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Speaker 1: This is the Ben and Ashley i Almost Famous podcast

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Speaker 1: with iHeartRadio.

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Speaker 2: It's Almost Fau podcast.

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Speaker 3: We are here today with two people who met on

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Speaker 3: this show and are celebrating an anniversiary. It's Dezen Chris.

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Speaker 3: Welcome to the Almost Famous Podcast.

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Speaker 4: Thanks for having us, Thank you for being here. So

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Speaker 4: you guys today we're recording this January seventeenth, and tomorrow,

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Speaker 4: January eighteenth, is your ten year wedding anniversary.

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Speaker 5: Congratulations, thank you. Yeah, we made it ten years.

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Speaker 4: Such a successful bachelor couple. Are you guys number two

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Speaker 4: in line with Trista and Ryan.

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Speaker 5: No, there's well, I mean there's the picts.

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Speaker 4: Oh, the Meds next, Okay, yes, Count and Sean Katherine

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Speaker 4: a year before you Ben and Catherine.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, we're the course. Yeah that's not.

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Speaker 3: As cool like being second was going to be awesome

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Speaker 3: and now you're like, yeah, we're four, yeah a little bit.

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Speaker 4: Do you guys have big plans for the tenure.

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Speaker 5: No, we don't because we just had Noah, we're kind

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Speaker 5: of in the thick of a newborn, so we're gonna

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Speaker 5: be going to Hawaii at the end of the month.

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Speaker 5: So we're like, let's just and we'll just plan on

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Speaker 5: that being some sort of you know, celebration that's.

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Speaker 4: Counts.

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Speaker 3: That brings up my first question because I'm going to

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Speaker 3: make this about me for a second.

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Speaker 5: Congratulations, thank you.

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Speaker 3: We are like a month away, less than a month

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Speaker 3: away from our from the very first.

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Speaker 6: Oh wow, we have the most kids.

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Speaker 4: You don't John and Catherine too or tired with you?

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Speaker 5: Oh yeah, John and Catherine have second?

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Speaker 6: Thanks?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, second.

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Speaker 3: I tonight, actually, Jessica and I are going for a

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Speaker 3: very nice dinner day because we kind of assume it's

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Speaker 3: going to be one of our last before babies here.

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Speaker 3: Give me any advice you have. You have three, and

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Speaker 3: so it changes a lot.

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Speaker 2: I bet.

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Speaker 3: But when you guys look at your relationship, keeping any

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Speaker 3: type of like romance or just you time together, how

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Speaker 3: do you two do it?

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Speaker 2: Or do you not?

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Speaker 6: You just ask.

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Speaker 4: I didn't understand the joke for a second. I think

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Speaker 4: that is the most perfect way of saying it.

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Speaker 6: We definitely utilize family.

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Speaker 7: We moved back from Seattle to Portland area, and we've

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Speaker 7: got her parents now live here, My parents live here,

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Speaker 7: my brother lives here, and so if we need a break, thankfully,

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Speaker 7: we like our family and they're willing to watch the

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Speaker 7: kiddos awk keep talking. It's gonna get hard. It's definitely harder, right,

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Speaker 7: but it's also super fun.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, are you tired right now?

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Speaker 7: So I'll let you know a little secret. I feel great.

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Speaker 7: I feel great. That is sleeping in the baby's room.

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Speaker 7: So I feel great.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's a strategy. Actually, I don't think we've talked

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Speaker 3: about this yet. That was advised to Jessica and I,

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Speaker 3: and that Jessica was the one that said she wanted

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Speaker 3: to do. It's the sleeping arrangement. She wants me to

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Speaker 3: sleep in a separate room for the first like five weeks,

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Speaker 3: and we're gonna do like a shift thing, like I

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Speaker 3: get six hours straight asleep, wake up care for the

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Speaker 3: baby for like four or something whenever she knows that

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Speaker 3: hopefully you know, the baby doesn't need to be feeding,

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Speaker 3: and get like she's going to get four solid hours

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Speaker 3: of sleep uninterrupted and then like we're going to kind

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Speaker 3: of do that for through the evening. Could because her

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Speaker 3: philosophy was like, there's no use of us both being tired.

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Speaker 3: One of us should be tired, but the other one

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Speaker 3: should like try to get as much rest as possible.

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Speaker 2: Does that make sense? Everybody?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, that was perfect.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, because we you know, this is our third and

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Speaker 5: we didn't do that with our other because we didn't

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Speaker 5: really did we have an extra room, babe, I don't

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Speaker 5: even remember if definitely didn't have a bed in the

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Speaker 5: with the third, I was like, I can't handle when

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Speaker 5: we both aren't getting sleep because then like you're both

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Speaker 5: just honestly at your worst and kind of like short,

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Speaker 5: And so I was like, you know, I'll just go

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Speaker 5: because it used to be a guest room, and so

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Speaker 5: it's actually been amazing.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so you'd recommend it.

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Speaker 5: I would recommend it. I've even been trying to transition

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Speaker 5: back to our room and like I'm just not sleeping

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Speaker 5: as well because the monitor like will go off and

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Speaker 5: he's like faking me out with like rolling over, like.

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Speaker 4: Yo, the fake out to the monitor's actually the kill

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Speaker 4: to me. I still have this like every day. Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 4: how how old is your youngest? He'll be six months

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Speaker 4: in a couple of days.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, so you're still in it too.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I Jared and I haven't been as good this

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Speaker 4: time around because he kind of he kind of falls

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Speaker 4: asleep during feedings. So I take them. I just take

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Speaker 4: the nighttime.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean, I just make the nighttime Chris, so

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Speaker 5: that Chris can so that Chris can handle the other

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Speaker 5: boys because he wakes up earlier, He makes breakfast, he

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Speaker 5: does all the things so that I can just sometimes

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Speaker 5: get a little extra sleep.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm the one who preferred to sleep in, agreed

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Speaker 4: and catch up that way.

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Speaker 2: So interesting, This is so fun the time of life.

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Speaker 3: Look at us, We're holding babies, talking about babies, and talking.

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Speaker 2: About this wild show that you two met on.

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Speaker 3: Now, before we dive into your story, I think we

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Speaker 3: should all comment as much as we feel comfortable about

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Speaker 3: the topic I'm about to bring up. But my wife

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Speaker 3: last night, who doesn't really follow the show and has

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Speaker 3: very little interest in the show, goes, what is this about?

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Speaker 2: Because she loves these people.

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Speaker 3: There was a headline about Trista and Ryan having marital problems.

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Speaker 3: Do we know anything about this? Is this a story?

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Speaker 4: Now?

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Speaker 2: Is this just like rumors?

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Speaker 4: What do we say this is it residual from the

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Speaker 4: holes she spoke outside yesterday?

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Speaker 5: Did she really?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 5: Well, I didn't understand because obviously I love them both

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Speaker 5: and follow them both, but I didn't even understand where

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Speaker 5: the it first came from. Like why did people speculate?

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Speaker 4: Oh, because he was writing these very weird posts on

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Speaker 4: Instagram while she was away filming Special Forces about her

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Speaker 4: like being away from the family for so long, but

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Speaker 4: her needing to like do and do this for herself

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Speaker 4: and explore and challenge herself. And it was all cryptic

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Speaker 4: because nobody really knew it was Special Forces. He was

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Speaker 5: Yeah, he was probably doing that because she would see it,

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Speaker 5: or because they probably didn't have their phone.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I think he was trying to be like sweet, you know,

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Speaker 3: like Chris does like nice notes and a lot of

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Speaker 3: love like language to you to like make sure that

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Speaker 3: you he's thinking about you exactly.

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Speaker 4: But then we have confirmation here from our producer it

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Speaker 4: was just a recirculated rumor from those whole Special Forces

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Speaker 4: good diary entries.

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Speaker 3: Let's shut it down here on the Almost Favorite podcast

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Speaker 3: because just to works.

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Speaker 5: With Almost they've got a strong relationship.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, good, I love it. Okay, now onto YouTube, Ashley

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Speaker 3: take it away.

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Speaker 4: Okay, so you guys, what has been the Yeah, kind

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Speaker 4: of like still in the baby thing. You've been married

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Speaker 4: ten years now thanks to the show. What was the

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Speaker 4: difficult point of your relationship? Was it coming off the show?

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Speaker 4: Was it the first kid, the second kid, the third kid.

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Speaker 5: I don't know. I feel like it might be different

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Speaker 5: answers for each of us.

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Speaker 2: I love that.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, for me, it was definitely coming off the show,

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Speaker 5: because it was like, it's just a lot, as you

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Speaker 5: guys know, it's just a lot to deal with people

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Speaker 5: and the expectations and the pressures and like, while you're

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Speaker 5: also navigating a new relationship, Like that's a enough in itself,

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Speaker 5: So to have all the other like eyes on you,

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Speaker 5: it was really really difficult for me because I'm also

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Speaker 5: like super introverted and reserved and I don't like people

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Speaker 5: with being public. But I don't know. I think for

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Speaker 5: me that was the hardest because it was also navigating

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Speaker 5: a new relationship and I was in a new location

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Speaker 5: trying to meet new people. Chris was busy with work,

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Speaker 5: and so when you come off of the show, You're

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Speaker 5: now introduced to each other's like daily quirks and also

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Speaker 5: daily stresses. And I think in any relationship, regardless of

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Speaker 7: Yeah, I remember when Dad's and I first got off

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Speaker 7: people are people are psychoed with what they say, and

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Speaker 7: so that was definitely a stressor.

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Speaker 6: I think.

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Speaker 7: For me, you know, we were we moved in together

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Speaker 7: So just balancing like having someone around twenty four to seven, right,

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Speaker 7: and a relationship engaged, having the social pressures around you.

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Speaker 7: But I think mostly just like starting off in your

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Speaker 7: career and you're like, all right, we're engaged. Here we go,

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Speaker 7: I want to make it as comfortable as possible. That

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Speaker 3: It's interesting to me and tell me if I'm crazy

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Speaker 3: here and Ashley, I think you'll be the one that

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Speaker 3: with the biggest opinion on this.

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Speaker 2: The Bachelor does this.

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Speaker 3: Bachelor and Bacherette kind of have this very if you

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Speaker 3: look back on it, similar kind of vibe for like

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Speaker 3: six seasons, right, So there's like a six season span

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Speaker 3: where so many things feel similar, the people feel similar. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: you know, the governments, generations. You very much get to

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Speaker 3: see a very like clear identifier of of what the

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Speaker 3: generation looks like from the show. Because I'm thinking about

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Speaker 3: your story and Chris, like, you never stopped really working.

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Speaker 3: I mean you obviously went on the show, but you

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Speaker 3: continued your career. Mesnick did the same thing. I don't

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Speaker 3: know necessarily what Sean did at the time, but you

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Speaker 3: all kind of have feel like you had this same philosophy,

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Speaker 3: like I'm on the show to meet somebody. I've met somebody.

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Speaker 3: Uh now, let's make this thing work beyond kind of

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Speaker 3: let's do all these other things on top of it

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Speaker 3: that could be distracting to this relationship. Would you agree

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Speaker 3: with that statement that that kind of marked your time

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Speaker 3: on this show? And the people kind of that were

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Speaker 3: around you.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, one hundred percent.

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Speaker 2: I got like a one month to figure this out. Yeah.

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Speaker 5: You won't know until you're in it. Yeah, it's like

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Speaker 4: Like you'll be totally, you will be fine, but you

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Speaker 3: I think it's just like I feel like sometimes I'm

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Speaker 6: Don't do that.

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Speaker 5: During this you might see a side of her that

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Speaker 2: I've seen it, mom and Bay comes out.

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Speaker 3: Now, Wow, Hey, we only have a few more minutes

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Speaker 3: I'm always interested in this. So we've been doing this

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Speaker 3: We've been interviewing past bachelor's leading up to Grant season

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Speaker 3: and we've just been talking to him about their experience,

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Speaker 3: what the show's done for them, what the show's experience.

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Speaker 3: We've talked a lot about what the show's done for you.

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Speaker 3: But the big question I'm always curious about, because I

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Speaker 3: never did, really, have you two watched your season back?

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Speaker 4: He first has, and it doesn't. That's a very funny switch.

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Speaker 5: No, I know you haven't watched it back since twenty thirteen, fourteen.

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Speaker 4: We haven't gone back on iTunes. No, yeah, of course not.

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Speaker 6: No.

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Speaker 7: During though, I mean, yeah, you had to blog about it,

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Speaker 7: and so every happy couple we would decide if we

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Speaker 7: were going to watch the episode together or not, and

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Speaker 7: you'd be like, yeah, we're not gonna watch this one, right,

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Speaker 7: or yeah, let's watch this one.

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Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, I kind of even then chose not to

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Speaker 3: watch a lot. Uh, it was more clip it clips

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Speaker 3: and scenes. But you guys haven't gone back, Like there

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Speaker 3: hasn't been a moment or desire or even a conversation

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Speaker 3: of like should we just go back and watch like

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Speaker 3: this episode or this moment?

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Speaker 8: Not really, you're not really, We're so far removed from it,

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Speaker 8: and I feel like you become such different people than

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Speaker 8: when you were ten years ago, So it's it will

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Speaker 8: be interesting to go back.

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Speaker 5: We thought about, you know, we haven't even watched our

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Speaker 5: wedding videos because like the ro.

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Speaker 6: We met tomorrow, I thought, I know, want for our tenure.

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Speaker 5: Oh you're so sweet. Yes, we're gonna we're going to

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Speaker 5: go back through. So maybe we'll also choose to go

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Speaker 5: back through the season.

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Speaker 4: The proposal.

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Speaker 5: Oh yeah, the proposal, because that's I feel like that's

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Speaker 5: the most shown snippet. So yeah, we honestly see that one.

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Speaker 4: I'm posting coming out of the limo. Somebody should make

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Speaker 4: this for you for your ten year a season of

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Speaker 4: just the two of you where everybody else is clipped

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Speaker 4: out in any conversation about anyone else's clips out, but

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Speaker 4: it's just.

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Speaker 6: Great. I had to do it.

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Speaker 7: I gave a presentation last week and the person who

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Speaker 7: asked me to present was like, you know what, I

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Speaker 7: want you to talk about your season and I'm like, man,

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Speaker 7: I don't. I don't think they're going to want to

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Speaker 7: hear about it, and he's like, it's just I promise

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Speaker 7: you they will. And so I did go back to

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Speaker 7: just pull a couple of clips last two weeks ago

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Speaker 7: from YouTube, and it's crazy what people put together. You're like, yeah,

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Speaker 7: you're like what you spent time doing it? But it's

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Speaker 7: it's cool. Yeah, it's cool.

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Speaker 2: It's very sweet.

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Speaker 7: And then I'm like, why was my why were my

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Speaker 7: jeans so baggy? But the.

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Speaker 3: Just and I watch our wedding video on our anniversary. Yeah, Chris,

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Speaker 3: I don't necessarily know how emotional you are.

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Speaker 2: I lose it.

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Speaker 3: So just have fun doing that, because like, there there's

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Speaker 3: always one moment, one speech or something that just like

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Speaker 3: all of a sudden makes me go, yep, it's over.

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Speaker 2: It's sweet.

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Speaker 3: You guys, should I think it's a great habit to

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Speaker 3: get into.

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Speaker 4: My Mom's always like, Ashley doesn't wants to watch your

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Speaker 4: wedding video, doesn't want to watch you my mom. I

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Speaker 4: have to keep it special. I keep casually watch it

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Speaker 4: on YouTube in the background.

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Speaker 5: Instead of Blue. He's watching her as well.

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Speaker 4: I mean, he really does like he does enjoy it.

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Speaker 4: It's very cute. But I'm like, I can't like have

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Speaker 4: that it has as new as like exactly his new show.

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Speaker 2: Mom and Dad love each other. That's so sweet.

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Speaker 3: Well, I really want to issue guys the happiest of anniversaries.

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Speaker 3: What an amazing example, what an amazing season you're in.

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Speaker 3: Keep crushing it. It's so fun to catch up with

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Speaker 3: both of you and just hear about your lives today.

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Speaker 3: It's it's very exciting, I think for all the listeners

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Speaker 3: and especially for Ashley and myself. So yeah, keep us updated, Ashley.

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Speaker 4: I just have one last thing to throw in there.

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Speaker 4: When I last saw you, guys, it was at the

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Speaker 4: Golden Wedding and I was pregnant and kind of just

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Speaker 4: like I was like, I'm and you were very very sweet.

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Speaker 4: Were you guys trying at the time.

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Speaker 6: No, that's a good question because that was the timing

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Speaker 6: that was right.

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Speaker 5: It was right after the Golden Bats we got pregnant.

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Speaker 6: I think it was.

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Speaker 5: No, you're just always practicing.

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Speaker 3: Chris is just in it. That Golden wedding must have

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Speaker 3: been real.

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Speaker 5: Main take then, so fun you guys to blast. I

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Speaker 5: was like, the older you get, the more fun you

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Speaker 5: have because you like don't care what like everyone else thinks,

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Speaker 5: and you're just like, we had a blast. It was awesome.

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Speaker 6: That was a lot of fun. Yeah. So yeah, we

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Speaker 6: got pregnant right close to after that. You did?

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Speaker 4: Yes, Yeah, not weird, you did?

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Speaker 7: You did?

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Speaker 6: Yeah.

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Speaker 5: I think it was a conversation. We had been having

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Speaker 5: a conversation for the last year because you know, our

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Speaker 5: age gap was getting kind of further and further and

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Speaker 5: further with the boys, and so we're like, you know,

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Speaker 5: there's a lot of the why we shouldn't and then

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Speaker 5: there was like the well, you'll never regret it, and

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Speaker 5: so we decided, yeah.

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Speaker 4: And how did you feel when you found out it

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Speaker 4: was a third boy? You are boys? Does?

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Speaker 5: I'm okay with it? There? I only know boys. So

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Speaker 5: it's like, you know, of course we wanted to as

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Speaker 5: He's like he really wanted a girl.

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Speaker 7: I wanted a girl for sure, And when we went

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Speaker 7: and got our first ult set, I.

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Speaker 6: Was like, ah okay.

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Speaker 7: But but immediately I was like, all right, we got

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Speaker 7: a foursome, so we're going to be good.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, so this is good.

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Speaker 2: We'll booked a t time, we'll compete.

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Speaker 3: See, I'm starting now with the little girl, and I

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Speaker 3: have a feeling I might be the girls. Yeah, I

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Speaker 3: have a feeling I might be in the opposite camp

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Speaker 3: where I'm like one day, looking back, I'm like, hell, now,

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Speaker 3: hell did this act in my life?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: I can see Ben having three girls because I think

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Speaker 4: he's Danny Tanner. Oh have three girls?

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Speaker 5: Yes, I love that.

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Speaker 6: Well, it's your fault, Ben. I found out that it's

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Speaker 6: the demand that decides.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, he didn't know that.

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Speaker 2: I was today years old when I just learned that.

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Speaker 4: So yeah, joking, you are you?

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Speaker 6: Are you talking science right now?

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00:30:00,200 --> 00:30:03,400
Speaker 4: Biology in high school?

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00:30:02,160 --> 00:30:07,800
Speaker 3: And there's a lot of things I forget. Ashley, Hey,

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Speaker 3: you guys are the best. Thanks for coming on Almost

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Speaker 3: Famous Podcast. Until next time I've been Ben, I've been Ashley.

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