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Speaker 1: My native honor stole twenty five thousand dollars from me?

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Speaker 1: She's out of the wedding. Did I go too far?

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Speaker 1: In this is okop? Where were the craziest true stories

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Speaker 1: on Earth? I'm John and Sophia. Did ope go too far? Uh?

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Speaker 2: No?

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Speaker 3: I think if you steal twenty five thousand dollars, I

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Speaker 3: think that is grounds you kind of lose the invite. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: I think that's that's where I draw a line.

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Speaker 1: What's the what's the what's the threshold? What's the dollar amount?

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Speaker 3: Got one grand too far? Yeah? You took a lot.

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Speaker 1: Too Honestly me, I'm twenty four ninety nine, like twenty four.

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Speaker 3: Ninety nine, and that is where I draw the line.

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Speaker 1: One dollar over?

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Speaker 2: But well, what if they were like planning the wedding?

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Speaker 2: What if they were buying all the things for the wedding?

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Speaker 3: Riley adding a little bit of.

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Speaker 1: Interesting once didn't even do me think about Riley pre

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Speaker 1: story Banter is not for nuance, Okay, it's for wild speculation.

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Speaker 3: Wild speculation and outrageous claims.

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Speaker 1: That's right. Love being outrageous, yes, But speaking of being outrageous,

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Speaker 1: let's read this outrageous story. Oh Kaylee, ninety nine. They say, I,

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Speaker 1: twenty three female, am getting married in a couple of days.

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Speaker 3: Colations.

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Speaker 1: Most of this has happened in the last two weeks.

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Speaker 1: My maid of honor, twenty six female, Mara, was in

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Speaker 1: charge of planning my bachelorette party, which I wanted to

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Speaker 1: be a surprise.

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Speaker 3: Okay, okay, so they were planning the party.

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Speaker 1: We're planning the party. So Riley's there. So that was really.

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Speaker 3: Guy.

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Speaker 1: Riley just like drops these incredible insights after reading the

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Speaker 1: entire story.

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Speaker 3: How he finds these stories not lying to us.

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Speaker 1: We live in a city, but none of us live downtown.

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Speaker 1: So I was hoping for a hotel room downtown and

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Speaker 1: having a fun night out with the friends, maybe a brunch.

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Speaker 1: Most of the bridal party live locally, but two girls

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Speaker 1: flew in for it. When Mara, the maid of honor,

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Speaker 1: The bride's going in blind.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I think it's usually like bride's or like made

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Speaker 1: The planning and then it's like surprise, which is cool,

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Speaker 1: Like it's kind of cool to just go in completely.

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Speaker 3: Not a surprise birthday party. Yeah, surprises, but like, no

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Speaker 3: one's ever thrown me a surprise.

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Speaker 1: What's your what's your favorite surprise? What's the best surprise

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Speaker 1: you've ever gotten? Oh no, wait, I don't know.

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Speaker 3: I don't I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I don't know either. I can't think of I can't

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Speaker 3: I can't think of a single surprising thing that's ever

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Speaker 1: Guys, can you can you surprise Sofia with a really

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Speaker 1: nice comment complimenting her as you as you all do,

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Speaker 1: give give her a nice surprise.

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Speaker 3: You guys are really nice in the comments.

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Speaker 1: I just want to say, throw some pro Sofia comments

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Speaker 1: down below and surprise Baker Day like two easter from now.

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Speaker 1: We'll just get flooded with pros out.

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Speaker 3: That's crazy. Yeah, you can't do it on this video

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Speaker 3: because I'm expecting Oh.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, yeah, wait a few days. They just sprinkled

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Speaker 3: Go back like on like my first video.

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Speaker 1: There we go, everyone find that go do it now.

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Speaker 1: We ended up going Tomorrow's one bedroom town home and

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Speaker 1: spent the whole weekend there. There were eight of us,

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Speaker 3: Oh my god, with eight people, we eight eight people,

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Speaker 3: that's a lot. Yeah, it's one bedroom town home.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, people, that's a little rough. On Friday night we

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Speaker 1: had games and ordered pizza. Saturday, we had a Mimosa

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Speaker 1: parting ways on Sunday. So this is like a pretty

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Speaker 1: was it intensive celorette? I can say, kind of tame

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Speaker 3: I guess, so I mean like intensive and like it's

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Speaker 1: to be. Oh yeah, yeah, you have to you have to,

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Speaker 1: It wasn't the bachelorette party of my dreams or a

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Speaker 3: But it was okay, and I appreciated it. It was

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Speaker 1: Last weekend, my fiance, thirty two male James had returned

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Speaker 2: Or not, maybe this one's maybe they're different.

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Speaker 1: I mean, right, I could Riley if a thirty two woman, yeah,

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Speaker 1: But when he returned, we were chatting and I told

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Speaker 1: That evening. The next day, I got a message from

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Speaker 1: something conspiracy theory. Yeah, what are we thinking of?

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Speaker 3: I mean if if we're really getting super crazy.

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Speaker 1: Here ma Wejis toldmar what that he thought the party

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Speaker 3: Oh my god, Yeah, that makes sense, should make sense,

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Speaker 3: And so he goes tomorrow and he's like, Hey, your

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Speaker 1: Which like like like uh kind of like mean for

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Speaker 3: Dude, like come on, keep that to yourself, buddy.

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Speaker 1: Fill that to her friends. That's not that's not the move.

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Speaker 1: Bar revealed that James had given her a significant amount

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Speaker 3: Why he was quiet, because he he was like, oh

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Speaker 1: If you put I see you in the comments, if

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Speaker 3: Was connected editors to make magic.

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Speaker 1: With the intention that it was to be used to

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Speaker 1: It would have been enough to pay for the entire

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Speaker 3: What does this guy do?

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Speaker 1: You're looking for?

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Speaker 3: Looking for a third in your marriage?

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Speaker 1: I wasn't expecting this type of event. A weekend downtown

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Speaker 1: She instead, okay, didn't foils back. Didn't foils back, Sophia,

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Speaker 1: What do you think? She instead used the money for, Oh.

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Speaker 3: I don't know. Rent went She went on a vacation

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Speaker 1: Don't want a conspiracy today. If you could have eight

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Speaker 3: Yeah, like some like blowout bash for what, let's find out.

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Speaker 1: She instead used the money to pay off credit card debt.

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Speaker 3: And hoped that no one would notice. I would no

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Speaker 1: She was in her breakdown of like what James said,

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Speaker 3: So for a weekend week, a week, seven days, seven days,

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Speaker 1: Eight Yeah, Hawaii eight grand at least for plane tickets,

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Speaker 1: at least at least eight grand. Another, I mean what

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Speaker 3: Yeah, we're somewhere in the range of eighteen grand.

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Speaker 1: More than eighteen grand.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, absolutely sure, that's crazy.

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Speaker 1: went home. Oh so she did confess, right, Riley. Okay, okay,

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Speaker 3: She got caught. Yeah, James, Hey, where did the money go?

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Speaker 1: And remember this is the maid of honor. Yeah, this

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Speaker 3: They're not even gonna make her Maybe they are going

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Speaker 3: I mean like sure, yeah, she's still like over aging

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Speaker 3: That is what's the isn't there like a minimum amount

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Speaker 1: You could bring into court or something?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Because like did we find out that from there was

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel like small claims court, it could be

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Speaker 1: But the maximum amount that could be that could be

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Speaker 2: Yeah, go as low as you want, buddy.

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Speaker 1: We can go over ten. It would be not small

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Speaker 1: that small claims you're you're into. I guess a more

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Speaker 3: Yes? Wow?

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Speaker 3: Sue her? No, that's that's not okay.

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Speaker 3: Would you would you sue your best friend? Presumably best friend?

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Speaker 1: Yes? This is made of honor for like over eighteen

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Speaker 1: I mean that's a media for me.

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Speaker 3: Yeah you can't. You can't. I'm like, no, sorry, you

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Speaker 1: Yeah, come on. And and also we don't know yet

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Speaker 1: But still like, like people you know, work and put

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Speaker 1: Since then, I have been getting text from her mom

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Speaker 3: WHOA, that's crazy. These heads. Oh my god, they were

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Speaker 1: Maybe they even gave her the idea in the first place,

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Speaker 3: Yeah, they were like, what if you just threw like

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Speaker 1: And just like paid off for your credit card debt?

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Speaker 1: Like he already he already gave you the money, it's

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Speaker 3: What is he going to do about it? Yeah, oh

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Speaker 1: We'll just we'll just pack eight people into your townhouse

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Speaker 3: And maybe maybe they wouldn't have cared about it if

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Speaker 1: Big I was. I was Loki trying to think of like,

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Speaker 3: But actually yeah, it's like actually low cost. But also,

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Speaker 3: how did like fiance find out about this until laught?

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Speaker 1: Because I guess because of the surprise nature of it.

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Speaker 3: I guess those fiances maybe don't.

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Speaker 1: I know, you're making a good point, because like it's

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Speaker 1: not just that like, oh, I could totally see you

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Speaker 3: What are some cool is there anything you want to see?

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Speaker 1: But way more way more than that, he gave her

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Speaker 3: He'd be like, hey, what were the costs, like could

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Speaker 3: I get an idemized bill?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, or like it sounds like he kind of just

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Speaker 3: Taking the money.

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Speaker 1: Here's here's all this money.

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Speaker 3: My name, you'll do something with it. I'm sure.

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Speaker 1: Yeah that's British. Yeah yeah, he's we've decided now British.

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Speaker 3: He's British. Yeah that's crazy. Yeah, that's insane. Wow.

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Speaker 1: My my own mom is also against removing her from

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Speaker 3: Oh my god, what what is this? What steals your money?

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Speaker 3: I feel like that's okay.

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Speaker 1: Guys where like and none of them are none of

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Speaker 1: them were suggesting like, oh she could pay you back

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Speaker 1: there just like oh just let us lie.

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Speaker 3: I have said that, Like not even Op has been like, hey,

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Speaker 1: I really hope there's an update, please, please God, somebody

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Speaker 1: the rest of the bridal party is split four people.

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Speaker 3: You need better friends.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, we need to honestly divorce all of your

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Speaker 3: Rid of them. Oh my god, it's for the ones

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Speaker 3: who are on your side, because it seems like some

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Speaker 1: Half of them are saying I shouldn't have kicked her out,

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Speaker 1: and the other half are agreeing with me. Mara has

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Speaker 3: Okay, well you have the money.

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Speaker 1: Then, James and I paid for all the dresses.

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Speaker 3: And also she had extra money.

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Speaker 1: And she can't wear it anywhere else.

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Speaker 3: Too bad.

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Speaker 1: She's crying because the dress you bought for her she

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Speaker 3: What? What are you taught?

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Speaker 1: What about crying for being sorry for stealing over eighteen

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Speaker 1: grand from your best friend? What someone who is allegedly

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Speaker 3: You allegedly all this is crazy? This woman is horrible. Oh, Mara,

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Speaker 3: I don't like you.

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Speaker 1: No me either. At this point, I want a wedding

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Speaker 1: you imagine You're like, I just want my wedding to

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Speaker 3: Yeah, just like I'm just imagining being like going to

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Speaker 3: I don't really want them in this part, and they're like, no,

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Speaker 3: it's fine. Keep them in. But also they don't have

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Speaker 3: to pay you back.

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Speaker 1: Not crazy, not like, hey, can I help you, like

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Speaker 1: I don't know, figure out getting the money back or

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Speaker 3: Yeah, like, is there a way we can make you,

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Speaker 3: you know, give you another bachelor party? So it's like

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Speaker 3: something anything, anything.

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Speaker 1: And anything nothing? And now what's just so tragic to me?

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Speaker 1: Is I mean like this is the one, this is

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Speaker 1: now she literally like basically sounds like she doesn't even

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's been ruined.

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Speaker 1: Which is so tragic.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. Sorry, hop hope we feel for you.

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Speaker 1: Sorry, I'm hoping for Jess. Just later on, justs so,

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Speaker 1: was my action too extreme?

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Speaker 3: Am I? Ahole?

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Speaker 1: Okay, we have some some relevant comments, but Sophia, please

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Speaker 1: please take it away.

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Speaker 3: No, no, no, I don't know. Wow. Oh how could anyone?

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Speaker 3: How could anyone think that? Ops a hole? I don't understand.

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Speaker 1: This is insane.

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Speaker 3: I don't get it.

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Speaker 1: Righty, you have a very passionate family. How do you

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Speaker 2: Dang, because get pretty spicy, right, It's like my like

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Speaker 2: she gives Tate like some money and it's like, hey,

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Speaker 2: back of my head of what my bachelor party. Oh

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Speaker 2: so we wanted to be top notch, okay, low key?

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Speaker 2: If I I wouldn't be mad if I still had

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Speaker 2: out of it because he planned it, like he's low

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Speaker 2: key becoming a contractor for it.

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Speaker 3: Great.

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Speaker 2: But if that had a bad time and that's okay, yeah,

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Speaker 2: I would be pretty pissed. Honestly though, wouldn't remove them

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Speaker 2: everyone would be like like, yeah, he did you wrong,

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Speaker 3: Is this your actual brother? Yeah? Okay, that's different. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: But if like my buddy Rex, yeah for example, damn

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Speaker 2: puff right.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Actually, when you put it in context, if of

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Speaker 2: I honestly probably wouldn't I still have him the.

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Speaker 1: Would you try to get the money back though, or like,

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Speaker 1: like try to work out a plan to get some

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Speaker 2: No, I'm good, Like, we're good, We're fine.

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Speaker 1: Cougar's your application for highly comics.

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Speaker 3: No, No, I wouldn't. I would be pissed out.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, I'm on the wedding, but I wouldn't, like,

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Speaker 2: I wouldn't try to get the money back because I

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Speaker 2: just probably distanced myself after that. But shoot, he'd be

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Speaker 1: So so literally you're sitting down with your future children

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Speaker 1: and you're showing them the photos. There he is right

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Speaker 1: next to you because he's the best man. He's making

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Speaker 1: I still don't have it.

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Speaker 2: But if he's not, i'd have I'd be like you

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Speaker 2: have to go. Yeah, worst case scenario, he's gone, yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 2: it was my buddy best man, I.

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Speaker 1: Will say, kind of putting it in context, it does

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Speaker 1: kind of like if the fiance is like a multi millionaire,

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Speaker 1: it is like awful, but I guess it doesn't actually

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Speaker 3: Well, but it seems like it seems like because no

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00:23:10,640 --> 00:23:13,120
Speaker 3: one is even saying like, hey, pay the money back.

444
00:23:13,160 --> 00:23:14,679
Speaker 3: It doesn't seem like it's a financial thing.

445
00:23:14,800 --> 00:23:16,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, but it is just like a.

446
00:23:16,000 --> 00:23:17,080
Speaker 3: Bad friendship, man.

447
00:23:17,080 --> 00:23:20,240
Speaker 1: And that's the thing is like it's a trust. Yeah,

448
00:23:20,320 --> 00:23:21,320
Speaker 1: you've broken the trust.

449
00:23:21,560 --> 00:23:23,600
Speaker 3: Like I can't imagine any of my friends doing that,

450
00:23:24,640 --> 00:23:26,199
Speaker 3: and so if they did, I'd be like, wow, that

451
00:23:26,320 --> 00:23:29,440
Speaker 3: you're not my friend, right, who are you?

452
00:23:29,680 --> 00:23:33,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, finances aside, You've just the friendship. It's ruined. It's ruined.

453
00:23:33,600 --> 00:23:37,439
Speaker 1: But let's get into some relevant comments here. So do

454
00:23:37,560 --> 00:23:39,160
Speaker 1: people not realize.

455
00:23:38,680 --> 00:23:41,280
Speaker 3: That she stole your fiance's money.

456
00:23:41,520 --> 00:23:45,359
Speaker 1: Yeah, people realize it, but the prevailing sentiment is in

457
00:23:45,400 --> 00:23:48,359
Speaker 1: the case of my bridal party, they don't particularly care.

458
00:23:48,800 --> 00:23:51,280
Speaker 1: And my mom feels it's okay because it got her

459
00:23:51,359 --> 00:23:53,120
Speaker 1: out of debt.

460
00:23:53,920 --> 00:23:57,359
Speaker 3: Ask if she needed to get out of debt, ask yes,

461
00:23:57,480 --> 00:23:59,320
Speaker 3: ask for help, like, okay, can I have a loan?

462
00:24:00,080 --> 00:24:02,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, especially if James is like well off and you

463
00:24:02,359 --> 00:24:05,239
Speaker 1: really are like great friends, Like, ah, I don't know. Uh,

464
00:24:05,440 --> 00:24:08,159
Speaker 1: my mom is just disregarding the entire situation because she

465
00:24:08,280 --> 00:24:10,840
Speaker 1: cares about Mara, what about her own daughters?

466
00:24:10,960 --> 00:24:12,520
Speaker 3: Doesn't really get Yeah, it doesn't care about you.

467
00:24:12,520 --> 00:24:15,919
Speaker 1: Apparently literally, she obviously knew it was wrong because she

468
00:24:16,000 --> 00:24:18,159
Speaker 1: told you out of guilt. She didn't tell me out

469
00:24:18,200 --> 00:24:21,320
Speaker 1: of guilt. No, after he my fiance found out what

470
00:24:21,440 --> 00:24:24,159
Speaker 1: my bachelor party was, my fiance told are either she

471
00:24:24,240 --> 00:24:26,560
Speaker 1: needed to sit down and tell me or he would.

472
00:24:26,720 --> 00:24:27,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, she was confronted.

473
00:24:27,960 --> 00:24:30,159
Speaker 2: Yeah, it would have done so much worse if he

474
00:24:30,160 --> 00:24:33,600
Speaker 2: did it, because he's not hold back. Yeah, and they like, hey,

475
00:24:33,640 --> 00:24:35,119
Speaker 2: this is what I mean. He'd probably be nice, but

476
00:24:35,160 --> 00:24:36,640
Speaker 2: he'd probably be like, this is what happened.

477
00:24:36,800 --> 00:24:39,639
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, here's and I told her to tell you

478
00:24:39,680 --> 00:24:40,760
Speaker 1: and she wouldn't even do it.

479
00:24:40,960 --> 00:24:41,680
Speaker 3: Yeah.

480
00:24:41,800 --> 00:24:45,719
Speaker 1: Oh, depending on the amount, you could totally press charges.

481
00:24:46,480 --> 00:24:47,840
Speaker 3: Thank you so much.

482
00:24:48,600 --> 00:24:51,160
Speaker 1: Neither me nor James are interested in dragging this out

483
00:24:51,160 --> 00:24:54,760
Speaker 1: in court or pressing charges. Oh okay, he didn't. He

484
00:24:54,760 --> 00:24:57,480
Speaker 1: wouldn't have given her more money for a bachelorette than

485
00:24:57,520 --> 00:25:00,080
Speaker 1: he could afford. And this situation is not worth the

486
00:25:00,080 --> 00:25:04,160
Speaker 1: amount of emotional turmoil that it would put everyone involved through.

487
00:25:04,400 --> 00:25:06,879
Speaker 1: We've got enough backlash from removing her from the wedding,

488
00:25:07,000 --> 00:25:10,480
Speaker 1: So again, I think this kind of leans towards Beyonce

489
00:25:11,000 --> 00:25:15,480
Speaker 1: doing pretty good financially. On who paid for the bachelorette

490
00:25:15,520 --> 00:25:18,400
Speaker 1: that did happen. I didn't pay for anything other than

491
00:25:18,440 --> 00:25:21,960
Speaker 1: some drinks I had delivered because there wasn't anything to

492
00:25:22,080 --> 00:25:28,120
Speaker 1: drink on Friday night, get ready for this. But everything

493
00:25:28,240 --> 00:25:30,960
Speaker 1: else was split seven ways.

494
00:25:32,080 --> 00:25:36,879
Speaker 3: What so literally mar didn't even dish out a little

495
00:25:36,920 --> 00:25:37,280
Speaker 3: bit of it.

496
00:25:37,440 --> 00:25:42,680
Speaker 1: She dished out one seven, one seventh of her party

497
00:25:42,880 --> 00:25:43,600
Speaker 1: at her house.

498
00:25:43,800 --> 00:25:44,640
Speaker 3: That's crazy.

499
00:25:44,680 --> 00:25:46,840
Speaker 1: Which it sounds like she didn't even have like anything

500
00:25:46,920 --> 00:25:51,760
Speaker 1: prepared for no like no, no drinks on the first night. Games,

501
00:25:52,240 --> 00:25:54,320
Speaker 1: So she had board games that she already had. She

502
00:25:54,400 --> 00:25:56,800
Speaker 1: already had those board games that she probably paid for

503
00:25:56,880 --> 00:25:58,560
Speaker 1: with her credit cards that she had to pay off.

504
00:25:58,920 --> 00:26:01,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like this is a household investment.

505
00:26:01,760 --> 00:26:06,920
Speaker 1: God, the ones that flew in paid for their own flights.

506
00:26:06,960 --> 00:26:15,879
Speaker 1: And the bombshell, the exact amount stolen twenty five thousand dollars.

507
00:26:16,000 --> 00:26:18,879
Speaker 3: That's twenty five thousand dollars.

508
00:26:19,359 --> 00:26:23,400
Speaker 2: Oh my god, Oh my god, that's insane.

509
00:26:23,760 --> 00:26:27,280
Speaker 3: I thought it was crazy at like ten ten, eighteen thousand,

510
00:26:27,359 --> 00:26:29,439
Speaker 3: might be a little bit over, like a little bit

511
00:26:29,440 --> 00:26:35,720
Speaker 3: of an exaggeration. Twenty five thousand dollars and they're not

512
00:26:35,800 --> 00:26:37,320
Speaker 3: pressing charges.

513
00:26:37,680 --> 00:26:39,040
Speaker 1: And everyone's letting her off the.

514
00:26:39,000 --> 00:26:41,480
Speaker 3: Oh, everyone's letting her off the hug That is like,

515
00:26:41,800 --> 00:26:43,240
Speaker 3: this is shocking. That's close.

516
00:26:43,520 --> 00:26:48,080
Speaker 1: That's approaching the like median American wage like thirty eight

517
00:26:48,160 --> 00:26:49,119
Speaker 1: or something like that.

518
00:26:49,119 --> 00:26:52,359
Speaker 3: Like how much people make in a year.

519
00:26:52,720 --> 00:26:56,200
Speaker 1: Literally, like my god, and she just stole it.

520
00:26:56,440 --> 00:27:01,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, like that would be like and I worked at Starbucks,

521
00:27:01,600 --> 00:27:04,560
Speaker 3: Like if I worked for a whole year, someone stole

522
00:27:04,640 --> 00:27:07,840
Speaker 3: my income, yep, could you imagine I would be I

523
00:27:08,320 --> 00:27:10,159
Speaker 3: would never I would.

524
00:27:10,800 --> 00:27:11,520
Speaker 1: Never forgive them.

525
00:27:11,560 --> 00:27:12,840
Speaker 3: I would never forgive them.

526
00:27:12,920 --> 00:27:17,680
Speaker 1: That's insane, that's crazy. Are you guys insanely rich? How

527
00:27:17,720 --> 00:27:20,600
Speaker 1: do you brush off twenty five k? Yeah a good question.

528
00:27:21,480 --> 00:27:25,320
Speaker 1: My fiance makes significantly more money than me and my friends,

529
00:27:25,400 --> 00:27:27,159
Speaker 1: as well as our parent families do.

530
00:27:27,320 --> 00:27:29,879
Speaker 3: Okay, yeah, yeah, it's apparent that they they seem to

531
00:27:29,880 --> 00:27:32,840
Speaker 3: come from like wealthy families. Yeah yeah, yeah, but that's

532
00:27:32,840 --> 00:27:33,560
Speaker 3: still not okay.

533
00:27:33,760 --> 00:27:37,040
Speaker 1: God, did you tell the others how much she stole?

534
00:27:37,119 --> 00:27:39,840
Speaker 1: Good point, yeah, because that could have helped them too.

535
00:27:40,440 --> 00:27:43,560
Speaker 1: I haven't disclosed the amount to anyone yet.

536
00:27:43,840 --> 00:27:47,960
Speaker 3: Tell them, Yeah, it's the truth. Yeah, you can be like, hey,

537
00:27:48,160 --> 00:27:50,120
Speaker 3: they'll be like, oh, she doesn't like you know, it's

538
00:27:50,160 --> 00:27:51,800
Speaker 3: just a little money, and you're like, no, it's twenty

539
00:27:51,800 --> 00:27:54,000
Speaker 3: five okay, Like come on five.

540
00:27:54,000 --> 00:27:56,640
Speaker 1: Okay, I'm probably going to send a text out tonight

541
00:27:56,880 --> 00:28:00,840
Speaker 1: with that information great and stating that anyone who feels

542
00:28:00,840 --> 00:28:05,400
Speaker 1: she was still justified is free to not attend Saturday

543
00:28:05,960 --> 00:28:09,560
Speaker 1: or moment. That's right. Yeah, yeah, yeah, there we go.

544
00:28:10,200 --> 00:28:12,639
Speaker 1: Why in the world did your fiance give her that

545
00:28:12,720 --> 00:28:14,840
Speaker 1: money a year ago? I think he gave it to

546
00:28:14,840 --> 00:28:18,000
Speaker 1: her under the assumption that a week long party would

547
00:28:18,000 --> 00:28:18,960
Speaker 1: take a while to plan.

548
00:28:19,160 --> 00:28:21,520
Speaker 3: That's true, because I was gonna say, like, twenty five

549
00:28:21,520 --> 00:28:24,800
Speaker 3: thousand dollars, you're getting flights and booking flights a year

550
00:28:24,840 --> 00:28:27,960
Speaker 3: in advance is like, you know important, Yes, yeah, that's

551
00:28:27,960 --> 00:28:30,200
Speaker 3: what I did for my flights when I went traveling

552
00:28:30,200 --> 00:28:32,560
Speaker 3: this summer. Yeah, it was like a year in advance

553
00:28:32,640 --> 00:28:34,840
Speaker 3: or like or maybe it was six months. It's like

554
00:28:35,119 --> 00:28:36,040
Speaker 3: there's a certain amount of.

555
00:28:36,000 --> 00:28:40,920
Speaker 1: Time significant and plus like we assume that Ma has

556
00:28:40,920 --> 00:28:42,920
Speaker 1: a full time job, but maybe your full time job

557
00:28:43,000 --> 00:28:44,800
Speaker 1: is just taking from her friend's bachelort of parties.

558
00:28:44,960 --> 00:28:45,400
Speaker 3: We don't know.

559
00:28:45,520 --> 00:28:50,960
Speaker 1: We don't have the answer answer stealing from people, and

560
00:28:51,320 --> 00:28:53,800
Speaker 1: that she could and that she could start booking things

561
00:28:53,840 --> 00:28:56,800
Speaker 1: that may have limited space, as well as dispersing the

562
00:28:56,800 --> 00:28:58,760
Speaker 1: money to coordinate flight so that's another point too. It's

563
00:28:58,840 --> 00:29:01,840
Speaker 1: like maybe because they're calling up people, they're going for

564
00:29:01,920 --> 00:29:05,320
Speaker 1: like all time dream bachelorette destination, so it's like, hey,

565
00:29:05,320 --> 00:29:07,040
Speaker 1: book it now because it might be so popular.

566
00:29:07,320 --> 00:29:09,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, and also making sure that people are free that

567
00:29:09,360 --> 00:29:10,000
Speaker 3: you know weak.

568
00:29:10,120 --> 00:29:13,480
Speaker 1: Yeah true if you're not working. Was just thinking ahead,

569
00:29:13,560 --> 00:29:15,479
Speaker 1: like let me be super practive. So she has all

570
00:29:15,480 --> 00:29:18,600
Speaker 1: the time she needs, yeah, to make the dream bachelorette parady,

571
00:29:19,360 --> 00:29:21,520
Speaker 1: But also is still kind of weird that he didn't

572
00:29:22,000 --> 00:29:23,280
Speaker 1: do any coordination.

573
00:29:23,760 --> 00:29:26,680
Speaker 3: I would personally, I would have checked in about twenty

574
00:29:26,680 --> 00:29:27,600
Speaker 3: five thousand.

575
00:29:27,400 --> 00:29:29,400
Speaker 1: Right, yeah, like hey, how's it going?

576
00:29:29,640 --> 00:29:32,160
Speaker 3: If I gave someone like two hundred dollars and be like, hey,

577
00:29:32,160 --> 00:29:32,680
Speaker 3: how's it going?

578
00:29:33,040 --> 00:29:33,240
Speaker 2: Yeah?

579
00:29:34,400 --> 00:29:37,800
Speaker 3: What you doing with it? Kennedy airbn emails? You can

580
00:29:37,880 --> 00:29:38,239
Speaker 3: tell me.

581
00:29:39,720 --> 00:29:41,880
Speaker 1: She is a person who has been in my life

582
00:29:41,880 --> 00:29:46,240
Speaker 1: since I was eighteen, which literally not five years.

583
00:29:46,800 --> 00:29:49,360
Speaker 3: Kids, that's I'm like, what kind of that was she

584
00:29:49,400 --> 00:29:52,640
Speaker 3: in me? Five years? And like the mom's like she's

585
00:29:52,720 --> 00:29:53,760
Speaker 3: like a sister to you.

586
00:29:54,240 --> 00:29:56,840
Speaker 2: Come on, come on, you must say. She must have

587
00:29:56,880 --> 00:29:58,640
Speaker 2: had a lot of friends okay growing up.

588
00:29:58,960 --> 00:30:02,480
Speaker 3: But like who care? She steals from her friends. That's

589
00:30:02,520 --> 00:30:05,760
Speaker 3: why she has no friends I'm really close to, like

590
00:30:05,960 --> 00:30:08,200
Speaker 3: friends that I've made in college that I've known for

591
00:30:08,240 --> 00:30:12,400
Speaker 3: maybe a couple of years, but like they're not like

592
00:30:12,600 --> 00:30:15,480
Speaker 3: my parents wouldn't consider it like them sisters.

593
00:30:15,560 --> 00:30:16,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, that's a great.

594
00:30:17,120 --> 00:30:19,200
Speaker 3: That's a great, Like my friends who my parents would

595
00:30:19,200 --> 00:30:21,280
Speaker 3: consider sisters, who I've known for a very long time,

596
00:30:21,440 --> 00:30:23,800
Speaker 3: but like considered like parents considering.

597
00:30:23,680 --> 00:30:26,440
Speaker 1: And then siding with them over yet with them over

598
00:30:26,600 --> 00:30:30,200
Speaker 1: you after like knowing each other since just since college, Yeah,

599
00:30:30,400 --> 00:30:31,560
Speaker 1: like four or five years.

600
00:30:31,840 --> 00:30:35,080
Speaker 3: And they probably haven't seen her that Like, they probably

601
00:30:35,120 --> 00:30:36,640
Speaker 3: didn't see her that much of those first few years.

602
00:30:36,640 --> 00:30:40,760
Speaker 1: They probably saw more yeah later, This is crazy suspicious

603
00:30:41,040 --> 00:30:43,760
Speaker 1: and Mara typically comes over to our house at least

604
00:30:43,840 --> 00:30:44,360
Speaker 1: once a week.

605
00:30:44,480 --> 00:30:47,440
Speaker 3: Okay, but still still.

606
00:30:47,360 --> 00:30:50,560
Speaker 1: My fiance considered her a close and trusted friend as well.

607
00:30:50,720 --> 00:30:53,440
Speaker 1: Now that the amount is out, most comments agree with

608
00:30:53,760 --> 00:30:58,440
Speaker 1: press charges. Like us, it's technically my fiance's money, even

609
00:30:58,480 --> 00:31:00,240
Speaker 1: if it was for what was supposed to be a

610
00:31:00,280 --> 00:31:02,040
Speaker 1: gift for me. He's leaving it up to me if

611
00:31:02,080 --> 00:31:04,040
Speaker 1: I want to press charges, and he has let me

612
00:31:04,080 --> 00:31:06,240
Speaker 1: know that he will support me with whatever route I

613
00:31:06,320 --> 00:31:09,640
Speaker 1: choose to go, which I mean, that's a good that's

614
00:31:09,720 --> 00:31:11,720
Speaker 1: the very kind kind thing of the fiance to do,

615
00:31:12,360 --> 00:31:15,200
Speaker 1: and still kind of in shock and obviously upset, so

616
00:31:15,320 --> 00:31:17,400
Speaker 1: pressing charges or taking her to civil court is the

617
00:31:17,440 --> 00:31:19,840
Speaker 1: last thing on my mind. He does have a text

618
00:31:19,840 --> 00:31:23,160
Speaker 1: exchange confirming that she received it and what it was for,

619
00:31:23,280 --> 00:31:26,040
Speaker 1: and she has sent me things confirming that she used

620
00:31:26,040 --> 00:31:29,640
Speaker 1: it to pay off debt, and her mom and boyfriend

621
00:31:29,720 --> 00:31:30,800
Speaker 1: have as well.

622
00:31:31,120 --> 00:31:36,440
Speaker 3: Well. The chain the paper seats three seats.

623
00:31:36,960 --> 00:31:39,080
Speaker 1: Maybe I'll change my mind later on, but right now

624
00:31:39,160 --> 00:31:41,320
Speaker 1: I just want to get married and get away from

625
00:31:41,400 --> 00:31:43,680
Speaker 1: the drama, which I can kind of understand with that,

626
00:31:43,880 --> 00:31:46,760
Speaker 1: like deal with the mess later after enjoying the wedding.

627
00:31:46,960 --> 00:31:49,160
Speaker 1: I get that. Did her mom and boyfriend tell you

628
00:31:49,200 --> 00:31:52,120
Speaker 1: that they just sent text confirming that's what she used

629
00:31:52,120 --> 00:31:54,280
Speaker 1: it for? As far as I know, she's the only

630
00:31:54,560 --> 00:31:58,920
Speaker 1: one who used it. And we have a big old

631
00:31:59,480 --> 00:32:00,560
Speaker 1: juice update.

632
00:32:00,840 --> 00:32:04,360
Speaker 3: Oh I hope it's stay suitor. Please wait, went on

633
00:32:04,440 --> 00:32:06,480
Speaker 3: a really nice honeymoon and then they came back.

634
00:32:06,360 --> 00:32:07,720
Speaker 1: And do you what do you think? What do you

635
00:32:07,720 --> 00:32:08,479
Speaker 1: think it's going to be?

636
00:32:08,560 --> 00:32:12,560
Speaker 3: Okay? I think they had a lovely honeymoon. Yes, oh wait,

637
00:32:12,560 --> 00:32:15,920
Speaker 3: but they probably talk about the wedding b I think

638
00:32:17,040 --> 00:32:20,960
Speaker 3: she They didn't invite her to the wedding. Yeah, she

639
00:32:21,080 --> 00:32:25,640
Speaker 3: showed up anyway. Ooh, that's a good one.

640
00:32:25,680 --> 00:32:31,000
Speaker 1: What do I think? I'm I'm gonna go real oral curveball.

641
00:32:31,160 --> 00:32:33,600
Speaker 1: They re invited her to the wedding. I'm gonna go

642
00:32:33,680 --> 00:32:39,360
Speaker 1: super curveball. Okay, let's see what happens onto the updates.

643
00:32:39,720 --> 00:32:40,160
Speaker 3: Hey read it.

644
00:32:40,200 --> 00:32:42,640
Speaker 1: I'm here to post an update from my original post.

645
00:32:42,880 --> 00:32:44,400
Speaker 1: First of all, thank you all for being so nice

646
00:32:44,400 --> 00:32:46,240
Speaker 1: on my previous post. I know this is delayed, but

647
00:32:46,280 --> 00:32:48,400
Speaker 1: I hope it answers any lingering questions you may have,

648
00:32:48,760 --> 00:32:50,960
Speaker 1: and I was somewhat waiting to have an update that

649
00:32:51,080 --> 00:32:54,040
Speaker 1: would answer those questions. So we know we got some

650
00:32:54,120 --> 00:32:57,040
Speaker 1: juice in here. I had no idea my previous post

651
00:32:57,080 --> 00:32:59,040
Speaker 1: would get so much attention and so many people would

652
00:32:59,040 --> 00:33:02,479
Speaker 1: be interested to answer the most pressing question.

653
00:33:03,160 --> 00:33:04,960
Speaker 3: I removed my maid of honor from.

654
00:33:04,760 --> 00:33:08,720
Speaker 1: My wedding and disinvited those who continue to support her

655
00:33:08,800 --> 00:33:12,920
Speaker 1: after I shared the amount that she stole. Yeah great, yeah,

656
00:33:12,960 --> 00:33:14,720
Speaker 1: get him out. This is your special day.

657
00:33:14,800 --> 00:33:16,920
Speaker 3: This is your special day, and people who are okay

658
00:33:16,960 --> 00:33:19,560
Speaker 3: with people stealing twenty five thousand also don't deserve to

659
00:33:19,560 --> 00:33:19,840
Speaker 3: be there.

660
00:33:20,280 --> 00:33:23,040
Speaker 1: Correct, This is for you. You get to invite who you want.

661
00:33:24,120 --> 00:33:26,600
Speaker 1: My husband and I had a lovely wedding and honeymoon

662
00:33:26,960 --> 00:33:29,760
Speaker 1: and when we got back in contact with his lawyer

663
00:33:29,960 --> 00:33:31,840
Speaker 1: to begin compiling information and.

664
00:33:31,880 --> 00:33:37,920
Speaker 3: Prepare to file a civil suit. Baby, let's go as

665
00:33:37,960 --> 00:33:39,120
Speaker 3: you should, as you should.

666
00:33:39,000 --> 00:33:41,600
Speaker 1: As you should. This is still in the early stages,

667
00:33:41,680 --> 00:33:44,240
Speaker 1: but as so many of you did point out, we

668
00:33:44,360 --> 00:33:47,640
Speaker 1: do have a responsibility to ensure that she faces some

669
00:33:47,760 --> 00:33:51,560
Speaker 1: kind of consequence to prevent this from happening to someone else. Yeah,

670
00:33:51,600 --> 00:33:53,440
Speaker 1: we didn't even mention that that is a great point.

671
00:33:53,440 --> 00:33:54,480
Speaker 3: I did not mention that.

672
00:33:55,120 --> 00:33:58,360
Speaker 1: While we won't be pressing criminal charges, we will cooperate

673
00:33:58,400 --> 00:34:01,480
Speaker 1: with law enforcement should the district attorney wished to bring

674
00:34:01,600 --> 00:34:05,520
Speaker 1: charges after information is brought forth in our civil suits.

675
00:34:06,200 --> 00:34:09,680
Speaker 1: I honestly don't think my ex friend has money to

676
00:34:09,760 --> 00:34:12,960
Speaker 1: repay us, but we will be donating anything that we

677
00:34:13,000 --> 00:34:16,840
Speaker 1: receive from the trial. I'll try to respond to comments

678
00:34:16,840 --> 00:34:19,600
Speaker 1: below and see if there are any other.

679
00:34:19,960 --> 00:34:22,520
Speaker 3: Wait donating to like charity.

680
00:34:23,480 --> 00:34:27,239
Speaker 1: Yeah, it looks like it these people, I mean super.

681
00:34:27,400 --> 00:34:29,439
Speaker 3: I'm gonna see, like, if we get the money back

682
00:34:29,480 --> 00:34:31,879
Speaker 3: from the lawsuits, we'll give it away.

683
00:34:32,200 --> 00:34:34,400
Speaker 1: I think I think they're basically just like, we just

684
00:34:34,480 --> 00:34:37,640
Speaker 1: kind of need to teach her a lesson. You can't just.

685
00:34:37,640 --> 00:34:40,839
Speaker 3: Do this, Yeah, no, you absolutely can't. And I think

686
00:34:40,960 --> 00:34:44,520
Speaker 3: that's I think I'm starting to understand obviously it's not

687
00:34:44,560 --> 00:34:47,120
Speaker 3: a can't, but I'm starting to understand why all these

688
00:34:47,640 --> 00:34:49,960
Speaker 3: extra family and friends are like, oh, well, you have

689
00:34:50,160 --> 00:34:52,960
Speaker 3: all this money, so they're just like kind of taking advantage.

690
00:34:53,040 --> 00:34:56,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, they're just like, oh, it doesn't ultimately hurt you,

691
00:34:57,160 --> 00:35:00,759
Speaker 1: like it was totally I mean Op basically said that like, hey,

692
00:35:00,800 --> 00:35:02,120
Speaker 1: he didn't give me any money.

693
00:35:02,160 --> 00:35:05,800
Speaker 3: That was too much, Yeah, which, but yeah, the problem

694
00:35:05,840 --> 00:35:08,319
Speaker 3: is not like that the money. I guess for them,

695
00:35:08,360 --> 00:35:10,680
Speaker 3: it's just the lack of trust.

696
00:35:10,360 --> 00:35:14,000
Speaker 1: The lack of trust and betrayal. And also like remember

697
00:35:14,080 --> 00:35:19,400
Speaker 1: when she called crying saying that she didn't have anywhere

698
00:35:19,400 --> 00:35:22,799
Speaker 1: to wear her dress. It's like that's crazy, how how

699
00:35:23,000 --> 00:35:27,640
Speaker 1: like inconsiderate? Yeah, and like unempathetic? Are you? Oh like

700
00:35:27,880 --> 00:35:30,239
Speaker 1: I oh my god, Like not only did you steal

701
00:35:30,280 --> 00:35:34,799
Speaker 1: this money, but probably for Op most importantly, she kind

702
00:35:34,800 --> 00:35:37,120
Speaker 1: of like almost ruined the wedding.

703
00:35:37,120 --> 00:35:40,840
Speaker 3: Yeah, which really, I mean, yeah.

704
00:35:41,160 --> 00:35:43,600
Speaker 1: Worth more than the money, like your special day marrying

705
00:35:43,640 --> 00:35:46,880
Speaker 1: the person you love. Also, Beyonce made it out clear.

706
00:35:49,040 --> 00:35:51,399
Speaker 3: We kept her eye on him, but he did good.

707
00:35:51,480 --> 00:35:55,480
Speaker 3: Yeah had return. So yeah, yeah, I'll let you off

708
00:35:55,480 --> 00:35:55,879
Speaker 3: this time.

709
00:35:56,040 --> 00:35:59,560
Speaker 1: I guess we'll let you off this time, Buddah Riley

710
00:35:59,560 --> 00:36:02,680
Speaker 1: did we did we? So we asked about the scenario.

711
00:36:02,760 --> 00:36:03,560
Speaker 1: But what about what?

712
00:36:03,560 --> 00:36:03,960
Speaker 3: What? What?

713
00:36:03,960 --> 00:36:07,080
Speaker 1: What does the Riley bachelor party look like? Okay, story time,

714
00:36:07,160 --> 00:36:07,560
Speaker 1: let's get it.

715
00:36:07,560 --> 00:36:11,360
Speaker 2: Am I getting married like tomorrow, married in two years,

716
00:36:11,440 --> 00:36:13,879
Speaker 2: two years with the current friends that I have. Here's

717
00:36:13,960 --> 00:36:17,640
Speaker 2: who's the one team? John, You're coming, Sam's coming, my

718
00:36:17,760 --> 00:36:19,800
Speaker 2: boy Rex is coming, and my brother takes coming and then.

719
00:36:19,640 --> 00:36:20,560
Speaker 1: Me let's go.

720
00:36:20,920 --> 00:36:24,040
Speaker 2: Everyone gets to Tuesday night.

721
00:36:24,560 --> 00:36:28,920
Speaker 3: I guess, okay party, this is the letter.

722
00:36:31,160 --> 00:36:33,640
Speaker 2: He's like, damn, hang out with my wife. I heard that.

723
00:36:36,600 --> 00:36:39,120
Speaker 3: I don't want to be at your bachelor I don't

724
00:36:39,120 --> 00:36:41,160
Speaker 3: even want to go. I don't want to be there.

725
00:36:41,680 --> 00:36:44,520
Speaker 2: Okay, night one. Everyone gets here. Tuesday night, we got

726
00:36:44,600 --> 00:36:47,440
Speaker 2: in the hotel. We hang out. Wednesday, we hang out

727
00:36:47,440 --> 00:36:49,880
Speaker 2: in l A. We play a pickup game of basketball.

728
00:36:50,080 --> 00:36:52,239
Speaker 2: I just want to play a pickup games. When to

729
00:36:52,360 --> 00:36:53,479
Speaker 2: ride on the bikes in the beach.

730
00:36:53,560 --> 00:36:53,840
Speaker 1: Whatever.

731
00:36:53,840 --> 00:36:57,440
Speaker 2: Everybody gets here, they stay here Wednesday night. Thursday morning,

732
00:36:57,520 --> 00:37:01,840
Speaker 2: we get up super early. We had canyon, we camp,

733
00:37:02,840 --> 00:37:04,319
Speaker 2: we go see it, we camp, We have a good

734
00:37:04,320 --> 00:37:06,480
Speaker 2: time at the fireplace, and then after that we get

735
00:37:06,560 --> 00:37:09,239
Speaker 2: up the next morning, hit a flag Staff. We could

736
00:37:09,280 --> 00:37:11,000
Speaker 2: either get a hotel room or camp if it's a

737
00:37:11,000 --> 00:37:13,279
Speaker 2: cool place. See the Grand Canyon, and then hang out

738
00:37:13,320 --> 00:37:15,920
Speaker 2: flag Staff, hit a couple of bars, playpool. I definitely

739
00:37:15,920 --> 00:37:18,239
Speaker 2: want to play pool at some point and then head

740
00:37:18,280 --> 00:37:21,120
Speaker 2: back hit up Joshua Tree, camp there for a night,

741
00:37:21,120 --> 00:37:24,040
Speaker 2: playpool again that night, have some good stories, and then

742
00:37:24,080 --> 00:37:27,480
Speaker 2: head back. Maybe hit up Vegas just for Gigston giggles

743
00:37:27,560 --> 00:37:29,960
Speaker 2: yea on the way there. But that's that's the move.

744
00:37:30,080 --> 00:37:30,520
Speaker 2: That's the move.

745
00:37:30,520 --> 00:37:34,399
Speaker 1: I definitely want to play basketball player. That's I love that.

746
00:37:34,400 --> 00:37:37,440
Speaker 1: That is also such a Riley bachelor party too, Like

747
00:37:37,640 --> 00:37:43,040
Speaker 1: I want to play basketball National Parks. Dude's awesome.

748
00:37:43,120 --> 00:37:46,719
Speaker 2: Yeah, nothing't like too crazy. I don't want like a

749
00:37:46,719 --> 00:37:47,520
Speaker 2: strip club.

750
00:37:47,360 --> 00:37:50,120
Speaker 3: Or like, no, I just think I think we've talked

751
00:37:50,120 --> 00:37:52,200
Speaker 3: about this before, but having like a strip club as

752
00:37:52,239 --> 00:37:56,000
Speaker 3: a bachelor bachelorette party before like getting just being in

753
00:37:56,040 --> 00:37:56,759
Speaker 3: a relationship.

754
00:37:56,920 --> 00:38:01,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, you're literally like yeah, Like the only scenario is

755
00:38:02,000 --> 00:38:05,640
Speaker 1: like both parties are like attending to there or it's

756
00:38:05,680 --> 00:38:09,880
Speaker 1: like very very clearly communicated. But yeah, you both so

757
00:38:10,080 --> 00:38:14,120
Speaker 1: like wrong like go to a strip club or something

758
00:38:14,200 --> 00:38:16,840
Speaker 1: like before right before you get married, you get married,

759
00:38:17,280 --> 00:38:20,600
Speaker 1: Like yeah, I just.

760
00:38:20,560 --> 00:38:22,800
Speaker 3: Hate the idea of like it's the last night of freedom.

761
00:38:23,280 --> 00:38:30,239
Speaker 3: What still you're not being not like you're free, like

762
00:38:30,280 --> 00:38:34,160
Speaker 3: this is you chose this. The relationship is exactly the same.

763
00:38:34,640 --> 00:38:38,439
Speaker 3: It's just like legal, you signed a paper. Yeah.

764
00:38:38,800 --> 00:38:43,480
Speaker 1: We had this one story once where the husband so

765
00:38:43,560 --> 00:38:45,600
Speaker 1: like the husband and wife they commonly went to strip

766
00:38:45,600 --> 00:38:48,719
Speaker 1: clubs together, so it's like normal that it was part

767
00:38:48,760 --> 00:38:53,839
Speaker 1: of their relationship. And he he went like a few

768
00:38:53,920 --> 00:38:58,480
Speaker 1: days before their wedding, and then the husband like met

769
00:38:58,520 --> 00:39:01,279
Speaker 1: some stripper and then he was it's like, oh, hey,

770
00:39:01,480 --> 00:39:04,720
Speaker 1: can she like join our wedding. And then he kept

771
00:39:04,719 --> 00:39:07,759
Speaker 1: like like increasing it more and more to like he

772
00:39:07,840 --> 00:39:12,120
Speaker 1: basically wanted a threesome with with the stripper. He was

773
00:39:12,160 --> 00:39:15,319
Speaker 1: like trying to like slowly but surely like build his

774
00:39:15,719 --> 00:39:19,040
Speaker 1: like first invite to the wedding, then make her a bride.

775
00:39:20,840 --> 00:39:23,759
Speaker 3: Oh my god, like like four days before the.

776
00:39:23,719 --> 00:39:28,160
Speaker 1: Wedding, this like random stripper, My god, Yeah that's crazy.

777
00:39:28,480 --> 00:39:31,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, oh yikes, yikes.

778
00:39:31,200 --> 00:39:37,440
Speaker 1: Classic okop. But speaking of classic okop, Sofia, I.

779
00:39:37,360 --> 00:39:41,840
Speaker 3: Got another story. Am I the a hole for getting

780
00:39:41,840 --> 00:39:44,640
Speaker 3: married on November the eleventh after my sister said it

781
00:39:44,680 --> 00:39:48,719
Speaker 3: was her date? This is okayop, home of the craziest

782
00:39:48,760 --> 00:39:52,480
Speaker 3: true stories on Earth. I'm Sophia and John is op

783
00:39:52,719 --> 00:39:53,319
Speaker 3: the a hole.

784
00:39:53,719 --> 00:39:57,160
Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, yeah, if your friend's like, yo, I'm

785
00:39:57,160 --> 00:39:59,239
Speaker 1: gonna have the greatest wedding, it's going to be on

786
00:39:59,280 --> 00:40:02,880
Speaker 1: November eleven, and then they're like, yeah, you just gave.

787
00:40:02,719 --> 00:40:06,680
Speaker 3: Me a gamember. Yeah, and the essay you don't say,

788
00:40:07,920 --> 00:40:09,959
Speaker 3: I think, I think not the a whole. I don't

789
00:40:09,960 --> 00:40:11,919
Speaker 3: know if you I mean, I guest, I guess it's

790
00:40:13,000 --> 00:40:16,600
Speaker 3: I guess you need to know if they knew before well,

791
00:40:17,160 --> 00:40:19,640
Speaker 3: if it was like and if they were like consciously

792
00:40:19,760 --> 00:40:23,080
Speaker 3: like I like that day. Yeah, it's a solid day.

793
00:40:23,200 --> 00:40:26,160
Speaker 1: Also, I'm wondering if because we've you know, we see

794
00:40:26,160 --> 00:40:28,160
Speaker 1: these plot twists all the time where the title is like, oh,

795
00:40:28,200 --> 00:40:30,640
Speaker 1: actually there's a total plot twist to it. Uh, is

796
00:40:30,640 --> 00:40:33,200
Speaker 1: it the same day like many years later? Yeah, And

797
00:40:33,560 --> 00:40:36,000
Speaker 1: she's like, oh, there could only be one like November

798
00:40:36,040 --> 00:40:37,719
Speaker 1: eleventh anniversary.

799
00:40:37,800 --> 00:40:41,360
Speaker 3: It's like, yeah, I'm gonna go. I'm going to go that.

800
00:40:41,480 --> 00:40:42,839
Speaker 1: I'm going to go, not the a whole. Yeah, it's

801
00:40:42,840 --> 00:40:43,319
Speaker 1: a plot twist.

802
00:40:43,560 --> 00:40:48,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think not the ahole it so see my

803
00:40:48,520 --> 00:40:52,719
Speaker 3: cologist nine seven fifteen says I, thirty three female, am

804
00:40:52,760 --> 00:40:55,480
Speaker 3: getting married soon. On January first of this year, I

805
00:40:55,480 --> 00:40:58,200
Speaker 3: announced to my mother and sister thirty seven female the

806
00:40:58,280 --> 00:41:01,680
Speaker 3: date of my wedding, eleven eleven. I wanted a fall wedding,

807
00:41:01,680 --> 00:41:04,320
Speaker 3: the leaves to be changing and to be cool outside.

808
00:41:04,840 --> 00:41:07,640
Speaker 3: We chose November. With the holidays and whatnot, there were

809
00:41:07,640 --> 00:41:10,920
Speaker 3: only two Saturdays in November that made sense. Fiance chose

810
00:41:10,920 --> 00:41:14,200
Speaker 3: the eleventh because it's indicative of our dating anniversary. So

811
00:41:14,280 --> 00:41:18,000
Speaker 3: it was decided eleven eleven. I announced the date to

812
00:41:18,080 --> 00:41:22,640
Speaker 3: my family. My siss became upset, What do you why

813
00:41:22,719 --> 00:41:25,400
Speaker 3: do you think eleven eleven is important? Which is crazy?

814
00:41:25,480 --> 00:41:27,160
Speaker 3: For why eleven eleven is important to this?

815
00:41:27,640 --> 00:41:30,919
Speaker 1: I mean, I feel like because originally we were like, oh,

816
00:41:31,040 --> 00:41:33,160
Speaker 1: is the wedding literally on the same day?

817
00:41:33,200 --> 00:41:34,880
Speaker 3: Yeah, I thought like that they got married, like his

818
00:41:35,000 --> 00:41:36,600
Speaker 3: sister had the same anniversary something.

819
00:41:36,640 --> 00:41:40,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, So like if it's well, I'm saying, like literally

820
00:41:40,200 --> 00:41:43,000
Speaker 1: the two wedding ceremonies at the same exact day, that

821
00:41:43,120 --> 00:41:45,200
Speaker 1: is like, oh you're you're a maniac.

822
00:41:45,360 --> 00:41:45,520
Speaker 2: Like.

823
00:41:46,560 --> 00:41:49,600
Speaker 1: But if it's if it's something like the anniversary, which

824
00:41:49,600 --> 00:41:52,480
Speaker 1: I'm guessing it is like come on.

825
00:41:52,600 --> 00:41:56,759
Speaker 3: Like, yeah, well number one, there's there's actually hold on,

826
00:41:57,000 --> 00:42:00,839
Speaker 3: let me see. There's three reasons. Ooh, okay, since number

827
00:42:00,880 --> 00:42:04,640
Speaker 3: one her favorite band sings a song that's called eleven eleven,

828
00:42:04,760 --> 00:42:09,000
Speaker 3: so she has a tattooed on her Number two, she

829
00:42:09,080 --> 00:42:12,200
Speaker 3: was engaged to some guy like fifteen years ago. They

830
00:42:12,200 --> 00:42:14,720
Speaker 3: didn't get married, but they were supposed to get married

831
00:42:14,760 --> 00:42:20,239
Speaker 3: on eleven eleven. I had completely forgotten Number three. It's

832
00:42:20,280 --> 00:42:23,600
Speaker 3: a week before her wedding anniversary. She was upset because

833
00:42:23,600 --> 00:42:27,040
Speaker 3: eleven eleven is her thing, and it felt like a

834
00:42:27,040 --> 00:42:28,799
Speaker 3: slap in the face that I would get married a

835
00:42:28,840 --> 00:42:32,200
Speaker 3: week before she did years ago. My sis and I

836
00:42:32,239 --> 00:42:34,920
Speaker 3: have a tumultuous relationship. The last fight we got into

837
00:42:35,040 --> 00:42:37,800
Speaker 3: was at my birthday two years ago. We had discussed

838
00:42:37,840 --> 00:42:40,360
Speaker 3: having a family dinner. I ended up inviting some friends.

839
00:42:40,560 --> 00:42:43,239
Speaker 3: Fiance wanted it to be special, and about ten to

840
00:42:43,280 --> 00:42:46,600
Speaker 3: eleven people ended up being there. Sister was pissed because

841
00:42:46,600 --> 00:42:48,040
Speaker 3: if she had known there were going to be other

842
00:42:48,040 --> 00:42:50,920
Speaker 3: people there. She wouldn't have come because she didn't feel well.

843
00:42:51,120 --> 00:42:53,600
Speaker 3: I told her she was never obligated to come, and

844
00:42:53,640 --> 00:42:55,319
Speaker 3: I didn't think I needed to make her aware of

845
00:42:55,360 --> 00:42:58,279
Speaker 3: the guest list. Anyway, we ended up not talking for

846
00:42:58,320 --> 00:43:00,520
Speaker 3: a while. But because my sister is stubbor, she has

847
00:43:00,600 --> 00:43:03,920
Speaker 3: never apologized, doesn't take blame. I eventually just let it

848
00:43:03,960 --> 00:43:06,279
Speaker 3: go to appease my mother. So when I found out

849
00:43:06,280 --> 00:43:08,240
Speaker 3: she was pissed about the date I chose for my wedding,

850
00:43:08,360 --> 00:43:12,000
Speaker 3: I wasn't having it. I worked really hard the last

851
00:43:12,160 --> 00:43:16,040
Speaker 3: several years to establish boundaries with family and friends and

852
00:43:16,080 --> 00:43:18,839
Speaker 3: to not be steamrles. I was hurt my sister made

853
00:43:18,880 --> 00:43:21,279
Speaker 3: my wedding about her. She told me that I took

854
00:43:21,360 --> 00:43:23,360
Speaker 3: her thing and as a result, she wasn't going to

855
00:43:23,360 --> 00:43:25,920
Speaker 3: be in the country for my wedding. She booked a trip.

856
00:43:26,440 --> 00:43:30,279
Speaker 3: It's now been ten months. That's crazy. It's been ten

857
00:43:30,320 --> 00:43:31,800
Speaker 3: months since they've interacted.

858
00:43:32,000 --> 00:43:35,560
Speaker 1: Oh oh, I thought. I thought she left the country

859
00:43:35,600 --> 00:43:38,600
Speaker 1: ten months and it was still like, you.

860
00:43:38,520 --> 00:43:44,200
Speaker 3: Want to get married a living the country.

861
00:43:43,320 --> 00:43:43,440
Speaker 1: Oh.

862
00:43:44,360 --> 00:43:46,799
Speaker 3: I think it's to my knowledge from the way that

863
00:43:46,880 --> 00:43:49,200
Speaker 3: this is worded, I think it's just been ten months

864
00:43:49,239 --> 00:43:50,680
Speaker 3: since they've interacted.

865
00:43:50,239 --> 00:43:51,960
Speaker 1: They spoke, yes, so she's probably telling her like.

866
00:43:51,960 --> 00:43:55,760
Speaker 3: She booked the trip for the wedding, right yeah, wow,

867
00:43:56,360 --> 00:44:02,080
Speaker 3: I mean, how narcissistic and just like like how ye

868
00:44:02,400 --> 00:44:05,319
Speaker 3: kidding me? Like all the only thing that's tying her

869
00:44:05,360 --> 00:44:10,359
Speaker 3: to this date is that sure the band has a

870
00:44:10,360 --> 00:44:11,799
Speaker 3: song called eleven eleven.

871
00:44:11,880 --> 00:44:14,000
Speaker 1: Which, if anything, you're like, oh, that's so funny and

872
00:44:14,040 --> 00:44:14,480
Speaker 1: so cool.

873
00:44:16,360 --> 00:44:19,440
Speaker 3: The second one is that she was supposed to be

874
00:44:19,520 --> 00:44:22,400
Speaker 3: married to someone on eleven eleven but didn't get married

875
00:44:22,640 --> 00:44:26,319
Speaker 3: fifteen years ago. Fifteen years ago, and that I think

876
00:44:26,360 --> 00:44:28,239
Speaker 3: that's it. I think that's it.

877
00:44:28,880 --> 00:44:31,359
Speaker 2: Let it go, like even though it's tattooed on her,

878
00:44:31,440 --> 00:44:33,439
Speaker 2: like that's kind of a good thing, Like, oh, it's

879
00:44:33,480 --> 00:44:35,719
Speaker 2: my sister's wedding and the band and she could just

880
00:44:35,719 --> 00:44:37,839
Speaker 2: pick whatever she wanted to be imagine the.

881
00:44:37,800 --> 00:44:43,160
Speaker 3: Speech, Yeah, like what's so crazy? Yeah, years ago, I've

882
00:44:43,160 --> 00:44:45,920
Speaker 3: always known that this man was right for my sister.

883
00:44:46,160 --> 00:44:51,520
Speaker 3: How cool it Like literally that'd be such a cool Yeah,

884
00:44:51,600 --> 00:44:57,719
Speaker 3: you suck, sister, sister. Let me tell you something. Her

885
00:44:57,719 --> 00:45:00,560
Speaker 3: and I have had limited interaction. My mom says, to

886
00:45:00,600 --> 00:45:03,239
Speaker 3: start the conversation with my sister and to let things

887
00:45:03,280 --> 00:45:06,200
Speaker 3: go because we all know how your sister can be.

888
00:45:07,080 --> 00:45:09,560
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, Oh, we don't know how your sister is

889
00:45:09,600 --> 00:45:11,600
Speaker 1: an asshole, so let's let's appease.

890
00:45:11,280 --> 00:45:13,960
Speaker 3: Her like these. Oh we all know your sister sucks.

891
00:45:14,760 --> 00:45:18,680
Speaker 3: How about me? Mom? Wedding mom said I should have

892
00:45:18,800 --> 00:45:21,640
Speaker 3: asked my sisters first if it was okay to choose

893
00:45:21,680 --> 00:45:25,640
Speaker 3: that day, and I could have approached the subject delicately.

894
00:45:26,120 --> 00:45:29,399
Speaker 3: But she forgot do you forkidd we like rightly? So

895
00:45:29,560 --> 00:45:33,479
Speaker 3: she forgot that the day had any importance fifteen years ago.

896
00:45:33,719 --> 00:45:36,480
Speaker 3: That's how was she supposed to know? How is she

897
00:45:36,520 --> 00:45:41,160
Speaker 3: supposed to know? That's crazy? Oh, that's crazy. This was

898
00:45:41,360 --> 00:45:43,239
Speaker 3: mind blowing to me because my mother and I have

899
00:45:43,280 --> 00:45:46,319
Speaker 3: to walk on egg shells with my sister. Over the year,

900
00:45:46,360 --> 00:45:49,040
Speaker 3: they've discussed how I could have done things different differently,

901
00:45:49,239 --> 00:45:51,320
Speaker 3: or why it couldn't have been this day or that day.

902
00:45:51,600 --> 00:45:53,680
Speaker 3: My wedding is two weeks away and my sister and

903
00:45:53,760 --> 00:45:56,759
Speaker 3: I haven't talked. I didn't send her an invite because

904
00:45:56,800 --> 00:45:59,319
Speaker 3: she has not apologized and already said she wouldn't be going.

905
00:46:00,080 --> 00:46:02,400
Speaker 3: No reason to have to initiate the combo, like always

906
00:46:02,800 --> 00:46:05,560
Speaker 3: strengthening the pattern of letting her get her away. It

907
00:46:05,600 --> 00:46:07,480
Speaker 3: has been heartbreaking to not have my sister there for

908
00:46:07,560 --> 00:46:10,320
Speaker 3: my activities, and it hurts to know that her pride

909
00:46:10,320 --> 00:46:12,440
Speaker 3: got in the way of spending time with me. But

910
00:46:12,520 --> 00:46:14,720
Speaker 3: for once in my life, I want to stand strong

911
00:46:14,920 --> 00:46:17,120
Speaker 3: and say I deserve better.

912
00:46:17,719 --> 00:46:24,160
Speaker 1: Yes, yes, yes better, so happy, Yes, I agree this

913
00:46:25,120 --> 00:46:26,000
Speaker 1: yeah done?

914
00:46:26,600 --> 00:46:30,560
Speaker 3: When it is OPI the a whole.

915
00:46:30,719 --> 00:46:36,480
Speaker 1: My god resounding absolutely not.

916
00:46:36,840 --> 00:46:39,880
Speaker 3: Yeah, and all the commenters agree that was the verdict.

917
00:46:40,000 --> 00:46:44,319
Speaker 1: I mean, I mean, surprise, shocking, Oh god, it's just

918
00:46:44,360 --> 00:46:47,080
Speaker 1: so insane these people that just like make it all

919
00:46:47,120 --> 00:46:50,680
Speaker 1: about them, But honestly, low Ki almost crazier is the

920
00:46:50,840 --> 00:46:52,800
Speaker 1: other people around them.

921
00:46:52,719 --> 00:46:53,760
Speaker 3: Who let it happen.

922
00:46:54,040 --> 00:46:58,120
Speaker 1: Let it happen, Like this is your so you're you're

923
00:46:58,160 --> 00:47:00,319
Speaker 1: you're truly picking one daughter of the other. This is

924
00:47:00,360 --> 00:47:04,040
Speaker 1: your one of your daughter's weddings, and the other daughter

925
00:47:04,120 --> 00:47:07,400
Speaker 1: is being a freaking idiot and is using the dumbest

926
00:47:07,400 --> 00:47:09,719
Speaker 1: reasons ever. Like I think she's just like, I just

927
00:47:09,760 --> 00:47:10,840
Speaker 1: don't want you to be happy.

928
00:47:11,040 --> 00:47:13,520
Speaker 3: Basically, it seems like you just mean.

929
00:47:13,600 --> 00:47:16,239
Speaker 1: What if she just changes it and then she's like, oh, hey,

930
00:47:16,560 --> 00:47:20,560
Speaker 1: I I had a doctor's appointment on atment.

931
00:47:20,600 --> 00:47:21,759
Speaker 3: It actually means a lot to me.

932
00:47:21,880 --> 00:47:24,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, I can't move. I love I love my doctor

933
00:47:24,200 --> 00:47:26,240
Speaker 1: more than He's like, oh what if we did.

934
00:47:26,200 --> 00:47:29,719
Speaker 3: Like March third? And she's like, oh, well, you know

935
00:47:30,560 --> 00:47:34,799
Speaker 3: I got a dog that day. What are you?

936
00:47:34,840 --> 00:47:35,520
Speaker 1: What are you gonna do?

937
00:47:36,560 --> 00:47:38,320
Speaker 3: Sorry, just find another one.

938
00:47:38,440 --> 00:47:41,319
Speaker 1: No, yeah, line is here.

939
00:47:41,960 --> 00:47:45,759
Speaker 3: There are some relevant comments. It's careful now, says not

940
00:47:45,840 --> 00:47:48,239
Speaker 3: the a hole. But what is your mom going to do?

941
00:47:48,400 --> 00:47:50,680
Speaker 3: She clearly favors stompy sister.

942
00:47:51,400 --> 00:47:52,840
Speaker 1: Stompy sister?

943
00:47:56,560 --> 00:47:58,960
Speaker 3: Is she going to ruin your wedding too? She's already

944
00:47:58,960 --> 00:48:00,480
Speaker 3: doing a good job in the run up to it.

945
00:48:00,760 --> 00:48:04,480
Speaker 3: Who are all the people giving you whoop? I would

946
00:48:04,520 --> 00:48:06,759
Speaker 3: be having thoughts about how involved I would want them

947
00:48:06,800 --> 00:48:09,880
Speaker 3: in my life going forward? Me too? So are your

948
00:48:09,880 --> 00:48:12,560
Speaker 3: wedding is being marred like this? Op? He says. My

949
00:48:12,640 --> 00:48:15,439
Speaker 3: mother and I have a sordid relationship. She's not great

950
00:48:15,440 --> 00:48:17,799
Speaker 3: about respecting my boundaries. But when I spoke to her

951
00:48:17,840 --> 00:48:20,680
Speaker 3: last week she did that. I'm sorry, I'm a terrible mother.

952
00:48:20,760 --> 00:48:25,719
Speaker 3: Bit Oh that's warming hat yikes. And then there's also

953
00:48:25,760 --> 00:48:31,600
Speaker 3: an update. Oh this is November twentieth update. The day

954
00:48:31,640 --> 00:48:34,920
Speaker 3: before my wedding, Friday the tenth, my mother came over

955
00:48:34,920 --> 00:48:36,640
Speaker 3: to my house to help me put some last minute

956
00:48:36,640 --> 00:48:39,759
Speaker 3: things together. She texted my sister when she arrived, saying,

957
00:48:39,960 --> 00:48:43,239
Speaker 3: just got to your sisters. Talk to you later. My

958
00:48:43,280 --> 00:48:48,880
Speaker 3: sister responded with have fun and followed it up with

959
00:48:48,920 --> 00:48:55,080
Speaker 3: another text saying dumb wedding. Yikes, yikes are I can't?

960
00:48:55,239 --> 00:48:58,440
Speaker 3: Oh my god? What kind of text chain is this

961
00:48:58,600 --> 00:49:01,400
Speaker 3: come on? Coincidentally, my mother was showing me something on

962
00:49:01,440 --> 00:49:04,279
Speaker 3: her phone when my sister texted that. Sister tried to

963
00:49:04,360 --> 00:49:06,880
Speaker 3: immediately delete, which is something I guess iPhones can do

964
00:49:06,920 --> 00:49:09,680
Speaker 3: to each other. I give my mom back her phone

965
00:49:10,080 --> 00:49:13,040
Speaker 3: and at this point, I'm so angry I cannot sit.

966
00:49:13,480 --> 00:49:16,880
Speaker 3: I'm pacing around the house since the dumb wedding message

967
00:49:16,920 --> 00:49:19,640
Speaker 3: had disappeared. My mother almost didn't believe it happened. She

968
00:49:19,719 --> 00:49:22,480
Speaker 3: texted my sister and asked if she did that. Sister

969
00:49:22,640 --> 00:49:25,840
Speaker 3: admitted it. Mother asked why she would say something like

970
00:49:25,880 --> 00:49:34,759
Speaker 3: that and that I saw it. My sister's response was, well, well, well,

971
00:49:35,680 --> 00:49:38,280
Speaker 3: then wanted to know how I saw it. My anger

972
00:49:38,320 --> 00:49:41,200
Speaker 3: had turned into sadness and I started crying. I told

973
00:49:41,200 --> 00:49:43,560
Speaker 3: my mother that it was be asked to be treated

974
00:49:43,560 --> 00:49:46,280
Speaker 3: this way by my sister, who is close to forty.

975
00:49:46,320 --> 00:49:48,840
Speaker 3: That is too old to be acting like this. Stupid.

976
00:49:49,520 --> 00:49:51,759
Speaker 3: My mother told my sister. I was very upset and

977
00:49:51,800 --> 00:49:57,160
Speaker 3: said to us, stop acting silly. That's not silly, that's silly. Silly.

978
00:49:57,880 --> 00:50:00,400
Speaker 3: The entire day I spent in a funk. Years of

979
00:50:00,440 --> 00:50:03,560
Speaker 3: trauma and abuse make me susceptible to other people's emotions

980
00:50:03,600 --> 00:50:06,000
Speaker 3: and thoughts, and I have a hard time snapping out

981
00:50:06,000 --> 00:50:08,600
Speaker 3: of it. Not just family, but a horribly aft up

982
00:50:08,680 --> 00:50:11,239
Speaker 3: first marriage. I'm also trying to rack my brain and

983
00:50:11,239 --> 00:50:14,319
Speaker 3: figure out genuinely why I deserve this. You don't know.

984
00:50:15,120 --> 00:50:16,799
Speaker 3: At one point, we were at the venue with my

985
00:50:16,840 --> 00:50:19,279
Speaker 3: mother in law, who asked me what was wrong. My

986
00:50:19,360 --> 00:50:23,920
Speaker 3: mother interrupted and said I was tired, and winked at me. Wits,

987
00:50:24,280 --> 00:50:28,560
Speaker 3: stop wigs. That's not like a oh we have a

988
00:50:28,560 --> 00:50:36,040
Speaker 3: little inside joke. She's just tired. You know, when your

989
00:50:36,120 --> 00:50:42,680
Speaker 3: sister is ruining your relationship, that's crazy. Wow. Later I

990
00:50:42,719 --> 00:50:45,240
Speaker 3: told my mother in law the truth. I'm not ashamed

991
00:50:45,320 --> 00:50:47,440
Speaker 3: or embarrassed, and I'm not going to lie to protect

992
00:50:47,480 --> 00:50:50,080
Speaker 3: my sister. When my mother and sister spoke later that night,

993
00:50:50,200 --> 00:50:52,520
Speaker 3: my sister tried to change her story. She said that

994
00:50:52,600 --> 00:50:55,400
Speaker 3: I took it the wrong way, and she meant expensive

995
00:50:55,440 --> 00:50:58,200
Speaker 3: weddings are dumb, which also isn't like your thing to

996
00:50:58,200 --> 00:51:01,880
Speaker 3: comment on either, literally, bop, But she has no idea

997
00:51:01,960 --> 00:51:04,000
Speaker 3: how much money I've spent on the wedding or any

998
00:51:04,000 --> 00:51:06,319
Speaker 3: of the details. And come on, if that's what she meant,

999
00:51:06,320 --> 00:51:09,279
Speaker 3: she would have clarified immediately. Yeah, my mother seemed to

1000
00:51:09,280 --> 00:51:12,520
Speaker 3: sort of believe her bs excuse wedding dan came. Never

1001
00:51:12,600 --> 00:51:14,439
Speaker 3: heard from my sister and she was on her trip.

1002
00:51:14,520 --> 00:51:18,640
Speaker 3: I guess the wedding was gorgeous, and I'm honestly relieved

1003
00:51:18,640 --> 00:51:21,319
Speaker 3: she wasn't there. Extended family came into town, and my

1004
00:51:21,360 --> 00:51:24,000
Speaker 3: sister's scheduled dinner with them the day before the wedding

1005
00:51:24,440 --> 00:51:26,680
Speaker 3: to make sure she could see them, which annoyed me.

1006
00:51:26,920 --> 00:51:28,799
Speaker 2: I have a question, Yeah, as a sister is on

1007
00:51:28,840 --> 00:51:30,640
Speaker 2: the trip, what do you think she's telling everybody she's

1008
00:51:30,680 --> 00:51:32,799
Speaker 2: on the trip for, Like, oh, why are you out

1009
00:51:32,840 --> 00:51:33,719
Speaker 2: here in Yeah?

1010
00:51:33,719 --> 00:51:35,080
Speaker 3: Like why are your sister's wedding?

1011
00:51:35,560 --> 00:51:38,440
Speaker 1: Yeah? Like what brought you to the UK? Is she

1012
00:51:38,520 --> 00:51:40,200
Speaker 1: seeing family that they have.

1013
00:51:40,400 --> 00:51:43,720
Speaker 2: In this foreign country or I'm just saying, what excuse

1014
00:51:43,840 --> 00:51:46,080
Speaker 2: is the sister saying? Like, people are like, why are

1015
00:51:46,080 --> 00:51:49,920
Speaker 2: you traveling? And she's like to escape from my sister's wedding. Oh,

1016
00:51:49,920 --> 00:51:52,799
Speaker 2: it has such a burden on me. Like, yeah, what's

1017
00:51:52,800 --> 00:51:54,040
Speaker 2: her excuse? You know what I'm saying.

1018
00:51:54,600 --> 00:52:00,600
Speaker 1: She tells them like, up, look even she she took it,

1019
00:52:01,000 --> 00:52:01,640
Speaker 1: she took it from me.

1020
00:52:03,239 --> 00:52:06,200
Speaker 3: She's like, can you imagine this horrible thing that my

1021
00:52:06,320 --> 00:52:06,919
Speaker 3: sister did?

1022
00:52:07,160 --> 00:52:09,719
Speaker 1: Did you imagine being in Like you're on your you're

1023
00:52:09,760 --> 00:52:12,160
Speaker 1: on your trip. Yeah, you're in London. Yeah, right, I'm

1024
00:52:12,200 --> 00:52:14,800
Speaker 1: in London and then you you meet up with someone

1025
00:52:14,920 --> 00:52:15,800
Speaker 1: with a cool tattoo.

1026
00:52:15,920 --> 00:52:17,920
Speaker 3: I'm like, it's a cool tattoo. And they're like, oh,

1027
00:52:18,760 --> 00:52:19,840
Speaker 3: don't get me started.

1028
00:52:20,640 --> 00:52:21,760
Speaker 1: Let me tell you something.

1029
00:52:22,080 --> 00:52:25,799
Speaker 3: I got a store and to tell you. Yeah, I

1030
00:52:25,800 --> 00:52:29,640
Speaker 3: would not talk to that person. Yeah, there are some

1031
00:52:29,719 --> 00:52:34,080
Speaker 3: relevant comments. Commentator asks if Op has been in therapy

1032
00:52:34,120 --> 00:52:37,560
Speaker 3: to deal with the trauma and abuse she experienced. Op says,

1033
00:52:37,600 --> 00:52:40,040
Speaker 3: I am in therapy. Yes, I've been in CBT on

1034
00:52:40,160 --> 00:52:42,759
Speaker 3: and off for almost a decade, but half of that

1035
00:52:42,920 --> 00:52:49,200
Speaker 3: I was with my abuser. That's it, that's it, that's it. Well,

1036
00:52:49,200 --> 00:52:51,200
Speaker 3: I'm glad that your wedding was good. Yeah, I mean

1037
00:52:51,200 --> 00:52:52,399
Speaker 3: I thought that your sister wasn't there.

1038
00:52:52,480 --> 00:52:54,960
Speaker 1: Low key is silver lining because, like I feel like

1039
00:52:55,600 --> 00:52:58,920
Speaker 1: it would have been horrendously worse if the sister was there. Yea,

1040
00:52:59,400 --> 00:53:00,839
Speaker 1: so I read it all.

1041
00:53:00,800 --> 00:53:05,320
Speaker 3: About her shot up in a wedding dress and gotten

1042
00:53:05,320 --> 00:53:09,640
Speaker 3: married with elevens all yeah, yeah, elevens and she would

1043
00:53:09,680 --> 00:53:12,440
Speaker 3: have like done that thing where people propose at other

1044
00:53:12,440 --> 00:53:14,240
Speaker 3: people's weddings. That's crazy.

1045
00:53:14,440 --> 00:53:18,440
Speaker 1: We've read many stories.

1046
00:53:18,719 --> 00:53:20,920
Speaker 3: Oh there's something I'm uncovering something here.

1047
00:53:21,000 --> 00:53:24,360
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, the people that propose at other people's weddings.

1048
00:53:25,160 --> 00:53:28,520
Speaker 3: It is literally, unfortunately a thing that's so weird.

1049
00:53:28,640 --> 00:53:30,160
Speaker 1: It is just my.

1050
00:53:32,239 --> 00:53:35,759
Speaker 3: Boggling. You would you would think people would get it,

1051
00:53:35,800 --> 00:53:37,000
Speaker 3: but they don't.

1052
00:53:37,160 --> 00:53:42,520
Speaker 1: They don't, they don't. Here's my question to you both,

1053
00:53:43,000 --> 00:53:47,239
Speaker 1: what do you think Op should do? So we're post wedding, Yes,

1054
00:53:47,360 --> 00:53:49,480
Speaker 1: what does Op do about this relationship with his sister?

1055
00:53:49,600 --> 00:53:52,600
Speaker 1: She just straight up go no contact? Or like, what

1056
00:53:52,600 --> 00:53:53,239
Speaker 1: do we do here?

1057
00:53:54,440 --> 00:53:57,680
Speaker 3: Yeah? I mean, I just can't because I have a

1058
00:53:57,680 --> 00:54:00,800
Speaker 3: good relationship with Sam. I can't imagine like so hard

1059
00:54:00,920 --> 00:54:03,200
Speaker 3: contact with siblings. But it seems like they don't have

1060
00:54:03,239 --> 00:54:07,239
Speaker 3: a good relationship. So's yeah, not like I mean, it's

1061
00:54:07,280 --> 00:54:10,399
Speaker 3: it seems like it is weighing heavily on Op. Yeah,

1062
00:54:10,440 --> 00:54:13,400
Speaker 3: seems like they are saddened by it. But yeah, if

1063
00:54:13,400 --> 00:54:15,640
Speaker 3: they're not going to be a good presence in your

1064
00:54:15,680 --> 00:54:20,840
Speaker 3: life and they're you know, the the reason one of

1065
00:54:20,880 --> 00:54:25,680
Speaker 3: the reasons you're going to therapy, yes, yeah, big protein.

1066
00:54:26,239 --> 00:54:28,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, I would be pretty sad. What oh what should

1067
00:54:28,920 --> 00:54:29,239
Speaker 2: they do?

1068
00:54:29,600 --> 00:54:30,240
Speaker 1: Yeah? Yeah?

1069
00:54:30,880 --> 00:54:35,600
Speaker 2: Oh man, I mean if she seems like you gotta

1070
00:54:35,640 --> 00:54:38,520
Speaker 2: be on eggshells this whole way the whole time being

1071
00:54:38,520 --> 00:54:41,080
Speaker 2: around her and she's gonna act like this about your wedding,

1072
00:54:42,040 --> 00:54:43,840
Speaker 2: hate to be this way, but it's probably best just

1073
00:54:43,840 --> 00:54:46,759
Speaker 2: to go non contact, no contact and not interact with

1074
00:54:47,080 --> 00:54:50,759
Speaker 2: She's not gonna change. They go no contact with.

1075
00:54:50,840 --> 00:54:53,200
Speaker 1: Her, and there's also no there's like kind of two

1076
00:54:53,239 --> 00:54:56,400
Speaker 1: no contacts. There's like I'm not going to be proactive

1077
00:54:56,520 --> 00:54:59,000
Speaker 1: in being the old like a one sided thing of

1078
00:54:59,040 --> 00:55:01,200
Speaker 1: trying to build a relations and ship and like make

1079
00:55:01,280 --> 00:55:05,200
Speaker 1: things right. And if they reach out, you know, maybe

1080
00:55:05,239 --> 00:55:07,399
Speaker 1: I'll be cordial with them, but like and then there's

1081
00:55:07,480 --> 00:55:11,439
Speaker 1: just like blocking never you know, talking to them again.

1082
00:55:11,520 --> 00:55:13,840
Speaker 1: I I I'm kind of with Sophia, like it's just

1083
00:55:13,880 --> 00:55:17,200
Speaker 1: like so so hard, but also we have such a

1084
00:55:17,200 --> 00:55:20,000
Speaker 1: different relationship with our siblings than than op does. But

1085
00:55:20,400 --> 00:55:22,960
Speaker 1: it's still like so hard for me to imagine, just

1086
00:55:23,000 --> 00:55:30,480
Speaker 1: like totally cutting off my my sister. But yeah, Lorraine,

1087
00:55:31,040 --> 00:55:36,080
Speaker 1: Laurenn Loron, is that what you're trying to do.

1088
00:55:36,840 --> 00:55:38,880
Speaker 2: I was just mispronounce your herd name.

1089
00:55:39,000 --> 00:55:42,840
Speaker 1: Wow, goes some respect. Do you call uh so Baya?

1090
00:55:43,000 --> 00:55:46,879
Speaker 1: Do you call Sophia Sop Sop? That is that is true?

1091
00:55:46,880 --> 00:55:48,879
Speaker 1: I have heard him say that that is true.

1092
00:55:51,120 --> 00:55:51,359
Speaker 3: Test.

1093
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Speaker 1: But I I wonder I kind of have a suspicion

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Speaker 1: that maybe op has already we be as OPI said, like, oh,

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Speaker 1: I've like tried to deal with this before. I wonder

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Speaker 1: if OPI's been and tried to create boundaries. I wonder

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00:56:05,520 --> 00:56:08,719
Speaker 1: if OPIS had already said hey, like you need to

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Speaker 1: stop doing this stuff, and the sister kind of keeps

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Speaker 1: doing it. So I feel like I would maybe at

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Speaker 1: least take a take a break at a minimum and

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Speaker 1: go on a ten month chip yeah, leave the country

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Speaker 1: and abandon her