Speaker 1: People don't want perfect, they want authentic. People don't want flawless,
Speaker 1: they want vulnerable. People don't want polished, they want real.
Speaker 1: People don't want the highlight reel, they want the human
Speaker 1: behind it. People don't want performance, they want presents. People
Speaker 1: don't want someone who has it all together, they want
Speaker 1: someone who's willing to figure it out. Because perfection may impress,
Speaker 1: but vulnerability connects. The number one health and wellness podcast
Speaker 1: Jay Sety, Jay sheddyet Hey everyone, it's Jay Sheddy. Welcome
Speaker 1: back to On Purpose. Today's episode is all about what
Speaker 1: to do when no one believes in you or supports you.
Speaker 1: The sad truth is I hear this wherever I am
Speaker 1: in the world, when I'm traveling, when i'm me people,
Speaker 1: when I'm connecting, one of the top things I hear is, Jay,
Speaker 1: the people around me don't believe in me. The people
Speaker 1: around me don't support me, the people around me don't
Speaker 1: encourage me. Actually, I'm scared that if I launch my company,
Speaker 1: if I start my podcast, if I write my book,
Speaker 1: if I build my business, the people around me are
Speaker 1: going to tear it down before I even have the
Speaker 1: chance to build it up. And a lot of us
Speaker 1: are walking through life feeling alone. Maybe you've actually felt
Speaker 1: disconnected from your community, maybe you've felt isolated. Will you think,
Speaker 1: why does no one help me? Why does no one
Speaker 1: believe in me? Why does no one support me? If
Speaker 1: you've ever felt any of those things and you're struggling
Speaker 1: with that self belief, that self doubt, this episode is
Speaker 1: for you. Here's the first thing I'm going to say,
Speaker 1: Stop seeking support, start creating proof. The science says we
Speaker 1: experience a cognitive bias called the false consensus effect. We
Speaker 1: overestimate how much people will understand or agree with us.
Speaker 1: Here's why that's counterintuitive. We think we need validation before
Speaker 1: we act, but in reality, people often believe in you
Speaker 1: after you prove the idea works, not before. Imagine this,
Speaker 1: You're at a party. You say something you think is
Speaker 1: obviously hilarious or smart or interesting. Crickets. No one laughs,
Speaker 1: no one's impressed. You're confused. You thought everyone would get
Speaker 1: the joke because in your head it was obvious, it
Speaker 1: made sense, it was normal that moment, that awkward silence.
Speaker 1: That's the false consensus effect in action. The false this
Speaker 1: consensus effect is a cognitive bias where we assume that
Speaker 1: other people think the way we do because our opinions
Speaker 1: feel obvious, logical, even universal to us. In other words,
Speaker 1: if I believe this, most people probably do too. Spoiler,
Speaker 1: they don't, and science proves it. The science says. This
Speaker 1: term was coined by psychologists Lee Ross, David Green, and
Speaker 1: Andrew House in the late nineteen seventies. In one famous study,
Speaker 1: they gave people a tough moral choice, then ask them
Speaker 1: to guess what others would choose. Every group believed their
Speaker 1: choice was the majority option, but when the results came in,
Speaker 1: the actual opinions were split. Nobody was as obviously right
Speaker 1: as they thought they were. Now, why does this matter?
Speaker 1: This bias shows up everywhere, especially when you're building something new.
Speaker 1: You assume your idea is clearly brilliant, but others don't
Speaker 1: get it. You think people will obviously support you, but
Speaker 1: they don't. You expect everyone to see what you see,
Speaker 1: but they're not. In your head. The problem isn't your idea,
Speaker 1: it's that you overestimated how obvious it would be to
Speaker 1: someone who hasn't lived your experiences. Here's the takeaway. Just
Speaker 1: because it's clear to you doesn't mean it's clear to others,
Speaker 1: and that's not a flaw. It's a reminder you're early,
Speaker 1: you're unique, You're supposed to be misunderstood at first. Instead
Speaker 1: of expecting everyone to agree, get curious, ask more, listen better,
Speaker 1: explain smarter, and when people don't get it, don't panic.
Speaker 1: That's not a red flag. That's the beginning of something original.
Speaker 1: Try this today. Make something small and tangible that shows
Speaker 1: your idea works. A sample, a deck, a demo, a pilot,
Speaker 1: a mock up. Stop pitching, start proving. Don't try to
Speaker 1: convince people. Show them what they didn't expect to see.
Speaker 1: Don't try to impress people. Show yourself you can do it.
Speaker 1: Don't explain your vision to people. Committed to small thinking,
Speaker 1: protect your energy and prove it through action. Don't beg
Speaker 1: to be understood. Stay focused long enough to become undeniable.
Speaker 1: Don't wait to be believed in. Become the reason they
Speaker 1: rethink what's possible. We have to start, We have to begin,
Speaker 1: We have to get going. People won't believe in you
Speaker 1: before you start. They might not even believe in you
Speaker 1: after you start. They might not even believe in you
Speaker 1: when you win and succeed. Just start, just get going,
Speaker 1: just move. If you wait for people to believe in
Speaker 1: you before you start. You could wait forever. If you
Speaker 1: wish people supported you before you start, you'll be wishing forever.
Speaker 1: And if you want someone to think you're going to
Speaker 1: do something incredible before you start, you'll be wanting forever.
Speaker 1: Don't wish, want and wait your way into never moving.
Speaker 1: Make that change, make that shift, and notice how your
Speaker 1: life changes. The second thing you have to understand is
Speaker 1: rejection is usually protection. Studies on psychological projection show that
Speaker 1: people often reject others' ideas because of their own fears, insecurities,
Speaker 1: or limitations. This is surprising because their no may have
Speaker 1: nothing to do with your idea, your potential, and everything
Speaker 1: to do with their past and their issues. The reason
Speaker 1: someone says no to you is more likely that someone
Speaker 1: said no to them. The reason someone rejects your idea
Speaker 1: is because they rejected their own. The reason someone doesn't
Speaker 1: think you're going to make it is because they didn't
Speaker 1: have someone who believed in them. Their projection is not
Speaker 1: a prediction of your potential. It is simply a mirror
Speaker 1: of their past. Don't let someone's projection become a prediction
Speaker 1: for your future. You don't have to do that and recognize.
Speaker 1: Maybe they wanted to quit their job at one point
Speaker 1: and they couldn't. Maybe they wanted to start an app
Speaker 1: at one point and they didn't. Maybe they had an
Speaker 1: idea and someone told them not to do it. They're
Speaker 1: simply reflecting what was projected onto them onto you. We
Speaker 1: don't have to reflect it back. Try this today. Next
Speaker 1: time someone doubts you, don't internalize it, ask yourself, is
Speaker 1: this about me? Or about what they've told themselves. People
Speaker 1: will project their limits onto your vision. Don't let people
Speaker 1: break your dreams when they haven't even built theirs. Don't
Speaker 1: let people who have haven't done it create doubts for you.
Speaker 1: Don't take feedback from someone living a life you don't want.
Speaker 1: Don't confuse loud opinions with lived experience. Don't take direction
Speaker 1: from someone who's never moved. They're not wrong or bad,
Speaker 1: they're just trying to protect you. But don't project that
Speaker 1: fear onto yourself. A lot of the times when I've
Speaker 1: shared risks I wanted to take and had family members
Speaker 1: or friends tell me that it wasn't going to happen,
Speaker 1: I realized they just wanted me to be safe. I
Speaker 1: remember when I wanted to quit my career and potentially
Speaker 1: pursue some postgraduate study. And everyone around me said, Jay, well,
Speaker 1: how will you pay your bills, how will you pay
Speaker 1: for your wedding? How will you take care of your future?
Speaker 1: Those were not signs that I shouldn't do it. Those
Speaker 1: were just reminders that they valued those things. They were
Speaker 1: showing they valued security, they valued safety, and they valued stability.
Speaker 1: And those are not bad values. People are not being mean,
Speaker 1: they're simply sharing what they care about, and it's your
Speaker 1: job to decide whether you care about those things or
Speaker 1: whether you don't. Sarah Blakeley, the founder of Spanks, didn't
Speaker 1: tell her family about what she was building because she
Speaker 1: didn't want to hear that opinion. And that's something I'd
Speaker 1: encourage you to do as well. Too many of us
Speaker 1: share our ideas with too many people. We want everyone
Speaker 1: to get around us. We want the validation and the approval.
Speaker 1: And what does that do? It does two things. The
Speaker 1: first is it opens you up to lots of feedback
Speaker 1: from people who don't understand that industry, understand that business,
Speaker 1: or understand that area. You've opened yourself up to everyone's
Speaker 1: emotional baggage. That was your choice. And the second thing
Speaker 1: is whether they support you or not. You've taken energy
Speaker 1: away from the decision. I learned something really important when
Speaker 1: I was in the monastery that if you share something
Speaker 1: before it's happened with someone who can't help you do it,
Speaker 1: you've taken away fifty percent of the energy from that
Speaker 1: idea because you have searched for validation and approval before
Speaker 1: you've even put in the work. Put in the work first.
Speaker 1: Don't look for approval before you've put in the work.
Speaker 1: Don't look for validation even after you've put in the work,
Speaker 1: because chances are you won't get it both times. Get
Speaker 1: it from yourself. Do the work to prove what you're
Speaker 1: capable of. Take on the challenge to show what's possible
Speaker 1: for you. Number three, Use doubt as a focus filter.
Speaker 1: According to the challenge stress model, a certain amount of
Speaker 1: pressure and resistance can increase focus and drive. See this
Speaker 1: is why it's counterintuitive. We think support makes us stronger,
Speaker 1: but actually resistance can make us sharper. Use the no
Speaker 1: as a tool to clarify the yes. Try this today.
Speaker 1: List every reason people said your idea won't work and
Speaker 1: build solutions around them. Turn every criticism into a checklist.
Speaker 1: Doubt doesn't mean stop. It means refined. Doubt doesn't mean
Speaker 1: give up. It means redefine. Doubt doesn't mean this is
Speaker 1: the end. It means start again. Support doesn't always make
Speaker 1: you stronger. Sometimes resistance does. Support doesn't always make it easier.
Speaker 1: Resistance makes it sharper. Support feels good. Resistance shows you
Speaker 1: what you're made of. Support cheers you on. Resistance dares
Speaker 1: you to keep going without applause. Support says I believe
Speaker 1: in you. Resistance says prove it to yourself. Support can
Speaker 1: carry you, but resistance it builds your muscle. Don't resent
Speaker 1: the resistance, use it. Let it shape your focus, sharpen
Speaker 1: your edge, and remind you if you can do it
Speaker 1: without the noise, you're ready for the stage. When we're waiting,
Speaker 1: and I see this happen to so many people when
Speaker 1: I travel and speak to them, we're waiting for the stage.
Speaker 1: We're waiting for the invite in order to be our
Speaker 1: best self, not realizing that when we become our best self,
Speaker 1: we get invited onto the stage. By the way I
Speaker 1: remember this, I did the same thing to myself for years.
Speaker 1: I used to think, yes, when I get the opportunity
Speaker 1: and then I realized, just take every opportunity. I remember
Speaker 1: speaking in rooms not much bigger than the one I'm
Speaker 1: in right now, speaking to empty rooms, no one there,
Speaker 1: just four walls, and I would practice my speech as
Speaker 1: if it was full of one hundred people. And now
Speaker 1: when I have the fortune of being live at the
Speaker 1: Greek Theater with five thousand people, doing an event recently
Speaker 1: at the theater at MSG with five thousand of view
Speaker 1: as well, I often think back to that moment when
Speaker 1: there were zero to five people in a room, and
Speaker 1: the reason is because my enthusiasm and energy was pretty
Speaker 1: much the same. What I mean by that is, if
Speaker 1: you're sad that only ten people watched your video, switch
Speaker 1: it to ten people watched my video. If you're sad
Speaker 1: that you've got one hundred views, think about that for
Speaker 1: a second. When have you ever had one hundred people
Speaker 1: turn up to hear you speak. If you're not happy
Speaker 1: that you only have ten thousand followers, ask yourself, have
Speaker 1: you ever even seen ten thousand people in one place
Speaker 1: show up for you. It's when we become grateful, thoughtful,
Speaker 1: and focused on the growth that we've already made that
Speaker 1: we gain more energy for the next phase. When you're
Speaker 1: climbing a mountain, there's two important viewpoints. One is looking
Speaker 1: up and ahead, and the other is looking down and behind.
Speaker 1: You look down to see how far you've come, and
Speaker 1: you look up to see how far you have left
Speaker 1: to go. Both of those viewpoints are important. When you
Speaker 1: look down as to how far you've come, you get
Speaker 1: energy to move forward, and when you look at how
Speaker 1: far you have left to go, you feel grounded and
Speaker 1: humbled by the challenge. If you only look up, you'll
Speaker 1: feel discouraged, and if you only look down, you'll feel arrogant.
Speaker 1: Ego and discouragement are two sides of the same coin.
Speaker 1: They'll keep you trapped in stuck and not help you
Speaker 1: move forward. What we actually want is humility and proof.
Speaker 1: Humility and proof become the best allies for a lifelong journey.
Speaker 1: This next part is so important, but first I just
Speaker 1: want to take a second to thank our sponsors. Thanks
Speaker 1: for sticking with me. Let's get into it. Number four.
Speaker 1: Build a belief battery from strangers. The Ben Franklin effect
Speaker 1: shows that when we engage with others in small, reciprocal ways,
Speaker 1: trust builds faster, even among strangers. It's really surprising your
Speaker 1: biggest supporters might not be friends and family. In fact,
Speaker 1: research shows strangers are often more likely to champion new
Speaker 1: ideas because they're not attached to your past. This is
Speaker 1: Adam Grant's research. Imagine this. You post your new business idea, podcast,
Speaker 1: or personal project online. You're nervous, vulnerable, hoping your friends
Speaker 1: and family will hype it up. Instead silence, no comment
Speaker 1: from your cousin, no reshare from your closest friend, not
Speaker 1: even a fire emoji from your roommate. Then someone you've
Speaker 1: never met dms you this is exactly what I needed.
Speaker 1: Keep going. Why does that happen? Because here's the truth.
Speaker 1: The people closest to you aren't always the ones most
Speaker 1: likely to support your growth. People closest to you are
Speaker 1: not the most likely to believe in you. The people
Speaker 1: closest to you are not the first to cheer for you.
Speaker 1: Because it's the strangers, the others that you didn't know,
Speaker 1: that actually are coming from a place of neutrality to
Speaker 1: remind you that what you're doing matters. According to organizational
Speaker 1: psychologist Adam Grant, strangers are more likely to support new
Speaker 1: ideas than friends or family because they're not emotionally tied
Speaker 1: to your past. Here's the psychology behind it. You're inner
Speaker 1: circle knows you're before. They've seen your doubts, your failed attempts,
Speaker 1: your unfinished drafts. So when you evolve, they subconsciously compare
Speaker 1: it to who you used to be. It's called identity anchoring.
Speaker 1: They unconsciously anchor you to the version they're most familiar with. Oh,
Speaker 1: that's just Sarah. She always starts things but never follows through.
Speaker 1: Or they look at you and say that's not like you,
Speaker 1: or since when are you a podcaster. They don't mean
Speaker 1: to limit you, but their memory of your past gets
Speaker 1: in the way of their belief in your future. Their
Speaker 1: memory of your past gets in the way of their
Speaker 1: belief in your future. But you don't have to let
Speaker 1: that stop you. There's an amazing scene in the movie
Speaker 1: The Founder. If you've not seen it, it's the story
Speaker 1: of Ray Kroc and how he built McDonald's into the
Speaker 1: powerhouse that it is today. Now, whatever your thoughts are
Speaker 1: on McDonald's, it's an interesting story. He's sitting at a
Speaker 1: table at a members club sharing his new business idea
Speaker 1: that is the franchise model for McDonald's, and all of
Speaker 1: his friends have seen him get excited and enthusiastic about
Speaker 1: so many any businesses and failed and they list them off.
Speaker 1: Ray knows this is different, He feels it's different, but
Speaker 1: he can't convince them. He has to show it, He
Speaker 1: has to prove it. He has to go and do
Speaker 1: it for them to come around. Meanwhile, strangers, they're re
Speaker 1: meeting your present. They don't know how many times you've hesitated.
Speaker 1: They don't care about your high school GPA, your failed blog,
Speaker 1: or your awkward first try. They see your work, your message,
Speaker 1: your energy as it is, not as it was, and
Speaker 1: that gives them the clarity to say this deserves a shot.
Speaker 1: So here's the takeaway. Don't be discouraged when support doesn't
Speaker 1: come from the people you expected. Be proud you showed
Speaker 1: up anyway, and remember your audience might not come from
Speaker 1: your past. It's waiting in your future. So keep building.
Speaker 1: Let strangers become supporters, let your results, rewrite your story,
Speaker 1: and let the people who used to know you catch up.
Speaker 1: Because often the people who will believe in your next
Speaker 1: chapter haven't met you yet. So try this today. Find
Speaker 1: three people online doing what you want to do, comment,
Speaker 1: share message, start building belief outside your circle. If your
Speaker 1: people don't see it yet. Find the ones who already
Speaker 1: live it. Step number five, create before you're confident. This
Speaker 1: is the most important step. You don't become confident before
Speaker 1: you start. You don't become confident before you try. You
Speaker 1: don't become confident before you fail. You don't become confident
Speaker 1: before you do the thing. The science shows this too,
Speaker 1: It's called the competence confidence loop. The competence confidence loop
Speaker 1: shows that action builds belief, not the other way around.
Speaker 1: Wait to feel ready. But confidence is a result of experience,
Speaker 1: not a requirement to begin. Choose one microaction that represents
Speaker 1: your idea, launch the first draft, post the first video,
Speaker 1: off of the first service. Confidence doesn't come first, commitment does. Now,
Speaker 1: here's the confidence myth no one talks about. We've been
Speaker 1: sold this idea. Once I feel confident, then I'll start.
Speaker 1: But here's what psychology proves that mindset is backwards. According
Speaker 1: to Albert Bandura, Stanford psychologist and the father of self
Speaker 1: efficacy theory, confidence doesn't come before action, it comes because
Speaker 1: of it. Now, what does it mean? When you take action,
Speaker 1: especially on something new, you build competence, a sense of
Speaker 1: I can do this. That competence creates evidence, and your
Speaker 1: brain uses that evidence to build confidence. So every time
Speaker 1: you start imperfectly, awkwardly, messily, you're not just doing the thing,
Speaker 1: you're training your belief that you can. We wait for
Speaker 1: confidence like it's a permission slip. But confidence is more
Speaker 1: like a side effect of showing up. People think public
Speaker 1: speakers are born confident. Nope, most of them were just
Speaker 1: the first ones willing to bomb and come back. They
Speaker 1: earned it through reps, not readiness. Bandura's research shows that
Speaker 1: self efficacy, your belief in your ability to succeed, increases
Speaker 1: when you have small wins. These are known as mastery experiences.
Speaker 1: It also increases when you see others succeed vicarious experiences.
Speaker 1: We think seeing others succeed means we have less chance
Speaker 1: of succeeding. Actually it's the opposite. When you see others succeed,
Speaker 1: it gives you more opportunity to succeed because you realize
Speaker 1: it's available. I've had so many of my friends start
Speaker 1: social media channels, podcasts, YouTube channels, and it's incredible to
Speaker 1: what's their rise. It's incredible to see them give their
Speaker 1: gift to the world and what I'm encouraging my community
Speaker 1: and the people around me. To do is say hey
Speaker 1: when you see people celebrate that success. And then, of
Speaker 1: course verbal encouragement social persuasion helps as well. This reduces
Speaker 1: fear and anxiety through exposure. Confidence doesn't require perfection, it
Speaker 1: requires evidence. Try this today. Instead of asking do I
Speaker 1: feel confident enough to start? Ask what's one small action
Speaker 1: I can take to build proof that I can do this?
Speaker 1: Send the email, record the first minute, write the first sentence,
Speaker 1: show up even if you're shaking. Remember, affirmations don't build confidence.
Speaker 1: Likes and views don't build confidence. Being told you're great
Speaker 1: doesn't build confidence. Watching motivational videos doesn't build confidence. There
Speaker 1: are only three things that build confidence. Choosing discomfort builds confidence.
Speaker 1: Keeping promises to yourself builds confidence, and building competence builds confidence.
Speaker 1: Step number six, make failure public Strategically. The science shows
Speaker 1: that imagining failure before it happens actually increases your odds
Speaker 1: of success. Also, vulnerability builds trust. People support you when
Speaker 1: they see the risk you're taking. Instead of hiding your
Speaker 1: risk or hiding your fear of failure, name it, own it,
Speaker 1: and invite people into the ride. Here's what I want
Speaker 1: you to say. Here's what I'm building, here's what might
Speaker 1: not work. I'm doing it anyway. That honesty earns respect
Speaker 1: even if people still don't fully get the vision. I
Speaker 1: remember when I started my journey, I posted on Facebook saying, hey,
Speaker 1: I'm trying this experiment. I'd love for you to join
Speaker 1: the journey. If you want to be a part of it,
Speaker 1: great if you don't, I totally understand. And all of
Speaker 1: a sudden, it let people know that I was launching
Speaker 1: without launching. When you kind of drum up this build
Speaker 1: up to this big launch, it almost feels like too
Speaker 1: much pressure, and now everyone's expecting it to be perfect.
Speaker 1: When actually, when you soft launch and go, hey, i'm
Speaker 1: trying something, I'm giving it a go. I hope it
Speaker 1: does well, you get far more energy. You don't win
Speaker 1: support by hiding risk, you earn it by owning it.
Speaker 1: Because people don't want perfect, they want authentic. People don't
Speaker 1: want flawless, they want vulnerable. People don't want polished, they
Speaker 1: want real. People don't want the highlight reel, they want
Speaker 1: the human behind it. People don't want performance, they want presents.
Speaker 1: People don't want someone who has it all together, they
Speaker 1: want someone who's willing to figure it out because perfection
Speaker 1: may impress, but vulnerability connects. It's one of the reasons
Speaker 1: since my first videos, why I left me scuffing words,
Speaker 1: why I may not perfect every delivery point, why you
Speaker 1: may see me thinking sometimes in interviews and podcasts, it's
Speaker 1: because it was real. It actually happened, And it's why
Speaker 1: I do a lot of things without a lot of editing,
Speaker 1: because I just want you to see my thought process.
Speaker 1: I want you to hear it as I'm discovering an idea,
Speaker 1: because that's when it's powerful. It's that inception, moment of discovery,
Speaker 1: of clarity, of connecting that resonates because it's real. It's
Speaker 1: heart to heart, it's human to human. So don't feel
Speaker 1: that you have to be a perfect public speaker, or
Speaker 1: a perfect coder, or a perfect podcast or whatever it
Speaker 1: is to get out there. Here's number seven. Don't try
Speaker 1: to prove people wrong. Focus on proving yourself right. People
Speaker 1: with intrinsic motivation driven by personal meaning outperform those with
Speaker 1: external motivation like proving someone wrong, especially in the long term.
Speaker 1: Here's why it's counterintuitive. Revenge success sounds good, but purpose
Speaker 1: driven success lasts longer. Revenge ultimately leads to resentment, resentment
Speaker 1: of what you focused on, resentment of that person, and
Speaker 1: resentment for lost time. Purpose driven success builds confidence, helps
Speaker 1: you understand your potential, and creates passion. So try this today.
Speaker 1: Write a mission statement, not for others, but for yourself.
Speaker 1: You're not doing this to make them look bad. You're
Speaker 1: doing this to find what you care about. You're not
Speaker 1: doing this to prove them wrong. You're doing this to
Speaker 1: find something that you like doing. You're not doing this
Speaker 1: because they didn't believe in you. You're doing this because
Speaker 1: you want to learn to believe in yourself. Keep it
Speaker 1: somewhere visible. That's your anchor. So if no one's clapping
Speaker 1: for your idea yet, good, that means you're early. That
Speaker 1: means you're building something most people can't see. Support may
Speaker 1: come later, but your belief has to come first, because
Speaker 1: at the end of the day, if you don't believe
Speaker 1: in your idea enough to stand alone for a while,
Speaker 1: you're not going to be ready for the crowd that
Speaker 1: comes after. Thank you so much for listening to on Purpose.
Speaker 1: If this episode helped you, the best thing you can
Speaker 1: do is pass it along to a friend, share it
Speaker 1: on social media. I love seeing what's resonating with you
Speaker 1: on TikTok and Instagram, and most importantly, back yourself loud, quietly, relentlessly,
Speaker 1: even if no one else does. And remember I'm always
Speaker 1: rooting for you and I'm forever in your corner. If
Speaker 1: you love this episode, you'll enjoy my conversation with Megan
Speaker 1: Trainer on breaking generational trauma and how to be confident
Speaker 1: from the inside out.
Speaker 2: My therapist told me stand in the mirror naked for
Speaker 2: five minutes. It was already tough for me to love
Speaker 2: my body, but after the C section scarf with all
Speaker 2: the stretch marks. Now I'm looking at myself like I've
Speaker 2: been hacked. But day three, when I did it, I
Speaker 2: was like, you know what, her thighs are cute