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Speaker 1: First date of follow up powered by the Advocates Injury

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Speaker 2: Allegra is on the phone today for a first date

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Speaker 2: follow up and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Gary.

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Speaker 2: So in a few minutes, we're gonna call him and

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Speaker 2: see if you'll tell us why he's a ghostinger and

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Speaker 2: maybe get her another date. But first, Allegra, how long

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Speaker 2: has it been since you heard from Gary?

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Speaker 3: It has been five days?

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Speaker 2: Who's keeping tracker?

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Speaker 1: You know anything? Five Jay's on the dot? What was

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Speaker 1: your last interaction with him?

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Speaker 4: Like?

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Speaker 5: Uh, it was great, Like he asked me to maybe

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Speaker 5: go on a second date and I was looking for that,

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Speaker 5: just even a text from him, And yeah, now's a

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Speaker 5: fifth day. I've been feeling I haven't been sleeping. I

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Speaker 5: know that's embarrassing, but I just really liked.

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Speaker 3: Him a lot.

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Speaker 2: Have you tried to reach out to him?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I sent, like, I sent three texts and I

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Speaker 5: think that's about it. Like, I'm not gonna push it anymore.

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Speaker 2: What are you saying in the text? Are you just

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Speaker 2: like hey, yeah, I'm.

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Speaker 5: Just like hey, I had a great time. And then

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Speaker 5: the other one was like hope you're doing well. Third

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Speaker 5: one was like, hey, do you want to go to

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Speaker 5: six Flags together or something?

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Speaker 1: Okay, well let's try to figure it out. Why don't

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Speaker 1: you tell us about your date.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, so we had a picnic at the park and

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Speaker 5: we went to a market, got some sandwiches, and I

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Speaker 5: brought Monopoly.

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Speaker 2: That was fun.

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Speaker 5: We went to go see a movie after so I

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Speaker 5: thought like things were going really well.

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Speaker 3: There was chemistry, in my opinion.

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Speaker 5: We just talked about like where we went to school,

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Speaker 5: like what our hobbies are, and I feel like I

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Speaker 5: really liked how quirky he was and and that like

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Speaker 5: he had he was interested in, like reptiles, and I

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Speaker 5: really tried to engage with him and telling how him

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Speaker 5: how my dad also has like like esoteric interests.

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Speaker 3: And I was really nervous, honestly.

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Speaker 5: So I don't I'm afraid if I like messed up

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Speaker 5: or anything, But I was just really anxious made be

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Speaker 5: I like got something out of the blue or made

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Speaker 5: him feel bad about liking reptiles.

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Speaker 2: I'm not sure do you remember anything awkward that you

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Speaker 2: might have said?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, well, I think he told me before like on

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Speaker 5: his previous relationship. He uh, he cheated on his last girlfriend,

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Speaker 5: and so I kind of maybe said like, yeah, like

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Speaker 5: that wasn't a good thing to do, Like maybe I

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Speaker 5: wasn't supportive to him.

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Speaker 1: You know, it's a pretty bold thing to come out

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Speaker 1: on a first date they cheated on their last person.

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Speaker 1: I sent you I have a track record of cheating

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Speaker 1: in my relationship.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I was like, you probably don't want to be

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Speaker 2: supportive of that. I think it's okay to say that

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Speaker 2: that was a bad decision.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, So I don't know what's happened since. And yeah,

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Speaker 3: we've been texting for two weeks on it from a

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Speaker 3: dating app.

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Speaker 5: So we were like, we've already gone through the first

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Speaker 5: stages of like ice breakers.

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Speaker 3: So that's why we died pretty deep that day.

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Speaker 2: Okay, well we'll play a song come Back, and then

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Speaker 2: call him and see if he'll tell us why he's

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Speaker 2: ghosting you and maybe get you another date. Okay, thank

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Speaker 2: you so much. All Right, well play song come Back,

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Speaker 2: get your first Day follow up next. Right in the

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Speaker 2: middle of today's first Day follow up, And if you're

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Speaker 2: just joining us, Allegra is on the phone, and Allegra

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Speaker 2: is getting ghosted by a guy named Gary, and we're

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Speaker 2: about to call him and see Ifiel tell us why

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Speaker 2: he's ghostinger and see if we can get her another date.

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Speaker 2: But first, Allegra, why don't you catch everybody up on

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Speaker 2: your situation?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, it's been five days since he texted me, and

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Speaker 5: I thought our first date went amazing.

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Speaker 3: Maybe I heard his feelings on something that was personal

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Speaker 3: and yeah, I'm just curious to see like what he's

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Speaker 3: up to. It's been a while.

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Speaker 2: You ready? Yeah, okay, here we go. Well, Hi, man,

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Speaker 2: I speak to Gary please. Yeah, this is Gary, Gary.

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Speaker 1: How are you?

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Speaker 2: My name is Jewbel. I'm calling from a radio show.

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Speaker 2: It's called the Jubeil Show.

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Speaker 1: Hi Gary, I'm Nina also on the show.

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Speaker 2: Hi, I'm Victoria.

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Speaker 4: Hi everyone, how are you? I'm good? What's going on?

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Speaker 2: Do you ever listen to the radio show?

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Speaker 5: Doll?

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Speaker 4: Yeah? I have?

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Speaker 2: Okay? Great? Have you ever heard a first date follow

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Speaker 2: up before?

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Speaker 4: Yes? I have?

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Speaker 2: Perfect. Well, then you know that that's the segment that

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Speaker 2: we do where if you go on a date with

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Speaker 2: someone and then end up ghosting them, they can email

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Speaker 2: us to get you on the phone and ask why

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Speaker 2: you're ghosting them.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, that's so.

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Speaker 2: We got an email about you, Gary. Oh did you Yes,

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Speaker 2: we did any idea who would email us and say

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Speaker 2: that you're ghosting him?

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Speaker 4: I can think of one person.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, does it start with an a?

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Speaker 4: Did it with agra?

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Speaker 2: Yes? She emailed us. We talked to her. She told

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Speaker 2: us about your date. She said she really liked but

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Speaker 2: would you mind telling us?

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Speaker 4: Sure? Well, did she tell you about the date?

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Speaker 2: She did? She said it was good. She said, you

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Speaker 2: guys went to like to a park and then you

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Speaker 2: like reptiles. Yeah, she said, you guys talked about a

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Speaker 2: bunch of stuff, including the fact that you like reptiles,

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Speaker 2: and she said it was a really good date.

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Speaker 4: Yeah. We went to a I guess you could call

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Speaker 4: it a park, but it was actually a graveyard.

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Speaker 5: What.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, she laid out a picnic blanket over just you know,

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Speaker 4: like a random person's grave, and then she wanted us

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Speaker 1: Okay, so you guys met at the graveyard. She took

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Speaker 1: you to the graveyard, took her to the graveyard. How

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Speaker 4: Well, she said she wanted to have a picnic, and

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Speaker 4: She said was going to be a great spot for

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Speaker 4: that brought me to a graveyard. I kind of thought

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Speaker 4: we were walking through the graveyard to go to the

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Speaker 4: other side. But no, no, it was like full picnic

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Speaker 4: basket on top of someone, you know, someone who is decomposing.

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Speaker 2: You didn't say anything about that, like, hey, we go

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Speaker 4: I was, I mean, I was shocked, frankly, and I

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Speaker 4: was I was hungry, so I was too hungry. The

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Speaker 4: just sort of in shock. It just felt like you know,

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Speaker 1: Did she address the fact that you guys were at

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Speaker 1: a graveyard while she was talking to you and you

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Speaker 4: Oh? Yeah, she loved it. She thought it was fantastic,

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Speaker 4: isn't It's so cool that this is here and that

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Speaker 2: My mom's like thatyard. She totally would.

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Speaker 1: My mom loves going to different graveyards and just celebrating

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Speaker 2: I don't think that's what they were doing. I mean,

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Speaker 1: Maybe she's got a fascination with it too.

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Speaker 4: You know. I thought maybe it was someone that she loved.

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Speaker 4: But then she started talking about how she, you know,

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Speaker 2: Do the same thing, like have picnics at the graveyard.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and sometimes she goes by herself, she said. Sometimes

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Speaker 1: My mom always says that the whole idea is that

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Speaker 1: for me, I would be very creeped out in a graveyard.

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Speaker 1: I'm just wondering if her mentality is similar to my mother's,

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Speaker 4: It was. If we weren't at a graveyard, it was

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Speaker 4: just a picnic in a park, but it was on

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Speaker 2: Okay, Well, allgo felt differently. She thought it was great.

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Speaker 4: Oh I know, yeah, she made that very clear. It's

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Speaker 4: like it felt like maybe she was. At one point

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Speaker 4: I was like, is this is? Is she wanting to

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Speaker 2: Okay? Yeah, come over here back behind the behind this building. Well,

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Speaker 2: Gary Allegra is on the phone listening and wants to

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Speaker 2: talk to you.

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Speaker 4: Oh yeah, that's right, that's right. I forgot that. She

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Speaker 4: that that's what you do. She's right there on the phone.

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Speaker 4: Uh high Allegra.

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Speaker 3: Gary, you're a buyer. You you loved it?

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Speaker 4: So I I was uncomfortable when you kept saying do

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Speaker 4: you do you love it? Isn't this great? Don't you

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Speaker 4: love it? And I said yeah, like that you think

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Speaker 4: that's how somebody says yeah when they're excited about something.

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Speaker 5: Well, you could be a little more honest because I

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Speaker 5: didn't get the cue.

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Speaker 3: Once a cheater, always a cheer.

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Speaker 2: I know you're gonna cheater.

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Speaker 4: How did I what?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: You should feel guilty, like still to this day. So yeah,

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Speaker 3: you told me what are you talking about? You told

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Speaker 3: me that cheer class relationship?

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Speaker 4: Absolutely not. I don't know what are you talk this?

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Speaker 4: I never said that plastic cheater mode.

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Speaker 3: Honestly, I don't even know who you are. Gary. I

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Speaker 3: wish I never met you.

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Speaker 2: Well, don't say that too quickly, Gary, would you like

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Speaker 2: another date with a legro? We'll pay for it.

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Speaker 4: No, No, thank you?

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Speaker 3: Yeah you Gary. Jules First Day follow up