Speaker 1: I just had a total Arran moment. Great working a
Speaker 1: flight from La Newark. I was trying to give mister
Speaker 1: Andrew Whitworth a compliment and it came out so wrong.
Speaker 2: So I just kept talking and talking and I made
Speaker 2: it worse. Why is this me? Calm Down with Erin
Speaker 2: and Carissa is a production of iHeartRadio?
Speaker 1: Did you notice that every one of those girls was
Speaker 1: wearing the same outfit short, black skirt, boots.
Speaker 2: Leather jacket. I'm not kidding.
Speaker 1: I don't know if that was the theme there was.
Speaker 1: There must have been ten of them, all wearing the
Speaker 1: same numbers. They could have been our children. And with
Speaker 1: that we welcomed you to the Calm Down Podcast. We
Speaker 1: actually had a date night last night, the four of us.
Speaker 2: It was great.
Speaker 1: It was the six thirty, six thirty reservation, so early
Speaker 1: bird special and thank god it was because we got
Speaker 1: kicked out at ten ten, ten o'clock. It was it
Speaker 1: was literally they were moving the tables around us like okay,
Speaker 1: get up, now, get up. But I was very proud
Speaker 1: of us for following through, especially in yes, this is
Speaker 1: our pregame, but we are Super Bowl bound here soon enough.
Speaker 2: But without further ado let's get in.
Speaker 1: Apologies to everyone that we didn't really have an episode
Speaker 1: this past week. We had a week off to get
Speaker 1: ready for the super Bowl, and can I just say,
Speaker 1: where the hell did the week go? I'll tell you
Speaker 1: it's Saturday, and we leave Monday Tuesday. I'll tell you
Speaker 1: where it is. And we're going to talk about it
Speaker 1: on the Big Show. Because the amount of appointments that
Speaker 1: you and I you would think that, you know, we've
Speaker 1: never worked a super Bowl before. Excited to talk all
Speaker 1: things Big Game right after this, starting with Anonymous, have
Speaker 1: been in the same field for ten years, but hate
Speaker 1: my job, not sure what to do next? Okay, all right,
Speaker 1: You're not alone in this. I feel like a lot
Speaker 1: of people get up every morning and they go to
Speaker 1: work and they're like just that hamster wheel and Groundhog
Speaker 1: Day and not motivated and not excited. I hate that
Speaker 1: for you because life is too short. I understand that
Speaker 1: we are very, very lucky and in the minority that
Speaker 1: we get to do a job that we absolutely love.
Speaker 1: So let's make a list, Anonymous, of the things that
Speaker 1: you love to do, whatever that is. Start with your passions,
Speaker 1: and then see if your passions can actually become a
Speaker 1: monetary aspect, like, have a monetary component, because if you.
Speaker 2: Do something you love and you never work a day
Speaker 2: in your life, so start with that and then figure
Speaker 2: out how.
Speaker 1: To excavate yourself from the job you're currently and don't
Speaker 1: get rid of that job until you know you have
Speaker 1: something else lined up.
Speaker 2: What do you say?
Speaker 1: Yeah, excavator is a big song in my house right
Speaker 1: now with Elmo escavateescavator. Wait, wait, an excavator like you,
Speaker 1: oh excavator? I was like, is that a hybrid of
Speaker 1: an excavator and an escalator?
Speaker 2: What is that? Pops?
Speaker 1: Oh my goll right, I'm sober. All right, Debbie O'Neill,
Speaker 1: When you named your podcast, were you guys thinking about
Speaker 1: us or you goals? I think it was just something
Speaker 1: we said all the time when we were talking about
Speaker 1: everything in life, like calm down, Okay, you need to
Speaker 1: calm down.
Speaker 2: Calm down. That's what we were doing.
Speaker 1: That's exactly what were some of the other ones we
Speaker 1: had to I don't think I still.
Speaker 2: Want to go keep up cheap op. Yeah, we're good here,
Speaker 2: I think we're good. Here was fine. I thought we're good.
Speaker 2: Here was close.
Speaker 1: Yeah, But ultimately it was because it calmed down is
Speaker 1: a unanimous phrase that ever, especially in today's I mean,
Speaker 1: and we didn't even honestly, we didn't even do it
Speaker 1: because of tailor, but then it just all worked out
Speaker 1: with our love of her and everybody else listening to
Speaker 1: this podcast, Phoebe Mac thirty five feel like my gals
Speaker 1: and I lost touch because of work and schedules. Advice, Well, Phoebe,
Speaker 1: as we just opened up our pre game talking about
Speaker 1: about it, you have to make time. Everyone's schedules are busy,
Speaker 1: and you can use that as an excuse for the
Speaker 1: rest of your life, or you can prioritize your friendships
Speaker 1: the same way that you book an appointment for a
Speaker 1: facial or you book an appointment for the dentist, or
Speaker 1: whatever the scheduled thing is. Is schedule time for your friends,
Speaker 1: schedule time for your loved one, like a date night
Speaker 1: every Tuesday, whatever it may be. I think that if
Speaker 1: those friendships matter enough to you, then you make time
Speaker 1: for them, because you can always have an excuse.
Speaker 2: That you're busy.
Speaker 1: Very true. This one is a great one. Anonymous. How
Speaker 1: do you deal with that shitty co worker? That's funny?
Speaker 1: Be nice, you go, I don't know. I mean, I'm
Speaker 1: so grateful. Everybody I work with is so wonderful. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we are very lucky. We love all of our co workers.
Speaker 2: Daisy.
Speaker 1: We are not looking for your opinion at this time.
Speaker 1: Thank you though for hang in.
Speaker 2: How do you deal with the shitty co worker?
Speaker 1: I'm kind of in this phase of my life where
Speaker 1: I'm like, let's go, like just if they know that
Speaker 1: you don't like them, or I don't know, I uh,
Speaker 1: I think, Okay, there's two ways to look at this.
Speaker 1: You can be mature and just show up and smile
Speaker 1: day and you're laying do your job and avoid that
Speaker 1: person if you can. Now, if you can't, you have
Speaker 1: to work together in some capacity just grin and Barrett.
Speaker 1: Or you can just go, which is my new motto,
Speaker 1: straight to the source and go, Look, you don't like me,
Speaker 1: I don't like you, but we have to work together.
Speaker 1: So let's just make the most of it. And then
Speaker 1: it's not like this where I hate the elephant in
Speaker 1: the room. I'm done with the elephants. The elephants are
Speaker 1: free and back in the Safari. They're no longer in
Speaker 1: the room. We're no longer having awkwardness. We're just direct
Speaker 1: line straight to the source. Yeah, I'm really into I
Speaker 1: can't really function unless I tell you how I feel
Speaker 1: or we air this thing out.
Speaker 2: So that's my advice. But be nice.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but you can still be classy about it. I
Speaker 1: think there's somewhere in between the combination of both of those. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I Meliott Elliott friends breaking up their engagement, known them
Speaker 1: for ten years, being asked to take sides? How to
Speaker 1: handle that's so hard? Christ and Steve have not even
Speaker 1: been dating ten years. And I couldn't take a side.
Speaker 1: I would be very No, yes you could, it would
Speaker 1: be Steve's side. I tell you what side you're taking.
Speaker 1: I know for a fact that you're gonna go on
Speaker 1: Steve's side because he's easier.
Speaker 2: To get along with.
Speaker 1: Friends breaking up their engagement so hard?
Speaker 2: What are the side to take sides? There you go.
Speaker 2: I don't get it. You don't need those friends move on?
Speaker 2: You should break up with them. No, that's crazy. No,
Speaker 2: you shouldn't have to take sides. Let's not cool down. No,
Speaker 2: that gets yeah, that gets a little tricky. Tricky.
Speaker 1: But if you are being asked to take sides, I
Speaker 1: think that you go with the side that you've known
Speaker 1: the longest order that you're the closest to.
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 1: I feeling must have done something like to the other
Speaker 1: person breaking up the engagement, and it got volatile, and
Speaker 1: it's like you have to pick a side. Now he
Speaker 1: did this to me or she did this to me,
Speaker 1: and now you have to be Oh, you're going to
Speaker 1: go with them? You know what they did to me?
Speaker 2: This is crisy. Oh my god.
Speaker 1: I'm I'm so sorry, Susie. I mean, yeah, mel Leiot,
Speaker 1: I need more information. I also now I'm invested in
Speaker 1: why the engagement's broken up?
Speaker 2: What did they do? Yeah?
Speaker 1: I have questions. Please follow up with that. We gave
Speaker 1: you no advice on how to handle it. I'm so sorry,
Speaker 1: but now we're invested.
Speaker 2: Susie, do the wrong name. I love the name, Susie.
Speaker 2: What a great name, huh, Susie Cakes, Susie Rogers.
Speaker 1: You're adorable as a successful and beautiful as successful and
Speaker 1: beautiful women.
Speaker 2: Have you ever well, Susie, look at how beautiful we look.
Speaker 1: Have you ever been in a relationship where the guy
Speaker 1: is jealous or insecure because you work with men and
Speaker 1: especially travel with men. I have struggled with this in
Speaker 1: most my relationships and curious how to resolve it. Would
Speaker 1: you like to start? Because I don't feel like you've
Speaker 1: been in a relationship like that. Yeah, I mean I
Speaker 1: don't really think I've been in many relationships. I'll be honest,
Speaker 1: but my husband is friends with all my coworkers. He
Speaker 1: really doesn't care, and he also understands from I guess
Speaker 1: the athlete side of things. You know, I've got some
Speaker 1: and so calling me. I've got a hey, wait, sorry,
Speaker 1: I've got to wait for him. It's after our practice. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm one hundred years old. He's not worried about it.
Speaker 1: Steve's the first boyfriend slash relationship literally, the first boyfriend
Speaker 1: I've ever had, which is probably why it's my most
Speaker 1: successful one that is not jealous to the point where
Speaker 1: we've talked about it before. I have to like try
Speaker 1: to make him jealous, Like I'm like, hello, do I
Speaker 1: need to what's happened to that?
Speaker 2: To him? No, I know that's your friend.
Speaker 1: I will not hurt his feelings, but I just know
Speaker 1: I've been in so many relationships that well, first of all,
Speaker 1: that sounds bad.
Speaker 2: I have been in so many os.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I just always clearly picked insecure guys, which is
Speaker 1: so annoying in a turn off. There's nothing sexier than
Speaker 1: Steve's confidence in himself to not be worried about me
Speaker 1: traveling with guys, working with guys, being out late.
Speaker 2: I mean, we get off for Amazon, We're off the air.
Speaker 1: At like one o'clock in the morning, go get a
Speaker 1: drink afterwards, and it's like two o'clock in the morning.
Speaker 1: I am yeah, I mean, fuck, you know how much
Speaker 1: time I wasted in my life having to be in
Speaker 1: the corner with these insecure fucks like I'm and then
Speaker 1: I have to FaceTime because they don't believe where I am,
Speaker 1: and I'm like.
Speaker 2: This is crazy our super Bowl. I'm sorry, literally crying.
Speaker 1: Aaron just worked the Super Bowl and she's having to
Speaker 1: console me in the corner because I'm crying because I'm
Speaker 1: in a terrible relationship because the person's literally ruined the
Speaker 1: entire super Bowl for us. It was awful, awful, awful.
Speaker 1: And you're an amazing friend because you I'm surprised Jared
Speaker 1: didn't kill him. He was like, guys, come.
Speaker 2: On, let's go awful.
Speaker 1: So, Susie, my suggestion to you is, if the guy
Speaker 1: is insecure, if the guy is jealous and you have
Speaker 1: to You have are taking things away from your job
Speaker 1: or from time and all that stuff because of his issues.
Speaker 1: By you need to break up with that guy. You
Speaker 1: need to find someone that's secure. It saves you so
Speaker 1: much time and energy. My answer is not saving you
Speaker 1: time and energy.
Speaker 2: I'm sorry.
Speaker 1: Next, No, it was a good one. It was a
Speaker 1: really good one. I think I'm gonna like this one.
Speaker 1: Jacqueline backap. So, I just had a total errand moment
Speaker 1: great working a flight from La Newark. I was trying
Speaker 1: to give mister Andrew Whitworth a compliment and it came
Speaker 1: out so wrong.
Speaker 2: So I just kept talking and talking and I made
Speaker 2: it worse. Why is this me? Why would we do this?
Speaker 1: We?
Speaker 2: I'm with Carissa.
Speaker 1: I never want to meet my idol because after this encounter,
Speaker 1: it would it would just be a horrible nightmare. So
Speaker 1: my question is, when a compliment goes bad, what we mean? Well,
Speaker 1: do we just shake it off? Sign an embarrassed flight attendant?
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I need to know what happened. You're okay, Jacqueline.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you right now. If there was anyone
Speaker 1: in the world that would not care if you were babbling,
Speaker 1: rambling any of that. It's one mister Andrew Whitworth, Walter Payton,
Speaker 1: Man of the Year.
Speaker 2: I get it. I get that.
Speaker 1: There's like that moment where because Aaron knows and she's
Speaker 1: seen me do it, where I will let nerves take
Speaker 1: over and I won't shut the fuck up. Jimmy Pallen,
Speaker 1: I remember, And so there's but I knew what was
Speaker 1: going on, but I would say this, you don't.
Speaker 2: It's already shaked. Shake it off, is right, like on
Speaker 2: to the next.
Speaker 1: He probably thought it was so endearing and so sweet
Speaker 1: that you were nervous to give him a compliment or
Speaker 1: to tell him that you just thought he was great.
Speaker 2: I love this, you're adorable me thing.
Speaker 1: Because she because it goes back to you've talked before
Speaker 1: about how when you really like like someone, like you're
Speaker 1: like somebody that whatever, famous, you will run away. Hi,
Speaker 1: George Clooney, remember us at the restaurant? Oh yeah, I
Speaker 1: just put down and got weird.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: So she was saying she had one of those moments,
Speaker 1: but in this case she just was over talking like.
Speaker 2: I do exactly. Mary, you're a doorle have to ask
Speaker 2: what about it? Yeah?
Speaker 1: I will and then also thank you for being a
Speaker 1: wonderful flight attendant, because I'm going to tell you right
Speaker 1: now is just we say it all the time, and
Speaker 1: this podcast loves us some flight attendants. You guys have
Speaker 1: a thankless job because the amount of nonsense you have
Speaker 1: to deal with.
Speaker 2: So shout out to all the flight attendants.
Speaker 1: We love you. Oh yeah, although you came in contact
Speaker 1: with a flight attendant you weren't happy with, Oh.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're right. We'll talk about that on the big show.
Speaker 1: Actually, that's a great you know what, there's a tease
Speaker 1: that is I love ninety nine point nine percent of
Speaker 1: flight attendants. There was an outlier here, and I'm happy
Speaker 1: to talk about it. Oh boy, Calm down with Erin
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