1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:12,360 Speaker 1: M from grandmothers who whispered in their baby girl ill 2 00:00:13,400 --> 00:00:16,920 Speaker 1: two fathers on dimly lit street corners, instructing young soldiers 3 00:00:16,920 --> 00:00:20,959 Speaker 1: to always keep their eyes open. You be queen, you 4 00:00:21,040 --> 00:00:24,239 Speaker 1: were fired. You will pass through centuries on the hands 5 00:00:24,280 --> 00:00:28,720 Speaker 1: of your daughters. They called you wisdom. Proverbs on the 6 00:00:28,760 --> 00:00:32,320 Speaker 1: backs of diamond eyed school children who grew into hymnals 7 00:00:32,320 --> 00:00:37,200 Speaker 1: recited by amethyst holding urban philosophers who recited neighborhood commandments 8 00:00:37,200 --> 00:00:40,680 Speaker 1: out of the windows of restored Alchemedo chariots. To keep 9 00:00:40,680 --> 00:00:46,040 Speaker 1: the warmth of their blood. Be wise, be smart, being black, 10 00:00:46,080 --> 00:00:50,720 Speaker 1: Opal Brown courts bloodstone and prayer. Be every form of 11 00:00:50,880 --> 00:00:57,080 Speaker 1: jim see King told, scribe, scribe, told son, son, told wife, 12 00:00:57,440 --> 00:01:00,080 Speaker 1: wife told her daughter, and daughter told the ass this 13 00:01:00,240 --> 00:01:03,320 Speaker 1: is And the ancestis told me that you would come 14 00:01:04,040 --> 00:01:08,639 Speaker 1: to give wisdom. Thousands They said you would come. Dropping 15 00:01:09,160 --> 00:01:13,959 Speaker 1: Dropping gim Hey, Welcome back to another episode of the 16 00:01:14,040 --> 00:01:17,759 Speaker 1: Dropping Jim's podcast. I'm Debbie Brown. This is the show 17 00:01:17,840 --> 00:01:23,000 Speaker 1: where we sink into ourselves, a nice soft place to 18 00:01:23,080 --> 00:01:26,759 Speaker 1: land to investigate all of the things moving through us 19 00:01:26,840 --> 00:01:32,280 Speaker 1: in service to hire consciousness and living a life that 20 00:01:32,360 --> 00:01:36,240 Speaker 1: allows you to be your fully expressed self always evolving 21 00:01:36,280 --> 00:01:40,520 Speaker 1: that mission statement. But yeah, that's the deepest intention alright, 22 00:01:40,680 --> 00:01:43,600 Speaker 1: this episode, I want to dive into something I've been 23 00:01:43,640 --> 00:01:47,000 Speaker 1: thinking a lot about lately as it relates to meditation. 24 00:01:47,720 --> 00:01:51,560 Speaker 1: So this episode is for everyone, and especially for those 25 00:01:51,720 --> 00:01:55,840 Speaker 1: that have a meditation practice already or are curious about 26 00:01:55,880 --> 00:01:59,760 Speaker 1: having a meditation practice, but have noticed that every time 27 00:02:00,080 --> 00:02:03,440 Speaker 1: may have tried UM, there seems to be some challenge 28 00:02:03,480 --> 00:02:07,680 Speaker 1: to it. So I want to really sink into calling 29 00:02:07,680 --> 00:02:12,560 Speaker 1: out what some of those triggers around beginning or deepening 30 00:02:12,680 --> 00:02:16,840 Speaker 1: a meditation practice can be. I was thinking recently, I 31 00:02:16,880 --> 00:02:19,880 Speaker 1: was actually talking to one of my girlfriends, and you know, 32 00:02:19,919 --> 00:02:25,120 Speaker 1: we were speaking about the dynamics of the kinds of 33 00:02:25,200 --> 00:02:29,880 Speaker 1: things you may be working with biologically depending on what 34 00:02:29,919 --> 00:02:34,280 Speaker 1: your life has looked like. So something that scientists gratefully 35 00:02:34,400 --> 00:02:38,480 Speaker 1: finally able to explain in some ways and is still 36 00:02:38,520 --> 00:02:43,520 Speaker 1: growing in many others, is that trauma does reside inside 37 00:02:43,520 --> 00:02:46,720 Speaker 1: of your body, becomes a part of your cells, of 38 00:02:46,800 --> 00:02:52,400 Speaker 1: your DNA, And so sometimes even when intellectually you're doing 39 00:02:52,960 --> 00:02:57,880 Speaker 1: as much as you possibly can to self investigate, to grow, 40 00:02:58,000 --> 00:03:03,240 Speaker 1: to heal, to change, to transport worm, why it's really 41 00:03:03,360 --> 00:03:09,680 Speaker 1: necessary to UM work that holistic approach, so you can 42 00:03:09,760 --> 00:03:14,040 Speaker 1: have potentially, you know, some somatic help in your healing 43 00:03:14,480 --> 00:03:19,280 Speaker 1: or some deeper understandings around why your body may reject 44 00:03:19,400 --> 00:03:22,360 Speaker 1: things that feel useful or good or helpful to you. 45 00:03:23,080 --> 00:03:26,920 Speaker 1: And meditation falls under that category as well. And I 46 00:03:26,919 --> 00:03:30,520 Speaker 1: remember when I first when I was first studying to 47 00:03:30,600 --> 00:03:35,920 Speaker 1: teach meditation. UM. You know, this is about a decade ago, 48 00:03:36,200 --> 00:03:39,640 Speaker 1: and so at that time, none of this information was 49 00:03:39,800 --> 00:03:43,560 Speaker 1: really around UM. There are a lot of people that 50 00:03:43,640 --> 00:03:47,200 Speaker 1: have theories. There are a lot of people who worked 51 00:03:47,200 --> 00:03:51,360 Speaker 1: in the space who were sharing thoughts potentially UM. I 52 00:03:51,440 --> 00:03:53,840 Speaker 1: did not come across any, but I've come to know 53 00:03:54,200 --> 00:03:58,160 Speaker 1: down the line after my own investigation that other people 54 00:03:58,240 --> 00:04:01,880 Speaker 1: were investigating in this way to UM. But this is 55 00:04:01,920 --> 00:04:05,160 Speaker 1: not something that was easily expressed. And I remember when 56 00:04:05,480 --> 00:04:08,720 Speaker 1: I was getting you know, some of my materials and 57 00:04:08,800 --> 00:04:16,800 Speaker 1: studying UM some techniques for meditation, there wasn't any special 58 00:04:17,240 --> 00:04:21,480 Speaker 1: needs care support per se. You know. The most that 59 00:04:21,600 --> 00:04:25,520 Speaker 1: came sometimes in the back of some of your teacher 60 00:04:25,560 --> 00:04:28,799 Speaker 1: manuals or your study guides was, you know, if someone 61 00:04:29,320 --> 00:04:32,320 Speaker 1: is a veteran, then they may need to, you know, 62 00:04:32,400 --> 00:04:35,400 Speaker 1: move more slowly in meditation. They you know, they may 63 00:04:35,480 --> 00:04:39,760 Speaker 1: find that their PTSD kind of has a little bit 64 00:04:39,760 --> 00:04:43,839 Speaker 1: of conflict with coming into stillness and silence, and that 65 00:04:44,040 --> 00:04:47,599 Speaker 1: was the extent of it, you know, But in reality, 66 00:04:47,960 --> 00:04:51,520 Speaker 1: I mean, so many of us live with PTSD for 67 00:04:51,600 --> 00:04:56,560 Speaker 1: such a variety of reasons, and even more um strenuous, 68 00:04:57,440 --> 00:05:02,440 Speaker 1: so many live with c PTS UM, which is really 69 00:05:02,480 --> 00:05:06,120 Speaker 1: these kind of daily battles with your nervous system and 70 00:05:06,240 --> 00:05:13,560 Speaker 1: so very naturally meditation can be a triggering experience for that, 71 00:05:13,839 --> 00:05:17,880 Speaker 1: you know, the core the base of meditation, it's being 72 00:05:17,960 --> 00:05:23,039 Speaker 1: able to be in such a neutrality with yourself, UM, 73 00:05:23,160 --> 00:05:29,120 Speaker 1: such a complete kind of UM disconnection from your physical 74 00:05:29,240 --> 00:05:32,240 Speaker 1: experience and being able to come into that soul led 75 00:05:32,320 --> 00:05:40,120 Speaker 1: space and so you're not really UM. The experience of 76 00:05:40,200 --> 00:05:44,040 Speaker 1: coming into the present moment with your body. If you're 77 00:05:44,160 --> 00:05:48,800 Speaker 1: someone who has PTSD or c PTSD or a variety 78 00:05:48,839 --> 00:05:53,560 Speaker 1: of other things, UM, it can be incredibly triggering and challenging. 79 00:05:54,120 --> 00:05:58,840 Speaker 1: It can make you so hyper aware of yourself and 80 00:05:59,000 --> 00:06:03,120 Speaker 1: of your history and of your body in ways that 81 00:06:03,200 --> 00:06:07,520 Speaker 1: you may typically avoid UM or maybe weren't invited to experience. 82 00:06:07,640 --> 00:06:11,360 Speaker 1: Yet so so many things come up, UM, and that's 83 00:06:11,360 --> 00:06:12,880 Speaker 1: what I want to sit in today. I want to 84 00:06:12,920 --> 00:06:17,279 Speaker 1: explore that because I believe without a shadow of a doubt, 85 00:06:18,560 --> 00:06:24,000 Speaker 1: meditation is it's just so paramount to your journey. It's 86 00:06:24,040 --> 00:06:28,839 Speaker 1: paramount to the longevity of your ability to maintain your awareness, 87 00:06:28,920 --> 00:06:32,560 Speaker 1: to maintain your healing um, to really elevate your consciousness. 88 00:06:33,560 --> 00:06:36,839 Speaker 1: I believe, and this is based on my personal thoughts, 89 00:06:36,960 --> 00:06:43,920 Speaker 1: my personal experiences, and my experiences with students and clients. Um, 90 00:06:44,000 --> 00:06:47,520 Speaker 1: but again just from my lens, my belief is that 91 00:06:49,360 --> 00:06:56,200 Speaker 1: meditation is the most powerful tool there is for self 92 00:06:56,240 --> 00:07:04,080 Speaker 1: mastery and for healing maintenance. So let's explore that today. 93 00:07:04,200 --> 00:07:10,600 Speaker 1: I want everyone, ideally as you feel comfortable, to stretch 94 00:07:10,640 --> 00:07:15,280 Speaker 1: yourself to invite in a meditation practice into your everyday life. 95 00:07:15,320 --> 00:07:18,119 Speaker 1: We just kicked off the new year. Um. My moment 96 00:07:18,120 --> 00:07:22,840 Speaker 1: of recording this episode is uh January, mid January, So 97 00:07:22,960 --> 00:07:25,440 Speaker 1: we just kicked off the new year, and this is 98 00:07:25,480 --> 00:07:29,160 Speaker 1: the perfect time while you still have connection to some 99 00:07:29,320 --> 00:07:32,760 Speaker 1: of that motivating energy, some of that really yummy day 100 00:07:32,880 --> 00:07:38,760 Speaker 1: dreamy energy. It's really powerful to use that, use that 101 00:07:38,840 --> 00:07:41,840 Speaker 1: little bit of forward momentum that we're naturally gifted at 102 00:07:41,880 --> 00:07:44,080 Speaker 1: this time of the year, a little bit of the 103 00:07:44,160 --> 00:07:48,200 Speaker 1: extra rest you got that hibernating energy and set some 104 00:07:48,280 --> 00:07:52,040 Speaker 1: intentions around creating a system that does not have to 105 00:07:52,080 --> 00:07:55,400 Speaker 1: be perfect, but it is useful to you, is in 106 00:07:55,520 --> 00:07:59,200 Speaker 1: service to you that you can really use as a 107 00:07:59,240 --> 00:08:06,800 Speaker 1: tool of sustained and consistent nourishment. So diving into this 108 00:08:06,840 --> 00:08:10,480 Speaker 1: episode the Triggers of meditation, UM, I want to talk 109 00:08:10,480 --> 00:08:13,280 Speaker 1: a little bit about the ways that I'm experiencing my 110 00:08:13,360 --> 00:08:19,880 Speaker 1: practice right now. So I've been meditating for um. I 111 00:08:19,920 --> 00:08:21,920 Speaker 1: never actually like to tell years anymore. I feel like 112 00:08:21,960 --> 00:08:27,880 Speaker 1: I'm dating myself so significantly I've been I've been meditating 113 00:08:27,920 --> 00:08:32,000 Speaker 1: a long time, over a decade, and when I it 114 00:08:32,080 --> 00:08:37,480 Speaker 1: took me several years too feel comfortable in my practice 115 00:08:37,600 --> 00:08:41,240 Speaker 1: the way that I do right now. And meditation, your 116 00:08:41,240 --> 00:08:48,280 Speaker 1: meditation practice so truly evolves with you. It evolves based 117 00:08:48,320 --> 00:08:50,840 Speaker 1: on where you are in your life and your journey, 118 00:08:51,160 --> 00:08:55,320 Speaker 1: and your capacity you know at that time in your life, 119 00:08:55,360 --> 00:08:59,920 Speaker 1: and your family structure, in your creativity. Meditation is a 120 00:09:00,000 --> 00:09:03,720 Speaker 1: evolving in such a multitude of ways based on where 121 00:09:03,720 --> 00:09:05,760 Speaker 1: you are. And sometimes some parts of the year are 122 00:09:05,800 --> 00:09:08,880 Speaker 1: more tender, so your practice may look away that's a 123 00:09:08,880 --> 00:09:11,720 Speaker 1: little more emotionally supportive, and some parts of your year 124 00:09:11,760 --> 00:09:14,880 Speaker 1: are just a little more blissful, and so your meditation 125 00:09:14,920 --> 00:09:17,719 Speaker 1: practice may feel a little looser, a little more creative. 126 00:09:17,800 --> 00:09:20,920 Speaker 1: There may be a little, you know, movement to it. 127 00:09:21,000 --> 00:09:26,240 Speaker 1: Even so it's about listening to your But meditation is 128 00:09:26,280 --> 00:09:29,280 Speaker 1: always meeting us where every we are, and it's an 129 00:09:29,280 --> 00:09:33,240 Speaker 1: opportunity to get creative with the ways we want to 130 00:09:33,240 --> 00:09:36,320 Speaker 1: support ourselves. So in the first few years of my 131 00:09:36,360 --> 00:09:39,680 Speaker 1: meditation UM, it was very tough for me to be 132 00:09:39,800 --> 00:09:42,720 Speaker 1: still really tough for me to be in full silence, 133 00:09:42,880 --> 00:09:45,800 Speaker 1: and I would go on a few different retreats, and 134 00:09:45,840 --> 00:09:49,080 Speaker 1: I remember I was able to get through early on 135 00:09:49,280 --> 00:09:53,000 Speaker 1: a two hour meditation, but it brought out an immense 136 00:09:53,040 --> 00:09:55,640 Speaker 1: amount of anxiety in me that I was kind of 137 00:09:55,679 --> 00:09:59,320 Speaker 1: struggling through back and forth. And so even though I 138 00:09:59,360 --> 00:10:02,559 Speaker 1: had had experience with it, it wasn't something I was 139 00:10:02,640 --> 00:10:05,960 Speaker 1: ready to connect to, and I wasn't for many many years. 140 00:10:06,880 --> 00:10:10,800 Speaker 1: So my my first base practice was twenty minutes in 141 00:10:10,840 --> 00:10:18,000 Speaker 1: the morning minutes UM late midday, so before the evening, 142 00:10:18,040 --> 00:10:20,240 Speaker 1: before my day ended, and I would typically do that 143 00:10:20,280 --> 00:10:22,080 Speaker 1: before I went to work. At that time I was 144 00:10:22,120 --> 00:10:25,400 Speaker 1: working and broadcasting, and then I would do it again 145 00:10:25,920 --> 00:10:31,520 Speaker 1: UM late afternoon before I headed home. I maintained that 146 00:10:31,559 --> 00:10:35,160 Speaker 1: pretty consistently, and then there were sometimes that based on 147 00:10:35,280 --> 00:10:37,520 Speaker 1: life and you know, the ways that I was able 148 00:10:37,559 --> 00:10:41,160 Speaker 1: to kind of flow with life or not. I would 149 00:10:41,160 --> 00:10:43,960 Speaker 1: go months without meditating and then I'd find it again. 150 00:10:44,200 --> 00:10:46,080 Speaker 1: And then sometimes I wouldn't be able to do it 151 00:10:46,120 --> 00:10:49,280 Speaker 1: in silence. I would have to do it um as 152 00:10:49,280 --> 00:10:52,000 Speaker 1: I guided, and so I'd use maybe some help, I'd 153 00:10:52,000 --> 00:10:56,199 Speaker 1: do some chance, or i'd have UM, I'd use you know, 154 00:10:56,360 --> 00:11:00,360 Speaker 1: beautiful teacher on an app And so those were ways 155 00:11:00,840 --> 00:11:05,040 Speaker 1: um that I was trying to stay consistent without judging myself, 156 00:11:05,080 --> 00:11:07,480 Speaker 1: but I was also kind of giving myself the flow 157 00:11:07,520 --> 00:11:10,360 Speaker 1: to be human. So it's really important to kind of 158 00:11:10,400 --> 00:11:12,480 Speaker 1: see it from that view, especially if you're starting to 159 00:11:12,520 --> 00:11:14,840 Speaker 1: build your practice, because you don't want to be in 160 00:11:14,920 --> 00:11:18,240 Speaker 1: judgment of yourself. It does not have to be pristine 161 00:11:18,280 --> 00:11:22,240 Speaker 1: every time. Eventually you'll get to a point where you 162 00:11:22,320 --> 00:11:25,880 Speaker 1: will want nothing but the pristine experience each time, and 163 00:11:25,920 --> 00:11:28,480 Speaker 1: you'll do your best to honor that. But you don't 164 00:11:28,480 --> 00:11:30,440 Speaker 1: have to start there. You don't even have to be 165 00:11:30,520 --> 00:11:33,640 Speaker 1: there within the first year, the first five years. It's 166 00:11:33,760 --> 00:11:38,959 Speaker 1: it's really unique to whatever ways you can be consistent 167 00:11:39,040 --> 00:11:43,719 Speaker 1: with yourself, whatever ways you can commit to honoring your 168 00:11:43,800 --> 00:11:47,400 Speaker 1: higher intention. So find the flow with it. You know, 169 00:11:47,480 --> 00:11:50,160 Speaker 1: if you're like I'm embarrassed to talk, you know, to 170 00:11:50,240 --> 00:11:53,600 Speaker 1: talk about meditation because I'm barely doing five minutes, what 171 00:11:53,880 --> 00:11:57,800 Speaker 1: rejoice so proud of you. It's hard to come by, 172 00:11:57,960 --> 00:12:01,280 Speaker 1: especially when you have, you know, potentially so many other 173 00:12:01,320 --> 00:12:04,800 Speaker 1: battles happening in yourself, in the world and your day. 174 00:12:05,080 --> 00:12:10,040 Speaker 1: It's fine, it is well. So that part of the 175 00:12:10,120 --> 00:12:15,320 Speaker 1: practice UM was my personal view. I've also had, you know, 176 00:12:15,440 --> 00:12:19,439 Speaker 1: friends that have practices that the moment they connected with 177 00:12:19,520 --> 00:12:23,080 Speaker 1: the gap first meditation, they were able to lock in 178 00:12:23,160 --> 00:12:26,559 Speaker 1: and build a really deep, advanced practice very early on. 179 00:12:27,480 --> 00:12:31,040 Speaker 1: So for everyone is absolutely different UM. And again there's 180 00:12:31,080 --> 00:12:34,400 Speaker 1: no there's no standard. You wanted to be serving and 181 00:12:34,480 --> 00:12:38,120 Speaker 1: nourishing and evolutionary to you in your life and your 182 00:12:38,120 --> 00:12:42,520 Speaker 1: soul's journey. So the first few years of my practice, 183 00:12:42,559 --> 00:12:45,120 Speaker 1: we're back and forth with a lot of that UM, 184 00:12:45,200 --> 00:12:47,960 Speaker 1: and then I just started moving and deepening. And the 185 00:12:48,040 --> 00:12:51,000 Speaker 1: more I taught UM, the deeper and more beautiful my 186 00:12:51,080 --> 00:12:54,840 Speaker 1: practice got. The more I created real space and time 187 00:12:54,920 --> 00:12:57,200 Speaker 1: to be flow with it. I didn't have to rush 188 00:12:57,280 --> 00:13:00,200 Speaker 1: to it or rush off from it, which is really 189 00:13:00,240 --> 00:13:03,160 Speaker 1: the number one rule and meditation. You don't want to 190 00:13:03,200 --> 00:13:06,959 Speaker 1: be frantically arriving and then hurrying and sitting down and 191 00:13:07,000 --> 00:13:09,520 Speaker 1: say okay, I'm closing my eyes, and you don't want 192 00:13:09,520 --> 00:13:11,240 Speaker 1: to have to keep one eye on the clock to 193 00:13:11,320 --> 00:13:14,240 Speaker 1: where you're saying okay, okay, okay, is it almost times? 194 00:13:14,240 --> 00:13:16,520 Speaker 1: It almost time? Okay, I'm up, Okay, gotta go, gotta go. 195 00:13:16,880 --> 00:13:19,480 Speaker 1: You know, you really want to create UM a very 196 00:13:19,559 --> 00:13:24,840 Speaker 1: soft container around both ends of experience for yourself. But 197 00:13:25,520 --> 00:13:28,640 Speaker 1: once you get UM, once you kind of lock into 198 00:13:28,679 --> 00:13:32,680 Speaker 1: that pretty consistently. I spent a few years in a 199 00:13:32,760 --> 00:13:35,800 Speaker 1: deeper practice UM. Sometimes I would just I would do 200 00:13:35,880 --> 00:13:38,240 Speaker 1: thirty minutes in the top of the day, thirty minutes 201 00:13:38,280 --> 00:13:40,720 Speaker 1: at the end. Sometimes it was just forty five minutes 202 00:13:40,760 --> 00:13:43,080 Speaker 1: in the morning. And then I found that I was 203 00:13:43,160 --> 00:13:47,120 Speaker 1: finding ways to make the time for the practice because 204 00:13:47,160 --> 00:13:50,040 Speaker 1: I was really noticing how much it changes my life. 205 00:13:50,640 --> 00:13:53,880 Speaker 1: So for myself now, my highest intention UM, what my 206 00:13:53,960 --> 00:13:57,640 Speaker 1: practice has been for probably the last three years, has 207 00:13:57,679 --> 00:14:00,640 Speaker 1: been a two hour day practice. As often as possible, 208 00:14:01,040 --> 00:14:04,000 Speaker 1: I try to at least four to five days a 209 00:14:04,040 --> 00:14:06,679 Speaker 1: week be able to get two hours of meditation in 210 00:14:06,840 --> 00:14:10,240 Speaker 1: each day, and then I'll try to do smaller ones, UM, 211 00:14:10,280 --> 00:14:14,800 Speaker 1: smaller windows on tighter days of the week. But the 212 00:14:14,880 --> 00:14:19,520 Speaker 1: last three years or so, my practice has really been consistently, consistently, 213 00:14:19,560 --> 00:14:24,520 Speaker 1: consistently that and it's revolutionized my life. It has fast 214 00:14:24,560 --> 00:14:29,560 Speaker 1: tracked UM, things that I personally, you know, work on 215 00:14:29,680 --> 00:14:32,720 Speaker 1: in my life and in my spirit and myself. UM. 216 00:14:32,760 --> 00:14:36,240 Speaker 1: It's really enhanced my ability to be a present mother, 217 00:14:36,880 --> 00:14:40,320 Speaker 1: which is something UM, you know that I think so 218 00:14:40,360 --> 00:14:42,360 Speaker 1: many of us struggle with in a in a life 219 00:14:42,360 --> 00:14:45,360 Speaker 1: and in a world that has so much going on. 220 00:14:45,600 --> 00:14:50,000 Speaker 1: You're constantly multitasking. And I see that the effect that 221 00:14:50,000 --> 00:14:52,400 Speaker 1: that has, you know, on the eyes of children and 222 00:14:52,440 --> 00:14:55,000 Speaker 1: on their ability to just have a little more space 223 00:14:55,600 --> 00:14:58,120 Speaker 1: to add to the creativity of the house. You know, 224 00:14:58,160 --> 00:15:02,680 Speaker 1: if every second is filled or three every single crevice 225 00:15:02,880 --> 00:15:05,880 Speaker 1: of your mind and heart are filled with something that 226 00:15:06,000 --> 00:15:10,640 Speaker 1: you're working on or cycling through, um or observing, there's 227 00:15:10,640 --> 00:15:13,640 Speaker 1: not a lot of space for that unique creativity to 228 00:15:13,680 --> 00:15:16,440 Speaker 1: arise in your child where they get to add something 229 00:15:16,520 --> 00:15:19,640 Speaker 1: to the room, they get to add something unplanned to 230 00:15:19,680 --> 00:15:23,280 Speaker 1: the conversation. There's no art to the flow of the 231 00:15:23,360 --> 00:15:26,600 Speaker 1: family UM, And I think about that a lot, you know, 232 00:15:26,640 --> 00:15:29,520 Speaker 1: as someone who is a single mom and just works 233 00:15:29,600 --> 00:15:33,000 Speaker 1: quite a bit UM, and it's always kind of self 234 00:15:33,080 --> 00:15:37,520 Speaker 1: investigating or investigating someone else for work. UM. I think 235 00:15:37,560 --> 00:15:41,080 Speaker 1: about that, and so I try very intentionally to carve 236 00:15:41,240 --> 00:15:44,720 Speaker 1: that into every every every single day with my son. 237 00:15:45,640 --> 00:15:47,600 Speaker 1: And what helps me have the space to do that 238 00:15:48,360 --> 00:15:50,440 Speaker 1: is cutting a lot of other things out to make 239 00:15:50,480 --> 00:15:53,760 Speaker 1: sure that I can get that UM more juicy, robust 240 00:15:53,960 --> 00:15:58,640 Speaker 1: meditation experience. In so it comes down to you know, 241 00:15:58,760 --> 00:16:01,120 Speaker 1: what are you willing to come it too too? You 242 00:16:01,120 --> 00:16:04,200 Speaker 1: know that being a part especially before you walk into 243 00:16:04,240 --> 00:16:07,480 Speaker 1: building your practice, because there will be things that arise, 244 00:16:07,520 --> 00:16:09,240 Speaker 1: and we're going to get into that in just a set, 245 00:16:09,920 --> 00:16:11,920 Speaker 1: but there are there are many things that can arise 246 00:16:11,920 --> 00:16:15,440 Speaker 1: in your practice. And so when you've identified that you 247 00:16:15,600 --> 00:16:20,360 Speaker 1: do want to commit to expanding your understanding of meditation 248 00:16:20,520 --> 00:16:24,440 Speaker 1: or your mastery of yourself personal growth and healing UM. 249 00:16:24,520 --> 00:16:26,400 Speaker 1: One of the things to commit to is really think 250 00:16:26,440 --> 00:16:30,480 Speaker 1: about time that intricately and get very clear on your 251 00:16:30,520 --> 00:16:34,040 Speaker 1: why why are you committing to doing this for yourself? 252 00:16:34,680 --> 00:16:37,600 Speaker 1: Because you want to make it less casual. It is 253 00:16:37,720 --> 00:16:42,040 Speaker 1: so easy to disregard ourselves, to disregard our choices, to 254 00:16:42,880 --> 00:16:46,320 Speaker 1: let ourselves down. If we're only casually committing to the 255 00:16:46,360 --> 00:16:48,600 Speaker 1: things that we say we want, are the ways that 256 00:16:48,640 --> 00:16:52,160 Speaker 1: we say we want to change. When you get a 257 00:16:52,200 --> 00:16:54,960 Speaker 1: lot more surgical with it and you really get into 258 00:16:55,000 --> 00:16:58,440 Speaker 1: some self investigation, maybe take a few notes, spend a 259 00:16:58,440 --> 00:17:00,960 Speaker 1: few days. You don't have to have, you know, a 260 00:17:01,000 --> 00:17:03,920 Speaker 1: fifteen minute or a five minute thought process with yourself 261 00:17:03,960 --> 00:17:06,160 Speaker 1: around how you're going to do this, write it down 262 00:17:06,240 --> 00:17:08,680 Speaker 1: quickly and say go. You can say I'm going to 263 00:17:08,760 --> 00:17:11,399 Speaker 1: commit to thinking about this for a few moments every 264 00:17:11,480 --> 00:17:15,240 Speaker 1: day for the next week, and then sitting and saying, 265 00:17:15,280 --> 00:17:17,720 Speaker 1: what's a solution? How do I really feel about this? 266 00:17:18,400 --> 00:17:23,120 Speaker 1: You know, there is time and space to build. So 267 00:17:23,240 --> 00:17:26,040 Speaker 1: when you're coming into your meditation practice getting clear on 268 00:17:26,200 --> 00:17:29,600 Speaker 1: you know, meditation, I also have to say, is a medicine. 269 00:17:30,200 --> 00:17:37,640 Speaker 1: It's a tool. It's it's a really powerful, powerful awakener 270 00:17:37,680 --> 00:17:41,159 Speaker 1: and shifter, and you know the ways that it's often 271 00:17:41,200 --> 00:17:46,359 Speaker 1: described in more of a mainstream context, especially in the 272 00:17:46,400 --> 00:17:51,600 Speaker 1: Western world and especially on Instagram, it's it's kind of 273 00:17:51,640 --> 00:17:54,800 Speaker 1: like the thing that you're doing for light maintenance on yourself. 274 00:17:54,840 --> 00:17:57,560 Speaker 1: It's like your car wash, you know, like, Okay, let 275 00:17:57,560 --> 00:18:01,679 Speaker 1: me dip down and feeling stressed out, I'll medic tape. Yes, powerful, 276 00:18:01,840 --> 00:18:05,199 Speaker 1: powerful tool for that to please keep doing that. But 277 00:18:06,440 --> 00:18:15,440 Speaker 1: meditation is holy, Meditation is sacred. Meditation is incredibly surgical, UM, 278 00:18:15,480 --> 00:18:22,120 Speaker 1: and it's it's a pathway for massive levels of awakening, 279 00:18:22,240 --> 00:18:28,119 Speaker 1: of shedding, of activating in your life. And so you know, 280 00:18:28,200 --> 00:18:30,320 Speaker 1: we have to go and I believe we have to 281 00:18:30,359 --> 00:18:34,639 Speaker 1: go into our practices um our spiritual practices or you know, 282 00:18:34,680 --> 00:18:37,600 Speaker 1: even if you're identifying it maybe in another way like 283 00:18:37,640 --> 00:18:41,000 Speaker 1: a self care practice, we have to go into it 284 00:18:41,000 --> 00:18:44,240 Speaker 1: with a certain amount of reverence because ultimately it's us 285 00:18:44,840 --> 00:18:49,480 Speaker 1: caring for ourselves. It's us meeting ourselves as us transforming ourselves. 286 00:18:50,240 --> 00:18:54,600 Speaker 1: What on earth is more sacred than that, than that 287 00:18:54,720 --> 00:19:00,680 Speaker 1: experience You came to earth to be yourself. So anything 288 00:19:00,720 --> 00:19:04,200 Speaker 1: you're doing in service to that self, you know, really 289 00:19:04,240 --> 00:19:07,960 Speaker 1: being able to hold it just a little, just a 290 00:19:07,960 --> 00:19:11,920 Speaker 1: little more intentionally, UM can really shift things forward. So 291 00:19:14,080 --> 00:19:18,720 Speaker 1: as we commit to this practice, building these containers to 292 00:19:18,840 --> 00:19:21,480 Speaker 1: support the sugars that will arise will be very helpful. 293 00:19:23,280 --> 00:19:26,080 Speaker 1: So right now, my practice, UM, I shared what has 294 00:19:26,080 --> 00:19:28,560 Speaker 1: looked like in the last three years. What I'm noticing 295 00:19:28,840 --> 00:19:32,040 Speaker 1: in the last several months, UH that my body has 296 00:19:32,080 --> 00:19:35,480 Speaker 1: been really wanting to shift to upgrade my practice again 297 00:19:36,160 --> 00:19:39,440 Speaker 1: and something that is becoming a part of a really 298 00:19:39,480 --> 00:19:43,399 Speaker 1: consistent daily practice. This is something I would do often 299 00:19:43,440 --> 00:19:47,760 Speaker 1: in my practice, but not every single day UM, but 300 00:19:47,920 --> 00:19:51,160 Speaker 1: now it's becoming a very deep everyday practice for me. 301 00:19:51,400 --> 00:19:57,080 Speaker 1: Is really utilizing um moudras, which are different hand movements 302 00:19:57,119 --> 00:20:00,520 Speaker 1: that assist you in moving energy as you meditate UM 303 00:20:00,560 --> 00:20:05,040 Speaker 1: and then getting into deeper awarenesses. And also I've restarted 304 00:20:05,400 --> 00:20:10,119 Speaker 1: UM my mala practice. The first probably two three years 305 00:20:10,119 --> 00:20:15,840 Speaker 1: of my meditation journey, I really consistently used uh mala 306 00:20:15,920 --> 00:20:18,280 Speaker 1: beads to guide my practice. And my first set of 307 00:20:18,280 --> 00:20:21,560 Speaker 1: malla beads I used for that were made of moonstone 308 00:20:22,280 --> 00:20:24,800 Speaker 1: UM and they're very beautiful set that I got at 309 00:20:24,800 --> 00:20:29,480 Speaker 1: the Choker Center. And then after that I had rose 310 00:20:29,560 --> 00:20:33,479 Speaker 1: Courtz mala that I really loved using UM and then 311 00:20:33,520 --> 00:20:35,560 Speaker 1: I kind of stopped using my mala's and I would 312 00:20:35,560 --> 00:20:37,720 Speaker 1: just kind of be in regular flow with my body 313 00:20:37,760 --> 00:20:42,160 Speaker 1: and in my practice. And recently I've started using um 314 00:20:42,240 --> 00:20:45,560 Speaker 1: mala's in my everyday practice multiple times a day, and 315 00:20:45,640 --> 00:20:50,040 Speaker 1: I've just really been enjoying that energy so much. It's 316 00:20:50,080 --> 00:20:53,520 Speaker 1: just it's brought me into a lot of new heightened awarenesses. 317 00:20:53,920 --> 00:20:58,120 Speaker 1: It's really UM in this moment in my life, it's 318 00:20:58,160 --> 00:21:03,080 Speaker 1: just been really really deeply nourishing and reconnect with that energy. 319 00:21:03,600 --> 00:21:07,800 Speaker 1: Especially I've been using U a sutrine mala and also 320 00:21:08,320 --> 00:21:14,560 Speaker 1: UM a laboratorite mala and some black onyx excuse me, 321 00:21:14,640 --> 00:21:17,840 Speaker 1: black termaline and Pye write right now, I've been using 322 00:21:17,880 --> 00:21:22,560 Speaker 1: a lot of meditation and it's just feeling so good. 323 00:21:22,720 --> 00:21:25,880 Speaker 1: So I share that to say, also, you know, that's 324 00:21:25,880 --> 00:21:29,520 Speaker 1: something I'm very I love when I'm able to get 325 00:21:29,560 --> 00:21:32,639 Speaker 1: creative about meditation, when I'm able to kind of have 326 00:21:32,760 --> 00:21:36,000 Speaker 1: that spark to life again of changing my practice and saying, 327 00:21:36,040 --> 00:21:38,120 Speaker 1: you know what am I craving right now? What's most 328 00:21:38,160 --> 00:21:43,360 Speaker 1: supportive to me right now? How can I you know, UM? 329 00:21:43,359 --> 00:21:46,320 Speaker 1: How can I go deeper? How can I experience this 330 00:21:47,600 --> 00:21:50,560 Speaker 1: UM in whatever way I'm meant to right now? So 331 00:21:50,840 --> 00:22:00,480 Speaker 1: that can feel really lovely. That's part of the creative process. Yeah. True, 332 00:22:01,359 --> 00:22:03,960 Speaker 1: these are all the ways that you can either deepen 333 00:22:04,000 --> 00:22:07,560 Speaker 1: your current practice or begin a practice for the first time. 334 00:22:07,640 --> 00:22:11,000 Speaker 1: But just a couple of ways UM sharing for my arsenal. 335 00:22:11,800 --> 00:22:14,879 Speaker 1: But then what you may start noticing, especially as you 336 00:22:14,960 --> 00:22:18,960 Speaker 1: begin becoming more of a co creator in your spiritual 337 00:22:18,960 --> 00:22:22,280 Speaker 1: practice and your meditative practice, well you may start to 338 00:22:22,320 --> 00:22:28,360 Speaker 1: notice is new awarenesses may kin't come up, and they 339 00:22:28,400 --> 00:22:34,280 Speaker 1: may come up around specific quote unquote issues that you 340 00:22:34,359 --> 00:22:37,200 Speaker 1: think you've already laid to rest and that can feel 341 00:22:37,200 --> 00:22:41,600 Speaker 1: really triggering. UM. But I really want to invite you, 342 00:22:41,720 --> 00:22:45,400 Speaker 1: if you notice that in your practice, UM, to also 343 00:22:45,480 --> 00:22:48,000 Speaker 1: take a look at you know, does this have to 344 00:22:48,080 --> 00:22:51,480 Speaker 1: feel wrong or bad? Or is this an opportunity to 345 00:22:51,600 --> 00:22:55,679 Speaker 1: clear out any extra residue I have around this scenario? 346 00:22:56,520 --> 00:23:00,159 Speaker 1: Is this an opportunity to cultivate and find eve and 347 00:23:00,240 --> 00:23:05,960 Speaker 1: more love for myself and deeper awareness for my experience? 348 00:23:07,040 --> 00:23:09,760 Speaker 1: And then using that time to kind of settle in 349 00:23:09,800 --> 00:23:13,880 Speaker 1: a little bit more into that into that thought and 350 00:23:13,960 --> 00:23:20,720 Speaker 1: noticing are there places that you can soften it even more? UM, 351 00:23:20,800 --> 00:23:24,000 Speaker 1: That's one of the tools I really like using, UM 352 00:23:24,040 --> 00:23:26,040 Speaker 1: And I would say also, you know that that is 353 00:23:26,080 --> 00:23:29,119 Speaker 1: one of the reasons, but I think especially if you 354 00:23:29,400 --> 00:23:31,520 Speaker 1: a trauma, that can be one of the reasons. But 355 00:23:32,320 --> 00:23:37,280 Speaker 1: another reason could also be you know, we're always experiencing 356 00:23:37,359 --> 00:23:42,800 Speaker 1: ourselves here on earth as our culturally created self, which 357 00:23:42,840 --> 00:23:46,320 Speaker 1: I've spoken to in previous episodes. UM, that term coming 358 00:23:46,320 --> 00:23:49,639 Speaker 1: from social scientists, your culturally created self, the version of 359 00:23:49,680 --> 00:23:52,679 Speaker 1: you that is you because of all the societal input, 360 00:23:53,160 --> 00:23:59,320 Speaker 1: your cultural input, your family's input, or are you connecting 361 00:23:59,320 --> 00:24:02,560 Speaker 1: to your author to self, which is the deeper knowing 362 00:24:02,600 --> 00:24:08,600 Speaker 1: of your soul. The version of you that feels um loved, accepted, 363 00:24:08,680 --> 00:24:13,400 Speaker 1: connected to your experience, UM. The version of you that 364 00:24:13,520 --> 00:24:19,280 Speaker 1: feels more fully expressed, that is not maybe constantly dancing 365 00:24:19,320 --> 00:24:24,640 Speaker 1: with the flow of emotion or input from others, and 366 00:24:24,720 --> 00:24:30,200 Speaker 1: so we're always kind of um hop scotching in both 367 00:24:30,200 --> 00:24:33,720 Speaker 1: them those kind of throughout our day, especially early on 368 00:24:33,760 --> 00:24:36,320 Speaker 1: the journey UM. And the deeper you go and the 369 00:24:36,359 --> 00:24:40,120 Speaker 1: more your awareness and your release kind of expands, then 370 00:24:40,160 --> 00:24:44,480 Speaker 1: I think you come into space UM where it's more 371 00:24:44,720 --> 00:24:48,160 Speaker 1: in the authentic self you know, ninety nine point nine 372 00:24:48,160 --> 00:24:52,040 Speaker 1: percent of the time, while you're also observing the experiences 373 00:24:52,119 --> 00:24:54,520 Speaker 1: that other people are having UM that are in the 374 00:24:54,520 --> 00:25:00,119 Speaker 1: culturally created bubble. So I say all that to say, UM, 375 00:25:00,160 --> 00:25:05,800 Speaker 1: you know, because we are in that container here, it 376 00:25:05,880 --> 00:25:09,320 Speaker 1: also means that we are individually holding ourselves and these 377 00:25:09,359 --> 00:25:13,040 Speaker 1: type little containers all of the time, that are so 378 00:25:13,240 --> 00:25:17,399 Speaker 1: deeply embedded into the roles that we are playing for 379 00:25:17,440 --> 00:25:22,520 Speaker 1: other people, um, That are so deeply embedded into all 380 00:25:22,520 --> 00:25:26,800 Speaker 1: the different perceptions we've created about ourselves, or that we 381 00:25:26,880 --> 00:25:29,639 Speaker 1: imagine other people are creating about us, or all the 382 00:25:29,680 --> 00:25:34,720 Speaker 1: coping mechanisms we had to take, all the different constructs 383 00:25:34,800 --> 00:25:37,919 Speaker 1: we've created within our own minds and bodies and hearts 384 00:25:37,960 --> 00:25:41,640 Speaker 1: about ourselves and our experiences and what they mean about 385 00:25:41,760 --> 00:25:46,040 Speaker 1: us or don't. It is so much happening in us 386 00:25:46,160 --> 00:25:51,320 Speaker 1: all the time, um, before we break into these deeper awarenesses, 387 00:25:51,440 --> 00:25:56,159 Speaker 1: so so much that so many are walking around with that. 388 00:25:56,520 --> 00:26:01,119 Speaker 1: Even the experience of sitting down own and being still 389 00:26:01,520 --> 00:26:05,720 Speaker 1: and being quiet, two things that are deeply natural to us, 390 00:26:06,680 --> 00:26:11,640 Speaker 1: they can feel so unnatural and confusing and wrong and 391 00:26:11,840 --> 00:26:17,879 Speaker 1: strange and setting and triggering or pointless, you know, just 392 00:26:17,880 --> 00:26:21,440 Speaker 1: just so many feelings can arise in that. But very 393 00:26:21,480 --> 00:26:24,680 Speaker 1: often what that is is just you noticing that you're 394 00:26:24,720 --> 00:26:27,879 Speaker 1: not your container, you're not the roles that you're playing, 395 00:26:27,960 --> 00:26:31,080 Speaker 1: and not yet understanding what to do with that information. 396 00:26:32,119 --> 00:26:36,320 Speaker 1: But I guarantee you that if you keep sitting in 397 00:26:36,359 --> 00:26:44,080 Speaker 1: your practice, m My belief is that that's when you 398 00:26:44,200 --> 00:26:47,399 Speaker 1: glimpse that soul. Then you get to know that soul. 399 00:26:47,760 --> 00:26:51,280 Speaker 1: And that's when your natural setting does feel like the 400 00:26:51,359 --> 00:26:54,879 Speaker 1: stillness and the quiet, the most authentic version of you, 401 00:26:55,080 --> 00:26:58,280 Speaker 1: that isn't trying to validate, that isn't trying to convince, 402 00:26:58,480 --> 00:27:04,280 Speaker 1: that isn't trying to earn things from other people. UM. 403 00:27:04,320 --> 00:27:07,320 Speaker 1: And that's something that is really powerful about going on 404 00:27:07,400 --> 00:27:10,680 Speaker 1: an all silent retreat. I had the chance to lead 405 00:27:10,760 --> 00:27:14,119 Speaker 1: those UM with Deepak Chobra over the last couple of 406 00:27:14,200 --> 00:27:20,880 Speaker 1: years and also go on them myself for my own journey. 407 00:27:22,520 --> 00:27:25,600 Speaker 1: But when you're in a in a silent meditation, UM, 408 00:27:25,760 --> 00:27:28,560 Speaker 1: even if you're surrounded by people, and I've lad silent 409 00:27:28,600 --> 00:27:32,800 Speaker 1: meditations with four hundred people before, UM, even when you're 410 00:27:32,840 --> 00:27:41,280 Speaker 1: in that container you are, it's astounding the feeling of 411 00:27:41,359 --> 00:27:46,320 Speaker 1: release you feel from not having to perform in any 412 00:27:46,320 --> 00:27:49,160 Speaker 1: way for anyone else. You know, we always suggest don't 413 00:27:49,160 --> 00:27:51,879 Speaker 1: worry about holding that door for that person, don't worry 414 00:27:51,880 --> 00:27:55,359 Speaker 1: about making eye contact the you know, even the niceties 415 00:27:55,440 --> 00:27:58,600 Speaker 1: you can cast aside. You don't have to make conversation, 416 00:27:59,440 --> 00:28:03,120 Speaker 1: you don't have to look to connect UM. You can 417 00:28:03,240 --> 00:28:09,000 Speaker 1: just have your own experience that feeling is so liberating, 418 00:28:10,119 --> 00:28:12,960 Speaker 1: and that's where you know you're really intended to land 419 00:28:13,000 --> 00:28:16,400 Speaker 1: with meditation and that feeling of being a little deconstructed 420 00:28:16,440 --> 00:28:19,720 Speaker 1: of well, what what am I if I'm not hyper 421 00:28:19,800 --> 00:28:22,800 Speaker 1: vigilant with my body? You know? Who am I? Am 422 00:28:22,840 --> 00:28:26,280 Speaker 1: I safe if I'm not you know, trying to control 423 00:28:26,400 --> 00:28:31,080 Speaker 1: everything around me all of the time. I'm constantly with 424 00:28:31,119 --> 00:28:35,440 Speaker 1: my eyes open um. Even the act of having your 425 00:28:35,480 --> 00:28:40,560 Speaker 1: eyes closed around other people. It can be so radically 426 00:28:40,640 --> 00:28:44,600 Speaker 1: courageous for you, depending on what your life experiences have 427 00:28:44,720 --> 00:28:48,240 Speaker 1: looked like. And so yeah, I can feel triggering. There's 428 00:28:48,280 --> 00:28:51,720 Speaker 1: a lot going on in each of us, and meditation 429 00:28:52,200 --> 00:28:56,040 Speaker 1: and building that spiritual practice is really an opportunity to 430 00:28:58,400 --> 00:29:02,400 Speaker 1: not have to be in do all of that, all 431 00:29:02,440 --> 00:29:05,360 Speaker 1: of the things that you are not naturally that you 432 00:29:05,400 --> 00:29:09,000 Speaker 1: didn't come to this earth with all of those mechanisms 433 00:29:09,240 --> 00:29:15,280 Speaker 1: or awarenesses, you know, you can really just release them 434 00:29:15,440 --> 00:29:18,920 Speaker 1: for those moments. So those are a couple of ways 435 00:29:18,960 --> 00:29:22,240 Speaker 1: that you might notice yourself being sugared in meditation, and again, 436 00:29:22,320 --> 00:29:26,320 Speaker 1: just a kit continued commitment to the practice, to breathing 437 00:29:26,440 --> 00:29:29,640 Speaker 1: through it, to supporting yourself in the ways that you 438 00:29:29,800 --> 00:29:33,560 Speaker 1: uniquely need you know, maybe don't close your eyes right away, 439 00:29:33,640 --> 00:29:37,240 Speaker 1: Maybe just have a very soft gaze, which is just 440 00:29:37,360 --> 00:29:40,400 Speaker 1: your eyes kind of with a slit barely open, and 441 00:29:41,280 --> 00:29:44,880 Speaker 1: trying to relax your face into that, noticing when you 442 00:29:45,160 --> 00:29:48,520 Speaker 1: feel vigilant in your body and singing, and release my 443 00:29:48,640 --> 00:29:51,800 Speaker 1: job and release my shoulder. So I'm gonna let my 444 00:29:51,840 --> 00:29:55,720 Speaker 1: belly be soft. I'm gonna let myself melt a little 445 00:29:55,760 --> 00:29:59,840 Speaker 1: more right here. Those are just small adjustments that we 446 00:30:00,040 --> 00:30:02,680 Speaker 1: can make in real time that you just don't have 447 00:30:02,760 --> 00:30:08,680 Speaker 1: to judge, So those can be helpful. Um And you know, 448 00:30:09,440 --> 00:30:12,959 Speaker 1: something I wanted to share too is, depending on what 449 00:30:13,040 --> 00:30:17,880 Speaker 1: your experience has been when you begin a meditation practice, 450 00:30:18,240 --> 00:30:24,360 Speaker 1: it very honestly and truly can feel very scary and 451 00:30:24,400 --> 00:30:29,080 Speaker 1: triggering at first, very and it's okay to settle into 452 00:30:29,160 --> 00:30:31,800 Speaker 1: feeling all that. And it doesn't mean you're wrong. It 453 00:30:31,880 --> 00:30:35,440 Speaker 1: doesn't mean you're defective, it doesn't mean you're broken, doesn't 454 00:30:35,440 --> 00:30:37,800 Speaker 1: mean that this is another thing that you're not able 455 00:30:37,840 --> 00:30:42,240 Speaker 1: to do for yourself or do well. Meditation can be 456 00:30:42,400 --> 00:30:49,240 Speaker 1: incredibly credibly triggering depending on your life experiences, and the 457 00:30:49,360 --> 00:30:56,480 Speaker 1: opportunity in that is the space to build more compassion 458 00:30:56,640 --> 00:31:00,719 Speaker 1: for yourself as you're in process with yourself. It is 459 00:31:00,800 --> 00:31:07,160 Speaker 1: the space to give yourself the dignity of your process. 460 00:31:07,920 --> 00:31:10,840 Speaker 1: Let it be a little messy. If you're sitting in 461 00:31:10,920 --> 00:31:15,480 Speaker 1: meditation and you find yourself breaking into tears, please God, 462 00:31:16,440 --> 00:31:21,520 Speaker 1: let yourself cry. Give yourself whatever you need. That is 463 00:31:21,600 --> 00:31:26,360 Speaker 1: the entire point of the practice. That is the entire point. 464 00:31:26,480 --> 00:31:30,400 Speaker 1: There is no test. You will not be judged in this. 465 00:31:30,400 --> 00:31:34,160 Speaker 1: This is just for you privately, in whatever ways you 466 00:31:34,200 --> 00:31:40,480 Speaker 1: need it to be. If you find yourself noticing how 467 00:31:40,560 --> 00:31:44,680 Speaker 1: uncomfortable you feel in your body and feeling ashamed of 468 00:31:44,760 --> 00:31:47,959 Speaker 1: what that discomfort means about you or what brought that 469 00:31:48,080 --> 00:31:53,840 Speaker 1: discomfort about in the first place, please release it. Please 470 00:31:53,960 --> 00:31:58,040 Speaker 1: give yourself an opportunity to get to know your body, 471 00:31:58,120 --> 00:32:02,080 Speaker 1: maybe for the first time, by noticing and releasing some 472 00:32:02,200 --> 00:32:05,880 Speaker 1: of these feelings, by getting the support that you need 473 00:32:05,920 --> 00:32:09,040 Speaker 1: by journaling about this, and you know, if you are 474 00:32:09,040 --> 00:32:13,200 Speaker 1: in therapy, you are in a cognitive therapy or somatic therapy, 475 00:32:13,520 --> 00:32:17,840 Speaker 1: or working with someone that is guiding you begin to 476 00:32:17,920 --> 00:32:22,600 Speaker 1: share some of these deeper knowings. These noticing um and 477 00:32:22,680 --> 00:32:27,240 Speaker 1: create more space for an opportunity to have more information 478 00:32:28,480 --> 00:32:31,600 Speaker 1: about what to do in those spaces. In those places, 479 00:32:31,680 --> 00:32:34,240 Speaker 1: about how to move with that, how to release that 480 00:32:34,960 --> 00:32:39,960 Speaker 1: there is more information available always, always, always, we just 481 00:32:40,160 --> 00:32:43,120 Speaker 1: have to learn how to observe, how to really quantify 482 00:32:43,200 --> 00:32:46,880 Speaker 1: with the experiences sometimes and then how to really ask 483 00:32:47,000 --> 00:32:50,840 Speaker 1: questions and tweak the questions to ask them in new 484 00:32:50,880 --> 00:32:56,920 Speaker 1: ways if the answers aren't supportive to us. So it's 485 00:32:56,960 --> 00:33:04,360 Speaker 1: important to know that some times being slow can be 486 00:33:04,480 --> 00:33:14,480 Speaker 1: very triggering. Sometimes being still and be very triggering. Sometimes 487 00:33:14,640 --> 00:33:20,479 Speaker 1: creating space in yourself, in your life, your day, in 488 00:33:20,520 --> 00:33:26,720 Speaker 1: your thoughts, in your feelings, it can be very triggering. 489 00:33:29,480 --> 00:33:36,240 Speaker 1: Slow can be unfamiliar to your body. Having space can 490 00:33:36,280 --> 00:33:42,400 Speaker 1: be very unfamiliar to your mind. Being still can be 491 00:33:43,040 --> 00:33:47,040 Speaker 1: very unfamiliar to the ways that you've had to experience 492 00:33:47,120 --> 00:33:53,640 Speaker 1: yourself in your life. But unfamiliar does not mean wrong, 493 00:33:55,560 --> 00:34:05,480 Speaker 1: and unfamiliar does not have to me stop. As you 494 00:34:05,560 --> 00:34:09,360 Speaker 1: continue to maybe sit in some thoughts that may be 495 00:34:09,480 --> 00:34:12,879 Speaker 1: emerging in this episode, I really want to invite you 496 00:34:13,000 --> 00:34:16,480 Speaker 1: to write things down. I want to invite you to 497 00:34:16,560 --> 00:34:19,880 Speaker 1: check in with your own gut and notice what resonated 498 00:34:19,920 --> 00:34:22,480 Speaker 1: with you, and also notice what didn't resonate with you, 499 00:34:22,560 --> 00:34:24,399 Speaker 1: and know that you don't have to take that with 500 00:34:24,440 --> 00:34:28,759 Speaker 1: you as well. If it resonates, allow it. And if 501 00:34:28,760 --> 00:34:31,640 Speaker 1: you feel that it doesn't, maybe investigate it. And if 502 00:34:31,680 --> 00:34:35,160 Speaker 1: it still feels like it doesn't, release it. These are 503 00:34:35,200 --> 00:34:38,479 Speaker 1: just my thoughts based on my practice and based on 504 00:34:39,160 --> 00:34:43,880 Speaker 1: the observations and information I've gathered from students and from clients. 505 00:34:44,400 --> 00:34:47,239 Speaker 1: But this in no way has to be universal for 506 00:34:47,280 --> 00:34:54,239 Speaker 1: everyone's experience. Ah, thank you for joining me this episode. Um, 507 00:34:54,280 --> 00:34:58,319 Speaker 1: My deepest intention is that for those that connected with it, 508 00:34:58,400 --> 00:35:05,200 Speaker 1: that this episode really it helps to inform the ways 509 00:35:05,360 --> 00:35:09,880 Speaker 1: that you build, grow and create your practice for your 510 00:35:09,960 --> 00:35:14,359 Speaker 1: highest good in your life. Thanks for joining me. I'll 511 00:35:14,400 --> 00:35:20,400 Speaker 1: catch you next episode, no mistake. Hey find me on 512 00:35:20,440 --> 00:35:24,799 Speaker 1: social Let's connect at Debbie Brown. That's Twitter and Instagram, 513 00:35:24,960 --> 00:35:28,360 Speaker 1: or go to my website Debbie Brown dot com. 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