Speaker 1: Okay, guys, here are my dates for the High and
Speaker 1: Mighty Tour. In August you can find me in Red Bank,
Speaker 1: New Jersey, Montclair, New Jersey, and Calgary that's Canada. And
Speaker 1: September I will be in Santa Barbara, San Diego, New
Speaker 1: York City, Philly and New Haven, Connecticut. October is Atlanta, Baltimore, Saginaw, Michigan, Pittsburgh, Toronto, Boise,
Speaker 1: Idaho and Spokan. And then in November I'll be in
Speaker 1: San Francisco. I'm coming to Salt Lake City, Austin, Houston,
Speaker 1: Dallas Babies, I'll be there. And then in December I
Speaker 1: am closing out my tour in Denver and Vancouver. So
Speaker 1: get your tickets at Chelseahandler dot com for the High
Speaker 1: and Mighty Tour. Hi Catherine, Hi Chelsea.
Speaker 2: Who are you traveling with right now?
Speaker 1: I am now by myself.
Speaker 3: Oh okay.
Speaker 4: I am in Spanish school. I am going to Spanish
Speaker 4: school from nine to two pm every day in a
Speaker 4: Spanish city somewhere near you, somewhere near Spain.
Speaker 3: You're gonna be fluid when you come back. It's gonna
Speaker 3: be great.
Speaker 4: Hopefully we'll see what happens we'll see how many days
Speaker 4: of school I actually get to.
Speaker 1: But I'm on day three, so school from nine to two.
Speaker 4: And then there's cultural activity activity da DAEs that I
Speaker 4: am opting out of because I need a nightlife.
Speaker 1: But I in school from nine to two is all
Speaker 1: I need? Really?
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean I think your your nightlife is going
Speaker 2: to be your cultural activity Dades.
Speaker 5: Yes, exactly, that's me experiencing culture is going out excellent. Well,
Speaker 5: our guest today is a very special guest because she's
Speaker 5: launching her very own podcast under the Dear Chelsea podcast network,
Speaker 5: and this is going to give you a slice of
Speaker 5: what you can listen to when you tune into her
Speaker 5: podcast every week. Her new podcast is called You're the
Speaker 5: Problem with Yaminika Saunders, and after listening to this, you'll
Speaker 5: also understand that she is the problem and she's my
Speaker 5: problem and everyone's problem. So that title alone invites you
Speaker 5: to laugh.
Speaker 2: And she gave great advice. Actually on this episode, I
Speaker 2: was I was very impressed with her.
Speaker 1: She is good at advice.
Speaker 5: She's terrible at taking it, but she's good at giving it.
Speaker 3: How necessary is this air?
Speaker 1: Excuse me? Excuse me? How sweaty don't even let me.
Speaker 1: First of all, I want to talk to you, okay
Speaker 1: before we're shooting this podcast. This is dear Chelsea, this
Speaker 1: is Y'allminika Saunders. If you're not familiar with her, you
Speaker 1: will be by the end of this episode.
Speaker 3: We've had clips go viral with you.
Speaker 1: Okay, anyway, why don't you how necessary is this air?
Speaker 1: How necessary? Is all the bullshit that you get up to?
Speaker 1: You are disruptive. She's been staying at my house for
Speaker 1: a week. Here we go for Thelix Joe Comedy Festival.
Speaker 1: She every she has nothing, she brought nothing with her.
Speaker 1: We've been on the road. Every day is brand new
Speaker 1: for her. Every day you go into her bedroom, she's
Speaker 1: in the bunk room. Megan was also staying here. Megan Gaily, by.
Speaker 3: The way, because she goes through this nonsense.
Speaker 1: Okay, every day in the bunk room where she's staying.
Speaker 1: She it looks like a fucking pop up CVS. She
Speaker 1: has to go to CBS. She goes to CVS three
Speaker 1: times a day.
Speaker 3: I'm addicted.
Speaker 1: She buys all the new It's like she's starting over.
Speaker 1: Each day. She doesn't have any of her supplies. She
Speaker 1: has to get her hair stuff, her face stuff, her sneaker.
Speaker 1: She buys clothes at CVS. Then she went to Marshalls.
Speaker 1: Then she goes to Marshalls twice a week. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: introduced her with the Marshals trend. I introduced her. I
Speaker 1: introduced her to Airwan. So I said, here's where the
Speaker 1: white people go shopping in Santa Monica.
Speaker 3: Come Buck.
Speaker 1: And I was like, if you have you ever had
Speaker 1: a thirteen dollars smoothie? And this bitch goes every morning
Speaker 1: now to Airwan, spends eighty dollars at Airwan.
Speaker 3: I can't help that. Yeah, No, I got this from
Speaker 3: this who's nicky. That's me.
Speaker 6: I don't because he got to learn how to spell yaminika.
Speaker 6: They didn't even teach me how to spell my name
Speaker 6: until I was in the third grade. Well, the problem
Speaker 6: I'm supposed to lest some brand new lady that just
Speaker 6: met me learn the problem with spelling your name. We're
Speaker 6: about to launch a podcast. This is an announcement, you
Speaker 6: guys to our audience. Dear Chelsea Network is now a network.
Speaker 6: And yes, I hold my breast when I say that.
Speaker 1: I guess my first podcast that I'm producing beyond my
Speaker 1: own is.
Speaker 3: You're the problem with Yaminika. But you're the fucking problem,
Speaker 3: not the problem. You're the problem. Listen. I am a
Speaker 3: part of the collective of the problem.
Speaker 6: So when I say you're the problem, I'm also saying
Speaker 6: that to myself a lot. I'm glad you're saying that
Speaker 6: we need to talk about and we have to do
Speaker 6: the fact that you've bought three rotisserie chickens in three
Speaker 6: days and haven't even finished them, that they were delicious
Speaker 6: every day she never finished.
Speaker 1: This was twenty two dollars one juice. It's the Hanley.
Speaker 1: What are you doing?
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 1: We should get a discout from Haley. I'll DM her.
Speaker 3: No, don't listen. Is this her? Haley? Let me tell
Speaker 3: you something, baby, I.
Speaker 1: Have to smoke a joint for this episode because I
Speaker 1: can't deal with her. Can I tell she drives me
Speaker 1: to drink and smoke.
Speaker 6: Yeah, well you're drinking and smoke it anyway. So what
Speaker 6: were you doing all the damn years before you met me?
Speaker 1: I was drinking and smoking for a different Now you're
Speaker 1: the reason I'm drinking and smoking.
Speaker 7: Haley.
Speaker 6: This smoothie here, it's the thing I drink every morning
Speaker 6: and keep my bowls regular.
Speaker 3: I suck this down and it is muddy tunnel. Do
Speaker 3: you hear me? That's why they's so damn thin.
Speaker 6: When you spend twenty two dollars for a smoothie, you
Speaker 6: don't have money to eat for the rest of the day.
Speaker 3: That's it. That's right.
Speaker 8: Basically, Rachel Ray back in the day.
Speaker 1: She goes, she buys a rotissery chicken every day, and
Speaker 1: then she goes, oh, I got you all chicken. No
Speaker 1: one wants it. No one wants the chicken you bought
Speaker 1: chicken noodle suit the other day. It's still in the fridge,
Speaker 1: a huge pint of it. There's you haven't touched it.
Speaker 1: You don't eat any of the stuff that you buy,
Speaker 1: so what are you doing with it?
Speaker 3: Is this like that we might have a problem.
Speaker 6: I get excited about purchases and things looking like, oh,
Speaker 6: this is gonna look cute in the refrigerator. So yeah,
Speaker 6: a sixteen dollars soup makes no sense, but it looks
Speaker 6: cute and refrigerator. And that's what she's not gonna tell you.
Speaker 6: It looks good in refrigerator. But also have her tell
Speaker 6: you this. The reason why I haven't eaten it yet
Speaker 6: is because this bitch also has one in there, So
Speaker 6: why would I open mine up.
Speaker 3: If you don't have yours open yet?
Speaker 1: What my chicken?
Speaker 3: You have a chicken noodle soup?
Speaker 1: Chicken nood you do I have? I never even ordered that.
Speaker 1: I never get Do you want to go to probably yours?
Speaker 1: You dumbass?
Speaker 9: Not?
Speaker 1: You probably got it and you forgot that you bought it.
Speaker 1: Like everything else, every she waits you, I would you, though,
Speaker 1: I would you?
Speaker 7: I mean.
Speaker 3: Chicken noodle soup twice okay.
Speaker 1: The other day she goes, oh, we can break down
Speaker 1: the bones from the rotisserie chicken. I can make a
Speaker 1: nice Yeah, I can make anybody, But when is that
Speaker 1: gonna happen? Y No one's making any fucking soup with
Speaker 1: some bones. We're not doing that at any point during
Speaker 1: your stay here. So that the fantasy that you're living
Speaker 1: in about us making bone broth or whatever the fuck
Speaker 1: you're talking about is so stupid.
Speaker 3: Because you want to do it with me.
Speaker 1: The way I see you operate is on another level.
Speaker 1: Like I thought I knew her having her in my
Speaker 1: house in my space, thank you for breaking in my
Speaker 1: house helpfully, Like.
Speaker 6: I mean, I know, I've had an amazing time here
Speaker 6: it's been really nice having it's the most fun room.
Speaker 6: Megan and I had such an amazing time.
Speaker 3: There's four bunk beds. When I first heard that, I
Speaker 3: was like, this is some stupid ship.
Speaker 1: And then I was like a women's presses.
Speaker 3: No, it's like everybody has their own little compartment.
Speaker 8: Yeah.
Speaker 6: Like it was so great, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, like
Speaker 6: comedy really good.
Speaker 3: I love it. Yeah, and thank you for letting me
Speaker 3: come in. Listen.
Speaker 1: Get you on the right concealer though your facial concealer. Okay,
Speaker 1: let me just solve the problem with you buying new
Speaker 1: concealer everywhere you go. You're not getting the right color
Speaker 1: for your skals.
Speaker 6: Okay, so I lost my makeup bag in a couple
Speaker 6: of places.
Speaker 3: Here's the thing about Chelsea.
Speaker 6: She doesn't understand why I don't have my shit together,
Speaker 6: but then she got six thousand people keeping her shit together.
Speaker 1: I'm by the way, man Ban, by the way, you
Speaker 1: have infected all of the people that work with me
Speaker 1: and for me, because they're all working for fucking you two. Now,
Speaker 1: try to get your shit together. You don't know when
Speaker 1: we're going on tour. You're like, oh, you're going to
Speaker 1: Medesto I'm gonna rent a car. Why would you rent
Speaker 1: a car when we have a car?
Speaker 6: No, no, no, ladies and gentlemen, believe it or not,
Speaker 6: you're the problem with Yaminika is something that I wanted
Speaker 6: to do.
Speaker 3: Chelsea also wanted to do.
Speaker 6: No matter how she sits here and talks crazy about me,
Speaker 6: the woman loves me down to the core, and she
Speaker 6: wouldn't let me be on her fucking network if she
Speaker 6: really thought I was this dumb and irresponsible.
Speaker 10: You're dumb.
Speaker 6: I've never said idiot. Dumb, stupid is like what you know,
Speaker 6: what do we play taboo? But what I'm saying to
Speaker 6: you is we'd like it's such like what we have
Speaker 6: going on here is such a fantastic moment and time.
Speaker 6: I'm so excited to be on the network. I just
Speaker 6: think it is just so I'm just I can't wait.
Speaker 6: And I think you.
Speaker 1: Talk about on your show. I mean, listener. First of all,
Speaker 1: we have a great something something almost.
Speaker 3: Like a sisterhood, because we like to each other.
Speaker 1: You're annoying, but you're annoying, okay, but well, anyway, we
Speaker 1: have a good time together most of the time.
Speaker 3: And I do think that you last night we were
Speaker 3: at this party.
Speaker 6: We was slow grinding awful, and people were walking past
Speaker 6: like like people are intrigued by our love but also
Speaker 6: like skeptical, but then they're also like also into it.
Speaker 6: I've had so many male comics text me and be like,
Speaker 6: can you put more videos up of you and Chelsea
Speaker 6: wrestling each other?
Speaker 3: Do you know when we get together?
Speaker 1: I was walking around the party and I like was
Speaker 1: so stoned that I forgot where you guys were, and
Speaker 1: I kept trying to find that outside area where we
Speaker 1: found at the beginning of the night. We were like,
Speaker 1: we found a place where you could smoke and sit
Speaker 1: outside and dance, and somehow I just got lost and
Speaker 1: I kept circling the same group of people and it
Speaker 1: was so annoying, and I was like, how do I
Speaker 1: find them?
Speaker 3: And then what happened, Like the Black Angel, didn't I
Speaker 3: come up behind you and go where you've been?
Speaker 7: Baby?
Speaker 3: And then yeah, that was you got bitch, that was
Speaker 3: me you would and we took that picture and ride
Speaker 3: her away.
Speaker 6: Yeah, absolutely, I knew you were somewhere in need of
Speaker 6: mind say that's really.
Speaker 8: You know, I mean, somebody that incredible album Chelsea.
Speaker 6: I get on Chelsea's nerves. I understand for what she's
Speaker 6: a Pisces, I'm a Scorpio.
Speaker 3: Where she she.
Speaker 1: Says this about forty seven types every days.
Speaker 6: If anything, it's just a lot because as a scorpio
Speaker 6: the way we don't want to be bothered with people.
Speaker 1: But as a Scorpio, you you default your scorpionism all
Speaker 1: day long, every because whatever she does, that's fucked up.
Speaker 1: I'll be like, that's fucked up. She's like, I'm a
Speaker 1: Scorpio and she just defaults to that, and I don't, like,
Speaker 1: you can't do that. Let me, you're working around going
Speaker 1: I'm a Pisces, deal with it.
Speaker 6: She literally did a joke in the rows, I'm a Pisces,
Speaker 6: Pete Davis is a Scorpio and Jeff has cancer.
Speaker 1: I was so good.
Speaker 3: So yeah, I mean we all defer to it.
Speaker 6: But what I the reason why I reference it is
Speaker 6: because for me, I think people are shocked to see
Speaker 6: my relationship with her.
Speaker 3: I have these relationships.
Speaker 6: There's people in my life that I'm really really close
Speaker 6: to and I have these relations too, and they don't
Speaker 6: get to see it on a larger scale. But for me,
Speaker 6: I'm always guarded, you know, just as a person. And
Speaker 6: I know that I'm so sensitive that once I get
Speaker 6: into a friendship with somebody, I start sharing my feelings,
Speaker 6: my everything, and so I'm very vulnerable with that. But
Speaker 6: she is, you know, she really lets me in and
Speaker 6: I just love pinching her. I love pinching her little tush.
Speaker 6: I love pinching her cheeks. I love pinching her arms,
Speaker 6: just like all my friends. It's not Chelsea them doing
Speaker 6: it's That's what my friendship is like. It's very loving,
Speaker 6: it's very touchy, and it's very like extra.
Speaker 1: It's a burden for me. It's a big burden.
Speaker 3: It's not loves it. Don't listen to her?
Speaker 2: Okay, So how do you keep winding up in Chelsea's bed?
Speaker 2: That's that's what I want to know, because apparently it's
Speaker 2: having a bunch of.
Speaker 1: Times Yamka, what's your version of that story?
Speaker 6: I love completely naked and I have seen her completely naked,
Speaker 6: So what the so have happened? But what I'm saying
Speaker 6: is no, what's the bed of who cares? She looks,
Speaker 6: she's thin, She's not even taking up all this bed.
Speaker 6: She doesn't need it, So why wouldn't I be in there?
Speaker 6: I got my own space.
Speaker 3: We're like two miles away from each other, and these
Speaker 3: humung is ass beds that she's always in. This bitch
Speaker 3: loves a whole last time.
Speaker 1: We were in a bead like maybe I told this story.
Speaker 1: I don't know. I think I said it to you
Speaker 1: once we were recording that I we had her, they
Speaker 1: had her come up. I don't know why she's in
Speaker 1: my room in the first place. Is a mystery, Okay,
Speaker 1: I mean she I did it once and then she's
Speaker 1: like every weekend she's like, so maybe on Thursday, I'll
Speaker 1: spend the night with you, like, and I'll get a
Speaker 1: place the other two nights. But you never know she's
Speaker 1: gonna get a place or she's not gonna get a
Speaker 1: place in the right city.
Speaker 3: We don't know what I do get a place.
Speaker 6: They get an attitude about it because I like these
Speaker 6: my Marriott points, my bonvoy Marriott points. I'm also gonna
Speaker 6: get a discount on bookings dot Com. I'm gonna roll
Speaker 6: that over.
Speaker 1: I mean, it's expensive, but you're not getting when you're
Speaker 1: making the reservation in the wrong city for the wrong Yeah.
Speaker 6: I did book the wrong hotel for the wrong day,
Speaker 6: for the wrong year. I mean, I don't know I'm
Speaker 6: doing what I but I had a place to stay,
Speaker 6: did not Yeah in my bed?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 3: Well okay, okay.
Speaker 1: How many times she has all her makeup everywhere? She
Speaker 1: doesn't even remember her makeup, so it looks like I
Speaker 1: did black face and went to s.
Speaker 6: I can't help it that you keep your makeup on
Speaker 6: and it's the same color as the damn sheets.
Speaker 3: Bitch, chocolate cheese. She do, Like sometimes I wonder if
Speaker 3: people come in and look at the sheets after you
Speaker 3: leave it, but like, what the fuck my entire face
Speaker 3: is on it? But I listen.
Speaker 6: It's those things too, because like I've been on the
Speaker 6: road with so many people and it's like, Chelsea's so fun.
Speaker 6: One of the favorite, my favorite things about her is
Speaker 6: like when I first started doing the road with her,
Speaker 6: I would stay in my place, you know, my green room,
Speaker 6: which I thought was great because sometimes you don't even
Speaker 6: get a green room as an opener. And I would
Speaker 6: be in my green room and she'd be with hers.
Speaker 6: And then one time she came in and she was like,
Speaker 6: how come you're like not it, you didn't come in here, Like,
Speaker 6: how come you don't come in with me? And I
Speaker 6: was like, I'm trying to give your space and she
Speaker 6: was like I don't want that. She was like, come
Speaker 6: in there. And then we went in there and were
Speaker 6: you know, Molly was there. We had an amazing time
Speaker 6: and it was just fun like ever since then. It
Speaker 6: was like such a connection and I was thinking to myself, like, well,
Speaker 6: I can't go wait to get back and kick it
Speaker 6: with her, because sometimes you go on.
Speaker 3: The road, it's the truth. Sometimes you get depressed.
Speaker 6: You're like, man, I don't want to be around this
Speaker 6: person or treat me like shit. They gonna make me
Speaker 6: feel whatever. She brings me on as her special guests.
Speaker 6: She's so welcoming and loving. Her audiences are so receptive
Speaker 6: and even though she comes out greets everybody, that's the
Speaker 6: kind of spirit have. So it's like it just makes
Speaker 6: everything seeing you feel seen, you feel loved.
Speaker 3: And that's what she did for me, so like I'll
Speaker 3: never forget that.
Speaker 1: You know, yeah that is real sweet. But be able
Speaker 1: to yell at you for at least six more hours.
Speaker 1: You'll find what time is your flight tonight?
Speaker 3: Nine?
Speaker 1: She'll be like, will you drive me to the airport?
Speaker 1: Don't you think? She'll suggest She'll suggest things that are
Speaker 1: like great for her that no consideration of how it
Speaker 1: would make me feel.
Speaker 2: Also, no one wants to drive anyone.
Speaker 6: I hate having people drive. Like poor Carlos, he has
Speaker 6: to deal with mine. I have a phobia of driving.
Speaker 3: This has been for a long time. One of my
Speaker 3: sisters was killed in a car accident.
Speaker 6: So ever since then, it was always like, you know,
Speaker 6: I'm constantly aware of like, oh, we're doing this. I
Speaker 6: don't want to die. I don't want my father to
Speaker 6: have to go through this trauma again. My family have
Speaker 6: to go through this trauma again. But Chelsea drove me
Speaker 6: the other day.
Speaker 3: He drove me around.
Speaker 6: She's a really great driver, and I felt good. You know,
Speaker 6: she is like surprisingly, she was really great. I was like, wow,
Speaker 6: I didn't trust her at all, but I did.
Speaker 1: Ask you about me. You should go. She's an excellent driver.
Speaker 3: Though I told you that I was yeah, she didn't
Speaker 3: hear anything from me. I had no complain.
Speaker 1: I was like thank you. No one and everyone in
Speaker 1: my family I would disagree with you, but I appreciate
Speaker 1: you recognizing.
Speaker 3: Maybe they think it's scary, but I'm like, she's on
Speaker 3: top of it.
Speaker 6: Part of driving that people don't have it's people are
Speaker 6: doing a thousand things that are not paying attention and
Speaker 6: they're not aware.
Speaker 3: Of the surroundings.
Speaker 6: That's what makes it dangerous. But Chelsea is very aware
Speaker 6: of what's going on. She's a Pisces. Pisces are like that,
Speaker 6: detail orientated and they also don't fuck around.
Speaker 3: So that's why.
Speaker 6: You know, my other friend Andy, who I'm obsessed with,
Speaker 6: he's a Pisces. I've had Pisces in my life. I
Speaker 6: just love Pisces. They get along with Scorpio well, and
Speaker 6: it just feels goods too.
Speaker 9: There you go.
Speaker 8: Any time?
Speaker 3: Yeah, no, there you go. Yeah, well, baby, I was.
Speaker 1: Just thinking about astrology and like how often it comes
Speaker 1: up with it.
Speaker 3: It does come up a lot. Yeah, it started.
Speaker 1: Are you well versed on every sign like this?
Speaker 3: Every time I have sex with a man, I'm.
Speaker 1: I'm the phoner in person because she has fun sex.
Speaker 11: On the road.
Speaker 1: They look at that look right there is First of all,
Speaker 1: she has five personalities. One is Rashonda, the one is Lucy,
Speaker 1: one is Denzel, and then.
Speaker 6: One is don But I told you, I said I
Speaker 6: will not let your white ass called me, So you've.
Speaker 3: Got to find a new name. It'd be Barbara or
Speaker 3: some ship like that, but is the helpful spirit.
Speaker 1: Lucy will come in out of nowhere and all of
Speaker 1: a sudden because she has you know, she has different
Speaker 1: accents she talks in, so she's bored line or something. Yeah,
Speaker 1: borderline five of them. I thought borderline meant too, but
Speaker 1: it's not. That's a slip personality she has like several
Speaker 1: people I do. So it's pretty tricky because she but
Speaker 1: the good thing is is that she can always snap
Speaker 1: back quickly, so it doesn't like, even though it's a
Speaker 1: very a lot of drama. And I'm saying that in
Speaker 1: a patronizing way kind of like, even though it comes
Speaker 1: with a lot of drama, she recovers from the drama,
Speaker 1: so the drama doesn't last. There's no it's not a
Speaker 1: long duration. Yeah, but there's always drama.
Speaker 6: But the thing about it is the thing and I
Speaker 6: think they're learning this. I have to internalize everything so
Speaker 6: I can deal with it. So that's why it doesn't stay.
Speaker 1: It's you.
Speaker 6: If you catch me in the midst of dealing with
Speaker 6: something that's drama, I'm focused and my spirit is on that.
Speaker 6: So you'd be like, oh my god, Yeahma, what's wrong
Speaker 6: with you really just leave me, give me five minutes
Speaker 6: to process this, and by the time you come back
Speaker 6: to me, I'm gonna be fine because my drama is
Speaker 6: never with the people. It's always my environment, and I'm
Speaker 6: trying to clear that up. But I don't if I'm
Speaker 6: not like, if I don't like you, I wouldn't be
Speaker 6: around you. So I always tell people like, if I'm
Speaker 6: gonna be upset, I may have an attitude, I may
Speaker 6: get scared, but it's not directed at you. And I'm
Speaker 6: also trying to fix that for myself so that I
Speaker 6: can come back to you and be Yama again, you know,
Speaker 6: like the funny girl.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and it's really funny watching also not funny, I guess,
Speaker 1: more interesting and like from like our own experiences, Like
Speaker 1: watching how she goes through the world is like ridiculous.
Speaker 1: It's shocking to me. I'm shocked cause she's the type
Speaker 1: B personality, but she do but but she's also like
Speaker 1: her background and her experiences are so different than mine.
Speaker 1: So for us to come together and to be able
Speaker 1: to like share, of course, she wants to sleep in
Speaker 1: my room because she's like, oh, you got your fucking
Speaker 1: shit dialed in, Let's go it's time my shit is
Speaker 1: dialed in because you know, I've had different experiences in
Speaker 1: my life and like, well, you know that that contrast
Speaker 1: is very like fun to learn about, you know, oh,
Speaker 1: like someone's experience that is so different.
Speaker 3: Well for me, like, okay, so my background is.
Speaker 6: In terms of you being Puerto Rican, I was sure.
Speaker 6: I've always been isolated as a person. I mean, I
Speaker 6: have three beautiful half sisters. We have different mothers. One
Speaker 6: is in heaven, two are living. But I grew up
Speaker 6: an only child, and I grew up a theater kid
Speaker 6: as well, and I went to parochial school where a
Speaker 6: lot of shit was going on. I was being you know,
Speaker 6: I was being called the N word every day. A
Speaker 6: whole bunch of shit was going on. So I withdrew
Speaker 6: very early on in life to just be a loner,
Speaker 6: right and not really open up to people and be
Speaker 6: around people. And also I'm combating that I wasn't the
Speaker 6: traditional like my background is pretty conservative, and I was
Speaker 6: always pushing against that, you know.
Speaker 3: So for me, it's like there is a reckless abandon
Speaker 3: with me. I fuck it, I don't care.
Speaker 6: Nobody's gonna tell me how to be, how to live
Speaker 6: you're not going to restrict me in any ways, and
Speaker 6: sometimes that can come off very chaotic. And then I
Speaker 6: get to be around Chelsea and I get to relax
Speaker 6: because she knows what she wants, She's got her head
Speaker 6: on straight, and everything is just in line. So sometimes
Speaker 6: I do feel like I can just lay with her
Speaker 6: and not have to worry about certain things, you know,
Speaker 6: and that feels feels good.
Speaker 1: I like to provide that you do.
Speaker 3: You know, our backgrounds are a lot more similar than
Speaker 3: you think.
Speaker 6: But I think for me to come back into a
Speaker 6: space where, like you know, I'm almost fifty, I'm forty seven,
Speaker 6: there's a lot of things going on where I'm looking
Speaker 6: at myself as an adult too, Like how do I
Speaker 6: want to show up in the world. How do I
Speaker 6: want to show up around other people and make them
Speaker 6: feel better about shitty situations. I felt neglected, I felt unseen,
Speaker 6: I felt unloved. And that's why the volume is so loud,
Speaker 6: That's why it is so much in your face, because
Speaker 6: I know I sat home and cried, and I don't
Speaker 6: want anybody else to do that. So I appreciate people
Speaker 6: who say to me, you know what, you made me
Speaker 6: feel good, like your material. I like what you're saying.
Speaker 6: I feel represented. That's a really big deal for me.
Speaker 6: So right now, Also, my focus is just comedy. It's
Speaker 6: not necessarily where I'm living.
Speaker 3: What close I got on, you know, I'm just a
Speaker 3: nomad running around this world, going to CVSS, going to
Speaker 3: cv CVS.
Speaker 1: Marshall's different. She was dragging around a suitcase, this little
Speaker 1: mini like what would you call that purse?
Speaker 3: It's a person is boutique in Las Vegas. It was great.
Speaker 6: She didn't like it, and then I let this bitch
Speaker 6: pressure me into getting rid of it. When I was
Speaker 6: at LaGuardia, I still had the bag. I said, oh shit,
Speaker 6: she doesn't like this bag. She's gonna dog me for
Speaker 6: this bag. So I went and bought a new bag
Speaker 6: at LaGuardia, and then I said to the woman that
Speaker 6: was I was buying it from. I was like, oh
Speaker 6: my god, I don't know what I'm gonna do with
Speaker 6: this bag, and she goes, oh, I'll find somebody to
Speaker 6: take it. I was like, I bet you will, bitch.
Speaker 6: It was a fantastic bag. But then this person told
Speaker 6: me that she.
Speaker 3: Didn't like it. I don't like you looked like a bag.
Speaker 1: Lady sophisticated one wasn't She was open and ship was
Speaker 1: spilling out of it because she's got liquids. She travels.
Speaker 1: Her suitcase is filled with different liquids like drinks, like
Speaker 1: energy drinks are in the suitcase that she travels a lot.
Speaker 3: Of way to just liquid is good.
Speaker 6: Stop eating whole ship, Stop eating substances of like conversation.
Speaker 1: Did you spoke a joint?
Speaker 3: I didn't give me some of this? Oh no, I
Speaker 3: got to get another one, little dog walker? I know
Speaker 3: I should have got Remember I have that big one.
Speaker 3: Should I go get that can break doing this? You
Speaker 3: didn't want that? I got the eighth of the world.
Speaker 10: Give me this.
Speaker 3: The light, the light, the light.
Speaker 7: Baby.
Speaker 3: Well it's so small.
Speaker 1: It's a dog walker.
Speaker 3: What does that mean?
Speaker 1: The fleet last?
Speaker 8: The amount of time to listen to.
Speaker 1: This is really funny.
Speaker 3: This is like a snack.
Speaker 1: It's like a snack joint.
Speaker 3: So the dog got to piss, poop right away and
Speaker 3: then come back. Because this is my cats wouldney more
Speaker 3: than it is a bottle walk?
Speaker 7: Fim?
Speaker 10: Are we supposed to take callers for this?
Speaker 1: We got we got collar, all right, so let's do that.
Speaker 8: Okay, all right?
Speaker 2: Our first caller today is Bella and her subject line,
Speaker 2: by the way, is my brother's wife's lover. What Dear Chelsea,
Speaker 2: My brother just dropped a huge bomb on me. My
Speaker 2: brother's ten years my junior, and we have always been
Speaker 2: very close. We lived in the same building together in
Speaker 2: NYC for over twenty years. He moved out ten years
Speaker 2: ago when he and his wife had their first child.
Speaker 2: While on a peaceful vacation, recently, my brother called with
Speaker 2: a bombshell. He told me his wife is having a
Speaker 2: consensual affair with a female family friend. He said they
Speaker 2: were all open to it at first, but now his
Speaker 2: wife has feelings for the other woman, who is also
Speaker 2: married to a man. I was stunned, cried, and I
Speaker 2: was upset. Not because I'm judgy. I'm open, liberal and fair.
Speaker 2: My feelings were reactive for the kids and the family dynamic.
Speaker 2: He's now unhappy with the agreement and she is conflicted.
Speaker 2: My main concern is for the children.
Speaker 1: I did advise my brother, but I need additional advice.
Speaker 1: What would you do if this was your brother? What
Speaker 1: would you advise him?
Speaker 3: Bella?
Speaker 2: Hi, Bella, Hi, We've got Yaminika here.
Speaker 3: Hi Bella, my baby, how are you.
Speaker 8: I I'm well hi, Chelsea.
Speaker 1: Oh god, what an interesting dilemma. It's kind of like
Speaker 1: a I mean, I know this is your family member
Speaker 1: and your brother, but it's kind of like a sign
Speaker 1: of the times, like women are just like we're wrapped.
Speaker 1: Women are rapped with men. They're ready for it to
Speaker 1: be with a woman like it is. It's so prevalent,
Speaker 1: and it's like we're on the cusp of like it
Speaker 1: becoming an even bigger thing, like at the tipping point. Almost.
Speaker 9: Yeah, it's not actually the shock of the woman, it's
Speaker 9: just how she went about it and just the disrespect,
Speaker 9: you know, like this big bomb.
Speaker 1: Where are things right now?
Speaker 2: Is has there been a transition at all? Everyone's still
Speaker 2: living in their same homes?
Speaker 8: Yeah, so everyone is still living in the same homes.
Speaker 7: You know.
Speaker 8: My mom lives in the house too, my eighty two
Speaker 8: year old mother.
Speaker 3: Oh, and she got to deal with all this musical
Speaker 3: chairs in the bedroom. Yeah, does she know what's going on?
Speaker 8: She does.
Speaker 3: What's opinion about all of this?
Speaker 9: Well, she's eighty two years old, and she was incredibly
Speaker 9: shocked and you know, surprised because this is someone that
Speaker 9: was hanging out with our family, Like I said, I
Speaker 9: moved up here, very close to my brother, the kids
Speaker 9: and everybody, and this woman was around. We had a
Speaker 9: holiday together, we had Thanksgiving together.
Speaker 3: Are you still in New York?
Speaker 8: I'm an hour north of New York.
Speaker 6: Now, whenever you come into the city, I got two
Speaker 6: tickets for you. Come see me at the cellar. Okay,
Speaker 6: just for this wod deal. Maybe bring your brother in.
Speaker 6: Let me know how many tikeies need. I'll take care
Speaker 6: of you. Maybe we can work this out there. I
Speaker 6: got you, We'll connect, Okay. I think what the problem
Speaker 6: is is you see this as a betrayal. But we
Speaker 6: have to go back to the beginning that it was consensual, right,
Speaker 6: So at some point it seems like your brother agreed
Speaker 6: to this dynamic, and you can't help falling in love
Speaker 6: with somebody once you open the door of intimacy. So
Speaker 6: if she didn't just went into a physical thing and
Speaker 6: didn't know she was going to fall in love, It's
Speaker 6: like Chelsea would say, whipsie doodle. But once you have
Speaker 6: to think about all the things that you open up
Speaker 6: when you put yourself in that situation. Now, on the
Speaker 6: flip side, I do understand what you mean about the kids.
Speaker 3: How they're gonna.
Speaker 6: Feel this whole relationship dynamic. But we are in a
Speaker 6: time where the world is changing. In our time, if
Speaker 6: something like that happened, people would have to go to therapy,
Speaker 6: nobody would know what to do, and then it would
Speaker 6: be hush hush. Now the children, your nieces and nephews
Speaker 6: are also dealing with other kids who are also having
Speaker 6: the sype with dynamic mix in their families, so it
Speaker 6: won't be so isolating for them.
Speaker 3: So I think if you can somehow find a way,
Speaker 3: which is going to be hard.
Speaker 6: Right, to not be so emotional about it and see
Speaker 6: how you can come in and maybe help write or
Speaker 6: be a lending hand to them how they need it,
Speaker 6: that would be better served for them than the judgment
Speaker 6: that they're getting through this process.
Speaker 8: I agree with you, I do, I do. But you
Speaker 8: know where we are now is in a very.
Speaker 6: Small town and everybody and everybody business right, correct.
Speaker 1: Yeah, what was the advice that you gave your brother?
Speaker 9: Well, at the time, I just told them to take
Speaker 9: a step back. And yes, I agree with Yaminika was consensual.
Speaker 8: You know, they were doing their thing more than I
Speaker 8: ever expected.
Speaker 10: But that's all good.
Speaker 9: You know, you do you I think, yeah, now, it's
Speaker 9: more like the betrayal, like you said, the disrespect to
Speaker 9: my mom, to the family, to the kids.
Speaker 2: And wow, well I have a question about that, because
Speaker 2: where is the disrespect coming in. Is this our betrayal
Speaker 2: coming in because it sounds like everybody was on board
Speaker 2: with this when it started. I don't know that it
Speaker 2: is a betrayal to say, well, I started a relationship
Speaker 2: with this other person with everyone's consent, and then I fell.
Speaker 3: In love with this person.
Speaker 9: I mean, was there other stuff going on or well
Speaker 9: he had asked her to stop when it started getting
Speaker 9: too crazy, because then they agreed that they were going
Speaker 9: to stop because it was getting out of hand, okay,
Speaker 9: And then when he asked her to stop, it just continued,
Speaker 9: and she was, you know, kind of sneaking around and
Speaker 9: going around and yeah, he behaved badly too during this time.
Speaker 9: And then he had said to her, listen, this is
Speaker 9: going to destroy us, to destroy the family, and sure enough,
Speaker 9: here we are.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's a belly you can't unring, you know.
Speaker 9: I guess the disrespect to me now is that she's
Speaker 9: still running around with this woman with the kids, and
Speaker 9: I just keep thinking, I mean, if it were a double.
Speaker 9: See if my brother now falls in love with a
Speaker 9: man and takes the kids around with the man, how
Speaker 9: will she feel about.
Speaker 1: I have to be really honest with you in this moment.
Speaker 1: I feel like you have I know it's your brother,
Speaker 1: but you have so much judgment coming from you. You're
Speaker 1: not She's not trying to humiliate you. She's not. This
Speaker 1: isn't intentional. You can't help it. Like they had an
Speaker 1: open relationship and she fell in love, And I know
Speaker 1: that's hurtful for you to your brother, but like, you
Speaker 1: have to let go of your anger towards her. It's
Speaker 1: not going to be helpful. That energy is not going
Speaker 1: to help the situation that you're in at all. You
Speaker 1: need to be a positive influence on the situation and
Speaker 1: positively support your brother. You don't need to hate on
Speaker 1: this woman and what she did to support your brother. Like,
Speaker 1: it's life. Shit happens. People fall in love and they
Speaker 1: fall out of love, And what you can do is
Speaker 1: be a beam of light and support for your brother.
Speaker 1: And that's all. You don't have to deal with her Like, yes,
Speaker 1: I know it's part of your life, but give her
Speaker 1: a break. Just be cool.
Speaker 2: Yeah, And I think you know, being the age that
Speaker 2: we are, we grew up in this era of compulsory
Speaker 2: heterosexuality right where it was like the default is that
Speaker 2: you are straight, and this woman, I think, has discovered that,
Speaker 2: like her sexuality is somewhere else on the spectrum other
Speaker 2: than just straight.
Speaker 1: And there's a judgment for that from you as well,
Speaker 1: Like I can see you know, and you got it like, yeah,
Speaker 1: that's old, that's old thinking, that's like the olden times.
Speaker 1: It's okay, it's not humiliating that she's a lesbian. Now,
Speaker 1: that's not a humiliation on your family.
Speaker 6: It's not a humiliation at all, right, But also the
Speaker 6: sting of it is that's family, right, so it no
Speaker 6: matter what, once you betray my family, like I'm done
Speaker 6: with you. When they were supposed to stop, she should
Speaker 6: have been honest at that point said I can't stop
Speaker 6: because now I'm in love. Let's take sexuality out of
Speaker 6: it for a second, because when she went into the shit,
Speaker 6: she was at the very least by because she's going
Speaker 6: she went to go fuck a woman, not a man.
Speaker 3: Okay, so we could take that off the table.
Speaker 6: What happened is whatever she found over there on that table,
Speaker 6: it was replacing more than whatever your brother was giving her.
Speaker 6: She fell in love, not in lust. In love that
Speaker 6: means I want you outside of fucking you. I want
Speaker 6: the relationship. I want to see you, I want to talk.
Speaker 6: You are my person. And I think they need to
Speaker 6: be honest about maybe they just need to separate altogether.
Speaker 8: Yes, yeah, And I'm not being judging that it's a woman. Honestly,
Speaker 8: I'm not not not judging.
Speaker 6: But you know what, Bill, let me just say this,
Speaker 6: and I'm saying this out of love. When you said
Speaker 6: how would they feel if my brother was going around
Speaker 6: with a man? That makes it a judgment on sexuality
Speaker 6: because why didn't you just say if he was going
Speaker 6: around with another lover?
Speaker 7: Right?
Speaker 6: So when you say things like that, it sings like
Speaker 6: maybe there's a little bit of homophobia there, maybe there's
Speaker 6: some concern. Why are you so concerned about male and
Speaker 6: female in this situation? But at the same time, I
Speaker 6: think emotions are going to be high for you regardless
Speaker 6: because this is your brother. The way you described him
Speaker 6: in this letter was like, oh, they really fuck with
Speaker 6: each other like that, and she loves her brother dad right, right,
Speaker 6: So your judgment is completely clouded in this situation.
Speaker 2: Well, and I think like the place you want to
Speaker 2: get to, or you want your brother to get to
Speaker 2: is however this shakes out whoever winds up with whom
Speaker 2: You want those kids to have happiness, to have adults
Speaker 2: in their life that love them, even if.
Speaker 3: That's not your brother together.
Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly, like people who love them and care for them.
Speaker 2: You want them to feel held. But like there's gonna
Speaker 2: be some complicated stuff to get to that point. So
Speaker 2: I think your role here is just to like absolutely
Speaker 2: support everyone, be there for the kids, and then also
Speaker 2: like speak positively about their mom, like nothing is gonna
Speaker 2: come of, you know, any trash or negativity there.
Speaker 8: And definitely nothing like that. Yeah, no, I don't think
Speaker 8: you would.
Speaker 2: But just getting everyone as quickly as possible and as
Speaker 2: smoothly as possible to the place where like they can
Speaker 2: have multiple families that love them and everyone gets along
Speaker 2: really well, even though there's going to be some complicated
Speaker 2: stuff in the middle.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and it happens, It can happen.
Speaker 3: We've all seen it.
Speaker 1: Think about it like you'd want to think about it
Speaker 1: in five years, Like you handled this with grace and
Speaker 1: a plum, you know, like, oh you were a beam
Speaker 1: of support for people, and you helped transition them into
Speaker 1: the next phase.
Speaker 6: And I see a lot of you and me Bela
Speaker 6: in terms of like like I receive information. I know
Speaker 6: some of this may be grading on you, but also
Speaker 6: some of it. You're glad you know you're receiving this.
Speaker 6: Take all that we've given you, and then run it
Speaker 6: through your own filter, which is what I would be doing,
Speaker 6: and then find.
Speaker 1: Out because find your local cvs H.
Speaker 3: But you know, I really feel for you in this situation.
Speaker 6: You have such a beautiful presence about yourself and spirit,
Speaker 6: and I know you just want the best. So but
Speaker 6: I know for me there was nothing. There's nothing better
Speaker 6: in my life than my aunt, no matter what the
Speaker 6: love of mind.
Speaker 8: And I honestly I know I'm I'm not judging. I mean,
Speaker 8: trust me.
Speaker 9: If I could describe my life in New York City,
Speaker 9: I was wild and in every gay club like it's
Speaker 9: nothing like that at all.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I was with you.
Speaker 1: Yeah, probably absolutely.
Speaker 8: No problem with that.
Speaker 9: It's the problem I have is mainly just with with
Speaker 9: the bomb that went off and the disrespect, and and
Speaker 9: I worry for my niece and nephew mainly.
Speaker 3: Really they'll be fine. I promise you they'll be fine.
Speaker 3: They really will.
Speaker 6: It's not Mayberry, it's not leave it to Beava. It's
Speaker 6: people doing all kinds of shit out here in this world.
Speaker 3: Okay.
Speaker 6: And what you told me is dame compared to what
Speaker 6: I've been showing Chelsea Dix from some guy barely know.
Speaker 3: And it's like, you know, with him off, it's like,
Speaker 3: so when you talk.
Speaker 1: About that, Yeah, she has phone sex three times is so.
Speaker 6: Amazing, you know whatever, It's gorgeous, I mean, delicious, Okay, appropriate,
Speaker 6: I know.
Speaker 1: Okay, Bella, take our take our advice, like listen to
Speaker 1: what we said, and then we like we listen to
Speaker 1: this because it will help you.
Speaker 9: Okay, yeah, yeah, I definitely will. I'll follow up and
Speaker 9: like you all know, please.
Speaker 2: Put us in like six months or so and like
Speaker 2: let us know how things are shaking out over there.
Speaker 9: Okay, definitely, thank you, take care, bye bye.
Speaker 6: That was that was always give us some really fucking
Speaker 6: great advice.
Speaker 1: I can't stand in love with me. It's another personality.
Speaker 1: This is what which what?
Speaker 7: This is?
Speaker 1: What I want to what can we call it? What's
Speaker 1: our name for the one that loves me?
Speaker 7: Just me?
Speaker 1: Though?
Speaker 3: Like, were you let's call her Justine.
Speaker 1: Oh that's boring. What about Lawanda?
Speaker 3: What do you always every fucking name you pull up
Speaker 3: got to be so bitch that goes to the swap
Speaker 3: meet in Anglewood?
Speaker 1: Stop it, Chelsea, what's our next situation?
Speaker 8: Okay?
Speaker 2: So with that was that was a little messy, We're
Speaker 2: gonna about to get a little messy or these are
Speaker 2: good yes, so McKinley says, Dear Chelsea, I'm a forty
Speaker 2: three or are we.
Speaker 4: Both?
Speaker 6: Would you said it was getting messy and and you
Speaker 6: took the words writing about Okay?
Speaker 2: Okay, dear Chelsea, I'm a forty three year old ex
Speaker 2: Mormon trans guy with two kids from parents weird. I'm
Speaker 2: a forty three year old ex Mormon trans man got
Speaker 2: it with two kids from my previous marriage to a man. Okay, Yeah,
Speaker 2: my birthday is coming back, and I'm really hoping this
Speaker 2: next year is less about cleaning up all my exes.
Speaker 2: Whoosie doodles. My main issue is with my kid's dad.
Speaker 2: On paper, he's supposed to have visitations, but in real
Speaker 2: life I spent years bending over backwards to make visits happen.
Speaker 2: Visits eventually stopped because he constantly dropped the ball. He
Speaker 2: would drink when he had them, sometimes to the point
Speaker 2: that the kids would call me scared or confused, and
Speaker 2: I'd have to drive an hour each way to pick
Speaker 2: them up while also trying to convince the kids that
Speaker 2: this was all normal dad stuff. He acts like I
Speaker 2: quote took the kids away even though he was barely
Speaker 2: showing up. Meanwhile, our youngest is exploring her gender identity
Speaker 2: now and he doesn't even know, so I'm stuck between
Speaker 2: wanting to protect her privacy and feeling like I'm hiding
Speaker 2: something huge about his own kid from a man who
Speaker 2: hasn't exactly earned trust. As a bonus side quest, I
Speaker 2: also have an ex fiance who I own a house
Speaker 2: with which we're trying to untangle after a breakup. Through
Speaker 2: all of this, I clearly have a history of choosing
Speaker 2: bad partners, and the universe keeps handing me group projects.
Speaker 2: Now I'm in the Midwest trying to build a good
Speaker 2: life with my girlfriend who voted for Trump, so that's
Speaker 2: already a fun plot twist, hey Be and our blended family.
Speaker 2: I'm basically rebooting my life as this new version of me,
Speaker 2: So I'd love your advice on how to be honest
Speaker 2: with my kids dad about our child exploring their gender identity,
Speaker 2: and do I start visits back up after eighteen months
Speaker 2: of none? How many chances do you give out give
Speaker 2: a checked out partner before you stop trying? And how
Speaker 2: to balance starting over new career, new partner, and new
Speaker 2: version of me with actually having time and energy left
Speaker 2: for my kids. Thanks for reading and untangling this with me, McKinley.
Speaker 1: Yeah, how manic. I think you should begin.
Speaker 6: First of all, let me just say, McKinley, you're the
Speaker 6: type of person I would fall in love with. I mean, oh,
Speaker 6: like she falls in love with somebody every day every day.
Speaker 6: But also like, no, no, no, no, because I know
Speaker 6: what you're doing. You're looking for love, baby, and in
Speaker 6: the process of looking for love, you keep going to
Speaker 6: places that are just taking advantage of your spirit.
Speaker 3: And I think it started with the Mormon Church, their garbage.
Speaker 6: I think you know it also starts with you now
Speaker 6: trying to You know, you're going into a world of
Speaker 6: a new identity to the world and how the world
Speaker 6: is seeing you. Then you have to have this partner
Speaker 6: that you were in love with and with and had
Speaker 6: children with, have to now discover this new identity who
Speaker 6: you are. They're probably not processing it that well, which
Speaker 6: is why you have this distance.
Speaker 3: So that's another person abandoning you.
Speaker 6: Then you're like, you don't want to see your daughter
Speaker 6: go through the same thing because she's also trying to
Speaker 6: figure out what her identity is. But I can guarantee
Speaker 6: you that your former partner has no idea how to
Speaker 6: help her at all, and if anything might be a
Speaker 6: deterrent if after eight months eighteen months of not seeing
Speaker 6: it is done for the children, right because they cannot
Speaker 6: have this wishy washiness in their life, it is irresponsible
Speaker 6: of that person. And then because it's irresponsible, you're safeguarding
Speaker 6: your children, they have to kind of go no contact.
Speaker 6: At this point, from my perspective, what I think you
Speaker 6: need to do is you need to write down what
Speaker 6: McKinley wants, what McKinley needs, so that you start going
Speaker 6: towards partners that have that. Because how you got hooked
Speaker 6: up with somebody who is a Trump supporter knowing that
Speaker 6: everything that aligns with what you got going on is
Speaker 6: anti Trump and the nonsense they have over there is
Speaker 6: because you don't have enough safeguards around your spirits, and
Speaker 6: you don't have enough boundaries in your life and you
Speaker 6: don't love you first. Once you fix that, you don't
Speaker 6: need our advice, and the rest of the shit is
Speaker 6: gonna fall. You are a beautiful person, I can just
Speaker 6: tell by your smile and spirit. Thank you so much
Speaker 6: for writing this. In IF resonated with me in a
Speaker 6: lot of ways because I feel abandoned a lot. I
Speaker 6: felt unseen and unloved, and I kept running after people
Speaker 6: who didn't love me because sometimes you think to yourself,
Speaker 6: if I can get somebody who doesn't love me and
Speaker 6: doesn't respect me to love me and respect me, I've
Speaker 6: won a battle and you haven't. Okay, I hope that
Speaker 6: resonates with you. I just want to leave that with you,
Speaker 6: just in love, because I think it's more about you
Speaker 6: than anything else. Once you get with you, everything else
Speaker 6: is going to fall in place.
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, how is that falling on you?
Speaker 10: McKinley, that's great advice.
Speaker 11: My current girlfriend i'm with voted for Trump and she
Speaker 11: actually is a really good person for me.
Speaker 10: So my problem that I have with is not with
Speaker 10: my current girlfriend.
Speaker 3: No, no, no, but it should be. It should be.
Speaker 6: Let me tell you why it should be right. We
Speaker 6: have to be real about assessments. And I'll bring it
Speaker 6: back to Chelsea and I the optics on this. And
Speaker 6: I've said this before. I'm a black woman who talks
Speaker 6: very crazy about white people. Don't trust white people, and
Speaker 6: I shouldn't write the history of white people is gross.
Speaker 3: But at the same time, it's like I wouldn't.
Speaker 6: I'm not here to like dance and prance for somebody
Speaker 6: because I want to be accepted and I want to
Speaker 6: be loved. Like over here, I know that if some
Speaker 6: shit's going down, even though I get on her nerves,
Speaker 6: this woman has my back when it comes to being
Speaker 6: a woman, a black woman, all of that support. If
Speaker 6: she didn't, I could not be here. There's something in
Speaker 6: you that you think is okay. You can't be with
Speaker 6: the Trump supert. I'm just telling you, baby, everything you got.
Speaker 6: You're a transman divorced.
Speaker 3: You understand the fact that you think she's a good person.
Speaker 3: She's a Da da da.
Speaker 6: Dad, not in this time and climate, because there's got
Speaker 6: to be something that she's got going on with her,
Speaker 6: because how could she vote for Trump when Trump is
Speaker 6: against you?
Speaker 11: Right?
Speaker 10: I get that sometimes you make mistakes and.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 10: So when I had a phone call with her because
Speaker 10: I met her online.
Speaker 11: Two hours into the phone call was when I dropped
Speaker 11: the whole Hey probably didn't realize I'm a trans mail
Speaker 11: on my profile. And she said, at this point, I
Speaker 11: would be a complete idiot to not give this a chance.
Speaker 11: And that was about six months ago. So we just
Speaker 11: started dating it in January.
Speaker 6: No that baby, Listen to me, I say the same thing.
Speaker 6: Everybody's lying. Okay, I'm not telling people.
Speaker 3: I'm a comedian. I tell men.
Speaker 6: I teach blind cats how to read. So the reality
Speaker 6: is people are saying all kinds of shit. It's been
Speaker 6: six months. She would be a fool right to adhere
Speaker 6: to what she got going on to lose out on you.
Speaker 6: But the reality is there's going to be a time
Speaker 6: when she's gonna have to choose between you and what
Speaker 6: she believes in. And I'm telling you, baby, that's dangerous
Speaker 6: territory for you.
Speaker 1: Okay, I hear, Yeah, Yeah, I agree with her. I
Speaker 1: think that.
Speaker 7: Yeah.
Speaker 1: You it's like you have a pattern of behavior that's
Speaker 1: like a pathology, and you kind of have to nip
Speaker 1: it in the bud, like you're not looking after yourself.
Speaker 1: That's why it's like a repetition of kind of bad choices.
Speaker 2: Well, and I get why it feels comfortable right, because
Speaker 2: it's like, you know, you're coming out of this previous relationship.
Speaker 2: Things are tumultuous with work and with your ex and
Speaker 2: all these things, but or x is and all these things,
Speaker 2: but this feels comfortable, right, Like this feels like.
Speaker 1: A like a cozy, safe space where you were held.
Speaker 2: But I do think that Yamanika is right, Like when
Speaker 2: it comes down to her choosing between her church that
Speaker 2: has very conservative views like her beliefs, and her relationship
Speaker 2: with you, I think there's going to be a.
Speaker 3: Dividing point there.
Speaker 2: But I want to also go back to what Yamanika
Speaker 2: was saying about how we fill the void that's happening
Speaker 2: for you and how we get McKinley to love McKinley
Speaker 2: so that you can stand on your own two feet.
Speaker 2: And are you in any kind of therapy seeing anybody
Speaker 2: in that capacity?
Speaker 11: I was in therapy, and I was on medicine, and
Speaker 11: I work at a company that doesn't provide very good
Speaker 11: insurance coverage, so I have to wait until next month
Speaker 11: to start therapy again.
Speaker 3: Mary J.
Speaker 6: Blige has a song called good Morning gorgeous, right, yes,
Speaker 6: And it's like at first I was like, this is
Speaker 6: so ridiculous, you know, like you got to do this,
Speaker 6: But I started getting into that song and it's like
Speaker 6: you need to get up in the morning and say
Speaker 6: good morning gorgeous to yourself.
Speaker 3: I can see it all.
Speaker 6: Over you, and not as a judgment, it's because I
Speaker 6: am like that too. This is like really sensitive and
Speaker 6: you're trying to hold it all in but it's hurting
Speaker 6: you at the same time. And as long as you're
Speaker 6: okay and acquiesced to the bullshit around you, you think
Speaker 6: you'll be safe, but you won't. You're a great person, amazing,
Speaker 6: like just from the presence of you. I want you
Speaker 6: to know that, and I don't know if you see
Speaker 6: that in you and you got to, baby, you have to.
Speaker 10: I'm trying.
Speaker 3: No, you really do.
Speaker 6: Immediately when I saw you on the screen, I said, wow,
Speaker 6: just so beautiful.
Speaker 3: Really.
Speaker 11: I tried so hard, and I've been trying to ask
Speaker 11: for help. It's like I get nine yards out of
Speaker 11: the ten yards and I can't freaking get that one yard.
Speaker 11: And it's like I try to ask help for everywhere
Speaker 11: and try to figure things out and I'm just so
Speaker 11: financially screwed trying.
Speaker 10: You know, it's just like how do you do all
Speaker 10: these things?
Speaker 4: You know?
Speaker 10: How do you like?
Speaker 11: I have all this paths I'm trying to protect and
Speaker 11: protect my future and trying to do so many things.
Speaker 10: It's just so hard. Oh sorry, No, you're okay.
Speaker 3: We're also going through this city, you know what I mean.
Speaker 6: Like I cried, Chelsea cries, you know, We've cried to
Speaker 6: each other, like You're not alone in this feeling.
Speaker 3: It feels so isolating.
Speaker 6: But I promise you and I understand finances, God knows
Speaker 6: you know, and I understand all those things.
Speaker 3: They can change the fabric of your life.
Speaker 6: But the first thing you have to do is you
Speaker 6: have to love you and really know that all the
Speaker 6: decisions of that happen in your life have to be
Speaker 6: because they are going to benefit McKinley. Do you understand,
Speaker 6: because if not, if finance is not going to get good,
Speaker 6: the relationship is not going to get good. You're going
Speaker 6: to keep chasing things that don't serve you because, like
Speaker 6: Catherine said, you just want to be comfortable, but you're
Speaker 6: unfortunately comfortable in trauma.
Speaker 10: I think I'm just like in survival mode.
Speaker 2: I'm just trying to just I mean, individual therapy isn't
Speaker 2: something that can happen right now for financial or any
Speaker 2: other reasons. Let's find you a support group in your
Speaker 2: area so that you have some outlet for this, Like
Speaker 2: we need weekly support right right. You don't have to
Speaker 2: do this alone, and we don't want you to.
Speaker 10: Do this alone. Thank you, Yeah, thank you. I appreciate it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, And Chelsea, what would you say as far as
Speaker 2: like if there's a step that McKinley can take every
Speaker 2: single day to just get in touch with himself and
Speaker 2: listen to himself, what would.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you should get up in the mornings and write
Speaker 1: down like you are magnificent, you are magnetic, and you
Speaker 1: are resilient, and like write those three things down each
Speaker 1: morning and you're you know, on a piece of paper
Speaker 1: and start saying that to yourself.
Speaker 10: Okay, that was magnificent, resilient. What was the second one?
Speaker 1: Magnetic?
Speaker 10: Magnetic?
Speaker 3: Thank you? And also go find your own words. I
Speaker 3: wouldn't be writing too many things down that she says.
Speaker 3: You know what, Chelsea is my god, so I will
Speaker 3: listen mad decisions again.
Speaker 1: Hey, I'm your god.
Speaker 3: To honey, I wish the little but Jesus Christ, all
Speaker 3: of us did. You wouldn't even cross the street to
Speaker 3: get me a hot.
Speaker 1: Lordo's you're nos, LORDO.
Speaker 3: That is correct.
Speaker 1: Lord.
Speaker 10: I served them, I served a mission and had to
Speaker 10: learn Spanish.
Speaker 7: It could be.
Speaker 2: Will you check in with me, let me know if
Speaker 2: you can find something in your marrea.
Speaker 8: If not, I'm going to help you.
Speaker 1: Look like that.
Speaker 3: You can have a group every week.
Speaker 2: But will you check in with me like pretty quickly
Speaker 2: and well we'll get you on the right track.
Speaker 1: Thanks for calling.
Speaker 7: You so much.
Speaker 3: We do love you, love you, love you. Of course.
Speaker 1: I do have one more collar.
Speaker 8: If you're ready.
Speaker 3: To help it, let's go.
Speaker 1: Let's okay.
Speaker 2: Our last caller is Katie and she says, you're Chelsea.
Speaker 2: I need advice for how to deal with my sister.
Speaker 2: We're both in our fifties and a year apart. We
Speaker 2: were very close as children, but we went in very
Speaker 2: different directions directions as adults. That said, we still live
Speaker 2: in the town where we grew up, and we're both
Speaker 2: close with our mother and extended family. Here's the problem.
Speaker 2: There was no inciting event, but over the last several years,
Speaker 2: maybe even going back to our early thirties. We're like
Speaker 2: oil and water. We tolerate each other, but there's constant tension.
Speaker 2: I know I'm not perfect, but it feels like she's
Speaker 2: constantly sniping at me, criticizing me, being negative, and cutting
Speaker 2: me down. I've been sober for almost three years, and
Speaker 2: I'm committed to live and let live toward life in general.
Speaker 2: I try to tune her out and be the bigger person,
Speaker 2: but gets harder every time I see her. We just
Speaker 2: spent the weekend traveling with our eighty year old mom
Speaker 2: for our family event, and I'm ready to never speak
Speaker 2: to her again. But that would break my mom's heart,
Speaker 2: which is out of the question. I also don't want
Speaker 2: to lose my only sister, but maybe I already have.
Speaker 2: I know you've been through a lot with your extended family, Chelsea,
Speaker 2: so any thoughts. I appreciate you and your team.
Speaker 1: Katie. Hi, Hi, Hi, Hi, Hi? How are you o?
Speaker 8: Katie Gat It's so exciting to be here.
Speaker 1: Hi, this is Yamy, I have you.
Speaker 11: Hi.
Speaker 3: I'm Yaminika Katie.
Speaker 1: Oh, oh my god.
Speaker 7: I'll try to watch my mouth in your presence.
Speaker 10: I know how sensitive you.
Speaker 3: Are, baby, so look at cutie pye, you try to
Speaker 3: be my sister?
Speaker 1: Well wait, what's the situations? Why can't you get?
Speaker 7: What?
Speaker 1: Is she so annoying and you're so annoying to her?
Speaker 1: You both hate each other like annoy each other kind
Speaker 1: of Yeah, are you angry at her about something?
Speaker 7: After this trip that we went on, my husband said
Speaker 7: the only solution he saw was that we go in.
Speaker 10: The backyard with boxing gloves.
Speaker 6: Oh all right, Well there's a resentment somewhere. Where's the resentment?
Speaker 7: I don't know.
Speaker 10: I mean, I could, I could make some guesses.
Speaker 7: I mean, I think that our lives have turned out.
Speaker 7: You know, our lives have turned out basically the way
Speaker 7: that we wanted them to. You know, I always wanted
Speaker 7: to be a career person, and I am. My sister
Speaker 7: is a stay at home mom, and she loves her
Speaker 7: kids and she loves that. But it seems like I
Speaker 7: think she resents the freedom that I have. I mean,
Speaker 7: if I had to guess, i'd say what that is?
Speaker 7: But it's so hard to have an honest conversation with
Speaker 7: her that I'm speculating when I say that.
Speaker 1: So, what's your issue with her?
Speaker 7: It's just it's the constant cutdowns, It's the constant.
Speaker 1: It's just she's cutting down.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I mean she's trying to belittle you because I
Speaker 6: think I don't think she probably is as happy as
Speaker 6: you think she is or satisfied. Right. I think I'm
Speaker 6: not a mother and I've never been able to fool
Speaker 6: a man into marrying me. But I can tell you
Speaker 6: this that there is a sense of accomplishment quite early
Speaker 6: once you go into relationship that probably goes into marriage
Speaker 6: and then children, and then after that you have to
Speaker 6: look at yourself and go what's next. That's something that
Speaker 6: you don't have to worry about as a career woman,
Speaker 6: because what next is the career thing. You haven't really
Speaker 6: locked down life. People are locking down life early seeing
Speaker 6: people do an evolve beyond where they've stopped.
Speaker 3: And then there's a resentment.
Speaker 6: So because she feels bad about what you got going
Speaker 6: on in the freedom you got, she wants to cut
Speaker 6: you down and make you feel the same as her.
Speaker 6: You cannot be in a relationship like that without communicating. Hey, listen,
Speaker 6: I don't like when you say this. I don't like
Speaker 6: when you say that it makes me feel this way.
Speaker 6: If they love you enough and respect you enough, then
Speaker 6: they will hear it. If they don't, then you just
Speaker 6: have to separate. But you can't force your sister to
Speaker 6: have a conversation with you. If she doesn't want to
Speaker 6: have a conversation with you, and if she's not going
Speaker 6: to talk or communicate her real feelings to you, then
Speaker 6: you have to either limit contact or go no contact.
Speaker 1: When she's cutting you down, what's your reaction to that?
Speaker 7: I just I kind of go gray rock, you know.
Speaker 7: I just I associate. Yeah, honestly, sometimes I sometimes I
Speaker 7: try to change the subject. It just depends on who
Speaker 7: else is around us. Very rarely is it just her
Speaker 7: and I, because I don't spend time with her unless
Speaker 7: I really have to because of the larger family, and
Speaker 7: I don't want to be rude or cause a you know,
Speaker 7: a big family kerfuffle by telling her. You know you're
Speaker 7: being rude, being a jerk. Can you stop? You know,
Speaker 7: it just feels so impossible to me because of the
Speaker 7: larger family dynamic.
Speaker 6: Let me ask you something, when you get angry, do
Speaker 6: you really like is it uncontrollable anger?
Speaker 7: I'm I'm an enneagram one, if that makes any sense.
Speaker 7: I'm a you know, the perfectionist type that just internalizes.
Speaker 1: What's your star signs? Should that'll make sense to her?
Speaker 3: No, that's not what I'm saying to you.
Speaker 6: Is what I do a lot, and it gets me
Speaker 6: in problems, right, is because I know, like, once you
Speaker 6: piss me off, once I've gotten pissed off and I've
Speaker 6: gone beyond, there's no I'm I'm getting ready to get
Speaker 6: with your ass in a really wild way. Right And
Speaker 6: probably when I'm done getting with you, we're gonna have
Speaker 6: to sever tize unless you can emotionally get over the
Speaker 6: fact that I just ran you into the ground. So
Speaker 6: a lot of times I try to avoid those situations
Speaker 6: by being the nicer person, the bigger person, or the
Speaker 6: ah you know, and over time that bill up and
Speaker 6: it's frustrating to you because it's like you're going great
Speaker 6: rock all the time.
Speaker 3: Why your sister going hot lava? You need to get
Speaker 3: with her in these moments. You need to be like, hey, bitch,
Speaker 3: hold on a second, why are you talking crazy to
Speaker 3: me like that? What's up? What have I done? No,
Speaker 3: because as long as you allow it, it's going to
Speaker 3: get done that.
Speaker 1: I agree. I think like you have to face it honestly,
Speaker 1: like and and even if she can't be honest. You
Speaker 1: have to get her to be honest, like you have
Speaker 1: to be like, listen, this is ridiculous. We hate each other.
Speaker 1: Why do we hate each other? Let's talk about it?
Speaker 1: Would you rather? I would like to figure this out.
Speaker 1: Let's figure this out together, Like what what can I do?
Speaker 1: I'll do anything to have as a normal relation. Do
Speaker 1: you fucking hate me? Like you have to have like
Speaker 1: a moment of real honesty to get cause you guys
Speaker 1: then can actually break all the tension and come together. Yeah,
Speaker 1: sorry that I'm yelling. Okay, yeah, yeah, so.
Speaker 3: That she was passionate. She was talking about her and I.
Speaker 3: That's how we we also these sisters. Did you write this?
Speaker 1: Let in tell he shut up? Shut up?
Speaker 10: Oh?
Speaker 1: But yeah, but I also can't.
Speaker 7: I can't dime out Chelsea like that.
Speaker 1: But but also I feel like there can't be like
Speaker 1: tension without two people having the tension, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean? Like, if you can't, there has to be
Speaker 1: something coming from you too. That is like an explosive energy,
Speaker 1: and that's why it should. It needs to combust, you know,
Speaker 1: Like you can't dance when somebody's not dancing. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: mean I can't. Actually that's The only time I should
Speaker 1: be dancing is when no one else is dancing.
Speaker 3: Yo.
Speaker 6: But you seem like you're in this thing by yourself,
Speaker 6: and Chelsea's right, you got to engage you assistant in
Speaker 6: it because she also has to feel uncomfortable.
Speaker 3: And you think she writing a letter somewhere about what
Speaker 3: you got. You know she's not writing a letter.
Speaker 6: She over did baker cookies for your nieces and nephews
Speaker 6: and you over here trying to figure out how you're
Speaker 6: going to get your situation back with your sister. You guys,
Speaker 6: are sisters that that's important to you or it's not.
Speaker 6: If it is, then some egos are gonna have to shift,
Speaker 6: some conversations are going to have to happen, and hopefully
Speaker 6: at the end of it, you guys remain sisters and
Speaker 6: building a better relationship.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and I think the time to have this conversation
Speaker 2: is not at first. She's just said something that activates you.
Speaker 2: But like before you go into time with your mom
Speaker 2: or whatever, I can let me.
Speaker 3: Just say this.
Speaker 6: I say wait till she because then she know who
Speaker 6: Because I'm for real. If you do this, bitch, every
Speaker 6: time you do this, you activate this. You understand you
Speaker 6: start training you do this? Did I become this?
Speaker 3: Right? I have the conversation with her here.
Speaker 6: If you want to keep meeting me here, bitch, I'm
Speaker 6: available to meet you here at this Sorry to keep going.
Speaker 3: Your sister bitch, what are y'all's a bitch?
Speaker 7: But you know what?
Speaker 3: Right for sure? What he is a bitch? I don't know.
Speaker 3: We got to hear your sister's story. Maybe she'll right
Speaker 3: there next week.
Speaker 6: But what I'm telling you is the reality is every
Speaker 6: time she's like this, you got to give her the
Speaker 6: results of what that is, so that at some point
Speaker 6: she probably go, whoa, hey, can we talk?
Speaker 3: She might be coming to you to talk because if
Speaker 3: you're gonna be a warm, bad bitch, so am I.
Speaker 7: That would shock her so badly because I think everyone
Speaker 7: in my family is so used to me being.
Speaker 3: Like, uh, you know, just so non reactive. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 3: that's how I do. And she's not.
Speaker 2: She's not saying this stuff to you to knock at
Speaker 2: a reaction. She might be surprised at a reaction, but
Speaker 2: she's saying it to go do you. I mean, even
Speaker 2: if it's something as simple as like she says something shitdn'
Speaker 2: hear like wow, I can't believe you felt comfortable saying
Speaker 2: that to me, or I can't believe you felt it
Speaker 2: was okay to.
Speaker 3: Say I can't believe it's not butter bitch.
Speaker 6: But I'm telling you right now, is the next time
Speaker 6: you say something wild to me, I'm all over the place.
Speaker 3: You have the profile of a serial killer.
Speaker 6: You're the sayd serial killers, laid, dormant, nothing, doing nothing.
Speaker 6: They also running businesses and bacon cookies and shit, and
Speaker 6: then one day you're gonna flip out. I make sure
Speaker 6: it redect my address from anything that might.
Speaker 3: Be on any paperwork.
Speaker 6: If you're not gonna come kill me for giving you advice,
Speaker 6: I can tell you where Chelsea lives.
Speaker 1: Actually, I have to move because you stayed here. Oh
Speaker 1: that's the thing.
Speaker 10: They gotta move.
Speaker 7: I have considered from time to time saying to her,
Speaker 7: you know, I'm sorry.
Speaker 1: Could you repeat that?
Speaker 7: She could actually hear herself say like, that's.
Speaker 1: A good first step. Could you repeat that, that's a
Speaker 1: good first step on your journey back to ye.
Speaker 3: Could you repeat that?
Speaker 6: Because I know I know you want yeah, yeah, Somewhere
Speaker 6: in the middle is some good advice for you on this.
Speaker 6: I think it's somewhere in the middle.
Speaker 3: Like I we definitely unfortunately got sky very high, but
Speaker 3: that stands out like that.
Speaker 6: But I do I do want you, like, no matter
Speaker 6: what all joking aside with this, we do want you
Speaker 6: to have this conversation with your sister. You owe it
Speaker 6: to yourself because you feel a certain way about it.
Speaker 6: So even though it maybe you might be nervous about it,
Speaker 6: you're intimidated by it. I promise you once you have
Speaker 6: that conversation, whether it's good or bad, there's gonna be
Speaker 6: a relief that you feel because at least you're gonna
Speaker 6: have some better answers than you do now.
Speaker 3: You have no idea what's going on with you and
Speaker 3: your sister.
Speaker 7: You know what.
Speaker 1: That's a very good point.
Speaker 2: Like I had several years ago a similar conversation with
Speaker 2: my sister where we like went to dinner. We knew
Speaker 2: we were going to hash some shit out. We had
Speaker 2: a lot of Martini's, Like we talked about it, and
Speaker 2: like there were some things that she had said to
Speaker 2: me in the past that she didn't know were as
Speaker 2: hurtful as they were, and it was, you know, repetitive stuff,
Speaker 2: And there were things I had said to her that
Speaker 2: I had no like dumb jokes I was trying to make,
Speaker 2: and like, oh that was really actually very hurtful to her.
Speaker 2: So it really was eye opening to be able to
Speaker 2: like have a conversation where you know, you are going
Speaker 2: in to have this conversation about like we need to
Speaker 2: work some shit out, We need to figure some stuff
Speaker 2: out so that we can be around each other when
Speaker 2: we want to be here for our mom, because that's
Speaker 2: where you want to be.
Speaker 8: Right, Yeah, that is the most important thing to me, exactly.
Speaker 7: And you know, I like, I mean, my mom is
Speaker 7: in really good health, but you know, I like to
Speaker 7: think that she sees this tension even though she absolutely
Speaker 7: refuses to weigh in on it, and I think she
Speaker 7: would like she would like to leave this earth knowing
Speaker 7: that her two girls love each other and can get along.
Speaker 10: Yeah.
Speaker 1: And somebody wants to be the cycle breaker. Yeah, so
Speaker 1: be that person you can break my Yeah. So what
Speaker 1: you're doing isn't working, So you have to change your
Speaker 1: approach and then break the cycle. Be a disruptor. This
Speaker 1: is a good disruptor. You're a bad disruptor. All right, Well,
Speaker 1: I'm glad you called in and keep us posted. Let
Speaker 1: us know what happens.
Speaker 7: Yes, I really appreciate the advice and all the good
Speaker 7: advice that y'all give on your show over the years
Speaker 7: of It's helped me a lot in different areas, and
Speaker 7: I've passed it along to other people that have come
Speaker 7: to me for advice. It's just, you know, you guys
Speaker 7: could be just like drinking Martini's all day and not
Speaker 7: helping people. But you're spending your time doing this and
Speaker 7: I'm really appreciate it.
Speaker 1: Thanks, Katie, I love that. Thank you so much.
Speaker 8: All Right, good luck with this conversation.
Speaker 1: Okay, all right, thanks, you can do it, all right,
Speaker 1: and that's it for us today. Thank God. This is
Speaker 1: so I know, I know, but I have to be honest.
Speaker 1: I dropped out during the middle of one of those letters.
Speaker 1: I just was like, my head was in the fucking
Speaker 1: clouds thinking about what I'm gonna eat later.
Speaker 8: I picked some very like complicated.
Speaker 1: This is a great episode, great questions. I like all
Speaker 1: the drama heavy stuff like that. Even when I'm today,
Speaker 1: I brought it and listen again. I'm so excited to
Speaker 1: be on Chelsea Network. This is I can't wait till
Speaker 1: we get you the color of your Foundation right. I
Speaker 1: can't wait.
Speaker 3: I can't wait till you stop bringing that up. Bitch.
Speaker 3: I told you I'm fine. Don't worry. Don't be checking
Speaker 3: bitches about their face. Thank you.
Speaker 6: So anyway, if you want to hear less helpful advice
Speaker 6: but more in your ass shit, please go listen to
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Speaker 7: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Now that she has a podcast, she does not need
Speaker 1: to do as many lives in a blue Okay that
Speaker 1: means on every thirty seconds?
Speaker 3: No, it does it all right?
Speaker 1: I love you sort of?
Speaker 3: I love you.
Speaker 1: I love you?
Speaker 10: Okay, you know you do.
Speaker 1: It's called what's You're the problem? You're the problem?
Speaker 3: Would you like to learn the name.
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