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Speaker 3: My fiance's friend and his wife, we're not the best

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Speaker 3: Hello everyone, My fiance male just not no age, and

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Speaker 3: I female have been preparing for our wedding in November

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Speaker 3: since last year. Okay, obviously we would like everything to

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Speaker 3: go off without a hitch. However, a recent situation with

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Speaker 3: one of my fiance's groomsmen, Frank and his new wife Robin,

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Speaker 4: Frankly, this doesn't sound like a good start.

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Speaker 3: By the way, this comes from concerned bride to be

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Speaker 3: Frank and Robin met and married very quickly this year,

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Speaker 3: so quickly that many of us weren't financially able to

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Speaker 3: attend their wedding, which took place in July. Oh wow,

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Speaker 3: My fiance was heartbroken he wouldn't be there for such

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Speaker 3: an important moment, but there was nothing to be done.

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Speaker 3: We quietly understood the bride to be, Robin wasn't very

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Speaker 3: happy with us. Like I said frankly, Robin sucks. Frank

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Speaker 3: My fiance's best man, Donnie, had a wedding set in

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Speaker 3: So no excuses, it's wedding season. The reason I am

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Speaker 3: making this post is because of what happened at Donnie's

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Speaker 3: that Frank and Robin, they're the new new weds. Donnie's

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Speaker 3: the new guy, the best man, but he's also getting married.

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Speaker 4: Yep. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: To save money, my fiance and I chose to drive

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Speaker 3: to Donnie's wedding, which meant about an eight hour car drive.

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Speaker 3: As we are about three hours out, Frank begins to

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Speaker 3: the stress of being a groomsman was probably getting to him,

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Speaker 3: but this happened several times. I was irked because Frank's

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Speaker 3: we made great time and arrived two hours earlier than

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Speaker 3: I had planned an eight hour drive. When you come

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Speaker 3: six hours, dad, did you get dry fast? You were

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Speaker 4: Somebody was speeding.

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Speaker 3: In the car. I asked my fiance to see if

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Speaker 3: stumbles across Robin's Facebook reels and noticed someone important in

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Speaker 3: the background of the photo. Donnie's brother Julia, had been

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Speaker 3: on a mission trip for the last few months and

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Speaker 3: photo with Julian in the background, spoiling the surprise the

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Speaker 3: Whether or not this was accidental is debatable, though, as

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Speaker 3: the other groomsmen later asserted that she knew not to

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Speaker 3: do that. What caught my attention, however, was that Robin

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Speaker 3: was wearing a white dress. Well, we already know how

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Speaker 4: We are unanimously ignited and aligned on how we feel

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Speaker 3: I was appalled pretty much everyone, especially the women. No,

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I've never heard of those. I went out of

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Speaker 3: We arrive at the hotel and get ready to meet

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Speaker 3: It becomes obvious that Frank and Robin have been arguing

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Speaker 3: Everyone's looking at you very awkward those with them. At

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Speaker 3: At some point someone asked Frank why Robin kept leaving,

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Speaker 1: What.

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Speaker 3: Frank would continue to gossip and make annoyed comments about

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Speaker 3: One minute, Robin wasn't anywhere to be seen the next

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Speaker 3: that's weird, this is weird. However, Frank became upset and

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Speaker 3: credit where credit is due. Apparently, the atmosphere became very

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Speaker 4: Oh my god, this young couple is just beautiful.

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Speaker 3: I love I love love this is this is love.

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Speaker 4: So healthy and will last a really long time.

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Speaker 3: I yeah, I give it. Three more. Months after Donnie's wedding,

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Speaker 3: my fiance and I decided that we should no longer

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Speaker 3: this behavior. We were still open to having them come

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Speaker 3: my fiance spoke with Robin and Frank, and it is

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Speaker 3: obvious to me that neither of them is genuinely sorry

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Speaker 3: for their behavior. But you know what, we have good

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Speaker 3: behavior over here every day live three pm PST. Just

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Speaker 3: tap our profile. Have it. There's another relevant update. But

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Speaker 4: People are whaged. They are definitely inexperienced as being a couple,

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Speaker 4: which is okay, but it sounds like everything we got

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Speaker 3: I was this a real marriage or do you think

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Speaker 3: it was like a fake marriage? Was it a like

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Speaker 3: a like a green card marriage or something like that.

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Speaker 4: No, I think it's more of a we should have

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Speaker 3: It's the honeymoon marriage, like they get they're like, oh

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Speaker 3: my god, I love you, let's get married.

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Speaker 3: I don't feel like Frank is much of a like

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Speaker 3: a it's his fault. Yeah, it's definitely Robin sucks. Oh yeah,

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Speaker 4: But Frank sucks too.

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Speaker 3: Frank sucks. Oh no, but yeah, it's like who sucks

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Speaker 4: I think we both suck. I mean I know that

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Speaker 4: Robin's probably like the more sucky one, but.

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Speaker 3: Like Frank's not trying to bring as much as attention as

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Speaker 5: Yeah, oh this wedding stinks, dude, she's marriage marriage, right, Yeah,

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Speaker 5: we just got married, But our our wedding wasn't this fun.

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Speaker 5: None of you came to our wedding. All of you suck.

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Speaker 4: They probably do have resentment of yeah, nice call.

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Speaker 3: Yeah it was a it was a it's called a

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Speaker 3: I was originally fine with simply demoting Frank, but after this,

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Speaker 3: I don't know. I understand. Frank is my fiancee's a

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Speaker 3: I think it would be better to have Frank and

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Speaker 3: I think it's less drama.

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Speaker 4: I think Frank has lost his way, but who he

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Speaker 3: Oh trillion percent, Robin is calling all the shots. I

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Speaker 3: I want to I want to a wedding.

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Speaker 4: I want to get married soon.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, My fear is that Robin will find a way

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Speaker 3: one hand, I understand giving them a chance to behave themselves.

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Speaker 3: the a hole for thinking Robin will find a way

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Speaker 3: You know, I know why she was getting up just

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Speaker 4: Yeah, both Frank, Robin and Frank are toxic.

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Speaker 3: I guess within the recency the recent things with Frank

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Speaker 3: and you know the Beyonce, I may it makes sense

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Speaker 3: just got married. He hasn't he has a wife. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: that's gonna take some attention away for sure. Does that

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Speaker 3: his longtime best friend. No, I think Frank. I think

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Speaker 3: You probably don't even know what that meant.

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Speaker 4: Where is it that dude? Let me read that report.

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Speaker 4: They're just trying to find something to be They're like.

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Speaker 3: All of my family lived very far away, more than

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Speaker 3: They did not get any better. Daily I was asked

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Speaker 3: I think they just like to have I think they

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Speaker 4: Dude, he's just saying stuff to get near.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, we were done with their terrible words and behavior,

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Speaker 4: Whoa, how the tables have turned, and.

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Speaker 3: Explained that my father told me that my whole family

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Speaker 4: No, he's just mean.

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Speaker 3: He sucks. He's a loser, selfish. I don't know why.

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Speaker 3: My daughter's a very little loser. You don't want to

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Speaker 3: Maybe not, But I know what you could do. You

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Speaker 3: Thanks for reading, Please be kind if you comment. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: the main thing is would you call out your dad?

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Speaker 3: I mean, it looks like everyone else is calling out

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Speaker 3: the dad, but like, would you as ope call out

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Speaker 4: Be like no because they have a weird, complicated history

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Speaker 4: the mom and dad, Yeah, dad's a narcissist. And then

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Speaker 4: the mom turns around parts You're the victim. How could

439
00:19:31,200 --> 00:19:32,080
Speaker 4: they say that to you?

440
00:19:32,720 --> 00:19:36,920
Speaker 3: Ah? Well again, karma is karma here and I love it.

441
00:19:37,560 --> 00:19:41,399
Speaker 3: You get what you deserve, Dad, Dad, But that's the

442
00:19:41,480 --> 00:19:43,919
Speaker 3: end of that story. They kicked me out of the

443
00:19:43,920 --> 00:19:47,840
Speaker 3: bridal party because of my injury, but I still went

444
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Speaker 3: to the wedding.

445
00:19:49,119 --> 00:19:50,080
Speaker 4: Walk it off, op.

446
00:19:51,600 --> 00:19:54,359
Speaker 3: Wrap some dirt on it. One of my female thirty

447
00:19:54,480 --> 00:19:58,679
Speaker 3: close girlfriends, female thirty one, is getting married soon and

448
00:19:58,760 --> 00:20:01,160
Speaker 3: I'm so excited for her. We have known each other

449
00:20:01,200 --> 00:20:05,120
Speaker 3: around twenty years as these The couple got engaged over

450
00:20:05,160 --> 00:20:07,040
Speaker 3: a year ago and my friend asked me to be

451
00:20:07,080 --> 00:20:09,479
Speaker 3: her maid of honor shortly after. I was so excited

452
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Speaker 3: to be able to stand and support my friend on

453
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Speaker 3: this adventure into the next chapter of her life. By

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Speaker 3: the way, this comes from user one Entrepreneur eighty seven

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Speaker 3: ninety six on the r slash Okay Storytime Separated It

456
00:20:18,920 --> 00:20:20,919
Speaker 3: fast forward to the start of twenty twenty four and

457
00:20:20,960 --> 00:20:23,760
Speaker 3: I managed to get injured, which resulted in me being

458
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Speaker 3: in a brace.

459
00:20:24,680 --> 00:20:27,480
Speaker 4: Knew it, like I'm calling leg injury.

460
00:20:27,560 --> 00:20:29,600
Speaker 3: The wedding was more than three months away, and that's

461
00:20:29,600 --> 00:20:31,240
Speaker 3: how long I was going to have to wear the

462
00:20:31,280 --> 00:20:34,040
Speaker 3: brace three months. I didn't try to hide anything from

463
00:20:34,080 --> 00:20:36,440
Speaker 3: my friend and told her of my injury, but reassured

464
00:20:36,480 --> 00:20:38,119
Speaker 3: her that I would be out of the brace and

465
00:20:38,160 --> 00:20:39,159
Speaker 3: find before the wedding.

466
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Speaker 4: Okay, nice.

467
00:20:40,040 --> 00:20:43,040
Speaker 3: The bridesmaids dresses were all going to be for length anyway,

468
00:20:43,400 --> 00:20:45,320
Speaker 3: and once I had the brace, I was not really

469
00:20:45,359 --> 00:20:48,639
Speaker 3: limited in my movements. She discussed options with me sitting

470
00:20:48,720 --> 00:20:50,639
Speaker 3: or standing if I was going to be on crutches,

471
00:20:50,640 --> 00:20:52,679
Speaker 3: et cetera. Which because I wasn't going to be in

472
00:20:52,720 --> 00:20:55,080
Speaker 3: the brace by the time for wedding, I told her

473
00:20:55,080 --> 00:20:56,920
Speaker 3: that if something was going to be an issue, I

474
00:20:56,920 --> 00:20:59,920
Speaker 3: would let her know asap. No worries. We moved on. Then,

475
00:21:00,000 --> 00:21:02,280
Speaker 3: when the party was around three months before the wedding,

476
00:21:02,440 --> 00:21:04,680
Speaker 3: a nice mixture of things which all of the bridesmaids

477
00:21:04,720 --> 00:21:07,280
Speaker 3: plan and put together. There was a communication mishap between

478
00:21:07,280 --> 00:21:10,160
Speaker 3: myself and another bridesmaid, but my perspective, we both said

479
00:21:10,160 --> 00:21:12,040
Speaker 3: our piece and then I put it behind me because

480
00:21:12,040 --> 00:21:14,119
Speaker 3: I don't have to be friends with everyone, but I

481
00:21:14,200 --> 00:21:16,040
Speaker 3: don't need to create a problem for my friend by

482
00:21:16,040 --> 00:21:16,880
Speaker 3: holding a grudge.

483
00:21:16,920 --> 00:21:19,600
Speaker 4: What's that one quote? If you're friends with everyone, your

484
00:21:20,080 --> 00:21:21,160
Speaker 4: if your enemy's to none.

485
00:21:21,760 --> 00:21:23,520
Speaker 3: What does that quote go like? So set a face brace?

486
00:21:24,200 --> 00:21:25,480
Speaker 4: Soon said penis brace.

487
00:21:25,760 --> 00:21:27,960
Speaker 3: Two weeks later, I couldn't make it to a wedding

488
00:21:28,000 --> 00:21:30,639
Speaker 3: dress appointment with the bride and the other bridesmaids to

489
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Speaker 3: pick up the dress because of the medical appointments. One

490
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Speaker 3: of the appointments was canceled the morning of, and as

491
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Speaker 3: I had second appointment to had ten and had already

492
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Speaker 3: said I couldn't make it to the dress up pickup,

493
00:21:39,560 --> 00:21:41,000
Speaker 3: I didn't try to squeeze it in. So it was

494
00:21:41,040 --> 00:21:43,439
Speaker 3: my friend and the other bridesmaids, so she was fine.

495
00:21:43,520 --> 00:21:45,719
Speaker 3: Two days after, my friend had messaged me saying that

496
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Speaker 3: because of my knee, pay up Sarga. Because of my knee,

497
00:21:53,080 --> 00:21:57,800
Speaker 3: I shouldn't be a bridesmaid anymore. But I could still

498
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Speaker 3: do everything else with the other bridesmaids, just not on

499
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Speaker 3: the big day.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean, John has n issues, but we don't say, hey,

501
00:22:03,840 --> 00:22:07,440
Speaker 4: don't be a host.

502
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Speaker 3: Should you know?

503
00:22:07,800 --> 00:22:11,160
Speaker 4: Honestly, this is giving me some ideas. Hey, your knee injury,

504
00:22:11,400 --> 00:22:12,080
Speaker 4: you can't be host.

505
00:22:12,160 --> 00:22:15,040
Speaker 3: Anyone say this broke my heart would be putting it mildly.

506
00:22:15,560 --> 00:22:19,560
Speaker 3: This conversation was over Facebook messenger, and when I responded

507
00:22:19,640 --> 00:22:22,320
Speaker 3: I told her that, as expected, I wasn't going to

508
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Speaker 3: be in the brace by the time of her wedding,

509
00:22:24,440 --> 00:22:26,480
Speaker 3: and I would really love to still be able to

510
00:22:26,480 --> 00:22:28,480
Speaker 3: be a part of it. I also had an overseas

511
00:22:28,480 --> 00:22:30,800
Speaker 3: trip two months into wearing the brace while I was

512
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Speaker 3: doing an excessive amount of walking for a week. I

513
00:22:33,040 --> 00:22:35,119
Speaker 3: explained that if I could do that trip, then any

514
00:22:35,320 --> 00:22:37,240
Speaker 3: walking and standing at her wedding wasn't going to be

515
00:22:37,320 --> 00:22:41,120
Speaker 3: a problem either. Yeah, hmmm, something's up.

516
00:22:41,240 --> 00:22:46,159
Speaker 4: Something's up, I think the Yeah, oh absolutely.

517
00:22:45,440 --> 00:22:47,800
Speaker 3: Op can't come to the wedding because she can't dance

518
00:22:47,840 --> 00:22:50,679
Speaker 3: her butt off, or like she can't do the party.

519
00:22:50,880 --> 00:22:53,840
Speaker 4: She can't she can't join the torque off, so you

520
00:22:53,960 --> 00:22:54,680
Speaker 4: have to get rid of her.

521
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Speaker 3: She insisted that she was thinking about me and that

522
00:22:57,720 --> 00:23:00,440
Speaker 3: me just being a guest would be the best. Say

523
00:23:00,480 --> 00:23:03,040
Speaker 3: that three times fast. That's a fun rhyme, doctor seuss.

524
00:23:03,080 --> 00:23:04,919
Speaker 3: It's her day, and I'm not going to fight to

525
00:23:04,960 --> 00:23:07,159
Speaker 3: be where I'm wanted and where I'm not wanted. So

526
00:23:07,200 --> 00:23:08,960
Speaker 3: I left it at that. I had already booked my

527
00:23:09,040 --> 00:23:12,040
Speaker 3: non refundable accommodation and other things, so I've decided to

528
00:23:12,080 --> 00:23:14,280
Speaker 3: still go to the wedding. Because I will regret not

529
00:23:14,400 --> 00:23:16,760
Speaker 3: being there, Plus a week away from work, I'm going

530
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Speaker 3: to enjoy a small holiday. I'm already out of the

531
00:23:19,080 --> 00:23:21,800
Speaker 3: brace and in no way hindered by the injury, and

532
00:23:21,920 --> 00:23:24,040
Speaker 3: don't even need to go back to see the specialist.

533
00:23:24,160 --> 00:23:25,800
Speaker 3: I do want to ask my friend what the real

534
00:23:25,880 --> 00:23:28,520
Speaker 3: reason is why she doesn't want me in her bridal party,

535
00:23:28,560 --> 00:23:30,280
Speaker 3: and I have two of my own theories, but I

536
00:23:30,280 --> 00:23:33,080
Speaker 3: won't ask anything until after the wedding and their honeymoon.

537
00:23:33,280 --> 00:23:35,280
Speaker 4: I think you should ask her a friend, why you're

538
00:23:35,280 --> 00:23:38,119
Speaker 4: not in. I don't ask a pee.

539
00:23:38,000 --> 00:23:39,680
Speaker 3: As I feel like you haven't, Like there's gotta be

540
00:23:39,720 --> 00:23:43,480
Speaker 3: at least one bridesmaid that you're like close with. Yeah, like,

541
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Speaker 3: is this the real reason? What would you do? Both

542
00:23:47,960 --> 00:23:50,560
Speaker 3: for the wedding and the friendship there is an update.

543
00:23:50,840 --> 00:23:54,040
Speaker 4: I would talk to her and be like, hey, I'm here,

544
00:23:54,840 --> 00:23:56,680
Speaker 4: Like the knee is it going to be an issue?

545
00:23:56,680 --> 00:23:57,600
Speaker 4: Because it's going to be out?

546
00:23:57,720 --> 00:24:00,080
Speaker 3: Are we like? Are we hiking? Like what's the party?

547
00:24:00,080 --> 00:24:02,000
Speaker 3: Are we hiking? Like you think my knees? Like my

548
00:24:02,080 --> 00:24:04,480
Speaker 3: kne's good? Like what John does?

549
00:24:04,480 --> 00:24:06,919
Speaker 4: Were you guys like yeah, dude, it's fine.

550
00:24:07,000 --> 00:24:11,159
Speaker 3: She's like show her that Update one for those asking

551
00:24:11,200 --> 00:24:13,399
Speaker 3: what happened at the at the Hens.

552
00:24:13,600 --> 00:24:15,919
Speaker 4: Oh, that's what they call the girls of Hens.

553
00:24:16,160 --> 00:24:19,159
Speaker 3: Up at the Hens. We had been planning the Hens

554
00:24:19,160 --> 00:24:21,440
Speaker 3: for one day and then a bridal party SPA day

555
00:24:21,480 --> 00:24:24,320
Speaker 3: the following day. In all the focus on the actual

556
00:24:24,359 --> 00:24:26,560
Speaker 3: Hens day, I forgot to book the SPA, realized the

557
00:24:26,600 --> 00:24:29,080
Speaker 3: week out and began looking at alternative spall locasions. The

558
00:24:29,160 --> 00:24:32,479
Speaker 3: other bridesmaid accused me of ruining the whole weekend and

559
00:24:32,560 --> 00:24:36,199
Speaker 3: her having to fix everything. Oh no, oh, I'm telling you,

560
00:24:36,320 --> 00:24:37,159
Speaker 3: it's that's what it is.

561
00:24:37,320 --> 00:24:38,560
Speaker 4: Well did she did she get framed?

562
00:24:39,040 --> 00:24:40,880
Speaker 3: No? I think it's just the they're like the friend

563
00:24:40,920 --> 00:24:43,560
Speaker 3: It's just like that one that one bridebay that they

564
00:24:43,560 --> 00:24:47,280
Speaker 3: were like not seeing eye to eye. She's like, she sucks,

565
00:24:47,320 --> 00:24:49,600
Speaker 3: she's ruining everything. This is yours. You want this to

566
00:24:49,600 --> 00:24:51,320
Speaker 3: be the best of the best. I was blunt with

567
00:24:51,359 --> 00:24:53,320
Speaker 3: her that I don't appreciate the way she was talking

568
00:24:53,359 --> 00:24:55,080
Speaker 3: with me, and I was aware that I had made

569
00:24:55,119 --> 00:24:57,399
Speaker 3: a mistake. The most important thing was that the bride

570
00:24:57,400 --> 00:24:59,840
Speaker 3: got her day with her friends to celebrate. The spat

571
00:25:00,240 --> 00:25:01,000
Speaker 3: was a bonus day.

572
00:25:01,160 --> 00:25:01,560
Speaker 4: Got it.

573
00:25:01,680 --> 00:25:05,280
Speaker 3: Update two. The wedding has now been and gone and

574
00:25:05,320 --> 00:25:09,000
Speaker 3: I have come away with more questions than answers. Oh,

575
00:25:09,119 --> 00:25:10,880
Speaker 3: I am glad that I went, even though I had

576
00:25:10,880 --> 00:25:13,359
Speaker 3: no idea what I could have walked into. I arrived

577
00:25:13,400 --> 00:25:15,119
Speaker 3: the day before the wedding and had booked it for

578
00:25:15,160 --> 00:25:17,800
Speaker 3: the spa package. The bride spotted me before I went

579
00:25:17,840 --> 00:25:20,159
Speaker 3: in and gave me a very enthusiastic greeting for a

580
00:25:20,160 --> 00:25:22,359
Speaker 3: couple of minutes before I went into the spa. What

581
00:25:22,440 --> 00:25:25,000
Speaker 3: was supposed to be relaxing ended up being less so

582
00:25:25,280 --> 00:25:28,359
Speaker 3: because I could slightly hear the two bridesmaids the bride

583
00:25:28,400 --> 00:25:30,720
Speaker 3: had left through the wall the spa room I was in.

584
00:25:31,320 --> 00:25:34,199
Speaker 3: TTT Well, I'm not a fan of eavesdropping. It was

585
00:25:34,240 --> 00:25:36,440
Speaker 3: difficult not to pick up some of what they were

586
00:25:36,440 --> 00:25:38,440
Speaker 3: saying and the tone in which they said it. So

587
00:25:38,520 --> 00:25:41,200
Speaker 3: that initially made me slightly regret attending, as it gave

588
00:25:41,240 --> 00:25:44,080
Speaker 3: me more gave it a little confirmation that some of

589
00:25:44,080 --> 00:25:48,119
Speaker 3: the events were influenced by them, their plotting. I'm calling this.

590
00:25:48,560 --> 00:25:50,920
Speaker 4: I feel like the bride's super rich and this is

591
00:25:50,960 --> 00:25:53,639
Speaker 4: part of like their friend group and they're like playing

592
00:25:53,680 --> 00:25:55,960
Speaker 4: politics so they can be in their status whatever.

593
00:25:55,960 --> 00:25:58,880
Speaker 3: It's like. Mean girls, Yeah, if we're like, we're nice enough,

594
00:25:58,920 --> 00:26:00,960
Speaker 3: we'll get what we want to like. Oh, maybe we

595
00:26:01,080 --> 00:26:03,760
Speaker 3: get like a fond dow found Like, yo, you want

596
00:26:03,760 --> 00:26:06,360
Speaker 3: a fond new found on? That sounds so fun. Regardless,

597
00:26:06,400 --> 00:26:09,040
Speaker 3: it's not their information I need. It is a conversation

598
00:26:09,119 --> 00:26:11,760
Speaker 3: with the bride, but the wedding weekend was not the

599
00:26:11,800 --> 00:26:13,600
Speaker 3: time or place for that. The day of the wedding,

600
00:26:13,640 --> 00:26:15,520
Speaker 3: I got my nails done in the morning because I

601
00:26:15,520 --> 00:26:17,560
Speaker 3: had nothing to do as the wedding was in the

602
00:26:17,640 --> 00:26:20,840
Speaker 3: late evening. While there, I spotted the bride's family arrive,

603
00:26:21,119 --> 00:26:23,000
Speaker 3: and I had hoped that her mom wouldn't spot me

604
00:26:23,119 --> 00:26:24,840
Speaker 3: because I didn't know if I could deal with that,

605
00:26:24,960 --> 00:26:27,199
Speaker 3: But of course she did. She did see me and

606
00:26:27,280 --> 00:26:29,600
Speaker 3: came over to talk with me. The bride's mom, let's

607
00:26:29,600 --> 00:26:31,840
Speaker 3: call her BM, showed me the same loving energy that

608
00:26:31,880 --> 00:26:33,840
Speaker 3: she always has. She asked me how I was, and

609
00:26:34,640 --> 00:26:37,040
Speaker 3: I was adamant that I was fine. Bride's mom then

610
00:26:37,080 --> 00:26:39,560
Speaker 3: started talking about the morning plans and how we could

611
00:26:39,600 --> 00:26:41,800
Speaker 3: catch up at the bridal party hair aportment, which then

612
00:26:41,840 --> 00:26:44,360
Speaker 3: I had to explain I wasn't going to be at

613
00:26:44,600 --> 00:26:48,600
Speaker 3: mm this bride's mom. Oh, bride's mom seemed confused at

614
00:26:48,640 --> 00:26:51,040
Speaker 3: this and stated she knew I wasn't the maid of honor,

615
00:26:51,280 --> 00:26:53,639
Speaker 3: but I was still a bridesmaid, and I clarified that

616
00:26:53,720 --> 00:26:55,639
Speaker 3: I wasn't and I was just a guest for the weekend.

617
00:26:55,680 --> 00:26:58,480
Speaker 3: Bride's mom was in disbelief and told me that both

618
00:26:58,600 --> 00:27:01,240
Speaker 3: she and the bride's dad were thoroughly confused by the

619
00:27:01,280 --> 00:27:04,639
Speaker 3: bride's choice me too. Bride's mom did ask if I

620
00:27:04,640 --> 00:27:06,959
Speaker 3: thought our friendship could return to what it was, and

621
00:27:07,040 --> 00:27:10,200
Speaker 3: honestly I said, I don't know. There are a lot

622
00:27:10,200 --> 00:27:12,119
Speaker 3: of questions to be answered before it can be anything

623
00:27:12,160 --> 00:27:14,639
Speaker 3: close to okay. Bride's mom then offered to back me

624
00:27:14,760 --> 00:27:16,359
Speaker 3: up when I do sit down with the bride at

625
00:27:16,359 --> 00:27:18,560
Speaker 3: a later date, which shocked me, but that is something

626
00:27:18,600 --> 00:27:20,440
Speaker 3: I would never take her up on because I don't

627
00:27:20,440 --> 00:27:24,080
Speaker 3: want to disrupt anything with their mom daughter relationship. That afternoon,

628
00:27:24,200 --> 00:27:26,719
Speaker 3: for the ceremony, I met a few other people. One person,

629
00:27:26,840 --> 00:27:30,600
Speaker 3: after introducing ourselves, then stated, oh, you were the maid

630
00:27:30,640 --> 00:27:32,919
Speaker 3: of honor. The brides had said you were in an

631
00:27:32,960 --> 00:27:35,560
Speaker 3: accident and were in a brace. This caught me off guard.

632
00:27:35,640 --> 00:27:37,880
Speaker 3: While I had no issues talking about how I had

633
00:27:37,920 --> 00:27:41,120
Speaker 3: injured myself, it was normally on my terms and when

634
00:27:41,200 --> 00:27:43,399
Speaker 3: I was in the brace, which was a visual trigger

635
00:27:43,400 --> 00:27:45,960
Speaker 3: for questions at the wedding, I was not in the brace,

636
00:27:46,160 --> 00:27:48,760
Speaker 3: had no indication of an injury, and had never met

637
00:27:48,760 --> 00:27:51,399
Speaker 3: this person before. So this gives me the impression that

638
00:27:51,400 --> 00:27:54,159
Speaker 3: the bride had told other guests something, but I don't

639
00:27:54,200 --> 00:27:58,440
Speaker 3: know exactly what or how much m The ceremony itself

640
00:27:58,640 --> 00:28:01,360
Speaker 3: was beautiful. After the ceremon the bride and group did

641
00:28:01,359 --> 00:28:03,480
Speaker 3: photos with the guests, during which the bride insisted on

642
00:28:03,520 --> 00:28:05,680
Speaker 3: getting a photo with me. The bridal party then went

643
00:28:05,720 --> 00:28:08,400
Speaker 3: off to do the official photos while guests moved over

644
00:28:08,440 --> 00:28:11,359
Speaker 3: to the reception area. I expected, given that it was

645
00:28:11,400 --> 00:28:14,040
Speaker 3: a reasonably late change, that I would be put onto

646
00:28:14,080 --> 00:28:16,639
Speaker 3: the odds table, you know, the singles or attendees that

647
00:28:16,680 --> 00:28:18,760
Speaker 3: are not a large enough group to be put onto

648
00:28:18,760 --> 00:28:22,000
Speaker 3: a single table. Nope. To one side of me was

649
00:28:22,040 --> 00:28:24,600
Speaker 3: the new Mative honors husband, and the other side was

650
00:28:24,640 --> 00:28:27,639
Speaker 3: the best man's partner. I don't know if they're married

651
00:28:27,720 --> 00:28:30,080
Speaker 3: long term, et cetera. So you were like in the

652
00:28:30,200 --> 00:28:33,560
Speaker 3: VIP pretty much, Yeah, these are VIP people.

653
00:28:33,640 --> 00:28:34,680
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, which.

654
00:28:34,800 --> 00:28:37,040
Speaker 3: You're a VIP then, yeah.

655
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Speaker 4: You were? You were, I mean, she was supposed to

656
00:28:38,840 --> 00:28:41,840
Speaker 4: be I want answers. Yeah, me too.

657
00:28:42,200 --> 00:28:44,880
Speaker 3: No, he's like, I have more questions, questions answers now.

658
00:28:45,000 --> 00:28:45,720
Speaker 4: Yeah.

659
00:28:45,760 --> 00:28:49,200
Speaker 3: After realizing this detail, the free booze was even more enticing.

660
00:28:49,800 --> 00:28:52,160
Speaker 3: The reception was well done. The standard events occurred for

661
00:28:52,160 --> 00:28:55,160
Speaker 3: a stance made of honor speech, best man's speech, k cutting,

662
00:28:55,360 --> 00:28:57,080
Speaker 3: and then the bride and group said a few words

663
00:28:57,080 --> 00:28:59,000
Speaker 3: to everyone. At this point I was okay with being

664
00:28:59,040 --> 00:29:01,080
Speaker 3: angry at my friend, happy for both of them, but

665
00:29:01,120 --> 00:29:03,640
Speaker 3: still angry at everything that had occurred between her and I.

666
00:29:03,920 --> 00:29:07,600
Speaker 3: Then during their speech to everyone, she thanked me by name,

667
00:29:07,680 --> 00:29:09,280
Speaker 3: and as far as I can remember, I was the

668
00:29:09,280 --> 00:29:10,600
Speaker 3: only person she thanked by name.

669
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Speaker 4: Do you think she feels bad for kicking her out

670
00:29:12,480 --> 00:29:14,080
Speaker 4: of the bridesmaids?

671
00:29:14,520 --> 00:29:16,760
Speaker 3: You guys have been friends for so damn long. Yeah,

672
00:29:16,800 --> 00:29:18,160
Speaker 3: but I'm still so confused.

673
00:29:18,200 --> 00:29:20,160
Speaker 4: Why why you're not the maid of honor? I understand

674
00:29:20,160 --> 00:29:21,680
Speaker 4: that you were so weird.

675
00:29:21,800 --> 00:29:24,000
Speaker 3: So now instead of just being angry at how she

676
00:29:24,120 --> 00:29:26,840
Speaker 3: handled this all, I am mighty confused because if I

677
00:29:26,880 --> 00:29:29,240
Speaker 3: had really stuffed up, fine, tell me what I did

678
00:29:29,480 --> 00:29:31,440
Speaker 3: and we can move forward, or the friendship can end,

679
00:29:31,560 --> 00:29:33,720
Speaker 3: and that's fine. But if I had stuffed up, why

680
00:29:33,840 --> 00:29:38,080
Speaker 3: was she thinking me Eh. Later the bride came around

681
00:29:38,080 --> 00:29:39,760
Speaker 3: and had a short chat with me. It was a

682
00:29:39,840 --> 00:29:41,920
Speaker 3: very generic chat, and I was honest about it being

683
00:29:41,920 --> 00:29:44,200
Speaker 3: a beautiful wedding and that I was happy for them both.

684
00:29:44,280 --> 00:29:46,440
Speaker 3: We hugged. Then she wanted us to get a couple

685
00:29:46,440 --> 00:29:48,440
Speaker 3: of fun photos together, which we did. I didn't stay

686
00:29:48,560 --> 00:29:50,960
Speaker 3: until the end of the reception. I'm in part because

687
00:29:50,960 --> 00:29:52,760
Speaker 3: I was a little amped up about how the day

688
00:29:52,760 --> 00:29:55,000
Speaker 3: had gone for me in terms of being caught off guard,

689
00:29:55,160 --> 00:29:57,880
Speaker 3: et cetera, but also because I was getting wasted and

690
00:29:57,920 --> 00:29:59,800
Speaker 3: didn't want to do anything I would regret. So after

691
00:29:59,840 --> 00:30:03,000
Speaker 3: a hours I decided to depart. But you know what,

692
00:30:03,680 --> 00:30:07,400
Speaker 3: never depart us live because we're live every weekday at

693
00:30:07,400 --> 00:30:09,920
Speaker 3: three pm PSD on YouTube. Just tap our profile.

694
00:30:10,040 --> 00:30:11,760
Speaker 4: I think she is giving off snake.

695
00:30:12,640 --> 00:30:15,200
Speaker 3: It's it's very snaky because it's like one moment like

696
00:30:15,240 --> 00:30:19,800
Speaker 3: you can't like sorry, you can't come, but in everything

697
00:30:19,800 --> 00:30:23,880
Speaker 3: else like I love op, like op Op's my number.

698
00:30:23,720 --> 00:30:26,320
Speaker 4: One, and she's only saying I love you to that person. Also,

699
00:30:27,120 --> 00:30:31,120
Speaker 4: remember at the SPA, she was like all like yeah.

700
00:30:30,800 --> 00:30:32,600
Speaker 3: I mean I think she I think she's just giddy

701
00:30:32,600 --> 00:30:33,320
Speaker 3: because it's her wedding.

702
00:30:33,400 --> 00:30:34,960
Speaker 4: I think she's just well, Like at the spa day,

703
00:30:35,040 --> 00:30:36,280
Speaker 4: she was like, oh, Opie and they had like a

704
00:30:36,360 --> 00:30:37,840
Speaker 4: nice little checked.

705
00:30:37,560 --> 00:30:40,640
Speaker 3: Again, there's just more more questions than answers that I'm

706
00:30:40,640 --> 00:30:43,600
Speaker 3: going because no one like she didn't replace Ope with

707
00:30:43,640 --> 00:30:46,680
Speaker 3: another bridesmaid, like, oh, she's like this new bridesmaid, She's

708
00:30:47,080 --> 00:30:49,760
Speaker 3: she's the best. If that was said, then I would like, Okay,

709
00:30:49,800 --> 00:30:52,360
Speaker 3: she replaced, she got replaced, but there was no replacement.

710
00:30:52,680 --> 00:30:54,840
Speaker 3: I did see the bride and groom again the morning

711
00:30:54,880 --> 00:30:57,640
Speaker 3: after as they said farewell to people, and my friend

712
00:30:57,680 --> 00:31:00,640
Speaker 3: was insisting that we needed to catch up properly after honeymoon.

713
00:31:00,640 --> 00:31:02,440
Speaker 3: Now it's a waiting game for her to reach out

714
00:31:02,480 --> 00:31:04,760
Speaker 3: once the honeymoon is over. I have no idea of

715
00:31:04,800 --> 00:31:07,120
Speaker 3: their dates. I'll update again once we have spoken to

716
00:31:07,160 --> 00:31:08,880
Speaker 3: close out the loop of her side of the story,

717
00:31:09,160 --> 00:31:11,760
Speaker 3: or at least what she tells me. And that is

718
00:31:11,800 --> 00:31:14,600
Speaker 3: the end of the story. Hey, it's Sam, your og host. Here.

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721
00:31:18,640 --> 00:31:22,160
Speaker 2: My boyfriend's sister is trying to control my boyfriend's life.

722
00:31:22,320 --> 00:31:23,520
Speaker 1: She's obsessed with him.

723
00:31:23,600 --> 00:31:24,760
Speaker 3: I would be assessed with them too.

724
00:31:24,880 --> 00:31:27,400
Speaker 2: Get your own boyfriend. My boyfriend and I have been

725
00:31:27,440 --> 00:31:30,480
Speaker 2: living together eight months. My boyfriend works for the sister's

726
00:31:30,560 --> 00:31:34,000
Speaker 2: husband's company. He has been diagnosed with bipolar and schizophrenia.

727
00:31:34,160 --> 00:31:36,760
Speaker 2: Sister insists on the meds, but the meds have very

728
00:31:36,800 --> 00:31:38,960
Speaker 2: negative side effects on him. I have gotten him to

729
00:31:39,000 --> 00:31:42,360
Speaker 2: start talking about things, especially when he feels overwhelmed and

730
00:31:42,400 --> 00:31:44,720
Speaker 2: the emotions are hard to handle. I'm trying to teach

731
00:31:44,800 --> 00:31:47,240
Speaker 2: him to control the emotions, how to learn that myself.

732
00:31:47,400 --> 00:31:50,080
Speaker 2: This does mean with the control in place and knowing

733
00:31:50,120 --> 00:31:53,800
Speaker 2: the triggers, one is less erratic and impulsive. No meds required.

734
00:31:53,920 --> 00:31:57,680
Speaker 2: It's more of a process of behavior modification than a medicated,

735
00:31:57,760 --> 00:32:00,360
Speaker 2: termed medical condition. By the way, this comes from no

736
00:32:00,400 --> 00:32:03,160
Speaker 2: combination five to three on the OK storytime supparate. So

737
00:32:03,360 --> 00:32:06,719
Speaker 2: the sister will bring fruit or tupperware or food and

738
00:32:06,800 --> 00:32:09,080
Speaker 2: will emphasize that it is for him. She will make

739
00:32:09,120 --> 00:32:11,520
Speaker 2: comments about his past, telling him that he should have

740
00:32:11,520 --> 00:32:14,480
Speaker 2: married one of his ex girlfriends, the same ex girlfriend

741
00:32:14,720 --> 00:32:17,040
Speaker 2: who used to send his fifteen year old son to

742
00:32:17,120 --> 00:32:21,000
Speaker 2: buy her substances without caring that he could have been

743
00:32:21,040 --> 00:32:25,120
Speaker 2: caught with dealer quantity ew yikes. She is also planning

744
00:32:25,160 --> 00:32:27,280
Speaker 2: to visit this ex girlfriend, which was not on the

745
00:32:27,280 --> 00:32:30,080
Speaker 2: cars before we met. Because I am more straight laced

746
00:32:30,120 --> 00:32:33,080
Speaker 2: and responsible. When they all are on outing and drinking,

747
00:32:33,160 --> 00:32:35,040
Speaker 2: I will remain sober so that I can drive home.

748
00:32:35,080 --> 00:32:37,160
Speaker 2: He needs to replace his ID card, which they have

749
00:32:37,400 --> 00:32:39,600
Speaker 2: for the last two months not given him time off

750
00:32:39,600 --> 00:32:42,080
Speaker 2: to do so. I wanted to register him online with

751
00:32:42,120 --> 00:32:44,920
Speaker 2: the home affairs to make an appointment and found that

752
00:32:45,000 --> 00:32:47,080
Speaker 2: he was already registered. I asked her if she had

753
00:32:47,120 --> 00:32:49,600
Speaker 2: registered him so I could get the access passwords, but

754
00:32:49,640 --> 00:32:51,440
Speaker 2: she says that she didn't. Then I was met with

755
00:32:51,480 --> 00:32:55,080
Speaker 2: the Spanish inquisition of why I wanted to register him

756
00:32:55,120 --> 00:32:55,400
Speaker 2: for what?

757
00:32:55,760 --> 00:32:58,120
Speaker 3: I love that term, the Spanish inquisition.

758
00:32:58,440 --> 00:33:00,520
Speaker 2: Then she sent her husband down to the flat to

759
00:33:00,560 --> 00:33:05,040
Speaker 2: further the inquisition of why, what where? The same thing

760
00:33:05,160 --> 00:33:07,920
Speaker 2: happened with getting new glasses for him. We discussed when

761
00:33:07,960 --> 00:33:10,480
Speaker 2: to make the appointment and decided to wait for the specials.

762
00:33:10,560 --> 00:33:13,000
Speaker 2: She then went and made an appointment without asking and

763
00:33:13,240 --> 00:33:15,880
Speaker 2: just informed. She went with to choose the frames and

764
00:33:15,920 --> 00:33:19,640
Speaker 2: make all the arrangements, et cetera, et cetera. Every time

765
00:33:19,720 --> 00:33:22,160
Speaker 2: I try to do something to sort out his paperwork

766
00:33:22,280 --> 00:33:23,200
Speaker 2: or his life, I.

767
00:33:23,160 --> 00:33:24,240
Speaker 1: Am met with animosity.

768
00:33:24,360 --> 00:33:26,360
Speaker 2: I am told that she's a very nice person and

769
00:33:26,400 --> 00:33:28,800
Speaker 2: a real do gutter, But my intuition is screaming that

770
00:33:28,880 --> 00:33:32,720
Speaker 2: she's controlling, making him reliant and dependent on her. And

771
00:33:32,720 --> 00:33:35,000
Speaker 2: it is clear she likes the hero complex that she

772
00:33:35,120 --> 00:33:37,800
Speaker 2: does everything for him to make life easier for him.

773
00:33:37,880 --> 00:33:40,400
Speaker 2: Pausing really quick, I think, especially when you have a

774
00:33:40,720 --> 00:33:43,440
Speaker 2: person who has like a lot of mental health, like

775
00:33:43,560 --> 00:33:45,240
Speaker 2: you know, he's got a.

776
00:33:45,160 --> 00:33:48,600
Speaker 1: Schizophrenia, stood out like a sore thum the yeah.

777
00:33:48,640 --> 00:33:52,800
Speaker 2: I think that sometimes you have family members who over

778
00:33:53,160 --> 00:33:57,040
Speaker 2: infantilize that you know person and treat them like their

779
00:33:57,640 --> 00:33:59,600
Speaker 2: glass and they have to be taken care of and

780
00:33:59,600 --> 00:34:01,920
Speaker 2: control and stuff. And I feel like that's the situation

781
00:34:02,000 --> 00:34:04,080
Speaker 2: that's happening here where she's like, oh, well, he can't

782
00:34:04,120 --> 00:34:05,760
Speaker 2: do anything, so I have to do everything for him.

783
00:34:05,840 --> 00:34:08,640
Speaker 2: She tries to buy me over with expensive clothes, but

784
00:34:08,719 --> 00:34:10,960
Speaker 2: I told her that I'm not a charity case. She

785
00:34:11,000 --> 00:34:13,160
Speaker 2: has told me what color to dye my hair and

786
00:34:13,200 --> 00:34:15,319
Speaker 2: what haircut I should have, so she was met with

787
00:34:15,480 --> 00:34:18,640
Speaker 2: fierce iron will, not wanting to be controlled, and I

788
00:34:18,760 --> 00:34:21,160
Speaker 2: told her that I am comfortable in my own skin

789
00:34:21,400 --> 00:34:23,560
Speaker 2: and like who I am and what I look like

790
00:34:23,680 --> 00:34:26,200
Speaker 2: and making me pretty is fake and pretentious. This is

791
00:34:26,320 --> 00:34:28,640
Speaker 2: honestly how I feel. Besides the fact that I am

792
00:34:28,680 --> 00:34:31,480
Speaker 2: sensitive to most cosmetics that either make me burn or itch.

793
00:34:32,000 --> 00:34:34,719
Speaker 2: All these things get pushed on me without asking my

794
00:34:34,840 --> 00:34:37,279
Speaker 2: thoughts and feelings. I cannot shake the feeling that I

795
00:34:37,320 --> 00:34:40,200
Speaker 2: cannot trust her or her husband, or her son and

796
00:34:40,320 --> 00:34:43,319
Speaker 2: daughter in law, or the daughter in law's parents. I

797
00:34:43,360 --> 00:34:46,360
Speaker 2: feel physically ill most days from bad vibes from the

798
00:34:46,400 --> 00:34:48,799
Speaker 2: people around me. They tell a lot of lies and

799
00:34:48,920 --> 00:34:51,520
Speaker 2: think I'm stupid because I don't say anything. They will

800
00:34:51,560 --> 00:34:53,759
Speaker 2: invite us along to an event, knowing we do not

801
00:34:53,880 --> 00:34:56,440
Speaker 2: have the funds, then say it's a company function. I

802
00:34:56,480 --> 00:34:59,640
Speaker 2: take offense silently because we are not their charity case.

803
00:35:00,040 --> 00:35:03,440
Speaker 2: I'm excluded from conversations as they are mainly about business

804
00:35:03,480 --> 00:35:06,160
Speaker 2: and their past, which means that I cannot contribute to

805
00:35:06,200 --> 00:35:09,040
Speaker 2: their conversation. When future plans are discussed, it is only

806
00:35:09,120 --> 00:35:11,440
Speaker 2: what they think we should do, without asking what we

807
00:35:11,480 --> 00:35:13,239
Speaker 2: would like to do. We have to whisper in our

808
00:35:13,239 --> 00:35:16,920
Speaker 2: flat because our conversations are reported and twisted. If we

809
00:35:16,960 --> 00:35:20,080
Speaker 2: speak too loud, we're reported for fighting and obviously addressed

810
00:35:20,120 --> 00:35:22,319
Speaker 2: like children for that I avoid them now as much

811
00:35:22,320 --> 00:35:25,040
Speaker 2: as possible and keep my front door closed even when

812
00:35:25,080 --> 00:35:28,040
Speaker 2: it's hot. Otherwise, everyone is constantly looking into her flat

813
00:35:28,120 --> 00:35:30,000
Speaker 2: and discuss what I may or may not be doing

814
00:35:30,040 --> 00:35:32,920
Speaker 2: according to their liking, I e. Like not washing dishes

815
00:35:33,040 --> 00:35:35,439
Speaker 2: or mopping floors at the crack of dawn. I feel

816
00:35:35,440 --> 00:35:37,239
Speaker 2: like I have to give them a report card on

817
00:35:37,360 --> 00:35:40,120
Speaker 2: everything I do all the time, almost like I need

818
00:35:40,160 --> 00:35:42,960
Speaker 2: the approval for anything I slash we do. I mean,

819
00:35:42,960 --> 00:35:45,200
Speaker 2: that's what they want. They want full control.

820
00:35:44,840 --> 00:35:45,600
Speaker 1: Over your life.

821
00:35:45,719 --> 00:35:50,280
Speaker 3: They want every little set boundaries, little nitty gritty detail, which.

822
00:35:50,080 --> 00:35:52,440
Speaker 1: Is really, really, really scary.

823
00:35:52,640 --> 00:35:54,560
Speaker 2: I have said that I want to move from the

824
00:35:54,600 --> 00:35:56,960
Speaker 2: air because I cannot live with them looking over my

825
00:35:57,040 --> 00:35:59,279
Speaker 2: shoulder all the time. The sister told me that I

826
00:35:59,280 --> 00:36:01,840
Speaker 2: will never be a to move because of his medical condition,

827
00:36:02,040 --> 00:36:04,240
Speaker 2: and I will need her help dealing with my boyfriend.

828
00:36:04,320 --> 00:36:05,960
Speaker 2: She's trying to like make you rely on on her.

829
00:36:06,000 --> 00:36:08,319
Speaker 2: She's trying to convince you that you moving away is

830
00:36:08,360 --> 00:36:10,919
Speaker 2: the worst decision for him and like gaslight you into

831
00:36:11,000 --> 00:36:11,760
Speaker 2: keeping her around.

832
00:36:11,920 --> 00:36:14,720
Speaker 1: Who is this witch, evil, evil lady?

833
00:36:14,960 --> 00:36:16,759
Speaker 2: She does not know that he has not been drinking

834
00:36:16,840 --> 00:36:19,040
Speaker 2: the meds for months, but will comment on how happy

835
00:36:19,080 --> 00:36:21,400
Speaker 2: he is and how he whistles and sings and is

836
00:36:21,400 --> 00:36:23,879
Speaker 2: his old self again. I have also managed to calm

837
00:36:23,920 --> 00:36:26,480
Speaker 2: his drinking habit down, so he's sober more often than not.

838
00:36:26,719 --> 00:36:29,240
Speaker 2: He no longer phones his sister when he has a meltdown.

839
00:36:29,520 --> 00:36:30,120
Speaker 1: He phones me.

840
00:36:30,280 --> 00:36:32,600
Speaker 2: I do not discuss these conversations with her, so she

841
00:36:32,640 --> 00:36:35,480
Speaker 2: has no idea where he is at mentally or emotionally.

842
00:36:35,520 --> 00:36:38,120
Speaker 2: The other issue is they complain about his drinking habit,

843
00:36:38,280 --> 00:36:40,680
Speaker 2: but will constantly encourage him to drink.

844
00:36:40,960 --> 00:36:44,320
Speaker 3: It's like, don't take the meds, yeah, don't drink, but drink.

845
00:36:44,520 --> 00:36:44,759
Speaker 4: Yeah.

846
00:36:44,840 --> 00:36:47,040
Speaker 2: There is other messy stuff from twenty five years ago

847
00:36:47,080 --> 00:36:49,600
Speaker 2: when they stole his business from him with a mountain

848
00:36:49,600 --> 00:36:52,160
Speaker 2: of lies. He did not know much how things worked

849
00:36:52,200 --> 00:36:55,320
Speaker 2: and trusted them. They knowing that he never completed to schooling,

850
00:36:55,480 --> 00:36:58,080
Speaker 2: knew that he did not know how registration of companies work,

851
00:36:58,200 --> 00:37:00,480
Speaker 2: and lied. They also lied about paying out his share

852
00:37:00,520 --> 00:37:02,279
Speaker 2: of the business when he left when he caught them

853
00:37:02,320 --> 00:37:05,160
Speaker 2: stealing from the company. His drinking means that he never

854
00:37:05,200 --> 00:37:07,520
Speaker 2: will think clearly enough to take them on, and will

855
00:37:07,520 --> 00:37:09,720
Speaker 2: only see the good they are doing for him, thinking

856
00:37:09,760 --> 00:37:12,320
Speaker 2: that they have his best interests at heart in their company.

857
00:37:12,320 --> 00:37:15,239
Speaker 2: They treat them like he's stupid and a lackey. Knowing

858
00:37:15,280 --> 00:37:17,839
Speaker 2: his loyalty to them, he won't complain. But he is

859
00:37:17,880 --> 00:37:20,759
Speaker 2: complaining because they pay him a poor salary while the

860
00:37:20,800 --> 00:37:23,400
Speaker 2: other employees earn more than triple what he earns, and

861
00:37:23,440 --> 00:37:26,160
Speaker 2: he does all their work. The employees refuse to do

862
00:37:26,360 --> 00:37:29,239
Speaker 2: the dangerous work and ammonia plants that they are qualified

863
00:37:29,239 --> 00:37:31,759
Speaker 2: to do because they would rather risk his life than

864
00:37:31,760 --> 00:37:34,400
Speaker 2: their own. All this is brushed off when something is

865
00:37:34,440 --> 00:37:35,800
Speaker 2: set and we would never.

866
00:37:35,680 --> 00:37:36,359
Speaker 3: Brush you off.

867
00:37:36,400 --> 00:37:38,520
Speaker 2: If you join us live every weekday at three pmpst

868
00:37:38,640 --> 00:37:40,799
Speaker 2: on YouTube just to have a profile, it seems like

869
00:37:40,840 --> 00:37:43,879
Speaker 2: these people are going to continue to control, gusting your

870
00:37:44,040 --> 00:37:45,080
Speaker 2: and your partner's life.

871
00:37:45,160 --> 00:37:48,360
Speaker 3: They are disgusting, nasty people who just take advantage of

872
00:37:48,360 --> 00:37:50,880
Speaker 3: it anyone. They seem like like a leech.

873
00:37:51,239 --> 00:37:55,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, their leeches, and they're convinced they're convincing you that

874
00:37:55,840 --> 00:37:58,880
Speaker 2: they're sucking out the bad blood, but they're just taking

875
00:37:58,920 --> 00:37:59,960
Speaker 2: out necessary blood.

876
00:38:00,080 --> 00:38:03,000
Speaker 3: I don't know why they're being kept around now. It

877
00:38:03,000 --> 00:38:04,560
Speaker 3: seems like now I know why, it's.

878
00:38:04,440 --> 00:38:06,839
Speaker 2: Because he feels guilty. He feels like he owes them

879
00:38:06,880 --> 00:38:10,759
Speaker 2: something and he's like no, no, no, I have taken you.

880
00:38:11,160 --> 00:38:13,440
Speaker 2: They're taking advantage of yours, sucking you dry.

881
00:38:13,560 --> 00:38:13,799
Speaker 3: Yeah.

882
00:38:13,880 --> 00:38:16,720
Speaker 2: I think you just to keep having conversation with them. Yeah,

883
00:38:16,760 --> 00:38:19,080
Speaker 2: and I mean, you know, watch out for your own

884
00:38:19,120 --> 00:38:20,480
Speaker 2: mental because.

885
00:38:20,320 --> 00:38:23,400
Speaker 3: If they can do that to yeah, like doing it

886
00:38:23,400 --> 00:38:25,360
Speaker 3: to you, which I mean already trying to control.

887
00:38:25,200 --> 00:38:25,880
Speaker 1: You to do it to you.

888
00:38:26,280 --> 00:38:28,960
Speaker 2: So and it's like, obviously you want to protect your partner,

889
00:38:29,000 --> 00:38:31,480
Speaker 2: but you know, make sure that you are also protecting yourself.

890
00:38:31,280 --> 00:38:32,680
Speaker 3: If then they stay with this. So did you talk

891
00:38:32,719 --> 00:38:36,360
Speaker 3: to your partner about this? And they say, what's the point.

892
00:38:36,440 --> 00:38:36,680
Speaker 1: Yeah.

893
00:38:36,760 --> 00:38:38,960
Speaker 2: I feel like her POV is that I'm only to

894
00:38:39,040 --> 00:38:41,840
Speaker 2: keep him company, have a few laughs and spicy sleep,

895
00:38:41,960 --> 00:38:43,839
Speaker 2: but I may not be more involved in his life

896
00:38:43,880 --> 00:38:46,000
Speaker 2: because that is her domain. She has said to me,

897
00:38:46,280 --> 00:38:48,680
Speaker 2: I know he is my brother, but he's very attractive.

898
00:38:48,800 --> 00:38:48,880
Speaker 5: You.

899
00:38:49,320 --> 00:38:51,359
Speaker 2: Oh, the neighbor's wife, mother of the daughter in law.

900
00:38:51,400 --> 00:38:54,040
Speaker 2: They're slowly trying to transform into what he likes in

901
00:38:54,080 --> 00:38:56,840
Speaker 2: a woman doing her hair, clothes, et cetera. The neighbor

902
00:38:56,880 --> 00:38:58,440
Speaker 2: and his wife are not happy together.

903
00:38:58,680 --> 00:38:59,360
Speaker 1: He's abusive.

904
00:38:59,600 --> 00:39:01,600
Speaker 2: I did tell them that he or them need to

905
00:39:01,640 --> 00:39:04,359
Speaker 2: tell me where I stand in this relationship, and that

906
00:39:04,560 --> 00:39:05,880
Speaker 2: is the end of that story.

907
00:39:06,080 --> 00:39:09,080
Speaker 3: That was a very iky ikey story. Yeah.

908
00:39:09,120 --> 00:39:11,080
Speaker 1: I really hope that they get out of this situation.

909
00:39:11,560 --> 00:39:12,680
Speaker 1: Like I said, it's so tough.

910
00:39:12,760 --> 00:39:15,440
Speaker 3: I think OP is trying their best to get them

911
00:39:15,440 --> 00:39:16,680
Speaker 3: out of the situation, but it's.

912
00:39:16,520 --> 00:39:20,640
Speaker 2: Hard when someone's like so convinced that their sibling is

913
00:39:20,640 --> 00:39:21,440
Speaker 2: trying to help them.

914
00:39:21,520 --> 00:39:24,200
Speaker 3: This is all gross and ikey. I would get out

915
00:39:24,200 --> 00:39:26,760
Speaker 3: of it. I would. It doesn't seem like they understand,

916
00:39:26,760 --> 00:39:29,000
Speaker 3: and they will understand, and there's just too much gross

917
00:39:29,040 --> 00:39:31,520
Speaker 3: things going on in the background that I wouldn't stand

918
00:39:31,560 --> 00:39:31,759
Speaker 3: for it.

919
00:39:31,840 --> 00:39:34,480
Speaker 2: No, absolutely not. That is the end of that story.

920
00:39:34,640 --> 00:39:36,160
Speaker 2: So we'll see you next time.

921
00:39:36,280 --> 00:39:41,440
Speaker 3: To my sister destroyed my plant, so I banned her

922
00:39:41,480 --> 00:39:42,200
Speaker 3: from my house.

923
00:39:42,520 --> 00:39:45,600
Speaker 2: That plant was important to you, and don't let your

924
00:39:45,640 --> 00:39:46,680
Speaker 2: sister get.

925
00:39:46,560 --> 00:39:47,040
Speaker 1: Away with that.

926
00:39:47,239 --> 00:39:50,040
Speaker 3: How dare you? Me twenty six female and my husband

927
00:39:50,040 --> 00:39:53,360
Speaker 3: twenty seven male, have a daughter, six female, who we

928
00:39:53,400 --> 00:39:56,360
Speaker 3: have recently been trying to teach more responsibility to. We

929
00:39:56,480 --> 00:39:59,280
Speaker 3: decided we didn't want to get a pet, even a goldfish,

930
00:39:59,320 --> 00:40:02,680
Speaker 3: because it was unf if it unlived, and after some thinking,

931
00:40:02,680 --> 00:40:05,000
Speaker 3: we brought up the idea to have my daughter of

932
00:40:05,040 --> 00:40:05,880
Speaker 3: growing her own plant.

933
00:40:06,000 --> 00:40:08,480
Speaker 2: That's smart, honest, Like, you're still having to take care

934
00:40:08,480 --> 00:40:11,000
Speaker 2: of something good responsibility and it needs a lot of

935
00:40:11,120 --> 00:40:13,239
Speaker 2: work and effort put in. But also, you know, it's

936
00:40:13,280 --> 00:40:13,879
Speaker 2: not the end of the world.

937
00:40:13,920 --> 00:40:16,200
Speaker 3: You could teach him about photosynthesis and be.

938
00:40:16,280 --> 00:40:19,040
Speaker 1: Agreed some Yeah, yeah, that's cute.

939
00:40:19,160 --> 00:40:20,400
Speaker 3: That's a good idea. I think I'll do that.

940
00:40:20,520 --> 00:40:22,480
Speaker 1: Like, yeah, I had a lot of gold I had

941
00:40:22,520 --> 00:40:23,680
Speaker 1: a couple goldfish and they all died.

942
00:40:23,840 --> 00:40:26,520
Speaker 3: My daughter was thrilled with the idea, so the next

943
00:40:26,600 --> 00:40:28,799
Speaker 3: day we took her to get some seeds. By the way,

944
00:40:28,840 --> 00:40:31,520
Speaker 3: this counsome user throw away twenty nine one oh five

945
00:40:31,719 --> 00:40:33,960
Speaker 3: on the r slash Okay storytime separate it. She chose

946
00:40:34,000 --> 00:40:36,520
Speaker 3: sweet pea seeds and took to caring for her plant

947
00:40:36,560 --> 00:40:39,279
Speaker 3: better than we expected. It grew really quickly and was

948
00:40:39,320 --> 00:40:42,120
Speaker 3: thriving quite well considering the tools she had, and soon

949
00:40:42,160 --> 00:40:44,719
Speaker 3: she was showing a strong interest in gardening. Like I

950
00:40:44,760 --> 00:40:48,319
Speaker 3: said it, get that green nice. We started calling her

951
00:40:48,360 --> 00:40:52,360
Speaker 3: sweet Pea ah important later because of her project, and

952
00:40:52,440 --> 00:40:55,160
Speaker 3: every day she tells us of the news with her plants. Recently,

953
00:40:55,160 --> 00:40:57,480
Speaker 3: I got the news that my grandmother had passed away

954
00:40:57,600 --> 00:40:59,120
Speaker 3: and we had to fly out to her funeral.

955
00:40:59,160 --> 00:40:59,920
Speaker 1: I'm sorry to hear that.

956
00:41:00,280 --> 00:41:03,880
Speaker 3: Mary. Sorry. My sister twenty two female, never talked to

957
00:41:03,920 --> 00:41:06,279
Speaker 3: her and didn't want to attend the funeral. So I

958
00:41:06,360 --> 00:41:08,840
Speaker 3: decided to ask her to look after my daughter's plant

959
00:41:09,000 --> 00:41:11,120
Speaker 3: while we were out for the week. She agreed, and

960
00:41:11,160 --> 00:41:13,440
Speaker 3: we brought the plant over. My daughter kissed it goodbye

961
00:41:13,480 --> 00:41:15,319
Speaker 3: and asked her to please take good care of it.

962
00:41:15,440 --> 00:41:17,879
Speaker 3: Could you imagine a six year old please take good

963
00:41:17,920 --> 00:41:21,479
Speaker 3: care of plant, Please take good quail my plant terrified? Yeah,

964
00:41:22,920 --> 00:41:25,080
Speaker 3: kiss goodbye. Oh my god. She put it so sad.

965
00:41:25,239 --> 00:41:28,959
Speaker 3: She doing so much work into this. My sister said

966
00:41:29,000 --> 00:41:32,160
Speaker 3: she would, and I thought everything was fine until we

967
00:41:32,239 --> 00:41:34,680
Speaker 3: got back. When I went to get the plant, my

968
00:41:34,760 --> 00:41:39,840
Speaker 3: sister said, oh yeah, I completely forgot about that and laughed.

969
00:41:39,960 --> 00:41:40,640
Speaker 1: I hate you.

970
00:41:40,640 --> 00:41:43,240
Speaker 3: You literally saw a six year old son kiss it goodbye.

971
00:41:43,360 --> 00:41:44,399
Speaker 1: I'm throwing you in the sun.

972
00:41:45,000 --> 00:41:47,640
Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, so you learned about photosynthesis.

973
00:41:47,680 --> 00:41:48,719
Speaker 1: I hate you.

974
00:41:48,719 --> 00:41:51,320
Speaker 3: You literally saw a six year old kiss it goodbye,

975
00:41:50,920 --> 00:41:52,799
Speaker 3: and then you had it.

976
00:41:52,840 --> 00:41:54,960
Speaker 2: Wasn't even like, oh my god, I forgot it was,

977
00:41:55,280 --> 00:41:57,200
Speaker 2: oh my god, I forgot about.

978
00:41:58,160 --> 00:41:59,959
Speaker 3: Like, it's a plant, right, we can get a new one.

979
00:42:00,080 --> 00:42:00,680
Speaker 1: You're done.

980
00:42:01,320 --> 00:42:03,840
Speaker 3: She brought the pot out and the stem was somehow

981
00:42:03,880 --> 00:42:08,120
Speaker 3: snapped and it was wilted. My daughter ran crying to

982
00:42:08,200 --> 00:42:10,920
Speaker 3: the car and I yelled at her for forgetting it

983
00:42:10,960 --> 00:42:13,640
Speaker 3: and being irresponsible. She said I could just buy her

984
00:42:13,680 --> 00:42:16,400
Speaker 3: another one, but I said that wasn't the point, and

985
00:42:16,440 --> 00:42:17,000
Speaker 3: we left.

986
00:42:17,160 --> 00:42:18,919
Speaker 1: I literally hate this person so much.

987
00:42:19,040 --> 00:42:21,600
Speaker 3: She hasn't apologized. Since you're a monster.

988
00:42:21,760 --> 00:42:22,640
Speaker 1: You're literally a monster.

989
00:42:22,800 --> 00:42:25,360
Speaker 3: I'm never seeing you again. I've since been no contact

990
00:42:25,400 --> 00:42:27,480
Speaker 3: with her and refused to let her visit. She's done

991
00:42:27,560 --> 00:42:29,879
Speaker 3: other stuff like this in the past because she likes

992
00:42:29,920 --> 00:42:32,719
Speaker 3: to act as if she's eighteen, and I've listened to

993
00:42:32,760 --> 00:42:34,600
Speaker 3: my parents when they told me to let it go.

994
00:42:34,960 --> 00:42:36,880
Speaker 3: But this time she really hurt my daughter.

995
00:42:36,960 --> 00:42:39,520
Speaker 2: No, if she's done this behavior like, she's done behavior

996
00:42:39,560 --> 00:42:42,799
Speaker 2: like this multiple times and now she's not apologizing and

997
00:42:42,880 --> 00:42:43,560
Speaker 2: hurt your daughter.

998
00:42:44,120 --> 00:42:46,000
Speaker 3: She made your daughter cry. She made your daughter, and

999
00:42:46,000 --> 00:42:48,759
Speaker 3: she wasn't even apologetic like for making her cry. I

1000
00:42:48,920 --> 00:42:51,799
Speaker 3: want to see her crying. My parents are now saying

1001
00:42:51,840 --> 00:42:53,920
Speaker 3: it's just a plant, and I'm being ridiculous for holding

1002
00:42:53,920 --> 00:42:56,040
Speaker 3: a grudge. It's not just a plant. It's the idea

1003
00:42:56,120 --> 00:42:56,880
Speaker 3: behind the plant.

1004
00:42:56,920 --> 00:43:00,000
Speaker 2: And also it's her reaction and inability to apologize.

1005
00:43:00,200 --> 00:43:02,880
Speaker 3: My daughter has been extremely sad since the incident and

1006
00:43:02,920 --> 00:43:06,719
Speaker 3: has lost interest in gardening. No even asked stuff calling

1007
00:43:06,719 --> 00:43:11,200
Speaker 3: her sweet pea, which breaks my heart. No, so bad.

1008
00:43:11,320 --> 00:43:13,520
Speaker 3: I hate the sister, so read it. I ask you,

1009
00:43:13,600 --> 00:43:15,279
Speaker 3: Am I the a hole? I hate to see my

1010
00:43:15,360 --> 00:43:17,720
Speaker 3: daughter like this? But I'm not sure if I'm overreacting.

1011
00:43:17,920 --> 00:43:18,520
Speaker 3: Isn't up now?

1012
00:43:19,760 --> 00:43:20,720
Speaker 1: No?

1013
00:43:20,719 --> 00:43:23,920
Speaker 2: No, your sister is a monster and I'm thrying her

1014
00:43:23,920 --> 00:43:26,040
Speaker 2: in the sun and I hate her. Maybe like you

1015
00:43:26,080 --> 00:43:28,040
Speaker 2: can talk to your daughter and be like, hey, sometimes

1016
00:43:28,080 --> 00:43:31,200
Speaker 2: you know, things you know don't live even when we

1017
00:43:31,280 --> 00:43:32,160
Speaker 2: care for them a lot.

1018
00:43:32,320 --> 00:43:33,640
Speaker 1: That would have been a lesson.

1019
00:43:33,800 --> 00:43:35,920
Speaker 3: That would have been a lesson if again she couldn't

1020
00:43:36,000 --> 00:43:37,400
Speaker 3: if she couldn't take if she could take.

1021
00:43:37,239 --> 00:43:38,759
Speaker 2: Care of But she was just say like, hey, it

1022
00:43:38,800 --> 00:43:40,640
Speaker 2: wasn't your faults and we're gonna get a new pee

1023
00:43:40,760 --> 00:43:42,000
Speaker 2: plant and we can try again.

1024
00:43:42,040 --> 00:43:42,480
Speaker 1: That's okay.

1025
00:43:42,640 --> 00:43:44,720
Speaker 3: Yeah, but any make that's life. You can always try,

1026
00:43:44,760 --> 00:43:47,319
Speaker 3: like you make mistakes, mistakes happen. But the fact that

1027
00:43:47,320 --> 00:43:50,080
Speaker 3: that's what something you know, maybe the sister or the

1028
00:43:50,120 --> 00:43:51,640
Speaker 3: aunt in this case would have done like that would

1029
00:43:51,640 --> 00:43:53,279
Speaker 3: be like, oh my gosh, I tried my best to

1030
00:43:53,280 --> 00:43:54,759
Speaker 3: take care of it. You know, I would have, you know,

1031
00:43:54,880 --> 00:43:56,680
Speaker 3: made it like a little lie and like here, I'm

1032
00:43:56,680 --> 00:43:58,600
Speaker 3: gonna buy you a new one, like and all that stuff.

1033
00:43:58,640 --> 00:44:01,160
Speaker 3: But the fact that the aunt was just deaffling down

1034
00:44:01,160 --> 00:44:01,919
Speaker 3: and like, I don't care.

1035
00:44:02,080 --> 00:44:03,040
Speaker 1: This is like one of us.

1036
00:44:03,160 --> 00:44:06,480
Speaker 3: You're going to the sun, sun to the sun. You go.

1037
00:44:07,520 --> 00:44:10,279
Speaker 3: There's an update, you Heathen update. Some of you have

1038
00:44:10,360 --> 00:44:12,560
Speaker 3: been asking for an update, and since my last posts,

1039
00:44:12,719 --> 00:44:15,719
Speaker 3: some good and bad things have happened that I thought

1040
00:44:15,719 --> 00:44:17,920
Speaker 3: I should write about. After I had some time to

1041
00:44:17,920 --> 00:44:19,680
Speaker 3: cool off from the events at my sister's and read

1042
00:44:19,719 --> 00:44:22,719
Speaker 3: all the comments, I realized I was over reacting a

1043
00:44:22,800 --> 00:44:23,200
Speaker 3: little bit.

1044
00:44:23,239 --> 00:44:24,279
Speaker 1: I honestly don't think you were.

1045
00:44:24,360 --> 00:44:26,319
Speaker 3: I understand now that it was my fault to let

1046
00:44:26,360 --> 00:44:29,040
Speaker 3: my sister handle something that was so important to my daughter,

1047
00:44:29,160 --> 00:44:31,280
Speaker 3: and so after she had a bit of time degree

1048
00:44:31,360 --> 00:44:33,239
Speaker 3: her plant, I wasn't going to rush her feelings. We

1049
00:44:33,280 --> 00:44:35,320
Speaker 3: had a conversation of plant life cycles.

1050
00:44:35,680 --> 00:44:37,200
Speaker 1: Okay, see this is a lesson that it is a

1051
00:44:37,239 --> 00:44:37,680
Speaker 1: little bit.

1052
00:44:37,560 --> 00:44:39,520
Speaker 3: Of a lesson, But again it's not fair because it

1053
00:44:39,600 --> 00:44:41,960
Speaker 3: wasn't on the daughter. I've talked to her about plants,

1054
00:44:42,120 --> 00:44:45,200
Speaker 3: even in the most well cared for circumstances can pass away,

1055
00:44:45,239 --> 00:44:46,960
Speaker 3: and I told her how proud I was that she

1056
00:44:47,000 --> 00:44:48,680
Speaker 3: took care of her plant as well as she did.

1057
00:44:48,760 --> 00:44:50,680
Speaker 3: After a bit of a pep talk, she seemed ready

1058
00:44:50,719 --> 00:44:53,080
Speaker 3: to go. I could go at it again. Yay, okay,

1059
00:44:53,080 --> 00:44:55,319
Speaker 3: good nice, And so we took her to a garden

1060
00:44:55,320 --> 00:44:57,640
Speaker 3: shop again, where she picked out of her own tools,

1061
00:44:58,040 --> 00:45:01,520
Speaker 3: soil pots, gloves, and lots of different plant seeds.

1062
00:45:01,520 --> 00:45:02,200
Speaker 1: This is so cute.

1063
00:45:02,200 --> 00:45:04,440
Speaker 3: We also got her some vegetable and fruit seeds, like

1064
00:45:04,480 --> 00:45:06,640
Speaker 3: some of you suggested, so that she could eat what

1065
00:45:06,760 --> 00:45:10,399
Speaker 3: she's grown, which she's really excited for. This is so cute.

1066
00:45:10,520 --> 00:45:11,640
Speaker 3: I'm making strawberries.

1067
00:45:11,840 --> 00:45:12,240
Speaker 4: Yes.

1068
00:45:13,280 --> 00:45:16,640
Speaker 3: As for my sister, after a week of posting, I

1069
00:45:16,680 --> 00:45:18,719
Speaker 3: went over to try and explain why the plant meant

1070
00:45:18,800 --> 00:45:20,960
Speaker 3: so much to my daughter and how it couldn't be

1071
00:45:21,000 --> 00:45:24,080
Speaker 3: so easily replaced. I'm sad to say that she once

1072
00:45:24,120 --> 00:45:26,160
Speaker 3: again lectured me on how it was just a plant

1073
00:45:26,239 --> 00:45:28,479
Speaker 3: and that they all and all the time.

1074
00:45:28,640 --> 00:45:30,799
Speaker 1: I hate you, son. She gave you a chance to

1075
00:45:30,800 --> 00:45:32,160
Speaker 1: apologize and you still didn't take it.

1076
00:45:32,200 --> 00:45:34,360
Speaker 3: I'm sorry I overreacted, but like it wasn't the idea.

1077
00:45:34,440 --> 00:45:36,839
Speaker 3: It's not just the plant again, It's because sweet pea

1078
00:45:36,880 --> 00:45:40,000
Speaker 3: over here is learning about you know, she's excited about it,

1079
00:45:40,040 --> 00:45:41,239
Speaker 3: and she was so putting so much.

1080
00:45:41,120 --> 00:45:42,799
Speaker 1: Every she put a lot of work in this, and

1081
00:45:42,840 --> 00:45:43,600
Speaker 1: you don't care.

1082
00:45:43,960 --> 00:45:47,560
Speaker 3: It's just you don't care about sweet pea. You're a monster. Monster.

1083
00:45:47,960 --> 00:45:49,719
Speaker 3: I also got a text from my parents about how

1084
00:45:49,760 --> 00:45:52,000
Speaker 3: they thought I was mature enough to just let go

1085
00:45:52,080 --> 00:45:54,879
Speaker 3: of something so stupid. I realized that they aren't going

1086
00:45:54,920 --> 00:45:56,719
Speaker 3: to change their minds on the subject and that I

1087
00:45:56,719 --> 00:45:59,000
Speaker 3: should just move on. So I've decided to drop the

1088
00:45:59,040 --> 00:46:01,919
Speaker 3: topic with them. But I have decided to never let

1089
00:46:01,920 --> 00:46:05,719
Speaker 3: my sister handle anything of value smart, especially if it's

1090
00:46:05,760 --> 00:46:09,239
Speaker 3: my sweet pea daughters smart. I have since apologized to

1091
00:46:09,239 --> 00:46:11,399
Speaker 3: my daughter about the sweet pea and we hug it out.

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Speaker 3: We also took suggestions to use the old sweet pea

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Speaker 3: as compost for a new one, so that the old

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Speaker 3: plant is still with us. Overall, it's a happy ending.

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Speaker 3: My daughter is feeling better than ever. Has given names

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Speaker 3: to all our plants. She hasn't twelve now and two succulents.

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Speaker 1: This is adorable.

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Speaker 3: Takes care of them just as well as the old

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Speaker 3: sweet pea, and has even gone back to requesting we

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Speaker 3: call her sweet pea again, which I almost cried tears

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Speaker 3: of joy when she asked that. And all I ask

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Speaker 3: of you is to join us live weekdays, three pm PSD.

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Speaker 1: Just tap our brof tap it. I mean, like the

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Speaker 1: sisterrself freaking.

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Speaker 3: Socks sister son son and chick her out, kick her in.

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Speaker 2: The sun, and then she can help you grow these plants. Yes,

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Speaker 2: because she'll be in the sun.

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Speaker 3: But this is such a wholesome story with the daughter.

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Speaker 1: If you ignore all this stuff with the parents. It's

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Speaker 1: so sweet.

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Speaker 3: It's really thank you to all the suggestions given and

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Speaker 3: the people who offered to seeds for my daughter, oh

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Speaker 3: my gosh, as well to the people who helped me

1114
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Speaker 3: realize my mistakes. I'm also glad to say we have

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Speaker 3: found a potential plant sitter in the future. My husband's

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Speaker 3: coworker is very keen on plants and has a very

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Speaker 3: green thumb, just like my daughter. Also, at this rate,

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Speaker 3: we're considering setting up an indoor sanctuary for the plants

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Speaker 3: when it gets too cold in winter to bring them.

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Speaker 3: I love this man, so glad things turned out well

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Speaker 3: in the end. Everyone's happy. The plants have already started sprouting,

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Speaker 3: and life has never been better. And that's the end

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Speaker 3: of that story. That was so sweet, positive, so cute.

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Speaker 1: I love it.

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Speaker 3: Sister sucks, sister son Bye, keep.

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Speaker 1: Growing those plants. Man, you got this.

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Speaker 3: But that's the end of that story, guys, So we'll

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Speaker 3: see you next time.

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Speaker 1: Seea Hey's John you og host.

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Speaker 3: Here we're gonna get back to the stories. But here's

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Speaker 3: a quick three minute break of aths.

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Speaker 1: From our sponsors.

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Speaker 2: I stole my sister's cat and lied to her about it,

1134
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Speaker 2: but she was a horrible cat mother me wow.

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Speaker 1: Perfect.

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Speaker 2: So for context, last year, this sister twenty five did

1137
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Speaker 2: aid in the catnapping of my twenty four female baby

1138
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Speaker 2: boy Cashow no not Cashew, which also led to the

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00:48:06,200 --> 00:48:10,000
Speaker 2: decline of his physical health. Oho, this is my sister

1140
00:48:10,080 --> 00:48:12,799
Speaker 2: whom I have an order of protection against. She's not

1141
00:48:12,880 --> 00:48:15,320
Speaker 2: supposed to be less than one hundred feet away from me.

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00:48:15,600 --> 00:48:18,880
Speaker 2: Until October first, twenty twenty five, there happened to be

1143
00:48:18,920 --> 00:48:21,640
Speaker 2: a period of time when sister D was facing animal

1144
00:48:21,719 --> 00:48:24,520
Speaker 2: abuse charges for the second time, so she dropped her

1145
00:48:24,520 --> 00:48:26,799
Speaker 2: cats off with me against my will and through the

1146
00:48:26,800 --> 00:48:29,320
Speaker 2: dealings of my mom. But that's another story. She couldn't

1147
00:48:29,400 --> 00:48:31,719
Speaker 2: just move back in because for once, my mom took

1148
00:48:31,760 --> 00:48:32,520
Speaker 2: more pity.

1149
00:48:32,280 --> 00:48:32,960
Speaker 1: On me than D.

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Speaker 2: By the way, this comes from UB two thousand on

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Speaker 2: the Okay Storytime Separate. So when I found out that

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00:48:37,840 --> 00:48:41,440
Speaker 2: she had helped our youngest sister K seventeen take Cashew

1153
00:48:41,600 --> 00:48:44,400
Speaker 2: and held him from me for three months by taking

1154
00:48:44,400 --> 00:48:47,200
Speaker 2: advantage of me and using that as an excuse after

1155
00:48:47,280 --> 00:48:48,920
Speaker 2: taking him while I was at work and with the

1156
00:48:48,920 --> 00:48:50,600
Speaker 2: help of my mom, I was pissed.

1157
00:48:50,600 --> 00:48:52,359
Speaker 1: I would be too, she stole your cat?

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00:48:52,520 --> 00:48:54,399
Speaker 3: Why would you? Why would you? Why are you taking

1159
00:48:54,400 --> 00:48:54,719
Speaker 3: a cat?

1160
00:48:55,280 --> 00:48:57,040
Speaker 1: Your cat, and you can't even take care of it.

1161
00:48:57,080 --> 00:48:58,640
Speaker 2: When I found out that they had caused him to

1162
00:48:58,680 --> 00:49:01,280
Speaker 2: develop asthma and five to the point I have nearly

1163
00:49:01,360 --> 00:49:04,200
Speaker 2: lost him a few times, I was livid. My cats

1164
00:49:04,239 --> 00:49:06,759
Speaker 2: are my world. They're what keeps me fighting through the

1165
00:49:06,760 --> 00:49:10,040
Speaker 2: toughest times, and it physically pains me to see them struggling.

1166
00:49:10,080 --> 00:49:12,360
Speaker 2: I've got in his health under control by making a

1167
00:49:12,400 --> 00:49:14,920
Speaker 2: few life and home changes and having him on a

1168
00:49:15,000 --> 00:49:17,160
Speaker 2: daily regiment to where he can now run to me

1169
00:49:17,280 --> 00:49:19,839
Speaker 2: when I catch him outside, but it's never taken away

1170
00:49:19,880 --> 00:49:22,279
Speaker 2: the anger I feel for D and K. I won't

1171
00:49:22,320 --> 00:49:25,279
Speaker 2: lie that Initially, when she dropped her cats off. I

1172
00:49:25,360 --> 00:49:27,840
Speaker 2: was planning on taking them, partially out of revenge and

1173
00:49:27,880 --> 00:49:30,160
Speaker 2: partially out of concern for the well being, but life

1174
00:49:30,239 --> 00:49:32,600
Speaker 2: happened and she came to collect them before I was

1175
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Speaker 2: able to move out of my mom's. When I say

1176
00:49:34,719 --> 00:49:37,479
Speaker 2: concern for their well being, I mean it. The cat

1177
00:49:37,520 --> 00:49:40,160
Speaker 2: in question had such terrible lungs that when I got

1178
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Speaker 2: him to the VET, the vet said, to put it bluntly,

1179
00:49:43,040 --> 00:49:45,719
Speaker 2: they sound like crap. The way he's taking an air

1180
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Speaker 2: to compensate for all the inflammation in his lungs. He

1181
00:49:48,480 --> 00:49:49,960
Speaker 2: won't live long without treatment.

1182
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Speaker 1: No, it's so sad.

1183
00:49:51,640 --> 00:49:54,360
Speaker 2: I got him the treatment, which involved an antibiotics shot,

1184
00:49:54,440 --> 00:49:57,439
Speaker 2: a steroid shot, and oral antibiotics that I gave them

1185
00:49:57,440 --> 00:49:59,319
Speaker 2: for two weeks. I also put him on the same

1186
00:49:59,360 --> 00:50:03,400
Speaker 2: regiment I have cash you on, minus the flecticasone Inhaler.

1187
00:50:03,680 --> 00:50:07,279
Speaker 2: D argued constantly overpaying me the VET bill, which I

1188
00:50:07,280 --> 00:50:09,560
Speaker 2: thought was fair because she claimed he was still her

1189
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Speaker 2: cat and that she loved him. She then argued with

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Speaker 2: me over whether or not he needed to go back

1191
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Speaker 2: to the VET when he had a severe asthma attack.

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00:50:16,239 --> 00:50:18,239
Speaker 2: Through text with K as she was my only point

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Speaker 2: of contact with D at the time, Her response to

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Speaker 2: the cat needing to go to the vet again was

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Speaker 2: now bad is he? If he's going to die, I

1196
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Speaker 2: want him to be with me in his last moments.

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Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, Oh my gosh.

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Speaker 1: Doesn't you caused that? You literally cause that.

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Speaker 2: When I was told the cat at severe asthma, I

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Speaker 2: informed D of what she would need to do. That

1201
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Speaker 2: included not using scented candles or air fresheners around the house,

1202
00:50:38,800 --> 00:50:43,360
Speaker 2: no perfumes or body sprays, switching to hypoallergenic laundry detergent

1203
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Speaker 2: as he likes to curl up in my clothes, no SIGs,

1204
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Speaker 2: no vaping, Crushing a lycene and putting it in his food,

1205
00:50:50,040 --> 00:50:52,400
Speaker 2: Giving him fish oil every day and putting bee pond

1206
00:50:52,440 --> 00:50:55,680
Speaker 2: in his food helps reduce allergic reactions during pollen seasons.

1207
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Speaker 2: Switching to ninety nine point nine percent dust free litter,

1208
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Speaker 2: using an enzyme cleaner to deep clean the litter box

1209
00:51:01,400 --> 00:51:05,200
Speaker 2: reduces the ammonious smell, getting a spacer and getting his inhaler's.

1210
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Speaker 2: I have even sent our other sister l eighteen the

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Speaker 2: links to the lycene, the electric pill grinder, the spacer,

1212
00:51:11,840 --> 00:51:14,799
Speaker 2: the bee pollen, and the coupons for his abuterol and

1213
00:51:14,920 --> 00:51:19,279
Speaker 2: flu decisone Inhaler's D never even purchased this course.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, of course she's not.

1215
00:51:21,520 --> 00:51:23,520
Speaker 2: She caused all of these problems that he's having, and

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00:51:23,520 --> 00:51:24,880
Speaker 2: she's not going to take care of them now that

1217
00:51:24,920 --> 00:51:25,359
Speaker 2: he has them.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, does an extreme list that Opie is willing and

1219
00:51:28,320 --> 00:51:32,080
Speaker 3: wants to I mean Opie has them? Yeah, so have

1220
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Speaker 3: the cat?

1221
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Speaker 2: Just steal this cat. After some time, I visited their

1222
00:51:35,600 --> 00:51:38,480
Speaker 2: home as all three sisters lived together when D was

1223
00:51:38,480 --> 00:51:42,520
Speaker 2: at work. I noticed heavily scented laundry detergent, scented candles,

1224
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Speaker 2: air fresheners, and the distinct odor of cat pee from

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00:51:45,800 --> 00:51:48,560
Speaker 2: her two cats and El's three cats, as well as.

1226
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Speaker 1: Kaka from their dogs.

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Speaker 2: Nothing that suggested she had listened to my words was

1228
00:51:52,640 --> 00:51:55,080
Speaker 2: present in the home. These were all changes I made,

1229
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Speaker 2: which wasn't easy because hypoatogenic laundry detergent is an adjustment

1230
00:51:58,920 --> 00:52:01,560
Speaker 2: and nobody sprays or candles. Was also tough for me,

1231
00:52:01,760 --> 00:52:03,880
Speaker 2: so I knew it could be done. She just refuses

1232
00:52:03,960 --> 00:52:06,279
Speaker 2: to make the changes. I think this was truly the

1233
00:52:06,320 --> 00:52:08,879
Speaker 2: moment that I decided this cat was not going back

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00:52:08,920 --> 00:52:11,120
Speaker 2: with her. No matter what you see, this cat is

1235
00:52:11,160 --> 00:52:13,200
Speaker 2: the brother of one of my cats. Before we had

1236
00:52:13,280 --> 00:52:15,280
Speaker 2: to put their mother down, I promised her I would

1237
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Speaker 2: protect her babies.

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Speaker 1: I couldn't do that if I gave him back.

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00:52:18,680 --> 00:52:20,719
Speaker 2: Out of the four cats she had she got to

1240
00:52:20,880 --> 00:52:23,319
Speaker 2: move back with her, one of them genuinely ran off,

1241
00:52:23,320 --> 00:52:25,120
Speaker 2: and I was able to convince her that this cat

1242
00:52:25,200 --> 00:52:27,160
Speaker 2: ran off as well. Not to brag, but some of

1243
00:52:27,160 --> 00:52:29,920
Speaker 2: my cats also get outside through the window D broke,

1244
00:52:30,080 --> 00:52:33,279
Speaker 2: but every one of them always comes back. Every time

1245
00:52:33,400 --> 00:52:35,360
Speaker 2: k or L come over, I hit him in his

1246
00:52:35,480 --> 00:52:38,160
Speaker 2: carrier in my room. This worked for months until D

1247
00:52:38,280 --> 00:52:41,000
Speaker 2: made a surprise appearance. Yes, I could have called the

1248
00:52:41,000 --> 00:52:43,000
Speaker 2: cops because she was less than one hundred feet away,

1249
00:52:43,239 --> 00:52:45,680
Speaker 2: but one I panicked at the thought of her taking him,

1250
00:52:45,719 --> 00:52:48,400
Speaker 2: and two I'm moving out soon and my mom following

1251
00:52:48,480 --> 00:52:50,760
Speaker 2: through on her threat to evict me for causing problem

1252
00:52:50,840 --> 00:52:53,840
Speaker 2: for D would delay that even more and cause problems

1253
00:52:53,840 --> 00:52:57,520
Speaker 2: for my cats and myself. With quick thinking, I managed

1254
00:52:57,520 --> 00:52:59,640
Speaker 2: to convince her that this cat was not her cat,

1255
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Speaker 2: what possibly the son of our cat.

1256
00:53:02,480 --> 00:53:03,160
Speaker 1: I was telling her.

1257
00:53:03,160 --> 00:53:06,120
Speaker 2: He was too small, had different fur patterns, didn't respond

1258
00:53:06,160 --> 00:53:08,640
Speaker 2: to his name. I managed this by saying random names

1259
00:53:08,680 --> 00:53:10,520
Speaker 2: in the pitch I typically use with them, so we

1260
00:53:10,560 --> 00:53:13,560
Speaker 2: would respond no matter what I said, et cetera. Surprisingly,

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00:53:13,680 --> 00:53:16,719
Speaker 2: Elle was helping by pointing out ways that this definitely

1262
00:53:16,840 --> 00:53:19,960
Speaker 2: wasn't Dee's cat, and eventually Kay was convinced to d

1263
00:53:20,080 --> 00:53:23,640
Speaker 2: and L have been here all week again, It's just

1264
00:53:23,719 --> 00:53:26,440
Speaker 2: much easier to go along with this until they returned

1265
00:53:26,440 --> 00:53:28,719
Speaker 2: to their home in the next couple of days. Truthfully,

1266
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Speaker 2: I have requested the restraining order instead of jail time

1267
00:53:31,400 --> 00:53:33,360
Speaker 2: at her court hearing because I just wanted to be

1268
00:53:33,360 --> 00:53:35,440
Speaker 2: able to build my life back up without fear, and

1269
00:53:35,480 --> 00:53:37,439
Speaker 2: I have been able to do that for the past year.

1270
00:53:37,560 --> 00:53:40,680
Speaker 2: Knowing how not serious my bio family has taken everything.

1271
00:53:40,880 --> 00:53:43,160
Speaker 2: Getting the year was more than I could have hoped for.

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Speaker 2: The whole time they have been here, this cat has

1273
00:53:45,600 --> 00:53:48,799
Speaker 2: been attached to me. Everywhere I go, he goes. He

1274
00:53:48,880 --> 00:53:51,040
Speaker 2: sleeps next to me every night. He cuddles with me

1275
00:53:51,120 --> 00:53:53,279
Speaker 2: when I try to rest aw he knows she's here,

1276
00:53:53,440 --> 00:53:55,640
Speaker 2: but he stays with me. When I got cash You back,

1277
00:53:55,680 --> 00:53:57,680
Speaker 2: he never wanted to leave my side for the first

1278
00:53:57,719 --> 00:54:00,000
Speaker 2: few weeks. He had been gone for almost four months,

1279
00:54:00,080 --> 00:54:02,319
Speaker 2: but he clung to me the second he saw me.

1280
00:54:02,480 --> 00:54:04,840
Speaker 2: This cat has been separated from her for less than that.

1281
00:54:05,160 --> 00:54:07,960
Speaker 2: He's my little cuddle buddy, my little free friend. He

1282
00:54:08,040 --> 00:54:10,040
Speaker 2: goes on car rides with me to run errands for

1283
00:54:10,120 --> 00:54:10,439
Speaker 2: my mom.

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Speaker 1: This is so sweet.

1285
00:54:11,200 --> 00:54:13,399
Speaker 2: He comes with me to take the trash down. He's

1286
00:54:13,440 --> 00:54:15,880
Speaker 2: by my side no matter what I'm doing, and hugging

1287
00:54:15,960 --> 00:54:18,120
Speaker 2: is one of his favorite things to do. Even as

1288
00:54:18,160 --> 00:54:20,279
Speaker 2: I type this, he's right next to me sleeping. By

1289
00:54:20,320 --> 00:54:22,680
Speaker 2: the way, one of our favorite things is when you

1290
00:54:22,719 --> 00:54:25,680
Speaker 2: guys join us live every Weekdad three pm PST on YouTube.

1291
00:54:25,719 --> 00:54:27,719
Speaker 2: Just tap her profilep it and there is a little

1292
00:54:27,719 --> 00:54:30,279
Speaker 2: bit left. But OPI, you're not the a hole at

1293
00:54:30,320 --> 00:54:33,680
Speaker 2: all for protecting a living fritcher who is being mistreated.

1294
00:54:33,920 --> 00:54:35,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's pretty much like animal abuse.

1295
00:54:35,680 --> 00:54:35,920
Speaker 5: It is.

1296
00:54:36,000 --> 00:54:39,000
Speaker 3: It is absolutely And the fact that they don't care.

1297
00:54:38,920 --> 00:54:42,799
Speaker 1: They just don't. Yeah, they literally you are the right.

1298
00:54:43,080 --> 00:54:44,280
Speaker 1: You are in the right for sure.

1299
00:54:44,400 --> 00:54:46,319
Speaker 3: No, and good on. The sisters are like agreeing with you.

1300
00:54:46,320 --> 00:54:49,239
Speaker 2: Like I wonder if I actually kind of wonder if

1301
00:54:49,320 --> 00:54:51,920
Speaker 2: they went op said that, Oh, like they agreed. I

1302
00:54:51,960 --> 00:54:54,080
Speaker 2: think maybe they were also kind of duped.

1303
00:54:54,200 --> 00:54:55,080
Speaker 3: Maybe one of them was.

1304
00:54:55,640 --> 00:54:57,880
Speaker 2: Maybe one of them was like, oh, yes, it is

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Speaker 2: that cat. Of course this is not the same cat.

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Speaker 1: And the other one was like, yeah, I believe that.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that doesn't look like.

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Speaker 2: Here's where my morals cause problems for me. I know

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Speaker 2: what it's like to lose a cat, both temporarily and permanently.

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Speaker 2: I know what it's like to not know what happened

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Speaker 2: to your cat. The pain for me with these experiences

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Speaker 2: is tremendous, but I don't know if it's truly the

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Speaker 2: same for her. I also know the relief of finding

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Speaker 2: out your cat is actually alive after fearing the worst

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Speaker 2: for so long, and I took that from her. I

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Speaker 2: did intend to keep him initially out of revenge, since

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Speaker 2: Cashew's diagnosis is all I saw with G and K

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Speaker 2: was red. I can't tell if I'm clouded by wanting

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Speaker 2: to make both of them pay. My gut is telling

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Speaker 2: me to keep him and pull off this gas lamping

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Speaker 2: as far as I can take it, but I still

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Speaker 2: feel icky about causing the same pain I've felt for

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Speaker 2: someone else. I still don't want to give him back,

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Speaker 2: no matter how bad my guilt cats. I know I'm

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Speaker 2: being selfish, but I'm as attached to him as he

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Speaker 2: is to me. Does that make me an a hole,

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Speaker 2: even if it's justified, and that is the end. I

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Speaker 2: don't think you're there.

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Speaker 3: I don't think. I don't think so. Socially, since there's

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Speaker 3: already so many pets yea, at that house, it's got

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Speaker 3: sol many bags.

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Speaker 1: They're not gonna.

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Speaker 3: Second three cats. They got two dogs. This cat try

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Speaker 3: and get all the other pets too. This cat has

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Speaker 3: its own issues and needs to be look after and

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Speaker 3: taken care of. Absolutely so no, but.

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Speaker 2: That's the end of that story and the end of

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Speaker 2: this episode. So if you love us, make sure to subscribe.

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