WEBVTT - You’re the Problem with Yamaneika Saunders

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, guys, here are my dates for the High and

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<v Speaker 1>Mighty Tour. In August you can find me in Red Bank,

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<v Speaker 1>New Jersey, Montclair, New Jersey, and Calgary that's Canada. And

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<v Speaker 1>September I will be in Santa Barbara, San Diego, New

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<v Speaker 1>York City, Philly and New Haven, Connecticut. October is Atlanta, Baltimore, Saginaw, Michigan, Pittsburgh, Toronto, Boise,

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<v Speaker 1>Idaho and Spokan. And then in November I'll be in

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<v Speaker 1>San Francisco. I'm coming to Salt Lake City, Austin, Houston,

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<v Speaker 1>Dallas Babies, I'll be there. And then in December I

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<v Speaker 1>am closing out my tour in Denver and Vancouver. So

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<v Speaker 1>get your tickets at Chelseahandler dot com for the High

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<v Speaker 1>and Mighty Tour. Hi Catherine, Hi Chelsea.

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<v Speaker 2>Who are you traveling with right now?

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<v Speaker 1>I am now by myself.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh okay.

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<v Speaker 4>I am in Spanish school. I am going to Spanish

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<v Speaker 4>school from nine to two pm every day in a

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<v Speaker 4>Spanish city somewhere near you, somewhere near Spain.

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<v Speaker 3>You're gonna be fluid when you come back. It's gonna

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<v Speaker 3>be great.

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<v Speaker 4>Hopefully we'll see what happens we'll see how many days

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<v Speaker 4>of school I actually get to.

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<v Speaker 1>But I'm on day three, so school from nine to two.

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<v Speaker 4>And then there's cultural activity activity da DAEs that I

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<v Speaker 4>am opting out of because I need a nightlife.

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<v Speaker 1>But I in school from nine to two is all

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<v Speaker 1>I need? Really?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I mean I think your your nightlife is going

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<v Speaker 2>to be your cultural activity Dades.

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<v Speaker 5>Yes, exactly, that's me experiencing culture is going out excellent. Well,

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<v Speaker 5>our guest today is a very special guest because she's

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<v Speaker 5>launching her very own podcast under the Dear Chelsea podcast network,

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<v Speaker 5>and this is going to give you a slice of

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<v Speaker 5>what you can listen to when you tune into her

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<v Speaker 5>podcast every week. Her new podcast is called You're the

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<v Speaker 5>Problem with Yaminika Saunders, and after listening to this, you'll

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<v Speaker 5>also understand that she is the problem and she's my

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<v Speaker 5>problem and everyone's problem. So that title alone invites you

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<v Speaker 5>to laugh.

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<v Speaker 2>And she gave great advice. Actually on this episode, I

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<v Speaker 2>was I was very impressed with her.

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<v Speaker 1>She is good at advice.

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<v Speaker 5>She's terrible at taking it, but she's good at giving it.

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<v Speaker 3>How necessary is this air?

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<v Speaker 1>Excuse me? Excuse me? How sweaty don't even let me.

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<v Speaker 1>First of all, I want to talk to you, okay

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<v Speaker 1>before we're shooting this podcast. This is dear Chelsea, this

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<v Speaker 1>is Y'allminika Saunders. If you're not familiar with her, you

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<v Speaker 1>will be by the end of this episode.

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<v Speaker 3>We've had clips go viral with you.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, anyway, why don't you how necessary is this air?

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<v Speaker 1>How necessary? Is all the bullshit that you get up to?

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<v Speaker 1>You are disruptive. She's been staying at my house for

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<v Speaker 1>a week. Here we go for Thelix Joe Comedy Festival.

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<v Speaker 1>She every she has nothing, she brought nothing with her.

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<v Speaker 1>We've been on the road. Every day is brand new

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<v Speaker 1>for her. Every day you go into her bedroom, she's

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<v Speaker 1>in the bunk room. Megan was also staying here. Megan Gaily, by.

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<v Speaker 3>The way, because she goes through this nonsense.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, every day in the bunk room where she's staying.

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<v Speaker 1>She it looks like a fucking pop up CVS. She

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<v Speaker 1>has to go to CBS. She goes to CVS three

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<v Speaker 1>times a day.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm addicted.

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<v Speaker 1>She buys all the new It's like she's starting over.

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<v Speaker 1>Each day. She doesn't have any of her supplies. She

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<v Speaker 1>has to get her hair stuff, her face stuff, her sneaker.

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<v Speaker 1>She buys clothes at CVS. Then she went to Marshalls.

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<v Speaker 1>Then she goes to Marshalls twice a week. Yeah, I

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<v Speaker 1>introduced her with the Marshals trend. I introduced her. I

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<v Speaker 1>introduced her to Airwan. So I said, here's where the

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<v Speaker 1>white people go shopping in Santa Monica.

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<v Speaker 3>Come Buck.

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<v Speaker 1>And I was like, if you have you ever had

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<v Speaker 1>a thirteen dollars smoothie? And this bitch goes every morning

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<v Speaker 1>now to Airwan, spends eighty dollars at Airwan.

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<v Speaker 3>I can't help that. Yeah, No, I got this from

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<v Speaker 3>this who's nicky. That's me.

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<v Speaker 6>I don't because he got to learn how to spell yaminika.

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<v Speaker 6>They didn't even teach me how to spell my name

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<v Speaker 6>until I was in the third grade. Well, the problem

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<v Speaker 6>I'm supposed to lest some brand new lady that just

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<v Speaker 6>met me learn the problem with spelling your name. We're

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<v Speaker 6>about to launch a podcast. This is an announcement, you

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<v Speaker 6>guys to our audience. Dear Chelsea Network is now a network.

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<v Speaker 6>And yes, I hold my breast when I say that.

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<v Speaker 1>I guess my first podcast that I'm producing beyond my

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<v Speaker 1>own is.

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<v Speaker 3>You're the problem with Yaminika. But you're the fucking problem,

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<v Speaker 3>not the problem. You're the problem. Listen. I am a

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<v Speaker 3>part of the collective of the problem.

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<v Speaker 6>So when I say you're the problem, I'm also saying

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<v Speaker 6>that to myself a lot. I'm glad you're saying that

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<v Speaker 6>we need to talk about and we have to do

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<v Speaker 6>the fact that you've bought three rotisserie chickens in three

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<v Speaker 6>days and haven't even finished them, that they were delicious

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<v Speaker 6>every day she never finished.

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<v Speaker 1>This was twenty two dollars one juice. It's the Hanley.

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<v Speaker 1>What are you doing?

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>We should get a discout from Haley. I'll DM her.

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<v Speaker 3>No, don't listen. Is this her? Haley? Let me tell

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<v Speaker 3>you something, baby, I.

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<v Speaker 1>Have to smoke a joint for this episode because I

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<v Speaker 1>can't deal with her. Can I tell she drives me

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<v Speaker 1>to drink and smoke.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, well you're drinking and smoke it anyway. So what

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<v Speaker 6>were you doing all the damn years before you met me?

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<v Speaker 1>I was drinking and smoking for a different Now you're

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<v Speaker 1>the reason I'm drinking and smoking.

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<v Speaker 7>Haley.

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<v Speaker 6>This smoothie here, it's the thing I drink every morning

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<v Speaker 6>and keep my bowls regular.

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<v Speaker 3>I suck this down and it is muddy tunnel. Do

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<v Speaker 3>you hear me? That's why they's so damn thin.

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<v Speaker 6>When you spend twenty two dollars for a smoothie, you

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<v Speaker 6>don't have money to eat for the rest of the day.

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<v Speaker 3>That's it. That's right.

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<v Speaker 8>Basically, Rachel Ray back in the day.

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<v Speaker 1>She goes, she buys a rotissery chicken every day, and

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<v Speaker 1>then she goes, oh, I got you all chicken. No

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<v Speaker 1>one wants it. No one wants the chicken you bought

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<v Speaker 1>chicken noodle suit the other day. It's still in the fridge,

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<v Speaker 1>a huge pint of it. There's you haven't touched it.

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<v Speaker 1>You don't eat any of the stuff that you buy,

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<v Speaker 1>so what are you doing with it?

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<v Speaker 3>Is this like that we might have a problem.

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<v Speaker 6>I get excited about purchases and things looking like, oh,

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<v Speaker 6>this is gonna look cute in the refrigerator. So yeah,

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<v Speaker 6>a sixteen dollars soup makes no sense, but it looks

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<v Speaker 6>cute and refrigerator. And that's what she's not gonna tell you.

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<v Speaker 6>It looks good in refrigerator. But also have her tell

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<v Speaker 6>you this. The reason why I haven't eaten it yet

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<v Speaker 6>is because this bitch also has one in there, So

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<v Speaker 6>why would I open mine up.

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<v Speaker 3>If you don't have yours open yet?

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<v Speaker 1>What my chicken?

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<v Speaker 3>You have a chicken noodle soup?

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<v Speaker 1>Chicken nood you do I have? I never even ordered that.

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<v Speaker 1>I never get Do you want to go to probably yours?

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<v Speaker 1>You dumbass?

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<v Speaker 9>Not?

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<v Speaker 1>You probably got it and you forgot that you bought it.

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<v Speaker 1>Like everything else, every she waits you, I would you, though,

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<v Speaker 1>I would you?

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<v Speaker 7>I mean.

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<v Speaker 3>Chicken noodle soup twice okay.

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<v Speaker 1>The other day she goes, oh, we can break down

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<v Speaker 1>the bones from the rotisserie chicken. I can make a

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<v Speaker 1>nice Yeah, I can make anybody, But when is that

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<v Speaker 1>gonna happen? Y No one's making any fucking soup with

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<v Speaker 1>some bones. We're not doing that at any point during

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<v Speaker 1>your stay here. So that the fantasy that you're living

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<v Speaker 1>in about us making bone broth or whatever the fuck

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<v Speaker 1>you're talking about is so stupid.

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<v Speaker 3>Because you want to do it with me.

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<v Speaker 1>The way I see you operate is on another level.

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<v Speaker 1>Like I thought I knew her having her in my

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<v Speaker 1>house in my space, thank you for breaking in my

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<v Speaker 1>house helpfully, Like.

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<v Speaker 6>I mean, I know, I've had an amazing time here

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<v Speaker 6>it's been really nice having it's the most fun room.

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<v Speaker 6>Megan and I had such an amazing time.

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<v Speaker 3>There's four bunk beds. When I first heard that, I

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<v Speaker 3>was like, this is some stupid ship.

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<v Speaker 1>And then I was like a women's presses.

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<v Speaker 3>No, it's like everybody has their own little compartment.

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<v Speaker 8>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 6>Like it was so great, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, like

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<v Speaker 6>comedy really good.

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<v Speaker 3>I love it. Yeah, and thank you for letting me

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<v Speaker 3>come in. Listen.

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<v Speaker 1>Get you on the right concealer though your facial concealer. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>let me just solve the problem with you buying new

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<v Speaker 1>concealer everywhere you go. You're not getting the right color

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<v Speaker 1>for your skals.

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<v Speaker 6>Okay, so I lost my makeup bag in a couple

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<v Speaker 6>of places.

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<v Speaker 3>Here's the thing about Chelsea.

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<v Speaker 6>She doesn't understand why I don't have my shit together,

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<v Speaker 6>but then she got six thousand people keeping her shit together.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm by the way, man Ban, by the way, you

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<v Speaker 1>have infected all of the people that work with me

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<v Speaker 1>and for me, because they're all working for fucking you two. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>try to get your shit together. You don't know when

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<v Speaker 1>we're going on tour. You're like, oh, you're going to

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<v Speaker 1>Medesto I'm gonna rent a car. Why would you rent

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<v Speaker 1>a car when we have a car?

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<v Speaker 6>No, no, no, ladies and gentlemen, believe it or not,

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<v Speaker 6>you're the problem with Yaminika is something that I wanted

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<v Speaker 6>to do.

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<v Speaker 3>Chelsea also wanted to do.

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<v Speaker 6>No matter how she sits here and talks crazy about me,

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<v Speaker 6>the woman loves me down to the core, and she

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<v Speaker 6>wouldn't let me be on her fucking network if she

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<v Speaker 6>really thought I was this dumb and irresponsible.

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<v Speaker 10>You're dumb.

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<v Speaker 6>I've never said idiot. Dumb, stupid is like what you know,

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<v Speaker 6>what do we play taboo? But what I'm saying to

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<v Speaker 6>you is we'd like it's such like what we have

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<v Speaker 6>going on here is such a fantastic moment and time.

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<v Speaker 6>I'm so excited to be on the network. I just

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<v Speaker 6>think it is just so I'm just I can't wait.

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<v Speaker 6>And I think you.

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<v Speaker 1>Talk about on your show. I mean, listener. First of all,

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<v Speaker 1>we have a great something something almost.

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<v Speaker 3>Like a sisterhood, because we like to each other.

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<v Speaker 1>You're annoying, but you're annoying, okay, but well, anyway, we

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<v Speaker 1>have a good time together most of the time.

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<v Speaker 3>And I do think that you last night we were

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<v Speaker 3>at this party.

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<v Speaker 6>We was slow grinding awful, and people were walking past

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<v Speaker 6>like like people are intrigued by our love but also

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<v Speaker 6>like skeptical, but then they're also like also into it.

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<v Speaker 6>I've had so many male comics text me and be like,

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<v Speaker 6>can you put more videos up of you and Chelsea

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<v Speaker 6>wrestling each other?

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<v Speaker 3>Do you know when we get together?

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<v Speaker 1>I was walking around the party and I like was

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<v Speaker 1>so stoned that I forgot where you guys were, and

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<v Speaker 1>I kept trying to find that outside area where we

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<v Speaker 1>found at the beginning of the night. We were like,

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<v Speaker 1>we found a place where you could smoke and sit

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<v Speaker 1>outside and dance, and somehow I just got lost and

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<v Speaker 1>I kept circling the same group of people and it

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<v Speaker 1>was so annoying, and I was like, how do I

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<v Speaker 1>find them?

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<v Speaker 3>And then what happened, Like the Black Angel, didn't I

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<v Speaker 3>come up behind you and go where you've been?

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<v Speaker 7>Baby?

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<v Speaker 3>And then yeah, that was you got bitch, that was

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<v Speaker 3>me you would and we took that picture and ride

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<v Speaker 3>her away.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, absolutely, I knew you were somewhere in need of

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<v Speaker 6>mind say that's really.

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<v Speaker 8>You know, I mean, somebody that incredible album Chelsea.

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<v Speaker 6>I get on Chelsea's nerves. I understand for what she's

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<v Speaker 6>a Pisces, I'm a Scorpio.

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<v Speaker 3>Where she she.

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<v Speaker 1>Says this about forty seven types every days.

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<v Speaker 6>If anything, it's just a lot because as a scorpio

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<v Speaker 6>the way we don't want to be bothered with people.

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<v Speaker 1>But as a Scorpio, you you default your scorpionism all

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<v Speaker 1>day long, every because whatever she does, that's fucked up.

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<v Speaker 1>I'll be like, that's fucked up. She's like, I'm a

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<v Speaker 1>Scorpio and she just defaults to that, and I don't, like,

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<v Speaker 1>you can't do that. Let me, you're working around going

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a Pisces, deal with it.

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<v Speaker 6>She literally did a joke in the rows, I'm a Pisces,

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<v Speaker 6>Pete Davis is a Scorpio and Jeff has cancer.

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<v Speaker 1>I was so good.

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<v Speaker 3>So yeah, I mean we all defer to it.

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<v Speaker 6>But what I the reason why I reference it is

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<v Speaker 6>because for me, I think people are shocked to see

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<v Speaker 6>my relationship with her.

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<v Speaker 3>I have these relationships.

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<v Speaker 6>There's people in my life that I'm really really close

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<v Speaker 6>to and I have these relations too, and they don't

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<v Speaker 6>get to see it on a larger scale. But for me,

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<v Speaker 6>I'm always guarded, you know, just as a person. And

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<v Speaker 6>I know that I'm so sensitive that once I get

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<v Speaker 6>into a friendship with somebody, I start sharing my feelings,

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<v Speaker 6>my everything, and so I'm very vulnerable with that. But

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<v Speaker 6>she is, you know, she really lets me in and

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<v Speaker 6>I just love pinching her. I love pinching her little tush.

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<v Speaker 6>I love pinching her cheeks. I love pinching her arms,

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<v Speaker 6>just like all my friends. It's not Chelsea them doing

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<v Speaker 6>it's That's what my friendship is like. It's very loving,

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<v Speaker 6>it's very touchy, and it's very like extra.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a burden for me. It's a big burden.

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<v Speaker 3>It's not loves it. Don't listen to her?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, So how do you keep winding up in Chelsea's bed?

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<v Speaker 2>That's that's what I want to know, because apparently it's

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<v Speaker 2>having a bunch of.

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<v Speaker 1>Times Yamka, what's your version of that story?

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<v Speaker 6>I love completely naked and I have seen her completely naked,

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<v Speaker 6>So what the so have happened? But what I'm saying

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<v Speaker 6>is no, what's the bed of who cares? She looks,

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<v Speaker 6>she's thin, She's not even taking up all this bed.

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<v Speaker 6>She doesn't need it, So why wouldn't I be in there?

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<v Speaker 6>I got my own space.

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<v Speaker 3>We're like two miles away from each other, and these

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<v Speaker 3>humung is ass beds that she's always in. This bitch

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<v Speaker 3>loves a whole last time.

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<v Speaker 1>We were in a bead like maybe I told this story.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. I think I said it to you

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<v Speaker 1>once we were recording that I we had her, they

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<v Speaker 1>had her come up. I don't know why she's in

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<v Speaker 1>my room in the first place. Is a mystery, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean she I did it once and then she's

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<v Speaker 1>like every weekend she's like, so maybe on Thursday, I'll

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<v Speaker 1>spend the night with you, like, and I'll get a

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<v Speaker 1>place the other two nights. But you never know she's

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<v Speaker 1>gonna get a place or she's not gonna get a

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<v Speaker 1>place in the right city.

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<v Speaker 3>We don't know what I do get a place.

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<v Speaker 6>They get an attitude about it because I like these

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<v Speaker 6>my Marriott points, my bonvoy Marriott points. I'm also gonna

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<v Speaker 6>get a discount on bookings dot Com. I'm gonna roll

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<v Speaker 6>that over.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, it's expensive, but you're not getting when you're

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<v Speaker 1>making the reservation in the wrong city for the wrong Yeah.

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<v Speaker 6>I did book the wrong hotel for the wrong day,

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<v Speaker 6>for the wrong year. I mean, I don't know I'm

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<v Speaker 6>doing what I but I had a place to stay,

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<v Speaker 6>did not Yeah in my bed?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 3>Well okay, okay.

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<v Speaker 1>How many times she has all her makeup everywhere? She

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't even remember her makeup, so it looks like I

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<v Speaker 1>did black face and went to s.

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<v Speaker 6>I can't help it that you keep your makeup on

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<v Speaker 6>and it's the same color as the damn sheets.

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<v Speaker 3>Bitch, chocolate cheese. She do, Like sometimes I wonder if

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<v Speaker 3>people come in and look at the sheets after you

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<v Speaker 3>leave it, but like, what the fuck my entire face

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<v Speaker 3>is on it? But I listen.

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<v Speaker 6>It's those things too, because like I've been on the

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<v Speaker 6>road with so many people and it's like, Chelsea's so fun.

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<v Speaker 6>One of the favorite, my favorite things about her is

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<v Speaker 6>like when I first started doing the road with her,

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<v Speaker 6>I would stay in my place, you know, my green room,

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<v Speaker 6>which I thought was great because sometimes you don't even

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<v Speaker 6>get a green room as an opener. And I would

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<v Speaker 6>be in my green room and she'd be with hers.

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<v Speaker 6>And then one time she came in and she was like,

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<v Speaker 6>how come you're like not it, you didn't come in here, Like,

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<v Speaker 6>how come you don't come in with me? And I

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<v Speaker 6>was like, I'm trying to give your space and she

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<v Speaker 6>was like I don't want that. She was like, come

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<v Speaker 6>in there. And then we went in there and were

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<v Speaker 6>you know, Molly was there. We had an amazing time

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<v Speaker 6>and it was just fun like ever since then. It

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<v Speaker 6>was like such a connection and I was thinking to myself, like, well,

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<v Speaker 6>I can't go wait to get back and kick it

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<v Speaker 6>with her, because sometimes you go on.

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<v Speaker 3>The road, it's the truth. Sometimes you get depressed.

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<v Speaker 6>You're like, man, I don't want to be around this

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<v Speaker 6>person or treat me like shit. They gonna make me

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<v Speaker 6>feel whatever. She brings me on as her special guests.

0:14:52.480 --> 0:14:56.000
<v Speaker 6>She's so welcoming and loving. Her audiences are so receptive

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<v Speaker 6>and even though she comes out greets everybody, that's the

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<v Speaker 6>kind of spirit have. So it's like it just makes

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<v Speaker 6>everything seeing you feel seen, you feel loved.

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<v Speaker 3>And that's what she did for me, so like I'll

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<v Speaker 3>never forget that.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, yeah that is real sweet. But be able

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<v Speaker 1>to yell at you for at least six more hours.

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<v Speaker 1>You'll find what time is your flight tonight?

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<v Speaker 3>Nine?

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<v Speaker 1>She'll be like, will you drive me to the airport?

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<v Speaker 1>Don't you think? She'll suggest She'll suggest things that are

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<v Speaker 1>like great for her that no consideration of how it

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<v Speaker 1>would make me feel.

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<v Speaker 2>Also, no one wants to drive anyone.

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<v Speaker 6>I hate having people drive. Like poor Carlos, he has

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<v Speaker 6>to deal with mine. I have a phobia of driving.

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<v Speaker 3>This has been for a long time. One of my

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<v Speaker 3>sisters was killed in a car accident.

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<v Speaker 6>So ever since then, it was always like, you know,

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<v Speaker 6>I'm constantly aware of like, oh, we're doing this. I

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<v Speaker 6>don't want to die. I don't want my father to

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<v Speaker 6>have to go through this trauma again. My family have

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<v Speaker 6>to go through this trauma again. But Chelsea drove me

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<v Speaker 6>the other day.

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<v Speaker 3>He drove me around.

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<v Speaker 6>She's a really great driver, and I felt good. You know,

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<v Speaker 6>she is like surprisingly, she was really great. I was like, wow,

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<v Speaker 6>I didn't trust her at all, but I did.

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<v Speaker 1>Ask you about me. You should go. She's an excellent driver.

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<v Speaker 3>Though I told you that I was yeah, she didn't

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<v Speaker 3>hear anything from me. I had no complain.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like thank you. No one and everyone in

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<v Speaker 1>my family I would disagree with you, but I appreciate

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<v Speaker 1>you recognizing.

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<v Speaker 3>Maybe they think it's scary, but I'm like, she's on

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<v Speaker 3>top of it.

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<v Speaker 6>Part of driving that people don't have it's people are

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<v Speaker 6>doing a thousand things that are not paying attention and

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<v Speaker 6>they're not aware.

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<v Speaker 3>Of the surroundings.

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<v Speaker 6>That's what makes it dangerous. But Chelsea is very aware

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<v Speaker 6>of what's going on. She's a Pisces. Pisces are like that,

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<v Speaker 6>detail orientated and they also don't fuck around.

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<v Speaker 3>So that's why.

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<v Speaker 6>You know, my other friend Andy, who I'm obsessed with,

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<v Speaker 6>he's a Pisces. I've had Pisces in my life. I

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<v Speaker 6>just love Pisces. They get along with Scorpio well, and

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<v Speaker 6>it just feels goods too.

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<v Speaker 9>There you go.

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<v Speaker 8>Any time?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, no, there you go. Yeah, well, baby, I was.

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<v Speaker 1>Just thinking about astrology and like how often it comes

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<v Speaker 1>up with it.

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<v Speaker 3>It does come up a lot. Yeah, it started.

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<v Speaker 1>Are you well versed on every sign like this?

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<v Speaker 3>Every time I have sex with a man, I'm.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm the phoner in person because she has fun sex.

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<v Speaker 11>On the road.

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<v Speaker 1>They look at that look right there is First of all,

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<v Speaker 1>she has five personalities. One is Rashonda, the one is Lucy,

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<v Speaker 1>one is Denzel, and then.

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<v Speaker 6>One is don But I told you, I said I

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<v Speaker 6>will not let your white ass called me, So you've.

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<v Speaker 3>Got to find a new name. It'd be Barbara or

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<v Speaker 3>some ship like that, but is the helpful spirit.

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<v Speaker 1>Lucy will come in out of nowhere and all of

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<v Speaker 1>a sudden because she has you know, she has different

0:17:58.000 --> 0:18:02.280
<v Speaker 1>accents she talks in, so she's bored line or something. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>borderline five of them. I thought borderline meant too, but

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<v Speaker 1>it's not. That's a slip personality she has like several

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<v Speaker 1>people I do. So it's pretty tricky because she but

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<v Speaker 1>the good thing is is that she can always snap

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<v Speaker 1>back quickly, so it doesn't like, even though it's a

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<v Speaker 1>very a lot of drama. And I'm saying that in

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<v Speaker 1>a patronizing way kind of like, even though it comes

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<v Speaker 1>with a lot of drama, she recovers from the drama,

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<v Speaker 1>so the drama doesn't last. There's no it's not a

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<v Speaker 1>long duration. Yeah, but there's always drama.

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<v Speaker 6>But the thing about it is the thing and I

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<v Speaker 6>think they're learning this. I have to internalize everything so

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<v Speaker 6>I can deal with it. So that's why it doesn't stay.

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<v Speaker 1>It's you.

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<v Speaker 6>If you catch me in the midst of dealing with

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<v Speaker 6>something that's drama, I'm focused and my spirit is on that.

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<v Speaker 6>So you'd be like, oh my god, Yeahma, what's wrong

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<v Speaker 6>with you really just leave me, give me five minutes

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<v Speaker 6>to process this, and by the time you come back

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<v Speaker 6>to me, I'm gonna be fine because my drama is

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<v Speaker 6>never with the people. It's always my environment, and I'm

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<v Speaker 6>trying to clear that up. But I don't if I'm

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<v Speaker 6>not like, if I don't like you, I wouldn't be

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<v Speaker 6>around you. So I always tell people like, if I'm

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<v Speaker 6>gonna be upset, I may have an attitude, I may

0:19:09.320 --> 0:19:12.479
<v Speaker 6>get scared, but it's not directed at you. And I'm

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<v Speaker 6>also trying to fix that for myself so that I

0:19:14.760 --> 0:19:18.080
<v Speaker 6>can come back to you and be Yama again, you know,

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<v Speaker 6>like the funny girl.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and it's really funny watching also not funny, I guess,

0:19:25.160 --> 0:19:28.960
<v Speaker 1>more interesting and like from like our own experiences, Like

0:19:29.119 --> 0:19:31.679
<v Speaker 1>watching how she goes through the world is like ridiculous.

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<v Speaker 1>It's shocking to me. I'm shocked cause she's the type

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<v Speaker 1>B personality, but she do but but she's also like

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<v Speaker 1>her background and her experiences are so different than mine.

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<v Speaker 1>So for us to come together and to be able

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<v Speaker 1>to like share, of course, she wants to sleep in

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<v Speaker 1>my room because she's like, oh, you got your fucking

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<v Speaker 1>shit dialed in, Let's go it's time my shit is

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<v Speaker 1>dialed in because you know, I've had different experiences in

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<v Speaker 1>my life and like, well, you know that that contrast

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<v Speaker 1>is very like fun to learn about, you know, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>like someone's experience that is so different.

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<v Speaker 3>Well for me, like, okay, so my background is.

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<v Speaker 6>In terms of you being Puerto Rican, I was sure.

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<v Speaker 6>I've always been isolated as a person. I mean, I

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<v Speaker 6>have three beautiful half sisters. We have different mothers. One

0:20:15.800 --> 0:20:18.199
<v Speaker 6>is in heaven, two are living. But I grew up

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<v Speaker 6>an only child, and I grew up a theater kid

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<v Speaker 6>as well, and I went to parochial school where a

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<v Speaker 6>lot of shit was going on. I was being you know,

0:20:25.760 --> 0:20:27.720
<v Speaker 6>I was being called the N word every day. A

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<v Speaker 6>whole bunch of shit was going on. So I withdrew

0:20:31.040 --> 0:20:34.320
<v Speaker 6>very early on in life to just be a loner,

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<v Speaker 6>right and not really open up to people and be

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<v Speaker 6>around people. And also I'm combating that I wasn't the

0:20:41.680 --> 0:20:46.000
<v Speaker 6>traditional like my background is pretty conservative, and I was

0:20:46.000 --> 0:20:47.760
<v Speaker 6>always pushing against that, you know.

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<v Speaker 3>So for me, it's like there is a reckless abandon

0:20:50.840 --> 0:20:52.480
<v Speaker 3>with me. I fuck it, I don't care.

0:20:53.040 --> 0:20:55.040
<v Speaker 6>Nobody's gonna tell me how to be, how to live

0:20:55.119 --> 0:20:57.320
<v Speaker 6>you're not going to restrict me in any ways, and

0:20:57.480 --> 0:21:00.840
<v Speaker 6>sometimes that can come off very chaotic. And then I

0:21:00.920 --> 0:21:02.800
<v Speaker 6>get to be around Chelsea and I get to relax

0:21:02.840 --> 0:21:05.520
<v Speaker 6>because she knows what she wants, She's got her head

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<v Speaker 6>on straight, and everything is just in line. So sometimes

0:21:08.480 --> 0:21:11.320
<v Speaker 6>I do feel like I can just lay with her

0:21:11.560 --> 0:21:13.920
<v Speaker 6>and not have to worry about certain things, you know,

0:21:14.600 --> 0:21:16.160
<v Speaker 6>and that feels feels good.

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<v Speaker 1>I like to provide that you do.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, our backgrounds are a lot more similar than

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<v Speaker 3>you think.

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<v Speaker 6>But I think for me to come back into a

0:21:27.840 --> 0:21:31.560
<v Speaker 6>space where, like you know, I'm almost fifty, I'm forty seven,

0:21:31.880 --> 0:21:33.920
<v Speaker 6>there's a lot of things going on where I'm looking

0:21:33.960 --> 0:21:36.280
<v Speaker 6>at myself as an adult too, Like how do I

0:21:36.359 --> 0:21:38.040
<v Speaker 6>want to show up in the world. How do I

0:21:38.040 --> 0:21:41.000
<v Speaker 6>want to show up around other people and make them

0:21:41.080 --> 0:21:45.320
<v Speaker 6>feel better about shitty situations. I felt neglected, I felt unseen,

0:21:45.760 --> 0:21:48.600
<v Speaker 6>I felt unloved. And that's why the volume is so loud,

0:21:48.880 --> 0:21:51.000
<v Speaker 6>That's why it is so much in your face, because

0:21:51.480 --> 0:21:54.480
<v Speaker 6>I know I sat home and cried, and I don't

0:21:54.520 --> 0:21:56.800
<v Speaker 6>want anybody else to do that. So I appreciate people

0:21:56.880 --> 0:21:58.800
<v Speaker 6>who say to me, you know what, you made me

0:21:58.840 --> 0:22:01.960
<v Speaker 6>feel good, like your material. I like what you're saying.

0:22:02.040 --> 0:22:04.520
<v Speaker 6>I feel represented. That's a really big deal for me.

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<v Speaker 6>So right now, Also, my focus is just comedy. It's

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<v Speaker 6>not necessarily where I'm living.

0:22:09.440 --> 0:22:11.840
<v Speaker 3>What close I got on, you know, I'm just a

0:22:12.000 --> 0:22:15.560
<v Speaker 3>nomad running around this world, going to CVSS, going to

0:22:15.640 --> 0:22:17.240
<v Speaker 3>cv CVS.

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<v Speaker 1>Marshall's different. She was dragging around a suitcase, this little

0:22:21.840 --> 0:22:23.760
<v Speaker 1>mini like what would you call that purse?

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<v Speaker 3>It's a person is boutique in Las Vegas. It was great.

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<v Speaker 6>She didn't like it, and then I let this bitch

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<v Speaker 6>pressure me into getting rid of it. When I was

0:22:32.800 --> 0:22:35.280
<v Speaker 6>at LaGuardia, I still had the bag. I said, oh shit,

0:22:35.680 --> 0:22:37.520
<v Speaker 6>she doesn't like this bag. She's gonna dog me for

0:22:37.600 --> 0:22:40.000
<v Speaker 6>this bag. So I went and bought a new bag

0:22:40.280 --> 0:22:43.000
<v Speaker 6>at LaGuardia, and then I said to the woman that

0:22:43.200 --> 0:22:44.760
<v Speaker 6>was I was buying it from. I was like, oh

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<v Speaker 6>my god, I don't know what I'm gonna do with

0:22:46.040 --> 0:22:48.480
<v Speaker 6>this bag, and she goes, oh, I'll find somebody to

0:22:48.520 --> 0:22:49.960
<v Speaker 6>take it. I was like, I bet you will, bitch.

0:22:50.080 --> 0:22:55.000
<v Speaker 6>It was a fantastic bag. But then this person told

0:22:55.040 --> 0:22:55.520
<v Speaker 6>me that she.

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<v Speaker 3>Didn't like it. I don't like you looked like a bag.

0:22:58.760 --> 0:23:03.600
<v Speaker 1>Lady sophisticated one wasn't She was open and ship was

0:23:03.640 --> 0:23:06.200
<v Speaker 1>spilling out of it because she's got liquids. She travels.

0:23:06.240 --> 0:23:09.560
<v Speaker 1>Her suitcase is filled with different liquids like drinks, like

0:23:09.840 --> 0:23:12.720
<v Speaker 1>energy drinks are in the suitcase that she travels a lot.

0:23:12.600 --> 0:23:14.120
<v Speaker 3>Of way to just liquid is good.

0:23:16.359 --> 0:23:21.520
<v Speaker 6>Stop eating whole ship, Stop eating substances of like conversation.

0:23:23.400 --> 0:23:24.320
<v Speaker 1>Did you spoke a joint?

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<v Speaker 3>I didn't give me some of this? Oh no, I

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<v Speaker 3>got to get another one, little dog walker? I know

0:23:29.119 --> 0:23:31.840
<v Speaker 3>I should have got Remember I have that big one.

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<v Speaker 3>Should I go get that can break doing this? You

0:23:36.040 --> 0:23:37.840
<v Speaker 3>didn't want that? I got the eighth of the world.

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<v Speaker 10>Give me this.

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<v Speaker 3>The light, the light, the light.

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<v Speaker 7>Baby.

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<v Speaker 3>Well it's so small.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a dog walker.

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<v Speaker 3>What does that mean?

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<v Speaker 1>The fleet last?

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<v Speaker 8>The amount of time to listen to.

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<v Speaker 1>This is really funny.

0:23:52.760 --> 0:23:53.959
<v Speaker 3>This is like a snack.

0:23:54.080 --> 0:23:55.240
<v Speaker 1>It's like a snack joint.

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<v Speaker 3>So the dog got to piss, poop right away and

0:23:58.680 --> 0:24:02.520
<v Speaker 3>then come back. Because this is my cats wouldney more

0:24:02.520 --> 0:24:03.320
<v Speaker 3>than it is a bottle walk?

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<v Speaker 7>Fim?

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<v Speaker 10>Are we supposed to take callers for this?

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<v Speaker 1>We got we got collar, all right, so let's do that.

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<v Speaker 8>Okay, all right?

0:24:16.240 --> 0:24:19.880
<v Speaker 2>Our first caller today is Bella and her subject line,

0:24:19.880 --> 0:24:24.200
<v Speaker 2>by the way, is my brother's wife's lover. What Dear Chelsea,

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<v Speaker 2>My brother just dropped a huge bomb on me. My

0:24:27.200 --> 0:24:29.359
<v Speaker 2>brother's ten years my junior, and we have always been

0:24:29.480 --> 0:24:31.639
<v Speaker 2>very close. We lived in the same building together in

0:24:31.760 --> 0:24:34.360
<v Speaker 2>NYC for over twenty years. He moved out ten years

0:24:34.359 --> 0:24:36.000
<v Speaker 2>ago when he and his wife had their first child.

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<v Speaker 2>While on a peaceful vacation, recently, my brother called with

0:24:39.119 --> 0:24:41.680
<v Speaker 2>a bombshell. He told me his wife is having a

0:24:41.800 --> 0:24:45.359
<v Speaker 2>consensual affair with a female family friend. He said they

0:24:45.400 --> 0:24:47.399
<v Speaker 2>were all open to it at first, but now his

0:24:47.520 --> 0:24:49.760
<v Speaker 2>wife has feelings for the other woman, who is also

0:24:49.880 --> 0:24:53.600
<v Speaker 2>married to a man. I was stunned, cried, and I

0:24:53.720 --> 0:24:57.160
<v Speaker 2>was upset. Not because I'm judgy. I'm open, liberal and fair.

0:24:57.680 --> 0:25:00.800
<v Speaker 2>My feelings were reactive for the kids and the family dynamic.

0:25:01.320 --> 0:25:04.000
<v Speaker 2>He's now unhappy with the agreement and she is conflicted.

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<v Speaker 2>My main concern is for the children.

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<v Speaker 1>I did advise my brother, but I need additional advice.

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<v Speaker 1>What would you do if this was your brother? What

0:25:10.600 --> 0:25:11.479
<v Speaker 1>would you advise him?

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<v Speaker 3>Bella?

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<v Speaker 2>Hi, Bella, Hi, We've got Yaminika here.

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<v Speaker 3>Hi Bella, my baby, how are you.

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<v Speaker 8>I I'm well hi, Chelsea.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh god, what an interesting dilemma. It's kind of like

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<v Speaker 1>a I mean, I know this is your family member

0:25:27.520 --> 0:25:29.320
<v Speaker 1>and your brother, but it's kind of like a sign

0:25:29.400 --> 0:25:33.119
<v Speaker 1>of the times, like women are just like we're wrapped.

0:25:33.280 --> 0:25:35.960
<v Speaker 1>Women are rapped with men. They're ready for it to

0:25:36.040 --> 0:25:38.880
<v Speaker 1>be with a woman like it is. It's so prevalent,

0:25:39.600 --> 0:25:41.600
<v Speaker 1>and it's like we're on the cusp of like it

0:25:41.720 --> 0:25:44.959
<v Speaker 1>becoming an even bigger thing, like at the tipping point. Almost.

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<v Speaker 9>Yeah, it's not actually the shock of the woman, it's

0:25:49.680 --> 0:25:54.440
<v Speaker 9>just how she went about it and just the disrespect,

0:25:54.680 --> 0:25:56.600
<v Speaker 9>you know, like this big bomb.

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<v Speaker 1>Where are things right now?

0:25:58.359 --> 0:26:00.720
<v Speaker 2>Is has there been a transition at all? Everyone's still

0:26:00.720 --> 0:26:02.119
<v Speaker 2>living in their same homes?

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<v Speaker 8>Yeah, so everyone is still living in the same homes.

0:26:06.240 --> 0:26:06.399
<v Speaker 7>You know.

0:26:06.600 --> 0:26:10.320
<v Speaker 8>My mom lives in the house too, my eighty two

0:26:10.400 --> 0:26:10.960
<v Speaker 8>year old mother.

0:26:11.480 --> 0:26:13.399
<v Speaker 3>Oh, and she got to deal with all this musical

0:26:13.520 --> 0:26:16.040
<v Speaker 3>chairs in the bedroom. Yeah, does she know what's going on?

0:26:17.000 --> 0:26:17.520
<v Speaker 8>She does.

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<v Speaker 3>What's opinion about all of this?

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<v Speaker 9>Well, she's eighty two years old, and she was incredibly

0:26:25.560 --> 0:26:29.720
<v Speaker 9>shocked and you know, surprised because this is someone that

0:26:30.000 --> 0:26:32.840
<v Speaker 9>was hanging out with our family, Like I said, I

0:26:33.000 --> 0:26:35.600
<v Speaker 9>moved up here, very close to my brother, the kids

0:26:35.680 --> 0:26:40.440
<v Speaker 9>and everybody, and this woman was around. We had a

0:26:40.520 --> 0:26:43.119
<v Speaker 9>holiday together, we had Thanksgiving together.

0:26:43.720 --> 0:26:44.760
<v Speaker 3>Are you still in New York?

0:26:45.440 --> 0:26:47.120
<v Speaker 8>I'm an hour north of New York.

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<v Speaker 6>Now, whenever you come into the city, I got two

0:26:50.160 --> 0:26:52.560
<v Speaker 6>tickets for you. Come see me at the cellar. Okay,

0:26:53.119 --> 0:26:55.040
<v Speaker 6>just for this wod deal. Maybe bring your brother in.

0:26:55.760 --> 0:26:57.320
<v Speaker 6>Let me know how many tikeies need. I'll take care

0:26:57.320 --> 0:26:59.760
<v Speaker 6>of you. Maybe we can work this out there. I

0:27:01.480 --> 0:27:04.920
<v Speaker 6>got you, We'll connect, Okay. I think what the problem

0:27:05.080 --> 0:27:08.320
<v Speaker 6>is is you see this as a betrayal. But we

0:27:08.440 --> 0:27:11.280
<v Speaker 6>have to go back to the beginning that it was consensual, right,

0:27:11.600 --> 0:27:14.000
<v Speaker 6>So at some point it seems like your brother agreed

0:27:14.560 --> 0:27:18.400
<v Speaker 6>to this dynamic, and you can't help falling in love

0:27:18.480 --> 0:27:21.200
<v Speaker 6>with somebody once you open the door of intimacy. So

0:27:21.440 --> 0:27:24.320
<v Speaker 6>if she didn't just went into a physical thing and

0:27:24.440 --> 0:27:26.600
<v Speaker 6>didn't know she was going to fall in love, It's

0:27:26.680 --> 0:27:31.200
<v Speaker 6>like Chelsea would say, whipsie doodle. But once you have

0:27:31.359 --> 0:27:33.399
<v Speaker 6>to think about all the things that you open up

0:27:33.760 --> 0:27:35.840
<v Speaker 6>when you put yourself in that situation. Now, on the

0:27:35.880 --> 0:27:39.639
<v Speaker 6>flip side, I do understand what you mean about the kids.

0:27:40.040 --> 0:27:41.000
<v Speaker 3>How they're gonna.

0:27:40.760 --> 0:27:44.000
<v Speaker 6>Feel this whole relationship dynamic. But we are in a

0:27:44.119 --> 0:27:47.359
<v Speaker 6>time where the world is changing. In our time, if

0:27:47.440 --> 0:27:49.959
<v Speaker 6>something like that happened, people would have to go to therapy,

0:27:50.080 --> 0:27:52.040
<v Speaker 6>nobody would know what to do, and then it would

0:27:52.080 --> 0:27:55.880
<v Speaker 6>be hush hush. Now the children, your nieces and nephews

0:27:55.960 --> 0:27:59.040
<v Speaker 6>are also dealing with other kids who are also having

0:27:59.119 --> 0:28:01.480
<v Speaker 6>the sype with dynamic mix in their families, so it

0:28:01.520 --> 0:28:03.320
<v Speaker 6>won't be so isolating for them.

0:28:03.760 --> 0:28:06.200
<v Speaker 3>So I think if you can somehow find a way,

0:28:06.640 --> 0:28:08.040
<v Speaker 3>which is going to be hard.

0:28:07.920 --> 0:28:10.960
<v Speaker 6>Right, to not be so emotional about it and see

0:28:11.000 --> 0:28:13.720
<v Speaker 6>how you can come in and maybe help write or

0:28:13.840 --> 0:28:15.840
<v Speaker 6>be a lending hand to them how they need it,

0:28:16.280 --> 0:28:18.800
<v Speaker 6>that would be better served for them than the judgment

0:28:18.840 --> 0:28:20.360
<v Speaker 6>that they're getting through this process.

0:28:21.000 --> 0:28:25.000
<v Speaker 8>I agree with you, I do, I do. But you

0:28:25.119 --> 0:28:27.280
<v Speaker 8>know where we are now is in a very.

0:28:27.480 --> 0:28:32.040
<v Speaker 6>Small town and everybody and everybody business right, correct.

0:28:32.119 --> 0:28:34.160
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, what was the advice that you gave your brother?

0:28:35.200 --> 0:28:37.800
<v Speaker 9>Well, at the time, I just told them to take

0:28:37.840 --> 0:28:41.800
<v Speaker 9>a step back. And yes, I agree with Yaminika was consensual.

0:28:42.400 --> 0:28:46.800
<v Speaker 8>You know, they were doing their thing more than I

0:28:47.040 --> 0:28:47.840
<v Speaker 8>ever expected.

0:28:48.160 --> 0:28:49.040
<v Speaker 10>But that's all good.

0:28:49.160 --> 0:28:52.320
<v Speaker 9>You know, you do you I think, yeah, now, it's

0:28:52.440 --> 0:28:56.720
<v Speaker 9>more like the betrayal, like you said, the disrespect to

0:28:56.880 --> 0:28:59.120
<v Speaker 9>my mom, to the family, to the kids.

0:28:58.920 --> 0:29:02.200
<v Speaker 2>And wow, well I have a question about that, because

0:29:03.200 --> 0:29:05.920
<v Speaker 2>where is the disrespect coming in. Is this our betrayal

0:29:06.000 --> 0:29:08.240
<v Speaker 2>coming in because it sounds like everybody was on board

0:29:08.280 --> 0:29:10.680
<v Speaker 2>with this when it started. I don't know that it

0:29:10.760 --> 0:29:14.120
<v Speaker 2>is a betrayal to say, well, I started a relationship

0:29:14.200 --> 0:29:17.960
<v Speaker 2>with this other person with everyone's consent, and then I fell.

0:29:17.840 --> 0:29:18.760
<v Speaker 3>In love with this person.

0:29:19.440 --> 0:29:22.880
<v Speaker 9>I mean, was there other stuff going on or well

0:29:23.000 --> 0:29:26.240
<v Speaker 9>he had asked her to stop when it started getting

0:29:26.280 --> 0:29:29.880
<v Speaker 9>too crazy, because then they agreed that they were going

0:29:29.960 --> 0:29:32.560
<v Speaker 9>to stop because it was getting out of hand, okay,

0:29:32.680 --> 0:29:37.240
<v Speaker 9>And then when he asked her to stop, it just continued,

0:29:37.320 --> 0:29:40.040
<v Speaker 9>and she was, you know, kind of sneaking around and

0:29:40.160 --> 0:29:44.600
<v Speaker 9>going around and yeah, he behaved badly too during this time.

0:29:44.800 --> 0:29:46.680
<v Speaker 9>And then he had said to her, listen, this is

0:29:46.760 --> 0:29:51.360
<v Speaker 9>going to destroy us, to destroy the family, and sure enough,

0:29:51.480 --> 0:29:52.040
<v Speaker 9>here we are.

0:29:52.640 --> 0:29:55.440
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's a belly you can't unring, you know.

0:29:56.360 --> 0:29:59.080
<v Speaker 9>I guess the disrespect to me now is that she's

0:29:59.160 --> 0:30:04.040
<v Speaker 9>still running around with this woman with the kids, and

0:30:04.160 --> 0:30:06.640
<v Speaker 9>I just keep thinking, I mean, if it were a double.

0:30:06.680 --> 0:30:08.800
<v Speaker 9>See if my brother now falls in love with a

0:30:08.920 --> 0:30:12.400
<v Speaker 9>man and takes the kids around with the man, how

0:30:12.440 --> 0:30:13.800
<v Speaker 9>will she feel about.

0:30:13.720 --> 0:30:16.320
<v Speaker 1>I have to be really honest with you in this moment.

0:30:16.600 --> 0:30:18.680
<v Speaker 1>I feel like you have I know it's your brother,

0:30:18.960 --> 0:30:21.920
<v Speaker 1>but you have so much judgment coming from you. You're

0:30:22.000 --> 0:30:26.040
<v Speaker 1>not She's not trying to humiliate you. She's not. This

0:30:26.200 --> 0:30:29.080
<v Speaker 1>isn't intentional. You can't help it. Like they had an

0:30:29.120 --> 0:30:31.000
<v Speaker 1>open relationship and she fell in love, And I know

0:30:31.080 --> 0:30:33.720
<v Speaker 1>that's hurtful for you to your brother, but like, you

0:30:33.960 --> 0:30:37.080
<v Speaker 1>have to let go of your anger towards her. It's

0:30:37.320 --> 0:30:39.920
<v Speaker 1>not going to be helpful. That energy is not going

0:30:40.000 --> 0:30:42.640
<v Speaker 1>to help the situation that you're in at all. You

0:30:42.760 --> 0:30:45.680
<v Speaker 1>need to be a positive influence on the situation and

0:30:45.840 --> 0:30:48.680
<v Speaker 1>positively support your brother. You don't need to hate on

0:30:48.880 --> 0:30:52.440
<v Speaker 1>this woman and what she did to support your brother. Like,

0:30:52.640 --> 0:30:55.680
<v Speaker 1>it's life. Shit happens. People fall in love and they

0:30:55.760 --> 0:30:57.760
<v Speaker 1>fall out of love, And what you can do is

0:30:57.840 --> 0:30:59.720
<v Speaker 1>be a beam of light and support for your brother.

0:31:00.080 --> 0:31:03.240
<v Speaker 1>And that's all. You don't have to deal with her Like, yes,

0:31:03.320 --> 0:31:04.920
<v Speaker 1>I know it's part of your life, but give her

0:31:04.960 --> 0:31:06.560
<v Speaker 1>a break. Just be cool.

0:31:07.360 --> 0:31:10.480
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, And I think you know, being the age that

0:31:10.560 --> 0:31:13.400
<v Speaker 2>we are, we grew up in this era of compulsory

0:31:13.560 --> 0:31:16.440
<v Speaker 2>heterosexuality right where it was like the default is that

0:31:16.520 --> 0:31:19.160
<v Speaker 2>you are straight, and this woman, I think, has discovered that,

0:31:19.280 --> 0:31:23.120
<v Speaker 2>like her sexuality is somewhere else on the spectrum other

0:31:23.240 --> 0:31:24.040
<v Speaker 2>than just straight.

0:31:24.240 --> 0:31:26.600
<v Speaker 1>And there's a judgment for that from you as well,

0:31:26.840 --> 0:31:29.720
<v Speaker 1>Like I can see you know, and you got it like, yeah,

0:31:29.880 --> 0:31:32.959
<v Speaker 1>that's old, that's old thinking, that's like the olden times.

0:31:33.360 --> 0:31:37.040
<v Speaker 1>It's okay, it's not humiliating that she's a lesbian. Now,

0:31:37.440 --> 0:31:39.360
<v Speaker 1>that's not a humiliation on your family.

0:31:39.560 --> 0:31:44.040
<v Speaker 6>It's not a humiliation at all, right, But also the

0:31:44.120 --> 0:31:47.160
<v Speaker 6>sting of it is that's family, right, so it no

0:31:47.360 --> 0:31:51.000
<v Speaker 6>matter what, once you betray my family, like I'm done

0:31:51.040 --> 0:31:54.480
<v Speaker 6>with you. When they were supposed to stop, she should

0:31:54.480 --> 0:31:56.680
<v Speaker 6>have been honest at that point said I can't stop

0:31:56.800 --> 0:32:00.240
<v Speaker 6>because now I'm in love. Let's take sexuality out of

0:32:00.280 --> 0:32:02.320
<v Speaker 6>it for a second, because when she went into the shit,

0:32:02.440 --> 0:32:05.480
<v Speaker 6>she was at the very least by because she's going

0:32:05.560 --> 0:32:07.320
<v Speaker 6>she went to go fuck a woman, not a man.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, so we could take that off the table.

0:32:09.880 --> 0:32:13.160
<v Speaker 6>What happened is whatever she found over there on that table,

0:32:14.040 --> 0:32:18.440
<v Speaker 6>it was replacing more than whatever your brother was giving her.

0:32:18.800 --> 0:32:22.840
<v Speaker 6>She fell in love, not in lust. In love that

0:32:22.960 --> 0:32:25.760
<v Speaker 6>means I want you outside of fucking you. I want

0:32:25.840 --> 0:32:28.320
<v Speaker 6>the relationship. I want to see you, I want to talk.

0:32:28.320 --> 0:32:30.840
<v Speaker 6>You are my person. And I think they need to

0:32:30.920 --> 0:32:34.560
<v Speaker 6>be honest about maybe they just need to separate altogether.

0:32:35.360 --> 0:32:39.440
<v Speaker 8>Yes, yeah, And I'm not being judging that it's a woman. Honestly,

0:32:39.520 --> 0:32:40.520
<v Speaker 8>I'm not not not judging.

0:32:40.560 --> 0:32:41.760
<v Speaker 6>But you know what, Bill, let me just say this,

0:32:41.840 --> 0:32:44.480
<v Speaker 6>and I'm saying this out of love. When you said

0:32:44.880 --> 0:32:48.880
<v Speaker 6>how would they feel if my brother was going around

0:32:49.160 --> 0:32:52.320
<v Speaker 6>with a man? That makes it a judgment on sexuality

0:32:52.560 --> 0:32:54.320
<v Speaker 6>because why didn't you just say if he was going

0:32:54.400 --> 0:32:55.800
<v Speaker 6>around with another lover?

0:32:56.160 --> 0:32:56.320
<v Speaker 7>Right?

0:32:56.640 --> 0:32:59.080
<v Speaker 6>So when you say things like that, it sings like

0:32:59.400 --> 0:33:02.280
<v Speaker 6>maybe there's a little bit of homophobia there, maybe there's

0:33:02.680 --> 0:33:05.800
<v Speaker 6>some concern. Why are you so concerned about male and

0:33:05.920 --> 0:33:08.960
<v Speaker 6>female in this situation? But at the same time, I

0:33:09.040 --> 0:33:11.560
<v Speaker 6>think emotions are going to be high for you regardless

0:33:11.880 --> 0:33:14.640
<v Speaker 6>because this is your brother. The way you described him

0:33:14.640 --> 0:33:17.080
<v Speaker 6>in this letter was like, oh, they really fuck with

0:33:17.120 --> 0:33:19.360
<v Speaker 6>each other like that, and she loves her brother dad right, right,

0:33:19.480 --> 0:33:22.680
<v Speaker 6>So your judgment is completely clouded in this situation.

0:33:22.600 --> 0:33:24.680
<v Speaker 2>Well, and I think like the place you want to

0:33:24.720 --> 0:33:26.520
<v Speaker 2>get to, or you want your brother to get to

0:33:27.080 --> 0:33:29.840
<v Speaker 2>is however this shakes out whoever winds up with whom

0:33:30.480 --> 0:33:34.720
<v Speaker 2>You want those kids to have happiness, to have adults

0:33:34.760 --> 0:33:36.640
<v Speaker 2>in their life that love them, even if.

0:33:36.560 --> 0:33:38.560
<v Speaker 3>That's not your brother together.

0:33:38.880 --> 0:33:41.640
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, exactly, like people who love them and care for them.

0:33:41.680 --> 0:33:44.600
<v Speaker 2>You want them to feel held. But like there's gonna

0:33:44.600 --> 0:33:47.040
<v Speaker 2>be some complicated stuff to get to that point. So

0:33:47.080 --> 0:33:50.000
<v Speaker 2>I think your role here is just to like absolutely

0:33:50.000 --> 0:33:53.080
<v Speaker 2>support everyone, be there for the kids, and then also

0:33:53.200 --> 0:33:56.720
<v Speaker 2>like speak positively about their mom, like nothing is gonna

0:33:56.720 --> 0:33:59.640
<v Speaker 2>come of, you know, any trash or negativity there.

0:34:00.320 --> 0:34:03.720
<v Speaker 8>And definitely nothing like that. Yeah, no, I don't think

0:34:03.760 --> 0:34:04.080
<v Speaker 8>you would.

0:34:04.200 --> 0:34:07.719
<v Speaker 2>But just getting everyone as quickly as possible and as

0:34:07.760 --> 0:34:10.279
<v Speaker 2>smoothly as possible to the place where like they can

0:34:10.440 --> 0:34:14.279
<v Speaker 2>have multiple families that love them and everyone gets along

0:34:14.360 --> 0:34:16.480
<v Speaker 2>really well, even though there's going to be some complicated

0:34:16.680 --> 0:34:17.399
<v Speaker 2>stuff in the middle.

0:34:17.560 --> 0:34:19.960
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and it happens, It can happen.

0:34:20.080 --> 0:34:20.719
<v Speaker 3>We've all seen it.

0:34:20.920 --> 0:34:22.640
<v Speaker 1>Think about it like you'd want to think about it

0:34:22.719 --> 0:34:25.600
<v Speaker 1>in five years, Like you handled this with grace and

0:34:25.760 --> 0:34:29.160
<v Speaker 1>a plum, you know, like, oh you were a beam

0:34:29.280 --> 0:34:32.239
<v Speaker 1>of support for people, and you helped transition them into

0:34:32.280 --> 0:34:32.920
<v Speaker 1>the next phase.

0:34:33.719 --> 0:34:35.760
<v Speaker 6>And I see a lot of you and me Bela

0:34:35.880 --> 0:34:38.560
<v Speaker 6>in terms of like like I receive information. I know

0:34:38.680 --> 0:34:41.080
<v Speaker 6>some of this may be grading on you, but also

0:34:41.239 --> 0:34:43.600
<v Speaker 6>some of it. You're glad you know you're receiving this.

0:34:44.160 --> 0:34:46.320
<v Speaker 6>Take all that we've given you, and then run it

0:34:46.360 --> 0:34:48.520
<v Speaker 6>through your own filter, which is what I would be doing,

0:34:48.960 --> 0:34:49.920
<v Speaker 6>and then find.

0:34:49.680 --> 0:34:52.520
<v Speaker 1>Out because find your local cvs H.

0:34:53.000 --> 0:34:55.640
<v Speaker 3>But you know, I really feel for you in this situation.

0:34:55.800 --> 0:34:58.200
<v Speaker 6>You have such a beautiful presence about yourself and spirit,

0:34:58.400 --> 0:35:00.759
<v Speaker 6>and I know you just want the best. So but

0:35:00.880 --> 0:35:04.359
<v Speaker 6>I know for me there was nothing. There's nothing better

0:35:04.480 --> 0:35:07.560
<v Speaker 6>in my life than my aunt, no matter what the

0:35:07.640 --> 0:35:08.360
<v Speaker 6>love of mind.

0:35:08.400 --> 0:35:12.680
<v Speaker 8>And I honestly I know I'm I'm not judging. I mean,

0:35:12.960 --> 0:35:13.400
<v Speaker 8>trust me.

0:35:13.480 --> 0:35:16.839
<v Speaker 9>If I could describe my life in New York City,

0:35:16.960 --> 0:35:21.440
<v Speaker 9>I was wild and in every gay club like it's

0:35:21.560 --> 0:35:22.919
<v Speaker 9>nothing like that at all.

0:35:23.320 --> 0:35:24.680
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I was with you.

0:35:25.560 --> 0:35:28.920
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, probably absolutely.

0:35:29.280 --> 0:35:30.320
<v Speaker 8>No problem with that.

0:35:30.520 --> 0:35:34.200
<v Speaker 9>It's the problem I have is mainly just with with

0:35:34.360 --> 0:35:39.160
<v Speaker 9>the bomb that went off and the disrespect, and and

0:35:39.280 --> 0:35:42.720
<v Speaker 9>I worry for my niece and nephew mainly.

0:35:43.160 --> 0:35:46.360
<v Speaker 3>Really they'll be fine. I promise you they'll be fine.

0:35:47.120 --> 0:35:47.719
<v Speaker 3>They really will.

0:35:48.960 --> 0:35:52.640
<v Speaker 6>It's not Mayberry, it's not leave it to Beava. It's

0:35:52.719 --> 0:35:54.960
<v Speaker 6>people doing all kinds of shit out here in this world.

0:35:55.160 --> 0:35:55.440
<v Speaker 3>Okay.

0:35:55.600 --> 0:35:57.759
<v Speaker 6>And what you told me is dame compared to what

0:35:58.040 --> 0:36:00.520
<v Speaker 6>I've been showing Chelsea Dix from some guy barely know.

0:36:00.719 --> 0:36:04.200
<v Speaker 3>And it's like, you know, with him off, it's like,

0:36:04.400 --> 0:36:05.520
<v Speaker 3>so when you talk.

0:36:05.360 --> 0:36:09.120
<v Speaker 1>About that, Yeah, she has phone sex three times is so.

0:36:09.320 --> 0:36:14.400
<v Speaker 6>Amazing, you know whatever, It's gorgeous, I mean, delicious, Okay, appropriate,

0:36:14.440 --> 0:36:14.600
<v Speaker 6>I know.

0:36:15.560 --> 0:36:22.160
<v Speaker 1>Okay, Bella, take our take our advice, like listen to

0:36:22.239 --> 0:36:24.360
<v Speaker 1>what we said, and then we like we listen to

0:36:24.440 --> 0:36:25.800
<v Speaker 1>this because it will help you.

0:36:26.440 --> 0:36:31.120
<v Speaker 9>Okay, yeah, yeah, I definitely will. I'll follow up and

0:36:31.239 --> 0:36:32.719
<v Speaker 9>like you all know, please.

0:36:34.320 --> 0:36:36.239
<v Speaker 2>Put us in like six months or so and like

0:36:36.320 --> 0:36:37.920
<v Speaker 2>let us know how things are shaking out over there.

0:36:37.960 --> 0:36:43.479
<v Speaker 9>Okay, definitely, thank you, take care, bye bye.

0:36:44.280 --> 0:36:47.680
<v Speaker 6>That was that was always give us some really fucking

0:36:47.719 --> 0:36:48.280
<v Speaker 6>great advice.

0:36:48.320 --> 0:36:53.600
<v Speaker 1>I can't stand in love with me. It's another personality.

0:36:54.320 --> 0:36:55.440
<v Speaker 1>This is what which what?

0:36:55.719 --> 0:36:55.960
<v Speaker 7>This is?

0:36:56.040 --> 0:36:58.480
<v Speaker 1>What I want to what can we call it? What's

0:36:58.520 --> 0:37:00.200
<v Speaker 1>our name for the one that loves me?

0:37:01.400 --> 0:37:01.640
<v Speaker 7>Just me?

0:37:01.880 --> 0:37:02.040
<v Speaker 1>Though?

0:37:02.280 --> 0:37:04.200
<v Speaker 3>Like, were you let's call her Justine.

0:37:05.160 --> 0:37:07.719
<v Speaker 1>Oh that's boring. What about Lawanda?

0:37:08.040 --> 0:37:11.719
<v Speaker 3>What do you always every fucking name you pull up

0:37:11.840 --> 0:37:14.000
<v Speaker 3>got to be so bitch that goes to the swap

0:37:14.080 --> 0:37:15.640
<v Speaker 3>meet in Anglewood?

0:37:15.920 --> 0:37:23.680
<v Speaker 1>Stop it, Chelsea, what's our next situation?

0:37:24.200 --> 0:37:24.480
<v Speaker 8>Okay?

0:37:24.760 --> 0:37:27.200
<v Speaker 2>So with that was that was a little messy, We're

0:37:27.239 --> 0:37:30.400
<v Speaker 2>gonna about to get a little messy or these are

0:37:30.480 --> 0:37:38.680
<v Speaker 2>good yes, so McKinley says, Dear Chelsea, I'm a forty

0:37:38.719 --> 0:37:39.480
<v Speaker 2>three or are we.

0:37:42.200 --> 0:37:42.439
<v Speaker 4>Both?

0:37:42.480 --> 0:37:44.880
<v Speaker 6>Would you said it was getting messy and and you

0:37:45.000 --> 0:37:47.160
<v Speaker 6>took the words writing about Okay?

0:37:49.560 --> 0:37:53.839
<v Speaker 2>Okay, dear Chelsea, I'm a forty three year old ex

0:37:53.960 --> 0:38:03.480
<v Speaker 2>Mormon trans guy with two kids from parents weird. I'm

0:38:03.480 --> 0:38:08.160
<v Speaker 2>a forty three year old ex Mormon trans man got

0:38:08.200 --> 0:38:12.799
<v Speaker 2>it with two kids from my previous marriage to a man. Okay, Yeah,

0:38:17.520 --> 0:38:19.759
<v Speaker 2>my birthday is coming back, and I'm really hoping this

0:38:19.920 --> 0:38:22.240
<v Speaker 2>next year is less about cleaning up all my exes.

0:38:22.360 --> 0:38:26.040
<v Speaker 2>Whoosie doodles. My main issue is with my kid's dad.

0:38:26.360 --> 0:38:29.120
<v Speaker 2>On paper, he's supposed to have visitations, but in real

0:38:29.200 --> 0:38:32.120
<v Speaker 2>life I spent years bending over backwards to make visits happen.

0:38:32.680 --> 0:38:36.400
<v Speaker 2>Visits eventually stopped because he constantly dropped the ball. He

0:38:36.440 --> 0:38:38.680
<v Speaker 2>would drink when he had them, sometimes to the point

0:38:38.719 --> 0:38:40.759
<v Speaker 2>that the kids would call me scared or confused, and

0:38:40.840 --> 0:38:42.759
<v Speaker 2>I'd have to drive an hour each way to pick

0:38:42.840 --> 0:38:45.200
<v Speaker 2>them up while also trying to convince the kids that

0:38:45.320 --> 0:38:48.160
<v Speaker 2>this was all normal dad stuff. He acts like I

0:38:48.280 --> 0:38:50.400
<v Speaker 2>quote took the kids away even though he was barely

0:38:50.440 --> 0:38:53.840
<v Speaker 2>showing up. Meanwhile, our youngest is exploring her gender identity

0:38:53.920 --> 0:38:56.600
<v Speaker 2>now and he doesn't even know, so I'm stuck between

0:38:56.680 --> 0:38:59.160
<v Speaker 2>wanting to protect her privacy and feeling like I'm hiding

0:38:59.239 --> 0:39:01.440
<v Speaker 2>something huge about his own kid from a man who

0:39:01.520 --> 0:39:05.080
<v Speaker 2>hasn't exactly earned trust. As a bonus side quest, I

0:39:05.200 --> 0:39:07.359
<v Speaker 2>also have an ex fiance who I own a house

0:39:07.440 --> 0:39:10.200
<v Speaker 2>with which we're trying to untangle after a breakup. Through

0:39:10.239 --> 0:39:12.240
<v Speaker 2>all of this, I clearly have a history of choosing

0:39:12.280 --> 0:39:15.440
<v Speaker 2>bad partners, and the universe keeps handing me group projects.

0:39:16.239 --> 0:39:17.880
<v Speaker 2>Now I'm in the Midwest trying to build a good

0:39:17.920 --> 0:39:20.759
<v Speaker 2>life with my girlfriend who voted for Trump, so that's

0:39:20.800 --> 0:39:24.760
<v Speaker 2>already a fun plot twist, hey Be and our blended family.

0:39:25.120 --> 0:39:27.880
<v Speaker 2>I'm basically rebooting my life as this new version of me,

0:39:28.360 --> 0:39:30.520
<v Speaker 2>So I'd love your advice on how to be honest

0:39:30.560 --> 0:39:33.600
<v Speaker 2>with my kids dad about our child exploring their gender identity,

0:39:33.760 --> 0:39:36.520
<v Speaker 2>and do I start visits back up after eighteen months

0:39:36.560 --> 0:39:38.920
<v Speaker 2>of none? How many chances do you give out give

0:39:38.960 --> 0:39:41.239
<v Speaker 2>a checked out partner before you stop trying? And how

0:39:41.280 --> 0:39:43.880
<v Speaker 2>to balance starting over new career, new partner, and new

0:39:43.960 --> 0:39:46.359
<v Speaker 2>version of me with actually having time and energy left

0:39:46.400 --> 0:39:49.640
<v Speaker 2>for my kids. Thanks for reading and untangling this with me, McKinley.

0:39:49.920 --> 0:39:51.239
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, how manic. I think you should begin.

0:39:52.600 --> 0:39:57.160
<v Speaker 6>First of all, let me just say, McKinley, you're the

0:39:57.239 --> 0:40:00.239
<v Speaker 6>type of person I would fall in love with. I mean, oh,

0:40:00.719 --> 0:40:03.560
<v Speaker 6>like she falls in love with somebody every day every day.

0:40:03.719 --> 0:40:06.840
<v Speaker 6>But also like, no, no, no, no, because I know

0:40:06.960 --> 0:40:10.320
<v Speaker 6>what you're doing. You're looking for love, baby, and in

0:40:10.400 --> 0:40:12.920
<v Speaker 6>the process of looking for love, you keep going to

0:40:13.040 --> 0:40:15.760
<v Speaker 6>places that are just taking advantage of your spirit.

0:40:16.440 --> 0:40:20.120
<v Speaker 3>And I think it started with the Mormon Church, their garbage.

0:40:20.840 --> 0:40:23.319
<v Speaker 6>I think you know it also starts with you now

0:40:23.600 --> 0:40:26.080
<v Speaker 6>trying to You know, you're going into a world of

0:40:26.120 --> 0:40:28.560
<v Speaker 6>a new identity to the world and how the world

0:40:28.640 --> 0:40:31.400
<v Speaker 6>is seeing you. Then you have to have this partner

0:40:31.480 --> 0:40:33.560
<v Speaker 6>that you were in love with and with and had

0:40:33.680 --> 0:40:37.200
<v Speaker 6>children with, have to now discover this new identity who

0:40:37.320 --> 0:40:40.879
<v Speaker 6>you are. They're probably not processing it that well, which

0:40:40.920 --> 0:40:42.160
<v Speaker 6>is why you have this distance.

0:40:42.480 --> 0:40:44.239
<v Speaker 3>So that's another person abandoning you.

0:40:44.760 --> 0:40:46.799
<v Speaker 6>Then you're like, you don't want to see your daughter

0:40:46.920 --> 0:40:49.040
<v Speaker 6>go through the same thing because she's also trying to

0:40:49.080 --> 0:40:51.880
<v Speaker 6>figure out what her identity is. But I can guarantee

0:40:51.880 --> 0:40:54.759
<v Speaker 6>you that your former partner has no idea how to

0:40:54.880 --> 0:40:56.800
<v Speaker 6>help her at all, and if anything might be a

0:40:56.880 --> 0:41:01.320
<v Speaker 6>deterrent if after eight months eighteen months of not seeing

0:41:01.520 --> 0:41:05.400
<v Speaker 6>it is done for the children, right because they cannot

0:41:05.480 --> 0:41:09.760
<v Speaker 6>have this wishy washiness in their life, it is irresponsible

0:41:10.360 --> 0:41:13.960
<v Speaker 6>of that person. And then because it's irresponsible, you're safeguarding

0:41:14.040 --> 0:41:16.840
<v Speaker 6>your children, they have to kind of go no contact.

0:41:16.880 --> 0:41:20.120
<v Speaker 6>At this point, from my perspective, what I think you

0:41:20.280 --> 0:41:22.520
<v Speaker 6>need to do is you need to write down what

0:41:22.680 --> 0:41:26.759
<v Speaker 6>McKinley wants, what McKinley needs, so that you start going

0:41:26.840 --> 0:41:30.800
<v Speaker 6>towards partners that have that. Because how you got hooked

0:41:30.840 --> 0:41:33.840
<v Speaker 6>up with somebody who is a Trump supporter knowing that

0:41:34.040 --> 0:41:36.759
<v Speaker 6>everything that aligns with what you got going on is

0:41:36.960 --> 0:41:39.880
<v Speaker 6>anti Trump and the nonsense they have over there is

0:41:39.960 --> 0:41:42.840
<v Speaker 6>because you don't have enough safeguards around your spirits, and

0:41:43.000 --> 0:41:45.239
<v Speaker 6>you don't have enough boundaries in your life and you

0:41:45.440 --> 0:41:49.960
<v Speaker 6>don't love you first. Once you fix that, you don't

0:41:50.000 --> 0:41:52.120
<v Speaker 6>need our advice, and the rest of the shit is

0:41:52.160 --> 0:41:54.680
<v Speaker 6>gonna fall. You are a beautiful person, I can just

0:41:54.719 --> 0:41:56.839
<v Speaker 6>tell by your smile and spirit. Thank you so much

0:41:56.880 --> 0:41:58.759
<v Speaker 6>for writing this. In IF resonated with me in a

0:41:58.800 --> 0:42:02.080
<v Speaker 6>lot of ways because I feel abandoned a lot. I

0:42:02.280 --> 0:42:05.399
<v Speaker 6>felt unseen and unloved, and I kept running after people

0:42:05.719 --> 0:42:08.440
<v Speaker 6>who didn't love me because sometimes you think to yourself,

0:42:08.680 --> 0:42:10.680
<v Speaker 6>if I can get somebody who doesn't love me and

0:42:10.840 --> 0:42:13.920
<v Speaker 6>doesn't respect me to love me and respect me, I've

0:42:13.960 --> 0:42:17.200
<v Speaker 6>won a battle and you haven't. Okay, I hope that

0:42:17.440 --> 0:42:20.200
<v Speaker 6>resonates with you. I just want to leave that with you,

0:42:20.719 --> 0:42:22.560
<v Speaker 6>just in love, because I think it's more about you

0:42:22.840 --> 0:42:26.520
<v Speaker 6>than anything else. Once you get with you, everything else

0:42:26.640 --> 0:42:27.560
<v Speaker 6>is going to fall in place.

0:42:29.040 --> 0:42:31.600
<v Speaker 2>Yeah yeah, how is that falling on you?

0:42:31.760 --> 0:42:33.840
<v Speaker 10>McKinley, that's great advice.

0:42:34.000 --> 0:42:38.440
<v Speaker 11>My current girlfriend i'm with voted for Trump and she

0:42:38.760 --> 0:42:42.800
<v Speaker 11>actually is a really good person for me.

0:42:43.320 --> 0:42:46.239
<v Speaker 10>So my problem that I have with is not with

0:42:46.480 --> 0:42:47.520
<v Speaker 10>my current girlfriend.

0:42:48.000 --> 0:42:49.920
<v Speaker 3>No, no, no, but it should be. It should be.

0:42:50.120 --> 0:42:52.400
<v Speaker 6>Let me tell you why it should be right. We

0:42:52.560 --> 0:42:56.279
<v Speaker 6>have to be real about assessments. And I'll bring it

0:42:56.360 --> 0:42:58.560
<v Speaker 6>back to Chelsea and I the optics on this. And

0:42:58.600 --> 0:43:00.439
<v Speaker 6>I've said this before. I'm a black woman who talks

0:43:00.560 --> 0:43:03.080
<v Speaker 6>very crazy about white people. Don't trust white people, and

0:43:03.120 --> 0:43:05.480
<v Speaker 6>I shouldn't write the history of white people is gross.

0:43:06.160 --> 0:43:09.080
<v Speaker 3>But at the same time, it's like I wouldn't.

0:43:10.120 --> 0:43:13.719
<v Speaker 6>I'm not here to like dance and prance for somebody

0:43:14.000 --> 0:43:16.239
<v Speaker 6>because I want to be accepted and I want to

0:43:16.280 --> 0:43:18.920
<v Speaker 6>be loved. Like over here, I know that if some

0:43:19.000 --> 0:43:21.280
<v Speaker 6>shit's going down, even though I get on her nerves,

0:43:21.880 --> 0:43:24.439
<v Speaker 6>this woman has my back when it comes to being

0:43:24.480 --> 0:43:27.359
<v Speaker 6>a woman, a black woman, all of that support. If

0:43:27.440 --> 0:43:31.880
<v Speaker 6>she didn't, I could not be here. There's something in

0:43:32.000 --> 0:43:34.520
<v Speaker 6>you that you think is okay. You can't be with

0:43:34.600 --> 0:43:38.520
<v Speaker 6>the Trump supert. I'm just telling you, baby, everything you got.

0:43:38.600 --> 0:43:42.320
<v Speaker 6>You're a transman divorced.

0:43:43.120 --> 0:43:46.480
<v Speaker 3>You understand the fact that you think she's a good person.

0:43:46.560 --> 0:43:47.479
<v Speaker 3>She's a Da da da.

0:43:47.440 --> 0:43:50.040
<v Speaker 6>Dad, not in this time and climate, because there's got

0:43:50.120 --> 0:43:52.799
<v Speaker 6>to be something that she's got going on with her,

0:43:53.160 --> 0:43:55.360
<v Speaker 6>because how could she vote for Trump when Trump is

0:43:55.440 --> 0:43:55.880
<v Speaker 6>against you?

0:43:57.239 --> 0:43:57.439
<v Speaker 11>Right?

0:43:57.840 --> 0:43:59.880
<v Speaker 10>I get that sometimes you make mistakes and.

0:44:01.440 --> 0:44:02.680
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, yeah.

0:44:03.120 --> 0:44:05.399
<v Speaker 10>So when I had a phone call with her because

0:44:05.400 --> 0:44:06.520
<v Speaker 10>I met her online.

0:44:06.960 --> 0:44:09.920
<v Speaker 11>Two hours into the phone call was when I dropped

0:44:09.960 --> 0:44:12.960
<v Speaker 11>the whole Hey probably didn't realize I'm a trans mail

0:44:13.120 --> 0:44:17.279
<v Speaker 11>on my profile. And she said, at this point, I

0:44:17.320 --> 0:44:20.640
<v Speaker 11>would be a complete idiot to not give this a chance.

0:44:20.800 --> 0:44:25.160
<v Speaker 11>And that was about six months ago. So we just

0:44:25.239 --> 0:44:27.320
<v Speaker 11>started dating it in January.

0:44:27.880 --> 0:44:30.920
<v Speaker 6>No that baby, Listen to me, I say the same thing.

0:44:31.560 --> 0:44:33.919
<v Speaker 6>Everybody's lying. Okay, I'm not telling people.

0:44:33.920 --> 0:44:35.120
<v Speaker 3>I'm a comedian. I tell men.

0:44:35.239 --> 0:44:37.880
<v Speaker 6>I teach blind cats how to read. So the reality

0:44:38.040 --> 0:44:40.239
<v Speaker 6>is people are saying all kinds of shit. It's been

0:44:40.360 --> 0:44:43.680
<v Speaker 6>six months. She would be a fool right to adhere

0:44:43.760 --> 0:44:46.239
<v Speaker 6>to what she got going on to lose out on you.

0:44:46.440 --> 0:44:49.359
<v Speaker 6>But the reality is there's going to be a time

0:44:49.480 --> 0:44:52.759
<v Speaker 6>when she's gonna have to choose between you and what

0:44:53.000 --> 0:44:57.040
<v Speaker 6>she believes in. And I'm telling you, baby, that's dangerous

0:44:57.239 --> 0:44:58.719
<v Speaker 6>territory for you.

0:45:00.440 --> 0:45:03.800
<v Speaker 1>Okay, I hear, Yeah, Yeah, I agree with her. I

0:45:03.920 --> 0:45:04.160
<v Speaker 1>think that.

0:45:04.360 --> 0:45:04.560
<v Speaker 7>Yeah.

0:45:04.680 --> 0:45:07.960
<v Speaker 1>You it's like you have a pattern of behavior that's

0:45:08.280 --> 0:45:11.000
<v Speaker 1>like a pathology, and you kind of have to nip

0:45:11.080 --> 0:45:13.840
<v Speaker 1>it in the bud, like you're not looking after yourself.

0:45:13.920 --> 0:45:17.920
<v Speaker 1>That's why it's like a repetition of kind of bad choices.

0:45:18.760 --> 0:45:21.440
<v Speaker 2>Well, and I get why it feels comfortable right, because

0:45:21.440 --> 0:45:24.759
<v Speaker 2>it's like, you know, you're coming out of this previous relationship.

0:45:24.880 --> 0:45:27.200
<v Speaker 2>Things are tumultuous with work and with your ex and

0:45:27.239 --> 0:45:29.520
<v Speaker 2>all these things, but or x is and all these things,

0:45:29.600 --> 0:45:32.239
<v Speaker 2>but this feels comfortable, right, Like this feels like.

0:45:32.280 --> 0:45:34.640
<v Speaker 1>A like a cozy, safe space where you were held.

0:45:34.680 --> 0:45:37.640
<v Speaker 2>But I do think that Yamanika is right, Like when

0:45:37.680 --> 0:45:40.680
<v Speaker 2>it comes down to her choosing between her church that

0:45:40.719 --> 0:45:45.080
<v Speaker 2>has very conservative views like her beliefs, and her relationship

0:45:45.160 --> 0:45:46.640
<v Speaker 2>with you, I think there's going to be a.

0:45:46.680 --> 0:45:47.680
<v Speaker 3>Dividing point there.

0:45:48.200 --> 0:45:51.200
<v Speaker 2>But I want to also go back to what Yamanika

0:45:51.280 --> 0:45:55.560
<v Speaker 2>was saying about how we fill the void that's happening

0:45:55.719 --> 0:45:59.520
<v Speaker 2>for you and how we get McKinley to love McKinley

0:46:00.160 --> 0:46:02.520
<v Speaker 2>so that you can stand on your own two feet.

0:46:03.760 --> 0:46:06.800
<v Speaker 2>And are you in any kind of therapy seeing anybody

0:46:07.040 --> 0:46:07.800
<v Speaker 2>in that capacity?

0:46:08.920 --> 0:46:12.279
<v Speaker 11>I was in therapy, and I was on medicine, and

0:46:12.680 --> 0:46:16.439
<v Speaker 11>I work at a company that doesn't provide very good

0:46:17.120 --> 0:46:20.319
<v Speaker 11>insurance coverage, so I have to wait until next month

0:46:20.440 --> 0:46:21.640
<v Speaker 11>to start therapy again.

0:46:22.160 --> 0:46:22.480
<v Speaker 3>Mary J.

0:46:22.640 --> 0:46:26.440
<v Speaker 6>Blige has a song called good Morning gorgeous, right, yes,

0:46:26.800 --> 0:46:28.920
<v Speaker 6>And it's like at first I was like, this is

0:46:28.960 --> 0:46:31.640
<v Speaker 6>so ridiculous, you know, like you got to do this,

0:46:32.400 --> 0:46:34.840
<v Speaker 6>But I started getting into that song and it's like

0:46:35.560 --> 0:46:38.239
<v Speaker 6>you need to get up in the morning and say

0:46:38.280 --> 0:46:39.920
<v Speaker 6>good morning gorgeous to yourself.

0:46:40.200 --> 0:46:41.400
<v Speaker 3>I can see it all.

0:46:41.360 --> 0:46:43.880
<v Speaker 6>Over you, and not as a judgment, it's because I

0:46:44.040 --> 0:46:46.680
<v Speaker 6>am like that too. This is like really sensitive and

0:46:46.760 --> 0:46:48.879
<v Speaker 6>you're trying to hold it all in but it's hurting

0:46:48.920 --> 0:46:50.520
<v Speaker 6>you at the same time. And as long as you're

0:46:50.600 --> 0:46:53.279
<v Speaker 6>okay and acquiesced to the bullshit around you, you think

0:46:53.360 --> 0:46:58.720
<v Speaker 6>you'll be safe, but you won't. You're a great person, amazing,

0:46:58.760 --> 0:47:01.000
<v Speaker 6>like just from the presence of you. I want you

0:47:01.080 --> 0:47:03.080
<v Speaker 6>to know that, and I don't know if you see

0:47:03.160 --> 0:47:07.800
<v Speaker 6>that in you and you got to, baby, you have to.

0:47:08.200 --> 0:47:08.680
<v Speaker 10>I'm trying.

0:47:09.000 --> 0:47:10.080
<v Speaker 3>No, you really do.

0:47:10.480 --> 0:47:13.120
<v Speaker 6>Immediately when I saw you on the screen, I said, wow,

0:47:14.120 --> 0:47:15.160
<v Speaker 6>just so beautiful.

0:47:15.560 --> 0:47:15.840
<v Speaker 3>Really.

0:47:16.080 --> 0:47:18.879
<v Speaker 11>I tried so hard, and I've been trying to ask

0:47:18.960 --> 0:47:21.719
<v Speaker 11>for help. It's like I get nine yards out of

0:47:21.760 --> 0:47:24.200
<v Speaker 11>the ten yards and I can't freaking get that one yard.

0:47:24.200 --> 0:47:27.040
<v Speaker 11>And it's like I try to ask help for everywhere

0:47:27.040 --> 0:47:29.160
<v Speaker 11>and try to figure things out and I'm just so

0:47:29.360 --> 0:47:31.360
<v Speaker 11>financially screwed trying.

0:47:31.560 --> 0:47:33.080
<v Speaker 10>You know, it's just like how do you do all

0:47:33.120 --> 0:47:33.520
<v Speaker 10>these things?

0:47:33.560 --> 0:47:33.719
<v Speaker 4>You know?

0:47:33.800 --> 0:47:34.400
<v Speaker 10>How do you like?

0:47:34.560 --> 0:47:37.279
<v Speaker 11>I have all this paths I'm trying to protect and

0:47:37.400 --> 0:47:39.799
<v Speaker 11>protect my future and trying to do so many things.

0:47:39.840 --> 0:47:43.560
<v Speaker 10>It's just so hard. Oh sorry, No, you're okay.

0:47:43.880 --> 0:47:46.279
<v Speaker 3>We're also going through this city, you know what I mean.

0:47:46.400 --> 0:47:49.880
<v Speaker 6>Like I cried, Chelsea cries, you know, We've cried to

0:47:49.960 --> 0:47:52.360
<v Speaker 6>each other, like You're not alone in this feeling.

0:47:52.400 --> 0:47:53.560
<v Speaker 3>It feels so isolating.

0:47:53.640 --> 0:47:57.839
<v Speaker 6>But I promise you and I understand finances, God knows

0:47:57.960 --> 0:47:59.399
<v Speaker 6>you know, and I understand all those things.

0:47:59.480 --> 0:48:01.799
<v Speaker 3>They can change the fabric of your life.

0:48:01.880 --> 0:48:04.400
<v Speaker 6>But the first thing you have to do is you

0:48:04.719 --> 0:48:07.800
<v Speaker 6>have to love you and really know that all the

0:48:07.880 --> 0:48:10.520
<v Speaker 6>decisions of that happen in your life have to be

0:48:10.600 --> 0:48:13.000
<v Speaker 6>because they are going to benefit McKinley. Do you understand,

0:48:13.360 --> 0:48:15.799
<v Speaker 6>because if not, if finance is not going to get good,

0:48:15.960 --> 0:48:17.960
<v Speaker 6>the relationship is not going to get good. You're going

0:48:18.000 --> 0:48:21.000
<v Speaker 6>to keep chasing things that don't serve you because, like

0:48:21.200 --> 0:48:24.160
<v Speaker 6>Catherine said, you just want to be comfortable, but you're

0:48:24.360 --> 0:48:26.200
<v Speaker 6>unfortunately comfortable in trauma.

0:48:26.719 --> 0:48:28.560
<v Speaker 10>I think I'm just like in survival mode.

0:48:28.719 --> 0:48:32.160
<v Speaker 2>I'm just trying to just I mean, individual therapy isn't

0:48:32.160 --> 0:48:34.560
<v Speaker 2>something that can happen right now for financial or any

0:48:34.600 --> 0:48:37.239
<v Speaker 2>other reasons. Let's find you a support group in your

0:48:37.280 --> 0:48:39.719
<v Speaker 2>area so that you have some outlet for this, Like

0:48:40.120 --> 0:48:44.520
<v Speaker 2>we need weekly support right right. You don't have to

0:48:44.560 --> 0:48:46.200
<v Speaker 2>do this alone, and we don't want you to.

0:48:46.239 --> 0:48:49.440
<v Speaker 10>Do this alone. Thank you, Yeah, thank you. I appreciate it.

0:48:49.680 --> 0:48:51.719
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, And Chelsea, what would you say as far as

0:48:51.760 --> 0:48:53.640
<v Speaker 2>like if there's a step that McKinley can take every

0:48:53.680 --> 0:48:56.040
<v Speaker 2>single day to just get in touch with himself and

0:48:56.200 --> 0:48:58.000
<v Speaker 2>listen to himself, what would.

0:48:57.920 --> 0:48:59.799
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you should get up in the mornings and write

0:48:59.840 --> 0:49:05.120
<v Speaker 1>down like you are magnificent, you are magnetic, and you

0:49:05.440 --> 0:49:08.359
<v Speaker 1>are resilient, and like write those three things down each

0:49:08.480 --> 0:49:11.640
<v Speaker 1>morning and you're you know, on a piece of paper

0:49:12.160 --> 0:49:13.640
<v Speaker 1>and start saying that to yourself.

0:49:15.160 --> 0:49:17.680
<v Speaker 10>Okay, that was magnificent, resilient. What was the second one?

0:49:18.640 --> 0:49:19.160
<v Speaker 1>Magnetic?

0:49:19.960 --> 0:49:20.440
<v Speaker 10>Magnetic?

0:49:20.520 --> 0:49:22.759
<v Speaker 3>Thank you? And also go find your own words. I

0:49:22.760 --> 0:49:24.560
<v Speaker 3>wouldn't be writing too many things down that she says.

0:49:25.600 --> 0:49:28.600
<v Speaker 3>You know what, Chelsea is my god, so I will

0:49:28.800 --> 0:49:31.320
<v Speaker 3>listen mad decisions again.

0:49:32.800 --> 0:49:33.600
<v Speaker 1>Hey, I'm your god.

0:49:33.680 --> 0:49:43.799
<v Speaker 3>To honey, I wish the little but Jesus Christ, all

0:49:43.840 --> 0:49:45.759
<v Speaker 3>of us did. You wouldn't even cross the street to

0:49:45.840 --> 0:49:46.640
<v Speaker 3>get me a hot.

0:49:50.800 --> 0:49:57.480
<v Speaker 1>Lordo's you're nos, LORDO.

0:49:57.880 --> 0:49:58.560
<v Speaker 3>That is correct.

0:49:59.640 --> 0:49:59.839
<v Speaker 1>Lord.

0:50:00.520 --> 0:50:03.520
<v Speaker 10>I served them, I served a mission and had to

0:50:03.600 --> 0:50:04.520
<v Speaker 10>learn Spanish.

0:50:04.640 --> 0:50:05.120
<v Speaker 7>It could be.

0:50:09.960 --> 0:50:12.839
<v Speaker 2>Will you check in with me, let me know if

0:50:12.880 --> 0:50:14.479
<v Speaker 2>you can find something in your marrea.

0:50:14.600 --> 0:50:15.560
<v Speaker 8>If not, I'm going to help you.

0:50:15.680 --> 0:50:17.400
<v Speaker 1>Look like that.

0:50:17.480 --> 0:50:20.200
<v Speaker 3>You can have a group every week.

0:50:21.600 --> 0:50:24.080
<v Speaker 2>But will you check in with me like pretty quickly

0:50:24.200 --> 0:50:25.759
<v Speaker 2>and well we'll get you on the right track.

0:50:26.080 --> 0:50:27.040
<v Speaker 1>Thanks for calling.

0:50:28.520 --> 0:50:29.120
<v Speaker 7>You so much.

0:50:29.520 --> 0:50:34.480
<v Speaker 3>We do love you, love you, love you. Of course.

0:50:39.239 --> 0:50:40.200
<v Speaker 1>I do have one more collar.

0:50:40.360 --> 0:50:41.080
<v Speaker 8>If you're ready.

0:50:42.480 --> 0:50:43.160
<v Speaker 3>To help it, let's go.

0:50:43.320 --> 0:50:47.479
<v Speaker 1>Let's okay.

0:50:47.520 --> 0:50:50.720
<v Speaker 2>Our last caller is Katie and she says, you're Chelsea.

0:50:51.160 --> 0:50:53.360
<v Speaker 2>I need advice for how to deal with my sister.

0:50:53.600 --> 0:50:55.759
<v Speaker 2>We're both in our fifties and a year apart. We

0:50:55.880 --> 0:50:57.799
<v Speaker 2>were very close as children, but we went in very

0:50:57.840 --> 0:51:01.480
<v Speaker 2>different directions directions as adults. That said, we still live

0:51:01.480 --> 0:51:02.920
<v Speaker 2>in the town where we grew up, and we're both

0:51:02.960 --> 0:51:06.080
<v Speaker 2>close with our mother and extended family. Here's the problem.

0:51:06.320 --> 0:51:09.600
<v Speaker 2>There was no inciting event, but over the last several years,

0:51:09.680 --> 0:51:12.040
<v Speaker 2>maybe even going back to our early thirties. We're like

0:51:12.120 --> 0:51:15.720
<v Speaker 2>oil and water. We tolerate each other, but there's constant tension.

0:51:16.160 --> 0:51:17.960
<v Speaker 2>I know I'm not perfect, but it feels like she's

0:51:18.120 --> 0:51:21.760
<v Speaker 2>constantly sniping at me, criticizing me, being negative, and cutting

0:51:21.840 --> 0:51:24.320
<v Speaker 2>me down. I've been sober for almost three years, and

0:51:24.360 --> 0:51:27.320
<v Speaker 2>I'm committed to live and let live toward life in general.

0:51:27.600 --> 0:51:29.479
<v Speaker 2>I try to tune her out and be the bigger person,

0:51:29.520 --> 0:51:32.160
<v Speaker 2>but gets harder every time I see her. We just

0:51:32.200 --> 0:51:34.080
<v Speaker 2>spent the weekend traveling with our eighty year old mom

0:51:34.200 --> 0:51:36.280
<v Speaker 2>for our family event, and I'm ready to never speak

0:51:36.320 --> 0:51:38.600
<v Speaker 2>to her again. But that would break my mom's heart,

0:51:38.600 --> 0:51:40.799
<v Speaker 2>which is out of the question. I also don't want

0:51:40.840 --> 0:51:43.000
<v Speaker 2>to lose my only sister, but maybe I already have.

0:51:43.560 --> 0:51:45.880
<v Speaker 2>I know you've been through a lot with your extended family, Chelsea,

0:51:45.960 --> 0:51:47.959
<v Speaker 2>so any thoughts. I appreciate you and your team.

0:51:48.200 --> 0:51:53.120
<v Speaker 1>Katie. Hi, Hi, Hi, Hi, Hi? How are you o?

0:51:53.360 --> 0:51:55.279
<v Speaker 8>Katie Gat It's so exciting to be here.

0:51:55.640 --> 0:51:57.200
<v Speaker 1>Hi, this is Yamy, I have you.

0:51:57.440 --> 0:51:57.560
<v Speaker 11>Hi.

0:51:57.640 --> 0:51:58.880
<v Speaker 3>I'm Yaminika Katie.

0:51:59.160 --> 0:51:59.920
<v Speaker 1>Oh, oh my god.

0:52:00.000 --> 0:52:02.080
<v Speaker 7>I'll try to watch my mouth in your presence.

0:52:02.160 --> 0:52:03.239
<v Speaker 10>I know how sensitive you.

0:52:03.320 --> 0:52:06.520
<v Speaker 3>Are, baby, so look at cutie pye, you try to

0:52:06.560 --> 0:52:07.160
<v Speaker 3>be my sister?

0:52:07.760 --> 0:52:11.080
<v Speaker 1>Well wait, what's the situations? Why can't you get?

0:52:11.280 --> 0:52:11.320
<v Speaker 7>What?

0:52:11.560 --> 0:52:13.520
<v Speaker 1>Is she so annoying and you're so annoying to her?

0:52:14.440 --> 0:52:16.879
<v Speaker 1>You both hate each other like annoy each other kind

0:52:16.920 --> 0:52:20.080
<v Speaker 1>of Yeah, are you angry at her about something?

0:52:20.840 --> 0:52:23.160
<v Speaker 7>After this trip that we went on, my husband said

0:52:23.200 --> 0:52:25.080
<v Speaker 7>the only solution he saw was that we go in.

0:52:25.080 --> 0:52:26.520
<v Speaker 10>The backyard with boxing gloves.

0:52:26.760 --> 0:52:31.560
<v Speaker 6>Oh all right, Well there's a resentment somewhere. Where's the resentment?

0:52:32.360 --> 0:52:32.960
<v Speaker 7>I don't know.

0:52:33.480 --> 0:52:36.240
<v Speaker 10>I mean, I could, I could make some guesses.

0:52:36.360 --> 0:52:39.040
<v Speaker 7>I mean, I think that our lives have turned out.

0:52:39.480 --> 0:52:42.359
<v Speaker 7>You know, our lives have turned out basically the way

0:52:42.400 --> 0:52:44.640
<v Speaker 7>that we wanted them to. You know, I always wanted

0:52:44.680 --> 0:52:46.919
<v Speaker 7>to be a career person, and I am. My sister

0:52:47.280 --> 0:52:49.080
<v Speaker 7>is a stay at home mom, and she loves her

0:52:49.160 --> 0:52:52.080
<v Speaker 7>kids and she loves that. But it seems like I

0:52:52.160 --> 0:52:54.399
<v Speaker 7>think she resents the freedom that I have. I mean,

0:52:54.440 --> 0:52:56.080
<v Speaker 7>if I had to guess, i'd say what that is?

0:52:56.200 --> 0:52:58.640
<v Speaker 7>But it's so hard to have an honest conversation with

0:52:58.760 --> 0:53:00.680
<v Speaker 7>her that I'm speculating when I say that.

0:53:01.120 --> 0:53:03.879
<v Speaker 1>So, what's your issue with her?

0:53:05.480 --> 0:53:08.400
<v Speaker 7>It's just it's the constant cutdowns, It's the constant.

0:53:08.440 --> 0:53:10.080
<v Speaker 1>It's just she's cutting down.

0:53:11.040 --> 0:53:14.600
<v Speaker 6>Yeah, I mean she's trying to belittle you because I

0:53:14.680 --> 0:53:17.520
<v Speaker 6>think I don't think she probably is as happy as

0:53:17.600 --> 0:53:20.839
<v Speaker 6>you think she is or satisfied. Right. I think I'm

0:53:20.840 --> 0:53:23.239
<v Speaker 6>not a mother and I've never been able to fool

0:53:23.280 --> 0:53:25.600
<v Speaker 6>a man into marrying me. But I can tell you

0:53:25.800 --> 0:53:29.800
<v Speaker 6>this that there is a sense of accomplishment quite early

0:53:29.960 --> 0:53:33.360
<v Speaker 6>once you go into relationship that probably goes into marriage

0:53:33.719 --> 0:53:36.360
<v Speaker 6>and then children, and then after that you have to

0:53:36.400 --> 0:53:39.120
<v Speaker 6>look at yourself and go what's next. That's something that

0:53:39.280 --> 0:53:41.520
<v Speaker 6>you don't have to worry about as a career woman,

0:53:41.600 --> 0:53:44.319
<v Speaker 6>because what next is the career thing. You haven't really

0:53:44.480 --> 0:53:47.919
<v Speaker 6>locked down life. People are locking down life early seeing

0:53:48.000 --> 0:53:50.680
<v Speaker 6>people do an evolve beyond where they've stopped.

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<v Speaker 3>And then there's a resentment.

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<v Speaker 6>So because she feels bad about what you got going

0:53:55.080 --> 0:53:57.600
<v Speaker 6>on in the freedom you got, she wants to cut

0:53:57.680 --> 0:53:59.239
<v Speaker 6>you down and make you feel the same as her.

0:53:59.800 --> 0:54:05.680
<v Speaker 6>You cannot be in a relationship like that without communicating. Hey, listen,

0:54:05.800 --> 0:54:07.960
<v Speaker 6>I don't like when you say this. I don't like

0:54:08.040 --> 0:54:09.759
<v Speaker 6>when you say that it makes me feel this way.

0:54:09.800 --> 0:54:12.040
<v Speaker 6>If they love you enough and respect you enough, then

0:54:12.120 --> 0:54:14.320
<v Speaker 6>they will hear it. If they don't, then you just

0:54:14.440 --> 0:54:17.880
<v Speaker 6>have to separate. But you can't force your sister to

0:54:17.960 --> 0:54:20.440
<v Speaker 6>have a conversation with you. If she doesn't want to

0:54:20.480 --> 0:54:22.839
<v Speaker 6>have a conversation with you, and if she's not going

0:54:22.920 --> 0:54:25.680
<v Speaker 6>to talk or communicate her real feelings to you, then

0:54:25.719 --> 0:54:28.600
<v Speaker 6>you have to either limit contact or go no contact.

0:54:28.960 --> 0:54:31.680
<v Speaker 1>When she's cutting you down, what's your reaction to that?

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<v Speaker 7>I just I kind of go gray rock, you know.

0:54:36.080 --> 0:54:40.960
<v Speaker 7>I just I associate. Yeah, honestly, sometimes I sometimes I

0:54:41.040 --> 0:54:43.200
<v Speaker 7>try to change the subject. It just depends on who

0:54:43.239 --> 0:54:46.520
<v Speaker 7>else is around us. Very rarely is it just her

0:54:46.640 --> 0:54:48.799
<v Speaker 7>and I, because I don't spend time with her unless

0:54:48.920 --> 0:54:51.400
<v Speaker 7>I really have to because of the larger family, and

0:54:51.719 --> 0:54:54.680
<v Speaker 7>I don't want to be rude or cause a you know,

0:54:54.800 --> 0:54:59.359
<v Speaker 7>a big family kerfuffle by telling her. You know you're

0:54:59.400 --> 0:55:01.480
<v Speaker 7>being rude, being a jerk. Can you stop? You know,

0:55:01.680 --> 0:55:04.120
<v Speaker 7>it just feels so impossible to me because of the

0:55:04.520 --> 0:55:05.760
<v Speaker 7>larger family dynamic.

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<v Speaker 6>Let me ask you something, when you get angry, do

0:55:08.600 --> 0:55:11.080
<v Speaker 6>you really like is it uncontrollable anger?

0:55:14.760 --> 0:55:20.120
<v Speaker 7>I'm I'm an enneagram one, if that makes any sense.

0:55:20.160 --> 0:55:23.560
<v Speaker 7>I'm a you know, the perfectionist type that just internalizes.

0:55:23.160 --> 0:55:25.319
<v Speaker 1>What's your star signs? Should that'll make sense to her?

0:55:25.520 --> 0:55:26.960
<v Speaker 3>No, that's not what I'm saying to you.

0:55:27.200 --> 0:55:28.800
<v Speaker 6>Is what I do a lot, and it gets me

0:55:28.880 --> 0:55:33.719
<v Speaker 6>in problems, right, is because I know, like, once you

0:55:33.920 --> 0:55:36.040
<v Speaker 6>piss me off, once I've gotten pissed off and I've

0:55:36.080 --> 0:55:39.960
<v Speaker 6>gone beyond, there's no I'm I'm getting ready to get

0:55:39.960 --> 0:55:43.000
<v Speaker 6>with your ass in a really wild way. Right And

0:55:43.320 --> 0:55:45.840
<v Speaker 6>probably when I'm done getting with you, we're gonna have

0:55:46.000 --> 0:55:48.400
<v Speaker 6>to sever tize unless you can emotionally get over the

0:55:48.480 --> 0:55:51.000
<v Speaker 6>fact that I just ran you into the ground. So

0:55:51.120 --> 0:55:53.680
<v Speaker 6>a lot of times I try to avoid those situations

0:55:53.760 --> 0:55:56.800
<v Speaker 6>by being the nicer person, the bigger person, or the

0:55:56.960 --> 0:56:00.400
<v Speaker 6>ah you know, and over time that bill up and

0:56:00.480 --> 0:56:03.759
<v Speaker 6>it's frustrating to you because it's like you're going great

0:56:03.840 --> 0:56:04.600
<v Speaker 6>rock all the time.

0:56:04.680 --> 0:56:08.040
<v Speaker 3>Why your sister going hot lava? You need to get

0:56:08.080 --> 0:56:10.680
<v Speaker 3>with her in these moments. You need to be like, hey, bitch,

0:56:10.719 --> 0:56:13.759
<v Speaker 3>hold on a second, why are you talking crazy to

0:56:13.880 --> 0:56:16.480
<v Speaker 3>me like that? What's up? What have I done? No,

0:56:16.640 --> 0:56:19.120
<v Speaker 3>because as long as you allow it, it's going to

0:56:19.239 --> 0:56:19.800
<v Speaker 3>get done that.

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<v Speaker 1>I agree. I think like you have to face it honestly,

0:56:23.320 --> 0:56:25.440
<v Speaker 1>like and and even if she can't be honest. You

0:56:25.600 --> 0:56:27.640
<v Speaker 1>have to get her to be honest, like you have

0:56:27.760 --> 0:56:30.200
<v Speaker 1>to be like, listen, this is ridiculous. We hate each other.

0:56:30.360 --> 0:56:32.640
<v Speaker 1>Why do we hate each other? Let's talk about it?

0:56:32.800 --> 0:56:34.759
<v Speaker 1>Would you rather? I would like to figure this out.

0:56:34.880 --> 0:56:38.239
<v Speaker 1>Let's figure this out together, Like what what can I do?

0:56:38.760 --> 0:56:41.000
<v Speaker 1>I'll do anything to have as a normal relation. Do

0:56:41.080 --> 0:56:43.200
<v Speaker 1>you fucking hate me? Like you have to have like

0:56:43.320 --> 0:56:45.879
<v Speaker 1>a moment of real honesty to get cause you guys

0:56:45.920 --> 0:56:49.399
<v Speaker 1>then can actually break all the tension and come together. Yeah,

0:56:49.760 --> 0:56:54.040
<v Speaker 1>sorry that I'm yelling. Okay, yeah, yeah, so.

0:56:54.120 --> 0:56:57.480
<v Speaker 3>That she was passionate. She was talking about her and I.

0:56:57.640 --> 0:57:00.279
<v Speaker 3>That's how we we also these sisters. Did you write this?

0:57:00.360 --> 0:57:03.160
<v Speaker 1>Let in tell he shut up? Shut up?

0:57:03.760 --> 0:57:03.960
<v Speaker 10>Oh?

0:57:05.239 --> 0:57:06.759
<v Speaker 1>But yeah, but I also can't.

0:57:06.880 --> 0:57:08.400
<v Speaker 7>I can't dime out Chelsea like that.

0:57:08.680 --> 0:57:11.840
<v Speaker 1>But but also I feel like there can't be like

0:57:12.200 --> 0:57:15.640
<v Speaker 1>tension without two people having the tension, you know what

0:57:15.719 --> 0:57:18.480
<v Speaker 1>I mean? Like, if you can't, there has to be

0:57:18.600 --> 0:57:21.680
<v Speaker 1>something coming from you too. That is like an explosive energy,

0:57:22.000 --> 0:57:25.120
<v Speaker 1>and that's why it should. It needs to combust, you know,

0:57:25.360 --> 0:57:28.360
<v Speaker 1>Like you can't dance when somebody's not dancing. Yeah, I

0:57:28.440 --> 0:57:30.760
<v Speaker 1>mean I can't. Actually that's The only time I should

0:57:30.800 --> 0:57:32.920
<v Speaker 1>be dancing is when no one else is dancing.

0:57:39.080 --> 0:57:39.240
<v Speaker 3>Yo.

0:57:39.520 --> 0:57:42.120
<v Speaker 6>But you seem like you're in this thing by yourself,

0:57:42.840 --> 0:57:45.360
<v Speaker 6>and Chelsea's right, you got to engage you assistant in

0:57:45.480 --> 0:57:48.000
<v Speaker 6>it because she also has to feel uncomfortable.

0:57:48.200 --> 0:57:50.240
<v Speaker 3>And you think she writing a letter somewhere about what

0:57:50.440 --> 0:57:52.120
<v Speaker 3>you got. You know she's not writing a letter.

0:57:52.200 --> 0:57:54.200
<v Speaker 6>She over did baker cookies for your nieces and nephews

0:57:54.480 --> 0:57:56.080
<v Speaker 6>and you over here trying to figure out how you're

0:57:56.080 --> 0:57:58.480
<v Speaker 6>going to get your situation back with your sister. You guys,

0:57:58.520 --> 0:58:01.400
<v Speaker 6>are sisters that that's important to you or it's not.

0:58:01.720 --> 0:58:04.680
<v Speaker 6>If it is, then some egos are gonna have to shift,

0:58:04.920 --> 0:58:07.680
<v Speaker 6>some conversations are going to have to happen, and hopefully

0:58:07.720 --> 0:58:09.960
<v Speaker 6>at the end of it, you guys remain sisters and

0:58:10.040 --> 0:58:11.360
<v Speaker 6>building a better relationship.

0:58:11.760 --> 0:58:13.600
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and I think the time to have this conversation

0:58:13.720 --> 0:58:16.240
<v Speaker 2>is not at first. She's just said something that activates you.

0:58:16.560 --> 0:58:19.720
<v Speaker 2>But like before you go into time with your mom

0:58:19.960 --> 0:58:21.840
<v Speaker 2>or whatever, I can let me.

0:58:21.920 --> 0:58:22.240
<v Speaker 3>Just say this.

0:58:22.880 --> 0:58:25.720
<v Speaker 6>I say wait till she because then she know who

0:58:26.000 --> 0:58:29.479
<v Speaker 6>Because I'm for real. If you do this, bitch, every

0:58:29.560 --> 0:58:33.760
<v Speaker 6>time you do this, you activate this. You understand you

0:58:33.840 --> 0:58:37.240
<v Speaker 6>start training you do this? Did I become this?

0:58:37.800 --> 0:58:39.800
<v Speaker 3>Right? I have the conversation with her here.

0:58:39.800 --> 0:58:41.560
<v Speaker 6>If you want to keep meeting me here, bitch, I'm

0:58:41.560 --> 0:58:44.160
<v Speaker 6>available to meet you here at this Sorry to keep going.

0:58:44.160 --> 0:58:45.880
<v Speaker 3>Your sister bitch, what are y'all's a bitch?

0:58:46.720 --> 0:58:48.640
<v Speaker 7>But you know what?

0:58:48.960 --> 0:58:51.160
<v Speaker 3>Right for sure? What he is a bitch? I don't know.

0:58:51.200 --> 0:58:53.120
<v Speaker 3>We got to hear your sister's story. Maybe she'll right

0:58:53.120 --> 0:58:53.720
<v Speaker 3>there next week.

0:58:54.320 --> 0:58:57.840
<v Speaker 6>But what I'm telling you is the reality is every

0:58:57.960 --> 0:59:00.720
<v Speaker 6>time she's like this, you got to give her the

0:59:00.840 --> 0:59:03.959
<v Speaker 6>results of what that is, so that at some point

0:59:04.040 --> 0:59:06.200
<v Speaker 6>she probably go, whoa, hey, can we talk?

0:59:06.320 --> 0:59:08.480
<v Speaker 3>She might be coming to you to talk because if

0:59:08.560 --> 0:59:10.280
<v Speaker 3>you're gonna be a warm, bad bitch, so am I.

0:59:10.720 --> 0:59:13.000
<v Speaker 7>That would shock her so badly because I think everyone

0:59:13.040 --> 0:59:14.960
<v Speaker 7>in my family is so used to me being.

0:59:14.880 --> 0:59:18.280
<v Speaker 3>Like, uh, you know, just so non reactive. Yeah, yeah,

0:59:18.280 --> 0:59:19.520
<v Speaker 3>that's how I do. And she's not.

0:59:19.800 --> 0:59:21.600
<v Speaker 2>She's not saying this stuff to you to knock at

0:59:21.640 --> 0:59:24.120
<v Speaker 2>a reaction. She might be surprised at a reaction, but

0:59:24.240 --> 0:59:26.280
<v Speaker 2>she's saying it to go do you. I mean, even

0:59:26.320 --> 0:59:29.400
<v Speaker 2>if it's something as simple as like she says something shitdn'

0:59:29.400 --> 0:59:31.919
<v Speaker 2>hear like wow, I can't believe you felt comfortable saying

0:59:31.960 --> 0:59:33.960
<v Speaker 2>that to me, or I can't believe you felt it

0:59:34.040 --> 0:59:34.480
<v Speaker 2>was okay to.

0:59:34.480 --> 0:59:36.480
<v Speaker 3>Say I can't believe it's not butter bitch.

0:59:36.560 --> 0:59:38.680
<v Speaker 6>But I'm telling you right now, is the next time

0:59:38.760 --> 0:59:42.040
<v Speaker 6>you say something wild to me, I'm all over the place.

0:59:42.320 --> 0:59:45.000
<v Speaker 3>You have the profile of a serial killer.

0:59:45.040 --> 0:59:49.680
<v Speaker 6>You're the sayd serial killers, laid, dormant, nothing, doing nothing.

0:59:49.800 --> 0:59:52.600
<v Speaker 6>They also running businesses and bacon cookies and shit, and

0:59:52.720 --> 0:59:55.240
<v Speaker 6>then one day you're gonna flip out. I make sure

0:59:55.280 --> 0:59:57.439
<v Speaker 6>it redect my address from anything that might.

0:59:57.360 --> 0:59:58.160
<v Speaker 3>Be on any paperwork.

0:59:58.200 --> 1:00:00.440
<v Speaker 6>If you're not gonna come kill me for giving you advice,

1:00:00.440 --> 1:00:01.720
<v Speaker 6>I can tell you where Chelsea lives.

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<v Speaker 1>Actually, I have to move because you stayed here. Oh

1:00:09.120 --> 1:00:09.640
<v Speaker 1>that's the thing.

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<v Speaker 10>They gotta move.

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<v Speaker 7>I have considered from time to time saying to her,

1:00:16.200 --> 1:00:17.280
<v Speaker 7>you know, I'm sorry.

1:00:17.440 --> 1:00:18.400
<v Speaker 1>Could you repeat that?

1:00:19.640 --> 1:00:23.160
<v Speaker 7>She could actually hear herself say like, that's.

1:00:23.000 --> 1:00:25.160
<v Speaker 1>A good first step. Could you repeat that, that's a

1:00:25.200 --> 1:00:27.320
<v Speaker 1>good first step on your journey back to ye.

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<v Speaker 3>Could you repeat that?

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<v Speaker 6>Because I know I know you want yeah, yeah, Somewhere

1:00:35.080 --> 1:00:36.960
<v Speaker 6>in the middle is some good advice for you on this.

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<v Speaker 6>I think it's somewhere in the middle.

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<v Speaker 3>Like I we definitely unfortunately got sky very high, but

1:00:45.240 --> 1:00:46.760
<v Speaker 3>that stands out like that.

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<v Speaker 6>But I do I do want you, like, no matter

1:00:50.320 --> 1:00:53.720
<v Speaker 6>what all joking aside with this, we do want you

1:00:53.800 --> 1:00:56.360
<v Speaker 6>to have this conversation with your sister. You owe it

1:00:56.480 --> 1:00:59.560
<v Speaker 6>to yourself because you feel a certain way about it.

1:00:59.840 --> 1:01:03.080
<v Speaker 6>So even though it maybe you might be nervous about it,

1:01:03.160 --> 1:01:07.640
<v Speaker 6>you're intimidated by it. I promise you once you have

1:01:07.720 --> 1:01:10.440
<v Speaker 6>that conversation, whether it's good or bad, there's gonna be

1:01:10.520 --> 1:01:13.040
<v Speaker 6>a relief that you feel because at least you're gonna

1:01:13.080 --> 1:01:15.640
<v Speaker 6>have some better answers than you do now.

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<v Speaker 3>You have no idea what's going on with you and

1:01:17.600 --> 1:01:18.040
<v Speaker 3>your sister.

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<v Speaker 7>You know what.

1:01:19.040 --> 1:01:20.000
<v Speaker 1>That's a very good point.

1:01:20.200 --> 1:01:23.320
<v Speaker 2>Like I had several years ago a similar conversation with

1:01:23.440 --> 1:01:26.960
<v Speaker 2>my sister where we like went to dinner. We knew

1:01:26.960 --> 1:01:29.040
<v Speaker 2>we were going to hash some shit out. We had

1:01:29.080 --> 1:01:32.480
<v Speaker 2>a lot of Martini's, Like we talked about it, and

1:01:32.640 --> 1:01:34.760
<v Speaker 2>like there were some things that she had said to

1:01:34.840 --> 1:01:36.680
<v Speaker 2>me in the past that she didn't know were as

1:01:36.760 --> 1:01:39.720
<v Speaker 2>hurtful as they were, and it was, you know, repetitive stuff,

1:01:40.040 --> 1:01:41.680
<v Speaker 2>And there were things I had said to her that

1:01:41.880 --> 1:01:44.320
<v Speaker 2>I had no like dumb jokes I was trying to make,

1:01:44.360 --> 1:01:47.000
<v Speaker 2>and like, oh that was really actually very hurtful to her.

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<v Speaker 2>So it really was eye opening to be able to

1:01:49.920 --> 1:01:52.760
<v Speaker 2>like have a conversation where you know, you are going

1:01:52.840 --> 1:01:55.000
<v Speaker 2>in to have this conversation about like we need to

1:01:55.080 --> 1:01:57.520
<v Speaker 2>work some shit out, We need to figure some stuff

1:01:57.520 --> 1:01:59.880
<v Speaker 2>out so that we can be around each other when

1:02:00.040 --> 1:02:02.240
<v Speaker 2>we want to be here for our mom, because that's

1:02:02.520 --> 1:02:03.200
<v Speaker 2>where you want to be.

1:02:04.040 --> 1:02:06.680
<v Speaker 8>Right, Yeah, that is the most important thing to me, exactly.

1:02:07.640 --> 1:02:09.400
<v Speaker 7>And you know, I like, I mean, my mom is

1:02:09.440 --> 1:02:11.720
<v Speaker 7>in really good health, but you know, I like to

1:02:11.760 --> 1:02:14.280
<v Speaker 7>think that she sees this tension even though she absolutely

1:02:14.360 --> 1:02:16.800
<v Speaker 7>refuses to weigh in on it, and I think she

1:02:16.880 --> 1:02:19.200
<v Speaker 7>would like she would like to leave this earth knowing

1:02:19.240 --> 1:02:21.680
<v Speaker 7>that her two girls love each other and can get along.

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<v Speaker 10>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>And somebody wants to be the cycle breaker. Yeah, so

1:02:25.440 --> 1:02:29.600
<v Speaker 1>be that person you can break my Yeah. So what

1:02:29.720 --> 1:02:32.120
<v Speaker 1>you're doing isn't working, So you have to change your

1:02:32.160 --> 1:02:36.440
<v Speaker 1>approach and then break the cycle. Be a disruptor. This

1:02:36.600 --> 1:02:40.840
<v Speaker 1>is a good disruptor. You're a bad disruptor. All right, Well,

1:02:41.040 --> 1:02:44.400
<v Speaker 1>I'm glad you called in and keep us posted. Let

1:02:44.480 --> 1:02:45.160
<v Speaker 1>us know what happens.

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<v Speaker 7>Yes, I really appreciate the advice and all the good

1:02:47.760 --> 1:02:49.919
<v Speaker 7>advice that y'all give on your show over the years

1:02:50.000 --> 1:02:52.560
<v Speaker 7>of It's helped me a lot in different areas, and

1:02:52.840 --> 1:02:55.320
<v Speaker 7>I've passed it along to other people that have come

1:02:55.400 --> 1:02:57.960
<v Speaker 7>to me for advice. It's just, you know, you guys

1:02:58.040 --> 1:03:00.400
<v Speaker 7>could be just like drinking Martini's all day and not

1:03:00.520 --> 1:03:02.600
<v Speaker 7>helping people. But you're spending your time doing this and

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<v Speaker 7>I'm really appreciate it.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks, Katie, I love that. Thank you so much.

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<v Speaker 8>All Right, good luck with this conversation.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, all right, thanks, you can do it, all right,

1:03:12.960 --> 1:03:15.440
<v Speaker 1>and that's it for us today. Thank God. This is

1:03:15.480 --> 1:03:18.600
<v Speaker 1>so I know, I know, but I have to be honest.

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<v Speaker 1>I dropped out during the middle of one of those letters.

1:03:22.480 --> 1:03:24.480
<v Speaker 1>I just was like, my head was in the fucking

1:03:24.560 --> 1:03:26.680
<v Speaker 1>clouds thinking about what I'm gonna eat later.

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<v Speaker 8>I picked some very like complicated.

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<v Speaker 1>This is a great episode, great questions. I like all

1:03:34.480 --> 1:03:39.240
<v Speaker 1>the drama heavy stuff like that. Even when I'm today,

1:03:40.840 --> 1:03:43.440
<v Speaker 1>I brought it and listen again. I'm so excited to

1:03:43.520 --> 1:03:46.960
<v Speaker 1>be on Chelsea Network. This is I can't wait till

1:03:46.960 --> 1:03:49.560
<v Speaker 1>we get you the color of your Foundation right. I

1:03:49.680 --> 1:03:50.160
<v Speaker 1>can't wait.

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<v Speaker 3>I can't wait till you stop bringing that up. Bitch.

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<v Speaker 3>I told you I'm fine. Don't worry. Don't be checking

1:03:55.760 --> 1:03:58.000
<v Speaker 3>bitches about their face. Thank you.

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<v Speaker 6>So anyway, if you want to hear less helpful advice

1:04:03.480 --> 1:04:07.360
<v Speaker 6>but more in your ass shit, please go listen to

1:04:07.640 --> 1:04:11.360
<v Speaker 6>your The problem myself included with Yama on the Dear

1:04:11.680 --> 1:04:12.720
<v Speaker 6>Chelsea Network.

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<v Speaker 1>This is very exciting, you guys, please go listen to

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<v Speaker 1>Ya so you can get a dose of her the

1:04:18.440 --> 1:04:21.240
<v Speaker 1>way I want you to understand what my life is like.

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<v Speaker 1>So I want everyone to Yeah, and you can follow

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<v Speaker 1>her on Instagram also, but if you see her do

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<v Speaker 1>a live please report her to me, to you or

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<v Speaker 1>to answering.

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<v Speaker 7>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Now that she has a podcast, she does not need

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<v Speaker 1>to do as many lives in a blue Okay that

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<v Speaker 1>means on every thirty seconds?

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<v Speaker 3>No, it does it all right?

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<v Speaker 1>I love you sort of?

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<v Speaker 3>I love you.

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<v Speaker 1>I love you?

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<v Speaker 10>Okay, you know you do.

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<v Speaker 1>It's called what's You're the problem? You're the problem?

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<v Speaker 3>Would you like to learn the name.

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<v Speaker 6>It's also Katine, I love you too. If you're the

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<v Speaker 3>I would love to.

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