1 00:00:00,960 --> 00:00:03,160 Speaker 1: Hey guys, I'm Kaylie Shore, and this is too much 2 00:00:03,200 --> 00:00:21,680 Speaker 1: to say asking questions it out you. Okay, so the 3 00:00:21,720 --> 00:00:26,120 Speaker 1: news has been weird this week. Um. I decided like 4 00:00:26,200 --> 00:00:28,880 Speaker 1: three weeks ago to start rewatching Handmaid's Tale because I 5 00:00:28,960 --> 00:00:31,120 Speaker 1: only ever watched the first season and I've read the book, 6 00:00:31,600 --> 00:00:38,440 Speaker 1: and I did not expect this turn of events in 7 00:00:38,680 --> 00:00:44,239 Speaker 1: um like women's rights to quite quite do this. Um, 8 00:00:44,240 --> 00:00:46,080 Speaker 1: but I really want to talk about it. It's really 9 00:00:46,159 --> 00:00:48,920 Speaker 1: important to me. And um we're gonna be talking a 10 00:00:48,960 --> 00:00:51,480 Speaker 1: lot about reproductive health. So if the words period, blood 11 00:00:51,479 --> 00:00:53,520 Speaker 1: freak you out go ask your mom for the sex 12 00:00:53,560 --> 00:00:58,959 Speaker 1: talk come back next week. But um, I I want 13 00:00:59,000 --> 00:01:01,320 Speaker 1: to share my perspective because it comes from a place 14 00:01:01,360 --> 00:01:05,120 Speaker 1: of un learning, like most things. And I've talked about 15 00:01:05,160 --> 00:01:07,760 Speaker 1: that because I grew up in you know, a rather 16 00:01:07,800 --> 00:01:11,039 Speaker 1: fundamentalist Christian environment, thinking that a lot of things were 17 00:01:11,040 --> 00:01:14,880 Speaker 1: wrong without having any information to back that up. Um 18 00:01:14,920 --> 00:01:17,520 Speaker 1: you know, I mean I thought that gay people we're 19 00:01:17,520 --> 00:01:21,080 Speaker 1: going to hell, so and that's clearly not true, and 20 00:01:21,200 --> 00:01:24,200 Speaker 1: um I'd be right in hell with them. So it's 21 00:01:24,240 --> 00:01:28,880 Speaker 1: like it's just not real. So I'm on learning all 22 00:01:28,880 --> 00:01:31,280 Speaker 1: of those things. And as a kid, I grew up 23 00:01:31,319 --> 00:01:36,600 Speaker 1: going to abortion rallies, um anti abortion rallies and holding 24 00:01:36,600 --> 00:01:41,880 Speaker 1: a sign in front of the clinic which people could 25 00:01:41,880 --> 00:01:44,800 Speaker 1: have been going into for for condoms. They could have 26 00:01:44,800 --> 00:01:50,640 Speaker 1: been going in for um, you know, cervical cancer assessments. 27 00:01:50,640 --> 00:01:53,080 Speaker 1: They could have been going into, you know, talk about 28 00:01:53,160 --> 00:01:55,640 Speaker 1: an abortion or adoption. They could have been doing anything. 29 00:01:55,680 --> 00:01:58,920 Speaker 1: But this group of people that I was forced to 30 00:01:59,080 --> 00:02:02,160 Speaker 1: go with when I was like five or six years old, UM, 31 00:02:02,160 --> 00:02:06,160 Speaker 1: with my one of my parents. There'd be these these 32 00:02:06,200 --> 00:02:08,240 Speaker 1: women going in there and I'd be holding the signs 33 00:02:08,280 --> 00:02:13,000 Speaker 1: like would you murder me? That's so fucking manipulative. And 34 00:02:13,080 --> 00:02:17,000 Speaker 1: now that I'm older and I've had really really close 35 00:02:17,040 --> 00:02:20,480 Speaker 1: friends and relatives have to have an abortion, I know 36 00:02:20,520 --> 00:02:25,440 Speaker 1: how horrible that would have made them feel in that moment. Um, 37 00:02:25,520 --> 00:02:27,000 Speaker 1: So I really want to I really want to talk 38 00:02:27,040 --> 00:02:29,960 Speaker 1: about it and share some share some things that I 39 00:02:30,000 --> 00:02:32,400 Speaker 1: have too much to say about. But if you don't 40 00:02:32,960 --> 00:02:36,240 Speaker 1: identify as pro choice, I really hope you still listen, 41 00:02:36,480 --> 00:02:38,560 Speaker 1: because I don't want to come at this from a 42 00:02:38,600 --> 00:02:42,040 Speaker 1: place of you know, fuck you, blah blah blah blah, 43 00:02:42,120 --> 00:02:44,040 Speaker 1: you're trying to control my body. Because even though I 44 00:02:44,080 --> 00:02:47,640 Speaker 1: am very very angry. I want to approach this the 45 00:02:47,680 --> 00:02:52,360 Speaker 1: way that helped me understand and help me unlearn those 46 00:02:52,360 --> 00:02:55,320 Speaker 1: things that I was taught. So let's die rate it. 47 00:02:57,880 --> 00:03:08,000 Speaker 1: I think that people I understand where the passion for 48 00:03:08,400 --> 00:03:11,160 Speaker 1: being pro life comes from. But I think it's this 49 00:03:11,320 --> 00:03:17,880 Speaker 1: kind of really unhealthy, privileged, toxic form of activism, and 50 00:03:17,960 --> 00:03:23,360 Speaker 1: it's preferring to be an activist for groups that can't 51 00:03:23,360 --> 00:03:28,600 Speaker 1: speak for themselves. And it's uncomfortable. It's uncomfortable as a 52 00:03:29,720 --> 00:03:31,560 Speaker 1: you know, as a as a white woman too to 53 00:03:31,680 --> 00:03:36,160 Speaker 1: realize like, Okay, my opinions on racism don't actually really 54 00:03:36,200 --> 00:03:38,000 Speaker 1: matter that much and the best thing I can do 55 00:03:38,520 --> 00:03:41,640 Speaker 1: is let a person of colors speak for themselves and 56 00:03:41,680 --> 00:03:46,720 Speaker 1: their experience. And it's an ego thing I think to 57 00:03:46,840 --> 00:03:49,440 Speaker 1: like be like, okay, well, you know, it's it's uncomfortable. 58 00:03:49,440 --> 00:03:52,640 Speaker 1: I mean, obviously that's something I know and I learned 59 00:03:52,640 --> 00:03:54,680 Speaker 1: a long time ago. But the first time you realize that, 60 00:03:54,760 --> 00:03:57,920 Speaker 1: it's like, oh, I'm not needed for this conversation. I 61 00:03:57,960 --> 00:04:00,760 Speaker 1: need to just shut up and listen. And that was 62 00:04:00,800 --> 00:04:02,480 Speaker 1: a big thing I think people were talking about in 63 00:04:02,560 --> 00:04:05,680 Speaker 1: the summer, and that was a really really important thing. 64 00:04:06,920 --> 00:04:11,560 Speaker 1: And yeah, it's it's a lot easier from a from 65 00:04:11,600 --> 00:04:15,480 Speaker 1: a human ego perspective to just pick a group that 66 00:04:15,560 --> 00:04:17,800 Speaker 1: can't speak for themselves, so you can do all the 67 00:04:17,839 --> 00:04:22,240 Speaker 1: talking advocating for fetuses. You can do all the talking 68 00:04:22,279 --> 00:04:24,520 Speaker 1: when you're advocating for animals, and you know, I love 69 00:04:24,560 --> 00:04:28,200 Speaker 1: advocating for animals, but you can do all the talking 70 00:04:28,240 --> 00:04:32,520 Speaker 1: when you're advocating for children in third world countries. You 71 00:04:32,520 --> 00:04:34,440 Speaker 1: know you're not going over there with your microphone asking 72 00:04:34,480 --> 00:04:37,800 Speaker 1: them their perspective. And if you were, you know, I 73 00:04:37,839 --> 00:04:42,480 Speaker 1: mean Tom's the shoe company people they put out of business, 74 00:04:42,520 --> 00:04:45,280 Speaker 1: like all of these And I also would like to 75 00:04:45,279 --> 00:04:48,159 Speaker 1: correct myself because I think third world countries is a 76 00:04:48,440 --> 00:04:51,520 Speaker 1: is a pejorative term. Um. I just can't think of 77 00:04:51,560 --> 00:04:55,640 Speaker 1: another one, so it's not said with that attention, but um, 78 00:04:55,680 --> 00:04:59,080 Speaker 1: they put these like local shoot companies out of business 79 00:04:59,120 --> 00:05:00,960 Speaker 1: because they just came by and we're just like handing 80 00:05:00,960 --> 00:05:04,080 Speaker 1: out everybody like free shoes. And I bought Tom's because 81 00:05:04,120 --> 00:05:05,880 Speaker 1: they were cool, and I was like, oh, that's so awesome. 82 00:05:06,040 --> 00:05:08,120 Speaker 1: But if they literally just held a mica up to 83 00:05:08,160 --> 00:05:12,000 Speaker 1: anybody in that town who like that affected any of 84 00:05:12,000 --> 00:05:13,479 Speaker 1: the adults, they would have been like, yeah, you know, 85 00:05:13,600 --> 00:05:15,760 Speaker 1: like there was this really nice guy and he had 86 00:05:15,800 --> 00:05:18,360 Speaker 1: a shoe company. You now he doesn't because everyone can 87 00:05:18,400 --> 00:05:22,520 Speaker 1: get them for free, and it's like, oh my god. 88 00:05:23,600 --> 00:05:26,080 Speaker 1: So it just feels like that kind of cheap activism 89 00:05:26,120 --> 00:05:30,000 Speaker 1: to me, because you can control the narrative, you don't 90 00:05:30,040 --> 00:05:34,080 Speaker 1: have to ask anybody else's opinion. And this is a 91 00:05:34,160 --> 00:05:41,719 Speaker 1: dark thought, but one that I've seen. Um, there's there's 92 00:05:41,760 --> 00:05:47,119 Speaker 1: people that shouldn't have children. And if you're a person 93 00:05:47,200 --> 00:05:51,919 Speaker 1: in an abusive relationship and find out that you're pregnant 94 00:05:52,400 --> 00:05:56,040 Speaker 1: with his child and you can't get away from it, 95 00:05:57,200 --> 00:06:01,360 Speaker 1: like you're the child is going to be a victim 96 00:06:01,360 --> 00:06:05,640 Speaker 1: of that too, And the best thing you could probably do. 97 00:06:06,080 --> 00:06:08,360 Speaker 1: I mean, when you see these heinous stories of like 98 00:06:08,680 --> 00:06:12,440 Speaker 1: people murdering their children, or I mean I saw one 99 00:06:12,560 --> 00:06:16,480 Speaker 1: the other day that this woman like forced her this 100 00:06:16,560 --> 00:06:20,440 Speaker 1: woman's mother. So the grandmother forced her four year old 101 00:06:20,640 --> 00:06:24,479 Speaker 1: granddaughter to drink a bottle of whiskey entirely have a 102 00:06:24,480 --> 00:06:27,720 Speaker 1: bottle whiskey in front of her mother because she thought 103 00:06:27,720 --> 00:06:31,240 Speaker 1: the four year old had like snuck a sip of it, 104 00:06:31,960 --> 00:06:34,760 Speaker 1: and she drank the whole thing and like immediately died 105 00:06:36,360 --> 00:06:40,840 Speaker 1: and so it's like, what's better that that little girl 106 00:06:41,400 --> 00:06:43,359 Speaker 1: was growing up in an environment where that was going 107 00:06:43,400 --> 00:06:45,120 Speaker 1: to fucking happen to her and that was going to 108 00:06:45,240 --> 00:06:49,920 Speaker 1: be her destiny. Those people should never have children. They shouldn't. 109 00:06:50,400 --> 00:06:54,160 Speaker 1: And also I'm going to dive into like my real 110 00:06:54,360 --> 00:07:00,400 Speaker 1: thoughts about just the logistics of abortion next. But it's 111 00:07:00,440 --> 00:07:03,600 Speaker 1: just it's complicated. It's not as easy as we want 112 00:07:03,600 --> 00:07:06,760 Speaker 1: to say it is, and so being reductive and calling 113 00:07:06,760 --> 00:07:10,920 Speaker 1: it murdering babies is not factoring and everything. So we'll 114 00:07:10,960 --> 00:07:24,240 Speaker 1: dive into that next. So I have a podcast on 115 00:07:24,680 --> 00:07:26,640 Speaker 1: toxic feminism that I've done if you want to go 116 00:07:26,680 --> 00:07:29,520 Speaker 1: back and listen to that. And honestly, this was the 117 00:07:29,520 --> 00:07:32,680 Speaker 1: side of it that I was not feeling great about 118 00:07:33,640 --> 00:07:36,880 Speaker 1: diving into, because it is super fucking uncomfortable to talk 119 00:07:36,920 --> 00:07:42,320 Speaker 1: about abortion, especially when I grew up in a place 120 00:07:42,360 --> 00:07:51,960 Speaker 1: where like it was murder and nobody wants an abortion 121 00:07:53,240 --> 00:07:58,200 Speaker 1: except for and on the side of toxic feminism. Um 122 00:07:58,320 --> 00:08:01,880 Speaker 1: Lena Dunham once said in View that she hasn't had 123 00:08:01,920 --> 00:08:06,400 Speaker 1: an abortion yet, but she wishes that she had an Unfortunately, guys, 124 00:08:06,440 --> 00:08:10,560 Speaker 1: that's a direct quote, and that's so fucking stupid. And privileged, 125 00:08:10,680 --> 00:08:14,400 Speaker 1: and I, you know, don't like just attacking celebrities, but 126 00:08:14,920 --> 00:08:19,880 Speaker 1: I hated that so much because it's an insult to 127 00:08:20,000 --> 00:08:23,920 Speaker 1: any woman who's had one. Nobody's running around getting abortions 128 00:08:23,960 --> 00:08:28,800 Speaker 1: for fun, if you I didn't understand what they were 129 00:08:28,880 --> 00:08:32,240 Speaker 1: like until I watched two of the closest people to 130 00:08:32,320 --> 00:08:35,400 Speaker 1: me have them, and they had them because they were 131 00:08:35,840 --> 00:08:40,559 Speaker 1: forced to, because there was no other option for them. 132 00:08:40,679 --> 00:08:43,520 Speaker 1: There was no other option for them. Their their lives 133 00:08:43,520 --> 00:08:48,320 Speaker 1: would have been completely changed, and that child would have 134 00:08:48,320 --> 00:08:50,719 Speaker 1: had a horrible life. I'm in a position where, like 135 00:08:51,160 --> 00:08:54,200 Speaker 1: my my dad adopted my niece and nephew after my 136 00:08:54,240 --> 00:08:58,160 Speaker 1: sister passed away, and they're eleven and seven and my 137 00:08:58,240 --> 00:09:03,560 Speaker 1: dad is seven and the three seventy four, somewhere in 138 00:09:03,559 --> 00:09:07,920 Speaker 1: that range, and I'm the next person who can take them. 139 00:09:07,960 --> 00:09:13,719 Speaker 1: I'm so when my dad can no longer take care 140 00:09:13,760 --> 00:09:18,360 Speaker 1: of these kids like that, responsibilities on me. There's there's 141 00:09:18,400 --> 00:09:20,960 Speaker 1: no other place. But I know if I were to 142 00:09:21,000 --> 00:09:23,640 Speaker 1: take them right now, I would not be able to 143 00:09:23,679 --> 00:09:26,360 Speaker 1: have my career right like, I mean, it would be over. 144 00:09:26,559 --> 00:09:28,480 Speaker 1: It's it's so easy to think I could still do it. 145 00:09:28,520 --> 00:09:32,880 Speaker 1: I couldn't. I absolutely could not because I just it 146 00:09:32,920 --> 00:09:35,480 Speaker 1: would it would literally be impossible. I'd have to change 147 00:09:35,520 --> 00:09:38,720 Speaker 1: everything about my life, and I would not be able 148 00:09:38,760 --> 00:09:41,360 Speaker 1: to give those kids a life that they deserve. Whereas 149 00:09:41,400 --> 00:09:45,080 Speaker 1: if I can work for five or six more years 150 00:09:45,559 --> 00:09:48,680 Speaker 1: and then take them, I can, like they can go 151 00:09:48,760 --> 00:09:51,800 Speaker 1: to college and they can you know, pursue their dreams, 152 00:09:51,840 --> 00:09:54,840 Speaker 1: and they can have the safe home environment that they deserve, 153 00:09:54,920 --> 00:09:57,640 Speaker 1: and they can have, you know, the things I didn't 154 00:09:57,640 --> 00:10:00,840 Speaker 1: have growing up. And so I know that different than abortion, 155 00:10:00,880 --> 00:10:03,720 Speaker 1: but it's still like the thought of like I can't 156 00:10:03,760 --> 00:10:06,280 Speaker 1: be a mother right now, but I can be someday. 157 00:10:06,679 --> 00:10:09,480 Speaker 1: But if I'm one right now, like those kids aren't 158 00:10:09,520 --> 00:10:12,920 Speaker 1: going to have the life that they deserve. And so 159 00:10:14,080 --> 00:10:17,960 Speaker 1: Lena Dunham's statement was just so fucking ignorant because nobody 160 00:10:18,040 --> 00:10:25,439 Speaker 1: wants an abortion. It's just like they're painful, they're expensive, 161 00:10:25,920 --> 00:10:29,800 Speaker 1: and right now with this rolling as is um, I 162 00:10:29,880 --> 00:10:32,760 Speaker 1: live right now in Tennessee, which is a trigger straight state, 163 00:10:32,800 --> 00:10:38,000 Speaker 1: which means they can pull the trigger immediately after the 164 00:10:38,040 --> 00:10:41,920 Speaker 1: Supreme Court makes this ruling, which seems like it will 165 00:10:41,960 --> 00:10:46,760 Speaker 1: be in about three to six weeks if they officially 166 00:10:46,760 --> 00:10:48,679 Speaker 1: go through with it, which like they all but have 167 00:10:49,040 --> 00:10:51,880 Speaker 1: I probably should have start off this episode explaining the 168 00:10:52,800 --> 00:10:57,160 Speaker 1: Supreme Court ruling. But basically, you know, they that doesn't happen. 169 00:10:57,200 --> 00:11:01,079 Speaker 1: They don't leak the first draft of the documents ever. 170 00:11:01,400 --> 00:11:04,160 Speaker 1: That never happens. You don't see first drafts of things 171 00:11:04,200 --> 00:11:07,360 Speaker 1: from the Supreme Court because it's like super super super secretive. 172 00:11:07,600 --> 00:11:09,959 Speaker 1: But somebody did it because they knew that life was 173 00:11:09,960 --> 00:11:13,280 Speaker 1: about turn into the Handmaid's Tale. So, but tennessee the 174 00:11:13,280 --> 00:11:16,480 Speaker 1: trigger states. So as soon as that officially comes out, 175 00:11:17,040 --> 00:11:21,520 Speaker 1: then abortion will be illegal here. Um. I believe it 176 00:11:21,559 --> 00:11:26,000 Speaker 1: will be illegal in Georgia, Alabama. Um, obviously it's already 177 00:11:26,440 --> 00:11:28,600 Speaker 1: you know, funked up. In Texas, you can see somebody 178 00:11:28,640 --> 00:11:30,640 Speaker 1: for ten dollars, even if you don't know him. That's 179 00:11:30,679 --> 00:11:34,280 Speaker 1: a real thing. Um. And then Florida has one as well, 180 00:11:34,320 --> 00:11:35,719 Speaker 1: and I believe they are trigger state. And so I 181 00:11:35,800 --> 00:11:38,600 Speaker 1: was reading this thing that was like, in a very 182 00:11:38,640 --> 00:11:43,320 Speaker 1: short period of time, if everything goes as the government 183 00:11:43,320 --> 00:11:47,360 Speaker 1: has it planned, then a girl in Miami who was 184 00:11:47,440 --> 00:11:49,840 Speaker 1: twelve years old and got pregnant because she was raped. 185 00:11:49,960 --> 00:11:54,520 Speaker 1: Because if anybody gets a twelve year old pregnant, it's right, Um, 186 00:11:54,760 --> 00:11:59,360 Speaker 1: the closest place for her to get an abortion safe 187 00:11:59,360 --> 00:12:05,079 Speaker 1: and legally would be Metropolis, Illinois, which is a fifteen 188 00:12:05,160 --> 00:12:12,600 Speaker 1: hour drive and over a thousand miles. And like, I mean, 189 00:12:12,640 --> 00:12:16,719 Speaker 1: you have like child victims of sex trafficking, and that's 190 00:12:16,760 --> 00:12:19,360 Speaker 1: another that's another group that you can advocate for without 191 00:12:19,360 --> 00:12:21,920 Speaker 1: ever asking their opinion on because it's like you're talking 192 00:12:21,920 --> 00:12:23,920 Speaker 1: about children, you get to speak over them, you don't, 193 00:12:24,040 --> 00:12:28,400 Speaker 1: You don't. How often have you seen a child victim 194 00:12:28,400 --> 00:12:31,319 Speaker 1: of sex trafficking actually talking about their experience. You hear 195 00:12:31,360 --> 00:12:34,160 Speaker 1: from adults like later down the road, but it's always 196 00:12:34,440 --> 00:12:37,240 Speaker 1: always people who don't have anything to do with it 197 00:12:37,600 --> 00:12:40,600 Speaker 1: that are talking about it. And then when you do 198 00:12:40,760 --> 00:12:45,959 Speaker 1: have like they're they're called sex workers, like Cintoia Brown 199 00:12:46,080 --> 00:12:51,560 Speaker 1: in Tennessee was a victim of sex trafficking, but in 200 00:12:51,679 --> 00:12:55,040 Speaker 1: court she's a sex worker. No, she's being forced against 201 00:12:55,040 --> 00:12:58,240 Speaker 1: her will to be to be a sex slave. That's 202 00:12:58,280 --> 00:13:01,679 Speaker 1: that's what that is. And so they're talking about this 203 00:13:01,760 --> 00:13:06,800 Speaker 1: group of invisible children who are being manipulated. But as 204 00:13:06,800 --> 00:13:10,679 Speaker 1: soon as that child is like seventeen, their sex worker sixteen, 205 00:13:10,679 --> 00:13:13,720 Speaker 1: they're sex worker, they're slat And it's just you can 206 00:13:13,800 --> 00:13:16,240 Speaker 1: you can advocate for that group so easily, but then 207 00:13:16,280 --> 00:13:18,760 Speaker 1: as soon as they're not a little baby that can't 208 00:13:18,800 --> 00:13:22,520 Speaker 1: speak for themselves, you don't want to support them anymore. 209 00:13:22,559 --> 00:13:25,920 Speaker 1: And that's so fucked up. And I'm a little all 210 00:13:25,920 --> 00:13:29,079 Speaker 1: over the place because I've just been super pissed over 211 00:13:29,080 --> 00:13:32,720 Speaker 1: the past few days. But um so that, and like, honestly, 212 00:13:32,760 --> 00:13:36,480 Speaker 1: Miami has a horrible sex trafficking like situation down there. 213 00:13:36,640 --> 00:13:39,680 Speaker 1: It's really bad, it's really unsafe. I mean, you know 214 00:13:39,720 --> 00:13:42,080 Speaker 1: what the headlines are like in Florida, and so the 215 00:13:42,120 --> 00:13:46,160 Speaker 1: closest place they could go is southern Illinois. That's insane, 216 00:13:46,480 --> 00:13:52,240 Speaker 1: that's absolutely insane. And so it's like they're already so 217 00:13:52,320 --> 00:13:55,240 Speaker 1: expensive and they're painful, and like this is about to 218 00:13:55,240 --> 00:13:57,720 Speaker 1: be graphics, so feel fruit fast forward just if you 219 00:13:57,720 --> 00:13:59,520 Speaker 1: don't want to hear it, because I don't think it's 220 00:13:59,640 --> 00:14:04,040 Speaker 1: nice as sarry, But if you have one, it's like 221 00:14:05,240 --> 00:14:08,360 Speaker 1: that's there's more blood involved than one would think would 222 00:14:08,360 --> 00:14:11,080 Speaker 1: be capable like possible to come out of the human body, 223 00:14:11,400 --> 00:14:18,040 Speaker 1: and you're basically like paying six to be in unimaginal pain. 224 00:14:18,080 --> 00:14:21,280 Speaker 1: And this is like talking about the pill which you 225 00:14:21,320 --> 00:14:26,200 Speaker 1: can take, and it's like nobody wants that nobody's like 226 00:14:26,280 --> 00:14:32,720 Speaker 1: lining like so when you see these really exaggerated Lena 227 00:14:32,800 --> 00:14:36,840 Speaker 1: Dunham type abortion activists, that's not the that's not the 228 00:14:36,880 --> 00:14:39,880 Speaker 1: core of it. That's just what conservative media wants you 229 00:14:39,960 --> 00:14:43,880 Speaker 1: to think that, you know, pro choice women are, which 230 00:14:43,920 --> 00:14:49,600 Speaker 1: is baby killers, which they're not. And there's a quote 231 00:14:49,920 --> 00:14:51,800 Speaker 1: who I don't think he's maybe the best. I don't 232 00:14:51,800 --> 00:14:54,760 Speaker 1: think any man in politics is the right person to 233 00:14:54,840 --> 00:15:00,640 Speaker 1: quote um in the context of women's rights. But Bill 234 00:15:00,640 --> 00:15:04,480 Speaker 1: Clinton did say one time because a lot of these politicians, 235 00:15:04,480 --> 00:15:07,840 Speaker 1: like Democrats, weren't pro choice back in the day. Joe 236 00:15:07,840 --> 00:15:11,840 Speaker 1: Biden was not pro choice. And also he's never said 237 00:15:11,920 --> 00:15:16,120 Speaker 1: the word abortion ever in his um as president. He's 238 00:15:16,120 --> 00:15:19,840 Speaker 1: always used vague terms like women's rights and reproductive health, 239 00:15:19,920 --> 00:15:24,520 Speaker 1: and he's never just said fucking abortion. And now it's showing. 240 00:15:24,680 --> 00:15:29,400 Speaker 1: And but Bill Clinton said abortions should be safe, legal, 241 00:15:29,440 --> 00:15:33,680 Speaker 1: and rare, and it's very succinct they should be. They 242 00:15:33,720 --> 00:15:35,800 Speaker 1: absolutely should be. And you know how we make them 243 00:15:35,880 --> 00:15:41,320 Speaker 1: rare birth control? Fucking birth control. And I grew up 244 00:15:41,320 --> 00:15:46,440 Speaker 1: at a school that had several teen pregnancies and they 245 00:15:46,480 --> 00:15:49,280 Speaker 1: were only like twelve kids in my class. Several teen 246 00:15:49,320 --> 00:15:55,560 Speaker 1: pregnancies because we weren't taught about sex. We weren't taught anything, 247 00:15:56,120 --> 00:15:59,920 Speaker 1: and like I waited until I was eighteen, and I'm 248 00:16:00,080 --> 00:16:03,040 Speaker 1: really thankful, but I don't know. I I learned about 249 00:16:03,040 --> 00:16:06,720 Speaker 1: sex because I forged my mother's signature on the sex 250 00:16:06,720 --> 00:16:09,320 Speaker 1: said form in eighth grade and ninth grade because I 251 00:16:09,320 --> 00:16:11,800 Speaker 1: wasn't allowed to take it. And I was like so 252 00:16:11,880 --> 00:16:17,320 Speaker 1: scared because I like I didn't know anything about it. 253 00:16:17,400 --> 00:16:19,560 Speaker 1: And also you need to know sex said, just because 254 00:16:19,560 --> 00:16:21,960 Speaker 1: like you need to understand, like how your fucking period works. 255 00:16:22,240 --> 00:16:25,360 Speaker 1: You need to understand, like they teach you so much 256 00:16:25,400 --> 00:16:28,560 Speaker 1: about healthy relationships and how to recognize if you're an 257 00:16:28,560 --> 00:16:31,640 Speaker 1: abusive relationship or how to like you know, learn ways 258 00:16:31,720 --> 00:16:34,880 Speaker 1: to um protect yourself as much as you can from 259 00:16:34,920 --> 00:16:36,720 Speaker 1: rape like that. Those are the things I took away 260 00:16:36,720 --> 00:16:39,200 Speaker 1: from that class, not like, oh I want to see 261 00:16:39,240 --> 00:16:42,160 Speaker 1: a penis no, if anything, it horrified me. They showed 262 00:16:42,200 --> 00:16:44,600 Speaker 1: you the childbirth video. I was like, I'm good, I'm 263 00:16:44,600 --> 00:16:46,480 Speaker 1: not gonna have sex for another four or five years. 264 00:16:46,600 --> 00:16:49,600 Speaker 1: That's great, thank you for showing me that. Like, but 265 00:16:49,680 --> 00:16:51,600 Speaker 1: we didn't have that at the Christian school that I 266 00:16:51,600 --> 00:16:54,160 Speaker 1: went to. There was no sex. There was nothing there 267 00:16:54,200 --> 00:16:55,960 Speaker 1: wasn't even like a health class in that in that 268 00:16:56,040 --> 00:16:59,400 Speaker 1: sense there was. It was an abstinence only education, which 269 00:16:59,440 --> 00:17:01,640 Speaker 1: is what a law out of these Southern politicians are 270 00:17:01,640 --> 00:17:05,600 Speaker 1: pushing for. And like, honestly, kids are going to have 271 00:17:05,720 --> 00:17:08,320 Speaker 1: sex and that's unfortunate. That makes me scared. I have 272 00:17:08,320 --> 00:17:11,200 Speaker 1: a little sister. I don't like that idea. I don't 273 00:17:11,240 --> 00:17:15,560 Speaker 1: I don't want that, But they're going to the only 274 00:17:15,560 --> 00:17:17,240 Speaker 1: way they're not is if you have like a real 275 00:17:17,320 --> 00:17:20,120 Speaker 1: talk conversation with them and talk to them about like, hey, 276 00:17:20,200 --> 00:17:23,160 Speaker 1: like your emotions are a little bit unstable right now, 277 00:17:23,240 --> 00:17:25,560 Speaker 1: and like if you like you're going to develop an 278 00:17:25,600 --> 00:17:28,480 Speaker 1: attachment to the person, you lose your virginity too. I mean, 279 00:17:29,119 --> 00:17:31,040 Speaker 1: I heard somebody say that was sexist to say that, 280 00:17:31,080 --> 00:17:33,200 Speaker 1: and I don't care because in my experience and in 281 00:17:33,400 --> 00:17:36,560 Speaker 1: every other person's experience that I've ever seen, that's been true. 282 00:17:36,960 --> 00:17:38,719 Speaker 1: And you're just not ready to take that on as 283 00:17:38,760 --> 00:17:41,280 Speaker 1: a really young kid. You have to like understand it. 284 00:17:42,119 --> 00:17:44,240 Speaker 1: So these kids were just getting pregnant left and right 285 00:17:44,240 --> 00:17:47,480 Speaker 1: in this Christian school because none of us knew what 286 00:17:47,560 --> 00:17:50,520 Speaker 1: was going on and like what it was and how 287 00:17:50,560 --> 00:17:53,119 Speaker 1: to protect ourselves. There were no condoms, there's no teacher 288 00:17:53,200 --> 00:17:55,879 Speaker 1: they felt safe talking to you. Certainly couldn't talk to 289 00:17:55,880 --> 00:18:00,560 Speaker 1: our parents. And like, if you don't, if you want 290 00:18:00,600 --> 00:18:04,240 Speaker 1: abortions to be rare, let kids have birth control. Teach 291 00:18:04,280 --> 00:18:07,280 Speaker 1: them about condoms, teach them about backup forms of contraception. 292 00:18:07,600 --> 00:18:12,879 Speaker 1: There's ways to like not take hormonal birth control, because 293 00:18:12,920 --> 00:18:15,320 Speaker 1: I understand people who aren't a fan of that as 294 00:18:15,359 --> 00:18:17,800 Speaker 1: like a concept, because it can mess with you. I 295 00:18:17,840 --> 00:18:20,120 Speaker 1: have to take it for my endometriosis, and I found 296 00:18:20,119 --> 00:18:26,240 Speaker 1: a really good regiment. But it's so insane to just 297 00:18:26,320 --> 00:18:28,280 Speaker 1: expect kids to not have sex. And then it's like 298 00:18:28,840 --> 00:18:32,840 Speaker 1: we'll don't get an abortion. Okay, Um, well where was 299 00:18:32,880 --> 00:18:35,480 Speaker 1: the condom? Where was the birth control? Where was the 300 00:18:36,119 --> 00:18:38,760 Speaker 1: you know, spermacide? I don't know even so have I 301 00:18:39,000 --> 00:18:42,399 Speaker 1: ever used that, but it's a thing. Um where's the 302 00:18:42,840 --> 00:18:47,639 Speaker 1: ovulation calendar? I mean, like, fuck you, just you can't. 303 00:18:47,720 --> 00:18:50,800 Speaker 1: It's so ignorant to just think that teenagers aren't gonna 304 00:18:50,840 --> 00:18:55,240 Speaker 1: go fuck each other. They are. They're teenagers. They're hormonal 305 00:18:55,640 --> 00:18:59,840 Speaker 1: and stupid, they're stupid. I was as as a former teenager. 306 00:19:00,080 --> 00:19:04,640 Speaker 1: I was hormonal and stupid. It was so dumb and 307 00:19:04,840 --> 00:19:09,280 Speaker 1: thank god, I went to a school that they probably 308 00:19:09,359 --> 00:19:11,439 Speaker 1: knew I was forging my mom's signature and let me 309 00:19:11,520 --> 00:19:15,119 Speaker 1: know like what it was anyways. And then also this 310 00:19:15,160 --> 00:19:17,080 Speaker 1: is t M I, but I just no longer fucking care. 311 00:19:17,480 --> 00:19:20,800 Speaker 1: I wasn't allowed to get the gardes Cil vaccine, which 312 00:19:20,880 --> 00:19:23,280 Speaker 1: is va vaccine to you against HPV, which can turn 313 00:19:23,320 --> 00:19:28,879 Speaker 1: into cervical cancer. Um, because my mother thought it wouldn't 314 00:19:28,880 --> 00:19:31,480 Speaker 1: make me have sex, Like I'd get this vaccine to 315 00:19:31,520 --> 00:19:33,760 Speaker 1: be like, oh, I'm so ready to go cap get 316 00:19:33,960 --> 00:19:38,520 Speaker 1: hp It's cool. Like I was like twelve, right, I 317 00:19:38,520 --> 00:19:40,760 Speaker 1: don't even think i'd guessed a boy yet, Like no, 318 00:19:41,359 --> 00:19:43,840 Speaker 1: that was not my first thought, and I didn't understand it, 319 00:19:43,880 --> 00:19:45,919 Speaker 1: and I was like okay, And I remember like a 320 00:19:46,000 --> 00:19:49,800 Speaker 1: friend's mom talking about how great it was because like something, 321 00:19:50,080 --> 00:19:53,199 Speaker 1: I'm so bad with statistics on this podcast because I no, 322 00:19:53,359 --> 00:19:57,280 Speaker 1: I don't nail them, but like something, around eight percent 323 00:19:57,320 --> 00:20:02,520 Speaker 1: of people have HPV and it's not like it doesn't 324 00:20:02,560 --> 00:20:04,760 Speaker 1: manifest as anything. A lot of people have herpes to you, 325 00:20:04,840 --> 00:20:06,199 Speaker 1: like if you've had a cold store, you've had some 326 00:20:06,240 --> 00:20:09,840 Speaker 1: form of herpies. Like it's just they're just things. And 327 00:20:10,119 --> 00:20:12,119 Speaker 1: if you're not having flare ups and it's like not 328 00:20:12,160 --> 00:20:14,159 Speaker 1: contagious or something. Anyways, I should probably have like an 329 00:20:14,160 --> 00:20:15,960 Speaker 1: no b G Y N on here to educate you, 330 00:20:16,040 --> 00:20:18,639 Speaker 1: But just go google it because I'm somewhere in the 331 00:20:18,680 --> 00:20:21,159 Speaker 1: realm of truth with what I'm saying right now. But 332 00:20:22,119 --> 00:20:24,800 Speaker 1: moral of the story, tons of people have HPV. It's 333 00:20:24,800 --> 00:20:27,639 Speaker 1: super normal and it like most likely won't affect you, 334 00:20:27,800 --> 00:20:30,959 Speaker 1: but it can turn into cervical cancer. And so I 335 00:20:31,040 --> 00:20:35,800 Speaker 1: had a h abnormal paths mirror, which means that they 336 00:20:36,440 --> 00:20:40,280 Speaker 1: like it's it's so painful if you're if you've never 337 00:20:40,320 --> 00:20:43,640 Speaker 1: had one, I think you have to do it once 338 00:20:43,640 --> 00:20:46,480 Speaker 1: you're twenty one. But they're the fucking worst, and um, 339 00:20:46,520 --> 00:20:48,719 Speaker 1: it's even worse when they're like, hey, you hadn't abnormal one, 340 00:20:48,760 --> 00:20:50,320 Speaker 1: we think you have cervical cancer. So I had to 341 00:20:50,320 --> 00:20:54,280 Speaker 1: go in and have this horrible procedure done, and that 342 00:20:54,400 --> 00:20:58,360 Speaker 1: only happened because I wasn't allowed to get this vaccine, 343 00:20:58,800 --> 00:21:01,119 Speaker 1: and thank god, it didn't progress. But I had to 344 00:21:01,160 --> 00:21:04,080 Speaker 1: have this surgery where they had to like scrape it out, 345 00:21:04,240 --> 00:21:07,840 Speaker 1: and it was so fucking painful. It was so awful, 346 00:21:07,880 --> 00:21:09,440 Speaker 1: and it was all because my mom thought that I 347 00:21:09,480 --> 00:21:14,639 Speaker 1: got this vaccine, I would have sex, and no, I 348 00:21:14,760 --> 00:21:18,920 Speaker 1: just got HPV instead. And then I found out from 349 00:21:19,080 --> 00:21:22,080 Speaker 1: my gynecologist that you can have that. You can get 350 00:21:22,080 --> 00:21:25,400 Speaker 1: the vaccine like up until you're and so I got 351 00:21:25,400 --> 00:21:29,359 Speaker 1: it because it also can control like it even if 352 00:21:29,400 --> 00:21:34,199 Speaker 1: you already have HPV, you can um it can like 353 00:21:34,280 --> 00:21:36,399 Speaker 1: limit your chances of it turning into cervical cancer. So 354 00:21:36,440 --> 00:21:38,600 Speaker 1: I was like, thank you, please shoot me in the arm. 355 00:21:39,080 --> 00:21:41,320 Speaker 1: Love that for me. So if any of you guys 356 00:21:41,320 --> 00:21:46,000 Speaker 1: are in that same situation, UM definitely recommend that. But 357 00:21:46,040 --> 00:21:48,919 Speaker 1: it's like they just think that like the second you 358 00:21:49,040 --> 00:21:52,680 Speaker 1: learn anything about sex, you're gonna just go fuck. And like, honestly, 359 00:21:52,840 --> 00:21:55,240 Speaker 1: as teenagers, you're probably just gonna go do it. Even 360 00:21:55,280 --> 00:21:57,240 Speaker 1: if you don't know. You might actually even be more 361 00:21:57,240 --> 00:21:59,440 Speaker 1: inclined because you're like, what's this all about? No one's 362 00:21:59,480 --> 00:22:02,200 Speaker 1: told me. But then when you're like told, you're like, oh, 363 00:22:02,240 --> 00:22:03,760 Speaker 1: that sounds like a little bit scary. I might want 364 00:22:03,760 --> 00:22:05,639 Speaker 1: to wait a little bit longer. It just makes no 365 00:22:05,720 --> 00:22:07,359 Speaker 1: sense to me. And so then when you're like, if 366 00:22:07,359 --> 00:22:10,240 Speaker 1: you're anti birth control and anti abortion, get the funk 367 00:22:10,240 --> 00:22:12,680 Speaker 1: out of here. That's the one angry thing I'll say. 368 00:22:12,720 --> 00:22:16,440 Speaker 1: But I'm going to share a really really personal, real 369 00:22:16,520 --> 00:22:21,160 Speaker 1: anecdote UM coming up next that comes from a really 370 00:22:21,160 --> 00:22:24,000 Speaker 1: heartbreaking place and UM, but it's really important to me, 371 00:22:24,000 --> 00:22:26,560 Speaker 1: if you've made it this far into my angry rant 372 00:22:26,840 --> 00:22:30,080 Speaker 1: about the world turning into Handmaid's Tale, UM, that you 373 00:22:30,160 --> 00:22:32,879 Speaker 1: listen to this because this is the real world perspective 374 00:22:32,960 --> 00:22:35,560 Speaker 1: of what these look like. And it's not just some 375 00:22:35,760 --> 00:22:40,360 Speaker 1: girl who's sucking all about town not taking birth control, 376 00:22:40,480 --> 00:22:44,159 Speaker 1: getting pregnant and getting an abortion every single time that doesn't. 377 00:22:44,880 --> 00:22:47,600 Speaker 1: That is so rare. That is so rare that that happens. 378 00:22:48,520 --> 00:22:50,720 Speaker 1: And what I'm about to tell you next is what 379 00:22:50,800 --> 00:23:06,359 Speaker 1: abortion actually looks. Sorry, I'll be very back, so for starters, UM, 380 00:23:06,400 --> 00:23:10,240 Speaker 1: a lot of I'm so emotional right now because of 381 00:23:10,440 --> 00:23:14,800 Speaker 1: all of this, but also because again I've been watching 382 00:23:14,800 --> 00:23:16,119 Speaker 1: Handmade Sale, and I don't know if you guys have 383 00:23:16,160 --> 00:23:19,359 Speaker 1: watched it, but it is like, basically like if you 384 00:23:19,440 --> 00:23:22,240 Speaker 1: put there's a quote in it when they're talking about 385 00:23:22,400 --> 00:23:26,520 Speaker 1: women's rights being stripped away and America turning into guilliad 386 00:23:26,760 --> 00:23:29,480 Speaker 1: where it's like if you're a frog in a pot 387 00:23:29,760 --> 00:23:32,679 Speaker 1: and they just slowly keep turning up the heat, you 388 00:23:32,720 --> 00:23:35,800 Speaker 1: won't notice that you're boiling, and so it's so scary 389 00:23:35,840 --> 00:23:37,320 Speaker 1: to look around and be like, oh wait, he just 390 00:23:37,359 --> 00:23:43,199 Speaker 1: got turned up, and I feel okay, But but what 391 00:23:43,320 --> 00:23:45,280 Speaker 1: happens if it goes at more? Am I about to 392 00:23:45,280 --> 00:23:49,040 Speaker 1: be boiled? And I have no idea and the progression 393 00:23:49,040 --> 00:23:52,440 Speaker 1: and gill Yad looks a lot like what is happening 394 00:23:52,560 --> 00:23:55,200 Speaker 1: right now when it's really scary, and I went to 395 00:23:55,960 --> 00:23:58,120 Speaker 1: I don't know what made this happen, but I swear 396 00:23:58,160 --> 00:24:00,359 Speaker 1: to God, I never had this problem before. But I 397 00:24:00,440 --> 00:24:05,879 Speaker 1: have endometriosis, which is a UM really common in the 398 00:24:06,000 --> 00:24:12,480 Speaker 1: grand scheme of things, but severely undiagnosed, a disease that's 399 00:24:12,560 --> 00:24:19,240 Speaker 1: on my reproductive organs. And it's basically like these endometrial 400 00:24:19,320 --> 00:24:24,320 Speaker 1: cells multiply and grow, similar to cancer, and they attack 401 00:24:24,800 --> 00:24:27,400 Speaker 1: your organs. They can grow anywhere. It's basically like when 402 00:24:27,440 --> 00:24:33,679 Speaker 1: you're endometrial tissue somehow escapes your uterus, which is like 403 00:24:33,880 --> 00:24:36,440 Speaker 1: what you shed. It's like the lining that you shed 404 00:24:36,520 --> 00:24:38,960 Speaker 1: during your period, and it like somehow escapes. I don't 405 00:24:39,000 --> 00:24:41,199 Speaker 1: know how. They don't really know how. There's not a 406 00:24:41,200 --> 00:24:45,359 Speaker 1: lot of education on it um. And again, maybe go 407 00:24:45,480 --> 00:24:48,159 Speaker 1: read the Mayo Clinics definition of this and not Kaylee Shorres, 408 00:24:48,200 --> 00:24:50,760 Speaker 1: but this is what I've gathered from my you know, 409 00:24:52,480 --> 00:24:56,159 Speaker 1: dozens of doctor's appointments about it um But basically, it 410 00:24:56,280 --> 00:24:58,320 Speaker 1: escapes and then it attaches to your organs, and then 411 00:24:58,359 --> 00:25:01,040 Speaker 1: every month when you have your period, it flares up 412 00:25:01,080 --> 00:25:04,600 Speaker 1: and attacks everything. And I have the rarest kind, which 413 00:25:04,680 --> 00:25:08,800 Speaker 1: is um diephragmatic endometriosis, which means not only is it 414 00:25:08,880 --> 00:25:13,040 Speaker 1: on my ovaries and my uterus specifically, but it also 415 00:25:13,119 --> 00:25:16,560 Speaker 1: goes all the way up to my lungs. And one 416 00:25:16,600 --> 00:25:19,360 Speaker 1: of my doctors had a woman who had her lung 417 00:25:19,440 --> 00:25:23,840 Speaker 1: collapse during yoga because she had all this endometrial tissue 418 00:25:23,880 --> 00:25:25,760 Speaker 1: on her luck. So people think that it's just like, oh, 419 00:25:25,800 --> 00:25:28,560 Speaker 1: you have heavy, bad periods and you have these this 420 00:25:28,680 --> 00:25:31,400 Speaker 1: stuff on your ovaries. It can be so much more 421 00:25:31,440 --> 00:25:34,080 Speaker 1: than that, and it really is like aside from like 422 00:25:35,200 --> 00:25:38,680 Speaker 1: you can't so far, there's no proof that it can 423 00:25:38,920 --> 00:25:41,639 Speaker 1: kill you. But it's similar to like lyme disease or 424 00:25:42,440 --> 00:25:46,840 Speaker 1: um fibro mayalgia or lupus, where it's like this invisible 425 00:25:46,840 --> 00:25:49,280 Speaker 1: disease where you can't tell how sick somebody is. So 426 00:25:49,320 --> 00:25:52,159 Speaker 1: a lot of times people don't get it, and the 427 00:25:52,200 --> 00:25:55,719 Speaker 1: first time I ever had a massive flare up, I 428 00:25:55,760 --> 00:25:57,760 Speaker 1: was on the red carpet at the Radio Disney Music 429 00:25:57,760 --> 00:25:59,719 Speaker 1: Awards and I just, all of a sudden, out of nowhere, 430 00:26:00,160 --> 00:26:02,240 Speaker 1: felt like somebody was stabbing me in the rib cage 431 00:26:03,400 --> 00:26:05,399 Speaker 1: where my lung is, and I was like, what the 432 00:26:05,440 --> 00:26:07,360 Speaker 1: fund is going on? And like, I mean, I couldn't 433 00:26:07,560 --> 00:26:09,399 Speaker 1: I couldn't stop, and I was so weird it out 434 00:26:09,440 --> 00:26:11,280 Speaker 1: because I was like, what could this be? You know? 435 00:26:11,720 --> 00:26:13,680 Speaker 1: And then it's easy to trick yourself into thinking you're 436 00:26:13,680 --> 00:26:17,240 Speaker 1: being dramatic when you have one of these invisible diseases. 437 00:26:18,440 --> 00:26:21,919 Speaker 1: But um, a lot of people classify endometrios is as 438 00:26:21,920 --> 00:26:25,320 Speaker 1: a disability, and when it's been at its worse than 439 00:26:25,359 --> 00:26:27,720 Speaker 1: I haven't been getting the treatment I needed for it 440 00:26:27,800 --> 00:26:30,440 Speaker 1: is absolutely a hundred percent felt like a disability, Like 441 00:26:31,280 --> 00:26:34,000 Speaker 1: a disability is anything that affects your life and and 442 00:26:34,200 --> 00:26:36,720 Speaker 1: makes you miss work and not be able to function 443 00:26:36,760 --> 00:26:40,480 Speaker 1: as a human being and like limits you from doing things. 444 00:26:40,480 --> 00:26:44,879 Speaker 1: So yes, and I now that I have it under control, 445 00:26:44,920 --> 00:26:47,000 Speaker 1: I don't think I would, but I do think it 446 00:26:48,200 --> 00:26:50,600 Speaker 1: many points in my life, like endometriosis has been a 447 00:26:50,640 --> 00:26:54,480 Speaker 1: disability for me. So the bet I did a men's 448 00:26:54,520 --> 00:26:57,520 Speaker 1: cancer treatment, for like a prostate cancer treatment that put 449 00:26:57,560 --> 00:27:00,480 Speaker 1: me into a false menopause for nine months, so like 450 00:27:01,000 --> 00:27:03,680 Speaker 1: I literally know what menopause feels like. Like it was 451 00:27:03,720 --> 00:27:06,760 Speaker 1: a true menopause, I didn't have my period for nine months. 452 00:27:06,800 --> 00:27:09,800 Speaker 1: But I used to have to get these injections every 453 00:27:09,800 --> 00:27:13,119 Speaker 1: single month, and it would hurt so bad because I 454 00:27:13,200 --> 00:27:15,639 Speaker 1: do it like up on like my lower back, and 455 00:27:15,680 --> 00:27:17,880 Speaker 1: I couldn't sit down so on the car right I'd 456 00:27:17,920 --> 00:27:20,919 Speaker 1: be like lifting my off of the car seat and 457 00:27:20,960 --> 00:27:22,760 Speaker 1: just like driving home as fast as I could to 458 00:27:22,800 --> 00:27:25,000 Speaker 1: go take a nap, and it would hurt for two days. 459 00:27:25,000 --> 00:27:27,240 Speaker 1: And that was every single month, and I would have 460 00:27:27,320 --> 00:27:31,560 Speaker 1: these like crazy moose swings and um hot flashes, and 461 00:27:31,640 --> 00:27:34,040 Speaker 1: my bone density is so low. So like basically the 462 00:27:34,080 --> 00:27:37,920 Speaker 1: second I enter real menopause, I'm gonna have osteo process. 463 00:27:37,960 --> 00:27:40,359 Speaker 1: Super fun to look forward to. But I did that 464 00:27:40,400 --> 00:27:44,000 Speaker 1: because I want to have kids one day ideally, you know, 465 00:27:44,320 --> 00:27:47,080 Speaker 1: and if I can't, I'm a hundred percent going to adopt. 466 00:27:47,160 --> 00:27:49,080 Speaker 1: But like I would like to have my own and 467 00:27:49,080 --> 00:27:51,120 Speaker 1: I'd probably like to adopt in addition to it, Like 468 00:27:52,119 --> 00:27:53,960 Speaker 1: as a little kid, I would draw pictures of my 469 00:27:54,040 --> 00:27:58,280 Speaker 1: family and um in like class and whatever, and the 470 00:27:58,320 --> 00:27:59,879 Speaker 1: teacher would be like, oh, who's that one. I'm like, 471 00:28:00,160 --> 00:28:01,960 Speaker 1: because there would always be like one kid who looked 472 00:28:01,960 --> 00:28:04,560 Speaker 1: like nothing like the rest of the family, either like 473 00:28:04,680 --> 00:28:07,400 Speaker 1: hair color, skin color, whatever. And then the teacher will 474 00:28:07,400 --> 00:28:08,600 Speaker 1: be like, oh, who's that one, And I'd be like, 475 00:28:08,680 --> 00:28:11,800 Speaker 1: I adopted them, and they're like, okay, you're six. That's intense, 476 00:28:12,480 --> 00:28:15,480 Speaker 1: but that's always been important to me. So I'm doing 477 00:28:15,520 --> 00:28:18,600 Speaker 1: everything I can to like have biological children. But if 478 00:28:18,600 --> 00:28:22,520 Speaker 1: I can't, then I'll accept that that's my path. But 479 00:28:24,160 --> 00:28:25,920 Speaker 1: I'm you know, and it's weird to have to think 480 00:28:25,920 --> 00:28:27,480 Speaker 1: about that. Like when I was twenty two years old, 481 00:28:27,480 --> 00:28:28,800 Speaker 1: they had a doctor tell me that there was only 482 00:28:28,840 --> 00:28:30,439 Speaker 1: a fifty percent chance that I could have kids, and 483 00:28:30,480 --> 00:28:34,240 Speaker 1: I was like, fuck, okay, well let's mentally prepare ourselves 484 00:28:34,280 --> 00:28:38,400 Speaker 1: for that. But I'm doing all these things to ensure 485 00:28:38,520 --> 00:28:41,280 Speaker 1: that I can have them. Because basically, every time you 486 00:28:41,360 --> 00:28:44,640 Speaker 1: have your period, when you have endometriosis, like basically like 487 00:28:44,680 --> 00:28:48,160 Speaker 1: it's like you have these scars that are healing, and 488 00:28:48,200 --> 00:28:50,920 Speaker 1: then when you obviulate, like rips them open again and 489 00:28:50,920 --> 00:28:53,200 Speaker 1: you have to start the healing process all over. So 490 00:28:53,880 --> 00:28:58,800 Speaker 1: the men's prostate cancer treatment didn't work very well, and 491 00:28:59,040 --> 00:29:03,520 Speaker 1: I all timately have to be on birth control consistently, 492 00:29:03,640 --> 00:29:10,080 Speaker 1: like I don't normally for all the non menstuating people listening. Um, basically, 493 00:29:10,120 --> 00:29:13,240 Speaker 1: you have you take three weeks of birth control, you 494 00:29:13,280 --> 00:29:15,560 Speaker 1: take one week off, you have your period, you started again. 495 00:29:15,840 --> 00:29:19,760 Speaker 1: But I just take it four weeks like NonStop, and 496 00:29:20,000 --> 00:29:23,520 Speaker 1: if I miss it, I immediately have those endometriosis symptoms again. 497 00:29:23,600 --> 00:29:26,200 Speaker 1: But it suppresses them and it's allowed me to live 498 00:29:26,200 --> 00:29:28,880 Speaker 1: in normal life and remember what it feels like to 499 00:29:28,960 --> 00:29:33,200 Speaker 1: not have endometriosis, which is really wonderful. And my boyfriend's 500 00:29:33,240 --> 00:29:35,480 Speaker 1: mom is a guyd of collegist and so she's like 501 00:29:35,840 --> 00:29:39,240 Speaker 1: been able to help me because they're it's so understudied, 502 00:29:39,280 --> 00:29:42,080 Speaker 1: and I've had like so many doctors like have no 503 00:29:42,160 --> 00:29:44,560 Speaker 1: idea what they're doing, and like, honestly, maybe should have 504 00:29:44,600 --> 00:29:47,120 Speaker 1: never done the proceect cancer treatment to begin with, but 505 00:29:47,160 --> 00:29:53,280 Speaker 1: I didn't know that. So, um, it's it was a lot. 506 00:29:53,440 --> 00:29:56,160 Speaker 1: And I did all that so that I could have kids. 507 00:29:56,320 --> 00:29:59,920 Speaker 1: And so I went to the pharmacy the other day, yes, 508 00:30:00,000 --> 00:30:03,520 Speaker 1: today actually, and I've been having the hardest time tracking 509 00:30:03,520 --> 00:30:06,600 Speaker 1: down my birth control and I can't miss it. I 510 00:30:06,640 --> 00:30:08,880 Speaker 1: can't miss it a because I can't get pregnant and 511 00:30:08,920 --> 00:30:12,120 Speaker 1: be I can't miss it because my symptoms immediately return 512 00:30:12,240 --> 00:30:16,640 Speaker 1: and I'm in horrible pain and m just like become 513 00:30:16,920 --> 00:30:21,880 Speaker 1: destitute and depressed and awful, and I'm like, you know, 514 00:30:22,000 --> 00:30:24,840 Speaker 1: calling my doctor, can't get through figured out some way 515 00:30:24,840 --> 00:30:27,720 Speaker 1: to do it online. And then I got to the 516 00:30:27,720 --> 00:30:31,960 Speaker 1: pharmacy yesterday and I was like, okay, I'm here for 517 00:30:32,000 --> 00:30:33,880 Speaker 1: my birth control prescription. You guys said would be ready, 518 00:30:33,880 --> 00:30:35,360 Speaker 1: and he was like, oh, well, it actually says that 519 00:30:35,400 --> 00:30:37,400 Speaker 1: you have some at home, so you can't get any, 520 00:30:37,560 --> 00:30:39,320 Speaker 1: and so you have to take your birth control at 521 00:30:39,320 --> 00:30:41,240 Speaker 1: the same time every single day for it to be 522 00:30:41,400 --> 00:30:43,640 Speaker 1: its most effective. So I take it at nine am 523 00:30:43,680 --> 00:30:48,600 Speaker 1: every single day. And based on these rules, it never 524 00:30:48,720 --> 00:30:52,520 Speaker 1: used to be a thing. I have to get to 525 00:30:52,560 --> 00:30:55,240 Speaker 1: the pharmacy at nine am, which is when they open 526 00:30:57,040 --> 00:30:58,960 Speaker 1: the day that my birth control runs out, so I 527 00:30:58,960 --> 00:31:00,720 Speaker 1: don't have any, so I like have to carve that 528 00:31:00,720 --> 00:31:02,440 Speaker 1: out in my day. I can't just have it at 529 00:31:02,480 --> 00:31:04,440 Speaker 1: my house, which is so stupid. I'm like, what am 530 00:31:04,440 --> 00:31:06,120 Speaker 1: I gonna do? Go get high on birth control and 531 00:31:06,160 --> 00:31:09,360 Speaker 1: like sell it to kids and tell him it's candy. No, no, 532 00:31:09,520 --> 00:31:13,800 Speaker 1: I'm not like it's what and so he's like it says, 533 00:31:13,840 --> 00:31:15,280 Speaker 1: you have some at home, so I actually can't give 534 00:31:15,320 --> 00:31:17,280 Speaker 1: it to you. And I was like, this is a 535 00:31:17,280 --> 00:31:19,800 Speaker 1: new thing. Um, it has happened to me like two 536 00:31:19,880 --> 00:31:22,120 Speaker 1: or three times in the past like six months, but 537 00:31:23,440 --> 00:31:26,560 Speaker 1: it was never a thing before. And I just like, a, 538 00:31:26,720 --> 00:31:28,520 Speaker 1: I'm super emotional because I'm having my period for the 539 00:31:28,560 --> 00:31:32,360 Speaker 1: first time in eighteen months. Be I'm super emotional because 540 00:31:32,400 --> 00:31:35,320 Speaker 1: I'm like, well, okay, this is my only plan right 541 00:31:35,360 --> 00:31:37,600 Speaker 1: now because he can't have a baby. And so I 542 00:31:37,640 --> 00:31:40,160 Speaker 1: just like start crying and I was like, I get 543 00:31:40,160 --> 00:31:43,720 Speaker 1: bragging right now because like my rights are being taken 544 00:31:43,720 --> 00:31:46,040 Speaker 1: away and like, so I really need this and he 545 00:31:46,160 --> 00:31:50,120 Speaker 1: was just like I was like, I'm so sorry, and 546 00:31:50,120 --> 00:31:52,320 Speaker 1: he was like, no, it's okay. I've had so many 547 00:31:52,320 --> 00:31:55,000 Speaker 1: women come in and say this to me just today 548 00:31:55,120 --> 00:31:59,040 Speaker 1: and I was like, fuck, this is ammys too. And 549 00:31:59,080 --> 00:32:04,360 Speaker 1: I like me that medication more because I have a disease, 550 00:32:05,680 --> 00:32:08,960 Speaker 1: not even like you know, I can find other backup 551 00:32:09,000 --> 00:32:12,680 Speaker 1: forms of of birth control, but I can't find other 552 00:32:12,720 --> 00:32:18,080 Speaker 1: treatments for endometriosis. And it's just I'm so scared that 553 00:32:18,080 --> 00:32:21,640 Speaker 1: that's what's next. But this last story I want to 554 00:32:21,640 --> 00:32:24,520 Speaker 1: share with you is UM. I don't I don't want 555 00:32:24,520 --> 00:32:26,520 Speaker 1: to say who because it's just a really personal thing, 556 00:32:26,560 --> 00:32:32,240 Speaker 1: but a very close relative when I was fourteen years old, 557 00:32:33,320 --> 00:32:37,160 Speaker 1: UM had to have an abortion by induced labor, which 558 00:32:37,160 --> 00:32:39,920 Speaker 1: means that you just give birth to the baby very early. 559 00:32:40,840 --> 00:32:46,840 Speaker 1: And I was just sobbing about this yesterday. UM, probably 560 00:32:46,880 --> 00:32:49,080 Speaker 1: because I had my period for the first time in 561 00:32:49,120 --> 00:32:52,520 Speaker 1: eighteen months, but also because it's fucking terrifying to know 562 00:32:52,600 --> 00:32:56,360 Speaker 1: that if this happened in six weeks, they could have 563 00:32:56,400 --> 00:33:03,360 Speaker 1: been forced to carry the baby full term. UM. So 564 00:33:03,680 --> 00:33:07,560 Speaker 1: this this relative, she got pregnant, she was married, she'd 565 00:33:08,800 --> 00:33:11,520 Speaker 1: never been a mom before and desperately wanted to be one, 566 00:33:11,560 --> 00:33:13,480 Speaker 1: and it was in a place where she could and 567 00:33:13,640 --> 00:33:16,000 Speaker 1: was so excited, and it already named the baby, and 568 00:33:16,040 --> 00:33:19,600 Speaker 1: we were like, you know, shopping and buying things for 569 00:33:19,640 --> 00:33:22,680 Speaker 1: the baby, and it was just really sad. And we 570 00:33:22,800 --> 00:33:28,440 Speaker 1: ended up calling him Trooper. So that's what I'll call him. UM. 571 00:33:28,440 --> 00:33:29,880 Speaker 1: I was not going to be his name, but that's 572 00:33:29,920 --> 00:33:31,800 Speaker 1: what we, you know, started calling him when we found 573 00:33:31,840 --> 00:33:37,760 Speaker 1: out this was happening. But basically, she found out like 574 00:33:38,720 --> 00:33:42,120 Speaker 1: I think like three months in four months in when 575 00:33:42,160 --> 00:33:44,400 Speaker 1: she got the first ultrasound. I'm not going to get 576 00:33:44,400 --> 00:33:49,040 Speaker 1: the timeline right again, google it whatever the trimester cycle is. 577 00:33:49,080 --> 00:33:54,000 Speaker 1: But um, she found out that the baby had this 578 00:33:54,120 --> 00:33:58,320 Speaker 1: thing called Anna and Cephiie, which is where the top 579 00:33:58,360 --> 00:34:01,800 Speaker 1: part of their skull from like the brows up, doesn't 580 00:34:03,120 --> 00:34:09,080 Speaker 1: grow and so the baby's brain is just completely exposed. 581 00:34:10,360 --> 00:34:13,760 Speaker 1: Don't google that. Don't google that because the most fourteen 582 00:34:13,840 --> 00:34:15,839 Speaker 1: I did and it is the most horrific thing ever. 583 00:34:16,000 --> 00:34:18,239 Speaker 1: And you just just trust me. I mean, you can 584 00:34:18,520 --> 00:34:20,839 Speaker 1: you can figure out what half a skull with an 585 00:34:20,840 --> 00:34:26,799 Speaker 1: experose brain looks like without googling it. Um. And so 586 00:34:27,000 --> 00:34:29,319 Speaker 1: we found this out and she was just devastated because 587 00:34:29,320 --> 00:34:31,799 Speaker 1: there's like, I mean, the longest a baby with ann 588 00:34:31,840 --> 00:34:36,320 Speaker 1: and Cepheie has ever survived has been like eighteen hours. 589 00:34:37,520 --> 00:34:40,880 Speaker 1: And it's like happens a lot. There's no cure for it. 590 00:34:40,920 --> 00:34:43,080 Speaker 1: There's no way you can fix it. You can't create 591 00:34:43,120 --> 00:34:47,600 Speaker 1: half a skull. Maybe one day medical you know that 592 00:34:47,920 --> 00:34:51,120 Speaker 1: they'll figure it out. But I mean, that's a pretty 593 00:34:51,320 --> 00:34:54,160 Speaker 1: it's a it's a death sentence, it absolutely is. And 594 00:34:54,200 --> 00:34:59,360 Speaker 1: so caring to term if she had that baby for 595 00:34:59,480 --> 00:35:02,040 Speaker 1: nine months. Mean you get so attached to it, you 596 00:35:02,080 --> 00:35:06,560 Speaker 1: get so attached to the baby, and it's not safe. 597 00:35:06,640 --> 00:35:08,360 Speaker 1: And then you bring that baby into the world, and 598 00:35:08,400 --> 00:35:10,239 Speaker 1: even if they do live right teen hours, there an 599 00:35:10,280 --> 00:35:14,640 Speaker 1: incredible pain. I mean, like they're there, their brain is exposed, 600 00:35:15,719 --> 00:35:18,399 Speaker 1: and chances are they're going to be born and take 601 00:35:18,440 --> 00:35:22,240 Speaker 1: a few breaths, being in extreme pain the whole time, 602 00:35:22,560 --> 00:35:26,000 Speaker 1: and then just die in front of you. And so 603 00:35:27,440 --> 00:35:31,280 Speaker 1: she made the decision with her doctors to induce labor. 604 00:35:32,480 --> 00:35:37,040 Speaker 1: And in retrospect, I'm like, I was fourteen, Why was 605 00:35:37,080 --> 00:35:40,600 Speaker 1: I there? That's super traumatic, But like she needed me 606 00:35:40,640 --> 00:35:45,560 Speaker 1: there and I was there. Um, So she gave birth 607 00:35:45,719 --> 00:35:49,600 Speaker 1: to Trooper and he was only eleven inches long, which 608 00:35:49,600 --> 00:35:52,680 Speaker 1: is like the size of a Barbie doll. And there 609 00:35:52,680 --> 00:35:55,680 Speaker 1: were these these Catholic nuns who volunteered at the church. 610 00:35:55,840 --> 00:36:01,160 Speaker 1: And most Catholics like don't necessarily agree abortion. Maybe most 611 00:36:01,200 --> 00:36:03,440 Speaker 1: isn't the right term, but a lot of them don't. 612 00:36:04,440 --> 00:36:09,319 Speaker 1: And these women were so sweet and they like they 613 00:36:09,360 --> 00:36:12,680 Speaker 1: knitted him a little hat so that the nurses could 614 00:36:12,680 --> 00:36:16,000 Speaker 1: put it on and the mom wouldn't have to see it, 615 00:36:16,840 --> 00:36:21,880 Speaker 1: and she could hold him and say goodbye. And she 616 00:36:22,000 --> 00:36:27,319 Speaker 1: got the choice of either having a birth certificate for 617 00:36:27,560 --> 00:36:30,439 Speaker 1: him or having a death certificate, and you can pick 618 00:36:30,520 --> 00:36:34,239 Speaker 1: one because he lived and died at the same time, 619 00:36:34,280 --> 00:36:39,959 Speaker 1: which is like so sad. So she chose a birth 620 00:36:40,000 --> 00:36:48,279 Speaker 1: certificate and it was like the most crushing thing and 621 00:36:48,360 --> 00:36:55,080 Speaker 1: she wanted that baby so bad, so bad, and she 622 00:36:55,160 --> 00:36:58,000 Speaker 1: did the right thing. But that's glassified as an amportion, 623 00:36:59,440 --> 00:37:02,840 Speaker 1: and it's is like, that's who's getting them. That's what 624 00:37:02,960 --> 00:37:06,799 Speaker 1: that looks like. That's what those statistics are. It's not 625 00:37:06,920 --> 00:37:12,040 Speaker 1: some like dumb girl running around like getting them because 626 00:37:12,080 --> 00:37:16,839 Speaker 1: she doesn't use a condom, Like, that's not it. It's 627 00:37:16,840 --> 00:37:20,759 Speaker 1: not like, that's what that looks like. People who want 628 00:37:20,800 --> 00:37:27,160 Speaker 1: their babies have to get abortions, and you can't. You 629 00:37:27,280 --> 00:37:33,400 Speaker 1: can't require somebody to use their body to save another life. 630 00:37:33,920 --> 00:37:35,919 Speaker 1: You can't have somebody walk up to you and be like, hey, 631 00:37:37,600 --> 00:37:39,480 Speaker 1: this person is dying. You have the same blood type 632 00:37:39,520 --> 00:37:42,480 Speaker 1: as them, you're compatible. Um, you have to give them 633 00:37:42,480 --> 00:37:46,840 Speaker 1: part of your kidney. What you can't do that. You 634 00:37:46,880 --> 00:37:50,000 Speaker 1: can't even do that with a corpse, Like you have 635 00:37:50,160 --> 00:37:54,160 Speaker 1: to consent to your organs being donated before they can 636 00:37:54,239 --> 00:37:57,800 Speaker 1: use them. After you die. So like now, in six weeks, 637 00:37:57,800 --> 00:38:00,439 Speaker 1: if this happens, a corpse will have them or rights 638 00:38:00,440 --> 00:38:05,640 Speaker 1: over their body than a living human And like, you 639 00:38:05,760 --> 00:38:09,239 Speaker 1: can't you can't tell somebody to do that. And it's like, 640 00:38:10,880 --> 00:38:13,320 Speaker 1: and there would have been a lot of complications if 641 00:38:13,320 --> 00:38:18,080 Speaker 1: this mother had carried that baby to term and she 642 00:38:18,160 --> 00:38:21,000 Speaker 1: did the right thing, Like I can't imagine any other 643 00:38:21,080 --> 00:38:24,520 Speaker 1: choice she would have made. And if this happened in 644 00:38:24,560 --> 00:38:26,520 Speaker 1: six weeks, she wouldn't have been able to do that, 645 00:38:27,719 --> 00:38:29,799 Speaker 1: And that just like breaks my heart. And so I 646 00:38:29,800 --> 00:38:31,600 Speaker 1: want to leave you with this one last thing. This 647 00:38:31,680 --> 00:38:34,959 Speaker 1: is such a long episode and I am just all 648 00:38:34,960 --> 00:38:38,879 Speaker 1: over the place because I'm super emotional about it. But um, 649 00:38:38,920 --> 00:38:42,799 Speaker 1: I want you guys to hear this. I'm not pro 650 00:38:42,960 --> 00:38:46,319 Speaker 1: murdering babies. I'm pro Becky who found out at her 651 00:38:46,320 --> 00:38:48,640 Speaker 1: twenty week anatomy scan that the infant she had been 652 00:38:48,680 --> 00:38:51,319 Speaker 1: so excited to bring into this world had developed without 653 00:38:51,320 --> 00:38:55,160 Speaker 1: life sustaining organs. I'm pro Susan who has sexually assaulted 654 00:38:55,160 --> 00:38:56,840 Speaker 1: on her way home from work, only to come to 655 00:38:56,880 --> 00:39:00,439 Speaker 1: the horrific realization that her assailant plant a de seed 656 00:39:00,480 --> 00:39:02,560 Speaker 1: in her When she got a positive pregnancy testers all 657 00:39:02,600 --> 00:39:06,000 Speaker 1: a month later. I'm pro Teresa, who hemorrhage due to 658 00:39:06,040 --> 00:39:09,440 Speaker 1: a placental abruption, causing her parents, spouse, and children to 659 00:39:09,480 --> 00:39:11,799 Speaker 1: have to make the impossible decision on whether to save 660 00:39:11,840 --> 00:39:15,319 Speaker 1: her or her unborn child. I'm pro Little Cathy, who 661 00:39:15,320 --> 00:39:17,480 Speaker 1: had her innocence ripped away from her by someone she 662 00:39:17,480 --> 00:39:19,400 Speaker 1: shouldn't have been able to trust. She should have been 663 00:39:19,440 --> 00:39:21,719 Speaker 1: able to trust, and her eleven year old body isn't 664 00:39:21,719 --> 00:39:25,799 Speaker 1: mature enough to bear the consequence of that betrayal. I'm 665 00:39:25,800 --> 00:39:28,319 Speaker 1: pro Melissa, who's working two jobs just to make ends 666 00:39:28,360 --> 00:39:30,719 Speaker 1: meet and has to choose between bringing another child into 667 00:39:30,719 --> 00:39:33,480 Speaker 1: poverty or feeding the children she already has because her 668 00:39:33,480 --> 00:39:37,080 Speaker 1: spouse walked out on her. I'm pro Brittany, who realizes 669 00:39:37,120 --> 00:39:39,800 Speaker 1: that she is in no way financially, emotionally, or physically 670 00:39:39,800 --> 00:39:43,600 Speaker 1: able to raise a child. I'm pro Emily, who went 671 00:39:43,640 --> 00:39:47,640 Speaker 1: through in vitro fertilization, ending up with six viable implanted eggs, 672 00:39:47,640 --> 00:39:50,960 Speaker 1: requiring selective reduction in order to ensure the safety of 673 00:39:51,000 --> 00:39:55,440 Speaker 1: her and a safe amount of fetuses. And pro Jessica, 674 00:39:55,520 --> 00:39:57,480 Speaker 1: who was finally getting the strength to get away from 675 00:39:57,480 --> 00:39:59,960 Speaker 1: her physically abusive spouse, only to find out that she's 676 00:40:00,040 --> 00:40:04,120 Speaker 1: carrying the monster's child. I'm pro Vanessa, who went into 677 00:40:04,120 --> 00:40:07,120 Speaker 1: her confirmation appointment after years of trying to conceive only 678 00:40:07,120 --> 00:40:10,440 Speaker 1: to hear silence where there should be a heartbeat. I'm 679 00:40:10,480 --> 00:40:13,080 Speaker 1: pro Lindsay, who lost her virginity in her sophomore year 680 00:40:13,160 --> 00:40:15,279 Speaker 1: with a broken condom and now has to choose whether 681 00:40:15,320 --> 00:40:18,879 Speaker 1: to be a teenage mom or just a teenager. I'm 682 00:40:18,920 --> 00:40:21,440 Speaker 1: pro Courtney, who just found out she's already thirteen weeks 683 00:40:21,480 --> 00:40:23,520 Speaker 1: along but the egg never made it out of her 684 00:40:23,520 --> 00:40:26,640 Speaker 1: fallopian tubes, so either she terminates the pregnancy or risks 685 00:40:26,680 --> 00:40:31,200 Speaker 1: dying from internal bleeding. You can argue and say that 686 00:40:31,200 --> 00:40:33,040 Speaker 1: I'm pro choice all you want, but the truth is 687 00:40:33,400 --> 00:40:40,080 Speaker 1: I'm pro life. Their life, their lives, and um, that's 688 00:40:40,080 --> 00:40:43,640 Speaker 1: what that looks like. And that's what's being taken away. 689 00:40:43,800 --> 00:40:48,840 Speaker 1: And most of the states in the Tennessee surrounding area 690 00:40:48,920 --> 00:40:50,360 Speaker 1: in the South, and the ones that are going to 691 00:40:50,440 --> 00:40:54,920 Speaker 1: ban abortion because now it's a state decision, are already ready. 692 00:40:55,239 --> 00:40:56,960 Speaker 1: They have the laws lined up. They can pull the 693 00:40:56,960 --> 00:41:00,520 Speaker 1: trigger the second that the Supreme Court finalizes the decision 694 00:41:00,600 --> 00:41:05,600 Speaker 1: in six weeks or less. And there's not there's not 695 00:41:05,680 --> 00:41:09,279 Speaker 1: exceptions for the well being of the mother. There's not 696 00:41:09,440 --> 00:41:13,120 Speaker 1: exceptions for life threatening pregnancies, there's not exceptions for rape, 697 00:41:13,120 --> 00:41:17,080 Speaker 1: and there's not exceptions for incest. And if you're in 698 00:41:17,120 --> 00:41:20,560 Speaker 1: a situation or a teenage girl who's raped by her 699 00:41:20,600 --> 00:41:26,319 Speaker 1: father is forced to carry that baby, that's creating a 700 00:41:26,360 --> 00:41:30,080 Speaker 1: supply chain for a pedophile. If you force a woman 701 00:41:30,120 --> 00:41:34,279 Speaker 1: in an abusive relationship to have or you know, in 702 00:41:34,360 --> 00:41:38,400 Speaker 1: an abusive home in general, to give birth to that baby, 703 00:41:38,520 --> 00:41:41,640 Speaker 1: that baby is most certainly going to be a victim 704 00:41:41,680 --> 00:41:46,680 Speaker 1: as well. And there's so many things that factor into this, 705 00:41:46,840 --> 00:41:52,360 Speaker 1: but it's terrifying. Um. I I hope, I believe every 706 00:41:53,560 --> 00:41:57,799 Speaker 1: pregnant or woman capable of getting pregnant hopes that they 707 00:41:57,800 --> 00:42:00,600 Speaker 1: don't have to have an abortion. Nobody won't this one. 708 00:42:00,719 --> 00:42:03,040 Speaker 1: But you get backed into a corner where you have 709 00:42:03,160 --> 00:42:06,520 Speaker 1: to decide what's right for you and what is best 710 00:42:06,640 --> 00:42:13,480 Speaker 1: for that unborn child. So anyways, um, the best thing 711 00:42:13,560 --> 00:42:16,040 Speaker 1: you can do right now don't donate to Planned Parenthood. 712 00:42:16,120 --> 00:42:19,960 Speaker 1: They have enough money, honestly, I mean, like, I've done 713 00:42:20,000 --> 00:42:25,520 Speaker 1: plenty of fundraisers for them, and I've gotten like amazing 714 00:42:25,560 --> 00:42:27,520 Speaker 1: treatment for them for things that have nothing to do 715 00:42:27,560 --> 00:42:30,239 Speaker 1: with pregnancy and everything to do with getting help from 716 00:42:30,239 --> 00:42:34,719 Speaker 1: my endometriosis and and all that, and it's so expensive 717 00:42:34,920 --> 00:42:39,120 Speaker 1: to have ovaries and they really help that. But right now, 718 00:42:40,080 --> 00:42:44,120 Speaker 1: independent clinics in in small communities are who needs your money. 719 00:42:44,120 --> 00:42:46,160 Speaker 1: So if you're able to donate or even just share, 720 00:42:46,680 --> 00:42:51,640 Speaker 1: find a smaller place in your area and support them. Um, 721 00:42:51,680 --> 00:42:53,680 Speaker 1: thank you for listening to this long podcast. If you 722 00:42:53,760 --> 00:42:56,520 Speaker 1: made it through, I really appreciate it. I almost wanted 723 00:42:56,560 --> 00:42:58,400 Speaker 1: to do the episode on something else, but I'm all 724 00:42:58,400 --> 00:43:01,760 Speaker 1: about talking about what makes me comfortable because I'm certainly 725 00:43:01,800 --> 00:43:04,359 Speaker 1: passionate enough about it. So thank you guys so much 726 00:43:04,360 --> 00:43:06,480 Speaker 1: for listening. I'm Kaylie Short, and this is too much 727 00:43:06,520 --> 00:43:14,719 Speaker 1: to say. Don't go asking questions. Do soon. I'm going 728 00:43:14,800 --> 00:43:19,319 Speaker 1: to say, now, tell it out you you