1 00:00:00,280 --> 00:00:03,280 Speaker 1: All right, Steve. This one is from Shiva in Tallahassee. 2 00:00:03,320 --> 00:00:05,720 Speaker 2: Shiva says, I'm a nurse and I'm on my feet 3 00:00:05,800 --> 00:00:09,240 Speaker 2: all day. My husband used to rub my feet and 4 00:00:09,320 --> 00:00:11,840 Speaker 2: run my backwater when we first got married, but now 5 00:00:11,880 --> 00:00:13,360 Speaker 2: he barely kisses me when. 6 00:00:13,160 --> 00:00:15,920 Speaker 1: I walk in. He's been demoted at work. 7 00:00:15,720 --> 00:00:18,560 Speaker 2: And I think he's resentful of me because I make 8 00:00:18,680 --> 00:00:22,680 Speaker 2: more money. Do I need to address this or should 9 00:00:22,720 --> 00:00:25,160 Speaker 2: I let him work through this on his own? 10 00:00:26,520 --> 00:00:29,960 Speaker 3: Well you should address it, but not in the what 11 00:00:30,000 --> 00:00:32,839 Speaker 3: can you do for me lately? Thing. Just find out 12 00:00:32,920 --> 00:00:36,160 Speaker 3: what's going on with him, and then he may come 13 00:00:36,200 --> 00:00:38,959 Speaker 3: around back to what he used to be. But obviously 14 00:00:39,000 --> 00:00:41,040 Speaker 3: something is going on with him, and you've picked it 15 00:00:41,120 --> 00:00:43,879 Speaker 3: up as a wife, so you know he's got it demoted. 16 00:00:43,960 --> 00:00:45,959 Speaker 3: You know it might affected him some kind of way. 17 00:00:46,080 --> 00:00:48,559 Speaker 3: So why don't you talk about that. You know you're 18 00:00:48,560 --> 00:00:52,279 Speaker 3: getting your feet love and winning your bathwater rent. If 19 00:00:52,280 --> 00:00:54,080 Speaker 3: you make that the issue, you're gonna throw him on 20 00:00:54,160 --> 00:00:57,720 Speaker 3: the defense. In his mind, he gonna go, it's always 21 00:00:57,760 --> 00:01:00,200 Speaker 3: about her. She'll never know what's going on with me. 22 00:01:00,560 --> 00:01:03,800 Speaker 3: So you gotta be careful right here. So that's my suggestion. 23 00:01:04,600 --> 00:01:07,560 Speaker 2: All right, we have time for another one. This one 24 00:01:07,600 --> 00:01:12,240 Speaker 2: is from Clark and Richmond. I'm dating two women, Clark says, 25 00:01:12,280 --> 00:01:14,480 Speaker 2: and I want to get married, but I don't know 26 00:01:14,520 --> 00:01:17,840 Speaker 2: if I can make the best choice. What should I 27 00:01:17,840 --> 00:01:20,399 Speaker 2: look for in a wife? What characteristics are the most 28 00:01:20,400 --> 00:01:22,280 Speaker 2: important when I make my decisions. 29 00:01:22,319 --> 00:01:25,759 Speaker 3: Hey, br bru, no that you don't need to be married. 30 00:01:27,120 --> 00:01:28,319 Speaker 3: I'm gonna tell you that right now. 31 00:01:28,440 --> 00:01:29,119 Speaker 1: He's not ready. 32 00:01:29,440 --> 00:01:32,039 Speaker 3: Yeah, you won't even know what you won't and I 33 00:01:32,080 --> 00:01:34,800 Speaker 3: can't give it to you in a phone call. You're 34 00:01:34,800 --> 00:01:39,039 Speaker 3: not ready to get married, though, because you I mean, 35 00:01:39,120 --> 00:01:42,280 Speaker 3: in this this radio show. I mean, you know, I 36 00:01:42,319 --> 00:01:44,640 Speaker 3: can't What should I be looking for in a wife? 37 00:01:44,680 --> 00:01:46,120 Speaker 3: Bru You're not ready to get married. 38 00:01:46,200 --> 00:01:48,840 Speaker 1: He should already know that if he's thinking about getting married. 39 00:01:49,480 --> 00:01:52,800 Speaker 3: Bruh. It ain't about choosing between these two because either 40 00:01:52,840 --> 00:01:58,360 Speaker 3: one you don't know what you want. And then marriage 41 00:01:58,400 --> 00:02:02,040 Speaker 3: ain't just about what you want. What can you offer 42 00:02:02,120 --> 00:02:05,840 Speaker 3: these two women? See, that's the other part that some 43 00:02:05,880 --> 00:02:10,120 Speaker 3: people leave out. So brother, you know what you should 44 00:02:10,120 --> 00:02:13,760 Speaker 3: be looking for in a woman. It's somebody that seems 45 00:02:13,800 --> 00:02:17,400 Speaker 3: to care about you, deeply concerned about your welfare and 46 00:02:17,440 --> 00:02:22,880 Speaker 3: your being supportive, loyal, you know, willing to help you 47 00:02:22,960 --> 00:02:26,399 Speaker 3: build your dreams. But at the same time, you got 48 00:02:26,400 --> 00:02:29,320 Speaker 3: to offer all of that to a woman. Now, if 49 00:02:29,320 --> 00:02:32,560 Speaker 3: you're not offering that to a woman, what is she 50 00:02:32,760 --> 00:02:33,720 Speaker 3: getting out the deal. 51 00:02:34,960 --> 00:02:38,480 Speaker 2: There's still good questions from him. If he's considering getting married, 52 00:02:39,280 --> 00:02:42,880 Speaker 2: characteristic I think he should be good question. What should 53 00:02:42,880 --> 00:02:45,440 Speaker 2: he look for in a wife is a very good question. 54 00:02:45,560 --> 00:02:47,840 Speaker 2: I think that's a good question. People need to. 55 00:02:47,840 --> 00:02:50,440 Speaker 1: Know what they what they should look for in a wife. 56 00:02:50,560 --> 00:02:53,799 Speaker 2: He doesn't, so he's not ready, But I think it's 57 00:02:53,840 --> 00:02:57,120 Speaker 2: a good question. And what are the most important characteristics 58 00:02:57,160 --> 00:02:59,919 Speaker 2: when he makes a decision about marriage. 59 00:03:00,080 --> 00:03:02,760 Speaker 3: Maybe he wants what Neo wants, you know, maybe he 60 00:03:02,800 --> 00:03:10,160 Speaker 3: won't see where we go. That's why it ain't Hey, Tommy, 61 00:03:10,440 --> 00:03:14,799 Speaker 3: they ain't see That's why we don't have the sthing that. Hey, 62 00:03:14,919 --> 00:03:18,520 Speaker 3: Tommy's sake, why what do you think? 63 00:03:18,600 --> 00:03:22,080 Speaker 1: What do you say that? But that's why I said 64 00:03:22,080 --> 00:03:25,359 Speaker 1: they were good questions, because at least he's asking questions. 65 00:03:25,720 --> 00:03:27,919 Speaker 2: Some people just go get married and then it turns 66 00:03:27,919 --> 00:03:31,000 Speaker 2: out to be terrible because they don't ask questions before. 67 00:03:32,040 --> 00:03:34,080 Speaker 3: Because you know, look, he might have come from a 68 00:03:34,120 --> 00:03:37,320 Speaker 3: single parent home, he's never had a bird's our view 69 00:03:37,360 --> 00:03:39,000 Speaker 3: of it. He might not know what it is. 70 00:03:39,440 --> 00:03:42,120 Speaker 1: Okay, I respect that, young brother. Yeah, that's what. 71 00:03:42,320 --> 00:03:44,800 Speaker 3: I just But I'm telling you what you should look for. 72 00:03:45,560 --> 00:03:48,640 Speaker 3: But now you have to be ready to reciprocate that. 73 00:03:49,880 --> 00:03:54,280 Speaker 3: Are you willing to be a provider? Are you willing 74 00:03:54,360 --> 00:03:57,880 Speaker 3: to put her in front of you at all times? 75 00:04:00,320 --> 00:04:03,640 Speaker 3: Do you have the ability to love someone else more 76 00:04:03,640 --> 00:04:06,240 Speaker 3: than you love yourself? That's what a man needs to 77 00:04:06,240 --> 00:04:10,600 Speaker 3: start researching. And the sad part of our society has changed, 78 00:04:11,600 --> 00:04:13,440 Speaker 3: and there are a lot of men who are not 79 00:04:13,600 --> 00:04:17,680 Speaker 3: looking at it this way anymore. And that's the sad 80 00:04:17,920 --> 00:04:22,040 Speaker 3: truth of it. You're right, that's the sad truth of it. 81 00:04:22,839 --> 00:04:26,479 Speaker 3: Are you willing to love somebody more than you love yourself? 82 00:04:26,880 --> 00:04:28,960 Speaker 3: Are you willing to put somebody in front of you 83 00:04:29,120 --> 00:04:32,400 Speaker 3: all times? And are you willing to provide and protect 84 00:04:32,400 --> 00:04:34,840 Speaker 3: a family. If you ain't willing to do that, man, 85 00:04:35,000 --> 00:04:36,600 Speaker 3: we will take your slower. 86 00:04:36,279 --> 00:04:37,560 Speaker 1: Somewhere, all right. 87 00:04:38,600 --> 00:04:40,880 Speaker 2: We'll have more of the Steve Harvey Morning Show coming 88 00:04:40,960 --> 00:04:41,800 Speaker 2: up right after this. 89 00:04:42,400 --> 00:04:44,919 Speaker 1: You're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.