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Speaker 1: Am I the a hole for thinking about breaking up

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Speaker 1: with my boyfriend because of his sister? Yes, Hi, everyone,

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Speaker 1: I twenty eight female and the founder and CEO of

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Speaker 1: a small tech company that I poured my heart and

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Speaker 1: soul into over the past five years. Six months ago,

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Speaker 1: my younger sister, twenty four female, lost her job due

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Speaker 1: to downsizing. Despite our rocky relationships were polar opposites, I

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Speaker 1: decided to hire her. I'm introverted in value privacy. She's

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Speaker 1: extroverted and often speaks without thinking. This is going to

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Speaker 1: be a match made in heaven. I am sure, and

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Speaker 1: this comes from loud advantage six three threes zero on

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Speaker 1: the r slash okay, storytime subred it. So initially things

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Speaker 1: went smoothly. She brought her enthusiasm to the team, and

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Speaker 1: I was hopeful this could strengthen our sisterly bond. I however,

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Speaker 1: noticed colleagues giving me odd looks and whispering when I

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Speaker 1: wasn't around. During a team lunch, one employee casually mentioned

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Speaker 1: a deeply personal family incident, joking about it as if

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Speaker 1: it were common.

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Speaker 2: I was stunned.

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Speaker 1: I pulled my sister aside and asked her if she's

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Speaker 1: been sharing personal family stories. She admitted she had, saying

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Speaker 1: it helped her connect with others and there was no

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Speaker 1: big deal. I stress that our family's history is private

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Speaker 1: and that discussing it at work was unprofessional. Brushed me off,

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Speaker 1: calling me overly sensitive. A couple of weeks later, I

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Speaker 1: discovered she had told several employees about our parents tumultuous divorce,

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Speaker 1: and even shared that our mother had struggled with substance abuse,

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Speaker 1: a painful chapter that we've worked hard to move past.

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Speaker 1: This wasn't just embarrassing. It felt like a profound betrayal.

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Speaker 1: Do you think it's a profound betrayal? Put your answers

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Speaker 1: in the college right now?

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Speaker 3: Boy?

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Speaker 2: Do you think John, there's more to the story.

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Speaker 4: I mean, I think it's definitely a lot, especially because

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Speaker 4: she's like, man, I don't have an icebreaker today. Oh,

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Speaker 4: let me talk about my parents like divorce. Divorce.

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Speaker 1: Also, way, that's like a fun water cooler topic, right yeah,

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Speaker 1: let me, Oh, how's the sandwich today, Joe? Sally? It's great? Uh, Joe,

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Speaker 1: want to hear about my parents divorce like.

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Speaker 2: Riveting? Yeah?

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Speaker 4: Maybe maybe she's getting there, Like, oh, I'm so sorry

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Speaker 4: to hear.

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Speaker 1: That, Like John, or Riley, no nas nonas because it's

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Speaker 1: it doesn't there's a not no nos. We've always done,

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Speaker 1: but we can't do nas no aholes here. It's too confusing.

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Speaker 2: No nos.

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Speaker 1: I confronted her again, but she accused me of trying

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Speaker 1: to control her and said, I was letting my CEO

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Speaker 1: status go to my head.

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Speaker 2: What do you think, right.

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Speaker 4: Because she's the CEO that does change things, that does

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Speaker 4: change things. Yeah, that's too because it's like it's tough

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Speaker 4: because it's also her experience too, Like it's the sister's experience, like, oh, hey,

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Speaker 4: this is something my parents went through and whatever else

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Speaker 4: the same as op. So that's the only thing that

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Speaker 4: was like kind of like rubbing up against It's like, well,

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Speaker 4: it is something that she also experience as an individual,

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Speaker 4: so she could be titled to it in that sense.

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Speaker 4: But I think it's just like have have some some

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Speaker 4: common sense and some tact Yeah, and and like know

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Speaker 4: that your sister's the CEO. You're here, and it's probably

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Speaker 4: not a great look for your sister, and if you

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Speaker 4: want to do that, it's probably like at least go

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Speaker 4: to your sister and ask me. I don't even know.

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Speaker 5: It's just so so weirdek Riley No, no betrial.

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Speaker 2: Why so do we think it's betrayal or nore?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean I think it's like I think I

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Speaker 1: think this is the issue about hiring family without really

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Speaker 1: knowing whether your like work situation is compatible, you know,

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Speaker 1: because it's like I think, oh my god, what oh

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Speaker 2: Oh dang, it's crazy. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I think, like I think if maybe they had worked

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Speaker 1: better idea of how this person is to work with

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Speaker 1: and like realize, okay, like this is the strengths, this

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Speaker 1: but I'm okay with that because I don't know of

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Speaker 1: think the I think, yes, the sister is wrong for

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Speaker 1: doing such giving such personal things. But also this is

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Speaker 1: like now you've kind of because you don't know how

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Speaker 1: of brought this into your company. Yeah, that has had

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Speaker 1: a negative that has a negative consequence. So it's like

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Speaker 1: it's like a little bit on you as a CEO.

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Speaker 1: I mean, like and this might be an unpopular opinion,

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it's I do think it is ultimately your your responsibility.

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Speaker 4: Sometimes you can't control what one does, but like it's yeah,

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Speaker 4: kind of like you ultimately bear the burden of the

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and so it's like, yea's not.

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Speaker 4: Your faults, but it's your responsibility.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: And so it's like, now that this has happened, what

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Speaker 1: what would you do about it?

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Speaker 2: Is this like fireble.

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Speaker 4: Oh man, yes, are Yeah, that's tough.

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Speaker 2: I mean.

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Speaker 4: I don't know, how about you.

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Speaker 2: Fire Ball? Uh? It is? I think it if it

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Speaker 2: if it's like.

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Speaker 4: I don't know, maybe it's not immediate firing, but it's

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Speaker 4: like you really.

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Speaker 2: Got to like conversation and then maybe yes yeah. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: It's like like, is there is there improvement after it

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Speaker 1: being talked about?

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Speaker 4: Was she truly just like so completely unaware She's like,

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Speaker 4: oh my gosh, it's never gonna happen again. And then

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Speaker 4: it's like smooth sailing and good stuff after that.

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Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, Sarah Landry says, this is why you don't

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Speaker 1: hire family. I think this is why you don't hire

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Speaker 1: family without having worked with them before. Like Sophia, I

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Speaker 1: worked with for like four years before she was more

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Speaker 1: officially with this podcast, so like I knew how she worked.

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Speaker 1: Oh Carol Castle fifty three sixty three, thirty more minutes.

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Speaker 2: We're close. So we're close. Close.

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Speaker 4: Oh wait oh eight?

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Speaker 2: See.

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Speaker 1: So like I think it's not that you don't hire family,

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Speaker 1: but if you hire family, you should know really like

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Speaker 1: you know, because it's like it can it can have

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Speaker 1: negative consequences. But also think of all the family businesses

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Speaker 1: that are out there, Like it's like a there are many.

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Speaker 1: It's like a thing as old as time. But realizing

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Speaker 1: that this was jeopardizing not only my reputation but also

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Speaker 1: her employment for breaching confidentiality and unprofessional conduct, which I

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Speaker 1: of choosing workover family and vowing to never forgive me

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Speaker 1: our parents are now involved and believe I oops. Our

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Speaker 2: You go.

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Speaker 6: Auh right another thirty minutes, A let's freaking go, Let's go.

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Speaker 4: Who was it?

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Speaker 2: Who is it? It was?

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Speaker 3: It was?

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Speaker 2: Uh oh?

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Speaker 1: Josie s thanks for the twenty five dollars tip, Let's

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Speaker 1: go right, a line, right on the line and tiplink

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Speaker 1: no last. We appreciate you. Kimberly Fine, thank you for

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Speaker 1: the twenty dollars, super chat Ope and Susan Swinson, thanks

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Speaker 1: for being a member of the Nights. Natalia H. What

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Speaker 1: can I say? Love you guys and love the Okay

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Speaker 1: Familyanks for being a member six times over, Marlene Anthony

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Speaker 1: five times over. I love you guys so much. I

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Speaker 1: love the new additional people, but I always have a

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Speaker 1: soft spot for John and Sam episodes.

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Speaker 6: Appreciate it always hard for him, but she was.

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Speaker 1: She was furious, accusing me of choosing workover family and

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Speaker 1: vowing to never forgive me. Our parents are now involved

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Speaker 1: and believe I overreacted. They think I should have been

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Speaker 1: more understanding and given her another chance. The whole situation

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Speaker 1: has left me questioning myself. I feel guilty for firing her,

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Speaker 1: but also feel like I had to protect my company

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Speaker 1: and personal boundaries. So redda, am I the a hole

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Speaker 1: for firing my sister after she exposed our famili's darkest

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Speaker 1: secrets at work? There is an update. There is an update,

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Speaker 1: op the a hole? Yes or no? For uh firing

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Speaker 4: I'm very curious if, like, obviously OPI knows her sister

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Speaker 4: well and was this something was there like more around

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Speaker 1: Guy, this is something well, I mean, I guess like

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Speaker 1: OPI at the beginning said, yes, my sister's extroverted and

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Speaker 1: and so it's like, yeah, that's the issue. It's like, yes, okay,

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Speaker 1: them being initially talented. Yes, Like people who are super

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Speaker 4: Yes.

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Speaker 1: And I think with your with the sister, like she's

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Speaker 4: Yeah, the fact that she that there was I didn't

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Speaker 1: Her response to saying like oh, saying like, hey, you

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Speaker 1: oh you just think because you're CEO you can boss me.

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Speaker 4: Yeah that's right.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, dude, which I mean whack, like not the kind

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Speaker 4: Dude, not not at all like what what one? That's

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Speaker 4: your sister, like even just out of respect for her

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Speaker 7: It's like what exactly at least at least for that,

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Speaker 7: at least for that if not actually like like respecting

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Speaker 7: uh you know OPI and not wanting to cause all

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Speaker 7: all the stuff with the people working at her company.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but it's like it's it is.

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Speaker 1: It can be a tricky balance working with with family

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Speaker 1: and or something that like you have to suss out,

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Speaker 1: you have to. I mean it's like John and I

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Speaker 1: have had conversations about this before. It's like it is,

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Speaker 1: it's uh, it can be done, but it is like

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Speaker 1: it it just has to be done slowly. It has

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Speaker 1: to be done with intention. It just has to make sense.

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Speaker 1: There has to be respect there. Yeah, and it just

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Speaker 4: Oh my goodness, Oh my see, we would do it

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Speaker 1: I would do it. I would do with you. Oh

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Speaker 1: But we got some relevant comments, So shy fidelity says,

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Speaker 2: This is so corporate speak.

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Speaker 1: This is the most corporate like, dude, OPI is I

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Speaker 4: Absolutely, so many things to.

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Speaker 6: And they have sex together.

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Speaker 4: The law wasn't the only thing broken tonight.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, booties, we're broken. In facts, We're broken.

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Speaker 4: Blow it out relevant death rage. Thanks for a five

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Speaker 4: bucks tip on the donal link. Don't have the most

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Speaker 4: money on me, but I hope to see y'all for

447
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Speaker 4: another thirty minutes. Well, hey, we appreciate it. I listen. Mondy,

448
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Speaker 4: thanks for the two box. Do you guys have a

449
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Speaker 4: po box of received gifts? Do we have that auto

450
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Speaker 4: commenting bottom of jig Yep? It should be in the chat.

451
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Speaker 4: Maybe I could throw it in even earlier if possible.

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Speaker 4: Does you have a dollar bequist? Have to go now?

453
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Speaker 4: Talxic people in the chat love y'all hard.

454
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Speaker 2: Who's being toxic?

455
00:24:34,600 --> 00:24:36,040
Speaker 4: They're actual toxic people.

456
00:24:36,160 --> 00:24:39,440
Speaker 2: Who's being toxic? Who's who's being toxic?

457
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Speaker 4: Tell us?

458
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Speaker 2: Tell it?

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Speaker 1: Like, tell on them right now, right now. Josephine, know

460
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Speaker 1: that we love you and just don't listen to anyone

461
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Speaker 1: in the chat. Okay, because yeah, that's annoying. They'll be mean.

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Speaker 2: Be nice.

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Speaker 1: This is a good community here. Don't ruin it with

464
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Speaker 1: your your butt holary.

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Speaker 4: That's right, a holes for Reddit, Go to Reddit, that's right,

466
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Speaker 4: save it for over there. This is the community of love.

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Speaker 4: Speaking of which, Oscar celebrating pharmas and membership. Happy three years.

468
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Speaker 4: Thanks for making my commutes better. You're welcome. Kaitlyn von Camping,

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Speaker 4: thanks for the sixth ninety one even no man, thanks

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Speaker 4: for joining the Knights, and then Caitlyn von Camping again

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Speaker 4: with seven thirty six even one more try. Happy happy

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Speaker 4: birthday guys, thank you, vam Bibay. Thanks for the twenty

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Speaker 4: four bucks on the Dono link dude.

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Speaker 1: Shout out to the Dono link people, because again, dono

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Speaker 1: link YouTube doesn't take thirty percent.

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Speaker 2: Right, it's big.

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Speaker 4: Wishing Riley a happy early birthday. I turned twenty four

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Speaker 4: on the twenty third, two birthday twins tipping twenty four

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Speaker 4: dollars in celebration of twenty four years.

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Speaker 6: Dude, that's a birthday twin for real, for real?

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Speaker 4: What's up? Dude? Heck you let's go. Oh it's a Monday.

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Speaker 4: Thanks for gifting a membership, and then Sebastian Sausting for

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Speaker 4: the twenty three fifty three donation. Let's go, and then

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Speaker 4: Alessa Monday again thanks for the two box the commentaries

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Speaker 4: or sister, maybe that's.

486
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Speaker 2: What we were thinking. That's what we were thinking.

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Speaker 4: And then Billy Claire thanks for the one thirty four

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Speaker 4: as per my previous email energy, yep, yeah, that's what

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Speaker 4: it was giving that corporate be a human.

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Speaker 6: Double checking the donus here, make sure no one we're good.

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Speaker 4: Dang everything ready, they're finishing up.

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Speaker 6: I'm gonna go check on one more time. I'll be

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Speaker 6: right back.

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Speaker 2: Cool. We should we do one more story?

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Speaker 4: Let's door.

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Speaker 2: I went to the next episode.

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Speaker 4: Next episode.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, shout out to the mods. By the way, due Justine,

499
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Speaker 1: sorry that you had to leave.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, oh good. Where are we at? Or can I

501
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Speaker 4: pick well?

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Speaker 2: In stick Gang.

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Speaker 1: Someone is gonna make an a I T A story

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Speaker 1: one for the reddit, they said in the chat today,

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Speaker 1: and then you will read the A T A story

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Speaker 1: and an episode and the whole thing will go force

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Speaker 1: our call.

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Speaker 6: Oh wait, we can spin the wheelow.

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Speaker 4: Spinning wheeling. Let's do it.

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Speaker 6: So if you should be coming soon, okay, here we go.

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Speaker 2: Spend that wheel.

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Speaker 6: Switch switch switch what switch yourself?

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Speaker 2: Switch as in switch yourselves?

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Speaker 4: Who's gonna be?

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Speaker 2: Who?

516
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Speaker 4: Do you want to play this game again? Do we

517
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Speaker 4: want to go?

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Speaker 3: There?

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Speaker 4: I'm ready go?

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Speaker 2: Where Where are my keys? Keys?

521
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Speaker 4: Again?

522
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Speaker 2: They have a drub on it? Drop my keys and

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Speaker 2: I can't pick them up, so.

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Speaker 4: I don't know if it's my turn. I gotta take

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Speaker 4: an ex bath. What here we go? Wait? I'm reading

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Speaker 4: a story. Are you ready?

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Speaker 2: Look?

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Speaker 4: Go Riley?

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Speaker 3: Right?

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Speaker 8: Ye?

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Speaker 4: Right? Is it all right? Right ahead?

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Speaker 6: Go ahead, go ahead?

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Speaker 4: Tanks the chat.

534
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Speaker 6: Well, you guys, gotta like you, guys, gotta switch sides.

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Speaker 2: Money still work like the.

536
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Speaker 1: Man?

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Speaker 4: Oh no, oh no, I knocked it over in October.

538
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Speaker 4: It's okay, okay, here we go. All right, ready, okay,

539
00:28:46,720 --> 00:28:50,200
Speaker 4: let's do it. Here we go. My BOM's convinced I'm gay. Wow,

540
00:28:50,280 --> 00:28:52,840
Speaker 4: that makes sense. I keep telling him that I bet.

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Speaker 4: I keep telling him that I'm not, but he won't listen.

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Speaker 4: Loction New York. My boss keeps nominating me for a

543
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Speaker 4: gay professional award outside of our organization. God dang that stuff, dude. Rapeatedly,

544
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Speaker 4: even though I am not gay, I have expressed verbally

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Speaker 4: that I am not gay, and even if I were,

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Speaker 4: I would want to be recognized for our actual preferences.

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Speaker 4: That wouldn't be part of the job. It's just two

548
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Speaker 4: am you know. One time, when I was in college,

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Speaker 4: I had a very special intimate experience, but I'm not

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Speaker 4: gonna talk about that right now.

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Speaker 2: That is true.

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Speaker 4: Is there something I could legally do about this? It's

553
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Speaker 4: weird and frankly embarrassing, but I'm not cat But I'm

554
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Speaker 4: not certain that it's sextual harassment or legal issue. I've

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Speaker 4: had multiple direct conversations with my boss that consist of

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Speaker 4: something like, I'm not comfortable. You know, sometimes I get uncomfortable, Riley.

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Speaker 4: The other day, I was sitting in the ice path

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Speaker 4: and I was talking to Jack Gibt about philosophy, and

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Speaker 4: I was just that sounds bruent. I was burdened with

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Speaker 4: me the torment of humanity's questions, you know, and I

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Speaker 4: couldn't figure out what's the point of life, Riley, to

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Speaker 4: be silly. I'm not comfortable being Can you please knock

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Speaker 4: it off? Thanks to the mass. By the way, this

564
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Speaker 4: couch weird throw out. The best of bread is sun

565
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Speaker 4: read it. It's amazing. Before we get into these relevant comments, Riley.

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Speaker 2: Can you speak up, Sonny, I can't quite hear you.

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Speaker 4: Riley. Why are you not in a tight little French

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Speaker 4: a maze out for right now? My gosh, why are

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Speaker 4: you just still in regular civilian clothing when I need

570
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Speaker 4: you in something else?

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Speaker 2: To get a little overboard over there?

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Speaker 4: I might, I might try to be winning an award

573
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Speaker 4: in my my newfound sexual preference over here, but only

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Speaker 4: if you give Daddy what he wants the relevant comments.

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Speaker 6: It's easy for Sam to get this worn up, but

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Speaker 6: it takes John a little bit more.

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Speaker 4: Hats the top coats. Multiple direct discussions with my boss

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Speaker 4: that consist of something like, I'm not comfortable with being

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Speaker 4: nominated for these awards? Can you please knock it off?

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Speaker 2: John? What do you think?

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Speaker 4: We need to look something up?

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Speaker 2: Quick?

583
00:31:14,320 --> 00:31:18,280
Speaker 4: Pull it up? Pull it up. We need to look up.

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Speaker 4: What do we need to look up? Probably? M perfect,

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Speaker 4: There we go. Let's start the quiz, all right? Have

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Speaker 4: you ever had feelings in the same gender? Maybe I

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Speaker 4: didn't answer that.

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Speaker 6: I'm doing it for you.

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Speaker 4: Okay, Yes, this is this is where I'll draw the line.

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Speaker 4: What do you think Sam? I mean John?

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Speaker 2: When someone asks you you're cushing?

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Speaker 4: Gun?

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Speaker 2: Oh? Uh?

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Speaker 4: Poor rud There we go.

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Speaker 6: Oh have you have you ever asked anyone as anyone?

596
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Speaker 6: Has everyone ever asked you were gay? If you were gay?

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Speaker 2: Every day?

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Speaker 6: Sam?

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Speaker 2: Every day?

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Speaker 6: Sam?

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Speaker 4: You know what, I'll draw the line here, I'll let

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Speaker 4: I'll let the other Sam take this one.

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Speaker 6: Oh every day?

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Speaker 2: Okay? Cool?

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Speaker 8: Uh?

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Speaker 6: When you imagine being in a relationship, what do you picture?

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Speaker 6: It doesn't have X on?

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Speaker 8: Uh?

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Speaker 2: Can I choose two?

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Speaker 4: Two?

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Speaker 6: Okay? How do you feel about identifying as gay?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 6: It feels right.

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Speaker 1: It mostly makes me a little nervous, but it also

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Speaker 1: kind of fits.

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Speaker 4: Okay.

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Speaker 2: Cool.

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Speaker 6: Have you ever attracted to someone of the same gender?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: But everyone has right, dude, these are literally you.

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Speaker 6: How do you feel about dating someone of the option gender?

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Speaker 2: I wouldn't mind, but I but I haven't like got

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Speaker 2: about doing it.

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Speaker 6: H Do you ever fantasize about being with someone of

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Speaker 6: the same gender?

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Speaker 2: Not often?

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Speaker 6: Okay? Would you imagine kissing or being intimate with a

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Speaker 6: future partner? How do you feel?

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Speaker 1: I feel like a rush of of uh, like like

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Speaker 1: when you blow bubbles in a milkshake.

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Speaker 6: Too young for that. If you scroll through your feet FYP,

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Speaker 6: do you see content from queer creators. Yep, yeah, flash

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Speaker 6: forward five years. How likely is your partner the same

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Speaker 6: gender as you?

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Speaker 3: Uh?

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Speaker 4: Like very likely?

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Speaker 1: Uh?

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Speaker 6: Would you be comfortable using LGBTQ plus dating app?

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Speaker 2: I mean sure, I'm open to give me this ry.

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Speaker 8: Uh?

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Speaker 6: Are there are a lot of LGBTQ plus individuals in

642
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Speaker 6: your friend group?

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Speaker 1: Like thirty percent, thirty percent forty not really a few

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Speaker 1: good thirty percent thirty percent?

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Speaker 6: What expired you to take this quiz? I think I

646
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Speaker 6: might be gay? No good away? Shoe shoe go go go?

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Speaker 4: Oh the free ads? Uh, you're u.

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Speaker 6: You can be bisexual or somewhere on the spectrum. Congress,

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Speaker 6: Let's go, I got it, Let's go.

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Speaker 4: Any questions answered, ladies and gentlemen. So pat tops of

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Speaker 4: cop Tooentes says, I've had multiple direc compisents of my

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Speaker 4: boss and I already read that. And what did your

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Speaker 4: boss say in response? Has your boss shared any motivation

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Speaker 4: in doing this op response? The first time I addressed

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Speaker 4: this was utter bewilderment. In shock, I genuinely believe this

656
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Speaker 4: person within the best intentions initially nominated me based on

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Speaker 4: an erroneous assumption that I am gay. What my boss

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Speaker 4: is very involved in an include of ESQ statements and events.

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Speaker 4: So I think this was generally considered a thoughtful thing

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Speaker 4: to do, certainly with zero it will or intent. This

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Speaker 4: is where it gets in more into assumptions and feelings.

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Speaker 4: But subsequent requests have been met with, oh, you're taking

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Speaker 4: this too seriously, sort of a sort of a wink

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Speaker 4: and vibe, sort of a vibe or a wink and

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Speaker 4: a nod, as if I'm actually gay and it's some

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Speaker 4: secret now between us. Oh god, damn. It just feels

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Speaker 4: like it feels a bit like my boss was embarrassed

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Speaker 4: just by earlier connection that I'm not gay and has

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Speaker 4: since try to downplay it by nominating me again.

670
00:35:35,440 --> 00:35:37,479
Speaker 2: I mean, just accept it at this point, you.

671
00:35:37,360 --> 00:35:39,880
Speaker 4: Know, you know, yeah, why not? Why not?

672
00:35:40,400 --> 00:35:43,640
Speaker 1: Why are you pushing back? So honestly, it's cooler to

673
00:35:43,680 --> 00:35:46,400
Speaker 1: be gay than to be straight? Now, don't you want

674
00:35:46,440 --> 00:35:49,080
Speaker 1: to be cool at least in at least in Los Angeles?

675
00:35:49,200 --> 00:35:51,600
Speaker 1: Fit in with the cool Yes? Yeah, all the cool

676
00:35:51,680 --> 00:35:52,680
Speaker 1: kids are a little by.

677
00:35:52,680 --> 00:35:56,600
Speaker 4: Do what they do, okay. Opie responds to that comment

678
00:35:57,760 --> 00:36:00,319
Speaker 4: that this is harassment. Thank you very much for your

679
00:36:00,360 --> 00:36:03,240
Speaker 4: answer and for you taking it seriously, as I understand

680
00:36:03,239 --> 00:36:05,359
Speaker 4: from your suggestion my missed up. My next step will

681
00:36:05,360 --> 00:36:08,120
Speaker 4: be to electronically communicate that it is unwelcome and needs

682
00:36:08,120 --> 00:36:12,200
Speaker 4: to stop, so it's recorded and preserve communications, continue to document,

683
00:36:12,239 --> 00:36:14,239
Speaker 4: and then escalate if I need it. I otherwise really

684
00:36:14,280 --> 00:36:16,040
Speaker 4: like my job, my company, So I'm trying to navigate

685
00:36:16,040 --> 00:36:20,359
Speaker 4: this as carefully as possible. My dear sister, Sofia, I'm

686
00:36:20,400 --> 00:36:24,520
Speaker 4: just so, what's going on, Sofia? Yeah, what's happening?

687
00:36:24,560 --> 00:36:25,520
Speaker 2: What are you doing?

688
00:36:27,520 --> 00:36:35,320
Speaker 4: You're standing here my sport sister, Sofia just got comfortable amazing.

689
00:36:35,520 --> 00:36:38,680
Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, I couldn't move back to my knees.

690
00:36:38,800 --> 00:36:39,480
Speaker 2: Can't take it.

691
00:36:39,719 --> 00:36:42,200
Speaker 4: That was the other crazy part about this. The organization

692
00:36:42,360 --> 00:36:45,399
Speaker 4: lets me know I've been nominated publicly broadcast is information. Okay,

693
00:36:45,400 --> 00:36:46,120
Speaker 4: that's kind of crazy.

694
00:36:46,200 --> 00:36:52,000
Speaker 3: You know who is broadcasted during Hurricane Katrina? My favorite artist?

695
00:36:56,360 --> 00:37:00,399
Speaker 4: Oh my god, I gotta change your passwords. Bro, It's

696
00:37:00,440 --> 00:37:01,520
Speaker 4: been quite too long.

697
00:37:02,040 --> 00:37:04,520
Speaker 3: You know, when you're that deep of a fan, nothing

698
00:37:04,640 --> 00:37:06,200
Speaker 3: someone can say it can make you.

699
00:37:09,320 --> 00:37:11,600
Speaker 4: That's that's just too crazy. You gotta stop listening.

700
00:37:11,760 --> 00:37:13,319
Speaker 2: Kanye twenty twenty four.

701
00:37:13,480 --> 00:37:15,640
Speaker 4: You know, let me tell you something from my hero

702
00:37:16,040 --> 00:37:20,799
Speaker 4: icond of leader Elon. Sometimes you just gotta push through

703
00:37:20,880 --> 00:37:23,920
Speaker 4: no matter what other people want, you know, you just

704
00:37:23,960 --> 00:37:25,080
Speaker 4: gotta do what you want to do.

705
00:37:25,760 --> 00:37:28,520
Speaker 2: You know, sometimes at a way and heartbreaks feels good

706
00:37:28,520 --> 00:37:29,400
Speaker 2: in a place like this.

707
00:37:32,400 --> 00:37:34,400
Speaker 4: So I'll be your thoughts. It's such a weird thing

708
00:37:34,400 --> 00:37:37,920
Speaker 4: that I've never dreamt of it. I'm just getting comfortable.

709
00:37:37,960 --> 00:37:39,120
Speaker 4: I'm just getting comfortable over here.

710
00:37:39,160 --> 00:37:41,759
Speaker 2: I wish my knees looked like that. I wish I

711
00:37:41,800 --> 00:37:43,560
Speaker 2: could roll myself up in a pretzel.

712
00:37:44,120 --> 00:37:46,120
Speaker 4: I've had to deal with it. Thank you again, very

713
00:37:46,200 --> 00:37:50,759
Speaker 4: much appreciated. So listen, I have a question. I have

714
00:37:50,800 --> 00:37:52,680
Speaker 4: a question, John.

715
00:37:52,520 --> 00:38:00,239
Speaker 2: Well, I have the real question. What's that? Uh?

716
00:38:02,880 --> 00:38:05,520
Speaker 3: Well, as you know, I'm John, I have a girlfriend

717
00:38:05,640 --> 00:38:07,880
Speaker 3: Fry but yeah, yeah you girlfriend.

718
00:38:08,200 --> 00:38:12,359
Speaker 4: They shut up about it, like god, it's a lot

719
00:38:12,440 --> 00:38:13,919
Speaker 4: of girlfriend.

720
00:38:14,280 --> 00:38:16,000
Speaker 2: And just kidding.

721
00:38:18,520 --> 00:38:20,520
Speaker 1: I just wanted to mention that before I go into this.

722
00:38:21,719 --> 00:38:26,800
Speaker 1: I think ope should be uh. I think I think honestly,

723
00:38:26,800 --> 00:38:29,759
Speaker 1: they're lathering it on a little bit too thick with

724
00:38:30,040 --> 00:38:34,560
Speaker 1: OPI and the sexuality thing. I think it's like they're

725
00:38:34,560 --> 00:38:38,080
Speaker 1: trying to get weird points with having diversity in their company.

726
00:38:38,560 --> 00:38:41,600
Speaker 1: And uh, I don't think it needs to be like

727
00:38:41,880 --> 00:38:43,400
Speaker 1: broadcasted to that degree.

728
00:38:43,719 --> 00:38:47,600
Speaker 4: It's the most classic case of full backfiring. You think

729
00:38:47,600 --> 00:38:51,759
Speaker 4: you're doing something good, but you're doing it so so

730
00:38:51,960 --> 00:38:52,560
Speaker 4: terribly wrong.

731
00:38:53,200 --> 00:38:56,360
Speaker 3: Backfire reminds me of the back shots with my girlfriend Riley.

732
00:38:57,960 --> 00:39:02,520
Speaker 4: Change, put up a pall. Where's the Paul? Riley's the

733
00:39:02,960 --> 00:39:08,480
Speaker 4: no a holes? Yeah, no no nos? Should should op

734
00:39:10,960 --> 00:39:18,200
Speaker 4: stay or leave? Stay? Stay or leave? At the company? Ope,

735
00:39:18,360 --> 00:39:20,600
Speaker 4: the lead of common describing their boss. My boss is

736
00:39:20,719 --> 00:39:23,319
Speaker 4: very involved in an inclusive s comments and events, So

737
00:39:23,360 --> 00:39:25,320
Speaker 4: I think this is originally considered to be a thoughtful

738
00:39:25,320 --> 00:39:27,520
Speaker 4: thing to do, certainly with your ill will or intent.

739
00:39:28,560 --> 00:39:32,160
Speaker 4: Shoe we do bat shoeb we do bop. Guys, I'm

740
00:39:32,200 --> 00:39:35,200
Speaker 4: out of lost, Riley, Riley?

741
00:39:35,440 --> 00:39:37,879
Speaker 6: Right? Here is it right?

742
00:39:37,880 --> 00:39:41,880
Speaker 4: It's the update there, you're right update. I decided to

743
00:39:41,920 --> 00:39:43,759
Speaker 4: address this one final time as a person in my

744
00:39:43,800 --> 00:39:47,560
Speaker 4: company really doesn't have a sexual harassment policy beyond don't

745
00:39:47,560 --> 00:39:47,960
Speaker 4: do that.

746
00:39:52,040 --> 00:39:55,719
Speaker 2: Kind of sounds like our policy.

747
00:39:56,320 --> 00:39:59,360
Speaker 4: Sounds like a great policy. I've met with a Michael

748
00:39:59,680 --> 00:40:01,880
Speaker 4: I am, I met with us Michael Scott esquebosque with

749
00:40:01,920 --> 00:40:08,200
Speaker 4: another leader who is illegal comfortable. Oh wait, oh perfect,

750
00:40:08,640 --> 00:40:09,160
Speaker 4: here we go.

751
00:40:09,800 --> 00:40:10,000
Speaker 8: Uh.

752
00:40:10,080 --> 00:40:12,439
Speaker 4: I used pointed phrases that were brought up by legal

753
00:40:12,440 --> 00:40:19,920
Speaker 4: advisors like SEGS based harassment. Thank you, I who, an

754
00:40:19,960 --> 00:40:22,520
Speaker 4: our slash legal advice poster, had suggested that this seems

755
00:40:22,560 --> 00:40:25,920
Speaker 4: like a misguided an inappropriate way of helping me to

756
00:40:26,000 --> 00:40:26,479
Speaker 4: come out.

757
00:40:27,000 --> 00:40:27,239
Speaker 2: Wow.

758
00:40:27,320 --> 00:40:29,480
Speaker 4: In the course of our conversation, it became clear that

759
00:40:29,560 --> 00:40:32,600
Speaker 4: this is exactly what was happening. I in turn made

760
00:40:32,600 --> 00:40:34,879
Speaker 4: it clear that it wasn't really anyone's business to help

761
00:40:34,880 --> 00:40:36,359
Speaker 4: me with things outside of my role at work.

762
00:40:36,480 --> 00:40:42,759
Speaker 1: Also, outing someone in a company setting would just be terrible. Exactly, Yeah,

763
00:40:42,760 --> 00:40:43,880
Speaker 1: this is this is legit.

764
00:40:44,360 --> 00:40:49,040
Speaker 4: Yes that I'm being serious too, look at me. I

765
00:40:49,080 --> 00:40:51,080
Speaker 4: also stated that this is the last time that we

766
00:40:51,120 --> 00:40:53,799
Speaker 4: would have this conversation without escalating it to the New

767
00:40:53,880 --> 00:40:57,920
Speaker 4: York State Human Rights slash Offices of Sexual Harassment. WHOA.

768
00:40:59,120 --> 00:41:01,640
Speaker 4: Michael Scott was a pologizing profusely. I love that. That's

769
00:41:01,719 --> 00:41:04,160
Speaker 4: the boss's name. Now, Riley the face I see. I

770
00:41:04,200 --> 00:41:06,000
Speaker 4: love the Office. You know, there was this one time

771
00:41:06,000 --> 00:41:08,760
Speaker 4: with my ex that I was like watching the Office episode.

772
00:41:09,920 --> 00:41:12,120
Speaker 4: Oh it was the episode where you know Dwight had

773
00:41:12,160 --> 00:41:14,000
Speaker 4: like he lit the you know, the one where he

774
00:41:14,080 --> 00:41:16,480
Speaker 4: lights the can the Roman candles and it's like popping

775
00:41:16,480 --> 00:41:18,480
Speaker 4: all over the office and there's like a fire and

776
00:41:18,520 --> 00:41:20,319
Speaker 4: then like the door handles were hot.

777
00:41:21,320 --> 00:41:22,880
Speaker 2: But when room was built.

778
00:41:23,719 --> 00:41:25,680
Speaker 4: Speaking of hot, I left something in Eve and can

779
00:41:25,680 --> 00:41:26,399
Speaker 4: you go get it?

780
00:41:26,520 --> 00:41:28,160
Speaker 6: Yeah, I got you, I got you. Okay, I'll just

781
00:41:28,160 --> 00:41:29,000
Speaker 6: get your sister, do it?

782
00:41:29,120 --> 00:41:29,880
Speaker 5: You get it?

783
00:41:29,920 --> 00:41:39,480
Speaker 4: Sovi onto this next part. No, oh, there you are

784
00:41:39,640 --> 00:41:40,240
Speaker 4: my sister.

785
00:41:40,840 --> 00:41:41,000
Speaker 3: Uh.

786
00:41:41,080 --> 00:41:43,280
Speaker 4: Later, my CEO college let me know it was appalling,

787
00:41:43,280 --> 00:41:44,880
Speaker 4: it would never happen again, and to ask if I

788
00:41:44,920 --> 00:41:47,440
Speaker 4: needed a few days off. He also wanted to thank

789
00:41:47,480 --> 00:41:49,480
Speaker 4: me for bringing up the issue and promise to change

790
00:41:49,480 --> 00:41:52,000
Speaker 4: whatever that means. I feel like everyone took that seriously

791
00:41:52,000 --> 00:41:54,640
Speaker 4: into their best uh And the best possible outcome so

792
00:41:54,760 --> 00:41:57,319
Speaker 4: far is it didn't turn into a legal issue, though

793
00:41:57,400 --> 00:41:59,360
Speaker 4: I realized that it was not as quite high drama

794
00:41:59,400 --> 00:42:03,319
Speaker 4: or exciting. I also was contacted by the organization who

795
00:42:03,360 --> 00:42:06,720
Speaker 4: continued to publicly notify people of their awards, and received

796
00:42:06,719 --> 00:42:11,040
Speaker 4: an oddly clipped and rude email in return. What I

797
00:42:11,080 --> 00:42:12,920
Speaker 4: made it clear that this is not okay and the

798
00:42:12,960 --> 00:42:17,240
Speaker 4: way they operate could cause unintentionable, unintentional or irreparable harm.

799
00:42:17,360 --> 00:42:20,200
Speaker 4: Thank you to everyone who provided advice and took this issue. Seriously,

800
00:42:20,560 --> 00:42:22,520
Speaker 4: there were times where I felt like I was not evil,

801
00:42:23,000 --> 00:42:26,200
Speaker 4: I was not being I felt like I was not

802
00:42:26,239 --> 00:42:28,440
Speaker 4: being able to take a joke. But you guys reassured

803
00:42:28,480 --> 00:42:31,080
Speaker 4: me that this wasn't okay and also how to fix it, y'all?

804
00:42:31,160 --> 00:42:31,399
Speaker 2: Rock?

805
00:42:31,560 --> 00:42:34,560
Speaker 4: Thanks? What do you think? John?

806
00:42:36,080 --> 00:42:43,960
Speaker 2: Pretty good? Pretty good? Solid, pretty solid. That's all I

807
00:42:44,000 --> 00:42:44,479
Speaker 2: have to say.

808
00:42:44,680 --> 00:42:46,279
Speaker 4: That's all I have to say. That's all I have

809
00:42:46,360 --> 00:42:48,960
Speaker 4: to say, ladies and gentlemen. He's made a few words,

810
00:42:49,239 --> 00:42:50,640
Speaker 4: but every word is meaningful.

811
00:42:51,560 --> 00:42:53,160
Speaker 2: Well, they have so many words left.

812
00:42:53,600 --> 00:42:57,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, gotta conserve them.

813
00:42:57,200 --> 00:43:01,239
Speaker 4: Yeah, did you take your take your vitamins today? Green Water?

814
00:43:02,160 --> 00:43:04,360
Speaker 2: I have to have a reminder to do that.

815
00:43:04,640 --> 00:43:06,320
Speaker 4: That's true. You know this morning when I was in

816
00:43:06,400 --> 00:43:09,560
Speaker 4: ice fath I I was thinking about something.

817
00:43:09,640 --> 00:43:13,000
Speaker 2: What are you thinking about this next role?

818
00:43:13,080 --> 00:43:15,759
Speaker 4: In the comments, co one on one four says man,

819
00:43:15,800 --> 00:43:17,640
Speaker 4: I really wanted to read that email and identify the

820
00:43:17,640 --> 00:43:21,040
Speaker 4: clips out of the course, Opie says me, Hi, there

821
00:43:21,480 --> 00:43:29,759
Speaker 4: it's the email, guys, it's the email. Riley. Yeah, this

822
00:43:29,840 --> 00:43:30,479
Speaker 4: is a big deal.

823
00:43:31,080 --> 00:43:31,360
Speaker 2: Poll.

824
00:43:31,600 --> 00:43:36,799
Speaker 4: Where's the pole? Riley? And no, no, Riley, where's the

825
00:43:36,840 --> 00:43:39,359
Speaker 4: poles to throw at me? Hah?

826
00:43:40,200 --> 00:43:41,520
Speaker 6: You have new things to throw at me.

827
00:43:41,800 --> 00:43:51,920
Speaker 4: I'm looking for them, Riley, Eh, where's the pole there, sir? No, No,

828
00:43:52,080 --> 00:43:54,880
Speaker 4: I don't see a pole. Where's the bowl? Come on?

829
00:43:55,800 --> 00:43:56,960
Speaker 2: Oh?

830
00:43:57,000 --> 00:43:58,920
Speaker 4: There it is? Oh it does that? Have not the

831
00:43:59,080 --> 00:43:59,839
Speaker 4: hil that's so great?

832
00:44:00,920 --> 00:44:01,000
Speaker 9: Me?

833
00:44:01,560 --> 00:44:03,320
Speaker 4: Hi there. I've received a few of those emails. I

834
00:44:03,320 --> 00:44:05,200
Speaker 4: wanted to make it clear that I am fully on

835
00:44:05,239 --> 00:44:08,080
Speaker 4: board with your mission, but I am not actually gay myself.

836
00:44:08,840 --> 00:44:16,520
Speaker 4: I speak for yourself. Oh, I worry the email. This

837
00:44:16,600 --> 00:44:17,360
Speaker 4: is the email.

838
00:44:17,960 --> 00:44:19,360
Speaker 2: This is the email.

839
00:44:20,520 --> 00:44:21,320
Speaker 4: It's the email.

840
00:44:21,600 --> 00:44:26,560
Speaker 2: Buck in my day, we sent it by blood on

841
00:44:26,640 --> 00:44:27,120
Speaker 2: a letter.

842
00:44:32,680 --> 00:44:35,200
Speaker 4: I worry a bit about the people who I worry

843
00:44:35,239 --> 00:44:37,200
Speaker 4: a bit about those who may have told a select

844
00:44:37,200 --> 00:44:40,160
Speaker 4: few people at their own organizations how they identify and

845
00:44:40,200 --> 00:44:44,319
Speaker 4: nominated with good intentions, and then essentially outed publicly by

846
00:44:44,400 --> 00:44:46,920
Speaker 4: the nomination and award winning process. This could potentially be

847
00:44:47,000 --> 00:44:55,200
Speaker 4: a huge issue if someone has chosen not to be out, Riley. Yeah,

848
00:44:55,239 --> 00:44:56,600
Speaker 4: they're not even publicly gay.

849
00:44:57,480 --> 00:44:58,120
Speaker 6: What do you call that?

850
00:44:59,560 --> 00:45:06,399
Speaker 4: In the closet response someone at work nominated you sent

851
00:45:06,400 --> 00:45:10,000
Speaker 4: from my iPhone so much effort. I am far more

852
00:45:10,120 --> 00:45:12,279
Speaker 4: peeved by the no big deal of response that I

853
00:45:12,320 --> 00:45:14,400
Speaker 4: am over anything else. I'm sure it's a low effort

854
00:45:14,400 --> 00:45:17,560
Speaker 4: way of just denying responsibility but ug frustrating.

855
00:45:17,719 --> 00:45:20,840
Speaker 1: That is such a CEO response though, Like the CEO

856
00:45:21,200 --> 00:45:25,520
Speaker 1: just one line, no capital letters at all.

857
00:45:25,560 --> 00:45:26,000
Speaker 2: Just bo.

858
00:45:27,360 --> 00:45:29,000
Speaker 4: That's true, that's true.

859
00:45:29,239 --> 00:45:29,479
Speaker 2: Uh.

860
00:45:29,520 --> 00:45:32,320
Speaker 4: You know there's a great CEO and leader, Elon Musk

861
00:45:32,520 --> 00:45:36,160
Speaker 4: and he's my personal hero, by the way, and you

862
00:45:36,200 --> 00:45:38,320
Speaker 4: know he tells me that every day I need to

863
00:45:38,360 --> 00:45:42,279
Speaker 4: strive to keep innovating. You know that, John, we need to.

864
00:45:42,600 --> 00:45:46,600
Speaker 2: I hope you try to innovate.

865
00:45:46,920 --> 00:45:50,279
Speaker 4: You know, we need to have a more toxic work

866
00:45:50,360 --> 00:45:56,440
Speaker 4: environment that opi h camp w says. I really hope

867
00:45:56,600 --> 00:46:00,719
Speaker 4: Laop still took the gay cation, uh, and that the

868
00:46:00,760 --> 00:46:03,640
Speaker 4: CEO offered even if he isn't gay, Opie said Lowell,

869
00:46:03,719 --> 00:46:05,839
Speaker 4: I did not. I didn't want to return to any

870
00:46:05,880 --> 00:46:08,239
Speaker 4: more of a thing than it already was. I would

871
00:46:08,239 --> 00:46:10,640
Speaker 4: have taken the vacation. That's kind of far. I also

872
00:46:10,680 --> 00:46:12,920
Speaker 4: didn't want to act traumatize when I really wasn't just

873
00:46:12,920 --> 00:46:15,839
Speaker 4: annoyed and wanted it to stop. It doesn't matter much

874
00:46:15,840 --> 00:46:22,879
Speaker 4: for context, but I am a she and that's where

875
00:46:22,880 --> 00:46:26,000
Speaker 4: it ends, and that's it, and that is switch.

876
00:46:26,120 --> 00:46:28,560
Speaker 2: I'm going back to Sam, I'm going back to John.

877
00:46:29,600 --> 00:46:32,960
Speaker 6: You guys, wanna wait, wait, wait, okay, go for it?

878
00:46:33,440 --> 00:46:35,280
Speaker 2: What oh?

879
00:46:35,360 --> 00:46:39,480
Speaker 1: I that is crazy that they would just nominate, like

880
00:46:39,600 --> 00:46:42,319
Speaker 1: just like the liability that you would get opened up

881
00:46:42,360 --> 00:46:46,120
Speaker 1: to if you're nominating people that are not even if

882
00:46:46,120 --> 00:46:49,040
Speaker 1: they like were in the closet, nominating people not ready

883
00:46:49,080 --> 00:46:52,719
Speaker 1: to come out. Yeah, that is that's a massive violation.

884
00:46:52,960 --> 00:46:56,200
Speaker 1: And the way that they're like, I feel like there's

885
00:46:56,239 --> 00:46:58,239
Speaker 1: a lot of misguided people that are trying to be

886
00:46:58,320 --> 00:47:02,840
Speaker 1: allies and then just totally fail, you know, and that

887
00:47:02,840 --> 00:47:03,520
Speaker 1: that is uh.

888
00:47:04,280 --> 00:47:05,719
Speaker 2: I think that's what's happening right here.

889
00:47:05,960 --> 00:47:08,080
Speaker 4: Yeah, this is this is this is crazy.

890
00:47:09,040 --> 00:47:10,760
Speaker 2: But I think we're being replaced.

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Speaker 1: Your worm queen has arrived, along with another queen, Riley's Queen.

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Speaker 6: And we's get on with your first story of the day.

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Speaker 6: Let's do it, Hey, good mine.

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Speaker 9: Natasha Lowe's Sleepy eight twenty seven is two. My fiance

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Speaker 9: is having an emotional.

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Speaker 2: Affair yep, excellent.

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Speaker 9: Whoa My fiance is having an emotional affair with his coworker,

956
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Speaker 9: but he doesn't realize it. Wake up, smell the roses

957
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Speaker 9: in the emotional affair period. As the title suggests, My

958
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Speaker 9: thirty two female fiance thirty six male and I have

959
00:51:35,800 --> 00:51:39,160
Speaker 9: recently had a discussion about me feeling a little insecure

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Speaker 9: in our relationship. By the way, this comes from throw

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Speaker 9: a salts on the r Slasha Okay storytime subret it.

962
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Speaker 4: So.

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00:51:46,920 --> 00:51:50,080
Speaker 9: He is a very kind and charismatic man, and we

964
00:51:50,160 --> 00:51:53,920
Speaker 9: have been together for four years, engaged and living together

965
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Speaker 9: for one year. We have never had major issues like

966
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Speaker 9: this because we have always been transparent with one another.

967
00:52:00,080 --> 00:52:04,719
Speaker 9: There Two months ago, a new girl twenty four female

968
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Speaker 9: and again he is thirty six, began working at his office.

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Speaker 9: She's young, and, based on our limited interactions, seems genuinely

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Speaker 9: good hearted. But I kept having a growing feeling that

971
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Speaker 9: something was off. He had been coming home every day

972
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Speaker 9: raving about her and how nice it is to have

973
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Speaker 9: someone in the office who understands and laughs at his jokes.

974
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Speaker 9: Does she understand them? Or maybe is she She's like, oh,

975
00:52:30,320 --> 00:52:32,840
Speaker 9: you're so funny. I think I think that's an option.

976
00:52:33,760 --> 00:52:36,440
Speaker 9: It seems like an innocent work friendship. But he started

977
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Speaker 9: to give me other details from their conversation that had

978
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Speaker 9: me concerned. For instance, she would announce to him when

979
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Speaker 9: she was ovulating what nice or starting her period as

980
00:52:47,080 --> 00:52:51,800
Speaker 9: an excuse for being grumpy or overly touchy? Overly touchy?

981
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Speaker 9: What does that mean? What does that mean? Okay, I

982
00:52:55,680 --> 00:52:58,640
Speaker 9: think you wouldn't get away with being like like, you're

983
00:52:58,680 --> 00:53:01,840
Speaker 9: like really mean and you're like so someone. I'm very sorry.

984
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Speaker 9: Me got me when I but the touchiness, that seems

985
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Speaker 9: like very things to be like on your period, really

986
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Speaker 9: grumpy or really lovey. No, Like, I mean, I can

987
00:53:15,280 --> 00:53:17,799
Speaker 9: see that, but I think it's a little bit weird

988
00:53:17,800 --> 00:53:20,080
Speaker 9: because it kind of implies that she's being touchy with him.

989
00:53:20,560 --> 00:53:23,960
Speaker 9: That's what I'm weird. That's that's very weird. Yeah.

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Speaker 5: Uh.

991
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Speaker 9: She began describing in detail all of the spicy sleep

992
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Speaker 9: encounter she has had since moving to our city, and

993
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Speaker 9: he was relaying some of these stories back to me

994
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Speaker 9: as if they were exciting work stories. We're like we're

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Speaker 9: I don't know if we should be talking about that

996
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Speaker 9: at work. No, maybe not. Two weeks ago, I met

997
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Speaker 9: her for the first time at a company dinner. I

998
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Speaker 9: told her it was nice to finally meet her after

999
00:53:50,680 --> 00:53:57,719
Speaker 9: hearing so much about her. She smiled, ignored me, and

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Speaker 9: began talking to my fiance about how I was from

1001
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Speaker 9: her expectations in front of her. The next week, she

1002
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Speaker 9: had apparently been talking a lot at work about how

1003
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Speaker 9: pretty she thought I was and how lucky my partner

1004
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Speaker 9: and I are to have found one another. It felt

1005
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Speaker 9: strange that she had a lot to say about me

1006
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Speaker 9: but didn't even speak to me when we had a

1007
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Speaker 9: chance to interact. I choked it up to being nervous

1008
00:54:20,040 --> 00:54:26,040
Speaker 9: or shy. Could be true, could be true. Possibly. Last week,

1009
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Speaker 9: my fiance came home with a very detailed story that

1010
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Speaker 9: she told him about a failed spicy sleep encounter seeking

1011
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Speaker 9: advice at work. That's I don't like it. That's taken

1012
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Speaker 9: it to another level. It's a weird level.

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Speaker 6: Well, I usually talk about that stuff with my coworkers. Heka, Sam,

1014
00:54:46,160 --> 00:54:47,560
Speaker 6: and I say stop.

1015
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Speaker 9: Just to be weird. He oh cool, bro, yeah, you

1016
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Speaker 9: and Sam tried to I say no, I said, boundaries, boundaries,

1017
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Speaker 9: and that's he should be doing so they don't have

1018
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Speaker 9: guess what they don't have. I felt very uncomfortable with

1019
00:55:05,640 --> 00:55:08,000
Speaker 9: this and let him know that. Well, it's likely just

1020
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Speaker 9: my insecurity. I don't trust this sort of behavior. Um.

1021
00:55:13,440 --> 00:55:15,200
Speaker 9: He told me to give it time and once I

1022
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Speaker 9: get to know her, I'll see it's completely innocent. He

1023
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Speaker 9: told me to give it.

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Speaker 4: Uh. Oh.

1025
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Speaker 9: She asked him to meet up with her over the weekend,

1026
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Speaker 9: and he went so far as to arrange a meeting

1027
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Speaker 9: without telling me until the day before, presumably with op

1028
00:55:28,920 --> 00:55:33,560
Speaker 9: there arrange a meeting between Opee right and this girl.

1029
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Speaker 9: We had originally made dinner plans with my parents, and

1030
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Speaker 9: he told me he would come later on because he

1031
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Speaker 9: needed to meet with her to discuss her relationship problems.

1032
00:55:44,680 --> 00:55:46,840
Speaker 9: You need it, you needed to do I feel like

1033
00:55:46,880 --> 00:55:50,799
Speaker 9: you could just like shoot at texts. Yeah, Like it

1034
00:55:50,840 --> 00:55:53,160
Speaker 9: seems like they're only I don't know, I don't know

1035
00:55:53,200 --> 00:55:57,160
Speaker 9: if they're at that level of friendship yet. Yeah, that's

1036
00:55:57,200 --> 00:56:01,280
Speaker 9: just And how old are they? He's thirty and she's twenty.

1037
00:56:01,320 --> 00:56:04,280
Speaker 9: Fight there's like a big age just suge age difference.

1038
00:56:04,440 --> 00:56:07,719
Speaker 9: It feels very like, Yeah, that's weird. And I'm like

1039
00:56:07,960 --> 00:56:12,000
Speaker 9: your ghost ghost Blue Nightmare says nope, sorry, red Flag,

1040
00:56:12,040 --> 00:56:14,960
Speaker 9: and he's given me the I agree, agree, I agree.

1041
00:56:15,480 --> 00:56:18,680
Speaker 9: Audrey Rash says coworker's into Opie's boyfriend.

1042
00:56:19,719 --> 00:56:21,680
Speaker 4: What crazy.

1043
00:56:22,160 --> 00:56:29,520
Speaker 9: No, I very passionately told him that this is not okay,

1044
00:56:29,800 --> 00:56:32,239
Speaker 9: and he canceled his plans with her, adding that it

1045
00:56:32,360 --> 00:56:34,600
Speaker 9: was cute that I was getting so jealous of her.

1046
00:56:35,960 --> 00:56:39,080
Speaker 9: What I'm annoyed. What I would be so annoyed if

1047
00:56:39,080 --> 00:56:42,640
Speaker 9: I was like expressing yeah, like my discomfort and being like, hey,

1048
00:56:42,640 --> 00:56:46,120
Speaker 9: this is you know, okay, that's cute, so cute, he's

1049
00:56:46,160 --> 00:56:49,839
Speaker 9: so cute, that's so infantilizing. Yeah. And it's also like

1050
00:56:50,320 --> 00:56:51,320
Speaker 9: not taking it seriously.

1051
00:56:51,520 --> 00:56:54,200
Speaker 8: Yeah, you know, it's like, yes, I am like I'm

1052
00:56:54,200 --> 00:56:57,279
Speaker 8: not just jealous, I'm like calling out red Yeah, like

1053
00:56:57,400 --> 00:56:58,680
Speaker 8: weird behavior exactly.

1054
00:56:58,719 --> 00:57:01,680
Speaker 9: And then it's like, oh, you're jealous of me. I'm

1055
00:57:01,800 --> 00:57:08,320
Speaker 9: worried about who I'm talking to. You're so sweet? Yeah no, No.

1056
00:57:09,960 --> 00:57:13,480
Speaker 9: This Monday, after work, she called his personal phone. She

1057
00:57:13,560 --> 00:57:15,680
Speaker 9: said he had not sent her any jokes at work

1058
00:57:15,680 --> 00:57:18,880
Speaker 9: that day and she wanted to know why she's flirting. Yeah, what,

1059
00:57:19,200 --> 00:57:24,400
Speaker 9: she's literally flirting with them? Absolutely stop it stop, she said.

1060
00:57:24,400 --> 00:57:26,400
Speaker 9: He uh oh. I told him he needed to set

1061
00:57:26,440 --> 00:57:29,600
Speaker 9: boundaries immediately. It's fine to be friendly with people in

1062
00:57:29,640 --> 00:57:33,000
Speaker 9: the office, but it really felt excessive that she was

1063
00:57:33,080 --> 00:57:36,440
Speaker 9: calling because he was enacting some kind of boundaries. I

1064
00:57:36,480 --> 00:57:38,560
Speaker 9: was upset that he had given her access to private

1065
00:57:38,560 --> 00:57:41,280
Speaker 9: communication line as well. He said he would just tell

1066
00:57:41,280 --> 00:57:43,080
Speaker 9: her he was busy with work and the thought to

1067
00:57:43,120 --> 00:57:46,400
Speaker 9: send jokes didn't cross his mind, and I thought that

1068
00:57:46,440 --> 00:57:50,520
Speaker 9: would be the end of the conversation. Today, he came

1069
00:57:50,560 --> 00:57:54,040
Speaker 9: home from work sulking and refused to talk to me.

1070
00:57:54,280 --> 00:57:54,520
Speaker 2: Oh oh.

1071
00:57:55,120 --> 00:57:57,320
Speaker 9: Eventually, he told me that he explained to her that

1072
00:57:57,400 --> 00:58:00,000
Speaker 9: I was feeling insecure about how close their friendship had become,

1073
00:58:00,680 --> 00:58:03,000
Speaker 9: and she said that she didn't want to make me uncomfortable,

1074
00:58:03,160 --> 00:58:07,600
Speaker 9: so she said she wouldn't speak to him at all anymore.

1075
00:58:08,560 --> 00:58:10,760
Speaker 9: He was crying and told me that she's just like

1076
00:58:10,800 --> 00:58:15,440
Speaker 9: a younger sister. You have a weird relationship. He's an

1077
00:58:15,480 --> 00:58:18,120
Speaker 9: only child, and he was happy that she trusted him,

1078
00:58:18,440 --> 00:58:21,440
Speaker 9: but he was forced to end the relationship because of me.

1079
00:58:23,200 --> 00:58:26,440
Speaker 9: That's so frustrating. Why are you blaming off he for

1080
00:58:26,560 --> 00:58:30,480
Speaker 9: just asking him to set some boundaries. Yeah, it's obvious

1081
00:58:30,560 --> 00:58:32,920
Speaker 9: that she wanted a relationship, Like, I feel like it's

1082
00:58:32,920 --> 00:58:35,960
Speaker 9: pretty obvious that this girl at work wanted a relationship. Yes,

1083
00:58:36,040 --> 00:58:38,160
Speaker 9: and she was trying to test that and see how

1084
00:58:38,240 --> 00:58:40,760
Speaker 9: much she could get away with, right, and that's why

1085
00:58:40,760 --> 00:58:41,440
Speaker 9: she's ending it.

1086
00:58:41,560 --> 00:58:43,600
Speaker 8: Yeah, and good on her yea for like taking a

1087
00:58:43,640 --> 00:58:46,000
Speaker 8: step back and not you know, continuing.

1088
00:58:46,160 --> 00:58:46,960
Speaker 9: Yeah, exactly.

1089
00:58:47,120 --> 00:58:50,080
Speaker 8: But like his thought process of her being like a

1090
00:58:50,120 --> 00:58:51,720
Speaker 8: little sister, I don't think she.

1091
00:58:51,680 --> 00:58:52,439
Speaker 9: Felt the same way.

1092
00:58:52,760 --> 00:58:56,720
Speaker 8: No, No, I think I mean as someone as a

1093
00:58:56,800 --> 00:58:59,280
Speaker 8: younger sister to an older brother saying I wouldn't have

1094
00:58:59,280 --> 00:59:01,160
Speaker 8: those kinds of covers.

1095
00:59:00,560 --> 00:59:03,680
Speaker 9: I would not be talking. No, no, no, no, no no.

1096
00:59:04,200 --> 00:59:08,880
Speaker 9: I actively I feel sick thinking about it. I don't know.

1097
00:59:09,040 --> 00:59:11,080
Speaker 9: I don't even want to think about it. Neither.

1098
00:59:11,240 --> 00:59:11,479
Speaker 4: Wrong.

1099
00:59:11,880 --> 00:59:14,320
Speaker 9: And so maybe it's because he's an only child that

1100
00:59:14,440 --> 00:59:18,520
Speaker 9: he just doesn't know how sibling relationships work. But uh not, Yeah,

1101
00:59:18,640 --> 00:59:25,320
Speaker 9: not a younger sister relationship. I apologized and told him

1102
00:59:25,320 --> 00:59:27,680
Speaker 9: that I had expected him to keep my feelings private

1103
00:59:27,760 --> 00:59:30,880
Speaker 9: and adjust his behavior rather than telling her everything. Also

1104
00:59:30,960 --> 00:59:33,160
Speaker 9: a great point that he really just kind of dumped

1105
00:59:33,160 --> 00:59:36,040
Speaker 9: it on her. He was like, Oh, my girlfriend doesn't

1106
00:59:36,040 --> 00:59:39,600
Speaker 9: want me to she's insecure. Yeah, it's horrifaul when he

1107
00:59:39,600 --> 00:59:43,480
Speaker 9: could have just said hey, like either either have just

1108
00:59:43,520 --> 00:59:47,000
Speaker 9: adjusted not said anything and just adjusted his behavior or

1109
00:59:47,080 --> 00:59:50,440
Speaker 9: said you know, hey, I'm feeling a little bit uncomfortable

1110
00:59:50,880 --> 00:59:52,680
Speaker 9: now we're talking, you know, like what we're talking about,

1111
00:59:52,720 --> 00:59:54,960
Speaker 9: especially because I have a relationship, right, Yeah.

1112
00:59:54,760 --> 00:59:57,880
Speaker 8: Exactly, because I feel like there's some clear things that

1113
00:59:57,960 --> 01:00:01,280
Speaker 8: like pass the boundary of like friends in their conversations.

1114
01:00:01,840 --> 01:00:03,880
Speaker 9: So it's like you just say that you don't really

1115
01:00:03,920 --> 01:00:05,800
Speaker 9: want to talk about that, Yeah, just say yeah, hey,

1116
01:00:05,960 --> 01:00:10,520
Speaker 9: let's not talk about this. Yeah, sorry, like not work appropriate? Yeah,

1117
01:00:11,120 --> 01:00:13,800
Speaker 9: he said that would be dishonest, and he didn't want

1118
01:00:13,840 --> 01:00:16,520
Speaker 9: to distance himself from her without making her aware of

1119
01:00:16,560 --> 01:00:19,520
Speaker 9: the situation. I asked him why it was so important

1120
01:00:19,560 --> 01:00:22,480
Speaker 9: for him to discuss very personal and not safe for

1121
01:00:22,640 --> 01:00:25,760
Speaker 9: work topics with a younger woman that he had only

1122
01:00:25,800 --> 01:00:29,800
Speaker 9: known for two months. Good question, exactly, good question, Like

1123
01:00:30,680 --> 01:00:34,040
Speaker 9: if this was your friend of a very long time, perhaps,

1124
01:00:34,080 --> 01:00:35,960
Speaker 9: but this is a person that you've known for two months,

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01:00:35,960 --> 01:00:38,480
Speaker 9: that you met through a work setting. Yeah, and you're

1126
01:00:38,520 --> 01:00:42,520
Speaker 9: talking about these kinds of things at work, right, And

1127
01:00:42,560 --> 01:00:43,920
Speaker 9: it's just like weird that like.

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Speaker 8: He is saying that it would be dishonest for him to,

1129
01:00:49,440 --> 01:00:51,520
Speaker 8: like say, he doesn't want to have those conversations, so

1130
01:00:51,560 --> 01:00:53,320
Speaker 8: it's like, why do you want to have those conversations?

1131
01:00:53,720 --> 01:00:56,040
Speaker 9: You know, was sorry even having it in the first place.

1132
01:00:57,920 --> 01:01:00,640
Speaker 9: He angrily expressed me that I'm trying to police his

1133
01:01:00,760 --> 01:01:03,720
Speaker 9: joy and that I'm just upset that he's been too

1134
01:01:03,800 --> 01:01:06,439
Speaker 9: happy since meeting her. He said, I should have never

1135
01:01:06,480 --> 01:01:08,840
Speaker 9: brought it up. I feel that him telling all of

1136
01:01:08,840 --> 01:01:11,200
Speaker 9: this to his coworker is a breach of my trust

1137
01:01:11,240 --> 01:01:14,280
Speaker 9: in him. He is convinced that I ruined the relationship

1138
01:01:14,320 --> 01:01:18,240
Speaker 9: by being jealous. He feels I feel really bad because

1139
01:01:18,280 --> 01:01:20,439
Speaker 9: he was very happy at work and was happy about

1140
01:01:20,520 --> 01:01:23,680
Speaker 9: joking around and having lunch with her, but he said

1141
01:01:23,720 --> 01:01:26,400
Speaker 9: that because of me, they can't have any kind of

1142
01:01:26,440 --> 01:01:31,240
Speaker 9: relationship at all. Was my expression of feeling insecure the catalyst.

1143
01:01:31,360 --> 01:01:34,880
Speaker 9: Should I have kept this to myself? And small edit

1144
01:01:34,920 --> 01:01:37,840
Speaker 9: before a big old update. Thank you all for your

1145
01:01:37,880 --> 01:01:42,960
Speaker 9: advice and particularly for the articles about emotional affairs so true.

1146
01:01:43,040 --> 01:01:44,800
Speaker 9: I am going to have a discussion with him tonight

1147
01:01:44,840 --> 01:01:47,240
Speaker 9: and be completely honest about my feelings and go over

1148
01:01:47,280 --> 01:01:48,040
Speaker 9: some of the signs.

1149
01:01:48,680 --> 01:01:50,600
Speaker 4: I'll let you know how it goes.

1150
01:01:51,880 --> 01:01:53,280
Speaker 6: Yeah, it's inappropriate.

1151
01:01:53,400 --> 01:01:58,680
Speaker 9: It's inappropriate. I mean he's having these very intimately detailed

1152
01:01:59,080 --> 01:02:02,360
Speaker 9: conversations with the girl that he just meant, yes, is

1153
01:02:02,560 --> 01:02:06,360
Speaker 9: meeting with her outside of work, have these conversations. Yes,

1154
01:02:06,640 --> 01:02:10,120
Speaker 9: it's it's uncomfortable, right, And I mean I don't like that.

1155
01:02:10,280 --> 01:02:13,400
Speaker 8: He was like, I've just been so happy. Ye, she's

1156
01:02:13,440 --> 01:02:18,720
Speaker 8: so happy, like like that sounds like it's the make

1157
01:02:18,760 --> 01:02:21,400
Speaker 8: her happy. Yeah right, it sounds like he's talking about

1158
01:02:21,440 --> 01:02:22,080
Speaker 8: a relationship.

1159
01:02:22,200 --> 01:02:23,080
Speaker 9: Yeah, exactly.

1160
01:02:24,040 --> 01:02:26,880
Speaker 6: So at what point would you have said he crossed

1161
01:02:26,880 --> 01:02:31,720
Speaker 6: a line of emotional affair, Like how far into the story?

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01:02:32,160 --> 01:02:37,040
Speaker 9: I don't necessarily know if I would say it's an

1163
01:02:37,040 --> 01:02:39,280
Speaker 9: emotional affair quite yet.

1164
01:02:40,760 --> 01:02:45,240
Speaker 6: Really, I mean, yes, he's going outside of work and

1165
01:02:45,400 --> 01:02:46,760
Speaker 6: she makes him happy.

1166
01:02:47,840 --> 01:02:50,840
Speaker 8: No, I guess, like I feel like emotional cheating is

1167
01:02:50,880 --> 01:02:52,000
Speaker 8: just very hard to define.

1168
01:02:52,080 --> 01:02:55,920
Speaker 9: Yeah, it's so kind of in you know gray area.

1169
01:02:56,200 --> 01:02:59,320
Speaker 6: Wait did it say anywhere where he met up with

1170
01:02:59,360 --> 01:03:03,320
Speaker 6: her rather than and opie? What do you mean, like

1171
01:03:04,000 --> 01:03:08,640
Speaker 6: the boyfriend met up with the coworker rather than op Yeah, Okay,

1172
01:03:08,760 --> 01:03:10,760
Speaker 6: that's where I would draw the line.

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01:03:10,640 --> 01:03:12,960
Speaker 9: I think. But the thing is that I don't think

1174
01:03:13,000 --> 01:03:17,680
Speaker 9: necessarily those things are like they could be emotional cheating,

1175
01:03:17,720 --> 01:03:19,280
Speaker 9: but I think there's also a world where they're not.

1176
01:03:19,840 --> 01:03:22,960
Speaker 9: I think I have a I would have problems without

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01:03:23,040 --> 01:03:26,040
Speaker 9: how he's you know, interacting with.

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01:03:26,160 --> 01:03:28,320
Speaker 6: Oh yeah, that too, sure, but I think the prior

1179
01:03:28,480 --> 01:03:30,400
Speaker 6: oritization if he's going to hang out with the coworker

1180
01:03:30,440 --> 01:03:32,439
Speaker 6: rather than the girlfriend.

1181
01:03:32,000 --> 01:03:36,040
Speaker 9: The op Yeah, I think there are there are like

1182
01:03:36,240 --> 01:03:41,680
Speaker 9: breakup offenses here. Yeah, I'm just it's like it's right now,

1183
01:03:42,560 --> 01:03:43,640
Speaker 9: we're towing the line.

1184
01:03:43,800 --> 01:03:44,000
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1185
01:03:44,320 --> 01:03:46,360
Speaker 9: I don't think it's quite there yet. Yeah, but there

1186
01:03:46,360 --> 01:03:48,200
Speaker 9: are definitely some things that are like not okay.

1187
01:03:48,320 --> 01:03:48,520
Speaker 4: Yeah.

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01:03:48,520 --> 01:03:51,720
Speaker 8: I think a big thing is just him like not

1189
01:03:51,760 --> 01:03:53,440
Speaker 8: being able to recognize.

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01:03:52,920 --> 01:03:57,760
Speaker 9: That she has, not validating Opie's yeah. Oh yeah yeah,

1191
01:03:58,240 --> 01:03:58,920
Speaker 9: like the co worker.

1192
01:03:59,200 --> 01:04:01,360
Speaker 8: Yeah, because I feel like there's just a lot of like,

1193
01:04:02,560 --> 01:04:04,000
Speaker 8: I don't know, it just seems like he just doesn't

1194
01:04:04,080 --> 01:04:07,120
Speaker 8: understand emotions at this point, Like maybe he doesn't understand his.

1195
01:04:07,120 --> 01:04:09,080
Speaker 9: Own or the coworker.

1196
01:04:09,280 --> 01:04:11,960
Speaker 8: Yeah, and maybe he because of that, it's hard for

1197
01:04:12,080 --> 01:04:15,080
Speaker 8: him to recognize the coworker's emotions for him, you know,

1198
01:04:15,280 --> 01:04:15,920
Speaker 8: And it's just a.

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Speaker 9: Yeah, I think it could very easily go right into emotionals.

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01:04:19,760 --> 01:04:21,640
Speaker 9: I agree yeah, we're on the edge.

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01:04:21,800 --> 01:04:23,600
Speaker 6: Let me know if you guys think it's emotional cheating

1202
01:04:23,920 --> 01:04:24,160
Speaker 6: or not.

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01:04:24,440 --> 01:04:27,160
Speaker 9: There you go. We already have one emo cheating emo

1204
01:04:27,200 --> 01:04:27,480
Speaker 9: and she.

1205
01:04:27,480 --> 01:04:29,000
Speaker 6: Can't put emotional in. There's too long.

1206
01:04:29,520 --> 01:04:33,720
Speaker 9: I like that up date. We discussed the situation one

1207
01:04:33,760 --> 01:04:36,600
Speaker 9: on one and he agreed that he was very much

1208
01:04:36,760 --> 01:04:39,240
Speaker 9: in the admit in the midst of an emotional affair.

1209
01:04:39,960 --> 01:04:46,439
Speaker 9: Wait what so he's okay, he's aware, he's aware. Okay, there, yep,

1210
01:04:46,960 --> 01:04:48,960
Speaker 9: But Clay that it just felt good to have attention

1211
01:04:49,040 --> 01:04:52,760
Speaker 9: from someone at work. Yes, that's what's been happening. He

1212
01:04:52,920 --> 01:04:55,680
Speaker 9: likes having these conversations with her. Yeah, and he's been

1213
01:04:55,760 --> 01:04:58,720
Speaker 9: so happy since she's been there because he's given her,

1214
01:04:58,800 --> 01:05:02,480
Speaker 9: he's given or she's given in him all these emotions. Yeah,

1215
01:05:02,560 --> 01:05:06,439
Speaker 9: all these all this attention. So he does understand feelings. Well,

1216
01:05:06,480 --> 01:05:08,800
Speaker 9: now we're in emotional cheating. Yeah, there we are. We've

1217
01:05:08,880 --> 01:05:13,520
Speaker 9: gotten total line into it. Foot is uh across the line?

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01:05:13,800 --> 01:05:17,200
Speaker 9: You said it might be good to hear perspectives from

1219
01:05:17,280 --> 01:05:19,320
Speaker 9: some of his co workers, so I reached out to

1220
01:05:19,320 --> 01:05:21,320
Speaker 9: two of them and I asked what they thought of

1221
01:05:21,400 --> 01:05:25,040
Speaker 9: the relationship. One co worker said it was obvious what

1222
01:05:25,080 --> 01:05:27,120
Speaker 9: was happening, and they didn't want to get involved because

1223
01:05:27,160 --> 01:05:28,840
Speaker 9: they didn't want to be the one to break the

1224
01:05:28,880 --> 01:05:36,360
Speaker 9: news to me. Oh, if other people, if other people

1225
01:05:36,800 --> 01:05:39,680
Speaker 9: think that it's emotional, like you see it every day, right,

1226
01:05:40,280 --> 01:05:41,120
Speaker 9: thinks you know.

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Speaker 8: I'm confused though, because if he's already saying like, yeah,

1228
01:05:44,400 --> 01:05:46,840
Speaker 8: I emotionally cheated, maybe it'd be good to get the

1229
01:05:46,920 --> 01:05:48,400
Speaker 8: perspective from other coworkers.

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01:05:48,440 --> 01:05:50,920
Speaker 9: And then the other coworkers are like, yeaeah, emotionally cheated.

1231
01:05:51,040 --> 01:05:56,080
Speaker 9: What like, what is the reason? Yeah, like I emotionally cheated.

1232
01:05:56,080 --> 01:05:58,479
Speaker 9: But just in case you want for the proof, yeah,

1233
01:05:59,440 --> 01:05:59,880
Speaker 9: there you go.

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01:06:00,480 --> 01:06:00,840
Speaker 2: Yeah.

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01:06:01,320 --> 01:06:04,480
Speaker 9: Another coworker said that he witnessed some of the conversations

1236
01:06:04,520 --> 01:06:07,080
Speaker 9: and this is just the way people in the office chat.

1237
01:06:07,600 --> 01:06:10,800
Speaker 9: What what kind of office do you get? A restaurant?

1238
01:06:12,000 --> 01:06:15,840
Speaker 9: Is a Restaurant's true, but it sounds like it's in office. Yeah,

1239
01:06:16,040 --> 01:06:16,920
Speaker 9: it doesn't sound right.

1240
01:06:17,480 --> 01:06:18,880
Speaker 6: Hey, how's your sex life going?

1241
01:06:19,400 --> 01:06:20,280
Speaker 4: Yeah?

1242
01:06:20,520 --> 01:06:23,560
Speaker 9: No, I could see that happening at my Starbucks. Yeah,

1243
01:06:23,600 --> 01:06:26,040
Speaker 9: with like younger people. Yeah that is I was already

1244
01:06:26,080 --> 01:06:28,680
Speaker 9: say a twenty four year old yeah, like I feel like, okay,

1245
01:06:28,720 --> 01:06:30,640
Speaker 9: twenty four I could see her talking about that stuff

1246
01:06:30,680 --> 01:06:33,840
Speaker 9: around her other twenty four year old coworkers, but now

1247
01:06:33,960 --> 01:06:38,320
Speaker 9: with your thirty six year old coworker. No, no, no,

1248
01:06:39,920 --> 01:06:42,680
Speaker 9: My fiance clung to that last opinion. He's like, let's

1249
01:06:42,720 --> 01:06:45,400
Speaker 9: ignore the first guy. Let's just look at this one.

1250
01:06:45,400 --> 01:06:48,000
Speaker 9: It's just sound is it's how he's in the office. No,

1251
01:06:48,080 --> 01:06:50,880
Speaker 9: I also told you it was. But actually, let's take

1252
01:06:50,920 --> 01:06:57,880
Speaker 9: about welcome back. Yeah. So we had the emotional affair

1253
01:06:58,080 --> 01:07:01,720
Speaker 9: conversation and started making is again. So we had the

1254
01:07:01,760 --> 01:07:05,400
Speaker 9: emotional fair conversation all over again. He said this is

1255
01:07:05,440 --> 01:07:07,919
Speaker 9: too emotionally charged for him to make a decision right now.

1256
01:07:08,400 --> 01:07:10,640
Speaker 9: I told him that I do not lack that capacity.

1257
01:07:10,760 --> 01:07:14,040
Speaker 9: So he gets twenty four hours to sort out his

1258
01:07:14,120 --> 01:07:17,080
Speaker 9: priorities and have a heart to heart with me. Otherwise

1259
01:07:17,120 --> 01:07:20,320
Speaker 9: he can go live with his work wife. Period. And

1260
01:07:20,360 --> 01:07:22,480
Speaker 9: there's an update. But yeah, I think that's.

1261
01:07:22,560 --> 01:07:22,760
Speaker 4: Yeah.

1262
01:07:23,400 --> 01:07:25,680
Speaker 9: She's like, I don't care man, standing her ground. I

1263
01:07:25,720 --> 01:07:27,600
Speaker 9: love that He's like, I don't have the emotional capacity

1264
01:07:27,600 --> 01:07:32,360
Speaker 9: for this, and she's like, why do is figure it out? Yeah? Yeah,

1265
01:07:32,440 --> 01:07:36,520
Speaker 9: she's handling it well, but it really sucks. He's definitely

1266
01:07:36,640 --> 01:07:38,120
Speaker 9: like the fact that he said he was having an

1267
01:07:38,120 --> 01:07:39,680
Speaker 9: emotional afair and then when I'm.

1268
01:07:39,560 --> 01:07:42,520
Speaker 8: So confused about that because he's he said it, but

1269
01:07:42,600 --> 01:07:44,720
Speaker 8: now he's like trying to prove it wrong.

1270
01:07:44,800 --> 01:07:48,480
Speaker 9: Yeah, he's like, I know I admitted guilt. Yeah, but

1271
01:07:49,040 --> 01:07:53,400
Speaker 9: let's have the jury decide I'm wrong. Maybe I don't know,

1272
01:07:53,520 --> 01:07:56,080
Speaker 9: Maybe I don't know. Yeah, this is a stupid little

1273
01:07:56,200 --> 01:08:00,440
Speaker 9: man and just a man. Sophia Cologne says to emotionally

1274
01:08:00,520 --> 01:08:03,840
Speaker 9: charged for him, Boy, you cheated. Yeah. Yeah, he's like

1275
01:08:04,000 --> 01:08:09,680
Speaker 9: emotionally cheated too. Emotionally your emotions man, Yeah, literally, No,

1276
01:08:09,800 --> 01:08:12,480
Speaker 9: It's so funny that he's like for me to figure,

1277
01:08:12,720 --> 01:08:15,120
Speaker 9: like to make a decision. What decision are you making?

1278
01:08:15,520 --> 01:08:17,479
Speaker 9: This is all on op. She gets to decide whether

1279
01:08:17,520 --> 01:08:21,040
Speaker 9: or not she's gonna leave you? Yeah, what like, are

1280
01:08:21,040 --> 01:08:23,920
Speaker 9: we still trying to decide if it's emotional? Yeah, that's

1281
01:08:23,960 --> 01:08:26,679
Speaker 9: what he was like to make a decision right now,

1282
01:08:26,760 --> 01:08:29,599
Speaker 9: whether or not. Yeah, it's like I'm really not sure.

1283
01:08:29,960 --> 01:08:32,280
Speaker 9: I'm really not sure. Oh my gosh. But there is

1284
01:08:32,320 --> 01:08:35,800
Speaker 9: an update. I sent him this post while he was

1285
01:08:35,840 --> 01:08:39,200
Speaker 9: at work. He read the comments and took them to heart.

1286
01:08:39,960 --> 01:08:43,400
Speaker 9: My fiance came home from work with flowers, crying heavily.

1287
01:08:43,800 --> 01:08:47,120
Speaker 9: Maybe he's just an emotional guy. I told him that

1288
01:08:47,160 --> 01:08:49,479
Speaker 9: this woman would try to speak with him behind my back,

1289
01:08:49,600 --> 01:08:55,320
Speaker 9: and she did. We try to speak with him. Yeah,

1290
01:08:55,360 --> 01:08:57,760
Speaker 9: he realized everything I told him and what he read

1291
01:08:57,800 --> 01:09:01,400
Speaker 9: here was true. He apologized for not acknowledging my feelings.

1292
01:09:01,479 --> 01:09:04,000
Speaker 9: He said that I'm the greatest thing that had happened

1293
01:09:04,000 --> 01:09:06,439
Speaker 9: to him and he doesn't want to lose me over

1294
01:09:06,479 --> 01:09:09,719
Speaker 9: the situation. He will be calling a therapist next week

1295
01:09:09,800 --> 01:09:12,760
Speaker 9: for him to begin private sessions. We will move to

1296
01:09:12,840 --> 01:09:15,400
Speaker 9: couple's therapy from that point. We haven't set a date

1297
01:09:15,439 --> 01:09:18,080
Speaker 9: for the wedding, so we will continue the engagement without

1298
01:09:18,160 --> 01:09:23,479
Speaker 9: rushing anything. By the way, you should rush and join

1299
01:09:23,560 --> 01:09:25,720
Speaker 9: our lives every week to at three pm PST. Just

1300
01:09:25,760 --> 01:09:32,000
Speaker 9: tap her profile. Beautiful, beautiful. Thank you so much everyone

1301
01:09:32,040 --> 01:09:34,719
Speaker 9: for your advice. It was I was able to feel

1302
01:09:34,720 --> 01:09:37,240
Speaker 9: support from this community that I wasn't getting elsewhere. I

1303
01:09:37,280 --> 01:09:40,439
Speaker 9: am eternally grateful and I have hope that he will

1304
01:09:40,479 --> 01:09:45,639
Speaker 9: be able to turn this situation around. I think there

1305
01:09:45,720 --> 01:09:49,160
Speaker 9: is a chance, I agree with therapy that he could

1306
01:09:49,200 --> 01:09:52,080
Speaker 9: turn the situation around. Yes, but do not get married

1307
01:09:53,120 --> 01:09:55,479
Speaker 9: like a Ley's right now. Yeah, oh yeah, not right now.

1308
01:09:55,520 --> 01:09:57,400
Speaker 9: Because we've had a lot of stories where like people

1309
01:09:57,479 --> 01:10:01,960
Speaker 9: go through these big, like you know, the situation, big

1310
01:10:02,000 --> 01:10:04,320
Speaker 9: problems in the relationship, and then they just get married

1311
01:10:04,360 --> 01:10:06,599
Speaker 9: and they're like, oh, it's banding. We'll fix it. It'll

1312
01:10:06,600 --> 01:10:12,519
Speaker 9: fix it. But I definitely definitely push it far for sure,

1313
01:10:12,800 --> 01:10:15,679
Speaker 9: far off. Figure out your problem. Yeah, let it settle,

1314
01:10:15,920 --> 01:10:19,040
Speaker 9: live without problems again. Yeah, and then maybe think about

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Speaker 9: it again. And then once you're happy and he's gone

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Speaker 9: to therapy for his emotions.

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Speaker 6: Sam's golden rule is stay together without two without a

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Speaker 6: conversation breaking up for two years.

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Speaker 9: Yeah, before getting before getting married, because marriage is a

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Speaker 9: huge commitment.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 9: Absolutely, that makes a lot of sense. Yeah, yeay, but

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Speaker 9: that is the end of that story and I have

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Speaker 9: this stream. But before we end Sebastian Satching, thank you

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Speaker 9: for the eleven seventy one the mad We need thirty

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Speaker 9: more minutes.

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Speaker 6: Also, thank you making up as you go for the

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Speaker 6: uh sticker.

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Speaker 4: Thank you for the sticker.

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Speaker 9: Yeah, I wish we could like know what the sippers

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Speaker 9: look like.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, this was pretty cool. It looks like this.

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Speaker 9: Oh, it's like like little glasses. It's like a glasses

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Speaker 9: guy holding a bunch of glasses. It's like the glasses

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Speaker 9: are falling on him. Oh, I see, I like it.

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Speaker 9: I like he seems like a cool guy. He's like

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Speaker 9: a cool guy. He wouldn't emotionally cheat on you. He

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Speaker 9: would not, or you wouldn't see it because he has

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Speaker 9: glasses on, no emotions. But that is the end of

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Speaker 9: this stream, So if you love us, make sure to subscribe.

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Speaker 9: We love you and Santa mar