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Speaker 1: First Date follow up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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Speaker 1: online at advocatesla dot com.

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Speaker 2: Gabrielle is on the phone today for a first day

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Speaker 2: follow up. She's getting ghosted by a dude named Orlando.

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Speaker 2: So we're about to call him in a few minutes

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Speaker 2: and see if we ca get him on the phone

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Speaker 2: and ask him why he's ghosting her. But first we

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Speaker 2: need to talk about the date. Gabrielle, how long has

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Speaker 2: it been since you heard from Orlando?

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Speaker 3: Their last communication was about three days ago. I've talked

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Speaker 3: to him about four times and nothing.

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Speaker 1: So three days may not be officially ghosting, but it's

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Speaker 1: the attempt at they're reaching out that makes her feel that, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it does.

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Speaker 4: I get that. Well, why don't you tell us about

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Speaker 4: the date and how you met? Orlando?

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Speaker 3: So we met on hinge and bonded over karaoke songs

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Speaker 3: and decided to hit a holiday themed karaoke bar for

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Speaker 3: our date. We ended up having some holiday drinks like

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Speaker 3: spiked Popperminthawk Coco, and mulled wine. I love those places

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Speaker 3: and we were kind of like each other's cheerleaders as

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Speaker 3: we performed each song.

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Speaker 4: Fun Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Afterwards, we grabbed another round and found a table in

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Speaker 3: the back of the bar and we just talked and

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Speaker 3: it was under some lights by a fire. It was

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Speaker 3: really romantic and cozy.

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Speaker 1: So then, what do you think could have gone wrong

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Speaker 1: on the day? What did you guys talk about?

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Speaker 3: Well, we were really comfortable with each other, and I

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Speaker 3: think it might have been because I started crying. I

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Speaker 3: started talking about being cheated on and it triggered me

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Speaker 3: because my ex fiance cheated on me right before our

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Speaker 3: wedding and two years ago. But I didn't really expect

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Speaker 3: to cry that Maybe that's why.

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Speaker 4: How did he react while you're while you were crying?

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Speaker 3: I mean, he was sympathetic. He seemed really nice. I

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Speaker 3: just don't know what went wrong.

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Speaker 2: What intensity level are we talking about with the cry?

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Speaker 2: Was it like tearing up.

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Speaker 4: Or was it full on bawling on the floor?

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Speaker 5: You know?

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Speaker 3: Well, I mean I needed some tissue. Like I said,

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Speaker 3: I really didn't expect to cry. I think it was

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Speaker 3: decided I had too much to drink. I can get

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Speaker 3: a little emotional when I.

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Speaker 4: Drink, understandable.

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Speaker 1: I just am trying to picture like him, like, yeah,

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Speaker 1: this reaction, because they could have gone like you know,

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Speaker 1: he made you feel comfortable in that space, Like.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean I thought he was. He was fairly nice. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: considering what we were talking about.

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Speaker 4: Did he give you like a hug or.

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Speaker 3: He put his arm around me?

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Speaker 4: Okay?

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Speaker 1: So then what happened after? Did you guys recover from

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Speaker 1: that and have fun again?

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Speaker 6: Or yeah?

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Speaker 3: I mean the rest Yeah, the rest of it is

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Speaker 3: the day was great?

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Speaker 4: How did the date end a hug? Okay? How long

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Speaker 4: did the whole inner exchange about that?

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Speaker 1: Like?

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Speaker 4: How long did that take?

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Speaker 3: You know?

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Speaker 4: Was it a quick thing or you know, was it

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Speaker 4: like an hour of crying?

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Speaker 3: It was pretty quick?

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Speaker 4: All right? Cool?

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Speaker 2: Well, play a song, come back, and then we'll call

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Speaker 2: him and we'll see if he'll tell us why he's

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Speaker 2: ghosting you and maybe get you another date. Okay, thank

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Speaker 2: you your first a follow up. Next, you're just joining

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Speaker 2: us for today's first day follow up. Gabrielle is on

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Speaker 2: the phone and she's getting ghosted by a dude named

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Speaker 2: Orlando that she really liked. So we're about to call

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Speaker 2: him and see if he'll tell us why he's ghosting

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Speaker 2: her and maybe get her another date. But before we

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Speaker 2: do that, why don't you refresh everybody's memory Gabrielle on

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Speaker 2: your situation.

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Speaker 3: So we had a really great date. It was kind

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Speaker 3: of holiday themed and I started crying, and I think

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Speaker 3: that might be the reason, but I'm not really sure.

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Speaker 4: And you were crying about your ex, right, yeah, because

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Speaker 4: he cheated on you.

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Speaker 3: Yes, it's done two years now though.

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Speaker 4: So Victoria's looking at me like I sound insensive? Did

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Speaker 4: I sound like I was insensitive? But almost like one

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Speaker 4: of the ones where you're like, damn, jubal, don't bring

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Speaker 2: But I wanted to make sure everybody knew, okay, good.

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Speaker 2: I wanted to make sure I was not coming off

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Speaker 2: like yeah, okay, I'm gonna call him right now.

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Speaker 4: Are you ready, Gabrielle, Yeah, okay, here we go.

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Speaker 6: Hello.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, is this Orlando?

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Speaker 1: This is he?

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Speaker 6: How can I help?

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Speaker 3: Hey?

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Speaker 4: How are you?

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Speaker 2: My name is Jewbel and I'm calling from a radio show.

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Speaker 2: It's called the Jewbill Show.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, Hi, Orlando.

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Speaker 5: Who Hi?

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Speaker 4: My name is Nina. I'm Victoria.

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Speaker 6: Oh hey, I'm listening to you guys all the time.

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Speaker 6: Look up?

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Speaker 4: Oh you do? Thank you?

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Speaker 6: Yeah? I love your show. So why do you guys

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Speaker 6: call him?

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Speaker 4: Did you have are you ghosting somebody? Right now?

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Speaker 7: I wouldn't call it ghosting, but I mean, if this

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Speaker 7: is what I think it is, like I'm not responding,

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Speaker 7: I guess that's the definition of ghosting.

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Speaker 3: Man.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, Okay, this is the first thing follow up

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Speaker 2: where if you go somebody, they have let's get you

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Speaker 2: on the phone to ask why you're ghosting them.

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Speaker 4: We got an email about you from Gabrielle.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I remember Gabrielle.

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Speaker 4: Why are you non respondent?

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Speaker 6: Okay?

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Speaker 7: So I don't want to be gross or nothing, right,

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Speaker 7: but like I'm just being real about this. It was

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Speaker 7: a great date up until a moment when she started crying.

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Speaker 7: You know, like that that probably is not bad. You know,

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Speaker 7: she had a rough you know, last boyfriend or I

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Speaker 7: think it was her fiance or something like that. Yeah,

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Speaker 7: like kid on her, So I get being emotional about that.

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Speaker 4: She told us a little bit about that.

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Speaker 2: She said that she thinks that that might be the

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Speaker 2: reason that you're ghosting her.

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Speaker 7: So it kind of is not really I don't mind

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Speaker 7: the fact that she was crying, but like, I don't

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Speaker 7: know if you can say this on the radio, but

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Speaker 7: like she was digging into her panties for tissues.

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Speaker 4: What what are you being literal? With that. How do

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Speaker 4: you do? Yeah, she had tissues in her underwear.

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Speaker 3: Why do you have.

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Speaker 4: Tissues in there? I thought you would that problem.

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Speaker 3: I was wearing a skirt with both in shorts and

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Speaker 3: and pockets. I was reaching into my pocket.

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Speaker 4: Wait what I love that?

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Speaker 2: Actually, Oh, Orlando, Yeah, if you've listened to these before,

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Speaker 2: that's Gabrielle.

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Speaker 4: She's been listening to this whole conversation.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I was wearing shorts with pockets. Oh hey, Gabrielle,

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Speaker 6: how are you doing?

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Speaker 4: Girl?

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Speaker 1: Okay, So just to recap, Orlando, you have been ghosting

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Speaker 1: Gabrielle because she was digging into her panties.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, I mean, like, look not for nothing, you know,

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Speaker 7: Like I I at first, you know, I didn't know

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Speaker 6: I didn't know she was excited or crying or what.

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Speaker 3: But like.

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Speaker 7: That was that was weird, you know, And like there

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Speaker 7: was one point when like you and I the hub

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Speaker 7: because I was trying to reach for the tissues at

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Speaker 7: the Knopkins on the bar behind you, because I thought.

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Speaker 6: It was weird that you were going. You know, again,

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Speaker 6: I don't mind you being open with me. It's a real.

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Speaker 7: Compliment that you can feel that comfortable around me. I

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Speaker 7: just thought, what you I guess thought you were a

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Speaker 7: recent someplace weird in public and that that's rough for

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Speaker 7: our first day, right, Like, am I the currazy one here?

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Speaker 1: It's just funny to think about. Yeah, I'm sorry. So, Gabrielle,

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Speaker 1: weren't digging in your panties?

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Speaker 5: No, definitely not so like how I mean like you

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Speaker 5: were wearing like everything short, which is fine.

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Speaker 7: How you dress is how you dressed, and you were

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Speaker 7: looking good, But I really doesn't look right in public.

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Speaker 7: And oh, at least give me a heads up if

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Speaker 7: that's the kind of person you are.

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Speaker 3: You know, they were just really short and really tight short.

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Speaker 7: Definitely didn't look like that. But if that's the case,

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Speaker 7: my apologies. I just didn't want to get weird like

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Speaker 7: that without a conversation.

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Speaker 3: At least, you know, you could have.

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Speaker 6: Asked me about it.

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Speaker 5: How am I gonna.

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Speaker 7: Ask a grown woman in buble a like are you

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Speaker 7: reaching where the sundomb?

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Speaker 2: What else you got in there? What a great misunderstanding? Yeah,

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Speaker 2: it seems like a big misunderstanding. Orlando, would you like

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Speaker 2: to go out on another date with Gabrielle?

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Speaker 4: We'll pay for it.

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Speaker 7: I mean, sure, you know this time though, everyone's wearing jeans.

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Speaker 3: Good ideas idea.

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Speaker 2: Well, congratulations, Gabrielle, you got another date and a very

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Speaker 2: awkward question for Orlando got cleared up.

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Speaker 4: Yeah yeah, I mean, if you still want to go

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Speaker 4: out with somebody that assumed you were digging in your parts,

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Speaker 4: we're not judging.

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Speaker 3: Thank you, Thanks everyone, and thanks to Orlando for giving

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Speaker 3: me another chance. Oh hey, no worries.

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Speaker 7: I'm glad we got to clear this up, and I'm

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Speaker 7: glad for what it's worth.

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Speaker 6: I'm glad you guys called. I wasn't going to respond

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Speaker 6: with the text messages.

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Speaker 4: But I was going to ask you, but I wasn't

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Speaker 4: going to respond.

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Speaker 7: Hey, Gabrielle, I just want to say, you know, the

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Speaker 7: first day was ta fantastic for what it's worth, and

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Speaker 7: you know, I am really excited to see you again.

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Speaker 6: I'm just glad to know that, you know.

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Speaker 7: There's a little bit more decorum between us than when

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Speaker 7: I first thought.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I'm excited.

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Speaker 2: Too, Orlando, when you show up on the date handkerchief

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Speaker 2: out of your underwear, I'll be doing magic tricks

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Speaker 4: First da