1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:03,040 Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter and listen. If you 2 00:00:03,279 --> 00:00:07,200 Speaker 1: need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more. 3 00:00:07,720 --> 00:00:11,200 Speaker 1: Please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve Harvey FM and 4 00:00:11,560 --> 00:00:14,640 Speaker 1: click submit Strawberry Letter. All right, we could be reading 5 00:00:14,640 --> 00:00:16,959 Speaker 1: your letter live on the air, just like we're gonna 6 00:00:16,960 --> 00:00:20,680 Speaker 1: read this one right here, right now. Buck them up, 7 00:00:20,800 --> 00:00:22,639 Speaker 1: Hold on tight, We got it for you here. It 8 00:00:23,040 --> 00:00:27,320 Speaker 1: is a Strawberry Letter subject. I got more than her measurements. 9 00:00:27,720 --> 00:00:30,560 Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm in my late fifties and I'm 10 00:00:30,600 --> 00:00:33,920 Speaker 1: still a bachelor. I don't have a problem meeting beautiful women, 11 00:00:34,000 --> 00:00:36,640 Speaker 1: and I don't have a problem getting the cookie. I 12 00:00:36,760 --> 00:00:39,880 Speaker 1: own a carpet business, so I'm the person that goes 13 00:00:39,920 --> 00:00:42,760 Speaker 1: to the customer's home to do the initial meeting and 14 00:00:42,800 --> 00:00:46,200 Speaker 1: get measurements. Three months ago, I went to a customer's 15 00:00:46,240 --> 00:00:50,320 Speaker 1: house and she was gorgeous, had a very nice house, 16 00:00:50,560 --> 00:00:53,319 Speaker 1: and she has her own real estate business. To make 17 00:00:53,320 --> 00:00:56,920 Speaker 1: a long story short, we had sex the same day 18 00:00:57,000 --> 00:01:00,200 Speaker 1: I met her, and we've been together almost every day 19 00:01:00,200 --> 00:01:03,360 Speaker 1: since then. She thinks we're dating, and I don't mind. 20 00:01:03,440 --> 00:01:06,400 Speaker 1: Because she started referring her homeowners to me for carpet 21 00:01:06,400 --> 00:01:09,760 Speaker 1: and other flooring needs. So she has been great for 22 00:01:09,840 --> 00:01:12,400 Speaker 1: my business. I still had a few women on the 23 00:01:12,400 --> 00:01:15,120 Speaker 1: side that I kick it with, but I was careful 24 00:01:15,240 --> 00:01:18,399 Speaker 1: not to mess up things with my main woman because 25 00:01:18,720 --> 00:01:22,319 Speaker 1: I didn't want her to stop sending business my way. Well, 26 00:01:22,520 --> 00:01:26,800 Speaker 1: I wasn't too careful because I ended up messing things up. 27 00:01:27,240 --> 00:01:30,319 Speaker 1: One crazy night, I had to go see a new customer, 28 00:01:30,319 --> 00:01:32,720 Speaker 1: and when I got to her house, I was instantly 29 00:01:32,760 --> 00:01:36,400 Speaker 1: attracted to her and vice versa. She invited me over 30 00:01:36,440 --> 00:01:38,959 Speaker 1: for dinner the next night, and after we ate, we 31 00:01:39,080 --> 00:01:42,280 Speaker 1: had sex on her couch. I was getting dressed and 32 00:01:42,360 --> 00:01:44,639 Speaker 1: I saw a picture of her and my main woman 33 00:01:44,800 --> 00:01:49,440 Speaker 1: on the side table. I asked, who's that. She said, Oh, 34 00:01:49,480 --> 00:01:53,720 Speaker 1: that's me and my very best girlfriend. I almost passed out, 35 00:01:54,120 --> 00:01:57,000 Speaker 1: but I played it off and I left. I have 36 00:01:57,040 --> 00:02:00,920 Speaker 1: avoided this lady since then, and I am so worried 37 00:02:00,960 --> 00:02:03,400 Speaker 1: that she's going to tell my main woman about what 38 00:02:03,560 --> 00:02:07,120 Speaker 1: went down since they are best friends. It was stupid 39 00:02:07,120 --> 00:02:09,960 Speaker 1: of me to not ask her who referred her to 40 00:02:10,000 --> 00:02:14,080 Speaker 1: me before we had sex. Now I've messed up big time. Steve. 41 00:02:14,120 --> 00:02:17,120 Speaker 1: Should I tell my girlfriend what happened and swear it'll 42 00:02:17,160 --> 00:02:20,080 Speaker 1: never happen again. What if this is all a set up? 43 00:02:20,120 --> 00:02:24,040 Speaker 1: How can I fix it? Please advise there's no fixing this. 44 00:02:24,280 --> 00:02:27,240 Speaker 1: There's no fixing this. And yeah, I say this is 45 00:02:27,280 --> 00:02:29,240 Speaker 1: from me. Steve is going to tell you something different. 46 00:02:29,520 --> 00:02:32,880 Speaker 1: Go ahead, tell your girlfriend and swear it won't ever 47 00:02:32,960 --> 00:02:37,600 Speaker 1: happen again. Yeah, go ahead and do that. You know, Steve, 48 00:02:37,639 --> 00:02:40,840 Speaker 1: how you say that you don't care anything about this letter? 49 00:02:40,880 --> 00:02:44,000 Speaker 1: You know sometimes you say that, well, this is a 50 00:02:44,080 --> 00:02:46,720 Speaker 1: letter for me. Okay, this is that one for me. 51 00:02:46,960 --> 00:02:50,600 Speaker 1: I do not care to the letter. To the writer 52 00:02:50,720 --> 00:02:54,440 Speaker 1: of this letter, you, sir, are getting just what you deserve. 53 00:02:54,520 --> 00:02:57,480 Speaker 1: I have no sympathy for you. You're taking advantage of 54 00:02:57,520 --> 00:03:01,600 Speaker 1: these women. You're taking advantage of this situation everything. Yeah, 55 00:03:01,720 --> 00:03:04,119 Speaker 1: they're having sex with you the first night. I'm not 56 00:03:04,280 --> 00:03:09,040 Speaker 1: excusing them with that at all. But you're with this 57 00:03:09,280 --> 00:03:11,840 Speaker 1: woman that you call your main woman. This is how 58 00:03:11,840 --> 00:03:15,160 Speaker 1: you treat her main woman by going around having sex 59 00:03:15,160 --> 00:03:17,440 Speaker 1: with these other women. You know you can say no, 60 00:03:17,840 --> 00:03:21,079 Speaker 1: you can't say no. You're doing these women, or your 61 00:03:21,120 --> 00:03:25,639 Speaker 1: main woman as you call her, to selfishly just get 62 00:03:25,760 --> 00:03:30,240 Speaker 1: business and just get sex. I mean, you're you're trying 63 00:03:30,240 --> 00:03:32,760 Speaker 1: to do this to get, you know, business for your 64 00:03:33,160 --> 00:03:36,120 Speaker 1: or your cleaning company, for your carpet company. That's how 65 00:03:36,160 --> 00:03:38,560 Speaker 1: I look at it. The only reason you're concerned that 66 00:03:38,640 --> 00:03:43,360 Speaker 1: your latest conquested, the only reason you're concerned is because 67 00:03:43,400 --> 00:03:48,080 Speaker 1: she's your main woman's best friend and you might lose business. 68 00:03:48,080 --> 00:03:50,320 Speaker 1: Not because you might hurt her, or might because you 69 00:03:50,360 --> 00:03:53,240 Speaker 1: really feel something for her, any of that. You know 70 00:03:53,280 --> 00:03:56,120 Speaker 1: that a normal man, a good man, would feel. Just 71 00:03:56,280 --> 00:04:00,360 Speaker 1: you're just upset because you might lose business. That's crazy. 72 00:04:00,400 --> 00:04:02,560 Speaker 1: Not that you might lose a good woman who's looking 73 00:04:02,600 --> 00:04:06,680 Speaker 1: out for you and sending business your way, which puts 74 00:04:06,760 --> 00:04:10,080 Speaker 1: money in your pocket. You're you're just concerned that you 75 00:04:10,360 --> 00:04:14,160 Speaker 1: know that she's not going to send you any more business. So, uh, 76 00:04:14,360 --> 00:04:16,480 Speaker 1: that's how I feel about you, how you feel about 77 00:04:16,520 --> 00:04:19,120 Speaker 1: these women in the letter. It doesn't it doesn't look 78 00:04:19,120 --> 00:04:22,040 Speaker 1: like you care. You just care about the fringe benefits 79 00:04:22,040 --> 00:04:27,040 Speaker 1: you get from your business contacts in your connection. So uh, yeah, 80 00:04:27,120 --> 00:04:30,320 Speaker 1: go ahead and tell her, tell her, tell her right now, Steve, 81 00:04:31,839 --> 00:04:34,920 Speaker 1: I want him to tell her. I definitely want to 82 00:04:35,160 --> 00:04:39,360 Speaker 1: tell her. Well, okay, well here's a deal. Uh. First 83 00:04:39,360 --> 00:04:45,240 Speaker 1: of all, um, this whole letter sums up in the 84 00:04:45,320 --> 00:04:49,880 Speaker 1: first sentence, I'm in my late fifties and I'm still 85 00:04:49,920 --> 00:04:58,359 Speaker 1: a bachelor. Period. Everything after that statement right there explains 86 00:04:59,200 --> 00:05:03,400 Speaker 1: that state meant right there. This is how you are 87 00:05:03,480 --> 00:05:08,320 Speaker 1: in your late fifties and steal a bachelor. And from 88 00:05:08,320 --> 00:05:11,760 Speaker 1: the top of this letter to the bottom, you do 89 00:05:12,320 --> 00:05:18,320 Speaker 1: nothing to gain any sympathy from anybody. You can't get 90 00:05:18,360 --> 00:05:21,480 Speaker 1: no real advice from nobody because you ain't really asking 91 00:05:21,560 --> 00:05:25,440 Speaker 1: for none. So don I hate to tell you this man. 92 00:05:27,320 --> 00:05:30,560 Speaker 1: You don't have no problem meeting beautiful women, and I 93 00:05:30,640 --> 00:05:34,440 Speaker 1: don't have a problem getting a cookie. Okay, I own 94 00:05:34,520 --> 00:05:41,440 Speaker 1: a copy business. How ironic this is because I own 95 00:05:41,480 --> 00:05:46,680 Speaker 1: a company called wall to wall carpet cleaning and installation business. 96 00:05:48,200 --> 00:05:52,159 Speaker 1: So you know how it is. Oh yeah, you being 97 00:05:52,240 --> 00:05:56,640 Speaker 1: all kinds of houses. I can count the beautiful women's 98 00:05:56,680 --> 00:06:02,680 Speaker 1: houses I've been in on two fingers, but you have 99 00:06:02,880 --> 00:06:12,279 Speaker 1: ten fingers, Steve. Everybody else was somebody's grandmama. Obviously I 100 00:06:12,320 --> 00:06:15,920 Speaker 1: didn't add the same client tell you I won't get 101 00:06:15,920 --> 00:06:18,320 Speaker 1: into this. And you went to a customer's house. She 102 00:06:18,480 --> 00:06:22,560 Speaker 1: was gorgeous, had a nice house, had on real estate business. 103 00:06:22,600 --> 00:06:26,200 Speaker 1: Long story short, we had sex the same day. Late 104 00:06:26,240 --> 00:06:30,279 Speaker 1: fifty still a bachelor, ain't got a problem meeting beautiful woman, 105 00:06:30,320 --> 00:06:33,719 Speaker 1: ain't got a problem getting the cookie. But see something 106 00:06:33,839 --> 00:06:39,080 Speaker 1: wrong with you though, because you a bachelor and still 107 00:06:39,080 --> 00:06:42,760 Speaker 1: a bachelor you said, still a bachelor in your late fifties. 108 00:06:42,920 --> 00:06:46,920 Speaker 1: So it's something wrong with you. Let's clearly know this, 109 00:06:47,320 --> 00:06:50,880 Speaker 1: because if you were that good of a man, some 110 00:06:51,080 --> 00:06:55,239 Speaker 1: woman would have got in by now. But you don't 111 00:06:55,240 --> 00:06:58,920 Speaker 1: want a good woman in right now. You've never wanted 112 00:06:58,920 --> 00:07:03,120 Speaker 1: a good woman in. And because you won't women, I mean, 113 00:07:03,200 --> 00:07:05,800 Speaker 1: let's it be real, Doc, nash your thing. I ain't 114 00:07:05,880 --> 00:07:09,440 Speaker 1: knocking it, but I'm just explaining to you yourself. So 115 00:07:09,560 --> 00:07:11,920 Speaker 1: you went to this customer's house. She was gorgeous, You 116 00:07:12,000 --> 00:07:16,440 Speaker 1: had a nice house. Long story short, she had own 117 00:07:16,520 --> 00:07:22,000 Speaker 1: real estate business. Y'all had sex the same day. Y'all 118 00:07:22,080 --> 00:07:26,720 Speaker 1: been together almost every day since then. She thinks we're dating. 119 00:07:26,840 --> 00:07:32,120 Speaker 1: And I don't mind what, Doc, If you win a 120 00:07:32,200 --> 00:07:38,240 Speaker 1: woman every day, how she don't think y'all dating. She 121 00:07:38,640 --> 00:07:43,800 Speaker 1: thinks we're dating, No Doc, you're dating her, No Doc, 122 00:07:43,960 --> 00:07:47,760 Speaker 1: that's what you're doing. If you're with a woman every day, 123 00:07:47,840 --> 00:07:51,600 Speaker 1: you are giving the impression, and not only giving the impression, 124 00:07:51,920 --> 00:07:55,800 Speaker 1: you are committing the act of dating. So the woman 125 00:07:55,800 --> 00:07:59,800 Speaker 1: ain't delusional. You just said you've been with her every 126 00:07:59,880 --> 00:08:05,920 Speaker 1: day and you don't mind that because she started referring 127 00:08:05,960 --> 00:08:09,800 Speaker 1: her homeowners to me for carpet and other flooring needs. 128 00:08:09,840 --> 00:08:13,440 Speaker 1: So she's been great for my business. Okay, So now 129 00:08:13,520 --> 00:08:18,120 Speaker 1: you're a user. You do women dirty, you get them 130 00:08:18,160 --> 00:08:20,920 Speaker 1: on the string. You're not honest and true with them. 131 00:08:21,240 --> 00:08:24,400 Speaker 1: You obviously haven't told her about the other women, because 132 00:08:24,440 --> 00:08:26,680 Speaker 1: I'll show you why you haven't done that later on 133 00:08:26,800 --> 00:08:29,160 Speaker 1: in the letter. So you put women on the string 134 00:08:29,520 --> 00:08:33,319 Speaker 1: so they think you're dating, and then you don't mind 135 00:08:33,440 --> 00:08:37,040 Speaker 1: because it helps your business or you a piece of work. 136 00:08:37,160 --> 00:08:40,360 Speaker 1: Right here, Man, I still had a few women on 137 00:08:40,400 --> 00:08:45,600 Speaker 1: the side that I kick it with, you know, but 138 00:08:45,880 --> 00:08:48,960 Speaker 1: I've been careful not to mess things up with my 139 00:08:49,520 --> 00:08:53,880 Speaker 1: main woman. This is your whole problem. Dog, you to 140 00:08:54,000 --> 00:08:59,880 Speaker 1: carpet cleaning player. That's all it is. Man. You just 141 00:09:00,160 --> 00:09:05,360 Speaker 1: to copied clean and play up, copied installation play or 142 00:09:05,400 --> 00:09:11,000 Speaker 1: whatever you want to call it. So you know you 143 00:09:11,280 --> 00:09:15,880 Speaker 1: ended uh anyway, you said I was careful not to 144 00:09:15,880 --> 00:09:18,680 Speaker 1: mess things up with him. I didn't want to stop 145 00:09:19,360 --> 00:09:24,040 Speaker 1: sending this is your way. Well you messed up because 146 00:09:25,160 --> 00:09:28,960 Speaker 1: one crazy night I had to go see a new customer. 147 00:09:29,400 --> 00:09:31,839 Speaker 1: I got to her house, I was instantly attracted her, 148 00:09:31,840 --> 00:09:34,640 Speaker 1: and vice versa. She invited me over for dinner the 149 00:09:34,679 --> 00:09:37,200 Speaker 1: next night and we ate and we had sex on 150 00:09:37,320 --> 00:09:42,080 Speaker 1: her couch. This show m O, dog, This is your mo. 151 00:09:42,320 --> 00:09:45,520 Speaker 1: This is what you do. This ain't nothing new to you. 152 00:09:46,520 --> 00:09:51,080 Speaker 1: Now when you got through you're getting dressed. You saw 153 00:09:51,120 --> 00:09:53,800 Speaker 1: a picture of her and your main woman on the 154 00:09:53,880 --> 00:09:56,880 Speaker 1: side table. Ask her who's that? She said, Oh, that's 155 00:09:56,960 --> 00:10:00,240 Speaker 1: me and my very best girlfriend. Almost passed out, but 156 00:10:00,440 --> 00:10:03,640 Speaker 1: played it off a left. I've avoided this lady since then, 157 00:10:03,679 --> 00:10:05,680 Speaker 1: and I'm so wared that she's gonna tell my main 158 00:10:05,760 --> 00:10:08,680 Speaker 1: woman about what went down. Since they best friends. It 159 00:10:08,800 --> 00:10:11,040 Speaker 1: was stupid to me not to ask her who referred 160 00:10:11,040 --> 00:10:13,880 Speaker 1: her to me? That ain't never been your problem, dog 161 00:10:14,240 --> 00:10:18,200 Speaker 1: before we had sex. Now I've messed up big time. Steve. 162 00:10:18,480 --> 00:10:21,319 Speaker 1: Should I tell my girl what happened and swear that 163 00:10:21,480 --> 00:10:24,320 Speaker 1: never happened again? What if it was all a set up? 164 00:10:24,400 --> 00:10:26,640 Speaker 1: How can I fix it? Well? If it was a setup, 165 00:10:27,080 --> 00:10:31,520 Speaker 1: the setup is in and done. You slept with a friend, people, 166 00:10:31,559 --> 00:10:34,760 Speaker 1: don't you normally do sex? Setups like this have set 167 00:10:34,800 --> 00:10:37,600 Speaker 1: you my man, so I do If you do that, 168 00:10:37,679 --> 00:10:40,800 Speaker 1: ain't really how. They't set you up. They set you 169 00:10:40,880 --> 00:10:42,920 Speaker 1: up by hitting on you. They don't set you up 170 00:10:42,920 --> 00:10:48,280 Speaker 1: by giving you the actual sex. See you stupid? Yeah, 171 00:10:49,280 --> 00:10:53,319 Speaker 1: you kind of stupid dog. Now how can I fix it? 172 00:10:53,640 --> 00:10:56,600 Speaker 1: First of all, Shirley said you should just tell her 173 00:10:56,840 --> 00:11:00,000 Speaker 1: because then Shirley know her to be over. I don't 174 00:11:00,080 --> 00:11:04,959 Speaker 1: take your dumb ass in there and say nothing. Your 175 00:11:05,120 --> 00:11:07,320 Speaker 1: stupid ass gonna go in there and say what you 176 00:11:07,400 --> 00:11:11,080 Speaker 1: already stupid? How he didn't see that? And let me 177 00:11:11,120 --> 00:11:13,800 Speaker 1: tell you something, dog, let me tell you something else. 178 00:11:15,000 --> 00:11:18,560 Speaker 1: Come on, don't you always mess it up? Don't you 179 00:11:18,679 --> 00:11:21,800 Speaker 1: always mess it up? That's why you still single, You 180 00:11:21,880 --> 00:11:24,960 Speaker 1: in your late fifties, single, because you always mess it 181 00:11:25,040 --> 00:11:28,760 Speaker 1: up because you ain't the player you thank you all. 182 00:11:29,040 --> 00:11:31,200 Speaker 1: You got a main woman with some chicks on the 183 00:11:31,280 --> 00:11:36,880 Speaker 1: side because you keep making them think they your main woman. See, 184 00:11:36,920 --> 00:11:40,160 Speaker 1: don't nobody think they there main woman unless you're giving 185 00:11:40,200 --> 00:11:46,960 Speaker 1: them the idea. Now, listen to me. They've told on 186 00:11:47,120 --> 00:11:50,680 Speaker 1: you before. That's why you single. You've been busted many 187 00:11:50,720 --> 00:11:54,120 Speaker 1: times before because you ain't that good of a player. Dog, 188 00:11:55,240 --> 00:11:58,840 Speaker 1: That's why you keep getting busted that's why you still single. 189 00:12:00,720 --> 00:12:05,520 Speaker 1: This is your ire mo, you stupid. I'm shamed with 190 00:12:05,679 --> 00:12:10,840 Speaker 1: you and just degraded all the great carpet cleaning businesses 191 00:12:11,080 --> 00:12:13,920 Speaker 1: in the history of our and I'll not be a 192 00:12:14,040 --> 00:12:16,880 Speaker 1: part of Post your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter and 193 00:12:16,960 --> 00:12:19,720 Speaker 1: Steve Harvey FM on Instagram and Facebook, and don't forget 194 00:12:19,720 --> 00:12:22,640 Speaker 1: to check out the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand. You're 195 00:12:22,679 --> 00:12:25,160 Speaker 1: listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.