WEBVTT - Second Cup: Reflect before you connect

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning,

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<v Speaker 1>This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's

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<v Speaker 1>tip is that before you get together with a friend

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<v Speaker 1>or relative, take a moment to reflect on what's going

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<v Speaker 1>on for them. Think of any new developments in your

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<v Speaker 1>life that they might find interesting. That way, you can

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<v Speaker 1>be ready for a meaningful connection. Most people, I mean

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<v Speaker 1>I hope, plan for work meetings and have a clear

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<v Speaker 1>agenda and purpose for the meetings they have convened. We

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<v Speaker 1>do this so we get things done effectively and don't

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<v Speaker 1>waste people's time. And I actually think there is a

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<v Speaker 1>lot to be said for prepping for social get togethers too.

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<v Speaker 1>As with a work meeting, forethought can make a personal

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<v Speaker 1>gathering much more meaningful. Well, you probably don't want to

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<v Speaker 1>circulate an agenda in advance of a lunch date with friends.

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<v Speaker 1>It is wise to think through what's going on in

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<v Speaker 1>the lives of the people you are going to be seeing,

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<v Speaker 1>and what's going on in your own life that you

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<v Speaker 1>want to share and maybe get their input on. Did

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<v Speaker 1>you last see your friends before or after you've found

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<v Speaker 1>out that you aren't moving for your spouse's job. If

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<v Speaker 1>it was before. Be sure to update them. Have you

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<v Speaker 1>told them about the rowing class you just started in

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<v Speaker 1>are loving and that you think they might want to

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<v Speaker 1>check out. Think through any topics in your life that

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<v Speaker 1>your friends might find interesting. Also reflect on topics in

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<v Speaker 1>your friend's lives that you want to follow up on.

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<v Speaker 1>Whatever happened with that renovation project your friend was considering?

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<v Speaker 1>How is your other friend's mom settling into the retirement home.

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<v Speaker 1>Is your friend with the green thumb started on her

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<v Speaker 1>vegetable garden?

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<v Speaker 2>Yet? You can even write yourself a note about what

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<v Speaker 2>you want to converse about, Whether in a paper calendar

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<v Speaker 2>or in a digital calendar, you can leave yourself a

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<v Speaker 2>note like any college news for Jack or moms move

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<v Speaker 2>to the retirement home, or job search progress, Especially when

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<v Speaker 2>we're feeling stretched going from one thing to another, Spending

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<v Speaker 2>just a little time, I mean even just five minutes

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<v Speaker 2>reflecting before you connect can make a big difference in

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<v Speaker 2>how deep those connections actually are. When you have prioritized

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<v Speaker 2>time for relationships in your busy life, taking the extra

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<v Speaker 2>few minutes to prep can make your time to gather

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<v Speaker 2>even more satisfying than it already is. In the meantime,

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<v Speaker 2>this is Laura, thanks for listening, and here's to making

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<v Speaker 2>the most of our time. Thanks for listening to Before Breakfast.

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<v Speaker 2>If you've got questions, ideas, or feedback, you can reach

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<v Speaker 2>me at Laura at Laura vandercam dot com. Before Breakfast

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