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Speaker 1: All right, it's time now for today's Strawberry Letter and listen.

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Speaker 1: If you need advice on relationships, on work, on dating,

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Speaker 1: on sex, on parenting, and more, please submit your Strawberry

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Speaker 1: Letter to Steve Harvey FM and click submit Strawberry Letter. Okay,

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Speaker 1: we could be reading your letter live on the air,

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Speaker 1: just like we're gonna read this one live. You hear that,

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Speaker 1: Buggle up, hold on tight, We got it for you.

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Speaker 1: Here it is the Strawberry Letter subject My lady acts

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Speaker 1: like a man and thinks like a man. Little play

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Speaker 1: on words there with the title of your book, Steve,

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Speaker 1: you get that well anyway, Dear Stephen Shirley, I am

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Speaker 1: dating a beautiful, strong, talented woman and everything was okay

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Speaker 1: in the beginning until we had sex for the first time.

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Speaker 1: She controlled everything from start to finish, and she did

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Speaker 1: not let me do anything. She got on top and

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Speaker 1: that was it, and it seemed to go on forever.

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Speaker 1: I tried to talk to her and plead with her

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Speaker 1: to let me do some of the work, but she

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Speaker 1: was not trying to have it. The second time we

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Speaker 1: had sex, she brought in toys. Yes, my girl had toys,

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Speaker 1: and thought she was going to use them on us.

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Speaker 1: I stood my ground and told her that was not

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Speaker 1: going to happen. After that, I started noticing things like

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Speaker 1: her wanting to drive all the time when we go out,

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Speaker 1: and she always rubs my back in public and helps

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Speaker 1: me out when I'm ordering food in restaurants. We were

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Speaker 1: out last weekend and she grabbed my butt in public

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Speaker 1: in front of several of my boys, and they are

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Speaker 1: still joking with me about that. When we ride the

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Speaker 1: train together, she always insists that I sit and she

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Speaker 1: prefers to stand up. I know that she is a

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Speaker 1: mary independent woman, and that's why I love her, But

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Speaker 1: I can't get with this type of behavior. I wear

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Speaker 1: the pants and I need her to know it. What

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Speaker 1: can I do to get her to back down and

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Speaker 1: let me lead? Please give me your opinions on how

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Speaker 1: I should handle this situation. Well, one thing's for sure.

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Speaker 1: She's not a shy girl, is she not? At all? No?

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Speaker 1: And she is a bit controlling. Wouldn't you say? I

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Speaker 1: don't like the controlling part. I really don't. I wouldn't

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Speaker 1: like it if a man did it to a woman.

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Speaker 1: I think she's a bit much. However, a lot of

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Speaker 1: men in your position would welcome this. Uh, they really would,

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Speaker 1: especially the sex part, now, the public part about her

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Speaker 1: sitting on you, sitting on the train and her insisting

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Speaker 1: that she stands and and all of this and grabbing

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Speaker 1: your But you know she's too much. I think you

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Speaker 1: think she's too much to the point where it isn't

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Speaker 1: even fun for you. And I got to ask you.

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Speaker 1: She did all this the very first time, and then

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Speaker 1: the second time she brought toys. You said you spoke

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Speaker 1: up when she brought the toys. I guess you, you know,

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Speaker 1: put your foot down or something. And and I just

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Speaker 1: think you're gonna have to do much more of that.

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Speaker 1: If it isn't too late, it might be too late,

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Speaker 1: because she is in control of this relationship whether you

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Speaker 1: like it or not. You say, you wear the pants

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Speaker 1: in the family, and you need her in the relationship

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Speaker 1: and you need her to know it. Well, Um, I mean,

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Speaker 1: I guess it's never too late. But you know, she's

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Speaker 1: wearing the pants. Okay, she's wearing the pants, and she's

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Speaker 1: in control, and you're doing what she's telling you to do.

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Speaker 1: She tells you to sit down on the train, and

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Speaker 1: guess what you do? Sit down on the train. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I mean, you know, what is it? Why? Why don't

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Speaker 1: you speak up? Why don't you let her know how

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Speaker 1: you feel? What is going on here? Are you the

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Speaker 1: because she's pretty strong and you're doing exactly what she says.

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Speaker 1: That's my opinion in this situation. If you want to

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Speaker 1: do something different, you got to talk to her about it.

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Speaker 1: If she'll listen, and if you're sitting and she's standing, Steve, well, well,

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Speaker 1: my lady, act like a man and think like a man. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you know, everything was okay in the beginning to we

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Speaker 1: mess my hand sex for the first time, she controlled

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Speaker 1: do anything. She got on top and that would it.

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Speaker 1: And it seemed to go on forever. Let's focus here.

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Speaker 1: I don't know when the last time I've been had sex,

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Speaker 1: and I said, it seemed to go on forever. Hell

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Speaker 1: was going on in here? Where your your statement was?

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Speaker 1: It seemed to go on forever. I've heard women say that,

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Speaker 1: you know, do you can end this anytime? Yeah, just

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Speaker 1: a little bit of focusing. You can end this here

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Speaker 1: or it can be over now. So she controlled everything,

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Speaker 1: she got on top, and that was it. I tried

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Speaker 1: to talk to her, plead with her. Let me do something, baby, baby, Baby,

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Speaker 1: get on, baby, baby, baby, come on, okay, baby, baby

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Speaker 1: stop for a minute. Baby, Hold up, baby, Baby, you bounced.

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Speaker 1: Stop bouncing, baby, baby, Baby, come here, baby, hold up, baby,

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Speaker 1: hold it down, baby, hold on. Please please let me

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Speaker 1: do something. Baby, you get out. Let me get on top, baby, baby,

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Speaker 1: let me get on top. Baby, please, please, baby, let

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Speaker 1: me get on top. Please. Baby. Talking too much to

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Speaker 1: hurt me. I'm just going on just too long. I

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Speaker 1: don't like it just long right here. It bothered me.

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Speaker 1: I'm feeling some kind of way by myself. May please stop, please, please, baby,

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Speaker 1: let me get on top. Don't don't do that no more, baby, Please,

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Speaker 1: I'll ask you about five six times. Matter of fact,

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Speaker 1: I have thirty times. Stop maybe just stop, please please.

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Speaker 1: I don't want it like that. No more. You're spanking me, y'a.

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Speaker 1: Don't want you spanking me like that. Baby, stop spanking me.

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Speaker 1: I want to spank you now. Stop. Baby. Don't slap

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Speaker 1: me in the mouth no more. Okay, don't don't slap

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Speaker 1: me in the damn mouth no more. He's too much.

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Speaker 1: All right, Listen, Steve, hold it right there, Okay, make

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Speaker 1: me crap. Oh, we'll have part two of Steve's a

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Speaker 1: response coming up at twenty three after the hours. Subject

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Speaker 1: of today's Strawberry letter my eighty. My lady acts like

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Speaker 1: a man and thanks like a man. Uh, we'll be

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Speaker 1: back right after this. You're listening show, all right, Steve,

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Speaker 1: come on, let's recap today's Strawberry letter. It ain't much

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Speaker 1: of a recap because we didn't go nowhere coaches. If

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Speaker 1: he was dating this beautiful, strong, talented woman, everything was

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Speaker 1: going fine, then they didn't. Didn't it had sex for

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Speaker 1: the first time. She controlled everything to stop defending finished,

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Speaker 1: she let me do nothing. She got on top, and

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Speaker 1: tried to talk to you and plead with let me

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Speaker 1: do some work, but she wasn't having it. Baby stopped

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Speaker 1: just too much. It's going on too long. She was

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Speaker 1: just bounce too hard. That's too hard, baby, baby pulled up.

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Speaker 1: Hold hold the baby, baby, baby? Can we turn over

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Speaker 1: just one time? They would just turn over one time.

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Speaker 1: Let me get on top of I know, I know, baby,

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Speaker 1: but I just want to try. They just let me try.

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Speaker 1: What's you me? Shut up, baby, hold on, hold on baby,

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Speaker 1: all right, now I'm gonna shut up, but let me

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Speaker 1: that's going on. The second time we had sex, she

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Speaker 1: bought in toys. Yes, my girl had toys and thought

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Speaker 1: cut it on and use it on me. Then I'm

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Speaker 1: gonna cut it on and use it on you. And

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Speaker 1: you're gonna shut up. Now you're gonna take this hill.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna get a time. Shut up, boy, Yes, Jesus tors.

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Speaker 1: Don't weary about what it is. Don't wear about it now.

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Speaker 1: What you're gonna do is you're gonna stop just what

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Speaker 1: You're gonna just be a little punk now. And then

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Speaker 1: after that I started noticing things like she want to

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Speaker 1: drive all the time. Sit your punk hasts over there

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Speaker 1: in the past, matter fact, sit in the back. Then

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Speaker 1: we go out. She always rubbing my back with both hands,

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Speaker 1: just giving me a neck massage in public. Then when

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Speaker 1: I'm trying to order my food, she don'ta let me order.

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Speaker 1: He gonna have what I have? Bring him a cosmopolitan

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Speaker 1: with extra fruit? What color he wanted? An umbrella? Can

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Speaker 1: you put an umbrella in it? The umbrella shut up.

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Speaker 1: And then we was out last week and she grabbed

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Speaker 1: board and they still joke with me about that. But

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Speaker 1: we know you ain't gonna say nothing to them, dude,

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Speaker 1: lighting your hands up. When we ride to train together,

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Speaker 1: she always insisted I sit, and she preferred to stand

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Speaker 1: got some business you're gonna take care of tonight. I'm

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Speaker 1: gonna go Yes, it's gonna go on forever. But I

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Speaker 1: know she's a very independent woman and that's why I

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Speaker 1: But hold on to what you're feel to do about it,

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Speaker 1: though you know I know, and I can't get with

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Speaker 1: based on this matter what you feel I stole it,

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Speaker 1: I wear the pants and I need her to know

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Speaker 1: you better leave alone. I ain't talking about leave her

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Speaker 1: because she's gonna hunt you down. I'm talking about just

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Speaker 1: let it go the way it is because you ain't.

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Speaker 1: You ain't got the pants on. Now you got you

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Speaker 1: tell her. What can I getting her to back down

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Speaker 1: and let me leave? Why don't you leave? See? I

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Speaker 1: figured you the one. But she ain't letting you leave

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Speaker 1: because she don't think you got it. So what can

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Speaker 1: I do to get her to bad down and let

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Speaker 1: some woman let me leave because I'm gonna lead. I'm

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Speaker 1: I'm an out for mail. Please give me your opinions

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Speaker 1: on how shit handling this situation. You probably need to

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Speaker 1: shut your little Puntcass. I'm gonna just be real with you.

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Speaker 1: You don't need to say nothing to the skills. I

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Speaker 1: don't think you who And you just got to get

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Speaker 1: And it ain't for ever a matter of fact, it's

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Speaker 1: been the last forever moment. Now that's what you got

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Speaker 1: to do. And you and write another letter into Steve

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Speaker 1: and see what happened to your ass? And next time

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Speaker 1: about what what? What? What do it? Come inside? Is it?

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Speaker 1: Because this the side we use. We don't use feathers

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Speaker 1: in here. Get that other one out, get that one out,

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Speaker 1: touch it, your hands on it now, throw it over here.

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Speaker 1: He says, she acts like a man, and things like

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Speaker 1: get your mother too, cut him on. Hi. See, we

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