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Speaker 1: Sam is on the phone today for our first day

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Speaker 1: follow up, and he's getting ghosted by a woman named Lilah.

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Speaker 1: So in a few minutes we'll call her and see

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Speaker 1: if she can tell us why she's ghosting him, and

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Speaker 1: also maybe get him a second date if he still

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Speaker 1: wants one. But before we do that, Sam, how long

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Speaker 1: has it been since you last talked to Lila?

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Speaker 2: Oh, it's been about a couple of weeks.

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Speaker 3: I guess a couple of weeks. Okay, that's that's a while. Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 3: why do you want to get a hold of out

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Speaker 3: a few weeks? Like any efficiency?

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Speaker 4: I think for me it's it's just getting some sort

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Speaker 4: no closure. And maybe I'm one of those people, but

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Speaker 4: I don't know. I always feel like I need some

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I get that, especially when you think something went

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Speaker 3: really well. So why don't you tell us about the date?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, So I met Lilah on bumble, you know, just swiping, and.

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Speaker 2: Uh, it was great. I really liked her based on

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Speaker 2: her profile.

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Speaker 4: She seems really grounded at Dorsy and she had a dog,

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Speaker 4: which I do, so I thought, great connection. Yeah right, exactly,

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Speaker 2: So we went and wanted to go on a.

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Speaker 4: Date and she said yes, and anyway, that's that's how

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Speaker 3: And then what.

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Speaker 2: And then yes, yeah, I left you.

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Speaker 4: And so basically I thought about the dog situation being

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Speaker 4: such an organic way to kind of connect. So I said,

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Speaker 4: let's go to the dog park. And we went to

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Speaker 2: They seemed like they really got along.

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Speaker 4: It was a nice day date, very PG safe, everybody's happy,

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Speaker 4: doesn't feel like any sort of like you know, no

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Speaker 2: We went on the park with the dogs.

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Speaker 4: And then yeah, and as I felt it was doing

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Speaker 4: really well, I said, you know, there's a little brewery

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Speaker 2: Hole and uh, you know, just is a pool table

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Speaker 4: Said all yeah, and the dogs were it was a

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Speaker 4: My dog really like liked Lila's dog a lot more

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Speaker 4: Awkward I was just like, yeah, that's whatever. It's dog,

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Speaker 2: Like, I got it. I got it.

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Speaker 4: So I asked her basically what her family does, and

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Speaker 3: Maybe maybe it's something about the game. I don't know.

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Speaker 1: Sam is on the phone, and Sam's getting ghosted by

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Speaker 1: a woman named Lila. So we're about to call her

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Speaker 1: and maybe get him a second date. But before we

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Speaker 1: do that, Sam, why don't you break down your situation

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Speaker 2: Yeah. We met on a dating app.

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Speaker 4: She was really cute. I loved her dog, my dog,

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Speaker 4: really loved her dog. We went on a great little

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Speaker 4: I just hadn't heard from her in like two weeks.

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Speaker 1: Now, all right, you're ready for a scholar? Yeah, oh yeah, please, okay,

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Speaker 1: here we go. Hello, Hi man, I speak Tolilah, please speaking?

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Speaker 1: Hey Lila, how are you? This is a radio show.

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Speaker 1: It's called The Jubil Show. Hi, Lila Ana, Hi, I'm Victoria.

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Speaker 3: And my name is Jubal. What's going on?

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Speaker 1: Oh? Hi?

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Speaker 5: Hi?

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Speaker 3: Have you ever heard the show before?

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Speaker 5: Pop up on my TikTok sometimes?

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Speaker 3: Oh cool? Oh nice, that's cool. So you you have

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Speaker 2: So that's weird. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Well we're calling you because we do a segment

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Speaker 1: on the show called the first date follow up. That's

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Speaker 1: where if you go out on a date with somebody

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Speaker 1: and you would up ghosting them, they can email us

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 5: Oh so we're like on right now.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, and Sam Sam emailed us. Uh huh, Sam

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Speaker 1: A little bit about your date and uh, just wondering

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Speaker 3: Would you mind telling guys?

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Speaker 5: Yeah? Sure, I mean truthfully, yeah, it's it's really just

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Speaker 5: and good for him. It's a successful business, but it

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Speaker 5: I don't want to be with somebody who comes home

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Speaker 5: You know. Yeah, that's really it.

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Speaker 3: Well, so I said, he works at a mortuary. You

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Speaker 2: No, I do not do dead people.

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Speaker 5: Watch scary movies like no.

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Speaker 3: Okay, okay. I thought he kind of runs across this

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know.

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Speaker 5: I mean maybe I'm crazy. But for me, it's like

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Speaker 2: I want to deal with that.

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Speaker 5: Like if if I was in a scary movie, I'd

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Speaker 5: I'd be like I'm out and I would survive.

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Speaker 1: You know, so this is your survival movie right now.

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Speaker 5: Nobody pulled out parrot cards. I'm out, Like I'm out,

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Speaker 5: Like they don't mess with this stuff, you know.

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Speaker 1: Sure, Yeah, well, thank you for telling us. I I

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean right now, I mean you go to

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Speaker 2: Explain it to you a little better. I don't.

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Speaker 5: No, I mean, your dog wouldn't stop helping my dog.

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Speaker 2: Wow, that's what this is not. This is not the

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Speaker 3: This is Listen.

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Speaker 2: It's a respectful about the profession. My family's been in

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Speaker 4: And it's about money too, Like let me, let me

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Speaker 2: And it's just demand. There's always going to be a

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Speaker 5: Like that, spirits don't care. Spirits don't care about your

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Speaker 4: That's crazy thought, you got it.

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Speaker 2: You gotta maybe get.

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Speaker 4: Some sage or some Pelissonto and you know, cleaning your house.

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Speaker 4: I'm just saying, like you know that says nothing to

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Speaker 5: Listen, No, I'm telling you. I got and I went

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Speaker 5: light's going out just isn't like I'm knowing you. This

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Speaker 2: That's well right, yeah, That's.

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Speaker 4: What I'm trying to say. Is a coincidence though, coincidence.

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Speaker 4: We had such a great chemistry, and I just want

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Speaker 4: to think, like, what if we go back and started again.

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Speaker 4: No dogs, no talk of what my family businesses.

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Speaker 2: Or work, just like a normal chill date.

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Speaker 5: You after you've been breathing and get the boy zombie

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Speaker 5: air all day. Come on, I can't do it?

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Speaker 3: Well, oh well, are you sure, Lila? Would you like

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Speaker 5: No, I'm sorry, I just like I can't do it.

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Speaker 5: I I there are people that won't care about this,

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Speaker 4: Are you really going to say no to a hot,

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Speaker 4: scared of some zombies.

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Speaker 2: I mean, don't get us.

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Speaker 5: Say how much money in your brain now morning?

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Speaker 2: Okay, they don't you know. I mean, honestly all the

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Speaker 2: brains are for me. Then I'll eat all the brains.

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Speaker 3: All right, your brain's alone, Sam, I'm sorry, makes a

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Speaker 3: weird bro. Jubile's first Date follow up