1 00:00:01,240 --> 00:00:04,200 Speaker 1: It is time now for today Strawberry Letter, and if 2 00:00:04,240 --> 00:00:08,080 Speaker 1: you need advice on relationships, stating, work, sex, parenting, and more, 3 00:00:08,640 --> 00:00:12,799 Speaker 1: please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com 4 00:00:12,800 --> 00:00:17,680 Speaker 1: and click submit Strawberry Letter. You never know your letter 5 00:00:17,720 --> 00:00:20,040 Speaker 1: could come up. This one right here could be yours. 6 00:00:20,120 --> 00:00:22,600 Speaker 1: So write us. We'd love to help you. We'd love 7 00:00:22,640 --> 00:00:25,599 Speaker 1: to hear from you. We would love to hear from you. 8 00:00:25,800 --> 00:00:27,520 Speaker 1: Buckle up and hold on tight. We got it for you. 9 00:00:28,120 --> 00:00:32,400 Speaker 1: Here it is Strawberry Letter. Subject he hid his wife 10 00:00:32,440 --> 00:00:36,560 Speaker 1: for years. Dear Stephen Shirley, I've been married for twelve years, 11 00:00:36,640 --> 00:00:39,280 Speaker 1: and I've been a side check for the past four years. 12 00:00:39,640 --> 00:00:42,600 Speaker 1: My husband brought me a bad gift home four years ago, 13 00:00:42,640 --> 00:00:45,920 Speaker 1: and I had to take antibiotics and two shots to 14 00:00:46,000 --> 00:00:48,680 Speaker 1: get rid of it. It wasn't just the fact that 15 00:00:48,720 --> 00:00:51,280 Speaker 1: he cheated on me, but the lady he messed with 16 00:00:51,560 --> 00:00:55,800 Speaker 1: told me that he never used any protection. I stopped 17 00:00:55,840 --> 00:00:59,520 Speaker 1: having sex with my husband altogether, but I didn't want 18 00:00:59,520 --> 00:01:02,840 Speaker 1: a divorce. I get all of my needs met by 19 00:01:02,880 --> 00:01:05,360 Speaker 1: my man on the side, who led me to believe 20 00:01:05,720 --> 00:01:09,280 Speaker 1: he's divorced. He said he owns his home and it 21 00:01:09,319 --> 00:01:12,960 Speaker 1: was a nice and very neat home. He's cooked for 22 00:01:13,120 --> 00:01:16,280 Speaker 1: me there and he allowed me to keep toiletries there 23 00:01:16,319 --> 00:01:19,280 Speaker 1: to freshen up after we have our fun together. My 24 00:01:19,360 --> 00:01:22,000 Speaker 1: husband and I got in a big argument the other night, 25 00:01:22,040 --> 00:01:25,279 Speaker 1: and I called my sideman and told him I needed 26 00:01:25,319 --> 00:01:27,600 Speaker 1: to see him. He gave me the code to his 27 00:01:27,680 --> 00:01:29,680 Speaker 1: front door and told me to spend the night at 28 00:01:29,680 --> 00:01:32,399 Speaker 1: his house and he'd be there in the morning. He 29 00:01:32,560 --> 00:01:36,240 Speaker 1: was at his sister's house. I was shocked he let 30 00:01:36,280 --> 00:01:39,000 Speaker 1: me stay in his house alone. After I got ready 31 00:01:39,000 --> 00:01:42,440 Speaker 1: for bed, I started doing what any woman might do. 32 00:01:42,840 --> 00:01:47,200 Speaker 1: I snooped his drawers and in his home office. He 33 00:01:47,319 --> 00:01:49,480 Speaker 1: only had a few pair of underwear in the dresser, 34 00:01:49,520 --> 00:01:52,080 Speaker 1: with two shirts and a jogging suit in the closet. 35 00:01:52,560 --> 00:01:55,600 Speaker 1: Everything was so neat that it seemed unreal to me. 36 00:01:56,040 --> 00:01:59,160 Speaker 1: I checked his home office and found a four rent 37 00:01:59,200 --> 00:02:02,040 Speaker 1: side or found for rent signs in his closet with 38 00:02:02,120 --> 00:02:06,040 Speaker 1: his phone number on the signs. Then I found utility 39 00:02:06,080 --> 00:02:09,800 Speaker 1: bills in a woman's name for the same address. I 40 00:02:09,919 --> 00:02:13,320 Speaker 1: found her on Instagram and realized she's my man's wife. 41 00:02:14,240 --> 00:02:18,400 Speaker 1: How did he hide a wife for four years? Was 42 00:02:18,480 --> 00:02:21,720 Speaker 1: this their rental property or Airbnb? That I spent the 43 00:02:21,840 --> 00:02:24,800 Speaker 1: night in. I called him for some answers, but he 44 00:02:24,880 --> 00:02:30,360 Speaker 1: won't call me. Why would he hide his marriage? Well, 45 00:02:31,320 --> 00:02:34,280 Speaker 1: I think he hit his marriage because he obviously didn't 46 00:02:34,280 --> 00:02:36,000 Speaker 1: want you to know he had a wife. I mean, 47 00:02:36,080 --> 00:02:40,640 Speaker 1: that seems, you know, the most simple answer. He didn't 48 00:02:40,639 --> 00:02:43,880 Speaker 1: want you in his business. You're not his wife, You're 49 00:02:43,919 --> 00:02:47,160 Speaker 1: just a side chick, so he doesn't owe you an explanation. 50 00:02:47,720 --> 00:02:50,480 Speaker 1: That's the only thing I see here. You're probably thinking, 51 00:02:50,720 --> 00:02:53,040 Speaker 1: but I've been with him for four years. Why wouldn't 52 00:02:53,080 --> 00:02:56,400 Speaker 1: he tell me he was married? Because I guess in 53 00:02:56,520 --> 00:02:58,880 Speaker 1: his mind that's not what it is. He knew you 54 00:02:58,880 --> 00:03:00,959 Speaker 1: were married, and I'm as I mean, you told him 55 00:03:01,000 --> 00:03:03,200 Speaker 1: early on. That would have been a good time for 56 00:03:03,280 --> 00:03:06,400 Speaker 1: him to tell you he was too, but he just didn't. 57 00:03:06,440 --> 00:03:08,680 Speaker 1: I mean, he knew you guys were just sleeping together 58 00:03:08,720 --> 00:03:12,040 Speaker 1: and that's it as far as it would go. So 59 00:03:12,120 --> 00:03:15,880 Speaker 1: that information he decided to keep to himself. But here's 60 00:03:15,880 --> 00:03:20,680 Speaker 1: a question for you. Did you ever ask him? Why 61 00:03:20,760 --> 00:03:23,720 Speaker 1: didn't you ask him? I'm sure the answer is no, 62 00:03:23,919 --> 00:03:26,160 Speaker 1: because if you had asked him, he probably would have 63 00:03:26,240 --> 00:03:28,480 Speaker 1: told you had you asked him. That's one of the 64 00:03:28,520 --> 00:03:32,840 Speaker 1: first things you should ask. You didn't say he lied 65 00:03:32,880 --> 00:03:35,600 Speaker 1: to you. You just said he led you to believe 66 00:03:35,720 --> 00:03:39,120 Speaker 1: he was divorced. That should have been the first thing 67 00:03:39,160 --> 00:03:41,960 Speaker 1: you asked, Like I said, So, don't blame your side piece, 68 00:03:42,600 --> 00:03:45,960 Speaker 1: you know, for not telling you. And remember you did 69 00:03:46,040 --> 00:03:48,560 Speaker 1: go snooping for something, and you know the saying when 70 00:03:48,600 --> 00:03:51,400 Speaker 1: you go looking for something, you're usually going to find it, 71 00:03:51,600 --> 00:03:54,840 Speaker 1: and you found it. Okay, So now what are you 72 00:03:54,920 --> 00:03:57,600 Speaker 1: going to stop seeing this man? I doubt it. I 73 00:03:57,720 --> 00:04:00,880 Speaker 1: doubt that you are, especially after four years. And anyway, 74 00:04:01,000 --> 00:04:04,600 Speaker 1: you're married too, So now you're just two people cheating 75 00:04:04,680 --> 00:04:08,720 Speaker 1: on their houses. I mean, what do you want? What 76 00:04:08,800 --> 00:04:14,120 Speaker 1: do you want from us? Steve? What does she want? Well, 77 00:04:14,240 --> 00:04:18,559 Speaker 1: let's just start the letter. The title of the letter 78 00:04:18,800 --> 00:04:22,479 Speaker 1: is he hid his wife for years. Let's go to 79 00:04:22,520 --> 00:04:25,320 Speaker 1: the bottom of the letter. Here's the question, why would 80 00:04:25,360 --> 00:04:31,520 Speaker 1: he hide his marriage? Number one answer? Why you don't 81 00:04:31,560 --> 00:04:36,919 Speaker 1: have the answers to none of these because you ain't nothing, 82 00:04:39,360 --> 00:04:45,520 Speaker 1: and a hush fell over Jerusalem because you ain't nothing. 83 00:04:47,920 --> 00:04:53,240 Speaker 1: Listen to me, lady. First of all, you don't respect 84 00:04:53,360 --> 00:04:59,320 Speaker 1: your marriage, you don't respect yourself, but you want somebody 85 00:04:59,320 --> 00:05:04,600 Speaker 1: else to respe you. Are you kidding me, What do 86 00:05:04,680 --> 00:05:08,040 Speaker 1: you got to tell you for? You're cheating on your 87 00:05:08,120 --> 00:05:18,120 Speaker 1: husband with this man. You're the cheater here. Now he 88 00:05:18,240 --> 00:05:22,000 Speaker 1: got a wife and he cheating too. Your question ain't 89 00:05:22,160 --> 00:05:25,080 Speaker 1: how do I get out of this? Your question ain't 90 00:05:25,279 --> 00:05:29,920 Speaker 1: how did I get into this? Your question ain't what 91 00:05:30,000 --> 00:05:32,039 Speaker 1: do I do now? How do I get him to 92 00:05:32,080 --> 00:05:35,320 Speaker 1: recognize me? How do I get him to tell me 93 00:05:35,400 --> 00:05:40,320 Speaker 1: he married? For what Shirley said the best? You're nothing 94 00:05:40,360 --> 00:05:45,320 Speaker 1: to leave him, You're nothing to stop. So what you 95 00:05:45,440 --> 00:05:51,279 Speaker 1: write us for? You're cheating with the man because you 96 00:05:51,440 --> 00:05:54,000 Speaker 1: made a decision not to get a voice, and you 97 00:05:54,080 --> 00:05:56,799 Speaker 1: get your knees met by your man on the side. 98 00:05:57,480 --> 00:05:59,640 Speaker 1: Now you've been a side check for the past. For 99 00:05:59,800 --> 00:06:03,240 Speaker 1: you is because you discovered newly that the guy you've 100 00:06:03,279 --> 00:06:07,359 Speaker 1: been getting your needs, Matt when, is married. And he 101 00:06:07,400 --> 00:06:10,920 Speaker 1: didn't tell you. You know why he didn't tell you 102 00:06:11,000 --> 00:06:17,719 Speaker 1: can't say this again because you ain't nothing. You ain't nothing. 103 00:06:19,400 --> 00:06:21,200 Speaker 1: He didn't let you come up with some little piece 104 00:06:21,240 --> 00:06:23,880 Speaker 1: of house he got somewhere, gave you a cold to 105 00:06:23,960 --> 00:06:26,800 Speaker 1: some little piece of house. He got a little extra 106 00:06:26,880 --> 00:06:31,960 Speaker 1: piece of property for his extra piece. You're the extra piece, 107 00:06:33,279 --> 00:06:37,640 Speaker 1: you see, Oh that thought Steve, we come back, all right, 108 00:06:37,720 --> 00:06:40,640 Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you what y'all. Yeah, Well, a part 109 00:06:40,680 --> 00:06:43,480 Speaker 1: two of Steve's response coming up, coming up in twenty 110 00:06:43,480 --> 00:06:46,839 Speaker 1: three minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry letter, subject he 111 00:06:46,920 --> 00:06:49,080 Speaker 1: hit his wife for years. We'll get back into it 112 00:06:49,160 --> 00:06:53,239 Speaker 1: right after this. You're listening to Steve Harvey Morning Show. 113 00:06:53,880 --> 00:06:56,599 Speaker 1: All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letter, 114 00:06:56,640 --> 00:07:01,120 Speaker 1: the subject he hid his wife for years. The only 115 00:07:01,200 --> 00:07:03,320 Speaker 1: question this woman has in this letter is at the 116 00:07:03,360 --> 00:07:07,440 Speaker 1: bottom of it, why would he hide his marriage? Because 117 00:07:07,520 --> 00:07:10,720 Speaker 1: you ain't nothing. He ain't got to tell you nothing. 118 00:07:11,800 --> 00:07:17,360 Speaker 1: You have a husband that brought a venereal disease home, 119 00:07:17,800 --> 00:07:22,760 Speaker 1: which is known now as a sexually transmitted disease. In 120 00:07:22,840 --> 00:07:28,280 Speaker 1: my era, that's called VD. That's how you know you 121 00:07:28,400 --> 00:07:32,000 Speaker 1: old when it's VD. Now I'm gonna tell you right now, 122 00:07:32,120 --> 00:07:35,160 Speaker 1: I can tell you exactly what you had because if 123 00:07:35,160 --> 00:07:38,280 Speaker 1: you had to take antibodys and two shots to get 124 00:07:38,360 --> 00:07:42,560 Speaker 1: rid of it, you had the one that starts with 125 00:07:42,600 --> 00:07:46,600 Speaker 1: the G because you can't get rid of the other one. 126 00:07:47,360 --> 00:07:51,600 Speaker 1: Huh see the other one, penicilla don't work on. But 127 00:07:51,640 --> 00:07:55,000 Speaker 1: the one that starts with the g You can get 128 00:07:55,080 --> 00:07:57,600 Speaker 1: healed from that one. And that's why you with him, 129 00:07:57,600 --> 00:08:02,119 Speaker 1: because you got healed. That's a shot in some antibiotics. 130 00:08:02,920 --> 00:08:05,680 Speaker 1: And you just found out through a checkup. But he 131 00:08:05,800 --> 00:08:09,240 Speaker 1: bought at home because he has actual symptoms here in 132 00:08:09,280 --> 00:08:12,920 Speaker 1: the bathroom, Holly. You get symptoms and you don't know 133 00:08:13,000 --> 00:08:14,640 Speaker 1: till you go get a check up. That's how you 134 00:08:14,680 --> 00:08:16,280 Speaker 1: found out he bought at home to you, now, I 135 00:08:16,360 --> 00:08:18,840 Speaker 1: just want to clear that up. That's a lot of 136 00:08:18,840 --> 00:08:21,120 Speaker 1: trips around the sun. I know all this type of 137 00:08:21,120 --> 00:08:24,480 Speaker 1: things right here. You know, I'm from the DD generation. 138 00:08:24,560 --> 00:08:33,400 Speaker 1: That's what she had sharing. Wow. And then the lady 139 00:08:33,440 --> 00:08:36,960 Speaker 1: he messed with told you he never used perfection protection. 140 00:08:37,160 --> 00:08:39,560 Speaker 1: You know what, people in your life can just come 141 00:08:39,600 --> 00:08:42,400 Speaker 1: to you with anything. You just you just a little 142 00:08:42,400 --> 00:08:46,719 Speaker 1: wealth of information. Everybody's just tell you anything. Hold the 143 00:08:46,920 --> 00:08:49,080 Speaker 1: lady that he messed with carl you and told you 144 00:08:49,120 --> 00:08:51,679 Speaker 1: we ain't never use no protection. That's how he hit 145 00:08:51,760 --> 00:08:53,760 Speaker 1: got what I got. I ain't even know I had it, 146 00:08:54,040 --> 00:08:56,079 Speaker 1: and you need to go get yourself checked out. That's 147 00:08:56,120 --> 00:08:58,440 Speaker 1: how you found out you had it. But he knew 148 00:08:58,480 --> 00:09:00,360 Speaker 1: he had it because he was in the bathroom. Holly. 149 00:09:00,640 --> 00:09:04,920 Speaker 1: I'm telling y'all did what happened? Girl? You lying? No, 150 00:09:05,120 --> 00:09:08,480 Speaker 1: you gotta go get yourself checked. Now he gave it 151 00:09:08,840 --> 00:09:12,000 Speaker 1: key to the house, and now do what she said. 152 00:09:12,080 --> 00:09:14,120 Speaker 1: I didn't want a divorce it I'll get all my 153 00:09:14,200 --> 00:09:16,880 Speaker 1: knees meant by a man on the side who led 154 00:09:16,920 --> 00:09:20,080 Speaker 1: me to believe he's divorced. I don't know if he 155 00:09:20,200 --> 00:09:22,160 Speaker 1: led you to believe that. I don't think you asked, 156 00:09:22,160 --> 00:09:24,880 Speaker 1: like Shirley said, say they owns his home. It was 157 00:09:25,000 --> 00:09:26,920 Speaker 1: nice and very neat home. He cooked for you day 158 00:09:26,920 --> 00:09:30,000 Speaker 1: and all like that. Your husband gotten a big argument 159 00:09:30,040 --> 00:09:32,280 Speaker 1: the other night, and then you call your side man 160 00:09:32,320 --> 00:09:34,520 Speaker 1: and told him you needed to see him. He gave 161 00:09:34,559 --> 00:09:36,520 Speaker 1: you a cold to the front door, told me to 162 00:09:36,559 --> 00:09:37,920 Speaker 1: spend the night, and he was over there at his 163 00:09:38,000 --> 00:09:40,400 Speaker 1: sister's house. Now he wasn't not sis house. He was 164 00:09:40,440 --> 00:09:43,679 Speaker 1: at home with his wife. What dude, who spend the 165 00:09:43,800 --> 00:09:49,000 Speaker 1: night at day's sister house? Who do that? When man 166 00:09:49,040 --> 00:09:53,800 Speaker 1: man spend night his sister house? Man, please lady get 167 00:09:53,840 --> 00:09:56,120 Speaker 1: out of here. I was shocked he letting me stay 168 00:09:56,120 --> 00:09:58,360 Speaker 1: in this house alone. So I did what anybody else 169 00:09:58,440 --> 00:10:01,679 Speaker 1: to do. I started dipping. I snooped through his drawers 170 00:10:01,720 --> 00:10:04,160 Speaker 1: in the office at home office, he only had a 171 00:10:04,160 --> 00:10:06,559 Speaker 1: few pail or underwear and a dresser. That's cause that's 172 00:10:06,600 --> 00:10:12,240 Speaker 1: his side spot for his side chicks. See and you 173 00:10:12,360 --> 00:10:14,960 Speaker 1: the other side chick. Then I found a utility bill 174 00:10:15,040 --> 00:10:17,640 Speaker 1: and all this him. How did he have a wife 175 00:10:17,640 --> 00:10:20,520 Speaker 1: for four years? Because you weren't looking for nothing but 176 00:10:20,600 --> 00:10:22,839 Speaker 1: a side piece. You was looking for somebody to meet 177 00:10:22,880 --> 00:10:26,240 Speaker 1: your sexual needs. Since you start sleeping with your husband, 178 00:10:26,240 --> 00:10:29,400 Speaker 1: since he gave you the G word, now, now that's 179 00:10:29,400 --> 00:10:31,080 Speaker 1: all you want it. You wanted to just sleep with 180 00:10:31,120 --> 00:10:36,160 Speaker 1: this man. Now. I called him for some answers, but 181 00:10:36,240 --> 00:10:38,800 Speaker 1: he won't call me. You're standing at his house. He 182 00:10:38,840 --> 00:10:41,760 Speaker 1: can't call. He's sitting next to his wife. I can't 183 00:10:41,800 --> 00:10:45,240 Speaker 1: call you. He gave you the cold you in the house. 184 00:10:45,640 --> 00:10:48,120 Speaker 1: Let me explain something to you what you are when 185 00:10:48,120 --> 00:10:52,080 Speaker 1: you go to buy chicken at a fast food restaurant. 186 00:10:53,280 --> 00:10:56,319 Speaker 1: Let's use Popeyes for an example, because they have a 187 00:10:56,400 --> 00:11:01,320 Speaker 1: good chicken and you ordered the chicken. Let me show 188 00:11:01,360 --> 00:11:04,600 Speaker 1: you where you fit at in this right here. You're 189 00:11:04,640 --> 00:11:09,679 Speaker 1: not an extra thigh, you're not an extra breast. He 190 00:11:09,720 --> 00:11:16,760 Speaker 1: didn't ask for a two piece. You, ma'am, are the slawm. 191 00:11:20,120 --> 00:11:25,280 Speaker 1: You're the slaw. Like love, the marriage runs no you 192 00:11:25,400 --> 00:11:31,440 Speaker 1: just slaw, you aside, you just aside. You're not an 193 00:11:31,440 --> 00:11:36,160 Speaker 1: actual piece of chicken. See he didn't get another two 194 00:11:36,280 --> 00:11:41,320 Speaker 1: piece at a biscuit. All he got was a pint 195 00:11:41,400 --> 00:11:48,440 Speaker 1: of cold slaw. You are the equivalent in a two 196 00:11:48,520 --> 00:11:53,400 Speaker 1: piece to a pint of cold slaw. And the reason 197 00:11:53,440 --> 00:11:56,120 Speaker 1: you don't get to be a dish all your own 198 00:11:56,400 --> 00:11:59,560 Speaker 1: is because he knows you are the dish of another man. 199 00:12:00,840 --> 00:12:03,960 Speaker 1: See you're married. Once you're willing to do that, and 200 00:12:04,040 --> 00:12:07,679 Speaker 1: you're married, then we can reduce you even further. So 201 00:12:07,760 --> 00:12:10,000 Speaker 1: now you don't get to be an extra piece of 202 00:12:10,080 --> 00:12:13,439 Speaker 1: chicken in the box. All you feel to be is 203 00:12:13,480 --> 00:12:18,520 Speaker 1: a bigger side order. See you're the side chick with 204 00:12:19,240 --> 00:12:23,200 Speaker 1: no benefits. He gave you the cold, He didn't give 205 00:12:23,240 --> 00:12:25,480 Speaker 1: you a house. He adn't get helping you with your rent. 206 00:12:25,640 --> 00:12:28,560 Speaker 1: He ain't paying your card. No, he letting you use 207 00:12:28,840 --> 00:12:31,800 Speaker 1: his extra house. You don't even get the money for 208 00:12:31,920 --> 00:12:38,400 Speaker 1: your own apartment. You are pint or cold slaw. That's 209 00:12:38,480 --> 00:12:42,360 Speaker 1: the side you are. You ain't the beans and rice, 210 00:12:42,600 --> 00:12:45,160 Speaker 1: You ain't none of that. You ain't mashed potatoes that's 211 00:12:45,200 --> 00:12:48,560 Speaker 1: too thick. You are at all you are is a 212 00:12:48,640 --> 00:12:53,520 Speaker 1: little more gravy or cold slaw. And if either one 213 00:12:53,520 --> 00:12:55,439 Speaker 1: of them ain't in the box, you still gonna eat 214 00:12:55,480 --> 00:12:59,199 Speaker 1: your chicken. Oh, let the church say, man ain't man? Man? 215 00:12:59,280 --> 00:13:02,920 Speaker 1: All right and again post your comments on today's Strawberry 216 00:13:03,000 --> 00:13:06,240 Speaker 1: Letter and Steve Harvey FM on Instagram and Facebook, and 217 00:13:06,320 --> 00:13:09,480 Speaker 1: check out the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand now coming 218 00:13:09,559 --> 00:13:12,280 Speaker 1: up at forty six minutes after the hour in case 219 00:13:12,400 --> 00:13:16,400 Speaker 1: you missed it. Coming up next Steve's interview with Senator 220 00:13:16,480 --> 00:13:21,480 Speaker 1: Rafael Warnock. Right after this, go vote. You're listening to 221 00:13:21,640 --> 00:13:23,280 Speaker 1: the Steve Harvey Morning Show.