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Speaker 1: My nigga is dedication. This is antire hesitation. It's a

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Speaker 1: real nigga celebration. It's a Don Black declaration. Fifty nine

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Speaker 1: to fIF that Granny house with Anala waits. It's the

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Speaker 1: remedy of separation to a pocket of my generation. Blue

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Speaker 1: Pill in the Fucking Matrix, Red Rose in the Great Pagments.

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Speaker 1: Young Black nigga trapped and he can't shaction nor genius.

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Speaker 1: He just can't claim it because they let him know

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Speaker 1: platforms to explain it. He frustrated, so he gets faded,

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Speaker 1: like deep down inside, you know you can't fail. How

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Speaker 1: long should I stay dedicated? How long till the opportunity

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Speaker 1: meet preparation? I need some real nigga preparations or run

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Speaker 1: up in your bank just for recre Welcome back.

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Speaker 2: This is a good moms by choice. I'm Erica and

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Speaker 2: I'm Nila, And what's up girl? It's on beautiful day

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Speaker 2: in La. It is beautiful, really really nice. Lately. I

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Speaker 2: know I'm going to the pool. It is my season.

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Speaker 2: This is my season. I know I've been going to

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Speaker 2: the gym because this season is coming and winter has

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Speaker 2: been I've been chilling. Yeah, the summer's my time is shine. Well,

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Speaker 2: you don't have any of those issues. You like a

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Speaker 2: supermodel for I don't want to close. You don't even

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Speaker 2: when it's cold. No, it's true. You own one sweater.

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Speaker 2: I've seen it. It's that striped sweater. You own one.

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Speaker 3: That's it. It's the only naeded sweater I own. It's true. Anyway,

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Speaker 3: we have a special guest today, guys.

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Speaker 2: We have my friend and makeup guru, makeup influencer Mama,

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Speaker 2: and just overall the vast person grisel Da Martinez. Thank you.

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Speaker 2: What's up girl? What's going on? If you guys are

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Speaker 2: into makeup, you definitely need to follow Roselda at make

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Speaker 2: up by Grocelta, make up by Groselda. Yeah right, Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I knew that it's weird. I just never said it

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Speaker 2: out loud. I just never. I just never said it

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Speaker 2: out loud. I'm like, wait, makeup, Yeah, make up, buy something?

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Speaker 2: Makeup by what's her name?

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Speaker 4: Again?

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Speaker 2: What's up? What's going on?

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Speaker 5: Are you doing?

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Speaker 2: I'm good? Yeah, it's such a beautiful day. I know

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Speaker 2: it is. I guess we can. I mean, first, first, first,

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Speaker 2: and foremost I wanna talk about really quickly. Nipsy Nipsey

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Speaker 2: hustle fucking when I heard about that news, Like when

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Speaker 2: I remember like when they when someone said he'd been

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Speaker 2: shot like six times. I hate to say it, but

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Speaker 2: I kind of like, there's n he might not make it.

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Speaker 2: Like I was just thinking he was gonna make it.

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Speaker 2: I didn't think that unfortunately, like and then like moments later,

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Speaker 2: it was just so it really like hit home for

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Speaker 2: me actually, Like I think because I've met him a

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Speaker 2: few times, maybe because my baby daddy's a rapper like

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Speaker 2: all those things, and it's like a fear of mine.

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Speaker 2: I've definitely like had the had that fear because he

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Speaker 2: comes from, you know, that lifestyle, grew up that way,

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Speaker 2: and you know, it's hard to depart from that, right,

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Speaker 2: Like if anybody knows that has a has somebody who

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Speaker 2: was like a former gang member, usually they're not really former.

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Speaker 2: They always keep like one foot there, you know, even

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Speaker 2: if they're not really partaking in like the activities, you know,

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Speaker 2: and but that is dangerous.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's it's fucking sad, man, It's so fucking sad.

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Speaker 2: That shit broke my heart.

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Speaker 6: Just the thought just I know which but she's probably going,

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Speaker 6: I mean, I don't know, but to even slightly imagine I.

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Speaker 2: Think now I think as I'm a mom, like I

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Speaker 2: really the first thing I thought about was laur in

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Speaker 6: It's just yeah, it's just it's just a function, man,

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Speaker 6: it's just unnecessary, dumb shit. That's like someone's life that

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Speaker 2: It's just fucked up in all the great things that

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Speaker 2: he was doing right for the community.

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Speaker 5: Like I was, you know, raised in Englandwood, and when

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Speaker 5: I heard the news, I was like like I had

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Speaker 5: no words, Like I had no emotion, Like I never

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Speaker 5: you know, thinking about the kids, thinking about Lauren, like

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Speaker 2: Why I was like, I think almost like the relationship

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Speaker 2: they've kind of like been they're kind of like low key,

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Speaker 2: Lauren Lyndon Nipsey hustle together and have a baby and

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Speaker 2: all that shit, but like they were f kind of

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Speaker 2: stepping out. They're both coming out, like he just got

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Speaker 2: nominated for a Grammy, you know, she is like reviving

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Speaker 2: her career. They're they're doing this together, and it's just like, man,

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Speaker 2: it's so sad and I couldn't I couldn't stop thinking

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Speaker 2: Will her baby remember him? You know, like the baby's

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Speaker 2: like two years old? Probably not, you know. I mean

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Speaker 2: you know, but it's just fucked up. It's so fucking sad, man.

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Speaker 2: And like coming home to your house where you once

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Speaker 2: the steps that you don't even think about when you

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Speaker 2: lose someone that close to you, right, like moving shit

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Speaker 2: out of the closet, like just shit like that, you

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Speaker 5: Yeah, yah, you know, like w I mean, I feel

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Speaker 5: won't do it until she's ready. I don't know, But

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Speaker 5: when are you ever ready to do that?

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Speaker 2: I just like, man, it's just so I just like

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Speaker 2: and I'm thinking more about like our community. Like it's

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Speaker 2: just like, man, we have some like the value of

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Speaker 6: Lives cause sometimes of people like because we don't value ourselves.

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Speaker 2: You know, that's the biggest thing.

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Speaker 6: When you don't value yourself, you don't value life period.

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Speaker 6: That's that's true. And that's sa I mean, how like

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Speaker 6: where is your mind that you didn't even think about

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Speaker 6: of taking somebody's life and not really.

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Speaker 2: Consider it's just pure r tago it's and hate. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: cause like you would think, like, oh, Okay, if I

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Speaker 2: so like maybe like you didn't think about that once

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Speaker 2: I think the thing is even that is ego.

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Speaker 6: I think sometimes people murderers kill high per I mean

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Speaker 2: Pleasure in that. And you know, I I you know,

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Speaker 2: I've watched the ID channel, but I mean there's that.

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Speaker 2: But then, like when you kill someone who's so well loved,

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Speaker 2: you don't think about like how that's going to affect

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Speaker 2: fuck him up. It's just sad, even people that aren't

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Speaker 6: It's just sad, and it's just it's such a sad,

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Speaker 6: such a way, such a waste of life.

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Speaker 2: It's just waste. It's so unnecessary, it's so fucked up,

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Speaker 2: so damn. I mean, should rest in peace, Nipsty. I'm

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Speaker 2: sorry that happened to you. I know, it's so bad.

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Speaker 2: I had to touch on it cause I've been like so.

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Speaker 6: Sad about it, and it really makes you value and

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Speaker 6: for us, cause something happens, and then it fades, not

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Speaker 6: That's the love of your life. You don't forget that shit.

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Speaker 6: But also just like I I'm you leave somebody now for.

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Speaker 2: The next you know, you're gonna be thinking about did

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Speaker 2: I kiss you? Did I hug you? And I embrace

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Speaker 6: You know what I'm saying, Cause sometimes you just go

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Speaker 6: through the motions so often not valuing our friendships or

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Speaker 6: how much how much weight our words hold. And you know,

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Speaker 6: we're saying that, we're communicating how we feel.

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Speaker 2: It's just so quick, like I feel, I mean, it's

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Speaker 2: like what everyone says never like you know, always say

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Speaker 2: I've done curse them out, I'm go'na be like fuck you, right,

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Speaker 2: I don't know. But anyway, that's all the current events

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Speaker 2: there's a gardener half there's a gardening situation happening. I

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Speaker 6: They must be gardening the shit out of that yard,

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Speaker 6: blowing those leaves for about thirty minutes.

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Speaker 2: Anyway, could have said that, see, can you share with

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Speaker 2: our fool listeners we've never had and am someone that

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Speaker 2: you know? Firstly, like you know, I work in beauty

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Speaker 2: we just like immediately hit it off. Yeah, and I think, oh,

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Speaker 2: you invited me to it was like a tart event.

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Speaker 2: We went to oh yeah, yeah yeah, and I think

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Speaker 2: my outfit fell apart before I got to your house

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Speaker 2: literally like yeah together, yeah, sh like my whole zipper.

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Speaker 2: Like I was like gonna be naked. Yeah oh no,

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Speaker 2: me was like I just I don't know, I just

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Speaker 5: I felt the exact same way, and it was more

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Speaker 5: so like because it was like so relatable, like you

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Speaker 5: had been with you know, your son, I mean, your

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Speaker 2: Your baby daddy.

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Speaker 5: I'm like my daughter's father, your daughter's father for so long,

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Speaker 7: For you know, how long were you with him fourteen years.

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Speaker 2: You know, you were he was overseas, you were here,

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Speaker 5: So but I instantly felt the connection with you, and

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Speaker 2: And you know we've I feel like you and I

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Speaker 7: Up right where we left off.

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Speaker 2: You know, No, it's not sure, it's just natural. Yeah. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: So so when you like, so when you speaking of

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Speaker 5: Huh?

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Speaker 2: Because how how is your son now?

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Speaker 7: He's in me thirteen? Okay, yeah, and we've been separated.

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Speaker 2: For five six so is he You're only the only

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Speaker 2: oh my god, girl for fourteen years. So fourteen it

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Speaker 2: like we were like till you were like twenty something,

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Speaker 8: Nothing, levels of knowledge I have not right, and you

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Speaker 2: Like how do you even know? I think I was ready?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, because I was like so past that, like not

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Speaker 2: Be with him. You have to like that.

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Speaker 6: Sometimes your identity becomes blended with somebody else's.

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Speaker 2: It's just like a routine. It's a comfort level. How

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Speaker 2: I was twenty one, so you guys were already dating

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Speaker 2: for what like six years? Seven years? Yeah?

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Speaker 7: I was going to summer school my first.

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Speaker 2: Year when you were thirteen. When I was my friends

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Speaker 5: Very say you know so, and he was like back then,

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Speaker 5: he was like I saw you making with your.

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Speaker 2: God yeah, Macie like that was that's how you know

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Speaker 2: how they used to say that. Yeah.

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Speaker 5: Oh, they used to say like, let's go bust them

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Speaker 5: back in the I don't know, mat like mac like,

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Speaker 6: I remember scamming m yeah yeah.

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Speaker 2: Man. Ever comes up to me and tells me wanted.

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Speaker 5: So it was I don't know. It was so hard

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Speaker 5: probably was because me and my son's dad weren't even

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Speaker 5: where I was like, ready, finally.

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Speaker 2: You know, move forward, move forward and do the damn thing.

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Speaker 9: You know.

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Speaker 2: Has Anthony ever met anyone you've dated? Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Is it because why I'm curious? I mean just because

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Speaker 2: Like you know, he had his daughter and then you know.

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Speaker 5: We picked him up from school. But it was always like, oh,

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Speaker 9: You know.

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Speaker 5: I wasn't like more so like over dating, and we

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Speaker 2: I was just and Anthony's twelve now.

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Speaker 7: Right, yeah, and this is like what.

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Speaker 2: Almost almost four years ago. Poor does he ask you

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Speaker 2: about dating. Yeah, he's like, oh my god.

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Speaker 5: Sometimes with him, I'm just like, where do you get

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Speaker 5: bag because I have back problems. And he saw, uh,

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Speaker 5: match dot com on the TV. He goes, Mom, you

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Speaker 7: And I was like, I don't need a man.

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Speaker 5: He goes no, he goes, you need you need a boyfriend, mom,

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Speaker 5: And he's like, I think it's time.

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Speaker 2: Well, at least you know that he is open to it,

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Speaker 2: you know what I mean, because some kids are like,

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Speaker 2: I don't need your mind.

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Speaker 5: No, He's very like, I just wanted you to be happy.

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Speaker 5: He cried dad's wedding when he got when I got married,

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Speaker 5: when he got married, and I thought at first, I

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Speaker 5: He goes, no, Mom, calm down. He goes, I cried

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Speaker 2: Oh. I thought maybe it was like he was mad

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Speaker 2: that you guys weren't together.

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Speaker 2: He always was it hard to stup, Like, how do

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Speaker 2: I redid be like with daddy, Luna said stuff or

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Speaker 5: You know, I think because I moved out, we had

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Speaker 5: So I was like, I don't tolerate.

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Speaker 10: That, yeah, technically, but not emotion She was emotionally, was stating, yeah,

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Speaker 2: Know the bitch, Yeah, you know, I know the bitch.

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Speaker 7: She was like my best friend in high school.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, So he was three, so that's when I was

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Speaker 5: wasn't asked, did you ever have a conversation about it

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Speaker 5: when we when I got my own place. Yeah, I

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Speaker 2: We're not going to be together.

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Speaker 5: And he was like why And at the time, I

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Speaker 5: So but then after that he was just like, would

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Speaker 5: to see us arguing. And I'm when I get angry,

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Speaker 5: every time I might tell someone I'm a Gemini, they're like.

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Speaker 2: Oh, it was the same thing. Scorpio too. We always

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Speaker 2: get like that, oh thing. Yeah, those are those are

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Speaker 2: other signs you're like, oh, I love you. I cancer. Yeah,

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Speaker 6: Well honest, now I could gets I could get spicy

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Speaker 6: and I'm I'm Gemini cussed. So that's probably like together. Yeah,

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Speaker 6: but I'm not crazy. I know Gemenis could be crazy.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, but you know we don't look at it and

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Speaker 5: that's why we don't think we're crazy like.

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Speaker 6: What we are.

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Speaker 5: I mean, I just have to like face reality. But

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Speaker 7: Had to take.

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Speaker 2: You know, having that conversation with my son, Like when

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Speaker 2: you said he would get sad, like would he talk

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Speaker 2: what would he say, like I want you and Daddy

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Speaker 5: Or then he would be one time we were at Target,

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Speaker 2: Target? Yeah, then he goes.

434
00:22:12,880 --> 00:22:14,120
Speaker 7: With my dad and I was.

435
00:22:14,119 --> 00:22:18,359
Speaker 2: Like maybe maybe he thought like maybe if they have

436
00:22:18,359 --> 00:22:20,600
Speaker 2: a baby. Yeah, And then I was like, let's go

437
00:22:20,800 --> 00:22:21,600
Speaker 2: look at the toys.

438
00:22:22,720 --> 00:22:26,280
Speaker 5: Maybe we can find like a play doll something, ice

439
00:22:26,359 --> 00:22:28,080
Speaker 5: c something, and.

440
00:22:28,040 --> 00:22:29,560
Speaker 7: I was like, what's the next option?

441
00:22:30,480 --> 00:22:32,400
Speaker 2: And then like at first he didn't know what to say,

442
00:22:32,440 --> 00:22:34,680
Speaker 2: and then I was like how old was he around then?

443
00:22:35,560 --> 00:22:39,400
Speaker 2: He's like eight nine, So it was like a few years.

444
00:22:39,480 --> 00:22:42,680
Speaker 2: It kept it and went on to this day really

445
00:22:42,720 --> 00:22:45,159
Speaker 2: even now still to this day. And what is their

446
00:22:45,200 --> 00:22:48,600
Speaker 2: relationship like? Is it? You know? I mean obviously I

447
00:22:48,600 --> 00:22:52,000
Speaker 2: think you know, women, we take on a lot of

448
00:22:52,040 --> 00:22:55,200
Speaker 2: the work, but you know sometimes no, I mean, I

449
00:22:55,200 --> 00:22:58,360
Speaker 2: don't know. Is your situation in more like you take

450
00:22:58,400 --> 00:22:59,960
Speaker 2: on most of the work as a parent.

451
00:23:00,160 --> 00:23:04,360
Speaker 7: Yeah, it's more so like a work in progress.

452
00:23:05,160 --> 00:23:07,119
Speaker 5: That's like the best way that I can describe it,

453
00:23:07,119 --> 00:23:10,359
Speaker 5: because we've definitely had our ups and downs where I

454
00:23:10,480 --> 00:23:13,560
Speaker 5: just hate him and like you're doing this and he

455
00:23:13,640 --> 00:23:16,640
Speaker 5: might think the same thing. You know, I'm not perfect

456
00:23:16,680 --> 00:23:18,600
Speaker 5: and I know I make mistakes, and I know Anthony

457
00:23:18,640 --> 00:23:20,280
Speaker 5: probably communicates.

458
00:23:20,000 --> 00:23:22,200
Speaker 7: To him because he's so vocal.

459
00:23:22,400 --> 00:23:26,080
Speaker 5: So he probably has his way of thinking about me.

460
00:23:27,080 --> 00:23:30,240
Speaker 5: But I've learned that I just need to let it

461
00:23:30,280 --> 00:23:32,879
Speaker 5: go and let it be and if you want to

462
00:23:32,920 --> 00:23:35,560
Speaker 5: be there, you can. I'm not stopping you, but I'm

463
00:23:35,560 --> 00:23:39,200
Speaker 5: not also forcing you. So that's where we're at. So,

464
00:23:39,480 --> 00:23:41,040
Speaker 5: but he does see him. He picks them up, like

465
00:23:41,080 --> 00:23:42,320
Speaker 5: he's picking him up today.

466
00:23:42,200 --> 00:23:45,320
Speaker 2: From school, and he'll be involved.

467
00:23:45,320 --> 00:23:47,560
Speaker 5: He like takes him look to baseball stuff like that,

468
00:23:47,880 --> 00:23:52,440
Speaker 5: but not as much as I would like for him.

469
00:23:52,240 --> 00:23:53,080
Speaker 7: To be involved.

470
00:23:54,880 --> 00:24:00,720
Speaker 2: When you started your like YouTube chan, are you channel later?

471
00:24:00,880 --> 00:24:03,760
Speaker 2: Right when you started kind of growing on Instagram? Were

472
00:24:03,760 --> 00:24:07,440
Speaker 2: you already were you still in your well you guys,

473
00:24:07,480 --> 00:24:09,200
Speaker 2: were you weren't married? Right? No?

474
00:24:09,240 --> 00:24:09,320
Speaker 4: No?

475
00:24:09,840 --> 00:24:12,199
Speaker 2: In your relationship? Like did he see that? What is

476
00:24:12,320 --> 00:24:14,560
Speaker 2: what does he feel like now seeing like where you

477
00:24:14,640 --> 00:24:18,160
Speaker 2: were versus now, like the visibility you have and like

478
00:24:18,880 --> 00:24:21,520
Speaker 2: all the people that look to you for you know,

479
00:24:21,600 --> 00:24:25,399
Speaker 2: they looked to you for what's beautiful? Really? And was

480
00:24:25,400 --> 00:24:26,960
Speaker 2: he around during the beginning of that?

481
00:24:27,200 --> 00:24:30,719
Speaker 5: He was around? Like So my old Instagram this was

482
00:24:30,720 --> 00:24:34,880
Speaker 5: like twenty ten. I started that and it was called

483
00:24:34,920 --> 00:24:39,480
Speaker 5: sugarpants sugar pants, so underschool, underscore sugarpants. If you look

484
00:24:39,520 --> 00:24:42,840
Speaker 5: up the hashtag, there's like a bunch of people that like, yeah,

485
00:24:42,840 --> 00:24:44,600
Speaker 5: it's crazy, why sugarpants?

486
00:24:45,000 --> 00:24:45,479
Speaker 2: I don't know?

487
00:24:46,000 --> 00:24:48,840
Speaker 5: It was cut I because when I started Instagram, I

488
00:24:48,960 --> 00:24:52,159
Speaker 5: started it because of the filters. I didn't know it

489
00:24:52,240 --> 00:24:55,600
Speaker 5: had any meaning. And then people started following me and

490
00:24:55,640 --> 00:24:58,560
Speaker 5: I was like why and I would start blocking them.

491
00:24:58,960 --> 00:25:00,359
Speaker 7: Don't don't come to my page.

492
00:25:01,040 --> 00:25:06,159
Speaker 5: And then I started working at Mac and then I

493
00:25:06,240 --> 00:25:08,280
Speaker 5: like kind of picked up on like, oh, this is

494
00:25:08,320 --> 00:25:11,119
Speaker 5: like social media. And then I don't know if you

495
00:25:11,200 --> 00:25:14,600
Speaker 5: remember vegas name, so she reposted me and that's where

496
00:25:14,640 --> 00:25:17,639
Speaker 5: like my platform grew and Vegas Nay was.

497
00:25:17,640 --> 00:25:21,600
Speaker 2: Like this like instagrammer that like was a reposter. It

498
00:25:21,680 --> 00:25:25,400
Speaker 2: had so many followers, like an influence, and.

499
00:25:25,359 --> 00:25:27,520
Speaker 5: It was like all beauty and like, you know, it

500
00:25:27,600 --> 00:25:31,800
Speaker 5: was really she's She was really one of the first

501
00:25:31,800 --> 00:25:33,400
Speaker 5: ones that ever started the repost.

502
00:25:34,800 --> 00:25:37,480
Speaker 2: And then that's when he started seeing that.

503
00:25:37,640 --> 00:25:40,080
Speaker 5: And I would always post Anthony, but I would never

504
00:25:40,119 --> 00:25:40,880
Speaker 5: post him.

505
00:25:41,280 --> 00:25:42,400
Speaker 2: But for me it was.

506
00:25:42,359 --> 00:25:46,480
Speaker 5: More so because I wasn't sure that I wanted to

507
00:25:46,520 --> 00:25:48,480
Speaker 5: be with him for the rest of my life.

508
00:25:48,760 --> 00:25:52,000
Speaker 2: Maybe it's also before social media became a thing like actually,

509
00:25:52,040 --> 00:25:54,679
Speaker 2: like why aren't you posting me? Because now, like if

510
00:25:54,720 --> 00:25:56,560
Speaker 2: you're in a relationship and you're not posted, it's like

511
00:25:56,560 --> 00:25:58,680
Speaker 2: you're not in Like you're not in a relationship.

512
00:26:00,040 --> 00:26:03,919
Speaker 5: Even when I was after, I wouldn't post the person

513
00:26:03,920 --> 00:26:06,200
Speaker 5: that I was with because I just don't think it's

514
00:26:06,200 --> 00:26:11,000
Speaker 5: anyone's business, you know. But for me went with him.

515
00:26:11,359 --> 00:26:15,760
Speaker 5: He's a pisces, so he was very sensitive. Especially he

516
00:26:15,840 --> 00:26:19,639
Speaker 5: always needed reassurance of like tell me that you love me,

517
00:26:19,720 --> 00:26:21,280
Speaker 5: show me that you love me. And for me, it's like,

518
00:26:21,400 --> 00:26:23,040
Speaker 5: I do love you, like I don't need to post

519
00:26:23,080 --> 00:26:24,640
Speaker 5: you somewhere to show you that I love you.

520
00:26:24,680 --> 00:26:26,960
Speaker 2: And it was like a huge problem.

521
00:26:26,720 --> 00:26:29,119
Speaker 5: Because then I posted one of my guy friends, but

522
00:26:29,160 --> 00:26:33,280
Speaker 5: it was like business related business because it was involving beauty,

523
00:26:33,720 --> 00:26:35,760
Speaker 5: and he was like, you know, and this was the

524
00:26:35,800 --> 00:26:38,679
Speaker 5: guy that I went to elementary school, you know, So

525
00:26:39,359 --> 00:26:42,320
Speaker 5: it was it was definitely really hard. But I can't

526
00:26:42,720 --> 00:26:45,359
Speaker 5: really tell you what he thinks now because I don't

527
00:26:45,400 --> 00:26:46,240
Speaker 5: have that communication.

528
00:26:46,359 --> 00:26:51,359
Speaker 2: Like we strictly talk about Anthony and Anthony only you know.

529
00:26:53,520 --> 00:26:54,920
Speaker 2: Oh what was I about to I was just about

530
00:26:54,920 --> 00:27:00,399
Speaker 2: to ask you fuck wait, because you have you have

531
00:27:00,520 --> 00:27:03,679
Speaker 2: almost like you're close to like a million followers, So

532
00:27:04,200 --> 00:27:07,360
Speaker 2: what do you okay? Because what do you think about

533
00:27:08,840 --> 00:27:14,879
Speaker 2: boyfriends and husbands being like like the Cagrammers, the agents,

534
00:27:15,080 --> 00:27:18,199
Speaker 2: Like I'm always curious because I think it's really silly.

535
00:27:18,320 --> 00:27:20,119
Speaker 2: I think it's fun, but I think it's cute, like

536
00:27:20,160 --> 00:27:22,960
Speaker 2: they support you know, their girl like which is which

537
00:27:23,000 --> 00:27:25,879
Speaker 2: is cute. But I've always been like, could anyone I'm

538
00:27:25,960 --> 00:27:29,200
Speaker 2: dating ever be like like become my life? Now? I couldn't.

539
00:27:29,200 --> 00:27:30,480
Speaker 2: Do you think he could have been that? Like do

540
00:27:30,520 --> 00:27:36,440
Speaker 2: you think he would have done that for you? Been

541
00:27:36,480 --> 00:27:38,720
Speaker 2: you're like videographer and editor?

542
00:27:38,960 --> 00:27:40,919
Speaker 5: And I feel like the love that him and I

543
00:27:41,040 --> 00:27:46,080
Speaker 5: had was like one in a lifetime. Like I feel

544
00:27:46,119 --> 00:27:47,720
Speaker 5: like I will always say that he was like the

545
00:27:47,760 --> 00:27:52,200
Speaker 5: love of my life. Unfortunately I felt out of love.

546
00:27:52,880 --> 00:27:55,760
Speaker 5: But I will never be able to love someone the

547
00:27:55,800 --> 00:27:57,280
Speaker 5: way that I love him.

548
00:27:57,600 --> 00:28:00,320
Speaker 2: That's not true. That's not true. No, and like sense

549
00:28:00,320 --> 00:28:03,240
Speaker 2: of like a person of who he was to me,

550
00:28:03,280 --> 00:28:04,680
Speaker 2: maybe because he's the father of your child.

551
00:28:05,480 --> 00:28:08,160
Speaker 6: That's you don't think that I find someone else who

552
00:28:08,200 --> 00:28:09,920
Speaker 6: loves you even more and even better?

553
00:28:10,160 --> 00:28:11,560
Speaker 7: No, no, no, I'm not saying that.

554
00:28:11,600 --> 00:28:14,199
Speaker 5: I'm saying I will never be able to love someone

555
00:28:14,640 --> 00:28:16,880
Speaker 5: the way that I love him as a person who

556
00:28:17,640 --> 00:28:18,080
Speaker 5: he is.

557
00:28:18,400 --> 00:28:22,360
Speaker 2: But you can't say you're already like setting yourself up

558
00:28:22,400 --> 00:28:24,840
Speaker 2: for like like, oh no, I could love someone else

559
00:28:25,000 --> 00:28:26,960
Speaker 2: even more, but just maybe just different.

560
00:28:30,240 --> 00:28:32,160
Speaker 6: I get that how I feel about my baby daddy

561
00:28:32,240 --> 00:28:34,440
Speaker 6: is like as much fed up shit as he's done,

562
00:28:34,520 --> 00:28:36,440
Speaker 6: and as much as I don't want to be with him,

563
00:28:36,920 --> 00:28:38,920
Speaker 6: I love him. And I say it's strangely because I

564
00:28:39,000 --> 00:28:41,960
Speaker 6: know I'm so fucking long. Yeah, it says odd like

565
00:28:42,200 --> 00:28:46,040
Speaker 6: in a family way, Like I like, it's so we're

566
00:28:46,240 --> 00:28:50,000
Speaker 6: so close, Like I've never I never thought that I

567
00:28:50,000 --> 00:28:51,640
Speaker 6: could have a man that I would be that close

568
00:28:51,680 --> 00:28:54,160
Speaker 6: with because it was just almost like brother like anything,

569
00:28:54,240 --> 00:28:58,120
Speaker 6: everything like together all the time, but it just doesn't

570
00:28:58,120 --> 00:28:59,040
Speaker 6: work romantically.

571
00:28:59,080 --> 00:29:01,880
Speaker 5: Yeah, And that's exact same way that I feel like

572
00:29:02,120 --> 00:29:04,040
Speaker 5: I don't want to be with him. I don't love

573
00:29:04,120 --> 00:29:07,520
Speaker 5: him that way, but like I love him as a

574
00:29:07,600 --> 00:29:11,040
Speaker 5: human being, who he is, everything that he's done for me,

575
00:29:11,120 --> 00:29:16,040
Speaker 5: who he is as a father as sometimes I don't

576
00:29:16,040 --> 00:29:18,000
Speaker 5: want to say that, because he is a great father

577
00:29:18,400 --> 00:29:20,760
Speaker 5: when he wants to be. But at the same time,

578
00:29:20,840 --> 00:29:24,440
Speaker 5: it's definitely not who I want to.

579
00:29:23,960 --> 00:29:25,160
Speaker 7: Spend the rest of my life with.

580
00:29:25,480 --> 00:29:27,920
Speaker 5: I don't see myself, and even if I did, I

581
00:29:27,920 --> 00:29:29,880
Speaker 5: would probably do it for my son.

582
00:29:30,440 --> 00:29:34,320
Speaker 2: Has he had a kid, this is your wife, No,

583
00:29:34,680 --> 00:29:35,760
Speaker 2: how would you feel.

584
00:29:36,240 --> 00:29:38,520
Speaker 5: I'd be happy because it would make my son happy,

585
00:29:39,080 --> 00:29:43,040
Speaker 5: because my son wants a sibling and because I don't.

586
00:29:42,880 --> 00:29:44,880
Speaker 2: Want Do you want more kids?

587
00:29:45,040 --> 00:29:45,360
Speaker 7: I do?

588
00:29:46,120 --> 00:29:49,800
Speaker 2: I want at least two more too. Yeah, girl, you

589
00:29:49,880 --> 00:29:53,200
Speaker 2: done forgot so.

590
00:29:56,600 --> 00:30:00,560
Speaker 5: Technically technically fourteen okay because the whole.

591
00:30:00,400 --> 00:30:03,400
Speaker 2: Pregnancy, Oh yeah, you already forgot or you have that

592
00:30:03,440 --> 00:30:03,920
Speaker 2: one and be.

593
00:30:03,880 --> 00:30:06,560
Speaker 5: Like, well, my best friend just had a baby after

594
00:30:06,920 --> 00:30:09,720
Speaker 5: her daughter is twelve yea, and I went to go

595
00:30:09,840 --> 00:30:13,200
Speaker 5: visit and the baby started crying and I was like,

596
00:30:13,240 --> 00:30:14,240
Speaker 5: oh my god, like what do I do?

597
00:30:14,280 --> 00:30:16,280
Speaker 2: What do I do? And I was like okay, and

598
00:30:16,320 --> 00:30:18,080
Speaker 2: then he would be quiet, and then I would sit

599
00:30:18,120 --> 00:30:19,560
Speaker 2: back down. He was staring. I'm like, oh my god,

600
00:30:19,760 --> 00:30:21,960
Speaker 2: I could not do this. Yeah, Like I was like

601
00:30:22,040 --> 00:30:25,720
Speaker 2: just kidding, yeah, like a baby. Yeah, girl, she gets real.

602
00:30:25,880 --> 00:30:27,920
Speaker 2: I know it looks so cute. And then you're like,

603
00:30:27,960 --> 00:30:30,880
Speaker 2: what the fuck? I think? Like I've been living this

604
00:30:30,920 --> 00:30:35,040
Speaker 2: independent AsSalt and is twelve. He can make his own food, literally,

605
00:30:35,160 --> 00:30:37,920
Speaker 2: like I'm running. He's about to two years, he'll be

606
00:30:37,920 --> 00:30:40,960
Speaker 2: getting this permit, like you know, my freedom. I feel

607
00:30:40,960 --> 00:30:43,440
Speaker 2: like it's like the white light is almost right there.

608
00:30:43,680 --> 00:30:46,640
Speaker 2: I can almost taste it, and then you get pulled back. Yeah,

609
00:30:46,880 --> 00:30:50,560
Speaker 2: like recently, well, I mean I think obviously hopefully you're

610
00:30:50,760 --> 00:30:53,760
Speaker 2: you know you have a partner that wants to help you. Yeah, right,

611
00:30:53,840 --> 00:31:00,200
Speaker 2: hopefully it works out right, you know, have help, but.

612
00:31:00,360 --> 00:31:01,560
Speaker 7: I do Yeah, I don't know.

613
00:31:01,640 --> 00:31:04,360
Speaker 2: I feel like once, well, I can't say when I'm

614
00:31:04,400 --> 00:31:07,360
Speaker 2: ready because you find that it's hard to date, like

615
00:31:07,520 --> 00:31:09,760
Speaker 2: if when guys find out like because you know, we

616
00:31:09,880 --> 00:31:12,680
Speaker 2: live in the age of social media. I think it's

617
00:31:12,680 --> 00:31:15,760
Speaker 2: a lame. I like want to date you because you

618
00:31:16,040 --> 00:31:19,200
Speaker 2: can help them with a social like can you post me?

619
00:31:19,720 --> 00:31:23,000
Speaker 2: Can you post my brand? Like I have a new

620
00:31:23,240 --> 00:31:24,240
Speaker 2: like mixtape dropping.

621
00:31:24,960 --> 00:31:25,480
Speaker 7: That's great.

622
00:31:25,520 --> 00:31:26,840
Speaker 2: I mean that's never happened. To give it to me

623
00:31:26,960 --> 00:31:30,120
Speaker 2: and I'll drop it. But like, do you find have

624
00:31:30,200 --> 00:31:31,120
Speaker 2: you ever encountered that?

625
00:31:31,240 --> 00:31:36,040
Speaker 5: Like, yeah, I actually just recently met this guy and

626
00:31:36,960 --> 00:31:40,880
Speaker 5: he was you know, very you know, fascinated by just

627
00:31:40,920 --> 00:31:45,040
Speaker 5: my parents. And then you know, the first thing, you know,

628
00:31:45,080 --> 00:31:47,240
Speaker 5: obviously he asked for my number, and then he was like,

629
00:31:47,400 --> 00:31:52,040
Speaker 5: what's your Instagram? And I was just like, okay, like

630
00:31:52,280 --> 00:31:53,680
Speaker 5: is that like what we do now?

631
00:31:53,840 --> 00:31:56,760
Speaker 7: Yeah, it is in my mind, you know, And.

632
00:31:56,720 --> 00:31:58,360
Speaker 5: Then I was like okay, so I gave it to him.

633
00:31:58,400 --> 00:32:01,360
Speaker 5: It's like, oh, you're famous, and I was like no,

634
00:32:02,200 --> 00:32:04,040
Speaker 5: it's like I'm not. He goes, no, you are, and

635
00:32:04,080 --> 00:32:05,959
Speaker 5: I was like, okay, it's not going to go anywhere,

636
00:32:06,040 --> 00:32:09,440
Speaker 5: so I don't know, let it go. And then obviously

637
00:32:09,440 --> 00:32:11,400
Speaker 5: he probably just like went through my page and saw

638
00:32:11,440 --> 00:32:16,280
Speaker 5: that I had my son and it kind of got

639
00:32:16,280 --> 00:32:20,680
Speaker 5: weird after that. And then he like called me randomly

640
00:32:21,080 --> 00:32:23,640
Speaker 5: on like a Sunday and he was like hey, like

641
00:32:23,680 --> 00:32:25,800
Speaker 5: what are you doing. It's like, how's your Sunday? And

642
00:32:25,800 --> 00:32:27,480
Speaker 5: I was like it's going good. I just got home

643
00:32:27,480 --> 00:32:31,840
Speaker 5: from my son's baseball game, you know, and he was like,

644
00:32:31,920 --> 00:32:34,680
Speaker 5: oh cool. He was like, so listen, Like I wanted

645
00:32:34,680 --> 00:32:37,480
Speaker 5: to see if I can take you to dinner so

646
00:32:37,520 --> 00:32:39,920
Speaker 5: we can talk about like some social media stuff and

647
00:32:39,960 --> 00:32:40,960
Speaker 5: like how you got And.

648
00:32:40,920 --> 00:32:43,680
Speaker 2: I was like what, I was like cool, Like so

649
00:32:43,800 --> 00:32:45,239
Speaker 2: he never even wanted to go on a real date

650
00:32:45,280 --> 00:32:48,080
Speaker 2: with you. He just wanted to talk about social media stuff. Dude,

651
00:32:48,120 --> 00:32:50,560
Speaker 2: do you do makeup? Like yeah?

652
00:32:50,600 --> 00:32:52,840
Speaker 5: And to me, he said, I just want to pick

653
00:32:52,880 --> 00:32:55,000
Speaker 5: your brain on how like you got started and like

654
00:32:55,080 --> 00:32:55,800
Speaker 5: and I was like, well.

655
00:32:55,720 --> 00:33:04,800
Speaker 2: I don't do interviews. Where's my cash? Yeah? Yeah, that's it.

656
00:33:05,480 --> 00:33:06,440
Speaker 2: Oh my god.

657
00:33:06,680 --> 00:33:09,480
Speaker 5: So after that, like I unfollowed him and I blocked

658
00:33:09,560 --> 00:33:11,320
Speaker 5: him on my phone because I'm just like, I don't

659
00:33:11,480 --> 00:33:15,080
Speaker 5: have to really like you're good looking, you look like

660
00:33:15,120 --> 00:33:17,440
Speaker 5: you have money, and I don't really care about that.

661
00:33:17,560 --> 00:33:22,320
Speaker 5: But like, no, like that was such a huge turn off,

662
00:33:22,880 --> 00:33:24,239
Speaker 5: such a huge turn off for me.

663
00:33:24,640 --> 00:33:26,840
Speaker 2: I was, I was just like, damn, he's just my

664
00:33:26,960 --> 00:33:37,800
Speaker 2: t what is your time? Good looking, big, deep, large penis,

665
00:33:37,840 --> 00:33:48,720
Speaker 2: well wealthy, tall, dark, you like them, talk like ses mouth, okay,

666
00:33:50,160 --> 00:33:54,320
Speaker 2: well hardly bearded film not true, It's true, you like

667
00:33:54,320 --> 00:33:58,280
Speaker 2: like not only but she has a thing she has

668
00:33:58,360 --> 00:34:00,280
Speaker 2: like you know, everyone has like their little thing that

669
00:34:00,360 --> 00:34:05,280
Speaker 2: maybe like they are immediately initially attracted to attractive black men,

670
00:34:05,440 --> 00:34:11,960
Speaker 2: to black men always my son's dad and you're and

671
00:34:12,000 --> 00:34:13,880
Speaker 2: you're Guatemalan, Im Guatemalan.

672
00:34:13,960 --> 00:34:14,160
Speaker 4: Yeah.

673
00:34:14,280 --> 00:34:18,120
Speaker 5: So well the boyfriend that he saw me with was black,

674
00:34:18,960 --> 00:34:20,640
Speaker 5: and I'm.

675
00:34:20,480 --> 00:34:21,120
Speaker 2: Sure he knew.

676
00:34:21,480 --> 00:34:24,759
Speaker 6: But so since you, baby, I had most most of

677
00:34:24,760 --> 00:34:26,080
Speaker 6: the guys you dated been black.

678
00:34:26,800 --> 00:34:27,600
Speaker 2: Most of them.

679
00:34:27,680 --> 00:34:30,200
Speaker 5: Yeah, there was one that was also Mexican, but he

680
00:34:30,520 --> 00:34:36,600
Speaker 5: was he converted to Muslim, and like, I don't.

681
00:34:36,440 --> 00:34:38,840
Speaker 7: Know what he sounds. He sounded like on the phone,

682
00:34:39,080 --> 00:34:39,880
Speaker 7: he sounded black.

683
00:34:40,760 --> 00:34:42,880
Speaker 6: I woant to suit with Mexican converged to Muslim, it

684
00:34:42,920 --> 00:34:44,040
Speaker 6: looks sounds like you might have a beer.

685
00:34:47,080 --> 00:34:50,759
Speaker 2: You do not want a Muslim. I've already loved with

686
00:34:50,760 --> 00:34:53,040
Speaker 2: a Muslim, and I won't convert it as a huge

687
00:34:53,040 --> 00:34:55,400
Speaker 2: conflict in my life. I don't need to know that.

688
00:34:55,480 --> 00:34:57,040
Speaker 2: I'm just I just wanted to see. I just don't

689
00:34:57,040 --> 00:34:59,760
Speaker 2: think I would ever be able to date another Muslim.

690
00:34:59,840 --> 00:35:02,799
Speaker 6: No, No, it's so much extreme. It's such bullshit. I mean,

691
00:35:02,840 --> 00:35:04,640
Speaker 6: not bullshit if you're Muslim. I'm just saying, like, I

692
00:35:04,680 --> 00:35:06,000
Speaker 6: know a lot of fake ass Muslims.

693
00:35:06,239 --> 00:35:11,040
Speaker 7: Like it was from Oakland. I think I don't even remember.

694
00:35:11,040 --> 00:35:13,040
Speaker 2: I like try to erase that part of my life

695
00:35:13,080 --> 00:35:14,200
Speaker 2: because it went, how.

696
00:35:14,160 --> 00:35:16,000
Speaker 6: Would your your mom feel if you brought like you

697
00:35:16,200 --> 00:35:17,839
Speaker 6: really seriously married a black guy?

698
00:35:18,000 --> 00:35:19,120
Speaker 2: Oh, she would be happy.

699
00:35:19,400 --> 00:35:21,680
Speaker 5: My dad, on the other hand, now I don't like

700
00:35:21,760 --> 00:35:26,000
Speaker 5: my dad's not I know everyone probably says my dad's

701
00:35:26,000 --> 00:35:27,600
Speaker 5: not racist, but like he.

702
00:35:27,719 --> 00:35:31,000
Speaker 2: Just culturally though, it's a thing. It's a thing.

703
00:35:31,080 --> 00:35:33,920
Speaker 5: Yeah, So I mean you'll have a conversation with anyone

704
00:35:34,120 --> 00:35:37,279
Speaker 5: with a wall. But like he told me once, he

705
00:35:37,320 --> 00:35:39,399
Speaker 5: was like, if you ever come home, I don't know why.

706
00:35:39,480 --> 00:35:41,520
Speaker 7: I was like, did I ever give out that black

707
00:35:41,760 --> 00:35:42,360
Speaker 7: my dad that I like?

708
00:35:42,760 --> 00:35:46,799
Speaker 2: Definitely girl, No, you know, it's funny because I never

709
00:35:46,920 --> 00:35:50,840
Speaker 2: used to wear hoops ever. But so he told me that,

710
00:35:50,880 --> 00:35:52,440
Speaker 2: he was like, if you ever date.

711
00:35:52,320 --> 00:35:54,600
Speaker 7: A black man, I don't ever want to hear from

712
00:35:54,640 --> 00:35:55,080
Speaker 7: you again.

713
00:35:55,400 --> 00:36:01,640
Speaker 2: Wow, that was young. That's extreme. Yeah, why do I

714
00:36:01,640 --> 00:36:03,680
Speaker 2: think that is? Like why do you think that is?

715
00:36:03,719 --> 00:36:06,600
Speaker 2: Because I mean, I think even in the black community

716
00:36:06,680 --> 00:36:08,840
Speaker 2: there's some of that too, like especially with white people,

717
00:36:08,880 --> 00:36:10,799
Speaker 2: like you're like a black mom will for sure be

718
00:36:10,800 --> 00:36:13,200
Speaker 2: like don't bring a white girl home, whereas a black

719
00:36:13,280 --> 00:36:16,600
Speaker 2: dad might be like not ever son or I don't know.

720
00:36:16,600 --> 00:36:19,360
Speaker 2: I think it's it depends. It varies from household to household,

721
00:36:19,400 --> 00:36:20,840
Speaker 2: but it is a thing. But I know, for like

722
00:36:20,920 --> 00:36:24,440
Speaker 2: definitely in the Latin community, like they want you to

723
00:36:24,440 --> 00:36:28,560
Speaker 2: marry another lat like another Latino or Latino or white

724
00:36:28,680 --> 00:36:30,520
Speaker 2: and never black. But you know what, yeah, because I.

725
00:36:30,600 --> 00:36:32,600
Speaker 6: Know other Latino friends, same thing, and like I could

726
00:36:32,640 --> 00:36:34,839
Speaker 6: I could marry when I'm my friend, I'm thinking about

727
00:36:34,840 --> 00:36:35,880
Speaker 6: particularly did marry whit guy.

728
00:36:35,880 --> 00:36:38,160
Speaker 2: But I remember in high school she's telling me like, no,

729
00:36:38,480 --> 00:36:40,600
Speaker 2: well that is I mean, it's that's so deep because

730
00:36:40,600 --> 00:36:44,560
Speaker 2: it just shows you, like it's like how like the

731
00:36:44,600 --> 00:36:47,200
Speaker 2: black man, the color even just the color black. It's

732
00:36:47,280 --> 00:36:50,960
Speaker 2: it's the fear. It's dark, it's bad, you know, and

733
00:36:51,000 --> 00:36:55,560
Speaker 2: it's influenced. It's like a universal and I love it much.

734
00:36:56,160 --> 00:36:58,000
Speaker 2: But I just wonder like why, because I mean, that's

735
00:36:58,120 --> 00:37:01,160
Speaker 2: that everyone knows that, like in the community, you don't

736
00:37:01,200 --> 00:37:04,000
Speaker 2: really honestly, I never I never asked everything.

737
00:37:04,000 --> 00:37:06,640
Speaker 5: I was so afraid of like having a conversation with

738
00:37:06,719 --> 00:37:07,680
Speaker 5: him that I was just.

739
00:37:07,880 --> 00:37:09,759
Speaker 2: Like, you never touched back on it. Well, someone tells

740
00:37:09,800 --> 00:37:11,040
Speaker 2: you I'm not going to fuck with you after that,

741
00:37:11,080 --> 00:37:15,000
Speaker 2: you don't forget that, I'm not, so so what would

742
00:37:15,000 --> 00:37:16,799
Speaker 2: you do? Like what if you did have to? My

743
00:37:16,880 --> 00:37:19,799
Speaker 2: dad has to accept whoever at this point, Like.

744
00:37:22,120 --> 00:37:24,640
Speaker 5: I'm not going to not be with someone just because,

745
00:37:24,719 --> 00:37:26,160
Speaker 5: But is that a conversation.

746
00:37:25,760 --> 00:37:29,920
Speaker 2: You would have with him before he met whoever you're

747
00:37:30,000 --> 00:37:32,640
Speaker 2: dating and I don't respect And how do you have

748
00:37:32,680 --> 00:37:35,719
Speaker 2: that conversation with the person you're dating? Like do you

749
00:37:35,880 --> 00:37:38,440
Speaker 2: just not even have it and just hope your dad behaves.

750
00:37:39,000 --> 00:37:41,080
Speaker 2: I think I would to have that conversation with my

751
00:37:41,160 --> 00:37:42,720
Speaker 2: dad first and see his reaction.

752
00:37:44,960 --> 00:37:49,760
Speaker 6: Maybe he didn't know last morning about you know, not having.

753
00:37:49,760 --> 00:37:51,480
Speaker 2: I think also as a black man, though you know

754
00:37:51,560 --> 00:37:53,359
Speaker 2: that you already know that though you know it might

755
00:37:53,400 --> 00:37:55,840
Speaker 2: be an issue. I think, so we're not like they know,

756
00:37:56,200 --> 00:37:58,319
Speaker 2: just like we just asked. You have to know.

757
00:37:58,400 --> 00:38:02,120
Speaker 6: I mean, it's a it's a universal and I specifically asked,

758
00:38:02,200 --> 00:38:04,279
Speaker 6: especially like an I like a lot of black men.

759
00:38:04,280 --> 00:38:06,040
Speaker 6: I know a lot of friends who like don't fuck

760
00:38:06,120 --> 00:38:09,000
Speaker 6: with like who only fuck with girls outside of their vice.

761
00:38:09,040 --> 00:38:11,399
Speaker 2: I always ask them, like, how does her family take

762
00:38:11,440 --> 00:38:13,200
Speaker 2: to you? How do you feel about that? Doesn't that

763
00:38:13,320 --> 00:38:15,960
Speaker 2: matter because black men love women.

764
00:38:16,640 --> 00:38:18,960
Speaker 5: Well, it's so funny because I think, did I tell

765
00:38:18,960 --> 00:38:20,960
Speaker 5: you this story about my mom?

766
00:38:21,000 --> 00:38:21,080
Speaker 2: So?

767
00:38:21,160 --> 00:38:24,640
Speaker 5: I had this guy that like I've talked to for years,

768
00:38:25,440 --> 00:38:28,560
Speaker 5: and he came to see me and.

769
00:38:29,120 --> 00:38:31,560
Speaker 7: I my mom pulled up and we were outside.

770
00:38:31,600 --> 00:38:32,520
Speaker 2: Oh you did tell me this?

771
00:38:32,840 --> 00:38:37,960
Speaker 5: And he's Dominican, and obviously he looks black.

772
00:38:38,400 --> 00:38:39,760
Speaker 2: When I met him, I thought he was black.

773
00:38:40,280 --> 00:38:43,560
Speaker 5: And then she was like so nice to him, and

774
00:38:43,640 --> 00:38:46,319
Speaker 5: like she just wants to see me happy at the

775
00:38:46,400 --> 00:38:46,879
Speaker 5: end of the day.

776
00:38:46,920 --> 00:38:49,160
Speaker 2: And she's like, I don't care what color he is, as.

777
00:38:49,080 --> 00:38:52,040
Speaker 7: Long as he's making you happy. But you know, it

778
00:38:52,080 --> 00:38:52,399
Speaker 7: was just.

779
00:38:52,360 --> 00:38:57,840
Speaker 2: Like and then he busts out that Spanish. Yeah he

780
00:38:58,000 --> 00:39:03,120
Speaker 2: was oh, even better, even better, And.

781
00:39:03,080 --> 00:39:04,680
Speaker 5: I was like then I couldn't shut the lady up,

782
00:39:04,719 --> 00:39:06,000
Speaker 5: and I was like, lady, aren't you cold?

783
00:39:06,000 --> 00:39:08,840
Speaker 2: It's cold outside and it'll get us better. That's funny.

784
00:39:09,600 --> 00:39:12,560
Speaker 2: But I mean, shit, my mom's Latina and my dad's black,

785
00:39:12,640 --> 00:39:14,919
Speaker 2: and I'm that was It wasn't a thing, but it's

786
00:39:15,160 --> 00:39:17,520
Speaker 2: a thing I had. I asked you that before, and

787
00:39:17,560 --> 00:39:19,799
Speaker 2: then I asked you that. Oh, so it was a

788
00:39:19,840 --> 00:39:24,000
Speaker 2: thing with your mom. I mean, well, my grandfather was

789
00:39:24,040 --> 00:39:28,160
Speaker 2: white or Portuguese and Irish. She lived his life past

790
00:39:28,200 --> 00:39:30,919
Speaker 2: her as a white man and living as a white man.

791
00:39:31,680 --> 00:39:36,960
Speaker 2: And then my grandma is Mexican fully so, but she's

792
00:39:37,040 --> 00:39:44,160
Speaker 2: first twelve. Yeah, she's first generation American. So she grew

793
00:39:44,200 --> 00:39:47,359
Speaker 2: up in Colorado, so she was in like a farming town.

794
00:39:47,560 --> 00:39:50,560
Speaker 2: She was amongst a lot of like Mexican people, but

795
00:39:50,600 --> 00:39:52,920
Speaker 2: also amongst a lot of white people as well, so

796
00:39:52,960 --> 00:39:55,919
Speaker 2: she was a little more like not black people though,

797
00:39:56,360 --> 00:39:59,759
Speaker 2: And like, I don't know, I think it's when I

798
00:39:59,840 --> 00:40:02,600
Speaker 2: he my grandma talk about black people shouldn't say anything negative,

799
00:40:02,600 --> 00:40:04,279
Speaker 2: but she'd be like, oh the black guy, yeah, that

800
00:40:04,320 --> 00:40:07,920
Speaker 2: black guy. Like you feel the tone chain, yeah, yeah,

801
00:40:08,160 --> 00:40:10,279
Speaker 2: kind of there is. It's like this, it's a tone

802
00:40:10,640 --> 00:40:14,520
Speaker 2: like she'll never say she, she'll never say she. I

803
00:40:14,520 --> 00:40:16,640
Speaker 2: don't think she cared. I don't think I don't. Actually

804
00:40:16,680 --> 00:40:19,919
Speaker 2: I know she didn't. Doesn't really care if my mom

805
00:40:20,040 --> 00:40:22,720
Speaker 2: was with a Latin man at all. Actually, my family,

806
00:40:22,760 --> 00:40:26,000
Speaker 2: I feel like my Mexican side of my family try

807
00:40:26,040 --> 00:40:28,960
Speaker 2: to assimilate, you know, like they tried. They never went

808
00:40:29,000 --> 00:40:32,040
Speaker 2: back to Mexico. They tried to just wear Americans. Now,

809
00:40:32,440 --> 00:40:34,120
Speaker 2: you know, my grandma doesn't like to be in the sun.

810
00:40:34,600 --> 00:40:36,959
Speaker 2: She doesn't wanted to get dark because she can really

811
00:40:36,920 --> 00:40:38,960
Speaker 2: because I say, if I just saw your grandma, I mean,

812
00:40:38,960 --> 00:40:41,320
Speaker 2: I mean, it's obvious she's I mean it she to go.

813
00:40:41,600 --> 00:40:43,279
Speaker 2: It can go either way, like well not white, but

814
00:40:43,360 --> 00:40:45,759
Speaker 2: you know she's something, but she's doesn't necessarily look what

815
00:40:45,800 --> 00:40:46,759
Speaker 2: you think Mexican may be.

816
00:40:47,160 --> 00:40:50,720
Speaker 5: Like I don't feel like I get that I'm I'm

817
00:40:50,760 --> 00:40:54,719
Speaker 5: not Mexican or I never get Guatemala. Ever, they can

818
00:40:54,760 --> 00:40:58,560
Speaker 5: never figure out what I am. I'm like, I'm Latina, but.

819
00:40:58,600 --> 00:41:02,200
Speaker 2: I don't know, Like it's not it's it's it's it's

820
00:41:02,200 --> 00:41:04,720
Speaker 2: a thing. The black thing is a thing, even.

821
00:41:04,600 --> 00:41:07,839
Speaker 6: If it's not, even if it's unspoken, you know, it's

822
00:41:07,840 --> 00:41:10,560
Speaker 6: a thing, even if it's unspoken. That's interesting because I

823
00:41:10,600 --> 00:41:14,080
Speaker 6: wonder if she's just like even saying, but now but

824
00:41:14,160 --> 00:41:14,759
Speaker 6: now she.

825
00:41:14,760 --> 00:41:18,680
Speaker 2: Has black she has two black grandchildren. Her daughter has

826
00:41:18,719 --> 00:41:22,200
Speaker 2: been had children with two black men, Like it's her

827
00:41:22,280 --> 00:41:24,759
Speaker 2: part of her life now, you know, whereas I feel

828
00:41:24,760 --> 00:41:26,279
Speaker 2: like had she dated a white she would have been

829
00:41:26,280 --> 00:41:28,279
Speaker 2: totally there would have been a conversation about dating a

830
00:41:28,280 --> 00:41:30,960
Speaker 2: white guy. It's totally fine. You know. Did you think

831
00:41:31,000 --> 00:41:33,200
Speaker 2: your grandmother ever had a conversation with your mom? I

832
00:41:33,239 --> 00:41:36,360
Speaker 2: don't know, Maybe should ask her. I don't know, just

833
00:41:37,600 --> 00:41:38,279
Speaker 2: I don't know.

834
00:41:38,440 --> 00:41:42,560
Speaker 5: Well, I have family in Houston and they're all married

835
00:41:42,560 --> 00:41:45,399
Speaker 5: to white men. And I remember, I don't know what

836
00:41:45,440 --> 00:41:50,680
Speaker 5: we were talking about, and I like said I was

837
00:41:50,840 --> 00:41:52,279
Speaker 5: talking to her and I was like, oh, yeah, like

838
00:41:52,320 --> 00:41:53,759
Speaker 5: if you come to my wedding, it's going to be

839
00:41:53,920 --> 00:41:55,399
Speaker 5: you know, because I'm going to marry a black guy.

840
00:41:55,840 --> 00:42:00,839
Speaker 5: And she was like all black men cheat about all

841
00:42:01,440 --> 00:42:04,239
Speaker 5: And then I said to her, I was like all

842
00:42:04,320 --> 00:42:06,920
Speaker 5: men shei and she was like, no, but I've heard

843
00:42:07,520 --> 00:42:12,240
Speaker 5: about more like homes coming from like black people because

844
00:42:13,360 --> 00:42:14,480
Speaker 5: the man cheats.

845
00:42:14,760 --> 00:42:16,360
Speaker 2: And I said, yeah, because.

846
00:42:18,040 --> 00:42:21,960
Speaker 5: Dumbasses stay with like you know, white men, they beat

847
00:42:22,000 --> 00:42:25,160
Speaker 5: their wives like, oh people, yeah, you.

848
00:42:25,080 --> 00:42:29,560
Speaker 2: Know, like it's so many different how people like hear

849
00:42:29,719 --> 00:42:32,080
Speaker 2: something and then it's like becomes like, oh, that's what

850
00:42:32,120 --> 00:42:35,680
Speaker 2: it is without any experience. Oh no, I've heard like

851
00:42:36,040 --> 00:42:37,520
Speaker 2: her husand's probably cheating on her right now.

852
00:42:38,040 --> 00:42:40,080
Speaker 5: Like and then my an she was like, oh no,

853
00:42:40,120 --> 00:42:43,880
Speaker 5: you would suck up your life if you like marry

854
00:42:43,920 --> 00:42:47,280
Speaker 5: a black man. When you say why, at that point,

855
00:42:47,440 --> 00:42:48,560
Speaker 5: I just don't want to hear it.

856
00:42:48,719 --> 00:42:50,000
Speaker 7: You're just not going to be invited to.

857
00:42:49,920 --> 00:42:52,400
Speaker 2: My wife my wedding. It's so interesting, you know, Like

858
00:42:52,600 --> 00:42:56,160
Speaker 2: I just don't want to deal with that. I don't.

859
00:42:57,280 --> 00:42:57,880
Speaker 6: My life.

860
00:42:58,520 --> 00:43:01,480
Speaker 2: Let it be. Fuck. You might have some really cute kids,

861
00:43:01,480 --> 00:43:04,640
Speaker 2: but your life is going to be I know.

862
00:43:04,680 --> 00:43:06,600
Speaker 6: And then in the future, like you wanted you want

863
00:43:06,600 --> 00:43:09,359
Speaker 6: to disregard like ignorant comments and dumb ship and you're

864
00:43:09,360 --> 00:43:10,960
Speaker 6: like you want to like bring your kids around in

865
00:43:10,960 --> 00:43:13,239
Speaker 6: the future, but like you can never hear that ship, Like.

866
00:43:13,200 --> 00:43:17,360
Speaker 2: I'm leaving little Jimmy with you. Yeah, you know, little Jimmy,

867
00:43:17,520 --> 00:43:20,520
Speaker 2: who knows what she's gonna be talking about. So dating,

868
00:43:21,080 --> 00:43:25,359
Speaker 2: So dating in general, like do you use apps? Are

869
00:43:25,400 --> 00:43:28,560
Speaker 2: you an Apple? Have you used apps? I have? Yeah?

870
00:43:28,560 --> 00:43:31,800
Speaker 5: In the past. I won't. It's been a few years.

871
00:43:31,840 --> 00:43:34,000
Speaker 5: I actually have used it when I'm traveling.

872
00:43:34,000 --> 00:43:36,200
Speaker 2: Did you use match dot com like Anthony suggestions?

873
00:43:38,440 --> 00:43:40,200
Speaker 7: The first app that I ever used was tender.

874
00:43:42,000 --> 00:43:45,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, the beginner beginner dating it. Sorry, I got catfished?

875
00:43:45,239 --> 00:43:49,160
Speaker 2: You got catfished? What happened? Just you know, like many

876
00:43:49,160 --> 00:43:51,960
Speaker 2: times or one specifically? Then I ended up being in

877
00:43:52,000 --> 00:43:56,160
Speaker 2: a relationship with the catfish. What's never heard a story

878
00:43:56,280 --> 00:43:56,560
Speaker 2: like this?

879
00:43:58,239 --> 00:43:58,359
Speaker 5: Right?

880
00:43:58,360 --> 00:44:00,439
Speaker 2: Okay, I don't even know what this means, but.

881
00:44:00,440 --> 00:44:02,160
Speaker 7: No, because then it went really wrong.

882
00:44:02,840 --> 00:44:05,120
Speaker 2: Okay, so what catfish in the sense that when you

883
00:44:05,200 --> 00:44:08,520
Speaker 2: pulled up he didn't look like the photo or catfish like,

884
00:44:08,719 --> 00:44:09,839
Speaker 2: he wasn't who So.

885
00:44:11,680 --> 00:44:16,239
Speaker 5: Okay, So I downloaded that and then I matched with

886
00:44:16,280 --> 00:44:17,759
Speaker 5: a few people, and I like talked to a few

887
00:44:17,760 --> 00:44:20,520
Speaker 5: people first, and then there was this particular guy who

888
00:44:20,560 --> 00:44:24,120
Speaker 5: was like very like well spoken, and I was like intrigued,

889
00:44:24,120 --> 00:44:28,400
Speaker 5: and I was like, okay, he was in a private jet,

890
00:44:29,360 --> 00:44:31,800
Speaker 5: but his face was like this way and it was

891
00:44:31,880 --> 00:44:35,840
Speaker 5: kind of like far away.

892
00:44:34,280 --> 00:44:37,279
Speaker 2: So you can't really see like his face. Oh my god, girl,

893
00:44:37,320 --> 00:44:40,640
Speaker 2: you that's how you unite? Alarming girl, Like that's the

894
00:44:40,640 --> 00:44:43,319
Speaker 2: one like the private jet, right, then they're in front

895
00:44:43,320 --> 00:44:46,839
Speaker 2: of like the car. Yes, oh my god, you are

896
00:44:46,880 --> 00:44:49,719
Speaker 2: a sucker. You are a tender sucker. It was my

897
00:44:49,920 --> 00:44:53,120
Speaker 2: first you know, go right, and then you have to

898
00:44:53,239 --> 00:44:56,759
Speaker 2: like squint at this pod and so see, that's what

899
00:44:56,800 --> 00:44:59,920
Speaker 2: you get for me in shallow. That's what you get shallow.

900
00:45:01,000 --> 00:45:01,840
Speaker 2: When I wasn't.

901
00:45:02,960 --> 00:45:04,400
Speaker 7: They were just douchebags.

902
00:45:04,600 --> 00:45:08,560
Speaker 2: That's true, you know, happy medium, Yeah, and you know,

903
00:45:08,760 --> 00:45:12,160
Speaker 2: give me a break. It was my first time, and

904
00:45:12,239 --> 00:45:13,120
Speaker 2: I was like, okay.

905
00:45:16,000 --> 00:45:21,680
Speaker 5: So we had like great conversation and then he was

906
00:45:21,960 --> 00:45:24,839
Speaker 5: like I remember vividly what he said. He was like,

907
00:45:24,880 --> 00:45:28,080
Speaker 5: I'm deleting. Here's my number, I'm deleting the app. So

908
00:45:28,120 --> 00:45:30,239
Speaker 5: of course I was like, okay.

909
00:45:30,000 --> 00:45:31,719
Speaker 2: What like, you met me and you're deleting it.

910
00:45:31,840 --> 00:45:34,000
Speaker 7: No, we have been speaking for like a few days.

911
00:45:34,280 --> 00:45:36,680
Speaker 2: And then he was like, you're so special. I want

912
00:45:36,680 --> 00:45:37,440
Speaker 2: to make you feel special.

913
00:45:41,080 --> 00:45:45,359
Speaker 6: There's scammers on tender, Like how like my friend met

914
00:45:45,360 --> 00:45:51,480
Speaker 6: some guy, my friend, my forefriend met some tender. He

915
00:45:51,560 --> 00:45:56,000
Speaker 6: said that he was on a remote location in the military.

916
00:45:56,000 --> 00:45:59,920
Speaker 2: Sound I know as soon as she started spit it out,

917
00:46:00,120 --> 00:46:02,400
Speaker 2: doesn't she know that it's like in the area.

918
00:46:03,040 --> 00:46:04,600
Speaker 6: This is my friends At that time, I called you

919
00:46:04,680 --> 00:46:08,439
Speaker 6: were like, is this like seventies And she's like no, yeah,

920
00:46:08,440 --> 00:46:11,320
Speaker 6: oh yeah, okay, And you know, she's like, we was

921
00:46:11,320 --> 00:46:13,000
Speaker 6: supposed to make this week and he's flying here. Was

922
00:46:13,080 --> 00:46:14,680
Speaker 6: talked on the phone and like you're talking phone, but

923
00:46:14,719 --> 00:46:15,360
Speaker 6: you have a FaceTime?

924
00:46:15,440 --> 00:46:16,160
Speaker 2: No he can't.

925
00:46:17,640 --> 00:46:18,880
Speaker 7: Does he not have a kN iPhone?

926
00:46:19,120 --> 00:46:22,120
Speaker 2: He wants to get married. He has all this money anyway.

927
00:46:21,880 --> 00:46:24,040
Speaker 11: Doesn't tender ratchet in location? What do you mean he's

928
00:46:24,160 --> 00:46:28,000
Speaker 11: getting on of pla my location anyway? Like, so the

929
00:46:28,000 --> 00:46:29,960
Speaker 11: next week I was doing, I was like, did you

930
00:46:30,000 --> 00:46:31,560
Speaker 11: meet him? Did you guys at the hotel? He's talking

931
00:46:31,560 --> 00:46:33,480
Speaker 11: about getting married. I was like, anytime you met a

932
00:46:33,560 --> 00:46:35,920
Speaker 11: negga on tender and cycle getting married within weeks?

933
00:46:36,280 --> 00:46:36,919
Speaker 2: This is bad.

934
00:46:37,239 --> 00:46:39,719
Speaker 6: Yeah, he was supposed to get his way. He contacted

935
00:46:39,719 --> 00:46:43,320
Speaker 6: her from Dubai. He got caught up in Dubai. He

936
00:46:43,440 --> 00:46:46,200
Speaker 6: took all his stuff. He needs her to bail him out.

937
00:46:47,000 --> 00:46:48,839
Speaker 6: Oh my god, it's like those emails like those.

938
00:46:51,920 --> 00:46:54,120
Speaker 2: And then she did it. I don't know, my friend.

939
00:46:54,280 --> 00:47:00,680
Speaker 2: She's an older woman, she's not technologically advanced. She probably

940
00:47:00,680 --> 00:47:02,239
Speaker 2: her husband like five years ago.

941
00:47:02,280 --> 00:47:04,319
Speaker 6: It's like the only husband she's ever only she's ever

942
00:47:04,400 --> 00:47:06,640
Speaker 6: been with for like since she was twenty met as

943
00:47:06,680 --> 00:47:09,080
Speaker 6: a waitress. He had money, he took care of her

944
00:47:09,200 --> 00:47:12,720
Speaker 6: like she has no she had no dating tools.

945
00:47:13,520 --> 00:47:15,239
Speaker 2: Con Oh my god, I hope he didn't. She didn't

946
00:47:15,239 --> 00:47:15,680
Speaker 2: send money.

947
00:47:15,719 --> 00:47:16,480
Speaker 7: I hope there.

948
00:47:16,480 --> 00:47:22,160
Speaker 2: But wait, so so you're going that's damn. I thought

949
00:47:22,160 --> 00:47:27,759
Speaker 2: we'd like I forgot. So we ended up talking like

950
00:47:27,800 --> 00:47:31,000
Speaker 2: I ended up texting him, I think.

951
00:47:31,520 --> 00:47:39,560
Speaker 5: And it just was all champagne and bubbles and it

952
00:47:39,600 --> 00:47:43,719
Speaker 5: was just like great, like yeah, okay, you met him, okay.

953
00:47:43,760 --> 00:47:44,800
Speaker 2: So then I met him.

954
00:47:44,680 --> 00:47:48,480
Speaker 5: Okay, and then I was like, hm, so short okay,

955
00:47:48,600 --> 00:47:51,840
Speaker 5: and then doesn't look like anything that was in that

956
00:47:51,920 --> 00:47:54,040
Speaker 5: picture that we're in those.

957
00:47:53,840 --> 00:47:56,640
Speaker 10: Photos in my mind, I was like walking onto the place,

958
00:47:56,719 --> 00:47:58,480
Speaker 10: I was like, oh no.

959
00:48:00,200 --> 00:48:02,760
Speaker 2: But he was such a gentleman, like he just treated

960
00:48:02,840 --> 00:48:06,880
Speaker 2: me like a queen. So he was not cute. He

961
00:48:07,000 --> 00:48:11,799
Speaker 2: was He's attractive, I think, you think. I mean now

962
00:48:11,840 --> 00:48:13,919
Speaker 2: I look at him now and I just.

963
00:48:14,239 --> 00:48:17,160
Speaker 6: Like, did you address the elephant in the room, Like

964
00:48:17,360 --> 00:48:21,680
Speaker 6: did you ever say you just were? He didn't say, like,

965
00:48:22,320 --> 00:48:24,880
Speaker 6: by the way, I'm just re looking at your profile

966
00:48:25,000 --> 00:48:26,080
Speaker 6: and which one of these are.

967
00:48:26,120 --> 00:48:29,640
Speaker 2: Because he deleted the thing so that I couldn't. Did

968
00:48:29,640 --> 00:48:32,600
Speaker 2: he think that you're gonna forget you always had a screen,

969
00:48:33,960 --> 00:48:37,400
Speaker 2: It doesn't it notify them? I don't know.

970
00:48:41,880 --> 00:48:44,800
Speaker 5: Well no, okay, so then after actually, let's take a

971
00:48:44,800 --> 00:48:46,239
Speaker 5: step back, he actually sent me.

972
00:48:46,200 --> 00:48:50,600
Speaker 7: Photos of him, like I was like, and.

973
00:48:50,520 --> 00:48:53,360
Speaker 5: Then the name was different of his actual name was

974
00:48:53,400 --> 00:48:55,799
Speaker 5: different than what he had on the app.

975
00:48:55,840 --> 00:48:58,279
Speaker 2: That's what I should have known. So the pictures that

976
00:48:58,320 --> 00:49:01,440
Speaker 2: he sent you were that was the actually had him. Yeah,

977
00:49:01,760 --> 00:49:04,160
Speaker 2: but when I texted him, I texted him the.

978
00:49:04,200 --> 00:49:08,080
Speaker 5: Name of that he had on the app, and then

979
00:49:08,480 --> 00:49:10,320
Speaker 5: he was like, oh, my name is actually David.

980
00:49:11,080 --> 00:49:16,440
Speaker 2: Maybe he's I don't know, like maybe he was embarrassed

981
00:49:16,480 --> 00:49:18,239
Speaker 2: to be on the app, so he made a different name.

982
00:49:18,840 --> 00:49:21,440
Speaker 2: Happened in the long term, Yeah, so what ended up happening?

983
00:49:21,480 --> 00:49:23,800
Speaker 2: He ended up he was so gentleman like he didn't

984
00:49:23,800 --> 00:49:27,120
Speaker 2: have a jet.

985
00:49:24,440 --> 00:49:31,239
Speaker 12: He didn't have a jet, okay, mos importantly above all,

986
00:49:34,600 --> 00:49:35,080
Speaker 12: it just.

987
00:49:35,280 --> 00:49:40,920
Speaker 2: You know, it was just very manipulative and like verbally abusive,

988
00:49:41,280 --> 00:49:43,800
Speaker 2: like you know, you guys like started dating.

989
00:49:44,280 --> 00:49:47,759
Speaker 5: Yeah we were together, but I never posted him or

990
00:49:47,800 --> 00:49:48,719
Speaker 5: anything like how long.

991
00:49:48,600 --> 00:49:49,279
Speaker 2: Did you guys date?

992
00:49:49,760 --> 00:49:51,200
Speaker 7: For a few months.

993
00:49:52,800 --> 00:49:55,840
Speaker 5: And then I was just like, I can't I can't

994
00:49:55,840 --> 00:49:58,200
Speaker 5: do this because he was going.

995
00:49:58,000 --> 00:49:58,560
Speaker 2: Through a lot.

996
00:49:59,080 --> 00:50:02,200
Speaker 5: Just let's just say that. And like I was there

997
00:50:02,280 --> 00:50:04,080
Speaker 5: for him because that's just who I am. I was

998
00:50:04,160 --> 00:50:05,600
Speaker 5: just like, let me just be there for you.

999
00:50:05,840 --> 00:50:10,400
Speaker 2: And I just couldn't. I couldn't take it anymore. I'm like,

1000
00:50:10,400 --> 00:50:14,120
Speaker 2: you can't like call me a whore and a bitch because.

1001
00:50:13,920 --> 00:50:14,680
Speaker 7: I'm not answering.

1002
00:50:14,960 --> 00:50:18,160
Speaker 2: Oh no, hell no, No. That's the kind of guy

1003
00:50:18,200 --> 00:50:20,719
Speaker 2: that like will send your news to people or something

1004
00:50:20,960 --> 00:50:22,080
Speaker 2: like this.

1005
00:50:22,360 --> 00:50:24,640
Speaker 6: Any sign of that you get cut the fuck off

1006
00:50:24,719 --> 00:50:27,120
Speaker 6: yet start acting psycho boom boom boom.

1007
00:50:27,280 --> 00:50:29,279
Speaker 5: But see at the time, because I was like so

1008
00:50:29,400 --> 00:50:31,719
Speaker 5: infatuated with how he treated me, well, that's how I.

1009
00:50:35,040 --> 00:50:35,600
Speaker 2: Cook for me.

1010
00:50:35,960 --> 00:50:38,280
Speaker 5: He would like, would never let me pay for anything,

1011
00:50:40,120 --> 00:50:41,839
Speaker 5: was just like all about me and.

1012
00:50:41,880 --> 00:50:46,320
Speaker 2: Like so respectful and like you know, like completely winning.

1013
00:50:46,400 --> 00:50:50,200
Speaker 7: Oh my god, when that was percent, it was crazy.

1014
00:50:50,480 --> 00:50:52,840
Speaker 5: So it took me like a whole year to like

1015
00:50:53,440 --> 00:50:55,840
Speaker 5: be okay with not being with him because I was,

1016
00:50:55,840 --> 00:50:58,040
Speaker 5: like I can say I was like in love with

1017
00:50:58,120 --> 00:51:01,680
Speaker 5: him or the idea of who was Yeah, and then

1018
00:51:01,680 --> 00:51:03,440
Speaker 5: when I started seeing his true colors and I was like,

1019
00:51:03,560 --> 00:51:05,320
Speaker 5: oh my god, I need.

1020
00:51:05,160 --> 00:51:07,480
Speaker 2: To get out, and I did, and I like, just,

1021
00:51:08,600 --> 00:51:11,719
Speaker 2: I like, don't so because of that? Are you not?

1022
00:51:12,120 --> 00:51:13,560
Speaker 2: Have you been on a dating app since then? No?

1023
00:51:15,800 --> 00:51:19,960
Speaker 5: Not doing it And I've actually I have. I tried Rya,

1024
00:51:21,040 --> 00:51:23,479
Speaker 5: but like it's I.

1025
00:51:23,560 --> 00:51:27,719
Speaker 2: Is so Caucasian. I went on there Caucasian. I don't

1026
00:51:27,719 --> 00:51:29,200
Speaker 2: have a phone right now because I dropped in the

1027
00:51:29,239 --> 00:51:32,680
Speaker 2: pool two days ago. But I went back on Rya

1028
00:51:32,760 --> 00:51:36,520
Speaker 2: recently just to take a gander see if there's something new. Girl,

1029
00:51:36,640 --> 00:51:39,120
Speaker 2: I was like, why is it the same people? Like

1030
00:51:39,160 --> 00:51:41,719
Speaker 2: I literally saw the same guys I saw like six

1031
00:51:41,760 --> 00:51:42,200
Speaker 2: months ago.

1032
00:51:42,280 --> 00:51:44,160
Speaker 6: Yes, Ryot is racist, I know.

1033
00:51:44,280 --> 00:51:46,359
Speaker 2: It's just like literally they don't have enough people on there.

1034
00:51:47,080 --> 00:51:50,280
Speaker 5: Let people you like swipe once and they're like, please

1035
00:51:50,280 --> 00:51:51,760
Speaker 5: hold right, you've.

1036
00:51:51,560 --> 00:51:54,160
Speaker 2: Been swiping too eagerly. Yeah, Like we're trying to cultivate

1037
00:51:54,200 --> 00:51:56,560
Speaker 2: real relationships, so we're gonna limit your swipes. I'm like that,

1038
00:51:56,840 --> 00:51:58,760
Speaker 2: I'm paying for this. I should go to swipe. However

1039
00:51:58,800 --> 00:52:00,920
Speaker 2: the fuck I want to swis being funny about who

1040
00:52:00,920 --> 00:52:02,760
Speaker 2: they're letting is. And then any guy I've ever matched

1041
00:52:02,760 --> 00:52:05,359
Speaker 2: with on Rya, like we talk and we never meet up. Yeah,

1042
00:52:05,440 --> 00:52:07,600
Speaker 2: you never met anyone on Ryan like actually met somebody,

1043
00:52:07,640 --> 00:52:09,960
Speaker 2: whereas on Tinder, I've met like multiple people. Have you

1044
00:52:10,040 --> 00:52:13,240
Speaker 2: tried it on a hinge? I've recently been on Hinge?

1045
00:52:13,440 --> 00:52:16,880
Speaker 2: I did what was the other one? Bumble bumble. I

1046
00:52:16,880 --> 00:52:18,840
Speaker 2: don't like bumble because I don't like to talk first.

1047
00:52:19,320 --> 00:52:23,200
Speaker 5: See that, like because I just felt that because like

1048
00:52:23,360 --> 00:52:27,200
Speaker 5: the situation happened with Tender, I feel more comfortable, like

1049
00:52:27,239 --> 00:52:28,719
Speaker 5: if I want to talk to you, I can talk

1050
00:52:28,760 --> 00:52:28,920
Speaker 5: to you.

1051
00:52:29,000 --> 00:52:31,319
Speaker 2: If not, then I don't need to. So every time

1052
00:52:31,360 --> 00:52:33,920
Speaker 2: I go to New York, well not every time, but

1053
00:52:34,600 --> 00:52:38,440
Speaker 2: I have traveling using apps is great. Yeah, I mean

1054
00:52:38,480 --> 00:52:40,479
Speaker 2: that's that's why I fell in love with Tinder, because

1055
00:52:40,520 --> 00:52:42,640
Speaker 2: I only used it when I traveled and I met

1056
00:52:42,719 --> 00:52:44,680
Speaker 2: like it felt it always felt like a whirlwind, Like

1057
00:52:44,719 --> 00:52:49,239
Speaker 2: it always felt like a when I know here and roman.

1058
00:52:49,360 --> 00:52:52,120
Speaker 5: When I don't turn it off, I like open it

1059
00:52:52,360 --> 00:52:54,160
Speaker 5: to see if I turned it off, and it'll like

1060
00:52:54,280 --> 00:52:56,040
Speaker 5: match me with like my neighbor or something, and I'm

1061
00:52:56,080 --> 00:52:56,880
Speaker 5: just like, oh my god, I.

1062
00:52:56,880 --> 00:52:59,560
Speaker 2: Need to my neighbor. Yeah, oh yeah, I know. That's

1063
00:52:59,560 --> 00:53:01,439
Speaker 2: why don't you won't do it?

1064
00:53:02,239 --> 00:53:04,680
Speaker 6: I just I think guys are so dumb to think

1065
00:53:04,719 --> 00:53:06,839
Speaker 6: that you're going to go on an app to get

1066
00:53:06,960 --> 00:53:09,440
Speaker 6: dick like I could just go on my phone book

1067
00:53:11,960 --> 00:53:14,120
Speaker 6: like like like when they're trying to get like straight

1068
00:53:14,160 --> 00:53:16,440
Speaker 6: to it, I'm like, dude, this is not it's not happening.

1069
00:53:16,440 --> 00:53:18,560
Speaker 2: Well, I mean I went on an app to get

1070
00:53:18,840 --> 00:53:21,560
Speaker 2: penis at first. That's why I was on Tinder initially

1071
00:53:21,600 --> 00:53:23,759
Speaker 2: because I didn't have any one in my phone internet creep.

1072
00:53:23,840 --> 00:53:26,160
Speaker 2: And that's why I promoted Tinder for people that don't

1073
00:53:26,200 --> 00:53:28,360
Speaker 2: know how to get their feet wet, because like I like,

1074
00:53:28,360 --> 00:53:30,600
Speaker 2: I wasn't. Really I don't know on dates you get

1075
00:53:31,040 --> 00:53:34,000
Speaker 2: like I don't. She literally goes to have dinners to eat.

1076
00:53:34,200 --> 00:53:36,200
Speaker 2: I love to eat the same, and I.

1077
00:53:36,120 --> 00:53:38,719
Speaker 6: Can put up with like anybody's conversation for three meals.

1078
00:53:40,280 --> 00:53:42,200
Speaker 2: Speaking of which, how's your how's your? Hinge?

1079
00:53:42,239 --> 00:53:42,399
Speaker 6: Guy?

1080
00:53:43,200 --> 00:53:46,120
Speaker 2: The only one I wanted to date with. He's actually cool.

1081
00:53:47,760 --> 00:53:51,440
Speaker 2: So Jamila met this guy on Hinge and I'm trying

1082
00:53:51,480 --> 00:53:57,880
Speaker 2: to think of a name for him, Jay okay Jay,

1083
00:53:58,080 --> 00:54:00,480
Speaker 2: and I can't. We can't even call a bay he

1084
00:54:00,520 --> 00:54:04,239
Speaker 2: can he No, he can't. Oh I feel bad. I

1085
00:54:04,280 --> 00:54:07,000
Speaker 2: hope he did never listen. Oh boy thought of Bay

1086
00:54:07,120 --> 00:54:11,680
Speaker 2: yet because it's still working on it. Yeah, Denielle thinks

1087
00:54:11,680 --> 00:54:16,520
Speaker 2: he lied about his age what do you think. I

1088
00:54:16,560 --> 00:54:17,879
Speaker 2: think I.

1089
00:54:17,800 --> 00:54:19,840
Speaker 6: Would hope guys are not lying about their age, but

1090
00:54:19,880 --> 00:54:22,760
Speaker 6: I keep hearing that they are, and it's like, I lie.

1091
00:54:23,719 --> 00:54:25,799
Speaker 2: I don't know. He said forty two, so it's not

1092
00:54:25,960 --> 00:54:26,960
Speaker 2: like he said thirty five.

1093
00:54:27,080 --> 00:54:28,480
Speaker 7: Oh wow, so you think he's older.

1094
00:54:28,640 --> 00:54:32,080
Speaker 2: That's it. My friend thinks does he look older? You know,

1095
00:54:32,160 --> 00:54:32,719
Speaker 2: it's hard to.

1096
00:54:32,680 --> 00:54:35,480
Speaker 6: Tell with black men because you know, we've been looking

1097
00:54:36,360 --> 00:54:38,080
Speaker 6: thirty five till about seventy.

1098
00:54:38,200 --> 00:54:42,680
Speaker 2: Now. I met a guy in New York and he was.

1099
00:54:42,719 --> 00:54:47,040
Speaker 5: What, forty three, Not that he lied about it, but

1100
00:54:47,080 --> 00:54:48,399
Speaker 5: he didn't look forty three.

1101
00:54:48,520 --> 00:54:50,239
Speaker 6: Yeah, Like I don't I just don't want you to lie.

1102
00:54:50,480 --> 00:54:52,680
Speaker 6: I think that's like I don't care how old you are.

1103
00:54:52,680 --> 00:54:56,440
Speaker 6: I just don't lie. Dinner doesn't have an age.

1104
00:54:57,239 --> 00:55:01,080
Speaker 2: Your wallet doesn't have an age. It may have a limit. Fact,

1105
00:55:01,160 --> 00:55:02,000
Speaker 2: and the older you.

1106
00:55:01,920 --> 00:55:04,319
Speaker 6: Get, I'm helping the limit is getting up because you're older,

1107
00:55:04,360 --> 00:55:05,240
Speaker 6: you've been doing this longer.

1108
00:55:05,440 --> 00:55:10,640
Speaker 5: Yeah, And that's like my first after my I broke

1109
00:55:10,680 --> 00:55:12,760
Speaker 5: it off with, you know that one person.

1110
00:55:12,760 --> 00:55:13,680
Speaker 2: I don't even.

1111
00:55:16,320 --> 00:55:18,560
Speaker 5: I met this guy in New York and he was like,

1112
00:55:18,640 --> 00:55:23,840
Speaker 5: actually staying in the same hotel from that app No, no, no,

1113
00:55:23,960 --> 00:55:26,439
Speaker 5: So that I went to New York for for work

1114
00:55:26,480 --> 00:55:29,680
Speaker 5: and he was staying in the hotel and like, I

1115
00:55:29,719 --> 00:55:32,359
Speaker 5: was like, oh my god, my weakness is black man

1116
00:55:32,560 --> 00:55:35,160
Speaker 5: with like a baseball cap and a white.

1117
00:55:34,960 --> 00:55:42,400
Speaker 4: Shirt what I like, I don't know, and a white

1118
00:55:42,480 --> 00:55:49,839
Speaker 4: shirt waiting that's amazing nice yeah, gray sweatsuit.

1119
00:55:52,560 --> 00:55:57,000
Speaker 6: Yeah, and like a super chocolate man in a white

1120
00:55:57,000 --> 00:55:57,839
Speaker 6: share it with nice tea.

1121
00:56:00,160 --> 00:56:02,399
Speaker 2: Yeah, but the white T shirt and the white teeth

1122
00:56:02,640 --> 00:56:04,759
Speaker 2: and the chocolate. So basically, he's going to the all

1123
00:56:04,760 --> 00:56:11,680
Speaker 2: white party. He's going to party, Jess. I'm just saying, well,

1124
00:56:11,800 --> 00:56:14,240
Speaker 2: and you know, niggas love to wear all white. Can't

1125
00:56:14,320 --> 00:56:16,600
Speaker 2: wait for a party where they get to wear all white,

1126
00:56:16,920 --> 00:56:19,080
Speaker 2: like you want to all white party, can get a

1127
00:56:19,080 --> 00:56:22,960
Speaker 2: fresh teath some new Air Force once and it have

1128
00:56:23,040 --> 00:56:23,440
Speaker 2: to be new.

1129
00:56:25,000 --> 00:56:28,480
Speaker 5: So yeah, So I met him and I was just like,

1130
00:56:28,600 --> 00:56:31,040
Speaker 5: oh my, he had colored eyes, and I was like,

1131
00:56:31,360 --> 00:56:33,719
Speaker 5: oh my good lord, what.

1132
00:56:33,680 --> 00:56:34,279
Speaker 7: Am I going to do?

1133
00:56:34,920 --> 00:56:37,200
Speaker 5: And like I didn't know, Like I was just like

1134
00:56:37,320 --> 00:56:39,160
Speaker 5: I think I'm ready, Like I think I'm ready to

1135
00:56:39,200 --> 00:56:40,680
Speaker 5: just like go and this I think it had been.

1136
00:56:40,600 --> 00:56:44,400
Speaker 2: Like nine months and I just went for it. You

1137
00:56:44,680 --> 00:56:46,640
Speaker 2: to his Roman? Did it? No?

1138
00:56:48,080 --> 00:56:48,600
Speaker 7: Not that night?

1139
00:56:50,520 --> 00:56:51,279
Speaker 5: That was nice.

1140
00:56:51,680 --> 00:56:53,799
Speaker 2: That was. That was the second that was like the

1141
00:56:53,840 --> 00:56:55,759
Speaker 2: second night, what was it four hours later?

1142
00:56:56,480 --> 00:56:57,400
Speaker 7: But he was like, you know, I.

1143
00:56:57,400 --> 00:56:59,319
Speaker 5: Didn't want to because I was like I didn't know,

1144
00:56:59,520 --> 00:57:01,400
Speaker 5: like I'm in New York, Like I don't want to

1145
00:57:01,440 --> 00:57:03,520
Speaker 5: do that. And then found and then I found out

1146
00:57:03,520 --> 00:57:06,480
Speaker 5: that he lives in LA actually lives in this area

1147
00:57:07,000 --> 00:57:09,959
Speaker 5: in the valley. And then I was just like, Okay,

1148
00:57:10,000 --> 00:57:12,400
Speaker 5: I guess I can because maybe I need someone I

1149
00:57:12,400 --> 00:57:12,959
Speaker 5: get back home.

1150
00:57:13,080 --> 00:57:16,680
Speaker 2: And I did it, and then I was like, whoa,

1151
00:57:17,680 --> 00:57:18,440
Speaker 2: it's a good story.

1152
00:57:18,440 --> 00:57:22,000
Speaker 7: It was very I mean moving for hours.

1153
00:57:22,160 --> 00:57:24,720
Speaker 2: Soon was that.

1154
00:57:26,280 --> 00:57:29,080
Speaker 6: I don't know if I had any like success stories

1155
00:57:29,800 --> 00:57:30,560
Speaker 6: on apps.

1156
00:57:31,160 --> 00:57:33,200
Speaker 2: I mean, you know whatever, Jay's school.

1157
00:57:33,600 --> 00:57:38,479
Speaker 5: But after that situation, I was just like not doing

1158
00:57:38,520 --> 00:57:41,240
Speaker 5: it like that, like not in for a relationship.

1159
00:57:41,400 --> 00:57:44,880
Speaker 2: I mean it depends like what your expectations. Sometimes I

1160
00:57:44,880 --> 00:57:46,800
Speaker 2: feel like I've had success stories and I'm not with

1161
00:57:46,840 --> 00:57:48,560
Speaker 2: anyone from an app, you know what I mean, you

1162
00:57:48,600 --> 00:57:51,480
Speaker 2: have had success stories high level, I mean if they're

1163
00:57:51,520 --> 00:57:53,560
Speaker 2: not my boyfriends or girlfriends. Just like I've had really

1164
00:57:53,640 --> 00:57:57,000
Speaker 2: great experiences, I've also had mediocre experiences.

1165
00:57:57,040 --> 00:58:00,680
Speaker 5: But but this was what like five years ago, right,

1166
00:58:01,560 --> 00:58:03,520
Speaker 5: so it was like a long time ago. So now

1167
00:58:03,600 --> 00:58:05,680
Speaker 5: I just don't even think about it, cause I'm like,

1168
00:58:06,080 --> 00:58:06,960
Speaker 5: I know what you want.

1169
00:58:06,880 --> 00:58:09,080
Speaker 2: That's not what I want. So I'm not gonna even

1170
00:58:09,560 --> 00:58:10,840
Speaker 2: waste my time for your time.

1171
00:58:10,920 --> 00:58:15,160
Speaker 6: So I just remember I have to text trembling Bay friends,

1172
00:58:15,760 --> 00:58:17,080
Speaker 6: Oh trembling Bay.

1173
00:58:16,920 --> 00:58:21,240
Speaker 2: Lips friend Trimling Lip trembling. He's a former Bay that

1174
00:58:21,600 --> 00:58:25,720
Speaker 2: I had met on Tinder okay, and she matched with

1175
00:58:25,840 --> 00:58:32,960
Speaker 2: his friend on Hinge the other day. Dating must be difficult,

1176
00:58:33,000 --> 00:58:35,520
Speaker 2: because I mean, I if you guys listen, if you

1177
00:58:35,520 --> 00:58:39,400
Speaker 2: guys like know, like like the influencer life may be

1178
00:58:39,440 --> 00:58:42,600
Speaker 2: a fucking traveling all over the goddamn place and going

1179
00:58:42,640 --> 00:58:46,440
Speaker 2: on trips and shit, and literally I went on we

1180
00:58:46,720 --> 00:58:48,840
Speaker 2: Beauty Bleunder had one like in fl We've had one

1181
00:58:48,880 --> 00:58:51,160
Speaker 2: influencer trip, and I thought I was gonna die. I

1182
00:58:51,200 --> 00:58:53,840
Speaker 2: was like, how do they do this every weekend? Every

1183
00:58:53,840 --> 00:58:57,440
Speaker 2: week or every few months even because it's so much alcohol,

1184
00:58:58,280 --> 00:59:03,040
Speaker 2: and like everyone on that trip was like handling like

1185
00:59:03,080 --> 00:59:05,040
Speaker 2: a g and I was like, I got to keep up.

1186
00:59:05,120 --> 00:59:07,440
Speaker 2: I'm like, I'm on two hours of sleep, Like the

1187
00:59:07,560 --> 00:59:12,400
Speaker 2: fuck I'm probably like and now and those and those

1188
00:59:12,560 --> 00:59:15,440
Speaker 2: experiences you're having so much fun. But most of the

1189
00:59:15,480 --> 00:59:18,280
Speaker 2: time you're with like gay men, Like you're with a

1190
00:59:18,360 --> 00:59:22,960
Speaker 2: lot of gay men and girl husbands or or husbands. Yeah,

1191
00:59:23,040 --> 00:59:28,520
Speaker 2: that's true. So like, how do you meet people? I mean, honestly,

1192
00:59:28,560 --> 00:59:30,080
Speaker 2: you'reparently not really meeting people.

1193
00:59:30,240 --> 00:59:30,920
Speaker 7: I'm not because I.

1194
00:59:30,880 --> 00:59:33,880
Speaker 5: Really don't go anywhere when I'm like home, I'm like,

1195
00:59:34,760 --> 00:59:37,320
Speaker 5: I work from home. So I go and I pick

1196
00:59:37,360 --> 00:59:42,280
Speaker 5: up Anthony and come home, take them to baseball, go home, record,

1197
00:59:42,360 --> 00:59:46,280
Speaker 5: and I do like all that stuff. But I told

1198
00:59:46,720 --> 00:59:48,960
Speaker 5: my friends here and I was like, hey, like we

1199
00:59:49,000 --> 00:59:50,480
Speaker 5: need to start going places.

1200
00:59:51,520 --> 00:59:52,040
Speaker 6: I like this.

1201
00:59:52,240 --> 00:59:56,919
Speaker 7: I'm like dry as a desert. There's like no nothing.

1202
00:59:57,400 --> 00:59:59,000
Speaker 6: You know, I get that way. I get like attention,

1203
00:59:59,640 --> 01:00:01,280
Speaker 6: you know, crazy than I get them the apps and then

1204
01:00:01,280 --> 01:00:01,520
Speaker 6: I go.

1205
01:00:04,320 --> 01:00:05,120
Speaker 7: I'm not like that.

1206
01:00:05,240 --> 01:00:08,840
Speaker 2: I really don't care so much about attention. I'm justause

1207
01:00:08,880 --> 01:00:12,240
Speaker 2: you get it all day every day on your Instagram's

1208
01:00:12,320 --> 01:00:16,480
Speaker 2: four commons you are beautiful. Speaking of which do you

1209
01:00:16,520 --> 01:00:18,440
Speaker 2: get like, I'm sure because you have so many followers

1210
01:00:18,480 --> 01:00:22,960
Speaker 2: like you probably get like a lot of hate too. No, no,

1211
01:00:22,960 --> 01:00:24,200
Speaker 2: no one ever says mean shit.

1212
01:00:24,040 --> 01:00:27,640
Speaker 5: To you before, like a long time ago, they used

1213
01:00:27,640 --> 01:00:29,960
Speaker 5: to always like be that's I mean, you look like

1214
01:00:30,000 --> 01:00:35,120
Speaker 5: a man or like like just dumb shit, honestly, but

1215
01:00:35,400 --> 01:00:38,600
Speaker 5: at first I would like fight back, like hock you bitch,

1216
01:00:39,040 --> 01:00:42,400
Speaker 5: go wipe your child's ass that like stop being on Instagram,

1217
01:00:42,440 --> 01:00:43,680
Speaker 5: like go take care of your child.

1218
01:00:43,760 --> 01:00:46,720
Speaker 2: Like you're saying positive things.

1219
01:00:46,520 --> 01:00:50,040
Speaker 5: On your bio, but you're coming in trash, like trash

1220
01:00:50,080 --> 01:00:52,080
Speaker 5: talking me when I'm not.

1221
01:00:52,280 --> 01:00:54,960
Speaker 2: I'm not doing anything to you. I just bother you.

1222
01:00:55,800 --> 01:00:57,919
Speaker 2: Then get off my page, you know what i mean,

1223
01:00:58,080 --> 01:00:59,360
Speaker 2: Like it would bother me.

1224
01:00:59,440 --> 01:01:00,440
Speaker 7: But now I'm just like.

1225
01:01:00,640 --> 01:01:02,680
Speaker 2: Keep them coming. You're putting money in my bank.

1226
01:01:02,880 --> 01:01:06,120
Speaker 5: So that's honestly how I look at it, Like you

1227
01:01:06,160 --> 01:01:08,080
Speaker 5: want to be negative, like I'm gonna let you be negative.

1228
01:01:08,600 --> 01:01:10,520
Speaker 2: And even when I go on live. When I go

1229
01:01:10,560 --> 01:01:13,240
Speaker 2: on live, I get.

1230
01:01:13,120 --> 01:01:17,200
Speaker 5: More they're like, oh, like you're hoe and you're a bitch,

1231
01:01:17,360 --> 01:01:17,960
Speaker 5: you're a hope.

1232
01:01:18,200 --> 01:01:19,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, all kinds of stuff.

1233
01:01:19,880 --> 01:01:24,200
Speaker 5: I'm like yeah, or like nasty stuff like let me

1234
01:01:24,200 --> 01:01:27,000
Speaker 5: see your tits and like get up, like chose your

1235
01:01:27,080 --> 01:01:30,280
Speaker 5: nipples and I'm like hold on, let me put my

1236
01:01:30,320 --> 01:01:33,600
Speaker 5: brush down and I'll let me do it now one second.

1237
01:01:33,880 --> 01:01:35,200
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1238
01:01:35,440 --> 01:01:38,560
Speaker 5: But aside from that, like if you read, most of

1239
01:01:38,600 --> 01:01:41,640
Speaker 5: my comments are never anything negative and it's like more

1240
01:01:42,400 --> 01:01:45,320
Speaker 5: people that I have a connection with, like through social

1241
01:01:45,400 --> 01:01:46,280
Speaker 5: media that like.

1242
01:01:46,760 --> 01:01:48,600
Speaker 7: Have like always comment on my photos.

1243
01:01:49,560 --> 01:01:52,360
Speaker 2: So well that's good, yeah, because I feel like I

1244
01:01:52,400 --> 01:01:55,520
Speaker 2: can imagine, like I guess people. I guess maybe makeup,

1245
01:01:56,280 --> 01:01:59,640
Speaker 2: like if you're following a makeup instagrammer or like YouTuber

1246
01:02:00,160 --> 01:02:02,360
Speaker 2: more because you want to follow them, right like you

1247
01:02:02,440 --> 01:02:04,120
Speaker 2: want to look for them. Whereas I think if you'l

1248
01:02:04,120 --> 01:02:05,880
Speaker 2: like a cele I don't know, for some reason, I think,

1249
01:02:06,360 --> 01:02:08,120
Speaker 2: I don't know why, but it's maybe I think it's

1250
01:02:08,200 --> 01:02:11,400
Speaker 2: more like we're looking to you because we we think

1251
01:02:11,440 --> 01:02:14,840
Speaker 2: that you know, we're we're more relatable, and also like

1252
01:02:15,040 --> 01:02:19,520
Speaker 2: they're looking to you for beauty and inspiration. Yeah, Whereas

1253
01:02:19,560 --> 01:02:22,880
Speaker 2: when people might be following like something like a celebrity

1254
01:02:22,960 --> 01:02:25,000
Speaker 2: in that way, like a like an actor or something,

1255
01:02:25,040 --> 01:02:28,760
Speaker 2: it's more I don't know, sometimes it's jealousy or but

1256
01:02:28,800 --> 01:02:30,520
Speaker 2: they still follow them, but they still follow them. Yeah,

1257
01:02:30,720 --> 01:02:32,920
Speaker 2: Like people follow Kimkardashian, but the hater you know what

1258
01:02:32,920 --> 01:02:35,440
Speaker 2: I mean, and they want to comment say shit, but

1259
01:02:35,480 --> 01:02:38,320
Speaker 2: it's like you know, so maybe it's like d it's

1260
01:02:38,440 --> 01:02:40,240
Speaker 2: different in that way. Have you ever had any like

1261
01:02:40,240 --> 01:02:43,960
Speaker 2: weird stalkers or anything like that. No, that's good. I mean.

1262
01:02:45,920 --> 01:02:47,880
Speaker 5: The current situation that I had with my ex, he

1263
01:02:47,880 --> 01:02:50,919
Speaker 5: wouldn't leave me alone still to this day, like call

1264
01:02:50,960 --> 01:02:53,720
Speaker 5: and I'm like, why are you calling me?

1265
01:02:53,880 --> 01:02:56,479
Speaker 7: I've never answered an email a phone call?

1266
01:02:57,160 --> 01:03:00,800
Speaker 2: Like do you think that there's like a higharchy in

1267
01:03:00,840 --> 01:03:03,520
Speaker 2: the beauty world when it comes to influencers, do you

1268
01:03:03,680 --> 01:03:08,800
Speaker 2: like meaning like, for example, like in rap there's especially

1269
01:03:08,880 --> 01:03:11,760
Speaker 2: for women, there's like can only be like one rap girl?

1270
01:03:12,320 --> 01:03:15,040
Speaker 2: Like in beauty, like is there like only a few

1271
01:03:15,240 --> 01:03:19,040
Speaker 2: like three? I don't really see, Like maybe I'm not

1272
01:03:19,760 --> 01:03:21,760
Speaker 2: maybe I don't know every influencer or whatever, but like

1273
01:03:21,800 --> 01:03:25,040
Speaker 2: there's like one really big black influencer like that I

1274
01:03:25,040 --> 01:03:26,240
Speaker 2: can think of off the top of my head. There's

1275
01:03:26,240 --> 01:03:27,920
Speaker 2: a few, but there's the one that you think of.

1276
01:03:28,360 --> 01:03:31,200
Speaker 2: And then like as far as like do you think

1277
01:03:31,320 --> 01:03:34,760
Speaker 2: like race as far in in in in the beauty

1278
01:03:34,800 --> 01:03:38,440
Speaker 2: influencer world, like kind of is in is it in?

1279
01:03:38,640 --> 01:03:40,440
Speaker 2: Is it a thing? Like do you notice that?

1280
01:03:40,720 --> 01:03:43,920
Speaker 5: Like I never looked at it that way, but now

1281
01:03:43,960 --> 01:03:47,000
Speaker 5: that you're saying and maybe so, like I feel like

1282
01:03:47,040 --> 01:03:51,600
Speaker 5: there is like an every single race, there is one.

1283
01:03:51,680 --> 01:03:53,720
Speaker 2: One you think of or maybe not like one or

1284
01:03:53,760 --> 01:03:56,160
Speaker 2: two or something, you know that's getting all like the brand,

1285
01:03:56,400 --> 01:04:00,440
Speaker 2: like the bigger brand deals yea, and like because it

1286
01:04:00,560 --> 01:04:02,360
Speaker 2: kind of I mean it is it's entertainment. It's like

1287
01:04:02,360 --> 01:04:03,000
Speaker 2: the entertainment.

1288
01:04:03,120 --> 01:04:07,120
Speaker 6: Well, every industry is gonna be like microcosm of the

1289
01:04:07,120 --> 01:04:10,000
Speaker 6: real world, so like you know, like it's gonna be

1290
01:04:10,160 --> 01:04:11,640
Speaker 6: in every type of industry.

1291
01:04:11,640 --> 01:04:15,160
Speaker 2: There's gonna be a little bit of because I remember

1292
01:04:15,120 --> 01:04:17,800
Speaker 2: even when we're talking about Depica, when we interviewed Depica,

1293
01:04:17,920 --> 01:04:20,280
Speaker 2: oh and she was talking, Yeah, she's so sweet. I

1294
01:04:20,280 --> 01:04:21,919
Speaker 2: love her too. And we interviewed her and we talked

1295
01:04:21,920 --> 01:04:24,040
Speaker 2: about you know, her being Indian and her always being

1296
01:04:24,080 --> 01:04:27,120
Speaker 2: like the token brown girl in the campaign or like,

1297
01:04:27,160 --> 01:04:29,800
Speaker 2: and she was like it offended her, but she was

1298
01:04:29,840 --> 01:04:32,480
Speaker 2: just happy that she could even be there to represent

1299
01:04:32,560 --> 01:04:35,960
Speaker 2: that because it wasn't being represented before. Yeah, And so

1300
01:04:36,080 --> 01:04:39,760
Speaker 2: I'm just curious, like because she's she but she's she's

1301
01:04:39,800 --> 01:04:42,200
Speaker 2: an influencer, but she's kind of moved away from that

1302
01:04:42,280 --> 01:04:44,600
Speaker 2: and now I was like more doing her lib tinted brand,

1303
01:04:44,880 --> 01:04:47,440
Speaker 2: whereas like, you know, you you were constantly and actively

1304
01:04:47,520 --> 01:04:50,000
Speaker 2: like creating content all the time. Like I don't know

1305
01:04:50,040 --> 01:04:53,640
Speaker 2: how you do it, Like I don't know how you

1306
01:04:53,680 --> 01:04:55,720
Speaker 2: come up with any more makeup looks? That's another thing.

1307
01:04:55,800 --> 01:04:59,080
Speaker 2: I'm like, how how you are so creative because it's

1308
01:04:59,120 --> 01:05:00,760
Speaker 2: like how could like I get asked to do a

1309
01:05:00,800 --> 01:05:03,320
Speaker 2: makeup to Tori and I'm like, so a natural beat again,

1310
01:05:04,480 --> 01:05:07,880
Speaker 2: my favorite one, more natural. Maybe we'll do like a

1311
01:05:09,120 --> 01:05:13,640
Speaker 2: maybe a silver highlight this time. I'm like so uncreative,

1312
01:05:13,880 --> 01:05:16,560
Speaker 2: like cause I feel because you're a real artist, you know.

1313
01:05:16,720 --> 01:05:18,800
Speaker 5: Yeah, So I started as a makeup art and so

1314
01:05:19,680 --> 01:05:22,480
Speaker 5: this is what you would get like out of me,

1315
01:05:22,760 --> 01:05:25,440
Speaker 5: Like I would never do my makeup because I just didn't.

1316
01:05:25,680 --> 01:05:30,120
Speaker 5: I've found my passion doing makeup on others and when

1317
01:05:30,160 --> 01:05:32,480
Speaker 5: I started doing it on myself and obviously like I

1318
01:05:32,520 --> 01:05:34,280
Speaker 5: got better at it, and I'm like, oh, like I

1319
01:05:34,280 --> 01:05:35,840
Speaker 5: can do this, and I can cut my crease and

1320
01:05:35,840 --> 01:05:36,920
Speaker 5: I can do a wing win or and I can

1321
01:05:36,920 --> 01:05:39,200
Speaker 5: do it a cut. I like so many different ways.

1322
01:05:39,280 --> 01:05:43,000
Speaker 5: And then like now I'm just more so inspired by

1323
01:05:43,120 --> 01:05:48,880
Speaker 5: like not people that are here like overseas, like you.

1324
01:05:48,840 --> 01:05:50,880
Speaker 7: Know people that get so creative.

1325
01:05:51,080 --> 01:05:54,720
Speaker 5: Like there's this one girl, I think it's by Brokel.

1326
01:05:54,960 --> 01:05:59,640
Speaker 2: She's so talented like her like her skills, her blending

1327
01:05:59,680 --> 01:06:02,360
Speaker 2: skills is what gets me every time, and I'm like.

1328
01:06:02,640 --> 01:06:06,560
Speaker 5: How, like I spend hours blending my shit still doesn't

1329
01:06:06,600 --> 01:06:09,200
Speaker 5: look like that, you know. But it's just like her talent,

1330
01:06:09,400 --> 01:06:12,640
Speaker 5: you know, and like I just try to practice to

1331
01:06:12,760 --> 01:06:15,080
Speaker 5: be as good as her. I'm not gonna be here

1332
01:06:15,080 --> 01:06:16,440
Speaker 5: because I don't want to be here. I just want

1333
01:06:16,480 --> 01:06:19,800
Speaker 5: to be as good as her. So I just get

1334
01:06:19,920 --> 01:06:23,160
Speaker 5: a like inspiration from like so many different people.

1335
01:06:23,320 --> 01:06:25,520
Speaker 2: And I always like talk about it, you know, because

1336
01:06:25,760 --> 01:06:29,120
Speaker 2: if you if you weren't doing makeup, what would you

1337
01:06:29,160 --> 01:06:30,680
Speaker 2: be doing? Is there any do you have any other

1338
01:06:30,720 --> 01:06:37,280
Speaker 2: dreams or aspirations outside of you know, beauty? Uh? Massuse? Really?

1339
01:06:37,440 --> 01:06:38,600
Speaker 2: I love giving massages.

1340
01:06:38,720 --> 01:06:43,840
Speaker 5: Oh good to know, yeah, because kink I'm so good

1341
01:06:43,840 --> 01:06:49,080
Speaker 5: at it that Like even like Angel Macdaddy, he every

1342
01:06:49,080 --> 01:06:51,160
Speaker 5: single time, like or at his house, He's like, can

1343
01:06:51,160 --> 01:06:51,960
Speaker 5: you massage in my back?

1344
01:06:52,000 --> 01:06:53,560
Speaker 7: And I'm like, oh my god, here we go.

1345
01:06:53,640 --> 01:06:55,560
Speaker 2: But I don't mind it because like I really do

1346
01:06:55,880 --> 01:06:57,080
Speaker 2: enjoy doing it.

1347
01:06:57,120 --> 01:06:59,800
Speaker 5: Like I feel like it's just pleasing people, you know

1348
01:07:00,880 --> 01:07:04,240
Speaker 5: that I like love to do or a singer, but

1349
01:07:04,320 --> 01:07:06,440
Speaker 5: I know I can't a singer, Yeah, I cannot singer.

1350
01:07:06,880 --> 01:07:08,840
Speaker 2: What you want to be a singer? For you just

1351
01:07:08,880 --> 01:07:10,920
Speaker 2: want to be on stage. Yeah, I just like love

1352
01:07:11,080 --> 01:07:12,320
Speaker 2: to I love music.

1353
01:07:12,560 --> 01:07:16,960
Speaker 5: Music is like I can't do anything without music, you know.

1354
01:07:17,400 --> 01:07:20,680
Speaker 5: So when I do my Instagram videos where there's no audio, like,

1355
01:07:20,760 --> 01:07:24,040
Speaker 5: I blast music and like you'll see I show you

1356
01:07:24,080 --> 01:07:26,520
Speaker 5: my things, I'll be singing like crazy.

1357
01:07:26,520 --> 01:07:28,959
Speaker 2: So if you were singer, what kind of music would

1358
01:07:28,960 --> 01:07:29,440
Speaker 2: you be singing?

1359
01:07:29,800 --> 01:07:30,120
Speaker 6: R and B?

1360
01:07:30,760 --> 01:07:34,720
Speaker 5: Like very Yeah, I'm such I remember I did a

1361
01:07:34,800 --> 01:07:36,160
Speaker 5: video with this DJ.

1362
01:07:36,360 --> 01:07:37,720
Speaker 7: Her name is DJ Leslie.

1363
01:07:38,200 --> 01:07:39,200
Speaker 2: I don't do you know?

1364
01:07:39,520 --> 01:07:40,200
Speaker 1: M h.

1365
01:07:40,680 --> 01:07:44,200
Speaker 5: She does like a lot of beauty events and I

1366
01:07:44,240 --> 01:07:47,440
Speaker 5: have my nineties R and B playlist and one of

1367
01:07:47,520 --> 01:07:50,440
Speaker 5: her she went live in one of her followers or

1368
01:07:50,480 --> 01:07:54,320
Speaker 5: subscribe or whatever. He's like, oh, she must her man

1369
01:07:54,400 --> 01:07:57,400
Speaker 5: must be black because I like listen to like like

1370
01:07:57,480 --> 01:08:01,480
Speaker 5: classic nineties R and B, and that's all I listened to.

1371
01:08:01,560 --> 01:08:05,360
Speaker 2: I listened to like trap music, but mostly yeah, it's

1372
01:08:05,400 --> 01:08:11,160
Speaker 2: like my my kind of music. Fine, yeah, me too,

1373
01:08:11,480 --> 01:08:15,400
Speaker 2: me too. Listen to ninety four point seven ninety four

1374
01:08:15,440 --> 01:08:18,080
Speaker 2: point seven. Wait, I was listening to that yesterday. Actually

1375
01:08:18,280 --> 01:08:20,120
Speaker 2: on the way was ninety seven point four. I was

1376
01:08:20,479 --> 01:08:22,960
Speaker 2: ninety four point seven ninety four point seven. I was

1377
01:08:23,080 --> 01:08:25,920
Speaker 2: driving to my to meet Happy way and I needed

1378
01:08:26,000 --> 01:08:29,640
Speaker 2: like a like a energy happiness boost. Yeah, And I

1379
01:08:29,680 --> 01:08:31,120
Speaker 2: put that on and I was like, I do. I

1380
01:08:31,160 --> 01:08:33,840
Speaker 2: was feeling real good. I drove there. I was like,

1381
01:08:34,040 --> 01:08:36,720
Speaker 2: I'm in a really good mood. Nothing's gonna fuck this up, right,

1382
01:08:36,800 --> 01:08:39,960
Speaker 2: They said, the commercial fucking radio commercials and they still

1383
01:08:39,960 --> 01:08:43,000
Speaker 2: have these. Well, because I don't have my phone, I've

1384
01:08:43,000 --> 01:08:44,760
Speaker 2: been forced to listen to the radio past todays. And

1385
01:08:44,800 --> 01:08:46,519
Speaker 2: I told you, I'm like, what are they playing on

1386
01:08:46,520 --> 01:08:48,799
Speaker 2: the radio or even not even me from my computer.

1387
01:08:49,400 --> 01:08:50,960
Speaker 2: I was like, I don't even have I don't even

1388
01:08:51,000 --> 01:08:53,680
Speaker 2: know these songs. There's stuff like all these specifically LA

1389
01:08:53,840 --> 01:08:56,120
Speaker 2: songs that they only play on LA Radio. I'm like,

1390
01:08:56,240 --> 01:08:58,360
Speaker 2: I don't even know who this is? Who is this?

1391
01:08:59,120 --> 01:08:59,559
Speaker 2: I don't know?

1392
01:09:00,160 --> 01:09:03,559
Speaker 9: Very interesting Radio point seven. I'm gonna I think I've

1393
01:09:03,680 --> 01:09:10,160
Speaker 9: listened to them before. Yeah.

1394
01:09:10,200 --> 01:09:12,160
Speaker 2: Oh, by the way, you guys, me and Griselda did

1395
01:09:12,160 --> 01:09:16,599
Speaker 2: a video. Oh yeah. I went over to her house

1396
01:09:16,720 --> 01:09:19,559
Speaker 2: and we did a YouTube video. I don't really think

1397
01:09:19,560 --> 01:09:23,000
Speaker 2: it was a tutorial. I don't believe. We just got

1398
01:09:23,000 --> 01:09:25,639
Speaker 2: distracted and we forgot to show the products we were

1399
01:09:25,720 --> 01:09:29,479
Speaker 2: using and ship like but my my makeup and she

1400
01:09:29,640 --> 01:09:31,479
Speaker 2: was late and I had to go pick up Iry

1401
01:09:31,520 --> 01:09:34,360
Speaker 2: from the airport from her my baby daddy. You better believe.

1402
01:09:34,360 --> 01:09:37,479
Speaker 2: I was like, Hi, what did he say? He needed

1403
01:09:37,560 --> 01:09:41,479
Speaker 2: to say shit because he never said shit, but I

1404
01:09:41,560 --> 01:09:43,240
Speaker 2: was looking really cute. I'm sure he thought I was

1405
01:09:43,280 --> 01:09:46,400
Speaker 2: coming from a very important place because he thinks I

1406
01:09:46,400 --> 01:09:49,360
Speaker 2: have a boyfriend. He told me that yesterday. Oh he

1407
01:09:49,439 --> 01:09:51,320
Speaker 2: did he or two days ago. He was like, you know,

1408
01:09:51,360 --> 01:09:53,680
Speaker 2: you have a whole boyfriend. And I was like, oh,

1409
01:09:53,760 --> 01:09:55,720
Speaker 2: is that what you think? I wonder where I got

1410
01:09:55,720 --> 01:09:57,880
Speaker 2: that from. You look at my insta ring. I don't

1411
01:09:57,880 --> 01:10:01,040
Speaker 2: even but I don't even post my happy happy bag.

1412
01:10:01,160 --> 01:10:04,439
Speaker 2: It's not my boyfriend. Let's be clear. Like, what's her name?

1413
01:10:04,439 --> 01:10:04,880
Speaker 7: What's her name?

1414
01:10:04,920 --> 01:10:10,080
Speaker 2: Be Simon my boyfriend? What's up? Oh? No, she is,

1415
01:10:11,080 --> 01:10:13,360
Speaker 2: but I know that name be Simone too. She's hilarious.

1416
01:10:13,360 --> 01:10:17,840
Speaker 2: She's like inspiration. Is she like she had she were?

1417
01:10:18,800 --> 01:10:20,439
Speaker 2: She's kind of big and has big glasses and she

1418
01:10:20,520 --> 01:10:22,000
Speaker 2: does inspirational like pop.

1419
01:10:22,720 --> 01:10:26,240
Speaker 5: While you're confusing her, that's Jay, I know who you're

1420
01:10:26,240 --> 01:10:26,599
Speaker 5: talk about.

1421
01:10:27,360 --> 01:10:33,680
Speaker 2: She's hilarious. She doesn't like like I like her. She's like.

1422
01:10:35,160 --> 01:10:38,000
Speaker 5: She's a comedian and like you have to watch her

1423
01:10:38,439 --> 01:10:42,920
Speaker 5: she goes crazy with like men, like she calls them

1424
01:10:42,920 --> 01:10:46,360
Speaker 5: their boyfriend, like her boyfriend. She was like, that's my boyfriend,

1425
01:10:46,880 --> 01:10:48,600
Speaker 5: but it's like a tone, the tone that she like,

1426
01:10:49,520 --> 01:10:50,040
Speaker 5: I don't.

1427
01:10:49,880 --> 01:10:50,720
Speaker 2: Have a boyfriend.

1428
01:10:50,760 --> 01:10:56,920
Speaker 9: Guys, so very clear, I'm single, no boyfriend, but I

1429
01:10:56,920 --> 01:10:57,479
Speaker 9: am in love.

1430
01:10:59,760 --> 01:11:02,160
Speaker 2: Her updates when I'm ready to know. I love, but

1431
01:11:02,280 --> 01:11:09,360
Speaker 2: I'm single, So okay, call me there. How does one

1432
01:11:09,400 --> 01:11:12,360
Speaker 2: take that? Like, I don't know, I don't know. It's

1433
01:11:12,960 --> 01:11:20,840
Speaker 2: navigating through my current situation. It's definitely alternatives and I

1434
01:11:20,880 --> 01:11:23,920
Speaker 2: don't know. If I don't know, I don't know how

1435
01:11:23,960 --> 01:11:26,800
Speaker 2: I feel about it yet, I'm like still figuring it out.

1436
01:11:27,000 --> 01:11:29,479
Speaker 5: Yeah, because i feel like I'm at a point where

1437
01:11:29,560 --> 01:11:33,280
Speaker 5: like I'm blocking my feelings because I just don't want

1438
01:11:33,280 --> 01:11:35,920
Speaker 5: to feel that because I feel like I'm ready, but

1439
01:11:36,000 --> 01:11:38,040
Speaker 5: I'm scared that I'm ready, you know.

1440
01:11:38,240 --> 01:11:41,439
Speaker 6: We don't want to get hurt probably yeah, or waste

1441
01:11:41,520 --> 01:11:43,160
Speaker 6: time crazy.

1442
01:11:43,760 --> 01:11:46,479
Speaker 5: Like I've recently, like you know, expressed my feelings to

1443
01:11:46,520 --> 01:11:51,280
Speaker 5: someone and I was not that I'm afraid of rejection,

1444
01:11:51,640 --> 01:11:54,520
Speaker 5: but I was always afraid of that person.

1445
01:11:54,320 --> 01:11:55,320
Speaker 7: Not feeling the same way.

1446
01:11:56,200 --> 01:11:59,160
Speaker 2: And not that he doesn't feel the same way, he's just.

1447
01:11:59,120 --> 01:12:02,439
Speaker 5: Not ready, and he's very he was very honest with

1448
01:12:02,479 --> 01:12:07,800
Speaker 5: me and like it hurt, but I also appreciated his honesty,

1449
01:12:08,000 --> 01:12:10,519
Speaker 5: you know, because he could have easily taken that and

1450
01:12:10,560 --> 01:12:11,320
Speaker 5: like ran with it.

1451
01:12:11,560 --> 01:12:14,080
Speaker 2: So that's why I was like asking, like, how do

1452
01:12:14,120 --> 01:12:15,519
Speaker 2: you how do you deal with that?

1453
01:12:15,680 --> 01:12:18,320
Speaker 5: Like for me, I'm just like I'm gonna shut it up,

1454
01:12:18,520 --> 01:12:19,960
Speaker 5: like not feel again.

1455
01:12:20,400 --> 01:12:25,400
Speaker 2: I mean I like that. I'm I mean, it's I.

1456
01:12:25,320 --> 01:12:28,840
Speaker 6: Don't know, you would like to think that you're like that.

1457
01:12:28,960 --> 01:12:30,880
Speaker 6: The shee says, You're not really shutting shit off, like

1458
01:12:30,920 --> 01:12:33,160
Speaker 6: you'll numb it for a little bit. You'll like say,

1459
01:12:33,320 --> 01:12:36,200
Speaker 6: like well, like do other things so to distract from

1460
01:12:36,200 --> 01:12:37,640
Speaker 6: those feelings.

1461
01:12:37,160 --> 01:12:39,920
Speaker 2: That overall, like if you feel some way about someone,

1462
01:12:40,600 --> 01:12:41,439
Speaker 2: it's kind of there.

1463
01:12:41,520 --> 01:12:43,680
Speaker 5: But then they do something and it's like I'm the

1464
01:12:43,680 --> 01:12:45,519
Speaker 5: type of person you do something and you just like

1465
01:12:45,680 --> 01:12:46,960
Speaker 5: completely turn you off.

1466
01:12:46,960 --> 01:12:50,160
Speaker 2: That can happen too, and I'm just like, never mind, Yeah,

1467
01:12:50,280 --> 01:12:55,639
Speaker 2: it takes me a while, Like I'm I'm like I'll

1468
01:12:55,680 --> 01:12:57,679
Speaker 2: give you, which is probably not good. I Mean, sometimes

1469
01:12:57,680 --> 01:13:00,800
Speaker 2: I ignore red flags because I'm like, say, maybe it

1470
01:13:00,840 --> 01:13:03,320
Speaker 2: was just that one time, But I'm in the place

1471
01:13:03,400 --> 01:13:06,959
Speaker 2: now where I'm like I'm in a place where like recently,

1472
01:13:07,200 --> 01:13:09,080
Speaker 2: like I was telling you, like I was me and

1473
01:13:09,280 --> 01:13:12,040
Speaker 2: happy bear and an open it's not a relation. I

1474
01:13:12,040 --> 01:13:13,400
Speaker 2: don't even know how to describe it, because we're not

1475
01:13:13,479 --> 01:13:15,880
Speaker 2: in a relationship, like not even like that, but we

1476
01:13:15,920 --> 01:13:18,320
Speaker 2: are in a relationship, because even we're in a relationships,

1477
01:13:18,320 --> 01:13:21,880
Speaker 2: it's in a relationship. But I was recently confronted with

1478
01:13:22,200 --> 01:13:25,000
Speaker 2: the fact that he is talking to other women, and

1479
01:13:25,160 --> 01:13:27,639
Speaker 2: it's something that I haven't yet had to experience because

1480
01:13:27,880 --> 01:13:30,160
Speaker 2: when we're together, it's very isolated and it feels like

1481
01:13:30,200 --> 01:13:33,240
Speaker 2: we're in a relationship and we don't talk about it.

1482
01:13:33,600 --> 01:13:35,760
Speaker 2: But when I saw that, I was like, Okay, we

1483
01:13:35,800 --> 01:13:37,920
Speaker 2: need to talk about this because it like when I

1484
01:13:37,960 --> 01:13:41,040
Speaker 2: saw it, I was immediately angry. I was immediately super jealous.

1485
01:13:41,120 --> 01:13:44,400
Speaker 2: I wanted to like cry a little bit, and then

1486
01:13:44,439 --> 01:13:46,800
Speaker 2: I had to like work through my emotions and be like, Okay,

1487
01:13:46,840 --> 01:13:49,800
Speaker 2: he's done nothing wrong, Like you guys are doing this,

1488
01:13:49,960 --> 01:13:55,160
Speaker 2: so either work through these emotions because you're trying to

1489
01:13:55,160 --> 01:13:58,040
Speaker 2: try something different and you're trying to like let go

1490
01:13:58,120 --> 01:14:01,400
Speaker 2: of this idea of possession in a world relationship and ownership.

1491
01:14:02,200 --> 01:14:04,000
Speaker 2: So then let's work through this because this is like

1492
01:14:04,040 --> 01:14:07,280
Speaker 2: this is the lesson right here. Yeah, but also like

1493
01:14:07,520 --> 01:14:09,719
Speaker 2: being real with myself, like I was saying too, like okay,

1494
01:14:09,760 --> 01:14:11,439
Speaker 2: but do you actually like to do this? This is what

1495
01:14:11,479 --> 01:14:13,439
Speaker 2: you really want to do though, you know, like would

1496
01:14:13,479 --> 01:14:18,760
Speaker 2: you be okay doing this for like another year? Yeah? Yeah, yeah,

1497
01:14:18,840 --> 01:14:20,880
Speaker 2: And I don't know. The answer is I don't know.

1498
01:14:20,920 --> 01:14:22,479
Speaker 2: This is the first time I've had to really deal

1499
01:14:22,520 --> 01:14:25,320
Speaker 2: with it, and vice versa. We've been honest with each other,

1500
01:14:25,400 --> 01:14:27,559
Speaker 2: and he can't really deal with it even though this

1501
01:14:27,680 --> 01:14:32,519
Speaker 2: was his idea, Like never, never did I think I

1502
01:14:32,600 --> 01:14:34,400
Speaker 2: was going to be in a relationship where like the

1503
01:14:34,400 --> 01:14:37,200
Speaker 2: man is mad, he cares too much, Like it's usually

1504
01:14:37,200 --> 01:14:39,720
Speaker 2: the opposite, and that's why it's like life is so

1505
01:14:39,880 --> 01:14:41,040
Speaker 2: fucking hilarious.

1506
01:14:41,080 --> 01:14:43,320
Speaker 5: But I think it's because you're so open, Like we

1507
01:14:43,439 --> 01:14:46,519
Speaker 5: talked about this, but it's like, give me the choice, and.

1508
01:14:46,520 --> 01:14:48,280
Speaker 2: I think that that's where you guys are at, Like

1509
01:14:48,479 --> 01:14:50,559
Speaker 2: you know, yeah, I need the choice, I need the choe.

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01:14:50,600 --> 01:14:52,640
Speaker 2: I need to know what my options are. Therefore, I

1511
01:14:52,640 --> 01:14:54,439
Speaker 2: need to know what you're doing to make sure that

1512
01:14:54,560 --> 01:14:57,320
Speaker 2: I want to continue to do this and vice versa.

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01:14:57,400 --> 01:15:02,200
Speaker 2: But you know, I don't know. Relationship ships man confusing

1514
01:15:03,160 --> 01:15:07,519
Speaker 2: you're can't be dosing, he asks. Anyway, we have we

1515
01:15:07,600 --> 01:15:10,719
Speaker 2: have a someone that wrote in that wants some advice,

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01:15:12,439 --> 01:15:15,920
Speaker 2: so okay, you can help us answer this question? Is

1517
01:15:15,960 --> 01:15:21,600
Speaker 2: this the whole thing? I think? I want to remain anonymous,

1518
01:15:21,600 --> 01:15:24,720
Speaker 2: but like, how would y'all communicate? Okay, how would y'all

1519
01:15:24,760 --> 01:15:28,639
Speaker 2: communicate with your friends whose man sabotagees trips? She goes

1520
01:15:28,680 --> 01:15:32,200
Speaker 2: on without him even if she invites him, telling her

1521
01:15:32,320 --> 01:15:37,080
Speaker 2: she ain't finna do this, tell her she ain't tell

1522
01:15:37,160 --> 01:15:39,760
Speaker 2: her she ain't gonna do this. Every weekend, he been

1523
01:15:39,760 --> 01:15:42,080
Speaker 2: stuck doing this all day. He's been basically, he's been

1524
01:15:42,080 --> 01:15:45,160
Speaker 2: doing this all weekend, watching their three kids, just yelling

1525
01:15:45,479 --> 01:15:47,400
Speaker 2: I love my friend, but I just want to be

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01:15:47,439 --> 01:15:49,639
Speaker 2: a better support I just want to be a better

1527
01:15:49,720 --> 01:15:53,280
Speaker 2: support system because the whole weekend could have gone smoother,

1528
01:15:53,400 --> 01:15:55,880
Speaker 2: but for some reason he had to act like that

1529
01:15:55,920 --> 01:16:00,120
Speaker 2: with with her when she's with me? Or learn? Is

1530
01:16:00,160 --> 01:16:03,000
Speaker 2: that it a learned to redirect energies? Is that it?

1531
01:16:03,400 --> 01:16:05,479
Speaker 2: Mm hm? Basically, how do you talk to your.

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01:16:05,439 --> 01:16:09,439
Speaker 6: Friend about her toxic baby daddy that's sabotaging you guys's plan?

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01:16:09,640 --> 01:16:10,400
Speaker 7: Are they together?

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01:16:11,120 --> 01:16:11,320
Speaker 9: Yes?

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01:16:11,479 --> 01:16:15,439
Speaker 2: I assume so? Yeah, with the baby daddy and her together,

1536
01:16:15,479 --> 01:16:18,160
Speaker 2: they watch she's at home, he was at home watching

1537
01:16:18,200 --> 01:16:21,080
Speaker 2: their three kids. They came out here from Modesto, California.

1538
01:16:21,120 --> 01:16:22,679
Speaker 2: They came to oursh They were coming to our show.

1539
01:16:23,920 --> 01:16:28,759
Speaker 6: What she's going to be anonymous because the friend listens, Okay,

1540
01:16:28,840 --> 01:16:29,719
Speaker 6: we'll cut that out.

1541
01:16:33,200 --> 01:16:38,240
Speaker 2: Anyway. Basically, how do how does she tell her friend

1542
01:16:38,240 --> 01:16:42,080
Speaker 2: that her baby daddy's annoying as fuck and controlling? You

1543
01:16:42,160 --> 01:16:43,120
Speaker 2: can't really do it.

1544
01:16:43,240 --> 01:16:45,560
Speaker 6: I mean, like, I've been in that space, and my

1545
01:16:45,560 --> 01:16:48,160
Speaker 6: baby daddy tryed to sabotage anything I ever did by

1546
01:16:48,200 --> 01:16:52,519
Speaker 6: calling me seventy five times, calling my friends seventy five times,

1547
01:16:52,760 --> 01:16:56,120
Speaker 6: harassing me, calling me names seventy five times an hour.

1548
01:16:56,880 --> 01:16:58,800
Speaker 6: And the truth is, there's really not sure you can

1549
01:16:58,840 --> 01:17:00,680
Speaker 6: do about it until that friend is done. For like,

1550
01:17:01,000 --> 01:17:02,719
Speaker 6: like you just gonna avoid hanging out with her because

1551
01:17:02,720 --> 01:17:05,280
Speaker 6: you already know what it's going to be. Or if

1552
01:17:05,280 --> 01:17:06,840
Speaker 6: you're like, look, bitch, you either get in the car

1553
01:17:06,880 --> 01:17:08,200
Speaker 6: at three or I'm leaving you.

1554
01:17:08,320 --> 01:17:10,000
Speaker 2: Like these are the stuffs you have to go through.

1555
01:17:09,880 --> 01:17:11,479
Speaker 6: With people in those type of relationships because as long

1556
01:17:11,479 --> 01:17:14,040
Speaker 6: as they accept it, you kind of accept it too.

1557
01:17:14,200 --> 01:17:15,439
Speaker 2: You don't have to detached from it.

1558
01:17:15,600 --> 01:17:17,240
Speaker 6: Yeah, and you have to know where if you can

1559
01:17:17,280 --> 01:17:19,960
Speaker 6: invite her places, and how's the tight time schedule is,

1560
01:17:20,080 --> 01:17:22,800
Speaker 6: or she needs to ride by herself because that's just

1561
01:17:22,880 --> 01:17:25,000
Speaker 6: what it is, or if you even want to deal

1562
01:17:25,040 --> 01:17:29,639
Speaker 6: with that, Like sometimes energy is just so toxic for yourself.

1563
01:17:29,640 --> 01:17:31,920
Speaker 5: It's like, Okay, I'm gonna go away for the weekend,

1564
01:17:32,560 --> 01:17:34,880
Speaker 5: but my friend's coming and then I already know that

1565
01:17:35,520 --> 01:17:36,120
Speaker 5: I'm leading.

1566
01:17:36,760 --> 01:17:38,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, so don't invite her. I mean I think you

1567
01:17:38,680 --> 01:17:40,479
Speaker 2: have to tell her. I think you owe her and

1568
01:17:40,800 --> 01:17:42,920
Speaker 2: to tell her. And because you can't just be like

1569
01:17:43,080 --> 01:17:45,920
Speaker 2: just stop inviting her places, because if she's your real friend,

1570
01:17:45,960 --> 01:17:47,559
Speaker 2: if she really means a lot to you.

1571
01:17:47,560 --> 01:17:49,040
Speaker 6: I think a lot of times in these situations, the

1572
01:17:49,040 --> 01:17:49,840
Speaker 6: fucked up part is.

1573
01:17:49,880 --> 01:17:51,519
Speaker 2: You do tell your friends a lot. A lot you

1574
01:17:51,560 --> 01:17:52,160
Speaker 2: hear them complains.

1575
01:17:52,160 --> 01:17:53,720
Speaker 6: I mean this is only in that situation if you

1576
01:17:53,800 --> 01:17:56,600
Speaker 6: just hear the same complaints and the same excuses, and

1577
01:17:56,640 --> 01:17:59,559
Speaker 6: you're constantly dealing with the same toxic energy. Yeah, at

1578
01:17:59,600 --> 01:18:01,320
Speaker 6: some point you gotta just like take it for what

1579
01:18:01,400 --> 01:18:03,000
Speaker 6: it is and stop inviting people.

1580
01:18:03,560 --> 01:18:04,160
Speaker 2: We have been there.

1581
01:18:04,240 --> 01:18:06,960
Speaker 6: Yeah, and when she's done, she'll be you know, you

1582
01:18:06,960 --> 01:18:10,080
Speaker 6: guys can go back to that. But sometimes even for me,

1583
01:18:10,120 --> 01:18:11,960
Speaker 6: when I was in that place, I would stop talking

1584
01:18:11,960 --> 01:18:14,120
Speaker 6: about it sometimes when I could handle, when I could

1585
01:18:14,160 --> 01:18:16,240
Speaker 6: take not talking about it, because I already knew it

1586
01:18:16,280 --> 01:18:18,599
Speaker 6: was annoying, already knew I needed to do right.

1587
01:18:19,439 --> 01:18:21,640
Speaker 5: Maybe she's not there that her friend is, like, she

1588
01:18:21,680 --> 01:18:22,679
Speaker 5: doesn't think it's annoying.

1589
01:18:22,960 --> 01:18:26,519
Speaker 2: She probably won't like that. She probably doesn't like it,

1590
01:18:26,600 --> 01:18:28,559
Speaker 2: but she's used to it. I mean, she has three

1591
01:18:28,640 --> 01:18:31,240
Speaker 2: kids with this man. You know, she's all in right

1592
01:18:31,280 --> 01:18:36,040
Speaker 2: now and probably doesn't see the words talks or like

1593
01:18:36,240 --> 01:18:39,000
Speaker 2: yeah or is that you know, there's nothing you can

1594
01:18:39,040 --> 01:18:42,000
Speaker 2: do boo. Basically you just have to decide, you know,

1595
01:18:43,000 --> 01:18:44,680
Speaker 2: is she the friend you invite on trips or not?

1596
01:18:45,240 --> 01:18:48,040
Speaker 2: And like you've probably already told her her baby daddy's

1597
01:18:48,040 --> 01:18:51,120
Speaker 2: annoying as fuck, right like I would have already told her.

1598
01:18:51,200 --> 01:18:54,560
Speaker 2: I'm like, damn again, you know, So there's really not

1599
01:18:54,680 --> 01:18:56,400
Speaker 2: much you can do. You just kind of like, don't

1600
01:18:56,400 --> 01:18:58,000
Speaker 2: invite her on a trip again, and don't you dare

1601
01:18:58,439 --> 01:19:08,679
Speaker 2: ever miss don't you ever miss our live show again. Yeah,

1602
01:19:08,800 --> 01:19:09,920
Speaker 2: that's that's all I got for you.

1603
01:19:10,280 --> 01:19:14,800
Speaker 6: Okay, Well, that's it for today, ladies and gentlemen, I'm

1604
01:19:14,880 --> 01:19:15,880
Speaker 6: starving like Marvin.

1605
01:19:16,200 --> 01:19:20,839
Speaker 2: Thank you Griselda for coming on and sharing your stories

1606
01:19:21,920 --> 01:19:26,760
Speaker 2: and I love you. I love you too, And yeah,

1607
01:19:26,880 --> 01:19:29,400
Speaker 2: check out our video. Check out our video on Griselda's page.

1608
01:19:29,760 --> 01:19:33,519
Speaker 2: It's make up by Griselda on YouTube and on Instagram

1609
01:19:33,720 --> 01:19:36,479
Speaker 2: and on Instagram. Yes, and you need to check out

1610
01:19:36,479 --> 01:19:39,240
Speaker 2: her page anyway, because she makes she just does beautiful,

1611
01:19:39,560 --> 01:19:43,120
Speaker 2: beautiful bomb makeup. And maybe you'll catch her doing her

1612
01:19:43,160 --> 01:19:43,599
Speaker 2: beer trick.

1613
01:19:44,680 --> 01:19:46,479
Speaker 7: I don't know what beer trick you're talking about.

1614
01:19:49,640 --> 01:19:51,120
Speaker 2: I don't know. I'm gonna put her on a blast,

1615
01:19:51,160 --> 01:19:54,519
Speaker 2: but Griselda's has a beer trick. I can chuck a

1616
01:19:54,600 --> 01:19:56,560
Speaker 2: beer in like less than ten seconds. Would you like

1617
01:19:56,600 --> 01:20:01,280
Speaker 2: to do that? I don't want to check about I've

1618
01:20:01,320 --> 01:20:02,880
Speaker 2: seen it. I get to see it in person. But

1619
01:20:02,960 --> 01:20:07,280
Speaker 2: every time, every time she's out, what the fuck? And

1620
01:20:07,320 --> 01:20:09,280
Speaker 2: it's usually I feel like it's Mac Daddy that's always

1621
01:20:09,320 --> 01:20:12,639
Speaker 2: encouraging you to everybody I see. It's like Angel Angel

1622
01:20:12,760 --> 01:20:15,600
Speaker 2: recording it, like watch her go. How drunk do you

1623
01:20:15,680 --> 01:20:16,160
Speaker 2: get after that?

1624
01:20:16,640 --> 01:20:19,200
Speaker 7: I don't get drunk. That's the problem.

1625
01:20:19,720 --> 01:20:23,479
Speaker 2: Beers don't get if you drink them fast, if you did,

1626
01:20:23,800 --> 01:20:24,800
Speaker 2: if you drink like if.

1627
01:20:24,760 --> 01:20:28,680
Speaker 5: I do like maybe like your four like fast and

1628
01:20:28,800 --> 01:20:33,280
Speaker 5: I'd be like buzz no, yeah, not drunk girl, beer

1629
01:20:33,320 --> 01:20:35,320
Speaker 5: does Now did you learn that you could do that trick?

1630
01:20:35,400 --> 01:20:36,800
Speaker 2: You just did it one day? No, So me and

1631
01:20:36,880 --> 01:20:40,680
Speaker 2: my brother, like my brother started checking my beer and

1632
01:20:40,800 --> 01:20:42,200
Speaker 2: I was like, oh, I can beat you.

1633
01:20:42,840 --> 01:20:45,440
Speaker 7: And of course the first time, I almost like vomit.

1634
01:20:45,280 --> 01:20:47,320
Speaker 2: Because it was so much. It was like so much

1635
01:20:47,560 --> 01:20:50,479
Speaker 2: like practices. Oh yeah, I was like, I'm gonna yeah,

1636
01:20:50,840 --> 01:20:55,479
Speaker 2: and I still do that. What that mouth did. That

1637
01:20:55,640 --> 01:20:59,240
Speaker 2: mouth swallows a whole beer. It knows how to do

1638
01:20:59,320 --> 01:21:06,040
Speaker 2: a lot of things. Multi talented. No, I mean I

1639
01:21:06,080 --> 01:21:11,480
Speaker 2: brought it up. So anyway, you guys have a wonderful

1640
01:21:11,600 --> 01:21:14,920
Speaker 2: day and we will catch you next week and pick

1641
01:21:15,040 --> 01:21:17,720
Speaker 2: up our merch. Oh yeah, check out our website. We

1642
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1645
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Speaker 2: good Choices always. Oh and by the way, we're exiting

1646
01:21:32,880 --> 01:21:35,800
Speaker 2: out this episode with our girl Mindy from the Thick

1647
01:21:35,920 --> 01:21:43,040
Speaker 2: Podcast song so Blanco blancoy, Hey girl, Hey, so turn

1648
01:21:43,120 --> 01:21:43,600
Speaker 2: this ship up?

1649
01:21:43,960 --> 01:21:44,599
Speaker 6: Bye bye?

1650
01:21:45,960 --> 01:21:49,000
Speaker 13: Okay, so a blanco best The Leaf on the hancho.

1651
01:21:49,360 --> 01:21:53,160
Speaker 13: I'm making fascated pronto Jehovah. No, I met your front dope.

1652
01:21:53,360 --> 01:21:55,880
Speaker 13: I got the word, got the paper, got the birthday

1653
01:21:55,960 --> 01:21:58,120
Speaker 13: to come in front of watch Tabby.

1654
01:21:58,240 --> 01:21:58,479
Speaker 2: Fine.

1655
01:21:58,640 --> 01:22:02,639
Speaker 13: Our might be just because deportation never been a fair.

1656
01:22:02,920 --> 01:22:05,679
Speaker 13: I've been skipping tea up safe for years, sending battles

1657
01:22:05,720 --> 01:22:08,640
Speaker 13: out to may. I've wine blackish niggas, no defauts.

1658
01:22:08,320 --> 01:22:10,720
Speaker 2: A line, see, I've been. I've been on. My game

1659
01:22:10,800 --> 01:22:11,280
Speaker 2: is too strong.

1660
01:22:11,360 --> 01:22:14,120
Speaker 13: Travels of countries, results don't exist on names, sim buzza

1661
01:22:14,240 --> 01:22:14,679
Speaker 13: and places.

1662
01:22:14,720 --> 01:22:17,280
Speaker 2: I ship on niggas break easy when niggas like crayons.

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01:22:17,280 --> 01:22:19,160
Speaker 13: I've been on a date night head aboard labor