1 00:00:11,840 --> 00:00:15,600 Speaker 1: Hello, Hello, Hello, Call It Crew, and welcome to another 2 00:00:15,640 --> 00:00:19,919 Speaker 1: episode of Call It what It Is. And yes, you 3 00:00:20,079 --> 00:00:23,639 Speaker 1: are correct. I did the hello, hello, hello, which I 4 00:00:23,680 --> 00:00:27,320 Speaker 1: really probably shouldn't have because it is Jessica Capshaw's signature 5 00:00:27,480 --> 00:00:30,800 Speaker 1: intro to this podcast. But she can't be with us today. 6 00:00:32,520 --> 00:00:36,080 Speaker 1: Usually our schedules time out super perfect with each other 7 00:00:36,560 --> 00:00:40,680 Speaker 1: and we get to make sure that we get to 8 00:00:40,680 --> 00:00:42,800 Speaker 1: make this podcast for you guys. But this week is 9 00:00:42,840 --> 00:00:46,239 Speaker 1: a huge episode for Joe Wilson on Gray's Anatomy. I 10 00:00:46,280 --> 00:00:48,880 Speaker 1: can't say what it is, but I'm filming every single 11 00:00:48,960 --> 00:00:52,559 Speaker 1: day except today, and she happened to be working today, 12 00:00:53,720 --> 00:00:57,520 Speaker 1: so it felt like, yes, my work wife can't be 13 00:00:57,640 --> 00:01:02,200 Speaker 1: here today, is it time to bring my side piece? 14 00:01:03,480 --> 00:01:07,240 Speaker 1: And I felt like yes it was, And who is 15 00:01:07,319 --> 00:01:12,360 Speaker 1: that side piece? That's Matthew Allen, my husband. So Matthew Allan, 16 00:01:13,280 --> 00:01:14,160 Speaker 1: welcome to the pod. 17 00:01:14,760 --> 00:01:15,920 Speaker 2: Thank you, thank you. 18 00:01:16,040 --> 00:01:17,920 Speaker 1: How are you feeling about this because we did we've 19 00:01:17,959 --> 00:01:19,920 Speaker 1: talked about this. First off, I have to say that 20 00:01:20,000 --> 00:01:22,200 Speaker 1: I when I found outjess couldn't do it, I went 21 00:01:22,200 --> 00:01:25,040 Speaker 1: into the kitchen yes, and I just I didn't even ask. 22 00:01:25,080 --> 00:01:28,039 Speaker 1: I just said to you, you're doing the podcast on Wednesday. 23 00:01:28,319 --> 00:01:29,600 Speaker 2: I was talking to my mom at the time. 24 00:01:29,720 --> 00:01:32,200 Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, and I said, you're just you're doing it, goodbye, 25 00:01:32,240 --> 00:01:34,240 Speaker 1: And then Jessica thought maybe she could do it. So 26 00:01:34,280 --> 00:01:36,319 Speaker 1: I came in later and I said, you're fired. You're 27 00:01:36,319 --> 00:01:37,160 Speaker 1: not doing it right. 28 00:01:37,520 --> 00:01:41,800 Speaker 2: Yeah. I was looking forward to it, but very intimidated 29 00:01:41,880 --> 00:01:42,440 Speaker 2: the moment. 30 00:01:42,280 --> 00:01:44,000 Speaker 1: You tell yeah yeah, yeah. So I said, don't worry, 31 00:01:44,040 --> 00:01:47,240 Speaker 1: you're not needed, goodbye, And then we realized that Jessica 32 00:01:47,280 --> 00:01:49,200 Speaker 1: really couldn't do it. So you are here today. 33 00:01:49,440 --> 00:01:52,440 Speaker 2: I'm here to support. I'm here to fill some very 34 00:01:52,440 --> 00:01:56,160 Speaker 2: big shoes, some big heels, some giant heels. Yeah, okay, 35 00:01:56,560 --> 00:01:57,520 Speaker 2: I'm excited to be here. 36 00:01:57,720 --> 00:01:59,040 Speaker 1: You're nervous, though, I am. 37 00:01:59,440 --> 00:02:02,080 Speaker 2: I've been nervous all morning, to be honest. Yeah. You 38 00:02:02,080 --> 00:02:05,600 Speaker 2: guys make it looks, you know, so so seamless, and 39 00:02:05,760 --> 00:02:08,320 Speaker 2: you do yeah, and like a well oiled machine. So 40 00:02:08,560 --> 00:02:10,640 Speaker 2: I don't want to step on anyone's toes and. 41 00:02:10,600 --> 00:02:12,320 Speaker 1: Like, no, no, you're already the. 42 00:02:12,280 --> 00:02:16,799 Speaker 2: Virus the ship off up track, which I tend to do. 43 00:02:17,080 --> 00:02:21,240 Speaker 2: I hope I can offer some unfiltered advice, male advice. 44 00:02:21,440 --> 00:02:23,080 Speaker 1: Yes, that's why you're here. 45 00:02:23,440 --> 00:02:24,840 Speaker 2: Thanks for having me, of course. 46 00:02:24,919 --> 00:02:26,400 Speaker 1: Now I think we have to back it up a 47 00:02:26,440 --> 00:02:28,640 Speaker 1: little bit because I let's talk about the promo that 48 00:02:28,680 --> 00:02:30,680 Speaker 1: I sent out talking about you. 49 00:02:31,800 --> 00:02:33,239 Speaker 2: One said get in the car. 50 00:02:33,400 --> 00:02:35,640 Speaker 1: So yeah, yeah, So here's what happened to talk about. 51 00:02:35,680 --> 00:02:39,360 Speaker 1: iHeart was like, well, let's promote Matt and Camilla coming 52 00:02:39,400 --> 00:02:41,959 Speaker 1: on the show together. And I was like, great, love it. Kyle, 53 00:02:42,320 --> 00:02:45,960 Speaker 1: our social media guru, put together this little thing and 54 00:02:46,200 --> 00:02:48,480 Speaker 1: this picture of me getting to the car and you 55 00:02:48,560 --> 00:02:50,480 Speaker 1: behind me in the car. It was all thank you 56 00:02:50,520 --> 00:02:54,160 Speaker 1: to me, and and he's I said, well, let's make 57 00:02:54,280 --> 00:02:56,200 Speaker 1: something cute and funny, and I said, let's do that 58 00:02:56,240 --> 00:02:58,919 Speaker 1: mean girls quote get in the car, loser we're going shopping, 59 00:02:59,240 --> 00:03:00,960 Speaker 1: but like make it, get in the car, lows we're 60 00:03:01,000 --> 00:03:03,480 Speaker 1: going potting. And then like that's that like funny, play 61 00:03:03,480 --> 00:03:06,600 Speaker 1: on it and everyone will know that. Senate to Matt 62 00:03:07,280 --> 00:03:09,520 Speaker 1: text it because he was downstairs. I was upstairs, couldn't 63 00:03:09,480 --> 00:03:11,560 Speaker 1: be ballwed to walk downstairs. I said, oh my god, 64 00:03:11,560 --> 00:03:14,160 Speaker 1: look at this. It's so cute. Zero response from you 65 00:03:14,240 --> 00:03:14,560 Speaker 1: on it. 66 00:03:15,320 --> 00:03:17,560 Speaker 2: Did any respond No, you didn't any response. I didn't 67 00:03:17,560 --> 00:03:20,440 Speaker 2: do like a a haha, No, not even a haha. 68 00:03:20,480 --> 00:03:22,400 Speaker 1: That was nothing. It was like radio science. So I 69 00:03:22,440 --> 00:03:25,760 Speaker 1: was like whatever. Obviously he loves it. He thinks it's incredible. 70 00:03:26,080 --> 00:03:28,960 Speaker 1: And then Jessica text me in the morning and she said, 71 00:03:29,080 --> 00:03:31,399 Speaker 1: did you reprove this right? 72 00:03:31,600 --> 00:03:31,880 Speaker 2: Yes? 73 00:03:32,040 --> 00:03:33,480 Speaker 1: And so I was like, what is she? 74 00:03:33,639 --> 00:03:33,720 Speaker 2: Like? 75 00:03:34,080 --> 00:03:36,440 Speaker 1: Why is she asking if I approved it? And then 76 00:03:36,480 --> 00:03:42,800 Speaker 1: I realized maybe not everyone knows that quote and thinks 77 00:03:42,840 --> 00:03:46,160 Speaker 1: I'm actually just calling you a loser, right right? And 78 00:03:46,240 --> 00:03:48,080 Speaker 1: so I text jess I said, do you know this 79 00:03:48,160 --> 00:03:50,640 Speaker 1: mean girl's quote? She was like, definitely not. I thought 80 00:03:50,680 --> 00:03:52,800 Speaker 1: you allegit calling him a loser. So then I went 81 00:03:52,880 --> 00:03:55,440 Speaker 1: up to you and I said, did you have any 82 00:03:55,480 --> 00:03:58,200 Speaker 1: idea this was from a movie? And you said. 83 00:03:58,240 --> 00:04:01,240 Speaker 2: Nope, nope. I just thought you were calling me a loser. 84 00:04:01,280 --> 00:04:04,080 Speaker 2: And I was totally down to you know. 85 00:04:04,680 --> 00:04:07,240 Speaker 1: This is what I don't understand. You really thought that 86 00:04:07,360 --> 00:04:09,680 Speaker 1: I was calling you a loser. Like if you had 87 00:04:09,680 --> 00:04:11,760 Speaker 1: said that to me, I would even like, get upstairs 88 00:04:11,840 --> 00:04:13,080 Speaker 1: right now, we need to have a conversation. 89 00:04:13,400 --> 00:04:16,320 Speaker 2: What I thought it was. You know, it was supposed 90 00:04:16,360 --> 00:04:19,600 Speaker 2: to be, you know, in good humor, and I was 91 00:04:19,640 --> 00:04:22,720 Speaker 2: along for the ride. But I mean, that's supportive husband, right. 92 00:04:23,040 --> 00:04:25,599 Speaker 2: It was very supportive, even though I didn't get the joke. 93 00:04:27,839 --> 00:04:30,240 Speaker 2: So supportive but now that I get. 94 00:04:30,080 --> 00:04:35,960 Speaker 1: The joke of it, Okay. So so then I said 95 00:04:35,960 --> 00:04:38,640 Speaker 1: to you, you know you're going to come today, and 96 00:04:38,680 --> 00:04:41,480 Speaker 1: I said, we're going to do this really cool podcast. 97 00:04:41,520 --> 00:04:44,360 Speaker 1: We're gonna talk about relationships and dating and like maybe 98 00:04:44,360 --> 00:04:46,840 Speaker 1: even sex and maybe we'll just get into all this stuff. 99 00:04:47,120 --> 00:04:49,400 Speaker 1: And then what was your first question that you had 100 00:04:49,480 --> 00:04:50,400 Speaker 1: right after I said that? 101 00:04:50,520 --> 00:04:57,520 Speaker 2: Honestly, yeah, I asked if the chair that I'm going 102 00:04:57,560 --> 00:05:03,520 Speaker 2: to be sitting in there will support my back. Yeah, 103 00:05:03,680 --> 00:05:05,520 Speaker 2: it was an honest question because it was I know, 104 00:05:05,680 --> 00:05:08,400 Speaker 2: this is a long period of time, and I, yeah, 105 00:05:08,600 --> 00:05:10,240 Speaker 2: when I commit to something, I got to think of, Like, 106 00:05:10,720 --> 00:05:12,560 Speaker 2: I don't know, my back hurts all the time, I'm 107 00:05:12,600 --> 00:05:15,120 Speaker 2: tired all the time. He's a complaints You hear me 108 00:05:15,279 --> 00:05:17,000 Speaker 2: complain about all the time. So I just wanted to 109 00:05:17,000 --> 00:05:18,640 Speaker 2: make sure that it was going to be a miserable 110 00:05:18,680 --> 00:05:20,359 Speaker 2: experience for you, as. 111 00:05:20,160 --> 00:05:21,960 Speaker 1: Well as as you and the listeners. 112 00:05:22,279 --> 00:05:25,120 Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't need to hear me grunting and groaning 113 00:05:25,160 --> 00:05:27,240 Speaker 2: every time I readjust myself. 114 00:05:27,080 --> 00:05:29,080 Speaker 1: This is true. But I was trying to set up 115 00:05:29,120 --> 00:05:32,760 Speaker 1: this like kind of sexy mood, right, and then you 116 00:05:32,880 --> 00:05:35,880 Speaker 1: killed it by saying, is my background hurt. 117 00:05:36,120 --> 00:05:38,440 Speaker 2: When I'm sitting I just immediately got a little nervous 118 00:05:39,000 --> 00:05:39,880 Speaker 2: where my mind went. 119 00:05:41,520 --> 00:05:43,520 Speaker 1: I think that we need to tell the story because 120 00:05:43,520 --> 00:05:46,359 Speaker 1: it's a perfect example of maybe a time you should 121 00:05:46,360 --> 00:05:50,960 Speaker 1: have listened to me, Okay, how your back ended up 122 00:05:51,000 --> 00:05:53,440 Speaker 1: being in the disaster that it is. 123 00:05:53,520 --> 00:05:56,799 Speaker 2: Now, of all the things they don't want to hear about. 124 00:05:56,640 --> 00:05:57,880 Speaker 1: This, they're going to hear about it. 125 00:05:59,680 --> 00:06:02,320 Speaker 2: Yes, you saw you saw it coming. Long story short, 126 00:06:02,400 --> 00:06:06,680 Speaker 2: I did one of those Spartan obstacle course basically American, 127 00:06:08,880 --> 00:06:12,400 Speaker 2: and I had injured my back, you know, a few 128 00:06:12,440 --> 00:06:14,159 Speaker 2: days prior. But I was like, I can push through. 129 00:06:14,400 --> 00:06:16,599 Speaker 1: No, no, no, hang on, I feel like you're already telling 130 00:06:16,600 --> 00:06:18,400 Speaker 1: a little bit of a lie. Oh, here we go, 131 00:06:18,560 --> 00:06:21,960 Speaker 1: because the truth is that did you train really hard? 132 00:06:22,040 --> 00:06:26,039 Speaker 2: Oh? I forgot that I didn't train that. Okay, I 133 00:06:26,080 --> 00:06:28,040 Speaker 2: didn't train the way that I should have, but I 134 00:06:28,120 --> 00:06:31,560 Speaker 2: really thought that I could handle it. I thought I 135 00:06:31,560 --> 00:06:33,640 Speaker 2: could wing it. I had done one before, but I 136 00:06:33,760 --> 00:06:35,479 Speaker 2: trained a lot for it, so this one I was like, 137 00:06:35,960 --> 00:06:37,600 Speaker 2: let's just do it. It was supposed to be a 138 00:06:37,640 --> 00:06:40,680 Speaker 2: motivation for me to you know, get back into shape. 139 00:06:40,760 --> 00:06:43,719 Speaker 1: And so you and I saw that you were in 140 00:06:43,800 --> 00:06:47,160 Speaker 1: like a wing. It kind of mood with it, and 141 00:06:47,240 --> 00:06:50,680 Speaker 1: I said to you, I see you winging it happening, 142 00:06:51,440 --> 00:06:53,520 Speaker 1: and you're gonna really this is going to be disaster, 143 00:06:53,640 --> 00:06:57,200 Speaker 1: going to hurt yourself, and you're like, don't worry baby. 144 00:06:58,120 --> 00:06:58,320 Speaker 2: Yeah. 145 00:06:58,400 --> 00:06:58,599 Speaker 1: Yeah. 146 00:06:59,560 --> 00:07:02,040 Speaker 2: And then on the second obstacle, I threw it out 147 00:07:02,080 --> 00:07:06,960 Speaker 2: again completely, like real bad. Yeah, but I still pushed through. 148 00:07:07,600 --> 00:07:09,200 Speaker 2: I know, I pushed through all the right of the 149 00:07:09,279 --> 00:07:11,880 Speaker 2: end and damage did even more than I. Yeah, it 150 00:07:11,920 --> 00:07:14,840 Speaker 2: was terrible at the beginning. So but I finished the race. 151 00:07:14,920 --> 00:07:18,320 Speaker 1: You finished the race, and then you came home and 152 00:07:19,000 --> 00:07:21,520 Speaker 1: you basically couldn't move and you were probably the only 153 00:07:21,560 --> 00:07:24,840 Speaker 1: person that's given yourself scoliosis. 154 00:07:25,000 --> 00:07:29,000 Speaker 2: Basically by the time I got home from the race, Yeah, 155 00:07:29,200 --> 00:07:31,720 Speaker 2: it was a two hour drive from San Diego. I 156 00:07:31,760 --> 00:07:33,920 Speaker 2: couldn't move. I had to be wheeled out of the car, 157 00:07:34,000 --> 00:07:36,880 Speaker 2: and yeah, I was flat on my back for recast. 158 00:07:36,960 --> 00:07:39,840 Speaker 1: So this is the the back has been part is 159 00:07:39,920 --> 00:07:41,600 Speaker 1: kind of the third wheel in our relationship. 160 00:07:41,840 --> 00:07:47,440 Speaker 2: It has been the giant elephant that's always in the room. Yeah. 161 00:07:47,920 --> 00:07:50,040 Speaker 1: So I mean it was a legit question when the 162 00:07:50,160 --> 00:07:51,440 Speaker 1: chairs would be comfortable today. 163 00:07:52,080 --> 00:07:54,080 Speaker 2: So yeah, that was the first thing I thought of 164 00:07:54,120 --> 00:07:56,080 Speaker 2: just because I wanted to, you know, make it good 165 00:07:56,120 --> 00:07:57,280 Speaker 2: for you. It had nothing to do with it. 166 00:07:57,320 --> 00:07:58,640 Speaker 1: And you're feeling I'm good. 167 00:07:58,680 --> 00:07:59,000 Speaker 2: I'm good. 168 00:07:59,200 --> 00:08:01,040 Speaker 1: I think we can I think we can set the 169 00:08:01,040 --> 00:08:04,240 Speaker 1: mood with this. I think that we can break the 170 00:08:04,280 --> 00:08:10,680 Speaker 1: ice also with just asking each other a couple icebreaker questions. 171 00:08:11,240 --> 00:08:16,600 Speaker 2: Okay, a simple one. Okay, okay, we just saw this recently. 172 00:08:16,920 --> 00:08:17,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, what is it. 173 00:08:19,520 --> 00:08:25,240 Speaker 2: In the substance? Would you take the substance if given 174 00:08:25,280 --> 00:08:25,720 Speaker 2: the chance. 175 00:08:26,000 --> 00:08:29,720 Speaker 1: I've given the chance. I think that you For those 176 00:08:29,760 --> 00:08:32,800 Speaker 1: who don't know, this is a movie about somebody Denimore 177 00:08:32,880 --> 00:08:36,760 Speaker 1: taking the substance and basically a younger version of herself 178 00:08:36,880 --> 00:08:40,840 Speaker 1: ends up living, coming out of her body, literally out 179 00:08:40,840 --> 00:08:43,640 Speaker 1: of her back and living, and they have to they. 180 00:08:43,640 --> 00:08:45,240 Speaker 2: If they came out of my bag, I'd be done. 181 00:08:45,440 --> 00:08:47,680 Speaker 1: First off, you don't have a back for it to 182 00:08:47,679 --> 00:08:49,840 Speaker 1: come out of, so that you're out of there's no 183 00:08:49,920 --> 00:08:52,720 Speaker 1: option for you. You wouldn't get offered it for me. Okay, 184 00:08:52,720 --> 00:08:57,400 Speaker 1: I gotta say, I don't understand the why you would 185 00:08:57,400 --> 00:09:01,480 Speaker 1: take it because you don't get to experience the younger you. 186 00:09:01,480 --> 00:09:03,679 Speaker 1: You're just off for a week. Although I do love 187 00:09:03,720 --> 00:09:05,480 Speaker 1: a nap, so it's like I know. 188 00:09:05,559 --> 00:09:07,520 Speaker 2: Wait, hang on, now, I'm thanking you wake up well 189 00:09:07,559 --> 00:09:08,240 Speaker 2: rested after this. 190 00:09:09,160 --> 00:09:10,920 Speaker 1: Maybe you do because you've had a whole week off 191 00:09:11,000 --> 00:09:13,559 Speaker 1: with the kids. Do I need a young Well, let me. 192 00:09:13,520 --> 00:09:17,360 Speaker 2: Ask you factoring kids into this, well you that's me. 193 00:09:17,520 --> 00:09:19,360 Speaker 1: I'm taking the substance. It's like, I have a week 194 00:09:19,400 --> 00:09:22,839 Speaker 1: off from like lunches and shit. I don't know. 195 00:09:22,960 --> 00:09:24,800 Speaker 2: Bonus, that's not kind of nice. 196 00:09:24,840 --> 00:09:26,800 Speaker 1: Wait, I have a question for you back then. Hang on, 197 00:09:26,840 --> 00:09:29,200 Speaker 1: this isn't one of my two questions, but would you 198 00:09:29,400 --> 00:09:34,400 Speaker 1: want younger Camilla for a week every other week? To 199 00:09:34,440 --> 00:09:35,080 Speaker 1: be honest, I. 200 00:09:35,080 --> 00:09:37,160 Speaker 2: Mean, I'm gonna be honest. Younger Camilla is not making 201 00:09:37,160 --> 00:09:39,840 Speaker 2: the sandwiches, so she's not taking a break from those. 202 00:09:41,440 --> 00:09:44,800 Speaker 1: Old Camilla is also not making the sandwiches Younger. 203 00:09:44,520 --> 00:09:45,880 Speaker 2: Camilla making she's not either. 204 00:09:46,080 --> 00:09:47,920 Speaker 1: She's doing what she's doing. Do you know what I mean? 205 00:09:47,960 --> 00:09:51,760 Speaker 1: She's okay, she's just being amazing out in the world. 206 00:09:52,640 --> 00:09:56,560 Speaker 2: Yeah, I would be down to see what you Camilla is. 207 00:09:56,920 --> 00:09:59,480 Speaker 1: The truth is a wow. I don't know how I 208 00:09:59,480 --> 00:10:01,360 Speaker 1: feel about that. Okay, let me ask you a question. 209 00:10:01,760 --> 00:10:03,520 Speaker 1: What is the most annoying thing about me? 210 00:10:05,040 --> 00:10:08,200 Speaker 2: On the spot? So it's going to cause an argument. 211 00:10:08,720 --> 00:10:16,560 Speaker 2: Am I, Oh, yeah, you're a shotgun driver. What's a 212 00:10:16,559 --> 00:10:19,400 Speaker 2: shotgun when I'm driving you trying to drive from the 213 00:10:19,480 --> 00:10:21,079 Speaker 2: side from the shotgun spot? 214 00:10:22,679 --> 00:10:24,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, it does. No, We do argue over that. If 215 00:10:24,800 --> 00:10:27,880 Speaker 1: they did have another steering wheel for me, I would 216 00:10:27,960 --> 00:10:28,480 Speaker 1: appreciate it. 217 00:10:28,559 --> 00:10:31,840 Speaker 2: Ye, Like literally, driving with the kids is one thing, 218 00:10:31,920 --> 00:10:34,400 Speaker 2: but with the kids and you and I'm the one driving. 219 00:10:34,600 --> 00:10:38,680 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I have to say that you drive like 220 00:10:39,559 --> 00:10:42,719 Speaker 1: a ninety year old who should not be on the 221 00:10:42,840 --> 00:10:45,520 Speaker 1: road and who has all the time in the world. 222 00:10:46,480 --> 00:10:48,760 Speaker 1: It is the most annoying version of driving. 223 00:10:48,760 --> 00:10:51,679 Speaker 2: I drive slow, but I feel like it's always a 224 00:10:51,720 --> 00:10:55,160 Speaker 2: safety thing, like I'm always aware of everybody. I'm protecting 225 00:10:55,200 --> 00:10:55,800 Speaker 2: my family. 226 00:10:56,040 --> 00:10:57,960 Speaker 1: I get that. But we don't. We usually get there 227 00:10:58,400 --> 00:11:00,560 Speaker 1: to the destination like the next day, you know what 228 00:11:00,559 --> 00:11:01,880 Speaker 1: I'm saying, like, Yeah, we don't. 229 00:11:02,000 --> 00:11:04,520 Speaker 2: It could be a heavy medium. But when I'm driving 230 00:11:04,720 --> 00:11:08,800 Speaker 2: and you're trying to drive, that's probably I'm getting worked 231 00:11:08,840 --> 00:11:09,840 Speaker 2: up just talking about it. 232 00:11:10,880 --> 00:11:13,640 Speaker 1: Don't worry about it. I honestly think that I listen. 233 00:11:13,720 --> 00:11:16,080 Speaker 1: I think I am another set of eyes on the 234 00:11:16,160 --> 00:11:16,800 Speaker 1: road helping. 235 00:11:18,320 --> 00:11:22,480 Speaker 2: That's what we're calling that. Sure, Yeah, yeah, that's what what. 236 00:11:22,720 --> 00:11:24,439 Speaker 1: I don't know if yours work that, Well. 237 00:11:24,760 --> 00:11:28,080 Speaker 2: I'm gonna go ahead and ask the same question back, what's. 238 00:11:27,960 --> 00:11:29,000 Speaker 1: The most annoying thing about you? 239 00:11:29,160 --> 00:11:32,520 Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm gonna bring up the back again. 240 00:11:32,600 --> 00:11:33,920 Speaker 1: No, I'm not going to bring up the back. There's 241 00:11:33,920 --> 00:11:36,800 Speaker 1: not going to be another thing. Don't worry the most 242 00:11:37,000 --> 00:11:41,200 Speaker 1: annoying Oh my god, you do. Matt is a dropper. 243 00:11:42,840 --> 00:11:47,360 Speaker 1: You're a dropper. You drop things that like, you don't 244 00:11:47,400 --> 00:11:51,040 Speaker 1: even you can't even believe that someone would drop like 245 00:11:51,080 --> 00:11:51,960 Speaker 1: you're I find. 246 00:11:51,720 --> 00:11:56,120 Speaker 2: Ways to drop things that it's impossible. How I drop that? 247 00:11:56,120 --> 00:11:58,880 Speaker 1: But yeah, no, it's almost it's almost supernatural. 248 00:11:59,080 --> 00:12:01,160 Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, so it's a talent. 249 00:12:01,800 --> 00:12:04,719 Speaker 1: Well, it's like a power that no one would want. 250 00:12:04,960 --> 00:12:08,120 Speaker 2: Okay, do you want to tell them the carpet story? 251 00:12:08,200 --> 00:12:10,280 Speaker 1: Yeah, because this is oh my god, this is turning 252 00:12:10,320 --> 00:12:12,760 Speaker 1: into the biggest marriage pod right now. We just had 253 00:12:12,800 --> 00:12:13,880 Speaker 1: a new carpet. 254 00:12:13,480 --> 00:12:16,480 Speaker 2: Installed on our stairs, the only carpet. 255 00:12:16,000 --> 00:12:18,040 Speaker 1: That we've ever Okay, so Matt and I have never 256 00:12:18,200 --> 00:12:20,160 Speaker 1: like when we've moved into a home, we've never like 257 00:12:20,360 --> 00:12:24,120 Speaker 1: really invested in, Like, let's put wallpaper on the walls, 258 00:12:24,160 --> 00:12:26,559 Speaker 1: Let's change the carpet, Let's do this and that this 259 00:12:26,720 --> 00:12:30,160 Speaker 1: is the first home that we've really like deep dived into. 260 00:12:31,000 --> 00:12:33,439 Speaker 2: You've taken a lot of care, taking a lot of care. 261 00:12:33,840 --> 00:12:35,920 Speaker 1: Yes, And so we like we did the carpet on 262 00:12:35,960 --> 00:12:39,360 Speaker 1: the stairs, and it was we were like really admiring it, 263 00:12:39,400 --> 00:12:42,520 Speaker 1: like you know, we're having those annoying marriage conversations of like, god, 264 00:12:42,559 --> 00:12:44,920 Speaker 1: it's just like so soft on my feet. 265 00:12:45,480 --> 00:12:48,800 Speaker 2: Yes, all those Okay, it just looks so nice every time. 266 00:12:48,960 --> 00:12:50,559 Speaker 2: I love it from this angle. I love it from 267 00:12:50,600 --> 00:12:51,080 Speaker 2: this angle. 268 00:12:51,160 --> 00:12:53,040 Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah. 269 00:12:53,080 --> 00:12:55,960 Speaker 2: I was carrying a hot, perfectly made cup of coffee 270 00:12:56,000 --> 00:12:59,920 Speaker 2: up the stairs. Yeah, and I tripped and spilt it. 271 00:12:59,720 --> 00:13:01,520 Speaker 1: All over about four. 272 00:13:01,280 --> 00:13:05,560 Speaker 2: Steps, two steps and the front of the next one. 273 00:13:06,040 --> 00:13:08,800 Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah. Well what was interesting to me is like, 274 00:13:08,920 --> 00:13:12,480 Speaker 1: you know, like a regular sized coffee cup. Yeah, somehow 275 00:13:12,520 --> 00:13:15,480 Speaker 1: you were able to like get two leaders of coffee. 276 00:13:15,480 --> 00:13:18,360 Speaker 2: It was like an entire two leaders had been poured 277 00:13:18,600 --> 00:13:21,280 Speaker 2: strategically on the carpet. Yeah. 278 00:13:21,400 --> 00:13:24,680 Speaker 1: Yeah. And just the image of you falling. You weren't 279 00:13:24,679 --> 00:13:26,360 Speaker 1: even falling down, falling up the side. 280 00:13:26,480 --> 00:13:28,280 Speaker 2: I fell up and I tripped and I did one 281 00:13:28,280 --> 00:13:30,120 Speaker 2: of those like kind of fall under your knee and 282 00:13:30,160 --> 00:13:32,720 Speaker 2: then kind of sit into it. Yeah, you sat and 283 00:13:32,760 --> 00:13:36,120 Speaker 2: it all happened so fast. Yeah, I was all by myself, 284 00:13:36,360 --> 00:13:41,400 Speaker 2: and the disappointment I had when I spilled that coffee 285 00:13:41,400 --> 00:13:42,120 Speaker 2: and that carpet. 286 00:13:43,679 --> 00:13:45,720 Speaker 1: I mean we could have gotten divorced over just that. 287 00:13:45,800 --> 00:13:47,880 Speaker 2: To be honest, I told the guy when he came 288 00:13:47,920 --> 00:13:50,320 Speaker 2: to fix it, please do this fast. We're on the brink. 289 00:13:50,960 --> 00:13:52,960 Speaker 1: Yeah. In fact, you were so upset over it that 290 00:13:53,000 --> 00:13:55,160 Speaker 1: we can't we should disclose that you put a towel 291 00:13:55,280 --> 00:13:57,480 Speaker 1: over the force. I couldn't look at it for three days, 292 00:13:57,480 --> 00:13:59,240 Speaker 1: and you're like, I can't even look at it. Yeah, 293 00:13:59,280 --> 00:14:01,959 Speaker 1: and you were like, don't look like. 294 00:14:02,000 --> 00:14:04,680 Speaker 2: Almost string to bother you. After a couple of days, 295 00:14:04,960 --> 00:14:07,120 Speaker 2: you're being really cool at the beginning, and then the 296 00:14:07,160 --> 00:14:08,840 Speaker 2: next day it was like this is kind of boring 297 00:14:08,960 --> 00:14:10,520 Speaker 2: me a little bit. And then the next day it 298 00:14:10,600 --> 00:14:12,320 Speaker 2: was like this is really bothered me. And then by 299 00:14:12,400 --> 00:14:14,840 Speaker 2: day three you were so I was like you were 300 00:14:14,920 --> 00:14:17,360 Speaker 2: dead to me. Yeah. I couldn't even Yeah. 301 00:14:17,480 --> 00:14:19,200 Speaker 1: Yeah, the first day I was being cool about it. 302 00:14:19,240 --> 00:14:21,200 Speaker 1: You put this towel there and it was like we 303 00:14:21,200 --> 00:14:23,760 Speaker 1: were covering like blood from a dead body, and you're like, 304 00:14:23,840 --> 00:14:25,000 Speaker 1: don't look at it. It's too much. 305 00:14:25,280 --> 00:14:26,160 Speaker 2: You can't change. 306 00:14:27,440 --> 00:14:28,920 Speaker 1: And then so I did peak, and I'm like, it's 307 00:14:28,920 --> 00:14:30,680 Speaker 1: all good. And then by day three I was like, 308 00:14:31,840 --> 00:14:33,200 Speaker 1: you need to go see a doctor or something is 309 00:14:33,200 --> 00:14:34,520 Speaker 1: wrong with you. 310 00:14:34,600 --> 00:14:38,240 Speaker 2: Yeah, I hear about the drops. Ever since, I'm so 311 00:14:38,320 --> 00:14:40,000 Speaker 2: glad we spent so much time on my mind. 312 00:14:40,120 --> 00:14:42,640 Speaker 1: I mean, listen, it's you asked the question. The other 313 00:14:42,640 --> 00:14:46,200 Speaker 1: thing that does annoy me is you're sneezing. It's really 314 00:14:46,440 --> 00:14:56,040 Speaker 1: I feel like it's a little intention seeking. Okay, because okay, 315 00:14:56,240 --> 00:14:58,800 Speaker 1: let's call it what it is. Do you ever seeze 316 00:14:58,840 --> 00:14:59,840 Speaker 1: just one single time? 317 00:15:01,160 --> 00:15:04,800 Speaker 2: I can't. I can't just sneeze one time. My body 318 00:15:04,800 --> 00:15:06,000 Speaker 2: does not allow me to do that. 319 00:15:06,200 --> 00:15:07,720 Speaker 1: It's twelve sneeze is in a row. 320 00:15:07,800 --> 00:15:10,000 Speaker 2: It's not well. But I do sneeze more than the 321 00:15:10,040 --> 00:15:10,720 Speaker 2: average person. 322 00:15:11,520 --> 00:15:14,240 Speaker 1: Yes, And it's like literally getting mad at. 323 00:15:14,120 --> 00:15:16,920 Speaker 2: Me when I when I if I crossed the three 324 00:15:17,080 --> 00:15:18,800 Speaker 2: sneeze threshold. 325 00:15:18,560 --> 00:15:21,240 Speaker 1: Because it's not for some reason, no, because it's it 326 00:15:21,280 --> 00:15:23,640 Speaker 1: feels at that point it feels a little attention seeking, 327 00:15:26,840 --> 00:15:29,280 Speaker 1: and it feels like, okay, everyone be quiet, well Dad, 328 00:15:29,560 --> 00:15:31,880 Speaker 1: the next five minutes will Dad finishes out sneeze and 329 00:15:31,920 --> 00:15:33,840 Speaker 1: it's like nobody else needs to do it but you. 330 00:15:34,000 --> 00:15:35,720 Speaker 1: So it feels like you're trying to have a moment. 331 00:15:38,320 --> 00:15:43,360 Speaker 2: I cannot. I'm not even I have allergies. I don't 332 00:15:43,440 --> 00:15:44,280 Speaker 2: enjoy it. 333 00:15:44,280 --> 00:15:48,560 Speaker 1: It's I don't know, I understand, but it's getting worse 334 00:15:48,600 --> 00:15:52,560 Speaker 1: with age. I'm just big you. Okay, Well, we'll stop 335 00:15:52,600 --> 00:15:54,400 Speaker 1: the ice breaking because we're gonna end up breaking up 336 00:15:54,400 --> 00:15:56,920 Speaker 1: by the end of this EP. So okay. So the 337 00:15:56,960 --> 00:16:01,360 Speaker 1: main question that everyone asked that came in was and 338 00:16:01,400 --> 00:16:03,200 Speaker 1: then we'll get into all the individual questions, but the 339 00:16:03,200 --> 00:16:05,400 Speaker 1: main question was how did you and I meet? 340 00:16:06,200 --> 00:16:13,160 Speaker 2: I'm we were. We were servers, really good servers, and 341 00:16:13,920 --> 00:16:14,200 Speaker 2: at a. 342 00:16:14,160 --> 00:16:17,160 Speaker 1: Sports bar, at a sports bar in Los Angeles. Do 343 00:16:17,320 --> 00:16:18,760 Speaker 1: you think I was actually really good? 344 00:16:20,040 --> 00:16:22,640 Speaker 2: No? No, you were. You were not good, But that's 345 00:16:22,680 --> 00:16:25,640 Speaker 2: why we bonded, being the really good server that I am. Yeah, 346 00:16:25,760 --> 00:16:28,600 Speaker 2: I you know I I you climbed the road. I 347 00:16:28,720 --> 00:16:31,120 Speaker 2: climbed through that company. I got a call from a 348 00:16:31,200 --> 00:16:35,160 Speaker 2: disgruntled customer complaining about a girl named Camilla that had 349 00:16:35,160 --> 00:16:38,280 Speaker 2: waited on them. I remember telling that I was going 350 00:16:38,360 --> 00:16:39,360 Speaker 2: to give her a talking Hey. 351 00:16:39,520 --> 00:16:43,160 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, little did they know that we've been smooching 352 00:16:43,240 --> 00:16:46,960 Speaker 1: behind the scenes. And when you're smooching, there's a there's 353 00:16:47,040 --> 00:16:52,200 Speaker 1: a there's an unspoken rule that you're not going to 354 00:16:52,240 --> 00:16:54,240 Speaker 1: fire me. It's going to go no further than that 355 00:16:54,280 --> 00:16:54,800 Speaker 1: phone call. 356 00:16:54,920 --> 00:16:56,240 Speaker 2: But I assured them that I would. 357 00:16:56,320 --> 00:16:57,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, of course, good job. 358 00:16:58,160 --> 00:17:00,000 Speaker 2: But ironically, the fact that I picked up the phone 359 00:17:00,120 --> 00:17:02,680 Speaker 2: and they were calling about you, so yes. 360 00:17:02,560 --> 00:17:06,600 Speaker 1: Matt and I we waited tables together, prevented me from 361 00:17:06,600 --> 00:17:10,720 Speaker 1: getting fired. And then I think that one thing that's 362 00:17:10,760 --> 00:17:12,840 Speaker 1: interesting is do you remember helping me with my Grey's 363 00:17:12,840 --> 00:17:13,600 Speaker 1: Anatomy audition? 364 00:17:14,160 --> 00:17:19,120 Speaker 2: Do? Yeah? Ye? If he's dropping, I still haven't seen 365 00:17:19,119 --> 00:17:21,840 Speaker 2: my commission, don't worry about it. 366 00:17:21,920 --> 00:17:38,919 Speaker 1: Okay, let's get into these. Okay, you read Ruby. 367 00:17:39,480 --> 00:17:46,000 Speaker 2: What was your first impression of Camilla? She made me laugh. 368 00:17:46,359 --> 00:17:50,240 Speaker 2: We laughed a lot, and I found that I'd never 369 00:17:51,000 --> 00:17:53,920 Speaker 2: I'd never actually met a woman that I had laughed with. 370 00:17:54,640 --> 00:17:57,960 Speaker 1: Yes, exactly right, Georgie. Who said I love you? First? 371 00:17:58,160 --> 00:18:04,199 Speaker 1: You or Camilla? Actually? Wait, I said that I had 372 00:18:04,200 --> 00:18:06,560 Speaker 1: a crush on you first. You told me that you 373 00:18:06,600 --> 00:18:11,440 Speaker 1: were falling for me? Yes, yeah, first, which is very cute. 374 00:18:11,720 --> 00:18:13,680 Speaker 2: Okay, how often do you make time for date night? 375 00:18:13,880 --> 00:18:14,320 Speaker 1: God? 376 00:18:14,960 --> 00:18:16,640 Speaker 2: As a parent, I find it, we find it hard. 377 00:18:17,480 --> 00:18:18,600 Speaker 1: We find it really hard. 378 00:18:18,680 --> 00:18:20,600 Speaker 2: Even when you have the time in the evenings. I 379 00:18:20,640 --> 00:18:23,919 Speaker 2: feel like by the time that five thirty six o'clock 380 00:18:24,000 --> 00:18:29,560 Speaker 2: rolls around, you know, when you're starting kid bedtime, you know, 381 00:18:29,640 --> 00:18:31,719 Speaker 2: the air gets let out, you know, you get tired. 382 00:18:31,760 --> 00:18:34,840 Speaker 2: And so date night is always yeah, a good movie. 383 00:18:34,880 --> 00:18:38,240 Speaker 1: And yeah, I mean they're talking about going out day nights. 384 00:18:38,280 --> 00:18:39,880 Speaker 1: We don't. I mean we go out like I feel 385 00:18:39,880 --> 00:18:41,639 Speaker 1: like once every couple of weeks we'll go out for 386 00:18:41,760 --> 00:18:42,560 Speaker 1: like a date night. 387 00:18:42,600 --> 00:18:44,120 Speaker 2: And we're going to use this as a date night. 388 00:18:44,280 --> 00:18:46,880 Speaker 1: We've and yeah, so what we've done today because we're 389 00:18:46,920 --> 00:18:50,520 Speaker 1: like when in Rome, right, no kids, We've bought our 390 00:18:50,600 --> 00:18:53,200 Speaker 1: bottle owned bottle of wine here with us and we're 391 00:18:53,240 --> 00:18:56,200 Speaker 1: drinking rose out of our coffee mugs. And the reason 392 00:18:56,320 --> 00:18:59,880 Speaker 1: is is because, as you guys know, did I trust 393 00:19:00,480 --> 00:19:03,359 Speaker 1: to bring wine glasses around? 394 00:19:03,440 --> 00:19:04,600 Speaker 2: That was my idea. 395 00:19:05,359 --> 00:19:09,119 Speaker 1: No, listen, I told you dropped and we would have. 396 00:19:09,359 --> 00:19:11,680 Speaker 1: You said no, stem exactly right, and you were right 397 00:19:11,720 --> 00:19:14,240 Speaker 1: because you knew you'd be a dropper with it. We're 398 00:19:14,280 --> 00:19:17,159 Speaker 1: using this as a date night. Okay, Mollie, have you 399 00:19:17,200 --> 00:19:19,520 Speaker 1: two ever done couples therapy? Would you be open to 400 00:19:19,560 --> 00:19:22,880 Speaker 1: it if needed? I think we're both hang on, we're 401 00:19:22,880 --> 00:19:26,119 Speaker 1: both in therapy because that's really good for everybody. The 402 00:19:26,200 --> 00:19:29,679 Speaker 1: truth is, and this is annoying, but we don't argue 403 00:19:29,760 --> 00:19:30,280 Speaker 1: very much. 404 00:19:30,640 --> 00:19:31,080 Speaker 2: We don't. 405 00:19:31,320 --> 00:19:31,800 Speaker 1: We do not. 406 00:19:32,160 --> 00:19:34,080 Speaker 2: When we do, I feel like when we do. 407 00:19:34,080 --> 00:19:37,000 Speaker 1: Get heated, yeah, then we then we throw it out 408 00:19:37,119 --> 00:19:40,200 Speaker 1: like we're going to get couples. It's almost like a threat. 409 00:19:40,200 --> 00:19:41,160 Speaker 1: Do you feel like between us? 410 00:19:41,320 --> 00:19:43,040 Speaker 2: Do that again, I'm gonna call the therapist. 411 00:19:43,520 --> 00:19:46,359 Speaker 1: Yeah, and then do that again. You'll see what therapy is. 412 00:19:46,520 --> 00:19:52,520 Speaker 2: Yeah, I hope you got an hour on Thursday. The 413 00:19:52,560 --> 00:19:55,640 Speaker 2: older we get and the more into our marriage we get, 414 00:19:55,880 --> 00:19:57,840 Speaker 2: we're better at Why are you laughing, I'm literally having 415 00:19:57,880 --> 00:19:58,639 Speaker 2: the first moment. 416 00:19:59,160 --> 00:20:01,000 Speaker 1: No, you're having a moment. No, I'm in this moment 417 00:20:01,080 --> 00:20:02,440 Speaker 1: with you. Sorry, I just love you. 418 00:20:02,760 --> 00:20:07,919 Speaker 2: We've gotten better at owning when one of us has 419 00:20:07,920 --> 00:20:10,480 Speaker 2: been wrong in a disagreement, and then it's easier to 420 00:20:10,520 --> 00:20:11,240 Speaker 2: resolve and move on. 421 00:20:11,480 --> 00:20:14,360 Speaker 1: That's all we have. Yeah, that's not to say that, 422 00:20:14,440 --> 00:20:17,480 Speaker 1: like realistically, you know, we're kind of stuck with each 423 00:20:17,480 --> 00:20:21,440 Speaker 1: other right forever, so at some point we might need 424 00:20:21,640 --> 00:20:23,840 Speaker 1: couple therapy, and if we do, then we're going to 425 00:20:23,920 --> 00:20:26,760 Speaker 1: do it. But we have we have been able to 426 00:20:26,800 --> 00:20:29,640 Speaker 1: resolve things so far and we actually like we parent 427 00:20:29,680 --> 00:20:33,920 Speaker 1: pretty well good together. So yeah, agree, Tara, favorite romantic 428 00:20:34,040 --> 00:20:37,480 Speaker 1: date idea? Where do you think I would love to 429 00:20:37,520 --> 00:20:39,919 Speaker 1: be taken? Because I think this would like surprise people 430 00:20:39,960 --> 00:20:40,320 Speaker 1: about me. 431 00:20:40,480 --> 00:20:41,920 Speaker 2: Where would you love to make take? 432 00:20:42,119 --> 00:20:45,639 Speaker 1: Where am I down to be taken for a day night? Like, 433 00:20:45,680 --> 00:20:46,680 Speaker 1: I'm like, yeah, let's go. 434 00:20:47,680 --> 00:20:52,400 Speaker 2: I feel like the movie plays where you can lounge 435 00:20:52,440 --> 00:20:54,520 Speaker 2: and have a blanket that we're going. 436 00:20:54,240 --> 00:20:55,919 Speaker 1: With there, that's not the vibe I'm sending you with 437 00:20:55,960 --> 00:20:56,800 Speaker 1: my eyeballs. 438 00:20:57,240 --> 00:21:00,960 Speaker 2: We've had this conversation, Well, I like a Chili's, Oh my, 439 00:21:01,760 --> 00:21:03,800 Speaker 2: are you serious? Yeah? 440 00:21:04,119 --> 00:21:06,920 Speaker 1: And I like a cheesecake factory, and you you love 441 00:21:06,960 --> 00:21:09,200 Speaker 1: a cheesecake, Chilis and a cheesecake. 442 00:21:09,240 --> 00:21:11,120 Speaker 2: I haven't brought up chilis in a while, though. This 443 00:21:11,160 --> 00:21:13,240 Speaker 2: is something nobody knows about it. Go for it. You 444 00:21:13,280 --> 00:21:17,640 Speaker 2: love chilies, you love cheesecake factory. Even on a date night. 445 00:21:17,960 --> 00:21:23,400 Speaker 2: I can suggest romantic stuff. I'll even consider like cooking 446 00:21:23,440 --> 00:21:28,560 Speaker 2: myself and you're like, that sounds so chili Yeah. 447 00:21:29,400 --> 00:21:32,120 Speaker 1: To be honest, yeah, I mean the apps are good, 448 00:21:32,960 --> 00:21:40,800 Speaker 1: yeah yea. And sometimes those prices, okay, there's too. 449 00:21:40,720 --> 00:21:41,480 Speaker 2: Many options there. 450 00:21:41,520 --> 00:21:45,360 Speaker 1: That's that's the there's never enough for me. Okay, Michelle, 451 00:21:45,400 --> 00:21:47,800 Speaker 1: is it a red flag if he doesn't open the 452 00:21:47,800 --> 00:21:48,320 Speaker 1: door for me. 453 00:21:49,400 --> 00:21:50,919 Speaker 2: I don't know if it's a red flag, but I 454 00:21:51,040 --> 00:21:54,880 Speaker 2: personally feel like it's a You gotta at least see 455 00:21:54,960 --> 00:21:57,879 Speaker 2: him making the effort. If it's if he's not making 456 00:21:57,880 --> 00:21:59,959 Speaker 2: the effort, put it in your back pocket. 457 00:22:00,680 --> 00:22:03,399 Speaker 1: Okay, let me ask you this question. The truth is 458 00:22:03,440 --> 00:22:08,000 Speaker 1: this guy is Matt actually does almost always open in 459 00:22:08,040 --> 00:22:08,360 Speaker 1: the car. 460 00:22:08,560 --> 00:22:11,200 Speaker 2: It's really you make a conscious effort of it though 461 00:22:11,760 --> 00:22:13,800 Speaker 2: in the car no, even the car. 462 00:22:13,800 --> 00:22:16,000 Speaker 1: Said, yeah, well that's what I'm talking about. 463 00:22:16,440 --> 00:22:20,440 Speaker 2: Well, I also open a restaurant door like a bus. 464 00:22:21,680 --> 00:22:27,200 Speaker 2: I'd open a bus door for you too, no limitation 465 00:22:27,440 --> 00:22:28,040 Speaker 2: to the doors. 466 00:22:28,240 --> 00:22:29,920 Speaker 1: This is the kind of quality you guys are in 467 00:22:30,040 --> 00:22:33,560 Speaker 1: love with today. Listen, Okay, if Hayden was dating our 468 00:22:33,640 --> 00:22:36,000 Speaker 1: daughter was dating someone that didn't open the door for her. 469 00:22:36,440 --> 00:22:37,200 Speaker 2: That's different. 470 00:22:37,359 --> 00:22:42,360 Speaker 1: Oh my god, hear me go Okay, would you want 471 00:22:42,359 --> 00:22:43,840 Speaker 1: to that? 472 00:22:44,000 --> 00:22:46,600 Speaker 2: I want to see the guy make the effort. Yes, 473 00:22:46,640 --> 00:22:48,680 Speaker 2: I think a guy should. That's my answer to the question. 474 00:22:48,800 --> 00:22:50,479 Speaker 2: I alwayst want to see him make the effort. 475 00:22:50,800 --> 00:22:53,200 Speaker 1: Okay, all right, you and Amanda. 476 00:22:53,800 --> 00:22:58,520 Speaker 2: How do you keep the love alive during the Newborn Trench. 477 00:23:00,119 --> 00:23:00,800 Speaker 1: Was our love alive? 478 00:23:02,320 --> 00:23:03,919 Speaker 2: You know what I remember the most about the New 479 00:23:03,960 --> 00:23:08,439 Speaker 2: York Trenches is the really late night binge watching of 480 00:23:08,480 --> 00:23:12,120 Speaker 2: TV together actually or separately, like we would hand off 481 00:23:12,160 --> 00:23:14,400 Speaker 2: and then. But I feel like those how. 482 00:23:14,359 --> 00:23:17,440 Speaker 1: Was the love alive for watching the love was alive 483 00:23:17,480 --> 00:23:20,360 Speaker 1: for me when I was binge watching separately something to because. 484 00:23:20,000 --> 00:23:22,600 Speaker 2: I felt like those moments. I remember watching Bloodline a lot. 485 00:23:22,680 --> 00:23:24,000 Speaker 2: I remember watching. 486 00:23:25,000 --> 00:23:27,200 Speaker 1: No We Did Big Little Lies. 487 00:23:26,920 --> 00:23:30,720 Speaker 2: Yeah, and I felt like, in all the chaos, yeah, 488 00:23:31,240 --> 00:23:34,360 Speaker 2: it was just an hour of grounding that we could 489 00:23:34,440 --> 00:23:35,159 Speaker 2: kind of just be. 490 00:23:36,359 --> 00:23:38,359 Speaker 1: Yeah, I thought that was cool. Yeah. I think that 491 00:23:38,400 --> 00:23:41,520 Speaker 1: Newborn's in one way, you're completely sleep deprior, right, so 492 00:23:41,960 --> 00:23:46,639 Speaker 1: you these little things like we're going to go for 493 00:23:47,000 --> 00:23:49,159 Speaker 1: just a walk around the block. You're also supposed to 494 00:23:49,160 --> 00:23:51,959 Speaker 1: like not really go out so much like in the world, right, 495 00:23:51,960 --> 00:23:53,720 Speaker 1: because you have a baby with like not a big 496 00:23:53,760 --> 00:23:56,640 Speaker 1: immune system yet. But it sort of forces the two 497 00:23:56,720 --> 00:23:59,560 Speaker 1: of you to be like in a little bubble together 498 00:23:59,640 --> 00:24:02,240 Speaker 1: and I breathe, and you're up late night binge watching 499 00:24:02,280 --> 00:24:03,040 Speaker 1: shows together. 500 00:24:03,080 --> 00:24:05,159 Speaker 2: And you're delirious and you're kind of sharing the moments 501 00:24:05,200 --> 00:24:07,600 Speaker 2: of like little sleep but it feels connecting in a 502 00:24:07,600 --> 00:24:08,160 Speaker 2: weird way. 503 00:24:09,000 --> 00:24:11,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, and checking in with each other. 504 00:24:12,040 --> 00:24:14,359 Speaker 2: Yeah, that was nice. You know, we'd always. 505 00:24:14,359 --> 00:24:19,480 Speaker 1: We've always done that. God, we sound amazing, all. 506 00:24:19,440 --> 00:24:21,080 Speaker 2: Right, and the show thank you for joining us. 507 00:24:22,600 --> 00:24:25,760 Speaker 1: Okay, Jay said, my boyfriend is an actor and has 508 00:24:25,840 --> 00:24:29,560 Speaker 1: kissing scenes. How do I let go of the jealousy? 509 00:24:29,680 --> 00:24:31,159 Speaker 1: Do you know what's really funny is I was on 510 00:24:31,200 --> 00:24:33,720 Speaker 1: set the other day and someone got on the subject 511 00:24:33,800 --> 00:24:36,880 Speaker 1: of kissing and how like, you know, because on Gray's 512 00:24:36,880 --> 00:24:39,320 Speaker 1: Anatomy to do some making out. But you know Chris 513 00:24:39,359 --> 00:24:41,280 Speaker 1: Carmack and he's wonderful, and I was like, you know, 514 00:24:41,359 --> 00:24:43,760 Speaker 1: Matt doesn't really like it, doesn't really face him. And 515 00:24:43,800 --> 00:24:46,760 Speaker 1: then they asked me if I've ever been fased by this, 516 00:24:47,480 --> 00:24:52,160 Speaker 1: and then I said, well, I remembered that my husband 517 00:24:52,200 --> 00:24:55,360 Speaker 1: way back in the day did a horror movie and 518 00:24:55,600 --> 00:24:58,679 Speaker 1: there was a scene where you basically had to motorboat 519 00:24:58,760 --> 00:24:59,280 Speaker 1: this girl. 520 00:25:00,760 --> 00:25:03,080 Speaker 2: I love that this is your interpretation of it. 521 00:25:03,119 --> 00:25:07,000 Speaker 1: So I said that took me a second. It took 522 00:25:07,080 --> 00:25:10,200 Speaker 1: I wasn't like gopher, I wasn't like excited about it. 523 00:25:10,320 --> 00:25:13,320 Speaker 2: No, I think the I think in the phrasing of 524 00:25:13,359 --> 00:25:16,760 Speaker 2: this question is how do I let go of the jealousy? 525 00:25:16,800 --> 00:25:18,520 Speaker 2: To be honest, I don't know if the jealousy, if 526 00:25:18,560 --> 00:25:20,840 Speaker 2: you can totally let go it, because even though that 527 00:25:20,880 --> 00:25:23,640 Speaker 2: you've had one hundred scenes at this point with Chris, 528 00:25:23,640 --> 00:25:27,520 Speaker 2: who I adore, I think as ye who loves you, 529 00:25:27,560 --> 00:25:29,680 Speaker 2: there's a tiny hint of jealousy every time I gotta 530 00:25:29,760 --> 00:25:30,120 Speaker 2: see it. 531 00:25:30,920 --> 00:25:32,119 Speaker 1: Maybe that's good, though. 532 00:25:32,040 --> 00:25:33,680 Speaker 2: But I think but that's where I was going with is. 533 00:25:33,720 --> 00:25:37,439 Speaker 2: I think that's good because you know, you learn to 534 00:25:37,480 --> 00:25:39,200 Speaker 2: deal with it, and you learn to kind of separate 535 00:25:39,240 --> 00:25:41,399 Speaker 2: and you learn to like realize it's part of the 536 00:25:41,440 --> 00:25:44,320 Speaker 2: job in whatever way that is. But I think more 537 00:25:44,400 --> 00:25:46,160 Speaker 2: than anything, it's it's more about that. 538 00:25:46,760 --> 00:25:51,080 Speaker 1: Yeah about Yeah, I didn't, I couldn't. I did have 539 00:25:51,119 --> 00:25:54,159 Speaker 1: a hard time accepting the motor boats. 540 00:25:55,840 --> 00:25:58,200 Speaker 2: Again, there were no motor boats. 541 00:25:58,920 --> 00:26:01,720 Speaker 1: I recall it. I mean this is a long time ago. Yeah, 542 00:26:01,800 --> 00:26:05,800 Speaker 1: I do recall. That's how it's implanted in my mind. Listen, 543 00:26:06,240 --> 00:26:08,639 Speaker 1: was it in the script? Yes? Was it part of 544 00:26:08,640 --> 00:26:12,640 Speaker 1: the role? Yes? Was it annoying? Also? Yes, it's fine 545 00:26:12,640 --> 00:26:15,920 Speaker 1: that we've moved on, have we? I don't know, talk 546 00:26:15,960 --> 00:26:16,480 Speaker 1: about tonight? 547 00:26:17,000 --> 00:26:22,800 Speaker 2: Now? What have I done? 548 00:26:24,440 --> 00:26:24,600 Speaker 1: Now? 549 00:26:24,880 --> 00:26:27,760 Speaker 2: How do you text? The guy you like the first time. 550 00:26:28,359 --> 00:26:30,800 Speaker 1: What's a good way? Do you have emojis in it? 551 00:26:30,920 --> 00:26:32,760 Speaker 1: Or do you lay off the emojis? You think? 552 00:26:33,000 --> 00:26:37,440 Speaker 2: Oh, that's a good question. I think simple is always good. Yeah, 553 00:26:37,720 --> 00:26:39,720 Speaker 2: but I think the effort is good as well. But 554 00:26:39,800 --> 00:26:40,840 Speaker 2: whatever that looks like, I. 555 00:26:40,840 --> 00:26:43,240 Speaker 1: Think is well, let me ask you this question. It's 556 00:26:43,240 --> 00:26:46,280 Speaker 1: a piggyback. Okay, say the guy takes like a couple 557 00:26:46,440 --> 00:26:50,800 Speaker 1: hours to respond as a girl, does it look kind 558 00:26:50,800 --> 00:26:55,000 Speaker 1: of like desperate if we respond immediately like well someone 559 00:26:55,040 --> 00:27:01,280 Speaker 1: has no wife or does it look or are you like, okay, cool? 560 00:27:02,440 --> 00:27:03,240 Speaker 2: That's a good question. 561 00:27:03,400 --> 00:27:04,120 Speaker 1: Yeah, it is good. 562 00:27:04,359 --> 00:27:05,800 Speaker 2: I don't know. I don't think you do it right away. 563 00:27:05,880 --> 00:27:08,480 Speaker 2: I think you there's always a playing it cool element. 564 00:27:08,880 --> 00:27:11,200 Speaker 1: Yeah. Kind of sucks though, because you kind of it 565 00:27:11,240 --> 00:27:12,640 Speaker 1: would be nice to just be like. 566 00:27:12,800 --> 00:27:15,159 Speaker 2: But but there was I noticed another question, which is 567 00:27:15,640 --> 00:27:18,240 Speaker 2: from Maria. If a guy takes long to respond, does 568 00:27:18,280 --> 00:27:21,480 Speaker 2: that mean he doesn't care? Oh, if he hears from 569 00:27:21,640 --> 00:27:24,560 Speaker 2: the girl a few days later? Yeah, first, I think 570 00:27:24,600 --> 00:27:25,359 Speaker 2: that's kind of cool. 571 00:27:26,320 --> 00:27:28,680 Speaker 1: So wait, let me ask you though, are guys doing 572 00:27:28,680 --> 00:27:32,600 Speaker 1: the thing that girls do where it's like they're like, dude, 573 00:27:32,640 --> 00:27:34,280 Speaker 1: she just texts me I don't know why it's my 574 00:27:34,280 --> 00:27:36,359 Speaker 1: guy voice, but this is like, dude, she just texts 575 00:27:36,400 --> 00:27:39,679 Speaker 1: me like what do I do? Are they getting the boys? 576 00:27:40,200 --> 00:27:42,440 Speaker 2: I don't think they always know what to do, so 577 00:27:42,440 --> 00:27:44,640 Speaker 2: that's trying to play it cool. But I think there's 578 00:27:44,680 --> 00:27:46,920 Speaker 2: just insecurity in that, and so I think the more 579 00:27:47,440 --> 00:27:49,240 Speaker 2: you know, you just take the you know, take the 580 00:27:49,240 --> 00:27:51,280 Speaker 2: initiative yourself, go for it. A guy who's going to 581 00:27:51,320 --> 00:27:52,359 Speaker 2: find that attract. 582 00:27:52,359 --> 00:27:55,480 Speaker 1: Okay, Okay, he's insecure. Okay, I like this, No, this 583 00:27:55,560 --> 00:28:12,080 Speaker 1: is important. This is why you're here. Okay, Sydney. What 584 00:28:12,200 --> 00:28:15,760 Speaker 1: is your take on dating apps and can they really work? 585 00:28:17,240 --> 00:28:19,679 Speaker 1: When we got together, there were no dating apps. It 586 00:28:19,760 --> 00:28:23,199 Speaker 1: was like the very beginning of that it happening. I 587 00:28:23,200 --> 00:28:24,920 Speaker 1: remember back in the day. It was kind of like 588 00:28:25,240 --> 00:28:29,080 Speaker 1: not cool. It's like, you know, your mom was on 589 00:28:29,119 --> 00:28:29,440 Speaker 1: a day. 590 00:28:29,800 --> 00:28:31,280 Speaker 2: I had a BlackBerry at some point. 591 00:28:32,080 --> 00:28:37,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, that's how we were probably like BlackBerry time. Yeah yeah, 592 00:28:37,560 --> 00:28:39,160 Speaker 1: but what is your take on the dating apps. 593 00:28:39,840 --> 00:28:41,840 Speaker 2: I have friends that are still together who have met 594 00:28:41,840 --> 00:28:44,240 Speaker 2: on dating apps. I think they can totally work. Now, ohah, 595 00:28:44,440 --> 00:28:45,080 Speaker 2: just be careful. 596 00:28:46,760 --> 00:28:48,960 Speaker 1: Yeah no, I think this is the same thing as 597 00:28:48,960 --> 00:28:51,040 Speaker 1: like the only thing that justin and I talked about though, 598 00:28:51,400 --> 00:28:54,080 Speaker 1: is that we have talked about before, how people aren't 599 00:28:54,160 --> 00:28:56,280 Speaker 1: meeting out in the world at bars anymore. They don't 600 00:28:56,320 --> 00:28:59,360 Speaker 1: know that like meet cute story and maybe that there's 601 00:28:59,400 --> 00:29:03,560 Speaker 1: almost like too many options with the app. 602 00:29:03,680 --> 00:29:08,640 Speaker 2: Yeah, there's no organic you know, and maybe stance or 603 00:29:08,640 --> 00:29:11,560 Speaker 2: whatever the word is. There's no organic just meeting, yeah, 604 00:29:11,640 --> 00:29:13,880 Speaker 2: the way that it used to be. So yeah, I've 605 00:29:13,920 --> 00:29:14,680 Speaker 2: never thought of nothing. 606 00:29:14,680 --> 00:29:17,800 Speaker 1: Maybe there's a little bit of chemistry like killed, because 607 00:29:17,800 --> 00:29:19,880 Speaker 1: how can you play hard to get on a dating app? 608 00:29:20,480 --> 00:29:23,240 Speaker 1: To be honest, like someone has to swipe on you 609 00:29:23,320 --> 00:29:24,720 Speaker 1: meaning they're interested. 610 00:29:24,520 --> 00:29:28,640 Speaker 2: But it's literally decided on in that moment of the 611 00:29:28,680 --> 00:29:31,520 Speaker 2: swipe or the nose swipe too, like that's all you're 612 00:29:31,560 --> 00:29:33,120 Speaker 2: going by it, and that's weird to me. 613 00:29:33,480 --> 00:29:34,880 Speaker 1: Yeah. Would you have swiped on me? 614 00:29:35,920 --> 00:29:37,200 Speaker 2: Right? Is yes? Is right? 615 00:29:37,280 --> 00:29:39,080 Speaker 1: Yes? Yeah? Would you have swiped right on me? 616 00:29:39,280 --> 00:29:42,360 Speaker 2: Is there a double? Yes? I would hard and. 617 00:29:42,400 --> 00:29:45,560 Speaker 1: Swipe desperate, see see if i'd seen a. 618 00:29:45,520 --> 00:29:50,840 Speaker 2: Heart and so what if I would have just hearted it? 619 00:29:50,880 --> 00:29:52,400 Speaker 1: Though I don't know. I think it's like. 620 00:29:53,360 --> 00:29:55,560 Speaker 2: And not swipe. Can you just harden and leave it? 621 00:29:56,680 --> 00:29:59,280 Speaker 1: I don't know. I think if you harden and swiped me. 622 00:29:59,320 --> 00:30:02,120 Speaker 1: I would have been like, that's never happening, Like slow 623 00:30:02,160 --> 00:30:05,200 Speaker 1: it down. I would have cringed, like it would have 624 00:30:05,240 --> 00:30:07,520 Speaker 1: given me the eck. If you'd given both, you know 625 00:30:07,560 --> 00:30:09,600 Speaker 1: what I mean, Like, we wouldn't be here today. 626 00:30:09,840 --> 00:30:12,440 Speaker 2: Really think I know that's a through. 627 00:30:12,800 --> 00:30:14,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, you'd be terrible on a dating app. 628 00:30:15,120 --> 00:30:17,120 Speaker 2: We've talked about that. I think it's terrible. 629 00:30:17,160 --> 00:30:21,200 Speaker 1: No, no, no, no, you would be okay, Emma, Is it 630 00:30:21,240 --> 00:30:23,920 Speaker 1: true that a guy loves when a girl makes the 631 00:30:23,960 --> 00:30:24,560 Speaker 1: first move? 632 00:30:24,920 --> 00:30:27,880 Speaker 2: Again, I think most guys, especially on a first, second, 633 00:30:27,920 --> 00:30:30,160 Speaker 2: third date, they're more insecure than you realize. So if 634 00:30:30,200 --> 00:30:32,000 Speaker 2: you make the first move, I think it's cool. Are 635 00:30:32,080 --> 00:30:33,840 Speaker 2: you sure my take? 636 00:30:34,200 --> 00:30:35,680 Speaker 1: Okay? All right? Well taking it? 637 00:30:36,320 --> 00:30:36,520 Speaker 2: Oh? 638 00:30:36,600 --> 00:30:37,400 Speaker 1: This is interesting. 639 00:30:37,440 --> 00:30:40,520 Speaker 2: See true that all men find red lipstick on a 640 00:30:40,560 --> 00:30:43,760 Speaker 2: woman unattractive. I've never heard that before. 641 00:30:44,560 --> 00:30:46,080 Speaker 1: I've heard rumors are smuomers. 642 00:30:46,880 --> 00:30:48,320 Speaker 2: We're talking bright red? 643 00:30:48,640 --> 00:30:51,800 Speaker 1: Does it matter? Are you like the tom Ford shade 644 00:30:51,840 --> 00:30:54,560 Speaker 1: of zero seven? It's not gonna work for me. 645 00:30:56,600 --> 00:30:59,480 Speaker 2: I don't know that's a good thing. I mean, I 646 00:30:59,520 --> 00:31:02,640 Speaker 2: assume that this is in reference to like a bright red. 647 00:31:02,600 --> 00:31:08,160 Speaker 1: Sure, let's go with the bright red matt For God's sake, Why. 648 00:31:07,960 --> 00:31:10,440 Speaker 2: Am I answering this question because it is for a man. 649 00:31:11,320 --> 00:31:12,760 Speaker 1: Does the bright red matter? 650 00:31:13,760 --> 00:31:17,680 Speaker 2: I think it was too bright red. It's not as attractive. 651 00:31:17,840 --> 00:31:19,880 Speaker 1: Shots fired women, shots fired. 652 00:31:20,360 --> 00:31:21,200 Speaker 2: I think that makes sense. 653 00:31:21,280 --> 00:31:23,240 Speaker 1: Right. Well, I've got a couple of bright reds and 654 00:31:23,280 --> 00:31:26,920 Speaker 1: now I'm second guessing them. You've never said that to me, 655 00:31:26,960 --> 00:31:28,680 Speaker 1: and I definitely want a bright red around you. 656 00:31:29,520 --> 00:31:30,680 Speaker 2: I don't know if you've ever asked me. 657 00:31:32,040 --> 00:31:35,200 Speaker 1: There's no need. I'm still worrying it. Alex, what is 658 00:31:35,240 --> 00:31:39,120 Speaker 1: your take on being friends with your ex? This is 659 00:31:39,120 --> 00:31:40,480 Speaker 1: interesting because. 660 00:31:40,280 --> 00:31:42,760 Speaker 2: I feel like everyone's different. Yeah, but we kind of. 661 00:31:42,720 --> 00:31:46,360 Speaker 1: Have the situation. So I have an ex that I'm 662 00:31:46,400 --> 00:31:47,160 Speaker 1: still in love with. 663 00:31:48,000 --> 00:31:51,400 Speaker 2: Oh, here we go, turn this up. Let's hear. 664 00:31:53,880 --> 00:31:59,280 Speaker 1: I'm kidding. No, I have an ex from waver Back 665 00:31:59,360 --> 00:32:03,360 Speaker 1: in a complicated No. I have an excellent way way 666 00:32:03,360 --> 00:32:07,120 Speaker 1: way back in the day, like high school, and once 667 00:32:07,160 --> 00:32:10,240 Speaker 1: and once in a very rare while, we'll get lunch together. 668 00:32:11,160 --> 00:32:13,080 Speaker 1: But so, but you've been very cool about it. I 669 00:32:13,080 --> 00:32:14,480 Speaker 1: think very secure in our relation. 670 00:32:14,960 --> 00:32:17,440 Speaker 2: I think it's uh. I think it's possible. I have 671 00:32:17,480 --> 00:32:20,360 Speaker 2: a really good friend from high school that we are still, 672 00:32:20,760 --> 00:32:23,680 Speaker 2: you know, really close friends, and she's female and to 673 00:32:23,760 --> 00:32:26,000 Speaker 2: be honest, I think this was the other question combined. 674 00:32:26,520 --> 00:32:28,560 Speaker 1: Can women and men ever just be friends? 675 00:32:29,200 --> 00:32:33,120 Speaker 2: I think so often, not often. I think they're the 676 00:32:33,880 --> 00:32:38,440 Speaker 2: details surrounding the relationship, you know, will change, okay, but 677 00:32:38,520 --> 00:32:41,440 Speaker 2: I think if the circumstances are are healthy, then yeah, 678 00:32:41,440 --> 00:32:42,320 Speaker 2: I think one hundred percent. 679 00:32:42,880 --> 00:32:43,200 Speaker 1: Okay. 680 00:32:47,040 --> 00:32:49,640 Speaker 2: How do guys feel about their partner farting in front 681 00:32:49,680 --> 00:32:49,960 Speaker 2: of them? 682 00:32:51,120 --> 00:32:52,160 Speaker 1: Spealy not to turn on? 683 00:32:53,920 --> 00:32:55,880 Speaker 2: Yeah, I would agree with that, and I don't find 684 00:32:55,920 --> 00:33:03,560 Speaker 2: it to turn on. I don't know. I feel like 685 00:33:03,600 --> 00:33:07,080 Speaker 2: to keep the romance alive. You know, there are minor 686 00:33:07,120 --> 00:33:09,880 Speaker 2: boundaries with those kind of things, and if you're not, 687 00:33:10,000 --> 00:33:13,400 Speaker 2: as long as you're not like making a show of it, 688 00:33:14,680 --> 00:33:16,800 Speaker 2: which I have buddies that I'm sure are doing that. 689 00:33:17,000 --> 00:33:19,400 Speaker 1: No, but I have girlfriends actually that will like rip. 690 00:33:20,200 --> 00:33:26,600 Speaker 2: But did you just say rip? But sure, I. 691 00:33:26,560 --> 00:33:28,800 Speaker 1: Mean ripping at what's the difference between ripping button? 692 00:33:29,800 --> 00:33:32,800 Speaker 2: You just say farted a lot? But it's no. 693 00:33:32,840 --> 00:33:35,600 Speaker 1: But it's aggressive, is what I'm trying to get. 694 00:33:35,760 --> 00:33:38,120 Speaker 2: That's a good word. Yeah, when it becomes aggressive, I 695 00:33:38,160 --> 00:33:41,440 Speaker 2: think it's that's unhealthy. That's unhealthy. Aggressive farting is very 696 00:33:41,520 --> 00:33:42,720 Speaker 2: unhealthy in a relationship. 697 00:33:43,360 --> 00:33:51,200 Speaker 1: Words to live by Truly Jessica. Jessica, this is gonna 698 00:33:51,440 --> 00:33:53,560 Speaker 1: Justsica's listening to this right now, and she's like, dear, 699 00:33:53,760 --> 00:33:56,320 Speaker 1: It's like, thank god, I'm back to my workday for this. 700 00:33:57,800 --> 00:34:00,240 Speaker 2: I'm very sorry. I'm doing my best. I'm a little 701 00:34:00,240 --> 00:34:02,800 Speaker 2: sweaty right now, nervous still, but I'm trying really hard. 702 00:34:02,840 --> 00:34:07,240 Speaker 1: Okay, listen, we're going to forge on jess relationship advice 703 00:34:07,320 --> 00:34:13,360 Speaker 1: for a young couple in their twenties. Don't rush. I 704 00:34:13,360 --> 00:34:18,080 Speaker 1: think your twenties is so transformative, like I think good advice. Yeah, yeah, 705 00:34:18,120 --> 00:34:20,919 Speaker 1: I think don't rush. I would say don't rush any 706 00:34:20,960 --> 00:34:23,279 Speaker 1: of it and don't feel the pressure to rush any 707 00:34:23,280 --> 00:34:23,560 Speaker 1: of it. 708 00:34:24,560 --> 00:34:29,799 Speaker 2: I agree, especially nowadays, I feel like, how long how 709 00:34:29,840 --> 00:34:30,200 Speaker 2: long do you. 710 00:34:30,160 --> 00:34:32,040 Speaker 1: Think someone should wait to like move in with each other? 711 00:34:32,040 --> 00:34:33,560 Speaker 1: Because I feel like that's something that you do in 712 00:34:33,560 --> 00:34:34,000 Speaker 1: your twenties. 713 00:34:34,160 --> 00:34:35,960 Speaker 2: Is it my daughter or well? 714 00:34:36,000 --> 00:34:38,040 Speaker 1: I mean, if it's Hayden, you're going to have her living, 715 00:34:38,239 --> 00:34:40,960 Speaker 1: you know, in her bedroom until she's forty five? 716 00:34:41,239 --> 00:34:41,840 Speaker 2: Thirty five? 717 00:34:45,719 --> 00:34:49,080 Speaker 1: Sure? Okay, no, like a normal person, not your kid. 718 00:34:50,400 --> 00:34:55,279 Speaker 1: What do you think I think that you wait? I 719 00:34:55,320 --> 00:34:56,399 Speaker 1: think like you wait a year? 720 00:34:57,080 --> 00:34:57,719 Speaker 2: A year is good? 721 00:34:58,160 --> 00:35:01,560 Speaker 1: I think so I think a year's pretty good and 722 00:35:01,600 --> 00:35:02,520 Speaker 1: then move in together. 723 00:35:03,360 --> 00:35:05,600 Speaker 2: I think closer to two years is good. 724 00:35:06,040 --> 00:35:08,040 Speaker 1: Really, that's kind of a long time. 725 00:35:08,160 --> 00:35:11,719 Speaker 2: Yeah, it feels that way, especially nowadays. I feel like that. 726 00:35:12,040 --> 00:35:13,920 Speaker 1: I think the longer wait, the smarter it is. But 727 00:35:13,960 --> 00:35:17,480 Speaker 1: the temptation to like back in your twenties when you're broken, 728 00:35:17,520 --> 00:35:19,680 Speaker 1: you're not making any money, like, but also. 729 00:35:19,520 --> 00:35:21,239 Speaker 2: That triggers, you know, when you're in your twenties and 730 00:35:21,239 --> 00:35:23,200 Speaker 2: you're broke and you're dating somebody, that's also you know, 731 00:35:23,400 --> 00:35:25,560 Speaker 2: some reasons why you want to move in a little sooner, 732 00:35:25,600 --> 00:35:26,120 Speaker 2: and you know you. 733 00:35:26,040 --> 00:35:28,239 Speaker 1: Want to because you're like crashing at each other's. 734 00:35:27,960 --> 00:35:30,360 Speaker 2: Spaces and you're I think the smartest thing is what 735 00:35:30,400 --> 00:35:33,160 Speaker 2: you said, take your time, Jamie. How often do men 736 00:35:33,239 --> 00:35:37,040 Speaker 2: want to be hugged? Does it feel clingy? 737 00:35:37,200 --> 00:35:38,880 Speaker 1: I think it depends on your love language. 738 00:35:39,239 --> 00:35:42,520 Speaker 2: I agree, I agree. I personally, I think it's I 739 00:35:42,520 --> 00:35:44,120 Speaker 2: think men like to be hugged. I think it's I 740 00:35:44,160 --> 00:35:47,080 Speaker 2: think it's a good healthy communication. 741 00:35:47,960 --> 00:35:50,200 Speaker 1: You know what's funny is between our daughter and our son, 742 00:35:50,239 --> 00:35:55,719 Speaker 1: you guys, our son is the physical smashing. He's the smushiest, 743 00:35:57,080 --> 00:35:58,200 Speaker 1: can be very smushy. 744 00:35:58,320 --> 00:36:01,120 Speaker 2: I think I think it's good. I think that's healthy. 745 00:36:01,120 --> 00:36:03,680 Speaker 1: And I think I think the society raises men though 746 00:36:03,719 --> 00:36:10,040 Speaker 1: in a way where they almost like unsmashy them, where 747 00:36:10,040 --> 00:36:12,239 Speaker 1: they're taught to me like not you know, do you 748 00:36:12,280 --> 00:36:12,719 Speaker 1: know what I mean? 749 00:36:12,800 --> 00:36:17,279 Speaker 2: Like, I just I think not enough has been taught 750 00:36:17,640 --> 00:36:21,920 Speaker 2: two young boys or young men that shows them that 751 00:36:21,960 --> 00:36:23,600 Speaker 2: it's okay too, Like. 752 00:36:23,680 --> 00:36:26,239 Speaker 1: Does it does it almost like feel like vulnerable? Then? 753 00:36:26,600 --> 00:36:28,640 Speaker 2: Yeah? I think that's the problem is that we haven't 754 00:36:28,680 --> 00:36:31,160 Speaker 2: taught that it's okay to be vulnerable. It's more about 755 00:36:31,840 --> 00:36:35,040 Speaker 2: showing strength as opposed to it's okay to be vulnerable. 756 00:36:35,040 --> 00:36:36,480 Speaker 2: I think both things can be true. 757 00:36:36,719 --> 00:36:39,880 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, I like that. I like that. Okay, 758 00:36:40,080 --> 00:36:43,759 Speaker 1: Kyle says, I'm with someone who buys me flowers. What 759 00:36:43,800 --> 00:36:46,040 Speaker 1: would be something I could do for him that is 760 00:36:46,200 --> 00:36:49,319 Speaker 1: non sexual that would brighten his day? It is a 761 00:36:49,760 --> 00:36:51,680 Speaker 1: it's a great question, really good question. 762 00:36:52,840 --> 00:36:54,680 Speaker 2: Huh. Do you have an answer as well. 763 00:36:55,000 --> 00:36:58,359 Speaker 1: Something non sexual that would brighten his day? Well, I've 764 00:36:58,400 --> 00:37:00,759 Speaker 1: talked about this, but this is silly, not silly, but 765 00:37:00,800 --> 00:37:02,360 Speaker 1: because it means something to us. But it's not. I 766 00:37:02,360 --> 00:37:04,120 Speaker 1: don't think this is the kind of answer they're looking for. 767 00:37:04,200 --> 00:37:06,640 Speaker 1: But I've always talked about how you making me a 768 00:37:06,680 --> 00:37:12,960 Speaker 1: cup of coffee every morning is like really adorable. Maybe 769 00:37:13,000 --> 00:37:17,040 Speaker 1: cooking someone their favorite dinner, like in the mornings. Matt 770 00:37:17,120 --> 00:37:21,680 Speaker 1: knows I love beignets, and so I hadn't. I don't 771 00:37:21,680 --> 00:37:24,239 Speaker 1: think I even had a beignet before until went to 772 00:37:24,280 --> 00:37:28,319 Speaker 1: Taylor Swift in New Orleans with Hayden in the morning. You, Oh, 773 00:37:28,400 --> 00:37:31,160 Speaker 1: this is actually a very romantic story. People don't know. 774 00:37:31,760 --> 00:37:34,000 Speaker 1: I was in New Orleans and I woke up in 775 00:37:34,040 --> 00:37:36,560 Speaker 1: the morning and there was a delivery downstairs at the 776 00:37:36,600 --> 00:37:41,239 Speaker 1: hotel concierge and you had ordered me coffee delivery and 777 00:37:41,280 --> 00:37:46,200 Speaker 1: beignets from Cafe Dumont, which has a line down the street. 778 00:37:46,560 --> 00:37:49,440 Speaker 1: So when I woke up, I had that ready. 779 00:37:50,160 --> 00:37:52,160 Speaker 2: To be fair. This was me and another dad with 780 00:37:52,520 --> 00:37:54,719 Speaker 2: you know, y, the other mom you're traveling with, So 781 00:37:54,760 --> 00:37:57,959 Speaker 2: we combined this idea. But we were thinking of you guys, and. 782 00:37:58,080 --> 00:37:59,200 Speaker 1: That was so cute. 783 00:37:59,440 --> 00:38:00,080 Speaker 2: But since then and. 784 00:38:00,080 --> 00:38:03,400 Speaker 1: I feel like I lovedignets and so it's Hayden and 785 00:38:03,440 --> 00:38:05,520 Speaker 1: so like we'll wake up on a Saturday morning and 786 00:38:05,560 --> 00:38:07,960 Speaker 1: you're just making vignets. I almost feel like it's like 787 00:38:08,040 --> 00:38:10,000 Speaker 1: a non sexual thing, is like something that is not 788 00:38:10,160 --> 00:38:14,719 Speaker 1: asked for that it's like a sweet surprise. I don't 789 00:38:14,760 --> 00:38:16,080 Speaker 1: think you've just spent a lot of money out there. 790 00:38:16,120 --> 00:38:18,040 Speaker 2: Totally agree with it. I think it's just a little 791 00:38:18,080 --> 00:38:19,960 Speaker 2: effort that shows your thinking of them. 792 00:38:20,239 --> 00:38:20,720 Speaker 1: M hmmm. 793 00:38:21,400 --> 00:38:23,960 Speaker 2: Because even when I'm having a stressful day or I'm 794 00:38:23,960 --> 00:38:26,960 Speaker 2: overwhelmed with the kids or whatever, sometimes a tiny little 795 00:38:27,000 --> 00:38:31,200 Speaker 2: thing like you know that you'll do it just you 796 00:38:31,239 --> 00:38:32,960 Speaker 2: know you wouldn't do if you didn't know me. 797 00:38:33,680 --> 00:38:34,319 Speaker 1: Yeah. 798 00:38:34,320 --> 00:38:38,280 Speaker 2: I feel like it's just a tiny little reassurance that. Yeah, 799 00:38:38,320 --> 00:38:40,960 Speaker 2: And I think that's but like a dinner you know 800 00:38:41,040 --> 00:38:43,719 Speaker 2: that he likes without you know, even telling him or 801 00:38:43,760 --> 00:38:46,120 Speaker 2: asking him, just kind of you know, have it ready, 802 00:38:46,239 --> 00:38:48,959 Speaker 2: actively making an effort. I feel it goes a long 803 00:38:49,040 --> 00:38:49,520 Speaker 2: long way. 804 00:38:49,760 --> 00:39:07,280 Speaker 1: Yeah, Yeah, I agree, that's really cute. Some other questions 805 00:39:07,280 --> 00:39:11,480 Speaker 1: what we got were now that you know we're we're 806 00:39:11,560 --> 00:39:16,960 Speaker 1: navigating our relationship in Hollywood, what is that like? I 807 00:39:17,000 --> 00:39:18,200 Speaker 1: feel very normal. 808 00:39:18,520 --> 00:39:21,000 Speaker 2: I do too. I feel like, yeah, I. 809 00:39:20,960 --> 00:39:24,279 Speaker 1: Don't think that we have changed that much, although maybe 810 00:39:24,280 --> 00:39:26,560 Speaker 1: there's people listening that know us and they're like the 811 00:39:26,640 --> 00:39:29,359 Speaker 1: Hills to Hollo out of touch. 812 00:39:32,760 --> 00:39:36,200 Speaker 2: It's very true. We still have the same jokes. We still, 813 00:39:36,320 --> 00:39:38,239 Speaker 2: you know, talk about the same stuff. We go to 814 00:39:38,239 --> 00:39:39,920 Speaker 2: the same restaurant. I feel like it's a lot of 815 00:39:39,920 --> 00:39:41,200 Speaker 2: the stuff is very much the same. 816 00:39:41,960 --> 00:39:45,040 Speaker 1: Yeah. The only difference is is that out in the 817 00:39:45,080 --> 00:39:51,040 Speaker 1: world we both get recognized. You were also on Grey's Anatomy. 818 00:39:51,360 --> 00:39:54,040 Speaker 2: I was, I was, But funny enough, we did not 819 00:39:54,120 --> 00:39:57,080 Speaker 2: work together. This is this is literally, yes, the first 820 00:39:57,120 --> 00:39:59,480 Speaker 2: time we have worked together together. 821 00:40:00,160 --> 00:40:03,920 Speaker 1: Waiting tables. This is it you guys right here, this is. 822 00:40:06,000 --> 00:40:09,440 Speaker 2: No. I when I worked that episode, Hayden was just born. 823 00:40:10,160 --> 00:40:12,640 Speaker 2: She was born. You were in the episode that and 824 00:40:12,760 --> 00:40:15,920 Speaker 2: so I had started the episode and then she was born, 825 00:40:16,680 --> 00:40:18,080 Speaker 2: and then you were in the hospital and then I 826 00:40:18,160 --> 00:40:19,839 Speaker 2: left the next day to go finish up. 827 00:40:20,280 --> 00:40:22,799 Speaker 1: Yes, and I was like, I remember telling you go 828 00:40:22,920 --> 00:40:26,040 Speaker 1: tell them that I that I and I. 829 00:40:25,960 --> 00:40:28,240 Speaker 2: Got to said. I was like, she's fine, guys, she's fine. 830 00:40:28,680 --> 00:40:31,680 Speaker 2: Everything's fine. I'm glad, you know. 831 00:40:31,800 --> 00:40:34,280 Speaker 1: Yeah, But we had no scenes together. We've never actually 832 00:40:34,360 --> 00:40:38,520 Speaker 1: acted together. We kind of movie would you like to 833 00:40:38,560 --> 00:40:39,320 Speaker 1: act in together? 834 00:40:40,000 --> 00:40:42,759 Speaker 2: And we've talked about doing a horror movie. I think 835 00:40:42,800 --> 00:40:45,839 Speaker 2: a horror movie is is it'd be fun. 836 00:40:46,400 --> 00:40:47,400 Speaker 1: Would you want to kill me? 837 00:40:48,760 --> 00:40:51,640 Speaker 2: Oh my god, would you want to kill me? 838 00:40:51,800 --> 00:40:53,600 Speaker 1: The smile. I haven't seen you smile like that. 839 00:40:56,440 --> 00:40:59,799 Speaker 2: Be honest. If it was a crazy death scene and. 840 00:41:00,160 --> 00:41:05,799 Speaker 1: It's curing the whole thing, I was like, let's let's 841 00:41:05,880 --> 00:41:06,400 Speaker 1: reverse it. 842 00:41:06,520 --> 00:41:08,600 Speaker 2: Say you read a script and I was already cast 843 00:41:08,640 --> 00:41:10,120 Speaker 2: and they had offered you some role. 844 00:41:10,400 --> 00:41:12,320 Speaker 1: And wait, hang on, so you the way you've just 845 00:41:12,360 --> 00:41:14,359 Speaker 1: presented this is that you've been cast is the main 846 00:41:15,120 --> 00:41:17,920 Speaker 1: and I've got some side Okay, so I've got some 847 00:41:18,680 --> 00:41:20,040 Speaker 1: I'm in the background, got it. 848 00:41:20,200 --> 00:41:23,279 Speaker 2: Now. My point is is that we end up in 849 00:41:23,320 --> 00:41:27,800 Speaker 2: a movie together where you read that you get to 850 00:41:27,880 --> 00:41:31,640 Speaker 2: kill me in an amazing epic way, like something that's 851 00:41:31,680 --> 00:41:34,920 Speaker 2: never been before. Wouldn't that be kind of Oh. 852 00:41:34,920 --> 00:41:36,360 Speaker 1: Yeah, I'd have notes. I'd be like, this is what 853 00:41:36,400 --> 00:41:37,319 Speaker 1: I've always wanted to do. 854 00:41:38,080 --> 00:41:39,880 Speaker 2: It's like a Dayline episode. 855 00:41:39,920 --> 00:41:41,520 Speaker 1: We have taught, you know what. Matt and I do 856 00:41:41,600 --> 00:41:44,160 Speaker 1: love to watch Dayline together, and we have talked during 857 00:41:44,200 --> 00:41:47,279 Speaker 1: the episode about where someone has gone wrong, because if 858 00:41:47,320 --> 00:41:51,640 Speaker 1: I did kill you, I would know how to get 859 00:41:51,640 --> 00:41:56,520 Speaker 1: away with it exactly. Okay. Our last question from Emma 860 00:41:56,719 --> 00:42:00,279 Speaker 1: is if Camilla ended up being a real housewife, could 861 00:42:00,320 --> 00:42:02,200 Speaker 1: you be a house husband? 862 00:42:03,239 --> 00:42:05,000 Speaker 2: I mean I would, I would, I'd have to do 863 00:42:05,040 --> 00:42:11,080 Speaker 2: what it takes. Yeah, I think you would love the Housewives. 864 00:42:11,160 --> 00:42:11,920 Speaker 1: No, I would not. 865 00:42:12,160 --> 00:42:14,600 Speaker 2: I think you would love Stern stuff up. 866 00:42:14,680 --> 00:42:15,319 Speaker 1: Oh you do? 867 00:42:15,440 --> 00:42:15,880 Speaker 2: I think so? 868 00:42:16,239 --> 00:42:18,200 Speaker 1: Would you have my back even if you knew that 869 00:42:18,239 --> 00:42:20,200 Speaker 1: I was being really evil on the show. 870 00:42:20,480 --> 00:42:23,000 Speaker 2: Like like when when they go off the rails. 871 00:42:22,920 --> 00:42:25,279 Speaker 1: Yeah when they go yeah, yeah I was if I 872 00:42:25,360 --> 00:42:28,040 Speaker 1: was clearly going off the rails and I was making everyone. 873 00:42:28,160 --> 00:42:31,120 Speaker 1: I was just outing everyone right, like, you've had an affair, 874 00:42:31,840 --> 00:42:34,400 Speaker 1: had an affair, had an affair? Would you be the 875 00:42:34,440 --> 00:42:36,040 Speaker 1: house husband there behind. 876 00:42:35,719 --> 00:42:37,360 Speaker 2: You saying yeah what she said? 877 00:42:37,760 --> 00:42:38,120 Speaker 1: Would you? 878 00:42:38,640 --> 00:42:40,960 Speaker 2: I got your back? Oh my god, give me a 879 00:42:40,960 --> 00:42:41,919 Speaker 2: good chair from my back. 880 00:42:44,480 --> 00:42:46,600 Speaker 1: You not have my back, but you'd be sitting exactly. 881 00:42:47,880 --> 00:42:49,800 Speaker 2: I want to support you in the strongest way possible, 882 00:42:49,840 --> 00:42:51,080 Speaker 2: and for me, that's sitting. 883 00:42:54,320 --> 00:42:57,040 Speaker 1: Call it crew. I know that you've missed Jaska Capsule. 884 00:42:57,160 --> 00:43:01,040 Speaker 1: I certainly have. I'm not sure how much we've helped anything. 885 00:43:01,200 --> 00:43:04,319 Speaker 2: I really don't know if if we've done it. And 886 00:43:04,360 --> 00:43:06,440 Speaker 2: down the minute until Jessica comes back next. 887 00:43:06,320 --> 00:43:07,640 Speaker 1: I am counting down the minutes. 888 00:43:07,719 --> 00:43:08,240 Speaker 2: But I tried. 889 00:43:08,840 --> 00:43:11,480 Speaker 1: You did. You gave it your all. I appreciate it, 890 00:43:11,960 --> 00:43:13,959 Speaker 1: and I'm not sure if you'll be back. 891 00:43:15,840 --> 00:43:19,239 Speaker 2: Well, I'm totally my schedules available if you guys need 892 00:43:19,280 --> 00:43:21,480 Speaker 2: me some some more advice, I am. 893 00:43:21,680 --> 00:43:22,600 Speaker 1: I'm not sure we will. 894 00:43:22,719 --> 00:43:23,960 Speaker 2: I'm not sure we will appreciate it. 895 00:43:24,000 --> 00:43:26,200 Speaker 1: But what I do appreciate is you coming and being 896 00:43:26,239 --> 00:43:28,839 Speaker 1: here and talking to the Call It crew and and 897 00:43:29,160 --> 00:43:31,239 Speaker 1: maybe it'll be our resident guest to answer some of 898 00:43:31,239 --> 00:43:32,280 Speaker 1: these guy questions. 899 00:43:32,560 --> 00:43:34,120 Speaker 2: I feel like, you know, give me a few more 900 00:43:34,120 --> 00:43:35,600 Speaker 2: of these. I can get into a nice groove and 901 00:43:35,640 --> 00:43:38,040 Speaker 2: I could have my own column or you know, like 902 00:43:38,080 --> 00:43:41,040 Speaker 2: a little section where you kind of toss me and 903 00:43:41,080 --> 00:43:41,960 Speaker 2: I give you. 904 00:43:42,520 --> 00:43:45,440 Speaker 1: Well, yeah, all right, call it cruth. Thank you for 905 00:43:45,560 --> 00:43:48,880 Speaker 1: joining us today. I promise Matt will be out of 906 00:43:48,920 --> 00:43:58,959 Speaker 1: here over, guys, let's call it the end of the episode. 907 00:44:01,280 --> 00:44:05,440 Speaker 2: The step escaped and capt