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Speaker 1: It is Strawberry Letter subject why do they have matching pajamas? Why?

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Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley, I am writing to get your opinion

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Speaker 1: on a big issue I'm having with my boyfriend. We've

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Speaker 1: been together for three years and I haven't spent any

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Speaker 1: holidays with him and his family. He spends my birthdays

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Speaker 1: with me, but he's usually with his family when it's

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Speaker 1: his birthday. I know that if a man treats his

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Speaker 1: mother nicely, it's a sign of how he'll treat his woman,

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Speaker 1: but not in this case. I practically had to beg

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Speaker 1: him to meet his mom and sister. My therapist isn't

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Speaker 1: fond of my boyfriend, and she thinks I can do better,

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Speaker 1: But I'm in love with him and can't just toss

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Speaker 1: him away. This Christmas, we exchanged gifts early and he

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Speaker 1: flew three hours away to be with his family. We

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Speaker 1: grown up since last year and didn't have to be

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Speaker 1: up under his mother for Christmas. I thought at the

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Speaker 1: least he'd invite me to go with him, but he didn't,

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Speaker 1: with my married brother and his family, and my married

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Speaker 1: got to spend New Year's Eve together because his flight

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Speaker 1: was delayed for three hours. We celebrated my birthday on

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Speaker 1: January third, and at dinner, he slid me his phone

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Speaker 1: so I could take a picture of us. While I

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Speaker 1: had his phone, his sister sent him a photo that

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Speaker 1: popped up on his phone. It was a picture of him,

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Speaker 1: his sister, his mama, and a pretty woman. He said,

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Speaker 1: the woman is his mom's hairstylist. That may be true,

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Speaker 1: but why didn't Why did they all have unmatching pajamas?

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Speaker 1: Is she a relative? That's what I asked him. He

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Speaker 1: laughed and said, no, they're not related. I've then decided

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Speaker 1: that he must be dating her, And he said, I'm

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Speaker 1: making a big deal over matching pajamas they decided to

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Speaker 1: wear for Christmas. He keeps joking about it, but I

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Speaker 1: need answers. Am I being a fool? Well, you know,

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Speaker 1: I don't know. This is all crazy and it sounds

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Speaker 1: very strange to me. Sure it could have been a coincidence,

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Speaker 1: and she could have just happened to have some matching

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Speaker 1: kajamas in her purse when she went over their house,

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Speaker 1: But you gotta know that this photo shoot was planned.

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Speaker 1: They've been in contact with this woman. He said she

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Speaker 1: wasn't a relative. So is she a good friend of

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Speaker 1: his mom's the so called hairstylist, because she's very comfortable,

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Speaker 1: comfortable to just be your mom's hair stylist. So you've

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Speaker 1: really got to look at this whole scenario. He never

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Speaker 1: ever spends holidays with you, never ever, he doesn't even

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Speaker 1: But I'll say this, whether she's a hairstylist or not,

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Speaker 1: which we don't think she is, this sounds like a

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Speaker 1: classic case of a man who's living some sort of

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Speaker 1: double life here and you're a major player in it.

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Speaker 1: You will continue to be just that until you do

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Speaker 1: something about it. You can't keep taking this from him.

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Speaker 1: It's easy to spend your birthday together because the whole

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Speaker 1: world isn't celebrating it celebrating it. It's just you guys.

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Speaker 1: Christmas and the other big holidays are, on the other hand,

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Speaker 1: are trickier, a lot trickier, because everyone in the world

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Speaker 1: is celebrating them at the same time. Families are together.

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Speaker 1: You know you're getting side piece treatment here. They never

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Speaker 1: get to spend the actual holiday with their men. It's

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Speaker 1: always a day before, the day after, or in your case,

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Speaker 1: three years, I'm gonna say this to you, three years

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Speaker 1: And just because you're in love with him doesn't mean

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Speaker 1: with you? Why did you write us? Why are we

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Speaker 1: dealing with this? You say you're writing to get your

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Speaker 1: Now y'all been together three years and you ain't spent

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Speaker 1: you something. Holidays are for special people. If a man

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Speaker 1: loves you, he's gonna be with you. All right, Cool,

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Speaker 1: Now let's move on. He spends my birthdays with me.

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Speaker 1: So your birthday could be April twenty night, That ain't nothing.

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Speaker 1: Did July sixteenth? That that ain't nothing? Now? I bet

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Speaker 1: you if your birthday was December twenty fifth, I bet

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Speaker 1: he wouldn't be there. I bet if your birthday was

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Speaker 1: New Year's Eve, he wouldn't be there. See, lady, you

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Speaker 1: you you're ignoring and obvious. Uh, he's with his family

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Speaker 1: for his birthdays. I know if a man treats his

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Speaker 1: mother nicely, it's a sign of how he'll treat his woman.

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Speaker 1: But that's not the case. It is the case. You're

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Speaker 1: just not paying attention to it. It's a sign of

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Speaker 1: how he'll treat his woman. I practically had to beg

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Speaker 1: him to meet his mom and sister. Yeah, so she

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Speaker 1: let you all meet. Now he'll go apart to throw

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Speaker 1: it from me. My therapist isn't fun of my boyfriend

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Speaker 1: better right, well, anytime, and I've seen it. Come on

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Speaker 1: anytime you need a therapist to date, you damn show,

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Speaker 1: don't need to get married because y'all ain't even in

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Speaker 1: therapeutical situations yet. Y'all just dating. If you dating and

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Speaker 1: need a therapist to dating, this relationship is doomed. You

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Speaker 1: need a therapist to be your damn boy freddy girlfriend. Man, Please,

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Speaker 1: this is this is a mess. Right, So when I

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Speaker 1: come back, I just tell you the rest of the course.

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Speaker 1: All right, Steve? Alright, we'll have part two of Steve's

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Speaker 1: response coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour.

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Speaker 1: Today's strawberry letter subject why don't they have matching for jamas?

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Speaker 1: We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening

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Speaker 1: Steve Harvey Morning Show. All right, come on, Steve, let's

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Speaker 1: recap today's strawberry letter. The subject is why do they

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Speaker 1: have matching pajamas? Well, she's dating this dude. She forty

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Speaker 1: that both of him is forty two years old, which

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Speaker 1: his boyfriend girlfriend a little bit late for that. He've

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Speaker 1: been together three years and you ain't spending no holidays

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Speaker 1: special people. He spends his birthdays with me. Well, that's

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Speaker 1: just your birthday could be any day. That ain't no

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Speaker 1: special day. It's just special to you, like Shelly said,

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Speaker 1: But he's usually with his family when it's his birthday.

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Speaker 1: I know, if a man treats his mother nicely, it's

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Speaker 1: a sign of how he treats his woman. But that's

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Speaker 1: not the case. Yes, it is the case. It's Finnish

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Speaker 1: show up in your letter. I practically had to beg

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Speaker 1: him to meet his mom and sister where you met him.

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Speaker 1: You ain't been back over that since. Probably then you say,

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Speaker 1: my therapist isn't fund of my boyfriendish she thinks I

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Speaker 1: could do better if you need a therapist to date.

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Speaker 1: If you have to have therapy to date in this,

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Speaker 1: don't have marriage wrote on it nowhere, because as I

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Speaker 1: You ain't even married therapeutical situation. You ain't even in that.

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Speaker 1: You ain't ready to go, but you all ready now

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Speaker 1: I'm leaving fool you him? Where are you going? So now?

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Speaker 1: But I'm in love with him and I can't just

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Speaker 1: toss him away. Okay, Well this Christmas we exchanged gifts

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Speaker 1: his family once again. Holidays is for special people. We

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Speaker 1: listened to this line that he'd grown up, says last year,

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Speaker 1: and didn't have to be up under his mother for Christmas.

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Speaker 1: Wait a minute, so at forty one he wasn't He

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Speaker 1: wasn't full grown yet. Oh that's what she's saying. Yes,

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Speaker 1: you was hoping that at forty two he had grown

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Speaker 1: for Christmas. I thought at the least he'd invite me

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Speaker 1: I barely got to spare New Year's Eat together because

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Speaker 1: he told you. I told you he his flight was delayed,

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Speaker 1: he had to spend New Year's Eve where he was at.

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Speaker 1: We selling my birthday on January third. You get the third.

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Speaker 1: You don't need to eat, got the girl? Why aren't

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Speaker 1: you listening to this letter? And at dinner he slid

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Speaker 1: a picture him, his sister, his mama, and a pretty woman.

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Speaker 1: He said. The woman is his mom's hair stylish. Let's

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Speaker 1: her sixties, possibly seventies. You know, good in hair where

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Speaker 1: years now. That ain't her. That are some very attractive

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Speaker 1: Lord had mercies. Some of the finest people I've ever

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Speaker 1: that picture ain't no damn hair stylers. Oh, your mama's,

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Speaker 1: he said. The woman is in mom's hair styles. That

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Speaker 1: may be true, the hell that's true? Why did her

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Speaker 1: They don't do hell like your mama wearing no more,

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Speaker 1: They stopped doing that long time ago. But why did

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Speaker 1: matching pajamas at Christmas? Is she a relative? Now? He

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Speaker 1: joking about it. But I need answers. Am I being

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Speaker 1: the answer to that question right there. If you need

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Speaker 1: going therapy. If he loves you, he spends special days

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Speaker 1: with you. Holidays are for special people. Those are the rules.

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Speaker 1: You're not special, You're never going to be special. And

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Speaker 1: the special chick had on the matching pajamas, you're fine.

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Speaker 1: Chick with the matching pajamas. That's where he goes every Christmas.

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Speaker 1: That's who he wo. You decide piece, Thank you all right?

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Speaker 1: Mama's hair Clarien. You're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning

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