1 00:00:00,720 --> 00:00:04,760 Speaker 1: You guys. Today we have a very very special guest. 2 00:00:05,640 --> 00:00:08,920 Speaker 1: I'm so excited. I have manifested this guest since I 3 00:00:08,960 --> 00:00:11,399 Speaker 1: was in high school. Literally when I read her book 4 00:00:11,480 --> 00:00:15,560 Speaker 1: Confessions of a Video Vixen and The Vixen Diaries. I 5 00:00:15,560 --> 00:00:18,280 Speaker 1: have been waiting for this moment, basically my whole life. 6 00:00:18,320 --> 00:00:21,840 Speaker 2: This episode does not disappoint. She's a really special woman, 7 00:00:22,239 --> 00:00:23,320 Speaker 2: really special guest. 8 00:00:23,600 --> 00:00:40,800 Speaker 1: Enjoyed the gems that Elizabeth is dropping. Welcome back to 9 00:00:40,840 --> 00:00:45,400 Speaker 1: good Mom's bad Choices. I'm Erica and I'm Meyla. Happy Wednesday, 10 00:00:45,800 --> 00:00:48,680 Speaker 1: Happy Wednesday, baby. How are you? I'm good? How are you? 11 00:00:49,120 --> 00:00:53,800 Speaker 1: I'm good, I'm really good. I'm chilling, chilling like a villain. 12 00:00:54,000 --> 00:00:55,160 Speaker 1: I'm happy. How are you? 13 00:00:55,920 --> 00:00:57,600 Speaker 2: I'm healthy, I'm hydrated. 14 00:00:58,120 --> 00:00:59,760 Speaker 3: My hair is popping today, y'all. 15 00:01:00,000 --> 00:01:02,560 Speaker 2: If y'all are looking as on YouTube. If you haven't 16 00:01:02,600 --> 00:01:05,240 Speaker 2: yet subscribed her YouTube channel, you should just so you 17 00:01:05,240 --> 00:01:08,080 Speaker 2: could see this afro that's popping tin today. 18 00:01:08,200 --> 00:01:09,480 Speaker 3: You know, we have a good hair day. 19 00:01:10,200 --> 00:01:12,920 Speaker 1: It's today. I know this is an audio space, but yeah, 20 00:01:12,920 --> 00:01:15,880 Speaker 1: we're fine, So hop into YouTube. It's worth it. And 21 00:01:16,080 --> 00:01:18,400 Speaker 1: Eric is My titties are always out, and Erica's are 22 00:01:18,400 --> 00:01:19,440 Speaker 1: bigger and more dipulum. 23 00:01:19,480 --> 00:01:19,640 Speaker 4: Sure. 24 00:01:19,680 --> 00:01:21,920 Speaker 2: I mean, I know you love our sexy voices, but 25 00:01:22,160 --> 00:01:25,319 Speaker 2: we have sexy faces, have sexy faces too, and you 26 00:01:25,360 --> 00:01:27,280 Speaker 2: know we put on a fucking high end production. 27 00:01:27,360 --> 00:01:28,920 Speaker 3: This ain't no like janky ass shit. 28 00:01:29,440 --> 00:01:32,720 Speaker 2: We have like a full on TV show on youtubelaus 29 00:01:33,200 --> 00:01:33,839 Speaker 2: so check. 30 00:01:33,720 --> 00:01:35,080 Speaker 1: It out and it's free. I don't know why you 31 00:01:35,120 --> 00:01:35,920 Speaker 1: wouldn't come see us. 32 00:01:36,000 --> 00:01:37,240 Speaker 3: Yeah. 33 00:01:37,360 --> 00:01:41,320 Speaker 1: Anyway, we have a very special guest today. I'm actually 34 00:01:41,560 --> 00:01:44,839 Speaker 1: fangirling a bit like my high school self is fucking 35 00:01:44,880 --> 00:01:50,560 Speaker 1: freaking out today. Without further ado, we have New York 36 00:01:50,680 --> 00:01:56,120 Speaker 1: best time selling author, mother, podcaster, all around bad boss 37 00:01:56,160 --> 00:01:57,559 Speaker 1: bitch Elizabeth. 38 00:01:59,640 --> 00:02:03,600 Speaker 4: Hi, Hi Ai guys. I'm so happy to be here. 39 00:02:03,800 --> 00:02:05,040 Speaker 4: I'm so happy we got you here. 40 00:02:05,080 --> 00:02:08,239 Speaker 1: Honestly. Our manifestation game is on Highlert. And you know 41 00:02:08,280 --> 00:02:11,160 Speaker 1: when you mentioned that you didn't have social for a minute, 42 00:02:11,160 --> 00:02:12,959 Speaker 1: I was like, I know she didn't because I looked. 43 00:02:13,120 --> 00:02:15,840 Speaker 1: I was like I looked for you and I couldnot 44 00:02:15,840 --> 00:02:17,160 Speaker 1: find you, And I was like, where the fuck is 45 00:02:17,200 --> 00:02:18,799 Speaker 1: she at? And then you popped up and I was like, yes, 46 00:02:18,880 --> 00:02:21,640 Speaker 1: God answer. I literally had to call my like my 47 00:02:21,680 --> 00:02:23,880 Speaker 1: high school best friend. There's only black two blocks students 48 00:02:23,880 --> 00:02:25,639 Speaker 1: in my high school, so all we did was read 49 00:02:25,840 --> 00:02:29,120 Speaker 1: black books. I was like, girl, you will not believe 50 00:02:29,240 --> 00:02:30,960 Speaker 1: it's coming on the show. OSK. I had to call 51 00:02:30,960 --> 00:02:33,120 Speaker 1: you because I knew you a care because you write 52 00:02:33,120 --> 00:02:36,960 Speaker 1: this all these books beginning to end, and I'm honored 53 00:02:37,000 --> 00:02:41,000 Speaker 1: to have you here. Thank you, honestly, really and truly. 54 00:02:41,800 --> 00:02:42,919 Speaker 3: I know I'm honored too. 55 00:02:43,040 --> 00:02:45,760 Speaker 2: I have, like, I have a lot of questions. I'm 56 00:02:45,760 --> 00:02:49,200 Speaker 2: inspired by you. You're such a trailblazer in so many 57 00:02:49,200 --> 00:02:49,800 Speaker 2: different ways. 58 00:02:49,960 --> 00:02:54,680 Speaker 1: I mean you are you are like absolutely the trailblazer 59 00:02:54,800 --> 00:02:55,240 Speaker 1: for women. 60 00:02:56,320 --> 00:02:58,359 Speaker 3: Oh my god. That's a lot. 61 00:02:59,280 --> 00:03:04,400 Speaker 1: And to take it in, I really feel like so 62 00:03:04,480 --> 00:03:06,480 Speaker 1: me and Erica we manifest a lot, Like we have 63 00:03:06,520 --> 00:03:08,639 Speaker 1: an entity that's what we call our business, like a 64 00:03:09,440 --> 00:03:12,080 Speaker 1: higher power. Everything we ask for we get, it's just 65 00:03:12,120 --> 00:03:14,280 Speaker 1: divine because we're women and we put our powers together. 66 00:03:14,880 --> 00:03:16,359 Speaker 1: And I, like I said, I looked for you and 67 00:03:16,400 --> 00:03:17,760 Speaker 1: I was like, I wonder what she's doing. Where is 68 00:03:17,760 --> 00:03:21,239 Speaker 1: she at? But we are actually turning in our final 69 00:03:21,280 --> 00:03:24,600 Speaker 1: manuscript for our book in a couple of weeks. 70 00:03:24,639 --> 00:03:25,360 Speaker 3: Oh my god. 71 00:03:25,560 --> 00:03:27,480 Speaker 1: So I feel like God was like, you can have 72 00:03:27,560 --> 00:03:28,120 Speaker 1: her now. 73 00:03:28,919 --> 00:03:29,680 Speaker 3: Oh my god. 74 00:03:29,840 --> 00:03:32,239 Speaker 1: Really, yeah, I feel like this is like the easy 75 00:03:32,360 --> 00:03:34,200 Speaker 1: divine timing. That was like that was also my high 76 00:03:34,200 --> 00:03:36,240 Speaker 1: school dream to be like an author and a writer. 77 00:03:36,840 --> 00:03:39,360 Speaker 1: And I like, I related to your voice so much 78 00:03:39,400 --> 00:03:43,200 Speaker 1: even in the eleventh grade, Oh wow, because I was 79 00:03:43,680 --> 00:03:45,640 Speaker 1: lit even then. Can we tell the people with the book? 80 00:03:45,840 --> 00:03:47,440 Speaker 4: Like people are like, what book is it? 81 00:03:47,480 --> 00:03:47,800 Speaker 3: Oh? 82 00:03:47,800 --> 00:03:49,520 Speaker 1: With fashions of a video books? Oh yeah, that's the 83 00:03:49,520 --> 00:03:49,960 Speaker 1: first book. 84 00:03:50,040 --> 00:03:50,800 Speaker 3: Yeah, girl? 85 00:03:51,080 --> 00:03:53,480 Speaker 1: That where I can't where's my book at the fuck? 86 00:03:54,040 --> 00:03:54,360 Speaker 4: I mean? 87 00:03:55,080 --> 00:03:57,240 Speaker 2: Yeah? And I think for us, our book is very 88 00:03:57,280 --> 00:04:00,800 Speaker 2: transparent and we're talking about people too, and you know 89 00:04:00,880 --> 00:04:05,920 Speaker 2: our experiences and it's fucking scary and triggering. And it's 90 00:04:05,960 --> 00:04:08,000 Speaker 2: been really difficult to write the book because you had 91 00:04:08,040 --> 00:04:10,120 Speaker 2: to kind of like go back and like rehash it 92 00:04:10,360 --> 00:04:12,760 Speaker 2: and like kind of decide is that important? 93 00:04:13,000 --> 00:04:13,760 Speaker 3: Is that helpful? 94 00:04:14,160 --> 00:04:16,000 Speaker 1: Should I keep that out because I'm protecting him? Or 95 00:04:16,080 --> 00:04:17,080 Speaker 1: fuck that? Nigga? 96 00:04:17,839 --> 00:04:18,039 Speaker 4: Right? 97 00:04:18,120 --> 00:04:19,159 Speaker 3: I think it's important to. 98 00:04:20,680 --> 00:04:25,760 Speaker 4: Understand that women are the storytellers, and if we don't 99 00:04:25,800 --> 00:04:30,200 Speaker 4: tell stories, it'll be as if this entire moment didn't exist, 100 00:04:30,520 --> 00:04:32,599 Speaker 4: as if this entire generation didn't exist. 101 00:04:32,920 --> 00:04:34,680 Speaker 3: And it's been that way for eons. 102 00:04:34,720 --> 00:04:37,280 Speaker 4: It's the mother is braiding your hair, telling you about 103 00:04:37,320 --> 00:04:38,200 Speaker 4: your crazy uncle. 104 00:04:38,240 --> 00:04:38,760 Speaker 3: It's all you know. 105 00:04:38,920 --> 00:04:41,440 Speaker 4: It's these things that we passed down to our children, 106 00:04:41,480 --> 00:04:45,200 Speaker 4: to our nieces, our nephews, to our girlfriends. And you 107 00:04:45,400 --> 00:04:48,200 Speaker 4: have to tell your story. The thing about telling stories 108 00:04:48,279 --> 00:04:51,080 Speaker 4: is that you can't tell your story without including other people. 109 00:04:51,960 --> 00:04:53,840 Speaker 4: And I always tell people like, if you want to 110 00:04:53,880 --> 00:04:56,719 Speaker 4: be represented wonderfully in a story, then you should have 111 00:04:56,720 --> 00:05:00,120 Speaker 4: acted that way. I'm only reporting the facts. 112 00:05:00,279 --> 00:05:01,719 Speaker 3: You know what. 113 00:05:01,400 --> 00:05:03,680 Speaker 1: That's what I'm about to say. The facts are the 114 00:05:03,680 --> 00:05:05,080 Speaker 1: motherfucking fact can't keep the facts. 115 00:05:05,120 --> 00:05:06,760 Speaker 3: I can't keep the facts of the facts machine. 116 00:05:06,760 --> 00:05:10,240 Speaker 4: And there's no way to get around how things really happened, 117 00:05:10,680 --> 00:05:13,520 Speaker 4: you know. So congratulations to you guys, Thank you. And 118 00:05:13,600 --> 00:05:16,839 Speaker 4: writing is also a form of catharsis, and studies have 119 00:05:16,920 --> 00:05:19,000 Speaker 4: proven that if you write for at least twenty minutes 120 00:05:19,000 --> 00:05:21,839 Speaker 4: a day, you can actually heal not just yourself psychologically 121 00:05:21,880 --> 00:05:25,000 Speaker 4: but also physically. And yeah, because because a lot of 122 00:05:25,040 --> 00:05:28,440 Speaker 4: our pain is manifested through our psychological trauma, and so 123 00:05:28,520 --> 00:05:31,359 Speaker 4: studies do show that just in writing your own story 124 00:05:31,440 --> 00:05:33,839 Speaker 4: or what hurts you, what has happened, digging into the 125 00:05:33,880 --> 00:05:38,480 Speaker 4: trenches and getting that stuff out that's uncomfortable, that you actually. 126 00:05:38,240 --> 00:05:40,880 Speaker 3: Heal yourself in doing so, I received that. 127 00:05:40,920 --> 00:05:42,640 Speaker 1: I feel that I receive that too. 128 00:05:42,680 --> 00:05:46,120 Speaker 2: I think also for us, I know, I'm obviously writing 129 00:05:46,200 --> 00:05:49,760 Speaker 2: is a new kind of medium for us, but talking 130 00:05:49,839 --> 00:05:52,400 Speaker 2: has been so healing, you know, like the saying the 131 00:05:52,400 --> 00:05:54,599 Speaker 2: thing out loud, having a podcast and being able to 132 00:05:54,640 --> 00:05:56,880 Speaker 2: do a lot of healing on the mic, and just 133 00:05:56,960 --> 00:06:00,360 Speaker 2: saying things that like I've been scared to say, or 134 00:06:00,839 --> 00:06:04,280 Speaker 2: that I've only said in my head, you know. Like, 135 00:06:04,320 --> 00:06:06,960 Speaker 2: I think that there's so many mediums that people just 136 00:06:07,080 --> 00:06:09,919 Speaker 2: don't take advantage of that are literally just part of 137 00:06:09,960 --> 00:06:12,680 Speaker 2: our bodies, our fingers, we can write, our voices, we 138 00:06:12,720 --> 00:06:15,480 Speaker 2: can use and oftentimes we're scared. 139 00:06:15,880 --> 00:06:17,200 Speaker 3: And you are not my love. 140 00:06:17,320 --> 00:06:20,160 Speaker 1: You are bold, bitch, you ain't never been sare. 141 00:06:22,839 --> 00:06:25,360 Speaker 4: I don't know what that is. I feel like even 142 00:06:25,360 --> 00:06:28,240 Speaker 4: though my family fucked up a lot of things in 143 00:06:28,360 --> 00:06:31,080 Speaker 4: raising me and the other kids that you know, like 144 00:06:31,160 --> 00:06:33,680 Speaker 4: my cousins and things, there are certain things I learned 145 00:06:33,680 --> 00:06:36,120 Speaker 4: from the women in my families, mostly women. I grew 146 00:06:36,200 --> 00:06:38,960 Speaker 4: up in a house with ten people and only two 147 00:06:39,000 --> 00:06:42,680 Speaker 4: of them were men, my two uncles, so it's cousins, sisters, 148 00:06:42,680 --> 00:06:45,520 Speaker 4: my mother, my aunties. We all lived in the same house. 149 00:06:45,560 --> 00:06:47,520 Speaker 4: My grandmother is my grandmother's house. She's still in that 150 00:06:47,560 --> 00:06:50,960 Speaker 4: house to this day. I just remember fearless women who 151 00:06:50,960 --> 00:06:54,320 Speaker 4: didn't give a shit about anything, and sometimes that's bad 152 00:06:54,640 --> 00:06:55,840 Speaker 4: and sometimes. 153 00:06:55,320 --> 00:06:57,039 Speaker 3: It's really really really good. 154 00:06:57,760 --> 00:07:01,240 Speaker 4: And then my dad island girls. So then there's that 155 00:07:01,279 --> 00:07:05,039 Speaker 4: whole island Caribbean kind of like thing where we just 156 00:07:05,040 --> 00:07:06,320 Speaker 4: don't give a shit about nothing. 157 00:07:07,000 --> 00:07:08,560 Speaker 3: I don't know what that is about us. 158 00:07:08,640 --> 00:07:10,760 Speaker 4: It's just growing up in an island just makes you 159 00:07:10,880 --> 00:07:14,119 Speaker 4: be like fuck it, fuck it, we're on an island, 160 00:07:14,160 --> 00:07:16,080 Speaker 4: Like we can't even get off this bitch, Like fuck it, 161 00:07:16,920 --> 00:07:20,040 Speaker 4: everything's fine, like just say whatever you want, do whatever 162 00:07:20,080 --> 00:07:23,200 Speaker 4: you want, it's whatever. And the women there, we were 163 00:07:23,480 --> 00:07:26,559 Speaker 4: open sexually. I remember it was nothing to see a woman, 164 00:07:27,000 --> 00:07:28,760 Speaker 4: you know, topless on the beach. It was nothing to 165 00:07:28,760 --> 00:07:32,040 Speaker 4: see a woman in a sarong only and flip flops 166 00:07:32,080 --> 00:07:34,640 Speaker 4: walk into the store, the breeze blowing open her sarong 167 00:07:34,680 --> 00:07:37,400 Speaker 4: and nobody giving a shit. It was nothing to just 168 00:07:37,440 --> 00:07:40,200 Speaker 4: see women being in their sexual power, being naked, being 169 00:07:40,440 --> 00:07:42,680 Speaker 4: and then fearless and throwing men out the house and 170 00:07:42,720 --> 00:07:44,880 Speaker 4: like we don't give up, Like it was just a 171 00:07:45,040 --> 00:07:47,120 Speaker 4: fiery I just remember a lot of fire in the 172 00:07:47,120 --> 00:07:50,680 Speaker 4: women that I saw growing up and and I remember 173 00:07:50,720 --> 00:07:54,840 Speaker 4: just being on that island watching TV because we were 174 00:07:54,840 --> 00:07:58,280 Speaker 4: on an island and there wasn't like a whole lot 175 00:07:58,320 --> 00:08:01,200 Speaker 4: of other shit to do what Saint Thomas ok. 176 00:08:01,920 --> 00:08:04,920 Speaker 3: So TV became the way I saw the rest of 177 00:08:04,960 --> 00:08:05,400 Speaker 3: the world. 178 00:08:05,920 --> 00:08:11,280 Speaker 4: And I remember specifically Madonna and I was little. 179 00:08:11,200 --> 00:08:13,679 Speaker 3: I must have been six seven years. 180 00:08:13,520 --> 00:08:17,920 Speaker 4: Old in the early eighties and thinking to myself. 181 00:08:18,040 --> 00:08:20,800 Speaker 3: I remember thinking this, I want to be like this woman. 182 00:08:21,120 --> 00:08:23,600 Speaker 4: I wanted to be her as a little girl because 183 00:08:23,960 --> 00:08:25,080 Speaker 4: she was pissing people. 184 00:08:25,080 --> 00:08:28,120 Speaker 3: She's pissing off my grandmother. She was burning crosses. 185 00:08:28,200 --> 00:08:31,200 Speaker 4: My grandmother's a devout Catholic and this woman burnt crosses 186 00:08:31,240 --> 00:08:32,080 Speaker 4: and my grandmother was. 187 00:08:32,040 --> 00:08:33,079 Speaker 3: To turn that shit off. 188 00:08:33,120 --> 00:08:34,400 Speaker 1: And I was like sure, and then. 189 00:08:34,360 --> 00:08:36,040 Speaker 4: I'm gonna watch it later when you go to sleep, 190 00:08:36,400 --> 00:08:37,960 Speaker 4: because I wanted to. 191 00:08:37,840 --> 00:08:38,600 Speaker 3: Be that woman. 192 00:08:39,480 --> 00:08:42,520 Speaker 4: And those role models at the eighties. 193 00:08:42,240 --> 00:08:44,200 Speaker 3: Were a powerful time to grow up. 194 00:08:44,360 --> 00:08:47,640 Speaker 4: Women were using their voices in a lot of different 195 00:08:47,679 --> 00:08:52,120 Speaker 4: ways and that were just powerful. And then the last 196 00:08:52,120 --> 00:08:54,120 Speaker 4: thing that I remember that I think really shaped me 197 00:08:54,559 --> 00:08:58,440 Speaker 4: and my voice is my mother used to work at 198 00:08:58,480 --> 00:09:01,280 Speaker 4: a clothing store and I would walk down there after 199 00:09:01,320 --> 00:09:04,040 Speaker 4: school every day and then stay in the back room 200 00:09:04,240 --> 00:09:07,000 Speaker 4: for the next few hours until she got off. And 201 00:09:07,080 --> 00:09:10,240 Speaker 4: one day her boss, who was a Middle Eastern man, 202 00:09:11,160 --> 00:09:14,160 Speaker 4: was yelling at her and she was yelling back and 203 00:09:14,200 --> 00:09:16,720 Speaker 4: he didn't like that, so he slapped her. Oh shit, 204 00:09:16,960 --> 00:09:20,400 Speaker 4: and she before his hand even left her face, she 205 00:09:20,480 --> 00:09:22,960 Speaker 4: had slapped his ass back, and she slapped him so 206 00:09:23,040 --> 00:09:26,079 Speaker 4: fucking hard he lost his balance and the blood came 207 00:09:26,120 --> 00:09:26,680 Speaker 4: out of his mouth. 208 00:09:26,880 --> 00:09:29,520 Speaker 3: And I was in the back like, yeah, bitch, I. 209 00:09:29,480 --> 00:09:31,080 Speaker 4: Didn't even like my mom, And I was like, yo, 210 00:09:31,400 --> 00:09:34,840 Speaker 4: I want to be the woman who slaps back. I 211 00:09:34,880 --> 00:09:36,959 Speaker 4: want to be the woman who slaps the shit out 212 00:09:36,960 --> 00:09:39,599 Speaker 4: of a man in return to wherever the fuck the 213 00:09:39,640 --> 00:09:43,000 Speaker 4: disrespect is. And I grew up to be kind of 214 00:09:43,360 --> 00:09:46,800 Speaker 4: pieces of all these women that I saw, those fiery 215 00:09:47,080 --> 00:09:50,240 Speaker 4: slap back women. And so it's not that I haven't 216 00:09:50,280 --> 00:09:54,680 Speaker 4: been afraid. I'm afraid often, but I just do it scared, yeah, 217 00:09:54,679 --> 00:09:57,720 Speaker 4: because the question is what's the alternative not doing it 218 00:09:57,720 --> 00:10:01,760 Speaker 4: at all, being walked over the rest of your life, yep, regretting. 219 00:10:05,360 --> 00:10:05,520 Speaker 3: Right. 220 00:10:06,040 --> 00:10:07,920 Speaker 4: So the way I slap back is by writing it 221 00:10:07,960 --> 00:10:10,439 Speaker 4: all down, because the one thing I realize is that 222 00:10:10,520 --> 00:10:13,440 Speaker 4: people fear the truth more than they fear lies. And 223 00:10:13,480 --> 00:10:15,360 Speaker 4: most people would rather hear a man lie than a 224 00:10:15,400 --> 00:10:19,160 Speaker 4: woman tell the truth. And so I know that if 225 00:10:19,200 --> 00:10:20,920 Speaker 4: I just tell the truth, the truth is what people 226 00:10:20,960 --> 00:10:22,800 Speaker 4: hide from you. So if I know the truth, the 227 00:10:22,800 --> 00:10:24,320 Speaker 4: best way for me to get you back is to 228 00:10:24,360 --> 00:10:27,720 Speaker 4: just tell the truth, just the truth, just the truth, 229 00:10:27,880 --> 00:10:30,520 Speaker 4: not a lie. I don't have to be mean about it. 230 00:10:30,720 --> 00:10:32,840 Speaker 4: I just have to tell ABCD and this is how 231 00:10:32,880 --> 00:10:34,440 Speaker 4: it happened, and I was there and I saw it, 232 00:10:34,440 --> 00:10:36,240 Speaker 4: and this is how it was affected me. And so 233 00:10:36,360 --> 00:10:38,920 Speaker 4: many people are hiding from their own truths that it 234 00:10:39,000 --> 00:10:41,880 Speaker 4: upsets them. When you write down your own it's triggering 235 00:10:42,480 --> 00:10:45,839 Speaker 4: yeah to them, money making for me. 236 00:10:49,040 --> 00:10:51,920 Speaker 1: I mean for real. Like I think when I read 237 00:10:51,920 --> 00:10:54,760 Speaker 1: that book in high school, one of my homegirls were like, 238 00:10:54,840 --> 00:10:56,320 Speaker 1: I've known for a long time. It's like, you know what, 239 00:10:56,360 --> 00:11:00,480 Speaker 1: I really commend you. You've always lived authentically yourself. And 240 00:11:00,520 --> 00:11:02,840 Speaker 1: I was just like, I can't say what that is. 241 00:11:02,880 --> 00:11:04,960 Speaker 1: Like I've been very much. I don't give a fuck. 242 00:11:05,040 --> 00:11:07,120 Speaker 1: This is it. You know. My mom wasn't really like that, 243 00:11:07,160 --> 00:11:09,600 Speaker 1: and I felt like she was kind of weak for that. 244 00:11:10,080 --> 00:11:13,120 Speaker 1: So I always honored the fuck it, you know, because 245 00:11:13,120 --> 00:11:14,440 Speaker 1: I didn't know what was on the other side. And 246 00:11:14,440 --> 00:11:16,720 Speaker 1: I think when I read that book in high school, 247 00:11:16,760 --> 00:11:19,000 Speaker 1: and you know, I was like, oh, this is a 248 00:11:19,040 --> 00:11:22,280 Speaker 1: woman like that I can relate to, I can identify with. 249 00:11:22,600 --> 00:11:24,840 Speaker 1: I could like I read this story and I understood 250 00:11:24,960 --> 00:11:27,800 Speaker 1: and I felt the truth, you know, And it's so crazy, 251 00:11:27,840 --> 00:11:30,880 Speaker 1: Like we're talking about how therapeutic speaking is and writing is, 252 00:11:30,920 --> 00:11:34,959 Speaker 1: but like it's such a beautiful like culmination of that 253 00:11:35,320 --> 00:11:38,160 Speaker 1: seed that I was planted just reading your book, you know, 254 00:11:38,280 --> 00:11:40,480 Speaker 1: And I continued to be whoever the fuck I was 255 00:11:40,480 --> 00:11:43,160 Speaker 1: going to be, whether it be wrong, in different, crazy, wild, 256 00:11:43,200 --> 00:11:46,000 Speaker 1: whatever the people wanted to say, you know, until you 257 00:11:46,000 --> 00:11:50,040 Speaker 1: know this very moment, I'm like, you know, now, truth, 258 00:11:50,280 --> 00:11:53,040 Speaker 1: the truth, like planting seeds of truth as women is 259 00:11:53,080 --> 00:11:56,600 Speaker 1: so motherfucking powerful. And like I always say this, like 260 00:11:57,040 --> 00:11:59,360 Speaker 1: as we speak on this, we record and we put 261 00:11:59,360 --> 00:12:02,840 Speaker 1: it out there, two hundred episodes, hundreds of hours of 262 00:12:02,920 --> 00:12:06,040 Speaker 1: us talking truth. It's like we never we really can't 263 00:12:06,120 --> 00:12:09,640 Speaker 1: understand the scope of how people receive that and what 264 00:12:09,840 --> 00:12:12,360 Speaker 1: happens when you tell the truth, what happens when you 265 00:12:12,440 --> 00:12:14,520 Speaker 1: told the truth and whatever that ignited in me, And 266 00:12:14,559 --> 00:12:17,320 Speaker 1: now we're here and like whoever's gonna hear this episode whatever, 267 00:12:17,360 --> 00:12:20,000 Speaker 1: someone's been somewhere sitting in a lie for a long 268 00:12:20,040 --> 00:12:21,760 Speaker 1: mother fucking time, and they're gonna hear this and they'll 269 00:12:21,800 --> 00:12:25,360 Speaker 1: be like, huh, something's gonna switch. And like that fire 270 00:12:25,520 --> 00:12:28,400 Speaker 1: that like is sparked just from women telling the truth 271 00:12:28,600 --> 00:12:31,600 Speaker 1: is mother fucking powerful. And that's why we're in this 272 00:12:31,720 --> 00:12:34,640 Speaker 1: age of like revolution for women, you know. And I 273 00:12:34,679 --> 00:12:38,319 Speaker 1: think it's fucking powerful. And I think that like all 274 00:12:38,360 --> 00:12:43,800 Speaker 1: of the forces of like mother Earth are coinciding with 275 00:12:43,840 --> 00:12:47,160 Speaker 1: that movement, you know. And rest in peace, Kevin Samuels. 276 00:12:47,160 --> 00:12:50,400 Speaker 1: But you can't fuck with the movement, you know, like 277 00:12:50,559 --> 00:12:53,200 Speaker 1: the goddesses are don't like ugly, you know. And as 278 00:12:53,200 --> 00:12:54,960 Speaker 1: we wake up, as women are waking up, as we 279 00:12:55,000 --> 00:12:57,280 Speaker 1: tell our truth, and people are starting to receive it 280 00:12:57,320 --> 00:13:00,160 Speaker 1: and leave bad relationships and say fuck that niggain and 281 00:13:00,360 --> 00:13:03,600 Speaker 1: care for themselves and like prioritize themselves just because they 282 00:13:03,600 --> 00:13:06,320 Speaker 1: hear other women doing it and that it's possible even 283 00:13:06,320 --> 00:13:08,360 Speaker 1: when it is scary, bitch, get the fuck up out 284 00:13:08,360 --> 00:13:10,920 Speaker 1: that place because there's nowhere to go there. 285 00:13:11,280 --> 00:13:11,520 Speaker 4: You know. 286 00:13:11,679 --> 00:13:13,439 Speaker 1: It may be scary, but at least it's better than 287 00:13:13,520 --> 00:13:15,800 Speaker 1: not knowing what would happen if you stood in your 288 00:13:15,800 --> 00:13:18,960 Speaker 1: truth and did what like honored yourself. So I just think, like, 289 00:13:19,440 --> 00:13:21,880 Speaker 1: I'm so grateful to be a part of this revolution 290 00:13:22,080 --> 00:13:23,920 Speaker 1: and to be sitting here with you, and like just 291 00:13:24,480 --> 00:13:27,200 Speaker 1: see it how it's you know, manifested this way. 292 00:13:27,760 --> 00:13:30,480 Speaker 2: I think also, like the thing about the truth is 293 00:13:30,520 --> 00:13:31,960 Speaker 2: that people will always try to make you feel like 294 00:13:31,960 --> 00:13:37,560 Speaker 2: you're truven, like like you know that, like, especially men, 295 00:13:39,240 --> 00:13:41,959 Speaker 2: how have you navigated in that space? I mean obviously, 296 00:13:42,040 --> 00:13:44,960 Speaker 2: like you've written books about your truth and I'm sure 297 00:13:45,000 --> 00:13:46,960 Speaker 2: you've had a lot of backlash because of it and 298 00:13:47,000 --> 00:13:50,040 Speaker 2: people trying to probably say like that's not actually what happened, 299 00:13:50,120 --> 00:13:53,000 Speaker 2: or that's not my truth. You know, Like how do 300 00:13:53,040 --> 00:13:56,040 Speaker 2: you navigate in those spaces and standing your truth in 301 00:13:56,080 --> 00:13:56,400 Speaker 2: that way? 302 00:13:56,440 --> 00:13:57,160 Speaker 1: In those times? 303 00:13:57,640 --> 00:14:01,400 Speaker 4: Everyone's allowed to write books like I'm not the only 304 00:14:01,440 --> 00:14:03,280 Speaker 4: person that can do it, right, And I like, listen, 305 00:14:03,280 --> 00:14:03,920 Speaker 4: if this isn't. 306 00:14:03,760 --> 00:14:06,400 Speaker 3: Your truth, write a fucking book, Write a fucking book. 307 00:14:06,400 --> 00:14:06,959 Speaker 3: I don't give a. 308 00:14:06,880 --> 00:14:09,040 Speaker 4: Shit what you say, what you do, it doesn't matter 309 00:14:09,080 --> 00:14:13,080 Speaker 4: to me. The truth is always the truth, right. I 310 00:14:13,120 --> 00:14:15,959 Speaker 4: think that, like I said earlier, people would rather hear 311 00:14:16,040 --> 00:14:19,200 Speaker 4: men tell lies and women tell the truth. I've realized 312 00:14:19,240 --> 00:14:21,560 Speaker 4: and I've seen it happen over the last almost twenty 313 00:14:21,600 --> 00:14:27,000 Speaker 4: years of my career of men in particularly saying, well, 314 00:14:27,080 --> 00:14:28,720 Speaker 4: a lot of things, people say a lot of things, 315 00:14:28,920 --> 00:14:31,000 Speaker 4: and all of it is based on my sex and sexuality. 316 00:14:31,080 --> 00:14:34,600 Speaker 4: Is if that negates the truth? Whoever I want, whenever 317 00:14:34,640 --> 00:14:37,560 Speaker 4: I want, Still the truth, Still the motherfucking truth. Right, 318 00:14:38,040 --> 00:14:40,480 Speaker 4: And you talked about this revolution, Here's the thing people 319 00:14:40,520 --> 00:14:43,600 Speaker 4: always said to me, like you were just before your time. 320 00:14:44,240 --> 00:14:47,440 Speaker 4: Because two thousand and five I had police escorts to 321 00:14:47,560 --> 00:14:51,920 Speaker 4: every signing. I had people threatened to kill me at signings. 322 00:14:52,200 --> 00:14:56,520 Speaker 4: I had armed police guards traveling with me through the country. 323 00:14:57,280 --> 00:15:03,640 Speaker 4: I was shamed and mo and threatened four years, and 324 00:15:03,680 --> 00:15:07,080 Speaker 4: I had a lot of the world beating me down 325 00:15:07,120 --> 00:15:08,480 Speaker 4: on a regular basis. 326 00:15:09,360 --> 00:15:15,000 Speaker 3: And they still and they still couldn't kill me. 327 00:15:16,480 --> 00:15:20,680 Speaker 4: And I thank my mother for that, because my mother 328 00:15:20,800 --> 00:15:23,520 Speaker 4: was the first person who called me a whore. You 329 00:15:23,560 --> 00:15:25,760 Speaker 4: asked me how I'm able to stand in my truth. 330 00:15:26,080 --> 00:15:28,800 Speaker 4: Something happens to a little girl when she is labeled 331 00:15:28,840 --> 00:15:30,200 Speaker 4: a whore at seven. 332 00:15:30,080 --> 00:15:32,320 Speaker 3: Eight just for hanging out with boys. 333 00:15:32,760 --> 00:15:34,400 Speaker 4: I was a tomboy, So I don't know how to 334 00:15:34,400 --> 00:15:36,040 Speaker 4: do makeup, and I'm like, how do I do my makeup? 335 00:15:36,400 --> 00:15:39,240 Speaker 2: I just gave Elizabeth a beauty blender tutorial in the bathroom. 336 00:15:39,360 --> 00:15:41,320 Speaker 2: We should have instagrammed it now. I thought it was 337 00:15:41,520 --> 00:15:43,200 Speaker 2: for perfect your makeup looks beautiful. 338 00:15:43,320 --> 00:15:44,840 Speaker 1: Thank you, thank you for. 339 00:15:44,760 --> 00:15:46,240 Speaker 3: It, because the blender made it great. 340 00:15:46,280 --> 00:15:48,240 Speaker 4: I'm like, oh shit, I didn't want to I have 341 00:15:48,280 --> 00:15:49,800 Speaker 4: no idea how to do my makeup. I'm just learning 342 00:15:49,800 --> 00:15:51,960 Speaker 4: how to do these things. I didn't have girlfriends growing up. 343 00:15:52,000 --> 00:15:55,120 Speaker 4: I only had guy friends. My mother was a first 344 00:15:55,160 --> 00:15:58,360 Speaker 4: person who degraded me, and so I was built in 345 00:15:58,400 --> 00:16:02,520 Speaker 4: the degradation. So by the time the world degraded me, 346 00:16:03,280 --> 00:16:08,040 Speaker 4: it didn't fucking matter if your mother hates you, It 347 00:16:08,040 --> 00:16:11,280 Speaker 4: doesn't matter if anybody else hates you. If you were 348 00:16:11,440 --> 00:16:15,960 Speaker 4: kidnapped and raped at thirteen and lost your sense of 349 00:16:16,200 --> 00:16:20,080 Speaker 4: sexual power and the power of choice at thirteen, like 350 00:16:20,120 --> 00:16:23,280 Speaker 4: that's what happened to me. It doesn't matter what people 351 00:16:23,320 --> 00:16:26,800 Speaker 4: say about your sex anymore. None of that shit matters 352 00:16:27,120 --> 00:16:32,400 Speaker 4: to the people who have been traumatized, abused, raped, abandoned, forgotten, 353 00:16:32,800 --> 00:16:35,080 Speaker 4: And a lot of black women have by some of 354 00:16:35,120 --> 00:16:38,200 Speaker 4: the people closest to them, by their uncles, by their 355 00:16:38,440 --> 00:16:42,400 Speaker 4: father's friends by the neighborhood boys, and we are told 356 00:16:42,480 --> 00:16:45,200 Speaker 4: to be silent, to keep your business out of the street. 357 00:16:45,920 --> 00:16:49,680 Speaker 4: Did I How did I move forward with this? I 358 00:16:49,800 --> 00:16:53,640 Speaker 4: was born into it. I don't know anything different. It 359 00:16:53,760 --> 00:16:56,560 Speaker 4: may have been more jarring to me if I had 360 00:16:56,600 --> 00:17:00,000 Speaker 4: come from a different life and then came into me 361 00:17:00,000 --> 00:17:02,640 Speaker 4: my adulthood to find degradation waiting for me. But I 362 00:17:02,760 --> 00:17:06,520 Speaker 4: was born into it. I was born into suffering and 363 00:17:06,560 --> 00:17:10,359 Speaker 4: pain and all those things. So not that I didn't 364 00:17:10,400 --> 00:17:12,560 Speaker 4: phaze me, because it did. It did chip away at 365 00:17:12,600 --> 00:17:14,280 Speaker 4: me over time, but I've been being chipped away at 366 00:17:14,320 --> 00:17:16,359 Speaker 4: since I was a little girl. It wasn't the world 367 00:17:16,359 --> 00:17:20,280 Speaker 4: that made me hide. It was everything. It was for 368 00:17:20,359 --> 00:17:21,960 Speaker 4: the years that I've been gone, the years that you 369 00:17:22,000 --> 00:17:24,520 Speaker 4: were looking for me, you couldn't find me. It's because 370 00:17:24,520 --> 00:17:26,440 Speaker 4: I had to heal. In order for me to heal, 371 00:17:26,480 --> 00:17:29,400 Speaker 4: I had to get away from everything and everybody. I'm 372 00:17:29,440 --> 00:17:33,120 Speaker 4: able to come back into this space now and talk 373 00:17:33,160 --> 00:17:37,359 Speaker 4: about this revolution, and I wasn't before my time. You 374 00:17:37,400 --> 00:17:42,000 Speaker 4: guys were late to the revolution. I've been here, women 375 00:17:42,080 --> 00:17:45,639 Speaker 4: before me have been here, my mother's generation. The sexual 376 00:17:45,640 --> 00:17:48,240 Speaker 4: revolution started happening in the late sixties early seventies. I 377 00:17:48,280 --> 00:17:52,119 Speaker 4: was born seventy eight. My mother's My mother was ten 378 00:17:52,680 --> 00:17:56,000 Speaker 4: when the revolution started. She was eighteen when she had me. 379 00:17:57,080 --> 00:18:00,520 Speaker 4: I was in my twenties when I joined. It's twenty 380 00:18:00,600 --> 00:18:02,560 Speaker 4: years later. I'm in my forties. 381 00:18:02,600 --> 00:18:02,760 Speaker 1: Now. 382 00:18:03,000 --> 00:18:04,680 Speaker 4: You guys are just coming on. Some of the people 383 00:18:04,680 --> 00:18:07,080 Speaker 4: from back then are just coming on. People in their 384 00:18:07,119 --> 00:18:10,520 Speaker 4: forties are just coming on. Because when I came out, 385 00:18:10,640 --> 00:18:16,360 Speaker 4: people were still protecting men. People were still protecting predatory men. 386 00:18:17,720 --> 00:18:21,439 Speaker 4: I'd never seen so many women protect predatory men. It 387 00:18:21,600 --> 00:18:27,359 Speaker 4: was embarrassing, it was shameful. I kept going, and I 388 00:18:27,400 --> 00:18:28,760 Speaker 4: was able to keep going. 389 00:18:30,040 --> 00:18:31,520 Speaker 3: Because my mother slapped a man. 390 00:18:33,080 --> 00:18:37,560 Speaker 4: Because my grandmother had seven kids by however, many different men, 391 00:18:37,680 --> 00:18:39,919 Speaker 4: and she was labeled the whore. But she raised all 392 00:18:39,960 --> 00:18:42,159 Speaker 4: her grandkids, and she put food on the table, and 393 00:18:42,200 --> 00:18:44,560 Speaker 4: she didn't give a fuck when nobody said about her. 394 00:18:45,160 --> 00:18:48,199 Speaker 4: I kept going because I come from the kind of 395 00:18:48,280 --> 00:18:51,720 Speaker 4: woman who doesn't give a shit. 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This is where the switch came that pissed 452 00:22:06,119 --> 00:22:08,760 Speaker 4: me off because the white women in Hollywood got pissed off, 453 00:22:08,800 --> 00:22:10,360 Speaker 4: and then everybody else want to get pissed off because 454 00:22:10,359 --> 00:22:14,080 Speaker 4: the white bitches said it was okay, and that's what happened. 455 00:22:15,080 --> 00:22:17,000 Speaker 4: When Hollywood complained. 456 00:22:17,640 --> 00:22:21,080 Speaker 3: Then everyone's like, oh yeah, these guys are fucked up 457 00:22:21,119 --> 00:22:21,600 Speaker 3: out here. 458 00:22:21,800 --> 00:22:24,000 Speaker 2: Oh yeah he did that time, Oh yeah yeah, yeah, 459 00:22:24,160 --> 00:22:25,040 Speaker 2: crazy right. 460 00:22:25,160 --> 00:22:27,000 Speaker 4: And then all of a sudden, it's like, but the 461 00:22:27,040 --> 00:22:30,080 Speaker 4: black bitches have been saying this for a while, the women, 462 00:22:30,480 --> 00:22:33,439 Speaker 4: the brown the black women, the everyone, We've all been 463 00:22:33,480 --> 00:22:35,119 Speaker 4: saying this for a while, and no one. 464 00:22:34,960 --> 00:22:38,119 Speaker 3: Paid attention because nobody gives a shit about what we 465 00:22:38,240 --> 00:22:38,840 Speaker 3: have to say. 466 00:22:39,560 --> 00:22:42,800 Speaker 4: And then Hollywood was like, oh yeah, but we've been hurt, 467 00:22:43,600 --> 00:22:46,560 Speaker 4: and it's like, oh that matters, that matters. 468 00:22:46,960 --> 00:22:48,480 Speaker 3: Everybody jumped on that bandwagon. 469 00:22:48,520 --> 00:22:51,159 Speaker 4: So then here's what happened to me. That's when I 470 00:22:51,160 --> 00:22:54,240 Speaker 4: got off social for the last time because or the 471 00:22:54,320 --> 00:22:57,000 Speaker 4: last time I got off Social, because then I started 472 00:22:57,040 --> 00:22:59,200 Speaker 4: getting all these messages like, you know, she was right 473 00:23:00,119 --> 00:23:04,520 Speaker 4: and it had been years, years had passed, and I 474 00:23:04,560 --> 00:23:08,840 Speaker 4: felt like, so now that you have permission from the 475 00:23:08,880 --> 00:23:13,920 Speaker 4: crying white actresses, from the rich women, from the privileged women, 476 00:23:14,560 --> 00:23:19,000 Speaker 4: from Hollywood where we all live, we're here, we see it. 477 00:23:19,520 --> 00:23:24,200 Speaker 4: Now you have permission from these people. Now it's like, oh, 478 00:23:24,240 --> 00:23:26,760 Speaker 4: the black women may not have been lying this whole time. 479 00:23:27,840 --> 00:23:28,560 Speaker 3: Holy shit. 480 00:23:29,200 --> 00:23:31,640 Speaker 1: I got the fuck off sociale. 481 00:23:31,680 --> 00:23:34,439 Speaker 3: I was like, fuck you guys, fuck all of you. 482 00:23:34,760 --> 00:23:37,919 Speaker 4: I've been saying this shit for years and nobody listened 483 00:23:37,920 --> 00:23:39,800 Speaker 4: to me. And that's when I just had to go 484 00:23:39,840 --> 00:23:44,560 Speaker 4: away because I felt more disrespected by the late comers 485 00:23:44,880 --> 00:23:46,320 Speaker 4: because it was bullshit. 486 00:23:47,560 --> 00:23:50,359 Speaker 1: And what an ironic place to be to receive so 487 00:23:50,560 --> 00:23:53,840 Speaker 1: much backlash for telling your truth, and also so many 488 00:23:53,880 --> 00:23:57,240 Speaker 1: accolades like you were wildly successful. Like no one's ever 489 00:23:57,280 --> 00:24:00,320 Speaker 1: going to forget those series like your books. I certainly won't. 490 00:24:00,400 --> 00:24:03,959 Speaker 1: But like, how what a strange place to be receiving 491 00:24:04,520 --> 00:24:08,160 Speaker 1: such like high levels like a New York Times bestselling 492 00:24:08,200 --> 00:24:08,760 Speaker 1: fucking book. 493 00:24:08,840 --> 00:24:14,640 Speaker 4: And then also three, I'm sorry two three, I've sold 494 00:24:14,640 --> 00:24:17,400 Speaker 4: millions of books in several different languages, in every different format. 495 00:24:17,520 --> 00:24:18,240 Speaker 3: Like I've done it. 496 00:24:18,280 --> 00:24:19,480 Speaker 1: You've done the things, you know. 497 00:24:19,560 --> 00:24:22,439 Speaker 4: I still get checks every six months. Oh, that's so 498 00:24:22,520 --> 00:24:24,600 Speaker 4: good to know, in perpetuity for us in my life. 499 00:24:24,640 --> 00:24:26,080 Speaker 4: Confession still pays bills. 500 00:24:26,359 --> 00:24:26,840 Speaker 1: Amen. 501 00:24:27,520 --> 00:24:29,600 Speaker 3: All the books pay bills, but that one is the 502 00:24:29,600 --> 00:24:31,000 Speaker 3: oldest one that still pays bills. 503 00:24:31,119 --> 00:24:32,560 Speaker 1: I don't have to reorder that because I don't know 504 00:24:32,560 --> 00:24:34,800 Speaker 1: where I went, and I'm pissed. I need to. 505 00:24:34,880 --> 00:24:36,040 Speaker 4: Should have told me what I have brought you one? 506 00:24:36,040 --> 00:24:36,800 Speaker 1: Oh my god, I should. 507 00:24:36,800 --> 00:24:38,879 Speaker 3: I'm actually I'll get you on. I have them at 508 00:24:38,920 --> 00:24:41,520 Speaker 3: a sign it will please. 509 00:24:41,640 --> 00:24:46,080 Speaker 1: Yes, I got this. 510 00:24:46,080 --> 00:24:48,640 Speaker 4: This isn't a glass in the glass box, bitch. 511 00:24:48,640 --> 00:24:51,239 Speaker 3: I got you on mugs and books. Don't ever forget it. 512 00:24:51,600 --> 00:24:54,120 Speaker 1: Look at our mugs, you guys. Elizabeth brought us each 513 00:24:54,200 --> 00:24:56,400 Speaker 1: mugs and we have two to give away to two besties. 514 00:24:56,520 --> 00:24:58,959 Speaker 1: So if you're listening to this episode, check into our 515 00:24:59,000 --> 00:25:03,960 Speaker 1: social we're gonna be doing giveaway because everyone's gorgeous. Hello, gorgeous, Hey, gorgeous. 516 00:25:04,520 --> 00:25:06,879 Speaker 1: Elizabeth comes bearing gifts because she's a kind woman. 517 00:25:07,400 --> 00:25:10,879 Speaker 2: Oh thank you, well, thank you for inviting me in. 518 00:25:11,000 --> 00:25:14,199 Speaker 2: I'm very I'm honored. I guess we are newcomers in 519 00:25:14,280 --> 00:25:17,360 Speaker 2: many ways. You know, on our show, usually asked our 520 00:25:17,359 --> 00:25:20,000 Speaker 2: guests to share an affirmation, and I just have a 521 00:25:20,040 --> 00:25:22,480 Speaker 2: feeling that yours is about to just be the one 522 00:25:22,480 --> 00:25:22,920 Speaker 2: we need. 523 00:25:25,160 --> 00:25:26,439 Speaker 3: I have so many of these. 524 00:25:26,880 --> 00:25:29,919 Speaker 4: So from twenty thirteen to twenty twenty, when the pandemic hit, 525 00:25:30,040 --> 00:25:34,520 Speaker 4: I ran a membership only self development website called The 526 00:25:34,520 --> 00:25:37,160 Speaker 4: Gorgeous Girls Guide, which is why the cups say hello, gorgeous. 527 00:25:37,200 --> 00:25:39,440 Speaker 3: Okay, so the Gorgeous Girls Guide. 528 00:25:39,840 --> 00:25:42,000 Speaker 4: In that role, I mentored one hundred and seventy one 529 00:25:42,000 --> 00:25:44,280 Speaker 4: thousand women over the years that we were around. 530 00:25:44,440 --> 00:25:45,840 Speaker 3: You were asking what I was doing. This is what 531 00:25:45,880 --> 00:25:47,920 Speaker 3: I was doing. No one was paying attention because it 532 00:25:47,960 --> 00:25:51,240 Speaker 3: wasn't sexy enough. There there's no sex involved. No one cared. 533 00:25:51,600 --> 00:25:53,800 Speaker 4: But the women that came, you know, my tribe cared. 534 00:25:54,560 --> 00:25:55,840 Speaker 3: And during that time. 535 00:25:55,960 --> 00:25:58,600 Speaker 4: I came up with a number of mantras to help 536 00:25:58,640 --> 00:26:01,280 Speaker 4: my students and my mentee. You know, we had courses 537 00:26:01,320 --> 00:26:03,920 Speaker 4: and all these things. The girls still wanted to come back. 538 00:26:03,960 --> 00:26:05,600 Speaker 4: I'm still considering it, but it was a lot of 539 00:26:05,640 --> 00:26:07,960 Speaker 4: work and. 540 00:26:07,000 --> 00:26:07,520 Speaker 3: It's a lot. 541 00:26:07,560 --> 00:26:11,800 Speaker 4: But one of my favorites that the women still remind 542 00:26:11,880 --> 00:26:17,120 Speaker 4: me of is so simple. And there's a lot of them, 543 00:26:17,200 --> 00:26:19,439 Speaker 4: but the one that I remind myself of all the 544 00:26:19,480 --> 00:26:20,600 Speaker 4: time is very simple. 545 00:26:20,640 --> 00:26:24,359 Speaker 3: It's just three words and then what and then then. 546 00:26:25,920 --> 00:26:28,880 Speaker 4: And since this is good mom's bad choices, I think 547 00:26:28,880 --> 00:26:34,880 Speaker 4: this is probably most apropos because being a good mom 548 00:26:34,920 --> 00:26:39,399 Speaker 4: who has made some really bad choices. I realize and 549 00:26:39,440 --> 00:26:41,440 Speaker 4: I must have been thirty five when I realized it, 550 00:26:41,760 --> 00:26:44,360 Speaker 4: which is insane to be that old and just now 551 00:26:44,440 --> 00:26:48,359 Speaker 4: realizing that I wasn't asking myself this one question, and 552 00:26:48,400 --> 00:26:51,560 Speaker 4: I was just making decisions, business decisions, personal decisions, just 553 00:26:51,560 --> 00:26:55,080 Speaker 4: decisions without thinking about next steps and next steps and 554 00:26:55,119 --> 00:26:57,360 Speaker 4: next steps. I'm going to do this, and then what's 555 00:26:57,400 --> 00:26:58,880 Speaker 4: going to happen. I'm going to say this, and then 556 00:26:58,880 --> 00:27:01,640 Speaker 4: what's going to happen. I'm going to make this decision, 557 00:27:01,680 --> 00:27:03,119 Speaker 4: and then what's going to happen to me, to the 558 00:27:03,160 --> 00:27:05,080 Speaker 4: people involved, what's going to happen? 559 00:27:05,359 --> 00:27:06,800 Speaker 3: And some of that is going to be really good. 560 00:27:07,040 --> 00:27:08,760 Speaker 4: So if it's not going to be good, you gotta 561 00:27:08,840 --> 00:27:11,880 Speaker 4: go down both those rabbit holes and then make your 562 00:27:11,880 --> 00:27:15,479 Speaker 4: decision based on that. When I started asking myself and 563 00:27:15,520 --> 00:27:18,199 Speaker 4: then what I started making better decisions. 564 00:27:18,720 --> 00:27:20,320 Speaker 3: I started being a good mom. 565 00:27:20,119 --> 00:27:24,439 Speaker 4: Who made better choices because I was asking myself. Okay, 566 00:27:24,480 --> 00:27:27,119 Speaker 4: so if you sign this deal, then what's going to happen? 567 00:27:27,200 --> 00:27:31,399 Speaker 4: If you continue on with this situation, then what's going 568 00:27:31,440 --> 00:27:35,280 Speaker 4: to happen? You have to think about all the things, 569 00:27:35,320 --> 00:27:37,639 Speaker 4: all the scenarios. You know, how people are. You've been 570 00:27:37,680 --> 00:27:40,879 Speaker 4: on this earth long enough to understand that psychologically, people 571 00:27:40,920 --> 00:27:43,160 Speaker 4: only have three or four different personalities. Things can only 572 00:27:43,160 --> 00:27:46,720 Speaker 4: go a couple of ways. The brain is infinite, yes, 573 00:27:46,760 --> 00:27:49,600 Speaker 4: but also it's also finite in a way, and that's 574 00:27:49,640 --> 00:27:52,639 Speaker 4: why it can be studied because the brain doesn't vary 575 00:27:53,040 --> 00:27:55,440 Speaker 4: a whole lot, which is why psychology can be studied. 576 00:27:55,600 --> 00:27:57,520 Speaker 4: The only things that can't be studied are the things 577 00:27:57,560 --> 00:28:02,760 Speaker 4: that are really truly infinite, things that have no pattern right. 578 00:28:03,960 --> 00:28:05,280 Speaker 3: The brain is one of those things. 579 00:28:05,400 --> 00:28:07,560 Speaker 4: Brains have patterns, which is why they can be studied, 580 00:28:07,560 --> 00:28:09,320 Speaker 4: which is why we have psychologists, and they can figure 581 00:28:09,320 --> 00:28:11,840 Speaker 4: things out because the brain works a certain way and 582 00:28:11,960 --> 00:28:14,159 Speaker 4: some of us use it differently, but that's already been 583 00:28:14,200 --> 00:28:16,800 Speaker 4: figured out, right. So because I understand now that the 584 00:28:16,840 --> 00:28:20,200 Speaker 4: brain is people only work a certain number of ways, 585 00:28:20,240 --> 00:28:21,840 Speaker 4: then I can figure out how you're going to react 586 00:28:21,840 --> 00:28:23,600 Speaker 4: to something that I'm gonna say. So I'm gonna say, Okay, 587 00:28:23,600 --> 00:28:25,320 Speaker 4: well if I say this to if I say this 588 00:28:25,400 --> 00:28:26,800 Speaker 4: to her, if I say if I sit down with 589 00:28:26,840 --> 00:28:30,000 Speaker 4: these girls and I say this, They're probably gonna say 590 00:28:30,040 --> 00:28:33,359 Speaker 4: this and it what's going to happen after that? Or 591 00:28:33,359 --> 00:28:35,479 Speaker 4: they might say this and then what's gonna happen for that. 592 00:28:35,880 --> 00:28:39,160 Speaker 4: I started thinking about this through every facet of my life. 593 00:28:39,600 --> 00:28:43,160 Speaker 4: It changed the way I saw myself in situations, and 594 00:28:43,200 --> 00:28:45,840 Speaker 4: it changed the way I made decisions. So it has 595 00:28:45,880 --> 00:28:49,120 Speaker 4: become kind of a daily mantra for me before I 596 00:28:49,160 --> 00:28:52,640 Speaker 4: pull triggers, because I love it used to be more. 597 00:28:53,200 --> 00:28:56,520 Speaker 3: It used to be more impulsive, super impulsive. 598 00:28:56,960 --> 00:28:59,400 Speaker 1: Do you think had you had that epiphany earlier, like 599 00:28:59,560 --> 00:29:01,680 Speaker 1: it would have change the trajectory of your life in 600 00:29:01,720 --> 00:29:03,719 Speaker 1: ways or do you think like it happened right at 601 00:29:03,720 --> 00:29:04,520 Speaker 1: the right time. 602 00:29:04,360 --> 00:29:06,280 Speaker 4: I think it would have changed. I think it's both. 603 00:29:06,320 --> 00:29:08,320 Speaker 4: I think it would have changed the trajectory of my life. 604 00:29:08,320 --> 00:29:09,840 Speaker 4: So I'm glad I didn't figure this out until I 605 00:29:09,920 --> 00:29:11,920 Speaker 4: was older. I don't think that I would have had 606 00:29:11,920 --> 00:29:14,000 Speaker 4: as much fun or had as much success had I 607 00:29:14,000 --> 00:29:17,080 Speaker 4: figured it out earlier. If I was so concerned about 608 00:29:17,080 --> 00:29:18,920 Speaker 4: what was going to happen next, I may have done 609 00:29:18,960 --> 00:29:22,280 Speaker 4: certain things. And even though I made decisions that were questionable, 610 00:29:22,320 --> 00:29:22,920 Speaker 4: they led. 611 00:29:22,760 --> 00:29:23,880 Speaker 3: Me to where I am now. 612 00:29:23,960 --> 00:29:27,360 Speaker 4: So I'm grateful for those because inside of all the 613 00:29:27,400 --> 00:29:28,440 Speaker 4: mess is the message. 614 00:29:29,280 --> 00:29:31,640 Speaker 3: You know what I mean, and so you gotta get 615 00:29:31,680 --> 00:29:32,160 Speaker 3: into the. 616 00:29:32,080 --> 00:29:35,720 Speaker 4: Mess sometimes you gotta sit neck deep and shit sometimes. 617 00:29:35,320 --> 00:29:36,160 Speaker 3: To figure it out. 618 00:29:36,600 --> 00:29:38,960 Speaker 4: And because I'm able to, because I did those things, 619 00:29:38,960 --> 00:29:41,360 Speaker 4: I'm able to mentor and to help other women change 620 00:29:41,360 --> 00:29:43,760 Speaker 4: their lives and to speak the way that I speak 621 00:29:43,840 --> 00:29:47,320 Speaker 4: now because I went through all that shit, So you can't. 622 00:29:47,720 --> 00:29:50,120 Speaker 4: There's nothing anyone can say to me now to make 623 00:29:50,120 --> 00:29:52,240 Speaker 4: me feel bad about the shit that I did before. 624 00:29:52,520 --> 00:29:54,400 Speaker 4: Because I didn't do that shit, I wouldn't be able 625 00:29:54,440 --> 00:29:55,920 Speaker 4: to tell you this shit, and I wouldn't be able 626 00:29:55,960 --> 00:29:57,920 Speaker 4: to save your fucking life. I wouldn't be able to 627 00:29:58,000 --> 00:30:00,600 Speaker 4: change your trajectory by telling you what I love earned back. 628 00:30:00,640 --> 00:30:03,120 Speaker 4: Then It's like being in a fucking time machine. I 629 00:30:03,160 --> 00:30:04,800 Speaker 4: can go back twenty years and say, you know what 630 00:30:04,840 --> 00:30:06,880 Speaker 4: I did that. Hold up, I did that ship. Don't 631 00:30:07,080 --> 00:30:09,840 Speaker 4: let me save you save some time. Make another bad decision, 632 00:30:09,880 --> 00:30:11,200 Speaker 4: but now don't make this one because I made it, 633 00:30:11,240 --> 00:30:13,120 Speaker 4: and I'm telling you right now this is not the decision. 634 00:30:13,840 --> 00:30:16,280 Speaker 4: So and then what really helped me in my mid 635 00:30:16,320 --> 00:30:20,560 Speaker 4: thirties now into my forties make better decisions. I don't 636 00:30:20,560 --> 00:30:23,000 Speaker 4: always make great decisions, but at least I think about 637 00:30:23,000 --> 00:30:24,560 Speaker 4: it first. 638 00:30:24,680 --> 00:30:26,320 Speaker 1: You consciously make the bad choice. 639 00:30:26,400 --> 00:30:29,280 Speaker 3: Yeah, yes, yeah, yeah, welcome. Now I'm doing some functions. 640 00:30:29,320 --> 00:30:31,720 Speaker 1: Well yeah, yeah, no, for sure, I gotta do a 641 00:30:31,720 --> 00:30:33,400 Speaker 1: little function this week, just to balance it. 642 00:30:33,400 --> 00:30:35,120 Speaker 3: A little bit of function, A little bit. 643 00:30:35,720 --> 00:30:37,720 Speaker 1: I did a little. Yeah. I always like I would 644 00:30:37,720 --> 00:30:40,800 Speaker 1: just friggle a little function in there. Where's the fun? 645 00:30:41,720 --> 00:30:41,920 Speaker 4: Right? 646 00:30:42,400 --> 00:30:44,440 Speaker 1: All right? What would life be if we just did 647 00:30:44,520 --> 00:30:45,320 Speaker 1: good shit all the time? 648 00:30:45,520 --> 00:30:45,680 Speaker 4: Right? 649 00:30:45,880 --> 00:30:48,680 Speaker 1: Well, that's the whole existence of good mom's bad choices. 650 00:30:48,720 --> 00:30:50,880 Speaker 1: It's like, sometimes the bad choice is not bad. 651 00:30:50,920 --> 00:30:54,040 Speaker 2: It's actually the bad choices lead to really good stories. 652 00:30:54,240 --> 00:30:58,440 Speaker 1: So oh no, don't look at me, don't do it. 653 00:31:00,360 --> 00:31:03,760 Speaker 3: The segue was co, okay, let's go. 654 00:31:04,400 --> 00:31:04,440 Speaker 4: No. 655 00:31:04,640 --> 00:31:06,600 Speaker 2: I was just I mean, there was no seguey. I 656 00:31:06,640 --> 00:31:08,080 Speaker 2: mean unless you got someone to share. I mean, I'm 657 00:31:08,080 --> 00:31:09,520 Speaker 2: sure you got a lot to share it, but I mean. 658 00:31:09,440 --> 00:31:11,640 Speaker 4: I do though, I really do have so much to 659 00:31:11,720 --> 00:31:13,400 Speaker 4: fucking share, but I'll keep it to myself. 660 00:31:13,440 --> 00:31:14,920 Speaker 1: Are you like I'm like one of those people. I 661 00:31:14,920 --> 00:31:21,400 Speaker 1: did some function last night and I know, congratulations a girl, 662 00:31:22,360 --> 00:31:25,320 Speaker 1: and I was like, why can't I say no? I 663 00:31:25,360 --> 00:31:26,840 Speaker 1: was with Ashley, She's like, you know you don't have 664 00:31:26,880 --> 00:31:29,400 Speaker 1: to do this. I was like, I know if I 665 00:31:29,440 --> 00:31:34,120 Speaker 1: don't go, I'll never know. She was like, are you sure? 666 00:31:34,200 --> 00:31:35,960 Speaker 1: I was like I got it, and I was like driving, 667 00:31:36,000 --> 00:31:39,440 Speaker 1: like I don't need to go do this. Nope, gotta 668 00:31:39,440 --> 00:31:43,280 Speaker 1: see though, must go do it. I'm like literally, I 669 00:31:43,320 --> 00:31:45,120 Speaker 1: was like, what the fuck is wrong with me? I'm like, 670 00:31:45,200 --> 00:31:48,680 Speaker 1: why is my curiosity so crazy that I can't pass 671 00:31:48,760 --> 00:31:51,080 Speaker 1: up like a weird opportunity. 672 00:31:51,120 --> 00:31:54,280 Speaker 3: It's like an opportunity you don't want to tell us 673 00:31:54,320 --> 00:31:54,760 Speaker 3: what it was. 674 00:31:54,880 --> 00:31:57,560 Speaker 1: I absolutely am not sure. 675 00:31:58,120 --> 00:32:00,720 Speaker 3: Bitch didn't involve a dick? 676 00:32:01,120 --> 00:32:05,880 Speaker 1: Oh did it? Oh? Bitch? 677 00:32:06,920 --> 00:32:07,360 Speaker 4: Girl? 678 00:32:07,760 --> 00:32:09,480 Speaker 1: Girl girl? Oh my god? 679 00:32:10,440 --> 00:32:12,560 Speaker 3: Okay, So I feel like, now you have to say something. 680 00:32:12,720 --> 00:32:14,160 Speaker 1: I don't know if I could tell anything. 681 00:32:14,480 --> 00:32:16,480 Speaker 3: I'm Elizabeth here. You're not going to share girl? 682 00:32:16,560 --> 00:32:19,080 Speaker 1: This is you know, I'm a crazy bitch. 683 00:32:19,800 --> 00:32:20,840 Speaker 3: Want to let down this. 684 00:32:21,040 --> 00:32:23,080 Speaker 1: I know I'm gonna have to tell you guys off 685 00:32:23,960 --> 00:32:27,360 Speaker 1: off camera. I don't have to spell this tea later 686 00:32:27,480 --> 00:32:30,640 Speaker 1: because this is some ship that I was like, did 687 00:32:30,640 --> 00:32:32,080 Speaker 1: I have to do that? Should I tell. 688 00:32:33,520 --> 00:32:35,120 Speaker 3: That your but you learn something? 689 00:32:35,760 --> 00:32:39,840 Speaker 1: I learned that I don't need to do that again. Really, 690 00:32:40,040 --> 00:32:41,560 Speaker 1: I really just wanted to go see what was going 691 00:32:41,560 --> 00:32:43,360 Speaker 1: on over there, and then I was like, okay, okay, 692 00:32:43,400 --> 00:32:47,280 Speaker 1: well got it. Bye? 693 00:32:47,760 --> 00:32:50,600 Speaker 4: Oh shit, yeah, okay, so you learned what not to do, 694 00:32:50,640 --> 00:32:51,680 Speaker 4: which is also a lesson. 695 00:32:51,760 --> 00:32:53,160 Speaker 1: Well, I mean I just had to go, like see 696 00:32:53,160 --> 00:32:54,600 Speaker 1: what's going on over there to know like I don't 697 00:32:54,600 --> 00:32:55,680 Speaker 1: need to do this again. I'm good. 698 00:32:56,120 --> 00:32:57,520 Speaker 3: Okay, good, that's important. 699 00:32:57,560 --> 00:32:58,959 Speaker 1: I like to do shit just to do it. And 700 00:32:59,000 --> 00:33:00,600 Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, I did it. I can tell my 701 00:33:00,640 --> 00:33:02,600 Speaker 1: two friends check it off the bucket list. Yeah, check 702 00:33:02,600 --> 00:33:02,800 Speaker 1: it out. 703 00:33:02,840 --> 00:33:03,160 Speaker 3: I did it. 704 00:33:03,320 --> 00:33:05,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, I've done some shit and I'm like, okay. 705 00:33:05,440 --> 00:33:06,200 Speaker 3: I'm not mad at that. 706 00:33:06,240 --> 00:33:08,320 Speaker 4: You have to figure out where your boundaries are, and 707 00:33:08,320 --> 00:33:09,920 Speaker 4: in order for you to figure out where your boundaries are, 708 00:33:10,000 --> 00:33:11,960 Speaker 4: you've got to push against them, right, And they're like, 709 00:33:12,000 --> 00:33:14,880 Speaker 4: oh oh yeah, like you know, you know how many 710 00:33:15,000 --> 00:33:18,560 Speaker 4: drinks you can have because you've one time had too many, 711 00:33:19,080 --> 00:33:21,120 Speaker 4: Like seventeen is too many, So. 712 00:33:21,040 --> 00:33:24,000 Speaker 3: I need to like stop at like three, you know, 713 00:33:24,000 --> 00:33:26,080 Speaker 3: I mean, because you push the boundary. 714 00:33:26,240 --> 00:33:28,920 Speaker 1: Well, I'm a boundary moy the fucking pressure. Okay, Well, 715 00:33:28,920 --> 00:33:31,720 Speaker 1: it's just called discovery, it's discovered. It's a discovery phase. 716 00:33:31,800 --> 00:33:35,360 Speaker 1: I met. I'll be discovering my whole life. Yeah, I 717 00:33:35,360 --> 00:33:40,160 Speaker 1: don't mind being a discovery bitch, like I'm that's new. Huh. 718 00:33:40,240 --> 00:33:42,200 Speaker 1: I'll try. Okay, I see what happens. 719 00:33:42,480 --> 00:33:47,160 Speaker 4: I hope we get sponsored by the Discovery. 720 00:33:45,640 --> 00:33:47,600 Speaker 1: I don't think that's gonna happen. But that very bitch, 721 00:33:47,640 --> 00:33:51,120 Speaker 1: Discovery bitch. You heard it here first, I'm the Discovery bitch, 722 00:33:51,240 --> 00:33:54,840 Speaker 1: just Discovery channel. Still we need one something uncovered, is 723 00:33:54,880 --> 00:33:58,240 Speaker 1: your bitch. I'm fresh on the scene and it is litch. 724 00:34:00,680 --> 00:34:02,160 Speaker 1: Oh my god, I feel like I have to tell. 725 00:34:02,520 --> 00:34:04,080 Speaker 3: I feel like you have to Was it a big dick? 726 00:34:05,560 --> 00:34:06,400 Speaker 1: Was it lucky? 727 00:34:07,120 --> 00:34:07,720 Speaker 3: Was it crooked? 728 00:34:08,440 --> 00:34:10,919 Speaker 1: Oh god? Okay, Well this is not gonna be a clip. 729 00:34:10,960 --> 00:34:12,560 Speaker 4: Okay, was it sinky? 730 00:34:12,760 --> 00:34:16,000 Speaker 1: So, David, this is not a clip. Okay. So I 731 00:34:16,040 --> 00:34:19,400 Speaker 1: have a fuck buddy. Oh my god, it's not that 732 00:34:19,400 --> 00:34:21,120 Speaker 1: big of a deal. Let me relax. Okay. So I 733 00:34:21,120 --> 00:34:24,080 Speaker 1: have a fuck buddy who is really fucking fine, and 734 00:34:24,840 --> 00:34:27,240 Speaker 1: I only see him at night. He's literally a fuck buddy. 735 00:34:27,239 --> 00:34:29,160 Speaker 1: We like kind of shoot the ship, but mostly we fuck. 736 00:34:29,320 --> 00:34:32,520 Speaker 1: You know, Wow, She's just fucking and it's great. It's 737 00:34:32,640 --> 00:34:35,520 Speaker 1: great fucking. So it's interesting because you know, you think 738 00:34:35,520 --> 00:34:40,360 Speaker 1: you have a connection with people and like not really. No, no, 739 00:34:40,760 --> 00:34:42,719 Speaker 1: you know, when you're a grown ass woman and you 740 00:34:42,800 --> 00:34:46,080 Speaker 1: just actively decide that you're gonna fuck somebody, and it's 741 00:34:46,080 --> 00:34:49,360 Speaker 1: like it's an exchange. Sometimes it's fine to just do that. 742 00:34:49,400 --> 00:34:50,600 Speaker 1: So this has been my fuck buddy for like the 743 00:34:50,680 --> 00:34:54,440 Speaker 1: last six months, five months. And I picked him up 744 00:34:54,440 --> 00:34:56,480 Speaker 1: from a friend. It was like her fuck friend and 745 00:34:56,520 --> 00:34:58,799 Speaker 1: then she just like passed him over. And you know, 746 00:34:58,840 --> 00:35:00,520 Speaker 1: I get to see him when i'm yeah, when I'm 747 00:35:00,520 --> 00:35:02,400 Speaker 1: in town. Whatever would I have time and I have 748 00:35:02,440 --> 00:35:09,480 Speaker 1: the energy. So he's trans amorous. He likes trans women. Okay, 749 00:35:10,480 --> 00:35:12,839 Speaker 1: so he's like and you know, I really I kind 750 00:35:12,840 --> 00:35:14,680 Speaker 1: of had a hint, but like I respected that. He 751 00:35:14,719 --> 00:35:16,560 Speaker 1: told me. You know, I don't like a lying ass 752 00:35:16,600 --> 00:35:18,640 Speaker 1: anybody like I like people who come as they are, 753 00:35:18,880 --> 00:35:21,360 Speaker 1: and that actually makes me drawn to people, like, huh, 754 00:35:21,480 --> 00:35:24,000 Speaker 1: A lot of niggas wouldn't admit this, but you are 755 00:35:24,040 --> 00:35:26,160 Speaker 1: being honest about who you are, So I'm like intrigued 756 00:35:26,200 --> 00:35:28,960 Speaker 1: and actually more attracted to you. So he's discussed it, 757 00:35:29,080 --> 00:35:31,839 Speaker 1: like you've discussed this with me, you know, for and 758 00:35:31,960 --> 00:35:34,720 Speaker 1: we've discussed it, and like last night he was like, well, 759 00:35:34,760 --> 00:35:36,759 Speaker 1: first of all, I've been trying to curate a male 760 00:35:36,800 --> 00:35:39,080 Speaker 1: male female for Mother's Day. I'm trying to give to myself. 761 00:35:39,400 --> 00:35:41,239 Speaker 1: So I tried to curate that last night, but like 762 00:35:41,480 --> 00:35:43,680 Speaker 1: just some some wires got crossed, so one of the 763 00:35:43,760 --> 00:35:49,440 Speaker 1: niggas didn't come. So this nigga is like, oh, he's like, oh, 764 00:35:49,440 --> 00:35:51,200 Speaker 1: wh you meet that girl I was talking about And 765 00:35:51,280 --> 00:35:55,960 Speaker 1: I was like, oh, I'm like oh okay, And then 766 00:35:56,000 --> 00:35:57,400 Speaker 1: I was like about to go home, but I was 767 00:35:57,400 --> 00:35:59,200 Speaker 1: like I need to see what they're doing over there. 768 00:35:59,239 --> 00:36:02,640 Speaker 3: And I know before that the girl was trans. Yes, okay, 769 00:36:02,719 --> 00:36:02,960 Speaker 3: got it. 770 00:36:03,080 --> 00:36:05,799 Speaker 1: I knew she was trans, and I went and I'm 771 00:36:05,800 --> 00:36:08,759 Speaker 1: not like, that's not my porn category of choice. I'm 772 00:36:08,760 --> 00:36:09,359 Speaker 1: gonna keep it. 773 00:36:09,600 --> 00:36:11,640 Speaker 3: Really, I love that porn can really I do. 774 00:36:11,800 --> 00:36:15,200 Speaker 1: I don't like sometimes it confuses my brain and I'm 775 00:36:15,200 --> 00:36:16,560 Speaker 1: like intrigued by it, but I don't know if I'm 776 00:36:16,560 --> 00:36:18,600 Speaker 1: turned on, even though I'm turned on by most things. Anyway, 777 00:36:18,640 --> 00:36:20,520 Speaker 1: he told me, so, you know, a bitch had to 778 00:36:20,520 --> 00:36:22,640 Speaker 1: go see for herself. I need to go see. And 779 00:36:22,719 --> 00:36:24,200 Speaker 1: of course they were mine, like what does she mean 780 00:36:24,280 --> 00:36:24,480 Speaker 1: to me? 781 00:36:24,760 --> 00:36:24,920 Speaker 4: You know? 782 00:36:24,960 --> 00:36:27,480 Speaker 1: But that's like in any three sum situation, bitches could 783 00:36:27,480 --> 00:36:29,239 Speaker 1: be weird. But I said, you know what, I gotta 784 00:36:29,239 --> 00:36:30,760 Speaker 1: get over here and see this in person. 785 00:36:31,640 --> 00:36:32,520 Speaker 3: Yeah right. 786 00:36:32,640 --> 00:36:34,880 Speaker 1: I was like, I'm invited. I gotta go. I gotta go. 787 00:36:35,080 --> 00:36:39,640 Speaker 1: I gotta go all the way. I was like, yeah, 788 00:36:39,719 --> 00:36:41,640 Speaker 1: I'm like okay. So I went. I went to my crib. 789 00:36:41,680 --> 00:36:45,200 Speaker 1: I gathered a few things, supplies. 790 00:36:45,320 --> 00:36:47,799 Speaker 5: Supplies we'll get into that later, and preparing that. Okay, 791 00:36:47,840 --> 00:36:49,719 Speaker 5: the supply list of a three summer. So I picked 792 00:36:49,760 --> 00:36:51,879 Speaker 5: up a few supplies and then I went over there. 793 00:36:51,960 --> 00:36:54,200 Speaker 5: And when I got there, I was the first one there, 794 00:36:54,239 --> 00:36:55,080 Speaker 5: which I was. 795 00:36:55,280 --> 00:36:58,080 Speaker 1: I was like, okay, whatever. So we started like to 796 00:36:58,200 --> 00:37:00,560 Speaker 1: fuck around and then she not in the door and 797 00:37:00,560 --> 00:37:02,239 Speaker 1: I could tell by his reaction that maybe we weren't 798 00:37:02,239 --> 00:37:04,400 Speaker 1: supposed to suck around already. So I was like, let 799 00:37:04,400 --> 00:37:06,920 Speaker 1: me put my skirt back, so I was like shuffled 800 00:37:06,920 --> 00:37:10,000 Speaker 1: a little bit. So then she comes in and she 801 00:37:10,239 --> 00:37:12,919 Speaker 1: was cool and shit, and I was just like, I'm 802 00:37:12,920 --> 00:37:16,000 Speaker 1: a very like chill bitch, like I'm the neutralizer of 803 00:37:16,040 --> 00:37:18,319 Speaker 1: any threesome. Honestly, That's why people are always like, come 804 00:37:18,320 --> 00:37:23,439 Speaker 1: for me, but I'm putting down boundaries because I'm about 805 00:37:23,480 --> 00:37:26,279 Speaker 1: to hit your DM all right, so man, right now, 806 00:37:26,360 --> 00:37:28,799 Speaker 1: don't hit my sad don't unless you're fine, Like please. 807 00:37:28,719 --> 00:37:29,560 Speaker 3: Unless you're fine. 808 00:37:29,800 --> 00:37:32,200 Speaker 1: Oh my god, I say that. 809 00:37:32,400 --> 00:37:36,839 Speaker 3: Block your dms right now, shut it down, Shut it down. 810 00:37:36,920 --> 00:37:40,080 Speaker 1: I am the threesome neutralizer. So I was like, hey, girl, 811 00:37:40,239 --> 00:37:46,799 Speaker 1: discovery bitch, and already ahead and to the podcast. Okay, whoa, whoa. 812 00:37:47,360 --> 00:37:50,200 Speaker 1: So she gets there and she's like talking a lot. 813 00:37:53,760 --> 00:37:54,480 Speaker 3: I love it here. 814 00:37:55,040 --> 00:38:00,960 Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, okay girl. So then she's continued I 815 00:38:01,040 --> 00:38:05,000 Speaker 1: hate me. Sometime I was like, I'm telling nobody, you 816 00:38:05,000 --> 00:38:07,520 Speaker 1: get to here next day, let me tell you. So 817 00:38:07,600 --> 00:38:12,080 Speaker 1: then she comes and so y'all are gonna have to 818 00:38:12,080 --> 00:38:13,840 Speaker 1: go to Patreon to hear the rest of the story 819 00:38:14,000 --> 00:38:17,000 Speaker 1: because y'all are going to be all in my business 820 00:38:17,000 --> 00:38:20,239 Speaker 1: for the free. So go to patreon dot com, backslash 821 00:38:20,280 --> 00:38:23,680 Speaker 1: Good Mom's Bad Choices, and pick the Past your Bedtime tier. 822 00:38:24,200 --> 00:38:27,320 Speaker 1: Trust me, this story is a past your bedtime story. 823 00:38:27,480 --> 00:38:30,480 Speaker 1: Don't forget to check out part two of this episode 824 00:38:30,880 --> 00:38:59,719 Speaker 1: because it keeps getting better and better and better. Bye, 825 00:39:00,160 --> 00:39:01,200 Speaker 1: the leastest day Asked