1 00:00:12,680 --> 00:00:18,880 Speaker 1: Okay, so let's talk about settling. I really want to 2 00:00:18,880 --> 00:00:23,520 Speaker 1: talk about settling in relationships because I want to say 3 00:00:23,560 --> 00:00:31,320 Speaker 1: something so graciously and in a classy, respectful manner. Anytime 4 00:00:31,400 --> 00:00:34,400 Speaker 1: that I've left a relationship where it doesn't feel right 5 00:00:34,440 --> 00:00:40,879 Speaker 1: in my body at that time, I later thank myself 6 00:00:40,920 --> 00:00:43,640 Speaker 1: and it's gone deeper and deeper. Okay. So it could 7 00:00:43,640 --> 00:00:45,920 Speaker 1: be leaving an engagement, leaving a marriage, it could be 8 00:00:45,960 --> 00:00:47,440 Speaker 1: a number of things. But I just want to tell 9 00:00:47,479 --> 00:00:52,600 Speaker 1: you that recently I've been saying to myself, I am 10 00:00:52,680 --> 00:00:57,480 Speaker 1: so grateful for having the courage to walk away from 11 00:00:57,520 --> 00:01:00,560 Speaker 1: things that don't work for me. So that could be work, 12 00:01:01,440 --> 00:01:05,520 Speaker 1: That could be friendships. That could be business deals that 13 00:01:05,640 --> 00:01:10,400 Speaker 1: just crush your soul. That could be confronting a boss 14 00:01:10,480 --> 00:01:12,520 Speaker 1: or not accepting less than what you deserve. That could 15 00:01:12,520 --> 00:01:15,639 Speaker 1: be a relationship where you're just like I am doing 16 00:01:15,920 --> 00:01:19,440 Speaker 1: it's good. It could be very good. Now if it's bad, 17 00:01:19,520 --> 00:01:21,759 Speaker 1: that's not even a discussion. But it could be good 18 00:01:21,760 --> 00:01:24,000 Speaker 1: to very good. But if it doesn't fit feel right 19 00:01:24,040 --> 00:01:25,760 Speaker 1: in your body, you know, when you eat something it 20 00:01:25,800 --> 00:01:28,000 Speaker 1: doesn't agree with you. You may not get violently ill, 21 00:01:28,040 --> 00:01:30,640 Speaker 1: but it doesn't agree with you or you're constantly thinking 22 00:01:30,680 --> 00:01:33,160 Speaker 1: about it, you know, when you're fidgeting in an outfit 23 00:01:33,240 --> 00:01:34,759 Speaker 1: or just like you don't love it so you don't 24 00:01:34,800 --> 00:01:36,480 Speaker 1: live for it. Put it the fuck down, take it 25 00:01:36,480 --> 00:01:37,920 Speaker 1: off if you don't. If you're not, like you have 26 00:01:38,000 --> 00:01:40,720 Speaker 1: to like convince yourself and people around you. You know, 27 00:01:40,800 --> 00:01:43,120 Speaker 1: when you put something on, you're like, this is it? 28 00:01:43,520 --> 00:01:47,760 Speaker 1: Game over story in film at eleven. That's what a 29 00:01:47,800 --> 00:01:50,560 Speaker 1: relationship should be like. And if you're not feeling that now, 30 00:01:50,600 --> 00:01:52,360 Speaker 1: it doesn't mean that you're not gonna go through issues 31 00:01:52,400 --> 00:01:54,520 Speaker 1: and work through things, but like it has to be 32 00:01:54,520 --> 00:01:56,880 Speaker 1: coming out of your pores. How right a relationship is 33 00:01:56,920 --> 00:01:59,440 Speaker 1: for you. You have to know from the depths of 34 00:01:59,480 --> 00:02:02,680 Speaker 1: your being if a relationship is right for you, and 35 00:02:02,720 --> 00:02:07,160 Speaker 1: if it's not, you cannot stay because of fear your age, 36 00:02:07,160 --> 00:02:09,080 Speaker 1: you're too old, you're never gonna meet someone, or this 37 00:02:09,120 --> 00:02:11,079 Speaker 1: person is so great, or they treat you so well, 38 00:02:11,120 --> 00:02:13,000 Speaker 1: or they're rich or they're generous, or they're a doctor, 39 00:02:13,080 --> 00:02:14,880 Speaker 1: or your parents like them, or your friends like them, 40 00:02:15,120 --> 00:02:17,639 Speaker 1: or they fit in, or your kids are still home 41 00:02:17,639 --> 00:02:19,680 Speaker 1: and they're not off at college yet, or you have 42 00:02:19,720 --> 00:02:21,400 Speaker 1: a good friend group and it's gonna break up. The 43 00:02:21,400 --> 00:02:23,880 Speaker 1: friend group. All of these things do not matter. Okay 44 00:02:24,320 --> 00:02:28,560 Speaker 1: if you don't know, yes, it's no, because this is 45 00:02:28,600 --> 00:02:32,880 Speaker 1: the most important part of this. Once you jump, you fly, 46 00:02:33,080 --> 00:02:35,520 Speaker 1: and then you find what you really need. And if 47 00:02:35,560 --> 00:02:37,760 Speaker 1: you are stuck in the wrong thing, you're never gonna 48 00:02:37,760 --> 00:02:39,239 Speaker 1: find the right thing, and not until you find the 49 00:02:39,320 --> 00:02:41,480 Speaker 1: right thing or you're gonna say, oh my god, thank 50 00:02:41,520 --> 00:02:43,359 Speaker 1: you so much for having the courage to walk out 51 00:02:43,400 --> 00:02:46,320 Speaker 1: of something that it's harder to walk out of something 52 00:02:46,320 --> 00:02:50,080 Speaker 1: that's like very good because you're almost there. But we 53 00:02:50,160 --> 00:02:53,400 Speaker 1: are winners. We go all the way. We take that 54 00:02:53,440 --> 00:02:55,760 Speaker 1: ball into the end zone. We don't eat average food 55 00:02:56,080 --> 00:02:59,080 Speaker 1: mid we don't go on mid vacations. I'd rather stay 56 00:02:59,120 --> 00:03:02,040 Speaker 1: home go on a mid or shitty vacation. I'd rather 57 00:03:02,120 --> 00:03:04,440 Speaker 1: stay home than stay in a shitty room. I don't 58 00:03:04,440 --> 00:03:06,320 Speaker 1: want to go somewhere and feel grosser than I do 59 00:03:06,360 --> 00:03:08,840 Speaker 1: at home, Like I want to go somewhere and be elevated. 60 00:03:08,880 --> 00:03:10,359 Speaker 1: I don't want to eat out if it's not gonna 61 00:03:10,360 --> 00:03:11,600 Speaker 1: be better than but I could look at home. I 62 00:03:11,600 --> 00:03:13,000 Speaker 1: don't want that. I don't need to go to a 63 00:03:13,040 --> 00:03:16,280 Speaker 1: hip restaurant with shift food. Do it or don't. That's 64 00:03:16,360 --> 00:03:18,480 Speaker 1: part of what I was saying about my Halloween costume. 65 00:03:18,880 --> 00:03:20,960 Speaker 1: You know, like do it or don't you going to Halloween. 66 00:03:21,040 --> 00:03:22,800 Speaker 1: Let's go to the Hidi Gloon party. Let's do it, 67 00:03:22,919 --> 00:03:25,720 Speaker 1: Let's get dressed, let's turn it out, let's have fun, 68 00:03:25,760 --> 00:03:28,240 Speaker 1: and let's go home. Like that's it. I don't want 69 00:03:28,280 --> 00:03:30,399 Speaker 1: to do medium. I don't want mediocre. I don't want 70 00:03:30,440 --> 00:03:34,480 Speaker 1: mid in any category. Not food, not sex, not man, 71 00:03:34,800 --> 00:03:39,720 Speaker 1: not woman, not friend, not job, not travel, not experience, 72 00:03:40,320 --> 00:03:44,640 Speaker 1: not staff, not team around you. We do all stars, 73 00:03:44,720 --> 00:03:48,520 Speaker 1: we do Hall of Fame. We're not like that tipsy 74 00:03:48,560 --> 00:03:50,960 Speaker 1: demere trend. It's like we're not like the other girlies. 75 00:03:51,160 --> 00:03:55,080 Speaker 1: We don't do average. We don't do mid. We do elite. 76 00:03:55,440 --> 00:03:58,040 Speaker 1: We do do it or don't and do it well 77 00:03:58,200 --> 00:04:01,040 Speaker 1: or don't do it at all. So that's something that 78 00:04:01,080 --> 00:04:17,800 Speaker 1: I think is really important in relationships. I think we 79 00:04:17,920 --> 00:04:21,279 Speaker 1: tend to self sabotage in relationships when we're really happier, 80 00:04:21,320 --> 00:04:24,000 Speaker 1: when it's going really well, when we get scared. If 81 00:04:24,040 --> 00:04:25,720 Speaker 1: you ever started dating someone and you like them so 82 00:04:25,800 --> 00:04:27,920 Speaker 1: much that you have anxiety because you're like over your 83 00:04:27,920 --> 00:04:31,880 Speaker 1: skis and you're like having anxiety, you're sabotaging that is 84 00:04:31,880 --> 00:04:33,680 Speaker 1: a dangerous place to be, and that's a place when 85 00:04:33,720 --> 00:04:36,600 Speaker 1: you have to calm down. Take several deep breaths. Do 86 00:04:36,680 --> 00:04:40,000 Speaker 1: not text anything, Do not email anything. Write an email 87 00:04:40,080 --> 00:04:42,520 Speaker 1: to yourself or to the person and put it in 88 00:04:42,600 --> 00:04:45,960 Speaker 1: drafts and just save it. Do not send. You need 89 00:04:46,000 --> 00:04:50,000 Speaker 1: to wait six hours before sending because we tend to 90 00:04:51,120 --> 00:04:53,800 Speaker 1: get anxiety and want to blow things up because they're 91 00:04:53,800 --> 00:04:56,480 Speaker 1: too good. Especially if you grow up in a fucked 92 00:04:56,520 --> 00:05:00,880 Speaker 1: up house, especially if you're used to chaos is your norm, 93 00:05:00,960 --> 00:05:03,600 Speaker 1: it's going to be very hard for you to have 94 00:05:03,720 --> 00:05:07,080 Speaker 1: peace and be happy. There also will be situations where 95 00:05:07,120 --> 00:05:11,440 Speaker 1: you are incapable of being loved. You are not porous, 96 00:05:11,480 --> 00:05:15,440 Speaker 1: you are not open, you're not available, and that's a 97 00:05:15,440 --> 00:05:18,000 Speaker 1: hard thing to access. And also trust yourself, because if 98 00:05:18,000 --> 00:05:22,040 Speaker 1: you're not open and porous and accessible, it may be 99 00:05:22,040 --> 00:05:24,600 Speaker 1: because you're with the wrong person. With the right person, 100 00:05:24,640 --> 00:05:27,520 Speaker 1: you will want to open up with the right person. 101 00:05:27,520 --> 00:05:29,640 Speaker 1: You will want to check yourself because you will want 102 00:05:29,680 --> 00:05:32,479 Speaker 1: to do the work because it's so worth it, because 103 00:05:32,480 --> 00:05:35,159 Speaker 1: the stakes are so high. Like if you meet someone 104 00:05:35,200 --> 00:05:38,479 Speaker 1: that's incredible and you know they are so well matched 105 00:05:38,520 --> 00:05:41,160 Speaker 1: to you and you are so compatible, that's when you 106 00:05:41,279 --> 00:05:43,160 Speaker 1: really have to pull your shit together, and that's when 107 00:05:43,160 --> 00:05:45,400 Speaker 1: you have to check yourself. And that's like when you're 108 00:05:45,440 --> 00:05:48,640 Speaker 1: going to the Olympics, you're preparing for the big race, 109 00:05:48,800 --> 00:05:52,640 Speaker 1: you're preparing for you know, your college entry exams or whatever. 110 00:05:52,680 --> 00:05:55,360 Speaker 1: The most important thing is you are not fucking around. 111 00:05:55,440 --> 00:05:58,520 Speaker 1: You're not making mistakes. You're not you know, getting drunk 112 00:05:58,600 --> 00:06:02,560 Speaker 1: and doing drunk dialing or just like you know, self 113 00:06:02,600 --> 00:06:05,320 Speaker 1: destructing and doing stupid things and saying things. You're gonna 114 00:06:05,360 --> 00:06:08,000 Speaker 1: check yourself before you wreck yourself. When you see that 115 00:06:08,120 --> 00:06:11,080 Speaker 1: something is really good for you and could really like 116 00:06:11,240 --> 00:06:13,800 Speaker 1: change your life, you're not going to fuck it up. 117 00:06:14,080 --> 00:06:19,840 Speaker 1: You are going to collect, get organized, be intentional, and 118 00:06:19,920 --> 00:06:24,040 Speaker 1: do the work. So if something usually when something's really 119 00:06:24,040 --> 00:06:26,440 Speaker 1: good and people are really connected and everything's great, that's 120 00:06:26,440 --> 00:06:28,320 Speaker 1: when they wouldn't do therapy. That's when they think they've 121 00:06:28,320 --> 00:06:30,680 Speaker 1: got it going good. But everything has the new car 122 00:06:30,760 --> 00:06:34,440 Speaker 1: smell and little cracks become craters. And when the car 123 00:06:34,480 --> 00:06:36,960 Speaker 1: has the new car smell, that's when you start doing 124 00:06:36,960 --> 00:06:38,640 Speaker 1: the work. That's when you get the self help book. 125 00:06:38,839 --> 00:06:41,120 Speaker 1: That's when you talk to your partner about self help. 126 00:06:41,160 --> 00:06:43,680 Speaker 1: That's when you check in with your partner. That's when 127 00:06:43,680 --> 00:06:47,360 Speaker 1: you do therapy on yourself and eventually hopefully with them. 128 00:06:47,800 --> 00:06:51,440 Speaker 1: I am not above if I'm really into someone. I'm 129 00:06:51,440 --> 00:06:54,840 Speaker 1: not above early on, if they're in the same page, 130 00:06:55,040 --> 00:06:57,360 Speaker 1: once every couple of months talking to a therapist or 131 00:06:57,360 --> 00:06:59,599 Speaker 1: once a month, because you want to lock the door 132 00:06:59,640 --> 00:07:02,840 Speaker 1: before you get robbed. And there could be different dynamics. 133 00:07:03,080 --> 00:07:05,479 Speaker 1: If you're an adult and you have kids and you're blending, 134 00:07:05,960 --> 00:07:07,880 Speaker 1: that would be a situation where you might want to 135 00:07:07,880 --> 00:07:11,320 Speaker 1: get a professional involved, okay, because that's something that takes 136 00:07:12,000 --> 00:07:14,600 Speaker 1: you know, finessing, and you don't want to do damage 137 00:07:14,600 --> 00:07:17,320 Speaker 1: in the beginning that you can undo. Or if you're 138 00:07:17,320 --> 00:07:20,040 Speaker 1: in a long distance relationship, let's say, and there's certain 139 00:07:20,280 --> 00:07:22,520 Speaker 1: you get in your head and there's a certain you know, 140 00:07:22,560 --> 00:07:24,440 Speaker 1: there are certain tools and a skill set you need 141 00:07:24,480 --> 00:07:27,920 Speaker 1: to navigate. That's a time when you would be proactive 142 00:07:28,040 --> 00:07:33,000 Speaker 1: and intentional. So I think it's important to make an 143 00:07:33,040 --> 00:07:35,640 Speaker 1: effort and be intentional when the stakes are high, and 144 00:07:35,720 --> 00:07:38,280 Speaker 1: you know when they're high, when you're like, wow, this 145 00:07:38,360 --> 00:07:41,600 Speaker 1: could really be it. And I know myself and I 146 00:07:41,640 --> 00:07:43,840 Speaker 1: know my tendencies, and I know my habits, and I 147 00:07:43,880 --> 00:07:47,600 Speaker 1: know my ways, and I know that history repeats itself, 148 00:07:47,600 --> 00:07:50,280 Speaker 1: and I know that. I start to get anxious attachment 149 00:07:51,120 --> 00:07:54,120 Speaker 1: to someone. I start to get anxiety. I start to 150 00:07:54,120 --> 00:07:56,320 Speaker 1: get in my head. I make up scenarios, I start 151 00:07:56,320 --> 00:07:59,400 Speaker 1: to obsess, I start to fixate. I start to get 152 00:07:59,440 --> 00:08:02,960 Speaker 1: overly knee, I start to get overly distant. I start 153 00:08:03,000 --> 00:08:04,840 Speaker 1: to want to make the other person jealous. I start 154 00:08:04,920 --> 00:08:07,600 Speaker 1: to like when they're jealous. I start to be jealous. 155 00:08:07,800 --> 00:08:10,480 Speaker 1: Whatever your noise is, you have it, and you keep 156 00:08:10,560 --> 00:08:12,320 Speaker 1: doing it over and over. And when you first get 157 00:08:12,320 --> 00:08:14,520 Speaker 1: in the relationship, you don't think you're going to do 158 00:08:14,520 --> 00:08:16,560 Speaker 1: it over and over because it's got the new car smell. 159 00:08:16,800 --> 00:08:19,200 Speaker 1: And then all of a sudden, one day you hit 160 00:08:19,240 --> 00:08:21,400 Speaker 1: a brick wall and you go back to your ways, 161 00:08:21,440 --> 00:08:24,000 Speaker 1: and you convince yourself, and you call your friends and 162 00:08:24,000 --> 00:08:26,640 Speaker 1: your crowdsource because you want all your friends to validate 163 00:08:26,960 --> 00:08:30,400 Speaker 1: and reinforce what you're saying, which is a terrible idea. 164 00:08:30,560 --> 00:08:34,079 Speaker 1: Do not go taking advice from your friends. Take advice 165 00:08:34,120 --> 00:08:37,520 Speaker 1: from professionals. Or you could have a certain friend or 166 00:08:37,559 --> 00:08:40,960 Speaker 1: a colleague or someone that you already know has excellent judgment. 167 00:08:41,559 --> 00:08:44,000 Speaker 1: Doesn't always tell you what you want to hear is 168 00:08:44,040 --> 00:08:46,160 Speaker 1: going to tell you the unpopular thing is going to 169 00:08:46,200 --> 00:08:49,800 Speaker 1: be like your local affordable therapist. That's a different model, 170 00:08:50,080 --> 00:08:51,680 Speaker 1: but it's not your friend that every day you just 171 00:08:51,679 --> 00:08:53,680 Speaker 1: call it a complaint and they validate everything you say, 172 00:08:54,200 --> 00:08:56,480 Speaker 1: and they don't. They just want to make you feel good, 173 00:08:56,520 --> 00:08:59,200 Speaker 1: or they just like are someone that allows you to 174 00:08:59,240 --> 00:09:03,640 Speaker 1: hear yourself talk, don't do that. There's a lot to navigate, 175 00:09:03,920 --> 00:09:11,559 Speaker 1: and as we get older, there are so many dynamics. 176 00:09:20,559 --> 00:09:22,840 Speaker 1: So I have a dating theory and a relation to 177 00:09:22,920 --> 00:09:25,319 Speaker 1: theory and a marriage theory, and it might help frame things. 178 00:09:25,679 --> 00:09:29,320 Speaker 1: I think that in partnerships, one partner is a rescue dog. Well, no, 179 00:09:29,400 --> 00:09:31,800 Speaker 1: that's not true. You can have two rescue dogs together. 180 00:09:31,840 --> 00:09:34,080 Speaker 1: You can have two breeder dogs together. But I think 181 00:09:34,160 --> 00:09:37,080 Speaker 1: that people are either a breeder dog or a rescue dog. 182 00:09:37,360 --> 00:09:40,680 Speaker 1: You either grew up in the Drew Barrymore School of parenting, 183 00:09:40,720 --> 00:09:42,920 Speaker 1: which is an extreme don't get me wrong. And I 184 00:09:42,960 --> 00:09:45,360 Speaker 1: grew up I went to the Drew Barrymore School of Childhood, 185 00:09:45,760 --> 00:09:48,040 Speaker 1: and or you were like in a family that was together. 186 00:09:48,480 --> 00:09:50,480 Speaker 1: And of course every family has its issues. But like 187 00:09:50,559 --> 00:09:54,440 Speaker 1: you have a safe, secure attachment program, you believe that 188 00:09:54,440 --> 00:09:57,359 Speaker 1: people can have a good relationship. You've witnessed good relationships, 189 00:09:57,760 --> 00:10:01,840 Speaker 1: you have some foundation, you are not a mess, and 190 00:10:01,880 --> 00:10:06,400 Speaker 1: you don't like you've seen normal constructs that other people 191 00:10:06,720 --> 00:10:09,400 Speaker 1: have never even witnessed, like for me, seeing like a 192 00:10:09,440 --> 00:10:14,600 Speaker 1: normal relationship in a family environment, a stable relationship, non drama, 193 00:10:14,800 --> 00:10:21,040 Speaker 1: non drugs, non abuse, non alcohol, non psychological abuse, non gambling, 194 00:10:21,280 --> 00:10:25,760 Speaker 1: you know, non underage going to night clubs like just 195 00:10:25,920 --> 00:10:29,040 Speaker 1: I've seen action. I've seen just debauchery. And so for me, 196 00:10:29,800 --> 00:10:32,880 Speaker 1: chaos was the norm. Action was the norm. So being 197 00:10:32,880 --> 00:10:35,600 Speaker 1: in something stable and peaceful, or seeing someone or being 198 00:10:35,600 --> 00:10:38,520 Speaker 1: with someone who's normal and stable and peaceful is strange. 199 00:10:38,559 --> 00:10:43,520 Speaker 1: It's an alien concept. It's like putting something strange into 200 00:10:43,559 --> 00:10:47,400 Speaker 1: your bloodstream that it doesn't that it rejects. So I'm 201 00:10:47,440 --> 00:10:50,040 Speaker 1: like a rescue dog because someone could do something that 202 00:10:50,080 --> 00:10:52,360 Speaker 1: would be normal, and I would see it as a 203 00:10:52,360 --> 00:10:54,920 Speaker 1: fight or flight. I would see it as trauma. Someone 204 00:10:54,920 --> 00:10:56,679 Speaker 1: could not text you back for thirty minutes, and I 205 00:10:56,760 --> 00:10:58,920 Speaker 1: could think the world's coming to an end, where someone 206 00:10:59,000 --> 00:11:01,920 Speaker 1: else would have a normal rational thought that like someone 207 00:11:01,960 --> 00:11:04,720 Speaker 1: might be in, you know, in an appointment, and that's 208 00:11:04,760 --> 00:11:07,120 Speaker 1: just a dumb example. But breeder dogs walk in with 209 00:11:07,240 --> 00:11:12,560 Speaker 1: secure attachment history. They've seen good relationships. They know that 210 00:11:12,600 --> 00:11:15,040 Speaker 1: it's possible. It's not like an island that they see 211 00:11:15,040 --> 00:11:17,120 Speaker 1: that they have no idea how to swim to. They 212 00:11:17,160 --> 00:11:19,080 Speaker 1: have faith in the process. They think they could be 213 00:11:19,080 --> 00:11:21,440 Speaker 1: in love. They know how to treat someone nicely. They 214 00:11:21,520 --> 00:11:24,160 Speaker 1: don't need for there to be action and drama and 215 00:11:24,200 --> 00:11:28,840 Speaker 1: a problem all the time. They aren't deeply anxiety ridden 216 00:11:28,840 --> 00:11:31,040 Speaker 1: in insecure. They could be insecure. They could be jealous, 217 00:11:31,040 --> 00:11:33,520 Speaker 1: but they might not have the same issues and noise. 218 00:11:34,040 --> 00:11:36,439 Speaker 1: And the thing is, if someone identifies what they are 219 00:11:36,520 --> 00:11:38,200 Speaker 1: and shares it with the other person, it can help 220 00:11:38,200 --> 00:11:41,160 Speaker 1: in the relationship because you know when someone's doing something 221 00:11:41,240 --> 00:11:43,400 Speaker 1: it has nothing to do with you. If a breeder 222 00:11:43,440 --> 00:11:46,320 Speaker 1: dog starts shaking, like I have a special needs dog smalls, 223 00:11:46,559 --> 00:11:49,320 Speaker 1: he shakes for no reason. He's a rescue His mom 224 00:11:49,360 --> 00:11:51,680 Speaker 1: is going to be euthanized. He shakes for no reason. 225 00:11:51,720 --> 00:11:54,440 Speaker 1: He's a disaster. He's a mess. He has five nervous 226 00:11:54,440 --> 00:11:57,200 Speaker 1: breakdowns a day. He's scared of water, his own shadow. 227 00:11:57,280 --> 00:11:59,240 Speaker 1: He'll have two nervous breakdowns a day to start shaking 228 00:11:59,280 --> 00:12:03,440 Speaker 1: and panicking. No things happened, like he's a fucking wreck. Okay, 229 00:12:03,720 --> 00:12:05,960 Speaker 1: Biggie is just like super well adjusted. I could bring 230 00:12:06,040 --> 00:12:08,559 Speaker 1: him on a plane. Small's tongue comes out like one 231 00:12:08,559 --> 00:12:10,480 Speaker 1: of those frogs that has like that tongue that comes 232 00:12:10,520 --> 00:12:13,640 Speaker 1: out to like get flies. I'm, you know, not a mess, 233 00:12:13,679 --> 00:12:17,400 Speaker 1: but like normal. I tell people I'm a squirrel. I 234 00:12:17,440 --> 00:12:19,319 Speaker 1: don't trust. So you come near me and maybe I'll 235 00:12:19,320 --> 00:12:20,520 Speaker 1: come with you to get like some of the food. 236 00:12:20,559 --> 00:12:22,120 Speaker 1: But you make a little weird move. I'm running up 237 00:12:22,120 --> 00:12:25,160 Speaker 1: that fucking tree. So like I'm like a rescue dog. 238 00:12:25,160 --> 00:12:27,679 Speaker 1: You cannot explain why a rescue dog you come near 239 00:12:27,720 --> 00:12:29,559 Speaker 1: them and they shake and they run away, or whether 240 00:12:29,559 --> 00:12:30,840 Speaker 1: they won't let you put a leash on, or whe 241 00:12:30,840 --> 00:12:32,200 Speaker 1: they won't let you give him a bath, or some 242 00:12:32,240 --> 00:12:34,600 Speaker 1: weird thing triggers them, like a treat or something. You 243 00:12:34,640 --> 00:12:37,680 Speaker 1: don't know. They're a rescue dog. They've been fucked up. 244 00:12:37,840 --> 00:12:40,079 Speaker 1: They have a fucked up child, a a fucked up past. 245 00:12:40,559 --> 00:12:44,200 Speaker 1: Someone abused them. Someone asks who hurt you? I'm like, 246 00:12:44,240 --> 00:12:46,160 Speaker 1: where do you want? Where do I sign up for? 247 00:12:46,240 --> 00:12:48,560 Speaker 1: Telling you? You want the list who hurt me? Who 248 00:12:48,600 --> 00:12:51,600 Speaker 1: didn't hurt me. I've seen my mother get the shit 249 00:12:51,640 --> 00:12:53,600 Speaker 1: beaten out of her with a phone I've seen people 250 00:12:53,640 --> 00:12:55,760 Speaker 1: do drugs. I've had my mother get beaten up and 251 00:12:55,800 --> 00:12:58,640 Speaker 1: then heard sex fifteen minutes later. Crazy shit. I've been 252 00:12:58,679 --> 00:13:01,040 Speaker 1: to nightclub since I was thirteen years doing drugs, doing 253 00:13:01,120 --> 00:13:03,559 Speaker 1: everything that's wrong, everything that your kid is not supposed 254 00:13:03,559 --> 00:13:05,559 Speaker 1: to be doing. Taking the train into New York City 255 00:13:05,559 --> 00:13:09,559 Speaker 1: at fourteen years old, getting myself to fourteenth Streets, to 256 00:13:09,600 --> 00:13:13,160 Speaker 1: the Palladium, to area, to the tunnel to save the robot. Like, 257 00:13:13,679 --> 00:13:15,679 Speaker 1: none of this is normal. I have a fourteen year 258 00:13:15,720 --> 00:13:18,280 Speaker 1: old in my house, Like what, So the thing is, 259 00:13:18,400 --> 00:13:21,880 Speaker 1: I'm a fucking rescue dog. So to communicate with a partner. 260 00:13:21,920 --> 00:13:24,200 Speaker 1: If I'm in a relationship with a breeder dog, I 261 00:13:24,240 --> 00:13:27,000 Speaker 1: have to let the breeder dog know I don't act 262 00:13:27,080 --> 00:13:31,160 Speaker 1: like a normal person. So understand that one of us 263 00:13:31,240 --> 00:13:33,520 Speaker 1: is going to have to be sane. One of us 264 00:13:33,520 --> 00:13:36,160 Speaker 1: has to be the rock. I'm not the rock. I'm 265 00:13:36,160 --> 00:13:40,239 Speaker 1: the fucking peacock. I'm the star. I'm entertaining, I'm hilarious, 266 00:13:40,320 --> 00:13:42,680 Speaker 1: I'm loyal, I'll be good to you, I'll do everything 267 00:13:42,720 --> 00:13:45,120 Speaker 1: for you. I am the most fun person you've ever met. 268 00:13:45,480 --> 00:13:47,439 Speaker 1: No two days will ever be the same. You will 269 00:13:47,440 --> 00:13:51,439 Speaker 1: have a life of laughter and excitement and adventure and 270 00:13:51,600 --> 00:13:54,800 Speaker 1: joy and fucking ride or die, and loyalty and hard work, 271 00:13:54,840 --> 00:13:56,920 Speaker 1: and you will learn things you never learn. No one's 272 00:13:56,920 --> 00:13:59,880 Speaker 1: ever been more efficient. I don't. No one's ever been 273 00:14:00,160 --> 00:14:03,800 Speaker 1: or like. I am highly functional. I am super organized. 274 00:14:03,800 --> 00:14:06,000 Speaker 1: I can get ten things done to your one. I 275 00:14:06,040 --> 00:14:09,240 Speaker 1: will always be ahead of you, smarter, faster, quicker. But 276 00:14:09,280 --> 00:14:12,120 Speaker 1: I'm a fucking disaster. So you need to know that 277 00:14:12,800 --> 00:14:15,360 Speaker 1: you're gonna have to be the rational saying rock here. 278 00:14:15,760 --> 00:14:17,720 Speaker 1: So do you want that job or don't you? And 279 00:14:17,920 --> 00:14:20,680 Speaker 1: also you have to be interesting, because you can't be 280 00:14:20,720 --> 00:14:23,360 Speaker 1: a fucking boring doormat. That's gonna be the rock. You 281 00:14:23,400 --> 00:14:27,360 Speaker 1: have to be fun and ready to go. So know 282 00:14:27,480 --> 00:14:30,320 Speaker 1: if you're the rescue dog or the breeder dog, communicate 283 00:14:30,360 --> 00:14:33,000 Speaker 1: about it. And two rescue dogs can be together, and 284 00:14:33,040 --> 00:14:35,120 Speaker 1: a rescue dog and a breeder dog can be together. 285 00:14:35,160 --> 00:14:38,960 Speaker 1: But you just have to communicate. It's an important thing. 286 00:14:39,000 --> 00:14:41,840 Speaker 1: And you know who you are. Maybe you're right down 287 00:14:41,840 --> 00:14:43,800 Speaker 1: the middle, Maybe you're a part maybe you're a mixed breed, 288 00:14:43,800 --> 00:14:45,880 Speaker 1: you're part rescue, part reader. I don't think you can 289 00:14:45,920 --> 00:14:48,320 Speaker 1: be part breader, part rescue, but I once did get 290 00:14:48,320 --> 00:14:52,600 Speaker 1: a dog from it. Was like a rescue dog, but 291 00:14:52,640 --> 00:14:55,360 Speaker 1: I got it from like a rescue dog store, so 292 00:14:55,520 --> 00:14:58,360 Speaker 1: it was like safe, but it wasn't a purebred, so 293 00:14:58,600 --> 00:15:20,520 Speaker 1: you decide for yourself. You are welcome, have a great day.