need to change on a wholesale basis.

715
00:32:08,720 --> 00:32:10,280
Speaker 1: I stopped hanging with the people I was hanging with.

716
00:32:10,320 --> 00:32:13,280
Speaker 1: I stopped picking the phone calls, I stopped going to

717
00:32:13,360 --> 00:32:15,840
Speaker 1: certain cals. I just stopped doing everything, Like, all right,

718
00:32:15,840 --> 00:32:18,160
Speaker 1: I'm done with this. I can't go back over there.

719
00:32:18,200 --> 00:32:21,400
Speaker 1: And it's important that you isolate. When you're trying to elevate,

720
00:32:21,800 --> 00:32:24,040
Speaker 1: you have to isolate. And a lot of people don't

721
00:32:24,040 --> 00:32:25,760
Speaker 1: want to be alone because when you alone and you

722
00:32:25,880 --> 00:32:28,200
Speaker 1: at night, that's when you start really finding out who

723
00:32:28,240 --> 00:32:30,240
Speaker 1: you are. And a lot of people, if you really

724
00:32:30,320 --> 00:32:33,080
Speaker 1: want to know who you are, and you really honestly

725
00:32:33,240 --> 00:32:35,440
Speaker 1: out of yourself, you probably not gonna like who you are.

726
00:32:35,560 --> 00:32:38,000
Speaker 1: And that makes people uncomfortable. So instead of sitting with

727
00:32:38,080 --> 00:32:40,720
Speaker 1: their own thoughts, sitting in their own mess realizing who

728
00:32:40,760 --> 00:32:42,560
Speaker 1: they are and what they've done, they'd rather go hit

729
00:32:42,640 --> 00:32:44,600
Speaker 1: up an X. They're rather to go do anything rather

730
00:32:44,680 --> 00:32:45,200
Speaker 1: than be alone.

731
00:32:45,240 --> 00:32:47,440
Speaker 3: Because when you start to think and you're like, fuck,

732
00:32:47,480 --> 00:32:50,000
Speaker 3: I don't really even like who I am. Yeah, that shit.

733
00:32:50,080 --> 00:32:51,560
Speaker 4: When you're like when you make decisions, you're like, I

734
00:32:51,600 --> 00:32:53,800
Speaker 4: don't even really like that person. That's not even something

735
00:32:53,880 --> 00:32:57,200
Speaker 4: I the person I say I am, Really, that's not

736
00:32:57,280 --> 00:32:57,920
Speaker 4: who I want to be.

737
00:32:58,160 --> 00:33:00,120
Speaker 3: That shit is different hard.

738
00:33:00,080 --> 00:33:02,440
Speaker 1: And it hits hard, and people can't stand it, so

739
00:33:02,560 --> 00:33:06,280
Speaker 1: they abort the change and go back little by little.

740
00:33:06,320 --> 00:33:08,680
Speaker 2: Now they're still picking up that car, still dibbling, dabbling

741
00:33:08,720 --> 00:33:09,640
Speaker 2: in that. But I.

742
00:33:11,160 --> 00:33:13,800
Speaker 1: Suffered through it because I was alone, because I don't

743
00:33:13,800 --> 00:33:16,040
Speaker 1: want to be over there no more, and I don't

744
00:33:16,040 --> 00:33:19,040
Speaker 1: fit in over here yet, so I had to And

745
00:33:19,200 --> 00:33:23,160
Speaker 1: that's why I dubbed myself to unlearned relearned specialist, because

746
00:33:23,200 --> 00:33:25,760
Speaker 1: I had to unlearn everything over here to wipe my

747
00:33:25,880 --> 00:33:26,720
Speaker 1: hard drive clean.

748
00:33:27,600 --> 00:33:30,040
Speaker 2: Then I mean, I don't know shit? What grown up?

749
00:33:30,080 --> 00:33:31,920
Speaker 1: I want to admit they don't know shit. It's hard

750
00:33:32,040 --> 00:33:34,560
Speaker 1: pill to admit. But when you admit that, you're ready

751
00:33:34,600 --> 00:33:38,040
Speaker 1: to learn. Because your ability to be your your ability

752
00:33:38,120 --> 00:33:40,880
Speaker 1: to be successful hinges on your ability to learn, not

753
00:33:41,000 --> 00:33:43,480
Speaker 1: your ability to teach. You have to be more of

754
00:33:43,520 --> 00:33:45,520
Speaker 1: a sponge and a brick. So I wipe my hard

755
00:33:45,600 --> 00:33:47,920
Speaker 1: drive clean. I don't fit in over here no more.

756
00:33:48,160 --> 00:33:49,880
Speaker 1: You know when y'all know, y'all want to know when

757
00:33:49,920 --> 00:33:53,040
Speaker 1: you outgrown your friends and situa, When you like we

758
00:33:53,120 --> 00:33:55,040
Speaker 1: talk about when you're saying to yourself, we're talking about

759
00:33:55,040 --> 00:33:55,400
Speaker 1: this again.

760
00:33:55,600 --> 00:34:00,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, I heard this shit already. I heard this same

761
00:34:00,600 --> 00:34:02,160
Speaker 3: people are.

762
00:34:02,080 --> 00:34:04,280
Speaker 1: When they call and you like, I don't have energy,

763
00:34:04,400 --> 00:34:06,120
Speaker 1: and they invite you somewhere and you starting to think,

764
00:34:06,200 --> 00:34:06,680
Speaker 1: do I want to go?

765
00:34:06,760 --> 00:34:07,680
Speaker 2: And there I left.

766
00:34:07,720 --> 00:34:19,719
Speaker 1: That's a sign go with it and then commit isolation, rumination, elevation, extrication, germination,

767
00:34:20,800 --> 00:34:23,440
Speaker 1: look all those up, and that is the order that

768
00:34:23,520 --> 00:34:23,879
Speaker 1: they're going.

769
00:34:24,040 --> 00:34:25,000
Speaker 2: I'm dubbing you with attack.

770
00:34:25,040 --> 00:34:26,960
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna explain with none of that means upgrades,

771
00:34:27,520 --> 00:34:33,759
Speaker 1: upgrade your hard drive, she said, upgrade your hard drive.

772
00:34:33,880 --> 00:34:35,399
Speaker 3: Well, you know, I think a lot of people too,

773
00:34:35,560 --> 00:34:38,640
Speaker 3: like when they're doing the change, the isolation, you said that, like,

774
00:34:38,719 --> 00:34:41,560
Speaker 3: you know, I didn't really fit over there yet. It's

775
00:34:41,640 --> 00:34:45,200
Speaker 3: the yet that I feel like disillusions people they're like,

776
00:34:45,280 --> 00:34:47,640
Speaker 3: oh God, like people that want change but feel like

777
00:34:47,719 --> 00:34:49,840
Speaker 3: I can't, I don't want to, I don't deserve to

778
00:34:49,920 --> 00:34:52,399
Speaker 3: be in that room, or like they're corny.

779
00:34:52,200 --> 00:34:54,480
Speaker 4: Or it seems so far, it seems so far, it

780
00:34:54,600 --> 00:34:57,720
Speaker 4: seems so out of reach that you're like, it's almost

781
00:34:57,840 --> 00:35:00,000
Speaker 4: easier to backtrack to where you've been than the people

782
00:35:00,080 --> 00:35:03,640
Speaker 4: you've been with versus trying to change your circle and

783
00:35:04,040 --> 00:35:06,000
Speaker 4: change your environment to get to where you're going, where

784
00:35:06,000 --> 00:35:09,600
Speaker 4: you don't even want to. You've judged those people even

785
00:35:09,640 --> 00:35:12,480
Speaker 4: though they are where you want to be. You've judged

786
00:35:12,520 --> 00:35:15,759
Speaker 4: them as you know, corny square, whatever the fuck it

787
00:35:15,800 --> 00:35:19,240
Speaker 4: might be, you know, white, whatever it is, and thinking

788
00:35:19,280 --> 00:35:22,719
Speaker 4: that you can't see yourself in that space, nor do

789
00:35:22,760 --> 00:35:24,040
Speaker 4: you really want to be in that space, but you

790
00:35:24,080 --> 00:35:26,759
Speaker 4: want what they have. So it's like, Okay, you want

791
00:35:26,800 --> 00:35:30,600
Speaker 4: what they have, but you don't want to do the work,

792
00:35:30,680 --> 00:35:32,640
Speaker 4: do the work to understand you don't have to be

793
00:35:32,800 --> 00:35:35,080
Speaker 4: exactly like that person. You're gonna step into the space

794
00:35:35,120 --> 00:35:35,920
Speaker 4: and be your own person.

795
00:35:36,120 --> 00:35:38,120
Speaker 1: Well, I believe most people know that, so it didn't

796
00:35:38,160 --> 00:35:39,799
Speaker 1: even matter of like I don't want they just can

797
00:35:40,080 --> 00:35:41,759
Speaker 1: they think it's too far away when we're gonna you

798
00:35:41,800 --> 00:35:44,800
Speaker 1: gotta have If you don't have honest conversations with yourself,

799
00:35:44,880 --> 00:35:47,200
Speaker 1: you have to learn how to have honest conversations with yourself,

800
00:35:47,239 --> 00:35:49,360
Speaker 1: because if you can't have an honest conversation with yourself,

801
00:35:49,400 --> 00:35:52,920
Speaker 1: you're gonna repeal from honesty coming from others. So honestly,

802
00:35:53,040 --> 00:35:54,400
Speaker 1: you're not like I don't want to be that you

803
00:35:54,480 --> 00:35:57,120
Speaker 1: don't think you can, so instead of feeling bad about

804
00:35:57,400 --> 00:35:59,800
Speaker 1: not being able to do it, quote unquote, you condemn

805
00:35:59,800 --> 00:36:01,040
Speaker 1: it like I don't even want it.

806
00:36:01,480 --> 00:36:05,439
Speaker 2: That's unnecessary. You don't need money, you would tell me, man, money,

807
00:36:05,520 --> 00:36:07,719
Speaker 2: money is there? What's more important? Money? Or love?

808
00:36:10,840 --> 00:36:11,040
Speaker 5: Like that?

809
00:36:11,200 --> 00:36:11,360
Speaker 2: To me?

810
00:36:11,560 --> 00:36:14,320
Speaker 1: What's more important money? What the fuck are you talking about?

811
00:36:14,840 --> 00:36:16,879
Speaker 1: Money is important in the areas that is important. It's

812
00:36:16,880 --> 00:36:18,440
Speaker 1: not important in areas that it is not important. What

813
00:36:18,760 --> 00:36:20,320
Speaker 1: are you talking about? What's more important? Your leg of

814
00:36:20,320 --> 00:36:23,640
Speaker 1: your arm? Motherfucker? They both important in different ways. That's

815
00:36:23,640 --> 00:36:27,680
Speaker 1: the stupidest shit ever. But that's your mentality. You've condemned

816
00:36:27,719 --> 00:36:29,359
Speaker 1: having money and you are never having money.

817
00:36:29,440 --> 00:36:31,920
Speaker 2: Is beautiful. Money's good, Which leads me to my affirmation.

818
00:36:32,160 --> 00:36:33,799
Speaker 2: I mean my incantation right.

819
00:36:33,760 --> 00:36:36,000
Speaker 3: Quick, before you do that, because I already know it's

820
00:36:36,040 --> 00:36:38,560
Speaker 3: about to be a word. Let me let me let

821
00:36:38,640 --> 00:36:41,520
Speaker 3: this backward real quick? Yes, please like the backwood that

822
00:36:41,680 --> 00:36:43,840
Speaker 3: honey delicious ass backward.

823
00:36:43,600 --> 00:36:46,040
Speaker 4: And it's the vanilla flavor, m and I feel a

824
00:36:46,080 --> 00:36:47,520
Speaker 4: lot of love into this backwood.

825
00:36:47,719 --> 00:36:49,480
Speaker 1: So what was it?

826
00:36:49,960 --> 00:36:51,600
Speaker 2: I want you to repeat this, and I want you

827
00:36:51,640 --> 00:36:52,640
Speaker 2: to repeat it with passion.

828
00:36:52,680 --> 00:36:56,080
Speaker 1: I want you to say, money comes easily, money comes abundantly,

829
00:36:56,120 --> 00:36:57,160
Speaker 1: and money comes frequently.

830
00:36:57,680 --> 00:37:02,440
Speaker 4: Money comes easily, money comes freak, and money comes abundantly boom.

831
00:37:03,040 --> 00:37:04,160
Speaker 2: Just like that.

832
00:37:04,280 --> 00:37:09,840
Speaker 4: You know, money comes eat frequent, easily, money comes frequently,

833
00:37:10,040 --> 00:37:11,960
Speaker 4: money comes abundantly.

834
00:37:11,719 --> 00:37:13,719
Speaker 1: Boom, and you believe it. All you gotta do is

835
00:37:13,719 --> 00:37:16,160
Speaker 1: speak it. And I know people think they need these

836
00:37:16,239 --> 00:37:17,560
Speaker 1: long incantations.

837
00:37:17,640 --> 00:37:18,000
Speaker 2: You don't.

838
00:37:18,040 --> 00:37:21,759
Speaker 1: You could be very sustinct and in direct and the

839
00:37:21,960 --> 00:37:26,000
Speaker 1: universe have to yield those things to you. So as

840
00:37:26,120 --> 00:37:29,840
Speaker 1: long as you vibrate on that same frequency, the universe

841
00:37:30,160 --> 00:37:32,200
Speaker 1: is always going to pair you with everything on that

842
00:37:32,280 --> 00:37:35,399
Speaker 1: same frequency without your consent for sure.

843
00:37:35,440 --> 00:37:38,080
Speaker 3: I mean, if you're doing broke shit, then you're gonna

844
00:37:38,080 --> 00:37:41,239
Speaker 3: get broke results, absolutely. You know, if your frequency is broke,

845
00:37:41,280 --> 00:37:43,520
Speaker 3: if your mindset is broke, if all these things, you know,

846
00:37:43,760 --> 00:37:46,680
Speaker 3: like people talk about a lot about manifesting, and you know,

847
00:37:46,880 --> 00:37:48,920
Speaker 3: people are always like, oh, well you know I did this,

848
00:37:49,080 --> 00:37:50,680
Speaker 3: I did that, it's still not coming. And it's like,

849
00:37:50,719 --> 00:37:52,400
Speaker 3: well you got to check and see what what is

850
00:37:52,480 --> 00:37:55,279
Speaker 3: it that you're doing that is still vibrating on this

851
00:37:55,440 --> 00:37:58,600
Speaker 3: other frequency that you don't want. I want to go

852
00:37:58,680 --> 00:38:01,400
Speaker 3: back to when you were talking about your wife and

853
00:38:01,800 --> 00:38:03,440
Speaker 3: you know, her pulling up and picking you up in

854
00:38:03,480 --> 00:38:05,600
Speaker 3: that way, and me too, I have some questions. Well,

855
00:38:06,160 --> 00:38:08,720
Speaker 3: I couldn't help but think of like the mother wound

856
00:38:08,800 --> 00:38:11,120
Speaker 3: that you had, which was you know, you thinking that

857
00:38:11,200 --> 00:38:12,680
Speaker 3: a woman couldn't show up for you in that way

858
00:38:12,760 --> 00:38:14,840
Speaker 3: and then her kind of I guess healing that in

859
00:38:14,920 --> 00:38:17,799
Speaker 3: ways or beginning the healing process of you saying, Okay,

860
00:38:17,840 --> 00:38:19,359
Speaker 3: a woman can show up for me, A woman can

861
00:38:19,560 --> 00:38:22,120
Speaker 3: take care of me. I can trust that this woman

862
00:38:22,280 --> 00:38:24,719
Speaker 3: is going to show up and be that and be

863
00:38:25,600 --> 00:38:28,279
Speaker 3: what you know what I can be to her, and

864
00:38:28,400 --> 00:38:30,239
Speaker 3: she can be that to me as well. And this

865
00:38:30,400 --> 00:38:32,440
Speaker 3: idea that I know, I mean, you have two daughters,

866
00:38:32,719 --> 00:38:35,400
Speaker 3: and how three? How old is your how old are you?

867
00:38:35,560 --> 00:38:36,400
Speaker 3: How old is your first.

868
00:38:36,280 --> 00:38:39,640
Speaker 2: Twenty two, seventeen and a year and a half.

869
00:38:40,360 --> 00:38:43,080
Speaker 3: I can't help but think about why God gave you

870
00:38:43,480 --> 00:38:48,200
Speaker 3: women with that notion that you had, you know, and

871
00:38:48,520 --> 00:38:52,560
Speaker 3: just really having to understand that women can nurture you,

872
00:38:53,280 --> 00:38:57,080
Speaker 3: they can love you, even if it's in the form

873
00:38:57,160 --> 00:38:59,120
Speaker 3: of a child, even if it's in the form of

874
00:38:59,560 --> 00:39:02,799
Speaker 3: you know, your wife, You can trust them. They can

875
00:39:02,840 --> 00:39:06,600
Speaker 3: be safe. How old, where in your life were you

876
00:39:06,719 --> 00:39:09,160
Speaker 3: when you had your first two child children?

877
00:39:10,120 --> 00:39:11,280
Speaker 2: I was still in these streets.

878
00:39:11,560 --> 00:39:14,360
Speaker 3: Do you think that having having your children was a

879
00:39:14,440 --> 00:39:15,440
Speaker 3: catalyst or was it not?

880
00:39:16,000 --> 00:39:20,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, but everything is a catalyst. There's something like everything.

881
00:39:25,320 --> 00:39:28,040
Speaker 3: Because some people use children like my child changed my life,

882
00:39:28,040 --> 00:39:29,160
Speaker 3: and that's not always the case.

883
00:39:29,280 --> 00:39:33,440
Speaker 2: So the child is like money. It only amplifies what

884
00:39:33,600 --> 00:39:34,239
Speaker 2: was already in you.

885
00:39:35,640 --> 00:39:38,719
Speaker 1: If you was a deadbeat child, having a child on

886
00:39:38,840 --> 00:39:41,279
Speaker 1: amplify that she was a deadbeat, lack a days ago

887
00:39:41,360 --> 00:39:42,439
Speaker 1: and unambitious.

888
00:39:43,160 --> 00:39:45,000
Speaker 2: If you was an asshole and you get money, you're

889
00:39:45,000 --> 00:39:46,000
Speaker 2: gonna be a bigger asshole.

890
00:39:46,000 --> 00:39:47,960
Speaker 1: If you was benevolent, when you get money, you're gonna

891
00:39:47,960 --> 00:39:49,000
Speaker 1: be even more benevolent.

892
00:39:49,680 --> 00:39:52,080
Speaker 2: So I does it play a role.

893
00:39:52,160 --> 00:39:54,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, But what I'm trying to exclaim and really hammer

894
00:39:54,760 --> 00:39:57,399
Speaker 1: home so the people out there ain't looking for one

895
00:39:57,480 --> 00:39:58,719
Speaker 1: thing like I need that one thing.

896
00:39:58,800 --> 00:40:01,400
Speaker 2: And it all works in concert for you.

897
00:40:01,600 --> 00:40:03,920
Speaker 1: All that shit is working together, and only because a

898
00:40:03,960 --> 00:40:05,719
Speaker 1: lot of things, even that I say and do now

899
00:40:05,760 --> 00:40:07,759
Speaker 1: and I realized, like man, I had a ogtailing that

900
00:40:07,760 --> 00:40:09,040
Speaker 1: shit before when I was fifteen.

901
00:40:09,360 --> 00:40:11,800
Speaker 2: I've been hearing it. Just life gotta water. Some of

902
00:40:11,880 --> 00:40:13,960
Speaker 2: that shit, it gotta water. It so it could germinate.

903
00:40:14,360 --> 00:40:15,120
Speaker 2: Life got a water.

904
00:40:15,239 --> 00:40:17,920
Speaker 1: But you hear these things so you could use anything

905
00:40:18,000 --> 00:40:20,680
Speaker 1: for motivation. So don't be waiting like I need a catalyst.

906
00:40:21,200 --> 00:40:24,239
Speaker 1: Not just wanting it is enough. But all you have

907
00:40:24,440 --> 00:40:27,520
Speaker 1: to do is commit to that change. And I committed

908
00:40:27,560 --> 00:40:29,600
Speaker 1: to it, and it was hard. I want to make no,

909
00:40:30,120 --> 00:40:32,000
Speaker 1: but life is hard.

910
00:40:32,080 --> 00:40:32,400
Speaker 2: Period.

911
00:40:32,920 --> 00:40:35,120
Speaker 1: Not having shit and always wont shit that you ain't

912
00:40:35,120 --> 00:40:37,520
Speaker 1: gonna never have is hard. Working for the shit you

913
00:40:37,600 --> 00:40:39,799
Speaker 1: want is hard. Both things are hard, so you might

914
00:40:39,880 --> 00:40:41,600
Speaker 1: as well get in there work for the things. You

915
00:40:41,680 --> 00:40:43,879
Speaker 1: won't commit to your change because I don't chase side

916
00:40:43,960 --> 00:40:47,200
Speaker 1: track and I'm careful with my words. My vocabulary is

917
00:40:47,320 --> 00:40:49,920
Speaker 1: vast because words have power. We all know that, but

918
00:40:50,040 --> 00:40:52,080
Speaker 1: we don't all put that into practice, because if we did,

919
00:40:52,160 --> 00:40:54,759
Speaker 1: we will all upgrade our vocabulary. Most people don't know

920
00:40:55,040 --> 00:40:57,239
Speaker 1: they only learned their first three hundred words. No, people

921
00:40:57,280 --> 00:40:59,440
Speaker 1: ain't never learned. They only know they verse three hundred

922
00:40:59,440 --> 00:41:01,920
Speaker 1: words because after they left high school or college, they

923
00:41:01,920 --> 00:41:05,920
Speaker 1: stopped educating theyself. They ain't learn nothing past what curriculum

924
00:41:06,000 --> 00:41:07,920
Speaker 1: they had, So they're like, what word are you?

925
00:41:08,120 --> 00:41:09,239
Speaker 2: You don't read? Motherfucker?

926
00:41:10,280 --> 00:41:12,680
Speaker 1: Seriously, when you first started school, they talked to your

927
00:41:12,719 --> 00:41:14,799
Speaker 1: spelling words. Right then they teach you how to spell.

928
00:41:15,600 --> 00:41:19,920
Speaker 1: Think about what you're saying. Spell Words cast spells. So

929
00:41:20,440 --> 00:41:23,160
Speaker 1: the better the words, the better the spells you can cast.

930
00:41:23,200 --> 00:41:26,160
Speaker 1: So that's why my vocabulary because I'm always speaking of incantation.

931
00:41:26,280 --> 00:41:28,160
Speaker 1: I come from a place of poverty. Now I living

932
00:41:28,200 --> 00:41:34,040
Speaker 1: abundance because these are incantation. I know words cast spells.

933
00:41:34,520 --> 00:41:36,960
Speaker 1: So don't be like, yo, I'm chasing my dream.

934
00:41:39,120 --> 00:41:40,360
Speaker 3: No, I'm heading.

935
00:41:41,000 --> 00:41:44,359
Speaker 1: Yeah, even though that that that's to most people, that's

936
00:41:44,400 --> 00:41:46,080
Speaker 1: an innocuous statement.

937
00:41:46,239 --> 00:41:47,200
Speaker 2: I'm chasing my dream.

938
00:41:49,200 --> 00:41:52,120
Speaker 1: Well, the only way you can chase something is it

939
00:41:52,520 --> 00:41:55,719
Speaker 1: moving away from from So you are casting the spell

940
00:41:55,840 --> 00:41:56,560
Speaker 1: that the very thing you.

941
00:41:56,560 --> 00:42:00,600
Speaker 2: Want is constantly moving away from you. Living my dream

942
00:42:00,680 --> 00:42:01,600
Speaker 2: that from you.

943
00:42:01,880 --> 00:42:04,480
Speaker 1: Right, Yeah, say, I'm living mind, but I'm so aware

944
00:42:05,640 --> 00:42:08,319
Speaker 1: of what I'm saying because words have power. Even if

945
00:42:08,360 --> 00:42:09,960
Speaker 1: you go back to the Bible and you believe in

946
00:42:10,040 --> 00:42:13,440
Speaker 1: that it said God said, let there be like he

947
00:42:13,600 --> 00:42:16,160
Speaker 1: spoke boom, and it was he spoke it, He created,

948
00:42:16,239 --> 00:42:18,880
Speaker 1: he spoke it. And that same Bible say, hey, you

949
00:42:19,000 --> 00:42:20,880
Speaker 1: created in my image, so anything I could do, you

950
00:42:20,920 --> 00:42:23,400
Speaker 1: could do. So God could speak something and there it is,

951
00:42:23,520 --> 00:42:26,200
Speaker 1: and you created the same image, so can you You

952
00:42:26,360 --> 00:42:29,560
Speaker 1: just speaking the wrong things. You're speaking the wrong things,

953
00:42:29,880 --> 00:42:32,520
Speaker 1: and you should be very careful and very very weary

954
00:42:32,880 --> 00:42:35,200
Speaker 1: of what you're listening to and what you're getting your

955
00:42:35,440 --> 00:42:38,480
Speaker 1: giving your attention to when you're trying to elevate you

956
00:42:38,640 --> 00:42:41,200
Speaker 1: have because it's poisoning you. You might don't feel feel

957
00:42:41,239 --> 00:42:43,319
Speaker 1: like it's you eat all that candy as a kid.

958
00:42:43,440 --> 00:42:45,080
Speaker 1: The kid don't understand and get in the cavity. They

959
00:42:45,160 --> 00:42:46,120
Speaker 1: just go like my teeth hurt.

960
00:42:46,480 --> 00:42:48,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, you all right? So it's the same thing.

961
00:42:48,600 --> 00:42:50,680
Speaker 1: Some of youall souls are rand sid and have cavity

962
00:42:50,800 --> 00:42:53,160
Speaker 1: because you set up in gossip all day? Are you complaining?

963
00:42:53,239 --> 00:42:56,200
Speaker 1: You complain about everything. I never complain even if something

964
00:42:56,360 --> 00:42:58,680
Speaker 1: is wrong, because I'm like, is it really wrong or

965
00:42:58,800 --> 00:43:02,640
Speaker 1: is it just information? Do God want me just to

966
00:43:02,680 --> 00:43:04,680
Speaker 1: sit at home? Is that why I got three cars

967
00:43:04,719 --> 00:43:06,160
Speaker 1: and all my tires are on flat?

968
00:43:07,640 --> 00:43:08,240
Speaker 2: All tires.

969
00:43:08,960 --> 00:43:11,759
Speaker 1: God must be saying I got bad lurk, Like God

970
00:43:11,880 --> 00:43:14,000
Speaker 1: was saying sit home tonight. He'll sif you go out,

971
00:43:14,080 --> 00:43:16,680
Speaker 1: something that's gonna bad gona happen. But I've always had

972
00:43:16,760 --> 00:43:20,960
Speaker 1: that visceral instinct. That's how I survived my circumstances. I

973
00:43:21,080 --> 00:43:23,480
Speaker 1: knew when to take my ass home. I knew when

974
00:43:23,560 --> 00:43:26,719
Speaker 1: to be like, nah, I ain't going you know what

975
00:43:26,760 --> 00:43:31,000
Speaker 1: I mean. So it's the same thing. Nothing bad, nothing

976
00:43:31,160 --> 00:43:34,759
Speaker 1: happens to us. It all happens for us when you

977
00:43:34,920 --> 00:43:37,920
Speaker 1: tapped in. I'm proof of that. That's why I tell

978
00:43:38,040 --> 00:43:40,920
Speaker 1: I'm omnipotent. I'm impregnable. You can't hurt me.

979
00:43:41,960 --> 00:43:45,480
Speaker 2: You can't. You can't even shit on me. I use

980
00:43:45,480 --> 00:43:46,360
Speaker 2: it as fertilizer.

981
00:43:48,000 --> 00:43:48,280
Speaker 3: Girl.

982
00:43:48,640 --> 00:43:52,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, there's nothing you can do with me. You can't

983
00:43:52,200 --> 00:43:53,879
Speaker 1: break me because you didn't make me. So if ain't

984
00:43:53,880 --> 00:43:56,040
Speaker 1: nobody helping you, don't feel bad. I don't got no help.

985
00:43:56,040 --> 00:43:58,319
Speaker 1: I don't got nobody. Use that as power because if

986
00:43:58,360 --> 00:44:00,440
Speaker 1: they didn't make you, baby, they can't break you, and

987
00:44:00,520 --> 00:44:01,120
Speaker 1: they can't take it.

988
00:44:01,160 --> 00:44:03,719
Speaker 4: When you get there, you ain't help me do shit either, right, Yeah,

989
00:44:03,960 --> 00:44:07,000
Speaker 4: because of me? When when you when your wife pulled

990
00:44:07,080 --> 00:44:09,440
Speaker 4: up on you that day and she told you what

991
00:44:09,520 --> 00:44:11,120
Speaker 4: she told you, and she said, we're leaving and you

992
00:44:11,200 --> 00:44:13,120
Speaker 4: never went back, and she said, I believe in your

993
00:44:13,200 --> 00:44:14,960
Speaker 4: dreams at that time, what were your dreams?

994
00:44:15,000 --> 00:44:15,920
Speaker 3: What like did you have?

995
00:44:16,160 --> 00:44:17,560
Speaker 4: You had a vision of where you wanted to be

996
00:44:17,680 --> 00:44:19,279
Speaker 4: and that we're going to live in a place like this.

997
00:44:19,640 --> 00:44:21,719
Speaker 4: But did you know exactly what was going to be

998
00:44:21,760 --> 00:44:23,279
Speaker 4: the catalyst to get you there? Like were you into

999
00:44:23,360 --> 00:44:25,480
Speaker 4: health and fitness at that point or what what was

1000
00:44:25,600 --> 00:44:27,719
Speaker 4: your what was your what were your goals at that time?

1001
00:44:28,200 --> 00:44:30,480
Speaker 2: My goals was pretty much no flex.

1002
00:44:30,560 --> 00:44:33,439
Speaker 1: Everything I'm doing now and I think it's I would

1003
00:44:33,440 --> 00:44:35,560
Speaker 1: be remiss if I didn't tell you that the way

1004
00:44:35,640 --> 00:44:38,879
Speaker 1: you think you're gonna get there probably ain't the way

1005
00:44:38,920 --> 00:44:43,759
Speaker 1: you're gonna get there. Is it never happens how you

1006
00:44:43,840 --> 00:44:47,080
Speaker 1: think it's going to happen, But it happens, and everything

1007
00:44:47,160 --> 00:44:49,840
Speaker 1: that happens has to happen because it's giving you a

1008
00:44:49,920 --> 00:44:53,320
Speaker 1: set of intangibles you're going to need. So pretend like

1009
00:44:53,400 --> 00:44:56,000
Speaker 1: you went inside of a room, and inside of this

1010
00:44:56,160 --> 00:44:58,480
Speaker 1: room with all these furniture and things, you were searching

1011
00:44:58,560 --> 00:45:02,640
Speaker 1: for a key, because you need to go in another

1012
00:45:02,760 --> 00:45:04,800
Speaker 1: room and open up a door to get to it.

1013
00:45:05,200 --> 00:45:07,400
Speaker 1: So don't skip rooms because if you skip rooms, you

1014
00:45:07,480 --> 00:45:08,920
Speaker 1: want to find the key, and when you get to

1015
00:45:09,000 --> 00:45:11,480
Speaker 1: the final room, you won't be able to sustain it

1016
00:45:11,520 --> 00:45:13,680
Speaker 1: because you never got all these keys. You need it,

1017
00:45:13,880 --> 00:45:16,279
Speaker 1: You know you need to pick up intangibles. You need

1018
00:45:16,360 --> 00:45:18,920
Speaker 1: to learn things about yourself, some things. Some chapters are

1019
00:45:19,040 --> 00:45:22,960
Speaker 1: All chapters are necessary, but some chapters are very necessary

1020
00:45:23,040 --> 00:45:25,240
Speaker 1: because it's.

1021
00:45:24,400 --> 00:45:26,040
Speaker 2: Preparing you for the thing you ask for.

1022
00:45:26,520 --> 00:45:28,279
Speaker 1: If you want to be something, you have to go

1023
00:45:28,480 --> 00:45:30,399
Speaker 1: through something, and that's a lot of people don't want

1024
00:45:30,440 --> 00:45:31,200
Speaker 1: to go through anything.

1025
00:45:31,480 --> 00:45:33,439
Speaker 3: I want to skip. They want to skip the stack.

1026
00:45:33,520 --> 00:45:35,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, they want to. They want a microwave success. But

1027
00:45:35,719 --> 00:45:38,960
Speaker 1: you can't if you want to be Literally, it's universal law.

1028
00:45:39,320 --> 00:45:42,480
Speaker 1: In order for fucking water to become ice, it has

1029
00:45:42,520 --> 00:45:47,840
Speaker 1: to go through the freezer. In order for fruits, this

1030
00:45:47,920 --> 00:45:50,239
Speaker 1: fertilizer got to go through. Then you have to go

1031
00:45:50,440 --> 00:45:53,080
Speaker 1: through something to be something, and we want to skip

1032
00:45:53,200 --> 00:45:56,399
Speaker 1: that process. But the bigger the thing, the more grandiose

1033
00:45:56,440 --> 00:45:59,560
Speaker 1: the thing you want to be, the bigger that receipt

1034
00:45:59,600 --> 00:45:59,920
Speaker 1: for the pain.

1035
00:46:00,400 --> 00:46:00,799
Speaker 3: Mm hmm.

1036
00:46:01,120 --> 00:46:03,160
Speaker 2: You're gonna have a big bill.

1037
00:46:03,239 --> 00:46:03,360
Speaker 5: You know.

1038
00:46:03,520 --> 00:46:07,120
Speaker 2: People say they pay dues, that's what they mean. They gonna.

1039
00:46:07,120 --> 00:46:09,799
Speaker 2: You're gonna take some losses. You're gonna suffer some isolation.

1040
00:46:09,880 --> 00:46:11,799
Speaker 1: You're gonna lose some friends, You're gonna lose some sleep,

1041
00:46:11,920 --> 00:46:15,200
Speaker 1: You're gonna lose some money. You're gonna pay for that dream,

1042
00:46:15,280 --> 00:46:16,920
Speaker 1: and a lot of people don't want to pay for

1043
00:46:17,000 --> 00:46:19,080
Speaker 1: the dream. And we live in a time right now

1044
00:46:19,280 --> 00:46:22,319
Speaker 1: with all this fake ass manifestation talk, everybody talking about

1045
00:46:22,320 --> 00:46:24,600
Speaker 1: the thy manifesting. You ain't doing shit but waste some

1046
00:46:24,680 --> 00:46:29,080
Speaker 1: piece of pieces of papers and pins. For real, you're

1047
00:46:29,080 --> 00:46:31,160
Speaker 1: not doing ship that ship You're not know you not,

1048
00:46:31,320 --> 00:46:35,279
Speaker 1: bro It sounds no, you're fucking not. Imagine if you

1049
00:46:35,440 --> 00:46:40,160
Speaker 1: wanted to cook a Thanksgiving dinner, the first thing you're

1050
00:46:40,200 --> 00:46:42,120
Speaker 1: gonna do is name all the things you want for.

1051
00:46:42,160 --> 00:46:44,400
Speaker 2: This dinner, and you're gonna write it down. This all

1052
00:46:44,480 --> 00:46:45,520
Speaker 2: what I want for Thanksgiving.

1053
00:46:46,400 --> 00:46:48,759
Speaker 1: The second thing you're gonna do is go to your

1054
00:46:49,200 --> 00:46:51,640
Speaker 1: cabinet in the kitchen and see what all you missing?

1055
00:46:51,960 --> 00:46:53,520
Speaker 2: Boo boo boo, missing this, missing that.

1056
00:46:54,000 --> 00:46:55,560
Speaker 1: The third thing you're gonna do is go to the

1057
00:46:55,600 --> 00:46:59,160
Speaker 1: grocery store, go from out out putting everything in your basket.

1058
00:47:00,440 --> 00:47:01,560
Speaker 2: That's how you manifest.

1059
00:47:01,640 --> 00:47:03,560
Speaker 1: Some of y'all just stop at the list when I

1060
00:47:03,600 --> 00:47:05,680
Speaker 1: want turkey, and I want greens, and I want I

1061
00:47:05,760 --> 00:47:07,200
Speaker 1: want the house, and I want this, I want that,

1062
00:47:07,360 --> 00:47:10,440
Speaker 1: all right, But just like making down that list for Thanksgiving,

1063
00:47:10,440 --> 00:47:11,719
Speaker 1: you supposed to go to your cabinet and see what

1064
00:47:11,760 --> 00:47:14,080
Speaker 1: you're missing. You haven't even searched the inside of you

1065
00:47:14,400 --> 00:47:18,040
Speaker 1: and seeing what intangibles is missing because this person is

1066
00:47:18,120 --> 00:47:20,360
Speaker 1: different from the person you are whatever on this paper,

1067
00:47:20,680 --> 00:47:22,360
Speaker 1: because if you was that person.

1068
00:47:22,200 --> 00:47:24,880
Speaker 2: You would have it. So you missing the necessary intangibles

1069
00:47:24,920 --> 00:47:27,000
Speaker 2: to have this, just like making a grocery list.

1070
00:47:27,239 --> 00:47:29,480
Speaker 1: And then you still, like I said, you stop at

1071
00:47:29,480 --> 00:47:32,320
Speaker 1: writing shit down because even after you search your cabinets

1072
00:47:32,320 --> 00:47:34,279
Speaker 1: and see what you're missing, you got to navigate your

1073
00:47:34,320 --> 00:47:36,000
Speaker 1: way to the goddamn grocery store. You got to get

1074
00:47:36,040 --> 00:47:37,960
Speaker 1: off your ass and go get it. You ain't got

1075
00:47:38,000 --> 00:47:40,160
Speaker 1: off your ass and did nothing. You scrolling on Instagram

1076
00:47:40,280 --> 00:47:41,280
Speaker 1: looking at my page.

1077
00:47:41,080 --> 00:47:42,279
Speaker 3: And shit, And then you got to come and then

1078
00:47:42,320 --> 00:47:43,600
Speaker 3: you gotta come home and make the show.

1079
00:47:43,760 --> 00:47:47,200
Speaker 2: Wait pause, The biggest step we forgot. We forgotten.

1080
00:47:47,280 --> 00:47:48,759
Speaker 1: This is the step that this why I say, you

1081
00:47:48,880 --> 00:47:52,279
Speaker 1: just wasted pairs of papers and I'm had y'all say

1082
00:47:52,320 --> 00:47:54,880
Speaker 1: what the biggest step, the final step is so we

1083
00:47:55,000 --> 00:47:57,640
Speaker 1: found out what we wanted, the big old meal.

1084
00:47:58,200 --> 00:48:00,799
Speaker 2: We wrote it down, everything I want. Then we went

1085
00:48:00,840 --> 00:48:03,560
Speaker 2: to our cabinets to see what we was missing. Then

1086
00:48:03,600 --> 00:48:04,880
Speaker 2: we went to the grocery store.

1087
00:48:05,400 --> 00:48:09,240
Speaker 1: See from hour to hour, from chapter to chapter, putting

1088
00:48:09,280 --> 00:48:13,920
Speaker 1: everything on in that basket. What's the final step? You

1089
00:48:14,040 --> 00:48:17,640
Speaker 1: gotta pay for it. Don't want to pay for your

1090
00:48:17,760 --> 00:48:21,200
Speaker 1: dream because sometimes paying for your dreaming you won't have

1091
00:48:21,280 --> 00:48:24,719
Speaker 1: a girlfriend for seven years, our boyfriend or getting married rider.

1092
00:48:24,760 --> 00:48:28,440
Speaker 1: You don't want to pay for your fucking dream. That's

1093
00:48:28,520 --> 00:48:30,320
Speaker 1: why you don't have to know. You're not manifesting. It

1094
00:48:30,440 --> 00:48:32,680
Speaker 1: just shit sounds fly and that ship. It kind of

1095
00:48:32,760 --> 00:48:36,280
Speaker 1: irritates me because it's too much cap in your caption,

1096
00:48:36,880 --> 00:48:38,839
Speaker 1: because if you was really living like that, how come

1097
00:48:38,880 --> 00:48:42,480
Speaker 1: we can't see it? And everybody's philosophical. Everybody's fucking confusion. Confucius,

1098
00:48:42,680 --> 00:48:45,200
Speaker 1: I'm not Confucius, but here's the thing. Before you go

1099
00:48:45,360 --> 00:48:49,839
Speaker 1: put that fly ass caption on your picture, because it's

1100
00:48:49,840 --> 00:48:50,879
Speaker 1: too much cap in the caption.

1101
00:48:51,040 --> 00:48:52,520
Speaker 3: There's a lot of capping in the captions.

1102
00:48:52,760 --> 00:48:55,120
Speaker 1: So my thing is this, and there's a lot of

1103
00:48:55,239 --> 00:49:03,320
Speaker 1: opinions your life, and it's to mortality is proof of concept.

1104
00:49:05,000 --> 00:49:07,320
Speaker 1: It's your life is proof of So if you that

1105
00:49:07,480 --> 00:49:12,239
Speaker 1: motherfucking enlightened and you your life should be proof of

1106
00:49:12,360 --> 00:49:15,120
Speaker 1: concept because either you don't live what you're saying, or

1107
00:49:15,200 --> 00:49:18,040
Speaker 1: you don't actually do it because your life is proof

1108
00:49:18,200 --> 00:49:20,680
Speaker 1: proof of concept. That's why I never arg you with

1109
00:49:20,800 --> 00:49:25,319
Speaker 1: people who are who who aren't my equal, who haven't

1110
00:49:25,360 --> 00:49:27,759
Speaker 1: accomplished a chemists for I'm not what I look like.

1111
00:49:27,960 --> 00:49:30,080
Speaker 1: Are you in my reality to your hypothetical?

1112
00:49:30,480 --> 00:49:35,360
Speaker 3: Ooh, that's a bar, that's that's a fact, that's real.

1113
00:49:35,239 --> 00:49:37,480
Speaker 1: Tar from the side, what I look like? Are you

1114
00:49:37,560 --> 00:49:41,480
Speaker 1: in my reality from your hypothetical? You have no social

1115
00:49:41,560 --> 00:49:44,840
Speaker 1: proof of what you're saying. It just sounds good, that

1116
00:49:44,960 --> 00:49:47,360
Speaker 1: shiit just sounds good. You get what I'm saying. So again,

1117
00:49:47,719 --> 00:49:50,760
Speaker 1: you can have all this enlightening shit, but your life

1118
00:49:50,960 --> 00:49:55,440
Speaker 1: is proof of concept. Your life is proof of concept.

1119
00:49:55,680 --> 00:49:58,800
Speaker 1: So can we see the thing that you're preaching prevalent

1120
00:49:58,880 --> 00:50:01,799
Speaker 1: in your life? Because if it's absent, then you my friend,

1121
00:50:01,880 --> 00:50:04,960
Speaker 1: or what we call the old school terminology, a hypocrite

1122
00:50:06,520 --> 00:50:08,080
Speaker 1: in the new school termin that well, I ain't even

1123
00:50:08,120 --> 00:50:09,759
Speaker 1: new school because we was using this word when I

1124
00:50:09,880 --> 00:50:11,360
Speaker 1: was like, oh, this word is back in high school.

1125
00:50:11,400 --> 00:50:15,240
Speaker 3: Cap Oh, that's that's from back in the backcard, that word.

1126
00:50:15,160 --> 00:50:18,120
Speaker 1: In nineteen ninety four, ninety three. I was like, oh,

1127
00:50:18,200 --> 00:50:21,000
Speaker 1: it's back. Nothing is new. And my mammy, you used

1128
00:50:21,080 --> 00:50:22,840
Speaker 1: my Mamma used to say that I didn't really understand.

1129
00:50:22,880 --> 00:50:24,560
Speaker 3: But nothing is we was, no, no, none of this

1130
00:50:24,600 --> 00:50:26,080
Speaker 3: shit is recycled years all.

1131
00:50:26,680 --> 00:50:30,480
Speaker 1: But yeah, but cap y'all capping, and you get so

1132
00:50:30,600 --> 00:50:33,080
Speaker 1: good at cappin that fake it till you make it.

1133
00:50:33,160 --> 00:50:34,960
Speaker 1: You get so good at faking and you forget to

1134
00:50:35,040 --> 00:50:38,080
Speaker 1: make it. But to take just as much energy it

1135
00:50:38,280 --> 00:50:40,360
Speaker 1: is to make it as it do to fake.

1136
00:50:40,200 --> 00:50:42,879
Speaker 4: It right, and you just wasting the energy on shit

1137
00:50:42,960 --> 00:50:45,839
Speaker 4: that don't matter, just talking instead of doing. I think,

1138
00:50:46,280 --> 00:50:48,160
Speaker 4: even for me, like even when I get caught up

1139
00:50:48,200 --> 00:50:50,200
Speaker 4: in my own get in my own way, I have

1140
00:50:50,360 --> 00:50:51,920
Speaker 4: to remind myself that.

1141
00:50:52,280 --> 00:50:55,400
Speaker 3: You are proof of the concept that you're doing it.

1142
00:50:55,520 --> 00:50:56,600
Speaker 2: Oh absolutely, you know.

1143
00:50:56,760 --> 00:50:58,320
Speaker 4: Even when I get caught in my own way and

1144
00:50:58,440 --> 00:51:01,600
Speaker 4: I'm struggling or I feel like I'm backstepping or my

1145
00:51:01,800 --> 00:51:04,920
Speaker 4: mindset is not actually, I have to remind myself like, bitch.

1146
00:51:04,880 --> 00:51:05,400
Speaker 2: You are that.

1147
00:51:05,600 --> 00:51:08,239
Speaker 4: Bitch, this is what you're doing like you are, you

1148
00:51:08,360 --> 00:51:10,560
Speaker 4: are this, you have this, you are doing this like bitch,

1149
00:51:10,600 --> 00:51:12,800
Speaker 4: you own property in a foreign country, you own a

1150
00:51:13,040 --> 00:51:16,279
Speaker 4: you own a you own a successful business, you wte

1151
00:51:16,320 --> 00:51:18,680
Speaker 4: a book, bitch you know And I'm like, oh yeah,

1152
00:51:22,719 --> 00:51:26,160
Speaker 4: what's up right? And it's crazy because like sometimes I'll

1153
00:51:26,160 --> 00:51:28,719
Speaker 4: have conversations with people and I'm like, like we talked

1154
00:51:28,719 --> 00:51:31,759
Speaker 4: about earlier, like tapping out because you're not talking about shit, and.

1155
00:51:31,800 --> 00:51:35,239
Speaker 3: I feel bad. But sometimes it's just like there's a

1156
00:51:35,280 --> 00:51:36,439
Speaker 3: difference between.

1157
00:51:37,640 --> 00:51:39,879
Speaker 4: Like it's a difference between like looking down at people,

1158
00:51:39,920 --> 00:51:42,200
Speaker 4: because that's never the like, never the fact. But also

1159
00:51:42,360 --> 00:51:44,040
Speaker 4: if you're not on the level that I'm at, I

1160
00:51:44,120 --> 00:51:47,279
Speaker 4: don't have the energy for this conversation. Everybody is not

1161
00:51:47,440 --> 00:51:49,920
Speaker 4: on the same level as you in places, and because

1162
00:51:50,239 --> 00:51:52,960
Speaker 4: a lot of people are just talking and you could

1163
00:51:53,000 --> 00:51:55,400
Speaker 4: talk a lot, but like I'm a big like let

1164
00:51:55,480 --> 00:51:57,719
Speaker 4: me see the proof of the concept, bitch, Like I

1165
00:51:57,800 --> 00:51:59,359
Speaker 4: don't want to do a lot of talking. I want

1166
00:51:59,400 --> 00:52:01,719
Speaker 4: to see And I'm here for dreams and I'm here

1167
00:52:01,760 --> 00:52:03,120
Speaker 4: for and I tell Erica this all the time.

1168
00:52:03,160 --> 00:52:03,799
Speaker 3: We do this a lot.

1169
00:52:03,880 --> 00:52:06,640
Speaker 4: We are very powerful, Our spells are very powerful, our

1170
00:52:06,680 --> 00:52:08,640
Speaker 4: words are very powerful. And like you said, you're sitting

1171
00:52:08,680 --> 00:52:11,880
Speaker 4: in our You're sitting in our in our manifestation. And

1172
00:52:12,000 --> 00:52:14,040
Speaker 4: so often I tell Erica, I'm like, I have an idea,

1173
00:52:14,120 --> 00:52:15,839
Speaker 4: but I'm just going to chill on telling you right now,

1174
00:52:16,600 --> 00:52:18,879
Speaker 4: because we don't have a time, you know, like because

1175
00:52:18,920 --> 00:52:21,200
Speaker 4: I know as soon as we speak some shitt as

1176
00:52:21,200 --> 00:52:24,080
Speaker 4: soon as we speak it, it's on its way. And

1177
00:52:24,239 --> 00:52:26,120
Speaker 4: so if we're not, if we don't have it in

1178
00:52:26,160 --> 00:52:28,040
Speaker 4: the schedule today, I'm not going to speak it, you

1179
00:52:28,120 --> 00:52:31,560
Speaker 4: know what I mean. But I really well, it's also

1180
00:52:31,719 --> 00:52:33,720
Speaker 4: on the way because we're willing to pay the price,

1181
00:52:34,440 --> 00:52:37,560
Speaker 4: and even at every at every corner, at every time,

1182
00:52:37,840 --> 00:52:39,680
Speaker 4: like okay, you have an idea, bitch, Okay, how are

1183
00:52:39,680 --> 00:52:41,560
Speaker 4: we going to make it happen? And sometimes I think

1184
00:52:41,600 --> 00:52:43,680
Speaker 4: people you may be listening, you might think, like the

1185
00:52:43,840 --> 00:52:47,399
Speaker 4: price is actually monetary, you know, like a monetary price,

1186
00:52:47,440 --> 00:52:50,160
Speaker 4: and sometimes it is. Obviously, everything takes costs to be

1187
00:52:50,280 --> 00:52:52,440
Speaker 4: invested in, and you have to make money to put

1188
00:52:52,480 --> 00:52:55,279
Speaker 4: back into your business. However, like we've been doing this

1189
00:52:55,280 --> 00:52:58,520
Speaker 4: shit for five years. For a strong three of those

1190
00:52:58,640 --> 00:53:01,120
Speaker 4: years we didn't make any money, but we put in

1191
00:53:01,320 --> 00:53:05,879
Speaker 4: so much time and energy and effort into.

1192
00:53:05,960 --> 00:53:07,359
Speaker 3: What we knew was on its way.

1193
00:53:07,560 --> 00:53:09,760
Speaker 4: And when I say like time and energy and effort,

1194
00:53:09,840 --> 00:53:11,920
Speaker 4: like it's beautiful now we could look back and like

1195
00:53:12,320 --> 00:53:15,360
Speaker 4: talk about it, but like I'm saying, like hours and

1196
00:53:15,640 --> 00:53:18,280
Speaker 4: hours of being in the dining room while our kids

1197
00:53:18,320 --> 00:53:21,160
Speaker 4: are in the other room staying up late, like just

1198
00:53:22,840 --> 00:53:26,680
Speaker 4: pushing to make some shit happen, even when financially it

1199
00:53:26,840 --> 00:53:30,400
Speaker 4: wasn't existing. But we had an idea and nothing and

1200
00:53:30,520 --> 00:53:33,560
Speaker 4: nobody could tell us shit or not. Our mom was like,

1201
00:53:33,640 --> 00:53:35,440
Speaker 4: that's maybe not a good idea. We have friends who

1202
00:53:35,480 --> 00:53:38,279
Speaker 4: are like, that's kind of too much. There were so

1203
00:53:38,560 --> 00:53:41,600
Speaker 4: many There was so much criticism and so much doubt,

1204
00:53:41,840 --> 00:53:44,640
Speaker 4: But our clarity and what we were doing and what

1205
00:53:44,760 --> 00:53:48,160
Speaker 4: we've been doing has been so clear that nothing stopped us.

1206
00:53:48,520 --> 00:53:51,480
Speaker 4: Even the lack of financial gain in a three year

1207
00:53:51,600 --> 00:53:55,040
Speaker 4: period never stopped us from putting in the work. And

1208
00:53:55,360 --> 00:53:59,000
Speaker 4: even if we couldn't immediately see the results, we fucking

1209
00:53:59,160 --> 00:54:00,719
Speaker 4: knew it was on the way.

1210
00:54:01,239 --> 00:54:04,840
Speaker 3: And I'm so grateful that we believed in our vision

1211
00:54:04,960 --> 00:54:05,319
Speaker 3: that much.

1212
00:54:05,400 --> 00:54:07,799
Speaker 4: And I found a friend that was as delusional as

1213
00:54:07,880 --> 00:54:11,239
Speaker 4: I was, but it was like delusionally real, and like

1214
00:54:11,360 --> 00:54:13,279
Speaker 4: when I think back on those days, the amount of

1215
00:54:13,320 --> 00:54:17,400
Speaker 4: fucking veggie tacos, the amount of dinners we cooked together,

1216
00:54:17,600 --> 00:54:21,600
Speaker 4: the amount of like just long ass nights we sat

1217
00:54:21,760 --> 00:54:24,440
Speaker 4: up in the dining room to make this shit happen.

1218
00:54:24,680 --> 00:54:29,360
Speaker 4: Every fucking week on iPhones in the dining room, dming

1219
00:54:29,440 --> 00:54:32,520
Speaker 4: people just alone, just like being honest with each other.

1220
00:54:32,640 --> 00:54:35,080
Speaker 4: And a lot of the process was obviously putting in

1221
00:54:35,160 --> 00:54:40,160
Speaker 4: the energy, but also just I think the beautiful thing

1222
00:54:40,200 --> 00:54:42,239
Speaker 4: about this brand, in this business is a lot of

1223
00:54:42,320 --> 00:54:46,320
Speaker 4: it has been looking in the cabinets and seeing what

1224
00:54:46,520 --> 00:54:50,960
Speaker 4: wasn't there and saying like, damn, Erica, like this is

1225
00:54:51,000 --> 00:54:52,239
Speaker 4: not who I want to be, and these are the

1226
00:54:52,280 --> 00:54:55,000
Speaker 4: decisions that I've made, and not just Erica. Hey, thousands

1227
00:54:55,000 --> 00:54:57,080
Speaker 4: of people I never met in my fucking life. Let

1228
00:54:57,120 --> 00:54:59,560
Speaker 4: me tell you where I'm empty, you know what I mean?

1229
00:55:00,080 --> 00:55:04,960
Speaker 4: But taking inventory out loud and taking accountability out loud,

1230
00:55:05,080 --> 00:55:08,560
Speaker 4: and then shifting making change and saying this is what

1231
00:55:08,640 --> 00:55:10,239
Speaker 4: I'm this is how I'm going to shift what I've

1232
00:55:10,320 --> 00:55:12,959
Speaker 4: been doing, and even if it takes a really long time,

1233
00:55:13,160 --> 00:55:15,960
Speaker 4: and I'm going to continue to do that. And I

1234
00:55:16,040 --> 00:55:20,280
Speaker 4: think people really underestimate that part, you know, the time,

1235
00:55:20,480 --> 00:55:23,880
Speaker 4: the effort, and like what the cost of making your

1236
00:55:24,000 --> 00:55:27,600
Speaker 4: dream really come true and just betting on yourself and

1237
00:55:28,120 --> 00:55:32,000
Speaker 4: really quieting the noise outside and the criticism and the critiques.

1238
00:55:32,040 --> 00:55:33,120
Speaker 3: And for people who.

1239
00:55:34,600 --> 00:55:38,000
Speaker 4: I have a lot of successful friends, your mom's very successful.

1240
00:55:38,440 --> 00:55:40,720
Speaker 4: A lot of people couldn't see the vision is because

1241
00:55:41,000 --> 00:55:43,120
Speaker 4: you could be successful, but you're not successful doing what

1242
00:55:43,200 --> 00:55:45,760
Speaker 4: the fuck we're doing, so you could never see the vision.

1243
00:55:45,800 --> 00:55:47,880
Speaker 3: Of course you don't understand, right, but they ain't not

1244
00:55:47,960 --> 00:55:49,000
Speaker 3: supposed to, right.

1245
00:55:49,200 --> 00:55:50,359
Speaker 2: Do you wear eyeglasses?

1246
00:55:52,200 --> 00:55:55,160
Speaker 1: You do? If I picked up y'all, if I picked

1247
00:55:55,200 --> 00:55:57,120
Speaker 1: up your eyeglasses and put them on, they wild hurt

1248
00:55:57,120 --> 00:55:57,319
Speaker 1: my eyes.

1249
00:55:57,360 --> 00:55:59,440
Speaker 2: I wouldn't be able to see because they make my eyeglasses.

1250
00:56:00,080 --> 00:56:02,560
Speaker 1: Your vision is yours, Like I said, your calling is yours,

1251
00:56:02,600 --> 00:56:05,840
Speaker 1: and it wasn't a conference call. It was for you,

1252
00:56:06,080 --> 00:56:10,719
Speaker 1: So you don't That's why try to tell people it's

1253
00:56:10,880 --> 00:56:13,880
Speaker 1: unwise to be dependent on your family friends.

1254
00:56:13,960 --> 00:56:15,520
Speaker 2: So we talked about that at the top of the show.

1255
00:56:15,600 --> 00:56:18,360
Speaker 1: Your mother or anybody, because not all the time, and

1256
00:56:18,400 --> 00:56:20,560
Speaker 1: they're not going to get it, and sometimes they're going

1257
00:56:20,640 --> 00:56:26,480
Speaker 1: to push their own fears and trepidations off on you

1258
00:56:26,960 --> 00:56:29,960
Speaker 1: because you might be the exception and not the root.

1259
00:56:30,719 --> 00:56:33,719
Speaker 1: I walk in every situation and be like, yo, I'm

1260
00:56:33,760 --> 00:56:38,000
Speaker 1: the anomaly. I'm the anomaly. So you gotta let your

1261
00:56:38,160 --> 00:56:41,279
Speaker 1: faith be bigger than your fears. And and and just

1262
00:56:42,080 --> 00:56:46,320
Speaker 1: how the fucking just how the temerity to believe you

1263
00:56:46,760 --> 00:56:50,400
Speaker 1: can do anything you want to be. I have the temerity.

1264
00:56:50,600 --> 00:56:55,040
Speaker 1: I didn't care that I had no guidance. I didn't care.

1265
00:56:56,280 --> 00:56:58,479
Speaker 1: You know, I was a convict. I didn't care.

1266
00:56:58,680 --> 00:56:59,480
Speaker 2: I grew up poor.

1267
00:56:59,640 --> 00:57:02,560
Speaker 1: I didn't I was like, you know what, I'm gonna

1268
00:57:02,560 --> 00:57:06,520
Speaker 1: still do this fucking miraculous ass ship. You gotta have

1269
00:57:06,640 --> 00:57:10,479
Speaker 1: the temerity, and temerity is even heavier than audacity. Don't

1270
00:57:10,480 --> 00:57:13,640
Speaker 1: have the audacity, how the temerity to feel like you

1271
00:57:13,719 --> 00:57:16,960
Speaker 1: can succeed no matter what your circumstances is. And if

1272
00:57:17,000 --> 00:57:21,600
Speaker 1: you do that and align yourself with your purpose, kids,

1273
00:57:21,640 --> 00:57:24,880
Speaker 1: you not everything you want gonna come tap you on

1274
00:57:24,960 --> 00:57:26,720
Speaker 1: the shoulders. You't even got to check you out a

1275
00:57:26,800 --> 00:57:29,680
Speaker 1: big lie, suck fuck or steal for it.

1276
00:57:29,720 --> 00:57:30,240
Speaker 2: It's gonna come.

1277
00:57:30,360 --> 00:57:33,200
Speaker 4: Just that's a fucking fact. That ship will come to

1278
00:57:33,320 --> 00:57:36,520
Speaker 4: you and for And it did all this, like all

1279
00:57:36,600 --> 00:57:39,520
Speaker 4: this ship came to us. Everything we asked for came

1280
00:57:39,600 --> 00:57:41,720
Speaker 4: to us. Like we would speak it and wait a

1281
00:57:41,760 --> 00:57:43,960
Speaker 4: little bit, and they were like, hey, I'm here, what's up.

1282
00:57:44,280 --> 00:57:46,760
Speaker 4: Oh you want to write a book? Hey bitch, it's

1283
00:57:46,840 --> 00:57:50,560
Speaker 4: right here, like so like that is a fact. And

1284
00:57:50,840 --> 00:57:54,080
Speaker 4: I think once we started to realize that we we

1285
00:57:54,360 --> 00:57:57,160
Speaker 4: were the power, like you said, like God said, I'm

1286
00:57:57,280 --> 00:57:59,360
Speaker 4: making in my image he spoken, that should happened. Like

1287
00:57:59,600 --> 00:58:02,320
Speaker 4: people missed that part of the Christianity. They're so busy

1288
00:58:02,440 --> 00:58:06,160
Speaker 4: judging each other and Bible something that they forget. Like

1289
00:58:06,640 --> 00:58:10,880
Speaker 4: you are the replica of that power. Use that shit.

1290
00:58:11,600 --> 00:58:14,200
Speaker 4: And you know sometimes you're so busy praying, wishing upon

1291
00:58:14,280 --> 00:58:16,640
Speaker 4: a star, hoping, going to church, whatever you do, because

1292
00:58:16,640 --> 00:58:17,160
Speaker 4: that's cool too.

1293
00:58:17,280 --> 00:58:21,520
Speaker 3: But like you are, you are the peace the people.

1294
00:58:21,560 --> 00:58:23,120
Speaker 2: Oh black people, crazy.

1295
00:58:24,240 --> 00:58:26,480
Speaker 1: People, but a lot of people, a lot of black

1296
00:58:26,520 --> 00:58:28,840
Speaker 1: people think they can replace hard work with prayer.

1297
00:58:31,520 --> 00:58:32,960
Speaker 2: For real. They think they can.

1298
00:58:34,480 --> 00:58:43,280
Speaker 1: If yes, pray, But if prayer, if prayer could nobody pay,

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Speaker 1: pray better than your grandma.

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00:58:45,880 --> 00:58:48,720
Speaker 2: If prayer could do your grandma wouldn't have died broke, motherfucker.

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Speaker 1: And I ain't disrespect nobody, but thinking that, like nobody

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00:58:51,160 --> 00:58:54,720
Speaker 1: pray better than her, if it was only prayer, what

1303
00:58:54,800 --> 00:58:58,000
Speaker 1: do you You can't replace even in the Bible and

1304
00:58:58,120 --> 00:59:00,760
Speaker 1: say faith with our works is dead. You can't replace

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00:59:01,320 --> 00:59:04,440
Speaker 1: hard work with prayer. Y'all want to throw a fucking

1306
00:59:04,480 --> 00:59:07,240
Speaker 1: seat in the dirt and just hope it grow. It's

1307
00:59:07,280 --> 00:59:10,040
Speaker 1: gonna Some people are background actors in the movie about

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00:59:10,040 --> 00:59:15,240
Speaker 1: their own life. You're supposed to be the star. Even

1309
00:59:15,280 --> 00:59:17,520
Speaker 1: in my fitness business, I got people coming in there

1310
00:59:17,560 --> 00:59:20,880
Speaker 1: and don't want to make a contribution to their own transformation.

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00:59:21,080 --> 00:59:22,320
Speaker 3: You're like, I'm not about to do it. I'm on

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00:59:22,400 --> 00:59:23,160
Speaker 3: the surgeon, bitch.

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00:59:23,600 --> 00:59:25,720
Speaker 2: I can't do it. I can't jump in your body

1314
00:59:25,800 --> 00:59:27,520
Speaker 2: and have you it's for you.

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00:59:27,800 --> 00:59:30,320
Speaker 1: But people like that, I'll be like, hm, they probably

1316
00:59:30,360 --> 00:59:33,000
Speaker 1: won't get very far in life, seriously, because how you

1317
00:59:33,080 --> 00:59:35,000
Speaker 1: do one thing is how you do everything. So if

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00:59:35,040 --> 00:59:37,640
Speaker 1: you can't come to this gym and folks long enough

1319
00:59:37,680 --> 00:59:39,560
Speaker 1: to get your body together or something you're doing for you,

1320
00:59:40,120 --> 00:59:42,040
Speaker 1: I know you're not probably gonna stick with a business

1321
00:59:42,120 --> 00:59:43,840
Speaker 1: long enough until it turned the corner and make money.

1322
00:59:43,880 --> 00:59:46,440
Speaker 1: Because it takes the same fucking muscle. It takes the

1323
00:59:46,520 --> 00:59:49,920
Speaker 1: same muscle to thug it out. How you do one

1324
00:59:50,000 --> 00:59:51,880
Speaker 1: thing is how you do everything. You might not notice it.

1325
00:59:51,960 --> 00:59:53,560
Speaker 1: You ain't just late here, you laid everywhere.

1326
00:59:53,640 --> 00:59:54,120
Speaker 2: You just ain't know.

1327
00:59:54,200 --> 00:59:56,120
Speaker 1: How you do one thing how you do everything, it's

1328
00:59:56,160 --> 00:59:58,640
Speaker 1: the same. It takes the same muscle, the same set

1329
00:59:58,680 --> 01:00:00,800
Speaker 1: of set of intangibles. You get what I'm saying. But

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01:00:00,920 --> 01:00:02,720
Speaker 1: a lot of people want to skip the work you

1331
01:00:02,840 --> 01:00:05,640
Speaker 1: gotta put in, work, you gotta suffer. I learned that

1332
01:00:05,800 --> 01:00:11,400
Speaker 1: the part that I wish would have been the people

1333
01:00:11,400 --> 01:00:15,080
Speaker 1: would have talked about most is how you fail your

1334
01:00:15,160 --> 01:00:18,040
Speaker 1: way to success. I always say that now that I'm

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01:00:18,080 --> 01:00:22,440
Speaker 1: coming into my own version of success, I have realized,

1336
01:00:22,520 --> 01:00:25,360
Speaker 1: like I failed a lot to get here, and failure

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01:00:25,480 --> 01:00:28,280
Speaker 1: is a part of process. And I remember at one

1338
01:00:28,400 --> 01:00:31,000
Speaker 1: chapter in my life, I was scared to do a

1339
01:00:31,040 --> 01:00:34,440
Speaker 1: lot of things because I was scared to fail. But

1340
01:00:34,560 --> 01:00:36,520
Speaker 1: I didn't hear a lot of messages telling me like, oh,

1341
01:00:36,600 --> 01:00:38,760
Speaker 1: it's a part of failing. So I'm telling y'all, you

1342
01:00:38,960 --> 01:00:41,440
Speaker 1: fail your way to success. Man, you can't learn how

1343
01:00:41,520 --> 01:00:44,520
Speaker 1: to drive a park car, got to turn the car

1344
01:00:44,640 --> 01:00:45,920
Speaker 1: on and start hitting some croners.

1345
01:00:46,520 --> 01:00:47,480
Speaker 2: You fail your way there.

1346
01:00:47,560 --> 01:00:49,520
Speaker 1: So if you understand that a lot of people don't

1347
01:00:49,520 --> 01:00:51,440
Speaker 1: start things because they don't want to be seen starting

1348
01:00:51,440 --> 01:00:53,720
Speaker 1: from the bottom, I started all kind of shit.

1349
01:00:53,760 --> 01:00:56,480
Speaker 2: I started my own podcast, shout out.

1350
01:00:56,320 --> 01:01:00,360
Speaker 3: To as I saw your merch already, Well see.

1351
01:01:00,200 --> 01:01:00,880
Speaker 2: It in your mind you can.

1352
01:01:01,320 --> 01:01:04,600
Speaker 1: It's called the Unqualified as Fuck Podcast because we are

1353
01:01:04,720 --> 01:01:07,720
Speaker 1: unqualified as fuck. Because God would take the unqualified and

1354
01:01:07,840 --> 01:01:10,160
Speaker 1: put them in places that the qualified can't even get to.

1355
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Speaker 2: So now what you know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 3: I was just having this conversation with my daughter yesterday

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01:01:14,960 --> 01:01:17,600
Speaker 3: because she's very highly competitive, and you know I was

1358
01:01:17,600 --> 01:01:20,240
Speaker 3: a highly competitive child as well. But she'd be cheating.

1359
01:01:20,480 --> 01:01:22,120
Speaker 3: She'd be like trying to cut corners.

1360
01:01:21,840 --> 01:01:27,680
Speaker 2: And and sounds like she's smart cheating. She's like, because

1361
01:01:27,760 --> 01:01:30,160
Speaker 2: cheating is in school, that is bad.

1362
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Speaker 1: But if you look at somebody's paper and do that,

1363
01:01:33,360 --> 01:01:35,280
Speaker 1: But in the real world, if I hire somebody else

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Speaker 1: to do my work, I'm smart.

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Speaker 3: That's true.

1366
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Speaker 2: Like she's using her innate, she innately and I watched

1367
01:01:41,360 --> 01:01:42,680
Speaker 2: bricks and do this, but tell your story.

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Speaker 3: But it's more so like it's okay, yes that but

1369
01:01:45,520 --> 01:01:47,720
Speaker 3: also like even when she loses, she'll somehow flip it

1370
01:01:47,800 --> 01:01:50,720
Speaker 3: to make to like that she won. That's smart.

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01:01:50,840 --> 01:01:53,200
Speaker 2: She always want to feel like a winner. Nobody's going

1372
01:01:53,240 --> 01:01:55,439
Speaker 2: to make me feel like a loser. Keep going.

1373
01:01:56,280 --> 01:01:59,360
Speaker 3: But I was also telling her that there's it's okay

1374
01:01:59,440 --> 01:02:01,520
Speaker 3: to fail because that's how you become better, Like you

1375
01:02:01,720 --> 01:02:04,560
Speaker 3: have to fail in order for the successes to feel better,

1376
01:02:04,800 --> 01:02:07,120
Speaker 3: in order to be the best, you have to fail

1377
01:02:07,240 --> 01:02:10,640
Speaker 3: because you can't there's no, you have to have the opposite, yes,

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Speaker 3: And so I was like, you know many times I failed, Iri,

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Speaker 3: I was like, I'm just as competitive as you. I

1380
01:02:14,720 --> 01:02:17,480
Speaker 3: don't like to lose ever I am. That's one thing.

1381
01:02:17,520 --> 01:02:19,920
Speaker 3: You never call me a motherfucker loser, okay, And that's

1382
01:02:19,960 --> 01:02:21,400
Speaker 3: why I used to cry. I told her, like I

1383
01:02:21,520 --> 01:02:24,720
Speaker 3: used to cry every time I would lose. Like everyone knew, like,

1384
01:02:24,800 --> 01:02:26,840
Speaker 3: oh shit, here she goes, she's about to cry again,

1385
01:02:27,560 --> 01:02:30,440
Speaker 3: you know. And but the loss is what made me

1386
01:02:30,520 --> 01:02:33,680
Speaker 3: such a winner. I had to lose in order to like,

1387
01:02:33,840 --> 01:02:37,200
Speaker 3: you can't be saddened by the loss. In fact, you

1388
01:02:37,360 --> 01:02:39,200
Speaker 3: have to be motivated by the loss, because you don't

1389
01:02:39,200 --> 01:02:41,000
Speaker 3: ever want to feel that way again, right. I mean

1390
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Speaker 3: she's eight, so she probably was like, I don't want

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01:02:43,800 --> 01:02:45,040
Speaker 3: I still want, you know, I have.

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Speaker 1: Not conventional ways of doing things though, because the world

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01:02:49,800 --> 01:02:52,120
Speaker 1: is this a new world. I remember my oldest daughter,

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Speaker 1: who's twenty two now.

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Speaker 2: She was in the ninth grade or eighth grade at

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01:02:59,160 --> 01:03:03,959
Speaker 2: the time, and she had a D on her report card.

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01:03:05,040 --> 01:03:06,760
Speaker 2: She was like, dad, are you mad? But my daughters

1398
01:03:06,800 --> 01:03:09,680
Speaker 2: were always honor students, dude, But she was like, dad,

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01:03:09,760 --> 01:03:10,800
Speaker 2: are you mad? Yeah?

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01:03:10,840 --> 01:03:13,640
Speaker 1: She was in the ninth grade, and I was like, hell, yeah,

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01:03:13,680 --> 01:03:16,920
Speaker 1: I'm mad. I was like, uh no, she had an

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01:03:17,160 --> 01:03:19,200
Speaker 1: F and now you man, I said, Hell yea, I'm mad,

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01:03:19,240 --> 01:03:22,840
Speaker 1: I said an F. I said, don't ever ever bring

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01:03:22,920 --> 01:03:24,560
Speaker 1: home another F. First of all, she was in the

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01:03:24,640 --> 01:03:26,800
Speaker 1: tenth ninth or tenth grade, so she's close to the

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01:03:26,840 --> 01:03:29,360
Speaker 1: real rule. So this is this is finna get.

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Speaker 2: Real for you.

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01:03:29,680 --> 01:03:31,040
Speaker 1: I got to prepare you for real. So I told her,

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01:03:31,080 --> 01:03:33,080
Speaker 1: Hell yea, I'm mad, don't ever bring home another F.

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01:03:33,800 --> 01:03:35,600
Speaker 1: Don't ever fucking do that shit again. I don't give

1411
01:03:35,600 --> 01:03:36,960
Speaker 1: a fuck. If you got a cheat, you would have

1412
01:03:37,000 --> 01:03:40,200
Speaker 1: took somebody's paper erace, state your name on the top.

1413
01:03:40,720 --> 01:03:42,520
Speaker 1: You could have paired up with somebody to act like

1414
01:03:42,600 --> 01:03:44,640
Speaker 1: you was a friend and had him help you act.

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01:03:45,360 --> 01:03:46,920
Speaker 1: I don't give a fuck because in the real just

1416
01:03:47,000 --> 01:03:49,560
Speaker 1: what I told her, in a real role, F mean

1417
01:03:49,640 --> 01:03:50,760
Speaker 1: you couldn't figure it out.

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01:03:50,840 --> 01:03:52,520
Speaker 2: In a real role, when you can't figure it out,

1419
01:03:52,560 --> 01:03:54,480
Speaker 2: you got a three day eviction. No, this motherfucker.

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01:03:55,920 --> 01:03:57,960
Speaker 1: In a real role, when you can't figure it out,

1421
01:03:58,040 --> 01:04:00,040
Speaker 1: you lose your job because you was late to so

1422
01:04:00,040 --> 01:04:00,960
Speaker 1: many times getting the work.

1423
01:04:01,200 --> 01:04:02,919
Speaker 2: You have to start using your brain.

1424
01:04:03,040 --> 01:04:04,760
Speaker 1: I don't care if you cheat, just don't get caught,

1425
01:04:04,800 --> 01:04:06,720
Speaker 1: because if you get caught, then you're in trouble. She

1426
01:04:06,800 --> 01:04:08,400
Speaker 1: looked perplexed. I said, because it's the right way to

1427
01:04:08,400 --> 01:04:11,760
Speaker 1: do wrong. Baby, there's a right way to do wrong.

1428
01:04:12,200 --> 01:04:13,960
Speaker 1: And if y'all don't know what you lost, because the

1429
01:04:14,040 --> 01:04:15,800
Speaker 1: rest of the world, the people that's already up and

1430
01:04:15,800 --> 01:04:18,280
Speaker 1: that higher eche line, they're using a different playbook.

1431
01:04:18,280 --> 01:04:20,800
Speaker 2: And I'm gonna stop there so i can keep living.

1432
01:04:20,920 --> 01:04:22,760
Speaker 1: But they won't give me. But they're using a different playbook.

1433
01:04:22,760 --> 01:04:24,240
Speaker 1: But it's a right way to do wrong. And I

1434
01:04:24,320 --> 01:04:26,400
Speaker 1: wanted my daughter to be prepared. Don't try to walk

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01:04:26,480 --> 01:04:27,200
Speaker 1: that straight line.

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01:04:27,560 --> 01:04:28,480
Speaker 2: I want you to bend the.

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01:04:28,560 --> 01:04:30,440
Speaker 1: Rules to where they work for you, because I've been

1438
01:04:30,480 --> 01:04:32,840
Speaker 1: the rules to work for me. I wasn't put here

1439
01:04:32,920 --> 01:04:34,720
Speaker 1: to let somebody else make a bunch of rules for me.

1440
01:04:34,760 --> 01:04:35,760
Speaker 1: And I'm born, and here are all.

1441
01:04:35,640 --> 01:04:38,280
Speaker 2: The rules for you. Fuck you. I'll do what works

1442
01:04:38,280 --> 01:04:38,480
Speaker 2: for me.

1443
01:04:38,720 --> 01:04:41,479
Speaker 1: I'll take the consequences or evade them, but I'm gonna

1444
01:04:41,480 --> 01:04:42,040
Speaker 1: do it work for me.

1445
01:04:42,120 --> 01:04:43,760
Speaker 2: But I'm not gonna let no other man be the

1446
01:04:43,840 --> 01:04:44,680
Speaker 2: ruler over my life.

1447
01:04:44,680 --> 01:04:46,120
Speaker 1: I don't like this rule. It didn't work for me.

1448
01:04:46,600 --> 01:04:48,120
Speaker 1: I don't want to do it this way. College might

1449
01:04:48,160 --> 01:04:49,959
Speaker 1: don't work. It's don't work for me. I'm not gonna

1450
01:04:49,960 --> 01:04:51,840
Speaker 1: do it this way because two plus two is four,

1451
01:04:51,920 --> 01:04:53,840
Speaker 1: but so is three plus one. It's more than one

1452
01:04:53,840 --> 01:04:55,360
Speaker 1: way to get to four. So it's more than one

1453
01:04:55,400 --> 01:04:57,840
Speaker 1: way to get to your happiness. And you might can't

1454
01:04:57,880 --> 01:04:59,280
Speaker 1: do it that way, So you have to find what

1455
01:04:59,400 --> 01:05:02,080
Speaker 1: works for you. You get what I'm saying without infringing

1456
01:05:02,160 --> 01:05:05,560
Speaker 1: on someone else's happiness R and P and someone else's progress.

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01:05:05,720 --> 01:05:09,080
Speaker 2: I have to say that, but they dragged me internet well.

1458
01:05:09,240 --> 01:05:11,240
Speaker 3: I like that you added that you can you could

1459
01:05:11,280 --> 01:05:13,200
Speaker 3: get to the goal many ways.

1460
01:05:14,520 --> 01:05:17,400
Speaker 2: You don't have to be malevolent or acrimonious in order

1461
01:05:17,480 --> 01:05:17,760
Speaker 2: to do it.

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Speaker 4: I have a question, as you've evolved as a man,

1463
01:05:20,960 --> 01:05:25,840
Speaker 4: and and you know and your like your work, when

1464
01:05:25,880 --> 01:05:28,200
Speaker 4: you change your mindset, did that also play a part

1465
01:05:28,240 --> 01:05:30,280
Speaker 4: in changing your like your mindset, and like how you

1466
01:05:30,320 --> 01:05:32,720
Speaker 4: showed up as a husband, a boyfriend or a father,

1467
01:05:33,400 --> 01:05:35,840
Speaker 4: Like I know we talked about this a little bit earlier,

1468
01:05:35,960 --> 01:05:38,840
Speaker 4: but like you were talking about, like how you do

1469
01:05:39,000 --> 01:05:42,240
Speaker 4: grandiose things for your wife because you promised her things

1470
01:05:42,280 --> 01:05:44,280
Speaker 4: and now you're showing up in the way that in

1471
01:05:44,360 --> 01:05:46,160
Speaker 4: what you promise, you're giving her the things that you

1472
01:05:46,200 --> 01:05:46,760
Speaker 4: know he does.

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01:05:46,840 --> 01:05:48,680
Speaker 3: If you go follow six pack on the internet, I

1474
01:05:48,720 --> 01:05:50,600
Speaker 3: mean you look on his instagrams, you will see the

1475
01:05:50,720 --> 01:05:54,120
Speaker 3: beautiful experiences that he curates for his wife.

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Speaker 1: I wanted you to finish your question, but I'm gonna

1477
01:05:56,280 --> 01:05:59,080
Speaker 1: say this because that was a question. Yeah, but it's

1478
01:05:59,120 --> 01:06:01,960
Speaker 1: because it's important for men and women alike to hear this.

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01:06:04,000 --> 01:06:07,080
Speaker 1: The best thing I ever gave my wife was peace

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01:06:07,120 --> 01:06:11,040
Speaker 1: of mind and consistency. If you need money to get her,

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01:06:11,120 --> 01:06:13,400
Speaker 1: she ain't the one homy little bro. If you need

1482
01:06:13,480 --> 01:06:15,120
Speaker 1: money to get her, she ain't the one little bro.

1483
01:06:15,800 --> 01:06:18,520
Speaker 1: And that's not demonizing and weaponizing women that it's all

1484
01:06:18,520 --> 01:06:20,720
Speaker 1: about money. But if you need money, if that is

1485
01:06:20,760 --> 01:06:25,080
Speaker 1: an absolute driving force to her affection and infatuation for you,

1486
01:06:25,240 --> 01:06:27,200
Speaker 1: she ain't the one. You get what I'm saying, so

1487
01:06:27,400 --> 01:06:29,640
Speaker 1: out of all the grandy, because she can have all

1488
01:06:29,680 --> 01:06:33,240
Speaker 1: these grandiose things and be miserable and then it ain't

1489
01:06:33,280 --> 01:06:36,880
Speaker 1: worth it. Yeah, so that's fine, but I want to

1490
01:06:37,480 --> 01:06:41,240
Speaker 1: amplify and highlight that the most important thing I gave

1491
01:06:41,280 --> 01:06:44,920
Speaker 1: her was peace of mind and consistency. Like she's very

1492
01:06:45,680 --> 01:06:48,040
Speaker 1: peace women just want a place they could be safe

1493
01:06:48,600 --> 01:06:51,320
Speaker 1: and tap into that feminine energy. You can't have her

1494
01:06:51,800 --> 01:06:54,160
Speaker 1: out here hustling for the both of y'all, figuring it

1495
01:06:54,360 --> 01:06:57,080
Speaker 1: out for the both of y'all, and masculine energy, and

1496
01:06:57,120 --> 01:06:58,560
Speaker 1: they want a button and switch and want her to

1497
01:06:58,600 --> 01:07:00,280
Speaker 1: turn around and be feminine. You put you're in that

1498
01:07:00,360 --> 01:07:03,040
Speaker 1: masculine energy, and now you're mad, you know what I'm saying.

1499
01:07:03,080 --> 01:07:05,760
Speaker 1: So for me, the best thing I ever gave it

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01:07:05,920 --> 01:07:08,080
Speaker 1: was peace of mind. She could take her hand off.

1501
01:07:08,280 --> 01:07:10,280
Speaker 1: Her hand ain't been on the steering wind alumnatter fact,

1502
01:07:10,440 --> 01:07:12,160
Speaker 1: not only is her hand not on the steering wheels,

1503
01:07:12,200 --> 01:07:12,880
Speaker 1: her seat reclined.

1504
01:07:12,880 --> 01:07:13,440
Speaker 2: She ain't even look.

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01:07:14,920 --> 01:07:18,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, so she just get to recline in her femininity,

1506
01:07:18,960 --> 01:07:21,640
Speaker 1: which allows me to recline in my masculinity.

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Speaker 3: Do you hear this, man, do you hear this? This

1508
01:07:25,480 --> 01:07:28,680
Speaker 3: is the life hack. You don't listen. I know we

1509
01:07:28,760 --> 01:07:32,240
Speaker 3: live in a time where women have also perpetuated this

1510
01:07:32,360 --> 01:07:34,440
Speaker 3: idea that the nigga got to have the bag right,

1511
01:07:34,560 --> 01:07:36,760
Speaker 3: you can't do this, this and that. But I think

1512
01:07:36,800 --> 01:07:39,880
Speaker 3: even those women, those women have have stepped into this

1513
01:07:40,200 --> 01:07:44,120
Speaker 3: bad bitch I need this type of man era because

1514
01:07:44,200 --> 01:07:47,440
Speaker 3: they have lacked that. They have lacked consistency, They have

1515
01:07:47,640 --> 01:07:49,080
Speaker 3: lacked what was.

1516
01:07:49,080 --> 01:07:51,000
Speaker 2: The other thing, peace peace.

1517
01:07:54,920 --> 01:07:56,960
Speaker 3: They say, well, fuck the piece. You can't give me peace,

1518
01:07:57,000 --> 01:07:58,600
Speaker 3: You can't give me consistency, nigga, you better give me

1519
01:07:58,720 --> 01:08:01,800
Speaker 3: some money. Give me the money then, because that's what

1520
01:08:02,080 --> 01:08:03,520
Speaker 3: that's what you said. You're that's what you said you're

1521
01:08:03,520 --> 01:08:05,600
Speaker 3: good for. Right. The man is the provider, right, will

1522
01:08:05,600 --> 01:08:07,000
Speaker 3: provide for me then, because you can't give me in

1523
01:08:07,120 --> 01:08:09,720
Speaker 3: any of these other things right now, give me a headache,

1524
01:08:09,720 --> 01:08:11,439
Speaker 3: you manage it. And I'm not And I'm not saying

1525
01:08:11,480 --> 01:08:13,400
Speaker 3: that that is, that is not that is not the solution,

1526
01:08:14,160 --> 01:08:16,680
Speaker 3: but that is that's I think that's that is why

1527
01:08:17,200 --> 01:08:19,439
Speaker 3: it is graduated to this because that feels good. That

1528
01:08:19,560 --> 01:08:21,040
Speaker 3: bag feels good for right now.

1529
01:08:21,240 --> 01:08:23,360
Speaker 1: Well, yeah, money can make you happy, but it can't

1530
01:08:23,439 --> 01:08:26,360
Speaker 1: keep you happy. And one thing I learned on my

1531
01:08:26,479 --> 01:08:29,120
Speaker 1: way up, and I'm still I'm still a sinding and

1532
01:08:29,200 --> 01:08:31,800
Speaker 1: I'm finna be I'm gonna be so real with y'all

1533
01:08:32,880 --> 01:08:34,840
Speaker 1: that a lot of people are gonna be mad, and

1534
01:08:34,920 --> 01:08:36,800
Speaker 1: some of y'all aint gonna understand what I'm about to say,

1535
01:08:36,840 --> 01:08:38,960
Speaker 1: but I'm being honest, and no, I don't have fifty

1536
01:08:39,040 --> 01:08:42,519
Speaker 1: trillion dollars. Yet I desire to have fifty trillion dollars

1537
01:08:42,520 --> 01:08:44,080
Speaker 1: because that means I can help a lot of people.

1538
01:08:44,200 --> 01:08:46,920
Speaker 1: But from where I'm at, what I've learned, from where

1539
01:08:46,960 --> 01:08:49,000
Speaker 1: I was to where I'm at, here's one thing I learned.

1540
01:08:49,000 --> 01:08:51,880
Speaker 1: I want you to hold on. I hopefully resonate. There's

1541
01:08:52,040 --> 01:08:55,880
Speaker 1: really not that many things to spend money on. You

1542
01:08:56,000 --> 01:08:58,479
Speaker 1: think you need all this money, but after you hear

1543
01:08:58,520 --> 01:09:01,400
Speaker 1: a certain amount of million, it all becomes the same,

1544
01:09:01,840 --> 01:09:04,120
Speaker 1: and it starts to become banal, and it would drain

1545
01:09:04,240 --> 01:09:10,160
Speaker 1: the fun out of life. Elon must tweeted something and everybody,

1546
01:09:10,200 --> 01:09:13,360
Speaker 1: you know, I think only very few people understood like

1547
01:09:13,439 --> 01:09:15,200
Speaker 1: what he said, like what it really meant.

1548
01:09:15,240 --> 01:09:15,599
Speaker 2: He said.

1549
01:09:15,640 --> 01:09:19,000
Speaker 1: The worst thing that can happen is being able to

1550
01:09:19,040 --> 01:09:24,120
Speaker 1: buy anything you want and living forever. He said, living

1551
01:09:24,160 --> 01:09:25,840
Speaker 1: forever and being able to buy anything you want is

1552
01:09:25,840 --> 01:09:28,360
Speaker 1: a curse. And a lot of people didn't really understand it.

1553
01:09:28,479 --> 01:09:31,240
Speaker 1: But I get it because I have a different relationship

1554
01:09:31,320 --> 01:09:33,960
Speaker 1: with the universe. And being able to buy anything you

1555
01:09:34,040 --> 01:09:37,560
Speaker 1: want taste the spice out of life, and life is

1556
01:09:37,560 --> 01:09:39,320
Speaker 1: supposed to be a roller coaster up and down. You

1557
01:09:39,400 --> 01:09:41,080
Speaker 1: go to a hospital, when you hook up to the machine,

1558
01:09:41,080 --> 01:09:46,200
Speaker 1: it's going like this strike life does this in the hospital.

1559
01:09:46,200 --> 01:09:47,320
Speaker 2: When you do this, you life.

1560
01:09:48,120 --> 01:09:50,080
Speaker 1: Life is supposed to have peaks and values, but if

1561
01:09:50,080 --> 01:09:52,200
Speaker 1: you could buy anything, you want nothing, it's a It

1562
01:09:52,320 --> 01:09:55,479
Speaker 1: takes the peaks and valley. So what I'm trying to

1563
01:09:55,520 --> 01:09:58,280
Speaker 1: tell y'all all that money don't mean nothing. It's people

1564
01:09:58,800 --> 01:10:01,680
Speaker 1: that can keep you happy. Money make you happy, but

1565
01:10:01,760 --> 01:10:04,200
Speaker 1: it can't keep you happy because when you're everybody at

1566
01:10:04,240 --> 01:10:06,400
Speaker 1: one point, hopefully Listen has had a new car, and

1567
01:10:06,479 --> 01:10:07,880
Speaker 1: when you got that new car, you're like, oh, I'm

1568
01:10:07,880 --> 01:10:09,240
Speaker 1: gona keep it, clean them and washing them and wash

1569
01:10:09,240 --> 01:10:11,120
Speaker 1: them and wash it. After a year, you ain't wash

1570
01:10:11,200 --> 01:10:12,880
Speaker 1: that car because it don't keep you happy, Like what's

1571
01:10:12,920 --> 01:10:16,200
Speaker 1: my next car? Because things can't keep you happy. Only

1572
01:10:16,320 --> 01:10:19,599
Speaker 1: the love of people in healthy relationships can sustain that happiness.

1573
01:10:19,680 --> 01:10:21,800
Speaker 1: So women, yeah, if he like yo, he ain't give

1574
01:10:21,840 --> 01:10:23,040
Speaker 1: me this, He ain't given me that. I want to

1575
01:10:23,040 --> 01:10:26,120
Speaker 1: supplement it for money. That's cool, But just understand money

1576
01:10:26,280 --> 01:10:28,960
Speaker 1: is a cherry on top. If you bring me a

1577
01:10:29,040 --> 01:10:31,240
Speaker 1: birth sole, you can have a cake and icing without

1578
01:10:31,240 --> 01:10:33,680
Speaker 1: the cherry, but the cherry and whipped cream ain't no

1579
01:10:33,760 --> 01:10:35,840
Speaker 1: good without the cake. That's just a cherry on top,

1580
01:10:35,920 --> 01:10:39,360
Speaker 1: And the cake represents the commitment, the peace, the honesty,

1581
01:10:39,720 --> 01:10:43,400
Speaker 1: the safety. These women don't feel safe. The cherry on

1582
01:10:43,520 --> 01:10:46,960
Speaker 1: top is the tangible things, like all right, we got

1583
01:10:47,000 --> 01:10:49,840
Speaker 1: a nice hut, but with having this without that, because

1584
01:10:49,840 --> 01:10:51,720
Speaker 1: no matter how big your house is, you can only

1585
01:10:51,760 --> 01:10:53,400
Speaker 1: sleep in one room at a time. And if you

1586
01:10:53,479 --> 01:10:56,320
Speaker 1: and that motherfucker crying and can't do nothing on it,

1587
01:10:56,439 --> 01:11:00,479
Speaker 1: it's like a luxury prison. That's a luxury jail. No

1588
01:11:00,560 --> 01:11:02,679
Speaker 1: one envies you, or the white people that's tapped into

1589
01:11:02,680 --> 01:11:06,439
Speaker 1: the universe don't envy that. They don't envy that. So

1590
01:11:06,760 --> 01:11:08,599
Speaker 1: the best thing I gave her was peace of mind.

1591
01:11:08,680 --> 01:11:09,160
Speaker 2: You know what I mean.

1592
01:11:09,320 --> 01:11:11,840
Speaker 1: Just do what you say you're gonna do, fellas in

1593
01:11:11,920 --> 01:11:14,920
Speaker 1: a timely fashion. Because women, they might not say nothing,

1594
01:11:15,000 --> 01:11:17,200
Speaker 1: but they remember what everything you said you was gonna do.

1595
01:11:17,640 --> 01:11:19,720
Speaker 1: And if she's in her divinity, she ain't gonna even

1596
01:11:19,720 --> 01:11:21,240
Speaker 1: beat you over the head with it. But she took

1597
01:11:21,280 --> 01:11:23,839
Speaker 1: a note like, all right, that's twenty things he said.

1598
01:11:23,680 --> 01:11:24,200
Speaker 2: He was gonna do it.

1599
01:11:24,520 --> 01:11:26,519
Speaker 3: Take cancer. She had cancer. Sh ain't forgetting shit.

1600
01:11:26,640 --> 01:11:29,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, So when she is a little reluctant about your

1601
01:11:30,000 --> 01:11:32,600
Speaker 1: dream is because she remember you started many things and

1602
01:11:32,680 --> 01:11:35,080
Speaker 1: finished nothing. Some of y' I don't have a problem

1603
01:11:35,120 --> 01:11:37,680
Speaker 1: with starting things starting at Your problem is finishing, but

1604
01:11:37,840 --> 01:11:40,880
Speaker 1: your lady remembers all that. So she's just taking notes

1605
01:11:41,560 --> 01:11:44,160
Speaker 1: and holding you accountable for what you showed her. What

1606
01:11:44,280 --> 01:11:45,840
Speaker 1: I've learned because I've been on both sides. I was

1607
01:11:45,880 --> 01:11:48,559
Speaker 1: a fuck boy, I've been on both sides of this thing,

1608
01:11:48,840 --> 01:11:51,200
Speaker 1: and what I learned first women First, A woman will

1609
01:11:51,240 --> 01:11:54,840
Speaker 1: treat you how she wants to be treated, and then

1610
01:11:55,040 --> 01:11:56,080
Speaker 1: she'll start treating.

1611
01:11:55,880 --> 01:11:56,760
Speaker 2: You like you treat her.

1612
01:11:58,600 --> 01:11:59,719
Speaker 3: When you're not taking notes.

1613
01:12:00,920 --> 01:12:01,880
Speaker 2: Okay, this is what we're doing.

1614
01:12:02,040 --> 01:12:04,519
Speaker 1: Okay, Okay, let me So we're going all day with

1615
01:12:04,600 --> 01:12:05,880
Speaker 1: our text and now it's my turn.

1616
01:12:06,040 --> 01:12:06,559
Speaker 3: No problem.

1617
01:12:07,760 --> 01:12:11,040
Speaker 4: Your homeboys me too, Okay, Yeah, I'm with my homeboys too.

1618
01:12:12,560 --> 01:12:14,760
Speaker 2: Yeah. They start off like that.

1619
01:12:14,960 --> 01:12:18,400
Speaker 1: So you you you you You be a true leader, Fellas,

1620
01:12:18,439 --> 01:12:20,640
Speaker 1: and a leader ain't somebody with a bravado that can

1621
01:12:20,720 --> 01:12:23,679
Speaker 1: raise their voice and threaten to break TVs and become

1622
01:12:23,800 --> 01:12:26,680
Speaker 1: physically and verbally abusive. No, a leader is someone that

1623
01:12:26,880 --> 01:12:30,040
Speaker 1: can erect the necessary intangibles out of everyone that's under

1624
01:12:30,040 --> 01:12:34,680
Speaker 1: their tutelage to uh extract those intangibles to commit.

1625
01:12:34,600 --> 01:12:38,479
Speaker 2: Said goal and execute whatever the goal is. That's a leader.

1626
01:12:38,520 --> 01:12:41,920
Speaker 1: You do it first, she'll take notice you do it consistently.

1627
01:12:42,280 --> 01:12:45,439
Speaker 1: She will take notes. You do it consistently, and you

1628
01:12:45,600 --> 01:12:47,920
Speaker 1: do it first over a long period of time, then

1629
01:12:48,000 --> 01:12:50,160
Speaker 1: she'll take action with you. But you do it first,

1630
01:12:50,439 --> 01:12:52,880
Speaker 1: show her, don't tell her. Because women hate when you

1631
01:12:52,920 --> 01:12:55,080
Speaker 1: try to micromanage them. It's annoying when you ain't doing

1632
01:12:55,120 --> 01:12:56,960
Speaker 1: your ship. I want to get on them about what

1633
01:12:57,080 --> 01:12:59,720
Speaker 1: they ain't doing, and they know you're not. It irks stay.

1634
01:12:59,800 --> 01:13:02,320
Speaker 2: So it's like, you know, how could you dare even

1635
01:13:02,439 --> 01:13:04,120
Speaker 2: bring that up? You know what I mean?

1636
01:13:04,240 --> 01:13:07,160
Speaker 1: So you're not being sick, You're not being sly. I

1637
01:13:07,280 --> 01:13:10,120
Speaker 1: haven't met a woman at my smartest that I'm smarter

1638
01:13:10,240 --> 01:13:14,599
Speaker 1: than y'all. Just have y'all just inherent y'all are extra terrestrial.

1639
01:13:15,240 --> 01:13:15,840
Speaker 3: It's a fact.

1640
01:13:17,439 --> 01:13:21,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, exactly. You bring life, You bring life, you

1641
01:13:21,760 --> 01:13:27,400
Speaker 1: bring a soul from somewhere else here. You're extra terrestrial.

1642
01:13:27,640 --> 01:13:30,000
Speaker 1: And the woman just you have a divice like y'all

1643
01:13:30,040 --> 01:13:32,160
Speaker 1: could just be in a shower and just be like

1644
01:13:32,840 --> 01:13:35,680
Speaker 1: this nigga cheating. It's a fact that you know what

1645
01:13:36,160 --> 01:13:39,479
Speaker 1: drawer right, up fronder the naki socks to the like.

1646
01:13:39,680 --> 01:13:43,439
Speaker 2: Literally a woman just be like, take you right to it.

1647
01:13:43,920 --> 01:13:44,840
Speaker 2: So instead of.

1648
01:13:44,960 --> 01:13:48,439
Speaker 1: Having her using her divinity against you to fight you

1649
01:13:48,680 --> 01:13:51,720
Speaker 1: all day long, work together, and now she's aiming her

1650
01:13:51,800 --> 01:13:54,280
Speaker 1: divinity at the world to move mountains for you. Because

1651
01:13:54,280 --> 01:13:55,800
Speaker 1: when me and my wife was at and she want

1652
01:13:55,840 --> 01:13:59,160
Speaker 1: my wife at the time at odds, we accomplished nothing

1653
01:13:59,400 --> 01:14:01,400
Speaker 1: because all her supernatural power she.

1654
01:14:01,560 --> 01:14:05,519
Speaker 2: Using it this and that. But when I put her

1655
01:14:05,560 --> 01:14:07,720
Speaker 2: at peace, put her at peace. Now she can use

1656
01:14:07,760 --> 01:14:12,960
Speaker 2: her powers for me. See to do that.

1657
01:14:13,200 --> 01:14:15,200
Speaker 1: She's using them in the right place because it's supposed

1658
01:14:15,200 --> 01:14:17,000
Speaker 1: to be you and your boo against the world, and

1659
01:14:17,040 --> 01:14:18,760
Speaker 1: it ain't nothing y'all can do. When I see a

1660
01:14:18,880 --> 01:14:22,080
Speaker 1: man that has been with the same woman for five

1661
01:14:22,800 --> 01:14:25,439
Speaker 1: years or better and he's living in lack of limited,

1662
01:14:25,640 --> 01:14:28,840
Speaker 1: lack and limitation, I know he's a problem because you

1663
01:14:28,920 --> 01:14:31,519
Speaker 1: got a secret weaponsitting right there. She can't be the

1664
01:14:31,600 --> 01:14:33,679
Speaker 1: problem because if you was doing her right, you could

1665
01:14:33,680 --> 01:14:35,599
Speaker 1: tell a woman like you could give a one if

1666
01:14:35,640 --> 01:14:37,720
Speaker 1: I want to here's my dream, I just I want

1667
01:14:37,760 --> 01:14:38,599
Speaker 1: to blah blah blah blah.

1668
01:14:38,680 --> 01:14:40,160
Speaker 3: Oh one moment, let me get you, let me get

1669
01:14:40,160 --> 01:14:40,760
Speaker 3: your mediacount.

1670
01:14:40,840 --> 01:14:43,439
Speaker 2: Yeah not, let me get you. Two days later, she'll

1671
01:14:43,479 --> 01:14:45,760
Speaker 2: be like, here go three thousand dollars. Where you get

1672
01:14:45,760 --> 01:14:46,080
Speaker 2: that from?

1673
01:14:46,120 --> 01:14:46,800
Speaker 3: Don't worry about it.

1674
01:14:47,160 --> 01:14:49,320
Speaker 2: Don't worry. She is ready to get back.

1675
01:14:49,439 --> 01:14:50,960
Speaker 1: So if I see a man that's been with a

1676
01:14:51,000 --> 01:14:52,720
Speaker 1: woman for a long period of time and he's living

1677
01:14:52,760 --> 01:14:56,040
Speaker 1: in lack and limitation, I'm like, you have to be

1678
01:14:56,160 --> 01:14:57,919
Speaker 1: the problem because she's magical.

1679
01:14:58,160 --> 01:15:00,600
Speaker 4: You're using each other wrong. You're using it divinity on

1680
01:15:00,640 --> 01:15:03,080
Speaker 4: the wrong shit. Yeah, but and you are using her

1681
01:15:03,200 --> 01:15:05,120
Speaker 4: so she's not using her divinity on the right shit.

1682
01:15:05,439 --> 01:15:06,600
Speaker 3: Use all of the both parties are.

1683
01:15:07,439 --> 01:15:10,559
Speaker 1: But is the man's job to set the tone. I'm

1684
01:15:10,600 --> 01:15:12,080
Speaker 1: a little old school in that wain and I know

1685
01:15:12,120 --> 01:15:13,920
Speaker 1: a lot of people like, nah no, but that's cool.

1686
01:15:14,000 --> 01:15:16,320
Speaker 1: Whatever worked for you, try to work it. But nah, bro,

1687
01:15:16,479 --> 01:15:17,800
Speaker 1: look let me tell you a lot of shit was

1688
01:15:18,160 --> 01:15:19,880
Speaker 1: the ship that was here before you got here.

1689
01:15:19,960 --> 01:15:22,680
Speaker 2: You can't try to change that shit. That's universal law.

1690
01:15:22,800 --> 01:15:27,200
Speaker 1: Everything on earth has an equal opposite up, down, left, right, short.

1691
01:15:27,160 --> 01:15:28,200
Speaker 2: Tall, hot, cold.

1692
01:15:28,280 --> 01:15:30,439
Speaker 1: You can't now come in here and rearrange Well, you

1693
01:15:30,479 --> 01:15:32,400
Speaker 1: could try to rearrange it, but if don't be surprised

1694
01:15:32,400 --> 01:15:33,120
Speaker 1: if it don't go right.

1695
01:15:34,120 --> 01:15:34,599
Speaker 3: I agree.

1696
01:15:34,640 --> 01:15:37,040
Speaker 4: I agree men set the tone, and I think that

1697
01:15:37,160 --> 01:15:39,760
Speaker 4: sometimes women are trying to like you're trying to make

1698
01:15:39,840 --> 01:15:42,400
Speaker 4: a man do a thing. And like even before I like,

1699
01:15:42,439 --> 01:15:44,400
Speaker 4: even when I was single on not in a relationship.

1700
01:15:44,720 --> 01:15:46,880
Speaker 4: One thing about me is like I have never really

1701
01:15:46,960 --> 01:15:49,479
Speaker 4: been pressed to be in a relationship, Like maybe I

1702
01:15:49,479 --> 01:15:51,800
Speaker 4: would want one, or I would like, you know, want

1703
01:15:51,840 --> 01:15:54,439
Speaker 4: companionship or just be tired of the streets because niggas

1704
01:15:54,439 --> 01:15:57,400
Speaker 4: are slow. But one thing is not like one thing

1705
01:15:57,400 --> 01:15:59,519
Speaker 4: I've always said is like I'm not about to like,

1706
01:16:00,040 --> 01:16:01,640
Speaker 4: I'm not about to be the bitch like, hey, what

1707
01:16:01,720 --> 01:16:02,360
Speaker 4: are we doing here?

1708
01:16:02,800 --> 01:16:04,439
Speaker 3: Because that's the man's job.

1709
01:16:04,920 --> 01:16:07,479
Speaker 4: If you don't see that I am the prize and

1710
01:16:07,560 --> 01:16:10,479
Speaker 4: that there's value in us being an item or being

1711
01:16:10,560 --> 01:16:12,640
Speaker 4: in a relationship, I am not going to be the

1712
01:16:12,720 --> 01:16:15,280
Speaker 4: one to be like, hey, I think that we should

1713
01:16:15,320 --> 01:16:17,800
Speaker 4: be together because you don't get it, so I don't

1714
01:16:17,880 --> 01:16:20,240
Speaker 4: need like I've always said that, like I think it's

1715
01:16:20,280 --> 01:16:24,519
Speaker 4: the man's job to see what's important and then set

1716
01:16:24,560 --> 01:16:26,640
Speaker 4: the tone and say, hey, this I want you and

1717
01:16:26,760 --> 01:16:28,800
Speaker 4: we should do this together. And if you say that

1718
01:16:28,960 --> 01:16:31,000
Speaker 4: and you're committed to it, then that's what I expect

1719
01:16:31,280 --> 01:16:33,640
Speaker 4: if I agree, But I'm never I've never been the

1720
01:16:33,680 --> 01:16:34,640
Speaker 4: type of bitch to be like.

1721
01:16:34,840 --> 01:16:37,000
Speaker 3: God, I'm going to drop some hints. I'll be like,

1722
01:16:37,600 --> 01:16:38,759
Speaker 3: catch you next week, nigga.

1723
01:16:39,880 --> 01:16:42,559
Speaker 4: I got some other niggas whose turn is coming up,

1724
01:16:42,760 --> 01:16:45,120
Speaker 4: because I don't think I've never thought it was my

1725
01:16:45,320 --> 01:16:48,120
Speaker 4: job as the woman to be like, hey, we should

1726
01:16:48,200 --> 01:16:49,479
Speaker 4: make we should do this together.

1727
01:16:49,960 --> 01:16:53,640
Speaker 3: I if you, if you suggest this, even my.

1728
01:16:53,680 --> 01:16:55,760
Speaker 4: Relationship now, he suggested a lot of times, and I

1729
01:16:55,880 --> 01:16:58,719
Speaker 4: was like kind of like being scared in ways because

1730
01:16:58,720 --> 01:17:01,680
Speaker 4: I haven't really been a committed person. But once he

1731
01:17:02,600 --> 01:17:04,360
Speaker 4: made it clear that that's what needed to happen, and

1732
01:17:04,439 --> 01:17:07,760
Speaker 4: then I committed. That's what it's been period, Like we've

1733
01:17:07,840 --> 01:17:11,799
Speaker 4: always together. Once I came around and made this agreement,

1734
01:17:12,040 --> 01:17:15,920
Speaker 4: we agreed to walk in this direction together, and I

1735
01:17:16,120 --> 01:17:18,800
Speaker 4: value that and my man because he made it clear

1736
01:17:18,920 --> 01:17:21,360
Speaker 4: he wanted me, and that made it easy for me

1737
01:17:21,479 --> 01:17:25,360
Speaker 4: to then say, okay, like I'd never understood about women

1738
01:17:25,439 --> 01:17:27,600
Speaker 4: are like like I just I don't get it. I

1739
01:17:27,680 --> 01:17:30,800
Speaker 4: think that like we are the magical ones, the magical beings,

1740
01:17:30,840 --> 01:17:33,240
Speaker 4: and men are too, but for the most part, they

1741
01:17:33,320 --> 01:17:36,320
Speaker 4: set the tone and then we follow suit, you know,

1742
01:17:36,400 --> 01:17:38,439
Speaker 4: there's a leader and there's you know, it goes both

1743
01:17:38,479 --> 01:17:39,400
Speaker 4: ways in many ways.

1744
01:17:39,479 --> 01:17:42,519
Speaker 1: But we magical and so I think especially this era,

1745
01:17:42,840 --> 01:17:46,080
Speaker 1: women are trying so hard to prove they can do

1746
01:17:46,240 --> 01:17:50,200
Speaker 1: everything a man can do that they missing The beauty

1747
01:17:50,280 --> 01:17:51,720
Speaker 1: of a woman is that she could do everything a

1748
01:17:51,800 --> 01:17:57,679
Speaker 1: man can't do. You're divorcing yourself from your own visceral essence,

1749
01:17:58,439 --> 01:18:00,479
Speaker 1: trying to prove you could do with these men could do.

1750
01:18:00,640 --> 01:18:02,639
Speaker 3: And I know I could do it, Like I'm a woman.

1751
01:18:02,680 --> 01:18:03,880
Speaker 3: I could. I could take care of the one, I

1752
01:18:03,920 --> 01:18:05,840
Speaker 3: could take care at home. But do I want to?

1753
01:18:06,160 --> 01:18:07,680
Speaker 1: There are some things you could do that a man,

1754
01:18:07,880 --> 01:18:10,080
Speaker 1: But there are some things you cannot be because we

1755
01:18:10,200 --> 01:18:13,559
Speaker 1: are not all created equal, And that's bullshit. People want

1756
01:18:13,600 --> 01:18:15,640
Speaker 1: to say that and they promote that. That's cool, and

1757
01:18:15,920 --> 01:18:17,639
Speaker 1: I'm gonna say it because I'm not scared of the internet.

1758
01:18:17,680 --> 01:18:21,840
Speaker 4: But you can coun you can live. But are you

1759
01:18:22,040 --> 01:18:24,519
Speaker 4: living in your truest essence by doing it all?

1760
01:18:24,840 --> 01:18:24,880
Speaker 2: No?

1761
01:18:25,400 --> 01:18:27,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, but you what men wasn't supposed to do at all.

1762
01:18:28,400 --> 01:18:31,360
Speaker 1: We're not supposed we are prepared for a reason.

1763
01:18:31,439 --> 01:18:34,040
Speaker 3: We're supposed to use each other, yes, as.

1764
01:18:33,960 --> 01:18:37,000
Speaker 1: A partner, yeah, but using is a good thing. Misusing

1765
01:18:37,080 --> 01:18:40,439
Speaker 1: is a bad thing. People conflate those two. It's okay,

1766
01:18:40,560 --> 01:18:41,080
Speaker 1: matter of fact.

1767
01:18:41,360 --> 01:18:44,200
Speaker 2: If I can't use you, that means you're useless. And

1768
01:18:44,360 --> 01:18:46,000
Speaker 2: what I'm gonna do with somebody that's useless.

1769
01:18:46,000 --> 01:18:48,360
Speaker 3: What are we gonna do together but at each other,

1770
01:18:48,880 --> 01:18:49,200
Speaker 3: like we.

1771
01:18:49,280 --> 01:18:53,280
Speaker 1: Need missus okay, But misusing is not okay. But using

1772
01:18:53,320 --> 01:18:56,160
Speaker 1: people as cooks, it's okay. You're supposed to so where

1773
01:18:56,200 --> 01:18:59,920
Speaker 1: my weaknesses are, that's where you supposed to be strong in.

1774
01:19:00,040 --> 01:19:00,600
Speaker 2: Come cover me.

1775
01:19:00,680 --> 01:19:02,719
Speaker 1: Matter of fact, I think when you choosing a mate,

1776
01:19:02,960 --> 01:19:05,679
Speaker 1: when you the more you know yourself, the better mate

1777
01:19:05,720 --> 01:19:08,519
Speaker 1: you gonna choose, because you gonna choose what you need

1778
01:19:08,760 --> 01:19:11,360
Speaker 1: long term and not what you want right in this moment.

1779
01:19:12,160 --> 01:19:15,640
Speaker 1: You get what I'm saying, because the best teams is

1780
01:19:15,720 --> 01:19:17,519
Speaker 1: the teams that cover each other's weaknesses.

1781
01:19:17,840 --> 01:19:20,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, and where there's lack. I know that you got

1782
01:19:20,200 --> 01:19:21,800
Speaker 3: me right, But this is what you're good at. This

1783
01:19:21,880 --> 01:19:22,800
Speaker 3: is not good at.

1784
01:19:23,760 --> 01:19:25,720
Speaker 1: You asked me earlier off camera, you was like, who

1785
01:19:25,800 --> 01:19:27,880
Speaker 1: gets the final say in the house you I was like, ish,

1786
01:19:28,360 --> 01:19:31,280
Speaker 1: I was like, it depends on the category. The things

1787
01:19:31,320 --> 01:19:33,120
Speaker 1: that she well versed at, she gets the final say.

1788
01:19:33,320 --> 01:19:34,920
Speaker 1: She's well versed in it. I told you that off

1789
01:19:34,960 --> 01:19:36,880
Speaker 1: camera and the things I'm well versed that I get

1790
01:19:36,920 --> 01:19:38,720
Speaker 1: the final say of the things I'm well versed at.

1791
01:19:39,280 --> 01:19:42,760
Speaker 1: We're equal, she's not insubordinate to me, and then I

1792
01:19:42,800 --> 01:19:44,840
Speaker 1: don't have to even you don't have to go over there.

1793
01:19:44,880 --> 01:19:46,880
Speaker 2: That's already covered. We never have to talk about that.

1794
01:19:47,360 --> 01:19:48,320
Speaker 2: She knows I'm the head.

1795
01:19:48,320 --> 01:19:50,559
Speaker 1: I am the head, no question, but she's the neck,

1796
01:19:50,640 --> 01:19:52,360
Speaker 1: and the neck holds the head up and can turn

1797
01:19:52,400 --> 01:19:54,560
Speaker 1: the head in any direction. She does not want to

1798
01:19:54,680 --> 01:19:57,479
Speaker 1: be the head. She wants to be what she is

1799
01:19:57,600 --> 01:19:59,200
Speaker 1: and be the best at what she is. I don't

1800
01:19:59,240 --> 01:20:01,760
Speaker 1: want to play her position. I want to play mine

1801
01:20:01,880 --> 01:20:08,920
Speaker 1: because her position come with duties and responsibilities that only

1802
01:20:09,040 --> 01:20:10,960
Speaker 1: she can do, and there's a lot of my duty

1803
01:20:11,520 --> 01:20:13,200
Speaker 1: responsibilities that only I can do.

1804
01:20:13,560 --> 01:20:16,759
Speaker 3: And compliment each other harmony, When.

1805
01:20:16,640 --> 01:20:18,519
Speaker 2: You guys are in harmony, you don't have to be

1806
01:20:18,640 --> 01:20:19,479
Speaker 2: the exact same.

1807
01:20:19,880 --> 01:20:21,840
Speaker 1: When you go do a concert or a band, the

1808
01:20:21,920 --> 01:20:25,040
Speaker 1: guitars playing one melody, the saxophone might be on a

1809
01:20:25,040 --> 01:20:27,439
Speaker 1: different melody, but they in harmony, so it sounds good.

1810
01:20:28,040 --> 01:20:29,880
Speaker 2: So you and your partner don't got to be the same.

1811
01:20:30,000 --> 01:20:32,080
Speaker 1: Y'all just have to be in harmony, to compliment one

1812
01:20:32,120 --> 01:20:36,559
Speaker 1: another and understand positioning and our relationship work. Y'all could

1813
01:20:36,560 --> 01:20:38,680
Speaker 1: do what y'all want out there. Because I don't want

1814
01:20:38,720 --> 01:20:41,680
Speaker 1: her position and she don't want mine. I'll cultivate and

1815
01:20:41,840 --> 01:20:44,040
Speaker 1: help her in her position and what she wanted to do,

1816
01:20:44,120 --> 01:20:45,960
Speaker 1: and she'll do the same for me for the greater

1817
01:20:46,080 --> 01:20:48,519
Speaker 1: good of the team. We're not in competition and we're

1818
01:20:48,560 --> 01:20:50,640
Speaker 1: not trying to be each other role. I don't want that.

1819
01:20:50,800 --> 01:20:52,600
Speaker 1: Like I can't do a lot of the teams that

1820
01:20:52,680 --> 01:20:54,000
Speaker 1: she could do. I don't even want to do them.

1821
01:20:54,479 --> 01:20:57,559
Speaker 1: My wife don't want to change a tire. Why aren't

1822
01:20:57,560 --> 01:21:01,599
Speaker 1: you just raining like crazy? She her tire was on flat.

1823
01:21:01,640 --> 01:21:03,080
Speaker 1: She had to go to work the next day because

1824
01:21:03,120 --> 01:21:05,320
Speaker 1: she worked from home too, And I'm like, it would

1825
01:21:05,360 --> 01:21:07,560
Speaker 1: be storming and you will catch your flat tire and

1826
01:21:07,640 --> 01:21:10,519
Speaker 1: have to go to work tomorrow morning. And it's five o'clock,

1827
01:21:10,840 --> 01:21:13,080
Speaker 1: so I'm literally out in the storm. That's when it

1828
01:21:13,160 --> 01:21:15,920
Speaker 1: was storming. Heard changing her tire and she was in

1829
01:21:16,000 --> 01:21:17,639
Speaker 1: her office looking at me house window.

1830
01:21:18,479 --> 01:21:21,240
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm so glad. I'm so glad. I'm the next

1831
01:21:21,400 --> 01:21:22,080
Speaker 3: so glad.

1832
01:21:24,439 --> 01:21:26,200
Speaker 2: It's spraining and it's slipping around you.

1833
01:21:29,560 --> 01:21:31,400
Speaker 1: Right, And I can't put my knee on the ground

1834
01:21:31,400 --> 01:21:33,160
Speaker 1: because it's wet, so I can't even kneel down. I

1835
01:21:33,240 --> 01:21:35,560
Speaker 1: kind of got a hobbard and my hands slipping, and

1836
01:21:35,640 --> 01:21:37,439
Speaker 1: I'm like damn. And I looked up in the window

1837
01:21:37,479 --> 01:21:39,519
Speaker 1: and she's just like eating and looking at it, which

1838
01:21:39,600 --> 01:21:44,519
Speaker 1: was like, all like, must be nice. But she'll say

1839
01:21:44,560 --> 01:21:47,040
Speaker 1: that when I'm chilling, just got my feet up and

1840
01:21:47,160 --> 01:21:51,680
Speaker 1: all the clothes separating and piles, and I'm just bepepep

1841
01:21:51,760 --> 01:21:53,920
Speaker 1: shipping and finished. Washington ain't gonna get up and stop it.

1842
01:21:54,000 --> 01:21:55,760
Speaker 1: She's gonna get up and stop it. So she looking like,

1843
01:21:55,840 --> 01:21:59,599
Speaker 1: must be nice. We all have our responsibilities and duties

1844
01:22:00,280 --> 01:22:03,519
Speaker 1: as ordain in our relationships. So find out what worked

1845
01:22:03,520 --> 01:22:07,120
Speaker 1: for you and your relationship and work that. If tradition

1846
01:22:07,320 --> 01:22:10,679
Speaker 1: don't work for you, don't do it. I don't believe

1847
01:22:10,720 --> 01:22:12,920
Speaker 1: in doing stuff that are Trying to follow a tradition

1848
01:22:13,040 --> 01:22:15,920
Speaker 1: that don't work for you is like being bullied by dead.

1849
01:22:15,760 --> 01:22:19,599
Speaker 3: People who are these niggas anyway?

1850
01:22:22,640 --> 01:22:24,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, well how are you all dead people? Cohurt you?

1851
01:22:25,800 --> 01:22:27,400
Speaker 2: I don't work for you. Do what works. So me

1852
01:22:27,439 --> 01:22:30,160
Speaker 2: and my wife that is old work for do what work.

1853
01:22:32,120 --> 01:22:34,360
Speaker 3: It's a fact you being bullied by some niggas.

1854
01:22:36,160 --> 01:22:36,519
Speaker 2: Work for you.

1855
01:22:37,400 --> 01:22:38,600
Speaker 3: Father said, I don't know that.

1856
01:22:38,760 --> 01:22:39,120
Speaker 2: I don't know.

1857
01:22:39,280 --> 01:22:43,000
Speaker 1: The four fathers only had one father. Other three niggas

1858
01:22:46,000 --> 01:22:49,360
Speaker 1: got one father them other three niggas don't count. But yeah,

1859
01:22:49,560 --> 01:22:51,920
Speaker 1: so in all seriousness, I was being a little facetious there.

1860
01:22:52,160 --> 01:22:55,120
Speaker 1: In all seriousness, just find will work for you and

1861
01:22:55,240 --> 01:22:58,639
Speaker 1: your partner and work that ship. Respect each other's roles,

1862
01:22:58,720 --> 01:23:01,200
Speaker 1: don't disrespect each other's. Like what you're doing a hard

1863
01:23:01,200 --> 01:23:03,519
Speaker 1: and what you're doing, yes, it's hard. It's parts of

1864
01:23:03,600 --> 01:23:05,479
Speaker 1: that you don't know about because you're not a man,

1865
01:23:05,600 --> 01:23:06,200
Speaker 1: or you're not a one.

1866
01:23:06,240 --> 01:23:07,360
Speaker 2: You can't. They can't.

1867
01:23:07,720 --> 01:23:10,400
Speaker 1: The opposite sex, like your man can't even begin to

1868
01:23:10,880 --> 01:23:12,840
Speaker 1: describe what it's like to go out in this world

1869
01:23:12,920 --> 01:23:15,200
Speaker 1: as a man, get beat up all day and come

1870
01:23:15,280 --> 01:23:20,000
Speaker 1: home and have to explain why certain things ain't hidden.

1871
01:23:20,880 --> 01:23:23,400
Speaker 2: That's hard. And a woman can't explain.

1872
01:23:23,120 --> 01:23:25,679
Speaker 1: What it feels like to feel like she might don't

1873
01:23:25,720 --> 01:23:27,519
Speaker 1: have a voice and want to do things but feel

1874
01:23:27,560 --> 01:23:30,439
Speaker 1: them like we both it's hard for both of us.

1875
01:23:30,479 --> 01:23:33,799
Speaker 1: So just love on your mate, understand your mate, respect

1876
01:23:33,920 --> 01:23:37,320
Speaker 1: your mate's role, and work together and then you could

1877
01:23:37,320 --> 01:23:39,840
Speaker 1: be in harmony. So I'm speaking to y'all, like I say,

1878
01:23:40,320 --> 01:23:42,280
Speaker 1: my life is proof of concept. I've been with the

1879
01:23:42,360 --> 01:23:46,439
Speaker 1: same woman seventeen years and that we have a happy, healthy,

1880
01:23:46,600 --> 01:23:50,360
Speaker 1: fruitful relationship. It's important that I emphasize that because just

1881
01:23:50,439 --> 01:23:52,679
Speaker 1: because you be in somewhere for a long time don't

1882
01:23:52,680 --> 01:23:54,519
Speaker 1: mean you happy. Niggas go to jail for ten years

1883
01:23:54,560 --> 01:23:56,560
Speaker 1: don't mean they happy. So you could be somewhere for

1884
01:23:56,640 --> 01:23:59,040
Speaker 1: a long time, but don't mean you're happy. We happy, healthy,

1885
01:23:59,040 --> 01:24:00,880
Speaker 1: and fruitful. You could be with some for a long time,

1886
01:24:01,160 --> 01:24:03,880
Speaker 1: and y'all still ain't got no businesses. Y'all still like

1887
01:24:04,000 --> 01:24:06,240
Speaker 1: what kind of y'all? How y'all want a basic born

1888
01:24:06,320 --> 01:24:06,960
Speaker 1: and but now.

1889
01:24:06,880 --> 01:24:08,439
Speaker 2: Relationship that's not projective.

1890
01:24:08,479 --> 01:24:09,679
Speaker 3: If you're not, yeah, get.

1891
01:24:09,560 --> 01:24:12,439
Speaker 1: Together five, six, seven, eight, nine years later, y'all should

1892
01:24:12,439 --> 01:24:13,200
Speaker 1: own some properties.

1893
01:24:13,280 --> 01:24:14,280
Speaker 2: Y'all should get it popping.

1894
01:24:14,439 --> 01:24:17,799
Speaker 1: Because how you supposed to be smart in this magical

1895
01:24:17,920 --> 01:24:20,240
Speaker 1: person and then he's supposed to be smart in this matter.

1896
01:24:20,320 --> 01:24:22,479
Speaker 1: So how do two smart and magical people get together

1897
01:24:22,640 --> 01:24:23,200
Speaker 1: and do nothing?

1898
01:24:23,360 --> 01:24:23,719
Speaker 3: Or nothing?

1899
01:24:24,160 --> 01:24:25,120
Speaker 2: That's somebody lying.

1900
01:24:25,320 --> 01:24:27,960
Speaker 3: Something's wrong. Somebody is not being what they supposed to be.

1901
01:24:28,000 --> 01:24:29,479
Speaker 3: If you're listening right now you feel triggered.

1902
01:24:29,520 --> 01:24:29,680
Speaker 2: Good.

1903
01:24:31,320 --> 01:24:32,880
Speaker 4: Well, this brings us to the part of the show

1904
01:24:32,880 --> 01:24:36,280
Speaker 4: where we read the tarot card that mister six pulls.

1905
01:24:37,120 --> 01:24:40,760
Speaker 4: It's the Magician, which seems appropriate, which all of our

1906
01:24:40,800 --> 01:24:44,719
Speaker 4: tarot cards always always go with through episode.

1907
01:24:44,840 --> 01:24:47,360
Speaker 3: And I'm gonna tell you what it means, my friends.

1908
01:24:47,640 --> 01:24:52,960
Speaker 4: It means manifestation, resourcefulness, power, inspired action.

1909
01:24:53,479 --> 01:24:56,160
Speaker 3: If this ain't you, I don't.

1910
01:24:56,000 --> 01:24:56,519
Speaker 2: Know who is.

1911
01:24:57,240 --> 01:24:59,519
Speaker 3: You are the magician. You got tattoos. You might need

1912
01:24:59,560 --> 01:25:00,000
Speaker 3: this tattoo.

1913
01:25:00,720 --> 01:25:01,360
Speaker 2: Let me see.

1914
01:25:02,680 --> 01:25:04,200
Speaker 3: As a master manifestor.

1915
01:25:04,280 --> 01:25:07,160
Speaker 4: The Magician brings you the tools, resources, and energy you

1916
01:25:07,280 --> 01:25:10,720
Speaker 4: need to make your dreams come true. Seriously, everything you

1917
01:25:10,840 --> 01:25:13,240
Speaker 4: need right now is at your fingertips. You have the

1918
01:25:13,320 --> 01:25:18,440
Speaker 4: spiritual fire, physical earth, mental air, and emotional water resources

1919
01:25:18,520 --> 01:25:22,000
Speaker 4: to manifest your desires. The elements were in parentheses, and

1920
01:25:22,080 --> 01:25:24,320
Speaker 4: when you combine them with the energy of the spiritual

1921
01:25:24,400 --> 01:25:28,800
Speaker 4: and earthly realms, you'll become a manifestation powerhouse. The key

1922
01:25:28,960 --> 01:25:32,600
Speaker 4: is to bring these tools together synergistically so that the

1923
01:25:32,720 --> 01:25:35,639
Speaker 4: impact of what you create is greater than the separate parts.

1924
01:25:36,120 --> 01:25:39,799
Speaker 3: This is alchemy at its best. Now is the perfect

1925
01:25:39,840 --> 01:25:40,559
Speaker 3: time to move.

1926
01:25:40,479 --> 01:25:43,280
Speaker 4: Forward in an idea that you've recently conceived shout out

1927
01:25:43,320 --> 01:25:46,799
Speaker 4: to Unqualified as Fuck podcast in the building. The skills,

1928
01:25:46,840 --> 01:25:49,439
Speaker 4: knowledge and capabilities you have gathered along your life path

1929
01:25:49,520 --> 01:25:52,320
Speaker 4: have led you to where you are now and wherever

1930
01:25:52,640 --> 01:25:55,519
Speaker 4: or and whether or not you know it, you are

1931
01:25:55,640 --> 01:25:59,479
Speaker 4: ready to turn your ideas into reality. In your quest

1932
01:25:59,520 --> 01:26:02,160
Speaker 4: to manifest your goals, you must establish a clear vision

1933
01:26:02,280 --> 01:26:05,160
Speaker 4: of what you will create and why before you act.

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