WEBVTT - Black Infertility with Coach Gessie & Lakisha Randolph 0:00:00.160 --> 0:00:00.840 I'm Tamika D. 0:00:01.000 --> 0:00:03.160 Mallory and it's your boy my son in general. 0:00:03.360 --> 0:00:05.440 We are your host of t M I. 0:00:05.400 --> 0:00:10.239 Tamika and my Son's Information, Truth, Motivation and inspiration. 0:00:10.080 --> 0:00:15.560 Name New Energy. What's up, my son. 0:00:16.760 --> 0:00:22.520 I'm blessed. They got a heat wave like heat. 0:00:22.320 --> 0:00:24.160 Waves been before. They said it was a. 0:00:24.120 --> 0:00:25.640 Heat but it was a heat wave. 0:00:26.160 --> 0:00:31.200 I'm telling you, man, I have been traveling from state 0:00:31.240 --> 0:00:36.280 to state and it is extremely hot, extremely hot. Out 0:00:36.280 --> 0:00:39.640 of the country. The sun is peeling your skin. 0:00:40.520 --> 0:00:41.839 In the country, the heat. 0:00:41.640 --> 0:00:43.479 Is on Hell. The heat is on Hell. 0:00:43.600 --> 0:00:45.080 It's hot. It's hot for sure. 0:00:45.120 --> 0:00:48.120 And hopefully folks who are out there are taking care 0:00:48.120 --> 0:00:50.159 of themselves and staying hydrated. You know, I've made this 0:00:50.200 --> 0:00:53.960 commitment to drinking lots more water in a day, and 0:00:54.040 --> 0:00:54.880 I see a difference. 0:00:54.960 --> 0:00:59.080 I feel different. Certainly, is very. 0:00:59.760 --> 0:01:03.080 A whole fleet wherever you are, folks who are listening 0:01:03.240 --> 0:01:06.400 in that you're taking care of yourself, eating your fruits 0:01:06.400 --> 0:01:11.040 and vegetables, drinking your water, and staying in cool places. 0:01:11.080 --> 0:01:13.160 And you know, I was watching the other day a 0:01:13.280 --> 0:01:16.160 young couple had a baby out and the baby was 0:01:17.319 --> 0:01:20.400 in the stroller and they were pushing the baby and 0:01:20.480 --> 0:01:25.720 the sun beaming down, and it was a brand new baby, 0:01:25.920 --> 0:01:29.720 maybe two months, and I was stinking to myself, wow, 0:01:30.480 --> 0:01:33.600 I wish that we weren't living in a time where 0:01:33.880 --> 0:01:36.880 as a woman by myself, I can't say because if 0:01:36.880 --> 0:01:39.039 you'd been there, you had been there, or anybody else, 0:01:39.080 --> 0:01:42.080 even another female, I'd have been like, sweetheart, you know, 0:01:42.319 --> 0:01:45.440 please put something over that baby. But me by myself 0:01:45.720 --> 0:01:48.160 and this couple, who knows they might go crazy on 0:01:48.240 --> 0:01:49.960 me and start trying to fight me. So I'm like, 0:01:50.120 --> 0:01:52.920 I don't want to be, you know, intrusive. But what 0:01:53.000 --> 0:01:55.480 I did do is I kept looking. And as I 0:01:55.520 --> 0:01:59.080 continue to look and look and look for a few moments, 0:01:59.200 --> 0:02:01.880 it was like, oh, you know, they realized, or she did, 0:02:02.160 --> 0:02:04.000 because she was looking at me kind of like why 0:02:04.080 --> 0:02:06.320 you know, maybe it's a cute baby, but I was 0:02:06.360 --> 0:02:07.560 looking out of concern. 0:02:08.000 --> 0:02:09.240 And mothers kind of know. 0:02:09.760 --> 0:02:12.400 It's like if you out with your kid and your 0:02:12.440 --> 0:02:15.320 kid is like being bad and you see another mother 0:02:15.520 --> 0:02:18.320 just looking with that look, you'd be like, let me get. 0:02:18.160 --> 0:02:21.160 My ance on me and sit at you know, let 0:02:21.240 --> 0:02:22.320 me show you that I con. 0:02:22.720 --> 0:02:25.720 So she covered the baby, and I want to say 0:02:25.840 --> 0:02:29.480 that babies can't tell you they cold. They can't tell 0:02:29.480 --> 0:02:32.080 you they're hot. They can't say anything. So we have 0:02:32.160 --> 0:02:37.880 to be overly mindful in these conditions. 0:02:36.280 --> 0:02:38.800 Not always, not always, not always. 0:02:38.800 --> 0:02:43.240 I argue with my granddaughter, my granddaughter's parents all the 0:02:43.320 --> 0:02:46.480 time about needing her need in a sweater. 0:02:47.200 --> 0:02:48.560 They don't. It's a different thing. 0:02:48.639 --> 0:02:50.960 They like you bugging because I'm extra So you know, 0:02:51.080 --> 0:02:53.280 I come from the generation that you would have a 0:02:53.280 --> 0:02:57.680 snowsuit on in the fifty degree weather. Jenna's was laughing. 0:02:57.880 --> 0:03:01.200 That's the generation I came from. You would you will 0:03:01.280 --> 0:03:05.760 have a snow snow suit on in the fifty degree 0:03:05.880 --> 0:03:08.280 weather because they would be saying it's too cold. 0:03:08.440 --> 0:03:10.600 You're gonna wear a scarf, You damn sure. 0:03:10.600 --> 0:03:13.000 We're gonna have a hat on your head until it's 0:03:13.040 --> 0:03:16.600 about sixty degrees, no doubt. That's how I was raised. 0:03:16.760 --> 0:03:19.040 So when I see them, they just be hanging about 0:03:19.360 --> 0:03:23.920 and just chilling. But my granddaughter is so whoa she 0:03:24.320 --> 0:03:27.080 just she's busy and doing She ain't got time to 0:03:27.080 --> 0:03:32.800 be cold, noneless. Nonetheless, I'm always saying that. So I'm 0:03:32.840 --> 0:03:35.840 just saying it's a point of reference as we each 0:03:35.880 --> 0:03:41.560 one teach one. Please during this time, make sure that 0:03:42.000 --> 0:03:45.640 you are being extra mindful of the babies. Like I 0:03:45.680 --> 0:03:49.080 see people putting like little not ice, but you know 0:03:49.080 --> 0:03:51.200 they'll wrap up something cold and put it on the 0:03:51.240 --> 0:03:53.960 baby's neck so that they don't get dehydrated. Because people 0:03:53.960 --> 0:03:56.360 be in the hospital with their babies, babies screaming all 0:03:56.440 --> 0:03:58.800 night long and they and a part of it is, 0:03:58.960 --> 0:04:01.480 you know, milk, sitting out too long, and heat. It's 0:04:01.480 --> 0:04:04.600 so many things that's probably just shouldn't be having kids 0:04:04.640 --> 0:04:06.160 when you're young, because the. 0:04:06.360 --> 0:04:09.200 Job is but that's when you're supposed to do. 0:04:09.280 --> 0:04:11.680 Actually, now when you're now, when you're nineteen and twenty 0:04:11.720 --> 0:04:13.720 years old, most need to be about twenty. 0:04:13.400 --> 0:04:16.440 Five, but think about twenty five, but we. 0:04:16.800 --> 0:04:22.760 And that's early thirty. Really, I guess I know the Bible, 0:04:22.760 --> 0:04:23.040 I have. 0:04:22.960 --> 0:04:26.119 A conversation with fertility and all these things. So maybe 0:04:26.120 --> 0:04:26.880 we should ask. 0:04:26.839 --> 0:04:31.200 That no, no, the body your best physical time to 0:04:31.279 --> 0:04:33.920 have children. I think it's even before you eighteen years old, 0:04:33.960 --> 0:04:38.440 exactly like your body, because I'm talking about your your mentality. 0:04:39.560 --> 0:04:42.960 It is a lot of stuff to do. Like now 0:04:43.000 --> 0:04:49.400 that I see my granddaughter and her parents, that's a 0:04:49.440 --> 0:04:51.680 whole new shit. I'm telling We talk about this all 0:04:51.720 --> 0:04:55.520 the time. Looking at how Nassan is so involved with 0:04:55.600 --> 0:04:57.599 you know, how he deals with his son and them 0:04:57.680 --> 0:04:59.320 as good great parents. 0:04:59.360 --> 0:05:02.440 For Kassan, this is a new generation. 0:05:02.960 --> 0:05:05.599 When we was younger, at twenty four to twenty five 0:05:05.680 --> 0:05:07.520 years old, I don't know what was happening. 0:05:07.520 --> 0:05:08.560 If it wasn't for my parents. 0:05:08.640 --> 0:05:12.279 I just why I was in jail so. 0:05:11.080 --> 0:05:12.359 So death define. 0:05:12.400 --> 0:05:16.040 It gets back to the point of why at twenty 0:05:16.120 --> 0:05:18.919 years old we do not need to be having children. 0:05:18.960 --> 0:05:20.840 And you get to be about twenty five to twenty six, 0:05:21.160 --> 0:05:21.880 you can do it. 0:05:21.839 --> 0:05:27.800 But it's still very, very very hard. The opportune time, 0:05:28.000 --> 0:05:31.400 even though it's not physically, the right time is about thirty, 0:05:31.400 --> 0:05:33.080 but then that's when you deep in your career. 0:05:33.240 --> 0:05:33.720 I don't know. 0:05:33.800 --> 0:05:36.320 Well, anyway, we're getting ready to talk about, like you said, 0:05:36.640 --> 0:05:39.200 fertility and all of that, and now the it's shit 0:05:39.360 --> 0:05:41.719 from late and ruin. So let me tell you my 0:05:41.760 --> 0:05:46.640 thought of the day. You know, we've been supporting Congressman 0:05:46.720 --> 0:05:49.599 Jamal Bowman. Hopefully at the point that you all see 0:05:49.600 --> 0:05:55.480 this interview, he has won his primary as the congressman, 0:05:55.600 --> 0:06:00.280 the continued congressman of District sixteen in the Bronx. And 0:06:00.279 --> 0:06:03.400 this is not really so much about Congressman Bowman. But 0:06:03.440 --> 0:06:07.200 one of the greatest challenges that we faced as we 0:06:07.480 --> 0:06:10.039 stood with this brother and will continue to in all 0:06:10.080 --> 0:06:14.440 of his endeavors, is this idea that there are people 0:06:15.520 --> 0:06:22.360 who really believe in their hearts and mind that Vladimir, 0:06:22.520 --> 0:06:25.719 which is a man who ran against him a seventy plus. 0:06:25.760 --> 0:06:28.400 I think he's seventy one, but he's seventy plus. You're 0:06:28.480 --> 0:06:33.200 old white man who was the county executive in Westchester. 0:06:33.360 --> 0:06:36.560 So there are people who know him, pastors and other 0:06:36.680 --> 0:06:38.240 things that he's done in the community. 0:06:38.279 --> 0:06:39.520 People know him, right. 0:06:40.120 --> 0:06:46.680 They thought that he was better than Jamal to be 0:06:46.720 --> 0:06:51.040 a congressman. Now I'm not even here to talk about 0:06:51.040 --> 0:06:54.400 the difference because again, hopefully at this point we beat 0:06:54.480 --> 0:06:58.520 him and that's the end of the story. But it's 0:06:58.560 --> 0:07:01.480 possible that at the point at this point next week, 0:07:02.080 --> 0:07:05.159 we haven't. So I don't know that that thing. But 0:07:05.240 --> 0:07:10.640 here's something I do know about the how we as humans. 0:07:10.680 --> 0:07:13.480 And I say we because all of us have some 0:07:14.000 --> 0:07:20.160 part of this hypocritical nature. We just we are hypocritical 0:07:20.240 --> 0:07:24.840 and conflicted beings just in our makeup. Because we could 0:07:24.840 --> 0:07:30.360 sit and say we don't want to see you know, 0:07:31.120 --> 0:07:34.000 violence in our community and then watch all the BMF 0:07:34.040 --> 0:07:37.320 and power possible and love it. We can say we 0:07:37.400 --> 0:07:41.320 don't like sexual promiscuity and then be outside so my 0:07:41.480 --> 0:07:46.600 giddy sex seeet. So this is just the nature of humans, 0:07:46.640 --> 0:07:48.480 like it's it's and I don't even know. Maybe the 0:07:48.520 --> 0:07:53.800 word hypocritical feels hard, so I will say we're conflicted individuals. 0:07:53.840 --> 0:07:58.400 But here's what scares me. Some of the same people 0:07:58.880 --> 0:08:04.320 who support Vladimir the seventy one year old white man 0:08:05.760 --> 0:08:09.680 are the same folks who are anti Trump. The same 0:08:09.760 --> 0:08:12.720 people who are saying we need a Congress in place 0:08:13.880 --> 0:08:19.120 that will block the Republicans, God forbid Trump becomes president. 0:08:19.640 --> 0:08:23.480 That won't work across the out too much to our 0:08:23.600 --> 0:08:26.960 detriment with people like the Marjorie Tail of Greens, who 0:08:26.960 --> 0:08:30.920 are completely crazy and will always compromise everything that we're 0:08:30.960 --> 0:08:34.640 trying to get done that has to do with our wellbeing. Right, 0:08:36.000 --> 0:08:40.040 they would say, we don't need to have these older 0:08:40.160 --> 0:08:44.000 people going into Congress at this point in their lives, 0:08:44.000 --> 0:08:47.200 because we need to have younger, fresh people. Like we 0:08:47.280 --> 0:08:51.680 saw what happened with Ruth Bada Ginsburg same people. She 0:08:51.880 --> 0:08:56.520 was older, she probably should have retired while Obama was president, 0:08:56.720 --> 0:08:59.120 which meant that he would have been able to appoint 0:08:59.160 --> 0:09:02.560 someone in her position on the Supreme Court and we 0:09:02.600 --> 0:09:04.480 would not have lost that seat. 0:09:04.720 --> 0:09:04.920 Right. 0:09:05.920 --> 0:09:09.199 These are the same people who have this logic. They 0:09:09.200 --> 0:09:10.200 don't want Trump. 0:09:10.640 --> 0:09:14.080 They don't want people who are in Congress that are 0:09:14.120 --> 0:09:18.200 sort of aging out, which gives other that makes them 0:09:18.280 --> 0:09:20.760 vulnerable for people to run against them. 0:09:21.200 --> 0:09:23.080 I mean, they don't want people who will do too 0:09:23.160 --> 0:09:24.520 much compromise. 0:09:24.040 --> 0:09:25.679 And that look like they're too much in the middle 0:09:25.720 --> 0:09:28.200 of the hole. They want them to be strong on 0:09:28.320 --> 0:09:30.880 our issues. This is what they say out their mouths. 0:09:31.600 --> 0:09:34.200 And then they decide that it is better to send 0:09:34.240 --> 0:09:37.440 someone who is in the retirement age of his life 0:09:38.280 --> 0:09:44.520 right to Congress over a younger man, a younger black 0:09:44.600 --> 0:09:47.719 man who is an educator, by the way, that they 0:09:47.800 --> 0:09:51.040 could get into Congress, and he has at least twenty 0:09:51.040 --> 0:09:54.320 five to thirty years of still being young, still being 0:09:54.320 --> 0:09:57.320 on the issues. He's already showing that he is a 0:09:57.559 --> 0:10:03.120 very progressive and has a liberal mindset and is exactly 0:10:03.160 --> 0:10:05.520 what you need when you got a Marjorie Taylor green 0:10:05.800 --> 0:10:11.560 Maga mentality in Congress, you need a squad mentality also 0:10:11.720 --> 0:10:13.520 to help combat that. 0:10:13.880 --> 0:10:16.080 Now, I'm not saying if you had a. 0:10:16.000 --> 0:10:20.920 Situation where these people were just running at the same time, right, 0:10:21.760 --> 0:10:24.760 they just knew people running for office, and you decide, 0:10:24.760 --> 0:10:27.880 we know the county executive, we respect him, we respect 0:10:27.880 --> 0:10:31.080 some of the things that he's done. We're going to 0:10:31.160 --> 0:10:33.760 look at him because we know him better than we 0:10:33.800 --> 0:10:38.400 know Congressman Jamal Bowman. Jamal Bowman is the incumbent, he 0:10:39.000 --> 0:10:43.000 is the current congressman. So you're saying you would rather 0:10:43.160 --> 0:10:47.080 send him home a young man, a young black man 0:10:47.240 --> 0:10:50.560 who has years and years and years before him that 0:10:50.679 --> 0:10:54.000 he can be there to make good in Congress. 0:10:54.400 --> 0:10:56.920 So you could put a seventy one year old white 0:10:56.960 --> 0:11:02.200 man who is taking money from the very people. 0:11:01.960 --> 0:11:05.800 You say you don't want, the same people funding Trump, 0:11:06.280 --> 0:11:10.320 the same people who are funding a genocide or at 0:11:10.440 --> 0:11:13.960 least fighting like hell to ensure that the people of 0:11:14.080 --> 0:11:15.800 Palestine are wiped out. 0:11:16.200 --> 0:11:18.600 They okay with that as far as I can see. 0:11:19.280 --> 0:11:21.200 That's how I feel. Right. 0:11:21.559 --> 0:11:26.199 These people are giving him money, the same GOP donors 0:11:26.400 --> 0:11:28.120 that are funding Trump. 0:11:28.160 --> 0:11:30.800 And funding the campaigns. 0:11:30.200 --> 0:11:34.479 Against How the hell you out here marching speaking against 0:11:34.559 --> 0:11:38.520 the discontinuance or the destruction of DEI and then you 0:11:38.559 --> 0:11:41.160 want to support a candidate that's taking money from the 0:11:41.240 --> 0:11:44.560 people who are funding the campaign against DEI. 0:11:45.120 --> 0:11:46.480 It's not making sense to me. 0:11:46.720 --> 0:11:49.280 None of it makes sense. And we always will vote 0:11:49.280 --> 0:11:52.480 against our best interest, right, And that's one of the 0:11:52.520 --> 0:11:55.600 major things that I've been saying lately that how did 0:11:55.600 --> 0:12:02.040 they trick us into believing that people and the very 0:12:02.160 --> 0:12:05.200 people that we say we against are better for us? 0:12:05.440 --> 0:12:07.280 Like this is this ship is like you just said, 0:12:07.320 --> 0:12:10.360 it's really mind but it's mind blowing to me. Like 0:12:10.440 --> 0:12:14.040 every time I look at these situations and we vote 0:12:14.040 --> 0:12:17.600 against we vote against our ultimate best interests. 0:12:17.640 --> 0:12:21.200 Well, no, we don't vote against our best interests. You see, 0:12:21.240 --> 0:12:24.320 this is the problem. We most of the time don't 0:12:24.400 --> 0:12:27.120 vote at all, not not not all of us. 0:12:27.200 --> 0:12:30.240 I'm not saying that, not all of us, No, I'm not. 0:12:30.640 --> 0:12:34.040 I want to make it very clear this is the 0:12:34.080 --> 0:12:37.720 issue because I don't want there to be a gray area. 0:12:38.280 --> 0:12:39.240 The issue is. 0:12:40.840 --> 0:12:43.360 Too many of us don't vote at all at these 0:12:43.440 --> 0:12:44.880 times when we need to be. 0:12:45.679 --> 0:12:48.439 But it is an interest, it's our personal win. 0:12:48.520 --> 0:12:51.760 Y And that's the problem, not that it's not our aer, 0:12:52.040 --> 0:12:55.079 our best interest, our elect exactly. 0:12:55.280 --> 0:12:57.640 Then that's what it is. And if you're talking about 0:12:57.679 --> 0:13:01.080 the collective, were talking about what's going on in our communities, 0:13:01.160 --> 0:13:05.680 communities of color, where we we are experiencing the brunt 0:13:05.720 --> 0:13:10.360 of all of the legislation, past the fucking judges that 0:13:10.400 --> 0:13:13.760 they putting into all like we are experiencing it firsthand. 0:13:14.520 --> 0:13:18.160 If we're voting against the things that are going to 0:13:18.320 --> 0:13:21.760 change those against the people who are intentional about saying, now, 0:13:21.800 --> 0:13:24.240 I'm gonna make sure these communities have the proper school 0:13:24.240 --> 0:13:26.480 and they have the funding for the programs needed in 0:13:26.480 --> 0:13:28.800 the communities. I'm gonna make sure that the elderly are good. 0:13:28.800 --> 0:13:31.840 I'm gonna make sure the health insurance is good in 0:13:31.880 --> 0:13:35.960 these communities. If we're voting against those people because somebody's 0:13:35.960 --> 0:13:39.400 gonna give my my program a couple of dollars, right, 0:13:39.480 --> 0:13:42.800 somebody's gonna fund my my personal thing a couple of dolls, 0:13:42.840 --> 0:13:45.640 somebody's gonna make sure that my business keeps running or 0:13:45.760 --> 0:13:49.120 the corporations that I have one, then we are fighting 0:13:49.160 --> 0:13:52.600 and losing battle. And that's what's happening. And that's that's 0:13:52.600 --> 0:13:55.440 when you look at these organizations that are funding the 0:13:55.440 --> 0:13:59.080 people running against Jamo Bowman. They are focusing on a 0:13:59.200 --> 0:14:04.480 personal in of the people, like okay, you want some 0:14:04.520 --> 0:14:07.000 funded for this, Okay, We're gonna make sure y'all get. 0:14:06.840 --> 0:14:07.240 This, you know. 0:14:07.280 --> 0:14:10.840 And I think that there are some people who really 0:14:10.920 --> 0:14:15.280 have rationalized this, like they really believe that they're doing 0:14:15.320 --> 0:14:19.360 the right thing somehow because of whatever. And I I 0:14:20.000 --> 0:14:23.960 really it made me go even harder because I'm like, 0:14:24.320 --> 0:14:27.000 I know that there is no common sense to this 0:14:27.400 --> 0:14:30.320 right here, right, And as pissed off as I have 0:14:30.440 --> 0:14:35.600 been with Hakim Jeffries, who I love dearly as a brother, 0:14:35.680 --> 0:14:38.560 but I am so upset with how he has just 0:14:38.600 --> 0:14:43.000 like it's like Israel just completely owns him, right. Just 0:14:43.120 --> 0:14:50.360 hurt my heart to see this, even he endorsed Jamal Bowman, 0:14:51.080 --> 0:14:55.080 it don't make sense to me of incumbent. You don't 0:14:55.560 --> 0:14:58.240 people incumbents are incumbents for a reason. 0:14:59.160 --> 0:15:02.600 And let me tell you to speak to your point 0:15:03.040 --> 0:15:07.400 about or to speak to the point about the middle. 0:15:07.120 --> 0:15:11.800 Of the line, like how you get these older especially 0:15:12.280 --> 0:15:15.480 democrats in there, and they're more like, you know, want 0:15:15.480 --> 0:15:17.480 to try to work with everybody and all of that. 0:15:17.680 --> 0:15:20.000 The man said it to Jamal where he damn near 0:15:20.120 --> 0:15:23.880 called him an angry black man. He said, you can't 0:15:23.920 --> 0:15:26.880 just stand around yelling at people on the stage. You 0:15:26.960 --> 0:15:29.120 got to figure out how to work with them. The 0:15:29.160 --> 0:15:32.320 only times I've ever seen Jamaal Bowman yelling at people 0:15:32.440 --> 0:15:34.560 was when some shit was going down that you need 0:15:34.560 --> 0:15:35.280 to be yelling. 0:15:36.520 --> 0:15:37.520 It was that crazy. 0:15:37.600 --> 0:15:39.760 They don't want the energy. The reality of the situation 0:15:40.000 --> 0:15:42.080 is as we get older, we just get more said 0:15:42.160 --> 0:15:46.280 on our ways. We less on conflict, right, we like 0:15:46.360 --> 0:15:48.880 the lion that's going to just the reality some of 0:15:48.960 --> 0:15:52.480 us are. You have some elder who still have that 0:15:52.600 --> 0:15:55.800 fight in them, but then some are just beat up, right, 0:15:55.840 --> 0:15:58.000 some just say, you know what, I want to figure 0:15:58.000 --> 0:16:01.320 out how to work with you, even though even though 0:16:01.320 --> 0:16:04.120 I realized that the compromises not in the best interest 0:16:04.480 --> 0:16:07.400 of us all the way, right, And then you have 0:16:07.480 --> 0:16:10.080 young lines like Jamal Bowen, it's like, nah, there's certain 0:16:10.160 --> 0:16:14.400 things on conference a stop. They gotta be somebody. It's like, no, 0:16:14.880 --> 0:16:17.680 this ship is a full stop, right, and that's what 0:16:17.720 --> 0:16:20.520 we need in leadership, Like that's what leadership is supposed 0:16:20.560 --> 0:16:23.960 to look like for us. And you know, unfortunately there 0:16:23.960 --> 0:16:26.520 are so many people who don't want conflict. They want 0:16:26.800 --> 0:16:28.200 they want to say you got to be able to 0:16:28.240 --> 0:16:30.880 do it this way, don't they They want the least 0:16:31.400 --> 0:16:33.840 you know, they want the least amount of resistance, and 0:16:34.200 --> 0:16:36.880 that's where we are. And unfortunately, you know, we have 0:16:37.160 --> 0:16:40.600 we we we we sat on two sides, especially in 0:16:40.760 --> 0:16:43.800 our political parties. Is that there are likely you say, 0:16:43.800 --> 0:16:46.320 the moderates, and then you don't those they want to 0:16:46.320 --> 0:16:48.960 call radical. But I don't think. I don't think accent 0:16:49.560 --> 0:16:53.080 for people to stop killing innocent human beings is radical. 0:16:53.280 --> 0:16:55.760 I don't think saying hey, don't fund, don't send money 0:16:55.920 --> 0:17:00.000 that taxpayers from America, you know, are paying to fund 0:17:00.440 --> 0:17:04.199 killing innocent people, and not fund the school systems, and 0:17:04.280 --> 0:17:06.480 not for fund our own health. Don't tell us you 0:17:06.480 --> 0:17:11.359 don't have insurance for elderly that they're dying at higher rates, 0:17:11.520 --> 0:17:14.200 but you have money to continue to send to fun wards. 0:17:14.200 --> 0:17:15.760 I don't. I don't think anything is. 0:17:15.760 --> 0:17:16.840 Radical that's not radical. 0:17:16.880 --> 0:17:19.800 And in fact, one of the critiques that I've seen 0:17:19.840 --> 0:17:23.600 online from people against Tama Bowman is oh, well, he 0:17:23.680 --> 0:17:26.200 voted for this or he voted against. 0:17:25.800 --> 0:17:26.159 This, and that. 0:17:26.359 --> 0:17:26.560 Yeah. 0:17:26.640 --> 0:17:29.840 Sometimes he's actually been one of those people that knows 0:17:29.880 --> 0:17:33.359 how to compromise. He's not a he's an actual, a 0:17:33.480 --> 0:17:36.919 smart elected official with a smart man, just stop it. 0:17:37.040 --> 0:17:39.960 Shout out to Jamaal Bowman, we love you man, and 0:17:39.960 --> 0:17:44.919 that brings you to my music spotlight. Today. I found 0:17:44.920 --> 0:17:48.080 this young artist in the song Touched Me. His name 0:17:48.160 --> 0:17:51.439 is ce five C five five. He's a young artist 0:17:51.560 --> 0:17:54.360 and he's from Oakland, and it was a song called 0:17:54.400 --> 0:17:55.960 letter to My Son. You know, he had a son 0:17:56.000 --> 0:17:58.959 in his arms, and it was since it's you know, 0:17:59.040 --> 0:18:01.679 in the spirit of the Father's Day. We just passed 0:18:01.680 --> 0:18:04.120 Father's Day. I just wanted to give him a shout out. 0:18:04.119 --> 0:18:06.240 A lot of his music, it's very touching, it has 0:18:06.440 --> 0:18:09.439 a message. He's one of those artists who's building his 0:18:09.560 --> 0:18:13.480 following organically and it's based off just good music. Man. 0:18:13.520 --> 0:18:15.719 So shout out to C five five. Let us keep 0:18:15.800 --> 0:18:18.600 doing what you do. Let it to my son is dope. 0:18:19.240 --> 0:18:22.439 All right, Well, let's get into our guest. Good conversation, 0:18:22.640 --> 0:18:26.840 lots to learn. Check it out. Our friends have. 0:18:26.880 --> 0:18:28.800 Joined us again too. 0:18:28.880 --> 0:18:29.120 Well. 0:18:29.160 --> 0:18:32.720 First of all, our sister Keisha, how ya, Coach Jesse 0:18:32.920 --> 0:18:35.760 has been with us a number of times, and so 0:18:35.840 --> 0:18:39.160 it's really good to have y'all on our show because 0:18:39.240 --> 0:18:43.320 y'all been doing everybody else this show to talk about, 0:18:44.560 --> 0:18:48.600 you know, what has recently took what recently took place 0:18:48.920 --> 0:18:53.560 as a family that I think is incredible, beautiful, amazing, 0:18:53.720 --> 0:19:00.440 And I see Keisha loa Keisha. That's how it has 0:19:00.600 --> 0:19:06.560 already just you know, helped you to walk into your advocacy, 0:19:06.720 --> 0:19:09.160 which I knew was going to happen for you at 0:19:09.200 --> 0:19:11.919 some point, and it's beautiful to watch that now. 0:19:12.520 --> 0:19:15.560 So first of all, let me just introduce you all properly. 0:19:16.000 --> 0:19:21.479 Lakeisha Randolph is now a black She is the leader 0:19:21.640 --> 0:19:24.560 of the Black Fertility Matters community. 0:19:24.720 --> 0:19:26.240 Okay, let's get that straight. 0:19:26.359 --> 0:19:32.040 So I feel an organization on the way, something big 0:19:32.240 --> 0:19:35.040 buildings and a lot of things I can see. 0:19:34.960 --> 0:19:35.760 In the future. 0:19:36.359 --> 0:19:41.720 And she Keisha has had to have IVF has also 0:19:42.320 --> 0:19:43.880 now an egg a donor. 0:19:44.240 --> 0:19:45.840 You are have received eggs. 0:19:45.880 --> 0:19:48.280 So I know Coach Jesse's gonna get all of this 0:19:48.600 --> 0:19:51.720 language clearness when we all learn. 0:19:53.000 --> 0:19:57.680 I'm learning, I'm learning. 0:19:56.520 --> 0:19:57.440 All the things. 0:19:57.520 --> 0:20:01.960 And then Coach Jesse health activists and founder of the 0:20:02.000 --> 0:20:05.840 Detox Now but she's also our big sister that keeps 0:20:05.920 --> 0:20:08.919 us healthy, keeps us mentally stable. And we don't listen 0:20:09.000 --> 0:20:12.680 like we should, but we appreciate you, Coach. 0:20:12.480 --> 0:20:14.040 Jesse, love you principal. 0:20:14.160 --> 0:20:17.560 Thank y'all so much for joining the show today, and 0:20:17.600 --> 0:20:20.240 I think it would be great for us to hear 0:20:20.440 --> 0:20:24.000 from you, Keisha about that story, what took place and 0:20:24.040 --> 0:20:27.000 how all these other incredible women got involved. 0:20:27.440 --> 0:20:29.080 Well, thank you so much for having me. 0:20:29.320 --> 0:20:32.800 Yes, I am Lakeisha Laurel or Latisha Randolph or Keisha. 0:20:33.240 --> 0:20:35.960 I am the founder of a support group called Black 0:20:36.000 --> 0:20:39.199 Fertility Matters. I wanted to start the support group for 0:20:39.440 --> 0:20:43.720 women who have been on the road and who have 0:20:43.800 --> 0:20:47.600 been dealing with infertility for as long as I have. 0:20:47.720 --> 0:20:50.880 I've been dealing with infertility for over twenty five years. 0:20:51.000 --> 0:20:55.199 I've had two feiled IVF cycles. I'm currently on the 0:20:55.240 --> 0:20:58.919 show Love and Hip Hop Atlanta season eleven, about to 0:20:58.920 --> 0:21:02.359 be season twelve, telling my story alongside of my sister 0:21:02.480 --> 0:21:06.680 Yandy Smith, whom volunteer to donate her eggs to me. 0:21:07.320 --> 0:21:09.600 So I am the I am the receiver, she is 0:21:09.600 --> 0:21:13.320 the donor. Yandy Smith is the donor. I am receiving 0:21:13.359 --> 0:21:17.880 her eggs to conceive have my own child. So we're 0:21:17.880 --> 0:21:21.439 on our journey to motherhood. I wanted to provide a 0:21:21.480 --> 0:21:28.640 support group for women who may feel ashamed, guilty, depressed, anxiety, 0:21:29.400 --> 0:21:33.440 who go through an emotional roller coaster dealing with IDA 0:21:33.760 --> 0:21:38.359 and infertility soul. This is where my sister, alongside with 0:21:38.359 --> 0:21:41.480 my sister Yandy Smith, introduced me to Coach Jefse who 0:21:41.560 --> 0:21:45.800 is a health and wellness coach. I've also detoked with 0:21:45.960 --> 0:21:50.159 her many years ago. And Coach Jesse introduced me and 0:21:50.280 --> 0:21:54.560 Yandy who to our fertilities doctor, which is doctor Daniel Layne. 0:21:54.680 --> 0:21:58.640 Unfortunately she had to go, but she is an amazing 0:21:59.440 --> 0:22:02.679 fertility that have been working with me and Yandy on 0:22:03.000 --> 0:22:05.160 our journey or my journey to motherhood. 0:22:06.440 --> 0:22:08.320 So that's a little bit about our story. 0:22:08.400 --> 0:22:11.680 We wanted to and Coach Jesse and doctor Lane wanted 0:22:11.720 --> 0:22:15.120 to also join the Black Fertility Matter to help educate, 0:22:15.240 --> 0:22:19.000 support and provide resources for the black and brown community. 0:22:19.680 --> 0:22:22.040