1 00:00:00,200 --> 00:00:03,480 Speaker 1: You know how difficult it is to have the courage 2 00:00:03,520 --> 00:00:06,000 Speaker 1: to do what you're doing, to even suggest this, to 3 00:00:06,040 --> 00:00:19,680 Speaker 1: even think about this. What's up, guys, Welcome back to 4 00:00:19,720 --> 00:00:24,279 Speaker 1: the podcast, episode one eighty eight. Thank you for being here, 5 00:00:24,480 --> 00:00:27,320 Speaker 1: and thank you for listening or watching wherever you're coming from. 6 00:00:27,360 --> 00:00:30,440 Speaker 1: Grateful for this platform to be able to talk through 7 00:00:30,480 --> 00:00:34,960 Speaker 1: things in long form. And this is really it's really 8 00:00:35,000 --> 00:00:39,000 Speaker 1: capturing what I do all day with other stuff, but 9 00:00:39,200 --> 00:00:43,080 Speaker 1: talk it seems like all day, and on this platform, 10 00:00:43,159 --> 00:00:48,640 Speaker 1: I answer your questions. You email me Grangersmith podcast at 11 00:00:48,640 --> 00:00:52,000 Speaker 1: gmail dot com, and we walked through it, and I 12 00:00:52,080 --> 00:00:54,520 Speaker 1: walk through this kind of stuff in real time with 13 00:00:54,600 --> 00:00:57,240 Speaker 1: other people. In fact, I'm saying that because I literally 14 00:00:57,880 --> 00:01:04,080 Speaker 1: just finished a conversation I have with this German friend 15 00:01:04,480 --> 00:01:08,039 Speaker 1: that we talked back and forth, usually about theology. He's 16 00:01:08,080 --> 00:01:11,080 Speaker 1: trying to he's an atheist, he's trying to disprove God, 17 00:01:11,480 --> 00:01:15,520 Speaker 1: and I try to defend the faith from whatever questions 18 00:01:15,560 --> 00:01:18,880 Speaker 1: that he that he has. And it's always really nice. 19 00:01:18,920 --> 00:01:24,560 Speaker 1: We're always we're amicable to each other, right, we are 20 00:01:24,680 --> 00:01:26,960 Speaker 1: friends with each other, I'll put it that way. We 21 00:01:27,000 --> 00:01:30,640 Speaker 1: don't argue, but it's really fun. And I also have 22 00:01:30,680 --> 00:01:33,440 Speaker 1: the radio show after midnight and then I also, lately, 23 00:01:33,480 --> 00:01:36,120 Speaker 1: I've been recording my new book. I have a book 24 00:01:36,160 --> 00:01:41,000 Speaker 1: coming out August first, called Like a River. I'm so 25 00:01:41,160 --> 00:01:44,120 Speaker 1: passionate about this book, and of all the things that 26 00:01:44,160 --> 00:01:45,960 Speaker 1: I do, of all the things that I have done, 27 00:01:46,040 --> 00:01:49,520 Speaker 1: I'm most excited about this book coming out August first, 28 00:01:50,240 --> 00:01:52,880 Speaker 1: and lately I've been recording the audio book for it. 29 00:01:52,880 --> 00:01:57,360 Speaker 1: So I've been reading it and recording it, and hopefully 30 00:01:57,360 --> 00:01:58,800 Speaker 1: a lot of you will be able to listen that way. 31 00:01:58,800 --> 00:02:02,320 Speaker 1: If you're not a book reader, maybe you'll be an 32 00:02:02,360 --> 00:02:06,040 Speaker 1: audiobook listener. So I'm just excited about it. So it's 33 00:02:06,080 --> 00:02:08,120 Speaker 1: fresh on my mind, and I've literally been talking on 34 00:02:08,200 --> 00:02:12,560 Speaker 1: a microphone all day long. Let's get to your questions. Okay. 35 00:02:13,080 --> 00:02:18,760 Speaker 1: I don't scan these questions beforehand. I don't have a 36 00:02:18,840 --> 00:02:23,160 Speaker 1: preparation process of getting an answer ready. I don't have 37 00:02:23,240 --> 00:02:25,520 Speaker 1: notes in front of me. So we're gonna hear these 38 00:02:25,600 --> 00:02:27,680 Speaker 1: questions together for the first time, and then we're gonna 39 00:02:27,680 --> 00:02:30,320 Speaker 1: walk through them like we're just old friends, like me 40 00:02:30,360 --> 00:02:32,520 Speaker 1: and this German guy. Right. I don't want to say 41 00:02:32,520 --> 00:02:35,480 Speaker 1: his name, but here's the first question. Subject line says, 42 00:02:36,120 --> 00:02:40,519 Speaker 1: does time really heal all wounds. Hey Granger, I could 43 00:02:40,520 --> 00:02:43,240 Speaker 1: really use some advice right now. It's been almost over. 44 00:02:43,320 --> 00:02:46,200 Speaker 1: It's been almost over a year, that's what she said. 45 00:02:46,280 --> 00:02:49,560 Speaker 1: It's been almost over a year since my boyfriend and 46 00:02:49,560 --> 00:02:51,480 Speaker 1: I broke up, and I can't seem to move on. 47 00:02:52,400 --> 00:02:54,839 Speaker 1: We were together for a year and a half and unfortunately, 48 00:02:54,880 --> 00:02:56,920 Speaker 1: my mental health got the best of me and I 49 00:02:56,960 --> 00:03:00,280 Speaker 1: needed some space. We never stopped talking and hanging out, 50 00:03:00,560 --> 00:03:04,160 Speaker 1: but we had to set some boundaries so that I 51 00:03:04,160 --> 00:03:07,600 Speaker 1: could get better. When I wanted to work things out, 52 00:03:07,680 --> 00:03:11,440 Speaker 1: he didn't, and it hurt me so badly and I'm 53 00:03:11,480 --> 00:03:15,000 Speaker 1: still hurting even today. This man talked about marrying me 54 00:03:15,120 --> 00:03:17,799 Speaker 1: and we looked at rings, only to have him move 55 00:03:17,840 --> 00:03:20,440 Speaker 1: on to someone new in a few weeks after it ended. 56 00:03:21,000 --> 00:03:25,320 Speaker 1: I'm very tired of feeling this hurt and lonely. Any advice, Shannon, Shannon, 57 00:03:25,320 --> 00:03:27,680 Speaker 1: thank you so much for emailing and being vulnerable and 58 00:03:27,720 --> 00:03:31,320 Speaker 1: opening up to me and let me scan your email. 59 00:03:31,800 --> 00:03:34,320 Speaker 1: You said you were together for a year and a half, 60 00:03:35,720 --> 00:03:41,240 Speaker 1: you battled mental health. He set boundaries so that you 61 00:03:41,280 --> 00:03:45,600 Speaker 1: could get better, And then I'm trying to see if 62 00:03:45,600 --> 00:03:50,640 Speaker 1: there's a timeline on when that was Okay, there is 63 00:03:51,040 --> 00:03:52,880 Speaker 1: at the very beginning of the first sentence, it's been 64 00:03:52,920 --> 00:03:56,080 Speaker 1: almost a year. Okay, got it. Let me clear a 65 00:03:56,120 --> 00:03:58,160 Speaker 1: couple of things up. This is tough love, and I'm 66 00:03:58,160 --> 00:04:00,760 Speaker 1: going to say some things that could hurt your feelings. 67 00:04:01,040 --> 00:04:04,200 Speaker 1: Everyone that emails you know that I could say something 68 00:04:04,240 --> 00:04:06,880 Speaker 1: that hurts your feelings. I hope not, and it's not 69 00:04:06,920 --> 00:04:09,840 Speaker 1: my intention. My intention is to help you. I promise 70 00:04:10,240 --> 00:04:13,040 Speaker 1: it's not to hurt you. But I sometimes in order 71 00:04:13,040 --> 00:04:14,600 Speaker 1: to help you, I might have to say some things 72 00:04:14,600 --> 00:04:17,880 Speaker 1: that hurt. This is what And I'm not always right 73 00:04:17,920 --> 00:04:19,840 Speaker 1: about that. That's another thing I gotta throw out. I'm 74 00:04:19,839 --> 00:04:22,440 Speaker 1: not always right. It could be wrong. But what I'm 75 00:04:22,440 --> 00:04:26,600 Speaker 1: seeing is this whole stepping back to set some boundaries 76 00:04:26,720 --> 00:04:29,920 Speaker 1: so that you can get better, is more so saying 77 00:04:30,480 --> 00:04:33,839 Speaker 1: he got tired of trying to deal with this. He 78 00:04:33,880 --> 00:04:36,000 Speaker 1: thought you're going crazy and he don't want to deal 79 00:04:36,040 --> 00:04:40,039 Speaker 1: with it anymore. So he says, hey, let's set some 80 00:04:40,160 --> 00:04:43,200 Speaker 1: boundaries so that you can get better, and maybe we 81 00:04:43,200 --> 00:04:45,839 Speaker 1: should have a little time off from each other, you know, 82 00:04:45,960 --> 00:04:48,400 Speaker 1: so you can get better. But really, what he's saying 83 00:04:48,480 --> 00:04:52,320 Speaker 1: is I can't deal with this anymore. I need out Okay, 84 00:04:53,160 --> 00:04:56,280 Speaker 1: he was probably ready. He fell out of love, if 85 00:04:56,320 --> 00:04:59,080 Speaker 1: he was in love, and now he's moving on to 86 00:04:59,160 --> 00:05:03,160 Speaker 1: someone else. None of that's surprising. The fact that you're 87 00:05:03,240 --> 00:05:06,679 Speaker 1: hurting right now is not surprising. It doesn't minimize the hurt. 88 00:05:07,400 --> 00:05:09,760 Speaker 1: It's still validated. I'm going to validate that you're hurting, 89 00:05:09,920 --> 00:05:12,440 Speaker 1: and this is painful stuff. I want to validate with 90 00:05:12,480 --> 00:05:14,000 Speaker 1: that with you. But I just want to also tell 91 00:05:14,040 --> 00:05:19,200 Speaker 1: you that it's normal. It's not new, it's not front 92 00:05:19,200 --> 00:05:23,080 Speaker 1: page news. You're heartbroken. And I've said this a lot 93 00:05:23,120 --> 00:05:25,120 Speaker 1: on this podcast. You know, We've had a lot of 94 00:05:25,120 --> 00:05:29,279 Speaker 1: episodes on here, and so many times it's just nice 95 00:05:29,480 --> 00:05:34,560 Speaker 1: I think to hear that this is a normal, normal reaction. So, 96 00:05:35,040 --> 00:05:41,799 Speaker 1: for instance, if you said, hey, I have a sore 97 00:05:41,880 --> 00:05:46,640 Speaker 1: throat and I have a fever and I'm feeling terrible 98 00:05:47,320 --> 00:05:49,760 Speaker 1: and I don't know what it is. It could be anything. 99 00:05:50,080 --> 00:05:53,440 Speaker 1: I think I'm dying. I think I'm dying. And then 100 00:05:53,440 --> 00:05:55,880 Speaker 1: we take it to the doctor that do a test 101 00:05:55,920 --> 00:05:59,479 Speaker 1: and they go, oh, you got strep throat. This is 102 00:05:59,520 --> 00:06:02,320 Speaker 1: something that's very common, and you're gonna give you a 103 00:06:02,320 --> 00:06:05,400 Speaker 1: little bit of antibiotic and you're gonna take the medicine 104 00:06:05,560 --> 00:06:08,880 Speaker 1: and you're gonna be better soon. Okay, it will go away, 105 00:06:08,880 --> 00:06:12,400 Speaker 1: but it's gonna hurt. And then even though right then, 106 00:06:12,600 --> 00:06:16,400 Speaker 1: what's crazy is you hear that and hearing that news 107 00:06:16,440 --> 00:06:20,640 Speaker 1: from the doctor doesn't make the physical pain go away, 108 00:06:21,880 --> 00:06:25,080 Speaker 1: but it gives you a sense of hope that this 109 00:06:25,240 --> 00:06:28,800 Speaker 1: will end. This is normal. This is not abnormal. You 110 00:06:29,240 --> 00:06:32,400 Speaker 1: don't have a rare disease that's gonna kill you in 111 00:06:32,480 --> 00:06:35,880 Speaker 1: three weeks. This is strep throat And in about three 112 00:06:35,960 --> 00:06:40,120 Speaker 1: days it's gonna be gone. Knowing that makes you feel 113 00:06:40,160 --> 00:06:42,800 Speaker 1: so much better, even though your throat is still on 114 00:06:42,920 --> 00:06:46,080 Speaker 1: fire and you still have one hundred and three degree temperature. 115 00:06:46,720 --> 00:06:50,080 Speaker 1: Just knowing, Okay, I got this, this is normal, it 116 00:06:50,120 --> 00:06:53,239 Speaker 1: will go away. I got it. That makes it better. 117 00:06:54,000 --> 00:06:56,280 Speaker 1: That's what I'm telling you, Shannon. I'm telling you you 118 00:06:56,400 --> 00:07:01,559 Speaker 1: got heartache or your heart is broken. It's the same 119 00:07:01,600 --> 00:07:04,200 Speaker 1: thing as if I'm telling you you you have a 120 00:07:04,240 --> 00:07:08,640 Speaker 1: positive diagnosis of strep throat. It's very common. And I'll 121 00:07:08,640 --> 00:07:10,960 Speaker 1: tell you what. Heartache is a lot more common than strap. 122 00:07:12,640 --> 00:07:15,440 Speaker 1: It's it's just it can go back for thousands of 123 00:07:15,480 --> 00:07:19,840 Speaker 1: years of humanity. Humans get heartbroken. It's part of it's 124 00:07:19,920 --> 00:07:22,600 Speaker 1: part of being human, it's part of loving. And so 125 00:07:23,280 --> 00:07:26,280 Speaker 1: you go out there and you you love someone and 126 00:07:26,320 --> 00:07:29,480 Speaker 1: you pour into them, and if they don't reciprocate, you 127 00:07:29,600 --> 00:07:33,640 Speaker 1: get heartbroke. And so what would be the solution to that? 128 00:07:33,760 --> 00:07:36,320 Speaker 1: Don't ever love again? Man, You're not gonna do that. 129 00:07:37,440 --> 00:07:41,880 Speaker 1: So you go back out and you protect your heart responsibly, 130 00:07:42,000 --> 00:07:46,120 Speaker 1: but you love again, and you learn from what you did, 131 00:07:46,640 --> 00:07:49,840 Speaker 1: and this will your Your subject line says, does time 132 00:07:49,880 --> 00:07:53,480 Speaker 1: really heal all wounds this kind of wound? Yes, I 133 00:07:53,520 --> 00:07:55,240 Speaker 1: don't know about all I don't want to go there, 134 00:07:55,720 --> 00:07:58,600 Speaker 1: but this kind of wound. Yes, time will heal You'll 135 00:07:58,720 --> 00:08:02,840 Speaker 1: you'll feel better. You're gonna feel better, Okay, just not 136 00:08:03,000 --> 00:08:07,960 Speaker 1: right now. And I could help you with moving this along. 137 00:08:08,080 --> 00:08:13,200 Speaker 1: And moving it along would would be blocking him, blocking 138 00:08:13,200 --> 00:08:16,320 Speaker 1: his number on your phone, blocking him on social media 139 00:08:16,360 --> 00:08:18,600 Speaker 1: so you don't see this new girl that he's with. 140 00:08:19,200 --> 00:08:21,360 Speaker 1: And it's just gonna help you not to think about him. 141 00:08:22,000 --> 00:08:24,120 Speaker 1: The less you think about him, the quicker you're going 142 00:08:24,200 --> 00:08:27,160 Speaker 1: to recover. Okay, I'm so sorry you're going through this. 143 00:08:33,120 --> 00:08:38,760 Speaker 1: Next question says enter faith marriage. That's a subject line. Hey, 144 00:08:38,800 --> 00:08:43,640 Speaker 1: Hannah says, my name is Hannah, I'm twenty six years 145 00:08:43,640 --> 00:08:46,240 Speaker 1: old from Ohio. I don't want to make this too long, 146 00:08:46,240 --> 00:08:48,800 Speaker 1: so I'm gonna try to give you the Sparksnokes version. 147 00:08:49,640 --> 00:08:52,680 Speaker 1: I was raised in Church but come from a very 148 00:08:52,720 --> 00:08:55,720 Speaker 1: broken family, which caused me a lot of mental health issues. 149 00:08:56,040 --> 00:08:59,560 Speaker 1: In my brokenness, I lost faith in my late teens, 150 00:08:59,600 --> 00:09:02,920 Speaker 1: and then I began to go down destructive paths. I 151 00:09:02,960 --> 00:09:06,480 Speaker 1: started doing dating a Muslim man. I started dating a 152 00:09:06,559 --> 00:09:09,360 Speaker 1: Muslim man. Two years later, he wanted to marry me. 153 00:09:09,880 --> 00:09:13,320 Speaker 1: Before we were married, he started teaching me Islam and 154 00:09:13,360 --> 00:09:16,360 Speaker 1: it seemed to make sense, so I grasped on in 155 00:09:16,400 --> 00:09:20,440 Speaker 1: hopes of feeling better. However, I could never fully get 156 00:09:20,480 --> 00:09:25,200 Speaker 1: myself there spiritually. It never felt right from me. Recently, 157 00:09:25,280 --> 00:09:29,520 Speaker 1: after an excruciating bout with depression and completely losing my identity, 158 00:09:29,920 --> 00:09:32,959 Speaker 1: I called out to Christ. I said, if it's you, Lord, 159 00:09:33,280 --> 00:09:36,320 Speaker 1: please show me the way. Then I felt inclined to 160 00:09:36,440 --> 00:09:39,800 Speaker 1: seek him. I started praying, reading my Bible daily, listening 161 00:09:39,880 --> 00:09:42,320 Speaker 1: to worship music. I felt God again for the first 162 00:09:42,320 --> 00:09:46,600 Speaker 1: time in a long time. I completely surrendered. Now the 163 00:09:46,640 --> 00:09:50,280 Speaker 1: problem is my husband would never accept this. He watches 164 00:09:50,280 --> 00:09:53,319 Speaker 1: a lot of videos and podcasts of these Muslim theologist 165 00:09:53,840 --> 00:09:57,720 Speaker 1: who say the Bible is corrupt, that Jesus was only 166 00:09:57,760 --> 00:10:00,480 Speaker 1: a prophet, etc. So he sees christian y and a 167 00:10:00,520 --> 00:10:04,040 Speaker 1: poor light. I try to pray for his heart because 168 00:10:04,080 --> 00:10:06,679 Speaker 1: I want him to feel this with me. I want 169 00:10:07,240 --> 00:10:10,079 Speaker 1: the Lord to do work in his heart as well. 170 00:10:10,720 --> 00:10:12,960 Speaker 1: I want him to be saved. I don't think he'll 171 00:10:13,000 --> 00:10:16,440 Speaker 1: ever accept Christ or me being a Christian. How do 172 00:10:16,520 --> 00:10:19,360 Speaker 1: I continue? Do I continue to pray for him and 173 00:10:19,400 --> 00:10:22,559 Speaker 1: worship in secret? Will this marriage work if we are 174 00:10:22,559 --> 00:10:25,560 Speaker 1: not on the same page spiritually? Thank you? Love the podcast. 175 00:10:26,520 --> 00:10:30,040 Speaker 1: Oh great message. Thank you Hannah, and thank you for 176 00:10:30,120 --> 00:10:33,439 Speaker 1: opening up and pouring your heart out on this email 177 00:10:34,679 --> 00:10:36,920 Speaker 1: to me, who I don't feel like I deserve to 178 00:10:37,559 --> 00:10:44,880 Speaker 1: uh to be in something that's very complicated. It's very 179 00:10:44,880 --> 00:10:47,319 Speaker 1: complicated for you. So if you're if you're my friend Hannah, 180 00:10:47,360 --> 00:10:49,840 Speaker 1: which I hope you are, and we're we're sitting around 181 00:10:49,880 --> 00:10:51,920 Speaker 1: a campfire and you say, hey, Grange, I need to 182 00:10:51,960 --> 00:10:55,080 Speaker 1: talk to you about this. Let's walk through it. Okay. 183 00:10:56,040 --> 00:10:58,280 Speaker 1: I would like you to go to your Bible. You're 184 00:10:58,679 --> 00:11:01,120 Speaker 1: gonna live there. I want you to live in this Bible. Okay. 185 00:11:02,200 --> 00:11:05,319 Speaker 1: It's so helpful because Paul's going to write in first 186 00:11:05,360 --> 00:11:09,199 Speaker 1: First Corinthians six and seven, he's going to start writing 187 00:11:09,280 --> 00:11:13,800 Speaker 1: about your situation, and he's going to tell you what 188 00:11:14,080 --> 00:11:18,960 Speaker 1: he is commanding you to do. And it's amazing that 189 00:11:19,040 --> 00:11:20,800 Speaker 1: you could read this in your Bible. And this is 190 00:11:20,800 --> 00:11:24,920 Speaker 1: why it's important that we don't use our Bibles like 191 00:11:25,240 --> 00:11:28,600 Speaker 1: a form of encyclopedia, which I hope I'm not advocating 192 00:11:28,600 --> 00:11:31,200 Speaker 1: for that here, but it's not an encyclopedia where you're like, Okay, 193 00:11:31,520 --> 00:11:37,079 Speaker 1: where's the s's for suffering? Okay, where's the peas for prosperity? Boom. 194 00:11:37,120 --> 00:11:39,319 Speaker 1: Here it is we don't go to the Bible like that. 195 00:11:39,840 --> 00:11:41,480 Speaker 1: We need to read it in context, and we need 196 00:11:41,520 --> 00:11:44,040 Speaker 1: to start at the beginning and move through in some 197 00:11:44,160 --> 00:11:49,960 Speaker 1: kind of systematic system of moving book to book consecutively 198 00:11:50,360 --> 00:11:52,640 Speaker 1: reading in context. Now, what you're going to find when 199 00:11:52,640 --> 00:11:54,360 Speaker 1: you're doing that is a lot of stuff about marriage, 200 00:11:54,360 --> 00:11:56,760 Speaker 1: and a lot of stuff about inner faith marriage like 201 00:11:56,800 --> 00:11:59,120 Speaker 1: you said in your subjecline, and a lot of stuff 202 00:11:59,160 --> 00:12:05,560 Speaker 1: about well suffering like you're going through. First Corinthians six 203 00:12:05,600 --> 00:12:08,040 Speaker 1: and seven is going to be specific for you, and 204 00:12:08,080 --> 00:12:11,000 Speaker 1: it's going to stay. It's going to tell you to stay, 205 00:12:11,280 --> 00:12:17,240 Speaker 1: stay and be faithful to him, and perhaps he could 206 00:12:17,240 --> 00:12:20,840 Speaker 1: be saved through you through your faith. That's what it says. 207 00:12:21,280 --> 00:12:23,600 Speaker 1: And I want to correct a couple of things that 208 00:12:23,640 --> 00:12:30,199 Speaker 1: you said. One, you said, I don't think he'll ever 209 00:12:30,360 --> 00:12:38,360 Speaker 1: accept Christ false. You don't know that. Second, where's the 210 00:12:38,360 --> 00:12:41,200 Speaker 1: other word? Oh? Or or me being a Christian? I 211 00:12:41,240 --> 00:12:44,800 Speaker 1: don't think he'll ever accept Christ false? Or me being 212 00:12:44,880 --> 00:12:48,280 Speaker 1: a Christian false? And then you said again earlier in 213 00:12:48,280 --> 00:12:51,960 Speaker 1: that paragraph, the problem is my husband would never accept 214 00:12:51,960 --> 00:12:56,920 Speaker 1: this false. Jesus spoke about this many times. But you 215 00:12:56,920 --> 00:12:59,520 Speaker 1: remember the whole the whole time, Jesus was talking about 216 00:12:59,800 --> 00:13:03,040 Speaker 1: how it is is more difficult for a rich person 217 00:13:03,320 --> 00:13:05,520 Speaker 1: to go to heaven than a camel through the eye 218 00:13:05,520 --> 00:13:10,200 Speaker 1: of a needle. And his disciples were blown away by this. 219 00:13:10,280 --> 00:13:12,680 Speaker 1: They couldn't believe it. And and he was talking about 220 00:13:12,679 --> 00:13:14,920 Speaker 1: the heart. He was talking about someone that is, that 221 00:13:15,040 --> 00:13:18,600 Speaker 1: is attached to riches, that is that finds their identity 222 00:13:18,640 --> 00:13:21,560 Speaker 1: and wealth will never make it. And and they're all 223 00:13:21,600 --> 00:13:25,280 Speaker 1: looking at each other, like, how much money do you 224 00:13:25,320 --> 00:13:31,200 Speaker 1: have in the bank. I'm speaking figuratively, they're thinking how 225 00:13:31,280 --> 00:13:34,920 Speaker 1: much how many goats do you have? And and they're 226 00:13:34,920 --> 00:13:37,680 Speaker 1: all kind of looking like man, almost everybody I know 227 00:13:37,760 --> 00:13:39,680 Speaker 1: has money of some sort. I know, I know that 228 00:13:39,760 --> 00:13:42,560 Speaker 1: these were poor shepherd men and fishermen. But at the 229 00:13:42,559 --> 00:13:45,080 Speaker 1: same time, look at Matthew over there. The guy's a 230 00:13:45,080 --> 00:13:48,120 Speaker 1: task collector. He's got he's got cash, and and they're 231 00:13:48,160 --> 00:13:51,280 Speaker 1: kind of mumbling and grumbling to themselves, and they say, Lord, 232 00:13:51,800 --> 00:13:55,720 Speaker 1: then who will ever be saved? Jesus looks at him 233 00:13:55,760 --> 00:14:02,080 Speaker 1: and says, with man, it's impossible, but with God, all 234 00:14:02,080 --> 00:14:05,000 Speaker 1: things are possible. So he's saying what he's saying to 235 00:14:05,040 --> 00:14:08,400 Speaker 1: them right there is oh, this whole, this whole salvation thing. Uh, 236 00:14:08,600 --> 00:14:11,079 Speaker 1: it's not up to you. It's not up to you. 237 00:14:11,160 --> 00:14:13,400 Speaker 1: It's up to God. And so the people that you 238 00:14:13,480 --> 00:14:15,760 Speaker 1: think could be so far from this, like this guy's 239 00:14:15,880 --> 00:14:20,320 Speaker 1: never gonna believe. Uh you wait, just wait, That's what 240 00:14:20,360 --> 00:14:22,960 Speaker 1: God's saying. I could do anything I could. I could 241 00:14:22,960 --> 00:14:26,920 Speaker 1: turn the hardest heart, I could pierce it. What you 242 00:14:26,960 --> 00:14:29,360 Speaker 1: gotta worry about is the people that already say they're Christians. 243 00:14:29,680 --> 00:14:31,800 Speaker 1: That's the harder people. And the people who go I'm 244 00:14:31,800 --> 00:14:34,480 Speaker 1: already Christian, don't don't worry. Yeah, they get Jesus, Gospel, 245 00:14:34,640 --> 00:14:38,760 Speaker 1: resurrection and cross I got it anyway, those are the 246 00:14:39,000 --> 00:14:40,920 Speaker 1: I would think that those people are a little harder 247 00:14:40,960 --> 00:14:43,960 Speaker 1: than the guy that's that's so you cannot pierce his heart, 248 00:14:44,040 --> 00:14:47,160 Speaker 1: kind of like the German that I'm talking to. Let 249 00:14:47,160 --> 00:14:49,600 Speaker 1: me give you something else here. There's just a great 250 00:14:49,840 --> 00:14:56,840 Speaker 1: book called Seeking Allah, Finding Jesus. Seeking Allah, Finding Jesus. Oh, 251 00:14:56,840 --> 00:15:00,360 Speaker 1: it's a fantastic book. And you you got to read this. 252 00:15:00,400 --> 00:15:02,920 Speaker 1: You got to get this on Amazon today the day 253 00:15:02,960 --> 00:15:06,040 Speaker 1: you hear this podcast. It is so good and you're 254 00:15:06,080 --> 00:15:09,720 Speaker 1: gonna have you. I hope that it creates and for 255 00:15:09,760 --> 00:15:13,000 Speaker 1: everybody listening, this is just a great read for anybody. 256 00:15:13,240 --> 00:15:16,520 Speaker 1: But it's gonna just give you a new love for 257 00:15:16,600 --> 00:15:19,840 Speaker 1: the for the Muslim people, for the people of Islam. 258 00:15:19,880 --> 00:15:22,360 Speaker 1: It's gonna give you a new heart for them. And 259 00:15:22,360 --> 00:15:24,440 Speaker 1: that's what I hope. That's what I hope that you're 260 00:15:24,440 --> 00:15:27,120 Speaker 1: hearing right now. And I hope that you read that 261 00:15:27,200 --> 00:15:29,480 Speaker 1: in this book. If you get it, Seeking Ali, Finding Jesus, 262 00:15:30,200 --> 00:15:33,720 Speaker 1: I'm just gonna got a love for them. And and 263 00:15:33,960 --> 00:15:36,320 Speaker 1: it makes you want to if you have a Muslim 264 00:15:36,360 --> 00:15:40,000 Speaker 1: family in your street right now, in your apartment complex 265 00:15:40,080 --> 00:15:41,800 Speaker 1: or down the road, it makes you just want to 266 00:15:41,800 --> 00:15:43,760 Speaker 1: say I don't wanna, I wanna. I want to cook 267 00:15:43,800 --> 00:15:46,880 Speaker 1: some food them and invite them over this coming Thursday 268 00:15:47,280 --> 00:15:49,960 Speaker 1: and have dinner with them, just just talk to them, 269 00:15:50,360 --> 00:15:52,840 Speaker 1: just bring them into the community so they don't feel 270 00:15:52,960 --> 00:15:57,400 Speaker 1: like they're outcast here in this country. It's gonna start there. 271 00:15:57,440 --> 00:16:00,080 Speaker 1: It's gonna start with love. And I think that's the's 272 00:16:00,080 --> 00:16:01,400 Speaker 1: where it's gonna start for all of us in our 273 00:16:01,440 --> 00:16:04,560 Speaker 1: community with Islam, Christians dealing with Islam. And then it's 274 00:16:04,600 --> 00:16:07,960 Speaker 1: gonna especially you and your home. It's gonna start with love, 275 00:16:08,160 --> 00:16:10,520 Speaker 1: and it's gonna be all about love. And that's that's 276 00:16:10,560 --> 00:16:13,480 Speaker 1: the conversation this is gonna be. And so how do 277 00:16:13,600 --> 00:16:16,560 Speaker 1: you how do you best love him? And I'll tell 278 00:16:16,560 --> 00:16:20,360 Speaker 1: you how you don't by leaving him, because if you 279 00:16:20,440 --> 00:16:25,200 Speaker 1: leave him, Hannah, if you leave him, he's in a lot, 280 00:16:25,360 --> 00:16:30,560 Speaker 1: a lot more difficult situation for to be saved once again. 281 00:16:30,640 --> 00:16:34,600 Speaker 1: With man, it's impossible. But just through the scenario, if 282 00:16:34,600 --> 00:16:36,880 Speaker 1: you if we think about it with human minds, it 283 00:16:36,880 --> 00:16:38,880 Speaker 1: would be a lot harder for him if you left him, 284 00:16:38,920 --> 00:16:40,720 Speaker 1: because then he would just say there he goes that 285 00:16:40,920 --> 00:16:44,920 Speaker 1: Christian goodbye. Time to marry me A good one, A 286 00:16:44,960 --> 00:16:50,080 Speaker 1: good woman. You know what I'm saying. Yeah, I'm gonna 287 00:16:50,120 --> 00:16:51,720 Speaker 1: end that there. I don't think there's more I can 288 00:16:51,760 --> 00:16:55,360 Speaker 1: add to that, but I just love him. We're gonna 289 00:16:55,360 --> 00:17:00,960 Speaker 1: take a break and be right back. Thanks for listening 290 00:17:00,960 --> 00:17:03,800 Speaker 1: to the podcast. Y'all so excited to finally say that 291 00:17:03,920 --> 00:17:07,840 Speaker 1: my book Like a River comes out August twenty twenty three. 292 00:17:07,920 --> 00:17:10,360 Speaker 1: You could pre order it right now wherever you love 293 00:17:10,640 --> 00:17:13,399 Speaker 1: to get your books, like Amazon, and if you're not 294 00:17:13,440 --> 00:17:15,679 Speaker 1: a paper book reader, you could also listen to the 295 00:17:15,720 --> 00:17:19,000 Speaker 1: audiobook which I'm currently working on for August first, and 296 00:17:19,040 --> 00:17:21,880 Speaker 1: that's going to have some ad libbing in it as well, 297 00:17:21,960 --> 00:17:24,400 Speaker 1: so that might be a nice little thing to have 298 00:17:24,520 --> 00:17:27,119 Speaker 1: both if you want, and hopefully you'll be able to 299 00:17:27,160 --> 00:17:30,520 Speaker 1: do just that. And it's a conversation starter piece. That's 300 00:17:30,600 --> 00:17:32,960 Speaker 1: what I want this book to be. 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Subject line says forgiving my dad, Hey Granger, 324 00:18:53,520 --> 00:18:55,560 Speaker 1: my name is Zach and when I was young, I 325 00:18:55,600 --> 00:18:59,200 Speaker 1: grew up with an alcoholic father who was also abusive. 326 00:18:59,560 --> 00:19:02,360 Speaker 1: My parents was finally divorced when I was six and 327 00:19:02,480 --> 00:19:04,399 Speaker 1: he went in and out of my life until I 328 00:19:04,440 --> 00:19:07,800 Speaker 1: turned eighteen. When I turned eighteen, he stated he wanted 329 00:19:07,880 --> 00:19:10,040 Speaker 1: nothing to do with me or my brother and never 330 00:19:10,240 --> 00:19:13,840 Speaker 1: contact and to never contact him again. That caught me 331 00:19:13,880 --> 00:19:17,159 Speaker 1: off guard. Not that he was the best father, but 332 00:19:17,240 --> 00:19:20,040 Speaker 1: he was still my father. Now, at thirty five years old, 333 00:19:20,080 --> 00:19:22,920 Speaker 1: I find myself contemplating reaching out to him and forgiving. 334 00:19:23,600 --> 00:19:26,080 Speaker 1: But if I find him and he answers that phone, 335 00:19:26,440 --> 00:19:36,800 Speaker 1: what do I even say? It's been seventeen years. Thank you, Zach. Zach. 336 00:19:37,400 --> 00:19:41,760 Speaker 1: I'm so pleased with you, and I love your heart 337 00:19:41,840 --> 00:19:45,239 Speaker 1: in this and I'm happy that you emailed, and I'm 338 00:19:45,280 --> 00:19:51,400 Speaker 1: happy you included the podcast in this because I would 339 00:19:51,400 --> 00:19:52,879 Speaker 1: just want to commend you and just say, do you 340 00:19:52,880 --> 00:19:56,159 Speaker 1: know how you know how difficult it is to have 341 00:19:56,200 --> 00:19:59,080 Speaker 1: the courage to do what you're doing, to even suggest this, 342 00:19:59,240 --> 00:20:03,240 Speaker 1: to even think of about this. I just want it 343 00:20:03,280 --> 00:20:09,040 Speaker 1: takes incredible bravery, incredible courage, incredible self denial that you 344 00:20:09,080 --> 00:20:11,679 Speaker 1: have done. And I hope people listen that are in 345 00:20:11,720 --> 00:20:14,800 Speaker 1: a similar situation as you, Zach. I hope people hear 346 00:20:14,840 --> 00:20:17,960 Speaker 1: this and just say, yeah, it's me, because I know 347 00:20:18,000 --> 00:20:20,520 Speaker 1: a lot of people are in this situation. And I 348 00:20:20,560 --> 00:20:22,920 Speaker 1: hope people hear it and go, yeah, that's me. He 349 00:20:22,960 --> 00:20:25,639 Speaker 1: grew up with a dad like that, and he left 350 00:20:25,760 --> 00:20:29,160 Speaker 1: and he's gone, and maybe I should think like Zach 351 00:20:29,320 --> 00:20:32,280 Speaker 1: and think, God, I should call him. I should give 352 00:20:32,320 --> 00:20:37,760 Speaker 1: him a call. So it takes. The reason I say 353 00:20:37,760 --> 00:20:42,840 Speaker 1: it takes incredible self denial is because the stronger emotion 354 00:20:44,080 --> 00:20:48,880 Speaker 1: that we fall in, wretched humans, including me, the stronger 355 00:20:48,920 --> 00:20:54,080 Speaker 1: emotion that we lead with is self preservation. Like, ain't 356 00:20:54,160 --> 00:20:57,000 Speaker 1: no way I'm calling that guy. You know what he 357 00:20:57,040 --> 00:20:59,040 Speaker 1: did to me. You know what he did to me, 358 00:20:59,840 --> 00:21:03,040 Speaker 1: you know how he hurt me, you know how he 359 00:21:03,200 --> 00:21:07,600 Speaker 1: kicked me out of out of his life and did 360 00:21:07,720 --> 00:21:09,800 Speaker 1: whatever to brother and mom, and you know what he 361 00:21:09,920 --> 00:21:11,560 Speaker 1: you know what that guy did. There ain't no way 362 00:21:11,640 --> 00:21:15,879 Speaker 1: I'm calling that guy. So that's that's the loud mouth 363 00:21:15,960 --> 00:21:17,840 Speaker 1: of motion that we have. We all have that voice 364 00:21:17,880 --> 00:21:20,920 Speaker 1: in our head, right and to shut that voice up 365 00:21:22,280 --> 00:21:25,520 Speaker 1: to the to the quieter voice that the more reasonable 366 00:21:25,600 --> 00:21:28,800 Speaker 1: voice that says the right thing to do would be 367 00:21:28,840 --> 00:21:33,080 Speaker 1: to reach out to him. That's incredible. It takes incredible 368 00:21:33,080 --> 00:21:36,359 Speaker 1: courage that you have done that and you're hearing that voice. 369 00:21:36,359 --> 00:21:39,520 Speaker 1: And so so let's do this Okay, Zach, let's walk 370 00:21:39,560 --> 00:21:42,320 Speaker 1: through this together, and I would love for you to 371 00:21:42,320 --> 00:21:44,200 Speaker 1: do it and then report back so we could read 372 00:21:44,200 --> 00:21:47,640 Speaker 1: it on this podcast, so that maybe we could all 373 00:21:47,640 --> 00:21:53,800 Speaker 1: could hear how it went down. Okay, first things first, 374 00:21:54,320 --> 00:21:58,960 Speaker 1: what to expect? Destroy any kind of expectations, right, It 375 00:21:59,119 --> 00:22:02,520 Speaker 1: destroy x expectations of how he's going to react because 376 00:22:02,520 --> 00:22:05,080 Speaker 1: you can't control it at all. So let's just pretend 377 00:22:05,359 --> 00:22:09,040 Speaker 1: he's going to be hateful towards you if he answers 378 00:22:09,080 --> 00:22:11,760 Speaker 1: it all, if he even replies at all, let's just 379 00:22:11,800 --> 00:22:16,639 Speaker 1: say that he's going to go, Zach, get out of here. Man. Okay, 380 00:22:16,680 --> 00:22:19,520 Speaker 1: I think there's a really good chance that he won't 381 00:22:19,520 --> 00:22:23,800 Speaker 1: do that. Seventeen years is a long time to soften 382 00:22:23,880 --> 00:22:27,280 Speaker 1: a hard heart, and so I would I would be 383 00:22:27,320 --> 00:22:30,000 Speaker 1: shocked if he did. But let's expect him to that 384 00:22:30,119 --> 00:22:35,760 Speaker 1: way when he is you, go, well, Dad, I'm reaching 385 00:22:35,760 --> 00:22:38,879 Speaker 1: out to you because I haven't. I haven't keep it 386 00:22:38,920 --> 00:22:40,560 Speaker 1: on Keep it on you, right, don't put it on him, 387 00:22:40,600 --> 00:22:42,760 Speaker 1: don't say you didn't do that, you didn't keep it 388 00:22:42,760 --> 00:22:45,399 Speaker 1: on yourself, and go because I haven't reached out in 389 00:22:45,680 --> 00:22:49,560 Speaker 1: seventeen years and I'm thirty five years old and I'm 390 00:22:49,560 --> 00:22:52,280 Speaker 1: working here, I'm married to this girl, got this kid, 391 00:22:52,480 --> 00:22:55,159 Speaker 1: whatever you got going on, give him a little bit 392 00:22:55,200 --> 00:22:58,920 Speaker 1: of that. I mean, come on, he's your dad. What Dad, 393 00:22:59,040 --> 00:23:02,760 Speaker 1: deep down by a logically, doesn't just go my son's 394 00:23:02,800 --> 00:23:10,480 Speaker 1: doing well, my legacy, my seed is doing well, that's great. 395 00:23:11,080 --> 00:23:13,639 Speaker 1: What Dad doesn't want to hear that he's gonna be 396 00:23:13,680 --> 00:23:16,160 Speaker 1: ashamed that he has put you out for so long. 397 00:23:16,280 --> 00:23:21,440 Speaker 1: But go in and make it about him and less 398 00:23:21,480 --> 00:23:26,320 Speaker 1: about you, meaning, go into this thinking I'm the one 399 00:23:26,320 --> 00:23:29,480 Speaker 1: that hasn't reached out in seventeen years, right, And that's 400 00:23:29,520 --> 00:23:31,560 Speaker 1: hard to do that because you're gonna want to blame them, 401 00:23:31,680 --> 00:23:35,280 Speaker 1: especially if he gets mad. Don't retaliate the anger. Just say, 402 00:23:35,359 --> 00:23:38,320 Speaker 1: Dad just wanted to tell you. I think about you 403 00:23:39,160 --> 00:23:43,080 Speaker 1: often and I love you not because of what you've done, 404 00:23:43,960 --> 00:23:47,359 Speaker 1: but because of who you are. You're my pops, and 405 00:23:47,400 --> 00:23:50,920 Speaker 1: if you ever need anything, reach out. Okay, here's my number, 406 00:23:50,960 --> 00:23:54,040 Speaker 1: here's my email. Love to talk, Love to grab some 407 00:23:54,080 --> 00:23:59,040 Speaker 1: coffee sometime. Don't say grab a beer, bad joke. I'd 408 00:23:59,040 --> 00:24:02,360 Speaker 1: love to grab some coffee with you sometime. Dad, leave 409 00:24:02,400 --> 00:24:04,879 Speaker 1: it open ended, you don't, hey, Maybe even leave him 410 00:24:04,880 --> 00:24:07,280 Speaker 1: a voice message like that. If he doesn't answer, but 411 00:24:07,520 --> 00:24:10,040 Speaker 1: just man, Zach, I just think it's a great thing 412 00:24:10,080 --> 00:24:13,360 Speaker 1: you're doing. And there's so much healing with you. Man, 413 00:24:13,440 --> 00:24:16,760 Speaker 1: that's the thing. There's so much healing that's going to 414 00:24:16,800 --> 00:24:20,280 Speaker 1: happen with you as you get this monkey off your 415 00:24:20,280 --> 00:24:23,679 Speaker 1: shoulders and you just go, Dad, I love you that 416 00:24:24,080 --> 00:24:28,480 Speaker 1: you will heal tremendously from this and old scars that 417 00:24:28,520 --> 00:24:30,400 Speaker 1: you don't even maybe you don't even know are there. 418 00:24:30,920 --> 00:24:35,680 Speaker 1: You're just letting it go. I'm all about this. If 419 00:24:35,720 --> 00:24:39,920 Speaker 1: you can't tell yet, I'm all about this. Let's grab 420 00:24:39,920 --> 00:24:41,720 Speaker 1: another one here. The subject line in this one says, 421 00:24:41,760 --> 00:24:44,800 Speaker 1: I worry about my kids that grandjoar. My name is Cassie. 422 00:24:44,840 --> 00:24:47,600 Speaker 1: I'm a mom of two amazing kids. I have a 423 00:24:47,640 --> 00:24:50,119 Speaker 1: two year old son and a six month old daughter. 424 00:24:50,440 --> 00:24:53,320 Speaker 1: I've never been someone who had anxiety or worries too 425 00:24:53,359 --> 00:24:56,000 Speaker 1: much about the future, but when it comes to my kids, 426 00:24:56,400 --> 00:24:59,600 Speaker 1: I worry about them so much. I work full time, 427 00:25:00,040 --> 00:25:02,359 Speaker 1: and I get worried about their safety when I'm not 428 00:25:02,480 --> 00:25:06,520 Speaker 1: with them, even though that they're with trusted family. The 429 00:25:06,560 --> 00:25:09,240 Speaker 1: biggest thing that gets me worried is when they're sick. 430 00:25:09,800 --> 00:25:12,200 Speaker 1: I pray for God to watch over them. Every day 431 00:25:12,280 --> 00:25:15,800 Speaker 1: I pray that God helps me come to Him instead 432 00:25:15,840 --> 00:25:19,760 Speaker 1: of worrying. What do you do when you begin to 433 00:25:19,800 --> 00:25:23,000 Speaker 1: worry about your kids? Are just worry in general? I 434 00:25:23,040 --> 00:25:28,800 Speaker 1: would appreciate any advice that you have. Thank you so much, Cassie. Cassie, 435 00:25:28,960 --> 00:25:34,280 Speaker 1: thank you for the email. First thing for you. I 436 00:25:34,320 --> 00:25:36,480 Speaker 1: was a little surprised when you said when you brought 437 00:25:36,520 --> 00:25:43,720 Speaker 1: up God, because it because because I don't think you 438 00:25:43,760 --> 00:25:46,840 Speaker 1: know who he is. Yeah, I don't think you know 439 00:25:46,880 --> 00:25:50,840 Speaker 1: who God is. Don't mean I don't mean to offend you, 440 00:25:50,880 --> 00:25:53,439 Speaker 1: and I hope that doesn't. But I would like you 441 00:25:53,600 --> 00:25:59,600 Speaker 1: to read Philippians Paul's letter to the Philippians. It's very 442 00:25:59,600 --> 00:26:02,080 Speaker 1: short and you'll be able to read it in ten 443 00:26:02,160 --> 00:26:05,840 Speaker 1: or fifteen minutes. But oh it's great. Philippians is so 444 00:26:05,960 --> 00:26:10,120 Speaker 1: good for worry and anxiety. But we need to know 445 00:26:10,200 --> 00:26:13,960 Speaker 1: who God is. We need to know that He is 446 00:26:14,000 --> 00:26:22,000 Speaker 1: a big, sovereign God, providential God, meaning God is. Let 447 00:26:22,000 --> 00:26:24,160 Speaker 1: me just stop there, God Is. I made a video 448 00:26:24,200 --> 00:26:28,919 Speaker 1: about this. It's on mye YouTube page. God Is. Have 449 00:26:29,000 --> 00:26:32,480 Speaker 1: you ever thought about that? Just thinking about those two 450 00:26:32,480 --> 00:26:35,960 Speaker 1: words put together will blow your mind. And this is 451 00:26:36,000 --> 00:26:37,720 Speaker 1: not a small God. This is not a God that 452 00:26:38,240 --> 00:26:40,480 Speaker 1: that accidents happen to. This is not a God that's 453 00:26:40,480 --> 00:26:44,800 Speaker 1: playing ketchup to people that have people that have made mistakes, 454 00:26:44,960 --> 00:26:48,440 Speaker 1: and God's trying to clean up the mistakes. And here's 455 00:26:48,480 --> 00:26:51,280 Speaker 1: a fallacy. Is the idea. Not I'm not blaming you, 456 00:26:51,480 --> 00:26:54,960 Speaker 1: but here's the an idea that you would need to 457 00:26:55,080 --> 00:27:01,280 Speaker 1: pray more over everything so that you should more over everything, 458 00:27:01,440 --> 00:27:05,760 Speaker 1: but so that you don't miss anything and God doesn't 459 00:27:05,800 --> 00:27:09,520 Speaker 1: miss it. You see what I'm saying. We pray for 460 00:27:09,560 --> 00:27:12,600 Speaker 1: God's will to be done, because it will be done 461 00:27:13,200 --> 00:27:15,399 Speaker 1: on earth as it is in heaven. It will be 462 00:27:16,080 --> 00:27:19,800 Speaker 1: His providence will happen, His sovereignty will happen. He knows 463 00:27:19,880 --> 00:27:24,600 Speaker 1: every hair on your head. He knows the day's left 464 00:27:24,640 --> 00:27:27,679 Speaker 1: in your life. He knows the expiration date that you 465 00:27:27,760 --> 00:27:30,560 Speaker 1: carry right now. There is a second There is a 466 00:27:30,640 --> 00:27:33,920 Speaker 1: moment of your life when you will die, and he 467 00:27:33,960 --> 00:27:38,199 Speaker 1: knows that moment. He's already planned it. Think about that 468 00:27:38,240 --> 00:27:41,800 Speaker 1: for a second. Let me tell you the second part 469 00:27:41,800 --> 00:27:48,280 Speaker 1: of this. He works everything to his glory for the 470 00:27:48,320 --> 00:27:51,879 Speaker 1: greater good, and the greater good is for his glory. 471 00:27:52,240 --> 00:27:54,560 Speaker 1: Think about that. He knows every hair on your head, 472 00:27:54,800 --> 00:27:57,919 Speaker 1: He knows every day left in your life. He is 473 00:27:58,000 --> 00:28:04,520 Speaker 1: providential over everything, totally planning and purposing, totally sovereign. He 474 00:28:04,600 --> 00:28:07,080 Speaker 1: is outside of time, so he sees all this and 475 00:28:07,119 --> 00:28:11,520 Speaker 1: he's always known it, and he's working everything for a 476 00:28:11,600 --> 00:28:16,840 Speaker 1: greater good, for his glory. If you could meditate on that, 477 00:28:16,920 --> 00:28:20,560 Speaker 1: if you could just wrap your brain around that, it 478 00:28:20,760 --> 00:28:27,879 Speaker 1: demolishes worry and anxiety. Why because we get caught up 479 00:28:27,920 --> 00:28:30,879 Speaker 1: in this idea that, Oh God, and help me have 480 00:28:30,920 --> 00:28:33,440 Speaker 1: a safe trip to the grocery store, and and God 481 00:28:33,480 --> 00:28:35,160 Speaker 1: helped me find a parking place. And then when I'm 482 00:28:35,160 --> 00:28:37,440 Speaker 1: in there, oh God, help me find that the right 483 00:28:37,520 --> 00:28:39,920 Speaker 1: fruit that doesn't have worms in it. And then God 484 00:28:40,000 --> 00:28:42,680 Speaker 1: make sure that Oh God, I hope that I have enough. 485 00:28:43,560 --> 00:28:46,600 Speaker 1: Pray that I have enough checking account money so that 486 00:28:46,640 --> 00:28:48,440 Speaker 1: when I get the groceries. And then when I go out, 487 00:28:48,920 --> 00:28:50,880 Speaker 1: pray that somebody hasn't keyed my car because that would 488 00:28:50,920 --> 00:28:52,640 Speaker 1: just be terrible. And then God, I pray that I 489 00:28:52,640 --> 00:28:54,560 Speaker 1: have a safe And it's like, you're going over this 490 00:28:54,720 --> 00:28:58,320 Speaker 1: checklist so that just in case you miss something that 491 00:28:58,400 --> 00:29:02,280 Speaker 1: could be the thing that does you in And you 492 00:29:02,360 --> 00:29:05,560 Speaker 1: face God one day and he goes, oh yeah, sorry 493 00:29:05,600 --> 00:29:08,800 Speaker 1: about the car accident. You prayed for everything but that, 494 00:29:09,040 --> 00:29:11,120 Speaker 1: and you didn't. You didn't pray for a car on 495 00:29:11,160 --> 00:29:13,160 Speaker 1: the coming up with the wrong direction on the on 496 00:29:13,360 --> 00:29:17,480 Speaker 1: ramp and it hits you head on and you died. Eh, 497 00:29:17,800 --> 00:29:21,080 Speaker 1: you forgot to pray for that. I can't I can't 498 00:29:21,120 --> 00:29:24,720 Speaker 1: work unless you say their magic prayer. You know. It's 499 00:29:24,760 --> 00:29:28,320 Speaker 1: like God's the slot machine, you're just like, or you 500 00:29:28,400 --> 00:29:30,840 Speaker 1: pull the lever, or he's the vending machine. You got 501 00:29:30,880 --> 00:29:32,440 Speaker 1: to hit C twenty eight and he gives you the 502 00:29:32,840 --> 00:29:37,600 Speaker 1: Dorrido chips. We have made God into this. People didn't 503 00:29:37,680 --> 00:29:40,800 Speaker 1: used to think this way, but we have made God 504 00:29:40,960 --> 00:29:45,720 Speaker 1: small and weak and impotent, and we make this is 505 00:29:45,920 --> 00:29:48,720 Speaker 1: this is crazy and that sometimes this gets controversial, but 506 00:29:48,760 --> 00:29:55,800 Speaker 1: it's my podcast. But sometimes we we have given God's 507 00:29:56,000 --> 00:30:01,080 Speaker 1: greatest attribute to be love. So we say his greatest attribute, 508 00:30:01,320 --> 00:30:04,800 Speaker 1: the pinnacle of everything that he is, is love. And 509 00:30:04,840 --> 00:30:08,280 Speaker 1: we go further and to show his love the pinnacle 510 00:30:08,320 --> 00:30:11,280 Speaker 1: of his all of his attributes, which is false, it's false, 511 00:30:12,200 --> 00:30:14,280 Speaker 1: but we have given him this. And you heard you 512 00:30:14,320 --> 00:30:17,400 Speaker 1: hear people preaching this and teaching this. It's all over Instagram. 513 00:30:17,440 --> 00:30:21,320 Speaker 1: It's a Oliver podcast, except this podcast the pinnacle of 514 00:30:21,400 --> 00:30:26,040 Speaker 1: his attributes is love, and to the greatest gift that 515 00:30:26,120 --> 00:30:30,000 Speaker 1: he gives to humanity is free will. And he gives 516 00:30:30,080 --> 00:30:34,680 Speaker 1: humanity free will because without the choice to choose against him, 517 00:30:34,840 --> 00:30:37,760 Speaker 1: then it cannot be love for him. So he gives 518 00:30:37,840 --> 00:30:39,840 Speaker 1: us free will. And then when we mess it up, 519 00:30:40,240 --> 00:30:43,000 Speaker 1: he can't stop it because he gave us free will, 520 00:30:43,000 --> 00:30:45,480 Speaker 1: and that's the greatest gift. And he would never violate 521 00:30:45,800 --> 00:30:49,600 Speaker 1: the greatest gift so that he could stop something that 522 00:30:49,680 --> 00:30:53,000 Speaker 1: we have chosen out of our precious free will, because 523 00:30:53,280 --> 00:30:55,800 Speaker 1: it's not love if he does, because love is his 524 00:30:55,840 --> 00:30:59,240 Speaker 1: greatest attribute. So if he's only a loving God, if 525 00:30:59,280 --> 00:31:04,920 Speaker 1: he gives us free will, will I want you to see, 526 00:31:05,240 --> 00:31:07,120 Speaker 1: And there might be a lot of people that believe that, 527 00:31:08,880 --> 00:31:11,080 Speaker 1: but I want you. I want you to see how 528 00:31:11,160 --> 00:31:16,640 Speaker 1: quickly that breaks down when you actually read the scripture, 529 00:31:16,640 --> 00:31:21,240 Speaker 1: actually read the Bible, and you'll see thousands of times 530 00:31:21,400 --> 00:31:30,080 Speaker 1: how God knows, God plans, God directs the steps of man. Right. 531 00:31:30,320 --> 00:31:34,280 Speaker 1: We see this over and over and over. God is 532 00:31:34,320 --> 00:31:37,640 Speaker 1: the Alpha and the Omega. He is God from the 533 00:31:37,640 --> 00:31:45,480 Speaker 1: beginning to the end. Everything is his plan. Nothing happens 534 00:31:45,600 --> 00:31:51,560 Speaker 1: outside of his will, even evil that he ordains for 535 00:31:51,760 --> 00:31:56,719 Speaker 1: a greater good, for his glory. I could prove this. 536 00:31:56,760 --> 00:31:59,080 Speaker 1: I'm getting off track, but I could prove it in anything, 537 00:31:59,640 --> 00:32:04,360 Speaker 1: anything God needed. No, I don't want to say that 538 00:32:04,640 --> 00:32:10,400 Speaker 1: God allowed for a redemption plan for his people because 539 00:32:10,880 --> 00:32:14,000 Speaker 1: it was the best way to do it, because he's God. 540 00:32:14,600 --> 00:32:18,560 Speaker 1: But in order to have redemption and the plan for redemption, 541 00:32:19,080 --> 00:32:24,080 Speaker 1: in order for the gift of forgiveness, right, there needed 542 00:32:24,120 --> 00:32:26,920 Speaker 1: to be a fall, and there needed to be mistakes made. 543 00:32:27,240 --> 00:32:31,080 Speaker 1: And so through that, through the redemption, through the suffering. 544 00:32:31,080 --> 00:32:35,800 Speaker 1: There's the connection between suffering and redemption and being restored 545 00:32:36,000 --> 00:32:39,720 Speaker 1: and being redeemed and being healed and being renewed. How 546 00:32:39,760 --> 00:32:42,240 Speaker 1: can you do any of those things if you're not 547 00:32:42,320 --> 00:32:48,720 Speaker 1: broken to begin with. So he ordains it. And when 548 00:32:48,720 --> 00:32:51,719 Speaker 1: you know things like this, when you believe a big, 549 00:32:52,120 --> 00:32:56,160 Speaker 1: glorious God like this, when that's the God that you know, 550 00:32:57,240 --> 00:33:01,360 Speaker 1: then you go. God, we pray for your will to 551 00:33:01,440 --> 00:33:04,600 Speaker 1: be done, and we trust you, and our hope is 552 00:33:04,640 --> 00:33:08,400 Speaker 1: in you, not in my weakness, not in my silly 553 00:33:08,480 --> 00:33:12,400 Speaker 1: grocery store prayer that someone doesn't key my car. You're 554 00:33:12,440 --> 00:33:15,640 Speaker 1: a great God, and you have the whole world in 555 00:33:15,680 --> 00:33:21,800 Speaker 1: your hand, including my kids, and including these these little 556 00:33:21,960 --> 00:33:24,840 Speaker 1: sicknesses that I get so worried about. God, remove this 557 00:33:24,960 --> 00:33:28,840 Speaker 1: anxiety from me, because I the more I worry, the 558 00:33:28,840 --> 00:33:31,360 Speaker 1: more I'm revealing that I don't know who you are 559 00:33:31,400 --> 00:33:34,080 Speaker 1: and I don't trust you. It's like when I'm with 560 00:33:34,120 --> 00:33:36,240 Speaker 1: my kids and they're like, Daddy, why are we going 561 00:33:36,280 --> 00:33:39,520 Speaker 1: this way? And I know it's the right way, and 562 00:33:39,560 --> 00:33:42,320 Speaker 1: I said, because this is the right way. And I said, no, Daddy, 563 00:33:42,360 --> 00:33:44,720 Speaker 1: you're going the wrong way. I say, hold my hand 564 00:33:44,760 --> 00:33:46,800 Speaker 1: and trust me. No to Daddy, you're going the wrong way. 565 00:33:47,320 --> 00:33:49,560 Speaker 1: We've all been there as parents, and we go. Will 566 00:33:49,600 --> 00:33:52,880 Speaker 1: you trust me. I'm taking you down the right path. 567 00:33:53,360 --> 00:33:56,120 Speaker 1: You might not like it. It might be uncomfortable for you, 568 00:33:56,360 --> 00:34:00,120 Speaker 1: but I know that it is the right path. And 569 00:34:00,160 --> 00:34:01,640 Speaker 1: that's what we do all the time with God. I'm 570 00:34:01,680 --> 00:34:04,200 Speaker 1: not blaming you, Cassie. I'm not blaming you, but I'm 571 00:34:04,240 --> 00:34:07,280 Speaker 1: saying your anxiety over these little sicknesses that your kids 572 00:34:07,280 --> 00:34:11,799 Speaker 1: have is revealing you don't trust who God is as 573 00:34:11,880 --> 00:34:14,360 Speaker 1: revealed in the Bible. So the more you read the Bible, 574 00:34:14,480 --> 00:34:16,680 Speaker 1: the more you make it a purpose that you actually 575 00:34:16,680 --> 00:34:19,279 Speaker 1: read it, the more you see who He is, and 576 00:34:19,320 --> 00:34:21,600 Speaker 1: the more you just go go. You are God and 577 00:34:21,640 --> 00:34:24,440 Speaker 1: I am not, and I will worship you for that, 578 00:34:25,239 --> 00:34:27,879 Speaker 1: and I will trust you as much as it's hard 579 00:34:27,920 --> 00:34:30,160 Speaker 1: to do, as much as I want to worry, because 580 00:34:30,440 --> 00:34:33,040 Speaker 1: my little finite mind wants to worry. I trust you, 581 00:34:33,360 --> 00:34:39,239 Speaker 1: and I give these children to your hands, not mine. 582 00:34:39,520 --> 00:34:43,200 Speaker 1: That was the longest way to answer your question. But Cassie, 583 00:34:43,239 --> 00:34:47,799 Speaker 1: I know that's the right answer. And by the way, 584 00:34:49,160 --> 00:34:52,120 Speaker 1: I do hope that I rustled some feathers with that 585 00:34:52,200 --> 00:34:55,920 Speaker 1: free will commentary because it is true, and it is 586 00:34:55,960 --> 00:34:59,680 Speaker 1: a fallacy in this country worldwide right now, and it 587 00:34:59,719 --> 00:35:03,480 Speaker 1: is it is what is keeping the prosperity Gospel, and 588 00:35:03,520 --> 00:35:07,239 Speaker 1: what is keeping the secret sensitive churches, and it is 589 00:35:07,280 --> 00:35:10,440 Speaker 1: what is keeping cultural Christianity that I was trapped in 590 00:35:10,600 --> 00:35:16,200 Speaker 1: for so long alive. And it is not the God 591 00:35:16,560 --> 00:35:19,560 Speaker 1: as revealed in the Bible. By the way you might ask, 592 00:35:19,840 --> 00:35:22,080 Speaker 1: you said grandeur. You said that we have claimed that 593 00:35:22,200 --> 00:35:24,480 Speaker 1: love is its greatest attribute. Well, but you say it's 594 00:35:24,520 --> 00:35:30,160 Speaker 1: not what is I say, God is holy, God is just, 595 00:35:31,360 --> 00:35:35,319 Speaker 1: God is love. God is all of these things maxed out. 596 00:35:36,160 --> 00:35:39,280 Speaker 1: But he's not one more than another. He's all of them. 597 00:35:39,760 --> 00:35:45,600 Speaker 1: God is Wrap your brain around that we have to 598 00:35:45,680 --> 00:35:49,399 Speaker 1: understand that if he's all love and not as much 599 00:35:49,600 --> 00:35:53,680 Speaker 1: just or not as much wrath, are not as much 600 00:35:54,880 --> 00:35:58,799 Speaker 1: merciful or not as much forgiving, are not as much 601 00:35:59,440 --> 00:36:02,920 Speaker 1: all knowing. If we take anything away, the scales tip 602 00:36:03,200 --> 00:36:06,839 Speaker 1: and he's not God anymore. He's making mistakes now. He's 603 00:36:06,920 --> 00:36:10,960 Speaker 1: leaning towards his dependencies now because he's needing to satisfy 604 00:36:11,040 --> 00:36:13,000 Speaker 1: one part of his attributes. It's a little heavier than 605 00:36:13,000 --> 00:36:15,960 Speaker 1: the other, and so he's making mistakes. He's catching up, 606 00:36:16,120 --> 00:36:19,000 Speaker 1: but he is already perfect. He's not growing or learning. 607 00:36:19,239 --> 00:36:23,960 Speaker 1: You cannot perfect something that's already perfect. And what I 608 00:36:24,000 --> 00:36:28,560 Speaker 1: need to do is move on because I'm preaching now. Please, 609 00:36:28,600 --> 00:36:31,680 Speaker 1: I'm so sorry, guys, sometimes I get a little bit, 610 00:36:32,280 --> 00:36:36,439 Speaker 1: a little bit too much. Le'm me trying to find 611 00:36:36,440 --> 00:36:40,600 Speaker 1: another one here. Some decline to this, one, says podcast 612 00:36:40,800 --> 00:36:43,960 Speaker 1: Parentheses Guidance. Hey Grangeer, my name is Skyler. I live 613 00:36:44,000 --> 00:36:47,760 Speaker 1: in Long Branch, Texas, or excuse me, Spring Branch, Texas. 614 00:36:48,160 --> 00:36:50,279 Speaker 1: I have been with my boyfriend for five years now, 615 00:36:50,520 --> 00:36:52,600 Speaker 1: and he's a man of few words. He loves guns 616 00:36:52,640 --> 00:36:56,520 Speaker 1: and trucks. He's simple. I need help with him when 617 00:36:56,560 --> 00:37:01,520 Speaker 1: we go out with friends. I feel shy and he's 618 00:37:02,880 --> 00:37:05,759 Speaker 1: You said guilty. What was guilty? Maybe I don't know 619 00:37:05,800 --> 00:37:09,760 Speaker 1: that word. I feel shy, guilty, Oh guilty, You probably 620 00:37:09,760 --> 00:37:12,160 Speaker 1: mean guilty. I feel shy and guilty that he's a 621 00:37:12,239 --> 00:37:15,360 Speaker 1: quiet man. I feel as if my friends are judging 622 00:37:15,480 --> 00:37:19,359 Speaker 1: him for not saying anything and bold letters you wrote this. 623 00:37:19,800 --> 00:37:22,799 Speaker 1: How do I ignore a move on from how I 624 00:37:22,840 --> 00:37:27,200 Speaker 1: feel from others? I'm tired of worrying how others feel. 625 00:37:28,000 --> 00:37:32,319 Speaker 1: M Skyler, thank you for email. And there's there's some 626 00:37:32,400 --> 00:37:37,200 Speaker 1: problems going on here and I'm not really sure what 627 00:37:37,239 --> 00:37:40,560 Speaker 1: the main problem is. From your email, you say you've 628 00:37:40,560 --> 00:37:42,920 Speaker 1: been here with your boyfriend for five years, and then 629 00:37:43,000 --> 00:37:47,040 Speaker 1: I'm gonna say, wow, why that long without an engagement? 630 00:37:47,239 --> 00:37:51,320 Speaker 1: But you know me by now. And then you say 631 00:37:51,040 --> 00:37:54,000 Speaker 1: your boyfriend is a man of few words, loves guns 632 00:37:54,000 --> 00:37:59,040 Speaker 1: and trucks, he's simple, sounds like a country boy. And 633 00:37:59,120 --> 00:38:03,080 Speaker 1: you say when you go out with friends. Okay, I'm 634 00:38:03,200 --> 00:38:05,920 Speaker 1: starting to understand. You go out with friends and you're 635 00:38:05,920 --> 00:38:08,800 Speaker 1: a little bit embarrassed that he is quiet and shy, 636 00:38:09,920 --> 00:38:11,919 Speaker 1: and you feel like your friends are going to judge 637 00:38:12,000 --> 00:38:15,040 Speaker 1: him because he's quiet and shy, and you want to 638 00:38:15,120 --> 00:38:19,080 Speaker 1: just ignore the friends and move on, but you worry 639 00:38:19,120 --> 00:38:21,400 Speaker 1: about what they think. Okay, I got it, I got it. 640 00:38:21,440 --> 00:38:23,120 Speaker 1: I got it. It just took me. I'm a little slow. 641 00:38:23,760 --> 00:38:28,000 Speaker 1: It took me a second. If you go out with friends, 642 00:38:28,160 --> 00:38:30,000 Speaker 1: let me say this bluntly. If you go out with 643 00:38:30,080 --> 00:38:34,600 Speaker 1: friends with your boyfriend who you love, who is a simple, 644 00:38:35,280 --> 00:38:38,480 Speaker 1: quiet man that you've been with for five years, and 645 00:38:38,520 --> 00:38:46,680 Speaker 1: they judge him for not saying much, you need new friends, bluntly, 646 00:38:48,200 --> 00:38:51,239 Speaker 1: then those are not your friends. If you're going to 647 00:38:51,320 --> 00:38:53,480 Speaker 1: go out with people that judge your boyfriend because he 648 00:38:53,520 --> 00:38:56,680 Speaker 1: doesn't talk that much and you love him, then they 649 00:38:56,680 --> 00:39:02,120 Speaker 1: don't love you because they should go say, oh, Skyler, 650 00:39:02,200 --> 00:39:04,960 Speaker 1: this is your boyfriend. Oh man, if you love him, 651 00:39:05,160 --> 00:39:08,120 Speaker 1: we love them too, because that's how close we are. 652 00:39:08,560 --> 00:39:10,759 Speaker 1: That's how we feel about you, Skyler. We are so 653 00:39:10,920 --> 00:39:12,920 Speaker 1: close with you that what you like. And if you 654 00:39:12,960 --> 00:39:14,600 Speaker 1: trust him and you love him and you think he's 655 00:39:14,640 --> 00:39:17,640 Speaker 1: a sweet guy, then we love him too. That's how 656 00:39:17,680 --> 00:39:20,759 Speaker 1: it should be. And if they don't, if they're judging him, 657 00:39:21,320 --> 00:39:26,400 Speaker 1: it's time for new friends. Okay, that's it. That's easy. Easy. 658 00:39:26,480 --> 00:39:30,840 Speaker 1: But here's what's not easy. Here's the harder part. Maybe 659 00:39:30,880 --> 00:39:34,040 Speaker 1: you're projecting this on your friends, like maybe they're not 660 00:39:34,160 --> 00:39:36,640 Speaker 1: judging them, maybe they're not thinking that at all, but 661 00:39:36,760 --> 00:39:39,680 Speaker 1: maybe you're projecting that on them. And then you get worried, 662 00:39:39,680 --> 00:39:43,480 Speaker 1: and then internally you get all clammed up and you think, oh, 663 00:39:43,640 --> 00:39:46,360 Speaker 1: they're he My boyfriend's not saying anything, and I'm embarrassed 664 00:39:46,360 --> 00:39:48,719 Speaker 1: of him, and my friends are probably judging even though 665 00:39:48,760 --> 00:39:50,880 Speaker 1: they're not saying it, they might be. And now this 666 00:39:51,000 --> 00:39:53,360 Speaker 1: is making me so uncomfortable, and I wish my boyfriend 667 00:39:53,400 --> 00:39:56,160 Speaker 1: would just talk, but he just sits there, and my 668 00:39:56,200 --> 00:39:58,960 Speaker 1: friends are so judgmental. And then you're in the middle 669 00:39:59,000 --> 00:40:03,320 Speaker 1: of this and the reality is possibly nobody's even saying anything, 670 00:40:03,960 --> 00:40:07,439 Speaker 1: including your boyfriend who doesn't talk much at all. You see, 671 00:40:07,480 --> 00:40:12,600 Speaker 1: the problem could be you, and you're misreading the situation 672 00:40:14,560 --> 00:40:18,719 Speaker 1: and so just being comfortable with him not saying anything 673 00:40:18,719 --> 00:40:20,239 Speaker 1: because you're not going to change him, and you might 674 00:40:20,320 --> 00:40:24,440 Speaker 1: want him to talk more, but he's just not. Let 675 00:40:24,480 --> 00:40:27,560 Speaker 1: me ask you a final question. You say he loves 676 00:40:27,560 --> 00:40:31,920 Speaker 1: guns and trucks. He's simple. Are you into those things? 677 00:40:33,840 --> 00:40:37,600 Speaker 1: I guarantee you you learn just a little bit about trucks, 678 00:40:39,520 --> 00:40:44,040 Speaker 1: you can get him talking. So my goal for you, 679 00:40:44,440 --> 00:40:47,560 Speaker 1: my challenge to you, Skyler, is that you start learning 680 00:40:47,600 --> 00:40:50,520 Speaker 1: a little bit about trucks, because every guy could talk 681 00:40:50,560 --> 00:40:53,560 Speaker 1: about trucks, and if he loves that, if that's in 682 00:40:53,600 --> 00:40:56,760 Speaker 1: the top two things that you think he loves, learn 683 00:40:57,120 --> 00:40:59,879 Speaker 1: about that. That's a good advice for anyone with their 684 00:40:59,880 --> 00:41:04,200 Speaker 1: spouas or with their significant other. Go out of your 685 00:41:04,200 --> 00:41:07,600 Speaker 1: way sometimes to learn a little bit about something that 686 00:41:07,640 --> 00:41:11,160 Speaker 1: they love that you don't necessarily care for. That is 687 00:41:11,239 --> 00:41:14,880 Speaker 1: such a great way to show love, to show compassion. 688 00:41:14,960 --> 00:41:16,640 Speaker 1: Sometimes we think it needs to come in the form 689 00:41:16,640 --> 00:41:21,239 Speaker 1: of buying gifts or lavishing other things or quality time. 690 00:41:21,800 --> 00:41:25,239 Speaker 1: Sometimes it comes in the form of learning something that 691 00:41:25,280 --> 00:41:30,600 Speaker 1: they love just for their sake. That's such a selfless 692 00:41:30,640 --> 00:41:33,759 Speaker 1: thing to do. And I think you might find that 693 00:41:33,920 --> 00:41:36,040 Speaker 1: he's going to open up a lot more and that 694 00:41:36,120 --> 00:41:40,000 Speaker 1: might even lead to new friends that like trucks. Just 695 00:41:40,040 --> 00:41:42,280 Speaker 1: a thought for you, Skyler, and I appreciate you emailing, 696 00:41:42,560 --> 00:41:45,319 Speaker 1: and thank all you guys for emailing. I love your 697 00:41:45,360 --> 00:41:47,200 Speaker 1: questions and I love doing this and you can email 698 00:41:47,239 --> 00:41:50,279 Speaker 1: me Grangersmith Podcast at gmail dot com. We're on the 699 00:41:50,280 --> 00:41:53,040 Speaker 1: countdown now for August first, when Like a River at 700 00:41:53,080 --> 00:41:55,759 Speaker 1: the book comes out so excited for that, So we'll 701 00:41:55,760 --> 00:42:01,200 Speaker 1: continue looking down the road to August first, twenty twenty three. 702 00:42:01,320 --> 00:42:03,279 Speaker 1: That's the year we're in. And just in case, this 703 00:42:03,320 --> 00:42:06,160 Speaker 1: podcast how you listen way down the road. But we're 704 00:42:06,160 --> 00:42:08,719 Speaker 1: looking forward to that. And I love you guys, and 705 00:42:08,800 --> 00:42:13,320 Speaker 1: thank you for the opportunity to bring me into your lives. 706 00:42:14,040 --> 00:42:17,160 Speaker 1: See thanks for joining me on the Granger Smith Podcast. 707 00:42:17,200 --> 00:42:19,680 Speaker 1: I appreciate all of you guys. You could help me 708 00:42:19,719 --> 00:42:23,280 Speaker 1: out by rating this podcast on iTunes. If you're on YouTube, 709 00:42:23,520 --> 00:42:26,759 Speaker 1: subscribe to this channel, hit that little like button and 710 00:42:26,920 --> 00:42:30,640 Speaker 1: notification spell so that you never miss anytime I upload 711 00:42:30,920 --> 00:42:33,120 Speaker 1: a video. If you have a question for me that 712 00:42:33,160 --> 00:42:37,160 Speaker 1: you would like me to answer, email Grangersmith Podcast at 713 00:42:37,200 --> 00:42:39,680 Speaker 1: gmail dot com. Yigi