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Speaker 1: Fred Show is on. It's Stay or Go.

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Speaker 2: Diego is here, Diego? Good morning, Good morning, Diego. So

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Speaker 2: it's group therapy and you get what you pay for,

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Speaker 2: which in this case it's free. So just keep that

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Speaker 2: in mind before you make any like life altering decisions.

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Speaker 2: But what's going on with this is your girlfriend we're

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Speaker 2: talking about today?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's right.

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Speaker 1: So what's going on?

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Speaker 3: Well, me and my girlfriend have been together for like

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Speaker 3: two years, and honestly, I've been contemplating proposing.

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Speaker 2: Okay, wow, you want to do that? You want to

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Speaker 2: do that? Is that the whole? Is that the whole?

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Speaker 4: Call?

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Speaker 2: Well no, I say, you know, you can live a

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Speaker 2: very nice life without somebody else. But no, that's not

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Speaker 2: that's not the dilemma. Right, you're thinking about proposing. I'm

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Speaker 2: very happy for you that you found someone. Yes, okay,

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Speaker 2: well yeah.

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Speaker 3: But the thing is I'm Mexican and my parents they

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Speaker 3: don't really speak English, and my older sisters don't really

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Speaker 3: speak English either.

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Speaker 5: So I was having a conversation.

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Speaker 3: With my girlfriend, the one I'm thinking about proposing to,

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Speaker 3: and not the other.

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Speaker 2: Girlfriend, right, yeah, as opposed to the others. Yeah, I

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Speaker 2: can see how this is a dilemma. Already. So you're

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Speaker 2: talking to your girlfriend about this.

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Speaker 3: Well, I was encouraging her to learn Spanish so she

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Speaker 3: can like communicate with my family and you know, if

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Speaker 3: when we take trips to Mexico in the future that

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Speaker 3: I'm thinking of, you know, that she would be able

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Speaker 3: to to talk to my you know, my mom and

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Speaker 3: and and.

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Speaker 1: All of that.

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Speaker 3: But she said no, like she wasn't even open to

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Speaker 3: it at all, Like she didn't say, oh, uh maybe,

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Speaker 3: or or yeah, I could you know, learn a little bit,

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Speaker 3: Like she was just like, no, she doesn't have time

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Speaker 3: to learn another language, and you know, just saying that

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Speaker 3: my family should be, you know, able to learn English

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Speaker 3: as well, like you know, I've learned English.

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Speaker 2: So so that's her solution. Her thing is, I realize

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Speaker 2: I'm potentially marrying into a family who speaks another language primarily.

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Speaker 2: And her official position is I have no interest in

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Speaker 2: ever understanding anything they're saying about because I honestly, selfishly

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Speaker 2: I think I would want to learn whatever language as

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Speaker 2: best as I could, so I could realize, no, if

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Speaker 2: you were talking about me, yes, number one, I want

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Speaker 2: to know if I'm sitting at the table, you know,

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Speaker 2: and y'all saying like this dude is a chump, and

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Speaker 2: I don't know why you're marrying him, and look, you

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Speaker 2: don't even speak our language. And then then what I

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Speaker 2: would love to be able to do in my fantasy

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Speaker 2: is go row rare country, oh you know, and then

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Speaker 2: and then tell them what I think. But look at

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Speaker 2: this Jason Brown. I mean he's been on dua lipa

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Speaker 2: now for what a year?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? Well more than that. I started in twenty twenty, okay,

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Speaker 1: so four five years five?

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Speaker 6: Have you ever broken your streak?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, there's some freezing, is like if I'm too any

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Speaker 3: created one night, But that's okay, it doesn't.

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Speaker 2: You've learned a lot, like you're really really good. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: it wouldn't be that hard for this woman to learn

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Speaker 2: some I mean, I think it would be endearing if

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Speaker 2: she'd learn some stuff. I mean, I don't think you're

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Speaker 2: asking her to be fluent, are you?

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Speaker 1: No?

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Speaker 3: I mean, and and yeah, that's that's how I feel.

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Speaker 3: I mean, honestly, I'm just turned off by her response.

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Speaker 3: And that's when I started questioning thing. I don't know

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Speaker 3: if I'm asking too much here, just learning something not

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Speaker 7: Of course, and my like, for example, my stepdad did

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Speaker 7: not speak any Polish, but my mom is Polish. My

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Speaker 7: grandma doesn't say anything in English besides hello.

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Speaker 6: So when when she came here, I.

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Speaker 7: Mean grandma saying hello, so like it's the cutest thing ever.

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Speaker 7: But like when she was here, when she would come visit,

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Speaker 7: I was like, he didn't do well, but he tried.

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Speaker 1: Was the point?

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Speaker 2: Yes, right, And it probably went a long way to

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Speaker 7: Plus, like, if you guys have kids, I'm curious, diego,

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Speaker 6: I'm assuming yes, But what do you guys want to do?

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Speaker 1: Oh?

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Speaker 5: Absolutely, I mean I we haven't talked about kids really

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Speaker 5: to be honest, but I obviously would want any children, yeah,

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Speaker 5: to be able to speak both languages.

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Speaker 2: Here, I would think, and that would look good not

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Speaker 2: only to your family the effort at least, but then

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Speaker 2: also the buy in on your culture and your upbringing

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Speaker 2: have at some point, because you know, again, what if

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Speaker 2: they're looking at mom and Mom's like I don't know

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Speaker 2: is their incentive to learn?

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Speaker 8: You know?

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Speaker 2: If Mom's at least trying. I just I feel like

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Speaker 2: I feel like this is something that's not that hard

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Speaker 2: to say. I'll try, right, you know, Like again, no

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Speaker 2: one's asking you to be a Spanish professor in a

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Speaker 2: year or something. You know, no one's asking you to

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Speaker 2: like go work at Telemoon, deliver the news every night

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Speaker 2: or whatever to to you know, native Spanish speakers, Like

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Speaker 2: I don't know, dieg, let me take some phone calls

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Speaker 2: on this, and I would love to know what people

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Speaker 2: have to say if they've been through this before.

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Speaker 1: But I don't know what.

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Speaker 2: I'm just going around the room here, I gotta say,

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Speaker 2: do we all agree? Like I think it's kind of

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Speaker 6: I think so.

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Speaker 7: And another thing too, is like not only like great

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Speaker 7: is it effort, but like I feel like there's no

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Speaker 7: there's nothing bat will come out of this for learning

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Speaker 7: another language. Relli's trying to and like the only thing

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Speaker 7: I would say on the flip side is maybe because

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Speaker 6: Shy because I'm gonna say words wrong.

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Speaker 7: Right, So if I conversate with you and you know

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Speaker 7: you're obviously flu when you're saying this, I might feel

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Speaker 7: she still says words wrong.

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Speaker 1: And that's okay.

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Speaker 2: You are Polish in Mexican, correct, And I mean, and

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Speaker 2: I don't want to tell you story, but I would

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Speaker 2: say that the Polish aspect of your life was more

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Speaker 2: embraced simply because that was the presence, right, because your

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Speaker 6: So I only grew up with my mother right then,

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Speaker 2: Was sort of the emphasis, right, was the Polish learning

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Speaker 2: and then you wind up marrying into in a Hispanic family.

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Speaker 2: So now it's like, and I know, that you have

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Speaker 2: some insecurity about this too, don't you like, Cause it's like, well,

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Speaker 2: this is part of me, but I don't really know

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Speaker 2: anything about it and I'm trying to learn. But yet

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Speaker 2: these people this is like what they know. And so yeah,

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Speaker 7: Yeah, well, thank you for acknowledging that, because that is

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Speaker 7: like a huge thing for me personally as as a

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Speaker 7: here who don't speak Spanish because they weren't taught that

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Speaker 7: whatever reason that might be, right, Your parents didn't want

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Speaker 7: to teach you, and they had their reasons.

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Speaker 6: So I can't blame a lot of people.

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Speaker 7: But a lot of times it's like your own community too,

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Speaker 7: coming after you, right, it's like, oh, you're an Osamo kid.

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Speaker 7: It's like, yeah, I am. Because I wasn't taught that

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Speaker 7: So as an adult, you know, what is in my

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Speaker 7: control is picking up Dualipa like Jason, yeah, and learning

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Speaker 7: you know, And I was always surrounded by Spanish speakers

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Speaker 7: I know I'm lucky for but I still struggle with it.

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Speaker 2: I want to be the odd person out either. I mean,

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Speaker 2: let's just okay, So let's say this woman Diego doesn't

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Speaker 2: I wouldn't want to be sitting in the room and

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Speaker 1: I don't know that.

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Speaker 2: So even if it's selfish, I guess I would make

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Speaker 2: the effort so that I wasn't shunned. But let me

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Speaker 2: take some calls Diego. I have the radio on a

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Speaker 2: good luck thanks for calling dump her. Yeah, I think

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Speaker 2: she's I don't like it. It seems very selfish. I mean, again,

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Speaker 2: you're not asking her. It's not like you're saying I

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Speaker 2: need you to go. I need you to be fluent,

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Speaker 2: I need you to know past participle, and I need

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Speaker 2: and the yeah, because again, I took Spanish for twelve years,

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Speaker 2: right now. Do not ask me what happened yesterday. Don't

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Speaker 2: ask me what's gonna happen tomorrow. Don't do that.

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Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I don't know what used to happen. What I know

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Speaker 2: is what's right in front of me.

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Speaker 8: Do you not?

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Speaker 1: No, don't ask me that. Hello, Bridges, Bridget, how you

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Speaker 1: doing it?

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Speaker 2: Is?

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Speaker 4: For good morning?

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Speaker 2: Let me go, thanks for calling, and thank you so

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Speaker 2: Diego just called. If you just tuning in, And he's

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Speaker 2: thinking about marrying this woman, but his whole family speaks

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Speaker 2: Spanish primarily, and he's like, hey, would you would you

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Speaker 2: learn some words so maybe you can, I don't know,

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Speaker 2: make them feel comfortable, make them feel like you care

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Speaker 1: And she said, no, I won't do it. What do

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I think it's time to go. When somebody shows

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Speaker 4: put in or not put in. Believe them the first time.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, what I've seen videos on TikTok of like

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Speaker 1: I think it really goes along.

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Speaker 4: The way to show that you care about somebody's family. Yes,

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Speaker 4: he's not asking for much, he's asking just to try.

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Speaker 4: Like you said, he's not asking for Telemundo level speaking, no,

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Speaker 1: I agree. Thank you, Richie, have a great day. Thanks

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Speaker 7: And also, did you like someone kind of this in

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Speaker 7: And I thought it was a valid point. It's like, yeah,

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Speaker 7: I think it's all important if you're gonna marry to

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Speaker 2: Mah tech Well, and we know people well Vellahamine didn't

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Speaker 2: good morning? Thanks for Colin. What do you think?

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Speaker 9: Well, I think you know, as a Mexican, you needs

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Speaker 9: it's just kind of making a little effort. I just said,

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Speaker 4: I'm serious.

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Speaker 1: And the whole like they should learned English stuff.

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Speaker 9: It's like I know, and I bet she's ditting all

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Speaker 2: Language she likes some of it and I like the

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Speaker 6: I think it's exactly.

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Speaker 1: It's for me.

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Speaker 2: It's not even the fact that she didn't come to

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Speaker 2: thank you so much for Colin have a great day.

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Speaker 2: That's about as far as I can go with that, toy, Hello, toy,

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Speaker 2: We're on the same page here, Like why the hard

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Speaker 1: Like not even let me think about that?

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Speaker 10: Right?

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Speaker 11: And I teach in a primary a school where people

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Speaker 11: And so it's so bizarre that you would just be

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I still think it's asking for much. Thank you, Tory,

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Speaker 2: have a great day, you too, Glad you called. Thank

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Speaker 2: you for listening. Miguel, good morning, Good morning. How I

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Speaker 2: love your shoe, Hey man, thank you so much, you say, go.

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Speaker 8: Yeah, so, I mean I'm in the same song of relationship.

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Speaker 8: it's the effort that you want to put in the relationship.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, hard.

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Speaker 8: No, I don't want to put any effort into it

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't think it's that hard. Thank you.

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Speaker 2: Miguel. Have a great day and good for her. Yes, yeah,

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Speaker 2: take care. Hey, Liz, Hi Lives good morning, Hi, good morning, Hey,

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Speaker 2: so you've been this has happened to you, like this

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Speaker 4: Yes?

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Speaker 9: I dated someone for a couple of years.

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Speaker 12: He did not want to learn any Spanish at all,

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Speaker 9: It strained our relationship my parents.

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Speaker 12: I'm Mexican, my parents speak Spanish as a first language,

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Speaker 2: And it's like, you can't learn anything, like you can't

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Speaker 12: Yeah, he just didn't want to learn. So I'm like,

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Speaker 12: you know what, this is not gonna work. You're not

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Speaker 2: I agree with you. Thank you, Liz, have a good day. Okay,

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Speaker 2: now this is going to be fun. One more. Anna.

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Speaker 10: I'm calling radio show.

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Speaker 2: Well oh my gosh, I aim higher call a better one. No,

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Speaker 2: So you know you know Polish because of somebody.

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Speaker 10: Well, no, well let me okay, let me elaborate. So

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Speaker 10: His other grandmother only speaks Polish. You cannot understand a

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Speaker 2: See, this is how it should be. It's just so sweet.

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Speaker 2: She's trying. You're trying, and again, no one's asking you

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Speaker 1: Say something to her.

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Speaker 7: Let's see about Joan.

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Speaker 10: I'm trying a complete blank right now.

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Speaker 6: No, Anna, you know you're a bat jaw. You know

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Speaker 2: You're about jes Yes, don't call her that.

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Speaker 10: She wants him to call her yes, and and he

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