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Speaker 1: The Jewels Show on demand, Jebils dirty little Secret. It's

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Speaker 1: time for your dirty little secrets. So on the phone

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Speaker 1: right now is somebody. I can't say their name because

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Speaker 1: everybody is anonymous when they tell us a dirty little secret.

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Speaker 1: So what's up somebody? Hi? Are you doing? Are you?

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Speaker 1: I'm I mean, I'm okay. What's your dirty little secret? So?

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Speaker 1: My three little secret is I've been with my boyfriend

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Speaker 1: for about six years now, and this summer I already

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Speaker 1: have a U Hall rented and I'm moving seven hundred

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Speaker 1: miles back home. And he has no idea. Oh my, whoa,

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Speaker 1: you're You're just gonna bounce. Yeah, I'm just gonna leave.

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Speaker 1: We have we have four kids together. Oh damn, are

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Speaker 1: you taking the kids into U haul too? Or you're leaving?

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, me and the kids are leaving and he's staying.

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Speaker 1: Wait is he like? Is he abusive? Well? So he, Um,

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Speaker 1: he's not very helpful. I had him that he'll help

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Speaker 1: me clean up after the kids and stuff, and he

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Speaker 1: says I didn't do it. Wow, So he has no

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Speaker 1: idea that you you already have everything ready to go

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Speaker 1: to move? Yeah? Yeah, I rent into U haul. My

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Speaker 1: parents are the ones that live where I'm going. Yeah, okay,

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Speaker 1: I more kids is a lot, right, that's a lot

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Speaker 1: of work and to not have help. Yeah, I mean

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Speaker 1: I definitely know how that feels, and it's not right

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Speaker 1: for sure. Yeah. I don't think most dudes understand. I

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Speaker 1: definitely didn't and still probably don't a lot of the

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Speaker 1: time because you've never been in the position of being

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Speaker 1: a mom before. Man, that's a lot of responsibility and

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Speaker 1: you have to do everything. And if you have someone

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Speaker 1: who won't help out at all, yeah, that's a lot.

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Speaker 1: Like those people are depending on you for life, you know,

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Speaker 1: full time too. Yeah. I have a full time job,

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Speaker 1: and he thinks that the house is my responsibility. So

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Speaker 1: that's crazy. You still have to work full time job,

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Speaker 1: all that on top of it, and then he wants

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Speaker 1: you to just take care of the house. Yeah. And three, well,

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Speaker 1: my three older kids aren't his. And the one thing

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Speaker 1: that really makes me the sub set as he says,

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Speaker 1: your kids, and I'm like, uh, if we're together, there

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Speaker 1: are kids. The smallest one is his. How old is

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Speaker 1: your youngest? She's four? Okay, And forgive me, you're breaking

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Speaker 1: up with him? Right? Oh yeah I will. I So

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Speaker 1: what I plan on doing is telling him, like a

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Speaker 1: week before I leave, Hey, I'm leaving. Okay, so what

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Speaker 1: about your guys's daughter? So is he do you think

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Speaker 1: that he's gonna want to fight for some sort of custody? Well,

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Speaker 1: we had split up before and I had come back,

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Speaker 1: and so when we split up, his dad had just

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Speaker 1: gone through a really bad something with his mom. So

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Speaker 1: his dad was like, get a lawyer and get it

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Speaker 1: all set up so you can have visitation, and da

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Speaker 1: da dada. So it was already all set up. So

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Speaker 1: I just plan on going back to that old He

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Speaker 1: got the template in place for the whole Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I like it. On weekend, the whole thing. He plays

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Speaker 1: video games about eight to ten hours a day. Oh okay,

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Speaker 1: so yeah, you shouldn't even tell him. Like I would

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Speaker 1: normally not support somebody just leaving like that, but I'm

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Speaker 1: paying attention. I can see what's going on. No, you're now, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you know he doesn't. Dudes to play games like that

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Speaker 1: or gamers like that, they just get totally wrapped in

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Speaker 1: their game. All my parents are going to show up

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Speaker 1: to help me, and he's gonna be like, what's going on? Good, Well,

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Speaker 1: congratulations on getting us. Sounds like a bad relationship for you,

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Speaker 1: and you're doing the right thing because you'll find one

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Speaker 1: for that is right for you eventually. Yeah. Well, one

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Speaker 1: other thing is I'm scared he's going to try and propose.

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Speaker 1: To say yes. Yes seriously, it actually makes it better

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Speaker 1: because now you can be like, I just have second thoughts.

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Speaker 1: I don't know, it just got too serious. Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: there we go. Yeah, I'm just scared about it. But

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Speaker 1: I'm like, I already got the you horror in it.

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Speaker 1: I'm going I was super scared too. But just remember

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Speaker 1: this in the moments where you're feeling scared to be

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Speaker 1: a single mom or you're fearful of whatever, core all

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Speaker 1: of that, just remember the way that he made you

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Speaker 1: feel when you were at your worst because of the

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Speaker 1: lack of help and all of that. Ill, so have

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Speaker 1: another suggestion that might be very helpful. Okay, So you're

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Speaker 1: planning on leaving him in two weeks ago, you haul

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Speaker 1: set up, you're gonna take the kids, You're gonna just bounce, right,

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Speaker 1: And you said you think he might propose to you

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Speaker 1: before you were able to break up with him and leave,

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Speaker 1: And we're saying you should say no, right, except I

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Speaker 1: kind of think you should say yes just so you

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Speaker 1: can get that ring. I think you deserve it. That

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Speaker 1: is the truest statement you girl. And then don't don't

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Speaker 1: leave it behind, just take it with you upon it. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: that's what I'm saying. Take that thing right, all right?

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